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Speaker 1: If you put out a six tape for the blind people.

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Speaker 1: What was her name, Michelle? I don't know. Old.

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Speaker 2: That's good to hear a fifty six year old man

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Speaker 1: Just fart.

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Speaker 2: All my life, grinding all my life, sacrifice, hustle, Patic Price,

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Speaker 2: Wanta Slice got the brother Geist.

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Speaker 1: Swap all my life. I've been grinding all my life,

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Speaker 1: all my life, drinding all.

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Speaker 2: My life, sacrifice, Hustle, pat Price One Slice got the

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Speaker 2: brother of Geist.

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Speaker 1: The swap all my life.

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Speaker 3: I've been grinding all my life.

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Speaker 4: Hello, Welcome to another episode of Club Shasha. I am

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Speaker 4: your host, Shannon Sharp. I'm also the propriet of Club

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Speaker 4: shahe the lady that's stopping by for conversation or the

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Speaker 4: drink today is one of the most relatable women out

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Speaker 4: here today. She's an atl born comedian, stand up superstar

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Speaker 4: out shows nationwide, popular actress, successful hosts, podcast, celebrity entertainment

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Speaker 4: mogul NAACP nominated author, a star, creator, writer, executive producer

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Speaker 4: of the Emmy nominated sitcom Miss Pat Show plus bt

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Speaker 4: B Ple plus first ever Emmy nomination. A love mother,

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Speaker 4: a wife, and an Auntie here she is, Miss pat.

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Speaker 2: Well, damn you did your homework. I ain't never been

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Speaker 2: introduced like that unless I was in court.

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Speaker 4: This is not the first time we met. Tell the

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Speaker 4: people for the first time that we met.

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Speaker 2: So we was on the plane on Dell to come

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Speaker 2: into Atlanta, and I think something was going on with

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Speaker 2: the football. But I got to talking and I said

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Speaker 2: I was a Falcon fan, and so you louis Eton down.

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Speaker 2: And this was early in my career, and I had

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Speaker 2: a Gucci book bag and I had a Louisiton perse

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Speaker 2: and you was like, hey, you're gonna have to get

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Speaker 2: your stuff to match all you all your labels gotta match.

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Speaker 1: And I was like, you go to hell.

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Speaker 2: I got what I could buy when I can buy,

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Speaker 2: and so when now my stuff do match?

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Speaker 1: And I always think of you.

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Speaker 2: It's like black An's gonna get off the plane and

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Speaker 2: tell me my ship need to match.

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Speaker 4: Thank you so much, Misspath for stopping by. I know

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Speaker 4: your busy, you got a lot going on. Been watching

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Speaker 4: your shows, so I would like to take a little

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Speaker 4: toast to your career. Congratulations on everything that you've accomplished,

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Speaker 4: everything that you've overcome, and much much more. To come

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Speaker 4: just to look this a little.

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Speaker 1: Shannon, don't drink one more simple thatad. You're gonna have

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Speaker 1: me holling like you had that other woman.

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Speaker 4: Bad we got. I thought we were gonna get in

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Speaker 4: like a three month great period.

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Speaker 1: I don't know. I just my first time seeing you

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Speaker 1: said that. I was like, that's a man that goes

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Speaker 1: to the jeans and I could tell I don't.

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Speaker 2: I don't know, but in the black community, we were

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Speaker 2: assuming she was white the way she holly, because most

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Speaker 1: She was hollering like she wasn't used to it.

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Speaker 2: So I was like, all right, then, Shannon, that's how

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Speaker 2: you put out a sex tape with no film, just sound, Shanne,

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Speaker 2: you put out.

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Speaker 1: A sex tape for the people, for the blind people.

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Speaker 1: What's her name, Michelle? I don't know.

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Speaker 5: I know everybody's been ragging you on that.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, you come in right off the rip too.

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Speaker 1: But you know what, that's good. What what are you?

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Speaker 1: Fifty six? You fifty six?

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Speaker 2: That's good to hear a fifty six year old man

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Speaker 2: and y'all just fart, you know, to.

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Speaker 1: Hear the hat boy going and no gas in the air.

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Speaker 1: I was proud of you. I was a proud black mom.

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Speaker 4: Thank you.

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Speaker 3: Well.

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Speaker 4: Congratulations, Uh miss pat show just got picked up for

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Speaker 4: a season number five. What has it been like for

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Speaker 4: this newfound celebrity for you?

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Speaker 2: You know, people call it celebrity, Shannon, i'mna be honest

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Speaker 1: I live right here in Atlanta, and when I'm not

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Speaker 2: Mispassed Show, I'll be at TJ Max with wig on backwards.

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Speaker 2: I don't want to get recognized, but I do get recognized.

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Speaker 2: So I just say I look at it as a job,

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Speaker 1: I take a picture of a feel too if I

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Speaker 2: And I mean, I'm glad that people are noticing the

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Speaker 2: don't really use the word celebrity. I'm your friend at

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Speaker 2: the grocery store. I'm your friend at TJ Max.

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Speaker 1: I love TJ Max. Yeah, yeah, Home Goods.

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Speaker 4: Is this newfound success everything that you thought it would be.

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Speaker 2: The money is good, you know, because I mean, you

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Speaker 2: know my background soul Craig for his checks.

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Speaker 1: It is nice to be able to go in there

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Speaker 1: and swipe a card.

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Speaker 4: That belongs to you, and I have to pray that

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Speaker 2: To pray the police gonna come out to I didn't

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Speaker 2: have them cause that wasn't the money. I had to

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Speaker 4: Okay. So if you if looking back where you are

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Speaker 4: right now, miss pat, what would your ten year old self,

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Speaker 4: what would you tell yourself?

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Speaker 1: I would tell my ten year old self, we made it.

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Speaker 4: We made it.

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Speaker 1: You know, I look over my life and I you know,

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Speaker 2: Young and went through a lot, and all I ever

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Speaker 2: you know, this year I finished my house off of TikTok.

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Speaker 2: I was a contractor. It was about fifteen thousand square

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Speaker 2: but I'm a dy person. I'm a dy person. I

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Speaker 2: certain amount of money. So I look back and you know,

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Speaker 2: in my grandkids. When I'm no longer here and I

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Speaker 2: And you know, for I'm a fourteen I mean I

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Speaker 2: all of this and to help my immediate family, it

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Speaker 2: means a lot to me, right it do.

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Speaker 4: As a former NFL player, I know a thing or

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Speaker 4: two about high performance, and that's why I drive the

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Speaker 4: BMW seven series. This car has everything I need. It's

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Speaker 4: What I love most is the precision engineering, cutting edge technology,

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Speaker 4: You're from atl What are some of your favorite and

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Speaker 4: we're gonna get into your childhood, your upbringing, but what

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Speaker 4: are some of your fondest memory as a child?

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Speaker 2: Going to Grandma Biscuit with my stepdaddy Curates Okay, right

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Speaker 2: there off for all, I want to say, it was

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Speaker 1: And they used to have these biscuit called Cathead biscuits, and.

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Speaker 2: It was he would buy a saush and biscuit and

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Speaker 2: I'm quite sure he was like a dollar back then,

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Speaker 2: but that was a lot of money. My stepdaddy was

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Speaker 2: He would buy us the biscuit. He would drink a

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Speaker 2: things I missed the most. You know, that father figure

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Speaker 4: Did you stay in contact wait him after they separated.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, he used to.

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Speaker 2: Come over and drop off school clothes and stuff like that,

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Speaker 4: Wow. Yeah. What's your proudest moment of a child?

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Speaker 2: My proudest moment as a child. I remember I went

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Speaker 2: if you were Martin Luther King. You needed to know

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Speaker 2: And that's I think that's when my heart became hardened.

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Speaker 4: Well, what what type of relationship did you have with

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Speaker 2: My mom was an alcoholic, she had five I was

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Speaker 2: she dropped out of school, probably elementary school. Because my

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Speaker 1: So it wasn't really a relationship because she was a

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Speaker 4: You was raised you mentioned I read in your story

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Speaker 4: that you was raised in a bootleg home with your

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Speaker 4: what what was Because I was raised by my grandparents,

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Speaker 1: Who? The bootleg house?

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Speaker 2: Pickpocketing people, music, pickpocketing drunks, drunks ye music?

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Speaker 1: Well shit, we was trained to don't let me get

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Speaker 2: Uh, just a lot of music, drunk people, fights, all

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Speaker 2: of moonshine sacks, seeing people have sex.

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Speaker 1: Everything went at granddaddy house.

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Speaker 4: Right. So when you say you were trained, uh, to

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Speaker 1: Well, once you fall asleep, you don't know what you got. Ma,

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Speaker 2: At one point, I was watching Sessmonth Street and my

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Speaker 4: So she gave you ten cents like a die.

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Speaker 4: You so you were on a ten percent of whatever

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Speaker 2: Only ten dollars, and I was happy because all I

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Speaker 4: Yes, yes, yes, Oh my goodness, miss Pat. I read

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Speaker 2: Had an abortion when I was sixteen. Yeah, by married man. Huh,

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Speaker 4: I missed Pat, what I mean? So he was married,

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Speaker 1: He was in his early twenties, and I was twelve

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Speaker 4: Did your mom know about this guy?

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Speaker 1: She didn't care. It happened to her.

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Speaker 4: Through right, and she didn't cause you had to break

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Speaker 4: they choose to break that cycle. If you were disciplined tough.

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Speaker 4: A lot of times you disciplined your I did.

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Speaker 2: Discipline to him. I made a lot of mistakes with

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Speaker 4: Right. I read that you guys got baptized a lot

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Speaker 2: Yeah, feed you if they would give us basket, they

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Speaker 2: And she would hate when they wrote a check on

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Speaker 4: Ms pad you got you gotta write a book.

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Speaker 5: I did.

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Speaker 1: I wrote a book. He's called Rabbit.

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Speaker 4: This mean to be a movie. It do need to

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: But to get where I'm at, And I tell this

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Speaker 2: when you hate. When you hate something or somebody, that

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Speaker 2: Daddy wasn't the first one I'd been with less several

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Speaker 2: And then once I, you know, got older and realized

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Speaker 2: like you, but you you know, I tell these stories

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna do? I'm gonna cry? What I'm gonna cry

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Speaker 4: That kind of resentment all those years. Yeah, my grandma,

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Speaker 4: you say, miss pat, that could never be freedom without forgiveness.

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Speaker 1: That's right.

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Speaker 4: And so you finally, in order to forgive them, you

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Speaker 4: Was it your mom's boyfriend that molested Yeah, did you

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Speaker 2: Yeah, she didn't want to hear because my mama boyfriend

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Speaker 1: That's what I come when we try to tell her,

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Speaker 1: shut the hell up. Don't nobody want to hear that?

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Speaker 1: And we never said it again, and he did it

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Speaker 4: He slept. It was both of you touched both of us.

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Speaker 4: Man, is that where the resentment really started from? From

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Speaker 2: Well this was before my kids father. He molested us

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Speaker 4: But so I saw, I.

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Speaker 2: He didn't he don't understand a dream take care black

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Speaker 2: And when he came to like and he saw me.

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Speaker 1: Shoot the Misspast show.

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Speaker 1: Thank you because I'm man. I told his ass up

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Speaker 2: Kids, not only my kids that wasn't yours, the two

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Speaker 2: saying no but not really saying no. And my husband

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Speaker 2: because you know, when I started dating the people, his

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Speaker 2: sorry tell I fought to running, voted for Bill Clinton,

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Speaker 2: but I was lazy, right, And my husband would always

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Speaker 1: Why you like this?

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Speaker 2: And I've told this story one hundred times. He gave

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Speaker 2: that man went through a lot with this comedy career.

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Speaker 2: He had no money, gone all the time, he watching

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Speaker 2: eight to ten hour ship at General Motives and never complained.

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Speaker 4: Your original two kids that you had before you met me.

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Speaker 4: You had two kids with him, and you had I'm

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Speaker 4: not mistaken, you had your sister kids.

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Speaker 2: I had my sister four kids, four kids, so that's

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Speaker 2: eight kid yes, and we're not even I don't even

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Speaker 4: Five, miss bad, If you don't mind me asking, if

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Speaker 2: When I met my husband, my son was five and

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Speaker 1: So off the back, he got six kids.

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Speaker 4: And then you want and you wanted more.

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Speaker 1: Well, I'm from the hood, so I figured, you know,

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00:20:19,320 --> 00:20:20,600
Speaker 1: I gotta have a baby by this man.

440
00:20:20,520 --> 00:20:20,600
Speaker 4: And.

441
00:20:25,600 --> 00:20:27,359
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna even lie. I was like, if I

442
00:20:27,400 --> 00:20:29,280
Speaker 1: don't have a baby by this man, he gonna leave me.

443
00:20:29,359 --> 00:20:31,240
Speaker 1: But they leave anyway. But he's such a good guy.

444
00:20:31,560 --> 00:20:33,480
Speaker 2: And when I went to try to get pregnant, I

445
00:20:33,520 --> 00:20:36,320
Speaker 2: had had an abortion that damaged my uterus, and so

446
00:20:36,560 --> 00:20:39,280
Speaker 2: they was like, your tubes are blocked, and I was like, damn,

447
00:20:39,320 --> 00:20:40,439
Speaker 2: I can't have no baby by this man.

448
00:20:40,520 --> 00:20:41,960
Speaker 1: He's gonna get tired of me to take care of

449
00:20:41,960 --> 00:20:42,879
Speaker 1: all these crank babies.

450
00:20:43,160 --> 00:20:45,800
Speaker 2: And I ended up pregnant and then I lose the

451
00:20:45,840 --> 00:20:48,400
Speaker 2: baby or day before his birthday, and I remember, I'm

452
00:20:48,440 --> 00:20:50,680
Speaker 2: so I was so hard at the time, shaton my

453
00:20:50,760 --> 00:20:53,320
Speaker 2: husband booing because the baby. I lose the baby day

454
00:20:53,320 --> 00:20:55,639
Speaker 2: before his birthda, I had to give birth and he's crying,

455
00:20:55,640 --> 00:20:58,520
Speaker 2: and I tell my husband he's very upset, and I said, dude,

456
00:20:58,520 --> 00:20:59,480
Speaker 2: don't worry about that damn baby.

457
00:20:59,480 --> 00:21:03,840
Speaker 1: We can do this shit again tomorrow. He looked at

458
00:21:03,920 --> 00:21:04,920
Speaker 1: me like what the hell?

459
00:21:05,240 --> 00:21:07,119
Speaker 2: But I got pregnant again and now I have a

460
00:21:07,240 --> 00:21:09,400
Speaker 2: daughter named Garyana. She's twenty six.

461
00:21:10,359 --> 00:21:13,320
Speaker 4: Did was the reason? Can you, if you don't mind

462
00:21:13,440 --> 00:21:17,400
Speaker 4: explain explaining why we you took custody or took responsibility

463
00:21:17,400 --> 00:21:18,240
Speaker 4: for your sister's kids.

464
00:21:18,320 --> 00:21:21,040
Speaker 2: My sister's on crack, she's still on crack. I have

465
00:21:21,119 --> 00:21:23,400
Speaker 2: her grandkids now. Now we're taking care of her grandkids.

466
00:21:23,440 --> 00:21:27,879
Speaker 2: We've had them for eleven years. So when when the

467
00:21:28,160 --> 00:21:30,960
Speaker 2: defect worker called me and said, if you don't come

468
00:21:31,000 --> 00:21:32,520
Speaker 2: get them, we're gonna put them in the foster home,

469
00:21:32,600 --> 00:21:36,200
Speaker 2: and I immediately thought, I can't imagine how these kids

470
00:21:36,200 --> 00:21:36,879
Speaker 2: are gonna grow up.

471
00:21:37,000 --> 00:21:39,480
Speaker 1: Every child deserved to start off on a solid foundation

472
00:21:39,600 --> 00:21:41,160
Speaker 1: in this country, in this world.

473
00:21:41,240 --> 00:21:42,480
Speaker 4: And they might even separate them.

474
00:21:42,680 --> 00:21:45,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, they might even separate because the baby was six months.

475
00:21:45,280 --> 00:21:46,639
Speaker 2: So I went and got all four of them, and

476
00:21:46,720 --> 00:21:49,320
Speaker 2: I got back and my husband's bags were packed, and

477
00:21:49,400 --> 00:21:52,080
Speaker 2: I was like, I can't, I can't. I can't choose

478
00:21:52,119 --> 00:21:55,359
Speaker 2: between you and these kids. I said, because I love

479
00:21:55,440 --> 00:22:00,280
Speaker 2: both of y'all and they need us. And he jumped

480
00:22:00,280 --> 00:22:02,320
Speaker 2: on top of the car, screaming in Holland. He just

481
00:22:02,320 --> 00:22:06,439
Speaker 2: went ahead and pug and went back upstairs. And if

482
00:22:06,480 --> 00:22:07,960
Speaker 2: we're thirty one years now.

483
00:22:08,520 --> 00:22:12,840
Speaker 4: You we're gonna we're gonna expand on that topic. But

484
00:22:13,160 --> 00:22:16,040
Speaker 4: I read that your mom was physically abusive with you, Yes,

485
00:22:18,000 --> 00:22:21,520
Speaker 4: when you got out, I guess whipping, I mean verbally abusive,

486
00:22:21,600 --> 00:22:24,720
Speaker 4: physically abusive. So what were some of the things that

487
00:22:24,840 --> 00:22:27,200
Speaker 4: you would do or do you felt that because a

488
00:22:27,200 --> 00:22:29,159
Speaker 4: lot of time, you know, obviously growing up, when we

489
00:22:29,240 --> 00:22:31,359
Speaker 4: grow up, I'm much older than miss Pat, I'm pretty

490
00:22:31,359 --> 00:22:31,719
Speaker 4: sure I am.

491
00:22:31,960 --> 00:22:32,640
Speaker 1: I'm fifty two.

492
00:22:33,760 --> 00:22:36,159
Speaker 4: But you know, like when you did things wrong in

493
00:22:36,240 --> 00:22:37,800
Speaker 4: the South, you were in the South, Atlanta, the South,

494
00:22:37,840 --> 00:22:41,399
Speaker 4: you grew things. They didn't play. It wasn't no you

495
00:22:41,440 --> 00:22:43,159
Speaker 4: could talk back. Do you suck your teeth for you?

496
00:22:43,240 --> 00:22:46,960
Speaker 4: Stump that got your got you whipping? Did you ever

497
00:22:47,119 --> 00:22:50,560
Speaker 4: feel your mom gave you a whipping that wasn't.

498
00:22:50,320 --> 00:22:53,680
Speaker 1: Deserved all the time, all the time.

499
00:22:54,320 --> 00:22:57,080
Speaker 2: My mama was, My mama was, and I was the

500
00:22:57,200 --> 00:22:59,720
Speaker 2: same way. Sometime I can still get that away, but

501
00:22:59,800 --> 00:23:01,800
Speaker 2: I I have to calm myself down. I mean, her

502
00:23:01,880 --> 00:23:04,639
Speaker 2: tongue did more whipping than anything. She I was not

503
00:23:04,840 --> 00:23:05,960
Speaker 2: the prettiest sister.

504
00:23:06,000 --> 00:23:08,960
Speaker 1: My sister was beautiful to me. She's about your complace.

505
00:23:09,000 --> 00:23:11,119
Speaker 1: She had real wavy hair, you know, before she got

506
00:23:11,160 --> 00:23:13,280
Speaker 1: on drunks. She was just dropped dead gorgeous. And my

507
00:23:13,320 --> 00:23:16,359
Speaker 1: mom used to always call me uglass. You uglass really,

508
00:23:16,600 --> 00:23:16,960
Speaker 1: And I.

509
00:23:17,200 --> 00:23:19,840
Speaker 2: Never thought that I looked like anything because my whole

510
00:23:19,880 --> 00:23:22,000
Speaker 2: life I was told I was ugly. And then coming

511
00:23:22,080 --> 00:23:25,480
Speaker 2: up through people, I had really bad acne that nobody

512
00:23:25,560 --> 00:23:28,560
Speaker 2: did anything about. So when I met this twenty something

513
00:23:28,640 --> 00:23:31,200
Speaker 2: your old man and he finally said the manage words,

514
00:23:31,240 --> 00:23:33,240
Speaker 2: I love you, I failed for it because my whole

515
00:23:33,280 --> 00:23:37,280
Speaker 2: life I was told I was ugly. I literally, nobody

516
00:23:37,440 --> 00:23:39,679
Speaker 2: ever told me I was pretty. My sister was always

517
00:23:39,800 --> 00:23:41,560
Speaker 2: told that she was pretty, and she.

518
00:23:41,920 --> 00:23:47,879
Speaker 4: Was to hear your mom say you ugly? Ask can

519
00:23:47,920 --> 00:23:52,000
Speaker 4: you ugly be? Knowing that that's probably I mean, even

520
00:23:52,040 --> 00:23:53,719
Speaker 4: though you're a child, you know a parent shouldn't talk

521
00:23:53,720 --> 00:23:54,720
Speaker 4: to the child like Yeah.

522
00:23:54,920 --> 00:23:56,639
Speaker 1: I made those mistakes with my kids too.

523
00:23:56,920 --> 00:23:58,359
Speaker 2: I don't think I would call them ugly, but I

524
00:23:58,400 --> 00:24:00,960
Speaker 2: might say stop being You know, I've said some ugly

525
00:24:01,119 --> 00:24:03,240
Speaker 2: things in the beginning that I still work on to

526
00:24:03,359 --> 00:24:05,280
Speaker 2: this day, and a lot of it has to do

527
00:24:05,760 --> 00:24:07,320
Speaker 2: with the way I was raised.

528
00:24:07,600 --> 00:24:09,280
Speaker 4: Did you ever talk to your mom and ask your

529
00:24:09,320 --> 00:24:10,879
Speaker 4: mom why she talked to you like this? Why was

530
00:24:10,920 --> 00:24:12,720
Speaker 4: she so mean to you? Because what she mean like

531
00:24:12,800 --> 00:24:14,399
Speaker 4: that to your sister not to mean no.

532
00:24:14,720 --> 00:24:17,040
Speaker 2: When we had kids, When we both had our first kids,

533
00:24:17,240 --> 00:24:19,680
Speaker 2: because my daughter was born August the nine and my

534
00:24:19,760 --> 00:24:22,200
Speaker 2: sister daughter was born May the knife right, and we

535
00:24:22,359 --> 00:24:26,119
Speaker 2: both had babies back to back by two brothers. Make

536
00:24:26,200 --> 00:24:28,680
Speaker 2: a long story short, my mama would never keep my kid,

537
00:24:29,200 --> 00:24:33,359
Speaker 2: but she would always keep my sister kid. Why because

538
00:24:33,440 --> 00:24:36,280
Speaker 2: she didn't like me. I felt like she didn't love me,

539
00:24:36,760 --> 00:24:41,800
Speaker 2: and I felt like she thought that my baby wasn't

540
00:24:41,880 --> 00:24:46,560
Speaker 2: pretty as my sister baby, you know, and so at

541
00:24:46,640 --> 00:24:48,320
Speaker 2: one point I was scared to even trying to leave

542
00:24:48,440 --> 00:24:52,239
Speaker 2: my daughter with my mama because my mama cared more

543
00:24:52,320 --> 00:24:55,160
Speaker 2: about my niece than she did my child.

544
00:24:55,240 --> 00:24:56,000
Speaker 1: That's how I felt.

545
00:24:56,480 --> 00:24:59,320
Speaker 4: Did that ever cause resentment between you and your sister

546
00:24:59,400 --> 00:25:02,159
Speaker 4: because she called your sister pretty, called you ugly, she

547
00:25:02,280 --> 00:25:04,600
Speaker 4: kept kept your niece but wasn't keep your own job.

548
00:25:05,000 --> 00:25:06,920
Speaker 4: Did that ever call resentment between you and your sister?

549
00:25:10,040 --> 00:25:14,399
Speaker 2: Not me and my sister really wasn't never close because

550
00:25:14,800 --> 00:25:17,720
Speaker 2: we got in the streets so early. My sister got

551
00:25:17,760 --> 00:25:19,879
Speaker 2: out into the world doing what she's doing, you know,

552
00:25:20,080 --> 00:25:22,359
Speaker 2: drugs or whatever, and so.

553
00:25:24,560 --> 00:25:26,800
Speaker 1: We really didn't have that sister relationship.

554
00:25:27,000 --> 00:25:28,879
Speaker 2: That's what I love about the Miss Past show because

555
00:25:29,280 --> 00:25:32,000
Speaker 2: Tammy Roman give me that sister that I never have.

556
00:25:32,520 --> 00:25:34,600
Speaker 2: And she don't know how many times I've walked away

557
00:25:35,480 --> 00:25:38,480
Speaker 2: and just with joy in my heart or tears in

558
00:25:38,520 --> 00:25:42,119
Speaker 2: my eyes because that's something that I always wanted and

559
00:25:42,240 --> 00:25:44,639
Speaker 2: to play lit for her to play my sister on

560
00:25:44,720 --> 00:25:47,359
Speaker 2: that show. She feels a void in my life. But

561
00:25:47,480 --> 00:25:50,600
Speaker 2: me and my sister was never ever. I wanted to

562
00:25:50,680 --> 00:25:53,560
Speaker 2: help my sister the way it portrayed on the show.

563
00:25:53,960 --> 00:25:57,000
Speaker 2: But no, I wish, and I've tried to help my sister,

564
00:25:57,960 --> 00:25:59,680
Speaker 2: like where her grandkids. I tried to help my sister

565
00:25:59,720 --> 00:26:02,600
Speaker 2: get a drugs and even now they call me for

566
00:26:02,680 --> 00:26:04,680
Speaker 2: stuff and I just say, I don't have time for y'all,

567
00:26:05,640 --> 00:26:06,200
Speaker 2: and I don't.

568
00:26:06,240 --> 00:26:09,880
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna waste my money on no crackhead. I'm

569
00:26:09,920 --> 00:26:10,320
Speaker 1: not you.

570
00:26:10,720 --> 00:26:14,440
Speaker 2: You know my sister had an aneurysm this year and

571
00:26:14,600 --> 00:26:15,840
Speaker 2: she's still smoking crag.

572
00:26:17,600 --> 00:26:19,639
Speaker 4: Is it difficult for you to say no? Knowing that

573
00:26:19,840 --> 00:26:28,560
Speaker 4: is Look, blood doesn't make you family. Blood make you related, yes, trust, accountability, empathy,

574
00:26:28,600 --> 00:26:30,600
Speaker 4: and compassion. There are a lot of other things that

575
00:26:30,960 --> 00:26:33,720
Speaker 4: could see make you more family than just bleeding blood

576
00:26:33,760 --> 00:26:36,600
Speaker 4: related How difficult it is for you to do this,

577
00:26:36,760 --> 00:26:39,840
Speaker 4: to tell your sister maybe I've done all I can.

578
00:26:40,080 --> 00:26:41,480
Speaker 4: You got to want to get off this stuff. You

579
00:26:41,520 --> 00:26:42,560
Speaker 4: gotta want to help yourself.

580
00:26:42,760 --> 00:26:45,920
Speaker 2: Not difficult all I said, Hell no, I don't play

581
00:26:46,000 --> 00:26:47,600
Speaker 2: by my money. I work hard for my money. I

582
00:26:47,680 --> 00:26:49,240
Speaker 2: leave out that house and jump on the plane every

583
00:26:49,280 --> 00:26:51,920
Speaker 2: week and come back. My husband is retired, and I said,

584
00:26:51,960 --> 00:26:53,520
Speaker 2: the last thing I'm gonna do is spend my money

585
00:26:53,520 --> 00:26:57,600
Speaker 2: on you, mug uncles and have my husband unretired because

586
00:26:57,600 --> 00:26:59,159
Speaker 2: I'm out here trying to pull everybody else out of

587
00:26:59,160 --> 00:27:01,359
Speaker 2: the mud, say no to everybody.

588
00:27:01,800 --> 00:27:04,200
Speaker 1: The answer is no, I'm not going back where I

589
00:27:04,320 --> 00:27:04,760
Speaker 1: came from.

590
00:27:05,080 --> 00:27:07,600
Speaker 2: I've seen so many people trying to help their family

591
00:27:08,040 --> 00:27:09,720
Speaker 2: out of the dirt, and then they end back up

592
00:27:09,760 --> 00:27:10,479
Speaker 2: in the dirt with them.

593
00:27:10,640 --> 00:27:14,159
Speaker 1: So I just said, no, I'm done. I've helped who

594
00:27:14,200 --> 00:27:15,040
Speaker 1: I'm helped, and that's it.

595
00:27:15,680 --> 00:27:17,320
Speaker 4: Is it true your mom used to shoot the lof

596
00:27:17,359 --> 00:27:18,600
Speaker 4: a gun to get your attention?

597
00:27:19,000 --> 00:27:23,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, all the time work? Yeah, we knew she wanted

598
00:27:23,080 --> 00:27:24,520
Speaker 1: us to come here. How about.

599
00:27:27,480 --> 00:27:30,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, but we knew she would. Well, I never felt

600
00:27:30,720 --> 00:27:33,400
Speaker 2: like my mom was gonna shoot me, Like one time

601
00:27:33,480 --> 00:27:34,919
Speaker 2: she shot at me when I wanted to get off

602
00:27:34,960 --> 00:27:36,960
Speaker 2: the phone with my kid's father. But we knew she

603
00:27:37,080 --> 00:27:39,480
Speaker 2: was just shooting in the ceiling, you know, because she

604
00:27:39,640 --> 00:27:40,400
Speaker 2: liked to shoot a gun.

605
00:27:43,040 --> 00:27:45,639
Speaker 4: You was telling the story earlier. Your baby's father, your

606
00:27:45,680 --> 00:27:48,320
Speaker 4: first one was twenty two. You started seeing him when

607
00:27:48,320 --> 00:27:50,719
Speaker 4: he was when you was twelve. You got pregnant at thirteen,

608
00:27:50,800 --> 00:27:54,000
Speaker 4: had the baby at fourteen, and I writ now is

609
00:27:54,040 --> 00:27:56,560
Speaker 4: this true that I don't know if it was the

610
00:27:56,600 --> 00:27:58,840
Speaker 4: first or the second one that he showed up to

611
00:27:58,920 --> 00:28:00,680
Speaker 4: the hospital with a new chick.

612
00:28:00,960 --> 00:28:02,440
Speaker 1: Yes, he did. That's the first baby.

613
00:28:03,600 --> 00:28:03,960
Speaker 4: Hold on.

614
00:28:05,640 --> 00:28:10,840
Speaker 1: And ext her was I ugly, hold on, you.

615
00:28:11,000 --> 00:28:14,280
Speaker 4: Have a you have his child? He shows up to

616
00:28:14,359 --> 00:28:17,840
Speaker 4: the hospital with a new not his wife or not

617
00:28:18,000 --> 00:28:23,520
Speaker 4: his wife, a new one, and then asked her are

618
00:28:23,600 --> 00:28:24,119
Speaker 4: you cute?

619
00:28:24,560 --> 00:28:27,040
Speaker 1: Yeah? I'm fourteen.

620
00:28:28,720 --> 00:28:30,359
Speaker 2: Yeah, he came back to say hi to me and

621
00:28:30,400 --> 00:28:31,760
Speaker 2: a baby, and I walked him out and she was

622
00:28:31,800 --> 00:28:32,480
Speaker 2: standing out there.

623
00:28:33,840 --> 00:28:38,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, sure did. And I was too young to really

624
00:28:38,120 --> 00:28:41,840
Speaker 1: even put it everything together like I had heard.

625
00:28:41,920 --> 00:28:45,280
Speaker 2: He had another girlfriend and until she started showing up

626
00:28:45,320 --> 00:28:48,320
Speaker 2: what the house with clothes. You know, he would drive

627
00:28:48,400 --> 00:28:52,280
Speaker 2: her car all the time. And so you know, I'm

628
00:28:52,320 --> 00:28:54,480
Speaker 2: not gonna say a name because we're still friends to

629
00:28:54,560 --> 00:28:58,600
Speaker 2: this day. But we ended up raising our kids as cousins.

630
00:28:59,280 --> 00:29:01,400
Speaker 1: Wow, we did for years.

631
00:29:01,720 --> 00:29:03,640
Speaker 2: We raised all kids as cousin. I still talk to

632
00:29:03,720 --> 00:29:07,240
Speaker 2: her this day. But you know, we realized that he

633
00:29:07,400 --> 00:29:08,000
Speaker 2: was a piece of it.

634
00:29:08,760 --> 00:29:11,280
Speaker 4: Wasn't y'all that the issue. It was him. Did he

635
00:29:11,320 --> 00:29:13,080
Speaker 4: get I'm sure he got divorced. He had it.

636
00:29:13,200 --> 00:29:16,440
Speaker 2: He got divorced after I had my second child by

637
00:29:17,080 --> 00:29:19,360
Speaker 2: and then she had a baby buying, and she ended

638
00:29:19,480 --> 00:29:21,040
Speaker 2: up getting married and going on with her life.

639
00:29:21,040 --> 00:29:23,120
Speaker 1: But we became friends. But yeah, he showed up at

640
00:29:23,120 --> 00:29:27,840
Speaker 1: the hospital with her. He sure did. He's a cold dude,

641
00:29:30,040 --> 00:29:31,480
Speaker 1: have you always out of.

642
00:29:32,200 --> 00:29:35,760
Speaker 4: I shouldn't say this, but you know how attracted to

643
00:29:36,120 --> 00:29:39,480
Speaker 4: men prayed. He was an older man praying on a child.

644
00:29:41,520 --> 00:29:44,920
Speaker 2: I ain't his first underage. He'd done that since I've

645
00:29:44,960 --> 00:29:46,080
Speaker 2: been married to my husband.

646
00:29:47,040 --> 00:29:52,120
Speaker 1: Yes he have, Yes he have. I'm not the I'm

647
00:29:52,200 --> 00:29:55,400
Speaker 1: not the I'm not as young as victim either, But

648
00:29:55,520 --> 00:29:55,800
Speaker 1: you know.

649
00:29:55,880 --> 00:29:58,760
Speaker 4: Back then, and it wasn't right then, if not right now,

650
00:29:59,720 --> 00:30:02,800
Speaker 4: old the man they did things of that nature.

651
00:30:03,120 --> 00:30:05,320
Speaker 2: Well, I was just in court with him, not even

652
00:30:05,440 --> 00:30:08,040
Speaker 2: five years not even three years ago, for him doing

653
00:30:08,080 --> 00:30:09,600
Speaker 2: the same thing to his wife child.

654
00:30:11,720 --> 00:30:12,600
Speaker 4: He in jail, he got it.

655
00:30:12,720 --> 00:30:16,360
Speaker 1: No he's not in jail. No, he's not in jail.

656
00:30:16,600 --> 00:30:20,280
Speaker 2: They called me because they wanted to show that he's

657
00:30:20,320 --> 00:30:21,840
Speaker 2: a pedim of behavior.

658
00:30:22,160 --> 00:30:24,000
Speaker 1: And I went to court to testified, and he did

659
00:30:24,080 --> 00:30:24,800
Speaker 1: not go to jail.

660
00:30:25,440 --> 00:30:29,880
Speaker 2: And I walked out of there and I actually cried

661
00:30:30,520 --> 00:30:33,000
Speaker 2: because I felt like if they had locked him up,

662
00:30:33,080 --> 00:30:35,200
Speaker 2: I would have got some type of jestice because it's

663
00:30:35,240 --> 00:30:37,640
Speaker 2: too late for me. Yes, you know, the statutetre is

664
00:30:37,760 --> 00:30:40,800
Speaker 2: over for me. But if they can get him on

665
00:30:40,920 --> 00:30:42,800
Speaker 2: this kid, it would have been even it.

666
00:30:43,360 --> 00:30:43,840
Speaker 1: I would have.

667
00:30:46,360 --> 00:30:48,320
Speaker 4: Yes, but they didn't, and he wouldn't be able to

668
00:30:48,360 --> 00:30:52,600
Speaker 4: do this to anybody else. No, you dropped out of

669
00:30:52,600 --> 00:30:54,840
Speaker 4: school in the eighth grade, so basically you got a

670
00:30:54,840 --> 00:30:57,840
Speaker 4: basically a seventh grade education. Why you dropped out of schools?

671
00:30:58,440 --> 00:30:59,240
Speaker 1: I had two kids.

672
00:31:00,600 --> 00:31:02,720
Speaker 2: I got pregnant again. I had the first baby, and

673
00:31:02,800 --> 00:31:05,520
Speaker 2: then I got pregnant. I just turned right back around

674
00:31:05,560 --> 00:31:08,000
Speaker 2: and got pregnant, and so I had to go to work.

675
00:31:08,320 --> 00:31:11,080
Speaker 2: Ma mama got a welfare check and she only gave

676
00:31:11,200 --> 00:31:13,080
Speaker 2: me what they added to the check, which was.

677
00:31:13,120 --> 00:31:17,000
Speaker 1: Thirty five forty dollars. So my mama thought, and this

678
00:31:17,160 --> 00:31:19,440
Speaker 1: is in the eighty seven. I can take care of

679
00:31:19,480 --> 00:31:20,360
Speaker 1: two kids off.

680
00:31:21,920 --> 00:31:26,560
Speaker 4: Forty dollars, and what you you ain't taking, you can barely.

681
00:31:26,640 --> 00:31:28,800
Speaker 4: You can't take care of yourself off party little lord,

682
00:31:28,840 --> 00:31:30,440
Speaker 4: do kid Pampa.

683
00:31:30,400 --> 00:31:33,400
Speaker 1: Formula and formula formula. It's high now.

684
00:31:33,640 --> 00:31:35,480
Speaker 2: Back in the day, it was like twenty nine dollars

685
00:31:35,480 --> 00:31:37,560
Speaker 2: four case. It's probably two hundred four ks now.

686
00:31:38,120 --> 00:31:40,280
Speaker 1: But I had to go to work. I had to

687
00:31:40,360 --> 00:31:43,400
Speaker 1: find a way. So I got in the streets. You know.

688
00:31:43,800 --> 00:31:44,600
Speaker 1: I started.

689
00:31:45,280 --> 00:31:47,880
Speaker 2: My kid's father was selling drugs, and then he was

690
00:31:47,960 --> 00:31:50,719
Speaker 2: helping me because he had so many women and babies.

691
00:31:50,960 --> 00:31:54,040
Speaker 2: And then once he went to jail, I started selling drugs,

692
00:31:54,320 --> 00:31:55,760
Speaker 2: and that's how I took care of my kids.

693
00:31:57,560 --> 00:32:00,280
Speaker 4: How did you How did you boid the temptation that

694
00:32:01,360 --> 00:32:03,360
Speaker 4: happened to your sister? She got out there in the

695
00:32:03,400 --> 00:32:06,600
Speaker 4: streets early, and she got hooked on the drugs. Is

696
00:32:06,640 --> 00:32:08,320
Speaker 4: it that you like, Well, I can't get high of

697
00:32:08,400 --> 00:32:10,280
Speaker 4: my own supply. If I'm selling, I can't use.

698
00:32:10,680 --> 00:32:12,440
Speaker 1: I was always turned off my mama.

699
00:32:12,800 --> 00:32:16,040
Speaker 2: Okay, my mama watched a lot of soap poppers and

700
00:32:16,720 --> 00:32:18,160
Speaker 2: she smoked cigarettes like a dude.

701
00:32:18,320 --> 00:32:21,800
Speaker 1: I mean, like like weed. No, no, like just holding

702
00:32:21,880 --> 00:32:22,720
Speaker 1: it like a dude.

703
00:32:22,960 --> 00:32:25,680
Speaker 2: My mama did everything like she was a lesbian, and

704
00:32:25,800 --> 00:32:28,280
Speaker 2: it just turned me off, like cigarettes, and.

705
00:32:28,640 --> 00:32:29,920
Speaker 1: You I would go to school and back in the

706
00:32:30,000 --> 00:32:31,200
Speaker 1: day they had they had.

707
00:32:31,080 --> 00:32:33,800
Speaker 2: Smoking the bear till you don't smoke some cigarette, And

708
00:32:33,920 --> 00:32:35,400
Speaker 2: so I would come home with my mom would make

709
00:32:35,520 --> 00:32:37,120
Speaker 2: us like cigarettes and I would burn them up on

710
00:32:37,240 --> 00:32:40,640
Speaker 2: the side, and everything she did, I knew I didn't

711
00:32:40,680 --> 00:32:44,280
Speaker 2: want to be and I mean everything she did, I

712
00:32:45,360 --> 00:32:50,160
Speaker 2: just despised it. She drank gin and water, she she smoked.

713
00:32:50,320 --> 00:32:52,959
Speaker 2: She only thing I kept was ma Mama, very funny

714
00:32:53,160 --> 00:32:55,320
Speaker 2: as she cursed. And that's the two things I kept

715
00:32:55,400 --> 00:32:59,280
Speaker 2: from her. But she was She was the most depressed person.

716
00:32:59,400 --> 00:33:02,640
Speaker 2: That's the first ever seemed depression. She would say the

717
00:33:02,760 --> 00:33:05,840
Speaker 2: same thing all the time Curtis left me, that was

718
00:33:05,960 --> 00:33:09,080
Speaker 2: my stepdaddy, and she would say, the crackers holding me back.

719
00:33:10,240 --> 00:33:12,320
Speaker 2: And I didn't even know white people crackers at the time.

720
00:33:12,720 --> 00:33:14,760
Speaker 2: I thought she was talking about the keebler El's.

721
00:33:17,120 --> 00:33:19,120
Speaker 1: And and I just said, I don't want to be

722
00:33:19,320 --> 00:33:19,480
Speaker 1: like that.

723
00:33:20,160 --> 00:33:23,400
Speaker 2: She cried all the time, Shannon, and it's so hard

724
00:33:23,440 --> 00:33:25,400
Speaker 2: for me to cry now. To me, when I see

725
00:33:25,520 --> 00:33:27,080
Speaker 2: I tell my and my daughters get on me by

726
00:33:27,120 --> 00:33:29,480
Speaker 2: that all the time. Oh you so hard on your girls.

727
00:33:29,480 --> 00:33:33,200
Speaker 2: I said, don't cry, it's show weakness. And they was like,

728
00:33:33,560 --> 00:33:36,120
Speaker 2: it's nothing wrong with crying, Yes it is. It shows weakness.

729
00:33:36,640 --> 00:33:39,040
Speaker 2: Because I looked at a lady who cried all the

730
00:33:39,280 --> 00:33:42,680
Speaker 2: time and talked about the situation she was in and

731
00:33:42,920 --> 00:33:45,360
Speaker 2: never did nothing about the situation she's in.

732
00:33:45,640 --> 00:33:46,239
Speaker 1: I hate them.

733
00:33:46,440 --> 00:33:48,280
Speaker 2: I hate a person who always telling about what they

734
00:33:48,400 --> 00:33:52,160
Speaker 2: gonna do and ain't gonna do. I got friends like that,

735
00:33:52,240 --> 00:33:54,360
Speaker 2: and I let them talk and they always tell me

736
00:33:54,440 --> 00:33:58,840
Speaker 2: you spontaneous. No, I tell my mind what I'm gonna do,

737
00:33:59,160 --> 00:34:02,200
Speaker 2: because your mind is strong and it controls the body.

738
00:34:02,520 --> 00:34:04,880
Speaker 1: It makes the body react. If you say I can

739
00:34:04,960 --> 00:34:05,920
Speaker 1: get up, I can get up.

740
00:34:06,640 --> 00:34:09,520
Speaker 2: Keep saying that you're gonna get up, even if it

741
00:34:09,600 --> 00:34:12,360
Speaker 2: might not be today, it might be tomorrow. But you

742
00:34:12,560 --> 00:34:17,120
Speaker 2: gotta feed yourself positive stuff. And I can't stand people

743
00:34:17,200 --> 00:34:19,680
Speaker 2: say what they gonna do when I say what I told.

744
00:34:19,719 --> 00:34:22,879
Speaker 2: My husband said, I'm gonna get me a TV show. Oh,

745
00:34:23,520 --> 00:34:25,680
Speaker 2: I said, I'm a build comedian. Pat, you should go

746
00:34:25,760 --> 00:34:27,040
Speaker 2: work at General More. I don't want to work at

747
00:34:27,080 --> 00:34:29,160
Speaker 2: General More. Them people, old lad people. I want to

748
00:34:29,200 --> 00:34:31,359
Speaker 2: do no thirty years making no call. I don't want

749
00:34:31,400 --> 00:34:32,000
Speaker 2: to make no call.

750
00:34:32,080 --> 00:34:33,280
Speaker 1: You go work at Genial Motive.

751
00:34:33,440 --> 00:34:35,480
Speaker 2: And he never understood why didn't want to do that.

752
00:34:35,840 --> 00:34:39,040
Speaker 2: And when I found comedy, comedy was healing for me

753
00:34:39,280 --> 00:34:41,239
Speaker 2: because I could tell these stories with a smile on

754
00:34:41,360 --> 00:34:43,360
Speaker 2: my face and not be ashamed. And I learned it

755
00:34:43,440 --> 00:34:46,040
Speaker 2: so many people out there like me, and boy, I

756
00:34:46,200 --> 00:34:48,719
Speaker 2: was like, I'm never gonna stop this and I didn't

757
00:34:48,719 --> 00:34:49,080
Speaker 2: even do.

758
00:34:49,120 --> 00:34:51,200
Speaker 1: It for the money. I just did it, really.

759
00:34:52,600 --> 00:34:55,600
Speaker 2: Yes, hitting that stage and finding other people that have

760
00:34:55,800 --> 00:34:58,600
Speaker 2: been through the things that I've been through and understanding

761
00:34:58,760 --> 00:35:00,840
Speaker 2: the pain because my husband, I was just me and

762
00:35:00,880 --> 00:35:02,560
Speaker 2: my husband Husans just brought this story to me. So

763
00:35:02,880 --> 00:35:04,399
Speaker 2: my kid's father used to beat on me a lot,

764
00:35:04,440 --> 00:35:05,920
Speaker 2: shot in the back of the head and everything. So

765
00:35:05,920 --> 00:35:07,359
Speaker 2: I would wake up in the middle of the night

766
00:35:07,640 --> 00:35:10,840
Speaker 2: and crying and fight and my husband, my husband had

767
00:35:10,840 --> 00:35:13,279
Speaker 2: to be the general motors at five o'clock, and you know,

768
00:35:13,400 --> 00:35:15,239
Speaker 2: he would try to be comfortable. Oh, it's gonna be

769
00:35:15,239 --> 00:35:18,960
Speaker 2: all right. One night, I woke up Shannon, and my husband, look, hell,

770
00:35:19,160 --> 00:35:21,320
Speaker 2: you need to hit that back because I gotta go

771
00:35:21,360 --> 00:35:22,080
Speaker 2: to work any morning.

772
00:35:26,760 --> 00:35:28,640
Speaker 1: I never dreamed he was being on.

773
00:35:30,680 --> 00:35:33,000
Speaker 3: My husband said, hit him back, because I'm tired of

774
00:35:33,040 --> 00:35:34,640
Speaker 3: you waking me up every other night and get a

775
00:35:34,640 --> 00:35:37,560
Speaker 3: bull crap whatever y'all doing in that dream, hit that ball,

776
00:35:37,640 --> 00:35:40,560
Speaker 3: huggle back and I and I went back to sleep

777
00:35:40,800 --> 00:35:42,920
Speaker 3: and I never got beat up in that dream again.

778
00:35:43,239 --> 00:35:46,880
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786
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Speaker 2: MS.

799
00:36:46,840 --> 00:36:51,040
Speaker 4: Pat your mom. Your mom outwardly was a very tough woman.

800
00:36:51,160 --> 00:36:53,080
Speaker 4: She let off a round, she would curse, she would

801
00:36:53,160 --> 00:36:55,759
Speaker 4: yell and scream, But inside you can tell she was

802
00:36:55,800 --> 00:36:57,800
Speaker 4: a broken woman, that she would breaking.

803
00:36:57,920 --> 00:37:00,520
Speaker 2: My daddy did to her what she all my kids

804
00:37:00,640 --> 00:37:03,880
Speaker 2: father do to do to me. My daddy was very abusive,

805
00:37:04,600 --> 00:37:07,080
Speaker 2: and my mama was so beat down. She only had

806
00:37:07,120 --> 00:37:09,120
Speaker 2: four teeth. I used to think my mama was old.

807
00:37:09,200 --> 00:37:11,200
Speaker 2: She my mama down when she was thirty nine years old.

808
00:37:11,400 --> 00:37:14,160
Speaker 2: What thirty nine years old? She had four teeth in

809
00:37:14,280 --> 00:37:14,640
Speaker 2: her mouth.

810
00:37:15,200 --> 00:37:15,960
Speaker 4: He knocked them up.

811
00:37:16,080 --> 00:37:17,279
Speaker 1: I don't know who knocked him out.

812
00:37:17,320 --> 00:37:19,719
Speaker 2: All I know is her fake teeth was in refrigerator,

813
00:37:19,760 --> 00:37:22,560
Speaker 2: wrapped in a Krogo sack, and she put them in

814
00:37:22,680 --> 00:37:23,399
Speaker 2: every now and then.

815
00:37:24,160 --> 00:37:24,840
Speaker 4: That's all I know.

816
00:37:25,400 --> 00:37:26,319
Speaker 1: I never asked her.

817
00:37:26,480 --> 00:37:28,440
Speaker 2: I think she told us that my daddy knocked her

818
00:37:28,480 --> 00:37:32,080
Speaker 2: teeth out. But she was so beat down. And when

819
00:37:32,120 --> 00:37:34,000
Speaker 2: my kid's father was beating me down like that, and

820
00:37:34,080 --> 00:37:35,520
Speaker 2: I was like, no, you ain't about to do You

821
00:37:35,520 --> 00:37:37,520
Speaker 2: ain't about the mile dred me, You ain't about the

822
00:37:37,560 --> 00:37:38,040
Speaker 2: miljord me.

823
00:37:38,760 --> 00:37:38,960
Speaker 4: Mom.

824
00:37:39,080 --> 00:37:40,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, that was my mom now.

825
00:37:40,080 --> 00:37:42,520
Speaker 2: And I started to fight back, and I remember my kids, Foster,

826
00:37:42,600 --> 00:37:44,120
Speaker 2: i'mna knock your teeth out of my all I could

827
00:37:44,120 --> 00:37:46,040
Speaker 2: see if my mama wanted them too, little soult teeth

828
00:37:46,080 --> 00:37:47,640
Speaker 2: at the top of my mouth and they had cavity.

829
00:37:47,760 --> 00:37:49,120
Speaker 2: I was like, you're not about to have me walking

830
00:37:49,120 --> 00:37:51,000
Speaker 2: around looking like that. And now I don't mind messide

831
00:37:51,080 --> 00:37:56,360
Speaker 2: teeth missing, but you ain't. Yeah, I can either disguise

832
00:37:56,440 --> 00:37:58,520
Speaker 2: my jaws, y'all, just don't got to. I don't smile

833
00:37:58,640 --> 00:38:01,000
Speaker 2: too big, but you.

834
00:38:01,280 --> 00:38:05,960
Speaker 1: But Mama was so broken, so beat down, and I

835
00:38:06,120 --> 00:38:09,879
Speaker 1: just said, a man would never in his life treat

836
00:38:09,960 --> 00:38:10,320
Speaker 1: me like that.

837
00:38:10,440 --> 00:38:12,839
Speaker 4: Again, did you have a relationship with your father?

838
00:38:13,880 --> 00:38:18,360
Speaker 2: My real father came along when I was about twelve

839
00:38:18,480 --> 00:38:22,920
Speaker 2: or thirteen and shows up, slapped me and tell me

840
00:38:23,280 --> 00:38:24,879
Speaker 2: you yeah, and I beat his too.

841
00:38:24,960 --> 00:38:26,279
Speaker 1: Me and my brother beat his ass.

842
00:38:26,800 --> 00:38:26,840
Speaker 3: He.

843
00:38:27,000 --> 00:38:29,120
Speaker 1: I mean, that's how he introduced himself with a slap,

844
00:38:29,640 --> 00:38:30,200
Speaker 1: and you.

845
00:38:32,520 --> 00:38:34,640
Speaker 2: Well, I didn't know him and he hit me, so

846
00:38:34,920 --> 00:38:36,640
Speaker 2: I hit him back, and me and my brother beat

847
00:38:36,719 --> 00:38:38,240
Speaker 2: him up, and he told us he was his daddy.

848
00:38:38,560 --> 00:38:41,080
Speaker 1: But later on in you know, I'm a forgiving person.

849
00:38:41,239 --> 00:38:42,280
Speaker 1: I don't hold grudges.

850
00:38:42,719 --> 00:38:46,120
Speaker 2: And my daddy had multiple my loma and I got

851
00:38:46,200 --> 00:38:47,960
Speaker 2: to know him and I took him to Indiana with me,

852
00:38:48,080 --> 00:38:50,319
Speaker 2: and that's where he passed away at And I never

853
00:38:50,360 --> 00:38:52,200
Speaker 2: forget when he was dying, Shannon.

854
00:38:51,960 --> 00:38:56,000
Speaker 1: Because I'm the baby, and he was so proud of me.

855
00:38:56,239 --> 00:38:57,839
Speaker 2: The only time you ever really seen me on TV

856
00:38:58,280 --> 00:39:00,439
Speaker 2: is when I was on Judge Joe Brown's on somebody

857
00:39:00,480 --> 00:39:03,280
Speaker 2: for damage in my house. And so when he was passed,

858
00:39:04,280 --> 00:39:06,600
Speaker 2: he wanted to see this. But I know he wanted

859
00:39:06,600 --> 00:39:08,879
Speaker 2: to see this, but he died. Make a long story short.

860
00:39:08,920 --> 00:39:11,320
Speaker 2: When he was dying, he looked up at me, and

861
00:39:11,440 --> 00:39:13,680
Speaker 2: at this time he couldn't talk, and he just said

862
00:39:13,920 --> 00:39:17,440
Speaker 2: thank you. And I said, you don't owe me nothing,

863
00:39:18,440 --> 00:39:21,200
Speaker 2: And I know he was saying, I never did nothing

864
00:39:21,320 --> 00:39:24,520
Speaker 2: for you, but you came back and you took care

865
00:39:24,560 --> 00:39:26,800
Speaker 2: of the man that did not take care of you.

866
00:39:27,280 --> 00:39:31,600
Speaker 2: I picked my daddy up from Grady Memorial Hospital. Grady

867
00:39:31,680 --> 00:39:35,000
Speaker 2: Memorial Hospital, put my daddy out with no health care,

868
00:39:36,200 --> 00:39:38,759
Speaker 2: cut his leg off wrong, and pushed.

869
00:39:38,560 --> 00:39:40,000
Speaker 1: Him to the car, put him in the car.

870
00:39:40,280 --> 00:39:42,760
Speaker 2: I put him on a papa and drove him from Atlanta,

871
00:39:42,840 --> 00:39:44,040
Speaker 2: Georgia to Indianapolis.

872
00:39:44,239 --> 00:39:46,200
Speaker 1: I pulled up at the CBS right over there at

873
00:39:46,280 --> 00:39:48,239
Speaker 1: Riverdale and didn't I have no money.

874
00:39:48,280 --> 00:39:50,320
Speaker 2: I wasn't making no money at the time, and I

875
00:39:50,440 --> 00:39:54,200
Speaker 2: said he needed diabetic medication and the man was like

876
00:39:54,400 --> 00:39:55,800
Speaker 2: it was a couple hundred dollar, said.

877
00:39:55,600 --> 00:39:56,400
Speaker 1: Sir, I don't have it.

878
00:39:56,680 --> 00:39:59,680
Speaker 2: I bust out crying, and the pharmacists looked at me

879
00:39:59,719 --> 00:40:02,200
Speaker 2: and say, don't cry. I said, I'm taking my daddy

880
00:40:02,200 --> 00:40:05,160
Speaker 2: home to Indiana. He said, I'm gonna feel my prescription

881
00:40:05,280 --> 00:40:07,160
Speaker 2: and that should be enough for you to get him

882
00:40:07,200 --> 00:40:09,840
Speaker 2: back on Medicaid Medicare, so you can get him a prescription.

883
00:40:10,120 --> 00:40:13,320
Speaker 2: He gave me his thirty day supply. I drove my

884
00:40:13,440 --> 00:40:16,160
Speaker 2: daddy all the way from Atlanta, Georgias to Indianapolis, and

885
00:40:16,280 --> 00:40:20,000
Speaker 2: my trailblazing pulled over several times and changed his papa

886
00:40:20,040 --> 00:40:20,799
Speaker 2: in the back of the car.

887
00:40:22,920 --> 00:40:25,120
Speaker 1: And he stayed with me for about five or six years.

888
00:40:25,600 --> 00:40:27,359
Speaker 1: And this is when my career took off.

889
00:40:27,840 --> 00:40:31,239
Speaker 4: I get a call, huh, God, favor for what you did?

890
00:40:32,360 --> 00:40:32,520
Speaker 4: You know?

891
00:40:32,760 --> 00:40:33,839
Speaker 1: I didn't. I don't.

892
00:40:34,120 --> 00:40:37,120
Speaker 2: I told my daddy. He said, I know what your

893
00:40:37,160 --> 00:40:40,000
Speaker 2: mama gonna told you. I said, stop, we can start over.

894
00:40:41,280 --> 00:40:43,279
Speaker 1: I said, I don't know. I don't go about what

895
00:40:43,360 --> 00:40:46,000
Speaker 1: people say about people. Let me get to know you.

896
00:40:46,920 --> 00:40:49,640
Speaker 2: And I got to know him, and I got a

897
00:40:49,719 --> 00:40:53,360
Speaker 2: chance to love him, to feel what a father love was.

898
00:40:53,480 --> 00:40:57,120
Speaker 2: I already had that step father, but you know that

899
00:40:57,280 --> 00:40:59,920
Speaker 2: was my stepdad. He stood in for a long time,

900
00:41:00,080 --> 00:41:02,000
Speaker 2: and then my real daddy came along and I got

901
00:41:02,040 --> 00:41:04,200
Speaker 2: to feel the love that my real daddy had for me.

902
00:41:05,280 --> 00:41:09,080
Speaker 2: And when he passed away, I had just got a

903
00:41:09,200 --> 00:41:11,600
Speaker 2: call my daddy passed. I don't know if this is

904
00:41:11,719 --> 00:41:15,160
Speaker 2: xact day. On a Monday that to Wednesday, I got

905
00:41:15,200 --> 00:41:18,280
Speaker 2: a call to come go on tour with Cat Williams.

906
00:41:19,040 --> 00:41:21,239
Speaker 1: And I told my husband, I said, you ain't gonna

907
00:41:21,239 --> 00:41:23,440
Speaker 1: believe this. He said, what I said? They told me.

908
00:41:23,480 --> 00:41:26,360
Speaker 2: I'm going on tour with Cat william I get to

909
00:41:26,680 --> 00:41:28,480
Speaker 2: I don't even know what the first city was. I

910
00:41:28,560 --> 00:41:30,640
Speaker 2: get to the city, were all in the room like

911
00:41:30,760 --> 00:41:33,080
Speaker 2: this and Cat come in and I'm excited. I don't

912
00:41:33,120 --> 00:41:34,800
Speaker 2: want to show my excitement because I don't really know

913
00:41:35,040 --> 00:41:39,080
Speaker 2: Cat william And he introduced itself when we talking, and

914
00:41:39,160 --> 00:41:41,759
Speaker 2: he overheard me on the phone and I'm trying to

915
00:41:41,800 --> 00:41:43,640
Speaker 2: get my brothers and sister that my daddy just died.

916
00:41:43,680 --> 00:41:45,839
Speaker 2: He said, what you're doing? I said, my daddy died.

917
00:41:46,560 --> 00:41:48,720
Speaker 2: He said your daddy died. I said, yeah, he died Monday.

918
00:41:48,880 --> 00:41:50,880
Speaker 2: I said, I'm just trying to, you know, do his funeral.

919
00:41:51,000 --> 00:41:53,759
Speaker 1: Do you mind? And he said no, mind.

920
00:41:54,040 --> 00:41:55,880
Speaker 2: He went behind a dough and came back with a

921
00:41:55,880 --> 00:41:58,719
Speaker 2: stack of money, and I said, what is this? He said,

922
00:41:58,719 --> 00:42:03,440
Speaker 2: go bury your daddy and come back, and I was

923
00:42:03,520 --> 00:42:07,000
Speaker 2: blown away. It was a couple thousand dollars. My daddy

924
00:42:07,000 --> 00:42:10,400
Speaker 2: had spent his insurance money right before he died. He

925
00:42:10,760 --> 00:42:13,880
Speaker 2: literally catched his insurance part. I could have kicked his ass,

926
00:42:15,040 --> 00:42:17,319
Speaker 2: because you know you got casting you die, you're gonna

927
00:42:17,320 --> 00:42:19,160
Speaker 2: catch you your damn life at SHIRR. But I almost

928
00:42:19,239 --> 00:42:22,279
Speaker 2: put him in a potato sack. He better be thinking

929
00:42:22,360 --> 00:42:24,440
Speaker 2: Cat William, because he was about to be potatoes.

930
00:42:24,960 --> 00:42:29,200
Speaker 4: Let me get this straight. Your father died. Yes Monday,

931
00:42:30,160 --> 00:42:31,960
Speaker 4: you get the call you're going on tour with Cat.

932
00:42:33,560 --> 00:42:35,640
Speaker 4: You've never met Cat before. You don't know Cat. You

933
00:42:35,800 --> 00:42:38,000
Speaker 4: know who he is, but you don't know it like that.

934
00:42:40,440 --> 00:42:42,520
Speaker 4: You introduce yourself. He walks up to you and you

935
00:42:42,760 --> 00:42:44,560
Speaker 4: you're on the phone and you're talking to your siblings

936
00:42:44,600 --> 00:42:47,799
Speaker 4: about Okay, dad just died and we need to make

937
00:42:47,880 --> 00:42:53,280
Speaker 4: arrangements to put him away. He overhears the conversation, he leaves,

938
00:42:53,480 --> 00:42:56,759
Speaker 4: comes back and hands you money, a lot of money

939
00:42:57,080 --> 00:42:58,680
Speaker 4: sitting there. Go bear your daddy. Come back.

940
00:42:59,120 --> 00:43:02,279
Speaker 2: Yes, I did to show that Friday. Uh that that

941
00:43:02,520 --> 00:43:05,480
Speaker 2: that that week, I flew home, buried my daddy and

942
00:43:05,600 --> 00:43:09,359
Speaker 2: came back and I tried to pay it back. He said,

943
00:43:09,360 --> 00:43:10,200
Speaker 2: you don't owe me nothing.

944
00:43:12,640 --> 00:43:15,000
Speaker 4: So Cat, this is Ben Cat, Ben Cat.

945
00:43:15,120 --> 00:43:18,279
Speaker 2: I just seen him at the at the Netflix. Uh,

946
00:43:18,400 --> 00:43:20,520
Speaker 2: the guy who owns Netflix. We went to a part

947
00:43:20,560 --> 00:43:22,520
Speaker 2: of his house and I always tell him thank you

948
00:43:23,200 --> 00:43:24,400
Speaker 2: because he didn't have to do that.

949
00:43:24,760 --> 00:43:27,600
Speaker 1: And in this world and this game, ain't a lot of.

950
00:43:27,600 --> 00:43:29,839
Speaker 4: People that will people if you do something, they something

951
00:43:29,840 --> 00:43:31,400
Speaker 4: that they don't want something back and return at some

952
00:43:31,480 --> 00:43:31,960
Speaker 4: point in time.

953
00:43:32,160 --> 00:43:34,600
Speaker 2: Oh, they gonna tweet about it. Yes, Oh they gonna

954
00:43:34,600 --> 00:43:35,719
Speaker 2: tell everybody, Oh I helped you.

955
00:43:35,840 --> 00:43:36,759
Speaker 1: I hate people who do that.

956
00:43:37,640 --> 00:43:40,040
Speaker 2: And people only know this story is because I tell him.

957
00:43:40,560 --> 00:43:42,920
Speaker 2: But for him to bury my daddy the first day,

958
00:43:43,080 --> 00:43:47,360
Speaker 2: and he still paid me, Shannon, he still paid me.

959
00:43:48,560 --> 00:43:50,080
Speaker 2: He didn't take it out of my pay.

960
00:43:51,200 --> 00:43:52,560
Speaker 1: He still paid me.

961
00:43:54,960 --> 00:43:57,439
Speaker 4: Is that what people? What do people get wrong about Cat?

962
00:43:57,480 --> 00:44:00,200
Speaker 4: Because people and I've had a comedy on here, Harry

963
00:44:00,239 --> 00:44:02,320
Speaker 4: Owen said the same thing that he did them a solid.

964
00:44:03,160 --> 00:44:06,239
Speaker 4: There have been several people, but there's there's some out

965
00:44:06,280 --> 00:44:08,640
Speaker 4: there that don't don't rock with Cat and don't feel

966
00:44:08,719 --> 00:44:13,160
Speaker 4: Cat is what are we missing? I know him on

967
00:44:13,239 --> 00:44:15,360
Speaker 4: a different level now because after we did the interview,

968
00:44:15,640 --> 00:44:17,719
Speaker 4: we've been in constant communication, so I know him on

969
00:44:17,760 --> 00:44:19,880
Speaker 4: a little different level, and you know, been in his

970
00:44:20,000 --> 00:44:23,280
Speaker 4: presence since we did the interview. What are we missing?

971
00:44:23,320 --> 00:44:25,520
Speaker 4: What people don't know about Cat that you want people

972
00:44:25,560 --> 00:44:28,160
Speaker 4: to absolutely understand about Cat Williams.

973
00:44:28,080 --> 00:44:31,840
Speaker 2: One of the nicest comics in this game that I

974
00:44:31,960 --> 00:44:34,880
Speaker 2: ever deal with. I mean, the most caring, one of

975
00:44:34,960 --> 00:44:36,520
Speaker 2: the most caring. And I don't deal with a lot

976
00:44:36,560 --> 00:44:37,520
Speaker 2: of people because I'm old.

977
00:44:38,040 --> 00:44:41,120
Speaker 1: You know, I don't. I don't have stories about horrible

978
00:44:41,160 --> 00:44:44,240
Speaker 1: stories about comedians. I just you know, lived my life.

979
00:44:44,320 --> 00:44:48,919
Speaker 2: But that I will never forget because you just could

980
00:44:48,920 --> 00:44:51,040
Speaker 2: have told me I'm gonna pay you, but no, you

981
00:44:51,200 --> 00:44:53,680
Speaker 2: paid for my daddy funeral and it was a.

982
00:44:53,719 --> 00:44:56,359
Speaker 4: Few thousand dollars, right, and didn't take it out your check.

983
00:44:56,480 --> 00:44:57,480
Speaker 1: Didn't take it out of my check.

984
00:44:57,800 --> 00:45:00,320
Speaker 4: And if he took it out your check, you do understood.

985
00:45:00,120 --> 00:45:02,400
Speaker 1: I would have. I didn't expect anything. You just helped me,

986
00:45:02,520 --> 00:45:03,880
Speaker 1: told me to go bury my daddy.

987
00:45:05,600 --> 00:45:05,839
Speaker 4: Wow.

988
00:45:06,680 --> 00:45:08,399
Speaker 2: I was able to buy a casket. I was able

989
00:45:08,440 --> 00:45:10,279
Speaker 2: to put him in the ground. I was able to

990
00:45:10,320 --> 00:45:12,000
Speaker 2: get my brother and sisters up there.

991
00:45:12,640 --> 00:45:13,800
Speaker 1: I was able to do everything.

992
00:45:15,800 --> 00:45:20,600
Speaker 4: Mm hmm. When he gave you that money, did you think, like, Lord,

993
00:45:20,640 --> 00:45:22,759
Speaker 4: have merch This man just met me. He don't know

994
00:45:22,840 --> 00:45:23,920
Speaker 4: me from a can of pain here.

995
00:45:24,000 --> 00:45:25,480
Speaker 2: I said no, I said, you don't have to do that.

996
00:45:25,520 --> 00:45:27,680
Speaker 2: I said, I'm gonna be okay. I was trying to

997
00:45:27,719 --> 00:45:30,280
Speaker 2: work it out. I mean, at the time, my husband's

998
00:45:30,320 --> 00:45:32,359
Speaker 2: at General Motors, and I knew I was gonna get

999
00:45:32,360 --> 00:45:32,920
Speaker 2: paid from him.

1000
00:45:33,239 --> 00:45:36,200
Speaker 1: And then you know, my husband got pretty good credit.

1001
00:45:36,280 --> 00:45:38,440
Speaker 2: We was talking about taking our loan, you know, all

1002
00:45:38,520 --> 00:45:40,640
Speaker 2: kinds of stuff, trying to get the city to bury him,

1003
00:45:40,760 --> 00:45:41,600
Speaker 2: all kinds of stuff.

1004
00:45:41,960 --> 00:45:44,320
Speaker 1: Cat walked in and gave me the money and changed

1005
00:45:44,360 --> 00:45:45,680
Speaker 1: the whole situation.

1006
00:45:46,800 --> 00:45:51,719
Speaker 4: Wow, miss man, I read man, you've been used to

1007
00:45:51,800 --> 00:45:52,480
Speaker 4: scam people.

1008
00:45:52,960 --> 00:45:54,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, I used to be. I used to be a

1009
00:45:54,239 --> 00:45:57,600
Speaker 1: check for you. I was really good at it too.

1010
00:45:59,840 --> 00:46:04,200
Speaker 4: You just steal a blak check, write the person name.

1011
00:46:04,120 --> 00:46:07,520
Speaker 2: On it, take it well back in the day, my brother.

1012
00:46:08,800 --> 00:46:11,360
Speaker 2: I ain't gonna say my relative used to be a

1013
00:46:11,440 --> 00:46:15,759
Speaker 2: cat burn Your podcast too big for me to be

1014
00:46:15,800 --> 00:46:18,040
Speaker 2: telling my family member. Mother will be trying to suit me.

1015
00:46:18,120 --> 00:46:20,400
Speaker 2: I ain't got time for that crack down out a

1016
00:46:20,440 --> 00:46:23,239
Speaker 2: family member that was a professional burglar. So this person

1017
00:46:23,320 --> 00:46:25,800
Speaker 2: used to break in the houses, right, and so a

1018
00:46:25,880 --> 00:46:29,840
Speaker 2: lot of times. And when you got that street mentality,

1019
00:46:29,960 --> 00:46:32,200
Speaker 2: it stays with you. So back in the day, people

1020
00:46:32,320 --> 00:46:34,920
Speaker 2: get comfortable and throw their check books inside of you know,

1021
00:46:35,840 --> 00:46:38,120
Speaker 2: the lovely moment. Well, my brother was still your car,

1022
00:46:38,239 --> 00:46:40,000
Speaker 2: and bring me the checks. And so at first I

1023
00:46:40,000 --> 00:46:41,359
Speaker 2: would give them to a crackhead and say.

1024
00:46:41,320 --> 00:46:42,120
Speaker 1: Just go get me this and that.

1025
00:46:42,320 --> 00:46:44,040
Speaker 2: And I said, well, what are you doing, because I'm

1026
00:46:44,120 --> 00:46:47,360
Speaker 2: curious when it comes down to hustling. And that crackhead

1027
00:46:47,880 --> 00:46:50,440
Speaker 2: showed me how to make a fake I d and

1028
00:46:50,640 --> 00:46:53,000
Speaker 2: showed me how I didn't. I trought our schooling that granted,

1029
00:46:53,000 --> 00:46:54,440
Speaker 2: and not how to feel like no damn check. That

1030
00:46:54,600 --> 00:46:58,920
Speaker 2: crackhead took me in practice writing checks and signing the

1031
00:46:58,960 --> 00:47:02,719
Speaker 2: person name. And so the first time I went out

1032
00:47:02,760 --> 00:47:04,759
Speaker 2: to do it, it was me and another relative and

1033
00:47:04,880 --> 00:47:07,239
Speaker 2: we ran up with Mason's and Masons looked like, well

1034
00:47:07,360 --> 00:47:09,399
Speaker 2: the niggroes right here doing it. Ain't got no money.

1035
00:47:09,520 --> 00:47:11,640
Speaker 2: We got, she got my niece got locked the hell up.

1036
00:47:12,360 --> 00:47:13,600
Speaker 2: And so I said we got a regroup.

1037
00:47:13,840 --> 00:47:14,520
Speaker 1: We did it wrong.

1038
00:47:17,400 --> 00:47:19,799
Speaker 2: So we came up with a plan. All of us

1039
00:47:19,800 --> 00:47:23,239
Speaker 2: black people don't be right up in Yeah, you' mo

1040
00:47:23,520 --> 00:47:25,560
Speaker 2: Mason's riches back in the day. We are going there

1041
00:47:25,600 --> 00:47:27,759
Speaker 2: one at a time, and we gotta look like we

1042
00:47:27,800 --> 00:47:29,080
Speaker 2: gotta look like so we can't go in there with

1043
00:47:29,160 --> 00:47:30,759
Speaker 2: no rags on our head. We gotta look like we

1044
00:47:30,840 --> 00:47:33,480
Speaker 2: got a job. So we put a plan together, and

1045
00:47:33,719 --> 00:47:34,560
Speaker 2: and and that's.

1046
00:47:34,440 --> 00:47:36,240
Speaker 1: How it all happened.

1047
00:47:36,360 --> 00:47:37,520
Speaker 4: How did you get the name rabbit?

1048
00:47:39,080 --> 00:47:40,200
Speaker 1: My stepdaddy he.

1049
00:47:40,400 --> 00:47:41,880
Speaker 2: Used to tell me, say, if you eat, if you

1050
00:47:41,960 --> 00:47:43,520
Speaker 2: eat carries, your eyes are gonna be pretty.

1051
00:47:44,200 --> 00:47:47,960
Speaker 1: And I believe that ship. So I like, I like

1052
00:47:48,080 --> 00:47:48,800
Speaker 1: raw carries.

1053
00:47:49,040 --> 00:47:50,359
Speaker 4: So do anybody call you rabbit?

1054
00:47:50,440 --> 00:47:51,440
Speaker 1: Now? I don't like it.

1055
00:47:51,680 --> 00:47:53,120
Speaker 4: You don't because let me.

1056
00:47:53,160 --> 00:47:53,680
Speaker 1: Tell you why.

1057
00:47:53,840 --> 00:47:57,200
Speaker 2: Rabbit holds a lot to my past, not only that

1058
00:47:57,480 --> 00:47:59,960
Speaker 2: I'm a grown woman. Don't call me rabbit. My name

1059
00:48:00,120 --> 00:48:03,480
Speaker 2: is pad of Patrician, and my one thing about my

1060
00:48:03,640 --> 00:48:06,560
Speaker 2: first my kid's father, he would not call me Patrician

1061
00:48:07,000 --> 00:48:09,719
Speaker 2: because to me, that's how he hold on to the

1062
00:48:09,840 --> 00:48:11,560
Speaker 2: control that he used to have in my life.

1063
00:48:12,120 --> 00:48:14,680
Speaker 1: So he refused to call me pat What would he

1064
00:48:14,760 --> 00:48:14,960
Speaker 1: call you?

1065
00:48:15,160 --> 00:48:16,000
Speaker 4: He called me rabbit?

1066
00:48:16,560 --> 00:48:19,319
Speaker 2: He did he still do and I don't answer. I said,

1067
00:48:19,320 --> 00:48:21,279
Speaker 2: don't call me rap, even my friends. I had to

1068
00:48:21,360 --> 00:48:24,080
Speaker 2: train my friends not to call me rabb.

1069
00:48:23,920 --> 00:48:25,839
Speaker 4: Because, you know, miss Pat Dona southe. Now you get

1070
00:48:25,840 --> 00:48:27,879
Speaker 4: a nickname, you have to take that thing to the grade.

1071
00:48:28,000 --> 00:48:30,359
Speaker 1: Yeah, but I'm fifty two years old. Don't be calling

1072
00:48:30,440 --> 00:48:34,200
Speaker 1: me rabbit. I'm too old to be a rap. I'm

1073
00:48:34,239 --> 00:48:37,560
Speaker 1: a grown woman. I'm somebody. Mama, grandmama and wife.

1074
00:48:37,640 --> 00:48:40,480
Speaker 2: Don't call I'm grown and it and it holds so

1075
00:48:40,719 --> 00:48:43,359
Speaker 2: much to my that name holds so much to where

1076
00:48:43,400 --> 00:48:44,120
Speaker 2: I come from.

1077
00:48:44,320 --> 00:48:46,000
Speaker 1: I just don't want to be called at.

1078
00:48:46,080 --> 00:48:48,640
Speaker 4: Did you ever ask him, say why you still call

1079
00:48:48,719 --> 00:48:50,120
Speaker 4: me rabbit? You know I don't like it.

1080
00:48:50,600 --> 00:48:53,239
Speaker 1: Well, some of my friendly rabbit, I mean Pat, Like

1081
00:48:53,360 --> 00:48:53,600
Speaker 1: I was.

1082
00:48:53,600 --> 00:48:55,440
Speaker 4: Talking talking about your child's father.

1083
00:48:55,640 --> 00:48:57,959
Speaker 2: Yeah, he's somebody, he said, he said, I don't know Pat.

1084
00:48:57,960 --> 00:49:01,440
Speaker 2: I know rabbit, but that's his way holding on. So

1085
00:49:01,600 --> 00:49:04,160
Speaker 2: every time he hit me through Facebook, I don't fuck

1086
00:49:04,239 --> 00:49:08,000
Speaker 2: with him. Going back to Jiffy Little, but leave me alone.

1087
00:49:10,600 --> 00:49:15,480
Speaker 4: Man, What about you bought a Cadillac. You bought a Cadillac,

1088
00:49:15,640 --> 00:49:17,840
Speaker 4: but you needed UH because you only had a learners permit.

1089
00:49:18,000 --> 00:49:20,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, I had a learners permit. I had several calls

1090
00:49:20,560 --> 00:49:21,080
Speaker 1: at that time.

1091
00:49:21,600 --> 00:49:23,960
Speaker 4: Are you it's bad you you don't even have a

1092
00:49:24,080 --> 00:49:25,080
Speaker 4: real driver's license.

1093
00:49:25,120 --> 00:49:25,560
Speaker 1: Well you could go.

1094
00:49:25,640 --> 00:49:26,960
Speaker 2: I had a friend that used to take us to

1095
00:49:27,040 --> 00:49:29,320
Speaker 2: the auction, real auction here in Alanda. So you go

1096
00:49:29,400 --> 00:49:31,560
Speaker 2: down now on Stuart Avenue and you buy as many

1097
00:49:31,640 --> 00:49:32,360
Speaker 2: causes as you want to.

1098
00:49:33,120 --> 00:49:35,600
Speaker 1: So I would buy these calls and fix them up.

1099
00:49:35,680 --> 00:49:38,000
Speaker 2: And I had a Fleetwood Cadillac when every drug dealer

1100
00:49:38,080 --> 00:49:40,000
Speaker 2: had one. And I had a learner's license with a

1101
00:49:40,040 --> 00:49:42,680
Speaker 2: crackhead on a passion seat because he had a driver's license.

1102
00:49:42,880 --> 00:49:43,960
Speaker 1: So I had a miss shifts.

1103
00:49:44,080 --> 00:49:45,879
Speaker 2: So when the police pulled me over, they can't search

1104
00:49:45,960 --> 00:49:47,480
Speaker 2: the car because I had a license.

1105
00:49:47,560 --> 00:49:48,400
Speaker 1: Drive in the car with me.

1106
00:49:49,960 --> 00:49:53,000
Speaker 4: You always had a hustle mentality. You always looking with him.

1107
00:49:53,120 --> 00:49:53,520
Speaker 1: You know what?

1108
00:49:53,840 --> 00:49:56,840
Speaker 2: You know what, Shannon, I wasn't I used to steal,

1109
00:49:56,920 --> 00:49:58,840
Speaker 2: but I wasn't big on stealing. But when I go

1110
00:49:58,920 --> 00:50:00,920
Speaker 2: in the store, I had to at you myself, be

1111
00:50:00,960 --> 00:50:02,600
Speaker 2: cause that little crazy.

1112
00:50:02,239 --> 00:50:02,920
Speaker 1: Person in me.

1113
00:50:05,400 --> 00:50:06,640
Speaker 4: In the back of the mind, like you know what

1114
00:50:06,760 --> 00:50:07,120
Speaker 4: you can.

1115
00:50:08,640 --> 00:50:10,320
Speaker 2: I was at home Goods the other day and this

1116
00:50:10,440 --> 00:50:12,160
Speaker 2: dude put a two hundred dollars rug in my car

1117
00:50:12,239 --> 00:50:15,000
Speaker 2: by mistake, and that crazy person may be like, take

1118
00:50:15,040 --> 00:50:17,239
Speaker 2: off with that damn world, and the good person like,

1119
00:50:17,360 --> 00:50:19,480
Speaker 2: don't do that. You got an American Express card. So

1120
00:50:19,600 --> 00:50:21,000
Speaker 2: I said, sir, get the rouge out of my car.

1121
00:50:21,120 --> 00:50:24,320
Speaker 2: That's not my rouge, that's not my robe. But that

1122
00:50:24,600 --> 00:50:27,120
Speaker 2: that is still in me, that's the hustle in me.

1123
00:50:28,120 --> 00:50:29,680
Speaker 4: So I want to make sure I get this sick.

1124
00:50:30,080 --> 00:50:32,880
Speaker 4: You were shot in the head at fourteen, got your

1125
00:50:32,920 --> 00:50:34,520
Speaker 4: areola blown off at fifteen.

1126
00:50:37,719 --> 00:50:43,239
Speaker 1: Why do you have to say, ariola? Yeah?

1127
00:50:43,760 --> 00:50:44,680
Speaker 4: Was it the same guy?

1128
00:50:45,040 --> 00:50:46,520
Speaker 2: No, my kids father shot me in the back of

1129
00:50:46,560 --> 00:50:48,800
Speaker 2: the head and another guy shot me in my boom.

1130
00:50:49,600 --> 00:50:50,719
Speaker 1: What damn hold on?

1131
00:50:52,440 --> 00:50:53,000
Speaker 4: Is it true?

1132
00:50:54,280 --> 00:50:55,840
Speaker 1: I got shot twice? At you? I think I was

1133
00:50:55,880 --> 00:50:57,480
Speaker 1: fifteen when I got shot both times.

1134
00:50:57,560 --> 00:50:58,600
Speaker 4: Damn I know.

1135
00:50:58,719 --> 00:51:00,600
Speaker 1: I told God, that's a look here, you gotta tell

1136
00:51:00,600 --> 00:51:05,239
Speaker 1: you more. Stop shooting me. And bullets so hot they

1137
00:51:05,360 --> 00:51:07,000
Speaker 1: burn after you.

1138
00:51:07,280 --> 00:51:09,680
Speaker 4: Did you know he had shot you in the head.

1139
00:51:10,440 --> 00:51:12,720
Speaker 2: Yeah, he shot me and left me in the house

1140
00:51:13,320 --> 00:51:14,960
Speaker 2: and I called. I was so I was so younger,

1141
00:51:15,080 --> 00:51:17,719
Speaker 2: I'm gonna call my friend. I was like, he shot me, girl,

1142
00:51:17,840 --> 00:51:20,760
Speaker 2: come over here. She get over there, and it cracked

1143
00:51:20,800 --> 00:51:22,439
Speaker 2: my skull and I'm bleeding stuff.

1144
00:51:22,440 --> 00:51:24,200
Speaker 4: Excuse me? What do you shoot you with the twenty two?

1145
00:51:24,200 --> 00:51:26,200
Speaker 1: Thirty eight? Yeah? Thirty eight?

1146
00:51:26,920 --> 00:51:29,880
Speaker 4: Yeah, but still people have been killed with twenty two

1147
00:51:29,920 --> 00:51:30,440
Speaker 4: and thirty eight.

1148
00:51:30,640 --> 00:51:32,040
Speaker 1: Yes they have, Yes, they have.

1149
00:51:32,600 --> 00:51:35,360
Speaker 2: And so I brilliant, Shannon, I'm gonna be honest with you.

1150
00:51:35,440 --> 00:51:36,800
Speaker 2: This is how stupid I was when he shot me.

1151
00:51:36,880 --> 00:51:38,400
Speaker 2: I thought he I was like, that's love.

1152
00:51:39,200 --> 00:51:41,239
Speaker 1: Because my mama told me, if a man don't beat you,

1153
00:51:41,320 --> 00:51:41,880
Speaker 1: he don't love you.

1154
00:51:42,280 --> 00:51:42,320
Speaker 3: What.

1155
00:51:42,960 --> 00:51:46,120
Speaker 2: Yes, So every black guy was a hickey on my

1156
00:51:46,320 --> 00:51:52,880
Speaker 2: neck until one day I watched What's Love Gotta Do

1157
00:51:53,000 --> 00:51:54,640
Speaker 2: with It? And I was like, I ain't taking no

1158
00:51:54,719 --> 00:51:56,960
Speaker 2: more a whooping and I'll never forget. When I first

1159
00:51:56,960 --> 00:51:59,759
Speaker 2: started fighting him back, my cousin, my cousin Bull was

1160
00:51:59,760 --> 00:52:01,719
Speaker 2: in the cause She's like, hit him back, hit his

1161
00:52:01,920 --> 00:52:06,800
Speaker 2: ass back. You know how your cousin, I'm I'm fighting

1162
00:52:06,840 --> 00:52:08,600
Speaker 2: my kids father. He hit me right here between my

1163
00:52:08,680 --> 00:52:11,200
Speaker 2: eyes and black both my eyes, and she laughed her.

1164
00:52:11,160 --> 00:52:13,440
Speaker 1: Ass, and I said, why are you to help me?

1165
00:52:13,480 --> 00:52:15,000
Speaker 1: T W I don't want none to ask.

1166
00:52:19,160 --> 00:52:22,799
Speaker 4: But when he when your child's father shot you, you said,

1167
00:52:22,840 --> 00:52:25,360
Speaker 4: originally wasn't his fault? Because you just too did you

1168
00:52:25,400 --> 00:52:26,279
Speaker 4: didn't duck fast enough?

1169
00:52:26,640 --> 00:52:28,239
Speaker 1: You know what that was? I wanted to make it

1170
00:52:28,320 --> 00:52:28,960
Speaker 1: out of a joke.

1171
00:52:29,080 --> 00:52:31,120
Speaker 2: Yes, And it was so hard to hear that a

1172
00:52:31,160 --> 00:52:34,000
Speaker 2: woman had been shot and abuse and people say, oh

1173
00:52:34,080 --> 00:52:34,560
Speaker 2: my god.

1174
00:52:34,960 --> 00:52:36,480
Speaker 1: And I was like, how can I make this funny?

1175
00:52:36,480 --> 00:52:38,400
Speaker 1: It's funny to me. And so one day I was

1176
00:52:38,440 --> 00:52:40,120
Speaker 1: on stage and I said, it wasn't his fault, it

1177
00:52:40,200 --> 00:52:41,360
Speaker 1: was my fault. A duct slow?

1178
00:52:42,960 --> 00:52:45,239
Speaker 4: Did I mean did he just I mean, did you not?

1179
00:52:45,360 --> 00:52:46,840
Speaker 4: I mean? Did he walk up behind you? Did he

1180
00:52:46,920 --> 00:52:47,520
Speaker 4: go get the gun?

1181
00:52:47,640 --> 00:52:49,440
Speaker 1: He came over and I was over with a guy.

1182
00:52:50,160 --> 00:52:52,239
Speaker 1: They got to fighting and stuff, and then he hit

1183
00:52:52,400 --> 00:52:54,640
Speaker 1: me with the gun and the gun went off. Oh

1184
00:52:54,920 --> 00:52:55,919
Speaker 1: and then he ran.

1185
00:52:56,840 --> 00:52:59,799
Speaker 4: He ran, So you was over there with another guy

1186
00:53:00,400 --> 00:53:01,600
Speaker 4: cover okay?

1187
00:53:02,200 --> 00:53:04,719
Speaker 2: And so I called my friend and when I call

1188
00:53:04,800 --> 00:53:07,520
Speaker 2: my friend, she came over and I was bleeding, and

1189
00:53:07,600 --> 00:53:09,759
Speaker 2: then we called an ambulance and I get him from

1190
00:53:09,800 --> 00:53:12,160
Speaker 2: the back of the AMA, just talking. I'm fifteen, young

1191
00:53:12,280 --> 00:53:14,719
Speaker 2: and dumb, and they looking at me like, which, why

1192
00:53:14,800 --> 00:53:18,919
Speaker 2: you ain't dead? And so they cut all my hair

1193
00:53:19,000 --> 00:53:22,040
Speaker 2: off and make sure my brain din swell and then

1194
00:53:22,080 --> 00:53:23,680
Speaker 2: I went. I got out of the hospital and I

1195
00:53:23,760 --> 00:53:24,960
Speaker 2: went to tone load.

1196
00:53:24,800 --> 00:53:27,840
Speaker 4: Concert, funky cole Madina.

1197
00:53:28,000 --> 00:53:30,040
Speaker 1: Yes, with a whole bully woman in the back of

1198
00:53:30,120 --> 00:53:30,439
Speaker 1: my head.

1199
00:53:32,960 --> 00:53:37,040
Speaker 4: You telling you what now? So this you get shot again? No,

1200
00:53:37,239 --> 00:53:37,960
Speaker 4: you shoot somebody?

1201
00:53:38,000 --> 00:53:39,160
Speaker 1: You shoot I shot him?

1202
00:53:40,280 --> 00:53:42,440
Speaker 4: Yes, you go to pick him up on the hospital.

1203
00:53:43,000 --> 00:53:46,600
Speaker 4: There's another chick there, his other baby mama, and I

1204
00:53:46,719 --> 00:53:48,239
Speaker 4: run in the parking lot.

1205
00:53:48,400 --> 00:53:50,239
Speaker 1: I sure did, because I shot you so I can

1206
00:53:50,320 --> 00:53:50,759
Speaker 1: take care of you.

1207
00:53:56,560 --> 00:54:02,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's how crazy I was you. But that's when

1208
00:54:02,640 --> 00:54:06,040
Speaker 2: you that's when you think abusive love. And it's not

1209
00:54:06,080 --> 00:54:08,000
Speaker 2: because we did a lot to each other. I mean,

1210
00:54:08,440 --> 00:54:11,240
Speaker 2: I mean I told a story about him. He skated

1211
00:54:11,239 --> 00:54:12,560
Speaker 2: all the time, and he hit me in my head

1212
00:54:12,800 --> 00:54:14,480
Speaker 2: with to stop on the skate and I don't know

1213
00:54:14,480 --> 00:54:15,200
Speaker 2: if you've ever seen a.

1214
00:54:15,160 --> 00:54:18,320
Speaker 1: Stop, but that ain't gonna give. And I hit with

1215
00:54:18,400 --> 00:54:18,800
Speaker 1: an iron.

1216
00:54:19,000 --> 00:54:21,800
Speaker 2: I mean, it was always just fighting black guys, and

1217
00:54:22,080 --> 00:54:24,800
Speaker 2: you know, shooting at him and he's shooting at me.

1218
00:54:25,160 --> 00:54:26,560
Speaker 1: I'm just thankful that I ain't dead.

1219
00:54:28,239 --> 00:54:33,279
Speaker 4: How did you finally decide enough of this? BS? I'm

1220
00:54:33,400 --> 00:54:37,680
Speaker 4: done with this. I'm done with him. I'm moving on

1221
00:54:38,440 --> 00:54:41,719
Speaker 4: because I know there's something bigger and better for Patricia.

1222
00:54:43,360 --> 00:54:46,240
Speaker 2: I always tell people this is before Sierra, This singer

1223
00:54:46,320 --> 00:54:50,200
Speaker 2: ever ever prayed that prayer for her husband Russell. I

1224
00:54:50,680 --> 00:54:53,200
Speaker 2: prayed to God and I say, Lord, I'll never forget it.

1225
00:54:53,280 --> 00:54:55,239
Speaker 2: I don't get on my knees for nothing, and I

1226
00:54:55,320 --> 00:54:57,640
Speaker 2: mean no sexual moved for nothing because it's hard for me.

1227
00:54:57,680 --> 00:54:58,120
Speaker 1: To get up.

1228
00:54:58,600 --> 00:55:00,920
Speaker 2: And God know I'm ladies, I'm a prayer on my side.

1229
00:55:01,520 --> 00:55:04,319
Speaker 2: I got on my knees and I said, Lord, I'm

1230
00:55:04,400 --> 00:55:08,360
Speaker 2: not asking you to change him. I'm asking you to

1231
00:55:08,520 --> 00:55:11,200
Speaker 2: change me. I said, I don't want to hate him,

1232
00:55:11,680 --> 00:55:14,000
Speaker 2: but the love that I have and the desire that

1233
00:55:14,080 --> 00:55:16,840
Speaker 2: I have for this man, I asked you to remove

1234
00:55:16,920 --> 00:55:19,160
Speaker 2: it because it's no longer healthy for me.

1235
00:55:19,719 --> 00:55:21,879
Speaker 1: And I'll never forget that, I said, but I don't

1236
00:55:21,880 --> 00:55:24,920
Speaker 1: want to hate him. Lord. I went to sleep and

1237
00:55:24,960 --> 00:55:27,600
Speaker 1: woke up and did not care nothing about him.

1238
00:55:27,600 --> 00:55:29,960
Speaker 2: The next day, and I remember two days later he

1239
00:55:30,080 --> 00:55:33,320
Speaker 2: came over and tried to like have sex with me nothing.

1240
00:55:33,719 --> 00:55:35,960
Speaker 1: I met my husband that same week. I did that prayer.

1241
00:55:36,920 --> 00:55:40,359
Speaker 2: It was honestly, that is what I told God. I said, God,

1242
00:55:40,440 --> 00:55:42,719
Speaker 2: I don't I just want you to remove what was

1243
00:55:43,200 --> 00:55:45,879
Speaker 2: keep drawing me to him like cocaine. Take it out

1244
00:55:45,920 --> 00:55:48,400
Speaker 2: of me. And he took it out of me, and

1245
00:55:48,560 --> 00:55:52,520
Speaker 2: I never ever went back. And people would always say,

1246
00:55:52,680 --> 00:55:54,880
Speaker 2: Rabbit ain't gonna never leave him. Rabbit ain't gonna never

1247
00:55:55,000 --> 00:55:57,520
Speaker 2: leave him. Maybe I woke up one day. I went

1248
00:55:57,560 --> 00:56:00,719
Speaker 2: from being a little girl to a grown and he

1249
00:56:00,800 --> 00:56:01,920
Speaker 2: didn't know how to accept it.

1250
00:56:03,000 --> 00:56:05,160
Speaker 4: Did he ask, what's wrong with you? While all of

1251
00:56:05,200 --> 00:56:07,160
Speaker 4: a sudden, now you don't want to do We've done

1252
00:56:07,239 --> 00:56:09,399
Speaker 4: this for X amount of years or however long you've

1253
00:56:09,440 --> 00:56:11,040
Speaker 4: done it. What changed?

1254
00:56:11,880 --> 00:56:13,200
Speaker 1: I told him I didn't love him anymore.

1255
00:56:14,360 --> 00:56:15,520
Speaker 4: Did y'all get to fight him again?

1256
00:56:16,080 --> 00:56:16,120
Speaker 3: No?

1257
00:56:16,239 --> 00:56:19,320
Speaker 1: Because I ended up. I ended up with my husband.

1258
00:56:19,400 --> 00:56:21,759
Speaker 2: So at the time, I'm forging checks and I tell

1259
00:56:21,760 --> 00:56:23,680
Speaker 2: my husband to come over to my apartment and watch

1260
00:56:23,719 --> 00:56:24,440
Speaker 2: my kids and stuff.

1261
00:56:24,440 --> 00:56:26,120
Speaker 4: And my husband, you this time, if you don't mind me,

1262
00:56:26,160 --> 00:56:26,719
Speaker 4: I pas.

1263
00:56:27,560 --> 00:56:30,800
Speaker 1: Seventeen, okay, And so I've got apartment. It's in my

1264
00:56:30,880 --> 00:56:31,799
Speaker 1: dad to name, and.

1265
00:56:33,280 --> 00:56:35,920
Speaker 2: I'm my husband started to come over. My boyfriend at

1266
00:56:35,960 --> 00:56:39,239
Speaker 2: the time started to come over, and he was he

1267
00:56:39,440 --> 00:56:42,520
Speaker 2: was not my type. You know, my husband's a bigger guy.

1268
00:56:42,560 --> 00:56:45,120
Speaker 2: My kids father's really skinny, like that Chappelle. So I

1269
00:56:45,320 --> 00:56:47,880
Speaker 2: never really dated a thick guy like that. But he

1270
00:56:48,600 --> 00:56:52,800
Speaker 2: was so intelligent. And this is gonna sound stupid, but

1271
00:56:52,920 --> 00:56:55,840
Speaker 2: this is when I knew I didn't have a niggle

1272
00:56:56,080 --> 00:56:56,919
Speaker 2: and I had a man.

1273
00:56:57,480 --> 00:57:00,359
Speaker 1: I walked in one day and he was watching sign

1274
00:57:00,480 --> 00:57:03,080
Speaker 1: Field and I said, what the hell you watching that

1275
00:57:03,200 --> 00:57:03,640
Speaker 1: white show?

1276
00:57:03,760 --> 00:57:03,960
Speaker 4: Father?

1277
00:57:04,440 --> 00:57:06,239
Speaker 1: He said, this is a really good show. You should

1278
00:57:06,280 --> 00:57:08,160
Speaker 1: sit down and watch. I watched it. I'm a hood

1279
00:57:08,280 --> 00:57:10,719
Speaker 1: chick and he said, sit down and watch it. And

1280
00:57:10,800 --> 00:57:15,560
Speaker 1: I was like, wow, this is this is funny.

1281
00:57:15,719 --> 00:57:18,520
Speaker 2: Yes, not really my type of funny. But he just

1282
00:57:18,600 --> 00:57:21,760
Speaker 2: started to introduce me to different things. And you know,

1283
00:57:21,960 --> 00:57:24,440
Speaker 2: I didn't have to worry about being called no, no, no.

1284
00:57:26,160 --> 00:57:28,360
Speaker 2: You know, I didn't have to get get talked down to.

1285
00:57:28,880 --> 00:57:31,280
Speaker 2: He was opening the doors for me. And most women

1286
00:57:31,480 --> 00:57:34,680
Speaker 2: would take that as being weak, but it was something

1287
00:57:34,760 --> 00:57:36,160
Speaker 2: that I always wanted.

1288
00:57:36,800 --> 00:57:38,640
Speaker 1: I'm gonna tell you a story about my kids. Father.

1289
00:57:39,000 --> 00:57:41,400
Speaker 2: One time, we was riding in the car and my

1290
00:57:41,520 --> 00:57:44,320
Speaker 2: car ran out of gas right there off a bankhead

1291
00:57:44,920 --> 00:57:48,560
Speaker 2: and we were riding down bankhead a car run out

1292
00:57:48,600 --> 00:57:52,440
Speaker 2: of gas and it's raining, so my kids, father, you

1293
00:57:52,560 --> 00:57:53,920
Speaker 2: suck your thumb and I said, you ain't gonna go

1294
00:57:53,920 --> 00:57:55,480
Speaker 2: to the gas. He said, no, I ain't aboud to

1295
00:57:55,480 --> 00:57:58,320
Speaker 2: tell you not getting no gas. I get out the car, Shannon,

1296
00:57:58,800 --> 00:58:01,439
Speaker 2: and I'm walking a mile to the gas station.

1297
00:58:01,960 --> 00:58:06,880
Speaker 4: You get out the car, walk in the rain to

1298
00:58:07,000 --> 00:58:08,640
Speaker 4: get gash.

1299
00:58:08,760 --> 00:58:10,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, I get out the car. I get out of

1300
00:58:10,920 --> 00:58:13,520
Speaker 1: the car and walk a mile to the gas station.

1301
00:58:16,000 --> 00:58:17,520
Speaker 4: That should have ended it for you right there.

1302
00:58:17,840 --> 00:58:19,680
Speaker 1: I was too stupid. Let me tell you what happened.

1303
00:58:20,080 --> 00:58:22,560
Speaker 2: So I'm walking in the rain and it ain't rain,

1304
00:58:22,640 --> 00:58:26,160
Speaker 2: it's pouring right here. This older man pulled up next

1305
00:58:26,200 --> 00:58:29,560
Speaker 2: to me and say, young lady, let me take you

1306
00:58:29,640 --> 00:58:30,400
Speaker 2: to the gas station.

1307
00:58:31,080 --> 00:58:32,480
Speaker 1: And I'm kind of scared to get in the car.

1308
00:58:32,560 --> 00:58:34,640
Speaker 1: The older man take me to the gas station, pay

1309
00:58:34,720 --> 00:58:34,920
Speaker 1: for the.

1310
00:58:35,000 --> 00:58:38,080
Speaker 2: Gas I get. He take me back to my car.

1311
00:58:38,520 --> 00:58:41,040
Speaker 2: And that old man seen my baby daddy sitting in

1312
00:58:41,040 --> 00:58:43,160
Speaker 2: that car, and he went the hell off. He said,

1313
00:58:43,200 --> 00:58:45,320
Speaker 2: you mean to tell me this young punk sitting in

1314
00:58:45,440 --> 00:58:47,640
Speaker 2: the car and got you walking in the rain. You

1315
00:58:47,800 --> 00:58:50,440
Speaker 2: young girls are stupid. My kids father sitting in the

1316
00:58:50,520 --> 00:58:55,960
Speaker 2: first sea laughing. That started to wake me up. So

1317
00:58:56,080 --> 00:58:59,160
Speaker 2: when I met my husband and he was he wasn't

1318
00:58:59,240 --> 00:59:02,360
Speaker 2: watching no crap like I was used to my kid's father.

1319
00:59:02,880 --> 00:59:05,200
Speaker 2: And he first man I ever seen with a credit card.

1320
00:59:05,600 --> 00:59:07,600
Speaker 2: He the first man that ever talked to me about

1321
00:59:07,680 --> 00:59:11,760
Speaker 2: finances and credits and that stuff. Was just attracted to me. Oh,

1322
00:59:11,840 --> 00:59:14,760
Speaker 2: they attracted me to him because I wasn't used to that.

1323
00:59:14,920 --> 00:59:18,200
Speaker 2: I wasn't used to somebody calling me ugly, being on me,

1324
00:59:18,400 --> 00:59:23,120
Speaker 2: calling me. I'm like yes, and so I was like,

1325
00:59:23,360 --> 00:59:26,560
Speaker 2: I ain't really into this, ain't really my type, but

1326
00:59:26,600 --> 00:59:28,360
Speaker 2: I'm gonna hold onto this and see where we go.

1327
00:59:30,240 --> 00:59:33,440
Speaker 4: You say you meet your current husband, you're seventeen, But

1328
00:59:33,560 --> 00:59:35,800
Speaker 4: if I'm not mistaken, you went to jail at eighteen.

1329
00:59:36,400 --> 00:59:38,200
Speaker 2: No, no, no, I got out jail at seventeen. I'm

1330
00:59:38,200 --> 00:59:43,760
Speaker 2: about eighteen. Yeah, I wouldn't go to jail for crack seven. Yeah,

1331
00:59:43,800 --> 00:59:46,080
Speaker 2: so I'm out with nineteen. So when I met my husband,

1332
00:59:46,120 --> 00:59:47,919
Speaker 2: probably was nineteen because I got I went to jail

1333
00:59:47,960 --> 00:59:48,600
Speaker 2: at seventeen.

1334
00:59:49,000 --> 00:59:50,400
Speaker 1: Back then, you can go to jail seventeen.

1335
00:59:50,440 --> 00:59:52,480
Speaker 2: So I got out at eighteen, and then I met

1336
00:59:52,560 --> 00:59:54,960
Speaker 2: him by nineteen cause he was twenty one and I

1337
00:59:55,080 --> 00:59:55,840
Speaker 2: wasn't twenty one.

1338
00:59:57,000 --> 00:59:59,080
Speaker 1: Let me get the ages right. It been thirty some years.

1339
01:00:00,760 --> 01:00:03,880
Speaker 4: I want to know the exact moment that you knew

1340
01:00:05,280 --> 01:00:06,520
Speaker 4: this is my the ever man.

1341
01:00:12,200 --> 01:00:14,480
Speaker 2: When he told me when I lived in that apartment,

1342
01:00:14,600 --> 01:00:16,320
Speaker 2: and I was getting evicted because I ain't never like

1343
01:00:16,320 --> 01:00:17,760
Speaker 2: to pay no bills apartments.

1344
01:00:17,520 --> 01:00:20,880
Speaker 1: Like I got evicted all the time.

1345
01:00:21,520 --> 01:00:23,600
Speaker 2: And so I said, take me to my dad house.

1346
01:00:23,600 --> 01:00:25,240
Speaker 2: So he put apartment back in my name. My husband

1347
01:00:25,280 --> 01:00:25,680
Speaker 2: looked at me.

1348
01:00:26,040 --> 01:00:28,040
Speaker 1: Boyfriend Intise said, look, I put apartment in my name

1349
01:00:28,120 --> 01:00:30,200
Speaker 1: and I said what. And then I said, you're gonna

1350
01:00:30,200 --> 01:00:32,520
Speaker 1: move he with me? He said, uh uh.

1351
01:00:32,640 --> 01:00:34,880
Speaker 2: I said, well, I can't pay the rent. He said, okay,

1352
01:00:35,200 --> 01:00:38,480
Speaker 2: now mind you. I had never had sex with this man.

1353
01:00:38,520 --> 01:00:40,600
Speaker 2: He was just coming over all the time, you know,

1354
01:00:40,800 --> 01:00:43,480
Speaker 2: hanging out and stuff like that. This man go and

1355
01:00:43,560 --> 01:00:47,400
Speaker 2: put a whole apartment in his name, a whole apartment,

1356
01:00:47,720 --> 01:00:51,560
Speaker 2: and moved me and my two kids into some security,

1357
01:00:52,360 --> 01:00:56,480
Speaker 2: paid the rent, paid the bills, and.

1358
01:00:56,560 --> 01:00:58,960
Speaker 1: He looked at me and said, I want you to

1359
01:00:59,080 --> 01:01:00,160
Speaker 1: do one thing for me.

1360
01:01:01,000 --> 01:01:04,800
Speaker 2: And I said, what he says, stop selling crack and

1361
01:01:04,960 --> 01:01:06,320
Speaker 2: stop forging chicks.

1362
01:01:07,360 --> 01:01:09,840
Speaker 1: And I gave my niece my last little bit of crack,

1363
01:01:09,920 --> 01:01:13,120
Speaker 1: and I threw away the chicks. And that was hard.

1364
01:01:13,560 --> 01:01:15,600
Speaker 1: Because that was so hard, Shanning.

1365
01:01:17,080 --> 01:01:20,400
Speaker 2: I had to go up work at McDonald's for FOAT.

1366
01:01:20,440 --> 01:01:23,880
Speaker 2: I was in twenty five six hours but then I'm

1367
01:01:23,880 --> 01:01:25,960
Speaker 2: a hustler. So now I'm still in not directional but

1368
01:01:26,000 --> 01:01:31,840
Speaker 2: I ain't really telling him because he was just so

1369
01:01:32,320 --> 01:01:34,720
Speaker 2: cut dry, honest, and I'm like, you know what what

1370
01:01:35,120 --> 01:01:36,960
Speaker 2: back in the day and what women would consider now

1371
01:01:36,960 --> 01:01:39,440
Speaker 2: to be lame because that's the word reused.

1372
01:01:39,640 --> 01:01:41,240
Speaker 1: And I'm like, my hum, lame is hell.

1373
01:01:41,320 --> 01:01:42,840
Speaker 2: You know, he ain't breaking no laws, he ain't got

1374
01:01:42,920 --> 01:01:45,360
Speaker 2: no speeding ticket, he ain't doing nothing.

1375
01:01:45,760 --> 01:01:47,840
Speaker 1: And so I'm like, I'm steal.

1376
01:01:47,840 --> 01:01:49,120
Speaker 2: I can't just come up here and work here to

1377
01:01:49,200 --> 01:01:51,760
Speaker 2: day for no photo twenty five cent. I got two

1378
01:01:51,880 --> 01:01:54,360
Speaker 2: kids at the house and then we had just got custody.

1379
01:01:54,480 --> 01:01:55,760
Speaker 2: We had just got my sister kids, so I.

1380
01:01:55,800 --> 01:01:58,120
Speaker 1: Got six kids. I gotta get this money.

1381
01:01:58,200 --> 01:02:01,000
Speaker 2: So I was up there towing McDonald's a new ass,

1382
01:02:03,280 --> 01:02:05,120
Speaker 2: and I just came out of the drug game, so

1383
01:02:05,200 --> 01:02:08,320
Speaker 2: I can count real fast with money. I can count backward.

1384
01:02:08,440 --> 01:02:11,840
Speaker 2: They change, Oh, I can count, so babe, That's what

1385
01:02:11,960 --> 01:02:15,800
Speaker 2: I did every night. No, they didn't, because you promoed it.

1386
01:02:16,760 --> 01:02:18,440
Speaker 2: There was a way on that ratio that you can

1387
01:02:18,520 --> 01:02:19,240
Speaker 2: get away around it.

1388
01:02:19,880 --> 01:02:22,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, or you took the money and slipping it up

1389
01:02:22,040 --> 01:02:23,840
Speaker 1: on you took the change, slipping up on the ratio.

1390
01:02:24,040 --> 01:02:25,800
Speaker 2: So when you ring it up, you just clear it

1391
01:02:25,840 --> 01:02:27,439
Speaker 2: out and you get the people their money back, because

1392
01:02:27,440 --> 01:02:29,240
Speaker 2: back then people aren't using a lot of credit cards.

1393
01:02:30,880 --> 01:02:34,080
Speaker 1: They was using a lot of cash. And that's what

1394
01:02:34,200 --> 01:02:34,480
Speaker 1: I did.

1395
01:02:34,560 --> 01:02:38,400
Speaker 2: And you know, to me, I had to get two

1396
01:02:38,600 --> 01:02:40,400
Speaker 2: jobs and it still didn't make up for what I

1397
01:02:40,480 --> 01:02:42,480
Speaker 2: was the money that I was making in the streets.

1398
01:02:43,080 --> 01:02:46,840
Speaker 1: But I did it because I had a stable place

1399
01:02:46,880 --> 01:02:47,920
Speaker 1: for my kids to stay.

1400
01:02:48,400 --> 01:02:51,240
Speaker 2: I had somebody in my life that cared about me,

1401
01:02:51,640 --> 01:02:54,040
Speaker 2: and I didn't want to blow it, you know, trying

1402
01:02:54,040 --> 01:02:54,640
Speaker 2: to hustle in.

1403
01:02:54,680 --> 01:02:56,200
Speaker 1: The streets because he had tuk.

1404
01:02:56,280 --> 01:02:59,600
Speaker 2: He had took me forging chicks and selling dope as

1405
01:02:59,640 --> 01:03:01,400
Speaker 2: long as he could because a man ain't never been

1406
01:03:01,440 --> 01:03:03,200
Speaker 2: to jail. And he told me when they said, hey,

1407
01:03:03,600 --> 01:03:05,720
Speaker 2: I don't have these ain't my kids, what happened when

1408
01:03:05,720 --> 01:03:07,320
Speaker 2: you go to jail, they gonna give your kids better

1409
01:03:07,360 --> 01:03:11,840
Speaker 2: than man. And so he just started to make me realize,

1410
01:03:12,480 --> 01:03:15,560
Speaker 2: you know, Pat, you can make it without doing all that.

1411
01:03:15,640 --> 01:03:17,080
Speaker 4: How did he know you? How did he know you

1412
01:03:17,160 --> 01:03:19,240
Speaker 4: were selling crack and forging jacks? Did you tell him

1413
01:03:19,280 --> 01:03:20,000
Speaker 4: or did he saw you?

1414
01:03:20,840 --> 01:03:22,560
Speaker 1: I knew his brother, I knew his brother.

1415
01:03:22,640 --> 01:03:25,720
Speaker 2: So his brother knew I was selling cranking, forging chicks

1416
01:03:25,760 --> 01:03:27,080
Speaker 2: and I was a hustler.

1417
01:03:28,240 --> 01:03:30,720
Speaker 4: But he said, but he didn't try to change you.

1418
01:03:30,760 --> 01:03:32,800
Speaker 4: He didn't beat you down. He didn't say, Look, if

1419
01:03:32,840 --> 01:03:34,560
Speaker 4: you don't, if you don't do X, Y and Z,

1420
01:03:34,680 --> 01:03:37,280
Speaker 4: I'm up out of here. He said, Look, I'm gonna

1421
01:03:37,320 --> 01:03:39,440
Speaker 4: get you this place. I'm gonna put my name on

1422
01:03:39,520 --> 01:03:42,200
Speaker 4: the lease. All I asked you to do is stop

1423
01:03:42,360 --> 01:03:44,360
Speaker 4: selling crack and stop forging these checks.

1424
01:03:44,560 --> 01:03:45,840
Speaker 1: Yep, that's what he knew.

1425
01:03:45,880 --> 01:03:48,520
Speaker 4: That was so then now that he was like, why

1426
01:03:48,560 --> 01:03:49,720
Speaker 4: are you doing all this? If you want me to

1427
01:03:49,760 --> 01:03:51,760
Speaker 4: be your girl? You want you trying? What what you try?

1428
01:03:52,000 --> 01:03:53,920
Speaker 4: What's your what's your what's your angle? Here?

1429
01:03:54,560 --> 01:03:58,600
Speaker 2: Well, we was living together, so you know we was

1430
01:03:58,840 --> 01:04:01,560
Speaker 2: We was actually living together. So I knew he wanted

1431
01:04:01,600 --> 01:04:04,320
Speaker 2: me to be his girl. And I just said, you know,

1432
01:04:04,400 --> 01:04:06,440
Speaker 2: I would talk on the phone with my girlfriends and stuff,

1433
01:04:06,440 --> 01:04:09,040
Speaker 2: and I knew, I knew I had something different.

1434
01:04:09,760 --> 01:04:12,640
Speaker 1: I knew it was nothing like seeing a black man.

1435
01:04:12,600 --> 01:04:14,160
Speaker 2: Go to work and come home and treat you the

1436
01:04:14,160 --> 01:04:17,320
Speaker 2: way he's supposed to be treated, you know, saying nice

1437
01:04:17,400 --> 01:04:19,840
Speaker 2: things to you. I mean, he started to he brought

1438
01:04:19,880 --> 01:04:22,680
Speaker 2: me back to life when so many people before him

1439
01:04:22,760 --> 01:04:25,680
Speaker 2: had killed me on the inside. You know, he faned

1440
01:04:25,800 --> 01:04:29,360
Speaker 2: me positive things when I was down and low. You know,

1441
01:04:29,680 --> 01:04:32,080
Speaker 2: he would talk me out of it. One time in

1442
01:04:32,160 --> 01:04:34,880
Speaker 2: my whole life, I ever thought about committing suicide because

1443
01:04:35,120 --> 01:04:37,680
Speaker 2: I checked my criminal background history. I went to school

1444
01:04:37,680 --> 01:04:40,880
Speaker 2: for medical system and I checked my criminal background history,

1445
01:04:41,360 --> 01:04:43,680
Speaker 2: and they just kept they wouldn't give me no job

1446
01:04:43,720 --> 01:04:46,480
Speaker 2: because I had too many feelings on my rooking and

1447
01:04:46,560 --> 01:04:48,200
Speaker 2: they was like no, And I was like, what am

1448
01:04:48,240 --> 01:04:48,840
Speaker 2: I'm living for?

1449
01:04:50,160 --> 01:04:51,680
Speaker 1: What am I'm living for if I can't.

1450
01:04:51,520 --> 01:04:54,400
Speaker 2: Get a decent paying job other than a fast food

1451
01:04:54,480 --> 01:04:57,080
Speaker 2: restaurant to feed my family or to help you out.

1452
01:04:57,960 --> 01:04:59,840
Speaker 1: He was like, pat, is more to you than that.

1453
01:05:01,600 --> 01:05:02,320
Speaker 1: And I just had this.

1454
01:05:02,560 --> 01:05:05,280
Speaker 2: I just started to dig inside of myself and to

1455
01:05:05,320 --> 01:05:08,000
Speaker 2: find out who I really was. But it was it

1456
01:05:08,120 --> 01:05:10,640
Speaker 2: was all the help of him. I mean, that man

1457
01:05:10,680 --> 01:05:12,800
Speaker 2: picked me up when I was at my lords. He

1458
01:05:13,080 --> 01:05:15,360
Speaker 2: and my my husband went to the military. You know,

1459
01:05:15,560 --> 01:05:18,160
Speaker 2: my husband graduated high school. He ain't never threw up

1460
01:05:18,160 --> 01:05:19,640
Speaker 2: in my face, but you got to. I mean, maybe

1461
01:05:19,640 --> 01:05:22,680
Speaker 2: you got an eighth grade education. You know, I've always

1462
01:05:22,720 --> 01:05:24,560
Speaker 2: felt safe for him, I'd be like, how you spell

1463
01:05:24,720 --> 01:05:25,840
Speaker 2: can she ain't in?

1464
01:05:26,360 --> 01:05:30,320
Speaker 1: And and keep it moving? Damn you can't spell? Can

1465
01:05:30,640 --> 01:05:31,000
Speaker 1: he ain't?

1466
01:05:31,040 --> 01:05:31,200
Speaker 4: Never?

1467
01:05:31,720 --> 01:05:33,320
Speaker 1: Not one time ever you ever said.

1468
01:05:33,120 --> 01:05:36,960
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Speaker 4: After everything that you've been through, did you get therapy?

1483
01:06:24,760 --> 01:06:28,200
Speaker 4: How did you get past all this trauma that had

1484
01:06:29,520 --> 01:06:33,440
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01:06:33,520 --> 01:06:35,920
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Speaker 2: I never got counseling. I think comedy was my counseling. Honestly,

1489
01:06:47,840 --> 01:06:50,439
Speaker 2: That's where I started to tell the stories of growing

1490
01:06:50,520 --> 01:06:53,800
Speaker 2: up in the Buleg house, being molested, being shot. The

1491
01:06:53,920 --> 01:06:58,520
Speaker 2: comedy audience healed me. And when I got the Miss

1492
01:06:58,640 --> 01:07:03,360
Speaker 2: Pat Show and my co creator, This Boy is Crazy,

1493
01:07:03,480 --> 01:07:05,600
Speaker 2: Jordani Coop, we just started to dig in my life

1494
01:07:05,960 --> 01:07:08,480
Speaker 2: and tell these stories. And it's so many times I've

1495
01:07:08,520 --> 01:07:11,600
Speaker 2: cried on that set, but as so many times i've

1496
01:07:12,840 --> 01:07:15,920
Speaker 2: Season one my kids father, I finally get to tell

1497
01:07:16,000 --> 01:07:20,200
Speaker 2: him off how I feel me. It's acting, but still

1498
01:07:20,560 --> 01:07:23,400
Speaker 2: Jordan knew how important that was to me. And I

1499
01:07:23,480 --> 01:07:29,320
Speaker 2: remember getting in that car leaving that set on boat.

1500
01:07:29,120 --> 01:07:33,120
Speaker 1: Rock Road here in Atlanta, and I boot hooed.

1501
01:07:34,640 --> 01:07:36,920
Speaker 2: Because that was a door that I had clothes that

1502
01:07:37,080 --> 01:07:40,480
Speaker 2: needed to be open, and my co creator and my

1503
01:07:40,800 --> 01:07:44,640
Speaker 2: cast helped me open it. And I cried so hard

1504
01:07:45,520 --> 01:07:47,520
Speaker 2: because all I ever wanted to do was tell him

1505
01:07:47,560 --> 01:07:49,600
Speaker 2: what he did to me. And how I really felt,

1506
01:07:49,640 --> 01:07:52,959
Speaker 2: and I got to do it through acting and even

1507
01:07:53,040 --> 01:07:55,200
Speaker 2: with my mom. You know, we did an episode on

1508
01:07:55,280 --> 01:07:58,360
Speaker 2: my mom on the show and I was able to

1509
01:07:58,760 --> 01:08:02,280
Speaker 2: you know, my mom used calling ayad ugly and stuff

1510
01:08:02,400 --> 01:08:04,480
Speaker 2: like that, and I was able to do an episode.

1511
01:08:04,640 --> 01:08:07,320
Speaker 2: And that was another time I roll home crying. So

1512
01:08:07,480 --> 01:08:09,360
Speaker 2: through comedy and through the mispat show.

1513
01:08:10,680 --> 01:08:13,720
Speaker 1: Do I need counseling? I probably do. Let my kids

1514
01:08:13,760 --> 01:08:15,760
Speaker 1: tell it, Yes I do. I still got some stuff

1515
01:08:15,920 --> 01:08:18,760
Speaker 1: that I need to work out. And I'm a perfect mom.

1516
01:08:18,880 --> 01:08:19,360
Speaker 1: No I'm not.

1517
01:08:19,840 --> 01:08:21,960
Speaker 2: And one thing I always tell my oldest daughter, who's

1518
01:08:22,040 --> 01:08:26,360
Speaker 2: thirty eight, I think thirty six or thirty eight, I

1519
01:08:26,400 --> 01:08:29,280
Speaker 2: always tell her, I said, you gotta understand that I

1520
01:08:29,400 --> 01:08:32,400
Speaker 2: was fourteen. I made a lot of mistakes with you

1521
01:08:32,479 --> 01:08:35,160
Speaker 2: and your brother. But one of the things I want

1522
01:08:35,200 --> 01:08:38,320
Speaker 2: you to always know is that I loved y'all and

1523
01:08:38,439 --> 01:08:39,720
Speaker 2: I did the best that I could do.

1524
01:08:39,840 --> 01:08:43,960
Speaker 1: I never gave you up. You never was molested, because.

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01:08:43,680 --> 01:08:46,599
Speaker 2: When I had my daughter on August nine, nineteen eighty six,

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Speaker 2: I said, in that bed holding her, I said, they

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Speaker 2: would never do to you what was done to me.

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Speaker 2: And when my daughter went off to college and she

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Speaker 2: she's called me. She said, you know what, Mama, All

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Speaker 2: my friends been touched, and I feel bad because I'm

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Speaker 2: the only one that ain't got no molistation story. And

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Speaker 2: I knew I had done my duties. Now did I

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Speaker 2: know she was gonna be down at college eating all

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Speaker 2: the women?

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Speaker 5: These she gas hell, she gass hell, baby, she don't.

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Speaker 1: Each of you won't be eight.

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Speaker 4: This concludes the first half of my conversation. Part two

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Speaker 4: is also posted and you can access it to whichever

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Speaker 4: podcast platform you just listen to part one on. Just

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Speaker 4: simply go back to club profile and I'll see you there.