Speaker 1: There was things that Gila said on her wedding day
Speaker 1: that she did to manifest the relationship, and there was
Speaker 1: things that I did that I really want to share
Speaker 1: and I know.
Speaker 2: You Simone and talked about that too.
Speaker 1: Gila talked about how she read all about love a
Speaker 1: lot and made a list of the things she wants
Speaker 1: and a partner. Not only did I do that, I
Speaker 1: even said it on horrible what I wanted him to
Speaker 1: look like, the music.
Speaker 3: How we would travel, and all of that happened.
Speaker 1: I used to listen to I don't have the exact one,
Speaker 1: a YouTube of a frequency of manifesting a partner before
Speaker 1: I was going to sleep.
Speaker 2: It was a love.
Speaker 3: Frequent, little motherfucking witch.
Speaker 4: You think I had some witchy as shit? You listen
Speaker 4: to a frequency of manifestations of a man.
Speaker 2: Not really a man, but love. Okay, so witch.
Speaker 1: But when he came into my life, it wasn't an
Speaker 1: active pursuit in the breyonda way.
Speaker 3: I know Brionda's got her things, she's doing right now right.
Speaker 1: It was just more of me changing my frame of
Speaker 1: thinking because I was really negative, really really bad. I'm
Speaker 1: not gonna have this. I'm not gonna have this. I'm
Speaker 1: not gonna have this. Also update what made me think
Speaker 1: about that too? I did that partnership with the linguistic
Speaker 1: braces inside, took them off. I'm about to get regular
Speaker 1: braces and I literally they're eight grands. I was damn
Speaker 1: near crying in the office yesterday. I was like, I
Speaker 1: get what if I don't finish this? What if I
Speaker 1: can't finish this? What if I can't finish this? And
Speaker 1: the lady told me throw with it on this that
Speaker 1: she googled me, and she was like, I saw all
Speaker 1: those nice things you have in no way that your
Speaker 1: thinking hasn't been positive.
Speaker 2: You need to start.
Speaker 1: Thinking of the things you want for your health. Of
Speaker 1: that same way, She's like, what about weight? Do you
Speaker 1: do this to yourself when you want to lose weight
Speaker 1: or when you want to stop drinking, when you want
Speaker 1: to eat healthier? Do you say I'm not gonna be
Speaker 1: able to keep that up?
Speaker 2: And I was like, oh my god, I do.
Speaker 1: Like every time I'm like oh this dieting, go last
Speaker 1: or whatever. She's like, all of how you talk to
Speaker 1: yourself is dictating this right. Okay, you can do it
Speaker 1: for money in business, you can do it for your teeth,
Speaker 1: like you're gonna fucking last.
Speaker 2: Like, don't thing that you're not going to do it.
Speaker 1: You paying this money, you were going to finish, see
Speaker 1: the finish line. And I really am like dictating all
Speaker 1: back to love because I just have been meeting people
Speaker 1: that are happier in their situations, and I think all
Speaker 1: of them have that attitude.
Speaker 2: Anyone I know right now.
Speaker 1: That's happy in love, is happy about their was happy
Speaker 1: about their life, their circumstances. Being alone, I want to
Speaker 1: say that a hundred times, being happy alone. And I
Speaker 1: don't mean being happy that you're single. I mean being
Speaker 1: happy when you're atone. That's all I've been talking about. Bro,
Speaker 1: It's a real thing.
Speaker 4: I'm glad. I'm just to a point where, like even
Speaker 4: like the fun I've been having with my roster, my partners,
Speaker 4: my lovers, knowing last year I was crying or being
Speaker 4: triggered by even being touched by men, like the trauma
Speaker 4: from getting over that last relationship.
Speaker 2: I'm in a such a weird place right now.
Speaker 4: And I just wrote I just actually made a post
Speaker 4: on it on Instagram, and so many girls were.
Speaker 2: Like, girl, I'm in the same place.
Speaker 4: I want to read the three things that my mind
Speaker 4: went through where I'm at right now with with love,
Speaker 4: especially hearing you talk about manifesting love. Okay, I said,
Speaker 4: welcome to the slides show my current hypocritical takes. You
Speaker 4: may hear on current or upcoming episodes. Number One, I'm
Speaker 4: single only because I find it really hard to even
Speaker 4: like someone, but also I want a serious relationship. But
Speaker 4: I'm also having a lot of fun being single. Two
Speaker 4: I really like my alone time. So while i'd love
Speaker 4: a boyfriend who is close because I want to cuddle
Speaker 4: during my free time, I also want someone long distance
Speaker 4: so I don't have to have them around all the time.
Speaker 2: Number three.
Speaker 4: Roster is currently full of people that I don't see
Speaker 4: myself being in a relationship with, although I'm seeking alaship,
Speaker 4: a serious relationship. However, since my roster is full, I'm
Speaker 4: not interested in dating or getting.
Speaker 2: To meet anyone new.
Speaker 4: And I was really it was like a crazy no shit,
Speaker 4: So yes, a serious relationship would be nice.
Speaker 3: I know, Like we've even been talking like Triple D.
Speaker 3: That's going to be his nickname, y'all.
Speaker 4: So Triple D, who was from my past who I
Speaker 4: really liked, but he had a person at the time
Speaker 4: he got single, then I got in my relationship, then
Speaker 4: he disappeared off the face of the earth. Just found
Speaker 4: him immediately, bitch. The day we found him, he said,
Speaker 4: come tomorrow. Came two days later because I already had
Speaker 4: someone planned. So I went two days later and literally
Speaker 4: stayed with him for two days. And I was like,
Speaker 4: this is We're like, we're just there and immediately, even
Speaker 4: though I'm in my mind like ooh, I like this, nigga.
Speaker 2: M M, I'm like primary.
Speaker 3: I'm immediately like I would love for this to be
Speaker 3: maybe my primary.
Speaker 1: But I don't want him marry Mandy. No, no, no, no
Speaker 1: relationship talk. You know how every time he's like on
Speaker 1: TikTok and it's like a bitch on there and she's like,
Speaker 1: your man is going to be intentional. He is going
Speaker 1: to come to you and say I want You're gonna
Speaker 1: be this. He is gonna let you know where you stand.
Speaker 1: He's gonna da da da da dad. Let me tell
Speaker 1: you something. This is twenty twenty four. This is a
Speaker 1: new era of dating. Niggas just don't know until they
Speaker 1: fucking start to know.
Speaker 2: I mean, so.
Speaker 4: Everyone, but no, no, no, And I'll be honest though, well
Speaker 4: that's what I'm not into right now, like to me
Speaker 4: if I am, which is why I'm looking at everyone
Speaker 4: that I feel. No, I'm not into waiting for someone
Speaker 4: to tell me i'm their is or there. I'm not
Speaker 4: talking about waiting.
Speaker 1: But let me just yeah, clarify that, because when I
Speaker 1: say niggas don't know until they know, I also be
Speaker 1: went into.
Speaker 2: We kind of kind of go through these motions.
Speaker 1: For example, before you fuck somebody, it's this weird representative
Speaker 1: like we've been talking about, right me, Well, I.
Speaker 3: Believe you know the first few dates. I think people.
Speaker 1: I think men are nicer, more consistent in communication and talking.
Speaker 2: I literally talk about this in the book.
Speaker 1: I said, before the pussy game, everything is all good, right,
Speaker 1: and then once they get the pussy, things start to
Speaker 1: like mellow out. Men are so focused on getting pussy,
Speaker 1: and the whole time we're so focused on making sure
Speaker 1: they're worth the pussy. I think it takes a little
Speaker 1: bit of time to figure out if someone's a fit,
Speaker 1: and I think that we put so much pressure on
Speaker 1: what that time looks like. For example, we're not dating
Speaker 1: around because we're so folks. We as, and women are
Speaker 1: not dating around because we're so focused on making sure
Speaker 1: that guy is good, that guy's dating around and kind
Speaker 1: of still learning how to see what women out of
Speaker 1: those women are someone that's more special. You were saying
Speaker 1: you don't like that. That seems like a waiting game,
Speaker 1: but in reality, we all do that. I realized I
Speaker 1: was going out in most relationships I was in, I
Speaker 1: was happy with the person I was dating, but every
Speaker 1: time that went out, I kind of looked for something better.
Speaker 1: I don't know why I was always back there. I
Speaker 1: probably did that with everyone but scissors and right now everyone,
Speaker 1: even when obey, I would look at go out and
Speaker 1: be like and I kind of just compare them to
Speaker 1: my partner. And I really don't know why, but my
Speaker 1: brain was always looking I just don't think that intentionality
Speaker 1: is exactly black and white. I think there's a point
Speaker 1: when intentionality starts. I think we all are dating, we're
Speaker 1: all on these apps. There's a lot of people. This
Speaker 1: is not fucking nineteen sixty four, when you went out
Speaker 1: with one person and even if they were just okay,
Speaker 1: you pushed it forward.
Speaker 2: I think we've got to.
Speaker 1: Kind of like, like, really wait and see if this
Speaker 1: is a fit first, And there's so many rules that
Speaker 1: we're putting on top of these people and dropping them
Speaker 1: if they don't fit.
Speaker 4: So that's the thing, and that's where maybe, and I
Speaker 4: don't know where my tribe is of women that feel
Speaker 4: the way I do. I'm me and my friends do
Speaker 4: not actually operate that way. So I like all of
Speaker 4: dating around No, no, no, you said women, we focus
Speaker 4: and we allow men to do that. No, like my
Speaker 4: friends bitch every time we get on the phone, we like, bitch.
Speaker 2: I can't keep up. What's isn't it?
Speaker 3: Dallas?
Speaker 2: That is?
Speaker 1: That's what I'm telling you. That's what my friends that
Speaker 1: I do. I do not think that's an average woman. No,
Speaker 1: I think the avoge dominum sating one.
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Speaker 3: That's right, that's right.
Speaker 4: And you are listening to this just a week after
Speaker 4: we did our Summer Walker side chick breakdown. Also this
Speaker 4: week is our town hall, but really excited because boy,
Speaker 4: it's Summer Walker not the only person having a side
Speaker 4: chick dilemma. So the letter sense in this week is
Speaker 4: called side chickship.
Speaker 3: Here we go find you.
Speaker 4: We have upgraded at the end of twenty twenty five
Speaker 4: going into twenty twenty six, bucket situationship, side side chip,
Speaker 4: side chick.
Speaker 3: Ship is a new word. I love it, damn you girlies?
Speaker 3: All right? Are you happy? Sister?
Speaker 4: By the way, I love it because I saw a
Speaker 4: Patreon comment weezy where someone was like, are y'all new here?
Speaker 4: I feel like they'd be answering the same questions all
Speaker 4: these years.
Speaker 3: They didn't answer this before I saw that.
Speaker 2: It's like, listen, they don't.
Speaker 4: They need a situation here and this is giving you
Speaker 4: just want to vent to us, But girl, we're gonna
Speaker 4: tell you about yourself because literally the first line is ladies.
Speaker 4: I feel like I know the answer, but I'm just
Speaker 4: seeking confirmation. That is how the email starts. Ladies, y'all bitch,
Speaker 4: just know what y'all doing. Some bullshit, but it's okay
Speaker 4: to answer.
Speaker 3: Weisie, and I are.
Speaker 4: Here to confirm your thoughts. Okay, here we go. I
Speaker 4: met this man on the BLK dating app. No, we'll
Speaker 4: disclosure up front. He told me he was married, and
Speaker 4: I didn't care. At the time, I had just moved
Speaker 4: back to my hometown to a new management position and
Speaker 4: was dating two other guys. I didn't foresee any problems
Speaker 4: as he was just a little something to get my
Speaker 4: feet wet.
Speaker 3: Fast forward two years later, he.
Speaker 4: Applied pressure and edged out the other guys, and we
Speaker 4: are stupidly locked in. This is not a conventional side
Speaker 4: check relationship. However, we be outside. I've met his family,
Speaker 4: including the mama and the sister.
Speaker 2: Oh, you have to say that I hang with him
Speaker 2: on the.
Speaker 4: Weekends when we're in town. We go out of town.
Speaker 4: At least two weekends a month. He spends the night
Speaker 4: every weekend. Weekends starts on Thursday, and at least two
Speaker 4: days out of the week birthdays, holidays.
Speaker 3: Were always together. Okay, he pays bills and even bought
Speaker 3: me a car, burying the lead here.
Speaker 4: But the wife knows about me. She found out about
Speaker 4: me three months into quote unquote us. Hell, we're on
Speaker 4: a three way text group.
Speaker 1: I bad.
Speaker 4: Time when she can't find When she can't find him,
Speaker 4: she textes us the problem. The longer this relationship lasts,
Speaker 4: I am being engulfed in guilt. If someone posed this
Speaker 4: scenario to me as an outsider, I take the position
Speaker 4: of the married individual owes the fidelity.
Speaker 3: I'm not in charge of another.
Speaker 2: One married individual.
Speaker 3: Oh oh, oh, no, I don't feat on me.
Speaker 4: So like the married individuals who owed you to be
Speaker 4: faithful to not me, she said, I'm not in charge
Speaker 4: of another woman's happiness. That being said, I never go
Speaker 4: out of my way to hurt another black woman.
Speaker 3: And the thing is, she's not that smart.
Speaker 4: I have never confirmed, lady girl, she says, I have
Speaker 4: never confirmed that I'm sleeping with her husband. I usually
Speaker 4: just let her scream it into the void. She found
Speaker 4: me on Facebook. We're both in our forties and start
Speaker 4: she started calling me out. Had to block her. I
Speaker 4: could really destroy her world, But why would I. She's
Speaker 4: done nothing to me.
Speaker 1: You kind of sound like a bitch alreadybody right. I
Speaker 1: don't want to destroy anybody, but she's dumb.
Speaker 4: But I've also never asked him to get a divorce.
Speaker 4: I don't give a fuck about a divorce paper and
Speaker 4: for that matter, or ring on my finger, been.
Speaker 3: Married, got the T shirt? No thanks.
Speaker 4: It seems like the only way out of my guilt
Speaker 4: is he gotta leave her or me. Oh not him,
Speaker 4: not she putting it in his hands. But she did
Speaker 4: even feel guilt since she knows about him and has.
Speaker 3: It kicked him out. Sorry so long, but.
Speaker 4: Sorry, wait, she's asking should she even be guilty since
Speaker 4: she knows what he's doing and has it.
Speaker 3: Kicked him out?
Speaker 4: So what's crazy is, girl, you have finessed your mind
Speaker 4: to be like, well, he got to choose between me
Speaker 4: and her, But also the wife also has it kicked
Speaker 4: him out, So why do I feel bad at all?
Speaker 4: It's up to them to figure out what they.
Speaker 3: Got going on. That's how I read that.
Speaker 4: And look, oh, y'all, if you are not on the Patreon,
Speaker 4: Weezy just rolled her eyes into abyss, go ahead her.
Speaker 3: Are you not mist No she's not.
Speaker 4: Because she says she's been married, got the T shirt,
Speaker 4: No thanks, she don't want to marry this man. But
Speaker 4: she's also like guilty because I know I'm absolutely like
Speaker 4: making this black woman unhappy because she's blocked me on Facebook,
Speaker 4: she's brated me on Facebook.
Speaker 3: Whatever. But also she's like.
Speaker 4: Either he gotta leave you, or he gotta leave me,
Speaker 4: or bitch, if you really that upset, you gotta leave him.
Speaker 4: But basically she's saying she gonna be around until y'all decide.
Speaker 3: What y'all finn to do. That's the thing I don't like.
Speaker 1: Okay, why you say this's the thing I don't like.
Speaker 1: I understand you may not want a nigga, like you
Speaker 1: may not want the marriage.
Speaker 3: She doesn't want a husband, and I actually can believe it.
Speaker 1: But you are semi enjoying whatever perks of the relationship
Speaker 1: you're getting because you gloated a little bit about meeting
Speaker 1: the family and being on the group chat and to me, okay,
Speaker 1: I can tell you this from experience. My homegirls that
Speaker 1: really don't want a nigga.
Speaker 3: Wouldn't even tell me all that.
Speaker 1: Like I have homegirls that's fucking married niggas that just
Speaker 1: be like, well, you know, I don't go to leave
Speaker 1: back with her, and they be trying to put the
Speaker 1: wife down kind of like you did. And the other
Speaker 1: ones that like girl lock upe she keep him happycause
Speaker 1: I don' want a nigga coming over here. I want
Speaker 1: my space. I want him when I want him, And
Speaker 1: that's it. You don't give that, sister, you don't.
Speaker 2: Well, that's the thing.
Speaker 4: She absolutely wants a man, which she has, she has
Speaker 4: the relationship, and she's admitting that.
Speaker 3: She doesn't want the ring. So she have a headache.
Speaker 3: She's content, No, she feels like she is.
Speaker 4: There's a level of guilt because because she knows this
Speaker 4: other woman is now unhappy. Like yeah, I'm saying, like
Speaker 4: this relationship though, like she's but that's what I'm not
Speaker 4: what part is fucked up? And I'm only asking you
Speaker 4: because me as a woman who doesn't want marriage as
Speaker 4: my end goal either. If she's saying, I get him
Speaker 4: every other weekend so I get my space, but I
Speaker 4: also get holidays with him, I get birthdays with him.
Speaker 3: He pays my bills. I'm not gonna lie, like.
Speaker 4: What is making you feel like she's not being honest
Speaker 4: because she actually seems like she's getting everything she wants
Speaker 4: out of this relationship and she don't want the room
Speaker 4: that another person is being hurt for this relationship that she's.
Speaker 3: In, and you're gonna continue to feel guilty.
Speaker 1: We can't just like pretend that you aren't a part
Speaker 1: of the cycle of a marriage being broken up just
Speaker 1: because you don't want somebody so like, admittedly, so the
Speaker 1: only people I think that are exempt from this.
Speaker 2: Are sex workers, because I only want to have a
Speaker 2: job to do.
Speaker 3: You met an go on a dating app who was
Speaker 3: misleading that you knew was married out the gate, that you.
Speaker 1: Knew was married out the gate he was missing, like
Speaker 1: you already know, you're jumping into mess. To me, sex
Speaker 1: workers are the only ones that have a true detachment,
Speaker 1: which is why I don't think they ever should be
Speaker 1: someone who's held accountable for the cheating. They provided a service.
Speaker 1: It's not their business the marital status. You're like really engaging,
Speaker 1: needing family, doing all this stuff. So yes, you know
Speaker 1: you're hurting this person, so you and I was like,
Speaker 1: I don't really believe her.
Speaker 3: Is it's because like, but you're doing all this extra stuff.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, You're growing more intimate feelings,
Speaker 1: like you're you're like this is already the feelings, Like
Speaker 1: you're growing in deeper relationships, Like no, you're not just
Speaker 1: doing it for cash, because you enjoy doing all this
Speaker 1: other stuff with him. You like want the company, you
Speaker 1: wanted to stay over. You even mentioned Thursday to this day, Like.
Speaker 4: No, sah okay, Devil's advocate here, m hm. Because even
Speaker 4: when we saw about Summer Walker, we talked a lot
Speaker 4: about Summer, We talked a lot about Tori, very little
Speaker 4: about rich and we're.
Speaker 3: Doing it here.
Speaker 4: If women are willing to stay, if women are willing
Speaker 4: to feel guilty, if women are willing to feel upset
Speaker 4: but stay to what responsibility does the man have in
Speaker 4: this at all? Because it seems like if there's a
Speaker 4: group chat between them. Again, everyone's there's honesty somewhere, group
Speaker 4: chat between who there's a group chat.
Speaker 3: She's sound like that.
Speaker 4: No, she said that there's a group chat between the
Speaker 4: wife and her. She said, the wife knows about me.
Speaker 4: She found out about me three months into us. Hell,
Speaker 4: we're on a three way text group and when she
Speaker 4: can't find him, she textes me. And so it's weird
Speaker 4: because you're waiting for him or her to leave. I
Speaker 4: don't know why, or for her to break up.
Speaker 2: With him, because it's a mess.
Speaker 1: That's why she needs someone and she it's not a
Speaker 1: situation that works right. That's why I'm saying, like, I
Speaker 1: believe she kind of wants him, because why does the ending?
Speaker 3: What was her last question?
Speaker 4: So, I think you're I think you're right too, and
Speaker 4: I think that that's the reality of it.
Speaker 3: Women want the one up.
Speaker 4: So she said, I've never asked him to get a divorce.
Speaker 4: I don't give a fuck about a divorce paper. She said,
Speaker 4: it seems the only way out of my guilt is
Speaker 4: either he got to leave her or me. But should
Speaker 4: I even feel guilt since she knows about what he's doing?
Speaker 4: And hasn't kicked him out.
Speaker 1: Yes, you feel guilt because you're participating in the cycle.
Speaker 1: Now are you the real issue? No, you're not. The
Speaker 1: real issue is.
Speaker 2: The real issue.
Speaker 3: Let's talk what is the real issue here?
Speaker 1: Oh, keeping a promise to a woman to stay faithful,
Speaker 1: to do whatever, to be there for and whatever their
Speaker 1: loyalty looks like. And he disobeyed whatever clearly. But you
Speaker 1: also can't. I just don't think that the mistress, so
Speaker 1: to speak, like I don't know, I know.
Speaker 3: What I'm doing when I participate in fun shit.
Speaker 1: So it's like, is a drug dealer really wrong because
Speaker 1: somebody going to buy the crack anyway?
Speaker 3: Like, yeah, you're still selling it working.
Speaker 1: With the nigga if you really you know, yeah, you
Speaker 1: should feel the guilt. So it's just to me, it's
Speaker 1: like does it is he worth it or not? Is
Speaker 1: your clear conscious or not worth it or not? And
Speaker 1: I also have a really big feeling about shit starting
Speaker 1: fucked up and ending fucked up, like my most successful relation.
Speaker 4: That's what they were saying about toy So Tori allegedly
Speaker 4: was the mistress whe Reichs the Kid when he was
Speaker 4: with his horrork Chloe Kardaskian.
Speaker 3: Tristane Kardashian wristed.
Speaker 1: And it's really just like your relationship started with this
Speaker 1: like bad juju on it. And when I say start
Speaker 1: fucked up, it may not even be in a cheating sense.
Speaker 1: Like there's this thing in No Holds Bart not to
Speaker 1: sell the book, but to sell the book and the
Speaker 1: No Holds Bart. I was like, oh, when I I
Speaker 1: found love, I was coming from a fully heilled place.
Speaker 3: He was coming from a fully hilled place.
Speaker 1: If my relationship ended for whatever reason, it was still
Speaker 1: successful because we had something blossoming. Right.
Speaker 3: I could say the same with scissors.
Speaker 1: When we're in a place of feeling angry or insecure,
Speaker 1: or you know, feeling down about ourselves or missing an X,
Speaker 1: that's starting something fucked up. This is in a coon
Speaker 1: slate for these two people. That ex wife will always
Speaker 1: come around if they ended. If he break up with
Speaker 1: that ex wife today, I mean with the wife today, babe.
Speaker 1: And I'm talking to you and y'all moving together and
Speaker 1: everything cool. One day he's gonna stay late to a
Speaker 1: bar with his friends and you're gonna be like, that's
Speaker 1: that shit you used to do to Michelle.
Speaker 3: You ain't gonna do it to me and she'll never die.
Speaker 3: She'll never die.
Speaker 1: So but also you both know the type of man
Speaker 1: that y'all are dealing with at this point unless just
Speaker 1: talk for money or sex, which is not it's feeling.
Speaker 4: I also hate too that And that's the thing though,
Speaker 4: And this is the reality that we have to deal with.
Speaker 4: Right she said he gotta leave her or me, y'all
Speaker 4: both want to get chose.
Speaker 3: I feel like he's where.
Speaker 4: I feel like the person who wrote this letter may
Speaker 4: genuinely be fulfilled in what they're getting from this relationship
Speaker 4: with this guy. The wife isn't, however, you know who's
Speaker 4: probably super fulfilled with what's happening. He is, so no,
Speaker 4: why would he feel like he has to choose either
Speaker 4: of you when both of you women.
Speaker 2: Are choosing to say because he got his pay.
Speaker 3: It is too.
Speaker 4: A man ain't ever gonna leave the side chick. The
Speaker 4: spine would be in the side chick or the wife.
Speaker 4: Fine was knowing that he got a side chick.
Speaker 1: I was listening to my homeboys have a conversation. One
Speaker 1: time there was a girl.
Speaker 3: Ah just hit my knee.
Speaker 1: Everybody, Okay, oh my god, where's a girl in La.
Speaker 1: We were all out and she was getting super emotional
Speaker 1: in this club, and I was like, holy shit, and you,
Speaker 1: I don't know if you ever had this happen to you,
Speaker 1: where like your homeboy be doing some shit to the
Speaker 1: girlfriend and the bitch be calling you cry.
Speaker 3: I felt like that was me. We all having a
Speaker 3: good time. The girls in the corner, like he just
Speaker 3: does this to me, weezy and D D D. And
Speaker 3: I was like, oh my god. So we're all out,
Speaker 3: me three guys.
Speaker 1: We end up with the fucking breakfast after and I'm like,
Speaker 1: can I ask y'all a serious question? Is it that
Speaker 1: the pussy is so good? Is it that it's a
Speaker 1: power trip? Why do you keep fucking with these bitches
Speaker 1: that you you know you're making sad?
Speaker 2: Like don't sad?
Speaker 3: And bad? Like don't you really be like at some point?
Speaker 4: Apparently not until you're forty two, Like the game where
Speaker 4: you lose sleep over wasting women's time.
Speaker 1: Fuck nigga Like, yeah, and I always say these things.
Speaker 1: We're around thirties and forties, Okay, no twenty year old niggas.
Speaker 2: But one of them said.
Speaker 1: And I'm not quoting exactly, but he was like, I'm
Speaker 1: almost so used to just my whole life, high school, college, adult,
Speaker 1: after marriage. Bitch is just always kind of of in
Speaker 1: my dating life. Even if I say I don't want
Speaker 1: a girlfriend or wife right now, always needing and wanting
Speaker 1: more for me. I'm always used to a girl making
Speaker 1: me feel like I don't give her enough. So whether
Speaker 1: she's just complaining in text about my time or crying
Speaker 1: in my face, all of it balances out to the same.
Speaker 1: And I'm never gonna leave a bit till she leave
Speaker 1: me because I feel like it's almost a woman's job
Speaker 1: to complain to me. I feel like there's always gonna
Speaker 1: be something that they want, and there's never a moment
Speaker 1: where I'm looking at tears and thinking, oh, I'm the
Speaker 1: accountable one for this, just because you want a man
Speaker 1: and I can't give it to you. If you're still here,
Speaker 1: you must like something I'm doing. And all of the
Speaker 1: niggas was like, yeah, pretty much.
Speaker 4: Ooh, And I think that that goes into what I
Speaker 4: brought up in the book too, like in terms of
Speaker 4: self worth or getting what you want out of a man.
Speaker 3: If a man is not giving you what.
Speaker 4: You want, it's up to you to leave it, go
Speaker 4: find somebody who will. There will always be somebody who will. Yo,
Speaker 4: went the jene Aiko big sean thing. Girl, you've been
Speaker 4: backing to get married for years. If he wasn't willing
Speaker 4: to give it to you, you should have left ten
Speaker 4: years ago.
Speaker 1: Bro, My nigga said to me the other day, I
Speaker 1: sent him this girl's hair I liked.
Speaker 3: He's like, oh shit, I fucked her. It's his influencer.
Speaker 3: Like she's cute. I was like, damn, how you fucked
Speaker 3: that up?
Speaker 1: And he was like, she wanted him something more consistent
Speaker 1: and I couldn't do it, so she had self worth.
Speaker 1: I was dying, Bro, I'm sorry, Well, bitch it me.
Speaker 1: He's like they was telling me back in the day.
Speaker 1: I don't text him up and I don't do this.
Speaker 1: He's like some of the girls never leave, some of
Speaker 1: them did, and the ones that leave, he said, any
Speaker 1: girl that it ended with real quick.
Speaker 3: They was like, I ain't putting up with your shit.
Speaker 1: Yeah, nigga, Right when you're a single nigga and you
Speaker 1: got girls, it's like, I'm good.
Speaker 3: I'm good.
Speaker 4: He's like, Yo, very clear. I was on the phone
Speaker 4: with this football player. This football nigga been been on
Speaker 4: my goddamn line for about years.
Speaker 3: But he not that cute to me. But I was like, okay,
Speaker 3: let me give him a little tried.
Speaker 4: But like last year, we tried to talk and he
Speaker 4: gave him litt attitude and I ain't got time for that.
Speaker 3: So he came back on my line recently saying he
Speaker 3: want to see me or whatever.
Speaker 4: So we on FaceTime and we get into like a
Speaker 4: spat about bitch the government shut down.
Speaker 3: But I'm like, but it was like so dumb that.
Speaker 2: Dy.
Speaker 3: Let me tell you real quick too, how he just
Speaker 3: don't listen.
Speaker 4: So we on the phone and I was like, I
Speaker 4: don't want no pimp pal he heard pimp, I said,
Speaker 4: nig got don't.
Speaker 3: Even say pimp.
Speaker 4: But he got sorr right because he don't even know
Speaker 4: how to listen, right. So then talking about the government
Speaker 4: shut down, I correct him it's something that he said wrong,
Speaker 4: and girl, he got.
Speaker 3: Into this whole man. It ain't even that serious. Ain't
Speaker 3: even that serious.
Speaker 2: Bitch.
Speaker 3: I clocked.
Speaker 4: I clicked on him and he started texting bitch. I
Speaker 4: blocked him immediately. I was like, bro, I don't want
Speaker 4: no weird ass nigga who don't know how to communicate,
Speaker 4: you already don't know, like and literally I was.
Speaker 3: Like, bro, I don't care that you make millions that
Speaker 3: you in the NFL.
Speaker 2: I'm not pressed.
Speaker 3: What I know I'm not gonna put up with is
Speaker 3: a nigga who doesn't.
Speaker 4: How to communicate effectively and a nigga who got attitude.
Speaker 3: It's okay, block not interested.
Speaker 4: So I think, Yeah, when you, as a woman, get
Speaker 4: to a point where you're not gonna put up with
Speaker 4: bullshit and you deserve or you feel like you deserve
Speaker 4: to be with a nigga who gonnahow up how you
Speaker 4: want them to show up, then you're gonna do it.
Speaker 1: God would I stick around if you're not feeding it
Speaker 1: like a.
Speaker 3: Man and not give you what you want?
Speaker 4: And I do as long as y'all gonna take them crumbs,
Speaker 4: A motherfucker is gonna feed you crumbs.
Speaker 1: Can I agree with the fact that, like, women should
Speaker 1: absolutely be telling a man this is what I won't
Speaker 1: put up with and leaving right after. If you stay,
Speaker 1: you can't bitch to a nigga be like I don't
Speaker 1: do this, I don't do that, and.
Speaker 3: You never go.
Speaker 4: Girl, you at least got a fake go you want bruh,
Speaker 4: don't they go that. Don't once you fake go and
Speaker 4: come back and up, motherfucker really just not.
Speaker 3: Ship. A motherfucker will tell you to your face bit
Speaker 3: you ain't going nowhere. Oh oh. A man loves to
Speaker 3: tell a bitch when.
Speaker 1: Summer walkers a few weeks ago, like you got some
Speaker 1: self pork.
Speaker 3: A man will humble you real quick and be like, you're.
Speaker 1: Never gonna leave anyway, you never got. I was like,
Speaker 1: and you know it anyway, y'all. If you want us
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Speaker 1: has uh Mandy on the hotline.
Speaker 3: We can respond.
Speaker 4: And uh yeah, thank y'all so much. See y'all next
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