1 00:00:01,120 --> 00:00:03,440 Speaker 1: You can ask for them to bake your chicken wings. 2 00:00:03,680 --> 00:00:04,760 Speaker 1: Where are you ordering from? 3 00:00:04,960 --> 00:00:07,960 Speaker 2: No, I specifically look for places that bake. I prefer 4 00:00:08,000 --> 00:00:09,440 Speaker 2: bakeover fry. Interesting. 5 00:00:09,560 --> 00:00:12,239 Speaker 1: Yeah, that's interesting, Okay? Is it? I? 6 00:00:13,520 --> 00:00:16,880 Speaker 2: Is it that interesting? Is your life so boring that 7 00:00:16,880 --> 00:00:18,720 Speaker 2: that is the boat? Or are you just trying to 8 00:00:18,720 --> 00:00:21,639 Speaker 2: find a word because figure. 9 00:00:21,440 --> 00:00:23,600 Speaker 1: You out, Michelle Bete, I'm trying to figure you out. 10 00:00:23,640 --> 00:00:26,799 Speaker 1: That's what it is. You are. You are layered, I know, 11 00:00:26,920 --> 00:00:28,880 Speaker 1: but you'd be doing some uh, you'd be doing some 12 00:00:28,960 --> 00:00:31,319 Speaker 1: secret ship like I didn't know. You get baked chicken 13 00:00:31,360 --> 00:00:33,280 Speaker 1: wings and ship come over to your house and have 14 00:00:33,280 --> 00:00:34,880 Speaker 1: a baked chicken wing. That's wild. 15 00:00:35,000 --> 00:00:39,120 Speaker 2: Hello, Hey, you can leave them at the door. Okay, 16 00:00:39,200 --> 00:00:39,920 Speaker 2: I'll be right out. 17 00:00:40,200 --> 00:00:41,160 Speaker 1: It's the chicken wing man. 18 00:00:41,360 --> 00:00:45,280 Speaker 2: Thank you, thank you, Bye, missy. They call you now. 19 00:00:45,600 --> 00:00:47,919 Speaker 2: They call you. They want to make sure you got 20 00:00:47,920 --> 00:00:48,400 Speaker 2: these wings. 21 00:00:48,400 --> 00:01:09,800 Speaker 1: Bitch. Welcome, Welcome, y'all. This is adulting. You've reached the 22 00:01:09,880 --> 00:01:13,440 Speaker 1: right address. I'm Jordan Carlos. I'm joined as always by 23 00:01:13,440 --> 00:01:15,679 Speaker 1: my coat from go Michelby to Michelle. How you doing 24 00:01:15,720 --> 00:01:16,600 Speaker 1: say something to the people? 25 00:01:17,000 --> 00:01:21,600 Speaker 2: You know what I have. I've just given up on 26 00:01:21,640 --> 00:01:23,760 Speaker 2: the idea of finding my belly. But when I sit down, 27 00:01:25,560 --> 00:01:28,840 Speaker 2: but I'm doing well. I'm doing well. Everyone, I'm doing well. 28 00:01:29,200 --> 00:01:32,600 Speaker 2: Shout out to these fucking delivery people. Man, truly, what 29 00:01:32,680 --> 00:01:33,880 Speaker 2: a way to see a neighborhood. 30 00:01:34,160 --> 00:01:36,400 Speaker 1: And I feel bad because my dog is always. 31 00:01:36,120 --> 00:01:40,840 Speaker 2: Like, good for Leo. He doing his jobs, that's what 32 00:01:40,880 --> 00:01:41,360 Speaker 2: he there for. 33 00:01:41,840 --> 00:01:44,039 Speaker 1: His bark is so loud through the door, but he's 34 00:01:44,040 --> 00:01:46,080 Speaker 1: just a tiny dog. And then you open the door 35 00:01:46,080 --> 00:01:48,480 Speaker 1: and the person is just like anxiety riddled. I'm just like, 36 00:01:49,000 --> 00:01:49,600 Speaker 1: I'm so sorry. 37 00:01:49,680 --> 00:01:56,560 Speaker 2: I have two big black beautiful labs, bouncy little labs, 38 00:01:56,600 --> 00:02:00,000 Speaker 2: two big black beautiful bouncey. 39 00:02:01,440 --> 00:02:08,680 Speaker 1: It's gone. There's so much alliteration, almost sexual. Oh what's 40 00:02:08,800 --> 00:02:19,120 Speaker 1: happened black? Oh you're gonna hear it from anonymous sixty nine. 41 00:02:19,720 --> 00:02:24,720 Speaker 1: They're gonna be like more laughter, more genuine moments of glee. 42 00:02:24,960 --> 00:02:28,160 Speaker 1: This is bullshit. You're just supposed to say funny things 43 00:02:28,480 --> 00:02:31,079 Speaker 1: like a movie, and no one is to laugh except 44 00:02:31,120 --> 00:02:31,760 Speaker 1: for the audience. 45 00:02:32,520 --> 00:02:36,640 Speaker 2: What my point was when those two beasts, when you 46 00:02:36,639 --> 00:02:39,520 Speaker 2: open the door, those two beasts greet you. It's a 47 00:02:39,560 --> 00:02:42,839 Speaker 2: lot of dog And I didn't grow up with the doghouse, 48 00:02:43,120 --> 00:02:45,200 Speaker 2: so I always feel for people who don't like dogs 49 00:02:45,240 --> 00:02:48,880 Speaker 2: because they look like they're doing like a game of twister, 50 00:02:49,000 --> 00:02:54,040 Speaker 2: but every circle has mud in it. They're like like 51 00:02:54,080 --> 00:02:56,120 Speaker 2: they don't know where to put their limbs, and I'm like, 52 00:02:56,160 --> 00:02:58,600 Speaker 2: I'm so sorry. And I've turned into like Kathy Bates 53 00:02:58,600 --> 00:03:01,560 Speaker 2: in every movie where I'm like out, got out, got 54 00:03:01,600 --> 00:03:04,960 Speaker 2: out out. I need Caesar, I need Caesar. 55 00:03:05,360 --> 00:03:09,359 Speaker 1: Yeah, listen, the dogs. The dogs can really just throw 56 00:03:09,400 --> 00:03:11,880 Speaker 1: a wrench in your schedule, I think. And people just 57 00:03:11,880 --> 00:03:13,880 Speaker 1: aren't planning on a dog. They're not planning on a dog. 58 00:03:13,919 --> 00:03:16,160 Speaker 1: You just are not planning on a dog. They're just 59 00:03:16,200 --> 00:03:20,080 Speaker 1: like I don't know other people's dogs. They do freak 60 00:03:20,120 --> 00:03:21,080 Speaker 1: me out sometimes a little bit. 61 00:03:21,120 --> 00:03:23,920 Speaker 2: Your dogs are cool, But what freaks you out about 62 00:03:23,960 --> 00:03:24,880 Speaker 2: other people's dogs? 63 00:03:25,160 --> 00:03:27,760 Speaker 1: I don't know them. I don't know if they'll bite me. 64 00:03:28,000 --> 00:03:31,160 Speaker 2: I'm just like, yes, okay, I see that. Now. Can 65 00:03:31,240 --> 00:03:34,360 Speaker 2: you read a dog? Can you read when they're happy 66 00:03:34,639 --> 00:03:35,840 Speaker 2: or chill? Or about it time? 67 00:03:35,880 --> 00:03:37,560 Speaker 1: I thought you meant like I thought you meant, like 68 00:03:37,600 --> 00:03:39,240 Speaker 1: put it in this place, like, can you read a dog? 69 00:03:39,680 --> 00:03:40,559 Speaker 1: Can you? 70 00:03:40,600 --> 00:03:42,640 Speaker 2: Can you take that bit to the library and be like, 71 00:03:42,800 --> 00:03:45,080 Speaker 2: who's in charge? What do you even mean? 72 00:03:46,680 --> 00:03:48,920 Speaker 1: I'm readA Maria Maria, Maria read this dog. 73 00:03:49,720 --> 00:03:51,600 Speaker 2: First of all, you'll pause. 74 00:03:56,320 --> 00:03:58,520 Speaker 1: No, I mean like I do pretty well. I just 75 00:03:58,560 --> 00:04:01,560 Speaker 1: like hold my hand out. They're usually very calm around me. 76 00:04:01,600 --> 00:04:03,560 Speaker 2: Oh, you follow all the rules, like you put your 77 00:04:03,760 --> 00:04:06,720 Speaker 2: palm out or whatever, so they can smell you and stuff. 78 00:04:07,280 --> 00:04:08,320 Speaker 1: I'm a friend, I'm a friend. 79 00:04:08,440 --> 00:04:08,680 Speaker 2: Yeah. 80 00:04:08,720 --> 00:04:12,200 Speaker 1: They often smell my dog on me. Sometimes that's cool. 81 00:04:12,280 --> 00:04:14,280 Speaker 1: They're like, all right, cool, this guy's like a dog 82 00:04:14,320 --> 00:04:15,600 Speaker 1: person because I can smell another dog. 83 00:04:15,680 --> 00:04:16,839 Speaker 2: Have you ever been bit by a dog? 84 00:04:17,400 --> 00:04:19,040 Speaker 1: Have I been bit by No? No, I've been scratched 85 00:04:19,040 --> 00:04:20,719 Speaker 1: by a cat. I never bit by a dog. Oh, 86 00:04:20,800 --> 00:04:21,640 Speaker 1: scratched by a cat? 87 00:04:21,839 --> 00:04:22,320 Speaker 2: Yeah. 88 00:04:22,400 --> 00:04:24,960 Speaker 1: I was like, you know what, Misshue cut and your cat. 89 00:04:26,000 --> 00:04:28,880 Speaker 1: We're done. Yeah, And that was it for me and cats. 90 00:04:29,200 --> 00:04:31,320 Speaker 1: It scratched my hand and then just want. 91 00:04:31,560 --> 00:04:33,320 Speaker 2: So it just happened with one cat. You're like, I'm 92 00:04:33,360 --> 00:04:38,719 Speaker 2: good on all cats. It was four oh okay, and 93 00:04:38,760 --> 00:04:40,560 Speaker 2: it scratched my hand and you remember that. 94 00:04:40,920 --> 00:04:43,120 Speaker 1: I think it was like doctor butter Scotch or something 95 00:04:43,160 --> 00:04:44,400 Speaker 1: like that was the name of the cat. And it 96 00:04:44,480 --> 00:04:46,680 Speaker 1: was like I was kind of obsessed with it, and 97 00:04:46,720 --> 00:04:49,000 Speaker 1: I wanted to be my friend. It was like, we're good, 98 00:04:49,360 --> 00:04:51,000 Speaker 1: and then it just took a swipe. 99 00:04:51,160 --> 00:04:51,400 Speaker 3: You know. 100 00:04:52,040 --> 00:04:56,960 Speaker 2: I was scared of animals because my parents didn't like animals, 101 00:04:57,000 --> 00:05:01,120 Speaker 2: so I didn't have like the vocabulary. And Caribbean people 102 00:05:01,200 --> 00:05:05,800 Speaker 2: usually are like they're for outside, you know, they're like 103 00:05:05,880 --> 00:05:09,400 Speaker 2: more security. It's a security they don't belong in your 104 00:05:09,440 --> 00:05:11,960 Speaker 2: better in your hearts or something like. I'm not speaking 105 00:05:12,000 --> 00:05:14,080 Speaker 2: for all Caribbean folks. I'm just talking about my family 106 00:05:14,640 --> 00:05:17,719 Speaker 2: and the handful of dogs that I really got to 107 00:05:17,760 --> 00:05:19,240 Speaker 2: know when I lived in La because La is such 108 00:05:19,279 --> 00:05:22,200 Speaker 2: a dog friendly place. I was like, this is lovely. 109 00:05:22,400 --> 00:05:26,200 Speaker 2: And I have this thing called anxiety now and I 110 00:05:26,200 --> 00:05:31,120 Speaker 2: feel calm when I'm around these animals. And I mean 111 00:05:31,160 --> 00:05:33,400 Speaker 2: I have been bit by a dog. I've been bit 112 00:05:33,480 --> 00:05:35,360 Speaker 2: by two dogs. It was not fun. One of them 113 00:05:35,400 --> 00:05:37,240 Speaker 2: I got chased down when I was six or seven 114 00:05:37,960 --> 00:05:40,360 Speaker 2: coming on the bus. It was a German shepherd. Yeah 115 00:05:40,440 --> 00:05:49,080 Speaker 2: no wait, yeah, okay, wait, king, can we get a shawan? 116 00:05:49,160 --> 00:05:49,280 Speaker 1: Dan? 117 00:05:50,839 --> 00:05:52,000 Speaker 2: I got a post. 118 00:05:52,320 --> 00:05:55,320 Speaker 1: I don't know. There's way too many like cruel German dogs. 119 00:05:55,400 --> 00:05:59,479 Speaker 1: I'm always like, m there's that the rottweiler, the what's 120 00:05:59,480 --> 00:06:02,320 Speaker 1: that one? Both the pincher. 121 00:06:02,279 --> 00:06:04,920 Speaker 2: Rotti's are really just so sweet, though, you know what 122 00:06:05,000 --> 00:06:08,240 Speaker 2: I mean. It's like I will say this, asshole people 123 00:06:08,320 --> 00:06:12,840 Speaker 2: have asshole dogs, asshole people have asshole kids period, Like 124 00:06:13,040 --> 00:06:17,080 Speaker 2: it always comes from the top, right, And so yeah, 125 00:06:17,120 --> 00:06:19,520 Speaker 2: I mean, at least like kids can go off to 126 00:06:19,600 --> 00:06:21,800 Speaker 2: college or get some therapy and figure the shit out. 127 00:06:22,440 --> 00:06:23,200 Speaker 2: Animals can't. 128 00:06:25,120 --> 00:06:28,120 Speaker 1: No. Wait, wait, so you got bit when you were six. 129 00:06:28,360 --> 00:06:31,599 Speaker 2: Yeah, I've been bit twice. The second time I was 130 00:06:31,640 --> 00:06:34,840 Speaker 2: in my twenties, just moved to Manhattan and my neighbor 131 00:06:34,960 --> 00:06:37,279 Speaker 2: had a It was a mix between like a hot 132 00:06:37,320 --> 00:06:39,840 Speaker 2: dog and something else, and he went right from my thigh. 133 00:06:40,000 --> 00:06:42,680 Speaker 2: I said, your dog is biting me right now. This 134 00:06:42,800 --> 00:06:45,000 Speaker 2: is what you know what I mean? And it's like 135 00:06:45,000 --> 00:06:46,679 Speaker 2: you don't want to put your hand around their face 136 00:06:46,800 --> 00:06:50,840 Speaker 2: because my I'm glad. This is so funny. But even cats, 137 00:06:50,960 --> 00:06:53,640 Speaker 2: like you know, just trying to figure out how to 138 00:06:53,880 --> 00:06:56,760 Speaker 2: read animals and how to stay safe is really like 139 00:06:56,920 --> 00:06:59,280 Speaker 2: the way to also figure out how to enjoy them 140 00:06:59,320 --> 00:07:03,400 Speaker 2: and their company. If I'm unsure, I just ignore, I 141 00:07:03,400 --> 00:07:05,640 Speaker 2: don't give them attention. And if I don't feel like 142 00:07:05,680 --> 00:07:08,240 Speaker 2: their owners are doing enough, I asked their owners to 143 00:07:08,279 --> 00:07:08,720 Speaker 2: do more. 144 00:07:08,920 --> 00:07:10,760 Speaker 1: You got to you got to in this economy. 145 00:07:10,880 --> 00:07:13,200 Speaker 2: Yeah, because heis had a cat when I first met him, 146 00:07:13,600 --> 00:07:15,720 Speaker 2: He's had a cat named Who's And I say, you 147 00:07:15,760 --> 00:07:21,680 Speaker 2: better not doctor Seuss and this was all black cat 148 00:07:21,720 --> 00:07:25,160 Speaker 2: were into black animals. And yeah, that cat did not 149 00:07:25,320 --> 00:07:28,320 Speaker 2: like me. He was like, bitch, this is my tumble 150 00:07:28,360 --> 00:07:33,600 Speaker 2: to lay on. That cat did not like me. Eventually 151 00:07:33,800 --> 00:07:35,960 Speaker 2: it warmed to you, or if ever he did warm 152 00:07:36,000 --> 00:07:38,280 Speaker 2: to me. And I did not know that the cat 153 00:07:38,480 --> 00:07:42,080 Speaker 2: liked me because when I came home from wherever, I 154 00:07:42,120 --> 00:07:46,600 Speaker 2: was out shopping in Saddam on my feets and my bike, 155 00:07:47,200 --> 00:07:49,720 Speaker 2: getting some organic whatever the fuck. I came back and 156 00:07:49,720 --> 00:07:52,080 Speaker 2: there was the head of a mouse on my pillow. 157 00:07:52,600 --> 00:07:57,240 Speaker 2: All yeah, and Kais is like, oh, that means he 158 00:07:57,440 --> 00:08:00,560 Speaker 2: likes you. I'll say, you gotta get for sea because 159 00:08:00,800 --> 00:08:01,600 Speaker 2: I'm good on it. 160 00:08:02,960 --> 00:08:08,000 Speaker 1: Yeah, what a wonderful gesture to say, I see you, 161 00:08:08,160 --> 00:08:08,920 Speaker 1: I acknowledge you. 162 00:08:10,120 --> 00:08:11,840 Speaker 2: People oughta is very thoughtful. 163 00:08:12,200 --> 00:08:16,200 Speaker 1: We got to get to our guests though, yesl wow, 164 00:08:16,280 --> 00:08:20,920 Speaker 1: this was really some NAACP Image Award winning material. 165 00:08:23,480 --> 00:08:26,000 Speaker 2: I better see you. I better see you at the 166 00:08:26,040 --> 00:08:30,800 Speaker 2: next award show. Okay, really here saving lives. 167 00:08:31,240 --> 00:08:35,959 Speaker 1: But listen, our guest Wow, a drag race champion among 168 00:08:36,000 --> 00:08:38,400 Speaker 1: other things, Broadway icon as well. 169 00:08:38,720 --> 00:08:40,400 Speaker 2: Don't know if she's a champion. I think she's a 170 00:08:40,480 --> 00:08:44,040 Speaker 2: runner up but things. Yeah, but I love that she's 171 00:08:44,040 --> 00:08:47,640 Speaker 2: a champion in your eyes, she's amazing. She's also on 172 00:08:47,679 --> 00:08:51,640 Speaker 2: my show Survival of the Thicket is coming out on Netflix. 173 00:08:51,880 --> 00:08:54,280 Speaker 2: She's a goddess and I really can't wait for you 174 00:08:54,320 --> 00:08:56,599 Speaker 2: guys to just get into this episode. 175 00:08:56,920 --> 00:09:06,439 Speaker 1: Give it up for okay, Jordan, what. 176 00:09:06,280 --> 00:09:10,280 Speaker 2: I told you? This material is real crazy. I have 177 00:09:10,760 --> 00:09:17,719 Speaker 2: pussy sweat. Were talking, we're saying that. 178 00:09:17,960 --> 00:09:23,240 Speaker 3: Yes something everybody, but this is shortan. 179 00:09:23,000 --> 00:09:24,160 Speaker 1: Carlos, we're out here. 180 00:09:24,600 --> 00:09:27,480 Speaker 4: Can I say something now? Can I say something else? 181 00:09:27,840 --> 00:09:29,080 Speaker 4: Can I say something else? 182 00:09:29,160 --> 00:09:32,520 Speaker 1: Yes? You came, I do to you know? 183 00:09:32,640 --> 00:09:35,160 Speaker 2: This is what happened. This is what happens when you 184 00:09:35,360 --> 00:09:39,480 Speaker 2: just got tick ties that saved lives. Yeah them take 185 00:09:39,559 --> 00:09:43,360 Speaker 2: them tick ties? Can they really do? 186 00:09:44,320 --> 00:09:44,640 Speaker 1: Mary J. 187 00:09:44,800 --> 00:09:47,679 Speaker 2: Blae she knows. This is giving Mary J. Blige the 188 00:09:47,720 --> 00:09:51,560 Speaker 2: Super Bowl last year. And this is what happens when 189 00:09:51,600 --> 00:09:53,800 Speaker 2: you don't wear underwear. I should have like learned. 190 00:09:54,920 --> 00:09:55,480 Speaker 1: Look at them. 191 00:09:55,559 --> 00:09:59,960 Speaker 2: Everyone's like, yes, this you fucked up. Also, there's all 192 00:10:00,000 --> 00:10:03,240 Speaker 2: all these like really great things for fake girls now 193 00:10:03,280 --> 00:10:05,920 Speaker 2: like chafing deodorant for your thighs. 194 00:10:06,320 --> 00:10:09,120 Speaker 1: I have thighs myself, you do, I do? I do 195 00:10:10,760 --> 00:10:11,160 Speaker 1: pretty thin. 196 00:10:12,160 --> 00:10:13,960 Speaker 2: What'd you say this? What'd you say this? 197 00:10:14,360 --> 00:10:17,960 Speaker 1: You need a full side like that. It's like a 198 00:10:18,040 --> 00:10:19,640 Speaker 1: horse's leg. Yeah. 199 00:10:19,960 --> 00:10:22,640 Speaker 2: Is she coming to Thanksgiving talking about the parts of 200 00:10:22,679 --> 00:10:23,120 Speaker 2: the turkey? 201 00:10:23,200 --> 00:10:27,880 Speaker 1: She liked? Yeah, Oh my god. They told me. 202 00:10:28,440 --> 00:10:30,080 Speaker 4: They told me at Brown not to do that, not 203 00:10:30,120 --> 00:10:32,640 Speaker 4: to to break the body down into certain parts. 204 00:10:33,480 --> 00:10:36,280 Speaker 1: That that's objectifying. But thank you. 205 00:10:38,200 --> 00:10:40,640 Speaker 2: I have a question, Jordan. I's for last question. What's 206 00:10:40,679 --> 00:10:44,240 Speaker 2: like Okay, so you are a very straight man. Okay, 207 00:10:44,520 --> 00:10:48,240 Speaker 2: what is or you're saying for like, what is one thing? 208 00:10:49,200 --> 00:10:50,880 Speaker 2: What is one thing in high school, like in the 209 00:10:50,880 --> 00:10:53,080 Speaker 2: locker room that you felt self conscious of or even 210 00:10:53,120 --> 00:10:53,600 Speaker 2: in college? 211 00:10:53,679 --> 00:10:56,520 Speaker 1: Oh my god, I had an oudy belly button A 212 00:10:58,280 --> 00:10:58,840 Speaker 1: not anymore? 213 00:10:59,000 --> 00:11:03,120 Speaker 2: Somebody said, like prove it. Okay, let's not even Moore. 214 00:11:03,160 --> 00:11:09,240 Speaker 1: It's gone. It's gone, now gone, look it's gone. Yeah, 215 00:11:09,280 --> 00:11:13,280 Speaker 1: it's gone. Come on, give me some fight for let's go. 216 00:11:15,200 --> 00:11:18,800 Speaker 2: Welcome to the stage. You know him, you love him 217 00:11:18,960 --> 00:11:22,760 Speaker 2: from adulting and other stuff? Is shortan Edward? 218 00:11:24,000 --> 00:11:24,640 Speaker 1: You want to see this? 219 00:11:25,440 --> 00:11:28,040 Speaker 4: Do you want to see this one path. That's what 220 00:11:28,080 --> 00:11:30,080 Speaker 4: you want to say. Now, do you want to see 221 00:11:30,080 --> 00:11:31,280 Speaker 4: this box wine? 222 00:11:31,600 --> 00:11:34,400 Speaker 2: Let me say gay, Let me see gay, let me say, 223 00:11:34,600 --> 00:11:34,840 Speaker 2: let me. 224 00:11:34,840 --> 00:11:41,560 Speaker 1: Say, let me say, let me say kay. Oh my god, 225 00:11:41,720 --> 00:11:44,520 Speaker 1: it doesn't get that much airtime. 226 00:11:46,200 --> 00:11:48,439 Speaker 2: I love it. People just throwing bit coin on that. 227 00:11:48,520 --> 00:11:53,840 Speaker 4: I know, Jesus, people are really settling out there in 228 00:11:53,880 --> 00:11:54,480 Speaker 4: the real world. 229 00:11:55,120 --> 00:11:58,840 Speaker 1: You're like, look at that hot loaf of stuff. 230 00:11:58,920 --> 00:12:03,800 Speaker 2: Right, Oh, we got one thumb up, one on down? 231 00:12:04,000 --> 00:12:05,880 Speaker 2: What in the gladiator it's going on? 232 00:12:05,960 --> 00:12:10,160 Speaker 1: Bitches? Listen, body brought to you by a twenty pound kettle. 233 00:12:11,720 --> 00:12:15,640 Speaker 2: I love it. I love it. You know who said it? 234 00:12:15,679 --> 00:12:15,880 Speaker 3: Who? 235 00:12:15,920 --> 00:12:19,760 Speaker 2: I don't remember who's I was up like late one night. 236 00:12:19,800 --> 00:12:21,640 Speaker 2: It wasn't even I'm not even on TikTok, but like 237 00:12:21,679 --> 00:12:26,040 Speaker 2: TikTok's on Instagram, so what the fuck? I think it 238 00:12:26,080 --> 00:12:28,040 Speaker 2: was Gabrielle Union and she was like, we get the 239 00:12:28,040 --> 00:12:31,400 Speaker 2: one body, we get the one body, love it? Can 240 00:12:31,440 --> 00:12:34,040 Speaker 2: we just like not beat it up like that? And 241 00:12:34,120 --> 00:12:38,840 Speaker 2: so I started doing these Mayan abdominal massages where you 242 00:12:38,960 --> 00:12:41,640 Speaker 2: massage the tummy in the front because we're always focused 243 00:12:41,679 --> 00:12:44,840 Speaker 2: on the back, right, and we always beat up the front. 244 00:12:45,280 --> 00:12:47,880 Speaker 2: But the frunk's doing what it's gotta do too, Like, 245 00:12:47,960 --> 00:12:48,960 Speaker 2: let's show it some love. 246 00:12:49,160 --> 00:12:50,120 Speaker 1: Absolutely, So I'm like. 247 00:12:50,160 --> 00:12:53,440 Speaker 2: Let's get in there, figure out if she's okay and 248 00:12:53,840 --> 00:13:00,520 Speaker 2: she's good. Yeah, I mean, it's it's a very wild 249 00:13:00,520 --> 00:13:03,280 Speaker 2: place to like hold on to stuff but also be 250 00:13:03,400 --> 00:13:06,679 Speaker 2: very present. But that's how my mind works, you know 251 00:13:06,720 --> 00:13:10,240 Speaker 2: what I mean. So yeah, man, definitely the most adult 252 00:13:10,320 --> 00:13:13,280 Speaker 2: thing for me this year has been like just diving 253 00:13:13,280 --> 00:13:15,480 Speaker 2: into the holistic wellness of it all. 254 00:13:15,600 --> 00:13:17,400 Speaker 1: I didn't know that. I think you were getting into wellness. 255 00:13:18,640 --> 00:13:20,760 Speaker 2: You ain't gotta know everything about me, motherfucking. 256 00:13:21,920 --> 00:13:24,040 Speaker 1: No, that's great. I mean, like, goop it the fuck up. 257 00:13:25,920 --> 00:13:27,280 Speaker 2: No, I'm not gooping it up. 258 00:13:27,360 --> 00:13:28,360 Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't know. 259 00:13:28,400 --> 00:13:31,600 Speaker 2: I'm supporting black owned businesses, trying to figure out what 260 00:13:31,679 --> 00:13:32,240 Speaker 2: my shit is. 261 00:13:32,400 --> 00:13:33,280 Speaker 1: That's what I'm doing. 262 00:13:34,320 --> 00:13:37,040 Speaker 2: I mean, I've never seen so much Palo Santo of 263 00:13:37,080 --> 00:13:38,240 Speaker 2: my whole fucking life. 264 00:13:39,320 --> 00:13:42,840 Speaker 1: But it's okay, is great. It's so cleansing. That's what 265 00:13:42,840 --> 00:13:45,679 Speaker 1: they tell me. I did not know that. So are 266 00:13:45,679 --> 00:13:48,000 Speaker 1: you meditating? Are you what do you? What do you Christian? 267 00:13:48,000 --> 00:13:49,040 Speaker 2: Do you do a little bit of I do a 268 00:13:49,080 --> 00:13:51,080 Speaker 2: little bit of it all? Okay, I'm gonna be honest. 269 00:13:51,120 --> 00:13:53,400 Speaker 2: I do what I can, and I don't beat myself 270 00:13:53,480 --> 00:13:56,040 Speaker 2: up if I can't do it. I'm just like, oh, well, 271 00:13:56,120 --> 00:13:59,520 Speaker 2: that's cool. The dish is done, the meditating, the fucking 272 00:13:59,640 --> 00:14:01,480 Speaker 2: the bill. The bills will get paid when they gotta 273 00:14:01,480 --> 00:14:03,800 Speaker 2: get paid. Like everybody, do you know what I mean? 274 00:14:04,160 --> 00:14:06,520 Speaker 2: Like you want to come. 275 00:14:06,440 --> 00:14:09,880 Speaker 4: Shut the what's that it is? 276 00:14:10,480 --> 00:14:12,600 Speaker 2: Because you can beat yourself up? And like you know, 277 00:14:12,679 --> 00:14:14,480 Speaker 2: it's a rat race. It's just like, why am I 278 00:14:14,559 --> 00:14:19,240 Speaker 2: on the government's time when they're not online? So let 279 00:14:19,240 --> 00:14:20,880 Speaker 2: me do what I gotta do when y'all do what 280 00:14:20,880 --> 00:14:23,480 Speaker 2: the fuck you do it? You know what I mean. 281 00:14:23,720 --> 00:14:26,680 Speaker 2: So I'm not really trying to give it too much 282 00:14:26,800 --> 00:14:29,080 Speaker 2: energy where I'm just like, oh, why in the why 283 00:14:29,080 --> 00:14:31,640 Speaker 2: in the it's it's a fucking lot. And then my 284 00:14:31,720 --> 00:14:36,560 Speaker 2: right eye gets a heartbeat. I'm like, no, not today, Jesus, 285 00:14:36,600 --> 00:14:38,920 Speaker 2: take the wheel and go over the white Stone Bridge. Jesus, 286 00:14:39,000 --> 00:14:42,840 Speaker 2: we're doing it. Also, I saw this thing that this 287 00:14:42,920 --> 00:14:44,760 Speaker 2: is the last thing I'll say, just kidding. It's not 288 00:14:46,760 --> 00:14:50,680 Speaker 2: Gabrielle Union. Let's get her on the show. Somebody asked her, 289 00:14:51,520 --> 00:14:53,600 Speaker 2: what are your tips for staying so young? I looking 290 00:14:53,720 --> 00:15:00,920 Speaker 2: so young. She said water and boundaries. She said, drink 291 00:15:01,000 --> 00:15:04,160 Speaker 2: lots of water and say no a lot, because when 292 00:15:04,200 --> 00:15:06,280 Speaker 2: you say no to bullshit, you say yes to peace 293 00:15:06,320 --> 00:15:06,760 Speaker 2: of mind. 294 00:15:07,280 --> 00:15:10,960 Speaker 1: Yes, it was Robert Frost who said good walls make 295 00:15:11,000 --> 00:15:18,880 Speaker 1: good neighbors. What are you? What the fuck I mean different? 296 00:15:19,880 --> 00:15:23,280 Speaker 2: I don't know either. It's just giving sister act to 297 00:15:23,600 --> 00:15:30,520 Speaker 2: substitute energy. 298 00:15:27,520 --> 00:15:28,040 Speaker 1: More like dead. 299 00:15:28,480 --> 00:15:31,000 Speaker 2: I hope I have enough ketchup for my French fries. 300 00:15:32,480 --> 00:15:35,080 Speaker 1: Listen, you inspire me to think of like poets and 301 00:15:35,120 --> 00:15:38,320 Speaker 1: shit I want you. Don't believe that bullshit. 302 00:15:39,760 --> 00:15:43,200 Speaker 2: Motherfucker is I believe it's a bullshit in his fucking 303 00:15:43,240 --> 00:15:49,520 Speaker 2: foot locker clearance sweatshirts. I am so excited to bring 304 00:15:49,520 --> 00:15:54,160 Speaker 2: our guests out because Wow, she is amazing. She is 305 00:15:54,200 --> 00:15:58,400 Speaker 2: a force. Yes, she lights up a room. It's also 306 00:15:58,520 --> 00:16:01,360 Speaker 2: like what can't she do? She does everything, and she 307 00:16:01,480 --> 00:16:03,920 Speaker 2: does it well. I can't wait to talk to her. 308 00:16:04,040 --> 00:16:08,680 Speaker 1: Broadway Zone Yes, drag Races Zone, Yes, please give it 309 00:16:08,760 --> 00:16:10,600 Speaker 1: up for Pepperman. 310 00:16:28,840 --> 00:16:32,520 Speaker 2: I love you so much, Peppermint. This is John Will, 311 00:16:32,560 --> 00:16:35,880 Speaker 2: the DJ. He's a great friend. So I'm so excited 312 00:16:36,040 --> 00:16:45,160 Speaker 2: because I met Peppermint because as I was filming my 313 00:16:45,200 --> 00:16:51,920 Speaker 2: show Survival of the Thickest for Netflix, uh coming out 314 00:16:52,080 --> 00:16:59,400 Speaker 2: in the summer. I told casting, look, the central perk 315 00:16:59,480 --> 00:17:01,840 Speaker 2: of the show, like the central parking Friends, it's going 316 00:17:01,920 --> 00:17:05,480 Speaker 2: to be a drag a bar restaurant, and I really 317 00:17:06,119 --> 00:17:10,760 Speaker 2: want to find a black trans woman who is not 318 00:17:10,880 --> 00:17:13,239 Speaker 2: afraid to talk about some shit, get down with some 319 00:17:13,280 --> 00:17:17,159 Speaker 2: shit and be hilarious. And Cassiding was like, do you 320 00:17:17,200 --> 00:17:21,960 Speaker 2: know Peppermint. I'm like, she would never do it, And 321 00:17:22,000 --> 00:17:24,239 Speaker 2: then I fully looked you up and you were on 322 00:17:24,320 --> 00:17:26,879 Speaker 2: tour and I was like, she probably won't do it, 323 00:17:26,920 --> 00:17:29,840 Speaker 2: and she probably can't do it. So the fact that 324 00:17:29,960 --> 00:17:33,840 Speaker 2: you were able to do it, and you did such 325 00:17:33,840 --> 00:17:38,800 Speaker 2: an amazing job and you were so fucking funny and 326 00:17:38,920 --> 00:17:44,919 Speaker 2: lovely and warm and even like the biggest, coldest assholes 327 00:17:44,920 --> 00:17:48,320 Speaker 2: on set and there was only two of them. They 328 00:17:48,320 --> 00:17:50,040 Speaker 2: were like, do you think I can get a picture 329 00:17:50,040 --> 00:17:54,600 Speaker 2: of Peppermint? That's what you do for people, two people. 330 00:17:57,359 --> 00:17:59,399 Speaker 2: So thank you for doing my show. 331 00:18:00,080 --> 00:18:05,600 Speaker 5: My gosh, I didn't expect that. I love you well, bitch, 332 00:18:05,640 --> 00:18:07,920 Speaker 5: I'm well, let me get I'll get you right back. 333 00:18:09,440 --> 00:18:10,520 Speaker 2: Let me pour into you. 334 00:18:10,800 --> 00:18:13,880 Speaker 5: I you know, I didn't know what to expect obviously 335 00:18:13,960 --> 00:18:16,320 Speaker 5: I was a fan. Obviously I've seen some of your work, 336 00:18:16,840 --> 00:18:20,080 Speaker 5: and when I got the I won't say what happened 337 00:18:20,080 --> 00:18:21,560 Speaker 5: when I got the call about the show, because I 338 00:18:21,600 --> 00:18:24,040 Speaker 5: was like, what's going on here? First of all, when 339 00:18:24,040 --> 00:18:28,679 Speaker 5: I read the script, I was like, yes, absolutely, the 340 00:18:28,720 --> 00:18:32,960 Speaker 5: conversations that our characters were having together, and then all 341 00:18:33,000 --> 00:18:35,119 Speaker 5: of the other folks in the story and in the show, 342 00:18:35,640 --> 00:18:41,639 Speaker 5: it was like the most inclusive, most affirming atmosphere. And 343 00:18:41,680 --> 00:18:45,840 Speaker 5: then that was behind the camera and also in front 344 00:18:45,880 --> 00:18:47,520 Speaker 5: of the camera. So I'm just so grateful to be 345 00:18:47,520 --> 00:18:49,359 Speaker 5: a part of something like this. I believe in it 346 00:18:49,560 --> 00:18:53,200 Speaker 5: so hard. Y'all have never seen a show like this. 347 00:18:53,760 --> 00:18:55,400 Speaker 1: So set it's pretty good. 348 00:18:55,720 --> 00:18:56,680 Speaker 2: It's a pretty good show. 349 00:18:57,359 --> 00:19:00,640 Speaker 5: So when the thing, when the Reminder comes out, Netflix, 350 00:19:00,720 --> 00:19:02,720 Speaker 5: you better I will come to each and every we 351 00:19:02,840 --> 00:19:03,360 Speaker 5: have the cat. 352 00:19:03,880 --> 00:19:06,360 Speaker 1: I will come to your house. I love it. 353 00:19:06,520 --> 00:19:07,080 Speaker 2: I love it. 354 00:19:07,160 --> 00:19:07,560 Speaker 1: Thank you. 355 00:19:07,560 --> 00:19:10,160 Speaker 2: You're amazing. Like, look, Jordan was able to do a cameo, 356 00:19:10,240 --> 00:19:14,840 Speaker 2: which is dopey. There's a big party for the season finale. 357 00:19:15,000 --> 00:19:17,160 Speaker 2: Don was able to be on the show and play 358 00:19:17,240 --> 00:19:20,679 Speaker 2: the DJ. When I tell you, like, you know, you 359 00:19:20,760 --> 00:19:22,840 Speaker 2: have creative people in your life for a reason. So 360 00:19:22,880 --> 00:19:25,439 Speaker 2: why the fuck not you know, casting, or just like, 361 00:19:25,440 --> 00:19:28,200 Speaker 2: how about you work with this person? You're like, that's cool. 362 00:19:28,320 --> 00:19:30,320 Speaker 2: How about I work with a friend that's also talented? 363 00:19:30,960 --> 00:19:33,399 Speaker 2: Do you know what I mean? And it's just like, man, 364 00:19:33,480 --> 00:19:36,520 Speaker 2: we are only stronger together. So and I see this 365 00:19:36,560 --> 00:19:39,159 Speaker 2: all the time. Somebody else's success will never fuck up yours, 366 00:19:39,440 --> 00:19:45,199 Speaker 2: So just do it together. We're okay now that we 367 00:19:45,200 --> 00:19:46,480 Speaker 2: got the wedding speech out. 368 00:19:46,320 --> 00:19:48,359 Speaker 1: Of the way, it's beautiful. 369 00:19:53,840 --> 00:19:58,640 Speaker 2: Okay, So you just started working with GLAD, Glad Glad. 370 00:19:58,680 --> 00:19:59,800 Speaker 1: What you said Aladdin? 371 00:20:00,119 --> 00:20:03,040 Speaker 2: Oh my god are the lad Oh my gosh, that 372 00:20:03,080 --> 00:20:06,879 Speaker 2: would be fire. 373 00:20:06,720 --> 00:20:10,120 Speaker 1: Through the new jats. But on a Laddin, I can 374 00:20:10,160 --> 00:20:10,760 Speaker 1: show you. 375 00:20:11,040 --> 00:20:16,520 Speaker 5: Okay, Yes, I actually join the board of GLAD, So 376 00:20:16,560 --> 00:20:19,720 Speaker 5: I don't technically work for GLAD. I volunteer for GLAD, 377 00:20:20,080 --> 00:20:22,640 Speaker 5: and I'm on the board of directors, the national Board 378 00:20:22,640 --> 00:20:25,520 Speaker 5: of Directors, which means we have the opportunity to sort 379 00:20:25,560 --> 00:20:30,919 Speaker 5: of connect community and need and opportunity and funding with 380 00:20:31,119 --> 00:20:33,800 Speaker 5: their vision. And there's there's a lot of things to 381 00:20:33,840 --> 00:20:38,679 Speaker 5: see in the vision currently of basically advancing opportunities for 382 00:20:38,800 --> 00:20:45,200 Speaker 5: LGBTQ folks and making sure that representation that we see 383 00:20:45,200 --> 00:20:47,760 Speaker 5: in the media is accurate, not only just like a 384 00:20:47,800 --> 00:20:50,320 Speaker 5: gay character on a show, but making sure that all 385 00:20:50,359 --> 00:20:54,320 Speaker 5: across the media landscape, that there's fair representation in commercials, 386 00:20:54,720 --> 00:20:58,600 Speaker 5: in all types of advertising and music industry, just all 387 00:20:58,640 --> 00:21:01,520 Speaker 5: over the place. And so that's what I do with GLAD. 388 00:21:01,960 --> 00:21:05,439 Speaker 5: I also work as an ambassador to transjustice with the 389 00:21:05,480 --> 00:21:09,560 Speaker 5: ACLU GLAD or the Yes glad er the individuals to 390 00:21:09,720 --> 00:21:12,400 Speaker 5: our helping shape the landscape in terms of what we 391 00:21:12,480 --> 00:21:15,760 Speaker 5: see and hear about queer folks and making sure it's 392 00:21:15,800 --> 00:21:18,679 Speaker 5: as intersectional as possible. And then the ACLU are the 393 00:21:18,720 --> 00:21:20,639 Speaker 5: ones who go and sue motherfuckers who try to do 394 00:21:20,720 --> 00:21:21,120 Speaker 5: us wrong. 395 00:21:22,560 --> 00:21:23,480 Speaker 1: Gise my language. 396 00:21:24,440 --> 00:21:29,360 Speaker 2: I thought that, yeah, I mean, Jordan and I were 397 00:21:29,400 --> 00:21:31,600 Speaker 2: just talking about it, and we're like, what is happening 398 00:21:31,960 --> 00:21:36,960 Speaker 2: in America? Because almost every state has a ridiculous, a 399 00:21:37,119 --> 00:21:41,160 Speaker 2: ridiculous anti drag and trans law that they I mean, 400 00:21:41,400 --> 00:21:41,800 Speaker 2: that are. 401 00:21:42,080 --> 00:21:46,200 Speaker 1: It's the usual suspects. It's the usual suspects, I mean, 402 00:21:46,560 --> 00:21:48,520 Speaker 1: And I don't want to speak on it too much, 403 00:21:48,560 --> 00:21:51,280 Speaker 1: but like I noticed that in Arkansas was an exceptional 404 00:21:51,320 --> 00:21:53,840 Speaker 1: case because what really is behind it? You know, not 405 00:21:53,880 --> 00:21:57,879 Speaker 1: only are you're you're exploiting children you're exploring children by 406 00:21:57,880 --> 00:21:59,879 Speaker 1: saying you're protecting them. That was the same thing that 407 00:22:00,080 --> 00:22:03,040 Speaker 1: zone the war on drugs, prohibition, you name it, right, 408 00:22:03,280 --> 00:22:06,320 Speaker 1: use the children, use the children to punish a certain 409 00:22:06,600 --> 00:22:10,040 Speaker 1: group or demo. Right, So now trans people are the target. 410 00:22:10,600 --> 00:22:13,000 Speaker 1: And what you didn't see it, that's signing that Sarah 411 00:22:13,040 --> 00:22:16,439 Speaker 1: Huckabee did was that in Arkansas. She also lowered the 412 00:22:16,640 --> 00:22:20,920 Speaker 1: age that children can work legally in Arkansas. Oh oh 413 00:22:20,960 --> 00:22:23,240 Speaker 1: that part was left out right. So do you see 414 00:22:23,240 --> 00:22:26,480 Speaker 1: how sly they are? Yeah, And it's the same states, 415 00:22:26,480 --> 00:22:29,000 Speaker 1: the ones with the high infant mortality rates, the ones 416 00:22:29,000 --> 00:22:32,240 Speaker 1: with the high imprisonment rates, Like, it's the same shit 417 00:22:32,560 --> 00:22:33,680 Speaker 1: different toilet. 418 00:22:33,359 --> 00:22:37,720 Speaker 5: The ones with the how the ones with ironically are 419 00:22:37,760 --> 00:22:40,960 Speaker 5: not so much. The ones with the highest search results 420 00:22:40,960 --> 00:22:46,600 Speaker 5: for transgender porn are the states that are outlining access 421 00:22:46,680 --> 00:22:52,360 Speaker 5: to healthcare, housing, education, employment for queer folks and obviously 422 00:22:52,400 --> 00:22:55,480 Speaker 5: specifically trans folks. But when you said it's the usual suspects, 423 00:22:55,520 --> 00:22:58,480 Speaker 5: it's literally the usual suspects. It's the same exact architect 424 00:22:58,760 --> 00:23:03,479 Speaker 5: behind the effort to quote protect young children from what 425 00:23:03,520 --> 00:23:05,200 Speaker 5: they're calling trans ideology. 426 00:23:05,680 --> 00:23:06,879 Speaker 1: It's these same people. 427 00:23:06,920 --> 00:23:09,840 Speaker 5: It's the same exact architect Christopher Rufo is his name, Yes, 428 00:23:09,840 --> 00:23:11,240 Speaker 5: I will say his name, Christopher. 429 00:23:10,920 --> 00:23:12,480 Speaker 2: Rue Christopher rufol Come get it. 430 00:23:12,480 --> 00:23:16,560 Speaker 5: It's also the same person who's dismantling the accurate history 431 00:23:16,560 --> 00:23:20,600 Speaker 5: of black people in this country through education, taking anything 432 00:23:20,640 --> 00:23:23,040 Speaker 5: that has to do with the accurate representation of black 433 00:23:23,080 --> 00:23:25,560 Speaker 5: folks in this country as we're connected to our history, 434 00:23:25,720 --> 00:23:28,679 Speaker 5: and calling it quote see RT critical race theory. 435 00:23:28,840 --> 00:23:31,359 Speaker 1: It's his idea. He laid out the planning. 436 00:23:31,400 --> 00:23:33,200 Speaker 5: He said, I'm going to do abortion, I'm going to 437 00:23:33,240 --> 00:23:34,840 Speaker 5: do critical race theory, and I'm going to do the 438 00:23:34,880 --> 00:23:36,760 Speaker 5: trans folks, and we're going to get them all. And 439 00:23:36,840 --> 00:23:39,800 Speaker 5: what this does is, aside from attacking us and attacking 440 00:23:39,840 --> 00:23:42,840 Speaker 5: our humanity, it is an attempt to dehumanize us. But 441 00:23:43,000 --> 00:23:45,639 Speaker 5: what it really I think the real goal, like you said, 442 00:23:46,080 --> 00:23:50,119 Speaker 5: is to disenfranchise these people, to disenfranchise queer people and 443 00:23:50,280 --> 00:23:53,320 Speaker 5: women and separate us from as Patamo was saying, separating 444 00:23:53,359 --> 00:23:56,480 Speaker 5: us from our bodily autonomy, separating us, criminalizing us so 445 00:23:56,520 --> 00:23:59,040 Speaker 5: that we can't vote, and then they can pass all 446 00:23:59,080 --> 00:24:02,360 Speaker 5: these things through. They don't have to have a distraction anymore. 447 00:24:02,400 --> 00:24:04,440 Speaker 5: Once they do that. Yeah, we gotta fight. 448 00:24:04,840 --> 00:24:10,159 Speaker 2: Yeah, we gotta fight for me I always like, I 449 00:24:10,200 --> 00:24:15,560 Speaker 2: always like to obviously vote, like do the things I 450 00:24:15,600 --> 00:24:19,200 Speaker 2: have to do, but you know, be responsible with my words, 451 00:24:19,760 --> 00:24:22,320 Speaker 2: my voice, my power, my audience, my stage right. And 452 00:24:22,400 --> 00:24:26,520 Speaker 2: so when it hits the arts and people are making 453 00:24:26,840 --> 00:24:31,720 Speaker 2: millions of dollars for hate speech, millions of dollars punching down, 454 00:24:32,960 --> 00:24:37,240 Speaker 2: you know, female comedians don't even make what they pay 455 00:24:37,280 --> 00:24:41,359 Speaker 2: in taxes for these specials. And we are trying to 456 00:24:41,480 --> 00:24:43,440 Speaker 2: not only be funnier than most of the motherfuckers in 457 00:24:43,440 --> 00:24:48,760 Speaker 2: the room. Dare I say, winning awards for shit that 458 00:24:48,880 --> 00:24:54,359 Speaker 2: no one else has won, And it's just like the 459 00:24:54,560 --> 00:24:57,359 Speaker 2: right people need to hear it. 460 00:24:57,880 --> 00:24:58,080 Speaker 6: Right. 461 00:24:58,760 --> 00:25:01,280 Speaker 2: Sometimes it does feel like screen in a dark room, 462 00:25:01,440 --> 00:25:05,080 Speaker 2: no matter what platform you're on. But be responsible with 463 00:25:05,119 --> 00:25:08,600 Speaker 2: your words, no matter what, because you have to sleep 464 00:25:08,680 --> 00:25:11,479 Speaker 2: at night, you have to look at yourself in the mirror. 465 00:25:11,560 --> 00:25:13,840 Speaker 2: And it's just like, if we only just took five 466 00:25:13,840 --> 00:25:16,399 Speaker 2: minutes to think about what it's like for someone that 467 00:25:16,440 --> 00:25:19,720 Speaker 2: doesn't look like us, then the world, I think would 468 00:25:19,760 --> 00:25:28,400 Speaker 2: be a better place. Okay, now let's talk about dating. 469 00:25:30,240 --> 00:25:31,280 Speaker 1: I fucking knew it. 470 00:25:31,440 --> 00:25:35,240 Speaker 2: I knew it. Let's talk about dating. The cheapest date 471 00:25:35,320 --> 00:25:36,840 Speaker 2: you've ever been on, go. 472 00:25:38,320 --> 00:25:40,720 Speaker 1: Okay, a cheap motherfucker. 473 00:25:40,800 --> 00:25:43,679 Speaker 5: I was worried about this conversation, but probably not for 474 00:25:43,680 --> 00:25:47,080 Speaker 5: the reason you think, you know. Honestly, as a queer 475 00:25:47,080 --> 00:25:50,880 Speaker 5: person and as a trans woman, my connection to dating 476 00:25:51,080 --> 00:25:54,440 Speaker 5: and like sexuality came at a different time than it 477 00:25:54,480 --> 00:25:57,280 Speaker 5: probably would have had a grown up as this gender 478 00:25:57,320 --> 00:26:01,320 Speaker 5: and heterosexual. I didn't even really start becoming sexually active 479 00:26:01,840 --> 00:26:06,240 Speaker 5: until way in my almost thirties, and I don't think 480 00:26:06,280 --> 00:26:08,720 Speaker 5: i'd ever been on a date until I was like 481 00:26:08,800 --> 00:26:13,040 Speaker 5: in my mid thirties, and so most of my connections 482 00:26:13,080 --> 00:26:15,000 Speaker 5: were like through, Where are you going, bitch? I know, 483 00:26:16,800 --> 00:26:21,879 Speaker 5: not the front row. You better be getting a trade. Okay, okay, 484 00:26:22,119 --> 00:26:24,880 Speaker 5: she's like a date. 485 00:26:26,400 --> 00:26:27,840 Speaker 2: That's gonna go get you a date. 486 00:26:27,960 --> 00:26:29,400 Speaker 1: That's where she goes. 487 00:26:29,880 --> 00:26:33,880 Speaker 2: I know somebody. I'll be right back, you know how 488 00:26:33,960 --> 00:26:37,880 Speaker 2: Forrest Cump just keeps running through. That's what she doing. 489 00:26:38,720 --> 00:26:43,080 Speaker 1: But go ahead, girl, bring me back, walk too, Go now, 490 00:26:43,320 --> 00:26:45,240 Speaker 1: you gotta go now. No, it's okay, it's okay. A 491 00:26:45,359 --> 00:26:49,880 Speaker 1: diet coke, It's okay. Do you want to you want 492 00:26:49,880 --> 00:26:50,840 Speaker 1: a wedge of anything in that? 493 00:26:51,080 --> 00:26:53,840 Speaker 2: Do you want like a diet coke and a rotistory 494 00:26:53,880 --> 00:26:54,359 Speaker 2: chicken for me? 495 00:26:54,359 --> 00:27:01,960 Speaker 1: Thinking yea, anyway, so teas chief dates. I'm a chief date. 496 00:27:03,160 --> 00:27:09,359 Speaker 1: I think, okay, this is we're gonna but cheap dates. 497 00:27:10,240 --> 00:27:12,280 Speaker 1: So it didn't have any conventional dates, right, Can I. 498 00:27:12,240 --> 00:27:14,639 Speaker 2: Just say tell me there's a lot of power to 499 00:27:15,160 --> 00:27:18,120 Speaker 2: dating in your mid thirties, because wow, you're not gonna 500 00:27:18,119 --> 00:27:21,200 Speaker 2: fuck around well bullshit so quick? Do you know what 501 00:27:21,280 --> 00:27:25,119 Speaker 2: I mean? Because because I grew up like maybe a 502 00:27:25,160 --> 00:27:30,000 Speaker 2: little too fast, and so getting cheated on like at 503 00:27:30,040 --> 00:27:33,080 Speaker 2: seventeen and at nineteen and at twenty two broke my 504 00:27:33,160 --> 00:27:35,600 Speaker 2: heart and I was like fucked up about it. If 505 00:27:35,640 --> 00:27:37,920 Speaker 2: I didn't date some like I was in my thirties, 506 00:27:38,000 --> 00:27:42,600 Speaker 2: I would read a motherfucker like like a government library, 507 00:27:42,680 --> 00:27:47,280 Speaker 2: you understand, like it would be open three hours a day. 508 00:27:47,480 --> 00:27:52,200 Speaker 2: But oh boy, fair enough, it's true read I'm or read, 509 00:27:52,240 --> 00:27:54,760 Speaker 2: I'm a read. Okay. 510 00:27:54,880 --> 00:27:57,920 Speaker 5: From that same in that same regard, I meet dating 511 00:27:57,920 --> 00:28:01,639 Speaker 5: in my thirties allowed me to date more as my 512 00:28:02,040 --> 00:28:03,080 Speaker 5: true self. 513 00:28:03,400 --> 00:28:06,480 Speaker 1: You know, and thank you. 514 00:28:06,960 --> 00:28:09,399 Speaker 5: And so you know, for me, that meant being in 515 00:28:09,440 --> 00:28:13,560 Speaker 5: the body that I wanted, feeling good about that, and 516 00:28:13,560 --> 00:28:15,600 Speaker 5: and you know, knowing that the people that I was 517 00:28:15,920 --> 00:28:19,199 Speaker 5: drawn to were drawn to me, and everything that I 518 00:28:19,280 --> 00:28:22,919 Speaker 5: was offering, and I tried before at different stages, and 519 00:28:22,960 --> 00:28:25,399 Speaker 5: it just it never worked. Like gays were like girl, no, 520 00:28:27,160 --> 00:28:33,040 Speaker 5: I was like okay. So dating in my thirties it 521 00:28:33,080 --> 00:28:36,120 Speaker 5: was a lot. And there's a lot of bs that 522 00:28:37,040 --> 00:28:39,240 Speaker 5: trans people go through. I mean a lot of this 523 00:28:39,280 --> 00:28:42,120 Speaker 5: stuff is connected to what we're seeing already, like you know, 524 00:28:42,400 --> 00:28:45,840 Speaker 5: in the world, so it naturally carries over into the 525 00:28:45,920 --> 00:28:48,640 Speaker 5: dating world a lot of shame. And so if you 526 00:28:48,720 --> 00:28:51,280 Speaker 5: happen to hear of a celebrity, because that's what you'll 527 00:28:51,320 --> 00:28:54,640 Speaker 5: hear about who happens to be dating a trans woman, like, 528 00:28:54,840 --> 00:28:58,640 Speaker 5: just don't feed into the online like transphobia sort of 529 00:28:58,680 --> 00:29:01,160 Speaker 5: homophobia of it all. Well, if you hear of a 530 00:29:01,200 --> 00:29:04,120 Speaker 5: guy dating a trans woman, don't feed into it, because 531 00:29:04,520 --> 00:29:06,720 Speaker 5: dating a trans woman does not make him gay. That's 532 00:29:06,840 --> 00:29:09,400 Speaker 5: really important for everybody to know. That's the kind of 533 00:29:09,400 --> 00:29:10,680 Speaker 5: stuff that I've had to deal with. So when I 534 00:29:10,720 --> 00:29:13,320 Speaker 5: was swiping on like all the dating apps and stuff, 535 00:29:13,320 --> 00:29:16,440 Speaker 5: trying to break into the dating scene, I was dealing 536 00:29:16,440 --> 00:29:18,800 Speaker 5: with a lot of you know, like your account's been 537 00:29:18,840 --> 00:29:22,360 Speaker 5: banned because people are reporting you because you're trans and 538 00:29:22,400 --> 00:29:23,440 Speaker 5: they don't think you belong in this. 539 00:29:23,440 --> 00:29:25,640 Speaker 1: Space, and so once I was able to get through 540 00:29:25,720 --> 00:29:28,480 Speaker 1: I know, or once I was able to get through 541 00:29:28,520 --> 00:29:37,400 Speaker 1: all of that, I fell in love and and then 542 00:29:37,400 --> 00:29:41,800 Speaker 1: he broke my heart. He cheated on me. Wait, okay, this. 543 00:29:41,880 --> 00:29:46,120 Speaker 7: Was a cheap date. I met him, God damn it. 544 00:29:49,280 --> 00:29:58,160 Speaker 7: I met him on Facebook. Was in Tunisia. Yes, no, 545 00:29:58,560 --> 00:30:00,000 Speaker 7: they were all rooting for you. 546 00:30:00,040 --> 00:30:02,200 Speaker 1: It is I know he might as What's worse, he 547 00:30:02,240 --> 00:30:03,040 Speaker 1: was from Boston. 548 00:30:03,600 --> 00:30:06,320 Speaker 2: Oh center. 549 00:30:07,400 --> 00:30:09,800 Speaker 1: He ended up cheating on me with my with one 550 00:30:09,800 --> 00:30:12,240 Speaker 1: of my best friends. We were hold up. He double 551 00:30:12,320 --> 00:30:13,280 Speaker 1: timed both of us. 552 00:30:13,640 --> 00:30:16,240 Speaker 5: Girl, I saw him commenting on her Facebook page and 553 00:30:16,280 --> 00:30:17,880 Speaker 5: I was like, oh my gosh, and I called her. 554 00:30:17,920 --> 00:30:19,360 Speaker 5: I was like, girl, do you know so and so? 555 00:30:19,720 --> 00:30:21,320 Speaker 5: And she's like, I know so and so. And suddenly 556 00:30:21,320 --> 00:30:24,040 Speaker 5: it was like the boy is mine started music. 557 00:30:25,640 --> 00:30:27,120 Speaker 1: Don't you tell me to get. 558 00:30:29,040 --> 00:30:31,080 Speaker 2: What were you Monica? 559 00:30:31,600 --> 00:30:35,640 Speaker 5: I was Monica, don't sell yourself. Yeah, because he left me. 560 00:30:35,760 --> 00:30:37,320 Speaker 5: I don't really know who won in the song, but 561 00:30:37,600 --> 00:30:42,040 Speaker 5: he left me. They both did nobody. He left me, 562 00:30:42,080 --> 00:30:44,640 Speaker 5: He denied me, He broke my heart. She dumped him too. 563 00:30:44,800 --> 00:30:46,680 Speaker 5: We were all over it, but oh my god, it 564 00:30:46,720 --> 00:30:48,240 Speaker 5: was it was honestly the catalyst. 565 00:30:48,320 --> 00:30:49,120 Speaker 1: That was the thing. 566 00:30:49,160 --> 00:30:52,400 Speaker 5: That was that moment that I was like, okay, I'm 567 00:30:52,440 --> 00:30:55,040 Speaker 5: done with the BS, and so I was able to 568 00:30:55,040 --> 00:30:56,680 Speaker 5: be done with it. And I've had some other hiccups 569 00:30:56,680 --> 00:30:59,280 Speaker 5: along the way, but the last time I had my 570 00:30:59,320 --> 00:31:01,440 Speaker 5: heart broke and I turned it into an album and 571 00:31:01,480 --> 00:31:02,680 Speaker 5: a tour and. 572 00:31:02,640 --> 00:31:07,240 Speaker 1: So you know, put my tailor on. Do that te Swift. 573 00:31:07,440 --> 00:31:11,880 Speaker 2: I love it. You better pour your your fucking fucking 574 00:31:12,160 --> 00:31:16,360 Speaker 2: experience in your work. Thank you everyone. I was really 575 00:31:16,400 --> 00:31:18,160 Speaker 2: trying to read and get a thing. I was like, 576 00:31:18,160 --> 00:31:20,200 Speaker 2: what am I? Why am I doing three things at 577 00:31:20,240 --> 00:31:20,960 Speaker 2: the same time? 578 00:31:21,240 --> 00:31:22,200 Speaker 1: Is it time for questions? 579 00:31:22,280 --> 00:31:26,400 Speaker 2: It is time for questions? Okay, please expand on what 580 00:31:26,640 --> 00:31:29,240 Speaker 2: is the deal with bonnets and hairnuts on airplanes? 581 00:31:34,040 --> 00:31:35,080 Speaker 1: Please expand? 582 00:31:35,360 --> 00:31:36,240 Speaker 2: Show yourself? 583 00:31:37,320 --> 00:31:38,440 Speaker 1: Who is it? 584 00:31:38,560 --> 00:31:40,000 Speaker 2: You? 585 00:31:40,040 --> 00:31:41,560 Speaker 1: What a cultural thing? 586 00:31:42,680 --> 00:31:46,520 Speaker 5: Excuse me? Excuse me? What what you got to say? 587 00:31:46,720 --> 00:31:47,160 Speaker 5: This one? 588 00:31:47,200 --> 00:31:51,520 Speaker 1: Right here? Stand this okay? 589 00:31:51,880 --> 00:31:56,480 Speaker 5: Okay, who's black on black crime? 590 00:31:56,560 --> 00:32:01,080 Speaker 1: Must see right now, must right now? Please leave the room. 591 00:32:01,080 --> 00:32:05,000 Speaker 1: We gotta have a conversation. We can't do it right now. 592 00:32:05,360 --> 00:32:08,720 Speaker 2: Okay, this this, this is what I'll say. Depends on 593 00:32:08,760 --> 00:32:14,440 Speaker 2: the airline, depends on my seat, depends if it's it's 594 00:32:14,480 --> 00:32:16,960 Speaker 2: not spirit. I'm not even gonna show up. But anything 595 00:32:16,960 --> 00:32:19,640 Speaker 2: with the zipper like you gotta funck that you don't 596 00:32:19,680 --> 00:32:23,719 Speaker 2: deserve it. Fuck United, they killed the dog. They can 597 00:32:23,800 --> 00:32:24,240 Speaker 2: fuck off. 598 00:32:24,760 --> 00:32:26,280 Speaker 1: Delta, Delta, Delta. 599 00:32:26,400 --> 00:32:28,240 Speaker 2: If I'm in first plus. 600 00:32:28,040 --> 00:32:29,959 Speaker 1: Girl, you can do any you can change your clothes. 601 00:32:31,920 --> 00:32:34,200 Speaker 2: And if i'm look, you know what it is because 602 00:32:34,240 --> 00:32:37,280 Speaker 2: all these old white men just fucking spread and eat 603 00:32:37,280 --> 00:32:41,280 Speaker 2: with their mouth open and far and yon shoes off 604 00:32:41,360 --> 00:32:44,360 Speaker 2: and ship. Can I just protect my fucking edges? I 605 00:32:44,360 --> 00:32:46,320 Speaker 2: don't know what the funk just happened on the seat 606 00:32:46,360 --> 00:32:51,440 Speaker 2: before me. Plus, if it's an overnight, fuck that, give 607 00:32:51,480 --> 00:32:55,120 Speaker 2: me my shitty red wine with my fucking bonnet, any 608 00:32:55,160 --> 00:32:58,680 Speaker 2: fucking deck plus and I will only watch the woman 609 00:32:58,800 --> 00:32:59,880 Speaker 2: king over and over. 610 00:32:59,720 --> 00:33:08,680 Speaker 1: Again, open start started. Oh my gosh, look at that. 611 00:33:08,760 --> 00:33:15,680 Speaker 6: Yes, cheers to toasting, to toasting, to toasting. Yeah, come on, man, 612 00:33:16,200 --> 00:33:19,120 Speaker 6: I'm just like, look, I have a pet peeve with 613 00:33:19,120 --> 00:33:22,000 Speaker 6: people that lick your fingers and take a pillow on 614 00:33:22,040 --> 00:33:22,760 Speaker 6: an airplane. 615 00:33:23,920 --> 00:33:25,280 Speaker 2: Take a pillow on an airplane? 616 00:33:25,440 --> 00:33:27,040 Speaker 5: Can you take a pillow air Oh don't bring a 617 00:33:27,040 --> 00:33:28,560 Speaker 5: pillow from pillow from home. 618 00:33:28,720 --> 00:33:30,480 Speaker 2: No, that's. 619 00:33:31,640 --> 00:33:33,360 Speaker 1: Especially the saddest pillow you ever see. 620 00:33:33,400 --> 00:33:37,360 Speaker 2: This sad pill that's the fun. It's just like this 621 00:33:37,520 --> 00:33:42,840 Speaker 2: isn't camping, bitch, so four hour flight, pack a pillow 622 00:33:43,400 --> 00:33:45,440 Speaker 2: or stay home? What do you need a Blankye? 623 00:33:46,440 --> 00:33:47,920 Speaker 1: They have pillows on the plane. 624 00:33:48,320 --> 00:33:49,440 Speaker 2: They got pillows on the plane. 625 00:33:49,800 --> 00:33:53,200 Speaker 1: Well not always or whatever? Yeah, okay, I mean okay, yeah, 626 00:33:53,240 --> 00:33:54,360 Speaker 1: hold us asleep? 627 00:33:54,880 --> 00:33:55,920 Speaker 2: What the fuck are you saying? 628 00:33:55,960 --> 00:33:57,160 Speaker 1: Asleep? Sleeping bag? 629 00:33:58,320 --> 00:33:59,600 Speaker 2: You take a bitch? 630 00:33:59,680 --> 00:33:59,960 Speaker 1: You too? 631 00:34:00,200 --> 00:34:00,720 Speaker 3: You brought. 632 00:34:02,120 --> 00:34:04,040 Speaker 1: Along? What's the flame? Where were you going to the moon? 633 00:34:04,200 --> 00:34:06,640 Speaker 1: Who hurts you? 634 00:34:07,080 --> 00:34:09,400 Speaker 2: Cold? Bitch? You are knee make have a skirts? Taking 635 00:34:09,440 --> 00:34:11,000 Speaker 2: some fucking yeah. 636 00:34:11,080 --> 00:34:14,319 Speaker 4: I love the time where I wish I had a 637 00:34:14,400 --> 00:34:18,319 Speaker 4: Coleman kind of like, you know, caterpillar sleeping bag. 638 00:34:19,719 --> 00:34:21,800 Speaker 2: I like this question. How do you learn to argue 639 00:34:21,800 --> 00:34:25,680 Speaker 2: with your partner? It depends if they're taking a sleeping bag. 640 00:34:27,480 --> 00:34:29,919 Speaker 1: You're not ringing a sleeping bag. We got unrolling roller. 641 00:34:29,960 --> 00:34:33,960 Speaker 1: Every time we go through security. I never got to 642 00:34:33,960 --> 00:34:35,839 Speaker 1: get the air out. She didn't get in the little bag. 643 00:34:36,000 --> 00:34:39,120 Speaker 2: She said, it's so cold. Bring a sweatshirt. 644 00:34:39,160 --> 00:34:43,480 Speaker 1: I don't want to stop flying across the hold. 645 00:34:43,560 --> 00:34:44,520 Speaker 2: You need irons. 646 00:34:44,920 --> 00:34:49,279 Speaker 1: It's literally a rolled up comforter. Yeah that's true. 647 00:34:51,480 --> 00:34:52,280 Speaker 2: How do you argue? 648 00:34:53,120 --> 00:34:54,160 Speaker 1: How do you argue with someone. 649 00:34:54,280 --> 00:34:57,240 Speaker 2: Yeah, No, that's important because you're gonna argue with somebody 650 00:34:57,280 --> 00:35:01,080 Speaker 2: and you should really learn how to do it. Yeah, 651 00:35:01,080 --> 00:35:02,000 Speaker 2: you should be productive. 652 00:35:02,080 --> 00:35:04,320 Speaker 1: Thank you every Yes, my wife and I don't fight. 653 00:35:04,520 --> 00:35:08,799 Speaker 1: We are sparring partners. That's who we are. If you 654 00:35:09,040 --> 00:35:12,600 Speaker 1: if she's like people from yes, people from Brooklyn, their 655 00:35:12,600 --> 00:35:16,880 Speaker 1: love language is argument, and my wife is from Brooklyn. 656 00:35:16,960 --> 00:35:19,560 Speaker 1: So everything, every every day, it's just like, no, the 657 00:35:19,560 --> 00:35:22,120 Speaker 1: Pacific Ocean is greater than the Atlantic folk. You you know, 658 00:35:22,280 --> 00:35:26,520 Speaker 1: like it's just about. It's just spa. You square up, 659 00:35:26,800 --> 00:35:29,080 Speaker 1: you spar about ideas, You spar about ideas. You keep 660 00:35:29,080 --> 00:35:33,840 Speaker 1: it spicy, spar spar nobody gets hurt. You wear headgear. 661 00:35:35,800 --> 00:35:38,080 Speaker 2: I mean, we've talked about this before. The most important thing, 662 00:35:38,160 --> 00:35:43,520 Speaker 2: too is let somebody finish. Let somebody finish and really 663 00:35:43,560 --> 00:35:45,640 Speaker 2: think about what you want to say. This isn't a competition. 664 00:35:45,840 --> 00:35:47,680 Speaker 2: You don't have to be like yeah, but yeah, but 665 00:35:48,000 --> 00:35:49,600 Speaker 2: I mean that could happen once in a while. But 666 00:35:49,640 --> 00:35:51,640 Speaker 2: once you're like in your thirties and your forties and 667 00:35:51,760 --> 00:35:54,839 Speaker 2: yet older, it's like that shit is not cute. What 668 00:35:54,880 --> 00:35:58,080 Speaker 2: are you doing? You guys are two human beings who 669 00:35:58,120 --> 00:36:00,600 Speaker 2: love each other. You gotta figure it out in like 670 00:36:00,680 --> 00:36:03,160 Speaker 2: a decent way, do you know what I mean? And 671 00:36:03,320 --> 00:36:09,600 Speaker 2: whoever's gonna be like more drunk or hut, you know 672 00:36:09,680 --> 00:36:11,799 Speaker 2: what I mean? You just gotta know that we'll just 673 00:36:11,800 --> 00:36:12,680 Speaker 2: pick it up tomorrow. 674 00:36:12,960 --> 00:36:16,920 Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, especially when you know, usually when you're fighting, 675 00:36:17,280 --> 00:36:19,520 Speaker 5: you're not really fighting about what you think you're fighting us. 676 00:36:19,560 --> 00:36:22,920 Speaker 5: That's right, arguments the chicken thing on the table, but 677 00:36:22,960 --> 00:36:24,120 Speaker 5: that's not really what. 678 00:36:25,880 --> 00:36:28,000 Speaker 8: Do you have any advice about arguments? Don I will 679 00:36:28,040 --> 00:36:30,440 Speaker 8: say you two things. Don't gloat and know how to 680 00:36:30,440 --> 00:36:35,319 Speaker 8: be wrong gracefully. Those are the two things. I think 681 00:36:35,400 --> 00:36:38,480 Speaker 8: STFU is really good. Let the person speak, then, STF. 682 00:36:38,560 --> 00:36:41,480 Speaker 8: You also shut the fun up, Shut the fuck up, 683 00:36:42,040 --> 00:36:42,680 Speaker 8: let them speak. 684 00:36:42,719 --> 00:36:46,719 Speaker 2: The best way to have somebody shut up is to 685 00:36:46,760 --> 00:36:52,560 Speaker 2: sit on their face, which leads me to my next question. 686 00:36:55,080 --> 00:36:58,640 Speaker 2: You are right, no, how many times a week should 687 00:36:58,640 --> 00:36:59,480 Speaker 2: we be having sex? 688 00:36:59,800 --> 00:37:01,759 Speaker 1: I think it's like people are People aren't having a 689 00:37:01,800 --> 00:37:02,719 Speaker 1: lot of sex out there? 690 00:37:03,040 --> 00:37:03,400 Speaker 2: Yeah? 691 00:37:03,440 --> 00:37:06,279 Speaker 1: So I mean are not? They're not They're not having 692 00:37:06,320 --> 00:37:07,239 Speaker 1: According to. 693 00:37:09,080 --> 00:37:12,759 Speaker 5: Statistics that I read, that's because the people having sex 694 00:37:12,800 --> 00:37:13,520 Speaker 5: are too busy to do. 695 00:37:17,000 --> 00:37:21,719 Speaker 1: Let me tell you something. I think one to two 696 00:37:21,719 --> 00:37:24,080 Speaker 1: times a week is like a good I'll tell you, 697 00:37:24,200 --> 00:37:26,759 Speaker 1: I'll tell you. Let me tell you more than that. 698 00:37:26,840 --> 00:37:31,520 Speaker 1: Go ahead. Yeah, okay, I think for myself. This demo 699 00:37:31,640 --> 00:37:33,440 Speaker 1: right here is like, y'all are fun. The rest of 700 00:37:33,480 --> 00:37:34,920 Speaker 1: the room. The rest of the room. The rest of 701 00:37:34,960 --> 00:37:38,040 Speaker 1: the room is like, that's a good goal. But wait, 702 00:37:38,200 --> 00:37:38,719 Speaker 1: very good goal. 703 00:37:38,760 --> 00:37:43,160 Speaker 5: I like the couple behind them still fighting about the bonnet. 704 00:37:45,440 --> 00:37:51,640 Speaker 1: Yo, Yeah, why did you read them from five minutes ago? 705 00:37:53,719 --> 00:37:56,280 Speaker 1: I can't gloat. Don't gloat, man, don't gloat. 706 00:37:56,880 --> 00:38:03,200 Speaker 2: I can't believe you asked about that bonnet. Real talk. 707 00:38:03,320 --> 00:38:06,440 Speaker 2: This answer is really up to you. Life changes, your 708 00:38:06,440 --> 00:38:09,719 Speaker 2: schedule changes, your body changes, your energy level changes, your 709 00:38:09,880 --> 00:38:13,640 Speaker 2: desire for the person or people changes. So like, don't 710 00:38:13,640 --> 00:38:16,360 Speaker 2: beat yourself up for having too much or having too little. 711 00:38:16,440 --> 00:38:19,400 Speaker 2: It's what you get, what you need when you need it. Period. 712 00:38:21,960 --> 00:38:23,560 Speaker 1: It's like fortune take you gone. 713 00:38:24,880 --> 00:38:27,600 Speaker 2: Do I have to pretend to care about my friend's kids? 714 00:38:28,800 --> 00:38:43,680 Speaker 3: Yo, wrote wrote that, yeah, damn. 715 00:38:45,160 --> 00:38:48,080 Speaker 4: I always drill the names of the kids before we 716 00:38:48,160 --> 00:38:51,080 Speaker 4: go see the family. I'm like, I'm like, okay, it's 717 00:38:51,239 --> 00:38:57,080 Speaker 4: Darius and Archimedes, right, Like, Okay. 718 00:38:57,320 --> 00:38:58,640 Speaker 2: The short answer is no. 719 00:38:59,080 --> 00:39:02,319 Speaker 5: Yeah, No, I have a feeling that if you're if 720 00:39:02,360 --> 00:39:03,879 Speaker 5: you're asking that question, you you. 721 00:39:03,880 --> 00:39:05,520 Speaker 1: Really they already know you don't care. 722 00:39:06,480 --> 00:39:09,440 Speaker 2: Yeah they know. But sometimes these parents don't give a 723 00:39:09,480 --> 00:39:15,440 Speaker 2: fuck because they're so hungry for attention and community. That 724 00:39:15,719 --> 00:39:18,680 Speaker 2: is not like just in parent mode, and so you 725 00:39:18,760 --> 00:39:21,319 Speaker 2: really put that shit on the other person. But that's 726 00:39:21,360 --> 00:39:23,600 Speaker 2: why I'm just like, let's go meet somewhere and I'll 727 00:39:23,600 --> 00:39:27,160 Speaker 2: get a babysitter, because, yeah, you gotta read the room. 728 00:39:27,600 --> 00:39:29,640 Speaker 2: Your kid is a part of you, they're not all 729 00:39:29,680 --> 00:39:32,920 Speaker 2: of you, you know what I mean, So like you 730 00:39:33,000 --> 00:39:36,240 Speaker 2: don't have to pretend you don't have to like someone's kids. 731 00:39:36,239 --> 00:39:40,000 Speaker 2: That's now teachers don't even fucking like kids. 732 00:39:40,640 --> 00:39:42,319 Speaker 1: Yeah, they just. 733 00:39:42,320 --> 00:39:44,600 Speaker 2: Want a better future. They don't give a fuck about 734 00:39:44,600 --> 00:39:45,400 Speaker 2: your kids. 735 00:39:45,800 --> 00:39:50,000 Speaker 1: Some days I don't like my kids. You know, it's tough. Okay, 736 00:39:50,480 --> 00:39:56,920 Speaker 1: How do you motivate yourself to exercise regularly? Sex is? 737 00:39:59,040 --> 00:39:59,840 Speaker 1: I don't know, you know what? 738 00:40:00,080 --> 00:40:03,680 Speaker 2: I think? This is sort of like hmm, this is 739 00:40:03,719 --> 00:40:05,560 Speaker 2: sort of like anything you need to do in life, 740 00:40:05,600 --> 00:40:09,040 Speaker 2: like whether it's quitting a job or divorce or cleaning 741 00:40:09,120 --> 00:40:12,040 Speaker 2: up that room or whatever the fuck it is. One 742 00:40:12,080 --> 00:40:13,719 Speaker 2: day you're gonna wake up and be like, all right, 743 00:40:13,760 --> 00:40:16,960 Speaker 2: I gotta do this for myself. Yeah, but in the meantime, 744 00:40:17,400 --> 00:40:22,920 Speaker 2: sit fucking pretty, sit pretty, order the uber eats, do 745 00:40:22,960 --> 00:40:24,799 Speaker 2: whatever the fuck you gotta do. One day you're gonna 746 00:40:24,840 --> 00:40:27,279 Speaker 2: be like, all right, I'm ready to fucking work out. 747 00:40:27,480 --> 00:40:30,040 Speaker 2: And when you do work out, get yourself a friend, a. 748 00:40:30,000 --> 00:40:33,640 Speaker 1: Little edible, very fun edible underwear. 749 00:40:35,800 --> 00:40:38,440 Speaker 2: Also, go to Target. They got great workout clothes for 750 00:40:38,520 --> 00:40:45,799 Speaker 2: a very affordable price. As a bigger person going to 751 00:40:45,840 --> 00:40:48,439 Speaker 2: the gym, you're very self I'm very self conscious because 752 00:40:48,440 --> 00:40:51,280 Speaker 2: I'm like everything is black, everyone got like everyone looks 753 00:40:51,280 --> 00:40:54,640 Speaker 2: like Meg the Stallion, and like, okay, you know, just 754 00:40:54,680 --> 00:40:57,560 Speaker 2: get like fucking new clothes and it'll make you feel 755 00:40:57,560 --> 00:40:59,759 Speaker 2: like ten percent better. Like half the work is just 756 00:40:59,760 --> 00:41:01,160 Speaker 2: saying I'm gonna do it for myself. 757 00:41:02,239 --> 00:41:05,560 Speaker 1: I love that leather or lace, that's. 758 00:41:05,360 --> 00:41:09,680 Speaker 2: A real question. Wow, I think neither. I got a 759 00:41:09,719 --> 00:41:13,560 Speaker 2: sweaty pussy. I can't I go to the gym. I 760 00:41:13,600 --> 00:41:15,520 Speaker 2: need two towels, one for my hair, one from my puss. 761 00:41:15,560 --> 00:41:18,359 Speaker 2: You know what I mean. I'm so sorry. What does 762 00:41:18,400 --> 00:41:19,200 Speaker 2: everybody else say? 763 00:41:20,320 --> 00:41:25,360 Speaker 5: I thought they were talking about wigs at first. Lace 764 00:41:27,480 --> 00:41:29,839 Speaker 5: pepper Min, what do you think leather or lace I've 765 00:41:29,840 --> 00:41:33,520 Speaker 5: worn lace. I've worn lace. I think leather is too 766 00:41:33,680 --> 00:41:37,160 Speaker 5: much going on. Yeah, definitely sweaty. Yeah, but you know 767 00:41:37,239 --> 00:41:40,279 Speaker 5: it ends up off of you anyway, So like, just 768 00:41:40,600 --> 00:41:42,279 Speaker 5: start that way you wore. 769 00:41:42,840 --> 00:41:46,279 Speaker 2: You wear some outfits, honey, I know. 770 00:41:46,640 --> 00:41:51,080 Speaker 1: I usually do quite revealing. Yes, I mean, you know. 771 00:41:53,600 --> 00:41:57,400 Speaker 2: Let's go. Okay, we gotta wrap this up. Last question 772 00:41:57,560 --> 00:41:59,959 Speaker 2: for you, Peppermint. Oh my god, it's been so fucking fun. 773 00:42:00,000 --> 00:42:01,680 Speaker 2: I don't want it to end, but it's got to do. 774 00:42:03,160 --> 00:42:05,640 Speaker 2: What's the most adul't think you want to do for 775 00:42:05,680 --> 00:42:07,759 Speaker 2: yourself that you haven't had time to do yet this year, 776 00:42:07,760 --> 00:42:10,240 Speaker 2: And it could be anything. 777 00:42:10,840 --> 00:42:16,640 Speaker 5: Time haven't had time to do. Oh god, really, I 778 00:42:16,680 --> 00:42:18,480 Speaker 5: don't know. 779 00:42:18,680 --> 00:42:19,160 Speaker 1: I'd like to. 780 00:42:19,440 --> 00:42:24,360 Speaker 5: I would like to begin the process of purchasing house 781 00:42:24,960 --> 00:42:28,840 Speaker 5: for myself. I don't know about if that's about time 782 00:42:29,080 --> 00:42:30,239 Speaker 5: or money or both. 783 00:42:30,920 --> 00:42:34,160 Speaker 2: Yeah. I love that. I love that for you, and 784 00:42:34,160 --> 00:42:34,719 Speaker 2: that will happen. 785 00:42:36,080 --> 00:42:38,600 Speaker 5: I'm in the same I probably shouldn't announce this, but 786 00:42:39,760 --> 00:42:42,520 Speaker 5: I'm in the same apartment that I've been in for 787 00:42:42,520 --> 00:42:44,520 Speaker 5: twenty five years when I moved here. 788 00:42:44,400 --> 00:42:51,360 Speaker 1: As a college student. What it's time. You're allowed? You're allowed? 789 00:42:51,560 --> 00:42:52,520 Speaker 2: Yeah, that's amazing. 790 00:42:52,560 --> 00:42:54,759 Speaker 5: It inspired during the pandemic. I was like, Okay, I 791 00:42:54,800 --> 00:42:55,520 Speaker 5: got to get out of here. 792 00:42:55,600 --> 00:42:58,080 Speaker 2: Yeah, that's amazing. And you know what, You're going to 793 00:42:58,239 --> 00:43:03,040 Speaker 2: attract so many different things people, for better and for 794 00:43:03,200 --> 00:43:06,239 Speaker 2: better and for worse, for better and for worse and 795 00:43:06,640 --> 00:43:09,719 Speaker 2: wile Peppermint, thank you for everything you do. You are just. 796 00:43:11,520 --> 00:43:12,160 Speaker 1: Amazing. 797 00:43:12,640 --> 00:43:29,040 Speaker 2: Give it up for Pepperman. I do love when people 798 00:43:29,520 --> 00:43:34,080 Speaker 2: openly admit that they want to uh buy real estate 799 00:43:34,440 --> 00:43:37,520 Speaker 2: in America, because that means that you're still investing in America, 800 00:43:37,640 --> 00:43:40,479 Speaker 2: like you still believe in America, you know, I do 801 00:43:40,840 --> 00:43:44,840 Speaker 2: believe that creating whatever kind of generational wealth will also 802 00:43:44,960 --> 00:43:49,839 Speaker 2: create generational health. And what is more beautiful than an 803 00:43:49,920 --> 00:43:56,360 Speaker 2: openly black trans female entertainer owning fucking property and paying 804 00:43:56,400 --> 00:43:59,880 Speaker 2: for that house by doing shows as a drag qu 805 00:44:00,480 --> 00:44:03,560 Speaker 2: as singer, you know, as a black transperformer. To me, 806 00:44:03,680 --> 00:44:08,560 Speaker 2: there's nothing sweeter. Also, like she's adult enough. You know 807 00:44:08,640 --> 00:44:11,360 Speaker 2: when I when I first bought something, I was a mess. 808 00:44:11,400 --> 00:44:13,640 Speaker 2: I was just making money and still didn't even know 809 00:44:13,680 --> 00:44:16,680 Speaker 2: how to tip properly at a bar. I shouldn't have 810 00:44:16,680 --> 00:44:19,360 Speaker 2: been Thank god, my mom had like the two cents 811 00:44:19,360 --> 00:44:22,200 Speaker 2: to be like, bitch, stop going a Zara, Stop buying 812 00:44:22,320 --> 00:44:26,000 Speaker 2: birthday dinners for your friends, lots of air quotes. Went 813 00:44:26,080 --> 00:44:30,399 Speaker 2: to the mortgage broker, filled something out. This bitch turned 814 00:44:30,400 --> 00:44:32,120 Speaker 2: around and said, you know, there's a tea and mortgage. 815 00:44:32,160 --> 00:44:33,080 Speaker 2: I said it is. 816 00:44:33,920 --> 00:44:36,840 Speaker 1: I'm sorry say it. 817 00:44:37,000 --> 00:44:38,320 Speaker 2: I forgot. I forgot. 818 00:44:38,680 --> 00:44:41,080 Speaker 1: It's not okay, that's the test. You can't have it 819 00:44:41,120 --> 00:44:43,640 Speaker 1: if you can't spell it. Living in the same apartment 820 00:44:43,680 --> 00:44:48,120 Speaker 1: for twenty five years in New York City rent control Like, yeah, Peppermints. 821 00:44:47,440 --> 00:44:50,120 Speaker 2: Yeah, she's been in the same apartment for twenty five 822 00:44:50,239 --> 00:44:54,759 Speaker 2: which is like so sweet. I mean, nothing, says All 823 00:44:54,800 --> 00:44:59,160 Speaker 2: Black reboot of Friends then that, because wasn't that Monica 824 00:44:59,280 --> 00:45:00,800 Speaker 2: is grandm mama's apartment? 825 00:45:01,560 --> 00:45:03,680 Speaker 1: Was that? I think it was Monica? 826 00:45:03,840 --> 00:45:07,920 Speaker 2: Yeah, I think it was Monica's Monica Monica's grandma apartment. 827 00:45:07,960 --> 00:45:13,160 Speaker 2: Which words Okay, I'll try, yeah, I'll try. 828 00:45:14,480 --> 00:45:17,480 Speaker 1: No, No, it was Monica's grandma's apartment. That's a lot 829 00:45:17,520 --> 00:45:19,839 Speaker 1: of that's a lot like, that's a lot of. 830 00:45:20,160 --> 00:45:22,279 Speaker 2: You try you guys, try it right now, stay with me. 831 00:45:23,239 --> 00:45:26,799 Speaker 2: The red, leather, yellow Monica's Grandma's apartment. 832 00:45:27,360 --> 00:45:30,920 Speaker 1: Yeah, I can't wait to hear more from Peppermint's World. 833 00:45:31,280 --> 00:45:34,400 Speaker 1: I really enjoyed the sit down. The part about Christopher 834 00:45:34,440 --> 00:45:38,359 Speaker 1: Ruffo was really cool too. You know, Peppermint understands what 835 00:45:38,600 --> 00:45:42,240 Speaker 1: we're all up against, and it's not just like shows. 836 00:45:42,239 --> 00:45:45,319 Speaker 1: For Peppermint. It was really great to get down and 837 00:45:45,520 --> 00:45:48,160 Speaker 1: chop it up about what we're facing as a country. 838 00:45:48,320 --> 00:45:48,520 Speaker 1: You know. 839 00:45:49,280 --> 00:45:51,879 Speaker 2: Yeah, she's amazing. She's such a gift. I'm so glad 840 00:45:51,920 --> 00:45:55,000 Speaker 2: that she was able to do my show. And uh, look, 841 00:45:55,200 --> 00:45:58,040 Speaker 2: all these all these voices are important, you know. That's 842 00:45:58,080 --> 00:46:05,040 Speaker 2: why art and music and entertainment, it definitely influences not 843 00:46:05,120 --> 00:46:08,840 Speaker 2: only the culture, right, the culture will influence so much more. 844 00:46:09,080 --> 00:46:12,600 Speaker 2: Do you think Martha Stewart knew what bling bling was? 845 00:46:12,960 --> 00:46:13,080 Speaker 3: Now? 846 00:46:13,719 --> 00:46:14,640 Speaker 2: Has she made it? 847 00:46:14,800 --> 00:46:15,000 Speaker 1: You know? 848 00:46:15,320 --> 00:46:17,960 Speaker 2: Okay, you know what I mean. But it's like all 849 00:46:18,000 --> 00:46:21,040 Speaker 2: that shit, Like, yeah, the world is smaller than we think, 850 00:46:21,200 --> 00:46:25,239 Speaker 2: so let's stop dividing people. Sarah Huckabe Sanders, I'm talking 851 00:46:25,280 --> 00:46:28,920 Speaker 2: to you. Sorry, you're full of. 852 00:46:28,880 --> 00:46:32,640 Speaker 1: Fun today, all right? No, I just loathe her, that's why. 853 00:46:32,760 --> 00:46:35,839 Speaker 2: Oh the whole family and you can quote me. Well, 854 00:46:36,040 --> 00:46:38,400 Speaker 2: you guys have a great day listening. 855 00:46:40,960 --> 00:46:42,279 Speaker 1: Get out there, be all you can be. 856 00:46:42,719 --> 00:46:47,160 Speaker 2: Yes, quick little announcement before we go. We're taking a 857 00:46:47,200 --> 00:46:49,200 Speaker 2: summer break, and we didn't want to ghost y'all, like 858 00:46:49,200 --> 00:46:51,359 Speaker 2: all those people you've been encountering on them dating apps. 859 00:46:51,440 --> 00:46:54,160 Speaker 1: Okay, that's right. We are good people who just want 860 00:46:54,200 --> 00:46:56,440 Speaker 1: to soak up some sun adulting. We'll be back in 861 00:46:56,480 --> 00:46:59,239 Speaker 1: August and fun update. When we get back, we will 862 00:46:59,280 --> 00:47:02,240 Speaker 1: have episodes. It's dropping every single weee. 863 00:47:04,040 --> 00:47:06,359 Speaker 2: So go take a vacation. Okay, take your bro off, 864 00:47:06,400 --> 00:47:08,480 Speaker 2: get ready and we will see you soon. That's really 865 00:47:08,520 --> 00:47:09,160 Speaker 2: all I got. 866 00:47:09,200 --> 00:47:09,719 Speaker 1: I gotta go. 867 00:47:09,880 --> 00:47:13,040 Speaker 2: I love you bye. 868 00:47:14,920 --> 00:47:16,520 Speaker 1: This has been an exactly right production. 869 00:47:16,840 --> 00:47:18,640 Speaker 2: Our senior producer is g Holley. 870 00:47:18,960 --> 00:47:20,880 Speaker 1: Our associate producer is Alex Cheat. 871 00:47:21,120 --> 00:47:23,240 Speaker 2: This episode was mixed by John Bradley. 872 00:47:23,560 --> 00:47:25,080 Speaker 1: Our guest booker is Patrick Cottner. 873 00:47:25,200 --> 00:47:27,600 Speaker 2: Additional production support from Hannah Kyle Crichton. 874 00:47:27,880 --> 00:47:30,239 Speaker 1: Theme song and live show DJing is by Don will. 875 00:47:30,560 --> 00:47:32,920 Speaker 2: Our live show producer is Marion Ways. 876 00:47:33,200 --> 00:47:34,839 Speaker 1: Artwork by Jamie Bechtel. 877 00:47:34,800 --> 00:47:37,160 Speaker 2: Photography by Heis vander Most. 878 00:47:37,440 --> 00:47:41,160 Speaker 1: Executive produced by Karen Kilgera, Georgia Hartstar and Daniel Kramer. 879 00:47:41,440 --> 00:47:43,880 Speaker 2: Follow the show on Instagram at Adulting the Pod. 880 00:47:44,320 --> 00:47:48,000 Speaker 1: Email your questions to Adulting Questions at gmail dot com. 881 00:47:48,080 --> 00:47:48,719 Speaker 2: Mmmmm