WEBVTT - THURS PT 1: Bobby's Hard-Hitting Therapy Question + Bobby Brings Up Amy's Traumatic Past + Amy's Drunk Audio 0:00:03.520 --> 0:00:15.120 Transmitting this Welcome to Thursday Show Morning Studio. 0:00:16.000 --> 0:00:17.840 This guy was missing for ten days, but they found 0:00:17.920 --> 0:00:19.600 him and he was shouldered deep in mud when they 0:00:19.600 --> 0:00:23.119 found him. It feels like quicksand, but they didn't say quicksand. 0:00:23.800 --> 0:00:25.959 But for ten days, this guy, Andrew was missing. He 0:00:26.000 --> 0:00:28.920 was lasting. On Valentine's Day, he was found by the 0:00:28.960 --> 0:00:34.239 fire department in Palaca, Florida, stuck in mud up to 0:00:34.320 --> 0:00:37.000 his shoulders. The mud pit was located on a property 0:00:37.040 --> 0:00:40.239 of a materials company, which is a sand plant. His 0:00:40.800 --> 0:00:45.280 car was abandoned nearby. People had spotted him nearby, but 0:00:45.360 --> 0:00:47.320 they say they were lucky to find him. He was 0:00:47.320 --> 0:00:51.280 in bad shape. They don't know what happened. They just 0:00:51.320 --> 0:00:53.479 said that he was depressed because of a recent breakup. 0:00:54.400 --> 0:00:56.440 Yeah, but you're not going to dig yourself in mud 0:00:56.440 --> 0:00:58.840 for that, right, Like are you? 0:00:59.280 --> 0:01:02.080 But I don't know that you think mud would make you. 0:01:02.680 --> 0:01:04.560 I've seen some pretty big mud puddles and I think 0:01:04.560 --> 0:01:05.760 I could have walked through and got out. 0:01:06.319 --> 0:01:09.080 Man, if your shoulder she was shouldered deep, right, like 0:01:09.120 --> 0:01:10.640 your shoulder deep, you can't move. 0:01:10.640 --> 0:01:13.240 You're just stuck ten days too, So you're talking about 0:01:13.400 --> 0:01:16.640 no water now, I don't know, unless he had like 0:01:16.680 --> 0:01:17.839 some water in his jacket. 0:01:17.880 --> 0:01:19.520 He was wearing like a big car jacket with a 0:01:19.560 --> 0:01:20.120 hood or whatever. 0:01:20.360 --> 0:01:22.640 But when they find find him, it's dark and there's 0:01:22.680 --> 0:01:25.280 like ten people digging him out. It's so reminiscent of 0:01:25.280 --> 0:01:29.280 what Quicksand taught us it was in the nineties, which. 0:01:29.160 --> 0:01:34.000 Was just saying get you. So that was a crazy one. 0:01:34.240 --> 0:01:38.480 Georgia may revoke the driver's licenses of teens who skipped school. 0:01:39.080 --> 0:01:41.679 Yikes, I don't know that. 0:01:43.560 --> 0:01:46.919 What I know, But but didn't you guys skip school? 0:01:47.520 --> 0:01:52.080 I say, yes, never once. Yeah, you never know. 0:01:52.720 --> 0:01:54.360 When you had a driver's license and they gave you 0:01:54.400 --> 0:01:55.240 off campus. 0:01:55.040 --> 0:02:01.360 Lunch, call me mister pa Okay, well perfect, Yeah. 0:02:01.480 --> 0:02:03.880 I think it's probably not a first offense that you 0:02:03.920 --> 0:02:06.120 take the license away, but there may be once you're 0:02:06.560 --> 0:02:08.040 you know, what do they call it? 0:02:08.200 --> 0:02:11.000 Like not delinquent. There's a word for truancy. 0:02:11.919 --> 0:02:14.880 Three tarties. They take your license before they take your car. 0:02:15.000 --> 0:02:18.919 Five they take your house. Georgia teens who skip school 0:02:18.960 --> 0:02:20.680 may have to forfeit their driver's licenses. 0:02:21.000 --> 0:02:22.600 This is from WSBTV. 0:02:23.120 --> 0:02:27.400 The Georgia Senate overwhelmingly approved the Everyday Counts Act, which 0:02:27.440 --> 0:02:30.000 would let the state revoke driving privileges from fifty to 0:02:30.040 --> 0:02:35.160 seven year olds labeled chronically unexcused, meaning five unexplained absences 0:02:35.200 --> 0:02:36.920 in the first fifty days of school, or ten percent 0:02:36.960 --> 0:02:37.360 of the days. 0:02:38.120 --> 0:02:39.800 Okay, I don't hate it. 0:02:39.800 --> 0:02:40.440 I don't hate it. 0:02:40.600 --> 0:02:43.320 But I never missed. Amy missed a lot of school 0:02:43.320 --> 0:02:44.880 so much her mom had to walk up to school 0:02:44.919 --> 0:02:45.160 with her. 0:02:45.440 --> 0:02:46.000 You were charged. 0:02:46.280 --> 0:02:48.720 Whoa whoa, Okay, she was. 0:02:48.680 --> 0:02:52.240 Tarty, got it here. Didn't know what you said? You 0:02:52.320 --> 0:02:53.280 know what I said. 0:02:53.560 --> 0:02:56.120 Now that's Bobby's version of the story. I didn't miss 0:02:56.200 --> 0:02:59.320 a lot of school. Did I ever skip some classes? 0:02:59.560 --> 0:02:59.800 Yes? 0:03:00.000 --> 0:03:03.160 Isn't that skipping school? Amy, don't be a lawyer, just 0:03:03.400 --> 0:03:03.720 say it. 0:03:03.840 --> 0:03:10.160 Skipping school would mean the whole day. Also, it wasn't. 0:03:10.000 --> 0:03:13.240 A lot because that teacher you skipped, you skipped her school. 0:03:13.520 --> 0:03:16.160 And then my mom only escorted me to class because 0:03:16.160 --> 0:03:17.400 I was in that class every day. 0:03:17.440 --> 0:03:18.160 I was just late. 0:03:18.960 --> 0:03:20.600 But she showed up at school unknown. 0:03:20.840 --> 0:03:23.360 She showed up unknown to walk me to class, to 0:03:23.400 --> 0:03:25.800 show me I was capable of getting there on time, 0:03:26.919 --> 0:03:27.800 and I was. 0:03:28.000 --> 0:03:31.160 And let me tell you I was never late again. Ever. 0:03:31.480 --> 0:03:33.600 Georgia should be like, Okay, we're gonna have your parents 0:03:33.600 --> 0:03:34.960 come and walk. 0:03:34.800 --> 0:03:36.000 You to class. 0:03:36.040 --> 0:03:39.000 Some people don't have parents, and that's probably where a 0:03:39.040 --> 0:03:42.040 lot of this comes from, is like without good environment 0:03:42.040 --> 0:03:43.960 and influences, you don't make good decisions. 0:03:44.080 --> 0:03:46.400 Yeah, it's such a baller move from my mom to 0:03:46.440 --> 0:03:49.640 show up. Yeah, I'm on the second floor where we socialized. 0:03:49.640 --> 0:03:51.560 That's the floor we hung out on in between classes. 0:03:52.160 --> 0:03:54.560 And she tapped me on the shoulder and I turned 0:03:54.600 --> 0:03:56.960 around and I was like, mom, what's wrong. She was like, 0:03:57.000 --> 0:04:01.360 I'm here to escort you to algebra or whatever, geometry. 0:04:02.640 --> 0:04:04.000 This is the same mom you let step in a 0:04:04.000 --> 0:04:05.160 hole and ran off from. 0:04:05.760 --> 0:04:08.560 I was much younger then, and I was embarrassed by her. 0:04:08.600 --> 0:04:10.320 And that's one of my biggest life regrets. 0:04:10.360 --> 0:04:11.560 I know, what is up with. 0:04:11.560 --> 0:04:14.160 You right now bringing up like all my I know 0:04:14.280 --> 0:04:18.240 I mistreated my mom terribly and I asked for forgiveness. 0:04:18.440 --> 0:04:20.600 Yeah, no, I care. But you were walking with her 0:04:20.600 --> 0:04:22.039 and she fell in a hole and you just kept walking. 0:04:22.360 --> 0:04:22.520 Yeah. 0:04:22.560 --> 0:04:24.400 I was at a softball tournament and we were walking 0:04:24.440 --> 0:04:26.800 along and I was so embarrassed that she fell. 0:04:26.960 --> 0:04:29.679 And I should have been like, Mom, oh my gosh, 0:04:29.680 --> 0:04:30.240 you're okay. 0:04:30.640 --> 0:04:34.320 Instead I was like I don't know her, but I 0:04:34.360 --> 0:04:36.560 think we had already been pre fighting, Like I was 0:04:36.600 --> 0:04:39.880 already annoyed with her, but she might already paid me 0:04:39.920 --> 0:04:42.440 back from the dead for that. My mom had passed 0:04:42.480 --> 0:04:45.000 away by the time I adopted my kids. When I 0:04:45.279 --> 0:04:47.600 the first day I became a mom, she paid me back. 0:04:47.760 --> 0:04:51.640 First day, we were on our way from Haiti to Miami. 0:04:51.680 --> 0:04:53.760 Once we landed in the Miami airport, I was on 0:04:53.760 --> 0:04:56.479 one of those moving walkways at the airport and my 0:04:56.560 --> 0:04:58.840 foot got stuck and I tripped and I fell, and 0:04:58.839 --> 0:04:59.680 my daughter. 0:04:59.440 --> 0:05:02.960 That I just adopted stepped over me. 0:05:04.960 --> 0:05:08.159 And started laughing, and I was like, okay, Mom, I 0:05:08.200 --> 0:05:11.520 see you see she yeah, So she all comes around. 0:05:11.640 --> 0:05:14.040 She got her payback on day one, and she was like, Okay, 0:05:14.040 --> 0:05:14.919 I'll leave you alone. 0:05:15.640 --> 0:05:20.080 They're calling it skincare and a can from Yahoo. They 0:05:20.120 --> 0:05:23.960 swear by the ten sardines that you can buy and putting. 0:05:23.760 --> 0:05:24.400 Them on your face. 0:05:26.200 --> 0:05:31.440 Okay, I have seen so much about eating sardines and 0:05:31.640 --> 0:05:33.560 helping your skin from the inside out, like it'll be 0:05:33.560 --> 0:05:34.640 a game changer, But I've not. 0:05:34.600 --> 0:05:36.839 Seen anybody laying the sardines on their. 0:05:36.720 --> 0:05:41.240 Face, touting their Omega three fatty acids and skin nourishing benefits. 0:05:42.160 --> 0:05:44.719 While sardines are nutrient and dense and off for health benefits, 0:05:44.760 --> 0:05:47.560 experts caution against viewing them as a magic solution for 0:05:47.640 --> 0:05:51.040 skin care or weight loss. Ultimately, sardines can be a 0:05:51.120 --> 0:05:53.400 valuable addition to a healthy plan, but they are not 0:05:53.440 --> 0:05:55.559 a one size fit all solution for skin health. 0:05:55.640 --> 0:05:58.279 I have seen people doing what they're calling a I 0:05:58.279 --> 0:06:02.159 guess it's a sardine cleanse or fast or something them 0:06:02.279 --> 0:06:06.360 for three days straight all every meal, breakfast, lunch, and 0:06:06.400 --> 0:06:07.320 dinner is sardines. 0:06:07.400 --> 0:06:10.080 I'm in Sign me up. We're not asking you. We 0:06:10.120 --> 0:06:12.280 don't want what's going to happen to your body to 0:06:12.279 --> 0:06:13.760 be in this room with us. But what is it? 0:06:13.800 --> 0:06:15.440 Sounds like it's good for your body. 0:06:15.440 --> 0:06:19.039 There's a lot of things good for your body, eating moderation, vegetables. 0:06:19.080 --> 0:06:21.479 Do you like sardines? I don't think so. 0:06:21.960 --> 0:06:25.800 I think my relationship with sardines are one ninja turtles, 0:06:26.240 --> 0:06:27.719 and then two that's anchovies. 0:06:27.839 --> 0:06:30.800 Oh, you're right, it's anchoves. I don't like. I don't 0:06:30.880 --> 0:06:32.880 like anchovies because sardians are the ones in the can. 0:06:32.920 --> 0:06:34.560 You kind of like pull the tab and open it 0:06:34.720 --> 0:06:36.760 and they're in oil. Or water, whatever you want. 0:06:36.920 --> 0:06:38.840 I'm not anti, but I'm not pro. I don't think 0:06:38.839 --> 0:06:39.800 i've been around them enough. 0:06:40.000 --> 0:06:42.320 I feel like this is we're still early on in 0:06:42.320 --> 0:06:43.800 twenty twenty six, but I feel like by the end 0:06:43.800 --> 0:06:45.479 of the year, it's going to be like the Year 0:06:45.520 --> 0:06:46.400 of the Sardine. 0:06:46.480 --> 0:06:47.479 Like they're marketing. 0:06:47.880 --> 0:06:50.680 Sardine marketing right now is hot, sort of like when 0:06:50.720 --> 0:06:51.480 cottage cheese. 0:06:51.480 --> 0:06:54.800 They need it because they're sardine marketing, right They're all 0:06:54.800 --> 0:06:56.760 sitting around the table, all right, boys. 0:06:56.680 --> 0:06:58.480 It's sort of like twenty twenty four, twenty twenty five, 0:06:58.520 --> 0:07:00.960 like you couldn't go anywhere without cottage. She's this, cottage, 0:07:01.000 --> 0:07:02.480 she's that. And I feel like at the end of 0:07:02.520 --> 0:07:05.520 this year, we're gonna be like sardines is sardines. 0:07:05.520 --> 0:07:11.320 Pancakes, sardine toast. Because Avocado had a good run, like 0:07:11.360 --> 0:07:12.240 they did a whole thing. 0:07:12.720 --> 0:07:14.080 I feel like Avocado is still. 0:07:13.880 --> 0:07:16.560 Going strong kind of but not the same. Yeah, like 0:07:16.600 --> 0:07:18.000 there was there was like a two year period of 0:07:18.000 --> 0:07:20.440 avocado toast. That's what all the cool people are doing. 0:07:20.480 --> 0:07:22.400 But you'll every wonder like how this happens because sardines 0:07:22.440 --> 0:07:25.960 have been around for a long time, so like what suddenly. 0:07:25.560 --> 0:07:26.840 Causes the boom. 0:07:26.880 --> 0:07:27.360 The numbers. 0:07:27.480 --> 0:07:29.320 It's like a sardine boom right now, Like the. 0:07:29.360 --> 0:07:30.360 Numbers are record low. 0:07:30.360 --> 0:07:32.520 Like, guys, we're gonna lose the sarding industry if we 0:07:32.520 --> 0:07:33.240 don't start. 0:07:33.040 --> 0:07:33.680 Starting this thing. 0:07:33.760 --> 0:07:35.600 But then they got to dumple much of money into influencers. 0:07:35.600 --> 0:07:37.640 They like seed influencers to talk about their sardis. 0:07:37.680 --> 0:07:40.840 They're doing something because I swear I can't go five 0:07:40.880 --> 0:07:42.760 minutes without saying something about sardines. 0:07:43.120 --> 0:07:44.600 Oh, so you're on the sardine algorithm. 0:07:45.720 --> 0:07:47.440 Well, now that goes into her pocket. 0:07:48.120 --> 0:07:50.480 She reached in her pocket, Well I have one here. 0:07:50.720 --> 0:07:53.000 She's being seeded money from the sardine industry. 0:07:53.720 --> 0:07:53.840 Uh. 0:07:53.920 --> 0:07:56.920 There's a new airline rule. This makes so much sense. 0:07:57.000 --> 0:07:59.920 I love common sense rules. This is from CBS News. 0:08:00.280 --> 0:08:03.960 United Airlines has updated its contractive carriage, which requires all 0:08:04.000 --> 0:08:06.600 passengers to wear headphones when using things that make sounds 0:08:06.880 --> 0:08:07.640 oh anything. 0:08:08.480 --> 0:08:10.120 It was a rule, like they tell you that, but. 0:08:10.120 --> 0:08:11.680 It's not a rule because you know, when you buy 0:08:11.680 --> 0:08:12.880 a ticket, you got to click a couple of things 0:08:12.960 --> 0:08:13.520 you never read. 0:08:14.280 --> 0:08:15.280 Yes, I never read it. 0:08:15.360 --> 0:08:17.800 Yeah, we never read any of that. Yeah, we clicked the 0:08:17.800 --> 0:08:19.880 little boxes and we move on. We buy our tickets 0:08:20.480 --> 0:08:24.000 in that is now this meaning if you're gonna have 0:08:24.000 --> 0:08:26.680 a phone, or you're gonna have any sort of music device, 0:08:26.880 --> 0:08:28.800 you can't listen to it outwardly on the plane. 0:08:28.840 --> 0:08:30.400 You have to have headphones. Amy, did you hear the 0:08:30.440 --> 0:08:31.119 one on our plane? 0:08:31.600 --> 0:08:32.839 Well, was somebody listening to it loud? 0:08:33.360 --> 0:08:35.480 Is a kid on an iPad and it was loud. 0:08:35.600 --> 0:08:37.439 All I heard was a kid crying, And I felt 0:08:37.440 --> 0:08:39.280 so bad for the parents. 0:08:39.320 --> 0:08:41.640 Crying because just they just crying. 0:08:41.840 --> 0:08:43.520 I want to get off here? 0:08:44.559 --> 0:08:46.439 Is like, oh they were speaking. 0:08:46.600 --> 0:08:50.000 Yeah, like not not they were still really little, but 0:08:50.040 --> 0:08:52.280 maybe they just started learning to talk, because it was like, 0:08:52.520 --> 0:08:54.000 I want off plane. 0:08:54.320 --> 0:08:55.600 Like I felt really bad. 0:08:55.760 --> 0:08:56.880 And they started pleading with his dad. 0:08:56.880 --> 0:09:01.560 He's like, daddy please, Is that because their ears hurt 0:09:01.640 --> 0:09:02.520 or just bored? 0:09:02.600 --> 0:09:03.480 That's what I was thinking. 0:09:03.559 --> 0:09:05.200 I feel like they must be in some sort of 0:09:05.200 --> 0:09:08.240 pain and they're trying to communicate, like I make it stop. 0:09:08.760 --> 0:09:13.959 The University Idaho professor who was the subject of this TikToker. 0:09:14.640 --> 0:09:17.599 So the professor made ten million bucks. It's TikToker was 0:09:17.679 --> 0:09:21.720 saying all this crap about him. So remember that murder 0:09:21.720 --> 0:09:25.040 in Ohio where they killed four people Idaho. 0:09:25.120 --> 0:09:27.720 Say what I say? Ohio, Yes, sorry, Idaho, thank you. 0:09:28.000 --> 0:09:31.640 A University of Idaho professor won ten million dollars after 0:09:31.679 --> 0:09:36.160 a TikTok tarot influencer pushed a crazy fake conspiracy that 0:09:36.520 --> 0:09:39.320 they were behind the Savage quadruple murders of four students. 0:09:39.760 --> 0:09:44.319 A Boise jury in US District Court ordered fortune telling 0:09:44.400 --> 0:09:48.319 Texas TikToker Ashley Gouilliard on Friday to pay ten million 0:09:48.400 --> 0:09:52.440 dollars after concluding she falsely accused professor Rebecca Schofield of 0:09:52.480 --> 0:09:54.240 having a secret romance with one of the four victims 0:09:54.240 --> 0:09:57.200 and orchestrated the killings. Oh wow, good you can't just 0:09:57.200 --> 0:09:59.280 say crap. Yeah, what affects people's lives? 0:10:00.840 --> 0:10:01.560 Okay? Good to know. 0:10:01.960 --> 0:10:05.280 Also ten million dollars, Like, I don't know if she 0:10:05.360 --> 0:10:06.320 if someone doesn't have. 0:10:06.240 --> 0:10:07.360 That kind of money, what do you do? 0:10:07.559 --> 0:10:11.760 Two things? One? Nothing? Two they can garnish wages in 0:10:11.800 --> 0:10:12.920 some cases. 0:10:12.640 --> 0:10:15.280 Can they do like payment plan where it's that's garnishing wages? 0:10:15.320 --> 0:10:15.480 Oh? 0:10:15.520 --> 0:10:15.640 Is that it? 0:10:15.840 --> 0:10:18.240 That's if you work, so they're gonna take some of 0:10:18.240 --> 0:10:20.200 that money that you work. But if they never work 0:10:20.200 --> 0:10:21.880 and you make money, they can't garnish. And if it's 0:10:21.880 --> 0:10:22.920 not there, like so you he can't get them out 0:10:22.920 --> 0:10:24.440 and do out of turnip. Sometimes you just you don't 0:10:24.440 --> 0:10:27.160 get the money. Like Ojay, he lost all that money 0:10:27.400 --> 0:10:30.960 in a civil trial. They never got paid until I 0:10:30.960 --> 0:10:32.839 think now they're getting some of that money because he 0:10:32.920 --> 0:10:35.120 died and his estate has some money. They're selling stuff. 0:10:35.360 --> 0:10:37.560 But yeah, I know it's not always that they get 0:10:37.559 --> 0:10:42.240 the money. That's crazy. Gooleyard began uploading videos to more 0:10:42.280 --> 0:10:45.720 than one hundred thousand TikTok followers in November of twenty 0:10:45.720 --> 0:10:48.120 twenty two, accusing Scofield of a secret relationship with one 0:10:48.120 --> 0:10:50.880 of the students and had ordered the killings. Millions of 0:10:50.920 --> 0:10:53.680 views on and on New York Post with story. But 0:10:54.559 --> 0:10:56.560 I think people get confused on what free speech is. 0:10:58.040 --> 0:11:00.720 Literally free speeches. You can speak out against the government 0:11:00.760 --> 0:11:03.400 and not go to jail. That's what it That's all 0:11:03.440 --> 0:11:06.440 it is. That's not all it is. That is significant. 0:11:06.760 --> 0:11:10.600 But you can't just say stuff and go free speech. No, no, no, 0:11:11.720 --> 0:11:12.680 that's what free speech is. 0:11:12.679 --> 0:11:13.840 No, what is this defamation? 0:11:14.880 --> 0:11:15.160 Uh? 0:11:15.440 --> 0:11:19.160 Like, if you speak falsely about someone publicly, that I 0:11:19.200 --> 0:11:22.120 mean that's defamation, right, Yeah, it's sure. 0:11:22.320 --> 0:11:24.560 I don't know if that's what exactly this case was. 0:11:24.600 --> 0:11:27.280 That feels like that's my defamation message up man. Yeah, 0:11:27.360 --> 0:11:28.240 so remember that. 0:11:28.160 --> 0:11:30.679 One next time someone's like goods free speech, So it's 0:11:30.720 --> 0:11:34.120 protection from government. That's what free speech is. You can 0:11:34.120 --> 0:11:35.840 talk about the government bad and they can't come for 0:11:35.920 --> 0:11:37.680 you because there are some countries that cannot do that. 0:11:38.000 --> 0:11:40.440 You cannot speak bad about your Yeah, and sometimes here 0:11:40.520 --> 0:11:41.480 now it's starting to feel like. 0:11:42.400 --> 0:11:45.400 Yeah, I mean you have people I speaking of stuff 0:11:45.400 --> 0:11:48.880 in my algorithm, Like it's like, Hi, please know I 0:11:48.960 --> 0:11:50.959 am healthy and I'm not going to harm myself. 0:11:51.000 --> 0:11:54.000 That's all politicians. My tires have air, my brakes have 0:11:54.080 --> 0:11:56.480 been checked. I'm not gonna harm I'm a really good swimmer. 0:11:56.600 --> 0:12:00.440 Yes, I'm a good swimmer. I'm also in Congress. It's greazy. 0:12:00.480 --> 0:12:04.240 Yeah, there's Congress, and then there's also yeah, just influencers 0:12:04.240 --> 0:12:05.960 that are speaking out on certain things. 0:12:06.360 --> 0:12:09.680 And oh man, shoot, what was my thought? I can't remember. 0:12:09.800 --> 0:12:11.679 Want you hold on to it. We'll come back to it. 0:12:11.760 --> 0:12:12.040 Okay. 0:12:13.880 --> 0:12:21.720 It's anonymous sin box, anonymous in boss. Here's a question 0:12:21.880 --> 0:12:23.160 to be. 0:12:29.640 --> 0:12:32.400 Hello, Bobby Bones. I've been on my job for seven years. 0:12:32.520 --> 0:12:34.760 I've been open with my boss for a long time. 0:12:35.080 --> 0:12:39.000 About wanting to be promoted. I've had multiple conversations and 0:12:39.040 --> 0:12:41.280 I'm hearing things like you're close or it's coming, but 0:12:41.360 --> 0:12:45.920 it never actually happened. Recently, that promotion opened up and 0:12:45.960 --> 0:12:47.559 it went to a coworker who's only been with a 0:12:47.600 --> 0:12:49.760 company for four years. When I asked my boss about it, 0:12:49.800 --> 0:12:51.000 still didn't get a clear answer. 0:12:51.320 --> 0:12:51.839 I'm torn. 0:12:51.840 --> 0:12:53.680 Do I put in another year at this company in 0:12:53.720 --> 0:12:56.440 hopes I finally get promoted, or do I sign my leave? 0:12:56.960 --> 0:12:58.840 How do you know when it's time to stop waiting? 0:12:59.400 --> 0:13:04.839 Signed one? In corporate America? There, Uh, you've waited long enough. 0:13:05.000 --> 0:13:08.400 But I think you need to have an understanding of 0:13:08.559 --> 0:13:12.840 is it you or is it them? Because if you've 0:13:12.840 --> 0:13:18.280 been there seven years and they haven't promoted you, it's 0:13:18.320 --> 0:13:20.840 a long time. But if you're doing a great job, 0:13:20.880 --> 0:13:22.960 it isn't their best interest to promote you to do 0:13:23.000 --> 0:13:25.480 a better job to make them more money. Generally speaking, 0:13:26.960 --> 0:13:29.200 now unless you have some fight with your boss, and 0:13:29.240 --> 0:13:32.040 I'm not even doing man woman stuff now, just generally speaking, 0:13:32.800 --> 0:13:34.520 act like you don't have a wier or a vagina. 0:13:34.600 --> 0:13:37.839 Okay, it's just a it's a kendle, got it. 0:13:38.559 --> 0:13:42.959 Whatever, If you can make your company more money at 0:13:43.000 --> 0:13:46.439 a job that makes them more money, They're going to 0:13:46.480 --> 0:13:49.560 put you in that job to make the company more money. 0:13:49.640 --> 0:13:53.160 Generally speaking, unless you have a fight with somebody, seven 0:13:53.240 --> 0:13:55.720 years is a long time to not get promoted. So 0:13:55.880 --> 0:14:02.280 what you have to now internally to understand is it them, 0:14:02.400 --> 0:14:03.800 which it feels like you think it is here, or 0:14:03.840 --> 0:14:06.440 is it really you because it could be you and 0:14:06.480 --> 0:14:08.600 you don't notice. What I would do in this situation 0:14:08.760 --> 0:14:11.000 is I would say, hey, I need you to give 0:14:11.040 --> 0:14:16.720 me some exact things that I can do in order 0:14:16.880 --> 0:14:19.720 to be promoted, because then you can meet those benchmarks. 0:14:19.720 --> 0:14:21.440 And if you do meet those benchmarks, theyn't promote you. 0:14:21.480 --> 0:14:22.440 That's them. 0:14:22.680 --> 0:14:25.200 But it just feels so vague right now that it's 0:14:25.200 --> 0:14:28.400 like I'm just going to pass over. You need specifics. 0:14:28.720 --> 0:14:30.400 I would be upset to now. Again, I don't know 0:14:30.440 --> 0:14:33.680 the whole story, but seven years is a long time, 0:14:33.880 --> 0:14:37.920 and I feel like, regardless of sex, that if somebody 0:14:37.960 --> 0:14:41.800 could provide more value to the company in a more 0:14:41.880 --> 0:14:44.800 valuable position, you're moving them up. Because it's the boss's 0:14:44.880 --> 0:14:47.400 job to make the most money for the company. 0:14:48.320 --> 0:14:50.520 You can walk, I'm good with it. If you have 0:14:50.600 --> 0:14:51.520 something else lined up. 0:14:51.680 --> 0:14:53.240 But what I would do if you're going to stay 0:14:53.360 --> 0:14:56.200 is say, hey, I'm really well just a franchised by this. 0:14:56.240 --> 0:14:59.400 I've been here seven years, but can you list specific 0:14:59.440 --> 0:15:02.600 things I need to hit in order to get a promotion? 0:15:03.040 --> 0:15:06.280 And then if you do that and you don't, they suck. 0:15:07.640 --> 0:15:09.200 But if you're like, oh, I'm not even been close 0:15:09.200 --> 0:15:11.000 to this once they give them to you, then maybe 0:15:11.000 --> 0:15:12.440 there's an you can understand a reason. 0:15:12.480 --> 0:15:13.760 Why what do you think? 0:15:13.960 --> 0:15:17.280 Yeah, I just feel like the number one thing we 0:15:17.320 --> 0:15:19.760 all want to feel valued for our time and what 0:15:19.840 --> 0:15:23.360 we have to offer, and we would need somewhere to 0:15:23.440 --> 0:15:26.040 go where we can guarantee that value too. You may 0:15:26.040 --> 0:15:29.080 go somewhere else, and who knows if there's a pay cut, 0:15:29.120 --> 0:15:32.120 then you don't have the time that the tenure, like 0:15:32.160 --> 0:15:34.160 the seven years there, and it may take how many 0:15:34.200 --> 0:15:36.000 years to build back up? So you have to weigh 0:15:36.080 --> 0:15:37.800 like how long I might take you to finally get 0:15:37.800 --> 0:15:39.760 promoted where you put in the work then if you 0:15:39.840 --> 0:15:42.520 transfer somewhere else, because then you're kind of starting over 0:15:42.600 --> 0:15:44.960 a little bit. So just making sure if you can 0:15:45.000 --> 0:15:47.440 find a backup plan, that would be great. But I 0:15:47.480 --> 0:15:50.520 wouldn't just like quit with no plan unless you're trying 0:15:50.520 --> 0:15:52.000 to like eat, pray, love it or something. 0:15:52.600 --> 0:15:54.640 Yeah, I stelly got our groove back, but traveling the world, 0:15:55.040 --> 0:15:56.800 see what's up? Uh Yeah. 0:15:57.840 --> 0:16:01.320 Also, if your biggest fear ist are starting over, there's 0:16:01.360 --> 0:16:03.280 no better time to start over than write this second, 0:16:03.600 --> 0:16:06.160 because you're starting over now instead of starting over in 0:16:06.200 --> 0:16:06.520 a year. 0:16:06.680 --> 0:16:07.680 There's just a lot here. 0:16:08.080 --> 0:16:10.440 I would just say, instead of getting mad at something 0:16:10.480 --> 0:16:12.880 that maybe you don't have all the information on, get 0:16:12.880 --> 0:16:15.360 some more information. Because if they're just holding you back 0:16:15.400 --> 0:16:19.760 because you're a woman, first of all, hr second of all, 0:16:21.000 --> 0:16:22.720 that sucks and you need to get out because that's 0:16:22.800 --> 0:16:23.480 not you don't need. 0:16:23.400 --> 0:16:24.440 To be in that kind of leadership. 0:16:24.920 --> 0:16:27.760 But it could be things you don't even realize because 0:16:27.760 --> 0:16:30.560 you haven't asked the right questions. So that'd be my 0:16:30.600 --> 0:16:34.440 advice there. Most bosses aren't looking to hold people back. 0:16:34.800 --> 0:16:37.200 Most bosses are looking to just keep their own job, 0:16:37.560 --> 0:16:40.160 and if they can promote people that makes them look 0:16:40.200 --> 0:16:41.960 better at their own job, they're going to do that 0:16:42.040 --> 0:16:43.440 because they also want a promotion. 0:16:45.160 --> 0:16:46.760 That's that on that I can ask. 0:16:46.600 --> 0:16:49.120 You a question about you said, you know, do people 0:16:49.120 --> 0:16:51.000 think like, oh, doing my job right, I'm doing a 0:16:51.040 --> 0:16:54.280 really good job at what I'm asked to do. Yeah, 0:16:54.320 --> 0:16:56.880 but what about like doing above and beyond things. I've 0:16:56.920 --> 0:16:59.480 worked with people where like they just don't do above 0:16:59.520 --> 0:17:00.280 and beyond things. 0:17:00.440 --> 0:17:02.320 I'll work with people like that too. I'm glad you've 0:17:02.320 --> 0:17:05.960 been You brought that up. What I would say to 0:17:06.000 --> 0:17:08.720 do also is if you don't let your people know 0:17:08.800 --> 0:17:10.640 that you're going above and beyond all the time, they're 0:17:10.680 --> 0:17:12.600 never going to know because they're so focused on what 0:17:12.680 --> 0:17:15.119 their jobs are and they are so underwater with everything 0:17:15.119 --> 0:17:17.680 that they're doing. They're just gonna notice that the will 0:17:17.720 --> 0:17:19.800 keeps turning more so than who's turning the wild fastter 0:17:19.960 --> 0:17:22.040 on certain parts of the wheel. So you need to 0:17:22.040 --> 0:17:24.480 share your successes with your people because they won't know, 0:17:24.800 --> 0:17:27.680 not that they don't care, big difference, but they won't 0:17:27.720 --> 0:17:29.800 know because they're so worried about what's happening in their 0:17:29.880 --> 0:17:32.840 world and their successes and sharing their successes so they 0:17:32.840 --> 0:17:35.760 don't get fighter, they get promoted. So when you have successes, 0:17:35.800 --> 0:17:38.359