WEBVTT - STI Q&A with Danielle Maltby 0:00:00.520 --> 0:00:04.480 Hell I Suck At Dating with Dean, Vanessa and Jared 0:00:04.760 --> 0:00:10.799 and I Heart Radio podcast. Hello everyone, thank you so 0:00:10.880 --> 0:00:13.680 much for joining us on yet another episode of Help 0:00:14.000 --> 0:00:16.720 I Suck At Dating. My name is Dean Anglert and 0:00:16.760 --> 0:00:20.639 I am joined in studio by the dashing Jared Habon dashing. Huh, 0:00:20.640 --> 0:00:22.560 thank you for that intro is the first adjective that 0:00:22.600 --> 0:00:25.119 came to my mind. Next week, I'll give you something else, 0:00:25.400 --> 0:00:29.120 probably like asshole or something. Yeah, something like that. I 0:00:29.120 --> 0:00:31.280 appreciate that. Great episode for you guys. Today we have 0:00:31.600 --> 0:00:35.720 one of my personal favorites. Have you ever met this person? Uh, 0:00:35.840 --> 0:00:38.600 Danielle Well? I was going to tease it a little bit. Sorry, 0:00:38.640 --> 0:00:42.760 I just really spoiled out. Sorry, guy, Have you ever 0:00:42.760 --> 0:00:44.400 met this person that we're gonna have on our podcast? 0:00:44.840 --> 0:00:48.120 I actually do not think I have, which is quite funny. 0:00:48.560 --> 0:00:52.320 That's she's been on Bachelor figure She was on on 0:00:52.320 --> 0:00:56.040 one of our Dear Friends season Yeah. I forgot about that. 0:00:56.080 --> 0:00:57.640 So yeah, so we have a guest coming on. She 0:00:57.840 --> 0:01:00.640 was on my season of Bachelor Paradise season four, as 0:01:00.760 --> 0:01:03.680 Jared said, our good friend nick by all season. She's 0:01:03.720 --> 0:01:07.199 a nurse in Nashville, one of my favorite people from 0:01:07.240 --> 0:01:12.240 this show. As Tanya walks into the studio, Hey, Tanya. UM, 0:01:12.400 --> 0:01:15.000 one of my favorite people from this show Danielle Maltby, 0:01:15.080 --> 0:01:18.240 who she's a nurse practitioner in Nashville. So we're gonna 0:01:18.280 --> 0:01:23.440 have an STD centric episode today talking about the stigmas 0:01:23.440 --> 0:01:25.759 attached to them, what you should know if you have one, 0:01:25.760 --> 0:01:27.560 what you should know if you're dating, what you should 0:01:27.560 --> 0:01:29.840 know if you're thinking about being sexually active, all of 0:01:29.880 --> 0:01:33.120 the above. Yeah. I think it's a health and awareness podcast. 0:01:34.040 --> 0:01:35.760 It's okay, Tanny, do you want to tune in? And yeah, 0:01:35.800 --> 0:01:37.840 Tany you want to say Hi, Tanya just walked in it. 0:01:37.920 --> 0:01:43.600 She's getting her pink thermis her computer backpack. So sorry 0:01:43.800 --> 0:01:46.720 I needed. I'm so sorry. Do you want to join 0:01:46.800 --> 0:01:50.840 us for the st T Conversation? Um? I Actually I 0:01:51.240 --> 0:01:54.639 used to have HPV. Really, I think you've been pretty 0:01:54.680 --> 0:01:57.400 open about that because I think it makes people feel 0:01:57.440 --> 0:02:00.080 like I got it after I had sex with my 0:02:00.120 --> 0:02:02.720 first partner, right, So it was very traumatic for me 0:02:02.760 --> 0:02:04.600 and I really had like a hard time dealing with it, 0:02:05.000 --> 0:02:07.520 And so that's why I'm open about it now because 0:02:07.520 --> 0:02:09.720 I think it helps a lot of people at the time, 0:02:09.880 --> 0:02:11.720 Like I didn't know anybody that had it, so I 0:02:11.760 --> 0:02:14.679 literally thought it was like I'm gonna die. Yeah, I agree. 0:02:14.720 --> 0:02:16.240 I think it brings a lot of comfort people to 0:02:16.280 --> 0:02:18.520 know that somebody in the spotlight also had it so 0:02:18.560 --> 0:02:21.200 they're not alone. Yeah, it was scary, but like honestly, 0:02:21.240 --> 0:02:24.480 all I had to do was just like like that's 0:02:24.560 --> 0:02:25.840 kind of why I live my life the way that 0:02:25.880 --> 0:02:27.560 I do now, like just very clean. Like I just 0:02:27.560 --> 0:02:30.120 had to eat really well, exercise like they tell you 0:02:30.120 --> 0:02:32.320 not to, like smoke. In literally six months, it was gone, 0:02:32.800 --> 0:02:35.079 been back. Knock on one, well, knock on wood. Thanks 0:02:35.120 --> 0:02:37.600 for sharing that with us, Um for the listeners out 0:02:37.600 --> 0:02:39.040 there that want to get to Tony a little bit 0:02:39.040 --> 0:02:42.639 better checkouts help scrubbing in with Bell and you rad 0:02:42.840 --> 0:02:44.840 thank you. I'm so sorry. I did not mean to interrupt. 0:02:45.560 --> 0:02:46.720 We can tell you in a rush, so thank you 0:02:46.760 --> 0:02:49.920 for even just jumping anytime. I love you as I'm 0:02:49.919 --> 0:02:50.959 not in a rush. I just don't want to be 0:02:50.960 --> 0:02:52.880 in your way. So I'll be right back there listening 0:02:52.919 --> 0:02:56.120 because I love listening to this pod. Thanks to you. 0:02:56.639 --> 0:02:59.080 We love you as always. Let's get to uh to 0:02:59.160 --> 0:03:03.400 answer in some question Shans Danielle, are you there? Oh 0:03:03.480 --> 0:03:06.520 my gosh, it is so so great to hear your voice. 0:03:06.520 --> 0:03:10.440 How are you? I'm good too. It just puts a 0:03:10.480 --> 0:03:12.640 smile on my face ear to ear right now, Um, 0:03:13.400 --> 0:03:15.760 thank you so much, thank you so much for calling 0:03:15.760 --> 0:03:17.920 in and talking about STDs with us. So I just 0:03:17.960 --> 0:03:20.680 gave a brief introduction, obviously of your time on The 0:03:20.720 --> 0:03:23.640 Bachelor Bachelor in Paradise, and you are a working nurse 0:03:23.680 --> 0:03:26.840 in Nashville, and so who better than to share the 0:03:26.919 --> 0:03:29.799 wealth of knowledge that you have with our listeners Because 0:03:29.840 --> 0:03:32.840 as we were talking about, obviously STDs, no one wants them, right, 0:03:32.880 --> 0:03:34.200 but a lot of people will get them and then 0:03:34.200 --> 0:03:36.600 they get fearful of the having them and then getting 0:03:36.600 --> 0:03:38.920 them again. And um, there's a there's a lot of 0:03:38.920 --> 0:03:43.120 misinformation out there about them, right. So yeah, but Danielle, 0:03:43.160 --> 0:03:44.760 before we jump into it, just to go ahead and 0:03:44.840 --> 0:03:47.440 say hi to everyone, induce yourself all that. Hi, guys, 0:03:47.520 --> 0:03:51.400 I'm Danielle. That's a great interest. You've got more than that, 0:03:51.520 --> 0:03:54.240 come on, what qualifies you to help us answer the 0:03:54.320 --> 0:03:57.880 questions on the podcast? Okay, So I am a nurse. 0:03:57.880 --> 0:04:00.680 I've been a nurse for about twelve years. I worked 0:04:00.680 --> 0:04:04.080 primarily in the nick You and I'm also starting my 0:04:04.160 --> 0:04:08.600 own podcast for women in Medicine, so it's like a 0:04:08.760 --> 0:04:11.520 total health related thing. It's gonna be awesome. That very exciting. 0:04:11.640 --> 0:04:14.600 That is very awesome. Congratulations. I haven't actually congratulated personally 0:04:14.600 --> 0:04:18.720 about that, but I'm super excited for it. I'm definitely 0:04:18.720 --> 0:04:21.520 gonna listen. I'm really really excited for it, UM and 0:04:21.560 --> 0:04:24.359 definitely's let's plug that as many times as we possibly 0:04:24.360 --> 0:04:28.240 can on this episode. When is that? When is that dropping? 0:04:28.279 --> 0:04:30.800 When is that going to come out? It's gonna come out? 0:04:30.880 --> 0:04:35.479 June three called the wo Women in Medicine Wan and 0:04:35.480 --> 0:04:37.440 you are co hosting it with a friend of yours, 0:04:37.440 --> 0:04:41.000 another nurse. Yes, her name's also Dan Yelle, and I 0:04:41.120 --> 0:04:44.400 met her UM in Peru. We did a medical trip 0:04:44.440 --> 0:04:49.039 together down there and worked in UM some orphanages and 0:04:49.120 --> 0:04:51.839 it was a really beautiful experience. And she's an awesome 0:04:51.880 --> 0:04:53.800 human and I'm just so grateful she's going to do 0:04:53.839 --> 0:04:56.400 it with me. That's amazing. This is this is kind 0:04:56.400 --> 0:04:59.240 of off topic to the podcast episode today, but when 0:04:59.279 --> 0:05:01.200 I was in Peru, I was told of this bug 0:05:01.320 --> 0:05:02.960 and you probably heard about it too when you were 0:05:02.960 --> 0:05:05.920 down there working UM with with the people down there. 0:05:06.200 --> 0:05:09.440 This this bug that burrows into your skin and you 0:05:09.480 --> 0:05:11.680 can you can see it burrow and live inside your skin, 0:05:11.760 --> 0:05:14.960 but you can't excavate it from your body until it 0:05:15.000 --> 0:05:16.880 feeds off of you enough to be big enough to 0:05:17.040 --> 0:05:18.400 like squeeze it out. Are you do you know what 0:05:18.400 --> 0:05:23.920 I'm talking about? I don't know, maybe, but it's kind 0:05:23.920 --> 0:05:26.480 of severe. I remember when I was doing the incortrail, 0:05:26.520 --> 0:05:29.039 I met up with a kid who had two of 0:05:29.080 --> 0:05:31.039 them burrow into his skin, and he was just telling me, 0:05:31.120 --> 0:05:33.359 like they would like all gather around and have like 0:05:33.360 --> 0:05:36.200 the ceremonial thing where they would squeeze it and then 0:05:36.200 --> 0:05:37.599 the bug would come out and they would catch it 0:05:37.600 --> 0:05:39.760 in like this, uh this lid and they would like 0:05:39.800 --> 0:05:41.840 watch it. I don't know. Is this great? But maybe 0:05:41.839 --> 0:05:45.280 it is that that fly thing. I don't know. Um, 0:05:45.279 --> 0:05:47.279 it must be. And I'm just I'm I'm just being 0:05:47.320 --> 0:05:50.080 maybe over I'm not up on all of my epidemiology 0:05:50.200 --> 0:05:54.160 for as you should. As you should, I don't think 0:05:54.200 --> 0:05:56.640 you should be. Um, Okay, so we're gonna we're gonna 0:05:56.680 --> 0:06:00.320 ask you some STD related questions and you gonna help 0:06:00.360 --> 0:06:03.400 us answer it. Said, okay, And they're actually they've changed 0:06:03.440 --> 0:06:07.440 it from STDs to S t I S because um, 0:06:07.440 --> 0:06:12.919 which is actually transmit infections. Because um, it's a little 0:06:13.760 --> 0:06:16.440 less scary, I think, and like there are some that 0:06:16.640 --> 0:06:21.320 are treatable. Um, so that's like just the common term 0:06:21.360 --> 0:06:24.760 they're Ye, it's from disease to infection, is what you're saying. 0:06:25.600 --> 0:06:28.800 And the reason for that was just the classification of 0:06:28.839 --> 0:06:35.240 the thing. Okay, that's interesting. Yeah, just a classification of 0:06:35.320 --> 0:06:38.120 it makes it a little less intimidating. I think, like 0:06:38.400 --> 0:06:41.240 infections can usually be treated, diseases are more of like 0:06:41.320 --> 0:06:44.600 a longer disease process. I'm actually really gratefully you clarified 0:06:44.600 --> 0:06:47.320 that because last week Vanessa used the the acronym S 0:06:47.360 --> 0:06:49.440 t I and that was my first time really ever 0:06:49.480 --> 0:06:51.800 hearing it. In response, it starts to one of her 0:06:52.120 --> 0:06:53.760 not one of hers, but a story that she had heard. 0:06:54.000 --> 0:06:57.839 It just makes me think of um, um subru w 0:06:57.960 --> 0:06:59.960 r X S T I. I wonder one of those 0:07:00.000 --> 0:07:03.080 so bad when I was in high school. Uh, sorry, 0:07:03.160 --> 0:07:05.440 off topic, Jared, do you want to read? Do you 0:07:05.480 --> 0:07:07.760 want to read one of Vanessa's questions? Because soy. Vanessa 0:07:07.720 --> 0:07:09.800 obviously isn't on the podcast with us today, which is 0:07:09.840 --> 0:07:11.200 a shame. Because I know you and her are really 0:07:11.200 --> 0:07:14.080 good friends. But I left her very much. Yes, she's 0:07:14.080 --> 0:07:17.200 a wonderful, wonderful person. Um. But Jared, so you wrote 0:07:17.200 --> 0:07:18.600 some questions down, So Jared, you want to read one 0:07:18.600 --> 0:07:20.760 of them. Yeah, Hi, Danielle, how are you? Hi? I've 0:07:20.800 --> 0:07:22.920 never even met you with us, I know I've never 0:07:22.960 --> 0:07:25.040 met you either. How is Nashville? I was just there. 0:07:25.040 --> 0:07:28.200 It's a beautiful city. Oh my god, it's so freaking 0:07:28.240 --> 0:07:31.080 hot right now, but it's gorgeous. I love it down here. 0:07:31.200 --> 0:07:33.160 The South is great. It's freezing in l A. It's 0:07:33.160 --> 0:07:37.920 like fifty one degrees, which is freezing, and I'm jealous. Um, Danielle, 0:07:37.920 --> 0:07:40.760 you're also a neo A neo needle is how you 0:07:40.800 --> 0:07:43.560 pronounced it, A neo NATO nurse um, and that works 0:07:43.600 --> 0:07:47.840 with infants, right, Yeah, so I take care of babies 0:07:47.840 --> 0:07:51.560 that are born prematurely um or that are born term 0:07:51.720 --> 0:07:55.200 but have any sort of like respiratory cardiac um like 0:07:55.280 --> 0:07:59.720 chromosome anomaly. If I take care of them, Well, that's 0:07:59.720 --> 0:08:01.760 in Doble. Keep doing the incredible work that you're doing. 0:08:01.800 --> 0:08:04.400 But Vanessa, I did have some questions, as we all do, 0:08:04.560 --> 0:08:09.040 about s t oyes Um so as a woman, Danielle 0:08:09.080 --> 0:08:12.440 Vanessa wanted to know when should a woman start seeing 0:08:12.480 --> 0:08:15.960 a gynecologists and having a PEP test done? Can you 0:08:16.000 --> 0:08:19.840 also inform all our listeners what a PEP test is? UM, 0:08:19.960 --> 0:08:23.560 So you should be having UM like you should start 0:08:23.640 --> 0:08:28.040 me a gynecologist. The usually say when you become sexually active, UM, 0:08:28.280 --> 0:08:31.000 but I think, I mean that age is becoming so 0:08:31.080 --> 0:08:33.679 much younger. I think it would be good at least 0:08:33.679 --> 0:08:36.360 like by time you hit sixteen to go in and 0:08:36.400 --> 0:08:39.600 start having these tests. And during a PEP mere they 0:08:39.679 --> 0:08:43.199 check UM your service for any sort of sins of 0:08:43.600 --> 0:08:47.000 infection or cancer UM and they do a lot of 0:08:47.800 --> 0:08:52.440 um STI testing in that process. So it's just kind 0:08:52.440 --> 0:08:58.120 of looking at UM all the lady anatomy and making 0:08:58.160 --> 0:09:06.120 sure it's okay and free of like visas any part tramma. UM. Yeah. 0:09:06.880 --> 0:09:08.880 So your your advice is as soon as you start 0:09:08.920 --> 0:09:12.800 to even consider being sexually active. Yeah, okay, that's something 0:09:12.840 --> 0:09:18.040 to get mine. Is there a male equivalent for a gynecologists? Actually, 0:09:18.080 --> 0:09:21.800 I'm not sure if there's male equivalent to it, But UM, 0:09:21.880 --> 0:09:25.320 men should also start I mean as soon as they 0:09:25.360 --> 0:09:29.160 become sexually active or think about becoming sexually active really 0:09:29.200 --> 0:09:32.600 need to start educating themselves on not only how to 0:09:32.679 --> 0:09:36.560 keep themselves face, but their partners face as well. So 0:09:36.960 --> 0:09:39.959 I will say that the female reproductive organs seem to 0:09:39.960 --> 0:09:43.720 be a little bit more complicated than the man's. They are, Yes, 0:09:44.240 --> 0:09:48.520 but um, I think I think guys you can usually 0:09:48.520 --> 0:09:54.079 just go into your normal doctor um and like during 0:09:54.080 --> 0:09:59.000 like you're yearly physical or something like that. UM asked 0:09:59.120 --> 0:10:03.120 if they have uh specific testing done. Places like Playing 0:10:03.160 --> 0:10:06.760 Parenthood are really great, um if you have if you 0:10:06.880 --> 0:10:09.760 even think you have any symptoms, because a lot of 0:10:09.880 --> 0:10:14.640 spis don't really present with a lot of symptoms or 0:10:14.800 --> 0:10:20.280 things that can kind of be overlooked. So um yeah, 0:10:20.360 --> 0:10:22.959 but like like Playing Parenthood or like your normal clinic 0:10:23.040 --> 0:10:28.120 and stuff like that offer really affordable testing for all 0:10:28.320 --> 0:10:31.400 SDI treatment and counseling on them as well well, depending 0:10:31.440 --> 0:10:34.720 on what state you're in. I guess it's really well. 0:10:34.720 --> 0:10:36.760 I think the equivalent for a guy of a kind 0:10:36.800 --> 0:10:40.480 of colleges is just your typical doctor's appointment. But they 0:10:40.559 --> 0:10:43.400 do the old cup and cough. You know, they got 0:10:43.440 --> 0:10:45.360 one of those in a while. They cop and they 0:10:45.400 --> 0:10:48.920 make a cough and apparently it tells him something um So. 0:10:49.280 --> 0:10:52.520 Daniel Vanessa also asked a question regarding HPV. She wants 0:10:52.559 --> 0:10:55.040 to know if you can explain what it is and 0:10:55.120 --> 0:10:57.280 how we can prevent it. And if someone got their 0:10:57.280 --> 0:11:01.880 GARDENSIL shot ten years ago, show they got what is this? 0:11:02.880 --> 0:11:05.839 You know the guarden the guard is there HPV. That's 0:11:06.000 --> 0:11:09.719 HPV shot, but it's the garden SOOT has changed in 0:11:09.760 --> 0:11:12.200 the past ten years, is what she's saying. What Vanessa 0:11:12.280 --> 0:11:14.400 means by guards as solid, that's like the Canadian version. 0:11:14.400 --> 0:11:16.719 I'm pretty I looked it up and it's it's the Yeah, 0:11:16.800 --> 0:11:19.480 so I got the garden still shot UM when I 0:11:19.640 --> 0:11:25.720 was like twenty or something too. So it's UM garden 0:11:25.800 --> 0:11:29.720 still is the shot that helped prevent a TV which 0:11:30.160 --> 0:11:34.079 UM can cause cervical cancer, but it can also it's 0:11:34.120 --> 0:11:37.080 not just for women like UM. I believe some testing 0:11:37.120 --> 0:11:40.760 has changed. I do believe men can now get UM 0:11:41.160 --> 0:11:44.760 the HPV vaccine as well UM because ah p V 0:11:44.960 --> 0:11:49.000 is human papuloma virus is what's responsible for general wars 0:11:49.600 --> 0:11:53.000 and while men can't get cervical cancer, they can also 0:11:53.080 --> 0:11:58.839 get things like anal cancer and UM SO by men 0:11:59.160 --> 0:12:04.200 getting the like the gardens still vaccine HPV vaccine. They're 0:12:04.240 --> 0:12:09.320 also helping to prevent that transfer to their partner, whether 0:12:09.400 --> 0:12:11.920 it be another man or another woman, so both men 0:12:12.040 --> 0:12:17.280 and women can get the vaccine. Yeah. Interesting, I literally 0:12:17.360 --> 0:12:19.439 had no idea it might be like age the limits 0:12:19.559 --> 0:12:22.280 on it though, because when I got the garden Still vaccine, 0:12:22.280 --> 0:12:25.640 it was like only women between sixteen and twenty six 0:12:25.760 --> 0:12:27.839 that have been tested on How did you learn about this? 0:12:27.960 --> 0:12:29.760 Because I literally have I've never heard of a man 0:12:29.880 --> 0:12:32.280 getting a garden sil shot before, right, So why was 0:12:32.360 --> 0:12:35.960 I never educated about this? It's a new thing, um, 0:12:36.200 --> 0:12:38.280 So like the men getting it, I think has only 0:12:38.440 --> 0:12:42.760 happened within the last maybe like two or three years. 0:12:42.840 --> 0:12:45.200 Don't quote me on that, but it's it's a newer thing. 0:12:45.320 --> 0:12:48.000 It was only it was first tested out in women 0:12:49.240 --> 0:12:51.679 as a way of preventing cervical cancer. So do you 0:12:51.720 --> 0:12:53.439 think that there's ever a point where it's too late 0:12:53.559 --> 0:12:56.600 to get that? Like for me being single and potentially 0:12:56.640 --> 0:12:58.520 sexually active, is it something that I should go out 0:12:58.559 --> 0:13:02.040 and ask my physician to do for me? Um? I 0:13:02.080 --> 0:13:04.800 would definitely ask, because I'm not is up to date 0:13:05.080 --> 0:13:10.600 on UM what age ranges the vaccine has been tested 0:13:10.679 --> 0:13:14.880 in and approved and for months. Um So I think 0:13:14.920 --> 0:13:18.840 that's something that like everyone should just kind of everyone 0:13:18.920 --> 0:13:21.360 should ask about next time I go in for a physical, 0:13:21.400 --> 0:13:23.360 I asked my doctor about that. That's I don't never 0:13:23.400 --> 0:13:25.760 even thought to ask. That's something that's I'm learning at 0:13:26.240 --> 0:13:29.480 as we come on this podcast. Um okay. Vanessa also 0:13:29.559 --> 0:13:34.199 wants to ask about birth control. And I'm familiar with 0:13:34.280 --> 0:13:35.959 different types of birth control. You can have the I 0:13:36.160 --> 0:13:38.280 U D, right, and then there's the pill all of 0:13:38.360 --> 0:13:41.920 that stuff. Vanessa specifically wants to know more about birth control, 0:13:42.000 --> 0:13:43.880 like season out where you get your period four times 0:13:43.920 --> 0:13:45.719 a year instead of once a month, and how that 0:13:45.840 --> 0:13:48.319 might affect your body physically, and if it's a good 0:13:48.400 --> 0:13:50.800 thing that thing, um, and just kind of what your 0:13:50.840 --> 0:13:55.720 take is on it. Yeah. So honestly, like first, control 0:13:56.640 --> 0:14:02.560 is different for every woman. Um, what one product might 0:14:02.640 --> 0:14:04.560 work really well for one woman doesn't work that well 0:14:04.640 --> 0:14:10.160 in another. It's kind of a whole trial and air process. Um. So, 0:14:10.600 --> 0:14:13.640 there's a birth control pill, there's an I D you 0:14:13.760 --> 0:14:16.480 can get, um, there's a thing called the depot shot. 0:14:16.800 --> 0:14:21.320 There's nuva ring, there's um and UH an implant, a 0:14:21.400 --> 0:14:26.000 hormonal implant that can go in your arm um. And 0:14:26.280 --> 0:14:29.920 what Vanette is talking about is essentially just taking um 0:14:30.600 --> 0:14:35.560 the same dose of estrogen pill for three or four 0:14:35.600 --> 0:14:38.880 months consecutively and then breaking for a week having a period, 0:14:39.000 --> 0:14:44.240 and then starting back up on it. Um. There's there's 0:14:44.280 --> 0:14:47.600 been a lot um that it works for a lot 0:14:47.640 --> 0:14:52.720 of women. Um and first time it doesn't like me personally, 0:14:52.760 --> 0:14:56.480 like my body just rejected. It doesn't it'll it'll fight 0:14:56.560 --> 0:15:03.560 through it um, but it's it hasn't been so like 0:15:03.720 --> 0:15:06.920 you don't necessarily have to have your period every month 0:15:07.040 --> 0:15:12.760 to maintain like a healthy female cycle. So it just 0:15:12.760 --> 0:15:15.120 depends on if your body is going to accept the 0:15:15.200 --> 0:15:18.800 hormones or if you're readers is like no, like I'm 0:15:18.840 --> 0:15:21.280 gonna just kind of keep doing my own thing, but 0:15:21.400 --> 0:15:26.360 you're still expected from It's how similar we all are. 0:15:26.560 --> 0:15:28.200 But at the end of the day, like such such 0:15:28.280 --> 0:15:30.880 minor differences, especially when it comes to your hormones, can 0:15:30.960 --> 0:15:33.640 make with you yeah um yeah. And so I guess 0:15:33.680 --> 0:15:34.920 your advice would then be just to make sure that 0:15:34.920 --> 0:15:38.880 you're taking the one that's appropriate for you. Yes, So 0:15:39.040 --> 0:15:42.760 on that note, go ahead, and if you're taking something 0:15:42.840 --> 0:15:45.840 like the pill in order for it to be like 0:15:46.200 --> 0:15:50.120 the nine percent effective. It has to be taking consistently 0:15:50.240 --> 0:15:52.120 at the same time of day. What about like if 0:15:52.160 --> 0:15:53.600 you miss a day or two, can you double and 0:15:53.640 --> 0:15:56.000 triple up on that third or second or fourth day? Oh? 0:15:56.480 --> 0:15:58.240 I mean like if you miss the day, like you 0:15:58.320 --> 0:16:00.800 can double up. But like, don't it there and be like, oh, 0:16:00.880 --> 0:16:02.800 I haven't taken it for three days, I'm gonna like 0:16:02.960 --> 0:16:06.040 take four of them. Yeah, don't, don't. Don't do that. 0:16:06.440 --> 0:16:07.920 That could be bad. Well, So on that note, a 0:16:07.960 --> 0:16:10.800 similar topic in regards to Plan B here like the 0:16:10.840 --> 0:16:15.160 morning after pill, that that can pretty drastically alter your 0:16:15.200 --> 0:16:18.840 hormones in a much short amount of time, right, is there? Yes, 0:16:19.080 --> 0:16:20.720 And that's kind of like a last ditch resort obviously, 0:16:20.720 --> 0:16:23.160 that's why they call it Plan B. You don't recommend it, 0:16:23.280 --> 0:16:25.080 but in a in a pinch it it comes in handy. 0:16:25.480 --> 0:16:27.920 Is there ever a point where you can, like have 0:16:28.040 --> 0:16:30.200 taken it too many times? What is it? What's kind 0:16:30.240 --> 0:16:33.400 of your expert opinion on the Plan B situation? So 0:16:33.840 --> 0:16:38.880 Plan BY really is for emergencies only, um as it suggest, 0:16:39.640 --> 0:16:42.120 there are a lot of women who will just you know, 0:16:42.400 --> 0:16:44.640 that's their birth control, will just go and they'll take it. 0:16:45.320 --> 0:16:47.560 Um every time that they have sex, and that's that's 0:16:47.600 --> 0:16:51.600 not good for your body. Um. I mean like at 0:16:51.640 --> 0:16:55.160 that point, like just go take care of yourself, invest 0:16:55.560 --> 0:16:58.600 in a form of birth control that works best for you. 0:16:59.840 --> 0:17:04.800 I don't, like I wouldn't. I wouldn't try and use 0:17:04.920 --> 0:17:09.720 like like every month this year. But I guess the 0:17:09.800 --> 0:17:12.679 question is, like, let's say you're consistently sexually active, right, 0:17:12.680 --> 0:17:14.760 so you're on birth control, but I I know that 0:17:14.840 --> 0:17:16.960 a lot of girls, Like let's say you're you're not 0:17:17.480 --> 0:17:20.159 consistently having sex with new people or even with a 0:17:20.359 --> 0:17:22.399 with a significant other, and so you kind of get 0:17:22.440 --> 0:17:24.000 off the pill and then every once in a while, 0:17:24.080 --> 0:17:26.600 like you might go out and do something right and 0:17:26.640 --> 0:17:28.400 then you will have to take it in that instance. 0:17:28.560 --> 0:17:30.760 But let's say like that happens, you know, once a 0:17:30.880 --> 0:17:34.119 year for five years. Is it okay to take the 0:17:34.920 --> 0:17:37.199 morning after pill those five separate times, and like how 0:17:37.240 --> 0:17:39.760 does that affect your body body long term? Or is 0:17:39.800 --> 0:17:42.280 it just like for those if you're saying it once 0:17:42.320 --> 0:17:44.600 a year every five years, Like, no, that's not going 0:17:44.680 --> 0:17:46.959 to do anything. Yeah, but just don't use it as 0:17:47.000 --> 0:17:51.119 like you're common every day. Birth control sounds expensive too, 0:17:51.160 --> 0:17:55.320 It's like fifty bucks. Well it is, it's like fifty bucks. Yeah, 0:17:56.000 --> 0:17:57.280 I mean, I don't know whoever want to do that. 0:17:57.440 --> 0:18:00.119 But um, okay, we have a couple other questions that 0:18:00.160 --> 0:18:04.720 are our listeners emailed into us that you can definitely 0:18:04.800 --> 0:18:07.760 help talk about. But first we're going to take a 0:18:07.960 --> 0:18:17.240 quick break. So actually, weirdly enough, in our last like 0:18:17.359 --> 0:18:19.640 two or three episodes, we've had a lot of herpies 0:18:19.680 --> 0:18:24.280 talk okay, Um, And it's always a touchy subject because 0:18:24.320 --> 0:18:28.239 herpes is one of those that it's less treatable than 0:18:28.280 --> 0:18:32.960 the others. Right, yeah, so once you have herpies, you 0:18:33.119 --> 0:18:37.480 have it. Um. It is not curable, and it's also 0:18:37.600 --> 0:18:40.600 something that can be spread from like it can really 0:18:40.640 --> 0:18:45.520 affect your sexual reproductive How would it affect your reproductive 0:18:45.840 --> 0:18:51.399 reproduction system? Um? Like, it's just full of things that 0:18:51.520 --> 0:18:57.080 like moms can transfer to. Well, I know that there's 0:18:57.480 --> 0:19:00.600 the most common form is oral herpies. Right. It's transferred 0:19:00.640 --> 0:19:03.920 through like mothers kissing their children. Um. And then so 0:19:04.359 --> 0:19:06.240 children contracted at like a young age and then go 0:19:06.359 --> 0:19:08.440 through their life thinking they've never had it when in 0:19:08.480 --> 0:19:12.399 reality they do. Is that right? No? Um, Like you 0:19:12.480 --> 0:19:17.320 aren't going to get that just from like kissing people. Um, well, 0:19:17.400 --> 0:19:20.440 I mean take that back at one you can get 0:19:21.240 --> 0:19:25.000 um that's like for all herpies, like your cold stories 0:19:25.080 --> 0:19:29.399 and stuff like that, but you can also have the 0:19:29.520 --> 0:19:36.560 genital version of one from do those very inseverity from 0:19:36.560 --> 0:19:40.960 one of the next I'm not his up today on that, 0:19:41.240 --> 0:19:44.719 like you probably have to ask like on that. Well, 0:19:44.800 --> 0:19:47.000 let's okay. So this is a specific example, then this 0:19:47.119 --> 0:19:50.879 person has a question for you. It's less medical. It's medical, 0:19:50.960 --> 0:19:52.720 but it's also kind of I guess in a way philosophical, 0:19:52.800 --> 0:19:55.000 where she says about eight years ago, I contracted herpes 0:19:55.000 --> 0:19:56.879 from my long term boyfriend. He was diagnosed the day 0:19:56.920 --> 0:19:59.000 before I was. I felt like my whole life was over. 0:19:59.040 --> 0:20:02.080 At years later, I've only dated one person. I've made 0:20:02.160 --> 0:20:05.000 myself except that I'm okay being alone. She wants to 0:20:05.040 --> 0:20:07.119 know how would you recommend bringing up the topic and 0:20:07.240 --> 0:20:09.960 how long into dating would you recommend it be brought up, 0:20:10.000 --> 0:20:11.560 And that's something that we've talked about on the podcast 0:20:11.640 --> 0:20:13.159 as well, like how many dates do you go on 0:20:13.280 --> 0:20:16.359 before you bring something like this up? And what words 0:20:16.359 --> 0:20:17.840 of advice would you have for someone that might be 0:20:17.880 --> 0:20:24.640 dealing with that. Um, honestly, I mean, like I would 0:20:24.680 --> 0:20:27.000 want to know right off the bat before anything got 0:20:27.720 --> 0:20:35.760 UM sexual. Yeah, but I think, um, I would. I 0:20:35.840 --> 0:20:38.720 wouldn't want anyone to feel like they're like resigned to 0:20:38.800 --> 0:20:43.440 being alone because of that. UM. There are a lot 0:20:43.640 --> 0:20:49.600 of counseling services for UM people that have been diagnosed 0:20:49.760 --> 0:20:53.800 with herpies and how to like kind of navigate the 0:20:53.920 --> 0:20:58.320 dating world, how to have those conversations. UM. So my 0:20:58.440 --> 0:21:01.560 advice would be to try and find like a support 0:21:01.640 --> 0:21:06.480 group and and try and find some some guidance that way, 0:21:06.680 --> 0:21:10.600 because I I can't really speak to that, you know, 0:21:10.680 --> 0:21:12.280 like I would. I would want to know right off 0:21:12.320 --> 0:21:15.840 the bat, but that would I mean, I can I 0:21:15.920 --> 0:21:20.160 can empathize with how isolating that that would feel. Oh yeah, 0:21:20.320 --> 0:21:23.399 And that's that's kind of the thing too, UM is 0:21:23.440 --> 0:21:25.240 it's hard to put yourself in those shoes because obviously 0:21:25.240 --> 0:21:26.800 it's something that that if you haven't had to deal 0:21:26.840 --> 0:21:29.640 with it, you um yeah, we have. We have another 0:21:29.640 --> 0:21:33.040 one from anonymous. She says is oral sex sanitary. I 0:21:33.080 --> 0:21:35.960 don't like participating unless I'm literally freshly showered. But in 0:21:36.040 --> 0:21:38.640 talking with others, they don't think it's a big deal 0:21:38.720 --> 0:21:42.000 for them. So what do the experts say about oral sex. 0:21:43.440 --> 0:21:46.840 H Yeah, I mean I think you should probably always 0:21:47.080 --> 0:21:53.920 try and maintain cleanliness in um in your genitals. I 0:21:54.000 --> 0:21:56.680 mean that, I mean knowing. I mean that's just like 0:21:56.760 --> 0:21:58.200 a pleasure that no one wants to go down on 0:21:59.160 --> 0:22:03.160 an if you're like healthy, like peoper self clean um. 0:22:03.720 --> 0:22:06.640