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Speaker 1: Thank enough you subject new life, subject new Year, New

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Speaker 1: life question Mark. Dear Stephen Shirley, I am a twenty

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Speaker 1: year I am a twenty nine year old man, and

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Speaker 1: This time. I was cheating emotionally because this woman and

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Speaker 1: She made me a better man for my wife and

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Speaker 1: love with me too, but want me to do what's

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Speaker 1: have a fresh new start. But would it be selfish?

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Speaker 1: Please help? Come on? You know everything about this. What

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Speaker 1: you're doing is wrong. You know that cheating for a

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Speaker 1: quick thrill or emotional cheating whatever. You're being disloyal to

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Speaker 1: And guess what this is? How a fair start like this? Okay,

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Speaker 1: you've tried it just hasn't worked in your favor. That

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Speaker 1: I agree with her, you need to do what's best

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Speaker 1: But I think you should concentrate on your family. And yes,

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Speaker 1: I do think yourselfish Steve, Well, surely understand what you're saying.

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Speaker 1: See to ask the problem, we got Sherley. And then

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Speaker 1: opened up to her emotionally, dog, what that's what feeling

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Speaker 1: me a little bit? You should have been eating right?

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Speaker 1: subject of today's Strawberry Letter, New Year, New Life question mark.

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Speaker 1: all right, Steve, Come on, let's recap today's Strawberry Letters

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Speaker 1: subject Knew Year, her New life. Well, the only recap

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Speaker 1: So you'd had some affairs you shouldn't have had, and

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Speaker 1: dog that, Shirley, I know you don't like this, but

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Speaker 1: Right there? She told him, Let's take a break so

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Speaker 1: forthmittingly about ending my marriage to pursue a relationship with

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Speaker 1: End your marriage because it's run his course. Don't end

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Speaker 1: that was the purpose of meeting her, That was the purpose.

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Speaker 1: But now you don't have the same feelings for your wife.

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Speaker 1: I could have a fresh start. But would it be selfish?

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Speaker 1: The problem with seeing, like I've always said, it costs

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Speaker 1: sid it just it's just Jesus father God. Hell. I've

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Speaker 1: So I have enough experience to tell you, partner, don't

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Speaker 1: some decades, partner. Yeah, a bad day, Kate is a

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Speaker 1: long time. It's a long time. I've had six of them,

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Speaker 1: but when it is making hell, it just show gets dolla.

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Speaker 1: after the hour, Jay has murdered another hit. This one

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Speaker 1: is dedicated to our beloved cat dog of the show,

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Speaker 1: the Dallas Cowboy fans out there. Okay, the best Christmas ever.

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Speaker 1: We're gonna hear it. Right after this, you're listening to

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Speaker 1: the Dave Harvey Morning Show