WEBVTT - Advice Letters 10 0:00:00.040 --> 0:00:04.519 Get your vitamin D right with me and get excited 0:00:04.840 --> 0:00:12.880 about your good morning, good afternoon, good evening. You were 0:00:12.920 --> 0:00:15.760 tuned into the Vitamin D Podcast and I'm your host, 0:00:16.000 --> 0:00:19.439 Dawn Day, here to get you excited about your lives 0:00:19.480 --> 0:00:22.200 so that you can live life on purpose and for 0:00:22.280 --> 0:00:27.280 a purpose. Now this is your first time tuning in. Welcome. 0:00:28.080 --> 0:00:30.240 You know, vitamin D is a pun off our name. 0:00:30.360 --> 0:00:32.280 You know how you get vitamin D from the sun. 0:00:32.400 --> 0:00:34.800 Right Well, my name is Dawn, which means the sun. 0:00:34.840 --> 0:00:36.400 So when I'm here to shed light and see your 0:00:36.400 --> 0:00:39.000 life now, I want to let you know this right now, 0:00:39.600 --> 0:00:42.000 when we talk about vitamin D and we talk about 0:00:42.000 --> 0:00:45.040 shedding light, that means we're shedding light on the good 0:00:45.120 --> 0:00:47.040 and the bad. Because if we want to be better 0:00:47.080 --> 0:00:49.480 and we want to do better, we have to have 0:00:49.560 --> 0:00:52.440 the ability to see better. And I do this with 0:00:52.800 --> 0:00:57.840 un delving and unraveling and unleashing inspirational insights, with inspirational 0:00:57.880 --> 0:01:01.520 conversations with celebrities and everyday people like you and me. 0:01:03.000 --> 0:01:06.800 You know we're gonna die one day, and my whole 0:01:07.000 --> 0:01:11.560 motive is to inspire people to live while they're still alive. 0:01:13.319 --> 0:01:17.400 Right now, it's all we got and along with you know, 0:01:17.600 --> 0:01:21.319 talking to people and and having this inspirational insights. I 0:01:21.360 --> 0:01:24.160 often sometimes do a special kind of segment and it's 0:01:24.200 --> 0:01:26.440 what I call the get Vice letters. And that's when 0:01:26.480 --> 0:01:28.880 I tell people just like you, all my fans and 0:01:28.880 --> 0:01:32.120 people that are listening to email me and which you 0:01:32.200 --> 0:01:37.720 can email me on relationships, on your career, on anything, 0:01:38.000 --> 0:01:40.280 financial advice, anything that comes to your mind that you 0:01:40.360 --> 0:01:42.679 just want to get, you know, a Dawn word in 0:01:43.560 --> 0:01:45.840 and I encourage you to email me at Vitamin D 0:01:46.319 --> 0:01:50.200 at dawn day speaks dot com. So today we're going 0:01:50.240 --> 0:01:53.120 into the email back and I'm going into some letters now. 0:01:53.160 --> 0:01:55.320 I want to be clear with you, just like I 0:01:55.360 --> 0:01:59.640 said about shipping the light. Understand that I'm gonna keep 0:01:59.640 --> 0:02:02.880 it raw and reel with you. That's the only way 0:02:02.920 --> 0:02:05.320 you can be better. Because if I don't shed what 0:02:05.440 --> 0:02:07.840 I really feel and how I expressed, what is the 0:02:07.880 --> 0:02:11.960 purpose of me speaking the truth? Hey? Because I remember, 0:02:12.000 --> 0:02:13.560 if you want to be better, you want to do better, 0:02:13.560 --> 0:02:16.160 you got to see better. So I'm excited to delve in. 0:02:16.200 --> 0:02:18.160 And I want to say thank you to each person 0:02:18.200 --> 0:02:21.600 that has written in. I appreciate you for putting yourself first. 0:02:21.639 --> 0:02:23.720 You know, we talked about how you your greatest asset 0:02:24.160 --> 0:02:26.880 and you are here trying to be your bestself. I 0:02:26.960 --> 0:02:29.640 see you, all right. Let's dive in on the first 0:02:29.720 --> 0:02:35.360 letter subject, leaving Poe Dunk for something better. Okay, Paul 0:02:35.400 --> 0:02:39.440 dunc Um, Dear Dawn, my friend and I want to 0:02:39.480 --> 0:02:42.240 move out the pole Dunk town that we're from to 0:02:42.280 --> 0:02:45.800 the big city. I know it sounds cliche, but we 0:02:45.880 --> 0:02:48.560 can't grow old here, so the only option is to go. 0:02:49.400 --> 0:02:52.799 The problem for me, anyway, is that my family is 0:02:52.840 --> 0:02:55.800 pretty close minded and they're really against me leaving the 0:02:55.840 --> 0:03:00.519 mountain um. Coming from outside Morgan, West, Virginia, it's pretty 0:03:00.520 --> 0:03:03.520 looked down upon for people to leave out, like you're 0:03:03.520 --> 0:03:06.400 abandon in the family or something. It does weigh on 0:03:06.440 --> 0:03:08.640 me pretty heavy, But I also don't see much of 0:03:08.680 --> 0:03:11.600 a future for myself here. While I could get into 0:03:11.600 --> 0:03:14.040 being a nurse or something, the hospital is the biggest 0:03:14.080 --> 0:03:18.000 employer around here, up those same skills could easily take 0:03:18.040 --> 0:03:20.799 me away from here. My friend is pretty amped to 0:03:20.919 --> 0:03:23.480 roll out, and I'm on the fence about just saying 0:03:23.560 --> 0:03:26.360 screw it and taking the hit. With my family, I 0:03:26.440 --> 0:03:29.120 worried that they will cut me off. My grandmother has 0:03:29.160 --> 0:03:32.200 talked about. I can't believe one of my own is 0:03:32.240 --> 0:03:34.760 gonna up and leave me like she's trying to get 0:03:34.800 --> 0:03:37.800 me into stain. Weirdly, it just makes me want to 0:03:37.800 --> 0:03:41.040 go more. My friend says that they have a place 0:03:41.080 --> 0:03:43.839 to stay in Seattle and that there's another spare room 0:03:43.880 --> 0:03:45.680 that I could use till I got on my feet. 0:03:46.240 --> 0:03:49.200 It's a scary idea because I only know one person, 0:03:49.280 --> 0:03:52.200 but it's also really exciting and I don't know the 0:03:52.240 --> 0:03:54.840 idea of living life without some sort of adventure seems 0:03:54.880 --> 0:03:59.920 so sad. What do you think? I think you are 0:03:59.920 --> 0:04:03.760 to take a chance on yourself. This sounds phenomenal. And 0:04:04.000 --> 0:04:07.320 when you talk about being on the adventure, you're talking 0:04:07.360 --> 0:04:09.600 to the adventure queen. You know I didn't jumped out 0:04:09.600 --> 0:04:14.800 of planes, jumped off of bridges, kissed giraffes in Africa. 0:04:15.520 --> 0:04:19.640 Go on, honey, take a chance that's been coming to America. 0:04:19.720 --> 0:04:22.920 But no, really, I would say right out, here's the 0:04:22.960 --> 0:04:25.800 thing that you know. And you heard me make a 0:04:25.839 --> 0:04:30.159 comment I want to go back to it. You said, 0:04:30.560 --> 0:04:35.920 I also don't see much of a future for myself here, Okay, 0:04:36.600 --> 0:04:39.520 one thing that I am very keen on. And if 0:04:39.560 --> 0:04:41.960 you are listening to this podcast. If you know who 0:04:42.000 --> 0:04:46.839 I am, um about living out your dreams and living 0:04:46.839 --> 0:04:52.960 on purpose. And when you have a dream, your dream 0:04:53.040 --> 0:04:56.800 creates a vision. If we want to go, you know, 0:04:56.920 --> 0:05:04.119 scripturally based, Uh, without a vision, the people would perish. Now. 0:05:04.440 --> 0:05:08.880 Vision allows you to see beyond where you are. See, 0:05:08.920 --> 0:05:12.120 that's the also the realm of where the imagination lies. 0:05:12.200 --> 0:05:14.520 That's where the magic happens. That's where it comes out 0:05:14.560 --> 0:05:17.039 of the norm. See. And I know that's important to 0:05:17.080 --> 0:05:19.240 come out of the norm because you said that you 0:05:19.320 --> 0:05:23.440 are in this small town and you're wanting something more. Now, 0:05:23.480 --> 0:05:26.120 If you're wanting something more, that means you're seeing more 0:05:26.160 --> 0:05:28.159 than where you are right now. So then you ask 0:05:28.240 --> 0:05:30.600 me what do you think? I think you should go? 0:05:31.640 --> 0:05:34.640 Who are you staying for? Now? Here's another thing you 0:05:34.680 --> 0:05:37.120 said that you know, I feel like a lot oftentimes 0:05:37.760 --> 0:05:40.920 we can all fall victims of this, of feeling like 0:05:41.080 --> 0:05:45.640 we have to accommodate to someone else's um viewpoints, We 0:05:45.720 --> 0:05:49.159 have to accommodate or adhere to someone else's restrictions and 0:05:49.560 --> 0:05:55.560 someone else's fears. You said that one the only option 0:05:55.680 --> 0:05:58.280 is to go. But the problem for you is that 0:05:58.640 --> 0:06:02.720 your family is pretty closed minded. Here's another thing. When 0:06:02.760 --> 0:06:05.320 we talk about living out your dreams and living out 0:06:05.320 --> 0:06:07.839 your purpose, you know that it's a road less traveled. 0:06:08.320 --> 0:06:13.000 That's what makes that percentage of people special. And when 0:06:13.000 --> 0:06:15.360 you talk about living your dream, when you talk about 0:06:15.440 --> 0:06:18.400 living in an exciting life, you're going on a path 0:06:18.480 --> 0:06:20.560 less traveled. And you have to do it for you 0:06:21.680 --> 0:06:24.320 because if you're how you do anything, it's how you 0:06:24.440 --> 0:06:27.919 do everything. And if you're at the point when you 0:06:27.960 --> 0:06:31.320 have a dream inside and that could just be a wanting. 0:06:31.360 --> 0:06:34.080 It doesn't have to be some fifty billion dollars. It 0:06:34.120 --> 0:06:36.520 can just be wanting to be more outside of where 0:06:36.560 --> 0:06:39.560 you are right now, that's the dream, that's the vision, 0:06:40.800 --> 0:06:44.320 and you have people around that instill as to why 0:06:44.400 --> 0:06:47.599 you should not do something. Therefore, it's almost like you're 0:06:47.600 --> 0:06:53.359 creating a barrier around yourself. M hmm. So then it 0:06:53.440 --> 0:06:56.720 comes back to how do you want to live your 0:06:56.760 --> 0:06:59.720 life and what are you going to choose. The thing 0:06:59.800 --> 0:07:02.279 that's so interesting in and what I love about life 0:07:02.320 --> 0:07:05.200 is I don't think there's ever a right or wrong. 0:07:05.880 --> 0:07:09.280 You choose what you want for yourself. Now, the only 0:07:09.320 --> 0:07:11.640 times that I feel like that it becomes a quote 0:07:11.720 --> 0:07:15.560 unquote wrong is that if you aren't being honest with 0:07:15.640 --> 0:07:21.560 yourself with your decisions, because everywhere and every opportunity, in 0:07:21.640 --> 0:07:25.080 every situation, we found ourselves and we understand that it 0:07:25.200 --> 0:07:28.720 is a decision that we made. And we often hear 0:07:28.760 --> 0:07:31.200 in times like like life is like chess, or learn 0:07:31.240 --> 0:07:33.120 to play chess, because you have to make your next 0:07:33.120 --> 0:07:35.720 move your best move. And if you're looking at where 0:07:35.720 --> 0:07:37.760 you want to be in life, you gotta look at 0:07:37.760 --> 0:07:40.160 where your steps are that are leading you there. Hence 0:07:40.480 --> 0:07:43.080 why you have the vision. Hence if you ask me, 0:07:43.160 --> 0:07:45.400 you need to go because you just said, right there, 0:07:45.840 --> 0:07:50.080 I don't see a future for myself. Oftentimes in life, 0:07:50.080 --> 0:07:52.080 I don't know if we always know exactly what we're 0:07:52.120 --> 0:07:56.080 running through, right, But oftentimes we know what we don't want, 0:07:56.920 --> 0:08:00.000 and sometimes that's enough because knowing what you don't want 0:08:00.200 --> 0:08:02.840 keeps you in forward momentum to find what it is 0:08:02.880 --> 0:08:06.280 that you do want. So you're not complacent because you 0:08:06.320 --> 0:08:09.640 have a sense of agitation. So now you're gonna have 0:08:09.720 --> 0:08:12.000 to use your courage to step out there and take 0:08:12.000 --> 0:08:15.000 a chance. Now here's another thing. You have an olive 0:08:15.040 --> 0:08:18.760 branch reaching out to you. Right. In many odd instances, 0:08:18.800 --> 0:08:21.320 people are there. Let's just say, imagine a barren desert. 0:08:21.400 --> 0:08:24.960 Nothing's out there, no type of viable notification of life. 0:08:25.360 --> 0:08:28.960 You have an olive branch because a friend said that, Hey, 0:08:29.000 --> 0:08:32.480 they have a place in Seattle where you can stay. 0:08:32.600 --> 0:08:35.199 There's a spare room and you can use it to 0:08:35.360 --> 0:08:38.920 you get back on your feet. You know what they say. 0:08:39.000 --> 0:08:41.240 You just gotta have faith the size of a mustard seed. 0:08:42.800 --> 0:08:45.520 So I have to ask you what do you want? 0:08:46.679 --> 0:08:48.800 Do you want to leave out of that pole downtown? 0:08:48.960 --> 0:08:52.080 Do you truly do you want to leave out of 0:08:52.120 --> 0:08:55.600 West Virginia? But more importantly, do you think you deserve it? Now? 0:08:55.559 --> 0:08:57.640 I talk about all the time how you were your 0:08:57.640 --> 0:09:00.559 greatest asset, and it's basically treating your self with love 0:09:00.640 --> 0:09:04.320 and loving yourself, and that's listening to yourself. And you 0:09:04.400 --> 0:09:07.680 have to realize that your dreams and aspirations are taking 0:09:07.679 --> 0:09:10.760 you beyond and exceeding because you don't even understand of 0:09:10.800 --> 0:09:13.520 the magic that can happen getting out of where you 0:09:13.600 --> 0:09:19.520 are right now, you said, it's really exciting. That's what 0:09:19.600 --> 0:09:22.320 it means to live your life on purpose. You should 0:09:22.320 --> 0:09:24.800 get excited about your life. I say it in the 0:09:24.920 --> 0:09:28.960 jingle get your Vitamin d right here with me and 0:09:29.000 --> 0:09:35.120 get excited about your life. Who wants to live their life? Said? 0:09:35.320 --> 0:09:37.560 You just said it yourself. You said, I don't know 0:09:37.679 --> 0:09:40.959 the idea of living life without some sort of adventure. 0:09:41.360 --> 0:09:45.559 It seems sad. So what's the decision? What's the decision 0:09:45.559 --> 0:09:48.360 that you're gonna make? And I think oftentimes we should 0:09:49.080 --> 0:09:53.400 all consider that what are our decisions that we're making? 0:09:55.280 --> 0:09:58.920 What does it say? Does it lead us to where 0:09:58.920 --> 0:10:01.040 we want to go and what we want to do? 0:10:01.880 --> 0:10:05.040 Only you can answer that. I need you to sit 0:10:05.120 --> 0:10:10.520 down and evaluate and just make a decision, make a decision, 0:10:11.840 --> 0:10:14.040 because you can have anything you want out of life. 0:10:14.200 --> 0:10:15.960 So there's no such thing as fear. And it's you 0:10:16.000 --> 0:10:18.120 didn't even say in a sense of what you could 0:10:18.120 --> 0:10:20.800 be lacking. The main thing that you said that you 0:10:20.840 --> 0:10:23.040 were concerned about is what your family. We're going to 0:10:23.200 --> 0:10:26.440 think about you and you even have a friend who's 0:10:26.520 --> 0:10:29.080 ant to roll with you. I mean, what more could 0:10:29.080 --> 0:10:33.520 you ask for? So now, which is just like do 0:10:33.559 --> 0:10:36.640 you think you deserve the better? And while we're talking 0:10:36.679 --> 0:10:39.720 about you moving out of this this town, I want 0:10:39.720 --> 0:10:41.760 to talk to somebody that's looking to get out of 0:10:41.760 --> 0:10:44.840 a relationship. Maybe two, looking to take a chance and 0:10:44.840 --> 0:10:48.120 step into a new relationship. Maybe it's also making a 0:10:48.160 --> 0:10:55.280 commitment to um, working out, eating healthy, going after your dream. Whatever. 0:10:55.480 --> 0:11:01.200 It is how you do anything, it's how you do everything. 0:11:01.240 --> 0:11:05.360 So you say, what do you think right out? I'm 0:11:05.400 --> 0:11:09.840 all about the adventure. Okay, all right, let's go on 0:11:09.920 --> 0:11:15.480 to the next letter. Thank you for writing subject. How 0:11:15.520 --> 0:11:20.079 do I see myself winning? Dear Dawn, I have a 0:11:20.080 --> 0:11:23.200 problem that I just can't seem to shake. I don't 0:11:23.200 --> 0:11:26.640 see myself as a winner. I'm twenty two and rep 0:11:26.640 --> 0:11:29.280 in Houston. I keep looking at my life and all 0:11:29.320 --> 0:11:31.400 I see is like I'm working at a fast food 0:11:31.480 --> 0:11:35.680 joint forever, maybe making manager. It seems like a sad life, 0:11:35.760 --> 0:11:38.120 and I don't want to knock people who do that. 0:11:38.360 --> 0:11:40.960 I think you can give money, how you gotta give money? 0:11:41.040 --> 0:11:43.160 But something in me tells me that I don't want 0:11:43.160 --> 0:11:45.520 to do that. Or maybe it's better to say that 0:11:45.559 --> 0:11:50.160 I shouldn't have to do that kind of work. Okay, UM, 0:11:50.200 --> 0:11:53.520 it's got me all in my head. All that being said, 0:11:54.000 --> 0:11:55.960 I know that I'm young and that I haven't seen 0:11:56.000 --> 0:11:58.360 the world yet. I want to go to college or 0:11:58.440 --> 0:12:01.920 community college, but I'm constantly trying to do ob jabs 0:12:01.960 --> 0:12:04.160 to put a roof over my head. I think that 0:12:04.200 --> 0:12:06.240 I have something in me, a drive to make it 0:12:06.280 --> 0:12:09.000 as a major plan in this world. What would you 0:12:09.040 --> 0:12:12.240 suggest to help and understanding that you can achieve something 0:12:12.320 --> 0:12:15.400 or be a winner? Sorry if this doesn't make sense, 0:12:15.600 --> 0:12:19.960 Thanks for your help. No, thank you, thank you for 0:12:20.040 --> 0:12:23.640 writing in Oh my gosh. First, this touches me because 0:12:23.679 --> 0:12:26.120 I love. I love the fact that you are taking 0:12:26.120 --> 0:12:29.880 your life so serious as you should, because that means 0:12:29.920 --> 0:12:33.200 that you love on yourself. And I think the greatest 0:12:33.520 --> 0:12:36.320 force of change is in love. Like, if you really 0:12:36.360 --> 0:12:38.720 want to yield great results out of your life, do 0:12:38.800 --> 0:12:41.760 it out of love, not out of hate, because hate 0:12:41.800 --> 0:12:43.800 wants to take things away. Love is only adding in 0:12:43.880 --> 0:12:50.120 abundance and overflowing. So first, thank you. Okay, now you 0:12:50.160 --> 0:12:52.560 said I don't how do I see myself as winning? 0:12:54.080 --> 0:12:56.960 You said, what would you suggest and help me understanding that? Well? 0:12:57.000 --> 0:13:01.760 Interesting enough. My engineer my homely back to the days 0:13:01.840 --> 0:13:04.600 that h you Howard University Gizma, who was actually the 0:13:04.600 --> 0:13:08.320 sound engineer for the show um audio director. He handles 0:13:08.400 --> 0:13:12.040 all sound basically, but I'm grateful for him because he 0:13:12.120 --> 0:13:15.360 sent a reminder to me, and he sent me this audio, 0:13:16.559 --> 0:13:19.880 but I guess I want to call him a famed philosopher, author, speaker. 0:13:19.960 --> 0:13:24.160 His name is Earl Nightingale, and the audio was on 0:13:24.240 --> 0:13:28.280 this clip called The Strangest Secret, a book that he's written. 0:13:28.960 --> 0:13:32.560 And the thing that I found so interesting is that 0:13:33.080 --> 0:13:39.240 this all talks about the power of the mind. How 0:13:39.240 --> 0:13:44.360 powerful the mind is, Oh my gosh, and we see 0:13:44.360 --> 0:13:47.880 it and we hear about it almost every day when 0:13:47.920 --> 0:13:52.480 we look at people that make inventions, when we hear 0:13:52.559 --> 0:13:55.760 stories about people going after their dreams and making something 0:13:55.800 --> 0:13:59.760 of themselves, they had this vision. And one of the 0:13:59.760 --> 0:14:01.920 thing is that I thought was so amazing about this 0:14:02.000 --> 0:14:05.200 is that Erl Nightingale talked about what it really meant 0:14:05.240 --> 0:14:09.800 to be successful, because success isn't always just a financial gain. 0:14:09.880 --> 0:14:13.280 Success is just seeing more of of what you're doing 0:14:13.400 --> 0:14:17.560 right now. And he said that oftentimes we measure success 0:14:17.600 --> 0:14:20.880 with money, and oftentimes with that measurement that puts the 0:14:20.960 --> 0:14:23.640 sort of limitation on our growth and who we are. 0:14:24.240 --> 0:14:26.600 It also takes away the value and the sense of 0:14:26.640 --> 0:14:29.240 who we are, because now we've taken out the purpose 0:14:29.280 --> 0:14:32.120 of it and the joy. Now, he said, the thing 0:14:32.120 --> 0:14:34.920 about when we talk about people who are so successful 0:14:35.440 --> 0:14:39.400 is because their measurement of success is just identifying something 0:14:39.440 --> 0:14:42.520 that they want to do and taking the steps towards 0:14:42.560 --> 0:14:45.960 to doing it. Now here is a thing in order 0:14:46.000 --> 0:14:49.160 for success to even be a possibility or in the realm, 0:14:49.760 --> 0:14:53.920 you have to identify what it is that you want. Now. 0:14:53.960 --> 0:14:57.680 The thing that's so amazing about what you're saying right 0:14:57.720 --> 0:15:00.960 now is that you are are known when you can 0:15:01.040 --> 0:15:05.360 feel that there's something more inside of you that you want. 0:15:05.560 --> 0:15:07.880 And you said, wait a minute, it's got me on 0:15:08.000 --> 0:15:10.080 in my head. Yes, this is the place that you 0:15:10.120 --> 0:15:12.360 need to be to figure out what you want. Because 0:15:12.360 --> 0:15:15.480 you said you don't see working in this fast food 0:15:15.520 --> 0:15:19.400 joint forever. And just like this gentleman, Raphael Gordon Stady, 0:15:19.520 --> 0:15:23.720 he said, your location is not your destination. Young man, 0:15:23.800 --> 0:15:26.240 I see you. I'm just assuming you're a young man. 0:15:26.280 --> 0:15:29.040 You could be a young man or a young woman. Um, 0:15:29.080 --> 0:15:32.920 but you said, like you don't see you see more 0:15:32.960 --> 0:15:35.520 for yourself than just working at this fast food joint. 0:15:36.120 --> 0:15:38.000 And that's the that's the key to success is just 0:15:38.280 --> 0:15:40.600 having the ability to see more of what it is 0:15:40.600 --> 0:15:43.000 that you want. And you said you want to go 0:15:43.040 --> 0:15:46.240 to college, or community college. But you're doing these eye 0:15:46.280 --> 0:15:47.840 jobs to keep a roof over your set, and you 0:15:47.880 --> 0:15:50.640 said there's something in me. Yes, there is something in you, 0:15:51.040 --> 0:15:53.200 and that's what you gotta continue to go and in 0:15:53.440 --> 0:15:56.760 and discover and identify and understand. If you want to 0:15:56.800 --> 0:15:58.840 have and be able to make the major move of 0:15:58.920 --> 0:16:01.840 the players, you to start identifying people who are doing. 0:16:01.880 --> 0:16:04.200 What it is that you want or what it is 0:16:04.240 --> 0:16:07.240 that interests you. Where are you finding yourself getting attracted 0:16:07.240 --> 0:16:09.560 to or is it something that you're saying on TV? 0:16:09.880 --> 0:16:12.080 Is it some way that business deals are being made? 0:16:12.360 --> 0:16:15.560 Do you like sneakers, shirt shoes, do you like crafts? 0:16:15.960 --> 0:16:20.080 Whatever it is. Hone in on what's taking your focus 0:16:21.040 --> 0:16:23.920 and then invest in that. And I would recommend getting 0:16:23.960 --> 0:16:26.480 some sort of education, whether it's in a formal school 0:16:26.560 --> 0:16:30.320 system or whether you're you're doing a job in that industry, 0:16:30.560 --> 0:16:32.240 or whether you're just picking up a book and read 0:16:32.320 --> 0:16:36.680 or heck, get on YouTube. What about YouTube university. There's 0:16:36.680 --> 0:16:40.920 a whole thing called clubhouse networking. So there's no reason 0:16:40.960 --> 0:16:43.600 as to why you can't get connected. What are some 0:16:43.640 --> 0:16:46.360 of the things that you want to do, And yes, 0:16:46.600 --> 0:16:49.160 you gotta get money, How you gotta get money. But 0:16:49.200 --> 0:16:51.720 if you've got something and you tells you that what 0:16:51.760 --> 0:16:53.440 it is that you do want to do or don't 0:16:53.480 --> 0:16:55.680 want to do because you want to live a better 0:16:55.760 --> 0:16:57.520 life than you gotta go out there and get it. 0:16:58.200 --> 0:17:00.640 I would definitely recommend for you to take a listen 0:17:00.880 --> 0:17:04.399 to Earl Nightingale The Strangest Secrets, because once we can 0:17:04.440 --> 0:17:08.640 get this mind together, it's an amazing thing when you 0:17:08.680 --> 0:17:13.359 can get your mind together. It talks about in the book, 0:17:13.359 --> 0:17:16.520 he says, um, you know, you hear this thing all 0:17:16.560 --> 0:17:19.680 the time you read with you so and whether that's 0:17:19.760 --> 0:17:23.239 good stuff or bad stuff, you're gonna read that. And 0:17:23.280 --> 0:17:27.800 we often here sometimes it's called karma. When we can 0:17:27.840 --> 0:17:31.080 get to the point of identifying our dreams, our passions, 0:17:31.119 --> 0:17:34.280 our purpose, our love are the things that make us 0:17:34.280 --> 0:17:37.800 feel good and continuously plant that in our spirits, plant 0:17:37.800 --> 0:17:40.560 that in our minds, plant that in our environments. We 0:17:40.640 --> 0:17:43.000 started to get that back, but when we stay in 0:17:43.080 --> 0:17:46.320 positions that we feel discontent and we feel annoyed, we're 0:17:46.359 --> 0:17:49.720 only gonna keep reaping that. It's like this vicious cycle 0:17:49.760 --> 0:17:52.200 of putting in this stuff that you don't want, expecting 0:17:52.200 --> 0:17:54.439 something different, we get the same thing. That's coming out. 0:17:54.720 --> 0:17:57.240 And if you keep leaving yourself in this situation of 0:17:57.320 --> 0:17:59.600 working at this fast food joint where you see there's 0:17:59.640 --> 0:18:01.359 no few true of yourself because the only thing that 0:18:01.400 --> 0:18:04.119 you can possibly do is making manager. What is that 0:18:04.160 --> 0:18:06.159 going to do to your life bank account? Because we 0:18:06.200 --> 0:18:08.920 talk about on this podcast how you are your greatest asset, 0:18:09.240 --> 0:18:11.000 it sounds like that your account is going to be 0:18:11.000 --> 0:18:13.400 in the negative because this is not what you want 0:18:13.440 --> 0:18:16.760 to be. This is not going to yield the results 0:18:16.760 --> 0:18:20.480 that you're going for. Hence, as Earl Nightingale stated in 0:18:20.520 --> 0:18:24.040 The Strangest Secrets, you are not going to find yourself successful. 0:18:24.560 --> 0:18:27.240 I don't care if they promoted you to the district manager. 0:18:27.640 --> 0:18:30.040 This is not what you want. This is not something 0:18:30.080 --> 0:18:33.800 that you're actively working for towards to be successful in it. 0:18:35.119 --> 0:18:36.720 And if you find yourself staying there, you're going to 0:18:36.760 --> 0:18:40.000 be complacent. And if that isn't charging you to do 0:18:40.160 --> 0:18:43.760 more in a sense of fulfillment, you're still going to 0:18:43.840 --> 0:18:46.040 get unhappy. So one of the first thing I would say, 0:18:46.040 --> 0:18:48.320 you gotta get your mom, gotta we gotta work out 0:18:48.359 --> 0:18:51.840 these mind muscles. One only to um ensure that you 0:18:51.920 --> 0:18:56.080 continue to stay optimistic about it, but also to expand yourself. 0:18:56.440 --> 0:19:00.119 Expand yourself of all the possibilities of things that you 0:19:00.240 --> 0:19:05.760 can't do, because it's nothing that you can't do. Right. 0:19:07.680 --> 0:19:11.520 So I hope I answered your question. Get that book, 0:19:11.760 --> 0:19:13.800 and I would also recommend you to check out the 0:19:13.840 --> 0:19:18.959 book um by Florence Scobelshin. It's called The Game of 0:19:19.000 --> 0:19:25.000 Life and How to Play It Phenomenal for phenomenal. I 0:19:25.119 --> 0:19:28.160 first read that book when I was in college. Um. 0:19:28.320 --> 0:19:30.119 You may have heard me mention to you this before, 0:19:30.240 --> 0:19:32.439 but I was so annoyed. I had to take a 0:19:32.520 --> 0:19:35.400 TV practice in class. It was in order to graduate, 0:19:35.440 --> 0:19:38.040 we had to have an internship in our field. I 0:19:38.080 --> 0:19:40.560 was a TV production major, but I was intern at 0:19:40.680 --> 0:19:43.160 XM Sidelighte Radio. It worked out where I was filming 0:19:43.280 --> 0:19:45.040 at the radio show, so I got that. But that's 0:19:45.080 --> 0:19:47.440 besides the point. We had to read this book, and 0:19:47.480 --> 0:19:49.920 I'm like, why are we reading this book? And let 0:19:49.960 --> 0:19:52.040 me just tell you, it was one of the most 0:19:52.080 --> 0:19:54.879 phenomenal books that I've read in my life, and I 0:19:54.920 --> 0:19:58.080 would definitely recommend for you to check it out. Okay, 0:19:58.119 --> 0:20:00.399 because you have to get to yourself to you have 0:20:00.440 --> 0:20:03.000 to see yourself as winning. You have to already be 0:20:03.080 --> 0:20:05.439 the winner. You know a lot. We should be focused 0:20:05.480 --> 0:20:07.280 on catching up to what we are right now because 0:20:07.280 --> 0:20:09.600 we're such in the now of being all that we want. 0:20:10.200 --> 0:20:13.159 And here's the thing too, you know how like if 0:20:13.160 --> 0:20:15.879 you think about it, if you want to be the CEO, 0:20:16.119 --> 0:20:18.800 or you want to be this top business or top 0:20:18.840 --> 0:20:22.080 model or top actress or speaker, you have to have 0:20:22.160 --> 0:20:24.040 the mindset that you already are. Because when you have 0:20:24.119 --> 0:20:27.760 the mindset and you're walking in it, you're performing as such. 0:20:27.800 --> 0:20:30.280 And if that's what you're performing is you're going to 0:20:30.440 --> 0:20:33.600 yield those resolves. So I'm just coming at the different 0:20:33.640 --> 0:20:36.760 angles of how you can see yourself winning, and that's 0:20:36.760 --> 0:20:39.800 to do the things that winners do. And one of 0:20:39.840 --> 0:20:42.400 the things that winners do is they win, and they 0:20:42.480 --> 0:20:50.040 win by exceeding by reaching out further. Mr Mrs Ms 0:20:50.480 --> 0:20:53.239 twenty two year old, it's time for you to go 0:20:53.280 --> 0:20:57.720 out further. Shout out to age town. But what's up? 0:20:59.000 --> 0:21:02.760 What do you want? Okay, all right, let's go on 0:21:02.760 --> 0:21:07.120 to the next letter subject how to get back out there. 0:21:07.680 --> 0:21:10.840 Dear don So, I'm writing to you because I know 0:21:10.960 --> 0:21:13.480 you talked to a lot of people. I'm twenty nine, 0:21:13.560 --> 0:21:16.560 and I don't really have friends. I live in Charleston, 0:21:16.640 --> 0:21:18.800 which is a big city, but I can't really say 0:21:18.840 --> 0:21:21.960 that I've had strong connections with anyone but maybe one 0:21:22.040 --> 0:21:24.880 or two people. The one person who comes to mind 0:21:24.880 --> 0:21:27.520 immediately is my best friend, who I'm in a high school. 0:21:28.040 --> 0:21:31.080 We were in separate, but over time he's gotten married 0:21:31.200 --> 0:21:34.080 and has a family life, and I'm well just kind 0:21:34.119 --> 0:21:37.520 of alone. Me and my best friends still came in touch, 0:21:37.600 --> 0:21:40.800 but in that distant kind of way that adults maintained relationships. 0:21:41.320 --> 0:21:43.439 We're good when we see each other, but there's not 0:21:43.560 --> 0:21:47.200 much contact outside of that. This was before the pandemic, 0:21:47.320 --> 0:21:49.439 and let me tell you, it's been real quiet for me. 0:21:49.920 --> 0:21:53.120 I've seen my parents all of twice in person. Thankfully 0:21:53.119 --> 0:21:55.920 they're okay. So now that things are starting that long 0:21:56.000 --> 0:21:58.800 track back to normal, I want to ask you what 0:21:58.880 --> 0:22:00.720 would be your advice on how to get back out 0:22:00.720 --> 0:22:03.760 there and make friends. I'm a little embarrassed about asking, 0:22:03.920 --> 0:22:05.679 and I want to be clear that I'm good with 0:22:05.720 --> 0:22:07.760 my bestie, but I do still want to make more 0:22:07.800 --> 0:22:10.199