WEBVTT - If you have to rush, there isn't time

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio. Good Morning,

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<v Speaker 1>This is Laura, Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. Today's

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<v Speaker 1>tip is that if you have to rush to do

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<v Speaker 1>something that isn't incredibly important, there isn't time to do it,

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<v Speaker 1>best to reschedule it to a time when you can

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<v Speaker 1>do it calmly. Regular Before Breakfast listeners will recall that

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<v Speaker 1>I very recently interviewed Jennifree, an ADHD expert, for this podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>She mentioned in our interview that many people with ADHD

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<v Speaker 1>feel like they are constantly in a fight or flight mindset.

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<v Speaker 1>They are behind or something should have happened, so, lacking

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<v Speaker 1>a sense of safety, they rush through things trying to

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<v Speaker 1>pack more in. This can manifest and things like thinking

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<v Speaker 1>I need to empty the dishwasher before I leave and

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<v Speaker 1>then being ten minutes late and rushing to wherever they

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<v Speaker 1>are going. Better to empty the dishwasher later. Jenna repeats

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<v Speaker 1>the phrase if you have to rush, there isn't time.

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<v Speaker 1>I think this is a very wise phrase. Many people

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<v Speaker 1>who aren't living with ADHD or other neurodiversities can still

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<v Speaker 1>feel like we are constantly behind, and sometimes there are

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<v Speaker 1>things that would have been good to do, but should,

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<v Speaker 1>as Jenna pointed out, is not a helpful word. Perhaps

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<v Speaker 1>you should have done a task earlier, but you didn't.

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<v Speaker 1>Now what fighting reality tends not to go very well.

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<v Speaker 1>Almost nothing is improved by rushing through it. Speeding might

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<v Speaker 1>save you a minute or two, maybe, but it puts

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<v Speaker 1>you and other drivers at risk. When people rush to appointments,

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<v Speaker 1>sometimes they go to the wrong place or park in

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<v Speaker 1>a spot where they get ticketed or towed, and that's

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<v Speaker 1>just going to lead to more problems. I think it

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<v Speaker 1>is a great idea to empty the dishwasher in the morning.

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<v Speaker 1>That's what we do in my house, but it is

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<v Speaker 1>built into the morning routine and schedule. If you haven't

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<v Speaker 1>allotted time to it, then rushing to do it and

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<v Speaker 1>then rushing where you are going isn't going to make

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<v Speaker 1>you more effective. It will just make you feel frazzled.

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<v Speaker 1>If you have to rush, there isn't time now. Sometimes

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<v Speaker 1>it is really important to do something and it needs

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<v Speaker 1>to be pushed into the schedule, but there is a

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<v Speaker 1>difference between working at a swift and deliberate pace versus

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<v Speaker 1>rushing through something. In general, we are best off doing

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<v Speaker 1>the task in front of us, with the effort and

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<v Speaker 1>care that is appropriate to it. It is also wise

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<v Speaker 1>to build a schedule that includes what is most important

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<v Speaker 1>to get done and an appropriate amount of time time

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<v Speaker 1>for each task. If you don't know how much time

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<v Speaker 1>things take, try tracking your time for a week or

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<v Speaker 1>two so you get a better sense. Then, if you

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<v Speaker 1>find yourself getting frantic in some situation, repeat to yourself

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<v Speaker 1>that if you have to rush, there isn't time you

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<v Speaker 1>will need to not do something or reschedule it for later.

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<v Speaker 1>You probably do not desperately need to do that errand

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<v Speaker 1>on the way to work or to pick up your kid.

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<v Speaker 1>And if you are on the way to something and

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<v Speaker 1>you realize that you are late, then you are late.

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<v Speaker 1>Now what figure it out? Putting yourself into a state

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<v Speaker 1>of high stress will probably not save you much time

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<v Speaker 1>at all and could lead to problems that take a

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<v Speaker 1>lot more time to solve in the meantime. This is Laura,

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<v Speaker 1>Thanks for listening, and here's to making the most of

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<v Speaker 1>our time. Thanks for listening to Before Breakfast. If you've

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<v Speaker 1>got questions, ideas, or feedback, you can reach me at

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