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Speaker 1: Hey, this is Sam. This is John, the og Storytime

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Speaker 1: podcast host. Oh yeah, and we got some great stories

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Speaker 1: coming up. But before that, we get a teeny two

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Speaker 1: up like a little house.

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, my boyfriend lights up around his best friend.

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Speaker 1: Now I feel like the third wheel.

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Speaker 3: Maybe you should just do better.

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Speaker 1: Yikes.

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Speaker 2: My boyfriend twenty three male, and I twenty two female,

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Speaker 2: have been dating for about six months now. Our relationship

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Speaker 2: with each other is amazing, and I can honestly say

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Speaker 2: I haven't felt this way about anyone I've previously dated.

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Speaker 2: A bit about him. He's sort of an introvert in that,

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Speaker 2: while he's definitely social, he doesn't talk too much, and

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Speaker 2: when he does, it's still very restrained, as in well parsed.

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Speaker 2: He is this way with everyone except one friend of his.

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Speaker 2: By the way, this comes from user ts stan one,

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Speaker 2: and if you want to submit your own stories, go

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Speaker 2: to the r slash Okay Storytime subreddit. So I'd sort

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Speaker 2: of met her before because my best friend is a

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Speaker 2: mutual friend of ours boyfriend, and I actually met through

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Speaker 2: my best friend. My boyfriend knows her because she has

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Speaker 2: been his close friend for almost five years now. Apparently

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Speaker 2: they were neighbors in their university dorm, and they also

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Speaker 2: had the same program. My boyfriend and her seem to

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Speaker 2: share a kind of connection that I honestly can't say

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Speaker 2: I do with him. He talks so much when she's present,

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Speaker 2: his whole demeanor changes. The widest I've ever seen him

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Speaker 2: smile has been when she's present. If there's a bunch

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Speaker 2: of us in a room, the two of them will

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Speaker 2: have these shared references in inside jokes. A couple of

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Speaker 2: months back, my boyfriend had fractured his foot and was

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Speaker 2: bed ridden for the most part. She came to give

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Speaker 2: him food literally every day. You could actually see his

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Speaker 2: face brighten when he learned she'd come. I sometimes feel

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Speaker 2: that if you take away the spicy related aspect of

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Speaker 2: my relationship with him, it might not hold up against

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Speaker 2: what he has with her. She broke up with her

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Speaker 2: boyfriend a few months back too, and it's gotten to

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Speaker 2: the point where I'm actively trying to set her up

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Speaker 2: with someone.

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Speaker 1: The worst part about this is.

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Speaker 2: That she's likable, attractive, She has this dorky sort of

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Speaker 2: humor that my boyfriend loves.

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Speaker 1: The food she was making him was amazing.

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Speaker 2: My boyfriend is into science documentaries and I'm not, so

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Speaker 2: we've never really watched them. She doesn't seem that into

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Speaker 2: it either, but she watched it with him, kept asking

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Speaker 2: I've now started doing stuff he wants, just to emulate that.

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Speaker 2: So what prompted me in the coming here happened this weekend.

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Speaker 2: She had come over and my boyfriend wanted ice cream,

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Speaker 2: so we went to a nearby kareamery. The two of

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Speaker 2: them were done with their orders because they already knew

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Speaker 2: what they wanted, which incidentally happened to be the same flavor.

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Speaker 4: Ugh.

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Speaker 2: While I like taking my time testing stuff, there was

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Speaker 2: an old lady with what seemed like her granddaughter who

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Speaker 3: Yee, that's some that's a little bit of a twist

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Speaker 3: of the knife in there.

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Speaker 2: My boyfriend corrected her. Oh good, but oh god, did

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Speaker 2: that hurt? I just don't know what to do. Are

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Speaker 2: they even doing anything wrong? What do I even complain

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Speaker 2: to him about? Am I in over my head here?

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Speaker 2: And there are some comments. I feel that some comments

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Speaker 2: are really inconsiderate of OP, because if you'd place yourself

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Speaker 2: in the shoes of OP, I'm certain many would comment differently.

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Speaker 2: I won't lie and say that I would have flares

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Speaker 2: of insecurity as well. If that would be my boyfriend,

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Speaker 2: I can imagine seeing the inside banter between them that

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Speaker 2: would make it seem like there is chemistry in the air. However,

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Speaker 2: this could be very well something only your mind would

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Speaker 2: focus on, while both your boyfriend and this female friend

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Speaker 2: especially due to the amount of time that they've known

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Speaker 2: each other. If you are really uncomfortable with the situation,

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Speaker 2: just bring it up in a calm manner with your boyfriend.

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Speaker 2: It's okay to ask reassurance. Sometimes it doesn't mean you're

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Speaker 2: sabotaging the relationship. Communication is key. A commenter replies, I'd

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Speaker 2: you crazy. It doesn't sound like you suspect them of

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Speaker 2: not accusing him of anything, but sometimes their interactions make

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Speaker 2: you feel uncomfortable from your perspective, bringing him food every

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Speaker 2: or partner would do. Also tell him you notice that,

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Speaker 2: out of all of his friends, he only replies to

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Speaker 2: her texts. Don't remember that? Maybe that was in another comment.

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Speaker 2: Hopefully he understands where you're coming from. Make sure you're

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Speaker 2: clear that you don't want to stop their friendship because

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Speaker 2: you feel like she's your friend too, But you'd appreciate

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Speaker 2: it if he was more aware of how this makes

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Speaker 2: you feel, because their friendship makes you feel like a

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Speaker 2: third wheel. And we have an update. Lere's get it.

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Speaker 2: I have decided do not bring it up with my boyfriend.

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Speaker 3: Why why? Why you had everyone telling you just tell

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Speaker 3: him you were right there. There must have been a

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Speaker 1: Ah.

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Speaker 2: Some comments had made the compelling point that they hadn't

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Speaker 2: really done anything wrong, and I was letting my insecurities

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Speaker 2: a positive mindset. We spent all day yesterday together doing

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Speaker 2: thought we would try out a new Chinese place, which

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Speaker 1: He's on work from home again.

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Speaker 2: After the advice I'd received, I thought that new shared

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Speaker 2: He'd tried it with her a few weeks ago before

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Speaker 1: During lunch.

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Speaker 2: They both work in the downtown area, and I guess

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Speaker 2: they're close enough to meet up for lunch. I know

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Speaker 2: it's a small thing, and going for lunch together with

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Speaker 2: fact that this was another shared experience lost that just

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Speaker 2: got to me. I opened up to him about how

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Speaker 2: He apologized and said that he didn't realize it, that

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Speaker 1: This is where I fed up. How you just did it.

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Speaker 1: That was the end. This should be the end.

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Speaker 3: Of the story and guess what did it. He didn't

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Speaker 2: And then you should have gone home and read a book,

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Speaker 2: But instead you're gonna do something.

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Speaker 1: I think.

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Speaker 2: I let my insecurities get the better of me here

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Speaker 2: some boundaries were being crossed inadvertently. He said he was

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Speaker 2: to help him out during a tough time, referring to

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Speaker 2: the daily food stuff. I didn't have an answer to that.

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Speaker 2: What he was saying just made sense. I told him

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Speaker 3: I feel like there's no mistakes really though. Again, he

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I agree.

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Speaker 2: At this point I started to cry for some reason.

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Speaker 2: I can't explain it. Him putting himself at fault for

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Speaker 3: No, this is You're fine. Yeah, everything's fine, and you

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Speaker 3: here's another thing. They've only been dating for a very

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Speaker 3: It's because of Gorel. Yeah it was boy, no problem.

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Speaker 3: But let's grow into that kind of thing.

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Speaker 1: Let's get into these comments.

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Speaker 2: It's a good thing that you were open and honest

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Speaker 2: Otherwise this would have eaten away at you for so

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Speaker 2: big picture. I don't think you're wrong for feeling the

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Speaker 2: keep beating yourself up over it. There is a real

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Speaker 2: at yourself, saying the things about you being the one

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Speaker 2: that is screwing up and your insecurities are the problem,

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Speaker 2: and you feeling like you have to fix things when

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Speaker 2: you should be exploring things together as a team. I

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Speaker 2: can't help but wonder if after the conversation with your

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Speaker 2: the relationship and wondering how to move forward. I'm sorry

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Speaker 2: you're going through this, and there's a second update. I

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Speaker 2: to fix it. I'm like, I bet you're the only

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Speaker 2: one feeling that yet straight up. Yeah, just let it

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Speaker 2: be okay, But we have a second update. I've been

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Speaker 2: but it honestly proven to be a windfall for it.

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Speaker 2: that she'd been feeling as if she'd ruined their friendship

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Speaker 3: This is where he let's see how he plays his

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Speaker 1: This is a bear.

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Speaker 3: I want to tell you how. I want to see

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Speaker 2: Okay, my boyfriend was telling her that it was whatever

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Speaker 2: But just the fact that while we were dating, she

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Speaker 5: This.

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Speaker 2: You are so backwards, Op, this is not a minor

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Speaker 3: How some of the minor things are Opier are major

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Speaker 2: Well, it's just like before you knew for certain, you

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Speaker 2: and you're like, maybe I should just be okay with this.

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Speaker 1: I know.

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Speaker 2: In my last post, a lot of comments and some

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Speaker 2: But isn't this a vindication of how I was feeling? Yes,

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Speaker 2: I understand that people can't control who they developed feelings for,

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Speaker 6: I feel like she has acted on it.

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Speaker 1: I guess she's been acting on it the whole time.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, yeah, yeah. Carl says she broke up with her boyfriend.

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Speaker 2: Op's honorary dude because she's being so oblivious joined the

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Speaker 5: Like she hasn't kissed him, but she's told she was

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Speaker 3: Would she would.

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Speaker 2: Okay, Am I even wrong in thinking this way anymore?

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Speaker 2: Of course, not comments that is very generous of him.

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Speaker 2: But she did act on it every time she did

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Speaker 2: The daily meals, the documentary she wasn't into. I'm sure

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Speaker 2: come to Jesus common about it, right. She probably told

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Speaker 2: be acting on it. If he had given her a

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Speaker 1: And update number three, I'm feeling the end of the friendship.

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Speaker 3: End of the friendship or end of the relationship. It's

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Speaker 3: going to be either or.

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Speaker 1: Here's my second prediction. I hope I'm wrong.

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Speaker 2: I feel like the friendship is going to end and

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Speaker 2: then OP is not going to be able to navigate

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Speaker 2: their own feelings about that happening and who's responsible and

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Speaker 3: That's my pretty well, it's going to be the way

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Speaker 3: the story ends. It seems like is either he chooses

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Speaker 2: A couple of redditors had given me the advice that

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Speaker 2: So I didn't know why he felt he had to

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Speaker 2: why he was conflicted, but that I was right and

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Speaker 2: that our relationship was strong enough that others should know

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Speaker 2: that if it's something that indirectly affects our relationship.

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Speaker 1: We would be telling each other about it.

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Speaker 2: I then opened up to him about how I felt

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Speaker 2: He told me that she'd sworn that her feelings were

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Speaker 2: They were all calculated moves. These were all calculated moves

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Speaker 2: to see if he would play the game, and again

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Speaker 2: he didn't play the game, thankfully, Or again he was

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Speaker 3: Flirting with him. He was like, we're just good friends.

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Speaker 3: But Opie saw it. Opie had the girl's intuition where

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Speaker 3: he's like, I would do that too, if I were

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Speaker 2: He said that he loved me and I was his

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Speaker 2: I said I felt the same way. That if I

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Speaker 2: That if I trusted him, then there were no possible

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Speaker 2: chain of events that could hurt our relationship. That she

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Speaker 2: with everything and who'd been with him through everything in

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Speaker 2: just look at it once more, but he'd do whatever

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Speaker 1: It's nonsense.

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Speaker 3: I'll do everything you want for me, but just I'll

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Speaker 2: Yeah, your whole relationship with your friend has not been

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Speaker 2: always had feelings for you, So this thing that you

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00:19:47,440 --> 00:19:50,280
Speaker 2: thought you had has never really been that thing, and

444
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Speaker 2: now you have to reassess it.

445
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Speaker 1: This is there is a.

446
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Speaker 2: Chance that I'm wrong, though I don't think I am,

447
00:19:55,480 --> 00:19:57,560
Speaker 2: but I trusted him and didn't want this to be

448
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Speaker 2: a thorn in our relationship. So I said, that's okay,

449
00:20:00,800 --> 00:20:03,960
Speaker 2: but she had to maintain some boundaries until I came

450
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Speaker 2: to terms with it.

451
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Speaker 1: He agreed.

452
00:20:06,240 --> 00:20:08,200
Speaker 2: We agreed that she shouldn't get to be alone with

453
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Speaker 2: him excessively until I'm okay with it, that I would

454
00:20:11,840 --> 00:20:14,480
Speaker 2: always be the first port of call for him, and

455
00:20:14,520 --> 00:20:16,680
Speaker 2: he said that if at any point I felt lines

456
00:20:16,680 --> 00:20:19,680
Speaker 2: were being crossed, he would reevaluate. It was an incredibly

457
00:20:19,720 --> 00:20:22,720
Speaker 2: uncomfortable conversation for both of us, and I hated every

458
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Speaker 2: second of it, but I feel it had to be done.

459
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Speaker 2: I'm done with this chapter and don't want to take

460
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Speaker 2: her name between us again. I'm thankful to all the

461
00:20:31,280 --> 00:20:34,280
Speaker 2: people who have given me the advice and the relationship

462
00:20:34,280 --> 00:20:37,960
Speaker 2: with my boyfriend has gone from strength to strength. Thanks,

463
00:20:38,000 --> 00:20:40,199
Speaker 2: and I hope and believe that I will never have

464
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Speaker 2: to post here again.

465
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Speaker 1: Update number four.

466
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Speaker 2: He broke up with me because he had to give

467
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Speaker 2: his thing with his friend a chance.

468
00:20:51,480 --> 00:20:54,520
Speaker 3: I called it. At least he was gonna pick either

469
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Speaker 3: the friend or op.

470
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Speaker 2: Yeah.

471
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Speaker 3: What an actual piece of work.

472
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Speaker 6: He knew the whole time. Yeah, I don't think he

473
00:21:02,400 --> 00:21:06,159
Speaker 6: was oblivious from at all. You know, I think he

474
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Speaker 6: knew the whole time.

475
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Speaker 1: I don't know.

476
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Speaker 6: M hmm.

477
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Speaker 2: And on a real level, if you just find yourself

478
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Speaker 2: in this relationship situation and you see like that person,

479
00:21:15,440 --> 00:21:19,439
Speaker 2: he's in love with her, you go, all right, I

480
00:21:19,560 --> 00:21:22,919
Speaker 2: see that regardless if he does. So, I'm going to

481
00:21:23,080 --> 00:21:26,600
Speaker 2: leave because my boyfriend is in love with this other

482
00:21:26,720 --> 00:21:30,440
Speaker 2: girl who's single and actively pursuing.

483
00:21:30,119 --> 00:21:32,280
Speaker 6: Him and broke up with her boyfriend to be with him.

484
00:21:32,359 --> 00:21:34,919
Speaker 2: Yeah, so I'm gonna leave because this is not a

485
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Speaker 2: situation I win. This is the most pain I've ever

486
00:21:38,320 --> 00:21:41,800
Speaker 2: been in. I thought we were good, he told me

487
00:21:41,920 --> 00:21:44,280
Speaker 2: he distanced himself from his friend and kept true to

488
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Speaker 2: it this entire time. He reached out to her because

489
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Speaker 2: of a member of her family passing, and even I said, yeah,

490
00:21:51,480 --> 00:21:54,480
Speaker 2: of course you should do that. This was less than

491
00:21:54,560 --> 00:21:57,560
Speaker 2: two months ago. Last night I was told he had

492
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Speaker 2: to give a relationship with.

493
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Speaker 1: Her a chance.

494
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Speaker 2: Everything sucks Comments Number one. I just read all your posts.

495
00:22:04,760 --> 00:22:07,200
Speaker 2: I'm so sorry you're going through all this. That other

496
00:22:07,240 --> 00:22:09,960
Speaker 2: girl had no right to mention her past feelings to him.

497
00:22:10,280 --> 00:22:13,960
Speaker 2: It was unfair to you and your relationship. To be fair,

498
00:22:14,000 --> 00:22:18,120
Speaker 2: I actually disagree with that because clearly the relationship would

499
00:22:18,119 --> 00:22:21,200
Speaker 2: have just been a lie the entire time. So I

500
00:22:21,240 --> 00:22:24,280
Speaker 2: think clearly this guy had feelings for her, and her

501
00:22:24,320 --> 00:22:28,440
Speaker 2: saying it allowed OPI to not, you know, spend.

502
00:22:28,119 --> 00:22:30,640
Speaker 1: Five years with this guy and then this happens.

503
00:22:31,080 --> 00:22:33,720
Speaker 2: She mentioned them because she wanted to have your boyfriend

504
00:22:33,800 --> 00:22:36,040
Speaker 2: be the one to do something, so she didn't look

505
00:22:36,080 --> 00:22:39,000
Speaker 2: like it was all her idea. The fact that your

506
00:22:39,000 --> 00:22:41,280
Speaker 2: boyfriend played along with it and has now I actually

507
00:22:41,280 --> 00:22:43,040
Speaker 2: told you he wants to try something with her is

508
00:22:43,080 --> 00:22:46,040
Speaker 2: cold and heartless. You are a strong individual, and I

509
00:22:46,080 --> 00:22:47,880
Speaker 2: know this may hurt now, but you don't.

510
00:22:47,960 --> 00:22:49,240
Speaker 1: You dare let it consume you.

511
00:22:49,720 --> 00:22:52,040
Speaker 2: If he comes to you and tries to apologize or

512
00:22:52,080 --> 00:22:54,720
Speaker 2: talk or even try to get back with you, don't

513
00:22:54,880 --> 00:22:58,040
Speaker 2: accept it. He's just shown you his priorities and what

514
00:22:58,080 --> 00:23:01,840
Speaker 2: type of selfish people he and this girl are. Block

515
00:23:01,920 --> 00:23:04,159
Speaker 2: them both and cut them out of your life, and

516
00:23:04,320 --> 00:23:06,879
Speaker 2: you focus on yourself in finding someone.

517
00:23:06,600 --> 00:23:11,080
Speaker 1: Who will choose you. Keep your head up. Comment too says.

518
00:23:11,200 --> 00:23:14,240
Speaker 2: He just paused the game. Don't worry, he'll be back.

519
00:23:14,640 --> 00:23:16,600
Speaker 1: I don't know. I hated both of those comments.

520
00:23:17,080 --> 00:23:19,720
Speaker 3: Just yeah, let them I guarantee you, because they were

521
00:23:19,720 --> 00:23:22,359
Speaker 3: friends and then it's gonna get weird and you know what,

522
00:23:22,400 --> 00:23:24,480
Speaker 3: let them be. Don't worry about the mope.

523
00:23:24,560 --> 00:23:27,200
Speaker 2: Everyone has seen like two people where it's like, oh,

524
00:23:27,240 --> 00:23:28,920
Speaker 2: you guys are dating, right, and it's like, no, we're

525
00:23:28,960 --> 00:23:31,200
Speaker 2: just besties. It's like all right, but shut up because

526
00:23:31,200 --> 00:23:34,280
Speaker 2: you're you should be dating you idiots, like and it

527
00:23:34,359 --> 00:23:38,119
Speaker 2: sounds like maybe those two were those people.

528
00:23:38,720 --> 00:23:39,440
Speaker 3: Like was it good?

529
00:23:39,480 --> 00:23:41,359
Speaker 1: No, it's like morally no, of course not.

530
00:23:41,640 --> 00:23:43,960
Speaker 2: But like I think if you would have had a

531
00:23:44,000 --> 00:23:47,240
Speaker 2: more honest, vulnerable, open conversation where it's like, I this

532
00:23:47,359 --> 00:23:50,600
Speaker 2: is how I feel about your relationship with this other girl,

533
00:23:50,720 --> 00:23:54,359
Speaker 2: and like, from the outside, it really seems like you

534
00:23:54,600 --> 00:23:57,680
Speaker 2: have more than just feelings of friendship for her.

535
00:23:58,200 --> 00:23:59,600
Speaker 1: So what do you think about that?

536
00:23:59,720 --> 00:24:02,719
Speaker 2: Because that's what I see every time y'all are together,

537
00:24:03,240 --> 00:24:05,520
Speaker 2: and then he could go, wait, am I in love

538
00:24:05,560 --> 00:24:06,240
Speaker 2: with my friend?

539
00:24:06,880 --> 00:24:08,840
Speaker 1: And then the relationship implodes.

540
00:24:08,400 --> 00:24:10,159
Speaker 3: And it's over? But I don't know.

541
00:24:10,680 --> 00:24:11,560
Speaker 1: That's what happens.

542
00:24:11,880 --> 00:24:13,040
Speaker 2: This is what we all sign up for when we

543
00:24:13,040 --> 00:24:13,879
Speaker 2: were in relationships.

544
00:24:14,359 --> 00:24:18,040
Speaker 3: Just focus on yourself, op. Yeah, do get therapy, Jcus.

545
00:24:18,280 --> 00:24:21,320
Speaker 3: It's always good for you. But let them do their thing.

546
00:24:21,640 --> 00:24:23,960
Speaker 3: You'll find someone who actually wants to be with you

547
00:24:24,119 --> 00:24:27,040
Speaker 3: and you deserve the love you you need and want.

548
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Speaker 3: Sam Here, we're gonna get back to the stories.

549
00:24:29,160 --> 00:24:31,200
Speaker 6: But here's three of its bads from our sponsors.

550
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Speaker 3: I lost my dog and my boyfriend celebrated it.

551
00:24:34,840 --> 00:24:38,200
Speaker 2: Oh, throw them out, kick them out of the planet.

552
00:24:38,720 --> 00:24:41,399
Speaker 3: Yeah, we don't need to read the story break up

553
00:24:41,400 --> 00:24:44,240
Speaker 3: with your boyfriend done? Heads up. There's a little bit

554
00:24:44,280 --> 00:24:47,359
Speaker 3: of a trigger warning for verbial abuse. It's minor, but

555
00:24:47,440 --> 00:24:49,560
Speaker 3: still if you're not into that or that bothers you,

556
00:24:50,520 --> 00:24:53,880
Speaker 3: please just skip ahead. I female thirty five, have been

557
00:24:53,880 --> 00:24:57,280
Speaker 3: with my boyfriend Caleb, male thirty seven for a year now.

558
00:24:57,440 --> 00:25:00,280
Speaker 3: As of last June sixteenth, we literally will he just

559
00:25:00,320 --> 00:25:04,040
Speaker 3: celebrated our anniversary when my dad passed away last year.

560
00:25:04,320 --> 00:25:07,800
Speaker 3: I sort of inherited Pepper, his thirteen year old black

561
00:25:07,920 --> 00:25:11,800
Speaker 3: lab Huh, who is the sweetest pup alive. By the way,

562
00:25:11,880 --> 00:25:15,480
Speaker 3: this concert muser Burger of the attracted to the same gender.

563
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Speaker 1: Oh, Burger of the game.

564
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Speaker 3: Burger of the game. And if you want to submit

565
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Speaker 3: your own stories, go to the r slash okay storytime subreddit.

566
00:25:23,280 --> 00:25:26,560
Speaker 3: So oh, here we go. I won't make excuses, but

567
00:25:26,600 --> 00:25:31,320
Speaker 3: when Pepper passed away this past Thursday, I was absolutely devastated.

568
00:25:31,960 --> 00:25:34,440
Speaker 3: I could not stop crying. I keep house from my

569
00:25:34,520 --> 00:25:37,359
Speaker 3: boyfriend as he's the only one working right now. I

570
00:25:37,480 --> 00:25:40,240
Speaker 3: was downside last month and just became the norm until

571
00:25:40,280 --> 00:25:43,480
Speaker 3: I get a job. I couldn't make lunch. I pulled

572
00:25:43,480 --> 00:25:46,680
Speaker 3: myself together enough to make dinner. He was annoyed enough

573
00:25:46,680 --> 00:25:49,840
Speaker 3: to mutter, are you effing kidding me? When I started

574
00:25:49,840 --> 00:25:52,359
Speaker 3: crying again, and it hurt. I just tried to be

575
00:25:52,480 --> 00:25:55,840
Speaker 3: quiet the rest of the time. Well, last night, a

576
00:25:55,880 --> 00:25:57,040
Speaker 3: bunch of his friends came over.

577
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Speaker 6: First.

578
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Speaker 3: I wasn't surprised. He lived in this house for a

579
00:26:00,600 --> 00:26:03,200
Speaker 3: while and he got it from his parents, so he's

580
00:26:03,240 --> 00:26:05,600
Speaker 3: been there, been in the area forever. He has a

581
00:26:05,600 --> 00:26:08,840
Speaker 3: lot of friends. So in the first second, third person

582
00:26:08,880 --> 00:26:12,080
Speaker 3: showed up. I didn't much think about it and just

583
00:26:12,119 --> 00:26:14,720
Speaker 3: pointed them to the den where my boyfriend was. But

584
00:26:14,800 --> 00:26:18,960
Speaker 3: then the fourth to maybe the tenth person showed and

585
00:26:19,119 --> 00:26:22,240
Speaker 3: I was like, what is happening. I dropped in the

586
00:26:22,240 --> 00:26:24,359
Speaker 3: den to check and see how things were going, and

587
00:26:24,400 --> 00:26:28,040
Speaker 3: one of his friends shouted the guest of honor before

588
00:26:28,080 --> 00:26:31,440
Speaker 3: my boyfriend whacked his arm. I kind of laughed it off,

589
00:26:31,720 --> 00:26:33,360
Speaker 3: and it wasn't until one of the guys came by

590
00:26:33,400 --> 00:26:36,000
Speaker 3: to offer condolences about Pepper that I asked what was

591
00:26:36,040 --> 00:26:38,800
Speaker 3: going on. He looked a little uncomfy and then said

592
00:26:38,800 --> 00:26:40,960
Speaker 3: it was a stupid joke, but it was a party

593
00:26:41,000 --> 00:26:44,879
Speaker 3: for congress to my boyfriend because we are now child free.

594
00:26:45,480 --> 00:26:49,879
Speaker 1: Wow, this is like anything I could have imagined on

595
00:26:49,960 --> 00:26:50,920
Speaker 1: a real level.

596
00:26:51,119 --> 00:26:52,840
Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, you.

597
00:26:52,800 --> 00:26:57,280
Speaker 1: Threw a party to celebrate that the dog passed.

598
00:26:57,400 --> 00:26:59,639
Speaker 3: Not like Oh I threw this and it was to

599
00:26:59,720 --> 00:27:01,800
Speaker 3: help and it wasn't like to mourn. It seems like

600
00:27:01,880 --> 00:27:04,400
Speaker 3: it seems like he invited the bros over and guess

601
00:27:04,400 --> 00:27:08,280
Speaker 3: what it was Opie's dog. Why is OPI not even

602
00:27:08,359 --> 00:27:09,359
Speaker 3: involved in any of this?

603
00:27:10,280 --> 00:27:14,199
Speaker 2: Just leave, it's over. You never need to talk to

604
00:27:14,240 --> 00:27:17,960
Speaker 2: this guy again. What is wrong with him? I asked,

605
00:27:18,600 --> 00:27:21,159
Speaker 2: what does that mean? And he said that it's like

606
00:27:21,200 --> 00:27:23,920
Speaker 2: when a kid goes to college, sort of, we're now

607
00:27:23,960 --> 00:27:28,240
Speaker 2: empty nesters. Shut the hell up. I would have slapped him. Sorry,

608
00:27:28,240 --> 00:27:31,200
Speaker 2: I don't get don't slap Kean's got dogs that he loves.

609
00:27:31,240 --> 00:27:33,439
Speaker 3: I love my dogs. I had a tattoo of my

610
00:27:33,440 --> 00:27:35,920
Speaker 3: dog's popprint on my thing when he passed. I still

611
00:27:35,920 --> 00:27:36,560
Speaker 3: mourn him.

612
00:27:36,480 --> 00:27:37,240
Speaker 1: Right on his thing.

613
00:27:37,359 --> 00:27:40,320
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's like I like to anyone who has an

614
00:27:40,320 --> 00:27:43,560
Speaker 3: animal that's more than a pet. Sometimes that's that's family.

615
00:27:44,119 --> 00:27:46,840
Speaker 3: I was upset and he left quickly, so went back

616
00:27:46,880 --> 00:27:48,479
Speaker 3: to the dead and to ask my boyfriend about this.

617
00:27:49,000 --> 00:27:51,760
Speaker 3: But then I saw a makeshift card that said congrats

618
00:27:52,560 --> 00:27:56,000
Speaker 3: the witch is in the ditch. I was stunned. Boyfriend

619
00:27:56,040 --> 00:27:58,879
Speaker 3: saw me staring and grabbed it, turned to his friend,

620
00:27:59,160 --> 00:28:01,320
Speaker 3: saying it was a bad joke and not to worry

621
00:28:01,359 --> 00:28:05,119
Speaker 3: about it, blaming his friend. Then that's when everyone started

622
00:28:05,200 --> 00:28:08,280
Speaker 3: mumbling I can't give a full account of what exactly

623
00:28:08,280 --> 00:28:10,440
Speaker 3: happened because I got so upset.

624
00:28:10,800 --> 00:28:14,240
Speaker 1: The reason she has this dog is her dad passed away.

625
00:28:14,400 --> 00:28:18,000
Speaker 2: Yes, so the dog gets her dad's dog, who also

626
00:28:18,240 --> 00:28:19,680
Speaker 2: just passed away a year ago.

627
00:28:19,920 --> 00:28:24,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, I did ask everyone to leave good All but

628
00:28:24,200 --> 00:28:27,639
Speaker 3: one did, and my boyfriend started arguing with me about

629
00:28:27,680 --> 00:28:29,760
Speaker 3: it being his house and I have no right to

630
00:28:29,840 --> 00:28:32,400
Speaker 3: punt out his friends or stop his party. I asked

631
00:28:32,480 --> 00:28:34,879
Speaker 3: him to tell me the truth. Was this a party

632
00:28:34,920 --> 00:28:38,320
Speaker 3: thrown because Pepper is gone? He didn't really answer, but

633
00:28:38,360 --> 00:28:41,360
Speaker 3: the friend who stayed behind confirmed it was. I slept

634
00:28:41,360 --> 00:28:43,400
Speaker 3: on the couch last night and he left early for

635
00:28:43,440 --> 00:28:46,080
Speaker 3: a job interview. But I don't want to go back there.

636
00:28:46,640 --> 00:28:50,840
Speaker 3: I love my boyfriend, but this was just cruel. He

637
00:28:50,920 --> 00:28:53,200
Speaker 3: did notice. I never came to bed and got my

638
00:28:53,240 --> 00:28:56,160
Speaker 3: coffee ready with a good luck note attached, as he

639
00:28:56,600 --> 00:28:59,160
Speaker 3: works from home and he was in his home office.

640
00:28:59,520 --> 00:29:02,240
Speaker 3: But I didn't take it. I just took Pepper's leash,

641
00:29:02,600 --> 00:29:05,640
Speaker 3: leashes and callers and went to my interview. This is

642
00:29:05,760 --> 00:29:08,880
Speaker 3: so far out of left field. He's not like this.

643
00:29:09,520 --> 00:29:12,680
Speaker 3: I'm just so sad. He's on my main account, so

644
00:29:12,760 --> 00:29:15,080
Speaker 3: I made this to vent. How do I even talk

645
00:29:15,120 --> 00:29:17,800
Speaker 3: to him about this? Whenever I think about it, I

646
00:29:17,880 --> 00:29:20,080
Speaker 3: just want to lose it, shout at him and tell

647
00:29:20,160 --> 00:29:22,880
Speaker 3: him to stick his audacity where the sun don't shine.

648
00:29:23,040 --> 00:29:25,920
Speaker 3: But to be honest, I'm not a confrontational person. I

649
00:29:25,960 --> 00:29:28,920
Speaker 3: don't like when people shout. I just feel so lost

650
00:29:29,000 --> 00:29:30,960
Speaker 3: right now? Would I be the a hole if I

651
00:29:31,000 --> 00:29:33,120
Speaker 3: stayed away a bit? I don't even want to look

652
00:29:33,120 --> 00:29:35,280
Speaker 3: at him, let alone talk to him. And there is

653
00:29:35,280 --> 00:29:38,640
Speaker 3: an update? I am, I'm I'm packing my things and

654
00:29:38,760 --> 00:29:41,560
Speaker 3: getting out. Why are you giving him? Like you said,

655
00:29:41,560 --> 00:29:43,440
Speaker 3: why are you giving him any light of day? He

656
00:29:43,480 --> 00:29:46,760
Speaker 3: made a freaking party about your dog passing away.

657
00:29:48,520 --> 00:29:51,280
Speaker 2: You're the a hole if you like give him a

658
00:29:51,400 --> 00:29:53,480
Speaker 2: single chance after this is crazy.

659
00:29:54,120 --> 00:29:56,959
Speaker 1: I will I will hate both of you equally if

660
00:29:57,000 --> 00:29:58,200
Speaker 1: you stay with this man.

661
00:29:58,360 --> 00:30:00,600
Speaker 3: The fact that he said, are you f kidding me?

662
00:30:00,760 --> 00:30:04,720
Speaker 3: When you're crying and mourning because one you've had the

663
00:30:04,760 --> 00:30:06,640
Speaker 3: long it probably one of the longest years of your life.

664
00:30:06,680 --> 00:30:09,280
Speaker 3: Your dad has passed away, and the last thing he

665
00:30:09,400 --> 00:30:11,800
Speaker 3: had to remind you of him, not less last thing,

666
00:30:11,800 --> 00:30:13,120
Speaker 3: but like one of the main things he had to

667
00:30:13,160 --> 00:30:15,800
Speaker 3: remind you of him was Pepper, who was an absolute

668
00:30:15,880 --> 00:30:19,880
Speaker 3: joy to you for another year and you lost Pepper. Yeah,

669
00:30:21,120 --> 00:30:24,680
Speaker 3: that man should be consoling you and mourning with you

670
00:30:24,840 --> 00:30:27,480
Speaker 3: and making you feel better and checking on you, rather

671
00:30:27,520 --> 00:30:29,880
Speaker 3: than are you fing kidding me? Let's see if he

672
00:30:29,920 --> 00:30:32,560
Speaker 3: does anything to redeem himself, which I don't think anything

673
00:30:32,560 --> 00:30:36,240
Speaker 3: could be redeemable at this point. Update. The short of

674
00:30:36,280 --> 00:30:38,760
Speaker 3: my post before is that my boyfriend threw a party

675
00:30:38,840 --> 00:30:40,680
Speaker 3: at the house with some of his friends after my

676
00:30:40,800 --> 00:30:43,680
Speaker 3: dog passed away, and when I went to investigate, there

677
00:30:43,760 --> 00:30:46,240
Speaker 3: was a card indicating he was happy she was gone.

678
00:30:46,920 --> 00:30:48,680
Speaker 3: I was upset and left the house with all my

679
00:30:48,760 --> 00:30:52,320
Speaker 3: dog's things. I was emotional and posted on readit about

680
00:30:52,320 --> 00:30:56,000
Speaker 3: it at a bar, crying so noticeably that a literal

681
00:30:56,120 --> 00:30:58,680
Speaker 3: stranger took care of my tab for me and said,

682
00:30:58,680 --> 00:31:01,640
Speaker 3: they hope whatever I'm going through gets better. It's an

683
00:31:01,680 --> 00:31:05,240
Speaker 3: angel who did that. That was two days ago. I

684
00:31:05,280 --> 00:31:08,120
Speaker 3: stayed overnight at the house of the parents of a friend.

685
00:31:08,600 --> 00:31:10,560
Speaker 3: That's a weird way of saying that. They let me

686
00:31:10,720 --> 00:31:13,280
Speaker 3: use my friend's childhood room, and her mom sat with

687
00:31:13,320 --> 00:31:16,560
Speaker 3: me and supplied me with water, food, and wine, and

688
00:31:16,600 --> 00:31:19,200
Speaker 3: we got wasted, and I finally felt ready to read

689
00:31:19,240 --> 00:31:24,080
Speaker 3: the comments. Most were kind, but some were brutal. I

690
00:31:24,120 --> 00:31:28,120
Speaker 3: hoped towards him, not towards you, I cried more. I

691
00:31:28,200 --> 00:31:31,280
Speaker 3: come from an emotionally harmful household growing up, so I

692
00:31:31,320 --> 00:31:33,640
Speaker 3: tend to shut down and freeze rather than react to

693
00:31:33,680 --> 00:31:37,240
Speaker 3: emotional pain. I honestly just needed time to think. I

694
00:31:37,320 --> 00:31:39,440
Speaker 3: texted my ex that I am away, but a friend

695
00:31:39,440 --> 00:31:41,840
Speaker 3: of a friend, my friend's dad is coming to grab

696
00:31:41,880 --> 00:31:44,560
Speaker 3: my meds and some important items. To please, oh to

697
00:31:44,640 --> 00:31:48,480
Speaker 3: let him grab it. Please, please don't fight my friend's dad. Yeah,

698
00:31:48,560 --> 00:31:51,240
Speaker 3: I need time away from him. After he celebrated the

699
00:31:51,240 --> 00:31:53,600
Speaker 3: demise my best friend my dog.

700
00:31:53,440 --> 00:31:56,960
Speaker 5: You need unlimited time forever.

701
00:31:56,600 --> 00:31:57,440
Speaker 1: Away from him.

702
00:31:58,240 --> 00:32:02,280
Speaker 3: He facetimeed me and said I had it wrong. It

703
00:32:02,360 --> 00:32:04,360
Speaker 3: was not a celebration of the demise of the dog,

704
00:32:04,440 --> 00:32:07,400
Speaker 3: but a celebration of life. And he was sad too.

705
00:32:07,840 --> 00:32:11,080
Speaker 2: Oh, I bet he just guys, he just figured out

706
00:32:11,120 --> 00:32:13,120
Speaker 2: what a lie was and he thinks he's being slick.

707
00:32:13,280 --> 00:32:16,320
Speaker 3: Yeah, so his friends tried to make him laugh and

708
00:32:16,400 --> 00:32:19,200
Speaker 3: threw a party, but it was a wake of sorts.

709
00:32:19,720 --> 00:32:24,000
Speaker 3: What if it's a wake for her? Why wasn't I

710
00:32:24,560 --> 00:32:27,800
Speaker 3: her person and best living friend even told when it

711
00:32:27,880 --> 00:32:31,800
Speaker 3: was happening in the house, And why didn't he explain

712
00:32:31,920 --> 00:32:34,480
Speaker 3: this was when I shut it down instead of making

713
00:32:34,560 --> 00:32:37,000
Speaker 3: a comment that it's his house and I don't have

714
00:32:37,040 --> 00:32:40,120
Speaker 3: her right to cast anyone out, like make it make

715
00:32:40,240 --> 00:32:43,600
Speaker 3: sense because it doesn't. I told him I don't want

716
00:32:43,600 --> 00:32:46,600
Speaker 3: to talk about this right now. I need my items.

717
00:32:47,120 --> 00:32:50,160
Speaker 3: He said he won't let the dat in. I said,

718
00:32:50,320 --> 00:32:52,880
Speaker 3: well fine, I will call the police to escort me

719
00:32:52,960 --> 00:32:57,240
Speaker 3: in and I'll grab everything myself. He started screaming at

720
00:32:57,280 --> 00:33:00,640
Speaker 3: me and cussing at me. He said so much, But

721
00:33:00,720 --> 00:33:03,200
Speaker 3: what I remember most was him saying I was worthless

722
00:33:03,360 --> 00:33:06,160
Speaker 3: and acting like a witch, and then said maybe you

723
00:33:06,400 --> 00:33:10,360
Speaker 3: and your witch should be reunited. I didn't know, but

724
00:33:10,680 --> 00:33:13,440
Speaker 3: my friend's mom was recording it all. She was on

725
00:33:13,480 --> 00:33:15,880
Speaker 3: the couch with me and took video, took a video.

726
00:33:16,360 --> 00:33:18,560
Speaker 3: I hung up to cry after he said he wasted

727
00:33:18,560 --> 00:33:21,560
Speaker 3: a year of his life on me. We later got

728
00:33:21,560 --> 00:33:23,640
Speaker 3: a text from the dad saying he got what I needed,

729
00:33:23,960 --> 00:33:26,080
Speaker 3: but mom said to be careful about the meds as

730
00:33:26,120 --> 00:33:28,239
Speaker 3: I hung up, And there was enough time between that

731
00:33:28,560 --> 00:33:31,040
Speaker 3: and the dad texting us that my boyfriend could have

732
00:33:31,080 --> 00:33:33,719
Speaker 3: tampered with my medication. So I'm literally having to make

733
00:33:33,760 --> 00:33:37,520
Speaker 3: a police report anyway about the threats, so I can

734
00:33:37,560 --> 00:33:39,120
Speaker 3: bring it to a doctor so they will grant me

735
00:33:39,160 --> 00:33:43,000
Speaker 3: an emergency fill as some of my meds are considered controlled.

736
00:33:44,400 --> 00:33:47,920
Speaker 3: My friend went with me yesterday. She's a real gem.

737
00:33:48,200 --> 00:33:51,160
Speaker 3: She came yesterday and drove me there herself. We made

738
00:33:51,200 --> 00:33:53,240
Speaker 3: the report and we called the doctor's office for me

739
00:33:53,320 --> 00:33:56,640
Speaker 3: as well. Everyone was really nice. I get nervous around

740
00:33:56,680 --> 00:33:59,160
Speaker 3: the police because my father was one and he was

741
00:33:59,360 --> 00:34:03,000
Speaker 3: harmful and terrible, but having my friend there helped. Today

742
00:34:03,040 --> 00:34:05,280
Speaker 3: I spent time doing a virtual interview for a job

743
00:34:05,520 --> 00:34:08,600
Speaker 3: I really want. It would be remote and thus I

744
00:34:08,600 --> 00:34:11,440
Speaker 3: can move anywhere. My friend's parents said that I can

745
00:34:11,440 --> 00:34:13,759
Speaker 3: stay until I get a job, so long as I

746
00:34:13,800 --> 00:34:17,520
Speaker 3: follow some rules. All I see is very reasonable. My

747
00:34:17,600 --> 00:34:19,520
Speaker 3: friend is even kind enough to get me tickets to

748
00:34:19,600 --> 00:34:21,879
Speaker 3: the movie theater nearby and send money to my cash

749
00:34:21,920 --> 00:34:24,040
Speaker 3: app for the ride shairs, so I can just relax

750
00:34:24,760 --> 00:34:27,799
Speaker 3: w friend. So today that is what I'm going to do.

751
00:34:28,400 --> 00:34:33,840
Speaker 3: I just saw Sinners Sammy Sammy, and it was awesome.

752
00:34:33,960 --> 00:34:38,200
Speaker 3: Yes it was it was shut up, No, it was good.

753
00:34:38,200 --> 00:34:38,640
Speaker 1: I give it.

754
00:34:38,640 --> 00:34:41,040
Speaker 2: Actually a eight out of ten now is up from seven.

755
00:34:41,480 --> 00:34:43,440
Speaker 3: I'm just waiting for my ride back to the house

756
00:34:43,600 --> 00:34:46,600
Speaker 3: so I can help this kind of surrogate mom make dinner.

757
00:34:47,239 --> 00:34:50,200
Speaker 3: I do actually really love to cook. The dad is

758
00:34:50,320 --> 00:34:52,680
Speaker 3: vegan and I used to room with vegans, so I'm

759
00:34:52,719 --> 00:34:56,320
Speaker 3: actually really good at vegan cuisine. I'm excited, truly to

760
00:34:56,520 --> 00:34:59,399
Speaker 3: just be and to be with people who are kind

761
00:34:59,400 --> 00:35:02,080
Speaker 3: to me and seem genuinely seem to care. I hope

762
00:35:02,080 --> 00:35:04,080
Speaker 3: I get an offer soon, though I don't want to

763
00:35:04,120 --> 00:35:06,920
Speaker 3: be a burden or take advantage of their incredible kindness.

764
00:35:07,080 --> 00:35:09,799
Speaker 3: I know I'm freaking lucky. I don't want to ruin it.

765
00:35:10,200 --> 00:35:13,239
Speaker 3: I'm pretty much tearful all the time, but I'm physically safe.

766
00:35:13,239 --> 00:35:15,680
Speaker 3: At least. I miss my dog and the person I

767
00:35:15,680 --> 00:35:18,960
Speaker 3: thought my boyfriend was. I will break things off officially

768
00:35:19,239 --> 00:35:21,279
Speaker 3: when I have the bandwidth to deal with it all,

769
00:35:21,960 --> 00:35:26,799
Speaker 3: likely tomorrow. I hope we'll see Wish me luck and

770
00:35:26,880 --> 00:35:30,560
Speaker 3: there is a second update. I feel like everything is

771
00:35:30,600 --> 00:35:32,640
Speaker 3: going in the right direction. Shout out to your friend

772
00:35:33,320 --> 00:35:36,759
Speaker 3: being your support system and her family being so, like

773
00:35:36,800 --> 00:35:40,600
Speaker 3: you said, incredibly kind. You deserve this and the support

774
00:35:40,600 --> 00:35:45,120
Speaker 3: system from the very get go, not some monster saying, oh,

775
00:35:45,480 --> 00:35:49,680
Speaker 3: finally your dog passed away, your pet passed away. Update

776
00:35:49,760 --> 00:35:52,120
Speaker 3: number two. I mentioned in my last post in a

777
00:35:52,120 --> 00:35:54,600
Speaker 3: different sub that I got helped to leave Caleb again

778
00:35:54,640 --> 00:35:57,720
Speaker 3: the boyfriend to live with a bff. I call Barbara,

779
00:35:58,120 --> 00:36:01,360
Speaker 3: female thirties family who taken me in and honestly have

780
00:36:01,440 --> 00:36:03,960
Speaker 3: pretty much treated me like their own kid. There is

781
00:36:04,040 --> 00:36:06,360
Speaker 3: background with me and Barb, but it's a lot, and

782
00:36:06,400 --> 00:36:08,440
Speaker 3: I want to keep this short. I will call the

783
00:36:08,520 --> 00:36:13,120
Speaker 3: parents Zelda female fifties and Caden male sixties, for the

784
00:36:13,120 --> 00:36:16,360
Speaker 3: sake of keeping things less confusing. Cayden is a big dude.

785
00:36:16,800 --> 00:36:18,360
Speaker 3: I guess the best way to paint a picture is

786
00:36:18,360 --> 00:36:21,640
Speaker 3: if you see you picture Shamar Moore, the actor.

787
00:36:22,120 --> 00:36:23,560
Speaker 6: Hey from Criminal Minds?

788
00:36:23,960 --> 00:36:25,680
Speaker 1: Who Shamar Minds?

789
00:36:25,480 --> 00:36:28,200
Speaker 6: He's the guy in Criminal Minds.

790
00:36:28,880 --> 00:36:31,759
Speaker 2: They should call him Shamar more and more. Oh my god,

791
00:36:31,800 --> 00:36:33,520
Speaker 2: that's how much of him I want to see.

792
00:36:33,920 --> 00:36:36,239
Speaker 3: I don't see more of his story. He's just a

793
00:36:36,239 --> 00:36:39,320
Speaker 3: beefy jim bro looking guy, but he's the sweetest man alive.

794
00:36:39,880 --> 00:36:42,759
Speaker 3: Dude literally is retired and spends his time doing part

795
00:36:42,800 --> 00:36:46,279
Speaker 3: time work to keep busy and rescues animals, gardens, and

796
00:36:46,320 --> 00:36:48,760
Speaker 3: with the food from that garden, he loves to cook.

797
00:36:49,160 --> 00:36:52,080
Speaker 3: So he's Shamar Moore. He's the most adorable man I've

798
00:36:52,120 --> 00:36:54,800
Speaker 3: literally ever met in my life. He pulled me aside

799
00:36:54,800 --> 00:36:57,080
Speaker 3: the day after he got my stuff from Calebs and

800
00:36:57,160 --> 00:37:00,839
Speaker 3: told me the whole story. He gets to Calebs, knocks

801
00:37:01,080 --> 00:37:04,120
Speaker 3: and Caleb starts with the threats he will call the cops,

802
00:37:04,320 --> 00:37:07,239
Speaker 3: he will sue, et cetera. Cayden told him plainly to

803
00:37:07,320 --> 00:37:10,279
Speaker 3: go ahead and that he can return cops in tow

804
00:37:10,520 --> 00:37:14,000
Speaker 3: to retrieve my items per my request. Caleb relented, but

805
00:37:14,080 --> 00:37:19,120
Speaker 3: he was basically a tool the whole time. No way, shocking, No,

806
00:37:20,040 --> 00:37:22,360
Speaker 3: Cayden said he tried to be cool headed and he

807
00:37:22,560 --> 00:37:25,640
Speaker 3: just grabbed everything on my list, but Caleb was postering

808
00:37:26,239 --> 00:37:28,600
Speaker 3: and trying to be a big man and kept passling

809
00:37:28,800 --> 00:37:32,160
Speaker 3: with hurry up, I don't have all day and things

810
00:37:32,200 --> 00:37:34,960
Speaker 3: like that. Then when Caden didn't react or say anything

811
00:37:34,960 --> 00:37:39,600
Speaker 3: to him, Caleb went mildly Caden's word, not mine, discriminatory

812
00:37:40,000 --> 00:37:43,600
Speaker 3: and told him in a very exaggerated accent, to hurry up, boy,

813
00:37:43,920 --> 00:37:48,319
Speaker 3: there's cotton that needs picking. And worse, I really hope

814
00:37:48,400 --> 00:37:51,600
Speaker 3: Cayden did something. Oh he he did. Cayden said he

815
00:37:51,719 --> 00:37:53,480
Speaker 3: just laughed at these attempts to get a rise out

816
00:37:53,520 --> 00:37:54,800
Speaker 3: of him and focus on his task.

817
00:37:55,080 --> 00:37:58,239
Speaker 2: Good on, Kaden, Honestly, the best reactions that you could have.

818
00:37:58,520 --> 00:37:59,680
Speaker 1: No, you're like you're an idiot.

819
00:38:00,000 --> 00:38:02,600
Speaker 3: Should have recorded the entire thing, actually, but he did

820
00:38:02,640 --> 00:38:07,359
Speaker 3: start to record on his phone Wow. Yeah, look at

821
00:38:07,360 --> 00:38:10,040
Speaker 3: that putting the phone in his front in his front

822
00:38:10,080 --> 00:38:13,520
Speaker 3: pocket camera out like a body cam. He has footage

823
00:38:13,560 --> 00:38:16,600
Speaker 3: of Kalem repeating his veiled Opie should join her witch

824
00:38:16,640 --> 00:38:19,520
Speaker 3: comment and more. Cadence told me he is not telling

825
00:38:19,520 --> 00:38:22,560
Speaker 3: me this to upset me, but to inform me. He's

826
00:38:22,640 --> 00:38:25,600
Speaker 3: known guys like that and they are manipultive and overall

827
00:38:25,680 --> 00:38:28,200
Speaker 3: bad news. He told me that he talked it over

828
00:38:28,239 --> 00:38:30,360
Speaker 3: with Zelda and they will pay for a lawyer for

829
00:38:30,480 --> 00:38:34,040
Speaker 3: me and will help me pay for any schooling or certifications.

830
00:38:34,080 --> 00:38:37,359
Speaker 3: I need to get on my feet again. Nice angels

831
00:38:37,880 --> 00:38:38,680
Speaker 3: send from above.

832
00:38:39,400 --> 00:38:41,160
Speaker 1: Wow, my little silver Linland.

833
00:38:41,760 --> 00:38:45,120
Speaker 3: The best revenge is a life well lived, he said.

834
00:38:45,719 --> 00:38:48,480
Speaker 3: Then he added that a better revenge is a life

835
00:38:48,600 --> 00:38:52,080
Speaker 3: effing thriving. Despite it all, I have no idea how

836
00:38:52,080 --> 00:38:54,719
Speaker 3: I liked out with these wonderful people. It didn't take

837
00:38:54,760 --> 00:38:57,000
Speaker 3: really long. I think I posted about a week ago,

838
00:38:57,120 --> 00:38:59,279
Speaker 3: and yesterday the friend from my original post who told

839
00:38:59,280 --> 00:39:02,439
Speaker 3: me about the party as he left, Larry Mail thirty

840
00:39:02,480 --> 00:39:05,120
Speaker 3: six sent me screenshots of Kalem asking his friends to

841
00:39:05,200 --> 00:39:09,000
Speaker 3: best basically pester me and get and gave talking points

842
00:39:09,000 --> 00:39:11,200
Speaker 3: in a numbered list and what looks to be an

843
00:39:11,200 --> 00:39:14,040
Speaker 3: AI generated It's hard with sure. Here's the list of

844
00:39:14,080 --> 00:39:17,120
Speaker 3: talking points to add to your RPG at the top,

845
00:39:17,360 --> 00:39:20,080
Speaker 3: and ended with something about it about if he would

846
00:39:20,160 --> 00:39:23,600
Speaker 3: like to create a full script for characters, list of

847
00:39:23,640 --> 00:39:25,920
Speaker 3: what to say and how so he just wants to

848
00:39:26,239 --> 00:39:28,120
Speaker 3: keep This guy is such a loser.

849
00:39:28,239 --> 00:39:30,440
Speaker 2: No way, this guy sucks. Did we just learn that?

850
00:39:31,200 --> 00:39:33,600
Speaker 1: Oh? Wait, no, he sucked the whole time.

851
00:39:33,960 --> 00:39:36,640
Speaker 3: Ugh. The short is the narrative is supposed to be

852
00:39:36,719 --> 00:39:39,720
Speaker 3: that I am unstable, he is concerned, and the friends

853
00:39:39,719 --> 00:39:42,160
Speaker 3: are all are there to all back them up and

854
00:39:42,239 --> 00:39:45,480
Speaker 3: label me a goal digging free loader who misinterpret awake

855
00:39:45,600 --> 00:39:51,120
Speaker 3: for hour. Our beloved deceased pet Larry said he felt

856
00:39:51,160 --> 00:39:53,560
Speaker 3: sick when he really saw what Caleb was capable of

857
00:39:53,880 --> 00:39:57,640
Speaker 3: and suggested I double check everything he had, even temporary

858
00:39:57,680 --> 00:40:01,480
Speaker 3: access to. I screenshotted it and sent other screenshots and

859
00:40:01,520 --> 00:40:04,520
Speaker 3: such with a full explanation of events to his parents,

860
00:40:05,200 --> 00:40:09,200
Speaker 3: who are retired and live in Aruba. I didn't expect

861
00:40:09,200 --> 00:40:12,400
Speaker 3: to hear anything, really, it was risky. I read a

862
00:40:12,400 --> 00:40:14,640
Speaker 3: lot of Reddit stories where the parents sided with their kids.

863
00:40:14,840 --> 00:40:19,000
Speaker 3: But this morning I got a notification. It was Caleb's mother,

864
00:40:19,239 --> 00:40:22,960
Speaker 3: Cassie female sixty five. I've always really liked her. She

865
00:40:23,040 --> 00:40:25,799
Speaker 3: always seems so sweet and fun and always has this

866
00:40:25,840 --> 00:40:30,000
Speaker 3: sort of yolo attitude. Haven't heard that in a long hello.

867
00:40:30,960 --> 00:40:33,360
Speaker 3: She asked to video chat, which we did just before

868
00:40:33,400 --> 00:40:37,000
Speaker 3: I started this update with Zelda by my side, also

869
00:40:37,080 --> 00:40:40,640
Speaker 3: still recording because we didn't know what to expect. Cassie

870
00:40:40,719 --> 00:40:44,439
Speaker 3: was so upset by this she was crying. Caleb's dad, Mike,

871
00:40:44,560 --> 00:40:47,480
Speaker 3: was traveling in the UK and for some reason wasn't reachable,

872
00:40:47,800 --> 00:40:50,120
Speaker 3: so poor Cassie was left to talk with me alone

873
00:40:50,280 --> 00:40:54,160
Speaker 3: about it all. I learned a lot for one, Caleb's

874
00:40:54,160 --> 00:40:58,000
Speaker 3: house is not Caleb's house. He did not buy it

875
00:40:58,000 --> 00:41:00,120
Speaker 3: from his folks like he told me he did, but

876
00:41:00,160 --> 00:41:03,760
Speaker 3: he is managing the house and it's care in exchange

877
00:41:03,760 --> 00:41:06,040
Speaker 3: for rent free life. He does not even pay the

878
00:41:06,120 --> 00:41:10,960
Speaker 3: utilities and services lawn care, monthly house cleaning, et cetera himself.

879
00:41:11,560 --> 00:41:13,840
Speaker 3: His car is the car they left here in the

880
00:41:13,880 --> 00:41:16,879
Speaker 3: States and it's paid off. This guy doesn't have bills

881
00:41:16,920 --> 00:41:20,080
Speaker 3: to care about at all. Yet when I do small

882
00:41:20,160 --> 00:41:22,600
Speaker 3: jobs or part times and give him money, he takes it,

883
00:41:22,840 --> 00:41:25,440
Speaker 3: claiming to use it for all the bills. He's behind a.

884
00:41:25,600 --> 00:41:29,480
Speaker 2: Dude, imagine being this guy and having a situation where

885
00:41:29,480 --> 00:41:32,200
Speaker 2: you're just like made in the shade and you can

886
00:41:32,320 --> 00:41:34,799
Speaker 2: just like have the best life you want. It's just

887
00:41:34,880 --> 00:41:36,960
Speaker 2: all in your hands and you just decide to be

888
00:41:37,239 --> 00:41:39,359
Speaker 2: a complete tool.

889
00:41:39,560 --> 00:41:42,920
Speaker 3: A complete This guy's thirty seven.

890
00:41:43,080 --> 00:41:46,319
Speaker 2: I wish I could, unfiltered give you my take on

891
00:41:46,360 --> 00:41:46,759
Speaker 2: this guy.

892
00:41:47,000 --> 00:41:49,360
Speaker 3: Cassie told me the text he sent me and videos

893
00:41:49,400 --> 00:41:51,880
Speaker 3: and stuff I shared with her were horrible, and she

894
00:41:52,360 --> 00:41:55,040
Speaker 3: is livid. She kept saying this is not the way

895
00:41:55,080 --> 00:41:57,360
Speaker 3: she raised him. But Mike is not his father, and

896
00:41:57,400 --> 00:42:02,160
Speaker 3: his bio dad Jesse is and was a total misogynist knucklehead,

897
00:42:02,440 --> 00:42:04,680
Speaker 3: and she suspects that where he got this crap was

898
00:42:04,719 --> 00:42:07,359
Speaker 3: from him. She's talking to Caleb in what in our

899
00:42:07,440 --> 00:42:10,319
Speaker 3: time in the state will be about an hour or so.

900
00:42:10,320 --> 00:42:12,840
Speaker 3: She apologized to me so much and asked if I

901
00:42:12,880 --> 00:42:17,200
Speaker 3: needed anything, money, food, a place to stay. To be honest,

902
00:42:17,280 --> 00:42:19,839
Speaker 3: I feel a little bit bad about it. I lied

903
00:42:19,880 --> 00:42:21,920
Speaker 3: and said I'm actually fine and got an apartment out

904
00:42:21,960 --> 00:42:24,439
Speaker 3: of town. I don't know why, but I just did.

905
00:42:24,800 --> 00:42:27,799
Speaker 3: I think it's just stay away from this family. Then

906
00:42:27,960 --> 00:42:30,799
Speaker 3: let Caleb get the you know, the punishment from his

907
00:42:31,080 --> 00:42:34,400
Speaker 3: parents or from whoever she said that was good and

908
00:42:34,440 --> 00:42:37,200
Speaker 3: to take care and if I need anything, to reach out.

909
00:42:37,400 --> 00:42:40,279
Speaker 3: It seems like everything is going superbly in the right

910
00:42:40,320 --> 00:42:41,800
Speaker 3: direction for OP.

911
00:42:42,719 --> 00:42:45,640
Speaker 2: Put this guy in a hole that goes all the

912
00:42:45,640 --> 00:42:47,839
Speaker 2: way through the earth and never let him out.

913
00:42:48,080 --> 00:42:50,440
Speaker 1: Just have him go back and forth until he.

914
00:42:50,440 --> 00:42:55,120
Speaker 3: Learns this this manchild, just stay away from him. Let's

915
00:42:55,120 --> 00:42:55,880
Speaker 3: finish the story.

916
00:42:56,000 --> 00:42:56,680
Speaker 1: Oh man.

917
00:42:57,200 --> 00:42:59,880
Speaker 3: So I am now just sitting here. Zelda's cooking much

918
00:43:00,040 --> 00:43:03,320
Speaker 3: childhood favorite and I'm sitting with the dogs watching Ironheart

919
00:43:03,360 --> 00:43:06,960
Speaker 3: on the big TV. That's everything so far. I want

920
00:43:06,960 --> 00:43:09,759
Speaker 3: stuff this sub with my drama any longer, and while

921
00:43:09,760 --> 00:43:12,359
Speaker 3: they're posted on my account or to others, slash more

922
00:43:12,400 --> 00:43:15,480
Speaker 3: appropriate subs as I find them. But I figured everyone

923
00:43:15,520 --> 00:43:18,080
Speaker 3: here who cared deserved to know how things went. My

924
00:43:18,160 --> 00:43:20,640
Speaker 3: friend helped me edit this down but says it's still long,

925
00:43:20,719 --> 00:43:24,520
Speaker 3: so sorry, I'm cutting out a lot. PS. Thanks for

926
00:43:24,600 --> 00:43:26,959
Speaker 3: the kind messages. I am okay and say it safe

927
00:43:26,960 --> 00:43:30,000
Speaker 3: with Mabel's family. They treat me really well and I'm

928
00:43:30,000 --> 00:43:32,440
Speaker 3: just adjusting to it. It's odd not being on my

929
00:43:32,520 --> 00:43:35,960
Speaker 3: guard all the time. I found myself taking random long

930
00:43:36,080 --> 00:43:40,879
Speaker 3: naps and just enjoying feeling safe it's nice and that

931
00:43:41,560 --> 00:43:46,520
Speaker 3: is the end of this story. Oh man, Just.

932
00:43:48,120 --> 00:43:50,880
Speaker 2: NASA frog and here, that's what we're just gonna say,

933
00:43:51,440 --> 00:43:52,240
Speaker 2: NASA Frog.

934
00:43:52,360 --> 00:43:55,320
Speaker 3: Yes, and I think it's appropriate for you to still

935
00:43:55,480 --> 00:43:59,040
Speaker 3: mourn for Pepper, mourn for your father. That's you know,

936
00:43:59,239 --> 00:44:01,759
Speaker 3: that's just gonna come naturally and come and go. And

937
00:44:01,760 --> 00:44:05,920
Speaker 3: that's okay. Move on from that toxic piece of garbage

938
00:44:05,960 --> 00:44:09,040
Speaker 3: that you call an ex and live your best life.

939
00:44:09,040 --> 00:44:11,880
Speaker 3: What Cayden said, revenge is the you know. Revenge is

940
00:44:11,920 --> 00:44:15,319
Speaker 3: living the best life you know, And that's great. You

941
00:44:15,320 --> 00:44:18,040
Speaker 3: don't have to put any more effort or time into

942
00:44:18,360 --> 00:44:21,080
Speaker 3: your ex. Let him do his thing, make him make

943
00:44:21,840 --> 00:44:23,799
Speaker 3: he'll make himself look like an idiot what she already is.

944
00:44:24,320 --> 00:44:25,880
Speaker 3: So that's great.

945
00:44:26,040 --> 00:44:28,040
Speaker 1: Hey y'all, it's John og Host here. We're gonna get

946
00:44:28,040 --> 00:44:28,600
Speaker 1: back to the stories.

947
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Speaker 3: But here's a quick three minute break from ASP for

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Speaker 3: more sponsors.

949
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Speaker 5: My daughter stood up for herself, but my family wasn't

950
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Speaker 5: happy about it.

951
00:44:35,600 --> 00:44:38,799
Speaker 6: You're not allowed to have a voice, woman, Sit down.

952
00:44:39,480 --> 00:44:41,960
Speaker 5: I need to see if I'm crazy here. My kid,

953
00:44:41,960 --> 00:44:45,160
Speaker 5: female thirteen, has a bully. He's one of those kids

954
00:44:45,200 --> 00:44:48,000
Speaker 5: who's related to someone in the school district. Dang it,

955
00:44:48,200 --> 00:44:50,480
Speaker 5: we're actually switching her into a new school because the

956
00:44:50,520 --> 00:44:53,759
Speaker 5: public schools have done nothing. And this past semester it

957
00:44:53,840 --> 00:44:54,799
Speaker 5: got physical.

958
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Speaker 6: That is scary.

959
00:44:56,160 --> 00:45:00,120
Speaker 5: I was livid the bully got suspension, but he's it's

960
00:45:00,160 --> 00:45:03,520
Speaker 5: been suspended before. I tried talking to the parents and

961
00:45:03,560 --> 00:45:07,440
Speaker 5: they made excuses, of which the wildest is that they'll probably.

962
00:45:07,120 --> 00:45:08,360
Speaker 6: End up together someday.

963
00:45:08,480 --> 00:45:11,160
Speaker 5: I told him, under no uncertain terms, that their son

964
00:45:11,239 --> 00:45:13,719
Speaker 5: is not to even look at my daughter, and his

965
00:45:13,800 --> 00:45:15,960
Speaker 5: only words to her need to be an apology. I

966
00:45:16,040 --> 00:45:18,439
Speaker 5: got that well. He defended that what else do you want?

967
00:45:18,520 --> 00:45:21,799
Speaker 5: By the way, this comes from Live bri or Fry Calms,

968
00:45:22,000 --> 00:45:23,680
Speaker 5: and if you want to submit your own stories, go

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Speaker 5: to the r slash Okay storytime separate it.

970
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Speaker 6: So this summer she was in stem camp.

971
00:45:28,480 --> 00:45:31,480
Speaker 5: She begged to be signed up, but so was the bully,

972
00:45:31,880 --> 00:45:34,920
Speaker 5: and this time, during their outdoor break, the teacher was

973
00:45:34,960 --> 00:45:37,839
Speaker 5: physically on his phone when the bully, in full view

974
00:45:37,880 --> 00:45:42,560
Speaker 5: of multiple students, pushed my daughter and she turned and retaliated.

975
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Speaker 5: The bully is now up for possible suspension from the camp,

976
00:45:45,440 --> 00:45:48,080
Speaker 5: not the district. But I lodged another formal complaint, this

977
00:45:48,160 --> 00:45:51,000
Speaker 5: time threatening a lawsuit. I asked my daughter if she

978
00:45:51,040 --> 00:45:53,320
Speaker 5: defended herself, and she said she was afraid he was

979
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Speaker 5: going to hurt her because he threatened.

980
00:45:55,080 --> 00:45:55,839
Speaker 6: To knock her out.

981
00:45:56,040 --> 00:45:58,960
Speaker 5: I said, okay, good job defending yourself. Glad you're okay,

982
00:45:59,160 --> 00:46:01,520
Speaker 5: Let's just catch a move and decompress. I told my

983
00:46:01,560 --> 00:46:04,360
Speaker 5: siblings on Father's Day and was immediately told by my

984
00:46:04,440 --> 00:46:07,279
Speaker 5: eldest brother and his wife that I should never have

985
00:46:07,440 --> 00:46:09,040
Speaker 5: encouraged her to fight anyone.

986
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Speaker 6: I argued that I didn't.

987
00:46:10,760 --> 00:46:13,480
Speaker 5: I'm glad she defended herself when she was scared and

988
00:46:13,520 --> 00:46:16,080
Speaker 5: the person I trusted her to care for her was

989
00:46:16,120 --> 00:46:19,000
Speaker 5: not even paying attention. They argued that now shall see

990
00:46:19,040 --> 00:46:21,719
Speaker 5: the old one too as okay, the next time she

991
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Speaker 5: gets her feelings hurt, that I'm a bad parent for

992
00:46:24,160 --> 00:46:24,960
Speaker 5: opening that door.

993
00:46:25,239 --> 00:46:25,880
Speaker 6: Am I.

994
00:46:25,880 --> 00:46:28,040
Speaker 5: I mean, if she's in trouble and in physical danger,

995
00:46:28,120 --> 00:46:29,640
Speaker 5: I don't want her to ever think she'll get in

996
00:46:29,680 --> 00:46:33,280
Speaker 5: trouble for defending herself. But now I'm second guessing everything.

997
00:46:33,480 --> 00:46:36,000
Speaker 5: She's seemingly okay now, and I took the week off

998
00:46:36,040 --> 00:46:39,440
Speaker 5: so we can celebrate Juneteenth together and just decompress from it.

999
00:46:39,800 --> 00:46:41,840
Speaker 5: But I want her to grow up and be safe.

1000
00:46:42,120 --> 00:46:44,920
Speaker 5: Am I the a hole for saying good job. And

1001
00:46:45,000 --> 00:46:49,040
Speaker 5: there is an edit folks and some comments in an update.

1002
00:46:49,160 --> 00:46:52,560
Speaker 6: But what do you think? No? No, I think no.

1003
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Speaker 4: I mean I get the idea, like, yeah, you don't

1004
00:46:54,440 --> 00:46:56,400
Speaker 4: want to like teach a child that like violence is

1005
00:46:56,400 --> 00:46:59,719
Speaker 4: okay to any sorts, but then they grow up, yeah,

1006
00:46:59,760 --> 00:47:00,839
Speaker 4: and then they have that.

1007
00:47:00,800 --> 00:47:03,920
Speaker 6: Mindset still and then they might be a dangerous situation.

1008
00:47:04,080 --> 00:47:07,480
Speaker 5: But also it's totally different to say yeah, violence is

1009
00:47:07,520 --> 00:47:12,680
Speaker 5: okay than to say defending yourself yeah, okay. Self defense

1010
00:47:12,840 --> 00:47:16,200
Speaker 5: is always okay. If someone is attacking you, yeah, push

1011
00:47:16,239 --> 00:47:18,279
Speaker 5: them off, Like I mean, if you're getting attacked on

1012
00:47:18,320 --> 00:47:20,759
Speaker 5: the street by someone, yeah, you can like punch them,

1013
00:47:20,880 --> 00:47:22,799
Speaker 5: like do what you need to do, Yeah, because your

1014
00:47:22,800 --> 00:47:24,120
Speaker 5: safety is at risk.

1015
00:47:24,160 --> 00:47:26,600
Speaker 4: Exactly, like if it was the kind of thing where

1016
00:47:26,600 --> 00:47:28,640
Speaker 4: it was like an accident or something like that.

1017
00:47:28,680 --> 00:47:30,440
Speaker 6: Like I don't know if there was one time where like.

1018
00:47:30,440 --> 00:47:33,200
Speaker 4: I was playing with my friends and then things got

1019
00:47:33,360 --> 00:47:35,759
Speaker 4: a little too rough and then I had to leave

1020
00:47:35,920 --> 00:47:37,960
Speaker 4: because I was like I get do this, and then

1021
00:47:38,000 --> 00:47:39,839
Speaker 4: my dad kind of jokeds like did you like hit

1022
00:47:39,880 --> 00:47:40,399
Speaker 4: him in my back?

1023
00:47:40,440 --> 00:47:42,440
Speaker 6: And it was like no, I'm not gonna do that

1024
00:47:42,600 --> 00:47:44,200
Speaker 6: because it was an accident, you know what I mean.

1025
00:47:44,320 --> 00:47:46,680
Speaker 4: They weren't like literally threatening me like this child is

1026
00:47:46,920 --> 00:47:47,640
Speaker 4: that would be okay.

1027
00:47:47,719 --> 00:47:47,920
Speaker 2: I think.

1028
00:47:47,960 --> 00:47:50,680
Speaker 5: Also a difference is, let's say this kid was bullying

1029
00:47:50,719 --> 00:47:53,799
Speaker 5: her verbally, M don't teach your kid to just punch

1030
00:47:53,840 --> 00:47:55,839
Speaker 5: the kid. You know, that's not like you don't want

1031
00:47:55,840 --> 00:47:58,160
Speaker 5: to be the first one to know and like start

1032
00:47:58,239 --> 00:48:01,160
Speaker 5: violence if kid pushes you, Yeah, I'd be like, Okay,

1033
00:48:01,200 --> 00:48:03,560
Speaker 5: don't touch me, you know. If you need to like

1034
00:48:04,120 --> 00:48:06,200
Speaker 5: defend yourself, that is totally different.

1035
00:48:06,600 --> 00:48:07,080
Speaker 6: Exactly.

1036
00:48:07,160 --> 00:48:10,400
Speaker 5: Holy crap, that's a lot of comments editing this. Multiple

1037
00:48:10,400 --> 00:48:12,799
Speaker 5: students confirm her story. So no, I don't think she's

1038
00:48:12,880 --> 00:48:15,400
Speaker 5: lying and started a fight for no reason. She's as

1039
00:48:15,480 --> 00:48:17,520
Speaker 5: level headed as they come. And I won't say she's

1040
00:48:17,560 --> 00:48:19,480
Speaker 5: never lied to me, but I will say I tend

1041
00:48:19,480 --> 00:48:22,400
Speaker 5: to know when she does. Cameras are being checked because

1042
00:48:22,400 --> 00:48:25,319
Speaker 5: I formally requested today. I'm not a dad, but a mom.

1043
00:48:25,480 --> 00:48:27,960
Speaker 5: Not everyone agreed with my brother, but enough of them

1044
00:48:27,960 --> 00:48:30,279
Speaker 5: did that made me question, and he and his wife

1045
00:48:30,360 --> 00:48:34,279
Speaker 5: were very insistent and some comments by ope. From what

1046
00:48:34,320 --> 00:48:36,680
Speaker 5: I understand of the situation, she ran for the teacher

1047
00:48:36,760 --> 00:48:39,200
Speaker 5: right after she threw the old one too, and there

1048
00:48:39,320 --> 00:48:42,000
Speaker 5: is an update. But yeah, we've got a lot of

1049
00:48:42,000 --> 00:48:44,120
Speaker 5: people saying the same thing. Kat says, it's in the

1050
00:48:44,160 --> 00:48:47,160
Speaker 5: name of self defense. Cat Lord says anyone who says

1051
00:48:47,200 --> 00:48:49,799
Speaker 5: op is the ale should be educated on the outcomes

1052
00:48:49,840 --> 00:48:52,720
Speaker 5: bullying can have, especially physical bullying.

1053
00:48:53,000 --> 00:48:53,880
Speaker 6: Yeah not okay.

1054
00:48:54,520 --> 00:48:57,080
Speaker 5: Blash says, Yeah, the school will make the physical altercation

1055
00:48:57,320 --> 00:48:59,960
Speaker 5: problem and you don't want that on your child's record.

1056
00:49:00,239 --> 00:49:01,880
Speaker 6: What self defense is also important?

1057
00:49:02,239 --> 00:49:06,120
Speaker 5: Exactly, Yes, but let's get into this update one week later. So,

1058
00:49:06,280 --> 00:49:09,040
Speaker 5: about a week ago, I posted about a bullying situation

1059
00:49:09,160 --> 00:49:11,720
Speaker 5: with my kid, who is female thirteen, and I mentioned

1060
00:49:11,719 --> 00:49:14,080
Speaker 5: this bully is a relative of someone who works high

1061
00:49:14,160 --> 00:49:16,319
Speaker 5: up in our district. I went into a meeting with

1062
00:49:16,360 --> 00:49:19,480
Speaker 5: the district after my formal request for the camera footage

1063
00:49:19,480 --> 00:49:21,919
Speaker 5: of the event, and I continued to follow up via

1064
00:49:22,040 --> 00:49:25,839
Speaker 5: email and call, but kept getting stonewalled. I was frustrated,

1065
00:49:26,000 --> 00:49:28,400
Speaker 5: so I spoke with my best friend who works in education,

1066
00:49:28,680 --> 00:49:31,879
Speaker 5: and she suggested a police report would quote.

1067
00:49:31,760 --> 00:49:33,800
Speaker 6: Put a Bunsen burner under their butts.

1068
00:49:34,040 --> 00:49:34,600
Speaker 1: She was right.

1069
00:49:35,040 --> 00:49:37,000
Speaker 5: Once I had a copy of my report for the

1070
00:49:37,120 --> 00:49:40,000
Speaker 5: harmful Act and armed with all my past complaints and

1071
00:49:40,040 --> 00:49:42,840
Speaker 5: emails with the resource officer of the kid's school. I

1072
00:49:42,920 --> 00:49:44,840
Speaker 5: sent it to my point of contact.

1073
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Speaker 6: With the district.

1074
00:49:45,360 --> 00:49:48,120
Speaker 5: It's a frickin' miracle. I got a call the same day.

1075
00:49:48,320 --> 00:49:50,879
Speaker 5: A meeting was arranged and I meet with them next week.

1076
00:49:50,960 --> 00:49:53,400
Speaker 5: Juneteenth was wonderful and my kid had a blast. She

1077
00:49:53,440 --> 00:49:56,600
Speaker 5: hasn't been punished, and honestly, I was really enjoying spending

1078
00:49:56,600 --> 00:49:58,760
Speaker 5: time with her, so we took advantage of the time.

1079
00:49:59,239 --> 00:50:02,040
Speaker 5: Saw a movie, went shopping, et cetera. I work a

1080
00:50:02,040 --> 00:50:04,720
Speaker 5: lot and am a single mom, so free time outside

1081
00:50:04,760 --> 00:50:07,480
Speaker 5: the general weekends has been rare as of late, especially

1082
00:50:07,520 --> 00:50:10,680
Speaker 5: now that she's doing camps, making friends and wanting to

1083
00:50:10,680 --> 00:50:13,279
Speaker 5: do sleepovers and such. I posted some photos on my

1084
00:50:13,360 --> 00:50:15,680
Speaker 5: private account and my brother sent me a text. I

1085
00:50:15,719 --> 00:50:18,640
Speaker 5: won't go into everything because his message was long, but

1086
00:50:18,800 --> 00:50:21,520
Speaker 5: basically he said, I'm spoiling her when she should be

1087
00:50:21,560 --> 00:50:24,680
Speaker 5: punished for fighting in school, and I'll be raising a criminal.

1088
00:50:24,840 --> 00:50:26,839
Speaker 5: I told him that he can mind his business and

1089
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Speaker 5: his own children, and he said, she's not even really yours.

1090
00:50:32,040 --> 00:50:35,640
Speaker 6: Whoa what is she like adopted or something?

1091
00:50:35,680 --> 00:50:37,440
Speaker 1: They don't know? Do we know?

1092
00:50:37,960 --> 00:50:40,240
Speaker 6: That's crazy? That's okay.

1093
00:50:40,560 --> 00:50:43,239
Speaker 5: My message back was that he's not been supportive since

1094
00:50:43,320 --> 00:50:46,120
Speaker 5: my husband passed away, and come to think of it,

1095
00:50:46,200 --> 00:50:48,719
Speaker 5: he wasn't supportive when we married. I wonder if maybe

1096
00:50:48,800 --> 00:50:51,120
Speaker 5: step child, so I don't take his opinion on my

1097
00:50:51,200 --> 00:50:53,279
Speaker 5: daughter with any high regard. And if he and his

1098
00:50:53,320 --> 00:50:55,920
Speaker 5: wife want it instilled in children that they should let

1099
00:50:55,920 --> 00:50:58,520
Speaker 5: someone hurt them or others and bullies should have their way,

1100
00:50:58,960 --> 00:51:02,160
Speaker 5: then maybe it's time spent less time around them. We

1101
00:51:02,160 --> 00:51:03,920
Speaker 5: were going to go to the birthday party for my

1102
00:51:03,960 --> 00:51:06,280
Speaker 5: sister in law before all of this happened, a family event.

1103
00:51:06,440 --> 00:51:08,359
Speaker 5: I think my daughter and I will skip that for now.

1104
00:51:08,480 --> 00:51:10,839
Speaker 5: I mean the fact that your brother doesn't see your

1105
00:51:10,960 --> 00:51:13,759
Speaker 5: daughter as your daughter. Yes, I wouldn't want him to

1106
00:51:13,800 --> 00:51:14,439
Speaker 5: be around either.

1107
00:51:14,520 --> 00:51:15,160
Speaker 6: Absolutely not.

1108
00:51:15,480 --> 00:51:18,080
Speaker 5: I'd be like, okay, cool, you don't think I'm raising

1109
00:51:18,120 --> 00:51:20,919
Speaker 5: my daughter right, yeah, see it's happened at all.

1110
00:51:21,160 --> 00:51:24,680
Speaker 4: And to say that she's raising a criminal, yeah, like

1111
00:51:24,719 --> 00:51:26,680
Speaker 4: I don't want that person saying that my daughter is

1112
00:51:26,719 --> 00:51:28,160
Speaker 4: a criminal around my daughter.

1113
00:51:28,280 --> 00:51:29,440
Speaker 6: Yeah, absolutely not.

1114
00:51:29,880 --> 00:51:33,840
Speaker 5: No, And before it's asked, she is not biologically my daughter,

1115
00:51:33,960 --> 00:51:36,000
Speaker 5: but legally and in the way of the fact that

1116
00:51:36,040 --> 00:51:38,399
Speaker 5: I love her more than anything. I formally adopted her

1117
00:51:38,480 --> 00:51:40,759
Speaker 5: when she was two after I married her father. He

1118
00:51:40,840 --> 00:51:42,919
Speaker 5: passed away when she was six, and I've had soul

1119
00:51:43,000 --> 00:51:46,200
Speaker 5: custody since. Wow, her biological mother is not in the

1120
00:51:46,200 --> 00:51:48,879
Speaker 5: picture since my husband passed. It's just been me and

1121
00:51:48,920 --> 00:51:51,400
Speaker 5: her in the day to day. I hoped to update

1122
00:51:51,440 --> 00:51:54,040
Speaker 5: after the school meeting, and there is a second update

1123
00:51:54,440 --> 00:51:55,359
Speaker 5: sixteen days later.

1124
00:51:55,440 --> 00:51:57,000
Speaker 6: Do you have any thoughts before we jump into that.

1125
00:51:57,440 --> 00:52:01,919
Speaker 6: I think that the brother's crazy. Yeah, well, just so disrespectful.

1126
00:52:02,080 --> 00:52:04,400
Speaker 4: Yeah, absolutely, Like what does he want her to do

1127
00:52:04,560 --> 00:52:06,680
Speaker 4: if it gets into a worse situation when she's not

1128
00:52:06,840 --> 00:52:09,040
Speaker 4: just being violent out of nowhere, No, it's not.

1129
00:52:09,080 --> 00:52:10,360
Speaker 6: Violence for the sake of violence.

1130
00:52:10,600 --> 00:52:13,919
Speaker 4: Yeah, she's being like threatened and bullied and pushed by

1131
00:52:14,000 --> 00:52:17,080
Speaker 4: this kid, and so yeah, she's gonna fight back. She's

1132
00:52:17,080 --> 00:52:19,680
Speaker 4: not gonna just like let the bullied get away with it.

1133
00:52:19,840 --> 00:52:20,320
Speaker 6: Yeah.

1134
00:52:20,400 --> 00:52:22,000
Speaker 5: I also think there's this kind of I don't know

1135
00:52:22,040 --> 00:52:24,120
Speaker 5: if this is his thinking, but I think there is

1136
00:52:24,200 --> 00:52:27,480
Speaker 5: often an expectation for like young girls to not engage

1137
00:52:27,520 --> 00:52:30,759
Speaker 5: in any sort of like physical violence or you know,

1138
00:52:30,800 --> 00:52:34,120
Speaker 5: anything stuff like that. So maybe there's some element of

1139
00:52:34,280 --> 00:52:36,880
Speaker 5: that kind of thing, and just like, yeah, that definitely

1140
00:52:36,920 --> 00:52:39,680
Speaker 5: is a thing, and like just for women to expect

1141
00:52:39,680 --> 00:52:42,960
Speaker 5: to just like deal with it, yeah, and like not

1142
00:52:42,239 --> 00:52:47,640
Speaker 5: like to hit back, and yeah, you's just depending yourself, right,

1143
00:52:47,760 --> 00:52:50,759
Speaker 5: Like we're expected to just like kind of bury it.

1144
00:52:50,680 --> 00:52:52,959
Speaker 6: And like handle it and stuff. And it's like no, no,

1145
00:52:52,960 --> 00:52:54,839
Speaker 6: no no, but there is an up date.

1146
00:52:55,000 --> 00:52:58,279
Speaker 5: Sixteen days later, we have the meeting over Zoom. I

1147
00:52:58,320 --> 00:53:01,759
Speaker 5: came in expecting to have to come in pupies blazoned.

1148
00:53:01,280 --> 00:53:02,080
Speaker 6: Like a maniac.

1149
00:53:02,320 --> 00:53:05,840
Speaker 5: I was ready to go off, go fully fair, But

1150
00:53:06,040 --> 00:53:08,240
Speaker 5: I guess all the legal work I've been doing around

1151
00:53:08,239 --> 00:53:11,320
Speaker 5: this was sufficient fire under the rears. I was indirectly

1152
00:53:11,360 --> 00:53:14,680
Speaker 5: asked to not further involve authorities. The footage finally found

1153
00:53:14,719 --> 00:53:17,239
Speaker 5: proved my daughter's story with this evidence and all the

1154
00:53:17,239 --> 00:53:19,480
Speaker 5: stuff I've managed to bring to the table thus having

1155
00:53:19,520 --> 00:53:23,560
Speaker 5: a lawyer's contact, and said to them, they finally expelled

1156
00:53:23,880 --> 00:53:24,360
Speaker 5: the kid.

1157
00:53:24,520 --> 00:53:26,600
Speaker 6: Wow, okay.

1158
00:53:26,880 --> 00:53:29,680
Speaker 5: I was assured he will not be at school next semester.

1159
00:53:30,000 --> 00:53:31,759
Speaker 5: It was a win, but not enough for me to

1160
00:53:31,840 --> 00:53:34,719
Speaker 5: stop the legal actions. Maybe that makes me the a hole,

1161
00:53:34,800 --> 00:53:37,600
Speaker 5: but eth it, I don't care. Charges are being pressed

1162
00:53:37,640 --> 00:53:40,200
Speaker 5: for harmful act armed with the video here, it's not

1163
00:53:40,360 --> 00:53:43,080
Speaker 5: life ruining unless he keeps the pattern of it. But

1164
00:53:43,239 --> 00:53:45,239
Speaker 5: I'm also looking to get my kid in a stem

1165
00:53:45,320 --> 00:53:48,319
Speaker 5: oriented school, since that's her passion right now. I looked

1166
00:53:48,360 --> 00:53:51,279
Speaker 5: at packages and tuitions, et cetera, and it will be

1167
00:53:51,480 --> 00:53:55,520
Speaker 5: tight but doable. And I truly believe she's gifted, smart,

1168
00:53:55,760 --> 00:53:58,360
Speaker 5: hard working enough that giving her a chance to explore

1169
00:53:58,400 --> 00:54:01,600
Speaker 5: this is worth any and.

1170
00:54:00,640 --> 00:54:01,360
Speaker 6: That should be it.

1171
00:54:01,520 --> 00:54:01,719
Speaker 1: Right.

1172
00:54:01,920 --> 00:54:04,240
Speaker 6: Oh, you sweet so much child.

1173
00:54:04,560 --> 00:54:07,600
Speaker 5: My daughter doesn't even know about the meeting. She's been

1174
00:54:07,640 --> 00:54:10,319
Speaker 5: happily in camp elsewhere during the day. But a few

1175
00:54:10,400 --> 00:54:13,080
Speaker 5: days ago, uh oh, she asked me, Mama, do you

1176
00:54:13,080 --> 00:54:14,640
Speaker 5: think I'm a bad person.

1177
00:54:14,520 --> 00:54:18,400
Speaker 6: Who has been talking to this girl who knew? Did

1178
00:54:18,440 --> 00:54:22,719
Speaker 6: the uncle get her number or show up or something? Yeah?

1179
00:54:22,760 --> 00:54:24,840
Speaker 5: And I told her that I didn't. She asked me,

1180
00:54:25,000 --> 00:54:27,799
Speaker 5: why does her uncle think shoe? Oh my goodness, I'm

1181
00:54:27,840 --> 00:54:32,280
Speaker 5: going no contact. I'm going freaking no contact. Wow, don't

1182
00:54:32,320 --> 00:54:34,000
Speaker 5: you talk to me or my daughter ever?

1183
00:54:34,040 --> 00:54:35,720
Speaker 6: Again? I asked what she meant.

1184
00:54:35,960 --> 00:54:39,600
Speaker 5: My beloved brother's stepson has been texting my daughter, as

1185
00:54:39,640 --> 00:54:42,840
Speaker 5: they are actually close. Brother has been crap talking my kid.

1186
00:54:43,080 --> 00:54:47,560
Speaker 5: He calls her my stray kitten and not real family.

1187
00:54:47,840 --> 00:54:48,839
Speaker 6: That efing did it?

1188
00:54:49,520 --> 00:54:51,640
Speaker 5: I am having a barbecue at my place for Fourth

1189
00:54:51,680 --> 00:54:54,560
Speaker 5: of July and I formally uninvited him and his wife.

1190
00:54:54,800 --> 00:54:57,520
Speaker 5: Yeah yeah, I sent him a text stating that the

1191
00:54:57,520 --> 00:55:00,080
Speaker 5: way he treats me and my kid is simply unacceptable. Well,

1192
00:55:00,560 --> 00:55:02,680
Speaker 5: I am a mom and my duty is to my kid.

1193
00:55:02,840 --> 00:55:04,799
Speaker 5: I cannot have someone who looks down on her and

1194
00:55:04,880 --> 00:55:07,839
Speaker 5: treats her badly come into her home where she is

1195
00:55:07,840 --> 00:55:09,880
Speaker 5: to be safe. He is not a safe person for

1196
00:55:10,000 --> 00:55:12,239
Speaker 5: my child and thus not welcome in my home. My

1197
00:55:12,320 --> 00:55:15,400
Speaker 5: brother lost his mind on me so badly. I had

1198
00:55:15,440 --> 00:55:17,480
Speaker 5: to mute his number a while to get some peace.

1199
00:55:17,640 --> 00:55:20,719
Speaker 5: He started with put dads and insults, but then he

1200
00:55:20,760 --> 00:55:23,920
Speaker 5: went for my kid. He called her some terrible things

1201
00:55:23,960 --> 00:55:28,000
Speaker 5: and then said that I'm brain passed away for keeping

1202
00:55:28,040 --> 00:55:31,879
Speaker 5: my stray after all the troubles she's made this guy.

1203
00:55:32,160 --> 00:55:35,880
Speaker 6: I hope this man never has kids. Yes, oh oh

1204
00:55:35,960 --> 00:55:37,360
Speaker 6: he doesn't. I can't use the son.

1205
00:55:37,800 --> 00:55:42,040
Speaker 5: Oh oh, cat Lord says, imagine being a full grown

1206
00:55:42,080 --> 00:55:43,560
Speaker 5: adult and bullying.

1207
00:55:43,160 --> 00:55:44,359
Speaker 6: A child lying back.

1208
00:55:44,440 --> 00:55:47,600
Speaker 5: That's why he was so like up in arms about not,

1209
00:55:48,239 --> 00:55:50,319
Speaker 5: you know, fighting back against the bully, because he's a bully.

1210
00:55:50,400 --> 00:55:52,680
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, A lot of comments are saying that too,

1211
00:55:52,840 --> 00:55:56,040
Speaker 4: Like he definitely is a bully. That probably was a

1212
00:55:56,080 --> 00:55:59,040
Speaker 4: bully in school. Like, oh my gosh, it's terrible.

1213
00:55:59,520 --> 00:56:03,520
Speaker 6: I just asked, Wow, what is your problem with her? Really?

1214
00:56:03,800 --> 00:56:04,560
Speaker 6: You're doing that thing?

1215
00:56:04,680 --> 00:56:07,080
Speaker 5: Most hate her? Like, how does a grown man get

1216
00:56:07,160 --> 00:56:10,320
Speaker 5: off hating a literal child? He told me to f off,

1217
00:56:10,480 --> 00:56:12,800
Speaker 5: so I sent screenshots to mom.

1218
00:56:13,200 --> 00:56:13,759
Speaker 6: F this guy.

1219
00:56:14,080 --> 00:56:16,279
Speaker 5: He's my brother. I love him, but I do not

1220
00:56:16,440 --> 00:56:18,600
Speaker 5: like him. And if he's gonna show his old butt,

1221
00:56:19,040 --> 00:56:21,680
Speaker 5: may as well fetch mom so she can pull his.

1222
00:56:21,560 --> 00:56:23,200
Speaker 6: Stick out of it. That was an hour ago.

1223
00:56:23,360 --> 00:56:26,439
Speaker 5: My kid and I headed out for pizza. Have fun, bro,

1224
00:56:26,640 --> 00:56:28,400
Speaker 5: you better be glad it's our mom and not me

1225
00:56:28,520 --> 00:56:30,759
Speaker 5: about to hand him his own hide. Tonight I will

1226
00:56:30,800 --> 00:56:32,799
Speaker 5: try to talk to my daughter about the school and

1227
00:56:32,840 --> 00:56:35,840
Speaker 5: sadly that uncle and auntie are Grade A liquid crabs.

1228
00:56:35,960 --> 00:56:38,360
Speaker 5: I won't use that phrase, but I'm pissed and so

1229
00:56:38,520 --> 00:56:41,160
Speaker 5: won't be around and we may be taking some time.

1230
00:56:41,560 --> 00:56:42,120
Speaker 6: Just turn me.

1231
00:56:42,280 --> 00:56:45,800
Speaker 5: We are a team, me and her against the world.

1232
00:56:46,120 --> 00:56:48,560
Speaker 5: I will always have her back. Oh and she and

1233
00:56:48,600 --> 00:56:51,880
Speaker 5: I will be taking rab Maga with the bully dealt with.

1234
00:56:52,000 --> 00:56:54,520
Speaker 5: I think this is my final update, folks. We're just

1235
00:56:54,560 --> 00:56:57,200
Speaker 5: about halfway through, so I wanted to say thanks to

1236
00:56:57,200 --> 00:57:00,399
Speaker 5: everyone who kept this Mam insane and we're supportive. It's

1237
00:57:00,440 --> 00:57:04,000
Speaker 5: crazy how simple kind and affirming words can bolster a person.

1238
00:57:04,239 --> 00:57:08,120
Speaker 5: And Opie says, he's already a hypocrite. He's biologically my cousin.

1239
00:57:08,320 --> 00:57:09,919
Speaker 5: He's adopted himself.

1240
00:57:10,239 --> 00:57:11,960
Speaker 6: Shut up. I wonder if.

1241
00:57:11,840 --> 00:57:15,160
Speaker 5: That's where some of that anger and resentment comes from. Yeah,

1242
00:57:15,440 --> 00:57:17,000
Speaker 5: being adopted himself.

1243
00:57:17,280 --> 00:57:19,520
Speaker 4: Yeah, maybe he has had like some sort of pressure

1244
00:57:19,560 --> 00:57:21,640
Speaker 4: on him to be like the perfect kid because he

1245
00:57:21,680 --> 00:57:22,720
Speaker 4: didn't feel like he.

1246
00:57:22,600 --> 00:57:23,400
Speaker 6: Was a part of the family.

1247
00:57:23,440 --> 00:57:26,000
Speaker 4: And now that this kid isn't being perfect, Yeah, he's

1248
00:57:26,080 --> 00:57:31,280
Speaker 4: like retaliating and like getting all upset. I wonder, Ah, man,

1249
00:57:31,520 --> 00:57:33,760
Speaker 4: that's why I told mom I don't have the brain

1250
00:57:33,800 --> 00:57:37,280
Speaker 4: space or energy to unravel his non logic. I mean,

1251
00:57:37,360 --> 00:57:40,720
Speaker 4: she's mixed Afro Caribbean and Romanian anyone on the outside

1252
00:57:40,760 --> 00:57:43,120
Speaker 4: looking in. Just to assume my light husband was white,

1253
00:57:43,520 --> 00:57:46,440
Speaker 4: he was Romanian, and that she is my biokid as

1254
00:57:46,480 --> 00:57:47,040
Speaker 4: I am black.

1255
00:57:47,520 --> 00:57:49,840
Speaker 6: Update three before we get into.

1256
00:57:49,640 --> 00:57:52,000
Speaker 4: That, and let's use the Krama god that they're learning

1257
00:57:52,040 --> 00:57:54,680
Speaker 4: against this brother Susan against him.

1258
00:57:54,880 --> 00:57:56,560
Speaker 6: Which one's Krabama God?

1259
00:57:56,640 --> 00:57:58,440
Speaker 4: Is that like the pressure like the points, it's the

1260
00:57:58,560 --> 00:58:02,080
Speaker 4: likes raliant one where I think it's more about like close.

1261
00:58:03,080 --> 00:58:06,520
Speaker 6: It's like mostly self defense, but it's what's.

1262
00:58:06,320 --> 00:58:08,440
Speaker 5: The one with all the like the pass away points,

1263
00:58:08,560 --> 00:58:09,480
Speaker 5: you know, like where you're like.

1264
00:58:10,920 --> 00:58:14,640
Speaker 6: Isn't that like mean some sort of Japanese technique. I

1265
00:58:14,680 --> 00:58:15,480
Speaker 6: don't know. Someone tell me.

1266
00:58:15,760 --> 00:58:18,200
Speaker 5: I don't know, but uh, I think that's a great idea.

1267
00:58:18,400 --> 00:58:21,400
Speaker 5: Grandpa got sick, your brother is being an a hole,

1268
00:58:21,760 --> 00:58:24,000
Speaker 5: and hopefully he'll get over himself.

1269
00:58:24,320 --> 00:58:26,320
Speaker 6: Yeah, but don't have your DV. Really I kind of

1270
00:58:26,400 --> 00:58:28,640
Speaker 6: doubt it at this point though, but uh, we got

1271
00:58:28,800 --> 00:58:29,320
Speaker 6: an update.

1272
00:58:29,640 --> 00:58:32,959
Speaker 5: I am without words. A couple days ago, I told

1273
00:58:32,960 --> 00:58:36,360
Speaker 5: my eldest brother Mark and by proxy also his wife Julie,

1274
00:58:36,880 --> 00:58:39,360
Speaker 5: to stick it where the sunknowns shine after Mark went

1275
00:58:39,400 --> 00:58:42,400
Speaker 5: on a tech storm about my adopted daughter. For background,

1276
00:58:42,400 --> 00:58:45,400
Speaker 5: my daughter Viv may not be biologically mine, but she

1277
00:58:45,600 --> 00:58:47,760
Speaker 5: is my daughter. I've known her since her first year

1278
00:58:47,800 --> 00:58:50,320
Speaker 5: of life. I've been her mom since I married her

1279
00:58:50,360 --> 00:58:52,640
Speaker 5: father when she was too small to even really remember,

1280
00:58:52,920 --> 00:58:57,760
Speaker 5: and legally adopted her. She's only always ever called me mama.

1281
00:58:57,920 --> 00:59:00,640
Speaker 5: When my husband passed away, it became me and her

1282
00:59:00,720 --> 00:59:04,400
Speaker 5: against the world, the dynamic duo. Recently, VV didn't start

1283
00:59:04,400 --> 00:59:07,280
Speaker 5: a fight, but finished it with a bully she'd endured

1284
00:59:07,360 --> 00:59:09,720
Speaker 5: for much longer than she should have to. The whole

1285
00:59:09,800 --> 00:59:11,600
Speaker 5: saga is on my account if you want to see it,

1286
00:59:11,640 --> 00:59:14,720
Speaker 5: But in short, she ended up defending herself from him physically.

1287
00:59:14,960 --> 00:59:17,360
Speaker 5: He's now expelled. My daughter was not punished at home.

1288
00:59:17,400 --> 00:59:19,320
Speaker 5: In fact, I told her good job. That's where my

1289
00:59:19,400 --> 00:59:22,600
Speaker 5: butt crack brain brother got on his bs. He's never

1290
00:59:22,760 --> 00:59:25,600
Speaker 5: liked my late husband unless our daughter, and always had

1291
00:59:25,640 --> 00:59:28,160
Speaker 5: something rude to say about them, but this sent him

1292
00:59:28,200 --> 00:59:31,080
Speaker 5: into a huge tirade on how vv we'll grow up.

1293
00:59:31,080 --> 00:59:34,720
Speaker 5: Debbi ac craminal that I'm encouraging violence and the next

1294
00:59:34,760 --> 00:59:37,040
Speaker 5: time she gets her feelings hurt, she'll think it's okay

1295
00:59:37,080 --> 00:59:39,880
Speaker 5: to start a fight. Truly said she is concerned because

1296
00:59:39,920 --> 00:59:44,440
Speaker 5: single parent households produce angry and bottled up children who

1297
00:59:44,520 --> 00:59:47,000
Speaker 5: are far more likely to end up in jail. I

1298
00:59:47,120 --> 00:59:49,160
Speaker 5: told them I never asked for their opinions, and the

1299
00:59:49,200 --> 00:59:51,960
Speaker 5: rest of my siblings agreed with me. But my brother

1300
00:59:52,200 --> 00:59:56,280
Speaker 5: wasn't done. He texted me vile things about my daughter

1301
00:59:56,520 --> 01:00:00,320
Speaker 5: and his stepson, sent video and screenshots of my brother

1302
01:00:00,400 --> 01:00:04,240
Speaker 5: calling her a stray kitten is a parent, favorite insult

1303
01:00:04,560 --> 01:00:06,680
Speaker 5: and saying that she's not my child and so on,

1304
01:00:06,960 --> 01:00:09,680
Speaker 5: and invited him from the fourth told him he is

1305
01:00:09,720 --> 01:00:11,560
Speaker 5: not to talk to or even look at my child

1306
01:00:11,680 --> 01:00:14,680
Speaker 5: until he fixes his attitude, and he just doubled down.

1307
01:00:15,040 --> 01:00:16,960
Speaker 5: Let me be clear, he is the eldest, but he

1308
01:00:17,040 --> 01:00:20,640
Speaker 5: is adopted too. He is biologically my cousin. Two of

1309
01:00:20,680 --> 01:00:22,960
Speaker 5: his four kids are step children. Julie is a widow.

1310
01:00:23,320 --> 01:00:26,800
Speaker 5: His hypocrisy is breathtaking. So I had my daughter sent

1311
01:00:26,880 --> 01:00:29,440
Speaker 5: over all the evidence she had and deleted off her phone,

1312
01:00:29,560 --> 01:00:31,600
Speaker 5: and I took all my screenshots in the like and

1313
01:00:31,680 --> 01:00:32,560
Speaker 5: sent it to my mom.

1314
01:00:32,960 --> 01:00:36,520
Speaker 6: I snitched so hard. I don't have time for this.

1315
01:00:36,640 --> 01:00:39,720
Speaker 5: BS don't know what she said to him, but she

1316
01:00:39,840 --> 01:00:42,280
Speaker 5: called me back that night a few hours later and

1317
01:00:42,360 --> 01:00:44,280
Speaker 5: told me to let her know if he decides to.

1318
01:00:44,320 --> 01:00:45,720
Speaker 6: Show his whole butt again.

1319
01:00:45,840 --> 01:00:48,080
Speaker 5: She talked to VV on speaker while I finished making

1320
01:00:48,120 --> 01:00:50,280
Speaker 5: us some treats before bed, and told her that she

1321
01:00:50,360 --> 01:00:53,880
Speaker 5: loves her very much, that Uncle Mark is being a knucklehead,

1322
01:00:54,200 --> 01:00:56,560
Speaker 5: and if he or Aunt Julie tried to bother VV

1323
01:00:56,800 --> 01:00:59,800
Speaker 5: or I again to tell her it rained like crazy

1324
01:01:00,080 --> 01:01:02,160
Speaker 5: the fourth, So my barbecue only had a handful of

1325
01:01:02,160 --> 01:01:04,600
Speaker 5: folks who lived near me from the family and some friends.

1326
01:01:04,840 --> 01:01:06,640
Speaker 6: VV was happy punting.

1327
01:01:06,280 --> 01:01:09,080
Speaker 5: Her other uncle's butts at Mario Kart, and all the

1328
01:01:09,120 --> 01:01:11,680
Speaker 5: adults are drinking and dancing or watching the rain on

1329
01:01:11,720 --> 01:01:12,200
Speaker 5: my porch.

1330
01:01:12,400 --> 01:01:17,760
Speaker 6: When who walks in? No Live is supposed to be

1331
01:01:17,920 --> 01:01:20,360
Speaker 6: arm Fords July. Why does he even want to be there?

1332
01:01:20,440 --> 01:01:24,280
Speaker 4: If he hates this like this little girl like he's

1333
01:01:24,320 --> 01:01:26,600
Speaker 4: got so much little girl like, why does he.

1334
01:01:26,600 --> 01:01:27,320
Speaker 6: Even want to be there?

1335
01:01:27,600 --> 01:01:31,800
Speaker 5: No Mark, Julie, there are four kids? Really strolls right

1336
01:01:31,880 --> 01:01:34,760
Speaker 5: up to me with old butt chicken and asks where

1337
01:01:34,800 --> 01:01:37,720
Speaker 5: she can put it down. I was like, sorry, what?

1338
01:01:38,120 --> 01:01:39,840
Speaker 5: I asked her what she was doing here and why

1339
01:01:39,880 --> 01:01:42,720
Speaker 5: they were here. Apparently my dear old Road didn't tell

1340
01:01:42,720 --> 01:01:46,400
Speaker 5: her about our most recent spat and the imitation being revoked.

1341
01:01:46,520 --> 01:01:49,160
Speaker 5: She looked truly shocked. I don't even care because she

1342
01:01:49,240 --> 01:01:53,480
Speaker 5: said same nasty stuff, so I don't care if we're

1343
01:01:53,560 --> 01:01:55,680
Speaker 5: kicking him out. I'm livid by this point, but the

1344
01:01:55,760 --> 01:01:58,360
Speaker 5: kids are playing video games and VV looks happy. She's

1345
01:01:58,400 --> 01:02:00,840
Speaker 5: pointedly ignoring my brother who who said a low to her,

1346
01:02:00,880 --> 01:02:02,720
Speaker 5: And when he doesn't get an answer, he throws his

1347
01:02:02,760 --> 01:02:05,480
Speaker 5: hands up and says, so much for manners, What don't

1348
01:02:05,520 --> 01:02:06,640
Speaker 5: you know about manners.

1349
01:02:06,880 --> 01:02:09,160
Speaker 6: Sorry, I don't think you know anything.

1350
01:02:09,720 --> 01:02:11,880
Speaker 5: My other brother, Zeke, just goes up to him and

1351
01:02:11,920 --> 01:02:15,240
Speaker 5: starts to talk to him quietly. I could hear Mark arguing,

1352
01:02:15,280 --> 01:02:17,240
Speaker 5: but Zeke just kept his hand on his shoulder. I

1353
01:02:17,280 --> 01:02:19,440
Speaker 5: looked at Julie, who looked like she was in panic

1354
01:02:19,520 --> 01:02:21,960
Speaker 5: fix it mode. I told her, listen, if they want

1355
01:02:21,960 --> 01:02:24,600
Speaker 5: to leave the kids here for a couple hours, that's fine,

1356
01:02:24,800 --> 01:02:27,200
Speaker 5: but my brother's not welcome in my home, so she'll

1357
01:02:27,200 --> 01:02:28,680
Speaker 5: have to be the one to pick them up. She

1358
01:02:28,800 --> 01:02:30,920
Speaker 5: thanked me and went to my brother, who now had

1359
01:02:30,960 --> 01:02:32,760
Speaker 5: both our other brothers talking to him.

1360
01:02:32,960 --> 01:02:35,560
Speaker 6: They all walk him out. I heard him say kids,

1361
01:02:35,640 --> 01:02:36,960
Speaker 6: let's go, and his wife.

1362
01:02:36,760 --> 01:02:39,880
Speaker 5: Said, uh, kids, I'll be back at three.

1363
01:02:40,040 --> 01:02:41,360
Speaker 6: He could and pulled them out.

1364
01:02:41,560 --> 01:02:43,920
Speaker 5: I sent him a text reminding him not to speak

1365
01:02:43,960 --> 01:02:46,280
Speaker 5: to my child and he is not welcome in my

1366
01:02:46,360 --> 01:02:50,200
Speaker 5: home until he apologizes for all the verbal towards Phoebe

1367
01:02:50,280 --> 01:02:53,600
Speaker 5: and fixes his attitudes about her. My stepdad and Mom

1368
01:02:53,680 --> 01:02:56,440
Speaker 5: arrived not long after, and when he was told what happened,

1369
01:02:56,560 --> 01:02:58,680
Speaker 5: Dad started to take his pipe to the porch and

1370
01:02:58,760 --> 01:03:01,280
Speaker 5: sat right next to the front. Mom arranged it with

1371
01:03:01,360 --> 01:03:03,720
Speaker 5: Julie that she will take the kids home when she leaves,

1372
01:03:03,880 --> 01:03:06,560
Speaker 5: and we managed to have a good time. Today Sunday,

1373
01:03:06,720 --> 01:03:09,080
Speaker 5: my mom had asked we all go this week, so

1374
01:03:09,120 --> 01:03:11,720
Speaker 5: we did. She did warn me Mark might be there,

1375
01:03:11,720 --> 01:03:14,920
Speaker 5: and I'm assuming to church, I warned VV. She said

1376
01:03:15,080 --> 01:03:18,120
Speaker 5: it was fine. I told mom, it's fine, but Mark

1377
01:03:18,200 --> 01:03:20,480
Speaker 5: needs to give Viv a wide berth. And I told

1378
01:03:20,560 --> 01:03:23,959
Speaker 5: Mark via text that he is to stay away from

1379
01:03:24,000 --> 01:03:26,640
Speaker 5: my child. He replied, I don't need reminders.

1380
01:03:26,920 --> 01:03:27,240
Speaker 6: Okay.

1381
01:03:27,280 --> 01:03:30,120
Speaker 5: Then service went fine. I'm not much of a church person,

1382
01:03:30,160 --> 01:03:33,120
Speaker 5: but VV had a solo and saying beautifully, so this

1383
01:03:33,200 --> 01:03:34,040
Speaker 5: mama is happy?

1384
01:03:34,200 --> 01:03:34,760
Speaker 6: How sweet?

1385
01:03:34,800 --> 01:03:37,720
Speaker 5: There was food happening in the event hall, and VV

1386
01:03:37,880 --> 01:03:40,880
Speaker 5: asks if she can stay awhile and chat with her friends. Sure,

1387
01:03:40,920 --> 01:03:44,640
Speaker 5: I say, have fun. All was well for about forty

1388
01:03:44,680 --> 01:03:48,120
Speaker 5: five minutes. I was sitting with stepdad and one of

1389
01:03:48,160 --> 01:03:50,480
Speaker 5: my brothers when Mark comes over to say his byes.

1390
01:03:50,960 --> 01:03:54,680
Speaker 5: Everyone gets a hug, but me, fine, mommy, He says,

1391
01:03:54,880 --> 01:03:57,800
Speaker 5: kitty did a good job up there. Well, this kid's

1392
01:03:57,840 --> 01:04:03,080
Speaker 5: got You're back to his scar And I said who?

1393
01:04:03,400 --> 01:04:05,560
Speaker 5: And I could see that it was in that moment

1394
01:04:05,760 --> 01:04:08,120
Speaker 5: he knew he fed up. I don't know if he

1395
01:04:08,160 --> 01:04:11,000
Speaker 5: meant to say kitty or not. I didn't care. I

1396
01:04:11,080 --> 01:04:15,720
Speaker 5: said who again, and he metured Vivica and I nodded

1397
01:04:15,760 --> 01:04:18,640
Speaker 5: and told him that is her name, same name, she said.

1398
01:04:18,680 --> 01:04:20,959
Speaker 5: The whole time, Julie is trying to get him to leave,

1399
01:04:21,000 --> 01:04:23,960
Speaker 5: and he's almost leaving when VV and her friends come up.

1400
01:04:24,120 --> 01:04:26,280
Speaker 5: She told me later she saw her uncle come up

1401
01:04:26,320 --> 01:04:29,040
Speaker 5: to us and not hug me, and that made her mad,

1402
01:04:29,600 --> 01:04:31,720
Speaker 5: so she came up to be near for support with

1403
01:04:31,760 --> 01:04:33,680
Speaker 5: her friends. I did tell her that I'm grown and

1404
01:04:33,720 --> 01:04:35,600
Speaker 5: don't need her to come to my defense, but it's

1405
01:04:35,680 --> 01:04:38,040
Speaker 5: my job to protect her, not the other way around,

1406
01:04:38,160 --> 01:04:41,760
Speaker 5: and her response just a nod. Kids Mark complimented VV,

1407
01:04:41,920 --> 01:04:45,000
Speaker 5: and she gave a very plain thanks, then asked if

1408
01:04:45,040 --> 01:04:47,080
Speaker 5: I was ready to go. I said sure if she is,

1409
01:04:47,200 --> 01:04:50,480
Speaker 5: Do you have any final thoughts? I like this, mom, Yeah,

1410
01:04:50,520 --> 01:04:52,200
Speaker 5: she's willing to go to bat for a kid.

1411
01:04:52,520 --> 01:04:52,800
Speaker 2: Yeah.

1412
01:04:53,400 --> 01:04:57,520
Speaker 4: Fun, mama bear, I will protect you from my old brother. Yeah.

1413
01:04:57,560 --> 01:04:59,800
Speaker 6: I like he's like, Oh, kitty did one? She said,

1414
01:04:59,800 --> 01:05:01,840
Speaker 6: what what? Who who is that?

1415
01:05:02,440 --> 01:05:02,640
Speaker 5: Yeah?

1416
01:05:02,640 --> 01:05:05,280
Speaker 6: I don't know a kiddy. You mean my daughter, Vivica?

1417
01:05:05,560 --> 01:05:06,280
Speaker 6: You know her name?

1418
01:05:06,440 --> 01:05:06,640
Speaker 1: Oh?

1419
01:05:06,920 --> 01:05:10,960
Speaker 6: Say it? Shay it trying to give him swirly.

1420
01:05:12,600 --> 01:05:14,640
Speaker 5: Literally, there's a little bit left to this story, but

1421
01:05:14,760 --> 01:05:16,720
Speaker 5: I think this mom has got her daughters back, and.

1422
01:05:16,640 --> 01:05:17,520
Speaker 6: That's all you can ask for.

1423
01:05:17,960 --> 01:05:20,560
Speaker 5: Yeah, Mark sent me a short text telling me I

1424
01:05:20,640 --> 01:05:23,280
Speaker 5: embarrassed him and our whole family with my show I

1425
01:05:23,320 --> 01:05:26,640
Speaker 5: put on, or perhaps you embarrassed yourself.

1426
01:05:27,200 --> 01:05:28,720
Speaker 6: Good, you should be embarrassed.

1427
01:05:28,920 --> 01:05:31,040
Speaker 5: He's upset now because we don't need to make our

1428
01:05:31,080 --> 01:05:34,200
Speaker 5: issues everyone's business at church. And then I don't even

1429
01:05:34,240 --> 01:05:36,920
Speaker 5: go to church, so why invade his safe space. He

1430
01:05:37,040 --> 01:05:39,479
Speaker 5: called me immature and that I need to stay away

1431
01:05:39,480 --> 01:05:42,520
Speaker 5: from his kids so I don't teach them such poor manners.

1432
01:05:42,760 --> 01:05:45,600
Speaker 5: I haven't even responded. VV is getting dressed and we

1433
01:05:45,640 --> 01:05:48,360
Speaker 5: are going to my mom's for lunch. Stepdad said Mark

1434
01:05:48,400 --> 01:05:51,160
Speaker 5: outright refuse to come when he confirmed I would be there.

1435
01:05:51,240 --> 01:05:53,880
Speaker 5: Marcus told our parents if I am somewhere, he won't be.

1436
01:05:54,160 --> 01:05:57,480
Speaker 5: My replied, does he promise? I told my dad if

1437
01:05:57,520 --> 01:05:59,120
Speaker 5: he wants to be this way, we can just go

1438
01:05:59,200 --> 01:06:02,280
Speaker 5: full no conte. I don't have patience for this nonsense,

1439
01:06:02,840 --> 01:06:05,120
Speaker 5: and that also meant I am not helping out next

1440
01:06:05,120 --> 01:06:06,320
Speaker 5: time he needs anything.

1441
01:06:06,720 --> 01:06:08,800
Speaker 6: I'm out. Dad got quiet.

1442
01:06:08,480 --> 01:06:10,720
Speaker 5: And said he gets it, but to remember that Mark's

1443
01:06:10,760 --> 01:06:13,720
Speaker 5: kids did nothing. He's okay if I want to stick

1444
01:06:13,760 --> 01:06:16,560
Speaker 5: it to Mark, but asks I don't friendly fire on

1445
01:06:16,600 --> 01:06:19,320
Speaker 5: the children. I told him we'll talk when we get there.

1446
01:06:19,360 --> 01:06:21,680
Speaker 5: He's gonna want to bring up our family vacation, of

1447
01:06:21,720 --> 01:06:24,480
Speaker 5: which I took care of the hotel and passes for.

1448
01:06:24,760 --> 01:06:27,560
Speaker 5: Because my job is within that industry, I'm usually the

1449
01:06:27,600 --> 01:06:29,960
Speaker 5: go to for these things. We're supposed to go for

1450
01:06:30,000 --> 01:06:32,360
Speaker 5: the first week of August. We try to do one

1451
01:06:32,440 --> 01:06:35,400
Speaker 5: vacation as a big extended family per year. We'll see

1452
01:06:35,400 --> 01:06:38,360
Speaker 5: how that efing goes this year, and that is the

1453
01:06:38,520 --> 01:06:39,920
Speaker 5: end of that story, folks.