1 00:00:15,120 --> 00:00:18,439 Speaker 1: What's up, y'all? It's your girl lisp and is sugarl 2 00:00:18,520 --> 00:00:20,840 Speaker 1: dre and a cold and you are tuned in to 3 00:00:20,960 --> 00:00:24,640 Speaker 1: another episode of Poor Minds where a drunk mind speaks. 4 00:00:24,720 --> 00:00:28,880 Speaker 1: So we're thought you, girl, girl, girl girl. First of all, 5 00:00:29,040 --> 00:00:32,320 Speaker 1: we have been doing a lot with the guests. We've 6 00:00:32,320 --> 00:00:35,760 Speaker 1: been going back to back to back to back with 7 00:00:35,840 --> 00:00:36,280 Speaker 1: the Gale. 8 00:00:36,320 --> 00:00:38,080 Speaker 2: We've been having a lot of gifts on the show, 9 00:00:38,080 --> 00:00:39,639 Speaker 2: which I feel like, you know, it's a good thing 10 00:00:39,680 --> 00:00:42,600 Speaker 2: because we used to not have guests at all. Yes, 11 00:00:42,640 --> 00:00:46,600 Speaker 2: but yeah, we haven't really doing like no solo episodes lately. 12 00:00:46,720 --> 00:00:48,239 Speaker 1: And you know what, I will say, the growth of 13 00:00:48,240 --> 00:00:51,879 Speaker 1: the show has been amazing, So kudos to all the listeners, 14 00:00:51,920 --> 00:00:54,200 Speaker 1: old and new. But we have to do this for 15 00:00:54,600 --> 00:00:56,959 Speaker 1: the people who been here since day one, cause they 16 00:00:57,080 --> 00:00:59,320 Speaker 1: really love it when it's just us. So let's bring 17 00:00:59,360 --> 00:01:02,000 Speaker 1: it back to when it was just the WORL. So 18 00:01:02,160 --> 00:01:04,880 Speaker 1: we having a solo episode today. We ain't got no 19 00:01:05,000 --> 00:01:09,480 Speaker 1: guests today. We ain't got no guests today period. So 20 00:01:09,560 --> 00:01:10,479 Speaker 1: what you want up to grow? 21 00:01:11,520 --> 00:01:14,839 Speaker 2: I'm growl nothing really, I've just been enjoying like being 22 00:01:14,880 --> 00:01:17,240 Speaker 2: off tour, getting a. 23 00:01:17,360 --> 00:01:18,920 Speaker 1: Break, a little break. 24 00:01:19,959 --> 00:01:21,960 Speaker 2: I'm not like it was at one point where I 25 00:01:22,040 --> 00:01:24,880 Speaker 2: was just so tired were my last. 26 00:01:25,000 --> 00:01:26,959 Speaker 1: We was moving around so much. 27 00:01:27,000 --> 00:01:30,000 Speaker 2: So I just been like enjoying this little break being 28 00:01:30,040 --> 00:01:32,640 Speaker 2: in Atlanta. You know, the holidays coming up. I'm excited 29 00:01:32,680 --> 00:01:36,640 Speaker 2: about than my mom birthday coming up. With her birthday first, 30 00:01:36,920 --> 00:01:39,039 Speaker 2: Oh lord, which is her birthday is? 31 00:01:39,120 --> 00:01:42,080 Speaker 1: Like next week? Is she coming out here again? Oh lord, 32 00:01:42,120 --> 00:01:43,080 Speaker 1: We're gonna have a time. 33 00:01:43,400 --> 00:01:46,679 Speaker 2: So her birthday is next week. And then of course 34 00:01:46,720 --> 00:01:49,400 Speaker 2: Thanksgiving coming up. I'm excited about that. I don't know 35 00:01:49,440 --> 00:01:51,920 Speaker 2: if I'm gonna go home for Thanksgiving or if I'm 36 00:01:51,960 --> 00:01:55,480 Speaker 2: gonna like stay here and just invite my mom back again. 37 00:01:55,520 --> 00:01:57,960 Speaker 1: I don't know yet. I haven't decided. And then of 38 00:01:57,960 --> 00:02:01,360 Speaker 1: course you're not excited about Christmas. Your favorite time of 39 00:02:01,400 --> 00:02:03,920 Speaker 1: the year, Christine, it said my birthday, I am my 40 00:02:04,040 --> 00:02:09,040 Speaker 1: favorite times of the year. Oh Halloween too, Yeah, Halloween episode. 41 00:02:09,120 --> 00:02:12,040 Speaker 1: We're gonna dress so we're gonna put on a little Yeah, 42 00:02:12,080 --> 00:02:13,679 Speaker 1: we sure really did this today, lett keep it. This 43 00:02:13,680 --> 00:02:16,280 Speaker 1: is al right, Okay, So let me tell you what. 44 00:02:16,520 --> 00:02:20,200 Speaker 1: I had an eventful past like week or two, Like 45 00:02:20,840 --> 00:02:23,520 Speaker 1: I just had so much going on. So I went 46 00:02:23,560 --> 00:02:25,840 Speaker 1: on a date and it was so fucking terrible. It 47 00:02:25,919 --> 00:02:28,600 Speaker 1: was so terrible that I was like, you know what's crazy? 48 00:02:28,639 --> 00:02:31,800 Speaker 1: When I go on date people, Literally I am a 49 00:02:31,840 --> 00:02:34,120 Speaker 1: ball of fun. I'm not gonna lie. I'm a good time. 50 00:02:34,400 --> 00:02:36,080 Speaker 1: And it's just so crazy because I'll be on the 51 00:02:36,120 --> 00:02:38,000 Speaker 1: day miserable as fuck and these niggas be having the 52 00:02:38,000 --> 00:02:41,480 Speaker 1: time of ainy motherfucking laughs. Bitch, I know they'd be 53 00:02:41,520 --> 00:02:43,359 Speaker 1: going home like, yo, I got me one. But I 54 00:02:43,600 --> 00:02:44,280 Speaker 1: feel like, but. 55 00:02:44,240 --> 00:02:46,120 Speaker 2: I feel like, as a man, I don't know. I 56 00:02:46,120 --> 00:02:48,480 Speaker 2: feel like you gotta know when the date not going good. 57 00:02:48,560 --> 00:02:50,640 Speaker 1: But you know what, like you gotta know. But the 58 00:02:50,680 --> 00:02:52,800 Speaker 1: thing is, though it's not like the date was going 59 00:02:52,880 --> 00:02:55,919 Speaker 1: bad of like things he was like particularly saying or whatever, 60 00:02:56,000 --> 00:02:58,600 Speaker 1: it just wasn't my vibe. Another guy that would definitely 61 00:02:58,600 --> 00:03:01,920 Speaker 1: have been her vibe because he's a gentleman like on paper, 62 00:03:02,200 --> 00:03:05,760 Speaker 1: why perfect whatever. But you know, like I said that, 63 00:03:06,040 --> 00:03:07,760 Speaker 1: I've been on a few bad days, so it just 64 00:03:07,840 --> 00:03:10,200 Speaker 1: wasn't one, you know, and I've been on some good dates. 65 00:03:10,440 --> 00:03:12,800 Speaker 1: You know, I'm not gonna put it all on, but 66 00:03:12,840 --> 00:03:14,920 Speaker 1: either way it goes, y'all. The bad date led to 67 00:03:14,960 --> 00:03:17,200 Speaker 1: me I got home and I was reading this article, right, 68 00:03:17,560 --> 00:03:19,639 Speaker 1: I read this article about this lady. She was like 69 00:03:19,680 --> 00:03:22,360 Speaker 1: in her mid thirties. She's a black woman in San Diego. 70 00:03:22,560 --> 00:03:25,480 Speaker 1: She was like dating kind of the same type of men. 71 00:03:25,800 --> 00:03:27,600 Speaker 1: And she was like, and then I just decided to 72 00:03:27,800 --> 00:03:30,080 Speaker 1: do this dating app. I'm not gonna name the name 73 00:03:30,080 --> 00:03:33,040 Speaker 1: because they ain't cutting no check. But honestly, I wouldn't 74 00:03:33,080 --> 00:03:35,120 Speaker 1: talk about it anyway, So let me take what figure out. 75 00:03:35,720 --> 00:03:37,480 Speaker 1: So she was talking about how she's got on this 76 00:03:37,560 --> 00:03:40,080 Speaker 1: dating app, and it's for like successful men, you know, 77 00:03:40,600 --> 00:03:44,200 Speaker 1: looking for women who are as like, either equally successful 78 00:03:44,440 --> 00:03:46,160 Speaker 1: or you know, they just want company. They just want 79 00:03:46,160 --> 00:03:48,640 Speaker 1: a beautiful woman to be around. So she was talking 80 00:03:48,640 --> 00:03:51,160 Speaker 1: about how she started traveling the world. She was getting 81 00:03:51,240 --> 00:03:53,520 Speaker 1: Chanelle bags, and she was just like, it's a beautiful 82 00:03:53,560 --> 00:03:55,720 Speaker 1: lifestyle that I didn't know existed. I said, oh girl, 83 00:03:55,720 --> 00:03:57,560 Speaker 1: this is right up my alley. I said, I've never 84 00:03:58,000 --> 00:03:59,920 Speaker 1: been on a dating app. I went on a date 85 00:04:00,200 --> 00:04:03,760 Speaker 1: at one time for like five minutes, oh like years ago. 86 00:04:03,800 --> 00:04:05,600 Speaker 1: I've never been on a day now. So I was like, 87 00:04:05,600 --> 00:04:07,480 Speaker 1: you know what, let me make a profile. I'm gonna 88 00:04:07,520 --> 00:04:09,840 Speaker 1: try something different. I'm gonna jump on on the edge. 89 00:04:09,920 --> 00:04:13,920 Speaker 1: Maybe I'll find a nice little Curtis. You know, a Habib, 90 00:04:14,000 --> 00:04:17,760 Speaker 1: but somebody's shirts Curtis or Habib anything different. 91 00:04:17,839 --> 00:04:20,440 Speaker 2: You know, like, as an adult, I've never met nobody 92 00:04:20,520 --> 00:04:21,039 Speaker 2: named Curtis. 93 00:04:21,200 --> 00:04:26,160 Speaker 1: Curtis. You haven't not nobody our age exactly a Curtis. 94 00:04:26,320 --> 00:04:29,200 Speaker 1: I like him a little grandfather. Yeah, I mean, I 95 00:04:29,200 --> 00:04:31,920 Speaker 1: guess Curtisy is a granddaddy now. So yeah, so I 96 00:04:32,360 --> 00:04:34,680 Speaker 1: make me a little profile. Profile was very cute. It 97 00:04:34,760 --> 00:04:36,760 Speaker 1: was giving. I'm a bad bitch for my own money, 98 00:04:36,800 --> 00:04:39,760 Speaker 1: but I want yours. Okay. So I was on the 99 00:04:39,800 --> 00:04:43,640 Speaker 1: app just to scroll in ugly, ugly, ugly, ugly, ugly girl. 100 00:04:43,680 --> 00:04:46,839 Speaker 1: I believe that app in three minutes flat, bitch. I said, 101 00:04:46,839 --> 00:04:49,440 Speaker 1: this life is not way, was he. I'm not gonna 102 00:04:49,480 --> 00:04:52,880 Speaker 1: say it out loud. Why. I mean, I don't want 103 00:04:52,880 --> 00:04:55,159 Speaker 1: to like promote or you know, maybe they might want 104 00:04:55,160 --> 00:04:56,920 Speaker 1: to give us a check one day and we talking 105 00:04:56,960 --> 00:04:58,520 Speaker 1: shit about them and then all of a sudden we 106 00:04:58,560 --> 00:05:01,120 Speaker 1: promote them. I'll tell you later, okay. But yeah, so 107 00:05:01,320 --> 00:05:03,120 Speaker 1: I made a dating app for three minutes. It was 108 00:05:03,240 --> 00:05:05,120 Speaker 1: very unsuccessful. So everybody was ugly. 109 00:05:05,480 --> 00:05:12,080 Speaker 2: Everybody, niggas, they don't be ugly to me. Them niggas 110 00:05:12,080 --> 00:05:13,720 Speaker 2: probably ain't ugly to somebody too. 111 00:05:13,920 --> 00:05:16,720 Speaker 1: They was ugly to me, it ain't all of them. 112 00:05:16,800 --> 00:05:19,719 Speaker 1: Niggas was ugly, ba bad they was. It was giving 113 00:05:20,680 --> 00:05:22,080 Speaker 1: you need Why you ain't screened? 114 00:05:22,080 --> 00:05:23,560 Speaker 2: I want to see what one of them looked like. 115 00:05:23,600 --> 00:05:28,240 Speaker 2: You should have screenshot eat the little profile. Okay, I screamed, well, somebody, no, 116 00:05:28,360 --> 00:05:30,040 Speaker 2: I screenshot at one thing and I sent it to 117 00:05:30,080 --> 00:05:30,320 Speaker 2: kill her. 118 00:05:30,360 --> 00:05:33,440 Speaker 1: But they didn't have a profile image. But the profile 119 00:05:33,520 --> 00:05:35,320 Speaker 1: image said let me let me scroll back through our 120 00:05:35,320 --> 00:05:37,520 Speaker 1: text messages so I can find it. And I was 121 00:05:37,600 --> 00:05:40,200 Speaker 1: so disturbed because I was on there for three seconds. 122 00:05:40,279 --> 00:05:42,400 Speaker 1: She was like, let me tell you something about dating apps. 123 00:05:42,440 --> 00:05:43,960 Speaker 1: Don't get your hopes up. I was like, no, this 124 00:05:44,040 --> 00:05:46,480 Speaker 1: lady's story was beautiful, and I'm like, if she hit 125 00:05:46,520 --> 00:05:49,400 Speaker 1: it big, I know I can listen to this man's name. 126 00:05:50,600 --> 00:05:54,080 Speaker 1: He said. His screen name was cooch Eater and his 127 00:05:54,240 --> 00:05:56,839 Speaker 1: tagline was you thought I was feeling you, I'm a munch. 128 00:05:58,360 --> 00:06:02,520 Speaker 1: I said, this is not I can't do for successful, desire, 129 00:06:03,040 --> 00:06:06,440 Speaker 1: desirable men. Maybe he is successful and desirable. He just 130 00:06:06,440 --> 00:06:09,000 Speaker 1: the money and you call it yourself a munch. I 131 00:06:09,000 --> 00:06:11,400 Speaker 1: don't want you. He said, he gonna eat it for 132 00:06:11,520 --> 00:06:14,080 Speaker 1: lun oh brother girl, and I tell you I deleted 133 00:06:14,120 --> 00:06:16,760 Speaker 1: that app so motherfucking quick. I need so like, this 134 00:06:16,839 --> 00:06:19,160 Speaker 1: is so funny to me. That's why I don't get 135 00:06:19,200 --> 00:06:22,359 Speaker 1: on dated apps though. I feel like my last for me, 136 00:06:22,600 --> 00:06:23,560 Speaker 1: my last round on. 137 00:06:23,640 --> 00:06:27,360 Speaker 2: That it's nothing about meeting random niggas from a day naw, 138 00:06:27,800 --> 00:06:29,920 Speaker 2: just don't sit right with my spirit because I feel 139 00:06:29,920 --> 00:06:32,040 Speaker 2: like you could be pretending to be anybody. 140 00:06:32,279 --> 00:06:34,120 Speaker 1: But you know now you have to verify yourself, oh 141 00:06:34,160 --> 00:06:36,080 Speaker 1: you do, and that they do different steps to make 142 00:06:36,080 --> 00:06:38,880 Speaker 1: you verify yourself, so you do have to verify yourself 143 00:06:38,880 --> 00:06:41,560 Speaker 1: on the dating ass. But still like, this was my 144 00:06:41,640 --> 00:06:44,359 Speaker 1: shortest stint ever. My first stint was five minutes. This 145 00:06:44,400 --> 00:06:47,080 Speaker 1: one was three. I tried it. Maybe it's just not 146 00:06:47,160 --> 00:06:49,200 Speaker 1: for me. So then let me tell you another story 147 00:06:49,240 --> 00:06:50,800 Speaker 1: that happened to me. I just had a crazy week, 148 00:06:51,400 --> 00:06:55,360 Speaker 1: so I called me an uber. I mean no, I 149 00:06:55,400 --> 00:06:57,359 Speaker 1: call lyft, I use Lyfts. So I was calling the 150 00:06:57,400 --> 00:07:02,160 Speaker 1: lift and I was taking a long time to go downstairs, 151 00:07:02,200 --> 00:07:03,480 Speaker 1: so I was trying to I kept calling and me 152 00:07:03,480 --> 00:07:05,040 Speaker 1: be like, oh hey, I'm coming down because the time 153 00:07:05,120 --> 00:07:07,080 Speaker 1: was winding down. He just kept ignoring my calls. He 154 00:07:07,160 --> 00:07:09,360 Speaker 1: kept it noring my calls. I'm cursed. I'm like this 155 00:07:09,400 --> 00:07:11,360 Speaker 1: motherfucker like, if he leave me, I'm fucking going off 156 00:07:11,360 --> 00:07:13,160 Speaker 1: on his motherfucking ass. Like I was going off. I 157 00:07:13,240 --> 00:07:16,480 Speaker 1: was fucking pitched. So I walked downstairs. You know, I'm cute. 158 00:07:16,480 --> 00:07:18,200 Speaker 1: I'm twisting the shit because I'm like, he gonna leave 159 00:07:18,240 --> 00:07:21,920 Speaker 1: when he see his ass walking. So I'm twisting to 160 00:07:21,960 --> 00:07:24,360 Speaker 1: the car, bitch. I get in the car and as 161 00:07:24,400 --> 00:07:26,360 Speaker 1: soon as I get in, he immediately turns around and 162 00:07:26,400 --> 00:07:29,120 Speaker 1: he hands me his phone. He was like, I'm deaf. 163 00:07:29,200 --> 00:07:31,560 Speaker 1: If you need anything, text me. I was like, oh shit, 164 00:07:31,640 --> 00:07:34,800 Speaker 1: Now I'm an asshole, right, So but y'all know like 165 00:07:35,560 --> 00:07:38,400 Speaker 1: I am. There was this series that I was watching 166 00:07:38,440 --> 00:07:40,240 Speaker 1: on Netflix and it was basically like about all these 167 00:07:40,320 --> 00:07:42,280 Speaker 1: kids and they were like in the school for the deaf, 168 00:07:42,320 --> 00:07:44,240 Speaker 1: and they were like signing and all this stuff. I 169 00:07:44,320 --> 00:07:46,840 Speaker 1: just really love I love the community because they are 170 00:07:46,880 --> 00:07:49,960 Speaker 1: really like there's like a certain rules and things you 171 00:07:50,040 --> 00:07:52,320 Speaker 1: can do and things that they don't like they do, 172 00:07:52,480 --> 00:07:55,200 Speaker 1: like like there's a whole community on TikTok. They be 173 00:07:55,240 --> 00:07:58,320 Speaker 1: doing a sign language, the ASSL. I'll be tuned in, 174 00:07:58,480 --> 00:08:01,360 Speaker 1: so y'all I know how to say thank you and 175 00:08:01,480 --> 00:08:04,400 Speaker 1: sign language, right, So bitch, I was so ready to 176 00:08:04,400 --> 00:08:06,160 Speaker 1: get out that motherfucker up, like yeah, I'm about to 177 00:08:06,160 --> 00:08:08,320 Speaker 1: show him, bitch, I'm about to be like thank you, 178 00:08:08,480 --> 00:08:10,480 Speaker 1: and ain't gonna be like yeah, I thought we was 179 00:08:10,480 --> 00:08:12,160 Speaker 1: about to have a moment. Girl. He dropped me off 180 00:08:12,160 --> 00:08:16,200 Speaker 1: as card I was like, I am we I was 181 00:08:16,320 --> 00:08:20,320 Speaker 1: so fucking sad like this in the backseat the whole time. 182 00:08:21,240 --> 00:08:24,960 Speaker 1: I got some for him. Oh I'm ready, cause you 183 00:08:25,000 --> 00:08:28,760 Speaker 1: know I am not. Because when people are deaf and 184 00:08:28,760 --> 00:08:30,840 Speaker 1: you know how to sign, they get really happy that 185 00:08:30,880 --> 00:08:32,920 Speaker 1: you know how to sign. So I was like, let 186 00:08:32,960 --> 00:08:35,000 Speaker 1: me show him then, I'm gonna because honestly, that's something 187 00:08:35,040 --> 00:08:36,560 Speaker 1: I've been wanting to do because you know, I know 188 00:08:36,640 --> 00:08:39,320 Speaker 1: my a DC's and I was like, you know what, 189 00:08:39,400 --> 00:08:42,200 Speaker 1: this is something I really just want to learn, just 190 00:08:42,200 --> 00:08:44,640 Speaker 1: just to have the skill of learning in case I 191 00:08:44,679 --> 00:08:46,760 Speaker 1: ran into somebody who's death. So I was just so 192 00:08:46,840 --> 00:08:48,280 Speaker 1: ready to tell him thank you. And when I tell 193 00:08:48,320 --> 00:08:51,360 Speaker 1: you, you just went like this and left me. I was 194 00:08:51,480 --> 00:08:54,880 Speaker 1: so sad. I was like, well, it's gonna be okay. 195 00:08:54,920 --> 00:08:57,320 Speaker 2: We're gonna pray that should get another desk driver I 196 00:08:57,400 --> 00:08:59,000 Speaker 2: do so you could show off your skin. 197 00:08:59,120 --> 00:09:02,240 Speaker 1: I know, I was like, and he sure didn't turn around, 198 00:09:02,679 --> 00:09:05,240 Speaker 1: and I got another story. But I'll say that for 199 00:09:05,320 --> 00:09:07,440 Speaker 1: next week. Girl, I just had a I had a crazy, 200 00:09:07,840 --> 00:09:10,760 Speaker 1: a long week. I had a long, crazy ass week. 201 00:09:10,760 --> 00:09:12,880 Speaker 1: I almost got in a fight with a girl this morning. 202 00:09:13,320 --> 00:09:15,600 Speaker 1: You should have told that story over this last one. 203 00:09:16,559 --> 00:09:19,600 Speaker 2: Let me tell y'all here like, well, I'm just saying, 204 00:09:19,640 --> 00:09:20,840 Speaker 2: I like, do you. 205 00:09:20,880 --> 00:09:23,040 Speaker 1: Know, I just wanted people to know I'm learning the 206 00:09:23,080 --> 00:09:25,439 Speaker 1: asl okay, So we learned, But y'all almost gotta fight 207 00:09:25,440 --> 00:09:28,079 Speaker 1: with a girl this morning? Uh. So I was at 208 00:09:28,440 --> 00:09:31,440 Speaker 1: what's your mccaully, the Hall Mills shopping center whatever, So 209 00:09:31,600 --> 00:09:33,920 Speaker 1: it was you know, the traffic be super heavy over there. 210 00:09:33,960 --> 00:09:35,880 Speaker 1: So it was one lady in front of me. It 211 00:09:35,960 --> 00:09:38,280 Speaker 1: was an old black lady. I was behind her, and 212 00:09:38,360 --> 00:09:40,040 Speaker 1: she was like she had her blinker on cause she 213 00:09:40,080 --> 00:09:42,920 Speaker 1: was waiting for a parking spot. So the car was 214 00:09:42,960 --> 00:09:45,880 Speaker 1: just taking forever to back out. So the car had 215 00:09:45,960 --> 00:09:47,720 Speaker 1: backed out on the opposite way, so you know, the 216 00:09:47,720 --> 00:09:49,600 Speaker 1: people behind her, they could just come zoom in if 217 00:09:49,600 --> 00:09:55,600 Speaker 1: they wanted to. So she backed out and she a 218 00:09:55,679 --> 00:09:58,040 Speaker 1: car behind her had zoomed in that parking spot in 219 00:09:58,040 --> 00:10:01,360 Speaker 1: front of that old lady. And mind you, it was 220 00:10:01,400 --> 00:10:04,160 Speaker 1: an old black lady and she was just like sitting 221 00:10:04,200 --> 00:10:06,240 Speaker 1: there and she still had her blinker on so she 222 00:10:06,320 --> 00:10:08,560 Speaker 1: wasn't moving, so it was causing trap. I said, okay, lady, 223 00:10:08,559 --> 00:10:10,600 Speaker 1: this lady just took you a parking spot. So I 224 00:10:10,679 --> 00:10:13,280 Speaker 1: got out and I was like, ma'am, you know you 225 00:10:13,320 --> 00:10:15,520 Speaker 1: don't have to move your car. She was like, oh, 226 00:10:15,720 --> 00:10:17,760 Speaker 1: I was trying to park right there, but the young 227 00:10:18,040 --> 00:10:20,040 Speaker 1: so I said, baby, I'm like, form my appointment. So 228 00:10:20,120 --> 00:10:22,400 Speaker 1: I went on lock knock on the lady door. Ma'am, 229 00:10:22,520 --> 00:10:24,440 Speaker 1: this lady been sitting here for a long time. You know, 230 00:10:24,559 --> 00:10:26,400 Speaker 1: can you back up your car? She's an old woman. 231 00:10:26,840 --> 00:10:28,520 Speaker 1: It was a young little girl. She was about like 232 00:10:28,559 --> 00:10:31,760 Speaker 1: seventeen eighteen. She probably recorded me on TikTok and you know, 233 00:10:31,880 --> 00:10:34,240 Speaker 1: look she was about like la cuistia is attacking me. 234 00:10:34,520 --> 00:10:36,199 Speaker 1: I was like, ma'am, this lady has been waiting for her, 235 00:10:36,200 --> 00:10:38,559 Speaker 1: and she was like, I don't care. I don't care. 236 00:10:38,600 --> 00:10:40,160 Speaker 1: I was like, this is an old lady. I'm like, 237 00:10:40,160 --> 00:10:43,200 Speaker 1: there's literally a parking spot right there, like you couldn't 238 00:10:43,200 --> 00:10:44,600 Speaker 1: see I don't know if you could see her. You 239 00:10:44,640 --> 00:10:47,040 Speaker 1: don't care. But she's trying to get in her parking spot. 240 00:10:47,160 --> 00:10:49,680 Speaker 1: I don't play about the menies, you know what I'm saying. 241 00:10:49,760 --> 00:10:51,600 Speaker 1: Ruby was just trying to get in her spot, so 242 00:10:51,760 --> 00:10:53,280 Speaker 1: she had like pulled on on. She was like, I'm 243 00:10:53,320 --> 00:10:55,440 Speaker 1: calling the police. I was like, girl, it is not 244 00:10:55,520 --> 00:10:57,280 Speaker 1: this season now. She was about to call the police 245 00:10:57,280 --> 00:10:59,160 Speaker 1: on you. She was really about to call the police 246 00:10:59,160 --> 00:11:00,800 Speaker 1: on me. But the reason I just felt so bad 247 00:11:00,800 --> 00:11:02,880 Speaker 1: because it was an old ass lady and I just 248 00:11:02,880 --> 00:11:05,480 Speaker 1: feel like people don't be having no respect they She 249 00:11:05,640 --> 00:11:07,200 Speaker 1: was just kind of like going off, but she was like, 250 00:11:07,280 --> 00:11:09,080 Speaker 1: and I wouldn't to walk up to her car. Girl. 251 00:11:09,120 --> 00:11:10,839 Speaker 1: People be crazy. I mean they gonna be crazy. But 252 00:11:10,880 --> 00:11:11,959 Speaker 1: I was in a rush. I was trying to get 253 00:11:11,960 --> 00:11:14,040 Speaker 1: my wax and she was blocking everybody like it was 254 00:11:14,080 --> 00:11:16,719 Speaker 1: traffic everywhere. Because the lady was just sitting there. I 255 00:11:16,720 --> 00:11:18,960 Speaker 1: don't think it registered to her, like, bit, your parking 256 00:11:19,040 --> 00:11:21,760 Speaker 1: spot got taken, so you should have just called her it. 257 00:11:21,880 --> 00:11:24,480 Speaker 2: I did, like, ma'am, but she was like, the parking 258 00:11:24,559 --> 00:11:26,400 Speaker 2: spot gone, I don't have to find another park. 259 00:11:26,960 --> 00:11:28,720 Speaker 1: I told a little Cassie to move, and guess what 260 00:11:28,760 --> 00:11:32,080 Speaker 1: she did. Hell, yeah, she moved. She probably thought it 261 00:11:32,120 --> 00:11:36,000 Speaker 1: was my grandma. But yeah, so I be good. She 262 00:11:36,120 --> 00:11:37,120 Speaker 1: made my duty for the. 263 00:11:37,040 --> 00:11:38,640 Speaker 2: Week, okay, because I thought she was just trying to 264 00:11:38,640 --> 00:11:40,040 Speaker 2: call up at least on you, and then she's still 265 00:11:40,080 --> 00:11:40,439 Speaker 2: like move. 266 00:11:40,840 --> 00:11:42,920 Speaker 1: I don't know, she definitely moved because she still was 267 00:11:42,960 --> 00:11:46,480 Speaker 1: getting a little antsy to do. I can here to record. 268 00:11:46,520 --> 00:11:51,720 Speaker 1: It's good, I say the grandma. I know asl and 269 00:11:51,760 --> 00:11:57,280 Speaker 1: I'll be giving niggas great dates. I'm a law abiding citizen. Phenomenal, phenomenal. 270 00:11:57,320 --> 00:11:58,920 Speaker 1: I just give the people what they need to right now. 271 00:11:59,520 --> 00:12:02,880 Speaker 3: Okay, So let's get into these motherfucking topics today. 272 00:12:03,400 --> 00:12:07,000 Speaker 1: Okay, So the first thing that I wanted to talk 273 00:12:07,040 --> 00:12:12,679 Speaker 1: about today is un learning behaviors. I feel like things 274 00:12:12,760 --> 00:12:15,240 Speaker 1: that we do in our lives a lot of times, 275 00:12:15,320 --> 00:12:18,400 Speaker 1: we cannot progress in life because we're holding ourselves back 276 00:12:18,440 --> 00:12:22,000 Speaker 1: because we're treating situations the same as we do every 277 00:12:22,040 --> 00:12:25,600 Speaker 1: single time. And what's that saying about insanity? The definition 278 00:12:25,679 --> 00:12:29,840 Speaker 1: of insanity is doing the same thing and expecting different results. 279 00:12:29,880 --> 00:12:32,480 Speaker 1: So I got this because I saw a tweet that 280 00:12:32,559 --> 00:12:36,280 Speaker 1: actually said it's not talked about enough, but there's an 281 00:12:36,280 --> 00:12:39,440 Speaker 1: amount of unlearning that needs to happen before you've had 282 00:12:39,480 --> 00:12:41,680 Speaker 1: a bad man before you can go and get a 283 00:12:41,720 --> 00:12:46,560 Speaker 1: good one. So what do you think about unlearning behaviors 284 00:12:46,559 --> 00:12:48,400 Speaker 1: when it comes to like dating per se. 285 00:12:48,600 --> 00:12:50,760 Speaker 2: Yeah, I definitely think that that's true. I think that 286 00:12:50,840 --> 00:12:52,520 Speaker 2: you can't treat every man the same. 287 00:12:52,600 --> 00:12:53,120 Speaker 1: But I don't know. 288 00:12:53,160 --> 00:12:55,559 Speaker 2: I've always been that type of person, Like I don't 289 00:12:55,640 --> 00:12:58,760 Speaker 2: let past the relationships and make me treat new people 290 00:12:58,800 --> 00:12:59,920 Speaker 2: that I date any different. 291 00:13:00,240 --> 00:13:01,960 Speaker 1: See that's my problem. Yeah, I don't. 292 00:13:02,040 --> 00:13:04,400 Speaker 2: I don't like because I understand everybody is a different 293 00:13:04,440 --> 00:13:07,320 Speaker 2: person and you not gonna have the same outcome every time. 294 00:13:07,400 --> 00:13:09,120 Speaker 2: I mean, and this nigga might end up being a 295 00:13:09,120 --> 00:13:11,280 Speaker 2: fuck nigga too, but I'm not gonna go into the 296 00:13:11,280 --> 00:13:14,600 Speaker 2: situation automatically assuming that he is and treating him like 297 00:13:14,640 --> 00:13:14,920 Speaker 2: he is. 298 00:13:15,160 --> 00:13:17,680 Speaker 1: Well, I'll say this, I won't treat you like you are. 299 00:13:17,760 --> 00:13:19,240 Speaker 1: But in the back of my head, I'd be like, 300 00:13:19,400 --> 00:13:20,880 Speaker 1: he'll fuck me and I'm just waiting for him to 301 00:13:20,920 --> 00:13:21,280 Speaker 1: show it. 302 00:13:21,360 --> 00:13:23,200 Speaker 2: But see, you can't do that though, because I feel 303 00:13:23,240 --> 00:13:25,880 Speaker 2: like that's like manifestation, Like you manifested him being a 304 00:13:25,920 --> 00:13:27,360 Speaker 2: fuck nigga, and that's why he gonna get. 305 00:13:27,240 --> 00:13:30,600 Speaker 1: Up being manifested. The stupid ass shit in my life. 306 00:13:30,600 --> 00:13:33,600 Speaker 2: But like I try not to, like unless somebody do 307 00:13:33,760 --> 00:13:36,800 Speaker 2: something or have certain behaviors that make me feel like 308 00:13:36,960 --> 00:13:39,120 Speaker 2: they not gonna be a good dude today or like, 309 00:13:39,600 --> 00:13:41,880 Speaker 2: because I feel like people show you who they are 310 00:13:41,960 --> 00:13:44,480 Speaker 2: early on, like the signs be there. I just have 311 00:13:44,520 --> 00:13:46,720 Speaker 2: to pay attention to the signs. So if a nigga 312 00:13:46,760 --> 00:13:49,880 Speaker 2: do something that reminds me of somebody I used to date, 313 00:13:49,960 --> 00:13:52,360 Speaker 2: tendencies that they had or certain shit that they would 314 00:13:52,360 --> 00:13:54,360 Speaker 2: do there with some bullshit that I know I don't like, 315 00:13:54,800 --> 00:13:57,240 Speaker 2: then I start thinking in my head, Okay, maybe you 316 00:13:57,320 --> 00:13:59,640 Speaker 2: might be on some bullshit, but if you don't do 317 00:13:59,800 --> 00:14:02,240 Speaker 2: it anything, I'm not gonna just be sitting there like, well, 318 00:14:02,240 --> 00:14:05,400 Speaker 2: he a nigga, so he ain't sit too so last time. 319 00:14:05,520 --> 00:14:08,720 Speaker 1: So be honest, think of every man you've ever dated, 320 00:14:09,160 --> 00:14:11,640 Speaker 1: I mean think of every man. We don't have the 321 00:14:11,720 --> 00:14:14,880 Speaker 1: time for it. You ever been d I don't went 322 00:14:14,920 --> 00:14:16,640 Speaker 1: on a lot of days. Do you feel like any 323 00:14:16,720 --> 00:14:20,359 Speaker 1: of those men were like really really good men though? Yeah, 324 00:14:20,400 --> 00:14:22,120 Speaker 1: and like you feel like you would talk to them 325 00:14:22,120 --> 00:14:23,080 Speaker 1: again and date them again. 326 00:14:23,160 --> 00:14:25,120 Speaker 2: I didn't say I would date them again because I 327 00:14:25,200 --> 00:14:27,400 Speaker 2: am a person who I firmly believe when shit run 328 00:14:27,440 --> 00:14:29,680 Speaker 2: his course is rain his course, I'm not a spend 329 00:14:29,680 --> 00:14:32,120 Speaker 2: the block type of beach job, said that numerous times 330 00:14:32,160 --> 00:14:34,280 Speaker 2: on Poor Minds. I've spent the block with one nigga 331 00:14:34,680 --> 00:14:36,640 Speaker 2: one time in my life when I'm thirty one. 332 00:14:37,120 --> 00:14:38,200 Speaker 1: I don't believe in this shit. 333 00:14:38,360 --> 00:14:40,960 Speaker 2: So no, I wouldn't date them again because I feel 334 00:14:40,960 --> 00:14:42,520 Speaker 2: like you could very much be a good person, you 335 00:14:42,680 --> 00:14:44,680 Speaker 2: just not the person for me, right. But I do 336 00:14:44,720 --> 00:14:46,600 Speaker 2: think I've dated some men in the past that were 337 00:14:46,640 --> 00:14:48,400 Speaker 2: good people, they just weren't my person. 338 00:14:49,400 --> 00:14:51,760 Speaker 1: I think, you know what's crazy because I feel the same, 339 00:14:52,280 --> 00:14:54,480 Speaker 1: Like I feel like one of my exes is like 340 00:14:54,520 --> 00:14:56,480 Speaker 1: a really really good guy. A few of my exes 341 00:14:56,480 --> 00:14:59,000 Speaker 1: are like really good men, but they're not for me. 342 00:14:59,080 --> 00:15:03,040 Speaker 1: But I'm like, why is it that I attract Like 343 00:15:03,080 --> 00:15:05,600 Speaker 1: when I really like fall for somebody, they always end 344 00:15:05,720 --> 00:15:07,960 Speaker 1: up doing fuck shit. I feel like guys that I've 345 00:15:08,040 --> 00:15:09,800 Speaker 1: dated where I kind of kept it casual and it 346 00:15:09,920 --> 00:15:12,280 Speaker 1: was cool. They were good dudes. It just didn't work 347 00:15:12,320 --> 00:15:13,960 Speaker 1: out and we are still friends to this day. But 348 00:15:14,040 --> 00:15:16,520 Speaker 1: like the dudes that I always like, really fucking fall 349 00:15:16,600 --> 00:15:19,600 Speaker 1: for and when my feelings go in, they always end 350 00:15:19,640 --> 00:15:22,960 Speaker 1: up doing some fuck shit. And then two part but 351 00:15:22,960 --> 00:15:25,320 Speaker 1: that's what. But listen. But listen. So I always end 352 00:15:25,440 --> 00:15:28,760 Speaker 1: up feeling like, Okay, once my feelings start getting involved 353 00:15:28,760 --> 00:15:30,600 Speaker 1: with somebody, that's when I start putting my walls up 354 00:15:30,600 --> 00:15:33,640 Speaker 1: because I'm like, this is my I feel like my feelings. 355 00:15:33,680 --> 00:15:36,600 Speaker 1: My body has just trained me. Growing you develop feelings, 356 00:15:36,880 --> 00:15:39,360 Speaker 1: put this wall up. So that's what's been hard for 357 00:15:39,400 --> 00:15:42,720 Speaker 1: me to like unlearn those behaviors. But that makes no sense, though. 358 00:15:42,760 --> 00:15:44,960 Speaker 2: You can't be in a healthy relationship if as doing 359 00:15:45,040 --> 00:15:47,040 Speaker 2: as you start to develop feelings for somebody, you put 360 00:15:47,080 --> 00:15:47,680 Speaker 2: in a wall up. 361 00:15:47,960 --> 00:15:49,680 Speaker 1: How y'all don't really get to know each other. 362 00:15:49,840 --> 00:15:52,360 Speaker 2: How y'all really gonna get to the next level and 363 00:15:52,400 --> 00:15:54,440 Speaker 2: find out if y'all for each other if you have 364 00:15:54,520 --> 00:15:55,000 Speaker 2: the wallup. 365 00:15:55,200 --> 00:15:57,400 Speaker 1: That's why I'm in therapy, bitch. Yeah, it's hard to 366 00:15:57,480 --> 00:16:00,280 Speaker 1: unlearn those behaviors though, because it's like it's it's like 367 00:16:00,320 --> 00:16:03,600 Speaker 1: being a child. Don't touch it it's hot, don't touch 368 00:16:03,600 --> 00:16:04,960 Speaker 1: it it's hot, you know what I'm saying. So it's 369 00:16:04,960 --> 00:16:07,360 Speaker 1: just like, Okay, you're gonna keep developing feelings for people 370 00:16:07,360 --> 00:16:09,800 Speaker 1: and get your feelings hurt or are you gonna hold 371 00:16:09,840 --> 00:16:12,440 Speaker 1: back a little bit and protect yourself and I don't 372 00:16:12,480 --> 00:16:15,440 Speaker 1: know and move a little different. I think that every 373 00:16:15,480 --> 00:16:17,400 Speaker 1: time I got my feelings hurt by a nigga, the 374 00:16:17,400 --> 00:16:19,920 Speaker 1: signs was there and I was fucking with them for 375 00:16:19,960 --> 00:16:22,840 Speaker 1: the wrong reason, right, right, And I really. 376 00:16:22,680 --> 00:16:24,640 Speaker 2: Just feel like that's what it be like. I feel 377 00:16:24,640 --> 00:16:27,600 Speaker 2: like I knew you was an ain't shit nigga, but 378 00:16:27,680 --> 00:16:30,000 Speaker 2: it was certain parks of dealing with you or certain 379 00:16:30,080 --> 00:16:31,640 Speaker 2: perks for me to be there, or we was. 380 00:16:31,600 --> 00:16:32,440 Speaker 1: Having a good time. 381 00:16:32,480 --> 00:16:36,360 Speaker 2: But I knew this relationship had no longevity. I knew 382 00:16:36,400 --> 00:16:37,960 Speaker 2: that we were not meant to be together, but I 383 00:16:38,000 --> 00:16:40,680 Speaker 2: still stayed in the situation, still fucked with the person 384 00:16:40,680 --> 00:16:43,560 Speaker 2: for my own personal reasons, right. And I think that 385 00:16:43,680 --> 00:16:47,000 Speaker 2: sometimes we as women do theirself to do that to ourselves. 386 00:16:47,080 --> 00:16:48,760 Speaker 2: All the time, men do it too, Like you stay 387 00:16:48,840 --> 00:16:51,040 Speaker 2: fucking with somebody who you know you don't you know, 388 00:16:51,120 --> 00:16:53,560 Speaker 2: it's no future in this, but you keep fucking with 389 00:16:53,600 --> 00:16:55,560 Speaker 2: them until they do something they forced you to stop 390 00:16:55,600 --> 00:16:59,320 Speaker 2: fucking with them, And that's dumb, right, Like why do 391 00:16:59,400 --> 00:17:01,280 Speaker 2: we put ourselves through that type of torture? 392 00:17:01,320 --> 00:17:02,800 Speaker 1: But then we end up disappointed? 393 00:17:02,840 --> 00:17:05,800 Speaker 2: But then it's like, Okay, you're disappointed, but at the 394 00:17:05,840 --> 00:17:08,719 Speaker 2: same time, the signs was there this nigga had been 395 00:17:08,800 --> 00:17:11,680 Speaker 2: shown you. You waited till he did something super fucked 396 00:17:11,760 --> 00:17:13,160 Speaker 2: up to where you didn't have no choice. 397 00:17:13,000 --> 00:17:14,679 Speaker 1: Totop fucking him no more. But you're sure to have been 398 00:17:14,680 --> 00:17:16,680 Speaker 1: stopped fucking with him. But not only that, I also 399 00:17:16,720 --> 00:17:18,880 Speaker 1: feel like what we do as women as well as 400 00:17:18,920 --> 00:17:22,399 Speaker 1: we exaggerate our position in people's lives too, Like we 401 00:17:22,520 --> 00:17:26,119 Speaker 1: be thinking that we are sometimes we just put ourselves 402 00:17:26,119 --> 00:17:28,119 Speaker 1: on a higher pedestal, and we put these people on 403 00:17:28,160 --> 00:17:31,560 Speaker 1: a pedestal and you're not a priority for them, you 404 00:17:31,600 --> 00:17:34,000 Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. So sometimes I feel like that's 405 00:17:34,000 --> 00:17:37,479 Speaker 1: how feelings will get misconstrued as well, Like you be thinking, oh, 406 00:17:37,560 --> 00:17:39,520 Speaker 1: this is my man, my man. And I know we 407 00:17:39,560 --> 00:17:41,080 Speaker 1: say that all the time, like my man, my man, 408 00:17:41,160 --> 00:17:43,000 Speaker 1: my man, But it's like, really, when you be having 409 00:17:43,000 --> 00:17:45,600 Speaker 1: that mentality and that nigga really not your nigga, you're 410 00:17:45,680 --> 00:17:48,280 Speaker 1: exaggerating your position in somebody's life. 411 00:17:48,359 --> 00:17:52,040 Speaker 2: Well that's stupid anyways, cause I would never talk about 412 00:17:52,160 --> 00:17:54,600 Speaker 2: fucking with somebody. I don't understand people who talk about 413 00:17:54,600 --> 00:17:57,320 Speaker 2: fucking with people and talk about dating people who would 414 00:17:57,359 --> 00:17:58,680 Speaker 2: not tell people that they dated you. 415 00:17:59,280 --> 00:18:02,480 Speaker 1: Right, that's a little that's a little way like denying it. 416 00:18:03,200 --> 00:18:05,200 Speaker 2: I mean, I feel like it's a lot of people, 417 00:18:05,280 --> 00:18:07,400 Speaker 2: a lot of girls who be talking about they talk 418 00:18:07,520 --> 00:18:09,239 Speaker 2: to a nigga, our dated a nigga, But then if 419 00:18:09,240 --> 00:18:10,720 Speaker 2: you ask that nigga, he gonna be like, oh, it 420 00:18:10,800 --> 00:18:13,280 Speaker 2: wasn't even nothing like that, I just fugged or whatever 421 00:18:13,320 --> 00:18:13,840 Speaker 2: the case may be. 422 00:18:13,960 --> 00:18:15,639 Speaker 1: That type of shit happened all the time. 423 00:18:15,960 --> 00:18:19,480 Speaker 2: But that's you being delusional because I feel like as women, 424 00:18:20,760 --> 00:18:22,880 Speaker 2: I think that you got niggas who be doing fuck 425 00:18:22,920 --> 00:18:25,040 Speaker 2: shit and then you have people. 426 00:18:24,800 --> 00:18:27,040 Speaker 1: You have women that be delusional. 427 00:18:26,880 --> 00:18:30,000 Speaker 2: Because I feel like me because I feel like, you 428 00:18:30,240 --> 00:18:32,320 Speaker 2: know when a nigga fuck with you and when he don't. 429 00:18:33,880 --> 00:18:37,080 Speaker 2: Every guy that I have ever dated, I knew who 430 00:18:37,200 --> 00:18:40,480 Speaker 2: really really fucked with me, and I knew who it was. 431 00:18:40,560 --> 00:18:43,080 Speaker 1: Just kind of like, okay, is it's casual. It's a 432 00:18:43,119 --> 00:18:43,960 Speaker 1: casual situation. 433 00:18:44,000 --> 00:18:46,239 Speaker 2: So I'm not about to go around claiming up on 434 00:18:46,280 --> 00:18:48,200 Speaker 2: this nigga are saying that we fuck with each other 435 00:18:48,240 --> 00:18:49,840 Speaker 2: like that because it's not even nothing they need. 436 00:18:50,480 --> 00:18:52,879 Speaker 1: I don't know why take it as a prize. I 437 00:18:53,000 --> 00:18:54,919 Speaker 1: hate that, like it's like, oh yeah, I fuck with 438 00:18:54,960 --> 00:18:58,199 Speaker 1: this nigga. Why do we do that as like be like, 439 00:18:58,880 --> 00:19:02,640 Speaker 1: it wouldn't even like this. That's the homie. Man, Oh, 440 00:19:02,880 --> 00:19:04,720 Speaker 1: that is so embarrassing. You ask a nigga if you 441 00:19:04,760 --> 00:19:06,240 Speaker 1: know you, you'd be like, oh girl, yeah, ill fuck 442 00:19:06,280 --> 00:19:06,520 Speaker 1: with him. 443 00:19:06,520 --> 00:19:08,520 Speaker 2: That that's why you can't be claiming up on these 444 00:19:08,600 --> 00:19:11,160 Speaker 2: niggas unless you know they fuck with you. You can't 445 00:19:11,200 --> 00:19:13,439 Speaker 2: be telling people that you fuck with somebody unless you 446 00:19:13,560 --> 00:19:15,719 Speaker 2: know they fuck with you the same and they wouldn't 447 00:19:15,720 --> 00:19:17,719 Speaker 2: embarrass you if it came up in conversation. 448 00:19:18,000 --> 00:19:20,679 Speaker 1: Not that's the homie. I'm not gonna lie. I've that's 449 00:19:20,800 --> 00:19:23,480 Speaker 1: the homie before I have too, I'm gonna that's the 450 00:19:23,520 --> 00:19:25,320 Speaker 1: homio ass all the time. 451 00:19:25,680 --> 00:19:28,680 Speaker 2: That's the home Sometimes, like the name of this episode, 452 00:19:28,920 --> 00:19:29,720 Speaker 2: that's the homie. 453 00:19:29,840 --> 00:19:31,639 Speaker 1: Sometimes it really just do be the homie. I may 454 00:19:31,680 --> 00:19:37,000 Speaker 1: have sucked the nick a little bit, little man, you homie, 455 00:19:37,240 --> 00:19:39,280 Speaker 1: that's just the homie. I wouldn't. 456 00:19:39,359 --> 00:19:41,600 Speaker 2: I wouldn't call no niggas that I suck his nick 457 00:19:41,720 --> 00:19:42,560 Speaker 2: my homie. 458 00:19:42,880 --> 00:19:46,960 Speaker 1: Oh no. The only reason I said, I don't know. 459 00:19:47,040 --> 00:19:49,879 Speaker 2: It's just because me and one of my exes was 460 00:19:49,960 --> 00:19:52,840 Speaker 2: real cool, Like we broke up and we didn't have 461 00:19:52,920 --> 00:19:54,120 Speaker 2: sex like the whole time. 462 00:19:54,119 --> 00:19:54,800 Speaker 1: That we were friends. 463 00:19:54,840 --> 00:19:57,439 Speaker 2: We was friends for like eight years after we broke up, 464 00:19:57,440 --> 00:19:59,239 Speaker 2: and we never had sex again. But I mean, if 465 00:19:59,240 --> 00:20:02,040 Speaker 2: you want to be taking I did so at one. 466 00:20:03,320 --> 00:20:08,040 Speaker 1: Yeah. Well, I just feel like we need to stop 467 00:20:08,040 --> 00:20:12,080 Speaker 1: exaggerating our positions in people's lives and go ahead, I was. 468 00:20:12,080 --> 00:20:14,399 Speaker 2: Gonna say, and just stop dating the same type of person. 469 00:20:14,520 --> 00:20:18,680 Speaker 2: I feel like women always be dating like and I've been, 470 00:20:18,960 --> 00:20:20,360 Speaker 2: you know, guilty of doing this too. 471 00:20:20,680 --> 00:20:22,360 Speaker 1: You'll literally date the same. 472 00:20:22,200 --> 00:20:24,560 Speaker 2: Nigga in a different body, over and over, in a 473 00:20:24,560 --> 00:20:29,240 Speaker 2: different package, different package drug and even wonder why you 474 00:20:29,320 --> 00:20:30,400 Speaker 2: have fusults. 475 00:20:30,560 --> 00:20:32,679 Speaker 1: You literally date in the same type of nigga. 476 00:20:32,960 --> 00:20:37,320 Speaker 2: He just looked different from the but they have similar characteristics. 477 00:20:37,359 --> 00:20:39,639 Speaker 2: They're literally the same person. How do you expect a 478 00:20:39,680 --> 00:20:40,520 Speaker 2: different results? 479 00:20:41,040 --> 00:20:43,520 Speaker 1: That is true because women love today fuck niggas then 480 00:20:43,520 --> 00:20:44,600 Speaker 1: complain about. 481 00:20:44,359 --> 00:20:46,359 Speaker 2: Why they can't get in a relationship. 482 00:20:46,840 --> 00:20:49,720 Speaker 1: That goes into unlearning behaviors though, so unlearning behaviors is 483 00:20:49,720 --> 00:20:52,680 Speaker 1: also trying to date outside of what you're used to dating. 484 00:20:53,720 --> 00:20:56,280 Speaker 1: So it's just like like I said, me, I tried 485 00:20:56,320 --> 00:20:58,119 Speaker 1: the dating app even though it didn't work, but not 486 00:20:58,200 --> 00:20:58,480 Speaker 1: for me. 487 00:20:58,560 --> 00:21:01,040 Speaker 2: This is it's one thing I ain't never deviating to 488 00:21:01,080 --> 00:21:07,800 Speaker 2: get from and has the money. 489 00:21:05,160 --> 00:21:08,919 Speaker 1: Ste PD But I feel like there's certain things you 490 00:21:08,960 --> 00:21:12,200 Speaker 1: don't have to deviate from. Yeah, you like that has 491 00:21:12,280 --> 00:21:14,800 Speaker 1: nothing Like whether a man has money or he's successful, 492 00:21:14,840 --> 00:21:17,439 Speaker 1: he's ambitious, Like those are like to me, well not, 493 00:21:17,520 --> 00:21:19,200 Speaker 1: I don't even want to say have money. I'll say 494 00:21:19,240 --> 00:21:23,159 Speaker 1: somebody who's ambitious and who is day success that's the 495 00:21:23,200 --> 00:21:25,800 Speaker 1: core being of who you are. That is more about 496 00:21:25,880 --> 00:21:28,240 Speaker 1: you as a person, because like I said, you don't 497 00:21:28,240 --> 00:21:29,679 Speaker 1: have to have one hundred million in the bank for 498 00:21:29,760 --> 00:21:31,760 Speaker 1: me to date you. But I like to see potential 499 00:21:31,800 --> 00:21:35,400 Speaker 1: there because I have potential. So that's okay. I feel 500 00:21:35,440 --> 00:21:37,480 Speaker 1: like you don't have to dva too far from that path, 501 00:21:37,680 --> 00:21:40,320 Speaker 1: Like you don't. I agree with you. 502 00:21:40,520 --> 00:21:42,320 Speaker 2: It's twenty twenty two. We is not that a niggas 503 00:21:42,359 --> 00:21:43,560 Speaker 2: for their potential no more. 504 00:21:43,640 --> 00:21:47,160 Speaker 1: Well not potential. But like there's people that I'm sure 505 00:21:47,240 --> 00:21:50,000 Speaker 1: like when you met them, they had X amount of money, 506 00:21:50,000 --> 00:21:51,600 Speaker 1: but then by the end of our relationship they had 507 00:21:51,640 --> 00:21:55,360 Speaker 1: way more because they were just businessmen. I'm talking less 508 00:21:55,400 --> 00:21:57,840 Speaker 1: what I say, Like they're already on the path, but 509 00:21:57,880 --> 00:22:00,240 Speaker 1: they're not even at their final They're not at their 510 00:22:00,280 --> 00:22:03,679 Speaker 1: final you know. Yeah, so yeah, I don't mind, you know, 511 00:22:03,880 --> 00:22:05,680 Speaker 1: hopping on a nigga a little train and we on 512 00:22:05,800 --> 00:22:08,879 Speaker 1: our destination together because I'm still growing, I'm still making 513 00:22:08,880 --> 00:22:10,680 Speaker 1: more money, So I don't feel like you have to 514 00:22:10,720 --> 00:22:13,280 Speaker 1: deviate from the bdb's. One thing that's always gonna remain 515 00:22:13,400 --> 00:22:15,320 Speaker 1: solid is the bdb's. Yeah. 516 00:22:15,440 --> 00:22:17,919 Speaker 2: Yeah, but I do feel like you have to definitely 517 00:22:18,000 --> 00:22:21,520 Speaker 2: be okay with like dating outside of your norm, you 518 00:22:21,560 --> 00:22:23,040 Speaker 2: know what I mean. Some of the niggas that I 519 00:22:23,040 --> 00:22:25,199 Speaker 2: think that us as women be attracted to are not 520 00:22:25,320 --> 00:22:28,000 Speaker 2: husband material and we know and we know. 521 00:22:28,000 --> 00:22:30,560 Speaker 1: That, but we still date them anyway, expecting that. 522 00:22:30,560 --> 00:22:32,320 Speaker 2: You're gonna be the one to be able to change 523 00:22:32,400 --> 00:22:34,160 Speaker 2: him or get him to marry you. Like this nigga 524 00:22:34,240 --> 00:22:36,600 Speaker 2: is not husband material. He ain't marrying no damn body, 525 00:22:36,920 --> 00:22:37,200 Speaker 2: and you. 526 00:22:37,119 --> 00:22:38,680 Speaker 1: Know what it is. But it's not even about that. 527 00:22:38,760 --> 00:22:42,840 Speaker 2: It's like he really is not worth marry if you really, 528 00:22:43,000 --> 00:22:45,399 Speaker 2: That's what I'm saying. But us as women, we be 529 00:22:45,680 --> 00:22:47,760 Speaker 2: like they have everything else, Like it's like a nigga 530 00:22:47,800 --> 00:22:50,199 Speaker 2: to check all the other boxes, Like he'll check the 531 00:22:50,240 --> 00:22:53,720 Speaker 2: box of being successful. He'll he might check the box 532 00:22:53,760 --> 00:22:54,520 Speaker 2: of being fine. 533 00:22:54,680 --> 00:22:57,520 Speaker 1: He might have some good dig he'd be spending money. 534 00:22:57,560 --> 00:22:59,600 Speaker 2: You know, he makes sure he don't mind investing in 535 00:22:59,680 --> 00:23:01,960 Speaker 2: your bus and your ideas and stuff like that. Like 536 00:23:02,000 --> 00:23:06,360 Speaker 2: he he's god fearing all of these things. But still 537 00:23:06,920 --> 00:23:09,199 Speaker 2: he not her husband, but serious, right, he might be 538 00:23:09,240 --> 00:23:11,639 Speaker 2: a trader he or he might just not want to 539 00:23:11,680 --> 00:23:13,760 Speaker 2: be in a monogamoiust relationship. And if that's something that 540 00:23:13,800 --> 00:23:15,720 Speaker 2: you want, that's something that you shouldn't been done, which 541 00:23:15,760 --> 00:23:18,040 Speaker 2: is a whole another topic in itself, because I feel 542 00:23:18,080 --> 00:23:23,560 Speaker 2: like women being involuntary and to being in voluntarily not 543 00:23:23,800 --> 00:23:27,200 Speaker 2: monogamous to relationships all the time, well not eating koochie, 544 00:23:27,200 --> 00:23:28,919 Speaker 2: but just like you in a relationship with y'all need 545 00:23:28,920 --> 00:23:30,280 Speaker 2: to get you monogamous. Right. 546 00:23:30,440 --> 00:23:34,639 Speaker 1: But he okay, and that makes sense. I agree, I 547 00:23:34,760 --> 00:23:37,040 Speaker 1: definitely agree. Like I said, I just feel like, but 548 00:23:37,280 --> 00:23:42,080 Speaker 1: unlearning behaviors goes into all of that. Like, so what 549 00:23:42,119 --> 00:23:44,360 Speaker 1: do you think people should do though to? I mean, 550 00:23:44,480 --> 00:23:49,400 Speaker 1: like I said, for me, I've decided I'm not even 551 00:23:49,440 --> 00:23:51,359 Speaker 1: gonna lie like that. I was gonna say, I'm not 552 00:23:51,359 --> 00:23:53,960 Speaker 1: gonna ate not you ain't been no more, not gonna 553 00:23:53,960 --> 00:23:56,320 Speaker 1: do that. I'm not ready yet. Maybe one day I'll 554 00:23:56,320 --> 00:23:58,320 Speaker 1: be ready, but I need to maybe, and I'll be 555 00:23:58,400 --> 00:24:02,119 Speaker 1: here to keep many or because one thing about me, 556 00:24:02,400 --> 00:24:04,240 Speaker 1: I'm a fine in Nigerian fall in love. 557 00:24:04,119 --> 00:24:06,760 Speaker 2: And I'm gonna be craws because one thing about them 558 00:24:06,840 --> 00:24:09,879 Speaker 2: Nigga is they just be the worst. 559 00:24:10,160 --> 00:24:11,639 Speaker 1: Like they do not believe in manigam. 560 00:24:12,000 --> 00:24:15,119 Speaker 2: Let me not say, let me not generalize, make it 561 00:24:15,160 --> 00:24:18,320 Speaker 2: a generalization and say, ah, Nigerian men don't believe in Manigani. 562 00:24:18,520 --> 00:24:23,600 Speaker 2: But you know major I definitely when it comes to men, 563 00:24:23,920 --> 00:24:25,960 Speaker 2: I will say, I definitely have a type. 564 00:24:26,160 --> 00:24:29,080 Speaker 1: I have a type and I thought I didn't for 565 00:24:29,200 --> 00:24:29,760 Speaker 1: a long time. 566 00:24:30,000 --> 00:24:32,119 Speaker 2: This is what you mean like a physical type or 567 00:24:32,200 --> 00:24:34,919 Speaker 2: you mean like a type are in. 568 00:24:35,040 --> 00:24:37,720 Speaker 1: Every area Because one thing I always have thought about myself, 569 00:24:37,720 --> 00:24:39,000 Speaker 1: I was like, oh I don't have a type because 570 00:24:39,000 --> 00:24:42,280 Speaker 1: they didn't necessarily like look alike. But when I really 571 00:24:42,359 --> 00:24:45,200 Speaker 1: like group up my exes and I think about their ways, 572 00:24:45,720 --> 00:24:48,080 Speaker 1: how they are. For some reason, I don't know why, 573 00:24:49,200 --> 00:24:54,200 Speaker 1: I said I don't like nonchalant men. I like, you 574 00:24:54,280 --> 00:24:56,280 Speaker 1: know what's crazy? I find I went on a day 575 00:24:56,320 --> 00:24:59,600 Speaker 1: with a man who was not nonchalant and I was 576 00:24:59,680 --> 00:25:03,240 Speaker 1: just like he was chalante, yes, And I was like, 577 00:25:03,440 --> 00:25:06,280 Speaker 1: oh you doing so mass you doing so mad was 578 00:25:06,400 --> 00:25:10,440 Speaker 1: math you you weren't mad because he was too ma 579 00:25:11,240 --> 00:25:13,520 Speaker 1: It wasn't too much schalant. No, it's no such a 580 00:25:13,600 --> 00:25:17,240 Speaker 1: thing as too much salt. That's what toxic. I gotta 581 00:25:17,480 --> 00:25:19,199 Speaker 1: learn my behaviors. Oxy. 582 00:25:19,359 --> 00:25:21,800 Speaker 2: That is a toxic mind set. It ain't never too 583 00:25:21,880 --> 00:25:22,680 Speaker 2: much chalant for me. 584 00:25:22,880 --> 00:25:26,399 Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying. I know, I know, I know, 585 00:25:26,520 --> 00:25:29,680 Speaker 1: and it sounds fucked up because I fucked up. But 586 00:25:29,800 --> 00:25:32,960 Speaker 1: I'm so used to like like, don't get me wrong. 587 00:25:33,040 --> 00:25:36,280 Speaker 1: Like for example, like Big Papa, he's a nonchalant man, 588 00:25:36,600 --> 00:25:39,680 Speaker 1: but he ain't salant. No, But what I say, like he's. 589 00:25:39,680 --> 00:25:47,399 Speaker 2: Very like we really you make they ain't know what 590 00:25:47,520 --> 00:25:50,119 Speaker 2: the fun that ain't gonna be schalan No, No, he 591 00:25:50,240 --> 00:25:52,200 Speaker 2: definitely does. But when I say that, he's more like 592 00:25:52,280 --> 00:25:56,080 Speaker 2: he's he's very romantic. He's a gentleman always like, he's 593 00:25:56,240 --> 00:25:58,800 Speaker 2: very caring. But when we outside, it's very much. 594 00:26:00,720 --> 00:26:03,520 Speaker 1: He don't talk. He does not talk. He talks to me, 595 00:26:04,119 --> 00:26:06,520 Speaker 1: he don't talk to nobody. Like he's very chilling like that. 596 00:26:07,080 --> 00:26:08,840 Speaker 1: I thought I wanted a man who was kind of 597 00:26:08,920 --> 00:26:12,440 Speaker 1: like just sit there and smoke his hookah. Okay, my 598 00:26:12,560 --> 00:26:16,680 Speaker 1: nigga not smoking. No, he don't, and I'm gonna show 599 00:26:16,720 --> 00:26:19,840 Speaker 1: him I don't. I don't care you like that's my nigga. 600 00:26:19,880 --> 00:26:22,600 Speaker 1: What you gonna do to me, bitch. He's gonna say, Drea, 601 00:26:23,080 --> 00:26:23,720 Speaker 1: know who come. 602 00:26:23,640 --> 00:26:25,320 Speaker 2: For you tonight, And I'm gonna be like, I got 603 00:26:25,440 --> 00:26:33,040 Speaker 2: my own money, nigga, my home, my own But now, 604 00:26:33,320 --> 00:26:35,320 Speaker 2: like you think, just because it's the people that people 605 00:26:35,480 --> 00:26:37,200 Speaker 2: kill me with that ship, just because it's a babe, 606 00:26:37,280 --> 00:26:38,040 Speaker 2: it's still hooker. 607 00:26:38,080 --> 00:26:40,600 Speaker 1: It's mini pocket hookahs. First of all, it was a 608 00:26:40,720 --> 00:26:42,840 Speaker 1: proto type of something that he is working on, a 609 00:26:42,920 --> 00:26:46,320 Speaker 1: proto type of motherfucking hohoka. You believe everything. A nigga say, 610 00:26:47,640 --> 00:26:55,240 Speaker 1: I just made that up. It's one of the people hookahs. 611 00:26:55,720 --> 00:26:58,760 Speaker 1: He said, it's a whole new prototype. I really just 612 00:26:58,840 --> 00:27:01,040 Speaker 1: made that up. That nigga say that. He just put 613 00:27:01,040 --> 00:27:02,920 Speaker 1: it out of his pocket and started smoking. That bitch. 614 00:27:06,000 --> 00:27:08,960 Speaker 1: It sounded good though it sounded good. But no, but 615 00:27:09,119 --> 00:27:11,000 Speaker 1: either way it goes, I will say, that's an un 616 00:27:11,359 --> 00:27:14,080 Speaker 1: that's a behavior that I need to unlearn when I 617 00:27:14,200 --> 00:27:17,199 Speaker 1: meet somebody that's not the usual type of like niggas 618 00:27:17,200 --> 00:27:19,200 Speaker 1: that I'm used to. Because I'm not gonna lie. You 619 00:27:19,240 --> 00:27:21,760 Speaker 1: know who called me last night, Football bab. I haven't 620 00:27:21,760 --> 00:27:26,000 Speaker 1: said the name in a long time. Okay, And yeah, 621 00:27:26,040 --> 00:27:30,440 Speaker 1: he called me last night and I always him, Yeah 622 00:27:30,640 --> 00:27:37,480 Speaker 1: one got ct in one don't so I'm fucking wing hold. 623 00:27:37,600 --> 00:27:40,959 Speaker 1: Let me take a sip, becuz girl. So anyways, football 624 00:27:40,960 --> 00:27:42,840 Speaker 1: Bay called me last night, and you ain't even take 625 00:27:42,840 --> 00:27:44,960 Speaker 1: a silk because I'm just my mom because if I 626 00:27:45,040 --> 00:27:47,280 Speaker 1: take a sip, I'm gonna lose my thought. So yeah, 627 00:27:47,359 --> 00:27:49,840 Speaker 1: football back called me last night. He was basically like 628 00:27:51,119 --> 00:27:53,159 Speaker 1: he was just telling me, like, you know, HIPing me up, 629 00:27:53,160 --> 00:27:55,040 Speaker 1: gassing up. He's a he's a gentleman, but I will 630 00:27:55,200 --> 00:27:58,560 Speaker 1: remember he is very He got all the chalantce bitch 631 00:27:59,040 --> 00:28:01,359 Speaker 1: he do. He brought me out of my you know, 632 00:28:01,480 --> 00:28:03,159 Speaker 1: out of my comfort zone. But it was still like 633 00:28:03,200 --> 00:28:07,000 Speaker 1: a weird situation for me. But then when it all unfolded, 634 00:28:07,119 --> 00:28:09,200 Speaker 1: I started having feelings for him. Then he hit me 635 00:28:09,240 --> 00:28:11,200 Speaker 1: off beside the head with some news and I was like, 636 00:28:11,480 --> 00:28:13,840 Speaker 1: what the fuck? You know what I'm saying. So it's 637 00:28:13,880 --> 00:28:16,480 Speaker 1: like that moment that I did try to date outside 638 00:28:16,480 --> 00:28:19,159 Speaker 1: of my norm, I still got fucked over, right, So 639 00:28:19,359 --> 00:28:21,440 Speaker 1: for me, I guess I don't know, I really you 640 00:28:21,480 --> 00:28:22,960 Speaker 1: know what I think it is, Dre. I'm not gonna 641 00:28:23,000 --> 00:28:25,639 Speaker 1: lie to you. I have to meet somebody who is 642 00:28:25,680 --> 00:28:28,600 Speaker 1: gonna be patient with me and just who is gonna 643 00:28:28,720 --> 00:28:31,480 Speaker 1: willing to be invested as much as I am and 644 00:28:31,640 --> 00:28:34,680 Speaker 1: willing to make that commitment because it's going to be 645 00:28:34,800 --> 00:28:37,240 Speaker 1: a lot for me to unlearn these behaviors and I'm 646 00:28:37,320 --> 00:28:39,320 Speaker 1: just gonna have to find somebody who was just really 647 00:28:39,400 --> 00:28:41,600 Speaker 1: gonna be patient with me, yeah, and figure it out. 648 00:28:41,760 --> 00:28:43,360 Speaker 1: That's all that it is, I feel you. 649 00:28:44,040 --> 00:28:47,600 Speaker 2: I just feel like for me personally, like unlearning behaviors 650 00:28:47,880 --> 00:28:50,360 Speaker 2: has just been for me looking at situations and people 651 00:28:50,440 --> 00:28:51,600 Speaker 2: that I dated in the past and. 652 00:28:51,640 --> 00:28:52,320 Speaker 1: It didn't work. 653 00:28:52,440 --> 00:28:55,640 Speaker 2: So it's like, obviously I need to try something different, 654 00:28:55,840 --> 00:28:58,200 Speaker 2: or obviously I need to or maybe not even try 655 00:28:58,280 --> 00:29:00,560 Speaker 2: something different, but I need to shift my mind. See, 656 00:29:01,160 --> 00:29:03,280 Speaker 2: it shifts how I look at things and how I 657 00:29:03,440 --> 00:29:06,080 Speaker 2: look at dating because obviously the way I was looking 658 00:29:06,120 --> 00:29:09,120 Speaker 2: at it wasn't working, you know. And I think that's 659 00:29:09,200 --> 00:29:11,720 Speaker 2: what has made it easier for me to unlearn certain 660 00:29:11,760 --> 00:29:13,280 Speaker 2: things because I'm not gonna sit here and act like 661 00:29:13,400 --> 00:29:16,280 Speaker 2: I don't feel like I used to have like really 662 00:29:16,400 --> 00:29:20,040 Speaker 2: toxic ideas about dating, because I do feel like I did, 663 00:29:20,320 --> 00:29:21,960 Speaker 2: and I mean to a certain extent. 664 00:29:22,120 --> 00:29:25,120 Speaker 1: I'm still young. Thank you, girl, I just got them 665 00:29:25,120 --> 00:29:27,760 Speaker 1: done earlier today, shout out today. Yeah, did you went 666 00:29:27,760 --> 00:29:30,920 Speaker 1: today too? Yeah? I went to spot. Yeah, yeah, I 667 00:29:32,920 --> 00:29:35,360 Speaker 1: came right after me. I went at a living You 668 00:29:35,520 --> 00:29:37,200 Speaker 1: was the right girl. I just zoomed up the. 669 00:29:37,960 --> 00:29:39,800 Speaker 2: Girl I went this morning because I was supposed to 670 00:29:39,800 --> 00:29:40,920 Speaker 2: go yesterday, but then she told me. 671 00:29:40,960 --> 00:29:43,160 Speaker 1: She had a move. I was supposed to go yesterday too. 672 00:29:43,960 --> 00:29:48,480 Speaker 1: The person just locked in period. But yes, it's okay. 673 00:29:49,000 --> 00:29:50,280 Speaker 1: I don't sit here and. 674 00:29:50,360 --> 00:29:54,000 Speaker 2: Act like yeah, like I didn't like I don't feel 675 00:29:54,000 --> 00:29:54,480 Speaker 2: like I used to. 676 00:29:57,280 --> 00:29:58,080 Speaker 1: What she was eating. 677 00:29:58,680 --> 00:30:09,800 Speaker 2: I don't know how trouble anyone, but anyways, like I 678 00:30:09,920 --> 00:30:11,560 Speaker 2: was saying, yeah, I definitely feel like I used to 679 00:30:11,640 --> 00:30:14,200 Speaker 2: have like toxic behaviors and stuff, and I still do 680 00:30:14,440 --> 00:30:16,440 Speaker 2: to a certain extent, like stuff that I'm working through, 681 00:30:17,000 --> 00:30:19,400 Speaker 2: but I acknowledge it. And I think that that's the 682 00:30:19,480 --> 00:30:22,360 Speaker 2: first step, is once you acknowledge something, then you could 683 00:30:22,400 --> 00:30:24,360 Speaker 2: work on it. But some you know, I feel like 684 00:30:24,400 --> 00:30:26,920 Speaker 2: a lot of people don't even like want to acknowledge 685 00:30:27,040 --> 00:30:28,680 Speaker 2: right that they have toxic. 686 00:30:28,640 --> 00:30:31,120 Speaker 1: And don't get me wrong, like I said this all 687 00:30:31,160 --> 00:30:34,360 Speaker 1: the time, I'm not a perfect friend, I'm not a 688 00:30:34,400 --> 00:30:37,000 Speaker 1: perfect partner, but I have a good heart right, and 689 00:30:37,040 --> 00:30:39,720 Speaker 1: I always move with good intentions. So that's why I 690 00:30:39,920 --> 00:30:43,440 Speaker 1: know that I just cannot settle. I want what I 691 00:30:43,560 --> 00:30:46,200 Speaker 1: want in a man, and yes, I do need to 692 00:30:46,280 --> 00:30:48,920 Speaker 1: unlearn some behaviors and in order for me to find 693 00:30:49,040 --> 00:30:51,880 Speaker 1: that man, I'm going to have to do things that 694 00:30:51,960 --> 00:30:55,040 Speaker 1: I never thought I would do. But I know I 695 00:30:55,120 --> 00:30:56,960 Speaker 1: move with a hard goal and that's why I just 696 00:30:57,040 --> 00:31:00,320 Speaker 1: always have faith and confidence, like I'm just I'm the 697 00:31:00,440 --> 00:31:02,560 Speaker 1: right personally gonna come the right person's gonna come along. 698 00:31:02,640 --> 00:31:04,560 Speaker 1: And it's like the way, like I'm still going through 699 00:31:04,600 --> 00:31:07,920 Speaker 1: my healing process, and I have just made so many 700 00:31:08,040 --> 00:31:10,320 Speaker 1: strides like these past few weeks because like you said, 701 00:31:10,320 --> 00:31:12,520 Speaker 1: we're off tour now, I've got to slow down and 702 00:31:12,640 --> 00:31:15,720 Speaker 1: really meditate and get into a different mind frame. And 703 00:31:15,720 --> 00:31:17,800 Speaker 1: I'm gonna talk about what happened to me later, y'all. 704 00:31:17,800 --> 00:31:18,960 Speaker 1: I got another story for y'all. 705 00:31:19,560 --> 00:31:22,080 Speaker 2: But you know that's the thing about life, bro, you 706 00:31:22,240 --> 00:31:24,720 Speaker 2: have to give yourself grace, Like I mean, people don't 707 00:31:24,720 --> 00:31:25,840 Speaker 2: give themself enough grace. 708 00:31:25,920 --> 00:31:28,120 Speaker 1: Like you know, you have been through a lot this 709 00:31:28,360 --> 00:31:30,120 Speaker 1: past year. You have had a lot going on. 710 00:31:30,360 --> 00:31:32,480 Speaker 2: So it's like, you have to give yourself grace when 711 00:31:32,560 --> 00:31:34,600 Speaker 2: it comes to dating and stuff, and you have to 712 00:31:34,760 --> 00:31:35,720 Speaker 2: date people. 713 00:31:35,520 --> 00:31:36,440 Speaker 1: Who will give you grace. 714 00:31:36,520 --> 00:31:39,840 Speaker 2: Right say, you have to date people that will give 715 00:31:39,840 --> 00:31:43,000 Speaker 2: you grace because when you going through shit or when 716 00:31:43,040 --> 00:31:45,680 Speaker 2: you've been through something, you're not gonna be You might 717 00:31:45,760 --> 00:31:48,320 Speaker 2: not always be the best version of yourself, and you 718 00:31:48,440 --> 00:31:50,479 Speaker 2: need to date somebody who can understand it. You need 719 00:31:50,560 --> 00:31:53,000 Speaker 2: to and not even just to date, like when I'm 720 00:31:53,040 --> 00:31:55,280 Speaker 2: talking about relationships in general, you need to date people 721 00:31:55,400 --> 00:31:57,720 Speaker 2: like that. You need to be around people like that, 722 00:31:58,440 --> 00:31:59,880 Speaker 2: your friends, all that stuff. 723 00:32:00,040 --> 00:32:01,800 Speaker 1: You know what I mean. But I want to talk 724 00:32:01,800 --> 00:32:06,239 Speaker 1: about that we need to surround ourselves with people who 725 00:32:06,320 --> 00:32:08,920 Speaker 1: will love us when we are not at our best state. 726 00:32:09,680 --> 00:32:13,320 Speaker 1: That is very fucking important, yep, because if I'm at 727 00:32:13,360 --> 00:32:16,640 Speaker 1: my lowest, I don't I don't need to be kicked 728 00:32:16,680 --> 00:32:18,920 Speaker 1: down more. And I don't need you telling me, oh, Lex, 729 00:32:18,960 --> 00:32:21,640 Speaker 1: you're not acting like yourself. Oh you tripping all the time. 730 00:32:21,720 --> 00:32:24,120 Speaker 1: I don't need that. I need you to understand. Okay, 731 00:32:24,480 --> 00:32:27,360 Speaker 1: she's not acting like she normally does. So instead of 732 00:32:27,400 --> 00:32:29,000 Speaker 1: me making her feel bad, let me ask her what 733 00:32:29,120 --> 00:32:30,920 Speaker 1: she needs? Hey, what do you need for me? Do 734 00:32:30,960 --> 00:32:32,520 Speaker 1: you need me to be around more? Or do I 735 00:32:32,600 --> 00:32:34,920 Speaker 1: need to back up? We need to start if you 736 00:32:35,040 --> 00:32:37,760 Speaker 1: really care about somebody. I tweeted this the other day. 737 00:32:38,000 --> 00:32:41,240 Speaker 1: Y'all don't know how to be good fucking friends. Let's 738 00:32:41,280 --> 00:32:43,400 Speaker 1: just start with that. Outside of these niggas and dating. 739 00:32:43,480 --> 00:32:46,120 Speaker 1: Y'all don't know how to be good fucking friends. Because 740 00:32:46,120 --> 00:32:49,920 Speaker 1: if a friend is going through something and they start 741 00:32:50,040 --> 00:32:53,920 Speaker 1: doing things that maybe aren't normal, you should just ask Okay, 742 00:32:54,000 --> 00:32:56,480 Speaker 1: maybe this is this is kind of off, but let 743 00:32:56,560 --> 00:32:58,400 Speaker 1: me just ask her why or what does she need 744 00:32:58,480 --> 00:33:00,880 Speaker 1: me to do as a friend. How can I, you know, 745 00:33:01,120 --> 00:33:03,640 Speaker 1: get her through this or get him through this? You know? So, 746 00:33:03,720 --> 00:33:05,680 Speaker 1: I think that is the most important thing about being 747 00:33:05,680 --> 00:33:08,160 Speaker 1: a good friend. It is like loving people at their lowest, 748 00:33:08,320 --> 00:33:12,040 Speaker 1: even in the relationship as well. 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Betterhelp 796 00:35:40,360 --> 00:35:40,799 Speaker 1: dot com. 797 00:35:41,640 --> 00:35:45,239 Speaker 2: For this second topic, we're gonna be talking about projecting, 798 00:35:45,560 --> 00:35:46,719 Speaker 2: like are you projecting? 799 00:35:47,360 --> 00:35:49,520 Speaker 1: Do you know how to know if you're projecting? 800 00:35:49,560 --> 00:35:51,880 Speaker 2: We're gonna talk about signs of knowing if you're projecting, 801 00:35:51,920 --> 00:35:53,919 Speaker 2: And we're just gonna talk about projecting in general, because 802 00:35:53,960 --> 00:35:56,960 Speaker 2: I feel like it's something that everybody does. 803 00:35:57,360 --> 00:35:58,760 Speaker 1: Sometimes I think. 804 00:35:58,760 --> 00:36:02,920 Speaker 2: It's nobody walking it's ear that tonight, guilty of projecting, 805 00:36:03,200 --> 00:36:03,799 Speaker 2: you know what I mean? 806 00:36:03,920 --> 00:36:06,560 Speaker 1: Or having projected before. I feel like it's something everybody is. 807 00:36:08,000 --> 00:36:10,080 Speaker 1: But I didn't know that it could be good and bad. 808 00:36:10,280 --> 00:36:13,440 Speaker 2: I think I always associated with projecting with bad and 809 00:36:13,600 --> 00:36:17,719 Speaker 2: obviously well, I obviously, but we just learned that, you know, 810 00:36:17,840 --> 00:36:19,399 Speaker 2: you could project in a good way as well. 811 00:36:19,800 --> 00:36:22,680 Speaker 1: Well. I'll say this, I'm a I'm the biggest hater 812 00:36:22,840 --> 00:36:25,839 Speaker 1: that you ever met. I'm the biggest hater that you've seen. 813 00:36:26,560 --> 00:36:31,759 Speaker 1: I am the biggest hater you, ain't you. That's not 814 00:36:31,800 --> 00:36:35,480 Speaker 1: a good title. I'm not. I'm not saying that it's good. Now. 815 00:36:35,680 --> 00:36:39,880 Speaker 1: Have I grown from that? Absolutely? I used to be 816 00:36:40,000 --> 00:36:42,000 Speaker 1: the well and let me say you to I'm sorry, 817 00:36:42,920 --> 00:36:51,680 Speaker 1: but I also said this in the past episode, but no, 818 00:36:51,840 --> 00:36:54,000 Speaker 1: I will say this. I used I used to be 819 00:36:54,080 --> 00:36:55,759 Speaker 1: a big hater. I was a big hater. I was 820 00:36:55,800 --> 00:36:57,840 Speaker 1: the girl who was talking down on everything that I 821 00:36:57,960 --> 00:37:00,879 Speaker 1: couldn't do. And then as soon as I was yes, 822 00:37:00,920 --> 00:37:02,600 Speaker 1: and as soon as I was being, as soon as 823 00:37:02,640 --> 00:37:04,439 Speaker 1: I was able to do it, I did all that shit. 824 00:37:04,600 --> 00:37:07,560 Speaker 1: Everything I used to talk shit about. Every I swear 825 00:37:07,640 --> 00:37:10,160 Speaker 1: to you everything I used to talk about it, bitch, 826 00:37:10,560 --> 00:37:13,600 Speaker 1: I already knew it when I tell y'all, I used 827 00:37:13,640 --> 00:37:16,040 Speaker 1: to be on it. He was talking about. No listen, 828 00:37:16,120 --> 00:37:18,680 Speaker 1: I'm talking about like I'm so glad my old Twitter 829 00:37:18,800 --> 00:37:20,480 Speaker 1: is deleted. I used to be on there talking about 830 00:37:20,520 --> 00:37:22,640 Speaker 1: girls who would get plastic surgery. I used to be 831 00:37:22,719 --> 00:37:24,920 Speaker 1: talking about girls with fake tds. I used to be 832 00:37:24,920 --> 00:37:27,879 Speaker 1: talking about all that shit like craziness. So we're gonna 833 00:37:27,920 --> 00:37:30,600 Speaker 1: talk about projecting and how to know the difference. So 834 00:37:30,680 --> 00:37:32,759 Speaker 1: let's start off with like a positive projection, because you 835 00:37:32,840 --> 00:37:35,960 Speaker 1: did say there's a difference. So what is a positive projection? 836 00:37:36,880 --> 00:37:40,640 Speaker 2: So a positive projection could be like you're putting, like 837 00:37:40,760 --> 00:37:44,919 Speaker 2: your projecting empathy on somebody, our generosity, gratitude. 838 00:37:45,239 --> 00:37:52,319 Speaker 1: Okay, so, but that would be like, so, say you're 839 00:37:52,360 --> 00:37:54,520 Speaker 1: not a touchy philly person. You're not right all right, 840 00:37:54,760 --> 00:37:57,000 Speaker 1: So a positive projection would be like, oh my gosh, 841 00:37:57,360 --> 00:37:59,120 Speaker 1: somebody be like, yeah, Drea, she don't do like this. 842 00:37:59,280 --> 00:38:01,239 Speaker 1: I'm like, no, I loves to hug and touch me 843 00:38:01,320 --> 00:38:02,960 Speaker 1: and hold my hand all the time, but you really 844 00:38:03,040 --> 00:38:04,000 Speaker 1: don't do that, right. 845 00:38:03,920 --> 00:38:06,160 Speaker 2: That's what I'm saying, Like you're projecting something onto them 846 00:38:06,239 --> 00:38:09,200 Speaker 2: that they actually lack, that they don't have right but you. 847 00:38:09,800 --> 00:38:11,760 Speaker 1: So it's just really trying to see the good in somebody. 848 00:38:12,280 --> 00:38:16,120 Speaker 1: Technically it's not Badly, I feel like that could cause delusion, 849 00:38:17,520 --> 00:38:20,160 Speaker 1: you think, so, yeah, because if I'm projecting onto you 850 00:38:20,280 --> 00:38:22,960 Speaker 1: like you're such this good person and like say, I 851 00:38:23,120 --> 00:38:26,160 Speaker 1: love hugs, but honestly, when I come around you, you're 852 00:38:26,200 --> 00:38:29,080 Speaker 1: not hugging me because you want to or I'm a 853 00:38:29,120 --> 00:38:33,880 Speaker 1: little burpie. You're not hugging me because you want to. 854 00:38:34,239 --> 00:38:36,040 Speaker 1: You're hugging me because you know I'm gonna come around here, 855 00:38:36,080 --> 00:38:38,719 Speaker 1: come lates with this hug. So in my head I've 856 00:38:38,800 --> 00:38:41,680 Speaker 1: created a reality that Drea is touching feeling and she 857 00:38:41,840 --> 00:38:44,800 Speaker 1: likes to hug me. So I've projected that onto you 858 00:38:45,320 --> 00:38:48,879 Speaker 1: and created a false reality. Does that make sense? 859 00:38:50,080 --> 00:38:52,239 Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean it does because I think that is 860 00:38:52,320 --> 00:38:54,960 Speaker 2: part of projection too, Like people that project all the 861 00:38:55,000 --> 00:38:56,880 Speaker 2: time usually do create false reality. 862 00:38:56,960 --> 00:38:59,000 Speaker 1: Yeah, you're creating a false reality. So even though it's 863 00:38:59,040 --> 00:39:02,280 Speaker 1: a positive, you're making a positive attribute to this person, 864 00:39:02,760 --> 00:39:06,480 Speaker 1: it's not fucking true. Yeah, that's true. But then I 865 00:39:06,600 --> 00:39:08,359 Speaker 1: look at it like sometimes made too. 866 00:39:08,480 --> 00:39:11,799 Speaker 2: Projecting that onto a person all the time could make 867 00:39:11,880 --> 00:39:13,200 Speaker 2: them more of that type of person. 868 00:39:13,920 --> 00:39:17,319 Speaker 1: It could have a positive effect. Yeah, like positive reinforcement 869 00:39:17,440 --> 00:39:19,080 Speaker 1: is positive. So it could be like, you know what, 870 00:39:20,680 --> 00:39:23,040 Speaker 1: my girl need a hug today, So allly she come 871 00:39:23,120 --> 00:39:25,439 Speaker 1: to hug me, Let me hug her, right, So yeah, 872 00:39:25,480 --> 00:39:28,439 Speaker 1: so look, and that's me. I gotta unlearn my behavior 873 00:39:28,480 --> 00:39:30,600 Speaker 1: because I'm aways thinking of the negative beach. Yeah, I'm 874 00:39:30,600 --> 00:39:32,359 Speaker 1: a motherfucking hater, I see. 875 00:39:32,840 --> 00:39:36,360 Speaker 2: And so then going into the next level of projection, 876 00:39:36,480 --> 00:39:37,800 Speaker 2: which is a negative projection. 877 00:39:37,960 --> 00:39:42,560 Speaker 1: Yes, so when we talk about projection, it says most 878 00:39:42,560 --> 00:39:44,200 Speaker 1: of the time, this is what people are talking about. 879 00:39:44,600 --> 00:39:49,040 Speaker 1: So that's when you're talking about negative qualities. So if 880 00:39:49,080 --> 00:39:52,440 Speaker 1: I can say, yeah, I know Drea paying her rent late, 881 00:39:52,680 --> 00:39:55,320 Speaker 1: she always paid her rent late. Because I'm bitch, I 882 00:39:55,400 --> 00:39:56,799 Speaker 1: pay my rent late, but I don't even know if 883 00:39:56,840 --> 00:39:59,520 Speaker 1: she paid her rent late or like you just say that, yeah, 884 00:39:59,600 --> 00:40:01,440 Speaker 1: she probably do. I mean, look at her. She don't 885 00:40:01,480 --> 00:40:04,000 Speaker 1: ever be at home. She always out of town. I 886 00:40:04,040 --> 00:40:06,120 Speaker 1: ain't never seen her word. But I'm just saying that 887 00:40:06,239 --> 00:40:08,879 Speaker 1: because that's the lifestyle I'm living. And I'm just saying 888 00:40:08,920 --> 00:40:11,279 Speaker 1: this for example, because maybe rent always paid. But I'm 889 00:40:11,320 --> 00:40:13,960 Speaker 1: just using an example of projection. So for me, and 890 00:40:14,000 --> 00:40:16,600 Speaker 1: I'll use myself for example. Y'all know I'm very transparent. 891 00:40:17,000 --> 00:40:18,799 Speaker 1: I used to be like, oh my god, I think 892 00:40:18,880 --> 00:40:22,520 Speaker 1: plastic surgery is so weird if y'all want this, Like 893 00:40:22,719 --> 00:40:26,480 Speaker 1: why are y'all doing that? It's so But deep down inside, bitch, 894 00:40:26,520 --> 00:40:29,040 Speaker 1: I wanted that shit so motherfucking bad. I was trying 895 00:40:29,080 --> 00:40:32,600 Speaker 1: to convince myself that I didn't want it. And when 896 00:40:32,600 --> 00:40:34,960 Speaker 1: I talk, and I'm just using surgery for an example, 897 00:40:35,600 --> 00:40:38,200 Speaker 1: And let me say this, the first surgery I ever wanted. 898 00:40:38,280 --> 00:40:41,360 Speaker 1: I always wanted my boobs done, so it was mostly 899 00:40:41,400 --> 00:40:43,600 Speaker 1: about like my boots. I'm like, oh, God gave you this. 900 00:40:43,719 --> 00:40:44,160 Speaker 2: And this and that. 901 00:40:44,320 --> 00:40:47,440 Speaker 1: But honestly, this is something that I have been struggling 902 00:40:47,480 --> 00:40:51,640 Speaker 1: with since I was in fifth grade. I didn't feel 903 00:40:51,719 --> 00:40:54,000 Speaker 1: like a child when I went in public because people 904 00:40:54,040 --> 00:40:56,680 Speaker 1: were always gawking at me and talking about my chest. 905 00:40:57,040 --> 00:40:58,880 Speaker 1: So I felt some type of way about it. And 906 00:40:59,000 --> 00:41:01,919 Speaker 1: I just when the other my other friends, we would 907 00:41:01,920 --> 00:41:03,520 Speaker 1: go to school, they got to wear certain tops. I 908 00:41:03,560 --> 00:41:05,239 Speaker 1: didn't get to wear those tops because I was so 909 00:41:05,760 --> 00:41:08,080 Speaker 1: curt I looked like a grown woman. So for me, 910 00:41:08,200 --> 00:41:09,759 Speaker 1: it was always like, as soon as I get some money, 911 00:41:09,760 --> 00:41:11,680 Speaker 1: I'm gonna get my boobsne in the back of my mind. 912 00:41:11,760 --> 00:41:13,520 Speaker 1: But you can't say that out loud because it's like 913 00:41:13,920 --> 00:41:16,759 Speaker 1: you're gonna change your body. Oh my god, why you can't. 914 00:41:16,880 --> 00:41:19,160 Speaker 2: I used to say it all the time. I can't 915 00:41:19,280 --> 00:41:20,920 Speaker 2: wait to get my TVs. Then I'm tired and not 916 00:41:21,000 --> 00:41:22,840 Speaker 2: having no TV. Right, But I'm saying, like for me 917 00:41:22,920 --> 00:41:24,640 Speaker 2: and how I grew up, you know, I grew up 918 00:41:24,640 --> 00:41:26,400 Speaker 2: in different type of areas, So for me, it was 919 00:41:26,480 --> 00:41:28,680 Speaker 2: just like, well shit, I feel like with how you 920 00:41:28,800 --> 00:41:30,359 Speaker 2: grew up, I would think that it would have been 921 00:41:30,400 --> 00:41:33,799 Speaker 2: more accepted because theyman getting surgery no long before. 922 00:41:34,560 --> 00:41:36,319 Speaker 1: Well, let me not say. With my friends, I say 923 00:41:36,360 --> 00:41:41,200 Speaker 1: like family like super southern, very like they don't do 924 00:41:41,360 --> 00:41:44,000 Speaker 1: none of that stuff, you know, like nothing like me 925 00:41:44,040 --> 00:41:46,120 Speaker 1: and my sister were probably like, oh, I didn't even 926 00:41:46,120 --> 00:41:48,640 Speaker 1: put my sister on play, sorry girl. But me and 927 00:41:48,680 --> 00:41:50,279 Speaker 1: my sister like the first people in our family to 928 00:41:50,440 --> 00:41:53,880 Speaker 1: like alter our bodies, Like nobody in my family has 929 00:41:53,960 --> 00:41:57,719 Speaker 1: ever gotten plastic surgery like that. So that was just 930 00:41:57,840 --> 00:42:01,479 Speaker 1: me projecting because I low key wanted. But I start 931 00:42:02,040 --> 00:42:04,600 Speaker 1: in the family, right, and that's what I'm saying. So 932 00:42:04,719 --> 00:42:06,440 Speaker 1: for me, I was just trying. I was trying to 933 00:42:06,560 --> 00:42:09,640 Speaker 1: convince myself that this, you shouldn't want, this, you shouldn't 934 00:42:10,360 --> 00:42:12,719 Speaker 1: But I was just projecting, and I was a very 935 00:42:12,840 --> 00:42:15,239 Speaker 1: I was a hater. Every time I seen the girl 936 00:42:15,280 --> 00:42:17,200 Speaker 1: walk in she had some little bitty perkin ties, I 937 00:42:17,200 --> 00:42:20,160 Speaker 1: would be mad as fuck and I was like, that''s 938 00:42:20,200 --> 00:42:22,160 Speaker 1: not even good. That shit don't even look good on 939 00:42:22,320 --> 00:42:25,600 Speaker 1: your beach, And she'd be looking fires for whole time. 940 00:42:26,040 --> 00:42:29,920 Speaker 1: That's crazy. I was young. I was very young. Now 941 00:42:29,960 --> 00:42:31,560 Speaker 1: when I got older, I was like, damn, that bitch 942 00:42:31,640 --> 00:42:34,120 Speaker 1: looked good. Okay, yeah, I see what the fuck going 943 00:42:34,160 --> 00:42:36,480 Speaker 1: on with you? Hold y'all got the cheek cold. I'm 944 00:42:36,480 --> 00:42:38,920 Speaker 1: just thinking, y'all holes is naturally got per y'all was 945 00:42:39,000 --> 00:42:41,640 Speaker 1: lying to me though I didn't know the t D. Yeah, 946 00:42:42,560 --> 00:42:44,680 Speaker 1: you ain't telling me y'all was getting surgery. So once 947 00:42:44,719 --> 00:42:47,400 Speaker 1: I got off on the real surgery to y'all, was like, okay. 948 00:42:47,800 --> 00:42:50,600 Speaker 2: Yeah, I got you like the girls meana surgery for 949 00:42:50,680 --> 00:42:52,960 Speaker 2: a while the ones who don't know. 950 00:42:54,560 --> 00:42:56,160 Speaker 1: So yeah. So A good. 951 00:42:56,040 --> 00:42:58,480 Speaker 2: Example of like projection, because I want to give an example, 952 00:42:58,560 --> 00:43:01,600 Speaker 2: would be like a being be cheating or a boyfriend 953 00:43:01,680 --> 00:43:04,120 Speaker 2: that be cheating all the time, but then he swear 954 00:43:04,200 --> 00:43:07,840 Speaker 2: you cheating on him, and you could be the most faithful. 955 00:43:08,040 --> 00:43:09,959 Speaker 2: You could be the most faithful woman in the world. 956 00:43:10,000 --> 00:43:12,320 Speaker 2: Don't give your man no reason to believe that you 957 00:43:12,480 --> 00:43:15,320 Speaker 2: out here stepping and fucking with other niggas. But he 958 00:43:15,520 --> 00:43:18,040 Speaker 2: swear that's your cheating on him. But that's because that's 959 00:43:18,080 --> 00:43:21,719 Speaker 2: his guilty conscience. And he projected that's me, that's me. 960 00:43:22,520 --> 00:43:25,920 Speaker 1: I'm like, nigga, I know you all side, it's me 961 00:43:26,040 --> 00:43:31,480 Speaker 1: that's outside okay, damn, And I see hey, I'm telling you, 962 00:43:31,640 --> 00:43:34,360 Speaker 1: I'm on. This is a whole, this is a therapy episode. 963 00:43:34,400 --> 00:43:38,200 Speaker 1: I'm unlearning behavior. Why do you think you do that though? 964 00:43:38,440 --> 00:43:41,000 Speaker 2: Because you know what, because because my thing is when 965 00:43:41,000 --> 00:43:42,960 Speaker 2: I do shit that I know I ain't supposed to 966 00:43:43,040 --> 00:43:44,360 Speaker 2: do I just don't. 967 00:43:44,120 --> 00:43:44,880 Speaker 1: Say nothing about it. 968 00:43:44,920 --> 00:43:47,520 Speaker 2: I don't like, I ain't gonna even accuse you of 969 00:43:47,640 --> 00:43:49,360 Speaker 2: doing any because I don't even want to talk about it. 970 00:43:49,360 --> 00:43:50,840 Speaker 2: I don't even want to put that energy into the 971 00:43:50,880 --> 00:43:52,279 Speaker 2: air because I feel like if I say something to 972 00:43:52,320 --> 00:43:54,160 Speaker 2: you about the fact that you're doing anything, your ass 973 00:43:54,200 --> 00:43:55,400 Speaker 2: might start thinking that I'm doing it. 974 00:43:55,600 --> 00:43:57,040 Speaker 1: And if I know I'm doing it, I just ain't 975 00:43:57,080 --> 00:43:59,239 Speaker 1: gonna say anything. Let me say this honestly, and I'm 976 00:43:59,280 --> 00:44:01,680 Speaker 1: being with honey right now since we're keeping an honest's episode. 977 00:44:02,520 --> 00:44:06,279 Speaker 1: I don't be cheating like that like anymore. Yeah, dude, 978 00:44:06,320 --> 00:44:08,759 Speaker 1: did I used to like when I was younger. Absolutely, 979 00:44:08,880 --> 00:44:12,080 Speaker 1: I'm not gonna lie, but I am looking for, you know, 980 00:44:12,280 --> 00:44:16,840 Speaker 1: something real, some with quality. But am my insecure younger 981 00:44:16,960 --> 00:44:19,840 Speaker 1: days of dating. I absolutely would do that because you 982 00:44:19,920 --> 00:44:21,360 Speaker 1: know what it was because I felt like, you know what, 983 00:44:21,520 --> 00:44:24,560 Speaker 1: if I can go out here and do this, he 984 00:44:24,680 --> 00:44:27,040 Speaker 1: can be doing it as well. And that's what But 985 00:44:27,120 --> 00:44:29,480 Speaker 1: that's what projecting is. Just because you are being a 986 00:44:30,080 --> 00:44:33,239 Speaker 1: bad person doesn't mean that person's being bad. But I 987 00:44:33,360 --> 00:44:35,600 Speaker 1: have everybody or not bad people, right, so I have 988 00:44:35,680 --> 00:44:37,680 Speaker 1: the mentality of if I can go and cheat on him, 989 00:44:37,680 --> 00:44:39,399 Speaker 1: then he can definitely go and cheat on me, because 990 00:44:39,440 --> 00:44:41,560 Speaker 1: if we're feeling the same about each other, then that 991 00:44:41,640 --> 00:44:43,400 Speaker 1: means if I'm feeling this way, then he's feeling that 992 00:44:43,480 --> 00:44:46,360 Speaker 1: way too, And that's just not true. That's just not 993 00:44:46,480 --> 00:44:48,160 Speaker 1: the truth. And I had to get Now that's a 994 00:44:48,280 --> 00:44:51,040 Speaker 1: behavior that I definitely had to unlearn. But that was 995 00:44:51,080 --> 00:44:53,640 Speaker 1: from a fucked up relationship I was in from when 996 00:44:53,640 --> 00:44:56,919 Speaker 1: I was like twenty to like twenty two. Terrible man 997 00:44:57,239 --> 00:44:59,759 Speaker 1: and he's very down bad and I love that for him. 998 00:45:03,160 --> 00:45:03,520 Speaker 1: All right. 999 00:45:04,000 --> 00:45:09,040 Speaker 2: So it's says project projection is actually denial of your 1000 00:45:09,160 --> 00:45:12,000 Speaker 2: dark side. So like a lot of people project because 1001 00:45:12,000 --> 00:45:15,040 Speaker 2: they don't want to accept their flaws and negative trade, Yes, 1002 00:45:15,480 --> 00:45:17,200 Speaker 2: and because it bruises your ego. 1003 00:45:17,320 --> 00:45:20,560 Speaker 1: Oh it is because you know you want to feel like. 1004 00:45:22,560 --> 00:45:25,520 Speaker 2: But I feel like as a person, you can't. Anybody 1005 00:45:25,680 --> 00:45:28,440 Speaker 2: to me did think that they don't have no flaws. 1006 00:45:29,120 --> 00:45:33,200 Speaker 1: That's a flaw. And you be the most flawed person. Yeah, 1007 00:45:33,320 --> 00:45:36,120 Speaker 1: that's a flaw to think you don't have no flawed. Yeah, 1008 00:45:36,640 --> 00:45:37,480 Speaker 1: I'm not gonna lie. 1009 00:45:37,680 --> 00:45:40,359 Speaker 2: Like and we're not talking about like physical No, we're 1010 00:45:40,360 --> 00:45:43,279 Speaker 2: not even about physical shit. We talk about internal sit 1011 00:45:43,400 --> 00:45:45,759 Speaker 2: Everybody got some internal sheep that they could be working on. 1012 00:45:46,200 --> 00:45:48,160 Speaker 1: I think for me, you know what it was, I 1013 00:45:48,320 --> 00:45:50,759 Speaker 1: was I got surrounded by at one point in my 1014 00:45:50,880 --> 00:45:55,320 Speaker 1: life like I was just like not hanging around with 1015 00:45:55,440 --> 00:45:57,480 Speaker 1: like the right group of people, and I was just 1016 00:45:57,600 --> 00:46:00,600 Speaker 1: doing the wrong things. I used to literally like drink 1017 00:46:00,760 --> 00:46:02,080 Speaker 1: when I was working at the Strip Club. I'm not 1018 00:46:02,080 --> 00:46:03,800 Speaker 1: gonna lie the people I was surrounded with it was 1019 00:46:03,880 --> 00:46:06,400 Speaker 1: really bad. That was probably the lowest point in my 1020 00:46:06,480 --> 00:46:08,759 Speaker 1: life outside of when I first moved out here, because 1021 00:46:08,760 --> 00:46:10,719 Speaker 1: that was a different load. That was like broke low. 1022 00:46:11,400 --> 00:46:12,839 Speaker 1: That low that I went through when I was working 1023 00:46:12,840 --> 00:46:15,440 Speaker 1: at the Strip club was like a mental loan. So 1024 00:46:16,520 --> 00:46:18,919 Speaker 1: with that being said, I was surrounded by people like, yeah, 1025 00:46:19,000 --> 00:46:21,400 Speaker 1: Lex you good, You're doing right, You're living right. This 1026 00:46:21,560 --> 00:46:24,080 Speaker 1: is this, this is the life you're supposed to be living. Bitch. 1027 00:46:24,120 --> 00:46:26,720 Speaker 1: I'm not doing nothing but selling bottles and getting drunk. 1028 00:46:27,280 --> 00:46:31,480 Speaker 1: I'm not doing right. I literally flunked out of college. 1029 00:46:31,560 --> 00:46:33,800 Speaker 1: I was at U of H at first. I was 1030 00:46:33,880 --> 00:46:36,160 Speaker 1: fucking my life up, you know what I'm saying. So 1031 00:46:36,360 --> 00:46:38,200 Speaker 1: I feel like, yeah, that has a lot to do 1032 00:46:38,320 --> 00:46:41,040 Speaker 1: with why I thought I was this perfect person. I'm like, 1033 00:46:41,440 --> 00:46:45,080 Speaker 1: I'm that bitch. Girl, because people was telling me I 1034 00:46:45,280 --> 00:46:48,360 Speaker 1: was that bitch. Instead of being like, Okay, Lex, what 1035 00:46:48,440 --> 00:46:50,880 Speaker 1: are you doing with your life? What's the next fucking steps? 1036 00:46:51,120 --> 00:46:53,239 Speaker 1: I didn't really talking about the next steps in my 1037 00:46:53,360 --> 00:46:55,480 Speaker 1: life until you know what I mean, you started hanging out. 1038 00:46:55,520 --> 00:46:58,680 Speaker 1: We was like, okay, bitch, what are we finna do? Like, like, 1039 00:46:58,800 --> 00:47:00,560 Speaker 1: what's the next steps? We was like me, you right, 1040 00:47:00,719 --> 00:47:02,120 Speaker 1: like you I do need to go to that land 1041 00:47:02,160 --> 00:47:03,840 Speaker 1: and I do need to like try to make a 1042 00:47:03,920 --> 00:47:06,160 Speaker 1: career and start some shit. Like I'm like, okay, I 1043 00:47:06,239 --> 00:47:09,399 Speaker 1: need to surround myself with like minded people. So that's 1044 00:47:09,440 --> 00:47:12,239 Speaker 1: what was really holding me back to like just being 1045 00:47:12,320 --> 00:47:14,880 Speaker 1: surrounded by people who made me feel like I wasn't flawed, 1046 00:47:15,160 --> 00:47:17,480 Speaker 1: so I felt like I was as perfect because again 1047 00:47:17,600 --> 00:47:21,000 Speaker 1: with projection, they're in the same environment as you, doing 1048 00:47:21,080 --> 00:47:23,840 Speaker 1: the same thing, so they don't want to feel like 1049 00:47:23,960 --> 00:47:25,240 Speaker 1: anything is wrong with them. 1050 00:47:25,200 --> 00:47:27,520 Speaker 2: Or they probably are might night, you know what I mean. 1051 00:47:28,040 --> 00:47:30,120 Speaker 2: So then they telling you you're doing a great job, 1052 00:47:30,600 --> 00:47:31,640 Speaker 2: you doing a good. 1053 00:47:31,560 --> 00:47:35,719 Speaker 1: Job, You're doing a good job because. 1054 00:47:35,520 --> 00:47:37,759 Speaker 2: They think they doing a good job or they're trying 1055 00:47:37,840 --> 00:47:40,759 Speaker 2: to convince themselves on it. 1056 00:47:41,040 --> 00:47:42,799 Speaker 1: And so I think that that's what that was too 1057 00:47:43,440 --> 00:47:43,800 Speaker 1: I don't know. 1058 00:47:44,000 --> 00:47:46,879 Speaker 2: I feel like for me, I be knowing shit wrong 1059 00:47:46,960 --> 00:47:49,080 Speaker 2: with me, I just don't be knowing how to change, 1060 00:47:49,640 --> 00:47:50,520 Speaker 2: if that makes sense. 1061 00:47:51,520 --> 00:47:53,800 Speaker 1: I think that's always been like my one of my 1062 00:47:53,880 --> 00:47:54,680 Speaker 1: biggest issues. 1063 00:47:54,719 --> 00:47:56,520 Speaker 2: It's like I could know something wrong and I need 1064 00:47:56,640 --> 00:47:58,359 Speaker 2: to work on it, but then I'd be like, but Beach, 1065 00:47:59,080 --> 00:48:00,600 Speaker 2: how do I work on it? Or I feel like 1066 00:48:00,680 --> 00:48:02,040 Speaker 2: in the past, I just used to feel like that's 1067 00:48:02,040 --> 00:48:03,960 Speaker 2: too much work. I need to work on it, but 1068 00:48:04,000 --> 00:48:06,960 Speaker 2: that's too much work, right because I feel like I 1069 00:48:07,600 --> 00:48:12,000 Speaker 2: get irritated so easily, like and I always been that way. 1070 00:48:12,040 --> 00:48:13,960 Speaker 2: I think now that I'm getting older, it's not as 1071 00:48:14,040 --> 00:48:16,080 Speaker 2: bad as it used to be. But I literally used 1072 00:48:16,080 --> 00:48:20,040 Speaker 2: to get I mean get people annoying as fuck to me. Everybody, 1073 00:48:20,800 --> 00:48:22,840 Speaker 2: no matter who you are. Now I know I'm not 1074 00:48:22,960 --> 00:48:25,239 Speaker 2: talking about you. I'm saying for real, no matter who 1075 00:48:25,840 --> 00:48:27,280 Speaker 2: you are, everybody. 1076 00:48:26,920 --> 00:48:29,320 Speaker 1: Is annoying to me, like and I get annoyed easily, 1077 00:48:29,719 --> 00:48:31,719 Speaker 1: and so were both like that too. Yeah, I think 1078 00:48:31,719 --> 00:48:33,439 Speaker 1: that's why we get along because we'd be like over 1079 00:48:33,520 --> 00:48:35,080 Speaker 1: here and everybody be over there, and we'd be like 1080 00:48:38,560 --> 00:48:43,000 Speaker 1: ready to go because about we're gonna be in the 1081 00:48:43,040 --> 00:48:45,440 Speaker 1: corner laughing we're gonna be in the corner, just the 1082 00:48:45,560 --> 00:48:48,799 Speaker 1: tour of us, just just the motherfucking to of us. 1083 00:48:49,520 --> 00:48:55,600 Speaker 1: You're gonna need to inserting just in the mother fucking 1084 00:48:55,680 --> 00:48:56,200 Speaker 1: corner bench. 1085 00:48:56,239 --> 00:48:58,319 Speaker 2: Everybody else gonna be over there having a good time. 1086 00:48:58,560 --> 00:48:59,200 Speaker 1: I'm telling you. 1087 00:48:59,760 --> 00:49:03,279 Speaker 2: By yeah, it's like but I think, yeah, you have 1088 00:49:03,520 --> 00:49:05,080 Speaker 2: to again, like kind of going back to what I 1089 00:49:05,200 --> 00:49:07,320 Speaker 2: was saying earlier, you have to recognize what's wrong with 1090 00:49:07,400 --> 00:49:10,080 Speaker 2: you and work actually make take the steps to work 1091 00:49:10,120 --> 00:49:12,920 Speaker 2: on any Because it's one thing to recognize it, like 1092 00:49:13,000 --> 00:49:15,320 Speaker 2: I said earlier, Okay, that's good that you recognize it. 1093 00:49:15,400 --> 00:49:16,120 Speaker 1: That's the first step. 1094 00:49:16,440 --> 00:49:18,719 Speaker 2: But then you actually need to take the steps to 1095 00:49:18,920 --> 00:49:21,759 Speaker 2: change things and to work on things. And I think 1096 00:49:21,840 --> 00:49:23,360 Speaker 2: I used to really have a problem with it, and 1097 00:49:23,480 --> 00:49:25,400 Speaker 2: like I said, not necessarily have a problem. 1098 00:49:25,160 --> 00:49:28,560 Speaker 1: With it, but just didn't want to do it because 1099 00:49:28,600 --> 00:49:29,160 Speaker 1: it takes a lot. 1100 00:49:29,239 --> 00:49:32,279 Speaker 2: Let's be real, bitch, the growth that I've had in 1101 00:49:32,360 --> 00:49:34,680 Speaker 2: the past few years, that it takes work. 1102 00:49:35,520 --> 00:49:37,600 Speaker 1: It takes a lot of a lot of growth. We 1103 00:49:37,960 --> 00:49:41,640 Speaker 1: both have. We both have for sure, people that we 1104 00:49:41,760 --> 00:49:45,440 Speaker 1: were when we met each other versus now it's two 1105 00:49:45,600 --> 00:49:49,000 Speaker 1: completely different people, like I think, and I think it 1106 00:49:49,200 --> 00:49:52,040 Speaker 1: shows and everything. It shows in our friendship, how our 1107 00:49:52,080 --> 00:49:54,880 Speaker 1: business has grown. Like when you really want something and 1108 00:49:55,000 --> 00:49:57,759 Speaker 1: care for it like we did with our friendship, it 1109 00:49:58,080 --> 00:50:00,840 Speaker 1: shows like the results of things. 1110 00:50:00,920 --> 00:50:02,880 Speaker 2: And you have to want to be a better person, 1111 00:50:03,040 --> 00:50:05,839 Speaker 2: like you have to be actively seeking that every day, 1112 00:50:05,960 --> 00:50:06,959 Speaker 2: Like I want to be better. 1113 00:50:07,040 --> 00:50:08,040 Speaker 1: I want to be a better person. 1114 00:50:08,120 --> 00:50:09,880 Speaker 2: I want to grow, I want to change, Like I 1115 00:50:10,040 --> 00:50:12,560 Speaker 2: know it's certain shit about me that he's less than 1116 00:50:12,640 --> 00:50:14,480 Speaker 2: desirable and I need to work on this sit and 1117 00:50:14,600 --> 00:50:18,200 Speaker 2: do the work it's to change it. But yeah, projecting 1118 00:50:18,400 --> 00:50:22,520 Speaker 2: to me, it's just not it's not like it's something 1119 00:50:22,560 --> 00:50:24,960 Speaker 2: that everybody does. But I think when you recognize that 1120 00:50:25,040 --> 00:50:27,680 Speaker 2: you're doing it, nip that sit in the book that 1121 00:50:27,840 --> 00:50:28,960 Speaker 2: needs to become a habit and. 1122 00:50:29,000 --> 00:50:32,120 Speaker 1: That and when I say this, it's for everybody. That's 1123 00:50:32,160 --> 00:50:34,680 Speaker 1: why it means, like when you see a picture of 1124 00:50:34,800 --> 00:50:37,879 Speaker 1: me or Dre or any other woman or any other man, 1125 00:50:38,360 --> 00:50:40,360 Speaker 1: stop being like, oh why did they do this? And 1126 00:50:40,680 --> 00:50:43,759 Speaker 1: stop being negative and ask yourself, why do I feel 1127 00:50:43,760 --> 00:50:46,040 Speaker 1: the need to make this comment about this place When 1128 00:50:46,080 --> 00:50:49,880 Speaker 1: you feel like Look, when you feel like saying something negative, 1129 00:50:50,080 --> 00:50:52,800 Speaker 1: especially to a stranger that doesn't know you from a 1130 00:50:52,880 --> 00:50:56,080 Speaker 1: can of paint. Stop yourself before you leave that negative 1131 00:50:56,120 --> 00:50:58,520 Speaker 1: comment and ask, you know what, why am I saying this? 1132 00:50:59,120 --> 00:51:00,640 Speaker 1: What is the root of this? And why do I 1133 00:51:00,719 --> 00:51:03,040 Speaker 1: feel this way? Why do I feel so strongly about this? 1134 00:51:03,360 --> 00:51:03,440 Speaker 2: Right? 1135 00:51:03,560 --> 00:51:06,400 Speaker 1: I guarantee you ninety nine percent of the time is 1136 00:51:06,400 --> 00:51:08,280 Speaker 1: gonna be an issue that you have within yourself. 1137 00:51:08,360 --> 00:51:10,239 Speaker 2: Yep, if you look in where you're gonna find the 1138 00:51:10,320 --> 00:51:12,960 Speaker 2: problem every fucking time. 1139 00:51:13,239 --> 00:51:16,640 Speaker 1: I swear to God every time. So let us know 1140 00:51:17,120 --> 00:51:20,920 Speaker 1: the examples of y'all projecting and how you've gotten over. Okay, 1141 00:51:21,840 --> 00:51:24,480 Speaker 1: what's up, y'all. It's y'all girl, lex P and I 1142 00:51:24,600 --> 00:51:27,640 Speaker 1: have a very special announcement to make now. As you know, 1143 00:51:27,840 --> 00:51:30,160 Speaker 1: we're moving into a whole new studio. Were about to 1144 00:51:30,239 --> 00:51:34,320 Speaker 1: have all new everything, so we wanted to hear from y'all. So, 1145 00:51:34,840 --> 00:51:36,799 Speaker 1: if you have something you want to get off your chest, 1146 00:51:36,960 --> 00:51:39,440 Speaker 1: something that's bothering you, whatever you want to say, you 1147 00:51:39,560 --> 00:51:43,839 Speaker 1: have suggestions, anything, we are having a segment that we're 1148 00:51:43,880 --> 00:51:46,239 Speaker 1: adding to the show. So what you're gonna do is 1149 00:51:46,280 --> 00:51:49,040 Speaker 1: you're gonna call a number and leave us a voicemail. Now, 1150 00:51:49,520 --> 00:51:51,360 Speaker 1: y'all know I don't like when y'all get long winning 1151 00:51:51,400 --> 00:51:54,560 Speaker 1: and shit don't be call leaving no ten minute voicemail 1152 00:51:54,600 --> 00:51:57,280 Speaker 1: and nothing like that. So call, leave us a voicemail. 1153 00:51:57,320 --> 00:51:58,719 Speaker 1: Like I said, if you want to get something off 1154 00:51:58,760 --> 00:52:01,320 Speaker 1: your chest, you have estion for the show. And honestly, 1155 00:52:01,400 --> 00:52:04,160 Speaker 1: y'all can start leaving voicemails right now because I'm trying 1156 00:52:04,200 --> 00:52:06,120 Speaker 1: to figure out what I want to name the segment. 1157 00:52:06,200 --> 00:52:08,880 Speaker 1: You know, me and Dreven brainstorming a little bit, So 1158 00:52:09,120 --> 00:52:13,759 Speaker 1: call this number six seven eight eight two seven one 1159 00:52:13,920 --> 00:52:18,120 Speaker 1: eight two six that six seven eight eight two seven 1160 00:52:18,560 --> 00:52:21,480 Speaker 1: one eight two six. And if you leave a good voicemail, 1161 00:52:21,800 --> 00:52:24,680 Speaker 1: you're gonna be featured on Poor Minds. So let us 1162 00:52:24,719 --> 00:52:26,480 Speaker 1: know what we should name the segment. If y'all have 1163 00:52:26,600 --> 00:52:29,040 Speaker 1: any ideas, leave them in the comments below. Talk to 1164 00:52:29,160 --> 00:52:29,560 Speaker 1: y'all soon. 1165 00:52:30,480 --> 00:52:36,520 Speaker 2: So now we gonna get into the by the boubout 1166 00:52:36,800 --> 00:52:38,680 Speaker 2: about how about. 1167 00:52:41,080 --> 00:52:43,920 Speaker 1: Was that a rem I don't know what feeling? We 1168 00:52:44,120 --> 00:52:48,719 Speaker 1: gonna do it right there, Ryna, when you need the 1169 00:52:48,760 --> 00:52:53,719 Speaker 1: little in so remixing this shep So today I wanted 1170 00:52:53,800 --> 00:52:57,600 Speaker 1: to talk about soul ties, but not just a regular 1171 00:52:57,719 --> 00:53:01,080 Speaker 1: soul time, a sexual soult. 1172 00:53:03,239 --> 00:53:06,319 Speaker 2: But the crazy thing is that's always been the only 1173 00:53:06,440 --> 00:53:13,600 Speaker 2: tie I acknowledge Okay, you are horny. No, I'm not horny. 1174 00:53:14,000 --> 00:53:16,320 Speaker 2: I think it was lack of information. Like I just 1175 00:53:16,480 --> 00:53:19,279 Speaker 2: always so much when people will talk about soulties. I 1176 00:53:19,440 --> 00:53:22,640 Speaker 2: always would just think about you have soultis with people 1177 00:53:22,680 --> 00:53:25,120 Speaker 2: when y'all be fucking emotional. 1178 00:53:25,200 --> 00:53:26,879 Speaker 1: Soul ties are very okay. 1179 00:53:27,000 --> 00:53:29,319 Speaker 2: But I felt like that's where it came from though, 1180 00:53:30,160 --> 00:53:32,760 Speaker 2: because for me personally, and I'm just speaking on myself, 1181 00:53:33,640 --> 00:53:35,560 Speaker 2: I don't really be having emotions for niggas that I 1182 00:53:35,560 --> 00:53:36,160 Speaker 2: ain't hooking. 1183 00:53:36,360 --> 00:53:40,200 Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, I've had a situation where I was like 1184 00:53:40,280 --> 00:53:44,600 Speaker 1: emotionally tied to somebody. We weren't having sex, and it 1185 00:53:44,719 --> 00:53:48,479 Speaker 1: was just emotional. It was like an emotional thing. Sex 1186 00:53:48,640 --> 00:53:51,359 Speaker 1: never came. No, and I didn't even want to fuck him. 1187 00:53:51,440 --> 00:53:53,680 Speaker 1: He was cool as fuck. He just wasn't my type. 1188 00:53:53,719 --> 00:53:56,200 Speaker 1: But and but you know what, I take that back, 1189 00:53:56,239 --> 00:53:58,239 Speaker 1: because it wasn't a soulta. I was just really like 1190 00:53:58,560 --> 00:54:01,480 Speaker 1: I wanted him around. He was like like, look, I 1191 00:54:01,600 --> 00:54:03,560 Speaker 1: want to fuck, Like what's up? 1192 00:54:04,000 --> 00:54:06,680 Speaker 2: Yeah, I feel like emotions can come, you know what 1193 00:54:06,760 --> 00:54:09,919 Speaker 2: I mean, You can have emotions, But I've never felt 1194 00:54:10,000 --> 00:54:12,640 Speaker 2: like like I've had emotions for niggas that I didn't 1195 00:54:12,719 --> 00:54:15,000 Speaker 2: have sex. Week but I didn't feel like it was 1196 00:54:15,040 --> 00:54:18,440 Speaker 2: like a sult tide, right, because that's deep sultis very 1197 00:54:18,560 --> 00:54:21,480 Speaker 2: until we was fucking, so I just always assumed it 1198 00:54:21,560 --> 00:54:24,200 Speaker 2: was only sexual sultiz. But now I know it's a 1199 00:54:24,280 --> 00:54:26,160 Speaker 2: lot of other forms of sultize as well. 1200 00:54:26,360 --> 00:54:29,359 Speaker 1: Right, So first of all, let's let's let me read 1201 00:54:29,400 --> 00:54:31,640 Speaker 1: this real quick. So we got this. This is an 1202 00:54:31,680 --> 00:54:35,399 Speaker 1: article that we're reading, and it says soultimes effect each 1203 00:54:35,440 --> 00:54:39,239 Speaker 1: of us differently. Most men find it easier to get 1204 00:54:39,280 --> 00:54:42,319 Speaker 1: over a soul time compared to women, but that might 1205 00:54:42,400 --> 00:54:45,320 Speaker 1: be the case as men have been conditioned not to 1206 00:54:45,440 --> 00:54:50,000 Speaker 1: be emotional. Okay, so this is just a sultaw in general. 1207 00:54:50,239 --> 00:54:54,359 Speaker 1: So I am talking about sexual sulties. We're gonna talk 1208 00:54:54,360 --> 00:54:59,320 Speaker 1: about sexual sultas today because y'all have to realize. Spice 1209 00:54:59,360 --> 00:55:01,080 Speaker 1: Girls was on the something when they said when two 1210 00:55:01,120 --> 00:55:03,600 Speaker 1: would come on your your body's are just about to say, 1211 00:55:03,600 --> 00:55:05,360 Speaker 1: if you want to be my lover, you got a 1212 00:55:05,400 --> 00:55:07,960 Speaker 1: mean with my friend? What does that mean? I don't know. 1213 00:55:08,560 --> 00:55:11,080 Speaker 1: Maybe are No. I thought it meant like, if you 1214 00:55:11,120 --> 00:55:13,759 Speaker 1: want to be in my lover, you gotta be cool 1215 00:55:13,960 --> 00:55:14,680 Speaker 1: with my friends. 1216 00:55:15,040 --> 00:55:18,239 Speaker 3: You've got to get Why haven't we never say that 1217 00:55:19,000 --> 00:55:23,279 Speaker 3: if you want my future for getting my fast, if 1218 00:55:23,360 --> 00:55:25,719 Speaker 3: you won't want to get with me, but I mean 1219 00:55:25,840 --> 00:55:26,759 Speaker 3: get let. 1220 00:55:27,200 --> 00:55:30,360 Speaker 1: You wouldn't know all the words because literally all I 1221 00:55:30,480 --> 00:55:32,080 Speaker 1: know is if you want to be in my love, 1222 00:55:32,760 --> 00:55:36,000 Speaker 1: you gotta here with my friend, gotta get with my friend. 1223 00:55:36,360 --> 00:55:39,680 Speaker 1: That's literally all I know is the court. Okay, So anyway, 1224 00:55:39,719 --> 00:55:42,400 Speaker 1: but you wouldn't know the entire song. Don't play with 1225 00:55:42,440 --> 00:55:44,320 Speaker 1: me when it comes to the spice girl on brand, 1226 00:55:44,840 --> 00:55:48,840 Speaker 1: very on brand for me. So anyway, So I'll say this, 1227 00:55:50,080 --> 00:55:53,759 Speaker 1: I feel like sexual soul ties. It can happen when 1228 00:55:54,280 --> 00:55:56,160 Speaker 1: I feel like, it happens more to But you know what, 1229 00:55:56,280 --> 00:55:57,600 Speaker 1: let me not even say this because it happens to 1230 00:55:57,680 --> 00:56:00,600 Speaker 1: me and too, because when you come across that some real, 1231 00:56:00,680 --> 00:56:04,879 Speaker 1: real good pussy, you'll be having a sexual assault. No listen, listen, 1232 00:56:05,000 --> 00:56:08,800 Speaker 1: let me, let me let me finish. Though women be 1233 00:56:08,840 --> 00:56:11,120 Speaker 1: getting like digmatized. You know we have that same when 1234 00:56:11,200 --> 00:56:14,200 Speaker 1: women get digmatized and you be fucking with this nigga 1235 00:56:14,239 --> 00:56:16,120 Speaker 1: over and over. He's not good for you, he's no good, 1236 00:56:16,160 --> 00:56:19,560 Speaker 1: but you keep fucking him. That's because it's a physical 1237 00:56:19,760 --> 00:56:22,399 Speaker 1: soul tie. Physical soul tis don't have to be deep. 1238 00:56:22,480 --> 00:56:24,840 Speaker 1: You're looking at it too deep. Dream. What I'm saying is, 1239 00:56:24,880 --> 00:56:28,480 Speaker 1: if you're having sex with somebody continuously, you don't want 1240 00:56:28,480 --> 00:56:30,160 Speaker 1: to fuck with them no more. They don't bring nothing 1241 00:56:30,200 --> 00:56:32,960 Speaker 1: to the table. You don't like that personality. Hell, you 1242 00:56:33,080 --> 00:56:35,720 Speaker 1: might not even be attracted to them, but it's something 1243 00:56:35,760 --> 00:56:38,160 Speaker 1: about that sex. It's like a drug and it's addicting 1244 00:56:38,239 --> 00:56:41,239 Speaker 1: to you. That is a physical soul tie. That is 1245 00:56:41,320 --> 00:56:46,160 Speaker 1: a demon that you need to get rid of. It 1246 00:56:46,200 --> 00:56:51,239 Speaker 1: ain't me, Damn, I gotta let it out of here. 1247 00:56:53,320 --> 00:56:55,839 Speaker 1: That dick off your mind. Now say it again. Hit 1248 00:56:55,920 --> 00:57:01,640 Speaker 1: that dick off your mind. Hello. It's that dick off 1249 00:57:02,120 --> 00:57:05,480 Speaker 1: your wanting, I'm telling you, And it's that's why I said, 1250 00:57:05,560 --> 00:57:09,120 Speaker 1: dre It's not even supposed to be that deep. It's 1251 00:57:09,280 --> 00:57:11,839 Speaker 1: just that dick is hypnotized you that I still got 1252 00:57:11,880 --> 00:57:15,480 Speaker 1: you in a world win. She got me so hypnotized 1253 00:57:16,000 --> 00:57:19,800 Speaker 1: with her body moving around and round. You heard a. 1254 00:57:19,920 --> 00:57:27,600 Speaker 2: Khan Anyway, I'm telling you, I definitely believe in sexual 1255 00:57:27,800 --> 00:57:28,480 Speaker 2: soul tides. 1256 00:57:28,640 --> 00:57:28,840 Speaker 1: I do. 1257 00:57:29,240 --> 00:57:31,400 Speaker 2: I feel like that's the only time I ever felt 1258 00:57:31,480 --> 00:57:33,680 Speaker 2: like I had a soul tie with Nigga because that 1259 00:57:34,120 --> 00:57:38,840 Speaker 2: because the dick I mean, you among other things, but 1260 00:57:39,080 --> 00:57:41,240 Speaker 2: it was mostly the dick. I just think that when 1261 00:57:41,280 --> 00:57:43,880 Speaker 2: you have sex with people, like, you're not meant to 1262 00:57:44,040 --> 00:57:45,760 Speaker 2: have sex with a lot of people. 1263 00:57:46,640 --> 00:57:49,680 Speaker 1: I really do believe that as I get older, Okay. 1264 00:57:50,280 --> 00:57:52,080 Speaker 2: You're not supposed to have You're not supposed to be 1265 00:57:52,200 --> 00:57:53,800 Speaker 2: having sex with a lot of people, because when you 1266 00:57:53,920 --> 00:57:58,200 Speaker 2: have sex with people, you're transferring energy, and then if 1267 00:57:58,240 --> 00:58:01,240 Speaker 2: this person have bad energy, they transferring it onto you 1268 00:58:01,760 --> 00:58:04,400 Speaker 2: and vice versa. Like you're literally like when you have 1269 00:58:04,520 --> 00:58:07,040 Speaker 2: sex with somebody, that's like the closest you ever get to. 1270 00:58:07,080 --> 00:58:08,640 Speaker 1: Being one with a person. 1271 00:58:10,440 --> 00:58:14,440 Speaker 2: Yeah, fix, So it's just kind of like you're not 1272 00:58:14,480 --> 00:58:18,120 Speaker 2: supposed to have that experience with everybody, And so I 1273 00:58:18,200 --> 00:58:20,080 Speaker 2: feel like that's why you could be fucking the wrong 1274 00:58:20,160 --> 00:58:24,800 Speaker 2: nigga and that shit be fucking with your mood, fucking 1275 00:58:24,880 --> 00:58:26,919 Speaker 2: with your energy. You be like, and then you can't 1276 00:58:27,040 --> 00:58:29,000 Speaker 2: you can't understand, like you like, bitch, why am I 1277 00:58:29,080 --> 00:58:30,600 Speaker 2: in this phone? Why am I feeling like that? 1278 00:58:30,680 --> 00:58:33,120 Speaker 1: Cause that nigga don't transfer his negative ass energy. I 1279 00:58:33,440 --> 00:58:37,360 Speaker 1: tell you that y'all was fucking It's that that you 1280 00:58:37,440 --> 00:58:40,439 Speaker 1: know they got witchery. It's that dickery. I'm telling it's 1281 00:58:40,480 --> 00:58:44,360 Speaker 1: that culterie too, that culture. She be cucherine, that cuture. 1282 00:58:44,520 --> 00:58:47,840 Speaker 3: It's aary born bitch, be cutting the fuck up. 1283 00:58:47,880 --> 00:58:51,120 Speaker 1: You doud it be cutting it up. And so this 1284 00:58:51,320 --> 00:58:53,880 Speaker 1: is how you chary. I'm not gonna lie, I have to. 1285 00:58:54,720 --> 00:58:56,920 Speaker 1: I am going through a situation. But it's not It 1286 00:58:57,000 --> 00:58:59,600 Speaker 1: wasn't a physical sulta. It's actual, just like a sulta. 1287 00:58:59,680 --> 00:59:01,640 Speaker 1: It's a lot. And I didn't realize it was a 1288 00:59:01,720 --> 00:59:04,600 Speaker 1: sulta because he actually brought it to my attention because 1289 00:59:04,640 --> 00:59:07,080 Speaker 1: he's like reading some book right now. He feels, you know, 1290 00:59:07,320 --> 00:59:08,200 Speaker 1: educated whatever. 1291 00:59:08,560 --> 00:59:08,640 Speaker 2: So. 1292 00:59:10,560 --> 00:59:12,600 Speaker 1: He so these are the signs. I'm just gonna read 1293 00:59:12,600 --> 00:59:14,520 Speaker 1: a few of them if you have a sulta. This 1294 00:59:14,640 --> 00:59:16,120 Speaker 1: is how you know you have a sulta. I'm just 1295 00:59:16,280 --> 00:59:17,760 Speaker 1: I'm not gonna read all of them, just a few. 1296 00:59:18,560 --> 00:59:21,640 Speaker 1: You're unable to break away from thinking about that person. 1297 00:59:22,720 --> 00:59:26,520 Speaker 1: The connection brings up negative feelings between you and your partner, 1298 00:59:26,640 --> 00:59:29,880 Speaker 1: such as anger or jealousy. So it's just like anytime 1299 00:59:29,920 --> 00:59:31,480 Speaker 1: you're thinking of them, you're like, oh my god, I 1300 00:59:31,520 --> 00:59:33,919 Speaker 1: can't imagine him being out having drinks right now, because 1301 00:59:33,960 --> 00:59:35,400 Speaker 1: what if a girl is talking to him, or what 1302 00:59:35,440 --> 00:59:37,320 Speaker 1: if a Nigga is talking to her like, if you 1303 00:59:37,360 --> 00:59:39,920 Speaker 1: think about your partner, you automatically think negative things like, 1304 00:59:39,960 --> 00:59:42,720 Speaker 1: oh my god, he's with somebody else. It's a bad sulta. 1305 00:59:42,800 --> 00:59:46,680 Speaker 1: And I'm talking about bad sultis right now. Okay. You 1306 00:59:46,920 --> 00:59:50,000 Speaker 1: desire to stay in the relationship even if it doesn't 1307 00:59:50,120 --> 00:59:54,120 Speaker 1: serve you. We just talked about that earlier. That goes 1308 00:59:54,160 --> 00:59:58,760 Speaker 1: in with being delusional and unlearning behaviors. Okay, and I 1309 00:59:58,880 --> 01:00:02,120 Speaker 1: want to read this one. This is the last one 1310 01:00:02,120 --> 01:00:03,360 Speaker 1: I'm gonna read, and then we're gonna go on to 1311 01:00:03,440 --> 01:00:06,560 Speaker 1: how to break it. You start losing yourself or feeling 1312 01:00:06,680 --> 01:00:09,720 Speaker 1: lost in the relationship. You may also start neglecting your 1313 01:00:09,800 --> 01:00:13,160 Speaker 1: friends or personal interests for this person. I think this 1314 01:00:13,320 --> 01:00:13,920 Speaker 1: is a good one too. 1315 01:00:13,960 --> 01:00:16,760 Speaker 2: You begin to fantasize about the person or relationship, even 1316 01:00:16,800 --> 01:00:19,480 Speaker 2: if they are not someone you would generally be attracted to. Yo. 1317 01:00:19,520 --> 01:00:21,800 Speaker 1: You create a fantasy world, the delusion that we were 1318 01:00:21,800 --> 01:00:24,000 Speaker 1: talking about earlier. And that's why I said, don't get 1319 01:00:24,040 --> 01:00:28,000 Speaker 1: me wrong, I talk about this. I cannot stay a 1320 01:00:28,120 --> 01:00:30,160 Speaker 1: girl who is like, Oh, we going to the club tonight. 1321 01:00:30,200 --> 01:00:32,400 Speaker 1: Oh I'm bringing my man, Oh my man gotta come. 1322 01:00:33,040 --> 01:00:35,919 Speaker 1: I hate that if you can't go out or spend 1323 01:00:35,960 --> 01:00:38,600 Speaker 1: time with your friends without your man or a girl 1324 01:00:38,720 --> 01:00:40,960 Speaker 1: that just every time I talk to you, like, oh yeah, 1325 01:00:41,000 --> 01:00:42,880 Speaker 1: well my man, my man like girl. Can we have 1326 01:00:42,920 --> 01:00:45,200 Speaker 1: a normal conversation. I'm asking if you want Brocoleni or not. 1327 01:00:45,240 --> 01:00:47,960 Speaker 1: You're talking about oh he loved Brocolnni. I don't give 1328 01:00:48,000 --> 01:00:51,680 Speaker 1: a fuck. So if your whole world centers around another 1329 01:00:51,760 --> 01:00:54,880 Speaker 1: human being, you're not doing your relationship right. All right? 1330 01:00:56,120 --> 01:00:59,680 Speaker 1: Have you have you had a soul tie before? How 1331 01:00:59,720 --> 01:01:02,120 Speaker 1: did you rid of your whole time? Girl? 1332 01:01:02,240 --> 01:01:04,960 Speaker 2: I don't know, to be honest, I just feel like Tom. 1333 01:01:05,120 --> 01:01:08,280 Speaker 2: I feel like Tom heals all like I'm a very 1334 01:01:08,440 --> 01:01:08,640 Speaker 2: I have. 1335 01:01:08,720 --> 01:01:12,600 Speaker 1: A lot of discipline. You you definitely do. Yeah, I 1336 01:01:12,720 --> 01:01:13,840 Speaker 1: mean I have a lot of it. 1337 01:01:13,960 --> 01:01:16,160 Speaker 2: I have a lot of discipline, and I'm an extremist 1338 01:01:16,400 --> 01:01:19,520 Speaker 2: in a lot of ways. So I feel like when 1339 01:01:19,680 --> 01:01:23,080 Speaker 2: I decide that someone is not good for me or 1340 01:01:23,120 --> 01:01:25,120 Speaker 2: I no longer need them around me or need them 1341 01:01:25,160 --> 01:01:27,600 Speaker 2: in my life, I cut people off cold turkey. Like 1342 01:01:27,680 --> 01:01:29,760 Speaker 2: I'm not saying it's the easiest thing to do, you 1343 01:01:29,840 --> 01:01:31,120 Speaker 2: know what I mean. I'm not saying it would be 1344 01:01:31,200 --> 01:01:34,960 Speaker 2: easy for everybody, But that's always my mythic I stop 1345 01:01:35,040 --> 01:01:36,440 Speaker 2: talking to people all together. 1346 01:01:36,840 --> 01:01:40,320 Speaker 1: I cut them off, I block I might block them, 1347 01:01:40,680 --> 01:01:41,000 Speaker 1: I don't. 1348 01:01:41,240 --> 01:01:43,520 Speaker 2: I try not look at their social media and stuff 1349 01:01:43,560 --> 01:01:46,680 Speaker 2: for a while, Like I do all that I feel 1350 01:01:46,720 --> 01:01:48,080 Speaker 2: like I need to do to get them off of 1351 01:01:48,160 --> 01:01:50,640 Speaker 2: my mind. And even though I might want to, I 1352 01:01:50,760 --> 01:01:53,080 Speaker 2: might have those desires to want to reach out to 1353 01:01:53,160 --> 01:01:55,400 Speaker 2: the person or text them or whatever, I just don't. 1354 01:01:56,280 --> 01:01:59,440 Speaker 2: That's what I tell myself. No occupy myself. I'm real 1355 01:01:59,520 --> 01:02:02,160 Speaker 2: big on occupying myself with other things when I'm going 1356 01:02:02,200 --> 01:02:04,680 Speaker 2: through shit like that, just so that I don't reach 1357 01:02:04,720 --> 01:02:06,120 Speaker 2: out to the person, because I feel like when you 1358 01:02:06,200 --> 01:02:09,320 Speaker 2: have a lot of idle time, you might end up 1359 01:02:09,360 --> 01:02:12,160 Speaker 2: doing some shit that you regret. So I try to 1360 01:02:12,240 --> 01:02:14,240 Speaker 2: keep myself busy when I'm going through shit like and 1361 01:02:14,400 --> 01:02:16,440 Speaker 2: hang around people who are gonna keep my mind and 1362 01:02:16,520 --> 01:02:18,440 Speaker 2: do things that are gonna keep my mind off of 1363 01:02:18,560 --> 01:02:22,200 Speaker 2: this toxic individual or this situation, because if I gotta 1364 01:02:22,240 --> 01:02:24,200 Speaker 2: go through these type of steps to not fuck with you, 1365 01:02:25,800 --> 01:02:27,919 Speaker 2: I don't need to fuck with you, Like my mind 1366 01:02:28,000 --> 01:02:29,760 Speaker 2: is in the right place. If I gotta do all 1367 01:02:29,840 --> 01:02:32,720 Speaker 2: of this to not fuck with you and to get 1368 01:02:32,800 --> 01:02:34,360 Speaker 2: rid of you, You're not a good person for me. 1369 01:02:34,880 --> 01:02:36,680 Speaker 1: And that's good that you said that, because when they 1370 01:02:36,720 --> 01:02:40,440 Speaker 1: say how to break Soulta's, they said, practice active detachment 1371 01:02:41,080 --> 01:02:44,240 Speaker 1: without reacting or responding to your emotions. So when you 1372 01:02:44,320 --> 01:02:45,800 Speaker 1: want to go look at his page or when you 1373 01:02:45,840 --> 01:02:48,400 Speaker 1: want to call him, you just gotta calm down in 1374 01:02:48,480 --> 01:02:52,000 Speaker 1: the moment, be like, don't do this, You're gonna thank 1375 01:02:52,120 --> 01:02:54,480 Speaker 1: me later. You're gonna thank me tomorrow, and give yourself 1376 01:02:54,560 --> 01:02:57,080 Speaker 1: step by step like be like, okay, I'm not gonna 1377 01:02:57,120 --> 01:02:59,920 Speaker 1: call him today. Just get through each day at a time. 1378 01:03:00,480 --> 01:03:02,520 Speaker 1: What we do is we think too far ahead. We 1379 01:03:02,600 --> 01:03:04,439 Speaker 1: start thinking about all of three months, is he gonna 1380 01:03:04,440 --> 01:03:06,720 Speaker 1: miss me? Or that girl? Think about just getting through 1381 01:03:07,080 --> 01:03:09,560 Speaker 1: day one? You know what I'm saying, you have to become. 1382 01:03:09,640 --> 01:03:11,840 Speaker 1: And then they say also, the first thing of breaking 1383 01:03:11,920 --> 01:03:15,400 Speaker 1: a sault tie, especially a sexual sultie, is acknowledging that 1384 01:03:15,480 --> 01:03:18,040 Speaker 1: there's one there. So you have to say you have 1385 01:03:18,120 --> 01:03:21,080 Speaker 1: to openly admit like okay, yes, you have to be like, 1386 01:03:21,120 --> 01:03:23,760 Speaker 1: you know what, I have a tie to this person. 1387 01:03:24,240 --> 01:03:27,280 Speaker 1: Look that dick then tied me down, that cootch it 1388 01:03:27,400 --> 01:03:32,120 Speaker 1: and tied me down, and I needs to be free, released, released, 1389 01:03:33,000 --> 01:03:36,080 Speaker 1: So you have to acknowledge that freedom there to freedom 1390 01:03:36,880 --> 01:03:38,720 Speaker 1: because when I tell you that Dick doesn't have me 1391 01:03:38,800 --> 01:03:42,080 Speaker 1: in a choke hold, I'm ready to be free. Yeah 1392 01:03:42,560 --> 01:03:45,800 Speaker 1: what Jennifer Hudson's freed. I don't want to be free. 1393 01:03:45,960 --> 01:03:48,320 Speaker 1: I want to be free. I took the shackles off. 1394 01:03:48,400 --> 01:03:51,400 Speaker 1: Knock it in. Ain't me Hello? And I'm trying to 1395 01:03:51,560 --> 01:03:54,920 Speaker 1: dance right now. I'm just doing a little shuffle. I'm 1396 01:03:56,240 --> 01:03:58,680 Speaker 1: you know, I'm trying to groove in this bitch. You 1397 01:03:58,760 --> 01:04:03,120 Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. It's coming. Yeah, all right. So 1398 01:04:03,440 --> 01:04:06,760 Speaker 1: they also recommend like therapy, so speaking to whatever spiritual 1399 01:04:06,800 --> 01:04:09,880 Speaker 1: advisor that you trust. So like if that's a pastor 1400 01:04:10,000 --> 01:04:13,200 Speaker 1: for you, a therapist, a spiritual guide, or whatever you 1401 01:04:13,320 --> 01:04:16,080 Speaker 1: want to do, you gotta talk to somebody. One thing 1402 01:04:16,120 --> 01:04:18,640 Speaker 1: that I have learned that's helped me is talking to people, 1403 01:04:18,760 --> 01:04:21,480 Speaker 1: but also journaling about it as well. You have to 1404 01:04:21,520 --> 01:04:24,040 Speaker 1: get it out because keeping things in your thoughts is 1405 01:04:24,120 --> 01:04:26,760 Speaker 1: not gonna help. It's tonight, it's write it down, talk 1406 01:04:26,800 --> 01:04:30,640 Speaker 1: about it, do all that shit. You know what I'm saying, period, period. 1407 01:04:31,360 --> 01:04:34,320 Speaker 1: So if y'all have a sexual soul toide that you 1408 01:04:34,440 --> 01:04:37,120 Speaker 1: know is not serving you in the right purpose, let 1409 01:04:37,240 --> 01:04:40,960 Speaker 1: that shit go, use these stuff, let it go, let 1410 01:04:41,040 --> 01:04:45,240 Speaker 1: it go. It's looking like another love to Kale or 1411 01:04:45,920 --> 01:04:51,200 Speaker 1: her her. Okay, sorry, we gotta speak this long. We've 1412 01:04:51,280 --> 01:04:53,920 Speaker 1: been real. This is the first episode we have with 1413 01:04:54,040 --> 01:04:58,240 Speaker 1: just us too. I'm excited, Lix, but like, what's tea her? 1414 01:04:58,720 --> 01:05:00,840 Speaker 1: Did you tell them how you about to uh drop 1415 01:05:00,960 --> 01:05:03,320 Speaker 1: your I'm about to I'm really about y'all think I'm playing. 1416 01:05:03,320 --> 01:05:05,040 Speaker 1: I'm really about to do an album, y'all. Lex says 1417 01:05:05,040 --> 01:05:08,200 Speaker 1: she about to drop her album. I'm d y'all know, 1418 01:05:09,240 --> 01:05:11,160 Speaker 1: I'm about to drop the most fire R and B 1419 01:05:11,400 --> 01:05:13,280 Speaker 1: and rap I said. I said that I'm gonna rap. 1420 01:05:13,160 --> 01:05:16,520 Speaker 2: On that hole too, you corrab Hell yeah, y'all know 1421 01:05:16,560 --> 01:05:18,880 Speaker 2: we're about to move to like our new studio or whatever. 1422 01:05:19,360 --> 01:05:21,840 Speaker 2: And so the new studio actually has like a booth 1423 01:05:23,200 --> 01:05:24,959 Speaker 2: and Lex says she about to hop in the boot. 1424 01:05:25,560 --> 01:05:27,680 Speaker 1: I cannot believe they let us. They left us out 1425 01:05:27,720 --> 01:05:28,280 Speaker 1: the bet. 1426 01:05:28,240 --> 01:05:33,280 Speaker 2: Cipher bro we would and and they used the hot 1427 01:05:33,320 --> 01:05:36,480 Speaker 2: Girl beat, and you know that's my ship, that's our song. 1428 01:05:36,960 --> 01:05:40,200 Speaker 1: You know, we don't release the baby you got. We're 1429 01:05:40,200 --> 01:05:42,200 Speaker 1: gonna do a cipher on the Hot Girl beat and 1430 01:05:42,200 --> 01:05:43,919 Speaker 1: we're gonna keep dropping on you. I mean we're gonna 1431 01:05:43,960 --> 01:05:45,360 Speaker 1: do it at the new studio and just dropping on 1432 01:05:45,440 --> 01:05:48,520 Speaker 1: YouTube to let bet nose don't play with us next year. 1433 01:05:49,400 --> 01:05:53,040 Speaker 1: We gonna Okay, we don't got nothing else to do, bitch, 1434 01:05:53,920 --> 01:05:55,560 Speaker 1: we got ship to do. I don't know why you 1435 01:05:55,720 --> 01:05:58,120 Speaker 1: was saying something like, so now we're gonna get into 1436 01:05:58,520 --> 01:06:08,520 Speaker 1: the bed. Okay, oh the bop damn. Maybe I am horny? Okay, 1437 01:06:09,080 --> 01:06:09,920 Speaker 1: maybe I am. 1438 01:06:10,000 --> 01:06:11,720 Speaker 2: Because why would I say to bed and we just 1439 01:06:11,800 --> 01:06:12,520 Speaker 2: talked about. 1440 01:06:12,320 --> 01:06:15,760 Speaker 1: The big I don't know, but I'm glad you admit that. 1441 01:06:17,000 --> 01:06:19,440 Speaker 1: Oh right, I'd be wiling. So my bop of the 1442 01:06:19,480 --> 01:06:22,440 Speaker 1: week is a song by Alex Vaughan. It's called so 1443 01:06:22,800 --> 01:06:25,560 Speaker 1: Be It, and it's basically a song just saying, like, 1444 01:06:26,600 --> 01:06:29,040 Speaker 1: you know, she's trying to deny her feelings about this 1445 01:06:29,240 --> 01:06:34,120 Speaker 1: man and she can't deny it anymore. She's trying to 1446 01:06:34,200 --> 01:06:36,680 Speaker 1: tell convince herself that he is her just her friend 1447 01:06:36,840 --> 01:06:38,560 Speaker 1: and it's not like that, but she's not doing a 1448 01:06:38,640 --> 01:06:42,200 Speaker 1: good job of convincing herself. Alex Vaughn so be It. 1449 01:06:42,320 --> 01:06:44,960 Speaker 1: It's super fire. It definitely gives you those vibes. So 1450 01:06:45,000 --> 01:06:46,720 Speaker 1: if you want to be in your feelings and cry 1451 01:06:47,000 --> 01:06:49,600 Speaker 1: like I love to do. This is the song for you, 1452 01:06:49,920 --> 01:06:52,720 Speaker 1: Alex Vaughn, so be it period. 1453 01:06:52,840 --> 01:06:56,360 Speaker 2: She'll be it here, Okay, Okay, So I like this song. 1454 01:06:56,640 --> 01:06:59,920 Speaker 2: It's not Blast okay, and it thought it was? 1455 01:07:00,680 --> 01:07:01,400 Speaker 1: Is it blicked? 1456 01:07:03,200 --> 01:07:05,720 Speaker 2: I always feel like even when people spell, they ship 1457 01:07:05,800 --> 01:07:07,440 Speaker 2: like they're like they want you to pronounce it the 1458 01:07:07,520 --> 01:07:10,120 Speaker 2: right way that they're trying to make it like that Blacks. 1459 01:07:11,240 --> 01:07:13,000 Speaker 1: Do anybody in the room now, how are you pronouncing 1460 01:07:13,000 --> 01:07:17,000 Speaker 1: it's blast? I'm right, okay. So he gote this song called. 1461 01:07:16,880 --> 01:07:22,160 Speaker 2: Die Hard with Kendrick Lamar and Amanda Reefer. All right, 1462 01:07:22,480 --> 01:07:25,520 Speaker 2: but yeah, I really like Blast, and I like Kendrick Lamar. 1463 01:07:26,960 --> 01:07:30,640 Speaker 1: Was to me. Really that's crazy. 1464 01:07:30,960 --> 01:07:34,320 Speaker 2: When I was like twenty two, I went to south 1465 01:07:34,400 --> 01:07:37,200 Speaker 2: By Southwest in Austin. Me and my friend, Me and 1466 01:07:37,280 --> 01:07:39,480 Speaker 2: my best friend at the time, we went to like 1467 01:07:39,520 --> 01:07:40,680 Speaker 2: a Kendrick Lamar count started. 1468 01:07:40,680 --> 01:07:42,120 Speaker 1: It was back when what was the name of that 1469 01:07:42,200 --> 01:07:47,640 Speaker 1: open I can't remember, but the one that mad good Head, 1470 01:07:47,760 --> 01:07:48,560 Speaker 1: Mad City. Yeah. 1471 01:07:49,200 --> 01:07:52,200 Speaker 2: So I used to love Kendrick Lamar back in the day, 1472 01:07:52,200 --> 01:07:53,760 Speaker 2: But I used to be a Jake Cole staying back 1473 01:07:53,760 --> 01:07:54,320 Speaker 2: in the day too. 1474 01:07:54,640 --> 01:07:56,720 Speaker 1: I love j Cole, but I'm saying, like, yeah, you 1475 01:07:56,760 --> 01:07:58,360 Speaker 1: probably would't see I was like. 1476 01:07:58,480 --> 01:07:59,920 Speaker 2: Listening to them, but I really used to listen to 1477 01:08:00,000 --> 01:08:02,120 Speaker 2: both of them all the time. Like now that I'm older, 1478 01:08:02,160 --> 01:08:03,280 Speaker 2: I don't really be listening. 1479 01:08:03,120 --> 01:08:05,360 Speaker 1: To I'm not gonna lie. It really pissed me off 1480 01:08:05,400 --> 01:08:07,600 Speaker 1: that people slept on J Cole's verse on be A 1481 01:08:07,720 --> 01:08:10,800 Speaker 1: song London, cause he has so many bars in that 1482 01:08:11,000 --> 01:08:13,600 Speaker 1: song and it was like he was hitting punchline after 1483 01:08:13,680 --> 01:08:16,280 Speaker 1: punchline a lot. You know what I think it is though, 1484 01:08:16,360 --> 01:08:19,120 Speaker 1: a lot of J Cole's punchlines go over people's heads, 1485 01:08:19,479 --> 01:08:21,560 Speaker 1: so they don't realize what the fuck he's saying or 1486 01:08:21,560 --> 01:08:24,479 Speaker 1: what he's talking about. But I'm not gonna lie. His 1487 01:08:24,760 --> 01:08:29,840 Speaker 1: verse on be a song was literally like flames. But 1488 01:08:30,120 --> 01:08:32,040 Speaker 1: you know, people, I'm not and this is not no 1489 01:08:32,160 --> 01:08:34,880 Speaker 1: shades nobody but Mumbo rap is popular right now, which 1490 01:08:34,920 --> 01:08:37,080 Speaker 1: I get it. But I like the fact that you know, 1491 01:08:37,280 --> 01:08:39,240 Speaker 1: him and Kendrick have stayed in the lane and they 1492 01:08:39,280 --> 01:08:41,360 Speaker 1: don't they don't try to conform to what you know, 1493 01:08:41,520 --> 01:08:42,920 Speaker 1: people expect or want them to do. 1494 01:08:43,200 --> 01:08:45,320 Speaker 2: Yeah, and then's speaking of Kendrick Lamar, Like I loved 1495 01:08:45,360 --> 01:08:48,519 Speaker 2: his last album. Did we ever say Rich Spirit was like, 1496 01:08:48,960 --> 01:08:49,360 Speaker 2: oh my. 1497 01:08:49,439 --> 01:08:52,760 Speaker 1: God, I don't know, but that's I can't remember. 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His jingle balls will thank you. 1530 01:10:31,200 --> 01:10:33,880 Speaker 1: Okay, so we haven't done a show breakdown in a 1531 01:10:33,960 --> 01:10:37,040 Speaker 1: really long time, a really long time, but we had 1532 01:10:37,080 --> 01:10:40,639 Speaker 1: to talk about this because this show was absolutely crazy. 1533 01:10:41,040 --> 01:10:44,799 Speaker 1: So we watched Dahmer on Netflix, which is basically about 1534 01:10:45,680 --> 01:10:52,160 Speaker 1: Jeffrey Dahmer, the serial killer, the cannibal list, the rapist, everything, 1535 01:10:52,320 --> 01:10:55,719 Speaker 1: everything horrible that when you think of a terrible person, 1536 01:10:56,160 --> 01:10:58,640 Speaker 1: of a monster, of somebody that you're scared scared of. 1537 01:10:59,160 --> 01:11:02,240 Speaker 2: This is basically what is now basically like well, personally, 1538 01:11:02,320 --> 01:11:04,719 Speaker 2: for me, I had never heard of Jeffrey Dahmer until 1539 01:11:04,760 --> 01:11:08,240 Speaker 2: I watched the documentary or whenever. Like I was familiar 1540 01:11:08,240 --> 01:11:10,679 Speaker 2: with other serial killers, like of course, like Ted Bundy, 1541 01:11:10,920 --> 01:11:12,240 Speaker 2: John Wayne Gacy. 1542 01:11:12,439 --> 01:11:15,120 Speaker 1: But I was like not familiar with Jeffrey Dahmer. 1543 01:11:15,280 --> 01:11:17,360 Speaker 2: You know, I had never heard of him before until 1544 01:11:17,360 --> 01:11:19,080 Speaker 2: I watched the documentary and then of course, like I 1545 01:11:19,120 --> 01:11:21,800 Speaker 2: started googling shit and fell into a black hole right 1546 01:11:22,080 --> 01:11:23,360 Speaker 2: finding out stuff about him. 1547 01:11:23,400 --> 01:11:28,559 Speaker 1: But you know, I knew about Jeffrey Dahmer. I did 1548 01:11:28,640 --> 01:11:33,000 Speaker 1: not know that he targeted colored people, like people of 1549 01:11:33,080 --> 01:11:35,160 Speaker 1: color minority just. 1550 01:11:35,320 --> 01:11:39,160 Speaker 2: Because he not only was he just killing like black men, 1551 01:11:39,560 --> 01:11:42,000 Speaker 2: the majority of his victims were black men, but he 1552 01:11:42,160 --> 01:11:44,679 Speaker 2: also was like killing like he killed like an Asian. 1553 01:11:45,000 --> 01:11:48,599 Speaker 1: Yeah, he killed a few people. 1554 01:11:48,520 --> 01:11:48,600 Speaker 2: So. 1555 01:11:50,600 --> 01:11:53,320 Speaker 1: White people too. Yeah, I didn't know about the details 1556 01:11:53,400 --> 01:11:55,400 Speaker 1: of his story, but I knew who he was. And 1557 01:11:55,439 --> 01:11:57,200 Speaker 1: I'm not going on this sounds really bad, just because 1558 01:11:57,240 --> 01:12:00,880 Speaker 1: his name was always being dropped in rap songs. It was, yes, 1559 01:12:01,120 --> 01:12:05,679 Speaker 1: like cool Juicy J and Katy Perry song I Eat 1560 01:12:05,720 --> 01:12:08,400 Speaker 1: Your Heart Out, like Jeffrey Donald or something like that. 1561 01:12:08,479 --> 01:12:11,560 Speaker 1: He said, like Nikki had no NICKI had said his 1562 01:12:11,680 --> 01:12:13,880 Speaker 1: name too, Like that was like a thing, Like they 1563 01:12:13,960 --> 01:12:17,800 Speaker 1: used to like name drop him all the time. They did. Yes, literally, 1564 01:12:17,840 --> 01:12:19,720 Speaker 1: there's an article out right now. I think it has 1565 01:12:19,840 --> 01:12:23,040 Speaker 1: all the artists that said something about him. That's crazy, y'all. 1566 01:12:23,160 --> 01:12:25,240 Speaker 1: I did not know. I mean, I can look it 1567 01:12:25,320 --> 01:12:28,120 Speaker 1: up real quick. So that's that was like honestly, like 1568 01:12:28,200 --> 01:12:31,759 Speaker 1: I said, I had heard about him before just because 1569 01:12:31,800 --> 01:12:36,160 Speaker 1: he was always getting Katy Perry Kisha Eminem. Yeah, it's 1570 01:12:36,240 --> 01:12:39,840 Speaker 1: like a lot of less name was Yeah. Oh I 1571 01:12:39,880 --> 01:12:43,080 Speaker 1: thought they had the actual quotes, but yeah, like the 1572 01:12:43,200 --> 01:12:47,640 Speaker 1: whole fucking ship was insane to me. Kesher dropped her 1573 01:12:47,680 --> 01:12:50,719 Speaker 1: song like you said, Cannibal. It says, be too sweet 1574 01:12:50,880 --> 01:12:53,960 Speaker 1: and you'll be a goner. Yep, I'll pull a Jeffrey Dahmer. 1575 01:12:55,400 --> 01:12:59,000 Speaker 1: That's crazy. So a wild girl. Why was she saying? 1576 01:12:59,160 --> 01:13:01,400 Speaker 1: I mean, but it was a lot of lyrics like that. 1577 01:13:02,080 --> 01:13:03,519 Speaker 1: It was a lot. I really want to find some 1578 01:13:03,600 --> 01:13:05,920 Speaker 1: more of the lyrics. Nicki. Oh, okay, here it goes. 1579 01:13:06,000 --> 01:13:09,800 Speaker 1: That's what he said. She'll eat your heart out like 1580 01:13:09,920 --> 01:13:14,639 Speaker 1: Jeffrey Dahmer. That's what JUCJ said. Nicki Minaj. Nicki Minaj 1581 01:13:14,760 --> 01:13:18,040 Speaker 1: says all his friends try to kill it, eat it. 1582 01:13:18,439 --> 01:13:25,160 Speaker 1: Ja Dahmer. What song was that from? Though, I don't 1583 01:13:25,160 --> 01:13:28,599 Speaker 1: know a song is from, and oh it's a song 1584 01:13:28,680 --> 01:13:32,080 Speaker 1: by Future back in twenty eighteen. Oh, okay, what did 1585 01:13:32,160 --> 01:13:34,000 Speaker 1: Eminem say? Y'all know how I feel about. 1586 01:13:33,760 --> 01:13:37,759 Speaker 2: Eminem said I could be a Dalai Lama and becolm. 1587 01:13:37,840 --> 01:13:41,200 Speaker 2: I bring drama a step beyond a Jeffrey Dahmer. 1588 01:13:41,200 --> 01:13:44,840 Speaker 1: A step beyond the Jeffrey Dahmer. Of course, the white 1589 01:13:44,920 --> 01:13:47,360 Speaker 1: Man said that, you don't surprise me. 1590 01:13:48,640 --> 01:13:50,760 Speaker 2: But they why, they said in an article talking about 1591 01:13:50,800 --> 01:13:53,080 Speaker 2: what do we expect from someone who rapped about murdering? 1592 01:13:53,160 --> 01:13:56,040 Speaker 1: Because why would you say a step beyond Jeffrey Dahmer. Okay, 1593 01:13:56,080 --> 01:13:59,000 Speaker 1: we already black eyed pig. This is crazy? 1594 01:13:59,520 --> 01:14:03,960 Speaker 2: Did DDD lit I die killer on the loose like 1595 01:14:04,040 --> 01:14:05,960 Speaker 2: I'm Jeffrey Dahmer, y'all are. 1596 01:14:06,520 --> 01:14:10,560 Speaker 1: Y'all don't even care if rhymes, y'all, I'm in the 1597 01:14:10,680 --> 01:14:13,880 Speaker 1: kitchen cooking work. I'll kill you Jeffrey Dahmer. No, No, 1598 01:14:14,240 --> 01:14:17,000 Speaker 1: I feel like he probably said it like Dama Dama, 1599 01:14:17,240 --> 01:14:21,320 Speaker 1: like data, I'm killing shit like Jeffrey Dahma, and they 1600 01:14:21,439 --> 01:14:27,160 Speaker 1: dude rhyme. Oh my god, you're right. I know, yes, 1601 01:14:27,360 --> 01:14:30,679 Speaker 1: Like y'all, this is news to me. This is crazy. 1602 01:14:31,240 --> 01:14:34,479 Speaker 2: But that show was literally fucking insane, Like it took me, 1603 01:14:34,680 --> 01:14:36,120 Speaker 2: like I don't know, I want to say, ask me 1604 01:14:36,240 --> 01:14:39,320 Speaker 2: like a week to watch it just because I had 1605 01:14:39,400 --> 01:14:44,160 Speaker 2: to take breaks because it was just so like mentally draining, 1606 01:14:44,680 --> 01:14:45,840 Speaker 2: Like I could not watch this shit. 1607 01:14:45,880 --> 01:14:48,599 Speaker 1: It was so sick to me. So also, I feel 1608 01:14:48,640 --> 01:14:50,000 Speaker 1: like I had to get through it so that we 1609 01:14:50,040 --> 01:14:52,360 Speaker 1: could talk about it on the show, right, And that's 1610 01:14:52,400 --> 01:14:54,559 Speaker 1: the same for me. So I'm a true crime lover. 1611 01:14:54,960 --> 01:14:57,120 Speaker 1: I loved you Crime. I was the girl that watched 1612 01:14:57,360 --> 01:15:01,080 Speaker 1: the first forty eight Medical Files all that stuff. But 1613 01:15:01,240 --> 01:15:04,640 Speaker 1: the thing is, I kind of backed away because I 1614 01:15:04,800 --> 01:15:07,920 Speaker 1: started to learn, especially through TikTok, that a lot of 1615 01:15:07,960 --> 01:15:12,200 Speaker 1: these families don't want their their significant their love, their 1616 01:15:12,400 --> 01:15:17,120 Speaker 1: family members stories being told for entertainment. Because this is 1617 01:15:17,200 --> 01:15:20,559 Speaker 1: not entertaining to me because I'm thinking about if something happened, 1618 01:15:21,080 --> 01:15:24,080 Speaker 1: you know, to anybody that I'm close with, and they 1619 01:15:24,160 --> 01:15:26,439 Speaker 1: made a whole Netflix series about it, how would I 1620 01:15:26,520 --> 01:15:28,360 Speaker 1: fucking feel, you know what I'm saying. So I have 1621 01:15:28,960 --> 01:15:31,200 Speaker 1: backed off with trying to like watch the true crime stuff. 1622 01:15:31,240 --> 01:15:35,640 Speaker 1: But I will say this, I think that whenever these directors, 1623 01:15:35,800 --> 01:15:38,040 Speaker 1: producers and things like that, when y'all want to recreate 1624 01:15:38,080 --> 01:15:40,440 Speaker 1: a story, y'all need to make sure these families are compensated. 1625 01:15:41,120 --> 01:15:43,920 Speaker 1: There was a specific scene that I actually couldn't even watch. 1626 01:15:43,960 --> 01:15:45,840 Speaker 1: I actually had a fast forward through. It was when 1627 01:15:45,880 --> 01:15:49,840 Speaker 1: the woman was in court three days bill yes, and 1628 01:15:49,960 --> 01:15:54,320 Speaker 1: she was like even sisters, and she actually spoke out 1629 01:15:54,520 --> 01:15:56,800 Speaker 1: on Instagram and was saying how like hurt she was 1630 01:15:56,920 --> 01:15:58,720 Speaker 1: and how because it's like, y'all have to realize, like, 1631 01:15:58,880 --> 01:16:01,880 Speaker 1: these are people's real lives. And don't get me wrong, 1632 01:16:01,960 --> 01:16:04,120 Speaker 1: I didn't help because we're still talking about it, y'all 1633 01:16:04,120 --> 01:16:06,439 Speaker 1: probably gonna go watch it. We're not helping at all. 1634 01:16:07,240 --> 01:16:11,920 Speaker 2: But I will say I it was interesting to watch, like, 1635 01:16:12,240 --> 01:16:14,400 Speaker 2: but yeah, I do feel like at the end of 1636 01:16:14,439 --> 01:16:17,080 Speaker 2: the day, these were people's real lives. Like it was 1637 01:16:17,200 --> 01:16:20,240 Speaker 2: real victims, These was real families, real people that were 1638 01:16:20,280 --> 01:16:22,960 Speaker 2: affected by these and I could see how they could 1639 01:16:22,960 --> 01:16:23,680 Speaker 2: be traumatic to. 1640 01:16:23,760 --> 01:16:26,040 Speaker 1: Have to watch and realize this and relive it. 1641 01:16:26,240 --> 01:16:28,720 Speaker 2: Especially you know, you have people that you didn't even 1642 01:16:28,760 --> 01:16:33,880 Speaker 2: give your consent to playing, you reenacting real moments on 1643 01:16:34,000 --> 01:16:36,040 Speaker 2: the television show, but you know that you're not getting 1644 01:16:36,040 --> 01:16:36,679 Speaker 2: any of the process. 1645 01:16:36,720 --> 01:16:38,200 Speaker 1: But when I think about the other side of it, 1646 01:16:38,320 --> 01:16:40,519 Speaker 1: I think about how all these people who are living 1647 01:16:40,560 --> 01:16:43,320 Speaker 1: in America today talking about how racism is dead and 1648 01:16:43,360 --> 01:16:46,360 Speaker 1: we've come so far. This shit happened in the early nineties, 1649 01:16:47,400 --> 01:16:49,960 Speaker 1: and the cops were not listening to people just because 1650 01:16:50,000 --> 01:16:54,639 Speaker 1: it was black men, Hispanic men, Asian Asian boy. Because 1651 01:16:54,680 --> 01:16:57,920 Speaker 1: if the boy was Asian that went missing and he 1652 01:16:58,040 --> 01:17:01,000 Speaker 1: was a minor, well the neighbor, because the real story, 1653 01:17:01,120 --> 01:17:03,599 Speaker 1: she wasn't a neighbor, she actually lived in another building. 1654 01:17:04,080 --> 01:17:06,920 Speaker 1: But either way, it was a black woman calling the 1655 01:17:07,000 --> 01:17:09,320 Speaker 1: cops on a white man. It was one situation. Now 1656 01:17:09,360 --> 01:17:12,040 Speaker 1: that situation was real. When the little boy had actually 1657 01:17:12,080 --> 01:17:15,479 Speaker 1: found his way, oh yeah, that situation was real and 1658 01:17:15,600 --> 01:17:18,720 Speaker 1: the police let him go back into the house. Now 1659 01:17:18,800 --> 01:17:22,559 Speaker 1: y'all are watching this shots. And now when I say y'all, 1660 01:17:22,640 --> 01:17:25,240 Speaker 1: I say white people. Y'all are watching this shot. But 1661 01:17:25,360 --> 01:17:27,080 Speaker 1: this is what black people have to go through. We 1662 01:17:27,200 --> 01:17:28,840 Speaker 1: call the cops and they don't believe us, they don't 1663 01:17:28,840 --> 01:17:30,240 Speaker 1: want to hear it, they don't want to listen to us. 1664 01:17:30,439 --> 01:17:33,439 Speaker 1: So on that side, I'm glad that people are saying, yeah, 1665 01:17:33,520 --> 01:17:35,880 Speaker 1: this is real and this is shit that still goes 1666 01:17:35,960 --> 01:17:38,599 Speaker 1: on today. Not as far as that what he did, 1667 01:17:38,680 --> 01:17:41,320 Speaker 1: but I'm saying, as a black woman, a black man, 1668 01:17:41,400 --> 01:17:45,200 Speaker 1: a black child, somebody reaching out for help and nobody's listening. 1669 01:17:45,320 --> 01:17:47,599 Speaker 1: I mean even the other situation that was on the show. 1670 01:17:47,720 --> 01:17:49,519 Speaker 2: It was another guy that you know, he tried to 1671 01:17:49,760 --> 01:17:52,519 Speaker 2: he tried to attack or whatever, he killed him, and 1672 01:17:52,600 --> 01:17:55,600 Speaker 2: he ended up actually escaping, and then he went and 1673 01:17:55,680 --> 01:17:58,160 Speaker 2: told the police how he had tried to kill him, 1674 01:17:58,680 --> 01:18:02,479 Speaker 2: and the police did not believe. And then when he 1675 01:18:02,600 --> 01:18:05,640 Speaker 2: was literally leaving out of he was literally leaving out 1676 01:18:05,680 --> 01:18:07,840 Speaker 2: of the police station, and he saw him trying to 1677 01:18:07,920 --> 01:18:10,040 Speaker 2: get another guy to get in the cab with him, 1678 01:18:10,080 --> 01:18:11,720 Speaker 2: and he saved the other guy and told him he's 1679 01:18:11,720 --> 01:18:13,280 Speaker 2: gonna try to kill your nigga, Like, don't get. 1680 01:18:13,200 --> 01:18:13,599 Speaker 1: In the marble. 1681 01:18:14,640 --> 01:18:17,360 Speaker 2: But it's crazy that the police just did not believe him, 1682 01:18:17,360 --> 01:18:19,760 Speaker 2: and like he made a really good point because he 1683 01:18:19,960 --> 01:18:22,639 Speaker 2: told the cop, he said, I don't have any type 1684 01:18:22,640 --> 01:18:25,360 Speaker 2: of criminal record. It's crazy that you will, but you 1685 01:18:25,400 --> 01:18:28,040 Speaker 2: will believe a white man with a criminal record. I 1686 01:18:28,080 --> 01:18:30,280 Speaker 2: would believe in me, a black man who doesn't have 1687 01:18:30,479 --> 01:18:33,280 Speaker 2: anything on his record, just because I'm black. 1688 01:18:33,600 --> 01:18:36,080 Speaker 1: Right, And that's and that's what I'm saying. I'm glad. 1689 01:18:36,240 --> 01:18:38,479 Speaker 1: That's the main reason I'm glad that this was shown, 1690 01:18:38,600 --> 01:18:40,960 Speaker 1: because you can see the straw and this was not 1691 01:18:41,160 --> 01:18:43,880 Speaker 1: and no people like to say, oh my, my, great 1692 01:18:43,960 --> 01:18:46,639 Speaker 1: great great grandparents they did slavery. Why are you putting 1693 01:18:46,640 --> 01:18:48,519 Speaker 1: that on me? No, let me tell y'all something. It 1694 01:18:48,560 --> 01:18:51,240 Speaker 1: was y'all's mamas and y'all's daddies who was around when 1695 01:18:51,320 --> 01:18:53,200 Speaker 1: this was, when this ship was going on. You know 1696 01:18:53,200 --> 01:18:56,240 Speaker 1: what I'm saying a lot of you motherfuckers was y'all's 1697 01:18:56,360 --> 01:18:58,320 Speaker 1: parents were around a lot of people. And it's not 1698 01:18:58,439 --> 01:19:01,479 Speaker 1: even y'all's parents, it's y'all that are participating in this bullshit. 1699 01:19:01,680 --> 01:19:04,360 Speaker 2: The craziest episode, though, of all of them, for me, 1700 01:19:04,600 --> 01:19:06,920 Speaker 2: was the one with the deaf god Tony, because it's 1701 01:19:07,000 --> 01:19:09,920 Speaker 2: like that seemed to be somebody that he actually cared 1702 01:19:09,960 --> 01:19:13,200 Speaker 2: about and had feelings for, and so it's unfortunate that 1703 01:19:13,280 --> 01:19:14,519 Speaker 2: he still killed him. 1704 01:19:15,920 --> 01:19:17,880 Speaker 1: And then it's like them, if you wouldn't have had 1705 01:19:17,920 --> 01:19:19,679 Speaker 1: to get your kids, nigga, you would have got away. 1706 01:19:19,760 --> 01:19:21,200 Speaker 1: But you know what was crazy to me is that 1707 01:19:21,360 --> 01:19:24,200 Speaker 1: his father at the end admitted that he had had 1708 01:19:24,280 --> 01:19:26,880 Speaker 1: thoughts of killing people, kidd and he said, but he 1709 01:19:27,040 --> 01:19:30,240 Speaker 1: was able to fight them. So it's like you thought. 1710 01:19:30,760 --> 01:19:34,960 Speaker 1: I mean, I'm not blaming anybody but Jeffrey, but the 1711 01:19:35,040 --> 01:19:38,280 Speaker 1: grandma scene, weird shit. The daddy seen weird shit. Everybody 1712 01:19:38,360 --> 01:19:40,720 Speaker 1: knew weird ship was going on. You would smell the 1713 01:19:40,800 --> 01:19:43,800 Speaker 1: grannie was literally smelling it like he was killing you. 1714 01:19:43,960 --> 01:19:46,479 Speaker 2: Gotta be a wild ass nigga to kill somebody when 1715 01:19:46,520 --> 01:19:47,639 Speaker 2: your grannie in the house. 1716 01:19:47,800 --> 01:19:50,400 Speaker 1: Don't even like I'm scared to suck a little dick 1717 01:19:50,479 --> 01:19:53,960 Speaker 1: when my mama was downstairs. That's what I'm saying. 1718 01:19:54,160 --> 01:19:56,920 Speaker 2: Like that shit, wildest fuck, like he was literally killing 1719 01:19:56,960 --> 01:19:58,400 Speaker 2: people while he's Greennie. 1720 01:20:00,160 --> 01:20:02,600 Speaker 1: Somebody who I love true crime. Let me tell you 1721 01:20:02,600 --> 01:20:05,519 Speaker 1: out something that I noticed that detectives and policemen always 1722 01:20:05,600 --> 01:20:08,280 Speaker 1: say the smell of a dead human body is a 1723 01:20:08,360 --> 01:20:11,679 Speaker 1: different type of stench. It's not like a dead animal 1724 01:20:12,120 --> 01:20:15,360 Speaker 1: or you know, something like a rotten food. It smells. 1725 01:20:15,960 --> 01:20:19,519 Speaker 1: It's just like a rancid, terrible smell, like it burns 1726 01:20:19,600 --> 01:20:22,080 Speaker 1: your nose. It's so bad. So the fact that the 1727 01:20:22,160 --> 01:20:26,000 Speaker 1: grandmother was smelling this and she was just like, Jeffrey, 1728 01:20:26,120 --> 01:20:26,800 Speaker 1: what's going on? 1729 01:20:28,400 --> 01:20:30,360 Speaker 2: I'm telling you, first of all, the scene where she 1730 01:20:30,439 --> 01:20:33,040 Speaker 2: found that fucking mannique underneath his sheets, then she would 1731 01:20:33,080 --> 01:20:34,960 Speaker 2: have had to get the fuck out of why the 1732 01:20:35,000 --> 01:20:37,600 Speaker 2: fuck you got this mannequin that you stole from the 1733 01:20:37,640 --> 01:20:41,839 Speaker 2: mother fucking tuxedo store in my motherfucking house. Say you'ressing 1734 01:20:41,960 --> 01:20:44,960 Speaker 2: room for hours just to get the fucking mannique and 1735 01:20:45,120 --> 01:20:47,200 Speaker 2: rub on it like that. 1736 01:20:47,320 --> 01:20:51,960 Speaker 1: Nigga was sick and to be a cannibal, you literally 1737 01:20:52,040 --> 01:20:55,000 Speaker 1: you have to be a very, very very sek individual. 1738 01:20:56,320 --> 01:20:57,720 Speaker 1: And he was like cooking that bitch. 1739 01:20:57,760 --> 01:21:00,680 Speaker 2: He was cooking them people fucking or like it was 1740 01:21:00,720 --> 01:21:05,720 Speaker 2: flaming on. He's probably making a little trimmy chery. I 1741 01:21:05,760 --> 01:21:09,040 Speaker 2: don't like it, a little mashed potato side like he 1742 01:21:09,240 --> 01:21:12,000 Speaker 2: was eating that shit like it was top surloin. 1743 01:21:12,479 --> 01:21:15,519 Speaker 1: And that Nigga is fucking crazy like he is not 1744 01:21:15,760 --> 01:21:18,519 Speaker 1: is because well where he belongs. I don't have a 1745 01:21:18,600 --> 01:21:21,080 Speaker 1: finny sympathy because you know what, And this is what 1746 01:21:21,160 --> 01:21:23,400 Speaker 1: I hate when they do with these Netflix shows. I 1747 01:21:23,520 --> 01:21:25,400 Speaker 1: hate that they try to build the characters to where 1748 01:21:25,439 --> 01:21:27,880 Speaker 1: you feel sorry for him. Oh his mother was taking 1749 01:21:27,960 --> 01:21:30,559 Speaker 1: pills while she was pregnant with him. Oh maybe he had. 1750 01:21:30,600 --> 01:21:32,640 Speaker 1: I've been seeing people talking about he was autistic, and 1751 01:21:33,080 --> 01:21:35,679 Speaker 1: I don't give a fuck. I do not give a fuck. 1752 01:21:35,760 --> 01:21:38,280 Speaker 1: You were a sick Huan being Well. My thing is 1753 01:21:38,400 --> 01:21:40,479 Speaker 1: maybe it really was something wrong with him. 1754 01:21:40,680 --> 01:21:42,960 Speaker 2: It was at the end of the day year nobody 1755 01:21:43,040 --> 01:21:45,599 Speaker 2: gives a fuck, but it probably to do the type 1756 01:21:45,600 --> 01:21:47,680 Speaker 2: of things that he did. There was some type of 1757 01:21:47,800 --> 01:21:50,400 Speaker 2: chemical imbalance going on. I don't give a fuck. If 1758 01:21:50,400 --> 01:21:52,760 Speaker 2: they couldn't find him legally insane, I think a lot 1759 01:21:52,800 --> 01:21:54,840 Speaker 2: of the time they don't be finding people legally quote 1760 01:21:54,880 --> 01:21:57,200 Speaker 2: unquote legally insane, but they motherfucker still be crazy. 1761 01:21:57,240 --> 01:21:58,920 Speaker 1: Well, you know, they wanted to do something with his brain, 1762 01:21:59,040 --> 01:22:00,240 Speaker 1: but his dad said no. 1763 01:22:01,520 --> 01:22:05,280 Speaker 2: Because we don't need that ship still around going on 1764 01:22:05,400 --> 01:22:06,840 Speaker 2: and what was going on in his head? 1765 01:22:06,880 --> 01:22:08,960 Speaker 1: Then they do that's a hitler. I don't know. I 1766 01:22:09,040 --> 01:22:12,760 Speaker 1: think they kept his brain to like do research on him. 1767 01:22:12,800 --> 01:22:16,160 Speaker 1: I'll say this, the Dahmer series, I feel like you 1768 01:22:16,200 --> 01:22:18,599 Speaker 1: can read up on it and really get the information. 1769 01:22:18,960 --> 01:22:21,280 Speaker 1: It was a series I definitely could have skipped. Now, 1770 01:22:21,360 --> 01:22:23,840 Speaker 1: I will say, I think his name is Evan something, 1771 01:22:23,920 --> 01:22:26,479 Speaker 1: the actor that played Dahmer. Yeah, and he always would be. 1772 01:22:26,600 --> 01:22:30,479 Speaker 1: He was on American Horror Story. Well, he was playing 1773 01:22:30,479 --> 01:22:32,160 Speaker 1: in the what was the Marvel movie? He was in 1774 01:22:33,080 --> 01:22:37,160 Speaker 1: X Men, he played the little what's his name where 1775 01:22:37,200 --> 01:22:40,559 Speaker 1: he was Quicksilver. Yes, that's what it was. Sorry y'all 1776 01:22:40,600 --> 01:22:42,680 Speaker 1: been drinking. So yeah, he played He is a very 1777 01:22:42,720 --> 01:22:46,200 Speaker 1: good actor. I have never seen him in a role 1778 01:22:46,200 --> 01:22:47,599 Speaker 1: and I'm like, Okay, what the fuck is he doing? 1779 01:22:47,920 --> 01:22:49,439 Speaker 1: So I'll give a shout out to him. Even the 1780 01:22:49,520 --> 01:22:51,800 Speaker 1: woman that played the victim's sister in that scene, she 1781 01:22:51,960 --> 01:22:54,160 Speaker 1: really connected. So I don't want to diss you know, 1782 01:22:54,280 --> 01:22:56,200 Speaker 1: the people that were involved, but I feel like the 1783 01:22:56,320 --> 01:22:58,160 Speaker 1: higher ups y'all kind of know better. I think there's 1784 01:22:58,200 --> 01:23:00,920 Speaker 1: a different way to tell these people's stories, and I 1785 01:23:01,000 --> 01:23:03,439 Speaker 1: don't sometimes like maybe you want to tell it from 1786 01:23:03,439 --> 01:23:05,720 Speaker 1: a victim's perspective, like why do we always have to 1787 01:23:05,760 --> 01:23:08,799 Speaker 1: put the killer in the light like that? So honestly, 1788 01:23:09,240 --> 01:23:12,080 Speaker 1: if you want to watch it, whatever, But my thoughts 1789 01:23:12,160 --> 01:23:13,760 Speaker 1: and my prayers go out to all the victims of 1790 01:23:13,800 --> 01:23:15,680 Speaker 1: the family because death and murder like that is just 1791 01:23:15,720 --> 01:23:19,120 Speaker 1: something you just never get over. Yeah. So yeah, I'm 1792 01:23:19,160 --> 01:23:21,120 Speaker 1: not gonna lie. Was it good? It was? It was 1793 01:23:21,240 --> 01:23:25,360 Speaker 1: interesting interesting to say the least. It was interesting for sure. 1794 01:23:25,560 --> 01:23:30,920 Speaker 1: Niss nashty hoodie Niecy Nash did an amazing, amazing job. 1795 01:23:31,200 --> 01:23:34,120 Speaker 1: So yeah, Dahmer series on Netflix. Check it out if 1796 01:23:34,160 --> 01:23:37,439 Speaker 1: you want to. Whatever. The Okay, No, they didn't save 1797 01:23:37,520 --> 01:23:40,040 Speaker 1: his brain. I just wanted to see. No, I don't 1798 01:23:40,080 --> 01:23:41,800 Speaker 1: know why I thought, I remember the dad said that 1799 01:23:41,920 --> 01:23:45,559 Speaker 1: they didn't. Well, no, I'm not talking about him Hitler. Okay, okay, 1800 01:23:45,920 --> 01:23:47,760 Speaker 1: but yeah, okay. So now we're gonna get into our 1801 01:23:47,800 --> 01:23:49,760 Speaker 1: favorite segment of the week. If you want your question 1802 01:23:49,840 --> 01:23:51,840 Speaker 1: answered on the show, make sure you email us at 1803 01:23:51,960 --> 01:23:55,000 Speaker 1: ask poor Minds at gmail dot com. If you're a 1804 01:23:55,040 --> 01:23:57,400 Speaker 1: Patreon member, make sure you put that you were a 1805 01:23:57,439 --> 01:23:59,519 Speaker 1: Patreon member in the subject line. You get to skip 1806 01:23:59,600 --> 01:24:02,640 Speaker 1: and go away ahead of everybody else, So let's go 1807 01:24:02,680 --> 01:24:05,800 Speaker 1: ahead and get a started. Question one Question number one. 1808 01:24:05,880 --> 01:24:08,000 Speaker 2: Hey, y'all, I'm twenty seven and I met this thirty 1809 01:24:08,000 --> 01:24:09,880 Speaker 2: three year old guy not too long ago in a 1810 01:24:09,960 --> 01:24:12,559 Speaker 2: Walmart parking lot. He approached me and asked me how 1811 01:24:12,680 --> 01:24:15,479 Speaker 2: much I spent on groceries, and after we exchange numbers, 1812 01:24:15,520 --> 01:24:17,760 Speaker 2: he sent me a cash app for the amount. That's 1813 01:24:17,800 --> 01:24:20,200 Speaker 2: how it's been since we started talking. He will ask 1814 01:24:20,280 --> 01:24:22,240 Speaker 2: me which billies do or how much is my rent, 1815 01:24:22,280 --> 01:24:24,080 Speaker 2: and he will send the amount, or will just send 1816 01:24:24,200 --> 01:24:25,880 Speaker 2: random cash apps in Apple Cash. 1817 01:24:26,280 --> 01:24:26,840 Speaker 1: I was very. 1818 01:24:26,760 --> 01:24:29,719 Speaker 2: Skeptical at first because he's attractive, but I'm not interested 1819 01:24:29,800 --> 01:24:31,880 Speaker 2: in sex right now, and I don't want him to 1820 01:24:32,000 --> 01:24:34,639 Speaker 2: use the whole you owe me thing. When I confronted 1821 01:24:34,720 --> 01:24:36,800 Speaker 2: him about it, he said, you never had a sugar daddy, 1822 01:24:36,880 --> 01:24:39,280 Speaker 2: have you. I've been trying to not question it and 1823 01:24:39,439 --> 01:24:42,000 Speaker 2: just accept my things. He does im press the issue 1824 01:24:42,080 --> 01:24:44,519 Speaker 2: for six or asks for but he asks for news 1825 01:24:44,560 --> 01:24:46,840 Speaker 2: a lot. When I send him picks, he takes forever 1826 01:24:46,920 --> 01:24:49,120 Speaker 2: to reply, and I'm getting suspicious he may be doing 1827 01:24:49,200 --> 01:24:51,560 Speaker 2: something with my pigs because he asked me if I 1828 01:24:51,640 --> 01:24:53,679 Speaker 2: ever sold my picks for money, which I haven't. 1829 01:24:54,040 --> 01:24:56,000 Speaker 1: On top of that, the last time. 1830 01:24:55,880 --> 01:24:58,439 Speaker 2: We hung out, I randomly got real got a real 1831 01:24:58,560 --> 01:25:02,040 Speaker 2: uneasy feeling around him. I can't explain it, but I 1832 01:25:02,120 --> 01:25:04,240 Speaker 2: started feeling like he was about to do something to me. 1833 01:25:04,600 --> 01:25:07,040 Speaker 2: It's crazy, and I can't shake the feeling out. How 1834 01:25:07,120 --> 01:25:09,240 Speaker 2: much do you guys believe in intuition or do you 1835 01:25:09,320 --> 01:25:12,400 Speaker 2: think I just maybe being overly skeptical because he was right, 1836 01:25:12,720 --> 01:25:15,200 Speaker 2: I never had a sugar daddy. Well, girl, I trust 1837 01:25:15,280 --> 01:25:17,599 Speaker 2: my intuition. If it is making me feel weird, that's 1838 01:25:17,720 --> 01:25:18,120 Speaker 2: enough for me. 1839 01:25:18,600 --> 01:25:22,360 Speaker 1: Yeah, don't because you're gonna regret later if you like Damn, 1840 01:25:22,360 --> 01:25:24,720 Speaker 1: I should listen to my first mind. Always listen to 1841 01:25:24,800 --> 01:25:27,880 Speaker 1: your first mind. It's never that serious, don't get me wrong, like, 1842 01:25:27,960 --> 01:25:30,080 Speaker 1: we all like nice things. But I'm telling y'all do 1843 01:25:30,360 --> 01:25:33,679 Speaker 1: never put getting your rent paid or paying a phone 1844 01:25:33,760 --> 01:25:37,200 Speaker 1: bill or groceries over your safety. You get one life 1845 01:25:37,840 --> 01:25:40,960 Speaker 1: and it takes one slip up. So girl, listen to 1846 01:25:41,000 --> 01:25:43,600 Speaker 1: you al intuition. If you don't feel safe, listen to 1847 01:25:43,680 --> 01:25:46,559 Speaker 1: your mind because I don't like it. Yeah. I don't 1848 01:25:46,640 --> 01:25:47,200 Speaker 1: like that neither. 1849 01:25:47,520 --> 01:25:50,679 Speaker 2: If I feel uncomfortable, I wouldn't hang with him anymore, 1850 01:25:50,800 --> 01:25:52,479 Speaker 2: and I wouldn't accept money from him no more. 1851 01:25:52,479 --> 01:25:54,559 Speaker 1: If he making you feel uncomfortable. 1852 01:25:54,240 --> 01:25:56,320 Speaker 2: Yeah, like if he was just doing the chances are 1853 01:25:56,400 --> 01:25:58,600 Speaker 2: if it feels too good to be true, it probably is. 1854 01:26:00,200 --> 01:26:02,320 Speaker 1: You know you, you came out on top, you got 1855 01:26:02,360 --> 01:26:05,000 Speaker 1: your rent paid a few times. Whatever, girl, let that 1856 01:26:05,040 --> 01:26:09,040 Speaker 1: shit go period. Okay, Question number two, what's up Lex Anddrea? 1857 01:26:09,400 --> 01:26:11,920 Speaker 1: I recently discovered your podcast When you guys did your 1858 01:26:12,000 --> 01:26:15,200 Speaker 1: last collaboration with Don't Call Me White Girl. You ladies 1859 01:26:15,240 --> 01:26:17,320 Speaker 1: are true bosses and have so much to offer to 1860 01:26:17,400 --> 01:26:19,880 Speaker 1: the world. My question is for both of you ladies, 1861 01:26:20,200 --> 01:26:22,719 Speaker 1: have you ever hooked up or dated someone that was DL. 1862 01:26:22,960 --> 01:26:26,560 Speaker 1: If you have, how'd you handle the situation. I'm not 1863 01:26:26,720 --> 01:26:27,160 Speaker 1: gonna lie. 1864 01:26:27,240 --> 01:26:30,600 Speaker 2: I never dated nobody that was download, like, cause I 1865 01:26:30,640 --> 01:26:32,800 Speaker 2: feel like if they was download, how would I know, 1866 01:26:33,120 --> 01:26:36,559 Speaker 2: I mean, at least I don't know because they download, 1867 01:26:38,360 --> 01:26:42,360 Speaker 2: so not to my knowledge. No, I never dated nobody 1868 01:26:42,439 --> 01:26:44,559 Speaker 2: who I feel like, to be honest, I've never dated 1869 01:26:44,600 --> 01:26:45,439 Speaker 2: nobody either who. 1870 01:26:45,439 --> 01:26:49,479 Speaker 1: Like gave me like weird vibes like they could be. 1871 01:26:49,880 --> 01:26:52,600 Speaker 1: I'm not gonna lie. I did date somebody who and 1872 01:26:52,680 --> 01:26:54,360 Speaker 1: I actually talked to you, Bob. I'm like, maybe it's 1873 01:26:54,360 --> 01:26:57,400 Speaker 1: getting a little it's getting a little ZL vibes for me. Yeah. 1874 01:26:57,800 --> 01:26:59,880 Speaker 1: It was crazy because when I went on his page, 1875 01:27:00,439 --> 01:27:03,240 Speaker 1: I seen like one of my gay homeboys, like liking 1876 01:27:03,320 --> 01:27:05,439 Speaker 1: his things, like and let me not stay homeboy, because 1877 01:27:05,439 --> 01:27:07,840 Speaker 1: me and this man are not close, but we cool. 1878 01:27:08,360 --> 01:27:10,840 Speaker 1: And I seen him like liking his pictures and all 1879 01:27:10,960 --> 01:27:13,960 Speaker 1: like leaging hearts under his comments, and I know how 1880 01:27:14,040 --> 01:27:16,719 Speaker 1: he is. He's just really friendly with everybody talking about 1881 01:27:17,200 --> 01:27:19,840 Speaker 1: my gay associate. So I didn't think too deep of it. 1882 01:27:19,880 --> 01:27:21,640 Speaker 1: But I'm like, why do you feel so comfortable doing that? 1883 01:27:21,880 --> 01:27:24,360 Speaker 1: Because you got them vibes that I got too, so 1884 01:27:25,080 --> 01:27:27,880 Speaker 1: But in the when I was in the situation, I 1885 01:27:27,920 --> 01:27:29,840 Speaker 1: didn't want to make him uncomfortable or make it feel 1886 01:27:29,840 --> 01:27:31,599 Speaker 1: like it was anything that he had to like hide 1887 01:27:31,640 --> 01:27:34,040 Speaker 1: from me. So I would like say little things to 1888 01:27:34,120 --> 01:27:35,800 Speaker 1: maybe like if you want to open up and say it, 1889 01:27:35,840 --> 01:27:37,799 Speaker 1: but he would. And the thing that was the biggest 1890 01:27:37,840 --> 01:27:39,920 Speaker 1: red flag to me was like he was kind of 1891 01:27:40,000 --> 01:27:43,439 Speaker 1: sometimes give me like homophobic vibs, like you would go 1892 01:27:43,600 --> 01:27:45,120 Speaker 1: too hard on the good feel Like. 1893 01:27:45,320 --> 01:27:47,400 Speaker 2: The funny thing is that we did that whole topic 1894 01:27:47,520 --> 01:27:50,680 Speaker 2: on projection earlier, and homophobia is actually a sign of 1895 01:27:50,920 --> 01:27:51,800 Speaker 2: like it's actually. 1896 01:27:51,560 --> 01:27:52,639 Speaker 1: A form of projecting. 1897 01:27:52,800 --> 01:27:58,240 Speaker 2: Yeah, because like you might have been having like like 1898 01:27:58,479 --> 01:28:02,200 Speaker 2: you know, homosexual thought and stuff, but you want to 1899 01:28:02,240 --> 01:28:05,200 Speaker 2: make it seem like you just automatically feel like they're 1900 01:28:05,280 --> 01:28:07,800 Speaker 2: always trying to talk to you, when in reality, you're 1901 01:28:07,840 --> 01:28:11,080 Speaker 2: feeling guilty because you like because you'll be having them thoughts. 1902 01:28:10,880 --> 01:28:12,240 Speaker 1: But you don't want to be you don't want to 1903 01:28:12,320 --> 01:28:15,600 Speaker 1: have them, right, So he was definitely projecting how I 1904 01:28:15,720 --> 01:28:19,639 Speaker 1: handle the situation personally. It didn't work, but like I said, 1905 01:28:19,680 --> 01:28:22,600 Speaker 1: I tried to make him feel comfortable because y'all know me, 1906 01:28:22,720 --> 01:28:24,600 Speaker 1: I don't that shit. You know, whatever, if that's what 1907 01:28:24,680 --> 01:28:25,760 Speaker 1: you want to do, that's what you want to do, 1908 01:28:25,800 --> 01:28:27,599 Speaker 1: but just let me know so I can make the decision. 1909 01:28:27,640 --> 01:28:30,760 Speaker 1: How we move forward, but we need to still have a. 1910 01:28:30,760 --> 01:28:34,599 Speaker 2: Conversation any man that is like overly homophobic or it's 1911 01:28:34,640 --> 01:28:37,960 Speaker 2: a reflect Yeah, it's a reflex to me because it's like, 1912 01:28:37,960 --> 01:28:38,439 Speaker 2: why you care? 1913 01:28:38,680 --> 01:28:39,960 Speaker 1: Why do you care that much? 1914 01:28:40,920 --> 01:28:44,320 Speaker 2: It's just not this especially if especially if like you're 1915 01:28:44,400 --> 01:28:47,479 Speaker 2: not constantly being approached by them, or they're like not 1916 01:28:47,680 --> 01:28:50,160 Speaker 2: constantly trying to talk to you and stuff. I don't 1917 01:28:50,240 --> 01:28:51,519 Speaker 2: understand what the issue is. 1918 01:28:51,600 --> 01:28:54,000 Speaker 1: I know what the issue is, Dick, feel good and 1919 01:28:54,080 --> 01:28:56,479 Speaker 1: they know it, and they want to try a little bit, 1920 01:28:56,560 --> 01:29:00,599 Speaker 1: and you want it in your busy, nasty agg they 1921 01:29:00,680 --> 01:29:03,240 Speaker 1: want to try a little bitger than me, A little 1922 01:29:03,320 --> 01:29:08,640 Speaker 1: freak you, a little freak period, a little freak hagrels. 1923 01:29:09,000 --> 01:29:11,280 Speaker 2: I took y'all advice and linked with better help, and 1924 01:29:11,400 --> 01:29:13,559 Speaker 2: I have been in therapy for the past four months. 1925 01:29:13,640 --> 01:29:16,360 Speaker 2: I love my therapist and truly feel like I'm healing 1926 01:29:16,640 --> 01:29:21,000 Speaker 2: and becoming a better person. I discovered because of past 1927 01:29:21,080 --> 01:29:24,160 Speaker 2: drama and growing up without a father, I don't know 1928 01:29:24,240 --> 01:29:25,000 Speaker 2: how to love a man. 1929 01:29:25,360 --> 01:29:27,080 Speaker 1: I've never even had a crush on a guy. 1930 01:29:27,200 --> 01:29:29,599 Speaker 2: I find them attractive and love having sex with him, 1931 01:29:29,880 --> 01:29:32,519 Speaker 2: but being vulnerable and opening my heart has always been 1932 01:29:32,560 --> 01:29:35,400 Speaker 2: a struggle. I'm twenty five and also realized that what 1933 01:29:35,520 --> 01:29:37,760 Speaker 2: I wanted at twenty two I no longer want now. 1934 01:29:38,080 --> 01:29:40,680 Speaker 2: I'm currently engaged to a man who overly loves me, 1935 01:29:40,840 --> 01:29:43,120 Speaker 2: and I feel terrible because I struggle with giving him 1936 01:29:43,160 --> 01:29:46,559 Speaker 2: the affection he desires. We were friends for years prior 1937 01:29:46,640 --> 01:29:49,240 Speaker 2: to dating, and I accepted his proposal because I thought 1938 01:29:49,360 --> 01:29:51,840 Speaker 2: I'd learned to love him how he loves me. I 1939 01:29:51,920 --> 01:29:54,439 Speaker 2: don't think i'd make a great wife due to these feelings, 1940 01:29:54,520 --> 01:29:56,360 Speaker 2: and there are times when I just want to be alone. 1941 01:29:57,080 --> 01:29:58,920 Speaker 2: I want to ask him for a break so that 1942 01:29:59,040 --> 01:30:01,960 Speaker 2: I can continue in they heal myself and learn how 1943 01:30:02,000 --> 01:30:03,560 Speaker 2: to love him. But I don't want to break his 1944 01:30:03,680 --> 01:30:06,040 Speaker 2: heart because I think he'd interpret me wanting to be 1945 01:30:06,200 --> 01:30:07,960 Speaker 2: alone as something he's not doing. 1946 01:30:08,120 --> 01:30:12,360 Speaker 1: Instead, What should I do? I think that maybe y'all 1947 01:30:12,360 --> 01:30:14,320 Speaker 1: should go Like I mean, if you, first of all. 1948 01:30:14,240 --> 01:30:16,040 Speaker 2: If you really feel like you need to be single, 1949 01:30:16,120 --> 01:30:20,120 Speaker 2: then be single. But a part of me kind of 1950 01:30:20,160 --> 01:30:22,040 Speaker 2: feel like maybe y'all should go to couples therapy. 1951 01:30:22,680 --> 01:30:25,960 Speaker 1: Yes, I think people you going to therapy. I think 1952 01:30:26,040 --> 01:30:29,240 Speaker 1: sometimes when you dealing with something individually and you have 1953 01:30:29,360 --> 01:30:32,679 Speaker 1: a partner, sometimes you don't realize the way he's triggering 1954 01:30:32,760 --> 01:30:35,080 Speaker 1: you or vice versa, and you can get to the 1955 01:30:35,120 --> 01:30:37,799 Speaker 1: bottom of these issues. So don't be afraid of couple therapy. 1956 01:30:38,000 --> 01:30:40,040 Speaker 2: Yeah, I think that y'all should probably try a couple 1957 01:30:40,160 --> 01:30:42,280 Speaker 2: therapy because I feel like if you let him know 1958 01:30:42,439 --> 01:30:45,639 Speaker 2: that you're having these feelings and he if he's someone 1959 01:30:45,680 --> 01:30:47,600 Speaker 2: who wants to marry you, I'm sure he would be 1960 01:30:47,720 --> 01:30:51,560 Speaker 2: willing to, like help you navigate through these feelings and 1961 01:30:51,680 --> 01:30:54,000 Speaker 2: like your past trauma and everything that you've been through. 1962 01:30:54,400 --> 01:30:56,160 Speaker 2: I feel like if you have somebody who really really 1963 01:30:56,240 --> 01:30:59,160 Speaker 2: love you and like is a super affectionate guy, he's 1964 01:30:59,240 --> 01:31:02,080 Speaker 2: always there you and stuff, I don't necessarily think that 1965 01:31:02,160 --> 01:31:04,479 Speaker 2: you should stop talking to him. 1966 01:31:04,800 --> 01:31:05,439 Speaker 1: You know what I mean. 1967 01:31:05,520 --> 01:31:07,479 Speaker 2: I feel like a man who really love you will 1968 01:31:07,720 --> 01:31:09,479 Speaker 2: help you navigate through those things. 1969 01:31:09,640 --> 01:31:12,240 Speaker 1: And Niti's space doesn't necessarily mean you have to break up, 1970 01:31:12,280 --> 01:31:14,800 Speaker 1: But yeah, just let him know. I think that's a 1971 01:31:14,840 --> 01:31:18,519 Speaker 1: good option. You couple therapy, Yeah, that's what I need. 1972 01:31:18,920 --> 01:31:22,040 Speaker 1: Try a couple therapy. So y'all, anything else we got 1973 01:31:22,160 --> 01:31:24,320 Speaker 1: to add y'all, make sure y'all get that mused beauty 1974 01:31:24,520 --> 01:31:25,479 Speaker 1: period period. 1975 01:31:25,560 --> 01:31:27,880 Speaker 2: Make sure y'all get y'all Mused Beauty. That's Muse Beauty 1976 01:31:27,920 --> 01:31:33,240 Speaker 2: Collection dot com. Also our poor Minds Raptees Tortee they're 1977 01:31:33,320 --> 01:31:35,720 Speaker 2: now up on the website, so you have to go 1978 01:31:35,840 --> 01:31:38,840 Speaker 2: to buy poor Minds dot com. And all of the 1979 01:31:38,920 --> 01:31:40,880 Speaker 2: tour merchies up on the website now, so y'all can 1980 01:31:40,920 --> 01:31:43,200 Speaker 2: go ahead get that too. 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So we'll 1991 01:32:15,840 --> 01:32:18,120 Speaker 1: sing this one next week. We're gonna give you time 1992 01:32:18,200 --> 01:32:22,839 Speaker 1: to practice. You ready, Oh snap? Now see you snapping 1993 01:32:22,880 --> 01:32:30,040 Speaker 1: too fast? Okay, go, I'm gonna let you start. That's 1994 01:32:30,040 --> 01:32:39,240 Speaker 1: not the beat though, No, it's not. I don't really 1995 01:32:39,400 --> 01:32:42,400 Speaker 1: want to stay. I don't really want to go, but 1996 01:32:42,680 --> 01:32:45,960 Speaker 1: I really need to know. Can we get it together? 1997 01:32:48,800 --> 01:32:56,439 Speaker 1: Get it together? I don't really want to go. I 1998 01:32:56,560 --> 01:33:00,160 Speaker 1: don't really want to stay, but I really hope in prayer, Hey, 1999 01:33:00,240 --> 01:33:11,439 Speaker 1: can we get it together? Get it together? You don't 2000 01:33:11,640 --> 01:33:17,719 Speaker 1: know the pain that I think you're taking my love? 2001 01:33:17,960 --> 01:33:20,840 Speaker 2: Fuck grant it and you just want to see you 2002 01:33:21,000 --> 01:33:28,880 Speaker 2: shure way yay. Hey, it's about that time. I'm gonna 2003 01:33:29,000 --> 01:33:32,720 Speaker 2: tell you what's on my mind. I met up with 2004 01:33:32,920 --> 01:33:37,040 Speaker 2: you not being here with me when you know love, 2005 01:33:37,400 --> 01:33:39,479 Speaker 2: it's all one, it is. 2006 01:33:40,080 --> 01:33:42,960 Speaker 1: I don't want to go. I didn't want to stay. 2007 01:33:43,880 --> 01:33:47,240 Speaker 1: I didn't want to go, really need to know. Can 2008 01:33:47,360 --> 01:33:57,519 Speaker 1: we get it together? Yea, get it together? I really 2009 01:33:57,720 --> 01:33:58,240 Speaker 1: wanna go. 2010 01:33:58,720 --> 01:34:01,840 Speaker 2: I already want to say, but I don't really hope 2011 01:34:01,880 --> 01:34:08,160 Speaker 2: and pray Kelly, get it together, get it together. 2012 01:34:11,120 --> 01:34:13,800 Speaker 1: Wait, let's go to the good part. What you know 2013 01:34:13,920 --> 01:34:16,920 Speaker 1: what I do to break down? I don't want to know. 2014 01:34:18,040 --> 01:34:18,800 Speaker 1: That's all I wanted. 2015 01:34:18,880 --> 01:34:23,280 Speaker 2: It is, okay, I hit that home seeing I'm so confused. 2016 01:34:24,600 --> 01:34:29,600 Speaker 2: I just don't know what to do, right, I don't understand. 2017 01:34:29,720 --> 01:34:32,200 Speaker 1: Okay, wait, I don't know. It's okay, right, it's all right. 2018 01:34:33,160 --> 01:34:37,760 Speaker 1: First of all, the vocals bag. Please listen to me. 2019 01:34:38,760 --> 01:34:42,960 Speaker 1: I don't wanna Okay, that's all I wanted to do. 2020 01:34:43,720 --> 01:34:47,400 Speaker 1: I'm waiting for up the whole town home all. You 2021 01:34:47,560 --> 01:34:50,400 Speaker 1: hit the horse, let me just say, your vocals. You 2022 01:34:50,520 --> 01:34:53,559 Speaker 1: hit it, you row You know you're killing the sheep. 2023 01:34:54,080 --> 01:34:58,800 Speaker 1: Your vocals have grown tremendously, haven't I always had them. 2024 01:34:58,880 --> 01:35:02,040 Speaker 1: I just said it. Showkay, it's about to be a battle. 2025 01:35:02,720 --> 01:35:06,120 Speaker 1: It's about to be a mother. We got, we moved 2026 01:35:06,160 --> 01:35:07,640 Speaker 1: to the new food all. We're about to have a 2027 01:35:07,720 --> 01:35:12,240 Speaker 1: whole corner. Don't trust me. It's owing possible going down. 2028 01:35:16,479 --> 01:35:19,040 Speaker 1: We'll see y'all next week, y'all,