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Speaker 2: Am I the a hole for declining being a bridesmaid

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Speaker 2: This comes from Golden Bear, and they say I thirty

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Speaker 2: when one hundred percent of the time, with little to

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Speaker 1: I think like ultimately, it's kind of like, hey, if

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Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, Op Dumbley hasn't done anything wrong.

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Speaker 2: No, no, it's you know, it's it's really up to Ope.

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Speaker 1: I'm not comfortable in a dress.

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Speaker 2: But if one of my one of my best one

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Speaker 1: I would, dude, I would. I would do that. I

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Speaker 1: I did this to myself. I should know better. I

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Speaker 3: I don't think that's a fair thing to put on. Ope,

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Speaker 2: I think like the general piece of advice is you

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Speaker 1: What you want and people should respect that. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: I think that's fine. I think the other thing is,

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I do think Op did make a point on

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Speaker 1: So if not, then that's fine too. I thought that

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Speaker 2: But what do you think about OP dipping out of

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Speaker 1: This is an episode from Deep Within the Archives. Time

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Speaker 1: for okop.

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Speaker 2: Relam, John, You're in a relationship, right, Hell heck, yeah,

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Speaker 2: i am. I'm I'm kind of in something.

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Speaker 1: You're kind of in multiple relationships potentially, Yeah, I'm in.

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Speaker 1: I'm in. I'm in.

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Speaker 2: I'm in a situationship right now, a situation Yeah, it's uh,

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Speaker 2: we're trying to figure out. But anyway, the thing is,

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Speaker 2: I'm trying to learn how to be a better lover, better,

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Speaker 2: a better a better boyfriend, a better situation ship man, and.

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Speaker 1: I want to learn for the best.

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Speaker 2: Oh, definitely, and I feel like there's no better way

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Speaker 2: to learn about how a functioning relationship blossoms, oh and dies.

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Speaker 1: Paternity Court. It is. It is the epitome of relationship

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Speaker 1: advice when you think about it.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it is like, this is like this is what

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Speaker 2: you do not do, or maybe it is what you

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Speaker 2: do depending on what kind of relationship.

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Speaker 1: Maybe maybe I love and adore my partner, or maybe

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Speaker 1: I get ten mistresses.

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Speaker 2: You don't know, Ay, John, I think ten mistresses would

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Speaker 2: suit you. But we are the official judges of the

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Speaker 2: Paternity Court, and we're gonna judge this crazy freaking story.

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Speaker 2: The title is Afghanistan veteran learns his wife cheated when

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Speaker 2: he was deployed during his tour of duty. You know

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Speaker 2: that was getting a tour of her booty. Yeah, she

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Speaker 2: was doing a whole different tour. Oh yeah, dude, I

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Speaker 2: was trying to get on that tour oh close before

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Speaker 2: I could get in rats unfortunately.

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Speaker 1: Yes, but hey, I'm here, now here and now and

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Speaker 1: and you know, maybe there's maybe there's she'll help. Maybe

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Speaker 1: we'll learn the contact information of this person in particular,

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Speaker 1: we can bring on the show we get started only

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Speaker 1: and only stands and.

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Speaker 2: Only Yeah, uh, and only no judgment, only fans here

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Speaker 2: we go.

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Speaker 1: I love that there's two judges. That's right, Samuel. Are

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Speaker 1: you ready to begin the case? I am so ready.

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Speaker 1: Get me on this case. Gabble, gabble, gabble, Let the case,

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Speaker 1: Let the case begin.

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Speaker 5: You may be seated.

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Speaker 4: Hell, your honor, this is a case of thrill killed intense.

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Speaker 1: The intro is paternity court where lives. Yeah, mister, you have.

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Speaker 6: Entered this courtroom with a marriage on the brink of

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Speaker 6: throat kill.

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Speaker 5: State that while you were.

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Speaker 2: Twenty other men, his wife is a second and twenty

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Speaker 2: other men.

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Speaker 1: It's not just the one, it's twenty yi.

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Speaker 2: No, no, no, at the least this guy looks like an

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Speaker 2: Afghanistan at least twenty other men. My god, he's like,

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Speaker 2: I'm confirmed twenty. I was watching every single one of them.

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Speaker 2: I feel like that's his like like a sniper count.

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Speaker 2: It's like, you know how many how many people have

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Speaker 2: I taken.

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Speaker 1: Out in the field? Well, at least maybe those are

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Speaker 1: the that's the people that he should be sniping. Honest.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, the confirmed twenty kills Afghanistan veteran goes on a rampage.

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Speaker 1: We are starting off off, Yeah, we are.

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Speaker 6: Around town with other men, and she has admitted to curaded.

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Speaker 1: The judge already served. Looks.

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Speaker 6: You claim you are not sure if you are the

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Speaker 6: father of she built eighteen month old Liliana and have

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Speaker 6: asked the court for.

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Speaker 1: The kid on set. I don't know.

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Speaker 2: I don't know if the kid actually yeah, where Also

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Speaker 2: the kid be like zooming it, Like the baby is

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Speaker 1: What if they call the baby to the stands, baby,

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Speaker 1: where were you the night of April twenty first at

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Speaker 1: nine pm?

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Speaker 2: Do you remember yourself being conceived?

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Speaker 1: Which a man? Was it? To the father that's in

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Speaker 4: Bro?

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Speaker 1: What they have to call the baby to the stand?

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Speaker 2: Also imagine like growing up and being like, yeah, I

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Speaker 2: was on like paternity courts most viewed.

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, that's me. That's my god. The full

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Speaker 1: Sam reveals that he is actually the eternity kid that

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Speaker 4: Here.

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Speaker 1: Oh god, a blocked dad my memory. That's why this

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Speaker 6: Yeah, missus throw Hill, you say you begin exotics to

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Speaker 2: Bro, a beggar, this is a starting off a hot

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Speaker 2: yo like man goes off to war. He's trying to

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Speaker 2: provide for his family and she starts stripping. Listen, she's

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Speaker 2: he's he's provided for his family. She's providing those cheeks. Okay,

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Speaker 2: everyone is providing in as long as they're on the

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Speaker 1: And she was truthful about it, you know, which.

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Speaker 2: Of course she's gonna be right, right, of course, of course,

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00:21:30,920 --> 00:21:33,480
Speaker 2: and he's probably cool with her stripping, right, Oh yeah,

440
00:21:33,800 --> 00:21:37,680
Speaker 2: definitely love he loves it. This military man, he's like.

441
00:21:38,040 --> 00:21:40,399
Speaker 1: Only twenty go for forty girls.

442
00:21:40,480 --> 00:21:43,000
Speaker 2: Forty Hey, you bring in the big bugs.

443
00:21:43,359 --> 00:21:48,040
Speaker 6: Mister Thill's military salary was inadequate to live on, and

444
00:21:48,119 --> 00:21:52,320
Speaker 6: that led to a few indiscretions. You argue that mister

445
00:21:52,359 --> 00:21:55,640
Speaker 6: thrill Kill treats your daughter Liliana differently than your other

446
00:21:55,800 --> 00:21:58,960
Speaker 6: children and are hoping today's DNA results.

447
00:21:58,600 --> 00:22:00,480
Speaker 1: Will see because it's not his kidd want.

448
00:22:00,800 --> 00:22:05,720
Speaker 6: And answer now, mister thrill Killed, when did you first

449
00:22:05,760 --> 00:22:08,760
Speaker 6: discover that your wife had been unfaithful?

450
00:22:09,000 --> 00:22:12,000
Speaker 7: Actually, remember I was overseas in Afghanistan and I was

451
00:22:12,040 --> 00:22:15,840
Speaker 7: at up in the northeast and a soldier might trap

452
00:22:15,880 --> 00:22:19,760
Speaker 7: me on the boots that hey right now, So earlier

453
00:22:19,760 --> 00:22:21,720
Speaker 7: on in the day, me and him got into some words.

454
00:22:21,760 --> 00:22:24,480
Speaker 1: I thought we were gonna know a soldier's betrayal.

455
00:22:24,600 --> 00:22:27,199
Speaker 7: His wife and my wife were friends, and she had

456
00:22:27,240 --> 00:22:30,359
Speaker 7: found out that she was actually stripping as we spoke,

457
00:22:31,200 --> 00:22:34,080
Speaker 7: and at the time, you know I found out about it,

458
00:22:34,119 --> 00:22:35,800
Speaker 7: I thought, you know, it was all just I went

459
00:22:36,160 --> 00:22:39,400
Speaker 7: all the way to the internet lounge, got on Facebook

460
00:22:39,400 --> 00:22:41,680
Speaker 7: and asked her, Hey, you know, is is it true

461
00:22:41,920 --> 00:22:44,119
Speaker 7: you're doing what I told you I didn't want you

462
00:22:44,200 --> 00:22:46,960
Speaker 7: doing at all? And she didn't really say anything honestly,

463
00:22:47,359 --> 00:22:48,760
Speaker 7: And right after.

464
00:22:48,600 --> 00:22:51,520
Speaker 1: I left it soldier's betrayal.

465
00:22:52,119 --> 00:22:53,800
Speaker 2: I love it, Like he had such a low bar.

466
00:22:53,880 --> 00:22:58,000
Speaker 2: It's like, babe, just not stripped while I'm away fighting

467
00:22:58,040 --> 00:22:59,480
Speaker 2: for your life and your country.

468
00:22:59,600 --> 00:23:04,600
Speaker 1: Is uh, She's like, nah, I love how they keep

469
00:23:04,600 --> 00:23:08,439
Speaker 1: popping up a soldier's paternity betrayal. Man.

470
00:23:11,280 --> 00:23:13,800
Speaker 7: I was in the dark for three weeks and wait, wait,

471
00:23:13,920 --> 00:23:17,880
Speaker 7: roll it back and they actually turned off and left there.

472
00:23:17,960 --> 00:23:20,719
Speaker 7: Our base actually got attacked and they actually turned off

473
00:23:20,720 --> 00:23:21,440
Speaker 7: the internet.

474
00:23:21,119 --> 00:23:21,640
Speaker 4: For three weeks.

475
00:23:21,760 --> 00:23:23,800
Speaker 7: I was in the dark for three weeks and then

476
00:23:23,840 --> 00:23:25,080
Speaker 7: another two weeks after.

477
00:23:27,119 --> 00:23:27,919
Speaker 4: And wall was at bogging.

478
00:23:27,960 --> 00:23:31,080
Speaker 7: I finally was able to get back online and there's

479
00:23:31,119 --> 00:23:34,000
Speaker 7: this some clown on there saying, you know, you know,

480
00:23:34,080 --> 00:23:38,399
Speaker 7: liking all her skimpy photos. You know, yeah, I was

481
00:23:38,440 --> 00:23:41,080
Speaker 7: following herd He's like, oh, I know at the club.

482
00:23:41,320 --> 00:23:43,159
Speaker 7: So now I started doing a little bit of research, wondering,

483
00:23:43,440 --> 00:23:45,800
Speaker 7: you know who this guy is. So I went to

484
00:23:45,840 --> 00:23:47,919
Speaker 7: the phones and I called her and said, Hey, you know,

485
00:23:48,200 --> 00:23:50,639
Speaker 7: I know you're stripping. You know that that, you know

486
00:23:50,920 --> 00:23:51,919
Speaker 7: I could somewhat deal with.

487
00:23:52,920 --> 00:23:54,679
Speaker 1: Was in a war zone and says he has to

488
00:23:54,720 --> 00:23:59,480
Speaker 1: cope with the news. I love these updates, like breaking news,

489
00:24:00,600 --> 00:24:03,919
Speaker 1: breaking news, his base was attacked by his girl was

490
00:24:04,119 --> 00:24:05,680
Speaker 1: giving up them cheeks.

491
00:24:06,040 --> 00:24:09,800
Speaker 2: I feel so bad for this guy, bro, Oh my god.

492
00:24:09,960 --> 00:24:12,359
Speaker 2: And it's like the more he learns, oh, he's getting

493
00:24:12,440 --> 00:24:16,720
Speaker 2: his whole life just stripped away, no pun intended.

494
00:24:16,920 --> 00:24:18,640
Speaker 4: Hey, you know, I know you're stripping.

495
00:24:19,119 --> 00:24:21,439
Speaker 7: You know that that, you know I could somewhat deal with,

496
00:24:21,880 --> 00:24:23,520
Speaker 7: you know, tell me about this guy that's going on.

497
00:24:23,880 --> 00:24:25,600
Speaker 7: And she says, Oh, it's nothing, it's just a friend,

498
00:24:25,640 --> 00:24:27,959
Speaker 7: you know, et cetera. The same bs that every girl say.

499
00:24:28,080 --> 00:24:30,240
Speaker 8: He's done. He hacked my Facebook.

500
00:24:30,560 --> 00:24:35,040
Speaker 9: He made it my privacy and he looked into my stuff,

501
00:24:35,160 --> 00:24:36,199
Speaker 9: into my messages.

502
00:24:37,040 --> 00:24:38,600
Speaker 8: So that's how we found out.

503
00:24:39,040 --> 00:24:40,800
Speaker 5: What did he find there?

504
00:24:40,800 --> 00:24:41,680
Speaker 8: More messages?

505
00:24:41,880 --> 00:24:45,000
Speaker 7: Yes, but actually, ma'am, she's gonna already lie she Actually

506
00:24:45,000 --> 00:24:47,399
Speaker 7: I got on there and on the inbox, I see

507
00:24:48,040 --> 00:24:50,480
Speaker 7: I see, Oh baby, I can't wait to see you

508
00:24:50,520 --> 00:24:52,119
Speaker 7: later on the night. I had a great time with you.

509
00:24:52,160 --> 00:24:53,359
Speaker 7: I can't wait to see you. Know the last few

510
00:24:53,440 --> 00:24:55,120
Speaker 7: days we spent together, it's been amazing.

511
00:24:55,240 --> 00:24:56,320
Speaker 5: These are the messages.

512
00:24:56,480 --> 00:25:00,440
Speaker 6: Yes, ma'am, see that your wife is entertaining while you're

513
00:25:00,520 --> 00:25:01,359
Speaker 6: serving your country.

514
00:25:01,440 --> 00:25:06,000
Speaker 1: Yes, ma'am, bro the judge is not having us.

515
00:25:06,000 --> 00:25:09,280
Speaker 2: She's stoke. I love the people cackle like in the background.

516
00:25:10,680 --> 00:25:13,400
Speaker 2: I wish this is to make real courts like this. Yeah,

517
00:25:13,480 --> 00:25:15,960
Speaker 2: they should do that. I want I want tomatoes too.

518
00:25:16,000 --> 00:25:18,480
Speaker 2: I want to like throw tomatoes as the person who's lying,

519
00:25:18,520 --> 00:25:20,080
Speaker 2: you know, bring in the dancing lobsters.

520
00:25:20,359 --> 00:25:22,320
Speaker 1: Yeah, you can tell me.

521
00:25:22,480 --> 00:25:26,080
Speaker 7: Your friend's husband told me that she is doing she's

522
00:25:26,080 --> 00:25:28,080
Speaker 7: doing because she didn't have the decency to say, hey,

523
00:25:28,280 --> 00:25:30,440
Speaker 7: I'm doing all misthrow killed.

524
00:25:30,520 --> 00:25:32,240
Speaker 4: I'm what.

525
00:25:33,000 --> 00:25:38,000
Speaker 6: Your husband's overseas, serving his country, serving our country, keeping

526
00:25:38,080 --> 00:25:44,919
Speaker 6: us all safe. To entertain these type of messages on

527
00:25:44,960 --> 00:25:49,960
Speaker 6: your Facebook. And you've admitted that you had a few indiscretions.

528
00:25:50,080 --> 00:25:51,399
Speaker 3: What is going on?

529
00:25:53,000 --> 00:25:55,720
Speaker 8: We were done, we were not together.

530
00:25:55,960 --> 00:25:59,320
Speaker 9: We had a phone conversation and he had said we're

531
00:25:59,320 --> 00:26:01,520
Speaker 9: going to get into and I'll send you the divorce

532
00:26:01,560 --> 00:26:06,000
Speaker 9: papers and then we hung up and let me finish.

533
00:26:06,040 --> 00:26:06,679
Speaker 4: I was penty.

534
00:26:06,760 --> 00:26:08,840
Speaker 7: We got a phone argument, like you said on Skype,

535
00:26:08,960 --> 00:26:11,400
Speaker 7: and I told her, look, if you're gonna strip after

536
00:26:11,520 --> 00:26:13,520
Speaker 7: me and you, I've already gone through the discussion that

537
00:26:13,600 --> 00:26:14,960
Speaker 7: you're not to do it until I get back, and

538
00:26:14,960 --> 00:26:16,439
Speaker 7: we might even we'll talk about it.

539
00:26:16,480 --> 00:26:17,960
Speaker 4: Then she says.

540
00:26:18,000 --> 00:26:19,760
Speaker 8: There was reasons why I needed to.

541
00:26:20,080 --> 00:26:20,280
Speaker 4: Yeah.

542
00:26:20,359 --> 00:26:22,880
Speaker 7: See, she says she needs she needed fun and say

543
00:26:22,920 --> 00:26:27,720
Speaker 7: that our family overs three a month living in.

544
00:26:29,520 --> 00:26:30,640
Speaker 1: That much room.

545
00:26:31,080 --> 00:26:31,800
Speaker 8: Okay, you're on.

546
00:26:32,600 --> 00:26:37,119
Speaker 1: Bro, where are you renting? Wait, he's about four hundred

547
00:26:37,119 --> 00:26:39,320
Speaker 1: dollars a month. Four hundred dollars a month. I mean

548
00:26:39,359 --> 00:26:41,520
Speaker 1: like probably like in the South or something, you probably

549
00:26:41,560 --> 00:26:43,520
Speaker 1: get pretty cheap. And this is maybe like a few

550
00:26:43,600 --> 00:26:44,040
Speaker 1: years ago.

551
00:26:44,080 --> 00:26:47,879
Speaker 2: But yeah, yeah, I said Santa Monica, run dude, like

552
00:26:48,000 --> 00:26:49,760
Speaker 2: he's like more than providing what how much did he

553
00:26:49,800 --> 00:26:50,200
Speaker 2: get a month?

554
00:26:50,520 --> 00:26:53,560
Speaker 1: Four to five k hacks free? So all four to

555
00:26:53,640 --> 00:26:58,600
Speaker 1: five k of that is basically usable. It sounds like, yeah,

556
00:26:58,640 --> 00:27:01,320
Speaker 1: and her rent is four high hundred, so that means

557
00:27:01,359 --> 00:27:05,399
Speaker 1: like she would literally have to spend four hundred minus

558
00:27:05,440 --> 00:27:10,960
Speaker 1: four to five thousand dollars the thirty six hundred bucks

559
00:27:10,960 --> 00:27:14,120
Speaker 1: sood thirty six to forty six hundred, So she had

560
00:27:14,119 --> 00:27:18,960
Speaker 1: to she had to spend thirty six to forty six

561
00:27:19,200 --> 00:27:21,240
Speaker 1: not not just spend that much.

562
00:27:21,400 --> 00:27:26,000
Speaker 2: Hey, but good on her for not asking for more money,

563
00:27:26,040 --> 00:27:29,040
Speaker 2: doing and getting that old entrepreneurial spirit out there.

564
00:27:29,640 --> 00:27:33,320
Speaker 1: Yeah, a real boss babe goes and gets her own money. Hey,

565
00:27:33,480 --> 00:27:35,439
Speaker 1: let's go with that. She shut up.

566
00:27:36,200 --> 00:27:38,400
Speaker 8: There are expenses when you have kids.

567
00:27:39,080 --> 00:27:41,520
Speaker 9: The money that was coming in, Let's just be real,

568
00:27:41,560 --> 00:27:43,760
Speaker 9: it wasn't enough to support the kids.

569
00:27:44,440 --> 00:27:47,840
Speaker 8: And on top of that enough to support the kids.

570
00:27:47,880 --> 00:27:50,480
Speaker 5: How because I'm going to keep it grand a month

571
00:27:50,640 --> 00:27:51,359
Speaker 5: I had to have.

572
00:27:52,240 --> 00:27:56,040
Speaker 6: Namely, this is what I'm trying to understand, mister Keil.

573
00:27:56,160 --> 00:27:57,080
Speaker 10: You say you.

574
00:27:57,000 --> 00:27:59,879
Speaker 6: Guys were done so in other words, these things that

575
00:28:00,080 --> 00:28:04,560
Speaker 6: he's fine on your Facebook indiscretions you're telling him about

576
00:28:05,680 --> 00:28:08,200
Speaker 6: this really shouldn't be an issue because in your mind,

577
00:28:08,680 --> 00:28:13,040
Speaker 6: you guys you thought your marriage was old. Yes, because

578
00:28:13,080 --> 00:28:16,240
Speaker 6: you all had an argument about you stripping and you

579
00:28:16,359 --> 00:28:16,960
Speaker 6: hold up.

580
00:28:17,359 --> 00:28:18,240
Speaker 8: Yes, your honor.

581
00:28:19,320 --> 00:28:22,919
Speaker 9: We hung up and we said it was done because

582
00:28:22,960 --> 00:28:24,720
Speaker 9: I wanted to do what I want to do.

583
00:28:24,760 --> 00:28:27,560
Speaker 8: We okay, now we're getting.

584
00:28:27,320 --> 00:28:27,919
Speaker 5: To the truth.

585
00:28:27,960 --> 00:28:28,480
Speaker 8: Okay.

586
00:28:29,440 --> 00:28:34,720
Speaker 2: Also I love like she's wearing the Jesus Cross.

587
00:28:34,760 --> 00:28:36,280
Speaker 5: You wanted to do what you wanted to do.

588
00:28:36,480 --> 00:28:39,120
Speaker 9: Actually, why is it that you wanted because we got

589
00:28:39,160 --> 00:28:40,080
Speaker 9: married too young?

590
00:28:40,680 --> 00:28:43,280
Speaker 8: Well I needed to because well.

591
00:28:43,160 --> 00:28:43,880
Speaker 1: You just let me.

592
00:28:48,720 --> 00:28:54,040
Speaker 2: Yes grow. God, he prepared that one.

593
00:28:54,800 --> 00:28:57,200
Speaker 1: He probably has like a list of like five singers

594
00:28:57,200 --> 00:28:59,840
Speaker 1: that he's like, all right, if this moment comes, drop

595
00:29:00,040 --> 00:29:02,360
Speaker 1: crowd like stand up in applod Oh my god, I

596
00:29:02,400 --> 00:29:02,920
Speaker 1: want to hear that.

597
00:29:04,520 --> 00:29:07,560
Speaker 6: It definitely reacting is because I really want to know.

598
00:29:07,640 --> 00:29:08,640
Speaker 8: Always comment why.

599
00:29:08,840 --> 00:29:13,160
Speaker 6: I mean, I want to go get it next to

600
00:29:13,240 --> 00:29:17,640
Speaker 6: job at the moment, Okay, I want together.

601
00:29:17,760 --> 00:29:19,880
Speaker 7: Since two thousand and eight, she hasn't started working until

602
00:29:19,880 --> 00:29:24,200
Speaker 7: actually about three weeks ago. Actually first time Joe hooking

603
00:29:24,320 --> 00:29:25,400
Speaker 7: or stripping hooking.

604
00:29:25,520 --> 00:29:27,920
Speaker 5: You're selling your body for money hook her? No, it's

605
00:29:28,160 --> 00:29:29,400
Speaker 5: anyway excuse.

606
00:29:29,120 --> 00:29:33,040
Speaker 1: Me, wow yo anyway, whoa whoa?

607
00:29:33,320 --> 00:29:34,960
Speaker 7: When I when actually went out the day I was

608
00:29:34,960 --> 00:29:37,280
Speaker 7: supposed to come back home from overseas, we were told

609
00:29:37,320 --> 00:29:39,680
Speaker 7: before we even got on the plane, a former col Wisconsin,

610
00:29:39,720 --> 00:29:41,840
Speaker 7: that there's going to be the color guard, the motorcycles

611
00:29:41,880 --> 00:29:42,880
Speaker 7: that drive, you know, in front.

612
00:29:43,080 --> 00:29:44,240
Speaker 4: The news was going to be there.

613
00:29:44,560 --> 00:29:47,320
Speaker 7: I get there and not my father, my mother, my wife.

614
00:29:47,720 --> 00:29:49,960
Speaker 7: Like I said, we'll quote that weren't even there. We

615
00:29:50,040 --> 00:29:52,640
Speaker 7: get there, you know, they call everyody's names off every

616
00:29:53,000 --> 00:29:55,080
Speaker 7: from clapping and cheering, they come to my name and it's.

617
00:29:54,960 --> 00:29:55,640
Speaker 4: Just dead quiet.

618
00:29:55,720 --> 00:29:58,360
Speaker 5: No one was there, so as every zer to go home.

619
00:29:58,360 --> 00:30:01,080
Speaker 7: I'm sitting over there with my bags, and I didn't

620
00:30:01,160 --> 00:30:02,720
Speaker 7: have a phone yet, so I couldn't even call her.

621
00:30:03,000 --> 00:30:04,480
Speaker 4: So I'm sitting there.

622
00:30:04,400 --> 00:30:07,080
Speaker 5: Under start breaking with my one my army.

623
00:30:06,880 --> 00:30:08,800
Speaker 7: Bag of mines one one side in a suitcase on

624
00:30:08,800 --> 00:30:09,080
Speaker 7: the other.

625
00:30:09,200 --> 00:30:11,760
Speaker 8: No, I was waiting in the car for thirty minutes.

626
00:30:13,520 --> 00:30:14,920
Speaker 5: Wait, you waited in the car.

627
00:30:15,040 --> 00:30:17,240
Speaker 6: So when they call his name, he says, no one

628
00:30:17,320 --> 00:30:19,480
Speaker 6: was there to clap or chair. Did you hear them

629
00:30:19,520 --> 00:30:20,160
Speaker 6: call his name?

630
00:30:20,280 --> 00:30:21,360
Speaker 8: We weren't at the airport.

631
00:30:21,400 --> 00:30:21,720
Speaker 2: We were.

632
00:30:21,760 --> 00:30:24,160
Speaker 9: I was waiting across from his unit where he told

633
00:30:24,200 --> 00:30:28,120
Speaker 9: me to wait, and I sat there for thirty minutes waiting.

634
00:30:28,240 --> 00:30:30,680
Speaker 7: Actually, ma'am, two weeks before we came back from overseas,

635
00:30:30,680 --> 00:30:33,240
Speaker 7: my unit actually sent papers to all the family members

636
00:30:33,280 --> 00:30:36,320
Speaker 7: back home given the exact address and time and who

637
00:30:36,360 --> 00:30:37,360
Speaker 7: would be there at the time.

638
00:30:37,640 --> 00:30:39,320
Speaker 5: So it's not like somebody didn't know.

639
00:30:40,400 --> 00:30:41,840
Speaker 1: She didn't know where it was that when it was

640
00:30:41,840 --> 00:30:44,000
Speaker 1: being also receipts Important five.

641
00:30:43,920 --> 00:30:46,200
Speaker 4: Channel eight, Channel seven, Channel fourteen and eleven.

642
00:30:46,280 --> 00:30:48,520
Speaker 6: Did she eventually pick you up?

643
00:30:48,920 --> 00:30:49,960
Speaker 4: Actually, you know when she.

644
00:30:49,880 --> 00:30:53,040
Speaker 7: Picked uide, she came dressed in her clear hooker shoes.

645
00:30:52,840 --> 00:30:55,920
Speaker 6: And this hooker shoes that's one whole outfit.

646
00:30:56,160 --> 00:30:58,040
Speaker 4: That's I think that's address is what they call it.

647
00:30:58,080 --> 00:30:58,440
Speaker 1: I don't know.

648
00:30:59,520 --> 00:31:02,560
Speaker 7: She's clear shoes with money still in them.

649
00:31:04,960 --> 00:31:08,200
Speaker 2: Oh, clear shoes with money in this strip or and

650
00:31:08,240 --> 00:31:12,840
Speaker 2: then this dress that is oh and at this formal

651
00:31:12,920 --> 00:31:15,240
Speaker 2: military celebration.

652
00:31:14,760 --> 00:31:16,560
Speaker 1: And let me get on my you know, like court

653
00:31:16,640 --> 00:31:21,120
Speaker 1: legal Timeline Jazz. She said she was sitting there for

654
00:31:21,120 --> 00:31:23,640
Speaker 1: thirty minutes, So that means she was sitting there and

655
00:31:23,680 --> 00:31:26,120
Speaker 1: she could like she could have just thrown like a

656
00:31:26,200 --> 00:31:28,800
Speaker 1: like a T shirt or something like some like leggings

657
00:31:28,880 --> 00:31:30,520
Speaker 1: or I don't know something and then just put on

658
00:31:30,560 --> 00:31:34,320
Speaker 1: like like flats or something. But according to her, she's

659
00:31:34,320 --> 00:31:37,240
Speaker 1: sitting there. I guess if he's right and she's right,

660
00:31:37,400 --> 00:31:41,120
Speaker 1: she's sitting there for thirty minutes in that and clear

661
00:31:41,160 --> 00:31:43,440
Speaker 1: shoes filled with money with singles.

662
00:31:43,720 --> 00:31:46,160
Speaker 2: You could have just taken out the singles. Dude, dude,

663
00:31:46,240 --> 00:31:50,640
Speaker 2: I like her style. Like one thing this woman's got.

664
00:31:51,240 --> 00:31:56,200
Speaker 2: She don't care oh about anything, bro honestly like buck

665
00:31:56,280 --> 00:31:57,560
Speaker 2: the system.

666
00:31:57,680 --> 00:31:59,680
Speaker 1: I do what I want. I am who I am,

667
00:31:59,720 --> 00:32:01,840
Speaker 1: and I'm I'm not going to change it. Listen, let

668
00:32:01,880 --> 00:32:04,840
Speaker 1: your freak flag fly girl or yeah that's official.

669
00:32:04,960 --> 00:32:07,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, at least the divorce is coming soon, and see

670
00:32:07,520 --> 00:32:10,200
Speaker 2: we'll have any attachments the kids.

671
00:32:11,440 --> 00:32:14,640
Speaker 6: So you come home, mister threll l Wait, wait, your

672
00:32:14,640 --> 00:32:18,480
Speaker 6: wife and your family aren't there. But she eventually does

673
00:32:18,600 --> 00:32:21,800
Speaker 6: pick you up. So you were there and some point

674
00:32:22,000 --> 00:32:26,640
Speaker 6: to get him. Yes, Ron, So you're riding down the highway.

675
00:32:26,720 --> 00:32:29,240
Speaker 7: Yeah, she has her phone, and you know, I was

676
00:32:29,280 --> 00:32:31,240
Speaker 7: wondering who because I saw the guy. She hadn't fully

677
00:32:31,280 --> 00:32:33,640
Speaker 7: admitted that she's been seeing this guy. So I snatched

678
00:32:33,680 --> 00:32:35,240
Speaker 7: the phone from her and I started going through it,

679
00:32:35,720 --> 00:32:36,920
Speaker 7: and as I was looking through it, there was a

680
00:32:36,960 --> 00:32:39,400
Speaker 7: numb that she'd called like thirteen times. So I called

681
00:32:39,440 --> 00:32:42,880
Speaker 7: him right back the phone. Hey, you know, I said,

682
00:32:42,880 --> 00:32:45,120
Speaker 7: who is this you the one that's been my wife?

683
00:32:45,160 --> 00:32:49,800
Speaker 7: He said, yes, yes, I've been. She starts laughing, he

684
00:32:49,880 --> 00:32:51,280
Speaker 7: was just going to say that. He's just saying that

685
00:32:51,520 --> 00:32:53,480
Speaker 7: to make you mad, and it was ridiculous.

686
00:32:53,560 --> 00:32:55,240
Speaker 4: Yeah, you know, that was just the only.

687
00:32:55,120 --> 00:32:56,920
Speaker 6: So when he calls the guy on the phone, you

688
00:32:57,000 --> 00:32:59,560
Speaker 6: deny and say okay.

689
00:33:00,440 --> 00:33:01,360
Speaker 4: So we get back to.

690
00:33:01,360 --> 00:33:03,920
Speaker 7: The house and you're on her like throughout the night.

691
00:33:04,120 --> 00:33:05,680
Speaker 7: I guess she had She had not gone over there

692
00:33:05,720 --> 00:33:09,080
Speaker 7: for three or four days or so. And he texts

693
00:33:09,080 --> 00:33:11,239
Speaker 7: her and says, you know, I guess I figured now

694
00:33:11,280 --> 00:33:13,400
Speaker 7: who you picked. And so she starts crying and I said.

695
00:33:13,200 --> 00:33:13,680
Speaker 1: What are you crying?

696
00:33:14,400 --> 00:33:17,280
Speaker 8: She's like, She's like, why do you care?

697
00:33:17,440 --> 00:33:18,880
Speaker 5: Why would you have a boyfriend if you're married?

698
00:33:19,160 --> 00:33:19,480
Speaker 1: Paper?

699
00:33:20,240 --> 00:33:21,120
Speaker 8: We were done?

700
00:33:21,640 --> 00:33:22,520
Speaker 1: You have papers.

701
00:33:22,920 --> 00:33:24,480
Speaker 8: Why do we have to have papers to be done?

702
00:33:24,600 --> 00:33:29,720
Speaker 6: You said it was because in a marriage we were.

703
00:33:31,520 --> 00:33:34,440
Speaker 1: Just okay, wait, real talk. If you asked for a divorce,

704
00:33:35,720 --> 00:33:38,760
Speaker 1: married till you get one, and I don't know.

705
00:33:38,840 --> 00:33:41,840
Speaker 2: I think if you asked for a divorce like you're

706
00:33:41,920 --> 00:33:44,280
Speaker 2: kind I think I think you're yeah, I I I

707
00:33:44,520 --> 00:33:49,000
Speaker 2: where everyone's pilot on her by my my, my my.

708
00:33:49,160 --> 00:33:52,360
Speaker 2: Judge head says, if you ask for a divorce, I

709
00:33:52,360 --> 00:33:57,240
Speaker 2: think you don't have the same level of commitment anymore.

710
00:33:57,520 --> 00:34:00,520
Speaker 1: Uh yeah, I I I think that's the only thing

711
00:34:00,600 --> 00:34:03,600
Speaker 1: she said that's right so far. Is like, okay, if

712
00:34:03,920 --> 00:34:09,279
Speaker 1: you are if you are saying are you if you're

713
00:34:09,320 --> 00:34:13,400
Speaker 1: saying like, hey, we're done, then then you are done.

714
00:34:13,520 --> 00:34:17,480
Speaker 1: I mean if that's been like verbally communicated, you know, I.

715
00:34:17,719 --> 00:34:19,440
Speaker 2: Don't know, but it doesn't Also like why was she

716
00:34:19,560 --> 00:34:21,839
Speaker 2: if they were done? Why is she like showing up

717
00:34:21,880 --> 00:34:23,920
Speaker 2: to his graduation?

718
00:34:24,040 --> 00:34:27,320
Speaker 1: That's a great point. And also it's just generally I

719
00:34:27,360 --> 00:34:31,120
Speaker 1: don't know, Like, well, already she was she was cheating

720
00:34:31,120 --> 00:34:34,200
Speaker 1: and stuff before because she had to have because the

721
00:34:34,239 --> 00:34:37,040
Speaker 1: guy said like, oh yeah, we were messing around. We're

722
00:34:37,040 --> 00:34:38,040
Speaker 1: now hikes, yikes.

723
00:34:38,360 --> 00:34:42,680
Speaker 6: In your mind this was a mutual decision that you

724
00:34:42,760 --> 00:34:47,439
Speaker 6: two were finished and we're heading for a divorce. Yes,

725
00:34:48,600 --> 00:34:55,200
Speaker 6: until you get home and somehow being husband and wife again,

726
00:34:55,280 --> 00:34:55,880
Speaker 6: don't you.

727
00:34:55,960 --> 00:35:00,000
Speaker 7: Yes, actually had like makeup sex like within minutes.

728
00:35:00,960 --> 00:35:01,319
Speaker 8: All right.

729
00:35:02,000 --> 00:35:03,439
Speaker 1: I love how Bashal is like.

730
00:35:04,520 --> 00:35:08,920
Speaker 10: Vince that led to the conception, actually, ma'amo.

731
00:35:09,239 --> 00:35:11,880
Speaker 6: Your last child in which you feel you may or

732
00:35:11,960 --> 00:35:12,880
Speaker 6: may not be the father.

733
00:35:12,960 --> 00:35:17,760
Speaker 7: Well, when I was overseas, I shout out about her stripping.

734
00:35:17,440 --> 00:35:20,560
Speaker 1: In baby Baby's over here, striking a pose.

735
00:35:20,840 --> 00:35:24,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, but also the makeup sex that could have led

736
00:35:24,200 --> 00:35:25,840
Speaker 2: to the kid, oh one hundred.

737
00:35:26,239 --> 00:35:29,239
Speaker 1: So it's it's possible. Even though she's like in the

738
00:35:29,239 --> 00:35:32,440
Speaker 1: wrong and like every possible way, it is still a

739
00:35:32,440 --> 00:35:34,680
Speaker 1: possibility at this point that the child is his.

740
00:35:34,920 --> 00:35:37,439
Speaker 2: So that's probably why she went to paternity court. He's

741
00:35:37,480 --> 00:35:40,239
Speaker 2: so sure that it's one of the other not his kid.

742
00:35:40,440 --> 00:35:44,160
Speaker 2: She's like, it could be here, your kid. Yeah, all right,

743
00:35:44,200 --> 00:35:46,799
Speaker 2: all right, I get why everyone's here, now, I get

744
00:35:46,800 --> 00:35:48,320
Speaker 2: why we've gathered you all today.

745
00:35:49,120 --> 00:35:51,760
Speaker 7: There's a few options that came across my head of

746
00:35:51,920 --> 00:35:53,279
Speaker 7: how I should do with it.

747
00:35:53,600 --> 00:35:54,880
Speaker 4: So when I got.

748
00:35:54,719 --> 00:35:57,680
Speaker 7: Back home, within those first week or two, we had

749
00:35:57,760 --> 00:36:00,640
Speaker 7: sex like four or five times a day and purposely.

750
00:36:01,600 --> 00:36:04,359
Speaker 6: So you had it in your mind that if I

751
00:36:04,440 --> 00:36:08,439
Speaker 6: get my wife pregnant, she'll stop stripping Roger, because that's

752
00:36:08,440 --> 00:36:09,760
Speaker 6: gonna definitely.

753
00:36:09,360 --> 00:36:14,840
Speaker 1: Be I'm sorry, that is the terrible logic. Awful.

754
00:36:15,719 --> 00:36:18,480
Speaker 5: Also, you're in the paternity court to prove you're not

755
00:36:18,600 --> 00:36:19,040
Speaker 5: the father.

756
00:36:19,719 --> 00:36:21,759
Speaker 1: Yeah, this kind of goest to your case. Dog.

757
00:36:22,480 --> 00:36:26,040
Speaker 2: Also, like they're both kind of shit, Like that's a

758
00:36:26,080 --> 00:36:28,400
Speaker 2: pretty shitty thing to do day.

759
00:36:28,600 --> 00:36:30,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, And also.

760
00:36:29,920 --> 00:36:34,520
Speaker 2: There's plenty of pregnant strippers out there actually and just

761
00:36:34,520 --> 00:36:37,200
Speaker 2: just a case for some lot of like mean, oh,

762
00:36:37,320 --> 00:36:40,520
Speaker 2: I know what, we'll save our relationship adding a child

763
00:36:40,600 --> 00:36:43,640
Speaker 2: to this equation. Yeah, it only complicates it and makes

764
00:36:43,640 --> 00:36:51,080
Speaker 2: it worse, as you are seeing in paternity court, like

765
00:36:51,080 --> 00:36:54,759
Speaker 2: like freaking uh relationship one oh one, don't let like

766
00:36:54,800 --> 00:36:56,799
Speaker 2: your relationship is probably not going well.

767
00:36:56,800 --> 00:37:00,000
Speaker 1: If you've landed in paternity court. Facts hit that place.

768
00:37:00,160 --> 00:37:01,719
Speaker 7: But kind of like how she just said I'm gonna

769
00:37:01,719 --> 00:37:02,760
Speaker 7: strip and I'm gonna do whatever.

770
00:37:02,560 --> 00:37:05,200
Speaker 4: I want because I said, oh, really, okay, I'll give

771
00:37:05,200 --> 00:37:06,239
Speaker 4: you no on me.

772
00:37:06,400 --> 00:37:17,040
Speaker 11: I mean so yes, my god, regardless idiot idiot, Oh yeah, regardless.

773
00:37:16,520 --> 00:37:20,239
Speaker 6: Conversation that you're done. While you were overseas, you come

774
00:37:20,280 --> 00:37:22,520
Speaker 6: back and you have in your mind maybe if I

775
00:37:22,520 --> 00:37:24,799
Speaker 6: could get her to stop stripping, we could maybe make

776
00:37:24,840 --> 00:37:28,480
Speaker 6: it work. I get her pregnant, she can stay off

777
00:37:28,480 --> 00:37:30,439
Speaker 6: the pole and stay in the house.

778
00:37:31,560 --> 00:37:34,040
Speaker 1: In your judge, major shape.

779
00:37:33,920 --> 00:37:37,360
Speaker 8: Other expenses of having a child. The bottom line of

780
00:37:37,360 --> 00:37:38,359
Speaker 8: your owner is, I.

781
00:37:38,280 --> 00:37:39,279
Speaker 1: Have all this kid.

782
00:37:39,960 --> 00:37:42,680
Speaker 9: There are things you need to do, regardless, And I

783
00:37:42,719 --> 00:37:44,839
Speaker 9: knew he wasn't gonna get a job when he came back.

784
00:37:44,960 --> 00:37:48,000
Speaker 7: You asked why we're here for a praternity court. Within

785
00:37:48,040 --> 00:37:50,759
Speaker 7: three weeks of us being home, she was pregnant. So

786
00:37:50,840 --> 00:37:52,840
Speaker 7: I mean, I don't know if it was my devious,

787
00:37:52,960 --> 00:37:56,520
Speaker 7: messed up head that got you know, got her pregnant,

788
00:37:56,640 --> 00:38:00,239
Speaker 7: or the dude. So that's that's the reason one hundred wow.

789
00:38:01,320 --> 00:38:04,359
Speaker 6: Because the truth is, even though you had that plan

790
00:38:04,440 --> 00:38:07,320
Speaker 6: in your mind that if I get her pregnant, that

791
00:38:07,400 --> 00:38:09,840
Speaker 6: will be a professional hindrance, but he's.

792
00:38:09,719 --> 00:38:12,360
Speaker 9: Saying about all the other costs that come along with

793
00:38:12,400 --> 00:38:15,000
Speaker 9: that and responsibility, hence why we have three kids.

794
00:38:15,040 --> 00:38:18,719
Speaker 6: You were also sleeping with another man during that same

795
00:38:18,800 --> 00:38:22,360
Speaker 6: time period, so you didn't.

796
00:38:22,120 --> 00:38:24,760
Speaker 8: Know as well. Yes, who could be the father?

797
00:38:25,360 --> 00:38:26,400
Speaker 5: Now, mister throhole?

798
00:38:26,520 --> 00:38:32,200
Speaker 2: You is she just going raw with all these these guys.

799
00:38:33,440 --> 00:38:37,920
Speaker 1: I mean, I suspect the fact that it hasn't been

800
00:38:38,000 --> 00:38:43,640
Speaker 1: mentioned means yeah, yikes, bro, twenty other guys.

801
00:38:44,560 --> 00:38:48,680
Speaker 2: At least at least at least we need.

802
00:38:48,560 --> 00:38:51,120
Speaker 1: To find the inverse. I want to see the inverse

803
00:38:51,120 --> 00:38:54,560
Speaker 1: of the scenario where it's like a woman. Let's see,

804
00:38:54,560 --> 00:38:56,799
Speaker 1: what would the woman be? The woman is uh, oh,

805
00:38:56,880 --> 00:38:59,799
Speaker 1: she's like saving endangered puppies or something, and then the

806
00:39:00,120 --> 00:39:02,720
Speaker 1: I is like going around and sleeping with like forty

807
00:39:02,760 --> 00:39:06,279
Speaker 1: women at a time, bron edutating it all. Yeah, would

808
00:39:06,280 --> 00:39:09,000
Speaker 1: be crucified, just like this woman is.

809
00:39:08,920 --> 00:39:12,120
Speaker 6: Big your wife to take a lie detector test at

810
00:39:12,160 --> 00:39:13,320
Speaker 6: some point, am I correct?

811
00:39:13,400 --> 00:39:13,839
Speaker 4: Yes? Man?

812
00:39:14,000 --> 00:39:16,240
Speaker 7: Before she came back, I said, look, you know obviously

813
00:39:17,719 --> 00:39:18,239
Speaker 7: is a good one.

814
00:39:18,320 --> 00:39:19,200
Speaker 4: Yeah, either it's.

815
00:39:19,120 --> 00:39:22,600
Speaker 5: A three some well deployed my insecurities.

816
00:39:22,600 --> 00:39:24,040
Speaker 7: I would like you to take a lot of detective test.

817
00:39:24,239 --> 00:39:25,920
Speaker 7: And she kept saying, oh, yeah, that's fine, I'll do it.

818
00:39:25,960 --> 00:39:26,640
Speaker 4: You know the big deal.

819
00:39:27,600 --> 00:39:30,680
Speaker 7: When it comes closer to to actually doing it, she starts,

820
00:39:30,680 --> 00:39:33,680
Speaker 7: you know, getting nervous because you lie in her boice,

821
00:39:33,680 --> 00:39:34,279
Speaker 7: she was getting nervous.

822
00:39:34,320 --> 00:39:37,760
Speaker 8: We just need communication, She.

823
00:39:37,719 --> 00:39:39,200
Speaker 5: Tells me straight out what happened.

824
00:39:39,400 --> 00:39:40,359
Speaker 4: She tells me straight out.

825
00:39:41,040 --> 00:39:44,280
Speaker 1: We should we should tell that to like like enemies

826
00:39:44,320 --> 00:39:45,680
Speaker 1: of the state that we're interrogating.

827
00:39:45,680 --> 00:39:50,839
Speaker 2: It's like, yeah, weation just like have a nice cup

828
00:39:50,840 --> 00:39:53,359
Speaker 2: of tea and just like talk it over. Yeah, yeah,

829
00:39:53,440 --> 00:39:54,560
Speaker 2: that's the best way to do it.

830
00:39:54,600 --> 00:39:56,240
Speaker 1: No paternity court. Every time.

831
00:39:56,640 --> 00:39:59,640
Speaker 7: About the people that she actually cheated on me with

832
00:39:59,800 --> 00:40:01,800
Speaker 7: right after our first daughter, she she cheated on me

833
00:40:01,840 --> 00:40:03,360
Speaker 7: with a guy when she was going to a cosmetology

834
00:40:03,400 --> 00:40:05,440
Speaker 7: school on her way to cosmetology school. She goes to

835
00:40:05,480 --> 00:40:07,960
Speaker 7: his house and a little bit before that he was

836
00:40:07,960 --> 00:40:10,040
Speaker 7: taking pictures of both of us, and when she went

837
00:40:10,040 --> 00:40:12,160
Speaker 7: there to go check the photos, she got a tour

838
00:40:12,200 --> 00:40:14,319
Speaker 7: of the house and loo and behold, the tour ended

839
00:40:14,320 --> 00:40:15,600
Speaker 7: at the room.

840
00:40:15,640 --> 00:40:20,439
Speaker 6: So the photographer, what else did you find out?

841
00:40:20,600 --> 00:40:22,360
Speaker 7: There was a friend of mine that we've been friends

842
00:40:22,400 --> 00:40:24,279
Speaker 7: with for a couple of years, and when I went

843
00:40:24,320 --> 00:40:27,360
Speaker 7: to a t I think it's either either anual training

844
00:40:27,440 --> 00:40:29,879
Speaker 7: or drill. She was watching TV next to this one

845
00:40:29,880 --> 00:40:31,880
Speaker 7: guy and she started falling asleep and next thing you know,

846
00:40:31,960 --> 00:40:34,320
Speaker 7: he rolled over on her and she thought it was mine.

847
00:40:36,040 --> 00:40:38,239
Speaker 6: In sad sex with him mistaken identity.

848
00:40:38,719 --> 00:40:39,279
Speaker 5: I guess he.

849
00:40:40,680 --> 00:40:44,640
Speaker 9: Comes down to the point where I did make yes.

850
00:40:45,280 --> 00:40:49,040
Speaker 6: But you sis, that's not one mistake.

851
00:40:49,719 --> 00:40:50,279
Speaker 8: Controlling.

852
00:40:50,600 --> 00:40:54,919
Speaker 9: He's verbally abusive, emotionally. He trades my daughter differently than

853
00:40:55,200 --> 00:40:55,520
Speaker 9: the other.

854
00:40:56,320 --> 00:40:58,400
Speaker 2: Of course he does because he thinks it's not his

855
00:40:58,640 --> 00:41:01,680
Speaker 2: child because you slept with like twenty other days. Brow

856
00:41:02,680 --> 00:41:05,759
Speaker 2: Also the way she goes oh, he's like verbally blah

857
00:41:05,760 --> 00:41:10,880
Speaker 2: blah blah, like stop yo, stop, man is holding back

858
00:41:10,960 --> 00:41:11,919
Speaker 2: wow girl.

859
00:41:12,480 --> 00:41:14,160
Speaker 5: Well, because he.

860
00:41:15,680 --> 00:41:18,880
Speaker 6: Said he doubts that he may or may not be

861
00:41:19,280 --> 00:41:24,319
Speaker 6: her father. Do you think honestly that he is the

862
00:41:24,400 --> 00:41:27,000
Speaker 6: father of Lilliana?

863
00:41:27,239 --> 00:41:28,760
Speaker 8: It could be a fifty to fifty chance.

864
00:41:28,920 --> 00:41:30,359
Speaker 5: Honestly, anybody got a quarter.

865
00:41:32,360 --> 00:41:36,880
Speaker 6: Do you understand that I like that for any person

866
00:41:37,880 --> 00:41:42,719
Speaker 6: that that would be really hard to accept. There is

867
00:41:42,920 --> 00:41:46,000
Speaker 6: a part of me that listens to you both talk

868
00:41:47,600 --> 00:41:50,840
Speaker 6: and sees that one, if not both of you maybe

869
00:41:50,880 --> 00:41:52,520
Speaker 6: still wants to make this work.

870
00:41:53,560 --> 00:41:57,320
Speaker 1: Are you too no self respect?

871
00:41:57,520 --> 00:42:00,120
Speaker 6: Trying to see if you could save No.

872
00:42:00,040 --> 00:42:01,600
Speaker 1: What are you doing now? Don't do it?

873
00:42:02,960 --> 00:42:07,000
Speaker 6: She answered, very affirmatively quickly. How about you, mister thrill

874
00:42:07,080 --> 00:42:08,120
Speaker 6: kill you?

875
00:42:08,640 --> 00:42:09,640
Speaker 4: I would say yes, but.

876
00:42:11,160 --> 00:42:13,040
Speaker 7: I've never even putting the shoes to where I would

877
00:42:13,040 --> 00:42:16,120
Speaker 7: have to my kid. Or you don't mean there are

878
00:42:16,120 --> 00:42:18,440
Speaker 7: still a baby involved. I mean you can't just I'm

879
00:42:18,480 --> 00:42:20,160
Speaker 7: not going to take it out on her, even if

880
00:42:20,200 --> 00:42:22,600
Speaker 7: it's not mine, Even if it's not mine. No, the

881
00:42:22,640 --> 00:42:24,080
Speaker 7: one of them to take it out on isn't hers.

882
00:42:24,239 --> 00:42:25,399
Speaker 7: It's the one in the pink shirt.

883
00:42:26,160 --> 00:42:31,320
Speaker 1: Congratulations on everything. Nets to be clear here, there's you

884
00:42:31,400 --> 00:42:32,920
Speaker 1: slept with twenty men, one.

885
00:42:32,920 --> 00:42:36,759
Speaker 6: Baby in question as it relates to the paternity, but

886
00:42:36,960 --> 00:42:40,320
Speaker 6: you all still have two additions together.

887
00:42:40,800 --> 00:42:47,040
Speaker 1: That's the crazy because actually, so.

888
00:42:47,920 --> 00:42:52,440
Speaker 6: These results are going to affect in some way this

889
00:42:52,680 --> 00:42:55,239
Speaker 6: family positively or negatively.

890
00:42:55,680 --> 00:43:00,000
Speaker 5: Yes, ma'am, all right, it's time for the rest.

891
00:43:00,080 --> 00:43:03,000
Speaker 2: I want it to be their kids. The family doesn't

892
00:43:03,000 --> 00:43:07,520
Speaker 2: get screwed up. Oh god, dude, I'm so nervous.

893
00:43:09,880 --> 00:43:19,600
Speaker 1: Nuts. Oh no, they really draw it out. It's the

894
00:43:19,760 --> 00:43:23,160
Speaker 1: kid on the freaking screen. These kids there the whole time.

895
00:43:24,440 --> 00:43:29,279
Speaker 6: Our results today were prepared by DNA Diagnostics shut out.

896
00:43:30,040 --> 00:43:33,640
Speaker 10: In the case of Throw versus Throw.

897
00:43:33,520 --> 00:43:37,399
Speaker 1: Killed, Oh god, fuck.

898
00:43:40,200 --> 00:43:42,160
Speaker 6: Do you want to watch the court on TV?

899
00:43:42,760 --> 00:43:46,480
Speaker 10: Go to Paternity Court TV to find your local listings.

900
00:43:49,239 --> 00:43:54,880
Speaker 10: In the case of Bill versus Throw killed pertaining to

901
00:43:55,560 --> 00:43:59,040
Speaker 10: one year old Liliana.

902
00:43:58,960 --> 00:44:04,520
Speaker 1: Mm hmmm, oh that kid. Oh you know, this chick

903
00:44:04,640 --> 00:44:14,120
Speaker 1: is crazy? Oh tell us you? Oh are Liliana spob

904
00:44:19,280 --> 00:44:22,080
Speaker 1: I don't know. I know I feel good about that.

905
00:44:22,600 --> 00:44:24,600
Speaker 1: I don't know how to feel it. I feel good

906
00:44:24,640 --> 00:44:28,840
Speaker 1: about that instantly emotional. Is that relief or is that

907
00:44:30,239 --> 00:44:32,200
Speaker 1: that's good? Because now the family sits together.

908
00:44:32,520 --> 00:44:34,920
Speaker 8: I mean it's all together.

909
00:44:34,960 --> 00:44:38,680
Speaker 9: I'm happy because I know she's his, So I would

910
00:44:38,760 --> 00:44:39,800
Speaker 9: like to work on everything.

911
00:44:40,000 --> 00:44:41,160
Speaker 4: Man, There's there's a reason why.

912
00:44:41,320 --> 00:44:45,520
Speaker 7: Because since the day it's happened since February twenty eleven

913
00:44:45,520 --> 00:44:46,759
Speaker 7: to be exactly when I found out.

914
00:44:48,000 --> 00:44:48,640
Speaker 1: This is while ago.

915
00:44:48,680 --> 00:44:51,279
Speaker 7: There has not been a day that's gone by that

916
00:44:51,360 --> 00:44:55,840
Speaker 7: I haven't let her not relive the mistakes she made period.

917
00:44:56,520 --> 00:44:59,200
Speaker 6: I appreciate your honesty. You were owning up to the

918
00:44:59,280 --> 00:45:04,239
Speaker 6: fact that you would not let the mistake go. You

919
00:45:04,400 --> 00:45:08,040
Speaker 6: threw it up in her face over and over and

920
00:45:08,120 --> 00:45:09,600
Speaker 6: two years two years.

921
00:45:09,680 --> 00:45:14,080
Speaker 8: They say no other person would have stayed likewise.

922
00:45:14,680 --> 00:45:16,920
Speaker 1: Well, yeah, tell you both.

923
00:45:17,880 --> 00:45:19,239
Speaker 4: It's like we're stuck with each other.

924
00:45:21,480 --> 00:45:24,280
Speaker 1: That's out of a movie. Wow, that's cute.

925
00:45:24,360 --> 00:45:24,480
Speaker 2: Bro.

926
00:45:25,280 --> 00:45:31,200
Speaker 6: About this news is that the doubt, the fear associated

927
00:45:31,280 --> 00:45:31,560
Speaker 6: with it.

928
00:45:33,280 --> 00:45:37,080
Speaker 1: Is gone now, you know, and now they can have

929
00:45:37,160 --> 00:45:38,040
Speaker 1: a happy family.

930
00:45:41,120 --> 00:45:45,000
Speaker 7: Ever that I actually kind of disowned her and wow,

931
00:45:45,080 --> 00:45:47,960
Speaker 7: if she came around me, I called her JB other

932
00:45:48,000 --> 00:45:52,600
Speaker 7: person's baby. Wow, Now that I know that she's not,

933
00:45:53,560 --> 00:45:55,320
Speaker 7: you know, it's uh, it's good to know.

934
00:45:55,800 --> 00:45:58,640
Speaker 6: You know now that you are her father, and you've

935
00:45:58,680 --> 00:46:06,880
Speaker 6: got a lot of making up to do. Okay, this

936
00:46:07,280 --> 00:46:09,920
Speaker 6: marriage is the both of yours together.

937
00:46:10,719 --> 00:46:13,400
Speaker 1: Marriage have to honor it co parents both have to

938
00:46:13,560 --> 00:46:16,439
Speaker 1: not marriage. And I think they're gonna keep They're gonna

939
00:46:16,520 --> 00:46:24,399
Speaker 1: keep married. I'm actually okay with that. Oh god, wow,

940
00:46:26,080 --> 00:46:26,920
Speaker 1: that's my daughter now.

941
00:46:27,160 --> 00:46:29,400
Speaker 4: And there's no wall of dividing.

942
00:46:29,600 --> 00:46:35,160
Speaker 1: See their marriage. No, no, it's all happy. We're gonna

943
00:46:35,160 --> 00:46:39,880
Speaker 1: have to talk about this, okay, okay, okay, so.

944
00:46:41,560 --> 00:46:41,680
Speaker 4: Yo.

945
00:46:43,000 --> 00:46:46,719
Speaker 1: So he so here's the thing. So here's my thing. Right,

946
00:46:47,920 --> 00:46:51,279
Speaker 1: I'm also gonna take this of a maniac. So my

947
00:46:51,480 --> 00:46:56,040
Speaker 1: thing is, yes, he like, you know, he made her

948
00:46:56,120 --> 00:46:58,080
Speaker 1: like relive the mistake or whatever of like you know,

949
00:46:58,160 --> 00:47:04,040
Speaker 1: potentially having this kid that's not but she still cheated

950
00:47:04,160 --> 00:47:07,719
Speaker 1: on him twenty times or whatever. So my thing is, like,

951
00:47:08,520 --> 00:47:12,720
Speaker 1: it's even that aside, there's still so many other issues

952
00:47:12,800 --> 00:47:15,160
Speaker 1: that like I don't think.

953
00:47:15,120 --> 00:47:17,279
Speaker 2: Yeah, she doesn't feel like she's truthful enough to be

954
00:47:17,480 --> 00:47:23,480
Speaker 2: in a marriage that is like there's no founder, Yeah,

955
00:47:23,480 --> 00:47:26,160
Speaker 2: there's no foundation. And like I do commend him.

956
00:47:26,239 --> 00:47:29,640
Speaker 1: I do commend him for apologizing for the fact that

957
00:47:29,760 --> 00:47:31,759
Speaker 1: he like held that over her head. It's like, oh,

958
00:47:31,840 --> 00:47:34,680
Speaker 1: this isn't my child, this is my child. Oh fair,

959
00:47:35,080 --> 00:47:37,759
Speaker 1: But to be like, okay, you know now you have

960
00:47:37,920 --> 00:47:39,880
Speaker 1: to like step up and blah bl Blah's like no, no, no,

961
00:47:40,040 --> 00:47:42,400
Speaker 1: he apologized. He's owning it, and he should continue to

962
00:47:42,440 --> 00:47:44,960
Speaker 1: do that. But she's still cheated on him twenty times

963
00:47:45,000 --> 00:47:47,800
Speaker 1: and that does not make a good foundation. Further, like

964
00:47:48,080 --> 00:47:50,319
Speaker 1: they should enter co parents at all. So I think

965
00:47:50,480 --> 00:47:56,480
Speaker 1: our judgment. Get divorced, but co parent those kids to adulthood.

966
00:47:56,600 --> 00:47:58,600
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, oh yeah,