Speaker 1: Once upon a time there was a good old traditional housewife.
Speaker 1: She cooked, she cleaned, cared for her children and the
Speaker 1: man of the house, and of course.
Speaker 2: She didn't talk back.
Speaker 1: She was both obedient and soft by nature. She was
Speaker 1: a good woman who always made good choices. That ship,
Speaker 1: we're good Mom's bad choices. Who single mom? Who said
Speaker 1: about the patriarchy? You shared all their bad choices and
Speaker 1: found out they weren't so bad after all. We're experts.
Speaker 2: Over chairs and your new bestie.
Speaker 1: Sit back and the ride. I can do it.
Speaker 2: Welcome back to good Mom's Bad Choices. I'm Erica and
Speaker 2: I'm Mila. Happy hump day, bitches, Happy by the fucking
Speaker 2: hemp day. Hi, Hi, I got humped last night.
Speaker 1: We too, I was so happy.
Speaker 3: Actually no, not last night, two days ago on the
Speaker 3: air mattress. Oh well, we went old school with it.
Speaker 1: I left.
Speaker 3: I was Iris's birthday last weekend and we had an
Speaker 3: air mattress because we had a sleepover, and I said,
Speaker 3: leave it.
Speaker 2: Were you trying to like, were you trying to like
Speaker 2: role play, like like like what like college? I don't
Speaker 2: have any money that the heirs leaving the mattress? No
Speaker 2: role plan, I know you love role playing, But there
Speaker 2: was no plan. It was just an air mattress and
Speaker 2: we had sex. I would not just in my regular
Speaker 2: house and with the mattresses available, I wouldn't opt to
Speaker 2: be like, let's do the mair we were downstairs. Well,
Speaker 2: the couch is not stable. What kind of sex do
Speaker 2: you having?
Speaker 1: Is it slow? What the air mattress is sturdy? Okay,
Speaker 1: maybe they make him different now I haven't guy who
Speaker 1: won a long time? Have you air mattress report years ago?
Speaker 1: When I didn't have a mattress? Why did you have
Speaker 1: a mattress?
Speaker 2: Because I was in college like everybody else that was
Speaker 2: nobody has called the dorms have mattresses.
Speaker 1: This is why I moved an adult with a house.
Speaker 2: And several mattresses, just opting for the air mattress.
Speaker 1: Anyway, it is great. Sorry, I'm not coming for your
Speaker 1: air mattress sex. I just had a question. I have answers. Okay,
Speaker 1: thank you, it was satisfied. It's great. Anyway, enough about that.
Speaker 1: We have a guest today. I'm cracking.
Speaker 2: Yeah lately, no, because have you ever in life when
Speaker 2: I was younger yet exactly what's a young woman's sport?
Speaker 1: You don't do as an adults. I got problem, but
Speaker 1: she was already asked, hey, yeah, I'm a naya write
Speaker 1: to it very important.
Speaker 3: So we have a special guest today. We have a songwriter,
Speaker 3: an artist, a singer, a mother overall bad bitch. Thank
Speaker 3: you girl, So.
Speaker 1: Welcome to the show. Andy, Thank you for having me.
Speaker 1: This is awesome.
Speaker 2: Thank you for giggling at all. And we wanted you
Speaker 2: to come on. We were like asking a lot our friends,
Speaker 2: and I want you to know. I don't know if
Speaker 2: you know this. You're huge in the gay community.
Speaker 1: Huge.
Speaker 3: I do know the huge, I do know the wait.
Speaker 3: So yes, I love you, yeah, and I love him.
Speaker 3: Your management reached out and I was like, well, let
Speaker 3: me look her up. And then I saw that, like
Speaker 3: one of my favorite gays followed you. And then she
Speaker 3: must have saw that one of her favorite gays followed my.
Speaker 2: Favorite gay, my cousin Chris, who is my favorite gay.
Speaker 2: He knows all the music, he knows all my wait.
Speaker 2: So so I sent him you and that she sent
Speaker 2: her gay. And then but we didn't know we were
Speaker 2: doing this.
Speaker 1: This is some separate things.
Speaker 3: And then she was like, oh, I'm like yeah, and
Speaker 3: I said so funny because I said it to my
Speaker 3: favorite gay and he said have her on and I
Speaker 3: was like very like.
Speaker 1: Smoking was like, well, when's she coming?
Speaker 2: I said, well two days from now, said yeah, coming
Speaker 2: see me.
Speaker 1: He's in New York. He really wanted me. I just
Speaker 1: lives New York too.
Speaker 2: Well next time, cousin, Chris, this one's for you and
Speaker 2: I she's my friend.
Speaker 1: Now.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I get so much support from the LGBTQ community.
Speaker 3: Uh if any I would like to say, dare I say?
Speaker 3: I feel like they are a nice majority of my
Speaker 3: fan base.
Speaker 2: I mean, the one thing's about is it not politically
Speaker 2: correct to say the gays because that's how I refer
Speaker 2: to them in that personal life.
Speaker 1: I love that.
Speaker 3: I don't know, I'm a former gay. I just call
Speaker 3: them my annihilators. They don't matter who they are.
Speaker 1: Annihilators. Thank you girl. I'm an annihilator now period.
Speaker 3: I feel like the gays, I'm go ahead and call
Speaker 3: them the gays, the gay the games spend money, the games.
Speaker 1: Doing, I can fight like a mother. We actually might
Speaker 1: need to get were our gays. Yeah, we need to
Speaker 1: up our gay community. We're not doing you know. And
Speaker 1: now that she's on the show, maybe they'll come from
Speaker 1: now that you're here, guys, Just so you know, I actually.
Speaker 2: Am in I'm a part of the family. I used
Speaker 2: to be lesbian. I don't identify anymore because I got
Speaker 2: married to a man. But once you're in the gay community,
Speaker 2: you're owners in the gay community.
Speaker 1: So is it such thing as that we're Are you
Speaker 1: a retired lesbian?
Speaker 2: I'm gonna come out from retirement from here, you know,
Speaker 2: time to time. Just I'm feeling frisky.
Speaker 1: But is that the correct like? Can I cite it
Speaker 1: retired all the time? Okay, but I don't know.
Speaker 2: I'm retired, but I still consider myself.
Speaker 3: I'm sure that I'm sure that the true full blooded
Speaker 3: lesbians might take issue with this, but I don't know.
Speaker 1: The lesbians still love me.
Speaker 2: I'm I'm just saying, you know, you know, you know,
Speaker 2: may be sensitive, dmn me if you think that I
Speaker 2: should be out, Well, I'm I'm a I'm a I'm
Speaker 2: a buy fun bitch.
Speaker 1: So and I've dipped my tippy on the weekend.
Speaker 2: I'm dipping exactly what trade nine and seven am exactly?
Speaker 1: Now she got by fun. I was a fucking apparation.
Speaker 1: It's my foot.
Speaker 3: I recently rejoined and reopened my Buy Fun app.
Speaker 1: Field, and I need any report that it sucks.
Speaker 2: You're gonna fuck up our endorsement possibility.
Speaker 1: They paid us in three years week.
Speaker 2: Okay, well, Field, if you need d I recruit, we
Speaker 2: volunteer as tribute.
Speaker 1: We need we help, we need help do our own.
Speaker 3: Ashley said, I need to expand my my searches more
Speaker 3: because I'm just in LA and I was like, okay,
Speaker 3: I can, but La La searches are going to be
Speaker 3: always on the white side.
Speaker 1: What is the okay?
Speaker 4: So?
Speaker 3: Field is a Field is like a website and an app,
Speaker 3: a dating app for people that are like, not necessarily
Speaker 3: alternative lifestyles, but like people that have.
Speaker 1: Specific kinks or specific things that they're looking.
Speaker 2: Unicorn or if you want to be a unicorn, or
Speaker 2: if you or even if like you are looking for
Speaker 2: love but you are, but you require specific things like
Speaker 2: your suburb. You can find your husband on opening that tell.
Speaker 1: Us girl, I never heard any Is she okay?
Speaker 2: So sorry we just jumped into all this crazy.
Speaker 1: No, No, it's fine.
Speaker 2: So what is so You're not an the LGBTQ plus,
Speaker 2: are you buy fun? How do you identify I'm engaged?
Speaker 1: To a man. You never eate pussy before. I've never
Speaker 1: eaten a vagina before.
Speaker 2: Really, I at least like that just went wow, look
Speaker 2: look at this.
Speaker 1: Are you fucking kidding me? Right now? What is what
Speaker 1: is this? Field? She got a dog on her profile.
Speaker 1: I don't in a turtle, nick, you know what? She
Speaker 1: has her dog?
Speaker 3: This is this is the profile if the people see
Speaker 3: that are interested in her.
Speaker 2: Yes, that's why I made that profile. Years ago we
Speaker 2: discovered Oh my gosh, maybe she just.
Speaker 1: Want the people to know, like, hey, I come with it.
Speaker 2: This comes along I mean that's what you know for
Speaker 2: you come straight up as a dog with a sweater
Speaker 2: and a barrett. But that picture gives that How you
Speaker 2: say that la vegghead girl pursuing an MSW?
Speaker 1: What the fuck is ms W? Mutual sexual This is
Speaker 1: a problem. Look at it.
Speaker 2: They have a lot of like acronyms that I don't smation.
Speaker 1: I'm a woman wants.
Speaker 3: But anyway, I think the dog is she just letting
Speaker 3: people know, like, hey, this is a part to me.
Speaker 1: If you want to if you want to get with me,
Speaker 1: this comes with this. Well we have it.
Speaker 2: We actually back in the day when we were single,
Speaker 2: we had an epidemic.
Speaker 1: We were on the dating apps a lot, and what.
Speaker 2: We discovered is people over thirty with no kids adopt.
Speaker 1: Maybe it's white people.
Speaker 2: Maybe it's la adopt puppies and animals as their children
Speaker 2: take them everywhere, including in their profile pictures.
Speaker 1: And it was very annoying.
Speaker 2: And we actually I dated two guys with a dog
Speaker 2: and they wouldn't leave the fucking dog at home.
Speaker 3: Ever, that's definitely a thing out here. Yeah, I got ja.
Speaker 3: Dogs and strolls don't do that. Hell now the dog
Speaker 3: on a damn leash.
Speaker 1: Oh you guys.
Speaker 2: Update MSW has nothing to do with her sexual preference.
Speaker 2: It's actually she's pursuing a Master's of Social Work Sexuality specialize.
Speaker 1: Oh so she's just smart. She's sex in school. She's
Speaker 1: going to school. Okay, god the he she looks smart
Speaker 1: with that barette, but that dog needs take that sweat anyway,
Speaker 1: it's dry.
Speaker 2: You're going back on field. So you are you getting, like,
Speaker 2: what's happening? Butt of meat in fat? I saw them already.
Speaker 2: What what the It's a profile of a couple and
Speaker 2: called meat in fat cute but.
Speaker 1: Saying like.
Speaker 3: I gotta see this, you know what, let me let
Speaker 3: me just put you know for what I'm about to see.
Speaker 3: They're cute.
Speaker 1: They're cute. Is it just people have different names because
Speaker 1: they don't want to put their real names on.
Speaker 2: Why he ain't showing his face though, keeps rolling. He's
Speaker 2: there actually speaking of sex and field, I have an
Speaker 2: announcement to make. It's been a long time coming.
Speaker 1: Get these please.
Speaker 2: I am co hosting a June teenth play party with
Speaker 2: the prints of play Parties the play oh.
Speaker 1: Period June nineteenth in LA.
Speaker 2: Get your tickets and actually this is going to be
Speaker 2: We're coming together for diversity. I'm here to bring the
Speaker 2: d I to the play It's fortune teenth. We're decolonizing pleasure.
Speaker 2: We're getting regulating your nervous system. We're doing rebellious active pleasure.
Speaker 2: Bring your unicorns, bring your niggas, come single, bring your husbands,
Speaker 2: put your kids to bed downtown l A.
Speaker 1: What is there a theme? I'm obviously actually yes, the
Speaker 1: theme is the matrix. Oh that sounds like I have
Speaker 1: a question? Can I what's a unicorn? Really? Yeah?
Speaker 2: Okay, so say you and you're heavy, we're in the
Speaker 2: shopping for a third that would be the unicorn.
Speaker 1: You want a girl too, Okay, yeah, no, I'm cool.
Speaker 1: What's your birthday? I share November eighth, Scorpio. I'm not sure. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm a Scorpia. What day period?
Speaker 3: But you know what, I have to say something about that, Okay,
Speaker 3: I recently do got a conviction on astrology, somebody I'm
Speaker 3: somebody who would live and die, live and live by astrology.
Speaker 3: Recently I was given insight, spiritual insight that astrology is
Speaker 3: opposite of my faith. It's arguable, Yes, I felt those deep,
Speaker 3: I felt them, and that.
Speaker 1: Was my same reaction. But I'm also but how did
Speaker 1: you heard the whole time in church? Not they alway
Speaker 1: talk about they always say this stuff.
Speaker 3: I haven't really this was This was my first time
Speaker 3: in my adult life with this conversation being brought to me.
Speaker 3: And I'm i'm'n talk about. Yeah, I'm Scorpio. Everything they
Speaker 3: say about us, it's true. Woot the wool Alliday?
Speaker 1: Right?
Speaker 3: So I asked, if we are made up of the
Speaker 3: same substances of the earth, the same elements. When we cry,
Speaker 3: our tears are salt water, same as the ocean. When
Speaker 3: we die, we turn back into dust. If we have
Speaker 3: all of these things, and motherfucker's be going crazy when
Speaker 3: it's a full moon, Like we're directly connected right with
Speaker 3: all the elements. Why what's what's the issue with me
Speaker 3: identifying or saying that I'm a scorpio? And what I
Speaker 3: was told was that it's because that's what you're using
Speaker 3: as your identity, that's who you are, versus being a
Speaker 3: believer in Christ. You're believer in astrology. I personally have
Speaker 3: never taken it that deep before. Can you be a
Speaker 3: believer in Christ and still be a scorpio?
Speaker 1: But in Christ? I definitely dot. I didn't make the
Speaker 1: moon and the stars of the earth. This is this
Speaker 1: is ality, This is all the same things I say.
Speaker 4: Y'all.
Speaker 1: Well, I'm gonna be honest.
Speaker 2: You're not with the most religious girlies. We're more spiritual.
Speaker 2: I mean, I'm serial first, I'm spiritual.
Speaker 1: I'm not really I don't even God.
Speaker 2: But you know what, there's so many rules and regulations
Speaker 2: of Bible that I think have been misinterpreted and manwashed,
Speaker 2: and absolutely.
Speaker 1: I agree with that.
Speaker 2: And also I'm not somebody who lives and dies like
Speaker 2: I know, I know what I am. There's things that
Speaker 2: I relate to, there's things that I don't. But I'm
Speaker 2: not gonna be like I'm not going out because they
Speaker 2: said don't go out, and I'm a cancer on Tuesdays.
Speaker 1: Like you know, like you take everything with a grain
Speaker 1: of salt. Yeah, for sure, definitely agree. I think God
Speaker 1: gave us tools for a reason.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and using your astrology and understanding your astrology and
Speaker 3: the way you're connected to the elements is a.
Speaker 1: Tool given to us by God.
Speaker 3: So I don't see the I don't really understand the
Speaker 3: what you say conviction personally for.
Speaker 2: Me, I don't think it's a conflict of interest, just
Speaker 2: like some people say, like sage or stones or you know,
Speaker 2: like crystals. The Nigga made those two apparently, So I
Speaker 2: don't know why in the Bible if I had one
Speaker 2: of my purse ultras in the Bible.
Speaker 3: The church that I go to talks about this, and
Speaker 3: this is when I start going, Okay, yep.
Speaker 1: Halleloyah Man Jesus.
Speaker 3: I also am very spiritual. I have my own personal
Speaker 3: relationship with Christ. That's my dog.
Speaker 1: Yeah, thats like when you question him.
Speaker 3: My father loves when I ask him questions because I'd
Speaker 3: be real confused about how ghetto Earth is.
Speaker 1: So I get it. There's much controversy around there.
Speaker 3: But yeah, I was just sharing that that I had
Speaker 3: never heard that before until my adult.
Speaker 2: Wow, I'm surprised you haven't, because I've heard a lot
Speaker 2: in church and through after people.
Speaker 1: Even we had a for guest on a few weeks ago.
Speaker 1: She refused to pick a card. And that's not the
Speaker 1: first time this happened, you know, refuse to pick a card?
Speaker 1: Do it? Arry hard?
Speaker 2: And she was like, Oh, that's what the man is.
Speaker 2: I thought that was your board game. No, that's just
Speaker 2: terror card.
Speaker 1: Do you want to pick one? I don't.
Speaker 2: Okay, I will pick it for you. Okay, teach your own.
Speaker 2: You know, there's no peer pressure over here coming. I
Speaker 2: noticed what they were. I listen, like you said, guide me.
Speaker 1: God, believe me along the way.
Speaker 3: Everyone's walked with God truly his personal It is absolutely
Speaker 3: what is working with you that might not work for me.
Speaker 3: You know that's good and the guy and the Bible
Speaker 3: everyone interprets interprets it different. You go to one church
Speaker 3: they're saying this thing, another church they're saying this thing.
Speaker 3: So it's really like, what is your spirit feel called
Speaker 3: to when you hear those words? What rings true genuinely
Speaker 3: to yourself?
Speaker 2: And oh my God could judge men? God, I'm not
Speaker 2: here to hear your rules.
Speaker 1: That me and God. That's got personal. And Jesus best
Speaker 1: friends was dope.
Speaker 2: Dope dealers. He loves collected, This was his dog.
Speaker 1: Jesus loved the hors. She loved me. Jesus loves me.
Speaker 1: We been a singer and all of my fuck the way. Well,
Speaker 1: let's talk about singing. Let's talk about your career and music.
Speaker 2: Wait, have you made any bad choices this week before
Speaker 2: you get into that?
Speaker 5: Okay, oh you have, girl, I had some positive two
Speaker 5: nights in a row, and I'm supposed to be on
Speaker 5: my sixty day journey right now, and this is week
Speaker 5: two of my my my weight loss journey, and I'm
Speaker 5: supposed to be counting.
Speaker 2: Carbs and not at the bullshit. I had bought some
Speaker 2: novel twice and it was delicious. You know, Yeah, I
Speaker 2: feel bad, don't that's gonna make a gain weight. If
Speaker 2: you don't feel bad, it will just keep you skinny.
Speaker 2: I really feel like it's the energy, Like if you
Speaker 2: feel bad, it's gonna stick.
Speaker 1: If you don't feel bad, sink skiny thouts. Okay, no,
Speaker 1: when you like this is good for my body. It's
Speaker 1: nourishing me.
Speaker 2: It's running right through and I'm gonna nourishments and then
Speaker 2: no weight. You gotta just like put your intentions on
Speaker 2: the woman.
Speaker 1: You will not discriminate against. I'm not discriminating. You have
Speaker 1: no idea what it feels like to gain weight. You
Speaker 1: look amazing and not feel good about it. Have you
Speaker 1: ever gained weight and been like, damn I fat when
Speaker 1: I was pregnant?
Speaker 2: Girls?
Speaker 1: Shut up? Girl? Have you ever not been able to
Speaker 1: gain weight and be like, damn, what am I going
Speaker 1: to get some weight? No hurt. Your testimony is different
Speaker 1: than mine. What you see, what you did that?
Speaker 2: I was good.
Speaker 1: You just made snort.
Speaker 4: You know.
Speaker 1: I can't wait for those days.
Speaker 2: I'm like, I want just.
Speaker 1: You know it was black because Jamaica did a look,
Speaker 1: oh it's that you see.
Speaker 2: That was to say, yep, maybe I had all the all.
Speaker 1: The festival and death. I said, baby, if I don't
Speaker 1: come back five pounds like I don't.
Speaker 2: Every meal, I just have to say, y'all, we have
Speaker 2: a new engineer in the building and he happens to
Speaker 2: be my stepfather.
Speaker 3: And I'm so sorry, Rory. You're going to know so
Speaker 3: many things you didn't ask to know about me, And
Speaker 3: already apologies, don't mom? Yeah, I already apologize.
Speaker 2: She was like, that's your that's that's a Sugar Daddy.
Speaker 2: I was like, no, that's Erica's stepdad. Sorry, mister Maury.
Speaker 1: I was so.
Speaker 2: You know what I mean, Eric have never been successful
Speaker 2: at Sugar Daddy, and it's not been.
Speaker 3: Our we haven't been successful. I should have wrote a
Speaker 3: book on the sheet. But that's my past life and
Speaker 3: that song just will not die.
Speaker 1: Well, tell us about that, I mean the song, but
Speaker 1: more what about the Sugar Daddy? The song?
Speaker 3: Yeah, we'll talk about it from the song's perspective. No,
Speaker 3: I mean I was just the young I was the
Speaker 3: younger single mama. Uh, I just needed some of the
Speaker 3: pressure off. And I you know, how.
Speaker 1: Did you acquire one cruity? How we're what I mean?
Speaker 2: We met at a bar actually, and it ain't even
Speaker 2: nothing deep, like you know how bitches be trying to like, okay,
Speaker 2: so where do I go at?
Speaker 1: What time? And what do I need? It's not even
Speaker 1: in deep. I met this nigga ed was he older? Yeah?
Speaker 2: Was it Beverly Hills cause the's certain bars was like
Speaker 2: a high end bar. Was a Mexican bar on Taco Tuesday.
Speaker 2: It wasn't even that deep for real? Was he rich
Speaker 2: rich or?
Speaker 1: Like not? Was that the Taco Tuesday? Was he rich
Speaker 1: rich or? Was he we're tired? We retired NFL player? Yeah? Okay,
Speaker 1: invested his money well past life though past life. She
Speaker 1: just got too She was just getting too thick. You know.
Speaker 3: He started falling in love and that wasn't that. It
Speaker 3: wasn't How long was her sugar daddy? About a year
Speaker 3: and some change.
Speaker 2: Shout out to the girlies who can long term maintain
Speaker 2: a sugar daddy? Now if you Yeah, my mom is
Speaker 2: one of them.
Speaker 1: She's she's really good.
Speaker 2: At it, like I Perry almost some people just have
Speaker 2: it in their DNA.
Speaker 1: My mom didn't give that to me. All right, this
Speaker 1: has skipped over here too. My patience is low. My
Speaker 1: Amie taught me my patience could be high for a
Speaker 1: sugar daddy. I could. I could up my patience all
Speaker 1: you would think, And it's not the same.
Speaker 3: I mean for a little bit of time. It could
Speaker 3: depend on how you know, how many bills need to
Speaker 3: get paid? Okay, if we if we count by the bills,
Speaker 3: then I say I get where you're going with that.
Speaker 3: But the level of tolerance you do have to have
Speaker 3: a lot of patients. Like you, you got a young pussy,
Speaker 3: you know what I'm saying, you beatting it on this
Speaker 3: old nigga. Sorry, mister Rory is he and he's al
Speaker 3: right here right?
Speaker 1: These are a lot of it moments. Huh. You're like
Speaker 1: when you he sent you something that's not sexy and
Speaker 1: you'd be.
Speaker 3: Like, I can say I was one of the I
Speaker 3: was on the lookier side.
Speaker 1: He was attractor, is really good and he was pretty
Speaker 1: attractive that I can handle. That's not even sugar daddy,
Speaker 1: that's just an old nigga. Who's your old nigga? Yeah?
Speaker 3: That was great ideal he was still but I enjoyed,
Speaker 3: but like I wasn't annoyed by Okay, I got to
Speaker 3: this nigga because I need that.
Speaker 1: That was looked up for you. But the plan wasn't
Speaker 1: for him to fall in love. Did you have to
Speaker 1: ask or did he just give? With both?
Speaker 3: It was a mix of It was a mix of both.
Speaker 3: He liked for me to ask because he knew he
Speaker 3: was gonna get splissy.
Speaker 1: You know. Oh God, So I just have a flashback
Speaker 1: I'm scared. Yeah, it was. It was. I could see
Speaker 1: you didn't. I could see the disgust on your face.
Speaker 1: It was fine, No, it actually was.
Speaker 3: It was fine for the time that I needed it
Speaker 3: to be motiv I'm just happy to not have to
Speaker 3: be in that space anymore because I became way too
Speaker 3: dependent on that, too comfortable with, you know, and I
Speaker 3: didn't like the power that he had over me financially.
Speaker 1: So yeah, I had to grow the fuck up. How'd
Speaker 1: you end it? I just did.
Speaker 3: I was like, yeah, my life is going in a
Speaker 3: different direction. You want something that I can't provide. So
Speaker 3: and it didn't end well either, Like he was just like, I.
Speaker 1: Want back all the money I ever gave you. Good luck. Yeah, lord,
Speaker 1: it's gone. Baby. That broke up. That breakup broke his heart.
Speaker 1: Has he moved on?
Speaker 2: I don't fucking know that ship. I'm engaged to a
Speaker 2: motherfucking Jamaican. Did good conversation, good everything. Shout out to
Speaker 2: the Jamaican. This is a commercial for Jamaicans. They cook,
Speaker 2: they clean, they fucked, they fucked, they fixed ship, they
Speaker 2: fixed it. Keep your ass and shake, they do. And
Speaker 2: that's the kind way. And hopefully they have one family.
Speaker 2: Oh my god, did did he be talking to you
Speaker 2: in the accident fucking you with like pat talk? Because
Speaker 2: I was like, I let to do that thing. Oh lord, yes,
Speaker 2: a man, hallelu this o mate, y'all.
Speaker 1: I love howdy'll be at my baby daddy house. What
Speaker 1: I love?
Speaker 3: We're gonna tell that that's your baby daddy's No, no,
Speaker 3: no, no no, there was no.
Speaker 2: Okay, now I got to explain, like, what the hell?
Speaker 2: We can't just say that right and not explained. Okay.
Speaker 3: So Austin, my oldest son, was uh, his dad and
Speaker 3: his uncle were roommates.
Speaker 1: Okay.
Speaker 3: I had just did like fourteen hours at the studio, crazy,
Speaker 3: I was tired. I went to go pick Austin up
Speaker 3: from his dad's place. They was in the middle of
Speaker 3: a kickback. Y'all have kickbacks out here? Yeah, okay, they
Speaker 3: was having a kickback and his uncle Chris was like, man,
Speaker 3: now you come in the house, come cheue with us.
Speaker 3: I'm like, mag, I'm just here to pick up my son.
Speaker 3: And I don't like y'all like that, So I'm just
Speaker 3: getting man, come in here and chill.
Speaker 1: We got some more can read.
Speaker 3: This blah blah blah, and yeah, and then Austin to
Speaker 3: put the cherry on top, was.
Speaker 1: Like, Mommy, can I just have a few more minutes
Speaker 1: with my cousins? So that's really what, you know, made
Speaker 1: me say so.
Speaker 3: It was one of those things where a friend of
Speaker 3: a friend of a friend had, you know, all the
Speaker 3: plus ones, and Jay just happened to be somebody else's
Speaker 3: plus one.
Speaker 1: I didn't not believe you met your fance.
Speaker 3: Had to be good for something, thank you, because the
Speaker 3: shaw wasn't him child. And it started to get weird though,
Speaker 3: because I'm there, like playing Domino's and drinking and all
Speaker 3: there knowing that he and the other room baby daddy
Speaker 3: in the other room, and then you know, me and Jay,
Speaker 3: and I know how cliched this sounds y'all right, but
Speaker 3: the minute that we shook hands, bitch.
Speaker 2: I felt like a like a shock wave go through
Speaker 2: my body, you know. And he said it too.
Speaker 3: It just it just was weird that I was really
Speaker 3: into this man the first time I was meeting him,
Speaker 3: you know, and vice versa, and knowing that baby Daddy's
Speaker 3: in the other room.
Speaker 1: So I was like, I got I got to get
Speaker 1: out of here, So I left. I booked it. I
Speaker 1: got out of there.
Speaker 3: Two days later, he ended up asking my nephew's uncle,
Speaker 3: I mean my son's uncle.
Speaker 1: Hey, whatever happened to her? Why she leave like that?
Speaker 1: You know? And he asked for my number.
Speaker 3: I said no because it was just too close for comfort,
Speaker 3: you know, And I was like, just give him my
Speaker 3: Instagram instead, which he gave him my Instagram and then
Speaker 3: he was like.
Speaker 1: Damn, who the fuck are you? What you do? Why
Speaker 1: you got all these followers? You know? So I let
Speaker 1: him taking me on the day. Then, yeah, that was
Speaker 1: that better than me? Because I'm petty. I'd be like.
Speaker 3: It just didn't It felt weird knowing that Austin's daddy
Speaker 3: was like in the house and we over there playing dominoes.
Speaker 1: It was just like, what am I doing? I'm too
Speaker 1: grown for this. Let me give my.
Speaker 3: Yeah, don't let your boyfriend or your baby daddy all
Speaker 3: your hoodsband stop you from finding your hoods man?
Speaker 2: Howe how does he feel about it now that he
Speaker 2: never gave a.
Speaker 1: Fuck that night?
Speaker 3: From that night he was like, we're grown and dad
Speaker 3: ain't my partner, so what we doing?
Speaker 4: You know?
Speaker 3: And I was just like, nah, this is I can't
Speaker 3: physically sit here in his house and give you my number.
Speaker 3: It just didn't feel like it was a little uncomfortable,
Speaker 3: you know. So but you know whatever, that was then
Speaker 3: and this is now and we here now you got
Speaker 3: a baby and the kids and shit, So how.
Speaker 1: Long have you guys been engaged?
Speaker 3: Three years? But we've been together for six. The wedding
Speaker 3: is next year.
Speaker 1: Yeah, a big old, big wedding. So happy to be
Speaker 1: off the market. Big wedding.
Speaker 3: Hell yeah, Jamaica. We're getting married in Jamaica because none
Speaker 3: of his family is here. Dramatic bitch, I'm finna get
Speaker 3: on so many bitches, nerves, my dress, the Bachelor, Red Party,
Speaker 3: I'm posting everything.
Speaker 1: I'm I'm tapping into my wife the era, you know,
Speaker 1: as you should.
Speaker 2: It's like excited, But did you foresee yourself being at
Speaker 2: like a bride?
Speaker 1: Like how this era?
Speaker 2: Because I feel like even for me, I'm like, I'm
Speaker 2: still like my husband.
Speaker 1: My husband. My husband is like a practice still sometimes
Speaker 1: I say it my best sounds weird. How does it feel?
Speaker 1: It feels good? But it feels like I don't know.
Speaker 2: I guess I've always wanted to be married, but I
Speaker 2: don't know if I actually believe that it would happen.
Speaker 1: So now that I'm like my husband, yeah, it was
Speaker 1: hard for me to say boyfriend.
Speaker 2: So it's just it's an interesting transition transition and I'm
Speaker 2: having to like sit in the my wifeyet era softly
Speaker 2: that's softly.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm just something from all of that and being
Speaker 3: the side beach and being the girlfriend, the fiance and
Speaker 3: now I'm about to be the wife. So being able
Speaker 3: to travel through all of those different transitions is it's
Speaker 3: a gift.
Speaker 2: You know.
Speaker 3: I finally get to let myself be loved and just
Speaker 3: take a like exhale for real. You know, I don't
Speaker 3: got to take care of the house by myself, and
Speaker 3: I'm all the kids. I don't even got to touch
Speaker 3: the yoid. You know, I'm a bitch. I'm here, She's arrived. Finally,
Speaker 3: I deserve that. We all deserve soft lives.
Speaker 2: I think as black women, we talked about you know,
Speaker 2: the soft life fucking word is a thing right now
Speaker 2: or has been. But I'm like, you could say it
Speaker 2: all day long, but like there's a your body has
Speaker 2: to catch up, like your nervous system, you know what
Speaker 2: I mean, Like that part.
Speaker 1: Like you could say it, say it, but being in it.
Speaker 2: It's been so many times where I'm like absolutely, yes,
Speaker 2: untut your body, Yep, nothing's happening, You're good.
Speaker 1: Yes, that's this is a new niggas. Oh my god.
Speaker 2: I'm constantly telling my body that I'm safe and that
Speaker 2: like this, I'm living in the manifestation. And I think
Speaker 2: that a lot of people disregard you could manifest something.
Speaker 2: It could come to fruition, but like your mind and
Speaker 2: body and spirit catching up the line of work.
Speaker 1: Yes it is.
Speaker 3: I'm so glad you say it that out loud, because
Speaker 3: that is a that is a very true thing. Your
Speaker 3: nervous system can still be three niggas behind. Yeah, I'm
Speaker 3: right there with you.
Speaker 1: Wow. I'm just happy you.
Speaker 3: Say it that out because I'd be wondering if I'm
Speaker 3: troopment because.
Speaker 2: Sometimes it's hard to put into words because it kind
Speaker 2: of makes you feel a little ungrateful.
Speaker 1: Are you like? I am happy? But why do I
Speaker 1: feel in my body like anxiety? Yeah? And I'm like
Speaker 1: like I am Wow.
Speaker 2: You have to almost like put your put words to
Speaker 2: it to to start to conceptualize that you are not
Speaker 2: living in your actual reality.
Speaker 1: I was coming from the airport one time, my baby mama,
Speaker 1: baby daddy, a new baby daddy.
Speaker 2: My husband picked me up and we drove past an
Speaker 2: old old place I lived with with my baby daddy,
Speaker 2: and I didn't realize I was tense in the car.
Speaker 2: It took you there, and then I was like, oh,
Speaker 2: I'm passing that place. Oh the whole different nugget. Oh
Speaker 2: I'm with the nice niggad.
Speaker 1: And I was like, that's a real fucking thing.
Speaker 2: It was like, if I hadn't passed that address, I
Speaker 2: would have not have acknowledged that my body was literally
Speaker 2: just living in So wherever you are right now, if
Speaker 2: you're feeling tense for no goddamn reason.
Speaker 3: Breathe, breathe, there you go. And I'm just like, Okay,
Speaker 3: you married bitches, shut the fuck up.
Speaker 1: Can we move on now? No, I'm not I love they.
Speaker 4: Again.
Speaker 1: I want to feel it.
Speaker 5: No, no, no, no.
Speaker 1: I love Jesus. We love Jesus, we love astrology, we
Speaker 1: love everybody. Jesus made bolls, we love music. Everybody exhales,
Speaker 1: soft life, every.
Speaker 2: I'm happy you said that that that comment, ab bitches
Speaker 2: are gonna shut the fuck up, you married bitches. That
Speaker 2: I feel like I've lived partially, like I've only lived
Speaker 2: partially in my soft life because I'm afraid that I'm
Speaker 2: gonna being annoying. But one of those I don't want
Speaker 2: to be that.
Speaker 1: I don't care anymore.
Speaker 2: I don't given because you know what, I'm happy bitches
Speaker 2: are doing it.
Speaker 1: I'm actually happy I'm.
Speaker 2: Gonna live and you know what else, To that point,
Speaker 2: I'll be feeling like, am I allowed to talk about
Speaker 2: how happy I am about boring bitches without bring people
Speaker 2: to death?
Speaker 1: And she'll make it it same like, oh, she thinks
Speaker 1: she you know what I mean?
Speaker 3: Sometimes I'll be having to like, I'm not so open about.
Speaker 1: How exactly how good my love life is. I'm so
Speaker 1: happy you said that. It was like, I haven't said.
Speaker 2: That that out loud because I kind of hate those
Speaker 2: bitches who do that online, and I'm like, are bitches.
Speaker 1: Like space for us?
Speaker 2: But I feel that way genuinely and I have. I've
Speaker 2: kind of like push.
Speaker 1: But why do you guys?
Speaker 3: But why do you guys feel like that someone said
Speaker 3: that to you? Or is this just something like this
Speaker 3: is what you are adopted? I think it's something that
Speaker 3: story though, Is it because maybe you did that to
Speaker 3: other people? Like you felt that way around seeing other
Speaker 3: people happy. NaN's beach Neil, So you're assuming or not.
Speaker 1: Justn't know. For me. Remember that girl that we hated
Speaker 1: on life, I didn't hate her. I just thought she
Speaker 1: was annoying.
Speaker 3: I ain't never been, but I think I think that
Speaker 3: it's there's so many girls that I the girls that
Speaker 3: don't have it definitely outweigh the girls they do, so
Speaker 3: I feel like they don't want to. They just don't
Speaker 3: want to hit a shit because they don't have it yet,
Speaker 3: you know. And it can it can feel or look like,
Speaker 3: oh she thinks she out it, you know, or whatever
Speaker 3: if you got a younger term. But I just I
Speaker 3: don't want to beat that because I've been to the
Speaker 3: girl on the other side that's just like, well, when
Speaker 3: is it going.
Speaker 1: To be my turn? Lord? I see what you're doing
Speaker 1: for others.
Speaker 4: You know.
Speaker 2: But that's why I think it's important that we don't
Speaker 2: take that, because I've recently come out of that because
Speaker 2: I realized it's my own shit too. But I also
Speaker 2: realized it's important that we talk about the happiness and
Speaker 2: the health of the relationship because a lot of people
Speaker 2: don't experience it, and a lot of women are like
Speaker 2: fuck things I've said fucking a lot of times.
Speaker 1: And it's that's a lot of them are. Yeah, I
Speaker 1: don't know.
Speaker 2: What the fuck is going on, but I think it's
Speaker 2: important for women to know that there are.
Speaker 1: Healthy, happy that it exists.
Speaker 2: Yes, it's kind of a responsibility, I mean, and I
Speaker 2: don't think it's our responsibility to think if somebody else
Speaker 2: thinks we're annoying, someone's gonn always think we're annoying. Someone
Speaker 2: thinks I'm annoying right now? Yeah, there was gonna be.
Speaker 1: Like success guilt, like I was struggling before. Now I'm not.
Speaker 2: Someone else is still struggling. Should I not talk about my.
Speaker 1: Success on my journey? Ye?
Speaker 2: Be feeling like that, But that's like living in survival
Speaker 2: and living in a science that you yeah, survivor's guilt,
Speaker 2: and I don't.
Speaker 1: I think that's not healthy.
Speaker 2: And that's a part of the nervous system regulation that
Speaker 2: we're experiencing because we have to talk about it to
Speaker 2: believe it, to know it, so our body knows and
Speaker 2: like other bitches that you.
Speaker 1: Know, like, yeah, marriage is good, it could be good.
Speaker 2: It can be good if you pick the niggas that
Speaker 2: really fucks with you. And then you're not lying to yourself.
Speaker 2: It's the desperation and settling that creates the bullshit.
Speaker 1: There it is right there.
Speaker 3: You got to be motherfucking equally yoke because so many
Speaker 3: bitches and niggas fall in love with the idea of
Speaker 3: a beautiful marriage and a successful relationship, and alla they're
Speaker 3: forgetting that it takes work to have a good relationship.
Speaker 3: You got to actually put the work in. You like
Speaker 3: yourself that too, and you can't depend on another motherfucker
Speaker 3: to make you feel happy and like yourself and make
Speaker 3: you love yourself.
Speaker 1: You know, it's got to come from you first, because.
Speaker 2: A lot of bitches get relationships and then they're like,
Speaker 2: they change and shit for the nigga. Then they don't
Speaker 2: really know who he is, and now you don't know
Speaker 2: who he is. Now everybody confused, and now you're just
Speaker 2: two lost people just dying for companionship, for someone to
Speaker 2: be there, and it's not really the person who's supposed
Speaker 2: to be there, like.
Speaker 1: Freach, So I think I have to also have to
Speaker 1: like the person you're with.
Speaker 3: I think a lot of women think they like the
Speaker 3: person that they're with, but they like what they either
Speaker 3: offer them, they like the way they make them feel,
Speaker 3: but they don't actually like the person, you know. I mean,
Speaker 3: so it's like shit were to fall apart or he
Speaker 3: wasn't able to provide in the way that he.
Speaker 1: Was, would you still like this man? And a lot
Speaker 1: of them are like, actually, I really like the lifestyle
Speaker 1: he provides me. I don't know if I actually liked or.
Speaker 2: The babysitter, or the dinner he made, or like the
Speaker 2: warm body in my bed at night.
Speaker 3: You know what a lot of bitches mess though. They
Speaker 3: forget to They forget to find somebody that can struggle
Speaker 3: well because you know you're gonna have financial struggles, you're
Speaker 3: gonna have deaths in the family, and and you never
Speaker 3: realize how your partner process death until they lost somebody
Speaker 3: close to them, Like, how do you struggle what we
Speaker 3: what we're gonna be looking like when you when you
Speaker 3: functionally depressed? You know, because ship, I'm I think we
Speaker 3: don't all been there. Goddamn it. I ain't too far
Speaker 3: from in my damn SLF. I've been chasing this music
Speaker 3: dream for forever, you know. So you got to find
Speaker 3: somebody who knows how to process disappointment well, because you're
Speaker 3: not gonna unpack your ship on me. I don't deserve it,
Speaker 3: you know.
Speaker 2: It's a life sentence of contagious energy. So yeah, speaking
Speaker 2: of good mom's bad choices, my kids been blowing me
Speaker 2: up since we've been sitting here.
Speaker 3: It's it's emergency, that's my past life. I got for
Speaker 3: working one for home. But my kids don't give a
Speaker 3: damn about any of this. I could answer and tell him, hey, baby,
Speaker 3: I'm in an interview. I'll call you back. Oh you
Speaker 3: in their interview. Okay, I need more Roebucks. Keeps me
Speaker 3: humble though, Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1: How was the transition of you guys blending families? What
Speaker 1: was that like?
Speaker 3: I want to say for my oldest, for Austin, I
Speaker 3: think everybody is we all love each other deeply. We're
Speaker 3: super super close, and I'm the only girl in my house.
Speaker 3: But I think for Austin, I had I had a
Speaker 3: guilty feeling of making him become a big brother all
Speaker 3: of a sudden, because it was just me and Austin
Speaker 3: for so long that when Jay came into the picture
Speaker 3: with his son that he already had too, which they
Speaker 3: instantly clicked. By the way, your two sons, my oldest
Speaker 3: and Jay's son.
Speaker 1: They instantly clicked.
Speaker 3: But mind you, because I met Jay at Austin's dad's house,
Speaker 3: they already knew each other the boy was there. They
Speaker 3: already knew each other because he would go to the
Speaker 3: functions as well. But anyhow, I think I, in my
Speaker 3: own head, I put the pressure on it more than
Speaker 3: more than I Austin even cared to think about it,
Speaker 3: because it would be some nice where I'd be like, Okay, Austin,
Speaker 3: you know Adonis is watching you now, so make sure
Speaker 3: you make good choices and make sure you're not cussing
Speaker 3: in front of him, because I know he cuts when
Speaker 3: he with his friends and share, you know. But I
Speaker 3: think I put I thought more on it, and then
Speaker 3: having to think like, Okay, how do I divide my
Speaker 3: love between a child that's mine and a child who
Speaker 3: I'm now his step mom?
Speaker 1: You know, like that ship and you're trying to create
Speaker 1: a relationship with girl.
Speaker 3: Yeah, And I was like, I don't know if I
Speaker 3: don't I don't know if I know how to be
Speaker 3: a step mama. You know what kind of is there
Speaker 3: a different version of love?
Speaker 2: You know?
Speaker 3: Like girl, I'm the captain of the fucking Overthinker's Club.
Speaker 1: Mom's mom's complicated. Complicated, Well, because you know complication.
Speaker 2: I lovemplicated because we're overthinking about we're hyper aware.
Speaker 1: Of the sensitivity. Yeah.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and sometimes they don't even think about Yeah.
Speaker 3: I think I was just thinking about the other the
Speaker 3: other day. My baby daddy, he has multiple children. Now,
Speaker 3: I was the first. I was the first baby.
Speaker 1: Mama, you got the oldest child. I got the oldest child.
Speaker 2: But we were together for a really long time before
Speaker 2: he had started having other children, and we were together.
Speaker 2: He got another woman pregnant and yeah, and I had
Speaker 2: had She went ahead and had the baby, and so
Speaker 2: I was stressing out about how I was going to
Speaker 2: explain this to my three year old, my.
Speaker 1: Three or four year old together, Okay.
Speaker 3: No, girl, this was this was the inception of good
Speaker 3: mom's bad choices. I became a single mom, and I
Speaker 3: was like, you know, oh, it was a blessing. Ultimately,
Speaker 3: this baby was a blessing. I didn't see that with
Speaker 3: the sign bitch. But I could speak, I could speak.
Speaker 3: I could speak from a positive space now. But at
Speaker 3: the time, I was really like, how am I.
Speaker 1: How is she going to take it? She's going to
Speaker 1: be confused, She's going to be share her where we
Speaker 1: can explain where this other baby came from a stork.
Speaker 3: And I just remember, like it was finally the day
Speaker 3: we were going to tell her, and she came over
Speaker 3: and he came over sound the couch and I was
Speaker 3: just like my baby, and he told her and she
Speaker 3: was like cool, she existive, no, none of the question.
Speaker 1: Okay.
Speaker 3: I was like, okay, we're good, everything's fine.
Speaker 2: Sure, Why did you give a little bit more trauma
Speaker 2: than just a little just a little hair, a little hair,
Speaker 2: I know.
Speaker 1: He was like, see, bitch, I told you. And are
Speaker 1: they close? She close with disabling? Yeah. Yeah, they all
Speaker 1: live kind of all over the place. It definitely be
Speaker 1: us well, because a lot of times we.
Speaker 3: Think what we put our own traumas onto our children
Speaker 3: and think like, oh my god, like whatever happened in
Speaker 3: your childhood, and you remember this exact situation and how
Speaker 3: it impacted me, and so it must also impact my
Speaker 3: child and something.
Speaker 1: No, yes it probably won't. Yes, me and m iball
Speaker 1: be something completely different how we want to. You're gonna
Speaker 1: suck up on some other shit. Yeah, some of the
Speaker 1: ship that you had no idea.
Speaker 3: I'm all right, Yeah, this is exactly why therapy was
Speaker 3: one of the best decisions I've ever made.
Speaker 1: Hence the name of my album. What is it? Yeah,
Speaker 1: let's talk about the album. Yes, girl, I'm so excited
Speaker 1: about it, y'all.
Speaker 3: My annihilators, first of all, they know me for giving
Speaker 3: them real raw content. I ain't never sung about nothing.
Speaker 3: I ain't never directly went through myself or had front
Speaker 3: row seats and like a close friend went through it.
Speaker 3: But I've never spoken from this, I've never been this
Speaker 3: in depth about about this particular part of my journey.
Speaker 3: It's called therapy Wasn't Enough. And I leaned into that
Speaker 3: title because with the help of my team, and but
Speaker 3: I leaned into that title because even though therapy is
Speaker 3: one of the best decisions you can ever make for yourself,
Speaker 3: you still got to put the work in. Therapy is
Speaker 3: only a tool, baby, and you still have to actually
Speaker 3: do it when you're not sitting in that chair, you know.
Speaker 3: And for Jay and I, we met during the apocalypse, girl,
Speaker 3: with nothing going on in the whole world was shut down,
Speaker 3: and there was there was a there was a switch,
Speaker 3: you know, when the world opened back up and you
Speaker 3: could prepare somebody all day long and let them, know, like, hey,
Speaker 3: don't get used to this version of me, because when
Speaker 3: the world opened up, I'm outside.
Speaker 1: I gotta go back to work, you know.
Speaker 3: And I I said that, but then having to live it. Whoa,
Speaker 3: this is what you do, this is who you are.
Speaker 3: This is how many people gonna be in your face.
Speaker 3: This is what you're gonna wear on stage, you know.
Speaker 3: And he's Jamaican, so that is.
Speaker 1: It strict over there.
Speaker 3: He won a type program. He won a type program
Speaker 3: because he's I'm his first love, he's ever been in
Speaker 3: love before. He was a gallous so pussy was easy accessible,
Speaker 3: easily accessible to him. And I'm the first person that
Speaker 3: he's ever.
Speaker 1: You know.
Speaker 3: He put his hoe on the shelf for me, so
Speaker 3: it's precious to have to share me with the world.
Speaker 3: It was tough for him and we we we went,
Speaker 3: We went through some ship girl to get to where
Speaker 3: we are now. This motherfucker beautiful. But what it took
Speaker 3: to get to this space it was, it was It
Speaker 3: was tough. Did you guys do a couple therapy?
Speaker 2: Still?
Speaker 3: Actively he was open to that. No, okay, I was curious,
Speaker 3: black man, exactly how'd you get him in there?
Speaker 1: Uh? It took It took a series of unfortunate events
Speaker 1: for us to finally for him to finally say, Okay,
Speaker 1: maybe you're right, maybe we should take that leap and
Speaker 1: go to therapy. Yes, nigga, we should, you know.
Speaker 3: And thankfully I can say that therapy was a big
Speaker 3: part of what saved us because.
Speaker 1: We almost didn't. We almost didn't make it. It's beautiful
Speaker 1: that he was that he was open to it. What
Speaker 1: about now, like, is he enjoy it?
Speaker 2: Because I feel like sometimes once you get into it,
Speaker 2: they'd be like looking forward to it. Now he's like,
Speaker 2: you're gonna be back in town. Like he's like, I
Speaker 2: think now the best And then when I do some
Speaker 2: ship that's like doctor doctor, doctor h said that you're
Speaker 2: supposed to you know, No, Mamma's that's not how you
Speaker 2: do that.
Speaker 1: Doctor said, you know.
Speaker 3: Like he he's like actually applying the tool into our
Speaker 3: everyday relationship now, So kudos to him.
Speaker 1: That is beautiful. What's your favorite song on the album? Ooh,
Speaker 1: that is such an unfair question, girl, what's the first
Speaker 1: thing that popped out? Choose? Choose.
Speaker 3: I'll go with choose because it's it's just that I
Speaker 3: remember him putting me in a space where he made
Speaker 3: me feel like I had to choose between him or
Speaker 3: the music, and the ship broke my heart because I've
Speaker 3: always prayed for a love like this.
Speaker 2: Y'all about to have me crying on camera, and it's
Speaker 2: a safe space to cry safe. Yeah, I've always asked
Speaker 2: God for a love like this, but I've always asked
Speaker 2: God for the realization of my dream too. So when
Speaker 2: I felt like I was in a tug of war
Speaker 2: between the two, I was just like.
Speaker 1: Well, God, what what is this? This is not what
Speaker 1: you showed me, you know.
Speaker 3: And I chose Choose as the single, the first single
Speaker 3: from the project because I compared it to you know
Speaker 3: how when you're in a bookstore you turn a book
Speaker 3: over and you read the summary of the book. I
Speaker 3: feel like Choose is the summary of the album. So yeah,
Speaker 3: how does that how as a songwriter who writes so
Speaker 3: vulnerably and from the heart, how does that work with
Speaker 3: your within your relationship when like Jay, here's a song
Speaker 3: like that, Like, how do you do you give him
Speaker 3: like warning before it comes out, or you show him like, hey, babe,
Speaker 3: look what I did today.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 3: I chuckled on that because that's exactly what happened with
Speaker 3: this album in particular because ain't, like I said, I
Speaker 3: was nervous because I've never spoke with this in depth
Speaker 3: about my business. So I told him, like he understands
Speaker 3: and knows, anytime something impacts my life, I write it
Speaker 3: down and make a song out of it. He knowed,
Speaker 3: you know, but for him to be the muse, I
Speaker 3: had to, like I had to forewarn him, like, hey,
Speaker 3: you know, I'm gonna write about this shit, you know.
Speaker 1: And he said, Mama's whatever paid the bills period. So
Speaker 1: you know.
Speaker 3: Once I finished and wrapped the album, I came home,
Speaker 3: I set the move for us in the room. I
Speaker 3: lit some candles. We laid in bed together. Not you know,
Speaker 3: we ain't have sex or nothing, but we laid in
Speaker 3: bed together. I played the album. I lit some candles,
Speaker 3: and I was like, I'm going to play this for
Speaker 3: you from start to finish, and let's hold the conversation
Speaker 3: till after, and you let me know how you feel
Speaker 3: about the album. At the end of the album, he
Speaker 3: was like, damn.
Speaker 1: I that's where I took you, Like that's what you know,
Speaker 1: Like he was in hindsight, he was just like, wow,
Speaker 1: I didn't I didn't realize that this was the impact
Speaker 1: that this had on your heart, you know, And he apologized.
Speaker 1: I would have cried.
Speaker 3: He apologized, and he was also very like, he had
Speaker 3: so much admiration for what I was able to do
Speaker 3: with my gift and the story I was able to
Speaker 3: tell of us through using my gift, and I'm super
Speaker 3: very supportive. But he you know, then not fuck up again,
Speaker 3: but he was super He was super supportive and still
Speaker 3: is now because he had to learn how to share
Speaker 3: me with the world. It's not interesting because I'm sure
Speaker 3: you through throughout the process of whatever you guys were
Speaker 3: going through, you expressed yourself. But sometimes it takes a
Speaker 3: different medium for people to really understand and really and
Speaker 3: really to sit with them so they can It's like
Speaker 3: you have to speak a different language and maybe and
Speaker 3: music is that a lot of times for people right
Speaker 3: like this. The language of music really allows people to
Speaker 3: be like, oh, that's what.
Speaker 2: You meant, yeah, or the way you you communicate, the
Speaker 2: way you can what you say a conversation may look
Speaker 2: different than how you expressed it in a song, because
Speaker 2: that's your your your your paintbrush.
Speaker 3: Well, when I was saying it is like he didn't.
Speaker 3: Stevie wanted to say the bas music is a language.
Speaker 3: Music is a world within itself with a language we
Speaker 3: all understand. Music translates through people who don't even speak,
Speaker 3: you know, the same language. I could sell out a
Speaker 3: show in fucking Germany and not understand a word they're saying.
Speaker 1: You know. But I think when he was able.
Speaker 3: To hear it through through the music because he knows
Speaker 3: the connection that that I that I have with my creativity.
Speaker 3: Uh yeah, I feel like damn so all I had
Speaker 3: to do was sing to this motherfucker you nigga. When
Speaker 3: I'm yelling, you don't hear me, and I and I
Speaker 3: and I also like to say an argument is the
Speaker 3: loudest conversation two people can have, but they can't even
Speaker 3: hear each other because you I'm yelling at you, you
Speaker 3: yelling at me. Nothing is being received, you know. So yeah,
Speaker 3: I think I think he got a better perspective when
Speaker 3: he heard it, when he heard the album.
Speaker 1: And you set the scene too, like you set the vibe.
Speaker 2: Yeah, like yeah, you know, like that probably was really
Speaker 2: important for him to feel comfortable, for y'all to be
Speaker 2: laying in bed together feeling connected.
Speaker 1: Yes, And then being able to receive it.
Speaker 3: And I had that idea because I wanted to relax
Speaker 3: his nervous system first, according to how he might have
Speaker 3: felt when he heard, you know, because some of the
Speaker 3: songs is a white woman, you know, like your baby,
Speaker 3: I'm just woke this joint on this next song, this
Speaker 3: next song.
Speaker 1: But no, yeah, it was received very well.
Speaker 3: I'm proud of him. I'm proud of our growth. I'm
Speaker 3: proud of where we are, and I'm happy to say like, yeah,
Speaker 3: sh it wasn't beautiful in the beginning, but we it's
Speaker 3: we good now. We made it through that storm, you know.
Speaker 3: And I say that with my chest. I say that
Speaker 3: was so much with so much pride.
Speaker 1: Thank you for sharing. I think a lot of people
Speaker 1: need to hear that, because yeah, it's important for people
Speaker 1: to know that there's a journey that's involved and it's
Speaker 1: not always perfect, even at the beginning. So I think
Speaker 1: that's beautiful that you guys were able to move forward
Speaker 1: and that I'm curious to know your creative.
Speaker 3: Process, like when do you how do you write songs?
Speaker 3: We had teacher Moses on a few weeks ago and
Speaker 3: she was saying, how with.
Speaker 1: How fine sales o Lord, and she would say her
Speaker 1: creative process was like she need to be the fuck alone.
Speaker 1: Like She's like, I don't like being in studios with
Speaker 1: a bunch of people. I will underperform.
Speaker 2: Yeah, Like I would be in rooms with big people
Speaker 2: looking at me, and I'd be like, yeah, looking.
Speaker 1: At you, look at Yeah. I imagine, like that's a
Speaker 1: lot of pressure for an artist and a writer.
Speaker 3: I've grown now to work well with others, but in
Speaker 3: the in the beginning, I was I was definitely a
Speaker 3: loaner writer for sure, for sure. But I think that's
Speaker 3: because I ain't never again, I ain't never wrote about
Speaker 3: nothing that I ain't never experienced the experience. So it's
Speaker 3: it's difficult for me to get in the studio and
Speaker 3: and just make ship up. I'm not that kind of
Speaker 3: I'm an experienced writer, so growing through this industry, damn
Speaker 3: that ship smell good.
Speaker 1: Not anymore, not anymore. But what was I saying? You
Speaker 1: a loan writer, but you've learned to uh work well
Speaker 1: with others, right, Yeah?
Speaker 3: And uh because you're you write from a lived experience. Yeah,
Speaker 3: I can't.
Speaker 1: I've never been able to get in the lab and.
Speaker 3: Just like make make some ship up that I ain't,
Speaker 3: you know, But now that I have pen pals, shout
Speaker 3: out my girl ro Kad who wrote I see you,
Speaker 3: Cocle Jones and Spike the Designer. I have pin pals
Speaker 3: that they know. They know my get down, they know
Speaker 3: what I want to talk about. They know how I
Speaker 3: how I like my delivery to be. And a lot
Speaker 3: of the times I freestyle things and I have you
Speaker 3: should see my voice notes, girl, I freestyle shit, and
Speaker 3: then when I get in the studio, I just run
Speaker 3: through beats and whichever.
Speaker 1: Which one matches. Yeah, you have to feel at first,
Speaker 1: and then look at this, oh good, oh oh, it
Speaker 1: goes all the way to twenty twenty three. I believe
Speaker 1: those jobs shit that I just come up with.
Speaker 3: And then I'm like, okay, when I get to the studio,
Speaker 3: I'm gonna this is twenty oh, twenty eighteen.
Speaker 1: And spoiled loyal, Yeah.
Speaker 3: And then I name them like you know, but anyhow, Yeah.
Speaker 3: I usually always got some material.
Speaker 1: Up here, though, and then you just apply it to
Speaker 1: the track. I just applied. Has this always been your passion?
Speaker 2: I always don't since you're a little girl, but I
Speaker 2: grew up absolutely absolutely.
Speaker 3: I've been saying since I was two years old. I
Speaker 3: don't know how to do nothing else, y'all.
Speaker 1: This is all I got. You come from a musical family,
Speaker 1: I do.
Speaker 3: My mama was a songstress, a gospel songstress, and my
Speaker 3: grandfather was the lead singer in a gospel cortet group. Nice,
Speaker 3: so I got it from him. Jim Humpfriedo was my
Speaker 3: best friend. He was my favorite toy when I was
Speaker 3: a kid. Me and my papa was very very close.
Speaker 3: He died in my arms, actually, and then the gift
Speaker 3: was passed down from him to my mama, and then
Speaker 3: from my mama to me. My sisters can't here to
Speaker 3: note to say they life really no the only one.
Speaker 1: It's just me. What about your son?
Speaker 3: Austin can't here to know to say his wife either,
Speaker 3: but he can dance. Now you know who I think?
Speaker 3: Can I show y'all this video of my baby singing.
Speaker 3: I think Apollo has the gift. Apollo is the baby.
Speaker 3: I think he's gonna have it because my mama told
Speaker 3: me when I was a little girl, I would walk
Speaker 3: around the house doing that the century twenty one.
Speaker 1: But as a baby though, and Apollo does the same thing.
Speaker 3: Let me show you how this video such a mimyet
Speaker 3: I think he does. And then he'll walk around the
Speaker 3: house and just like just do little throughs.
Speaker 1: Where to go? It went out, girl, and that was
Speaker 1: the last match. I got no lighter. I just gave up, okay,
Speaker 1: and he'll just make up sheet.
Speaker 3: I'm looking for it. So I got so many baby
Speaker 3: videos in his damn phone. He'll just make up stuff,
Speaker 3: you know, like he'll why you look for that?
Speaker 2: I'm wondering how has that been having such an age gap, because,
Speaker 2: oh girl.
Speaker 3: Because I'm scared, because you want to have another baby,
Speaker 3: I'm going to you should I love babies again? It
Speaker 3: was me overthinking it. They love each other, girl. Them
Speaker 3: babies is so them kids are so close. Apollo think
Speaker 3: he a big boy because because of his big brothers.
Speaker 3: He's and his brothers are damn. I can't find it, y'all.
Speaker 3: But he's since video where he was in my office
Speaker 3: playing with my guitar and then once he realized the
Speaker 3: guitar actually made noise, he tried to follow the tone.
Speaker 1: Of the It was the most beautiful thing. I was like, oh, ship,
Speaker 1: and I'm watching him in the corner like and the
Speaker 1: Jay is like, yeah, yeah, I'm gonna manage my boy. Nigga,
Speaker 1: you don't know nothing about music? Do you write for
Speaker 1: other artists?
Speaker 3: I will, like, I haven't yet. I've been to writing
Speaker 3: camps and ship like that, but nothing I like.
Speaker 1: I went.
Speaker 3: I've been to Rihanna's writing camp and it's gotten so
Speaker 3: far to where they actually called back and was like, oh, yeah, yeah,
Speaker 3: we love this song. We're gonna take it. We're gonna
Speaker 3: spend like ten times. But yeah, I do writing camps
Speaker 3: and when if one of the motherfucker's land and hey,
Speaker 3: go me, but yeah, no, it hasn't happened yet. I
Speaker 3: can't find a bit y'all. Fuck, But yeah, I think
Speaker 3: I think Apollo is going to be a singer follows
Speaker 3: for Yeah, I think he's going to be a singer
Speaker 3: that'll be lovely. And Austin is fifteen or about to
Speaker 3: be fifteen, and Adonna's is seventh.
Speaker 2: Austin anas Yeah, I like this and that wasn't played either,
Speaker 2: but obviously that's why I feel like he's my soul
Speaker 2: make girl.
Speaker 1: When you know, you know, you know, you know, we
Speaker 1: know today we made it my baby daddy house. You
Speaker 1: got the little ship up here.
Speaker 2: Ship fine, I mean I think there are magical moments
Speaker 2: that happened that God says, yeah, bitch, this is. I
Speaker 2: know you'd be dreaming about other niggas, but this is
Speaker 2: is the sparkly Yeah, how is your birth?
Speaker 1: Oh? Did that? Was it? But did you have a
Speaker 1: vaginal birth? That's a story. No, I have to have
Speaker 1: cesareans with with my kids because my too tight. I can't.
Speaker 2: I can't push kids today. It's just too smile. But no,
Speaker 2: I really have to have my kids. And I almost I.
Speaker 1: Codd with Oh really, yeah, I had a coded one percent. Yeah,
Speaker 1: like I died a little bit. I came. I had
Speaker 1: a uterine rupture.
Speaker 3: Oh no, And you know, I didn't realize how dangerous
Speaker 3: it was until my doctor brought me a paper to sign.
Speaker 3: And on this paper you have to acknowledge that there
Speaker 3: is a ninety nine percent chance that you can die
Speaker 3: if you have a uterine rupture during.
Speaker 1: They gave it to you mid labor.
Speaker 3: No prior to because my choice was to do a
Speaker 3: v back. Let me back up, I wanted to opted
Speaker 3: to do a v back. Where a v back, for
Speaker 3: those of you who don't know, is when you have
Speaker 3: a vaginal birth after a C section Okay, there's risks
Speaker 3: with that. I just so happened to fall into that
Speaker 3: one percent of women who have a uterine rupture while
Speaker 3: attempting a v back. So in the middle of pushing,
Speaker 3: I had a balloon. Did you do you know that
Speaker 3: is I had a fucking balloon put up. That's the
Speaker 3: worst they try to.
Speaker 1: They try to make it for you and dilate for you.
Speaker 3: I women, I would advise not to get that ship.
Speaker 1: I hate that. It was so uncomfortable anyway, the balloon
Speaker 1: shook some ship up down there.
Speaker 3: Okay, and uh, as I was attempting to push, I
Speaker 3: started to bleed out. I had to be rushed back
Speaker 3: for an emergency c section. As they were trushing me
Speaker 3: back there, bitch, I'm just I'm just slipping away, Jay, because.
Speaker 1: You're losing so much blood. Jay was like I have
Speaker 1: to come with her, you know.
Speaker 3: They telling him, sir, please stay back because now he's
Speaker 3: at a point where they're trying to, you know, save
Speaker 3: my life. And I remember being I'm probably gonna end
Speaker 3: up crying again, y'all. I remember getting being taken back
Speaker 3: to the o R and I can I started to
Speaker 3: smell my grandpa. I started to smell him in the
Speaker 3: hallway and in the room with me, and.
Speaker 1: I was just feeling like this. I can't even describe it.
Speaker 3: I don't know if I don't even know if I
Speaker 3: went to the I don't know what the other side is,
Speaker 3: you know what I mean. But I just felt like
Speaker 3: I wasn't here. So I remember when they finally let
Speaker 3: Jay in. He was whispering in my ear.
Speaker 1: He was like, Mamas, please don't leave me, Please stay
Speaker 1: here with me. We have a son, we have a
Speaker 1: son coming. Don't leave me. Don't leave me.
Speaker 3: And I hear him on this side. But then I'm
Speaker 3: smelling and experience with my grandfather on one side, and
Speaker 3: I can hear my doctor going in on everybody in
Speaker 3: the room. I had a black black women, if you know,
Speaker 3: you know, get you a black o beach g y n.
Speaker 3: Get you a black woman to bring your black baby
Speaker 3: into this white world.
Speaker 1: Okay. She was on everybody's ass. I heard her saying, like,
Speaker 1: this is my patient. I did not give you permission
Speaker 1: to put the balloon. Nobody called me, nobody asked me for.
Speaker 1: She was getting on everybody's ask girl.
Speaker 3: Come to find out, I could have a whole I
Speaker 3: could have had a whole like lawsuit against the doctor
Speaker 3: that put the balloon in my because he went against
Speaker 3: my doctor's orders.
Speaker 1: Wow, but anyway, Yeah, I had a unil rupture and
Speaker 1: I damn there, I damn it checked up out of here,
Speaker 1: trying to get a follow here and then how did that?
Speaker 2: What is the process after you're in Uterian rupture? Do
Speaker 2: they have to stitch it? You just have to be
Speaker 2: on bedrest and hills.
Speaker 3: Naturally, I can no longer carry a baby full term.
Speaker 3: I have to yes, yes, to answer your question. I
Speaker 3: was stitched. I had stitches. They stitched me up, and
Speaker 3: I had an extra two weeks of recovery after since here,
Speaker 3: you know, it's six weeks, so my recovery time was eight.
Speaker 1: So it was eight, you know, eight very long weeks
Speaker 1: with no.
Speaker 3: Dick and no or no old skill anything, no motor skills,
Speaker 3: no nothing.
Speaker 1: I wore diaper for like, I had to wear a
Speaker 1: diaper the entire time, was the first thing? Like why
Speaker 1: was that the first thing? She said? Oh?
Speaker 3: I wore diaper for like that whole I was still
Speaker 3: bleeding that whole entire time.
Speaker 1: But I can no longer carry a baby full term.
Speaker 1: I have to deliver at thirty four weeks.
Speaker 3: I cannot go past thirty five weeks because literally my
Speaker 3: users just can't hold the weight of a full term baby.
Speaker 3: I will die if I try to carry my baby
Speaker 3: full term. It's it's an indefinite like she made me.
Speaker 3: She made it very clear, and I signed the paperwork.
Speaker 2: You know.
Speaker 1: So it's a scary fucking thing bringing kids into this world.
Speaker 1: But you can do it. I mean you can do it.
Speaker 1: I'm not trying to.
Speaker 3: Scare any mothers that are expecting, sorry, but you know,
Speaker 3: stories like this are important for women to hear. They
Speaker 3: gotta know, they gotta know. And I stand ten toes
Speaker 3: down on this ship. I black mamas should have black
Speaker 3: women that should have black doctors, preferably a black woman
Speaker 3: obg y N.
Speaker 1: But I don't. I ain't without it.
Speaker 3: They don't try to save us the highest birth death
Speaker 3: rate black women. Don't be no donu, bitch, don't be
Speaker 3: no donor. That happens because they're not saving you. I
Speaker 3: want everybody to know that and hear me.
Speaker 2: I took off my license. Yes, as a person, do
Speaker 2: not do not volunteer.
Speaker 1: To donate organs, don't do it.
Speaker 2: Not going to conspiracy and also and also take your
Speaker 2: placenta home. I did to take take your ship, bring
Speaker 2: it container and take your ship home.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I took it. I ate it.
Speaker 3: I mean I made it into pills and popped the pills.
Speaker 3: Took the pills just be recovery. But I think because
Speaker 3: my birth experience was so traumatic, it really didn't make
Speaker 3: much of a difference for me.
Speaker 1: But yeah, I did that. I got my pcent to
Speaker 1: turn into pills.
Speaker 2: I planted a tree and I was going, if I
Speaker 2: deliver my freezer for months. You planted a tree, so
Speaker 2: is it has it?
Speaker 1: It's huge? Really? Do you have a picture? I have
Speaker 1: one on her birthday. I'll show you.
Speaker 2: I'll try to take one every every time in front
Speaker 2: of my gay daddy's parents house.
Speaker 1: And I remember it's around birthday. I take you, like,
Speaker 1: look at you. I love to see. That's the dope.
Speaker 3: Ass idea play show, listen to That's cute. That's realde though.
Speaker 1: I love it.
Speaker 3: So we have a little game we like to play
Speaker 3: with our guests. I know we're going to get out
Speaker 3: of here soon. We've been we can chat. I can
Speaker 3: chat with you all day.
Speaker 1: Yeah, so dope, thank you. We'll play this game on
Speaker 1: our show. It's called trigger. Okay and oh.
Speaker 3: Okay, And basically I want to say a word and
Speaker 3: then you just say the first thing that comes to mind. Okay,
Speaker 3: don't overthink it, all right? Bad habits me? Religion, God,
Speaker 3: last time you had sex?
Speaker 1: How long I've been in ladys Well? Favorite porn category?
Speaker 1: Not that face. It's to save space. Kind kind of lingos,
Speaker 1: kind of lingis Did I say that? Right?
Speaker 2: Is this this?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 1: So you like watching other women eat other woman?
Speaker 2: No?
Speaker 1: No, no, means watching women getting ahead? Okay, watching it
Speaker 1: getting it?
Speaker 4: Yeah?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 2: The love language, food, deal breaker, no reciprocity, toxic trait, cussing,
Speaker 2: favorite exposition, I'll get do, turn on my man, turn
Speaker 2: off pickles?
Speaker 1: Turn what pickles? Are you turn off? Okay?
Speaker 3: Okay, right, celebrity crush, I ain't.
Speaker 1: Got I want to do. No, no, no, he's got
Speaker 1: a man. No, No, you don't know.
Speaker 2: I never heard of it, never rush, not in my vocabulary.
Speaker 3: Therapy wasn't enough? Uh, best the device You've ever got
Speaker 3: to trust? My gift, guilty pleasure, chocolate, bad choices.
Speaker 1: Starting arguments on purpect, toxic.
Speaker 3: Sting, arguments on purpose, dilator do this sometimes just to
Speaker 3: be yeah, just to be a break.
Speaker 1: Come spoiled. Jay got me so spoiled, So you know
Speaker 1: you're doing it. You're like, I'm gonna start argument right now.
Speaker 1: Sometimes I sometimes I hope I want. Sometimes sometimes I just.
Speaker 3: Like, yeah, favorite artists, favorite artist Brandy hands down, and
Speaker 3: she knows it too, and.
Speaker 1: You know it too. I love her. You know what,
Speaker 1: I never say never album. I could play that ship
Speaker 1: on repeat for the rest of my mother. Have you
Speaker 1: heard her new? Y'all listen to K's album. I haven't.
Speaker 1: I just came out. I haven't heard it now. She
Speaker 1: got a song with Brandy.
Speaker 3: As I know, Kaylani put All every vocal forward listen
Speaker 3: is an absolute animal like she's she don't play with
Speaker 3: her vocally, but she was. I was just said the Billboard, uh,
Speaker 3: Women in Music Awards Awards with her.
Speaker 1: She was so fucking kind. She was like, y'all, it's
Speaker 1: like two me and teen. She was like two of
Speaker 1: my favorite girls.
Speaker 2: In R and B right now, girl, may I might
Speaker 2: come out of lesbian retirement for in the community. I
Speaker 2: know that's what saying.
Speaker 1: I am. I you know, dabble, but.
Speaker 3: She's she's awesome, man, that song she got with Brandy.
Speaker 3: My god, Brandy gave us old Brandy Beck record. She
Speaker 3: gave us Never Say Never Brandy on that record. Really
Speaker 3: absolutely when you listen to the album, listen to the
Speaker 3: whole album, but listen to that first before you listen
Speaker 3: to any.
Speaker 1: Other song noted. Yeah, Oh my god. I was listening
Speaker 1: to Angel in Disguise the other day. I was like,
Speaker 1: forget about quite strange the way say yes name when
Speaker 1: you're looking. Oh, I see the love Candy nice.
Speaker 2: Comes so many hits, he says, I forget, But yeah,
Speaker 2: it's just so smooth.
Speaker 1: It's like she ain't even really trying, like a throwback Brandy,
Speaker 1: Like just oh my god, cause you go to Vegas.
Speaker 1: Oh god, I love.
Speaker 2: Brandy in the car Brandy, we want, we want Vegas,
Speaker 2: we want.
Speaker 1: So are you guys to see Jesz Hell? Yeah, Jesus
Speaker 1: in Vegas?
Speaker 2: Oh okay, Vegas, Christ and Usher, Christ and Asher you're
Speaker 2: going to do now?
Speaker 1: I've seen Chris who just made out? So I made
Speaker 1: out with Crazy. You went up to this It was
Speaker 1: one of the girls on the stage. No, it's back
Speaker 1: in the day.
Speaker 2: I'm just I was just no, I haven't got super excited.
Speaker 2: She said you can, Chris, I did, Yes, it was
Speaker 2: it was a lot of bitch. I should never tell
Speaker 2: anybody else. That's been a lot time. Every time I
Speaker 2: was like, I know he could have been my dad.
Speaker 2: I'm like, yes, still, I'm sorry. But why why aren't
Speaker 2: you going to the concert? What does that have to
Speaker 2: why not?
Speaker 1: What does do with I saw the prices. They're kind
Speaker 1: of crazy. Also, I saw Usher twice. I get it.
Speaker 1: I mean, if someone says here's a ticket to go
Speaker 1: see Usher and Chris.
Speaker 2: Brown, I'm gonna put my shirt on and I'm gonna
Speaker 2: go somewhere, like if it just lines up. But like,
Speaker 2: I'm not spending a thousand dollars to see Kristen thousand,
Speaker 2: seven hundred dollars one ticket.
Speaker 1: That's what I saw on line. Oh wait, you gotta wait.
Speaker 1: But I'm cheap. You got to wait.
Speaker 2: You never come by the tickets, right because you know what?
Speaker 2: Also you know what, Yeah, I guess, I guess. I
Speaker 2: guess stopping cheap. I mean, hi, right, that's that's just
Speaker 2: that's high. But I'm spending for art because I also
Speaker 2: wanted to go see Flow Entry, and I know Chris
Speaker 2: Brown is gonna put on a show. I was just
Speaker 2: gonna say, but you know why they don't slack on production, baby,
Speaker 2: they don't.
Speaker 3: And I appreciate production. Yeah, they give you a full
Speaker 3: show and they did ye in the goddamn and she
Speaker 3: and they work on their apps.
Speaker 1: They be greased. I mean yeah. I then like no,
Speaker 1: I didn't mean like like like I'm listening speaking of this.
Speaker 1: I have a question.
Speaker 2: You know they remember that girl went on stage and
Speaker 2: and her boyfriend, her man like dumped her. I think
Speaker 2: it was her fiance or something or her husband. There
Speaker 2: was a controversy because a girl got on stage and
Speaker 2: Chris Chris and.
Speaker 3: I remember that and he was an audience like, and
Speaker 3: I wrote in the comments she should.
Speaker 1: Get a pass. I mean in the.
Speaker 2: Moment, like if you're if you're on stage with the
Speaker 2: air like make out babe, do it for the team,
Speaker 2: open your mouth in.
Speaker 1: Mouth, wait no Monday, and you haven't none of it.
Speaker 2: If there's every time we give you a hat pass,
Speaker 2: it's like, so you could be a star.
Speaker 1: I know, such a bou.
Speaker 3: I know such I would have made up again and
Speaker 3: and I'm sorry you got one of the cool Jamaicans aside.
Speaker 2: I do oh wow, yeah, I can't confirm it tonight,
Speaker 2: if you would be okay with that, I'm pretty sure
Speaker 2: we had this conversation.
Speaker 1: But I'm like, come on stage. But I do have
Speaker 1: a very come on, I do have a stage. No,
Speaker 1: it's a stage stage now, I'm in the performance. Now
Speaker 1: I feel about the stage going for this shop must
Speaker 1: go on. Na, Okay, I mean, but I can't.
Speaker 2: I also come from the valley, you know, I just don't.
Speaker 1: Girl, we make out like, I don't know why. Chris
Speaker 1: is his tongue a mouth.
Speaker 2: I know he was very, hes very, his big dick energy,
Speaker 2: he confident.
Speaker 1: I'm just like, you don't know what his mouth's a bit.
Speaker 1: He got money. If he catches something, he can pay. Again,
Speaker 1: I cannot ship. He did is a regular oil. Anyway,
Speaker 1: he was kissing a lot of bitches because speaking which.
Speaker 2: Sing kissing and bitches and penicillin, insurance, planned parenthood.
Speaker 1: Give me horries for us today. Stories. I got fingered
Speaker 1: in church one time. That's so bad. Oh my god,
Speaker 1: I love it. My god, church. Were you an adult
Speaker 1: or are you mean? My kids say that I'm not
Speaker 1: gonna watch it, Okay, good mom's bad choices.
Speaker 3: No, I was, I was. I was I was a teenager.
Speaker 3: I definitely was an adult.
Speaker 2: Like if you were like it was like last week, No,
Speaker 2: I was doing.
Speaker 1: I was at a church I was at a church
Speaker 1: camp thing over the summer time. And church camp doesn't count.
Speaker 3: It's the camp this one time in band camp. Nah,
Speaker 3: I was at a church camp thing.
Speaker 1: I was.
Speaker 3: I was a teenage girl and I had a crush
Speaker 3: on We had crush a crush on each other, you know,
Speaker 3: uh we just yeah, so at.
Speaker 2: Least it was an anointed Jesus approved finger bag.
Speaker 1: Was in the church a holy finger bang. No, it's not.
Speaker 2: But couturis is the only thing on the body that's
Speaker 2: primari primary only thing.
Speaker 1: The thing is just to pleasusure. Yeah, it's because we're
Speaker 1: spposed to experience pleasure. It's hotly we are the holy clit.
Speaker 1: I mean, I say, what you tried to do. It's God.
Speaker 1: It's science. She's convincing. Yeah, but it's no, she ain't
Speaker 1: true because it's God. I don't know, right, it's holy.
Speaker 2: It's a temple period, but it's a whole lee cold,
Speaker 2: it's a holy hole. We got to move off anyway,
Speaker 2: And I I ain't proud of it, but they made
Speaker 2: me share. I'm proud of it. For you, friend, I
Speaker 2: take away this. I rebuke to guilt and shame. You're
Speaker 2: just a teenager. You're being exploracious. Yeah, okay, I was
Speaker 2: just figuring me out. Yeah, the justice what is this?
Speaker 1: Yeah? So I just pulled the card for the collective
Speaker 1: of energies. Okay. So it can either be for whoever's
Speaker 1: listening the energy of the show. Maybe this is for you,
Speaker 1: Maybe it's not.
Speaker 2: If it doesn't doesn't and they let it go, the
Speaker 2: justice card, like we haven't pulled this. The justice card
Speaker 2: represents justice, fairness, truth, and the law. You're being called
Speaker 2: to account for the actions and will be judged accordingly.
Speaker 2: If you have acted in alignment with your higher self
Speaker 2: and for the greater good of others, you have nothing
Speaker 2: to worry about. However, if you haven't, you will be
Speaker 2: called out and made to own up to your actions.
Speaker 2: If this has you shaking in your boots, no not,
Speaker 2: that's the justice card isn't as black and white as
Speaker 2: you may think. A level of compassion and understanding a
Speaker 2: company justice, And although you may have done something you regret,
Speaker 2: this card suggests that you will be treated fairly and
Speaker 2: without bias. Be ready to take responsibility for your actions
Speaker 2: and stand accountable for the ensuing consequences. If you seek justice,
Speaker 2: then the justice card is a positive sign that it
Speaker 2: will indeed be served. Sign that it will indeed be
Speaker 2: served for you. Sorry, you may be part of the
Speaker 2: legal case. We're waiting final judgment for the from the
Speaker 2: courts or a governing body or institution. It really will
Speaker 2: be passed down shortly. Once the decision is made, you
Speaker 2: must accept it and move on. There are no retrials,
Speaker 2: second chances with the upright justice card. It appears when
Speaker 2: you need to make an important choice with the potential
Speaker 2: for long term repercussions. Be aware of the impact of
Speaker 2: your decisions will have on your well being and the
Speaker 2: well being of others.
Speaker 1: Good mom's bad choices, Baby, Okay, my dude got a warrant.
Speaker 1: The war is gonna be fine. Didn't a no show?
Speaker 1: A no show that I never want to court?
Speaker 2: Or you can't just pay pay for that? I don't
Speaker 2: fucking know I need to. I guess I should look
Speaker 2: into it now.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's important. We're gonna need to look into that.
Speaker 2: When you get all right cool, we don't need to
Speaker 2: be we don't need to see an eye on the news.
Speaker 1: Please. Texas is a weird place, so it surely is,
Speaker 1: are you Houston? From Houston? Texas is so.
Speaker 3: Unfair as far as as far as well, you know
Speaker 3: what we got, we ain't got no uh capital text
Speaker 3: and uh I talk.
Speaker 1: I can talk my ship. But Houston I call it
Speaker 1: a recession proof city because.
Speaker 3: You can no matter where the economic calamity is, you
Speaker 3: can survive in Houston.
Speaker 1: I've heard that. I like Houston. Oh, thank you for
Speaker 1: coming to visit us here. Thank y'all for having me.
Speaker 3: Your business crazy y'all are so funny.
Speaker 1: Y'all are such a good time. Thank you for having me.
Speaker 1: Wait before we get out of here, can you share
Speaker 1: the information? Yes?
Speaker 3: I can hmm. Don't let the pressures of social media
Speaker 3: make you feel like you're not doing enough or make
Speaker 3: you feel like you're not enough. And also don't let
Speaker 3: your birthdays make you feel like you're running out of
Speaker 3: town because I would do that to myself. Okay, I'm
Speaker 3: about to be thirty six. I haven't done this, this,
Speaker 3: and this yet. I think it's truly all in God's time. Yeah,
Speaker 3: So don't let social media make you feel like you're
Speaker 3: not doing enough. Don't let your birthday, your age, your age.
Speaker 3: I think that you're running out of time. Yep, I
Speaker 3: shay that right.
Speaker 1: I believe every birthday. Yeah, we don't do. We don't do.
Speaker 1: We don't say hapy birtha anymore. We only listen to
Speaker 1: busy signal. Happy birthday, I'm a friend, Happy birthday, I'm
Speaker 1: a friend. I cut out the other song. Oh yeah,
Speaker 1: it's done. It's in an age period. That's good. Well,
Speaker 1: thank you, thank you so much. Thank you for coming on.
Speaker 1: Make sure you will.
Speaker 3: Actually, I would love for you to share where our
Speaker 3: people can find your album, where they can find you
Speaker 3: all the things. Yes, absolutely, On socials it's in Naya
Speaker 3: I n a yah. But on TikTok and Facebook it's
Speaker 3: in Naya underscore lamis l a m I s album
Speaker 3: Therapy wasn't enough on the way, Hey.
Speaker 1: When did it come out? You have to release it yet?
Speaker 1: I don't know.
Speaker 2: To be gg okayg on the album real song though, Yeah,
Speaker 2: looking forward to it.
Speaker 1: Thank you, that's exciting. Congratulations, yes, congratulations exagement on the
Speaker 1: new baby and grandma FuG he follow you up this.
Speaker 2: New ships here four years Thank you girl.
Speaker 1: I appreciate y'all. It's just so dope.
Speaker 3: Yeah, But I know, as an artist like you put
Speaker 3: a lot of we put a lot of effort into
Speaker 3: your creations and you're not you're not independent, are you?
Speaker 1: Our empires your empire, but.
Speaker 3: Just just putting all of your love and your blood,
Speaker 3: sweat and tears out there for the world to receive.
Speaker 3: So I'm just I'm hoping that you get everything back
Speaker 3: in twenty twofold. Thank you the work that you put in,
Speaker 3: because you're bearing your soul and that's a gift, and
Speaker 3: so thank you for allowing us into your gift. We
Speaker 3: got to cut the camera, missed that mom makeing natives.
Speaker 1: We need, we need that. It's hard, it's hard out here.
Speaker 3: We put our put our blood, swind tears out and
Speaker 3: we just don't know what if people are gonna hear it,
Speaker 3: if they're going to give a fuck, And we need
Speaker 3: we need, we need affirmations creative for y'all, affirmation, same
Speaker 3: for y'all. I love how y'all give the moms a
Speaker 3: safe space. I was just remember I was telling you
Speaker 3: out there sometimes we need to be able to say
Speaker 3: what the fuck is on our minds and and and
Speaker 3: smoke fucking weed and have what is this again, Carol? Yeah,
Speaker 3: you know, just freedom without the judgment. Just because we're
Speaker 3: responsible for our little, broke ass human beings, we still
Speaker 3: get to be ourselves. So I applied y'all for this
Speaker 3: platform and giving us a safe space like this.
Speaker 1: Thank you so much. It's our pleasure's dope.
Speaker 3: Well, thank you for joining us for another episode of
Speaker 3: Good Mom's Bad Choices.
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Speaker 1: I love you, I love you, I love you, I
Speaker 1: love you. Thanks than I'm gonna be so good. Can't
Speaker 1: you tell? I went through a drought. That's until I
Speaker 1: found out well, may might have.
Speaker 5: Been no art.
Speaker 4: That used to be broken tail now got the blues
Speaker 4: dancing like yeah say justll throat.
Speaker 1: Shots on the top and it's got We're in our voices.
Speaker 4: Patriarchy catch it in the box to exploit its women
Speaker 4: put the ping and power, so what's pointing to stay?
Speaker 1: Want me to be good? So I make bad choice.
Speaker 1: This bad mom not a.
Speaker 4: Bad mom, but a bad mom. Peter's seeing put cannapus
Speaker 4: in their bathb On walked in bosses camp and I
Speaker 4: blewis cat ball tive dog.
Speaker 1: Now I'm immune to the cat.
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Speaker 4: dollar sign. Mother, rent the louver when two, it's like
Speaker 4: a water sign where you're rent the winter essential will
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