WEBVTT - Grammy Winner Explains His ONE Relationship with 3 Women 0:00:10.480 --> 0:00:16.079 Hey there, folks, it is Saturday, January seventeenth. Got a 0:00:16.200 --> 0:00:21.040 date tonight? Neo doesn't need one with that. Welcome to 0:00:21.079 --> 0:00:23.960 this episode of Amy and TJ. Look, bro, this has 0:00:24.000 --> 0:00:27.360 been talked about a little bit and love relationships look 0:00:27.400 --> 0:00:30.800 different for a lot of people. But for long time 0:00:30.920 --> 0:00:34.960 now pop an R and B singer Neo, people have 0:00:34.960 --> 0:00:37.519 been fascinated by the fact that he lives and is 0:00:37.560 --> 0:00:40.680 in a relationship with three women and they all live 0:00:40.760 --> 0:00:42.479 under one roof and he's talking about it now. 0:00:42.680 --> 0:00:45.320 Yeah, and a year ago, I think is when this 0:00:45.320 --> 0:00:48.400 first came out, but he actually had four back then 0:00:48.880 --> 0:00:52.240 four girlfriends are down to three. He calls them his pyramid, 0:00:52.880 --> 0:00:56.480 and it seems like if you look at his Instagram 0:00:56.520 --> 0:00:59.800 and if you listen to the recent interview he just gave, 0:01:00.320 --> 0:01:05.160 it's working for him. And people are fascinating because, as 0:01:05.319 --> 0:01:07.440 many of us know, it's hard enough to just have 0:01:07.959 --> 0:01:10.680 one significant other and make that relationship work. 0:01:10.880 --> 0:01:12.680 How are you managing three. 0:01:12.840 --> 0:01:17.319 At one time and everybody knows about each other. It's 0:01:17.520 --> 0:01:21.319 just it's kind of head scratching, but it's kind of impressive, but. 0:01:21.280 --> 0:01:24.399 It's just not traditional. Is that simply what it is? 0:01:24.520 --> 0:01:28.280 Anytime there is a relationship or something that goes against 0:01:28.319 --> 0:01:30.600 whatever grain or whatever we have in our minds. A 0:01:30.680 --> 0:01:35.240 relationship is supposed to look like. We question it, sometimes 0:01:35.280 --> 0:01:39.160 we criticize it, but this certainly is a little outside 0:01:39.600 --> 0:01:41.840 of what we would consider normal. 0:01:41.959 --> 0:01:44.520 Well it's also if they were to want to get married, 0:01:44.560 --> 0:01:46.360 it would be illegal. So I think a lot of 0:01:46.360 --> 0:01:49.080 people look at it as a moral or they look 0:01:49.080 --> 0:01:51.760 at it not just as different or unique, but as 0:01:52.080 --> 0:01:55.240 wrong or sinful. So you know, there are a lot 0:01:55.280 --> 0:02:01.639 of people who look at his polyamorous relationship as he's wrong. 0:02:01.880 --> 0:02:04.640 And so he's trying to I think, just don't I 0:02:04.680 --> 0:02:07.800 know everyone uses this word over uses this word normalize it. 0:02:07.840 --> 0:02:10.880 But I do think he's just saying, hey, we're happy. 0:02:11.200 --> 0:02:12.639 Why do you all care? 0:02:12.400 --> 0:02:14.840 There's why I am. He doesn't need to normalize anything. 0:02:14.919 --> 0:02:17.320 If this works for you and this works for them, 0:02:17.400 --> 0:02:19.760 knock yourself out. I always you've not hurt yourself and 0:02:19.919 --> 0:02:22.639 hurting somebody else, then who am I? But I think 0:02:22.680 --> 0:02:24.680 you're right. A lot of it is judgment, But yes, 0:02:24.720 --> 0:02:27.520 he went it was this week right. The interview this 0:02:27.560 --> 0:02:30.160 week was Sherry Shepherd, and he did. He spoke on 0:02:30.240 --> 0:02:32.160 it and said a lot of things that jumped out, 0:02:32.200 --> 0:02:33.560 and certainly that made headlines. 0:02:33.639 --> 0:02:35.480 Yeah, and I think it's interesting because he made it 0:02:35.600 --> 0:02:38.680 very clear. He said he has three girlfriends, but he 0:02:38.760 --> 0:02:40.200 has one relationship. 0:02:40.560 --> 0:02:41.359 That kind of was. 0:02:43.000 --> 0:02:44.760 It took a second for me to get my head 0:02:44.760 --> 0:02:47.000 around that. Wait, Okay, you have three girlfriends, but you 0:02:47.120 --> 0:02:51.880 have one relationship. So it's basically what's good for one 0:02:51.960 --> 0:02:54.600 is good for all. It's a little confusing. He did 0:02:54.639 --> 0:02:56.400 get into the details, but he wanted to make that 0:02:56.520 --> 0:02:57.000 very clear. 0:02:57.080 --> 0:02:59.040 Well, is this a matter where one family is what 0:02:59.080 --> 0:02:59.720 he's saying. 0:02:59.600 --> 0:03:00.480 Kind of yes. 0:03:00.560 --> 0:03:03.240 I mean, he did describe them as having group dates, 0:03:03.240 --> 0:03:05.200 that they all get there one on one time, but 0:03:05.240 --> 0:03:08.760 that it is the collective that is the relationship, and 0:03:08.800 --> 0:03:11.760 how the women get along with each other is just 0:03:11.840 --> 0:03:14.320 as important as how he gets along with each of 0:03:14.360 --> 0:03:15.120 them individually. 0:03:15.520 --> 0:03:18.360 What was the show, Big Love, Big Love? 0:03:18.440 --> 0:03:20.720 And then of course you have you know, plenty of 0:03:20.760 --> 0:03:25.280 this in the more fundamentalist Mormon sex in the country. 0:03:25.360 --> 0:03:27.959 But yeah, a lot of people, I shouldn't say a 0:03:28.000 --> 0:03:30.120 lot of people, but there are a number of people, 0:03:30.520 --> 0:03:35.640 for either religious reasons or whatever reason, choose this lifestyle. 0:03:35.800 --> 0:03:38.560 And I guess at this point we kind of just 0:03:38.640 --> 0:03:42.400 moving beyond, but just assuming everybody knows who Neo is. 0:03:42.440 --> 0:03:44.760 But this dude has been around for a couple of 0:03:44.760 --> 0:03:47.880 decades now doing his thing on the R and B 0:03:48.040 --> 0:03:50.160 charge misindependent, I think is a song. 0:03:49.960 --> 0:03:51.000 That a lot of people love. 0:03:51.480 --> 0:03:52.960 What was the one he has with Pitt Bull is 0:03:53.000 --> 0:03:54.240 will give Me Everything Tonight? 0:03:54.320 --> 0:03:58.840 That's him, forty six years old, been around, Mammy winning singers, 0:03:58.880 --> 0:04:00.440 songwriter and produced Neo. 0:04:00.480 --> 0:04:00.600 Oh. 0:04:00.880 --> 0:04:03.320 I just thought everyone knew him, But you're right, maybe 0:04:03.360 --> 0:04:06.280 everyone doesn't. But I feel like if you google him 0:04:06.320 --> 0:04:09.600 even you know his face and you definitely know his music. 0:04:09.640 --> 0:04:12.000 If you go look on Spotify or wherever you get 0:04:12.040 --> 0:04:14.080 your music, put up Neo, You're. 0:04:13.920 --> 0:04:16.120 Gonna be like, oh that song, Oh that song? 0:04:16.480 --> 0:04:16.680 Yeah. 0:04:16.680 --> 0:04:18.359 And I thought it was really interesting. 0:04:19.200 --> 0:04:21.680 A lot of people obviously want to know how it works, 0:04:21.680 --> 0:04:24.600 and that was a lot of the questions from Sherry Shepherd, 0:04:24.640 --> 0:04:27.279 and my interest was how does that work? But I 0:04:27.320 --> 0:04:31.400 thought it was interesting when he described when he decided 0:04:31.440 --> 0:04:34.320 to do this and why he decided to do this. 0:04:34.760 --> 0:04:38.400 He had been married for seven years and when he 0:04:38.480 --> 0:04:41.159 went through this divorce and it was a very public 0:04:41.279 --> 0:04:44.960 he called it a very public, ugly divorce, He said 0:04:45.000 --> 0:04:47.520 that he made a decision to live a more open 0:04:47.640 --> 0:04:53.320 and honest life, and so he was dating three different 0:04:53.320 --> 0:04:59.040 women after his divorce, and he decided that he wanted 0:04:59.080 --> 0:05:02.160 to first make amends about what went wrong in his 0:05:02.200 --> 0:05:06.800 marriage and then go forward in a very transparent way 0:05:06.960 --> 0:05:08.480 in terms of how he dates. 0:05:08.880 --> 0:05:10.280 I thought that was cool, he said. 0:05:11.480 --> 0:05:13.360 He said, I made the decision I was never going 0:05:13.400 --> 0:05:16.839 to tell another lie to a woman ever again in life. 0:05:16.920 --> 0:05:19.560 I own the thing that I did in that marriage 0:05:19.560 --> 0:05:21.719 to mess it up. I own it completely. And I 0:05:21.760 --> 0:05:24.960 decided I didn't want to be the reason that anybody 0:05:25.040 --> 0:05:26.960 ever felt like that ever again. 0:05:27.760 --> 0:05:28.560 What do you think about that? 0:05:28.960 --> 0:05:37.839 Well, I that's fine, right, But a decision has been 0:05:38.160 --> 0:05:40.640 you can make a decision to stay single and date 0:05:41.120 --> 0:05:45.200 folks if you want to to find three people, three 0:05:45.240 --> 0:05:47.800 women that you happen to be dating at the same time, 0:05:47.920 --> 0:05:53.560 all who are on board with this seems wild to me. 0:05:54.200 --> 0:05:55.880 I don't think there's a high percentage of women who 0:05:55.920 --> 0:05:59.160 would say sure to something like this. So how he 0:05:59.200 --> 0:06:00.760 pulled that off is of interest. 0:06:00.839 --> 0:06:03.360 So okay, So he described it because Sherry Shepherd had 0:06:03.360 --> 0:06:04.040 a lot of questions. 0:06:04.040 --> 0:06:04.560 She was great. 0:06:04.600 --> 0:06:06.440 We love Sherry she asked all the right questions. She 0:06:06.480 --> 0:06:08.839 asked all the questions that I was thinking as I 0:06:08.920 --> 0:06:09.520 was watching this. 0:06:09.640 --> 0:06:11.640 But yeah, he was dating free women as people do 0:06:11.680 --> 0:06:13.880 when they're single. They have their dating different folks. 0:06:14.200 --> 0:06:17.359 And he explained that one of the three women he 0:06:18.160 --> 0:06:21.159 had been dating longer than the others, enough so that 0:06:21.320 --> 0:06:26.520 he actually decided to go to her first with this concept, 0:06:26.560 --> 0:06:30.080 this polyamorous concept. And he said this is this is 0:06:30.320 --> 0:06:33.600 his verbatim. I basically went to her and said, listen, 0:06:33.880 --> 0:06:36.640 you know I rock with you. You know I love you, 0:06:37.160 --> 0:06:39.599 but I have to be honest with you. It's not 0:06:40.080 --> 0:06:42.840 just you. I would love for you to meet these 0:06:42.880 --> 0:06:44.920 other women and if we can figure out a way 0:06:44.920 --> 0:06:48.640 to do something together, cool. If not, that's cool too. 0:06:50.640 --> 0:06:53.520 Take it or leave it. Yeah, and they decided to 0:06:53.560 --> 0:06:54.000 take it. 0:06:54.440 --> 0:06:55.760 So that's what he said. 0:06:55.760 --> 0:06:59.000 He said he let each woman decide if they wanted 0:06:59.040 --> 0:07:04.279 to proceed together. His quote, everybody chose to stick around. 0:07:04.800 --> 0:07:08.719 The main understanding is I'm not in three relationships. I'm 0:07:08.760 --> 0:07:11.920 in one relationship with three people. And the women were 0:07:11.960 --> 0:07:14.200 all on board with that concept. 0:07:14.440 --> 0:07:17.280 If it works for them. I'm fascinated, I am curious. 0:07:17.360 --> 0:07:19.800 I have questions, I have all this stuff. But if 0:07:19.840 --> 0:07:24.560 something works for them, it works for them. We've just 0:07:24.640 --> 0:07:27.720 been around long enough to know to see. And it's 0:07:27.760 --> 0:07:32.960 sometimes experience. It's folks lives and what they're going through 0:07:32.960 --> 0:07:34.680 and how they're going through, how they choose to go through, 0:07:34.680 --> 0:07:36.640 and what they can tolerate, and what they want and 0:07:36.640 --> 0:07:41.240 what fulfills. It's all different, and if this works, knock 0:07:41.320 --> 0:07:41.960 yourself out. 0:07:42.080 --> 0:07:45.920 The older I get, the more experience I've had in life, 0:07:46.160 --> 0:07:50.720 the less judgmental I've become, period when it comes to relationships. Look, 0:07:50.760 --> 0:07:58.560 when I was younger, I absolutely believed things I was. 0:07:58.600 --> 0:08:01.440 I had a very different approach to what I thought 0:08:02.040 --> 0:08:04.119 was the right thing or the wrong thing, what should happen, 0:08:04.160 --> 0:08:06.440 what shouldn't happen. And once you live enough life you 0:08:06.520 --> 0:08:10.120 realize what works for you doesn't necessarily work for someone else. 0:08:10.120 --> 0:08:12.120 And who are you to impose that on someone else. 0:08:12.240 --> 0:08:15.640 No one's being hurt in this. Everyone is a consenting adult. 0:08:15.760 --> 0:08:18.880 Everyone has made the decision. And I think there is 0:08:18.960 --> 0:08:20.440 at least some I. 0:08:20.400 --> 0:08:23.119 Think not some. I think there's a lot to say 0:08:23.240 --> 0:08:24.560 about being honest. 0:08:24.800 --> 0:08:28.760 If you know you're not going to be monogamous, if 0:08:28.760 --> 0:08:32.440 you know that you're not going to be okay or 0:08:32.559 --> 0:08:34.240 satisfied with just one person. 0:08:35.559 --> 0:08:37.880 It's far better to be honest about. 0:08:37.679 --> 0:08:40.920 It than to try and pretend that you're or even 0:08:40.960 --> 0:08:43.400 convince yourself that you're going to do something different. 0:08:43.520 --> 0:08:47.560 But someone who would come these conversations, whether it's a 0:08:47.559 --> 0:08:49.520 man or a woman. At some point you have a 0:08:49.559 --> 0:08:52.680 conversation with someone and say, hey, I'm seeing other people, 0:08:52.720 --> 0:08:55.880 I'm dating someone else. Yeah, maybe we should all form 0:08:55.920 --> 0:08:57.880 a group. Is not usually the next thing. 0:08:58.160 --> 0:09:00.400 I mean here, look, I say all that, if you 0:09:00.520 --> 0:09:03.520 came to me with that bit of information, or anyone 0:09:03.559 --> 0:09:06.200 I was dating came to me with that information, I. 0:09:06.120 --> 0:09:08.840 Know very quickly that I would be like you do 0:09:09.000 --> 0:09:11.760 you I'm out? I mean, obviously hear. 0:09:11.640 --> 0:09:13.520 Me out, never be just hear me out. It's all 0:09:13.559 --> 0:09:13.920 I ask. 0:09:14.520 --> 0:09:16.200 And I would hear you out, and then I would say, 0:09:16.400 --> 0:09:19.240 that's so cool for you, But I want nothing to 0:09:19.240 --> 0:09:23.079 do with it. There's zero chance, no, there's zero chance 0:09:23.160 --> 0:09:26.439 that I could handle that from It's just not what 0:09:26.520 --> 0:09:26.959 I want. 0:09:27.080 --> 0:09:29.480 It's not what I want, and it's probably not what 0:09:29.600 --> 0:09:32.920 most people want. But if that's what he wants, if 0:09:32.920 --> 0:09:34.880 that if it's what they want, fine, do you know 0:09:34.920 --> 0:09:36.000 the ages of the women. 0:09:36.120 --> 0:09:39.160 You know what, I don't. I know he's forty six. 0:09:39.200 --> 0:09:41.120 I could probably find that out after the break. But 0:09:41.559 --> 0:09:44.560 he makes a very point, big point to say, we 0:09:44.800 --> 0:09:48.200 it's about communication. We figure out ways to make everything work. 0:09:48.240 --> 0:09:52.600 He said, each of his women gets their individual time, 0:09:52.800 --> 0:09:55.120 even though group time is just as important. He was 0:09:55.120 --> 0:09:57.640 talking about being on tour and he was like, you know, 0:09:57.760 --> 0:10:01.040 one woman will come out for seven days, then the 0:10:01.040 --> 0:10:03.200 next woman will come out, then the next woman will 0:10:03.200 --> 0:10:05.360 come out, and then the next week I'll have all 0:10:05.400 --> 0:10:08.320 of them come out together. But I just I'm just thinking, 0:10:08.360 --> 0:10:10.199 like if you want on those group dates, like what 0:10:10.320 --> 0:10:10.920 is that? Like? 0:10:10.960 --> 0:10:13.040 Who is he sitting next to? Who's is he holding 0:10:13.040 --> 0:10:14.400 everybody's hands? 0:10:14.480 --> 0:10:16.040 Main girl? That's a main one. Right. 0:10:16.080 --> 0:10:18.480 Well, there was the original, the og, but I don't 0:10:18.520 --> 0:10:21.360 know that she has any more. Look, when we hear 0:10:21.760 --> 0:10:26.640 some Mormon we've talked to some folks who've had polygamy 0:10:26.760 --> 0:10:29.200 or have been in polygamy situations, and they do say 0:10:29.240 --> 0:10:32.120 the original wife usually has like the authority or has 0:10:32.360 --> 0:10:33.760 a little bit of higher name. 0:10:34.120 --> 0:10:35.280 What do they call it's something? 0:10:35.520 --> 0:10:37.240 Is it first wife? Original wife? 0:10:37.640 --> 0:10:40.120 You know what, I'm not embarrassed that I don't know, 0:10:40.240 --> 0:10:43.880 I'm not really well first in this, but the way 0:10:43.920 --> 0:10:48.400 he described it, he didn't seem as though one woman 0:10:48.600 --> 0:10:51.360 even he did mention obviously the original girlfriend or the 0:10:51.360 --> 0:10:53.560 woman he had been dating the longest, he did go 0:10:53.600 --> 0:10:55.280 to her first a little bit. 0:10:55.320 --> 0:10:57.000 How does this work with the time? Do they all 0:10:57.000 --> 0:10:59.560 get equal time? How does he givie? Did he explain 0:10:59.600 --> 0:11:00.000 the schedule? 0:11:00.400 --> 0:11:03.319 Well, he gave just an like an example of going 0:11:03.360 --> 0:11:07.920 out on tour and having having everyone having their own week. 0:11:08.080 --> 0:11:10.640 So it's very important about the sleeping arrangements. 0:11:11.440 --> 0:11:14.160 I didn't get that. I just know I didn't get. 0:11:14.440 --> 0:11:16.800 So it's I'm looking for their exact age is actually 0:11:16.880 --> 0:11:19.560 right now. One of them, they said, was thirty one. 0:11:19.640 --> 0:11:22.400 But they don't know a lot about these women. Yeah, 0:11:22.480 --> 0:11:25.080 so they are grown women, Oh for sure. They're not like, 0:11:26.000 --> 0:11:29.360 you know, barely of age. No, these are women who 0:11:29.400 --> 0:11:32.800 are old enough to make decisions and have lived enough life. 0:11:32.920 --> 0:11:35.479 And you see the pictures of them, they're not some young. 0:11:35.720 --> 0:11:37.960 But they're all under one roof, right. 0:11:38.080 --> 0:11:40.600 Yeah, from what I understand, they all go out together, 0:11:40.640 --> 0:11:45.640 they all hang out together. They share an Alaskan king. 0:11:45.520 --> 0:11:48.119 Bed together four. 0:11:49.559 --> 0:11:52.320 That is at least a part of their relationship that 0:11:52.360 --> 0:11:55.520 they share an Alaskan king bed. What's in Alaskin bed 0:11:55.600 --> 0:11:58.360 versus a calib I know what a California king bed is? 0:11:58.360 --> 0:12:03.320 Is an Alaskan king bed even bigger than a I've 0:12:03.320 --> 0:12:07.720 never California. E News is saying that they share an 0:12:07.760 --> 0:12:09.840 Alaskan king sized bed. 0:12:09.640 --> 0:12:10.199 In his house. 0:12:10.400 --> 0:12:12.320 The massive square mattress. 0:12:12.679 --> 0:12:15.800 It's like two California Kings next to each other. This 0:12:15.880 --> 0:12:18.080 is what Neo has explained. You have to get the 0:12:18.120 --> 0:12:22.240 mattress made, like you have to get a custom mattress made. 0:12:24.240 --> 0:12:25.080 I guess you would. 0:12:26.679 --> 0:12:29.360 Okay, it's hard enough sleeping next to one person. I 0:12:29.360 --> 0:12:31.800 think for all the different reasons. Why because we all 0:12:31.800 --> 0:12:34.840 have our own interests, so or what makes us sleep 0:12:34.880 --> 0:12:36.200 better and what wakes us up? 0:12:36.240 --> 0:12:36.480 Y'd? 0:12:36.600 --> 0:12:40.360 Can you imagine four people in one bed? 0:12:40.440 --> 0:12:42.560 See? This is where people This is where people get 0:12:42.559 --> 0:12:46.360 fascinated by the questions and the debates and poking a 0:12:46.400 --> 0:12:49.719 little fun and all these things that a couple one 0:12:49.800 --> 0:12:53.040 on one has issues with. Who's gonna cook tonight, who's 0:12:53.080 --> 0:12:55.240 taking out the trash, what is the temperature when we 0:12:55.280 --> 0:12:58.400 go to bed at night? The sheets, all these things. 0:12:58.679 --> 0:13:00.760 How do you divide out about three are women, who 0:13:00.800 --> 0:13:03.480 are you snuggling with? Who spoons? Whom? Are you all 0:13:03.960 --> 0:13:06.280 all spooning one direction and then you all turn and 0:13:06.320 --> 0:13:08.600 spoon the other direction? Is he in the middle? Who 0:13:08.600 --> 0:13:10.760 gets the remote? How does this work? 0:13:10.880 --> 0:13:11.559 I don't know. 0:13:12.920 --> 0:13:15.600 Someone doesn't get a bedside table or two people don't 0:13:15.640 --> 0:13:17.439 like That's a tough situation. 0:13:17.760 --> 0:13:24.040 You would also ask Robes about their sexual relationship. Is 0:13:24.080 --> 0:13:27.400 this is he always one on one or this is 0:13:27.480 --> 0:13:29.880 just something that they all participate. 0:13:29.320 --> 0:13:30.160 In that I don't know. 0:13:31.600 --> 0:13:34.960 Those are questions not you're fascinated by this. 0:13:35.120 --> 0:13:36.400 We need to have Neo on the show. 0:13:36.440 --> 0:13:37.720 We need to see if we can get him on 0:13:37.760 --> 0:13:42.000 and get in to all of these very important questions 0:13:42.000 --> 0:13:43.640 that we need to know now when we come back, 0:13:43.720 --> 0:13:46.559 I can tell you this. When he talked to Sherry Shepherd, 0:13:46.880 --> 0:13:50.440 she asked, how do you handle holidays like Valentine's Day? 0:13:50.600 --> 0:13:54.480 And how about this question? What are the rules for 0:13:54.520 --> 0:14:10.319 the women? Can they date other people? And welcome back everyone. 0:14:10.720 --> 0:14:16.920 We continue our conversation about the fascinating polyamorous relationship that 0:14:17.120 --> 0:14:21.160 Neo has because it's one relationship, but it's three women, 0:14:21.200 --> 0:14:24.480 and he talked about it at length with Sherry Shepard. 0:14:24.520 --> 0:14:26.720 This week and I couldn't get enough. We have so 0:14:26.800 --> 0:14:29.000 many follow ups that we would like to ask Neo. 0:14:29.080 --> 0:14:31.240 But here's what we did find out. How do you 0:14:31.280 --> 0:14:33.080 handle a holiday like Valentine's Day? 0:14:33.160 --> 0:14:33.360 Right? 0:14:33.640 --> 0:14:35.880 So he said his big point is he doesn't do 0:14:36.480 --> 0:14:40.320 blanket stuff like everybody gets red roses or everybody gets chocolates. 0:14:40.360 --> 0:14:44.120 He gives individual gifts for each woman based on what 0:14:44.280 --> 0:14:46.600 they like, so that everyone feels special on the day. 0:14:46.600 --> 0:14:48.760 And he makes a point there are no group gifts. 0:14:49.040 --> 0:14:52.800 There are no everyone gets that one on one attention 0:14:53.240 --> 0:14:58.840 when it comes to the actual holiday or gift giving situation. 0:14:58.880 --> 0:15:01.600 But I imagine on the holiday itself. He I mean, 0:15:02.120 --> 0:15:04.440 he's gonna have to just one day, so I guess that's. 0:15:04.280 --> 0:15:04.840 A group date. 0:15:05.000 --> 0:15:06.600 But they talk, You talk about how group time is 0:15:06.720 --> 0:15:10.680 very important. That seems like a lot of work. 0:15:11.480 --> 0:15:14.400 It is. It is a lot of war. One relationship 0:15:14.480 --> 0:15:18.000 is difficult. I just I can't imagine managing because they're 0:15:18.080 --> 0:15:20.800 human beings, they're women, and they're just no matter what 0:15:20.840 --> 0:15:25.880 you agree to. That's three personalities, three people who need 0:15:26.040 --> 0:15:29.800 something right, they need some type of human interaction. And 0:15:29.840 --> 0:15:31.880 now are the women do they support each other? Are 0:15:31.880 --> 0:15:34.160 they all good friends, spend a lot of time. 0:15:34.160 --> 0:15:35.800 Again, Yep, he said that's a huge part of it. 0:15:35.880 --> 0:15:38.360 That they have to be that that's key to making 0:15:38.400 --> 0:15:40.880 it work. And that does make a lot of sense. Obviously, 0:15:41.240 --> 0:15:45.160 you could not have jealousy or any sort of issue 0:15:45.200 --> 0:15:47.800 going on among the women, or at least between two 0:15:47.840 --> 0:15:49.560 of the women, because that would ruin. 0:15:49.680 --> 0:15:52.720 Every What about chores, household responsibilities of people? Is it 0:15:52.800 --> 0:15:53.760 divided up? Yeah? 0:15:53.800 --> 0:15:55.400 I think they all kind of do their thing. 0:15:55.480 --> 0:15:57.320 He just talked about how they make it work, that 0:15:57.400 --> 0:16:01.560 they all talk to one another. Big question, what are 0:16:01.600 --> 0:16:03.800 the rules for the women? Can they date others? So 0:16:03.840 --> 0:16:07.760 Sherry asked him directly, Neo, can your girlfriends date other men? 0:16:08.000 --> 0:16:13.480 He quickly, and it was described as curtly, replied no, no. 0:16:13.520 --> 0:16:15.360 And here was his exact quote. 0:16:15.400 --> 0:16:19.560 I've made no request for exclusivity of any of these women. 0:16:19.920 --> 0:16:22.000 I didn't ask for them to be with me. They 0:16:22.040 --> 0:16:24.440 said they want to be with me. They gave me 0:16:24.520 --> 0:16:27.800 their exclusivity, meaning if you give it to me, it's mine. 0:16:29.160 --> 0:16:32.520 I deal with partnership as opposed to ownership. But if 0:16:32.560 --> 0:16:35.160 the exclusivity is mine, it's mine. 0:16:37.200 --> 0:16:37.560 Damn. 0:16:38.200 --> 0:16:39.200 You should have led with that. 0:16:40.520 --> 0:16:45.119 So I'm not gonna say I'm possessive, but I'm possessive. 0:16:45.360 --> 0:16:48.520 Oh he's not. He accepted what was given to him. 0:16:48.680 --> 0:16:52.680 That's exactly what he said, and I took it. I 0:16:52.720 --> 0:16:54.880 didn't demand it. I didn't say they had to. But 0:16:54.920 --> 0:16:57.440 once they gave it to me, now it's mine. 0:16:57.480 --> 0:16:59.600 It's kind of like Machado and the Nobel Prize to 0:16:59.680 --> 0:17:01.840 drum An asked for it, but you know, what, the 0:17:01.880 --> 0:17:04.760 hell with it. I'll take it, I mean, and so 0:17:04.840 --> 0:17:05.440 it's his now. 0:17:05.520 --> 0:17:07.800 I mean, I guess you're right. That is a pretty uh. 0:17:09.600 --> 0:17:10.440 But here's the deal. 0:17:10.840 --> 0:17:14.720 We hear about polyamorous relationships, you know, often enough, and 0:17:14.760 --> 0:17:17.080 people talk about it more now than they ever have before. 0:17:17.520 --> 0:17:21.439 But have you ever heard of anything like this in 0:17:21.520 --> 0:17:23.440 reverse where. 0:17:23.240 --> 0:17:27.800 A woman has It's probably going to be an episode 0:17:27.840 --> 0:17:29.480 of this next Season's all fair. 0:17:29.840 --> 0:17:32.960 Yes, I would feel like someone would end. 0:17:32.960 --> 0:17:37.879 Up dead a woman that we are. This is the 0:17:37.920 --> 0:17:41.440 best answer I have. That's just not how things work, 0:17:43.720 --> 0:17:44.600 That's all I got. 0:17:45.320 --> 0:17:49.040 No man would be willing to share his woman with 0:17:49.119 --> 0:17:49.720 another man? 0:17:50.880 --> 0:17:51.200 Is that? 0:17:51.240 --> 0:17:53.439 And why are women willing to share their man with 0:17:53.480 --> 0:17:54.080 another one? 0:17:54.200 --> 0:17:58.879 This is rare? This? Come on, this is rare. This is. 0:17:59.080 --> 0:18:00.920 I don't think you find it. I don't. I don't 0:18:01.040 --> 0:18:03.160 know a lot of women in my life that are 0:18:03.200 --> 0:18:06.560 willing to do that. But no, I'm trying to think 0:18:06.600 --> 0:18:08.639 of some trying to put some woman in this category, 0:18:08.720 --> 0:18:11.919 some hip hop singer or some R and B singer 0:18:11.960 --> 0:18:12.919 who who could have. 0:18:13.800 --> 0:18:17.600 Men like Madonna or like back in the day. But 0:18:17.880 --> 0:18:20.200 still I don't think. I don't think it would work. 0:18:20.680 --> 0:18:22.560 There's two men would not live in the same house. 0:18:22.640 --> 0:18:25.600 That was a good call. Madonna could pull it off. Damn, 0:18:25.640 --> 0:18:26.200 that's a good call. 0:18:26.359 --> 0:18:28.840 That was the only person I could think of all 0:18:28.960 --> 0:18:31.880 possibly do it. Oh my goodness. 0:18:32.119 --> 0:18:34.080 And by the way, and this kind of sums up 0:18:34.119 --> 0:18:37.240 where he is when he first came out publicly, I 0:18:37.240 --> 0:18:40.040 should just say on social media and that was when 0:18:40.080 --> 0:18:42.720 he had his four girls at one point and he 0:18:42.760 --> 0:18:45.359 just said, say something nice or move on with your life. 0:18:45.640 --> 0:18:48.480 We happy over here. And so that's just kind of 0:18:48.720 --> 0:18:52.280 how he basically summed it up. We're happy. What are 0:18:52.359 --> 0:18:53.159 y'all talking about? 0:18:55.080 --> 0:18:56.080 Good for you, you know what. 0:18:56.440 --> 0:18:58.440 I would like to stay up on this though, And 0:18:58.720 --> 0:19:00.760 so he was from four to three three, but he 0:19:00.800 --> 0:19:03.280 still has the original three. I would loved it like 0:19:03.480 --> 0:19:07.200 a year from now, still still good. Like I am so. 0:19:07.359 --> 0:19:10.800 Curious, it'd be down to two or maybe up to six. Yeah. No, 0:19:11.600 --> 0:19:16.280 and I love this brother. Uh yeah. Have I told 0:19:16.280 --> 0:19:18.320 you the Neo story? The night out with Neo? 0:19:18.640 --> 0:19:21.800 Wait, you might have a little Can you refresh my memory? 0:19:21.840 --> 0:19:24.639 It started at Pots and Oe in Midtown, Yes, and 0:19:24.680 --> 0:19:26.760 I was with Chuck and the three of us and 0:19:26.800 --> 0:19:28.800 we ended up out and I ended up leaving a 0:19:28.840 --> 0:19:33.720 club scared that night partying with Neo. I ran out 0:19:33.760 --> 0:19:35.879 of a VIP that gets me out of here. 0:19:35.960 --> 0:19:36.840 What was so scary? 0:19:36.920 --> 0:19:38.040