WEBVTT - A Very Different Vacation with Leslie Bibb with Leslie Bibb

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<v Speaker 1>Hi Catherine, Hi Chelsea.

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<v Speaker 2>I have a question for you. When did you have

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<v Speaker 2>time to film another special?

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<v Speaker 1>I filmed the stand up special. It's out.

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<v Speaker 3>It's streaming, you guys. It came out Tuesday. Today is Thursday.

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<v Speaker 3>It's called The Feeling. It's on Netflix, and it's my

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<v Speaker 3>favorite stand up special ever, amazing. My book came out

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<v Speaker 3>February twenty fifth. I'll have what she's having. My book

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<v Speaker 3>came out March twenty fifth, So can you wait? Shit

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<v Speaker 3>shit book specials?

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<v Speaker 1>And guess what's coming out April twenty fifth.

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<v Speaker 4>What's out?

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<v Speaker 1>Something else? Anyway, please watch my special on Netflix.

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<v Speaker 3>It means a lot to me for people to watch it,

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<v Speaker 3>and it means a lot to me to have all

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<v Speaker 3>these people buying my books and sending me all these

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<v Speaker 3>dms which I'm reading. I'm reading all of them, and

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<v Speaker 3>I'm calling in to some book clubs. By the way,

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<v Speaker 3>if you are doing a book club with my book

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<v Speaker 3>and you have owls brew, I am calling. I'm going

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<v Speaker 3>to zoom in if you dm me. I have three

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<v Speaker 3>book clubs set up already. April second is the day

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<v Speaker 3>that I'm going to be doing it. So if you

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<v Speaker 3>hear this and you want in on that action. Make

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<v Speaker 3>it happen, and DM me and I will try to

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<v Speaker 3>schedule you into my April second night.

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<v Speaker 1>Awesome.

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<v Speaker 2>So DM on Instagram right, DM me directly on Instagram. Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>awesome and what else? Oh, Vegas, Vegas. I just had

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<v Speaker 2>another Vegas weekend which was epics. I did not win

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<v Speaker 2>money this weekend. I have to be honest. I broke even.

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<v Speaker 4>That's not bad.

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<v Speaker 1>No, I broke even, and that's a wind to be

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<v Speaker 1>because you're renting a good time. But I had.

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<v Speaker 3>My Vegas weekends have been so much fun because so

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<v Speaker 3>many random friends of mine show up.

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<v Speaker 1>Ye friends from Texas shown up.

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<v Speaker 3>I had three friends from La show up, My sister came,

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<v Speaker 3>my friends from Tahoe came.

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<v Speaker 1>It was a blast.

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<v Speaker 3>And so April eighteenth is my next Vegas date, and

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<v Speaker 3>then after that it's July fifth. So April eighteenth and

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<v Speaker 3>July fifth and then August thirtieth, So come and have

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<v Speaker 3>a fun party with me at the Cosmo. It has

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<v Speaker 3>been a real blast, a surprising blast. And I'm also

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<v Speaker 3>doing a bunch of European dates. If you go to

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<v Speaker 3>Chelsea Handler dot com. I'm coming to Europe and starting

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<v Speaker 3>in Rekuvic all the way through Lisbon at.

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<v Speaker 1>The beginning of May, May and June. Great. Okay, our

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<v Speaker 1>guest today is a friend of mine. She is very fun.

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<v Speaker 3>She stars on the current season of White Lotus and

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<v Speaker 3>she just wrapped filming Palm Royal season two.

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<v Speaker 1>Please welcome Leslie Bib.

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<v Speaker 3>Hi.

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<v Speaker 5>How are you h Hello?

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<v Speaker 1>Hello, Lesly Bib? Is this Leslie Bib? Is this really you?

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<v Speaker 6>Hi?

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<v Speaker 5>So it's like you're looking like this at me. Hi?

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<v Speaker 1>I know, I know.

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<v Speaker 3>Sorry, we're in a fake podcast. Well, not a fake

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<v Speaker 3>podcast studio.

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<v Speaker 1>We're not. We are in a fake podcast studio.

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<v Speaker 6>I know.

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<v Speaker 3>The cameras are set in weird directions. So pretend I'm

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<v Speaker 3>looking at you. Okay, my god, this is.

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<v Speaker 5>So oh there we go.

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<v Speaker 6>That's a much better.

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<v Speaker 5>Thank Can I have this? That's so much better because

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<v Speaker 5>I feel like we're talking to each other now, we're

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<v Speaker 5>looking at each other.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, but you've seen me look at your face before.

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<v Speaker 3>Just go back to that time and pretend that's what's happening.

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<v Speaker 5>Do that. I'm not that good of an actor. Hold on,

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<v Speaker 5>I have to throw something away.

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<v Speaker 3>Hi, chelfs Hi, honey, we just did a podcast with

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<v Speaker 3>your buddy Michelle Monahan.

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<v Speaker 5>Hi, isn't she lovely?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 3>The loveliest I love. I'm jealous that I wasn't on

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<v Speaker 3>set with both of you. I told her that, well,

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<v Speaker 3>the three of us are going to all do something.

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<v Speaker 3>We're going to do dinner. Yeah, Leslie Bib.

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<v Speaker 5>Where are you? Are you in fucking Canada?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh?

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<v Speaker 5>My god?

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<v Speaker 3>Would you let me ask you a fucking question? I mean,

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<v Speaker 3>who cares where I am?

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<v Speaker 5>It's important to me. I love you.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm in Beverly Hills at some podcast studio because my

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<v Speaker 3>house is not done and I have another four months

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<v Speaker 3>of construction, so I had to move back out of

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<v Speaker 3>my house and now I'm staying at a friend's house.

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<v Speaker 5>I find it interesting that you are, to me, one

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<v Speaker 5>of the most powerful women I've ever met. Like, there's

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<v Speaker 5>just like you have like a woo about you, and

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<v Speaker 5>the fact that this has run new wagon.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't even talk about it anymore. It's too stupid.

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<v Speaker 3>I refuse to even give it my time of day.

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<v Speaker 3>I just I said to someone, I'm like, what kind

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<v Speaker 3>of karma? They're like, this is not your karma. I go,

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<v Speaker 3>it really feels like my karma. But anyway, I have

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<v Speaker 3>too many good things in my life to worry about

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<v Speaker 3>this fucking house.

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<v Speaker 1>I can't wait to get rid of it. If anyone

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<v Speaker 1>wants to buy my house, let me know it'll be

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<v Speaker 1>in perfect shape by the time you fucking get your

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<v Speaker 1>hands on it.

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<v Speaker 5>Oat.

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<v Speaker 3>Listen, by the time this comes out, more episodes of

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<v Speaker 3>White Lotus will have come out. So but we're gonna

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<v Speaker 3>focus on the one that we all saw last night

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<v Speaker 3>or two nights ago now, episode number five, right, Yes, it.

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<v Speaker 1>Was episode five. Are there eight episodes?

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<v Speaker 5>There are eight episodes. There are eight of Okay, I

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<v Speaker 5>can answer that.

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<v Speaker 1>First of all, it was the episode with your lover.

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<v Speaker 3>Sam Rockwell was in it with an incredible monologue.

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<v Speaker 1>Incredible monologue that starts. I mean, it was just it was.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, there was a Time magazine article about it

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<v Speaker 3>about that monologue.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes that you sent me.

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<v Speaker 3>That was awesome and actually really I felt the same

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<v Speaker 3>when I watched that monologue.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, this is what Mike White thinks, Like.

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<v Speaker 3>This is either how Mike White feels and things. Because

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<v Speaker 3>that monologue, no one could write something like that except

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<v Speaker 3>I thought maybe Sam Rockwell could. I'm like, you know what,

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<v Speaker 3>Sam might have come in with this monologue and said, listen,

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<v Speaker 3>I have a piece that I want to put in

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<v Speaker 3>the show.

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<v Speaker 5>I don't think. I don't know if anybody who writes

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<v Speaker 5>quite like Mike Mike White does like stuff like that, confrontational,

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<v Speaker 5>that confronting, that subversive, that sort of not nothing he

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<v Speaker 5>does is like dinner table conversation, you know, and the

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<v Speaker 5>way he I haven't seen the episode, but the fact

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<v Speaker 5>that Sam just does it like he's saying past the assault,

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<v Speaker 5>and there's something about that because it's his truth. And

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<v Speaker 5>I feel like if Kate and Laurie and Jacqueline, the

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<v Speaker 5>three women like, are are the ladies? If the ladies

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<v Speaker 5>had come in and just been like, my life is

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<v Speaker 5>a disaster, my marriage is this, or I lost my job,

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<v Speaker 5>I think I'm drinking too much or whatever their shit was,

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<v Speaker 5>and it just talked about it and been vulnerable and

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<v Speaker 5>sort of unapologetic about what's going on in their life,

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<v Speaker 5>it would have been a very different vacation for them.

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<v Speaker 5>But instead they couldn't do that. And so when I

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<v Speaker 5>read all eight episodes and I got to that monologue

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<v Speaker 5>for Frank, I remember feeling like, oh, this is Mike's

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<v Speaker 5>this is like the essence of the show. This is

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<v Speaker 5>what he's saying, like what we should try to aspire

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<v Speaker 5>to And as it goes on, you'll see that, you know,

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<v Speaker 5>things can be very hard to hold on to. And

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<v Speaker 5>I don't know, I don't know if Frank does such

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<v Speaker 5>a good job with his sobriety or any of it.

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<v Speaker 1>Right, so, right, right, right right?

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<v Speaker 3>So how well, by the way, how did Sam So?

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<v Speaker 3>How was it because of you that Sam also got

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<v Speaker 3>in the show? Or was it completely separate.

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<v Speaker 5>Completely separate? The person that they had first gone to

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<v Speaker 5>couldn't do it anymore because we had pushed and pushed,

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<v Speaker 5>and we'd just gone over and weather and whatever. We

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<v Speaker 5>had gone long and Sam was doing a movie in

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<v Speaker 5>South Africa and it was never going to time out.

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<v Speaker 5>Like they had said something to me early on, like

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<v Speaker 5>what if this were to happen, and I was like,

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<v Speaker 5>I don't think it's going to happen because he's shooting

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<v Speaker 5>this big movie and he looks like an unhoused person

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<v Speaker 5>in this movie. You'll never be able to like, he

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<v Speaker 5>can't do both. And also Sam is not that actor.

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<v Speaker 5>He won't sort of double team like that. He'll be

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<v Speaker 5>like he needs prep time. And then we pushed so

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<v Speaker 5>much that he was ending his movie and he had

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<v Speaker 5>like a week and a half between, so technically he

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<v Speaker 5>could do it, but it was he really fretted with

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<v Speaker 5>the idea of doing it. I think he knew that

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<v Speaker 5>that monologue was a beast. It's not something you just go, okay,

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<v Speaker 5>I'm going to do it, you know, you just, on

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<v Speaker 5>top of just being prepared with just being off book

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<v Speaker 5>and ready, you have to do the deep emotional prep

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<v Speaker 5>of what that means. And Sam's got a very specific process.

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<v Speaker 5>And so when they said they were going to offer

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<v Speaker 5>it to him, I remember Dave Bernad was walking through

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<v Speaker 5>one of the hotels we were shooting in and I

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<v Speaker 5>was on the treadmill and I waved at him and

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<v Speaker 5>I said come here, and he came in. He goes,

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<v Speaker 5>did you hear? And I said yeah, I said listen,

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<v Speaker 5>if he doesn't do it, you and Mike can't get

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<v Speaker 5>mad at me like that jet plan's going to fly.

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<v Speaker 5>I can't ground it like that that's going one way

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<v Speaker 5>and I'm not. So he was like, no, no, we

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<v Speaker 5>won't get mad at you, and then he hemmed in

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<v Speaker 5>had But then he eventually did it, And so.

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<v Speaker 3>I can't imagine anyone else doing that, but Sam Rockwell's

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<v Speaker 3>I agree with you as soon as.

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<v Speaker 1>I saw him in it, which I don't. I don't. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't know he was going to be in that.

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<v Speaker 5>I kept it a secret. Can you believe it?

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<v Speaker 1>I know, I know you guys are good at keeping secrets.

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<v Speaker 1>You guys are good. I mean, I think you're under

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<v Speaker 1>contract to keep that secret.

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<v Speaker 5>But still, like, I mean we told somebody. I'm like,

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<v Speaker 5>you know, people were like, wait, you were there, what

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<v Speaker 5>was going on? And then you know, Sam, of course

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<v Speaker 5>like talk to people about whether or not I should

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<v Speaker 5>do it, But like, I think we did pretty good.

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<v Speaker 5>Like you were like to tam Com visit you and

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<v Speaker 5>I was like, yeah he did. I start looking down

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<v Speaker 5>and looking away and trying not to make like eye

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<v Speaker 5>contactuse I hate lying to people.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, Well, the other highlight of last night's episode. First

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<v Speaker 3>of all, your fucking facial expressions killed me. Whenever I'm

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<v Speaker 3>friends with anybody who's an actor and I watched them

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<v Speaker 3>in movies, it's very hard for me to take them seriously.

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<v Speaker 3>Once I've made a friendship with someone, I just cannot wait.

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<v Speaker 3>All I do is send my friend Connie pictures of

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<v Speaker 3>her acting, and she I'm like, this is ridiculous. She's like,

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<v Speaker 3>don't watch it. I don't want to hear any fucking feedback.

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<v Speaker 3>But Leslie's faces in White Lotus. First of all, I

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<v Speaker 3>also want to just talk about this show and that

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<v Speaker 3>what a cultural zeitgeist this show is every I was

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<v Speaker 3>at my sister's sixtieth birthday weekend and there were fifteen

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<v Speaker 3>people there, like four generations of people, and we all

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<v Speaker 3>sat down on Sunday night to watch this in a

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<v Speaker 3>weekend where we were not watching TV. This was the

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<v Speaker 3>only TV show we watched because everyone was into it.

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<v Speaker 3>Everyone's like, oh my god, New White Lettos, New White Lotus.

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<v Speaker 3>So I could only imagine what you've been experiencing being

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<v Speaker 3>a part of this cast, because it is they show

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<v Speaker 3>that everyone watches. Like Severance is a very popular show.

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<v Speaker 3>Not everyone watches it, but it's hugely popular. There isn't

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<v Speaker 3>a person I know that doesn't watch White Lotus. So

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<v Speaker 3>that in and of itself is such a testament to

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<v Speaker 3>Mike White and all of these casts that he puts together,

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<v Speaker 3>because the casting is the most integral part to all

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<v Speaker 3>of these and it helps that everybody is an actor,

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<v Speaker 3>not a movie star, you know, what I mean, it

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<v Speaker 3>helps that it helps move the story along, that there

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<v Speaker 3>are so many actors and there's so many stories going on,

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<v Speaker 3>because it's so fun to follow that.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, Hi, it's Catherine from the Future. If you don't

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<v Speaker 2>want any spoilers for episode five of White Lotus that

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<v Speaker 2>came out on March sixteenth, then please skip forward exactly

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<v Speaker 2>two minutes.

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<v Speaker 3>But there was a scene in this pool with Carrie

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<v Speaker 3>Kuhon and with the ladies, the three girls, Michelle Bonahan

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<v Speaker 3>and Leslie and Kerry Kuhon, and as we've come to know,

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<v Speaker 3>Leslie's characters, a Trump supporter, which was.

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<v Speaker 1>A fucking I'm an independent, independent Trump supporter.

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<v Speaker 5>For my husband's Republican but I'm an independent.

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<v Speaker 3>And there's a scene and when they're in with these

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<v Speaker 3>three Russian guys, they've been partying all day and she

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<v Speaker 3>takes her carry Kuhon takes her top off. She's like

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<v Speaker 3>trying to hook up with Vladimir, right or Voldemort Vladimir

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<v Speaker 3>I think it's I want to say Vair, it's Valentine.

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<v Speaker 3>Valentine she's hooking up with She's wanting to anyway. And

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<v Speaker 3>when her top comes off, the face that you have

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<v Speaker 3>the smile. First of all, the show is filled with

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<v Speaker 3>facial expressions from you that are fucking to die for.

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<v Speaker 3>They are so funny.

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<v Speaker 5>What do I do? What do I do?

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<v Speaker 1>That you go? It's patronized seeing kind of.

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<v Speaker 3>Like yeah, even when you're about to talk shit with

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<v Speaker 3>your girlfriends, whether it's with Carrie or Michelle, I'm using

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<v Speaker 3>their real names because I get confused by all the

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<v Speaker 3>character But when one of them leaves and she's like,

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<v Speaker 3>oh god, she seems like she's drinking a lot, She's like.

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<v Speaker 4>Oh she does.

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<v Speaker 1>Everything is so smart.

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<v Speaker 3>It's just coming down like a butterscotch candy and it's

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<v Speaker 3>so funny. And then when she Carrie Kon's top comes off,

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<v Speaker 3>Leslie Bib's already like, I don't know about these men

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<v Speaker 3>at our villa.

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<v Speaker 1>What's going on?

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<v Speaker 3>This is a little too much for me as an

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<v Speaker 3>independent Trump supporter.

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<v Speaker 1>This is a little bit too much for me.

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<v Speaker 3>And then the face that you make when her top

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<v Speaker 3>comes off, like ha, like just a deflation of like

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<v Speaker 3>oh no, we're all gonna get gang banged or something

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<v Speaker 3>bad is gonna happen, Like that is where which is

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<v Speaker 3>where I thought that scene was going. I'm like, uh, oh,

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<v Speaker 3>they are going to turn on her and somebody's getting fucked.

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<v Speaker 3>That's somebody that doesn't want to it's going to But yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>you're acting in this is just like I don't.

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<v Speaker 1>Their character is so so perfectly you Thank you.

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<v Speaker 5>Thanks. That means a lot, Like it really means a

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<v Speaker 5>lot coming from you. I've never experienced anything like this

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<v Speaker 5>show before. It's crazy. Everybody's watching it and they also

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<v Speaker 5>there there's an obsession with it and people really watch

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<v Speaker 5>it for which is I think Mike probably loves very much.

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<v Speaker 5>Is they get all of the metaphors and the themes

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<v Speaker 5>and and and I don't know if it's because it

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<v Speaker 5>only comes out once a week and it makes you

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<v Speaker 5>have an appetite for it and that you have to

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<v Speaker 5>sit there and then you can rewatch it and look

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<v Speaker 5>at stuff and go, oh wait, did you see why

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<v Speaker 5>were there three monkeys in that corner? And why were that?

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<v Speaker 5>Like people are picking up on things that Like I

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<v Speaker 5>was like, are they going to get that? And the

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<v Speaker 5>obsession with understanding it thematically I think is really cool

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<v Speaker 5>because I do think Mike is working in big themes.

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<v Speaker 5>I think you know he's working He's talking about spirituality

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<v Speaker 5>and death. But then he's also working with doppelgangers and

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<v Speaker 5>mirrors and reflections, like with the Three Ladies. You know

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<v Speaker 5>we were said like, oh, nobody could tell us apart

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<v Speaker 5>when we were kids, And even while we were filming,

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<v Speaker 5>if I had my head turned, somebody would be like

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<v Speaker 5>my haircut was enough, like carries and like it felt

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<v Speaker 5>like art in life started to you're there long enough

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<v Speaker 5>and you start to feel like a guest at the

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<v Speaker 5>White Lotus because you're filming at a hotel wherever you

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<v Speaker 5>where you go, it says the White Lotus, I don't know.

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<v Speaker 5>It is like a weird mind trip. So I so

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<v Speaker 5>appreciate you saying that the work is good, but I

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<v Speaker 5>think part of it is just being surrounded by it

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<v Speaker 5>all the time that you I don't know. I mean,

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<v Speaker 5>I think it helps the work, Like when we were

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<v Speaker 5>getting cabin fever from being there for six months and

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<v Speaker 5>feeling like this sometimes because you're away from home and

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<v Speaker 5>away from anything that feels like you're normal. I think

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<v Speaker 5>it actually helped the work, And I think for the

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<v Speaker 5>people who love it, I think the fact that he

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<v Speaker 5>makes you wait every week also helps to aid the

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<v Speaker 5>fever pitch of like I want more and the episodes

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<v Speaker 5>were much bigger. They were I don't know, like hour

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<v Speaker 5>and a half long, and then HBO would make Mike,

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<v Speaker 5>you know, cut them down to fifty two minutes. So

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<v Speaker 5>sometimes I want to see what those hour and a

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<v Speaker 5>half long?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I mean, so does everybody else.

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<v Speaker 5>I know, Like I had this insane dream sequence that

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<v Speaker 5>we shot that I was so like, oh, it was

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<v Speaker 5>like a sucker punch when I found out it got

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<v Speaker 5>cut and I was.

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<v Speaker 1>Like, oh, poor Kate.

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<v Speaker 5>But there's so many stories he's telling and interweaving. It's

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<v Speaker 5>fascinating to me, how you you know, And it's interesting

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<v Speaker 5>your take that, like if you had a big movie

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<v Speaker 5>star in there, would you be able to with such

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<v Speaker 5>abandon go down the you know, all of these roads

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<v Speaker 5>with these people, or would you be like, oh, there's

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<v Speaker 5>Tom Cruise or there's you know what I mean? Would

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<v Speaker 5>you do you think?

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know, it's tough to think about.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean I think that kind of it's yeah, maybe maybe.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, I would think so.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, you know, depending on their acting ability, like

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<v Speaker 3>to really immerse themselves. I mean maybe it could just

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<v Speaker 3>be say Tom Cruise was a character in that show

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<v Speaker 3>that would be really interesting it would be interesting to

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<v Speaker 3>watch him mixing with everybody and not being the main attraction,

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<v Speaker 3>being one of the storylines, which I really appreciate.

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<v Speaker 1>As a viewer.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, jumping off of Bill.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, jumping off a bill, of course, or into Paris

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<v Speaker 3>or wherever he needs to go for the Olympics next.

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<v Speaker 3>But what do you learn about the show when you're

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<v Speaker 3>doing it? Like what does Mike tell you about it?

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<v Speaker 3>Like what are you what are you not allowed to

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<v Speaker 3>talk to people about?

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<v Speaker 5>You're not only about anything, not really allowed to talk

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<v Speaker 5>about anythinking. I mean, the fact that they kept Sam

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<v Speaker 5>secret is kind of incredible to me. I don't know

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<v Speaker 5>how they did that, because I mean, in this age

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<v Speaker 5>where everything gets leaked, I don't know. I kept saying

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<v Speaker 5>to him, I think it's bonkers that nobody knows you're

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<v Speaker 5>in it, or it hasn't somehow gone out. But when

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<v Speaker 5>you're doing it, you read the script, but like there's

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<v Speaker 5>something with the way he directs and the way he's

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<v Speaker 5>you know, and you sort of get all eight and

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<v Speaker 5>then I only have my Then I have to give

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<v Speaker 5>back everything because those scripts are so guarded. So I

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<v Speaker 5>have just my section of the script. So I feel

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<v Speaker 5>very disconnected to anybody else's storyline, so you're kind of

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<v Speaker 5>there on your own journey and so you don't know

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<v Speaker 5>how it's all going to be interconnected or any of that.

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<v Speaker 5>So that's really like Mike the editing, how he sees it,

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<v Speaker 5>how it changed. I mean, that's I mean, it's really

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<v Speaker 5>all a testament to him and his vision for this.

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<v Speaker 5>And I think he's got remarkable editors and his production

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<v Speaker 5>designer is incredible. Nothing Mike does is like, oh, look

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<v Speaker 5>at that happen accident, you know, but when you're there,

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<v Speaker 5>he feels you don't feel like that's happening. But he's

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<v Speaker 5>like he's a he's just a mastermind. He's really and

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<v Speaker 5>I feel like in this third season you're really seeing

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<v Speaker 5>Mike I felt like, as a director really step into

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<v Speaker 5>his own in a big way, you know, because he's

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<v Speaker 5>a writer and an actor and those hats I think

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<v Speaker 5>he wears effortlessly. But something about this season felt like

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<v Speaker 5>there was he really something felt I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>Different, is there any improvisation.

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<v Speaker 5>He's like, I have this thing about beans. We're on

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<v Speaker 5>the beach, I say all these innocuous things. I just

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<v Speaker 5>have like, I mean, my last name is boor k Poor,

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<v Speaker 5>So I don't really say anything interesting, like it's all

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<v Speaker 5>in the name bohr k Poor. And I have this

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<v Speaker 5>like thing about beans, how I tricked my mind into

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<v Speaker 5>liking beans, and and he must have liked it because

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<v Speaker 5>then he came over and he said, Carrie, maybe you

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<v Speaker 5>would say this, and then Leslie, you go, no, no, no,

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<v Speaker 5>I don't like big beans. I like small beans. And

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<v Speaker 5>then we went into a whole thing where we were

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<v Speaker 5>just riffing on beans and he was like like chigante

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<v Speaker 5>and then we're doing this now. But he usually comes

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<v Speaker 5>up with he's so rhythmic with when he's hearing his

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<v Speaker 5>writing and that he comes over and changes it. But

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<v Speaker 5>that's it. I mean, it's nothing like it's all Mike.

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<v Speaker 5>It's kind of refreshing because then you don't feel like

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<v Speaker 5>you have to do anything and it's all on the

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<v Speaker 5>page right, so you're like, you're not trying to make

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<v Speaker 5>chicken salad out of chicken shit. It's like already a

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<v Speaker 5>fucking amazing sandwich, you know, and it's got like French

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<v Speaker 5>fries and a great drink and like it's everything. You

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<v Speaker 5>don't have to make something out of nothing, Okay, on.

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<v Speaker 1>That note, we're going to take a break and we're

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<v Speaker 1>going to come right back with Leslie Bib. And we're

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<v Speaker 1>back with Leslie.

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<v Speaker 3>Bib from The White Lotus, most recently from The White Lotus.

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<v Speaker 3>She's been in a bevy of things and everyone knows

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<v Speaker 3>who you are, and then and then this show, now,

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<v Speaker 3>as we've discussed, is like being catapulted front and center

0:20:10.800 --> 0:20:13.359
<v Speaker 3>with like it's like being I mean, I know that

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<v Speaker 3>you guys have been on this crazy press tour, and

0:20:15.400 --> 0:20:18.800
<v Speaker 3>I know you personally have been bouncing around crazily and

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<v Speaker 3>you're like, oh my god, this is so crazy, you know.

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<v Speaker 3>It's She's like, I've never been part of something like

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<v Speaker 3>this where everybody is invested at like the whole world

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<v Speaker 3>is watching and it must just be such a crazy ride, Chelsea.

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<v Speaker 5>It's fucking amazing. It's so cool. It's like somebody was like,

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<v Speaker 5>why aren't you watching, and I said, well, it's like,

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<v Speaker 5>you know, I'm critical of myself and it just feels tricky,

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<v Speaker 5>like people have been saying the work is good, so

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<v Speaker 5>I worry that if I watch it, I'm going to

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<v Speaker 5>try to recreate something or I don't know, Like it

0:20:51.040 --> 0:20:53.879
<v Speaker 5>was just very like in the moment happening, so like,

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<v Speaker 5>I don't when you talk about my faces, like I don't.

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<v Speaker 5>I don't know what those work. You know, I did

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<v Speaker 5>a lot of work and a lot of stuff. But

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<v Speaker 5>then people saying the work is good, that's so meaningful

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<v Speaker 5>and it's not like I've never had it to this

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<v Speaker 5>magnetude that the people are saying the work is good

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<v Speaker 5>like this, and so it's really nice. But also it

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<v Speaker 5>feels like it feels like a dream and it feels

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<v Speaker 5>like if I watch it, I'll be waking up from

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<v Speaker 5>the dream and it's like I just want to sleep

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<v Speaker 5>five more minutes. Like I just want to say, it's

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<v Speaker 5>like the best dream I've ever had, and I just

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<v Speaker 5>want to stay. So I'm just trying to just enjoy

0:21:32.200 --> 0:21:36.680
<v Speaker 5>it all and go with it and try to be present.

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<v Speaker 5>And it's awesome because then it'll be over and it

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<v Speaker 5>doesn't always happen. And I feel so lucky that it

0:21:43.080 --> 0:21:46.320
<v Speaker 5>happened to me. And it feels so lucky that like

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<v Speaker 5>usually in a show, they would never cast me Carrie

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<v Speaker 5>and Michelle, it would be one of us. I've never

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<v Speaker 5>got gotten to work with those other two because there's

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<v Speaker 5>only one of us who would get the job. They

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<v Speaker 5>would never you know what I mean, it just doesn't happen.

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<v Speaker 5>And then you get to do the job in all

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<v Speaker 5>three of you are there and it's not like one

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<v Speaker 5>person has the better part. Do you know which would

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<v Speaker 5>be the other thing? Like you would just be like, oh, well,

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<v Speaker 5>that's the lead and we're like the two best friends

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<v Speaker 5>that maybe have one scene or something that might be

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<v Speaker 5>cut to shreds to do something because you're just aiding

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<v Speaker 5>the lead actor's story. And it's like somehow we all

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<v Speaker 5>get our slice of the pie and it's amazing. It

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<v Speaker 5>sometimes makes me want to cry, like it just feels

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<v Speaker 5>as corny as that sounds, but it just it does

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<v Speaker 5>not fall short on me that this is happening to

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<v Speaker 5>me now in my life.

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<v Speaker 3>No, actually, can I tell Can I tell them? Can

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<v Speaker 3>I talk about We went to the Vanity Fair party

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<v Speaker 3>and I for the Oscars this year and Leslie's like, oh,

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<v Speaker 3>I was like, do you want some LSD? I had

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<v Speaker 3>my microdose of course, and she's like ellisd oh my

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<v Speaker 3>god no, and then she goes actually, she's like I'm

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<v Speaker 3>just not going to drink for this period of time.

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<v Speaker 3>And I was like, oh why, and she said because

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<v Speaker 3>I really want to be present for this experience that

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<v Speaker 3>I'm having with white lotus in it coming out and

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<v Speaker 3>I just want to experience this all. And I was like, wow,

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<v Speaker 3>that is powerful, Like good for you for doing that,

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<v Speaker 3>and I totally get that. You know, I don't know

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<v Speaker 3>why you couldn't take some LSD because you were wouldn't

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<v Speaker 3>be drinking, but whatever, I think that is. That's really

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<v Speaker 3>like like a really beautiful way to handle it because

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<v Speaker 3>it's not like you're sober, you drink, you have a

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<v Speaker 3>good time, but like for periods in our life when

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<v Speaker 3>we really do want to be there and not hungover

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<v Speaker 3>and not have it and not and have complete mental

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<v Speaker 3>clarity about what you're experiencing.

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<v Speaker 5>Also too, do you ever have this? I don't know

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<v Speaker 5>if you guts, But like when I go to those things,

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<v Speaker 5>it's not like I'm like I'm one of a vanity

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<v Speaker 5>fair party. I feel really in my body right now.

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<v Speaker 5>It's like I'm like I haven't eaten all day. I'm

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<v Speaker 5>like stuffing into your dress that's like a beautiful dressed

0:23:59.240 --> 0:24:01.760
<v Speaker 5>and you can say, why are you picking up your dress?

0:24:01.840 --> 0:24:03.439
<v Speaker 5>Let it hang? And I was like, I'm like a

0:24:03.480 --> 0:24:07.719
<v Speaker 5>giraffe Chelsea, I'm gonna trip. I'm like, look graceful, but

0:24:07.800 --> 0:24:10.199
<v Speaker 5>I'm not graceful, the truth of the thing is, And

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<v Speaker 5>like I don't want to rip the dress. And then

0:24:12.280 --> 0:24:15.040
<v Speaker 5>you've got your hair and your makeup and you're in

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<v Speaker 5>these fucking shoes that are not comfortable, and like I

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<v Speaker 5>feel like if I go there and I have a

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<v Speaker 5>drink on top of it, I'm for sure going to

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<v Speaker 5>face plant and like like and that's the first sure

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<v Speaker 5>going to happen, Like I'm just gonna be But then

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<v Speaker 5>but then, like you know, like Robert Daddy Junior came

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<v Speaker 5>up to me at the Vanity Fair party and who

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<v Speaker 5>I haven't seen in a long time? Who I did

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<v Speaker 5>you know, Iron Man with And he was so kind

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<v Speaker 5>and I was so happy that I was really there

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<v Speaker 5>to have that conversation. And it's also like I think,

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<v Speaker 5>like they're the highs that you want to be present for.

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<v Speaker 5>But then when you're having a panic attack or an

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<v Speaker 5>anxiety attack or feeling like you have imposter syndrome, that

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<v Speaker 5>I go I don't think that glass of wine or

0:24:57.720 --> 0:24:59.800
<v Speaker 5>that you know, margarita are going to be great for

0:24:59.880 --> 0:25:03.080
<v Speaker 5>me right now. And it kind of happened after the

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<v Speaker 5>fires because I was with Chelsea for the fires.

0:25:05.760 --> 0:25:08.399
<v Speaker 1>And another night, another night, another night.

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<v Speaker 5>And that happened like really fast, and we thought it

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<v Speaker 5>was one thing. We thought like, oh, the palisades in

0:25:16.440 --> 0:25:20.200
<v Speaker 5>your home was under threat, and like the critics' choice were.

0:25:20.359 --> 0:25:23.320
<v Speaker 5>It was just like happening in real time, this information

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<v Speaker 5>coming in of destruction to Los Angeles and everything sort

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<v Speaker 5>of changing. And then we were sitting at a hotel

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<v Speaker 5>having a drink, and then we had to evacuate our

0:25:33.400 --> 0:25:37.080
<v Speaker 5>hotel and it was and I'd had a few drinks,

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<v Speaker 5>like I was like pink cheeked and like, and the

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<v Speaker 5>next morning I was like, oh this is not That

0:25:42.760 --> 0:25:46.760
<v Speaker 5>was like sort of sobering to go, oh yeah, you

0:25:46.800 --> 0:25:49.520
<v Speaker 5>got to you got to be present, Like it felt

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<v Speaker 5>like a nice little wake up call.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, that was a crazy night. I was staying at

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<v Speaker 3>one hotel. I went to go have drinks with her

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<v Speaker 3>at the chateau. Then a fire broke out in the

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<v Speaker 3>Hollywood Hills and we had to evacuate the chateau. And

0:25:59.480 --> 0:26:01.359
<v Speaker 3>I used to the guy that runs the chateau, so

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<v Speaker 3>I told everybody, I think I'm still missus chateau. So

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<v Speaker 3>I went around and dismissed all of the staff. I'm like,

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<v Speaker 3>everybody leave, everybody get out. I'm like, everybody all the

0:26:09.720 --> 0:26:12.639
<v Speaker 3>everybody needs to check out of the hotel. Andre's like, Chelsea,

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<v Speaker 3>just don't panic. I'm like, everyone go to. Let's go

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<v Speaker 3>to And then we got in our car.

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<v Speaker 5>If I didn't have you, I would I didn't have

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<v Speaker 5>I don't have a car when I'm in Los Angeles, Like,

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<v Speaker 5>I don't know what do you call an uber in

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<v Speaker 5>a time like that? I don't think so like Sunset Buleivar,

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<v Speaker 5>and we had Greg Williams, who's an amazing photographer who

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<v Speaker 5>was there, who had just done like the clothes and

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<v Speaker 5>was going to do the critics' choice. And then we

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<v Speaker 5>had Michael Wincott, who is a actor who's somewhat reclusive

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<v Speaker 5>and was living at the chateau, and we grabbed him.

0:26:43.480 --> 0:26:45.080
<v Speaker 5>And then it was like I was like, this is

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<v Speaker 5>a short film.

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<v Speaker 6>Like what.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, let's go.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm like we should head to San Diego And they're

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<v Speaker 3>like san Diego and I'm like, I mean, Leslie's like,

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<v Speaker 3>what about Newport Beach?

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<v Speaker 1>Why would we go all the way to Santiago. I'm like,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not sure. But I think we should go to

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<v Speaker 1>San Diego. There are fires coming from every direction.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, we ended up going back to my hotel and

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<v Speaker 3>all of us just ended up drinking and being stupid

0:27:04.520 --> 0:27:06.200
<v Speaker 3>because we didn't know what else to fucking.

0:27:05.920 --> 0:27:08.520
<v Speaker 1>Do and we were a band of random idiots.

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<v Speaker 3>Anyway, we have to get to one caller at least

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<v Speaker 3>for this episode before we shoot the shit any longer.

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<v Speaker 1>We're going to take a caller, Leslie. Are you ready? Yeah, yeah, Yeah,

0:27:16.720 --> 0:27:18.760
<v Speaker 1>we're gonna give We're going to give advice. Yes.

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<v Speaker 2>Our first caller is Shannon, and I feel like this

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<v Speaker 2>question is particularly appropriate because there were so many age

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<v Speaker 2>gap relationships represented in Waite.

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<v Speaker 4>Lotus this season.

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<v Speaker 2>Specifically, Shannon says, Dear Chelsea, I'm thirty four years old

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<v Speaker 2>and I'm married to an eighty year old man whoa

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<v Speaker 2>From the outside, it might look like I have security,

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<v Speaker 2>but the truth is far more complicated. I met him

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<v Speaker 2>when I was eighteen. He was supposed to be a

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<v Speaker 2>safety net, not a husband. One choice led to another,

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<v Speaker 2>and before I knew it, I had built a life

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<v Speaker 2>that does not feel like mine. The thing is, he

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<v Speaker 2>loves me, he always has, but I cannot love him

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<v Speaker 2>back and yet I stay. I stay because leaving impossible.

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<v Speaker 2>I stay because I've made choices that make walking away

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<v Speaker 2>more complicated than staying.

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<v Speaker 4>But most of all, I stay because.

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<v Speaker 2>Of my two Golden Retrievers, who are twelve and thirteen

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<v Speaker 2>years old. They've been my constant through every twist and turn,

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<v Speaker 2>and I do not know what I am without them.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not lost, I'm not weak, but I am stuck. Shannon, whoa,

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<v Speaker 2>and then she'll be joining us here to chat.

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<v Speaker 3>Shannon, this is Leslie, our special guest today. Hi, Leslie

0:28:25.560 --> 0:28:27.919
<v Speaker 3>Bibb say Hi, Hi, how are you?

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<v Speaker 5>Hi?

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<v Speaker 6>I'm good?

0:28:29.720 --> 0:28:30.240
<v Speaker 5>How are you?

0:28:30.600 --> 0:28:31.240
<v Speaker 4>I'm a fan?

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<v Speaker 5>Hi? Thank you so much, Shannon. That letter was really

0:28:36.480 --> 0:28:40.120
<v Speaker 5>incredibly open and vulnerable. It's very cool.

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<v Speaker 6>It's a little vague.

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<v Speaker 2>So well, I do want to clarify one thing, because

0:28:44.360 --> 0:28:46.440
<v Speaker 2>you know, you said that you guys met at when

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<v Speaker 2>you were eighteen, but you had sort of been working

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<v Speaker 2>for his ex in like a work capacity, so it

0:28:52.440 --> 0:28:54.840
<v Speaker 2>wasn't like you started dating him when you were.

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<v Speaker 6>Eighteen, right, No, never, never did I ever date him.

0:28:58.560 --> 0:29:02.040
<v Speaker 6>There was no dating. There was no sugar baby, sugar

0:29:02.120 --> 0:29:06.360
<v Speaker 6>daddy like relationship, nothing like that. He just was always

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<v Speaker 6>a caretaker or like some backup security for me because

0:29:11.560 --> 0:29:14.480
<v Speaker 6>I just don't have like family and whatnot. And this

0:29:14.640 --> 0:29:17.680
<v Speaker 6>was a long time ago, and I just became dependent

0:29:17.720 --> 0:29:18.200
<v Speaker 6>on him.

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<v Speaker 5>Would you say you're a dependent emotionally? Do you feel

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<v Speaker 5>like that he filled some void for you emotionally?

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<v Speaker 6>I'm not. It's it sounds so like messed up but

0:29:28.280 --> 0:29:32.200
<v Speaker 6>not really like he was a friend. But like when

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<v Speaker 6>I tell you, like, for years he was supposed to

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<v Speaker 6>be the guy that walked me down the aisle, like

0:29:38.000 --> 0:29:40.960
<v Speaker 6>in replace of my dad, because I don't have one,

0:29:41.120 --> 0:29:45.360
<v Speaker 6>and he caught major feelings for me, and I thought

0:29:45.400 --> 0:29:48.920
<v Speaker 6>that marrying him would make my life easier, and it

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<v Speaker 6>has made my life way worse.

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<v Speaker 1>How so, how so, how's it made your life worse?

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<v Speaker 6>Well, I've always been independent, Like I've always been a

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<v Speaker 6>very hard worker and always like took care of myself.

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<v Speaker 6>But you know, I have these two dogs, and sometimes

0:30:05.920 --> 0:30:09.440
<v Speaker 6>emergencies would happen and he would always help me. And

0:30:09.480 --> 0:30:13.479
<v Speaker 6>then next thing, you know, like the pandemic happened and

0:30:13.560 --> 0:30:17.320
<v Speaker 6>he was always just helping me out. And then it

0:30:17.600 --> 0:30:20.320
<v Speaker 6>resulted in him falling in love with me, and I

0:30:20.400 --> 0:30:23.719
<v Speaker 6>thought that okay, well fine, if we get married, he

0:30:23.760 --> 0:30:27.000
<v Speaker 6>can have, you know, companionship and not die alone. And

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<v Speaker 6>I thought I could be somewhat able to like get

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<v Speaker 6>my life together and go back to college and all

0:30:32.520 --> 0:30:35.920
<v Speaker 6>those things. And no, he wants us to be a

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<v Speaker 6>real deal married couple. And it's like I thought, by

0:30:40.680 --> 0:30:44.520
<v Speaker 6>being introduced as his wife would be enough and just

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<v Speaker 6>spending the majority of my time with him and all

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<v Speaker 6>these things. But he wants one thing and one thing only.

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<v Speaker 6>And that's really what has happened since we got married.

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<v Speaker 1>He wants sex.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, he wants intimacy, he wants to make out, and

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<v Speaker 6>I am like, absolutely not and that's never been how

0:31:04.840 --> 0:31:09.760
<v Speaker 6>our relationship was. And wow, do I say or do

0:31:09.880 --> 0:31:12.880
<v Speaker 6>I try to plan? I like to go, but both

0:31:12.920 --> 0:31:18.720
<v Speaker 6>seem extremely impossible. And it's as if I'm living tell

0:31:18.840 --> 0:31:21.600
<v Speaker 6>my dogs die, which is like a sick way to live.

0:31:21.960 --> 0:31:25.720
<v Speaker 6>And these dogs mean the world to me, and it's

0:31:26.080 --> 0:31:29.760
<v Speaker 6>it's almost impossible to take care of two big dogs,

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<v Speaker 6>you know, by yourself. So I didn't know I had

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<v Speaker 6>to sacrifice so much.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't think it's impossible to take care of two

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<v Speaker 3>big dogs by yourself. I don't think that's I mean,

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<v Speaker 3>you're dealing with an eighty year old man. You know, yeah,

0:31:45.400 --> 0:31:46.280
<v Speaker 3>do you have a job?

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<v Speaker 6>Well, I currently I don't and I did not have

0:31:50.360 --> 0:31:53.880
<v Speaker 6>one when I married him. So and I've always been

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<v Speaker 6>a bartender, and like for ten years, I've just been

0:31:58.440 --> 0:32:01.280
<v Speaker 6>a bartender. And that's the only source of money I

0:32:01.320 --> 0:32:01.960
<v Speaker 6>know how to make.

0:32:02.920 --> 0:32:05.480
<v Speaker 1>And that's that's good. You can do that, though, that's

0:32:05.480 --> 0:32:08.719
<v Speaker 1>a source of income. That's good. You're capable of doing that.

0:32:09.120 --> 0:32:12.920
<v Speaker 6>Yes, I am capable of doing that. So it's just

0:32:13.200 --> 0:32:17.960
<v Speaker 6>like I'm dependent on him for everything, and I currently

0:32:18.320 --> 0:32:20.760
<v Speaker 6>just like a hot mess. Like and I did get

0:32:20.800 --> 0:32:23.720
<v Speaker 6>a job when we first got married, and it gets

0:32:23.720 --> 0:32:27.280
<v Speaker 6>so emotionally taxic that it's like he expects me to

0:32:27.320 --> 0:32:30.800
<v Speaker 6>take off work to drive him to whatever appointments he needs,

0:32:31.120 --> 0:32:36.200
<v Speaker 6>and I get so emotionally distressed that I at this

0:32:36.320 --> 0:32:39.560
<v Speaker 6>point in my life, I am not, like I don't

0:32:39.560 --> 0:32:42.680
<v Speaker 6>trust myself to be reliable, not for a job. Like

0:32:42.840 --> 0:32:48.239
<v Speaker 6>I married him to basically be able to just like

0:32:48.320 --> 0:32:50.920
<v Speaker 6>take care of him and our home and the dogs

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<v Speaker 6>and be his wife. But I didn't know he wanted

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<v Speaker 6>all of the things a wife comes with.

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<v Speaker 1>So are you in a sexual relationship with him now?

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<v Speaker 6>Absolutely not? No, never, happen never once. And that's the

0:33:04.680 --> 0:33:08.760
<v Speaker 6>thing that like no one believes me, and well.

0:33:08.600 --> 0:33:10.880
<v Speaker 5>Who cares if they believe you? I mean, it's like

0:33:11.560 --> 0:33:14.080
<v Speaker 5>that's like a mood point. It's like you can think

0:33:14.120 --> 0:33:16.280
<v Speaker 5>whatever the heck you want, you have no control over that.

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<v Speaker 5>But I think the bigger thing, I just feel like

0:33:19.000 --> 0:33:23.040
<v Speaker 5>there's two things happening. You have sort of like you

0:33:23.120 --> 0:33:25.960
<v Speaker 5>have to look at, like why you got into this,

0:33:26.400 --> 0:33:30.160
<v Speaker 5>which is you're probably seeking some sort of security, something

0:33:30.200 --> 0:33:32.600
<v Speaker 5>that probably maybe you did not feel in your life,

0:33:33.200 --> 0:33:35.720
<v Speaker 5>some sort of self worth that you didn't have for

0:33:35.840 --> 0:33:38.960
<v Speaker 5>yourself so you thought, and which is common. That's not

0:33:39.000 --> 0:33:41.160
<v Speaker 5>a judgment that I'm saying that. I'm just saying you

0:33:41.280 --> 0:33:43.600
<v Speaker 5>all seek. All of this is coming from a non

0:33:43.640 --> 0:33:46.280
<v Speaker 5>judgment place. It's just we make these choices. We've all

0:33:46.280 --> 0:33:49.480
<v Speaker 5>done it, everybody, so nobody can. We've all done versions

0:33:49.640 --> 0:33:52.880
<v Speaker 5>of this, like where you've picked the wrong person or

0:33:52.920 --> 0:33:55.320
<v Speaker 5>you think I'm gonna pick this person because they feel

0:33:55.360 --> 0:33:57.920
<v Speaker 5>safe or they feel this, or you feel that, and

0:33:57.960 --> 0:34:01.520
<v Speaker 5>then you get down that road and you're like, oh,

0:34:01.720 --> 0:34:04.440
<v Speaker 5>not what I thought, not and it's unsafe, and then

0:34:04.480 --> 0:34:07.959
<v Speaker 5>you start the ball starts rolling that way and you

0:34:08.160 --> 0:34:11.840
<v Speaker 5>think in your head it's too complicated, and you start

0:34:11.880 --> 0:34:16.080
<v Speaker 5>to come up with these reasons why you can't go, Oh,

0:34:16.800 --> 0:34:19.400
<v Speaker 5>I can pull the shoot, I can leave, you know,

0:34:19.760 --> 0:34:22.080
<v Speaker 5>taking care of two dogs. You can do that. You

0:34:22.120 --> 0:34:22.960
<v Speaker 5>can do that.

0:34:22.960 --> 0:34:23.560
<v Speaker 6>That's yes.

0:34:24.080 --> 0:34:26.799
<v Speaker 5>But the thing is, that's what you're telling yourself. You

0:34:26.840 --> 0:34:29.399
<v Speaker 5>need to look at what's really underneath, which is it's

0:34:29.400 --> 0:34:31.640
<v Speaker 5>scary because you haven't had a job probably in a

0:34:31.680 --> 0:34:34.160
<v Speaker 5>long time. I would feel that, you know, you probably

0:34:34.160 --> 0:34:36.560
<v Speaker 5>have not had a job in a long time, and

0:34:36.600 --> 0:34:39.239
<v Speaker 5>you're like, where's that money going to come from? There's

0:34:39.360 --> 0:34:43.520
<v Speaker 5>probably maybe even on some subconscious level, he does give

0:34:43.560 --> 0:34:47.440
<v Speaker 5>you some sort of sense of security, yes, and whether

0:34:47.520 --> 0:34:49.160
<v Speaker 5>you want it, because it's easy to be like no,

0:34:49.280 --> 0:34:51.600
<v Speaker 5>it's this and it's this, but maybe there is some

0:34:51.840 --> 0:34:57.680
<v Speaker 5>version where he does make you feel okay, and maybe

0:34:57.680 --> 0:35:00.000
<v Speaker 5>you don't have to be vulnerable with somebody else because

0:35:00.239 --> 0:35:03.200
<v Speaker 5>to be single and to be out there, you have

0:35:03.320 --> 0:35:05.120
<v Speaker 5>to be open and you have to like you this

0:35:05.280 --> 0:35:06.960
<v Speaker 5>is the devil, you know, right?

0:35:07.040 --> 0:35:10.399
<v Speaker 6>Yes, yes, so it's very scary to go.

0:35:11.200 --> 0:35:12.759
<v Speaker 5>I don't know what the fuck is out there.

0:35:13.000 --> 0:35:15.960
<v Speaker 6>That's where I'm kind of at. I feel like, yeah,

0:35:16.000 --> 0:35:19.440
<v Speaker 6>like I don't know I've always had him as a backup.

0:35:20.200 --> 0:35:23.480
<v Speaker 6>I've had rent and all, and I've had jobs, Chelsea

0:35:23.560 --> 0:35:26.879
<v Speaker 6>and all the things, but like he's always been I've

0:35:26.920 --> 0:35:32.319
<v Speaker 6>never really had everything on my own. He's always been

0:35:32.360 --> 0:35:35.320
<v Speaker 6>there to help me. So that's kind of what's keeping

0:35:35.320 --> 0:35:38.320
<v Speaker 6>me here because it's scary, exactly.

0:35:38.360 --> 0:35:41.200
<v Speaker 2>It is scary, and I feel like what you're feeling

0:35:41.360 --> 0:35:43.600
<v Speaker 2>like it is easier to kind of stay put because

0:35:43.640 --> 0:35:46.040
<v Speaker 2>of inertia and just because that's what you've known. But

0:35:46.160 --> 0:35:48.440
<v Speaker 2>I feel like what is coming up for you is

0:35:48.480 --> 0:35:51.839
<v Speaker 2>that you have outgrown needing somebody else to like do

0:35:52.440 --> 0:35:55.120
<v Speaker 2>this for you, and like being able to go out

0:35:55.120 --> 0:35:57.160
<v Speaker 2>and get a job. It's not like leave him tomorrow

0:35:57.160 --> 0:35:59.759
<v Speaker 2>and take the dogs. It can be a transition, you know,

0:35:59.840 --> 0:36:02.920
<v Speaker 2>you can look at getting a job, initiating some of

0:36:02.960 --> 0:36:07.239
<v Speaker 2>that stability for yourself before you know, having that conversation

0:36:07.320 --> 0:36:08.239
<v Speaker 2>about maybe I want to.

0:36:08.200 --> 0:36:09.520
<v Speaker 4>Move out or maybe I want to do this.

0:36:10.000 --> 0:36:11.960
<v Speaker 2>It doesn't have to be an all or nothing thing,

0:36:12.040 --> 0:36:14.640
<v Speaker 2>but it sounds like you're kind of out growing this

0:36:14.719 --> 0:36:16.440
<v Speaker 2>and you're getting to a point where you might not

0:36:16.520 --> 0:36:17.360
<v Speaker 2>need this anymore.

0:36:18.120 --> 0:36:22.240
<v Speaker 5>I think also, we have to watch it's so easy

0:36:22.239 --> 0:36:25.239
<v Speaker 5>to be like we tell ourselves the truth that we want.

0:36:25.360 --> 0:36:28.319
<v Speaker 5>It's like his schedule keeps me from having a job.

0:36:29.600 --> 0:36:32.320
<v Speaker 5>That's I mean, you could get You could be like, hey,

0:36:32.480 --> 0:36:35.680
<v Speaker 5>I need you to make your doctor's appointments, and I'm

0:36:35.680 --> 0:36:38.280
<v Speaker 5>sure you probably help him make his doctor's appointment because

0:36:38.280 --> 0:36:41.520
<v Speaker 5>he's eighty to go. We're going to schedule your doctor's

0:36:41.520 --> 0:36:46.280
<v Speaker 5>appointments from twelve to five. I'm going to go and

0:36:46.480 --> 0:36:49.160
<v Speaker 5>I'm going to take a job at night, and I'm

0:36:49.160 --> 0:36:51.719
<v Speaker 5>going to bar tend once a week or twice a week,

0:36:51.760 --> 0:36:55.760
<v Speaker 5>and I go to work at six o'clock to midnight.

0:36:56.520 --> 0:36:58.799
<v Speaker 5>And that's how you do. But you have to be

0:37:00.080 --> 0:37:01.960
<v Speaker 5>you have to be the captain of your ship. You

0:37:02.080 --> 0:37:06.880
<v Speaker 5>have to want to really want to do this because

0:37:07.239 --> 0:37:11.680
<v Speaker 5>it's gonna be uncomfortable. It's gonna be a lot of unknowns,

0:37:12.320 --> 0:37:15.359
<v Speaker 5>and your apartment might not be as nice or your

0:37:15.360 --> 0:37:17.600
<v Speaker 5>home might not be as nice as it is. And

0:37:18.560 --> 0:37:21.839
<v Speaker 5>you know, dogs they're fine. The fact that they're not

0:37:21.880 --> 0:37:24.920
<v Speaker 5>in a shelter. They're having a great life. Your dogs

0:37:24.920 --> 0:37:27.239
<v Speaker 5>are twelve and thirteen. They don't need to walk much.

0:37:27.400 --> 0:37:30.040
<v Speaker 5>They like you take them on two good walks. You

0:37:30.120 --> 0:37:32.680
<v Speaker 5>give them love, you give them their treats. You know,

0:37:33.320 --> 0:37:35.360
<v Speaker 5>maybe get a shitty apartment that has a backyard so

0:37:35.440 --> 0:37:37.920
<v Speaker 5>the poochies can be out there. I mean, I just

0:37:38.040 --> 0:37:41.680
<v Speaker 5>know that, like when you really do want to change,

0:37:42.280 --> 0:37:44.680
<v Speaker 5>you will make that change. But I think it's you

0:37:44.800 --> 0:37:47.879
<v Speaker 5>have to also really look. You know, somebody can want

0:37:47.960 --> 0:37:50.719
<v Speaker 5>everything from you, but it's like you have to said

0:37:50.760 --> 0:37:53.600
<v Speaker 5>what you're willing to give, so he can't take anything

0:37:53.640 --> 0:37:56.000
<v Speaker 5>from you that you're not giving. It's about sort of

0:37:56.040 --> 0:37:59.040
<v Speaker 5>also meeting him and going, huh, what am I doing?

0:37:59.080 --> 0:38:00.000
<v Speaker 5>What am I looking for?

0:38:00.040 --> 0:38:00.239
<v Speaker 6>Work?

0:38:01.080 --> 0:38:04.520
<v Speaker 5>And take all the judgment everybody's freaking opinions out of it.

0:38:04.520 --> 0:38:07.520
<v Speaker 5>It's really easy to cast Look at the white loaders.

0:38:07.520 --> 0:38:11.400
<v Speaker 5>All we do is talk about each other exactly. You know,

0:38:11.480 --> 0:38:13.960
<v Speaker 5>we're all throwing stones from glasshouses.

0:38:14.000 --> 0:38:17.279
<v Speaker 3>You know, what's your financial situation with him? Does he

0:38:17.360 --> 0:38:20.200
<v Speaker 3>just supply you with money? Do you have access to money? Like,

0:38:20.280 --> 0:38:21.040
<v Speaker 3>what's the deal?

0:38:21.080 --> 0:38:21.400
<v Speaker 5>Though?

0:38:21.760 --> 0:38:26.680
<v Speaker 6>He controls everything? Like I have to ask for everything,

0:38:27.320 --> 0:38:31.000
<v Speaker 6>And it's a bunch of like withholding money. If we

0:38:31.040 --> 0:38:34.480
<v Speaker 6>get into a fight and he's still an active attorney,

0:38:34.719 --> 0:38:37.000
<v Speaker 6>like he still works every day and stuff like that,

0:38:37.320 --> 0:38:40.719
<v Speaker 6>and he has a serious temper, So it's like is

0:38:40.719 --> 0:38:45.040
<v Speaker 6>he abusive emotionally and the way he yells and scares

0:38:45.080 --> 0:38:48.160
<v Speaker 6>my dogs? And then so this does he scare you

0:38:50.120 --> 0:38:53.840
<v Speaker 6>sometimes in like his like threats, like with what he

0:38:53.920 --> 0:38:56.279
<v Speaker 6>can do legally, Like if I like don't like if

0:38:56.280 --> 0:38:58.359
<v Speaker 6>I kiss him off, he you'll be like, I'll get

0:38:58.400 --> 0:39:01.680
<v Speaker 6>you out of here, like he's stuff like that. But no,

0:39:01.800 --> 0:39:04.680
<v Speaker 6>I'm not like scared of him. Like it's as if

0:39:04.719 --> 0:39:07.600
<v Speaker 6>I was in a relationship married to someone my own

0:39:07.640 --> 0:39:10.319
<v Speaker 6>age and this is how he treated me, it would

0:39:10.320 --> 0:39:10.880
<v Speaker 6>be different.

0:39:11.239 --> 0:39:13.680
<v Speaker 5>But why but why why would it be different?

0:39:14.200 --> 0:39:17.960
<v Speaker 6>Because I think I do know that I am able

0:39:18.080 --> 0:39:20.799
<v Speaker 6>to like just be nice to him and like you know,

0:39:21.360 --> 0:39:23.440
<v Speaker 6>kind of like mask it and flirt it and I

0:39:24.040 --> 0:39:26.600
<v Speaker 6>and I'll be able to like somewhat get my way.

0:39:26.680 --> 0:39:30.160
<v Speaker 6>But that's just not the girl I am. And I thought,

0:39:30.400 --> 0:39:32.360
<v Speaker 6>I guess when I married him that i'd be able

0:39:32.440 --> 0:39:34.960
<v Speaker 6>to like kind of schooze myself a little bit. And

0:39:35.560 --> 0:39:37.360
<v Speaker 6>you know, I don't even let him sleep in my

0:39:37.400 --> 0:39:41.520
<v Speaker 6>bed like at all, and it's that's just it's a

0:39:41.560 --> 0:39:45.000
<v Speaker 6>never ending circle. So I guess now my question would

0:39:45.040 --> 0:39:48.480
<v Speaker 6>be like, Okay, you guys, thank you very much. It's

0:39:48.600 --> 0:39:51.839
<v Speaker 6>validated that like I am capable of leaving. But do

0:39:51.880 --> 0:39:55.640
<v Speaker 6>I sneak making money? Do I sneak getting out of here?

0:39:55.880 --> 0:39:59.240
<v Speaker 6>Like do I talk? Because like he doesn't take divorce

0:39:59.320 --> 0:40:02.439
<v Speaker 6>or anything very well, if that makes sense, I don't know, ChEls,

0:40:02.480 --> 0:40:03.080
<v Speaker 6>what do you think.

0:40:03.480 --> 0:40:06.200
<v Speaker 3>I think that you have to take a step every

0:40:06.239 --> 0:40:08.480
<v Speaker 3>single day to get out of that situation. I think

0:40:08.480 --> 0:40:11.200
<v Speaker 3>that you need to go out actively and get a job.

0:40:11.640 --> 0:40:14.359
<v Speaker 3>Go get a burtending job, find a place to work.

0:40:14.400 --> 0:40:18.239
<v Speaker 3>It's not a question. It's not up for debate with him,

0:40:18.320 --> 0:40:20.400
<v Speaker 3>And that's to tell him that you're going to get

0:40:20.400 --> 0:40:22.120
<v Speaker 3>a job. You have to make your own money. You

0:40:22.160 --> 0:40:24.640
<v Speaker 3>don't like being controlled with the money. You have to

0:40:24.680 --> 0:40:27.520
<v Speaker 3>prepare yourself for when he's no longer here. He's eighty

0:40:27.600 --> 0:40:30.799
<v Speaker 3>years old, you're thirty four years old. So you have

0:40:30.840 --> 0:40:33.320
<v Speaker 3>to figure out a way to get your life back

0:40:33.560 --> 0:40:37.560
<v Speaker 3>in your own hands. And regardless of his reaction, I'm

0:40:37.600 --> 0:40:39.799
<v Speaker 3>not concerned about your dogs, Like you can take care

0:40:39.840 --> 0:40:42.120
<v Speaker 3>of two dogs, of course you can. Millions of people

0:40:42.160 --> 0:40:44.960
<v Speaker 3>do it. Millions of single people have more than one animal.

0:40:45.280 --> 0:40:48.439
<v Speaker 3>You know, Like, that's not an issue. You think that's

0:40:48.480 --> 0:40:51.279
<v Speaker 3>the issue because that's the only reality you've known. You

0:40:51.320 --> 0:40:54.000
<v Speaker 3>have a chance to actually like grab life by the

0:40:54.040 --> 0:40:55.960
<v Speaker 3>balls and live your life.

0:40:55.680 --> 0:40:58.839
<v Speaker 1>Truly and holy and do what you want. So I

0:40:58.920 --> 0:41:00.520
<v Speaker 1>understand it. It's not going to have and overnight.

0:41:00.560 --> 0:41:02.520
<v Speaker 3>You're not going to walk out the door today and say, okay,

0:41:02.600 --> 0:41:04.680
<v Speaker 3>we're getting a divorce. But you can walk out the

0:41:04.680 --> 0:41:06.600
<v Speaker 3>door today and go get a job, and go fill

0:41:06.600 --> 0:41:08.640
<v Speaker 3>out an application and go to a restaurant and say

0:41:08.640 --> 0:41:11.120
<v Speaker 3>do you need a bartender? Go to a bar, find

0:41:11.160 --> 0:41:14.600
<v Speaker 3>a job and start working. And that's the first step.

0:41:14.680 --> 0:41:17.240
<v Speaker 3>And then the second step will be to start saving

0:41:17.280 --> 0:41:18.399
<v Speaker 3>money and working more.

0:41:18.440 --> 0:41:19.359
<v Speaker 1>And it's not up to him.

0:41:19.360 --> 0:41:21.640
<v Speaker 3>When you work, you'll be available for his You know,

0:41:21.680 --> 0:41:24.360
<v Speaker 3>you can make the situation amenable to him in a

0:41:24.400 --> 0:41:27.279
<v Speaker 3>way where you if he's working every day, then what

0:41:27.320 --> 0:41:28.880
<v Speaker 3>you could be doing. You could be working during the

0:41:28.960 --> 0:41:30.920
<v Speaker 3>day too. You don't have to just be a bartender.

0:41:30.960 --> 0:41:33.440
<v Speaker 3>You could go work a at Starbucks, you could go

0:41:33.480 --> 0:41:34.479
<v Speaker 3>work at a coffee shop.

0:41:34.520 --> 0:41:36.960
<v Speaker 1>What's to stop you from doing that? You know, like,

0:41:37.200 --> 0:41:38.360
<v Speaker 1>you have to go get.

0:41:38.160 --> 0:41:40.400
<v Speaker 3>A job first of all, because that is going to

0:41:40.400 --> 0:41:42.239
<v Speaker 3>provide you with the self worth that you're going to

0:41:42.320 --> 0:41:45.920
<v Speaker 3>need to have the kahunas to actually exit from this situation.

0:41:46.440 --> 0:41:48.959
<v Speaker 1>This is not a healthy situation that you're in.

0:41:49.360 --> 0:41:55.280
<v Speaker 3>It sounds very limiting emotionally, psychologically, and every other way possibly.

0:41:55.680 --> 0:41:58.319
<v Speaker 3>You know, you're a young, vibrant woman who needs to

0:41:58.360 --> 0:42:01.440
<v Speaker 3>live a life, and so every step you should be

0:42:01.520 --> 0:42:04.440
<v Speaker 3>taking should be in the direction of that life and

0:42:04.520 --> 0:42:07.439
<v Speaker 3>pursuing that life. And if he says he doesn't want

0:42:07.440 --> 0:42:09.120
<v Speaker 3>you to get a job, then then you have to

0:42:09.120 --> 0:42:11.440
<v Speaker 3>say to him, well, that's what's gonna happen. If you

0:42:11.520 --> 0:42:13.719
<v Speaker 3>want to divorce me because I want to work, then

0:42:14.320 --> 0:42:16.840
<v Speaker 3>I feel like I'm being controlled, then you're gonna have

0:42:16.880 --> 0:42:19.120
<v Speaker 3>to divorce me. And you have to mean it. You're

0:42:19.120 --> 0:42:21.759
<v Speaker 3>not gonna end up outside on the street. You're gonna

0:42:21.800 --> 0:42:23.759
<v Speaker 3>go get a job. That's what you're gonna do, whether

0:42:23.960 --> 0:42:26.319
<v Speaker 3>it's today or tomorrow. I want to hear from you

0:42:26.360 --> 0:42:27.319
<v Speaker 3>that that's what you're gonna do.

0:42:27.960 --> 0:42:30.120
<v Speaker 6>Yes, thank you, thank you.

0:42:30.120 --> 0:42:31.320
<v Speaker 1>You need to get your life.

0:42:31.400 --> 0:42:33.520
<v Speaker 3>You're not living your life right now, you're living someone

0:42:33.520 --> 0:42:36.279
<v Speaker 3>else's life, So you have to go out there every day.

0:42:36.360 --> 0:42:38.600
<v Speaker 3>I want you to write this down too, that you

0:42:38.640 --> 0:42:40.640
<v Speaker 3>are strong and that you are powerful and that you

0:42:40.640 --> 0:42:43.239
<v Speaker 3>are resilient. Write that down and put it in front

0:42:43.280 --> 0:42:45.160
<v Speaker 3>of you. And when you wake up every morning, read

0:42:45.200 --> 0:42:47.640
<v Speaker 3>that to yourself. I am strong, I am powerful, and

0:42:47.680 --> 0:42:51.279
<v Speaker 3>I am resilient, and go get that job. Start work,

0:42:51.360 --> 0:42:53.440
<v Speaker 3>and if you don't get the first five jobs you

0:42:53.480 --> 0:42:57.000
<v Speaker 3>apply for, keep going because you're strong, you're powerful.

0:42:56.600 --> 0:42:59.000
<v Speaker 1>And you're resilient, and you're going to get one of them.

0:42:59.239 --> 0:43:00.480
<v Speaker 1>And then you're gonna get that job.

0:43:00.520 --> 0:43:02.359
<v Speaker 3>You're going to start working and you're going to start

0:43:02.360 --> 0:43:04.200
<v Speaker 3>to feel the self forth that comes from making a

0:43:04.239 --> 0:43:07.560
<v Speaker 3>living and that you are an independent, free person that

0:43:07.600 --> 0:43:09.320
<v Speaker 3>you can do independent free things.

0:43:09.560 --> 0:43:10.680
<v Speaker 1>No one has.

0:43:10.520 --> 0:43:13.920
<v Speaker 3>Control over you, but you you have allowed this person

0:43:14.239 --> 0:43:17.200
<v Speaker 3>to take control over you. You made some of these decisions

0:43:17.320 --> 0:43:19.480
<v Speaker 3>that got you into this mess, and now you're going

0:43:19.520 --> 0:43:23.239
<v Speaker 3>to make the decisions that get you out of this mess. Yeah,

0:43:23.280 --> 0:43:25.359
<v Speaker 3>and it's just a matter of time before you have

0:43:25.840 --> 0:43:28.000
<v Speaker 3>you have enough money before you're going to meet people

0:43:28.040 --> 0:43:30.160
<v Speaker 3>at work. You might meet somebody that you can live with,

0:43:30.400 --> 0:43:33.399
<v Speaker 3>you might meet a roommate. These are all probable situations.

0:43:33.560 --> 0:43:36.319
<v Speaker 3>Once you start saving money, you can start looking into

0:43:35.880 --> 0:43:38.760
<v Speaker 3>who where you want to live, getting an apartment, living

0:43:38.800 --> 0:43:41.640
<v Speaker 3>with other people. It's okay to downsize, It's okay to

0:43:41.680 --> 0:43:44.319
<v Speaker 3>go through some difficult times as a transition out of

0:43:44.320 --> 0:43:46.799
<v Speaker 3>this life. What you are in search and pursuit of

0:43:46.960 --> 0:43:50.680
<v Speaker 3>is freedom. You don't have your freedom right now. So

0:43:50.880 --> 0:43:52.640
<v Speaker 3>you're going to get off of this call and you're

0:43:52.680 --> 0:43:55.040
<v Speaker 3>going to find your freedom. You're going to take one

0:43:55.120 --> 0:43:57.520
<v Speaker 3>step every single day. You were going to take one

0:43:57.560 --> 0:44:00.040
<v Speaker 3>step in the direction of getting your life back to

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<v Speaker 3>a place where you're making decisions for yourself. And then

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<v Speaker 3>you're gonna take your dogs with you when you leave.

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<v Speaker 6>Hell yeah, yeah, yes, yes, yeah, no. I needed to

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<v Speaker 6>hear that. I did.

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<v Speaker 3>So when this episode comes out, I want you to

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<v Speaker 3>play this episode and you write down all of these

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<v Speaker 3>things I'm saying to you. You need to wake up

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<v Speaker 3>every morning and talk to yourself in a way that

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<v Speaker 3>you have not been talking to yourself. You're independent and

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<v Speaker 3>you can be free. Okay you are. We're not living

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<v Speaker 3>in this I mean, we are living in a little

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<v Speaker 3>bit of a fucked up world right now. But you

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<v Speaker 3>still have your freedom, so fucking get it while you can.

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<v Speaker 3>You have a whole life to live without him. Yes, yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>and you have sex to go have. You have to

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<v Speaker 3>go have sex with people.

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<v Speaker 6>I know. I know I miss that too, trust me.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, So come on, like you know, what to do?

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<v Speaker 3>You know what the answer is here. You have to

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<v Speaker 3>listen to yourself. Yeah, you're gonna want progress.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna want progress reports from you. Okay, yeah, no, Yeah.

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<v Speaker 6>That's okay. That's that's what I was hoping for.

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<v Speaker 5>It's okay. You're gonna have some days. It's not gonna

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<v Speaker 5>be fucking sunshine. And like what Chelsea said, like you

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<v Speaker 5>might not get the first job or the second job,

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<v Speaker 5>but you have to. I think what she's saying about

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<v Speaker 5>writing those things down, it's true. When she just said it,

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<v Speaker 5>didn't you feel like I can fucking do it.

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<v Speaker 6>She may push play this fucking.

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<v Speaker 5>Podcast in your ear like on a loop and hear

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<v Speaker 5>her voice in your head because you can do anything,

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<v Speaker 5>and you're what you tell yourself is very powerful. And

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<v Speaker 5>don't throw out baby steps for like what's giant steps?

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<v Speaker 5>You know, it's like little compounding, Like little small steps

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<v Speaker 5>can make a giant one.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, And also just remember every single just because you

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<v Speaker 3>haven't exerted your powerfulness and being an empowered woman up

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<v Speaker 3>until hair. You know, maybe in moments you have been,

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<v Speaker 3>but all over like you have a reservoir of resilience

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<v Speaker 3>inside of you that you have not tapped into yet.

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<v Speaker 3>Do not doubt the power of being a woman. Don't

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<v Speaker 3>ever doubt yourself. Okay, you can doubt yourself for a

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<v Speaker 3>minute or here and there, but you always have to

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<v Speaker 3>come back to the idea that I can do this.

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<v Speaker 3>I can do this, and you're going to show yourself

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<v Speaker 3>with every step. So next week I want you to

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<v Speaker 3>send to Catherine and me a list of the places

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<v Speaker 3>you've applied, what happened, Which jobs have you gotten, any

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<v Speaker 3>job opportunities? Have you accepted a job? Let us know

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<v Speaker 3>and check in so you can be accountable to us. Okay,

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<v Speaker 3>because we'll be here for you.

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<v Speaker 6>That's amazing.

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<v Speaker 1>Thank you. Yeah, absolutely, I mean it. I mean it.

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<v Speaker 3>We're going to get you out of this situation and

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<v Speaker 3>we're going to get you out of it in a good.

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<v Speaker 1>Positive, healthy way.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, because you need to be surrounded by other things

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<v Speaker 3>other than this.

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<v Speaker 1>This is not this is not the way to go

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<v Speaker 1>through life.

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<v Speaker 4>Deserve more.

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<v Speaker 6>Thank you very much. Like I don't know if that's

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<v Speaker 6>like why that's what I needed, But I am very capable.

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<v Speaker 1>You are than you are, Yes, yes you are okay,

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<v Speaker 1>all right.

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<v Speaker 4>Cool Shannon, thank you and we'll be in touch Okay.

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<v Speaker 3>Bye, Shannon, Bye, Thank you so much.

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<v Speaker 5>Got that for sure.

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<v Speaker 6>Bye talk soon, bye bye.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, we're going to take a break and be right

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<v Speaker 3>back to wrap up with Leslie Bib.

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<v Speaker 1>And we're back with Leslie Bib. What a whoopsie doodle

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<v Speaker 1>that was fuck, oh my god.

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<v Speaker 5>You know, Chelsey, it's remarkable and I'm not blowing smoke

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<v Speaker 5>up your ass, but like it's remarkable, like the way

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<v Speaker 5>you make people and especially women feel like we can

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<v Speaker 5>do anything and that we've got this and you're this force,

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<v Speaker 5>this power, and the way you're so smart and you're

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<v Speaker 5>so funny and you're so quick, and you've got this

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<v Speaker 5>enormous heart, and like the grace you gave that young

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<v Speaker 5>woman and the great advice you gave her, and you

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<v Speaker 5>just feel like you can do anything with You're such

0:47:47.000 --> 0:47:51.920
<v Speaker 5>an amazing person to have in your corner. It's really

0:47:50.920 --> 0:47:54.400
<v Speaker 5>You're You're You're an extraordinary person. You really are.

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<v Speaker 3>Thank you right back right back at you, lay right

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<v Speaker 3>back at you, and you too, Catherine, look back at you.

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<v Speaker 4>Likewise, Yeah, let's great advice today.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah you did, you did you great? You brought it.

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<v Speaker 1>You brought it.

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<v Speaker 5>Like that's a heavy thing, Like because you tell yourself

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<v Speaker 5>you make this choice when you're a kid. I was married.

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<v Speaker 5>I married somebody, and I just thought, like I picked

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<v Speaker 5>the guy who was right on paper, he wasn't that

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<v Speaker 5>great to me. It was like all the things we

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<v Speaker 5>were we were not suited. He wanted like a giraffe,

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<v Speaker 5>you know, he wanted a zebra, and I'm a giraffe.

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<v Speaker 5>And it's like I just thought, you know, I think

0:48:31.520 --> 0:48:34.239
<v Speaker 5>women think we think we can just like compartmentalize and

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<v Speaker 5>I can beat this and I can do this, and

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<v Speaker 5>I can sort of fragment myself enough to make everybody

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<v Speaker 5>happy and instead of saying, no, this isn't what makes

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<v Speaker 5>me happy and like sort of that to go back

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<v Speaker 5>to Mike, to live your life unapologetically.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, I appreciate everything you said, and I appreciate you,

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<v Speaker 3>and I I'm so happy for your success. I'm so

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<v Speaker 3>excited for you and all of the things that are

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<v Speaker 3>to come, and I just can't wait to see you

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<v Speaker 3>again in persons, And thank you for being here on

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<v Speaker 3>Dear Chelsea.

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<v Speaker 1>You were awesome.

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<v Speaker 5>We loved thanks.

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<v Speaker 4>And you made great faces too.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, best faces, best faces on the show, Leslie bit everybody.

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<v Speaker 5>All right, guys, thank you so much. I'll see you later, Chess.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, have a great day.

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<v Speaker 3>Hi bye, Do do do Do Do do drum roll

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<v Speaker 3>Catherine please Chelsea Handler abroad. Abroad is my European tour.

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<v Speaker 3>So I'm coming to obviously find.

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<v Speaker 1>A husband abroad.

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<v Speaker 3>I need to get the help out of this fucking

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<v Speaker 3>country and it's not as easy as you think. So

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<v Speaker 3>I'm coming to Rekuvic, I'm coming to Dublin. I'm coming

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<v Speaker 3>to the UK. I'm coming to Brussels, Paris, Belfast.

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<v Speaker 1>In May and June.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm coming to Oslo, Stockholm, to Copenhagen, Manchester, London, Glasgow,

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<v Speaker 3>New Zurich, Vienna. I've ever been to Vienna, Berlin, Barcelona, Lisbon.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm coming abroad.

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<v Speaker 4>Is abroad that sounds like fun.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going to go see you abroad.

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<v Speaker 3>I right out. I want to go see me abroad

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<v Speaker 3>and there all be, there all be upcoming Vegas, States,

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<v Speaker 3>April eighteenth, July fifth, August thirtieth, November one and twenty

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<v Speaker 3>ninth at the Cosmopolitan of Las Vegas.

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