1 00:00:00,680 --> 00:00:06,240 Speaker 1: Yeah, is that your mind? He's Mike? Are your Mike? Okay? 2 00:00:06,559 --> 00:00:24,000 Speaker 1: What is okay? Welcome to the Therapy for Black Girls Podcast, 3 00:00:24,560 --> 00:00:29,400 Speaker 1: a weekly conversation about mental health, personal development, and all 4 00:00:29,440 --> 00:00:32,120 Speaker 1: the small decisions we can make to become the best 5 00:00:32,120 --> 00:00:36,480 Speaker 1: possible versions of ourselves. I'm your host, Dr Joy Hard 6 00:00:36,520 --> 00:00:41,280 Speaker 1: and Bradford, a licensed psychologist in Atlanta, Georgia. For more 7 00:00:41,360 --> 00:00:45,360 Speaker 1: information or to find a therapist in your area, visit 8 00:00:45,360 --> 00:00:49,480 Speaker 1: our website at Therapy for Black Girls dot com. While 9 00:00:49,520 --> 00:00:53,160 Speaker 1: I hope you love listening to and learning from the podcast, 10 00:00:53,680 --> 00:00:56,000 Speaker 1: it is not meant to be a substitute for a 11 00:00:56,120 --> 00:01:07,360 Speaker 1: relationship with a licensed mental health professional. Y Hey, y'all, 12 00:01:07,560 --> 00:01:10,040 Speaker 1: thanks so much for joining me for Session to seven 13 00:01:10,040 --> 00:01:13,040 Speaker 1: of the Therapy for Black Girl's podcast. We'll get into 14 00:01:13,120 --> 00:01:25,240 Speaker 1: our conversation right after our word from our sponsors. You 15 00:01:25,400 --> 00:01:28,679 Speaker 1: did it, Sis, you made it through the year. You 16 00:01:28,800 --> 00:01:32,160 Speaker 1: deserve a round of applause, give yourself a big hug, 17 00:01:32,360 --> 00:01:35,040 Speaker 1: or even fall into tears as you fully accept the 18 00:01:35,120 --> 00:01:38,480 Speaker 1: hard work that got you to this moment. The internal 19 00:01:38,520 --> 00:01:41,280 Speaker 1: exhale you might feel as you witnessed this year's sunset 20 00:01:41,720 --> 00:01:44,360 Speaker 1: might feel cut short as you realize a new year 21 00:01:44,520 --> 00:01:47,720 Speaker 1: is on the horizon. For many, the beginning of a 22 00:01:47,720 --> 00:01:51,760 Speaker 1: new year can evoke feelings of anxiety and overwhelm. How 23 00:01:51,760 --> 00:01:53,680 Speaker 1: do I start a new year on the right foot 24 00:01:53,800 --> 00:01:56,520 Speaker 1: when I'm still so utterly exhausted from the year. I'm 25 00:01:56,560 --> 00:02:01,760 Speaker 1: in now, big Inhale. We have two more weeks until 26 00:02:01,760 --> 00:02:04,960 Speaker 1: we officially reach twenty three, which means we still have 27 00:02:05,120 --> 00:02:09,640 Speaker 1: time to rejuvenate and refuel to assist us with centering 28 00:02:09,680 --> 00:02:12,640 Speaker 1: ourselves for the new year. I'm thrilled to be joined 29 00:02:12,680 --> 00:02:17,960 Speaker 1: again by wellness educator, meditation teacher Rickey, healer, author and 30 00:02:18,040 --> 00:02:23,000 Speaker 1: host of the Dropping Jim's podcast, Debbie Brown. In our conversation, 31 00:02:23,480 --> 00:02:25,960 Speaker 1: we explore how to craft a schedule that allows for 32 00:02:26,040 --> 00:02:30,120 Speaker 1: self care practices, narrowing down your focus as you prepare 33 00:02:30,160 --> 00:02:33,560 Speaker 1: for a new year, and affirmations to recite to feel 34 00:02:33,600 --> 00:02:37,440 Speaker 1: grounded and whole. Debbie also leads us through a beautiful 35 00:02:37,480 --> 00:02:40,800 Speaker 1: meditation to assist us in tapping into our power and 36 00:02:40,919 --> 00:02:43,280 Speaker 1: who we are being called to be in the new year. 37 00:02:44,440 --> 00:02:47,960 Speaker 1: If something resonates with you while enjoying our conversation, please 38 00:02:48,000 --> 00:02:51,359 Speaker 1: share with us on social media using the hashtag TBG 39 00:02:51,560 --> 00:02:55,120 Speaker 1: in Session, or join us over in the Sister Circle. 40 00:02:55,240 --> 00:02:57,760 Speaker 1: To talk more in depth about the episode, you can 41 00:02:57,840 --> 00:03:01,799 Speaker 1: join us at Community that Therapy for Black Girls dot com. 42 00:03:01,840 --> 00:03:07,920 Speaker 1: Here's our conversation. I'm really glad to have you back, Debby, 43 00:03:08,360 --> 00:03:11,000 Speaker 1: because it definitely feels like the pandemic has given a lot, 44 00:03:11,080 --> 00:03:13,640 Speaker 1: but it also has taken a lot, and I really 45 00:03:13,639 --> 00:03:16,079 Speaker 1: feel like through the pandemic I have gotten to know 46 00:03:16,200 --> 00:03:19,360 Speaker 1: you better. We met probably very very early in the 47 00:03:19,400 --> 00:03:22,520 Speaker 1: pandemic doing a speaking engagement together, a virtual one of 48 00:03:22,560 --> 00:03:26,520 Speaker 1: the first virtual speaking engagements of so many to follow, 49 00:03:27,080 --> 00:03:29,880 Speaker 1: and it feels like at least once a year since then, 50 00:03:30,120 --> 00:03:33,000 Speaker 1: we've been able to do something together or interview together, 51 00:03:33,560 --> 00:03:35,840 Speaker 1: and so I feel like it is an interesting way 52 00:03:35,840 --> 00:03:39,120 Speaker 1: to kind of mark time. And I'm just curious to 53 00:03:39,280 --> 00:03:43,720 Speaker 1: hear kind of year one, two, and three of the pandemic, 54 00:03:43,840 --> 00:03:47,760 Speaker 1: like how you feel like you have changed and kind 55 00:03:47,800 --> 00:03:52,600 Speaker 1: of are feeling differently each year. Oh my gosh, Wow, 56 00:03:52,720 --> 00:03:57,360 Speaker 1: what an exquisite question. I love that I get to 57 00:03:57,400 --> 00:03:59,840 Speaker 1: answer this because then it it brings this to life 58 00:03:59,840 --> 00:04:03,040 Speaker 1: for me in my own body and in my life. Wow. 59 00:04:03,600 --> 00:04:06,240 Speaker 1: I have to start by saying, today it really dawned 60 00:04:06,240 --> 00:04:10,880 Speaker 1: on me that is here and how years for me 61 00:04:11,920 --> 00:04:15,200 Speaker 1: time wise, have really been feeling a lot more like 62 00:04:15,400 --> 00:04:21,320 Speaker 1: months you still feel, and that is strange, And I've 63 00:04:21,360 --> 00:04:24,479 Speaker 1: just been kind of, you know, wondering how much of 64 00:04:24,520 --> 00:04:27,120 Speaker 1: that has to do with age and just the more 65 00:04:27,320 --> 00:04:30,680 Speaker 1: established you become in your life, and especially if you 66 00:04:30,720 --> 00:04:34,080 Speaker 1: have children, you mark time differently. But I've just really 67 00:04:34,120 --> 00:04:37,600 Speaker 1: been observing how I relate to times so much lately. 68 00:04:38,640 --> 00:04:41,120 Speaker 1: It's so interesting. Dr Joy and the very first year 69 00:04:41,120 --> 00:04:43,479 Speaker 1: of the pandemic, when we first met and we had 70 00:04:43,760 --> 00:04:49,880 Speaker 1: trillions of virtual speaking experiences. I've really been thinking a 71 00:04:49,920 --> 00:04:54,919 Speaker 1: lot about that time, because though I did really intentionally 72 00:04:54,960 --> 00:04:57,320 Speaker 1: take a lot of time for myself, I was in 73 00:04:57,360 --> 00:05:00,440 Speaker 1: a different position in the pandemic as someone that had 74 00:05:00,480 --> 00:05:05,119 Speaker 1: been having an established meditation and spiritual practice for about 75 00:05:05,160 --> 00:05:08,560 Speaker 1: ten years. I had been teaching for about six seven years, 76 00:05:08,680 --> 00:05:12,360 Speaker 1: and when we went into the pandemic, I was also 77 00:05:12,600 --> 00:05:16,080 Speaker 1: in a lot of deep crisis in my personal life. 78 00:05:16,240 --> 00:05:18,960 Speaker 1: I had this opportunity to really show up for people 79 00:05:19,200 --> 00:05:22,000 Speaker 1: and bring a lot of my work and my skills 80 00:05:22,240 --> 00:05:26,800 Speaker 1: and my practices that have been so supportive into other 81 00:05:26,839 --> 00:05:29,719 Speaker 1: people's lives. It really felt like that first year of 82 00:05:29,760 --> 00:05:32,760 Speaker 1: the pandemic from home, it felt like I was living 83 00:05:32,839 --> 00:05:36,080 Speaker 1: five lifetimes in one, and the momentum of that, and 84 00:05:36,160 --> 00:05:39,160 Speaker 1: really a lot of the beauty that came into my 85 00:05:39,240 --> 00:05:42,520 Speaker 1: life by showing up in service for so many people 86 00:05:42,760 --> 00:05:48,440 Speaker 1: in what was the most provocative, important moment of my lifetime. 87 00:05:50,040 --> 00:05:53,760 Speaker 1: It's really interesting. I've just settled into really being able 88 00:05:53,800 --> 00:05:57,120 Speaker 1: to look at that and rest from that time just 89 00:05:57,279 --> 00:06:00,960 Speaker 1: now in this year. And the momentum carried me through. 90 00:06:01,040 --> 00:06:04,880 Speaker 1: But that was quite a lot mentally, spiritually, emotionally, and physically. 91 00:06:05,400 --> 00:06:10,400 Speaker 1: So that first year of the pandemic was a whirlwind 92 00:06:10,560 --> 00:06:16,960 Speaker 1: for me. The second year of the pandemic same, and 93 00:06:17,000 --> 00:06:19,720 Speaker 1: then the first year out of the pandemic was really 94 00:06:19,760 --> 00:06:23,720 Speaker 1: interesting because I felt like I was catching up to 95 00:06:23,839 --> 00:06:27,440 Speaker 1: about five years of growth. Within that year. I was 96 00:06:27,520 --> 00:06:30,559 Speaker 1: really able to see my growth in so many ways, 97 00:06:30,640 --> 00:06:33,120 Speaker 1: my growth as a single mother. I was able to 98 00:06:33,200 --> 00:06:37,080 Speaker 1: see my growth and my intention as a friend, and 99 00:06:37,120 --> 00:06:39,159 Speaker 1: a lot of the boundaries that I had placed in 100 00:06:39,240 --> 00:06:42,760 Speaker 1: my life really coming to life and blooming and having 101 00:06:42,880 --> 00:06:47,880 Speaker 1: space to reap the rewards of And I was also 102 00:06:48,000 --> 00:06:52,480 Speaker 1: noticing that I was fully in another life. The world 103 00:06:52,520 --> 00:06:55,080 Speaker 1: had opened, and so I was test driving this knew 104 00:06:55,120 --> 00:06:58,680 Speaker 1: me out and about so much more so the first 105 00:06:58,760 --> 00:07:00,719 Speaker 1: year out of the pandemic, which I guess I would 106 00:07:00,720 --> 00:07:06,039 Speaker 1: count as this last year of two. It's been really 107 00:07:06,200 --> 00:07:09,720 Speaker 1: fun and it's been beautiful, and it's been also tiring. 108 00:07:09,920 --> 00:07:13,080 Speaker 1: I think I've been getting used to Okay, who am 109 00:07:13,120 --> 00:07:15,280 Speaker 1: I now back in the world, now that my work 110 00:07:15,320 --> 00:07:18,600 Speaker 1: travel has picked back up, now that socialization has picked 111 00:07:18,640 --> 00:07:21,720 Speaker 1: back up. So I've just been in flow and in 112 00:07:21,840 --> 00:07:25,720 Speaker 1: practice with this even more evolved version of myself and 113 00:07:25,760 --> 00:07:28,840 Speaker 1: this last year, and I'm really looking forward to the 114 00:07:28,920 --> 00:07:32,360 Speaker 1: ways I get to to immerse myself and really live 115 00:07:32,400 --> 00:07:37,679 Speaker 1: in this truth in mmmmmmm. Thank you for sharing that, Devy, 116 00:07:37,720 --> 00:07:41,360 Speaker 1: and I definitely echo your sentiments of feeling like this 117 00:07:41,480 --> 00:07:44,440 Speaker 1: year has failed in a different way, kind of exhausting, 118 00:07:44,520 --> 00:07:46,760 Speaker 1: and I think a lot of our community is also 119 00:07:46,840 --> 00:07:51,400 Speaker 1: feeling that way right like as we approache, just feeling 120 00:07:51,520 --> 00:07:54,240 Speaker 1: very tired and kind of like burned out in a 121 00:07:54,280 --> 00:07:56,920 Speaker 1: lot of ways. I wonder if you can share like 122 00:07:57,000 --> 00:08:00,240 Speaker 1: the importance of really being gentle with yourself if you 123 00:08:00,280 --> 00:08:02,680 Speaker 1: find yourself in that space as we enter a new year. 124 00:08:03,880 --> 00:08:07,560 Speaker 1: It's imperative. We can't change with judgment. We just can't. 125 00:08:07,600 --> 00:08:10,880 Speaker 1: And I know there's a lot of different social experiments 126 00:08:10,880 --> 00:08:13,520 Speaker 1: and studies that have been done related to that. But 127 00:08:14,840 --> 00:08:21,720 Speaker 1: it's just not possible to really become yourself, to love yourself, 128 00:08:21,880 --> 00:08:24,880 Speaker 1: to be more of yourself if you do not accept yourself, 129 00:08:25,360 --> 00:08:29,040 Speaker 1: and if you're constantly meeting yourself with criticisms or judgments, 130 00:08:29,240 --> 00:08:34,560 Speaker 1: especially when you're in that really fragile, flexible time of 131 00:08:34,720 --> 00:08:38,760 Speaker 1: stretching and trying on new ways of being, it's really 132 00:08:38,800 --> 00:08:42,480 Speaker 1: important to give yourself grace and space to do that. 133 00:08:42,960 --> 00:08:47,920 Speaker 1: We cannot master new things if we don't treat ourselves 134 00:08:47,920 --> 00:08:51,480 Speaker 1: with patients and care and spiritually, the term I'd use 135 00:08:51,600 --> 00:08:54,560 Speaker 1: for that is really a gentleness. It's a tenderness with self. 136 00:08:55,120 --> 00:08:59,960 Speaker 1: It's also taking a moment to inquire why a gentleness 137 00:09:00,040 --> 00:09:03,439 Speaker 1: of self may feel so foreign to begin with, and 138 00:09:03,520 --> 00:09:07,520 Speaker 1: spending time with noticing what are my barriers to my 139 00:09:07,559 --> 00:09:12,320 Speaker 1: own kindness? Why do I happen to always get so 140 00:09:12,400 --> 00:09:15,839 Speaker 1: exasperated with myself? Why do I tend to always use 141 00:09:15,880 --> 00:09:20,760 Speaker 1: that tone with myself or concede to failure so quickly? 142 00:09:21,600 --> 00:09:26,320 Speaker 1: And that can sometimes feel challenging, and it can bring 143 00:09:26,360 --> 00:09:29,559 Speaker 1: you to a new layer of yourself, and it can 144 00:09:29,600 --> 00:09:32,800 Speaker 1: bring you to things that maybe have not been a 145 00:09:32,840 --> 00:09:37,120 Speaker 1: priority in discovering, but are really important for that next step. 146 00:09:37,600 --> 00:09:40,600 Speaker 1: And so the gentleness is truly key for any change, 147 00:09:40,640 --> 00:09:43,959 Speaker 1: and it's what makes it sustainable. It's what makes that, 148 00:09:44,200 --> 00:09:47,120 Speaker 1: you know, the initial kind of awareness that you may 149 00:09:47,200 --> 00:09:49,839 Speaker 1: have about something in your life, it's what actually makes 150 00:09:49,880 --> 00:09:55,720 Speaker 1: it potent and permanent and transformational. M So that you 151 00:09:55,760 --> 00:09:58,960 Speaker 1: have raised a lot of interesting points there, especially around 152 00:09:59,520 --> 00:10:02,400 Speaker 1: asking yourself like why is it difficult for me to 153 00:10:02,440 --> 00:10:05,280 Speaker 1: be gentle with myself? Right? And I think sometimes that 154 00:10:05,320 --> 00:10:08,000 Speaker 1: can be a very painful answer because I think a 155 00:10:08,000 --> 00:10:11,160 Speaker 1: lot of times when we learned is that came from upbringing, 156 00:10:11,200 --> 00:10:13,080 Speaker 1: It came from other people in our lives who were 157 00:10:13,080 --> 00:10:15,800 Speaker 1: supposed to be gentle with us who were not. So 158 00:10:15,840 --> 00:10:19,679 Speaker 1: I think it often presents a very uncomfortable place for 159 00:10:19,760 --> 00:10:25,120 Speaker 1: people to be deeply, deeply uncomfortable. It's kind of a 160 00:10:25,200 --> 00:10:27,679 Speaker 1: multitude of things and for some of us, depending on 161 00:10:27,679 --> 00:10:32,320 Speaker 1: our background, it could feel really complex. You know, it 162 00:10:32,360 --> 00:10:35,320 Speaker 1: could bring to life a lot of challenge, a lot 163 00:10:35,400 --> 00:10:39,360 Speaker 1: of experiences with caretakers, with people in your life as 164 00:10:39,360 --> 00:10:41,720 Speaker 1: a young person who didn't give you the freedom to 165 00:10:41,760 --> 00:10:44,720 Speaker 1: be yourself or didn't see you as your own being, 166 00:10:45,400 --> 00:10:48,160 Speaker 1: and It can also be so much of the societal stuff, right, 167 00:10:48,280 --> 00:10:52,120 Speaker 1: Like every generation has its own curriculum that society is 168 00:10:52,200 --> 00:10:55,440 Speaker 1: kind of forcing on it, this way of being the 169 00:10:55,600 --> 00:10:58,880 Speaker 1: stereotype of how you're supposed to live. And that's a 170 00:10:58,880 --> 00:11:01,440 Speaker 1: lot of it too, you know. I think we, at 171 00:11:01,520 --> 00:11:04,280 Speaker 1: least in this millennial generation that I can speak to 172 00:11:04,360 --> 00:11:08,199 Speaker 1: because I live this experience, I think we were met 173 00:11:08,320 --> 00:11:15,080 Speaker 1: with so many contradictory expectations as women especially, It's like, 174 00:11:15,280 --> 00:11:17,439 Speaker 1: you need to hustle, you need a grind, you need 175 00:11:17,480 --> 00:11:19,679 Speaker 1: to go harder, you need to be a martyr. You 176 00:11:19,679 --> 00:11:22,320 Speaker 1: also got to show up perfectly in your friendships and 177 00:11:22,440 --> 00:11:25,800 Speaker 1: over give and have overresponsibility, and you got to be 178 00:11:25,840 --> 00:11:27,800 Speaker 1: this to your man, and you got to know how 179 00:11:27,840 --> 00:11:31,080 Speaker 1: to like throw shade and read people. And it was 180 00:11:31,160 --> 00:11:35,400 Speaker 1: just so many things that really didn't speak to gentleness 181 00:11:35,520 --> 00:11:40,360 Speaker 1: arrest in any way. So there's always something to be unlearned. 182 00:11:40,679 --> 00:11:42,760 Speaker 1: And I think when we take that approach of that 183 00:11:43,040 --> 00:11:46,319 Speaker 1: self inquiry of asking why do I treat myself this way, 184 00:11:46,480 --> 00:11:49,280 Speaker 1: it's important to yes, do that deeper dive that can 185 00:11:49,360 --> 00:11:54,920 Speaker 1: feel immensely, immensely triggering and can be painful, and do 186 00:11:55,040 --> 00:11:57,319 Speaker 1: the societal of you two say, what did I pick 187 00:11:57,400 --> 00:11:59,600 Speaker 1: up from friendships? What did I pick up from work, 188 00:11:59,600 --> 00:12:02,680 Speaker 1: atmosp fears? What did I pick up from television? That's 189 00:12:02,720 --> 00:12:06,840 Speaker 1: really the only multifaceted approach I found is the way 190 00:12:06,920 --> 00:12:09,640 Speaker 1: you really are able to break some of those patterns 191 00:12:09,679 --> 00:12:14,240 Speaker 1: and make it lasting. M mmmmmmm. So you've already mentioned 192 00:12:14,280 --> 00:12:16,720 Speaker 1: how you feel like you have changed just in the 193 00:12:16,760 --> 00:12:18,839 Speaker 1: past three years, and I would imagine that like your 194 00:12:18,880 --> 00:12:21,960 Speaker 1: self care and yourself care rituals have changed with it. 195 00:12:22,280 --> 00:12:24,480 Speaker 1: Can you talk about how they have changed for you 196 00:12:24,600 --> 00:12:26,360 Speaker 1: and why it's important for us to kind of have 197 00:12:26,440 --> 00:12:29,240 Speaker 1: different rituals and different kinds of things that we do 198 00:12:29,400 --> 00:12:34,040 Speaker 1: at different parts of our lives. Oh, yes, it's changed 199 00:12:34,160 --> 00:12:37,360 Speaker 1: so much. It's something that I was really reflecting on 200 00:12:37,520 --> 00:12:40,280 Speaker 1: recently in my life and just seeing the beauty in 201 00:12:40,800 --> 00:12:43,880 Speaker 1: how much we do have to commit to the process 202 00:12:44,160 --> 00:12:47,319 Speaker 1: and to the gentleness and to understanding that when we 203 00:12:47,400 --> 00:12:50,880 Speaker 1: speak to self care practice, the most important word that 204 00:12:51,040 --> 00:12:55,360 Speaker 1: is being spoken is the word practice and actually letting 205 00:12:55,440 --> 00:13:00,000 Speaker 1: ourselves give that word a definition. I am in practic 206 00:13:00,080 --> 00:13:04,800 Speaker 1: disk of this, and so every day it's so important 207 00:13:04,880 --> 00:13:07,720 Speaker 1: and every day does not have to look identical. You 208 00:13:07,760 --> 00:13:11,960 Speaker 1: are not winning some kind of award by something observing you. 209 00:13:12,120 --> 00:13:15,160 Speaker 1: That's keeping count, and so there isn't this need for 210 00:13:15,240 --> 00:13:17,600 Speaker 1: perfection every day. It's just like if you were on 211 00:13:17,640 --> 00:13:20,240 Speaker 1: the court with the ball, as my dear friend resum 212 00:13:20,240 --> 00:13:24,360 Speaker 1: Aminicum says, getting your reps up. You just keep shooting 213 00:13:25,320 --> 00:13:27,920 Speaker 1: the ball and you make some baskets and the ones 214 00:13:27,960 --> 00:13:30,080 Speaker 1: you don't make, you just keep dribbling, you keep trying. 215 00:13:30,120 --> 00:13:32,800 Speaker 1: There's not that same sense of pressure if you're doing 216 00:13:32,880 --> 00:13:36,839 Speaker 1: it for fun, right, or if there's no expectation of 217 00:13:37,000 --> 00:13:39,199 Speaker 1: you making it to the league. And I think we 218 00:13:39,280 --> 00:13:41,440 Speaker 1: have to look at our practice in that same way. 219 00:13:41,520 --> 00:13:44,120 Speaker 1: And when I think back to when I began my 220 00:13:44,240 --> 00:13:48,480 Speaker 1: journey meditating, you know, sometimes I could barely and this 221 00:13:48,559 --> 00:13:51,520 Speaker 1: is ten years ago. Sometimes I could barely get through 222 00:13:51,559 --> 00:13:54,160 Speaker 1: five minutes, like when I tell you it was like 223 00:13:54,280 --> 00:13:59,320 Speaker 1: pulling teeth my journey beginning to meditate the very first time, 224 00:13:59,440 --> 00:14:01,920 Speaker 1: I knew it would change my life. But it didn't 225 00:14:01,920 --> 00:14:03,520 Speaker 1: mean I liked it, and it didn't mean I was 226 00:14:03,600 --> 00:14:07,360 Speaker 1: quote unquote good at it. It took years, and after 227 00:14:07,440 --> 00:14:09,760 Speaker 1: a couple of years, I bumped my practice up and 228 00:14:09,800 --> 00:14:12,760 Speaker 1: I was locking into doing thirty minutes two times a day, 229 00:14:13,240 --> 00:14:16,560 Speaker 1: and now I find that it's most beneficial for me 230 00:14:16,600 --> 00:14:18,920 Speaker 1: in my life if I can find a way to 231 00:14:18,960 --> 00:14:21,680 Speaker 1: meditate for two hours a day, and that's usually about 232 00:14:21,960 --> 00:14:24,280 Speaker 1: forty five minutes to an hour in the morning forty 233 00:14:24,320 --> 00:14:27,280 Speaker 1: five minutes to an hour in the evening. Doesn't always happen. 234 00:14:27,320 --> 00:14:29,360 Speaker 1: I have a four year old in life with life, 235 00:14:29,960 --> 00:14:32,560 Speaker 1: but for me, because I know that's a priority, it 236 00:14:32,600 --> 00:14:35,280 Speaker 1: also doesn't feel like a hardship. I don't watch television, 237 00:14:35,440 --> 00:14:38,000 Speaker 1: I don't really watch a lot of movies. I'm not 238 00:14:38,160 --> 00:14:40,920 Speaker 1: someone that is super plugged into talking to people in 239 00:14:40,960 --> 00:14:43,360 Speaker 1: my life all day throughout the day. So I have 240 00:14:43,520 --> 00:14:47,520 Speaker 1: ways to find that time for myself. But it's incredibly important, 241 00:14:47,600 --> 00:14:50,840 Speaker 1: and I think now the way that I've really been 242 00:14:50,840 --> 00:14:54,480 Speaker 1: growing in my practice, something that has become more important 243 00:14:54,480 --> 00:14:57,720 Speaker 1: than it's been is spending more time with my body. 244 00:14:57,840 --> 00:15:01,160 Speaker 1: So I really have a dedicated stre Uch practice right now, 245 00:15:01,280 --> 00:15:04,360 Speaker 1: which has taught me a lot about myself, and it's 246 00:15:04,360 --> 00:15:07,960 Speaker 1: taught me a lot about barriers. I had to being 247 00:15:08,040 --> 00:15:11,760 Speaker 1: present with myself. Barriers I had to noticing my body 248 00:15:11,840 --> 00:15:15,880 Speaker 1: and acknowledging when I had aches and pains. And this 249 00:15:16,000 --> 00:15:18,720 Speaker 1: might resonate with some I lived with chronic pain for 250 00:15:18,760 --> 00:15:22,680 Speaker 1: many years, and so doing physical things, I would find 251 00:15:22,680 --> 00:15:24,680 Speaker 1: myself avoiding them. And even though I was on a 252 00:15:24,720 --> 00:15:28,680 Speaker 1: meditation path, I was not doing yoga for many years 253 00:15:28,760 --> 00:15:31,560 Speaker 1: because it was very triggering me. Every time I tried 254 00:15:31,600 --> 00:15:34,440 Speaker 1: to get into and Austina, every time I'd get into 255 00:15:34,440 --> 00:15:39,360 Speaker 1: a yoga posture, I would be noticing everything that hurt 256 00:15:39,560 --> 00:15:42,040 Speaker 1: and everything I couldn't do, and so I would kind 257 00:15:42,080 --> 00:15:44,680 Speaker 1: of reject it. So the last couple of years, I've 258 00:15:44,680 --> 00:15:50,040 Speaker 1: been enhancing my practice by working on my yoga postures, stretching. 259 00:15:50,680 --> 00:15:54,400 Speaker 1: I love doing a bianga, which is irradic self massage 260 00:15:54,480 --> 00:15:56,440 Speaker 1: where you get oil and you spend a lot of 261 00:15:56,480 --> 00:16:00,040 Speaker 1: dedicated time just nurturing your body, rubbing the oil in 262 00:16:00,080 --> 00:16:04,720 Speaker 1: your skin, noticing knots, intentions, and giving yourself release. So 263 00:16:04,800 --> 00:16:07,480 Speaker 1: that's a part of my practice I have fallen deeply 264 00:16:07,560 --> 00:16:11,600 Speaker 1: in love with. It's allowed me to feel really my best. 265 00:16:11,760 --> 00:16:15,400 Speaker 1: My body feels powerful, I feel like I have more 266 00:16:15,480 --> 00:16:21,160 Speaker 1: control over being able to bring myself pleasure, relief, just 267 00:16:21,360 --> 00:16:26,880 Speaker 1: a sense of being unburdened. M M. More from my 268 00:16:26,960 --> 00:16:40,240 Speaker 1: conversation with Debbi after the break, Yeah, I'm very impressed 269 00:16:40,280 --> 00:16:43,840 Speaker 1: by you saying that you basically have days it feels 270 00:16:43,840 --> 00:16:46,720 Speaker 1: like uninterrupted, right like that you're not talking to people 271 00:16:47,280 --> 00:16:49,400 Speaker 1: kind of throughout the day. Can you share, like how 272 00:16:49,440 --> 00:16:54,680 Speaker 1: you've been able to craft a schedule like that? Yes, well, 273 00:16:54,720 --> 00:16:57,160 Speaker 1: one by nature of my work, it's something that I 274 00:16:57,240 --> 00:17:00,440 Speaker 1: have is my away email is I'll responded as I can, 275 00:17:00,560 --> 00:17:03,560 Speaker 1: but my work is rooted in present moment awareness, so 276 00:17:03,760 --> 00:17:06,760 Speaker 1: I don't have urgency about getting back to you. My 277 00:17:06,840 --> 00:17:10,439 Speaker 1: away message to my email says that something that was 278 00:17:10,560 --> 00:17:12,840 Speaker 1: really beautiful in the pandemic, And I think a lot 279 00:17:12,880 --> 00:17:16,960 Speaker 1: of us noticed this is by having that disconnection that 280 00:17:17,119 --> 00:17:20,119 Speaker 1: we craved connection, we were able to really reset in 281 00:17:20,119 --> 00:17:22,240 Speaker 1: a lot of ways. Or that was the case for me. 282 00:17:22,400 --> 00:17:24,679 Speaker 1: I was able to reset and say, what are the 283 00:17:24,760 --> 00:17:28,040 Speaker 1: essential friendships in my life? What are the essential relationships? 284 00:17:28,600 --> 00:17:31,080 Speaker 1: And what are things that I've been feeding that have 285 00:17:31,320 --> 00:17:35,280 Speaker 1: never shown return on investment? Right Like? And that even 286 00:17:35,320 --> 00:17:38,960 Speaker 1: looks like sometimes if someone text me that I knew, 287 00:17:39,280 --> 00:17:41,240 Speaker 1: and I would feel a little bit of charge about 288 00:17:41,280 --> 00:17:45,200 Speaker 1: it and not know why, because our interactions were always delightful. 289 00:17:45,680 --> 00:17:48,679 Speaker 1: I just started scrolling up in our text history and saying, 290 00:17:49,040 --> 00:17:51,359 Speaker 1: what is the truth of the way we've been operating, 291 00:17:51,760 --> 00:17:54,600 Speaker 1: and what I noticed was some people was very often 292 00:17:54,800 --> 00:17:59,000 Speaker 1: it was someone pinning me to receive advice or want 293 00:17:59,040 --> 00:18:02,840 Speaker 1: guidance in some way, or invite me out to talk 294 00:18:02,920 --> 00:18:06,320 Speaker 1: about things working in their lives and in their curriculums. 295 00:18:06,359 --> 00:18:10,600 Speaker 1: But it wasn't the same level of enthusiasm of recognizing 296 00:18:10,640 --> 00:18:13,640 Speaker 1: things I was doing in the world speaking to that. 297 00:18:13,680 --> 00:18:16,719 Speaker 1: There wasn't really a lot of inquiry about me and 298 00:18:16,760 --> 00:18:21,120 Speaker 1: my experiences. And so sometimes for some of us, when 299 00:18:21,160 --> 00:18:25,359 Speaker 1: you are that role model in your life, or if 300 00:18:25,400 --> 00:18:29,760 Speaker 1: you have wisdom to give, you can get really burned out. 301 00:18:31,600 --> 00:18:33,840 Speaker 1: So I started looking at little things like that. I 302 00:18:33,840 --> 00:18:37,440 Speaker 1: started looking at something I spoke to earlier was this 303 00:18:37,600 --> 00:18:41,680 Speaker 1: generational thing we had as millennials, this societal pressuring guidance 304 00:18:41,720 --> 00:18:44,280 Speaker 1: that was also put around networking, like this belief that 305 00:18:44,320 --> 00:18:47,400 Speaker 1: we always had to be out sharing our card, interacting 306 00:18:47,440 --> 00:18:51,200 Speaker 1: with people, getting names, like getting yourself known. But very 307 00:18:51,440 --> 00:18:54,520 Speaker 1: rarely do any of those have depth, and very rarely 308 00:18:54,560 --> 00:18:57,600 Speaker 1: did any of that turn into anything collaborative. And so 309 00:18:57,680 --> 00:18:59,520 Speaker 1: I also got real about the fact that what I 310 00:18:59,600 --> 00:19:02,080 Speaker 1: do for work, I don't need to network. That's not 311 00:19:02,160 --> 00:19:07,240 Speaker 1: actually a part of what makes my work move and 312 00:19:07,320 --> 00:19:11,360 Speaker 1: so I just got very clear on things that were 313 00:19:11,480 --> 00:19:14,439 Speaker 1: essential for my purpose, things that were essential for my 314 00:19:14,520 --> 00:19:19,040 Speaker 1: internal life, for my family, and things that weren't. And 315 00:19:19,080 --> 00:19:22,359 Speaker 1: then I got very intentional and I cut out everything 316 00:19:22,359 --> 00:19:25,399 Speaker 1: that wasn't. And something that a lot of my friends 317 00:19:25,480 --> 00:19:28,199 Speaker 1: also know about me is I am that friend that 318 00:19:28,320 --> 00:19:30,280 Speaker 1: is going to show up, and I am that friend 319 00:19:30,280 --> 00:19:33,480 Speaker 1: that is going to be with you through literally anything. 320 00:19:33,640 --> 00:19:35,679 Speaker 1: I'm also the friend that loves to turn up and 321 00:19:35,720 --> 00:19:38,199 Speaker 1: have fun, and I'm the friend that really likes to 322 00:19:38,200 --> 00:19:41,320 Speaker 1: be alone. And I was just very upfront with that 323 00:19:41,440 --> 00:19:44,199 Speaker 1: with the people in my life. I don't operate like 324 00:19:44,240 --> 00:19:47,679 Speaker 1: everyone else. I don't enjoy gossip. I don't want to 325 00:19:47,720 --> 00:19:50,080 Speaker 1: be just talking about things for the sake of it. 326 00:19:50,400 --> 00:19:54,080 Speaker 1: I really like to be in silence a lot. And 327 00:19:54,119 --> 00:19:56,880 Speaker 1: so I just designed my life around who I am. 328 00:19:57,240 --> 00:19:59,760 Speaker 1: And that is not the case for everyone, nor should 329 00:19:59,760 --> 00:20:03,879 Speaker 1: it be, but that is uniquely the way my life operates, 330 00:20:04,080 --> 00:20:07,000 Speaker 1: and so I had to make the adjustments to support that. 331 00:20:07,560 --> 00:20:11,919 Speaker 1: M mmmmmmmmm. So I also know that affirmations are a 332 00:20:11,960 --> 00:20:14,840 Speaker 1: big deal for you, So can you share one affirmation 333 00:20:14,840 --> 00:20:17,359 Speaker 1: that you feel like has really helped keep you grounded 334 00:20:17,440 --> 00:20:22,040 Speaker 1: in hold during this year. Oh so every year at 335 00:20:22,040 --> 00:20:24,840 Speaker 1: the top of the year, usually on the first or 336 00:20:24,920 --> 00:20:28,040 Speaker 1: second of the new year, I try to, with the 337 00:20:28,080 --> 00:20:32,080 Speaker 1: exception of being with my son, I try to be 338 00:20:32,200 --> 00:20:35,200 Speaker 1: in silence for almost the entire day. And I used 339 00:20:35,240 --> 00:20:38,120 Speaker 1: that day to really connect with myself and God and say, 340 00:20:38,160 --> 00:20:41,160 Speaker 1: what is this next year going to mean in my life? 341 00:20:41,240 --> 00:20:43,520 Speaker 1: What do I need to do to meet that occasion? 342 00:20:44,160 --> 00:20:46,720 Speaker 1: And so it's a deeply meditative day for me, a 343 00:20:46,840 --> 00:20:48,639 Speaker 1: day that I love to journal a lot, and a 344 00:20:48,720 --> 00:20:54,040 Speaker 1: day that I love to create meaningful affirmations that I 345 00:20:54,200 --> 00:20:57,120 Speaker 1: base off of what came up for me in meditation. 346 00:20:57,520 --> 00:21:00,200 Speaker 1: And so when we kind of re emerged back in 347 00:21:00,280 --> 00:21:04,520 Speaker 1: the world last year, we were also emerging with everyone 348 00:21:04,640 --> 00:21:07,119 Speaker 1: and everything that we've walked through and gone through, and 349 00:21:07,920 --> 00:21:11,760 Speaker 1: people came back to life very differently, and at least 350 00:21:11,760 --> 00:21:15,480 Speaker 1: where I live in Los Angeles, I started noticing so 351 00:21:15,640 --> 00:21:20,399 Speaker 1: much tension everywhere. There is a lot of charged energy 352 00:21:20,440 --> 00:21:23,480 Speaker 1: in the atmosphere right now, and people are walking through 353 00:21:23,520 --> 00:21:29,280 Speaker 1: a lot. People are triggered when they least expect it. 354 00:21:29,359 --> 00:21:31,560 Speaker 1: So I just started noticing a lot more accidents on 355 00:21:31,600 --> 00:21:35,360 Speaker 1: the road, a lot more just anger present in day 356 00:21:35,359 --> 00:21:40,040 Speaker 1: to day scenarios, and so I created this affirmation with 357 00:21:40,160 --> 00:21:42,159 Speaker 1: my intention of how I wanted to show up for 358 00:21:42,200 --> 00:21:44,679 Speaker 1: people and how I wanted people to show up for me. 359 00:21:44,840 --> 00:21:48,040 Speaker 1: So the affirmation that I've been using this last year 360 00:21:48,119 --> 00:21:55,919 Speaker 1: is I attract, receive and experience the highest version of 361 00:21:56,080 --> 00:22:04,119 Speaker 1: every being whom I encounter. I attract receive an experience 362 00:22:05,240 --> 00:22:12,040 Speaker 1: the highest version of every being whom I encounter, saying 363 00:22:12,080 --> 00:22:17,000 Speaker 1: that every day I really noticed a significant change. I 364 00:22:17,119 --> 00:22:21,399 Speaker 1: really noticed that I was not attracting a lot of 365 00:22:21,440 --> 00:22:23,439 Speaker 1: that charge when I'd be out in the world, and 366 00:22:23,480 --> 00:22:26,439 Speaker 1: I was also holding space for the fact that we 367 00:22:26,520 --> 00:22:30,440 Speaker 1: are all walking through significant things in our lives right now. 368 00:22:30,520 --> 00:22:33,480 Speaker 1: Even if we've all put back on our garments from 369 00:22:33,520 --> 00:22:37,000 Speaker 1: two thousand nineteen, even if we've all been kind of 370 00:22:37,480 --> 00:22:40,800 Speaker 1: trying to pretend we're in a quote unquote new normal 371 00:22:40,960 --> 00:22:43,560 Speaker 1: or getting back to normal, We're not and it never 372 00:22:43,600 --> 00:22:46,679 Speaker 1: will be, and we are different. And so how do 373 00:22:46,800 --> 00:22:49,840 Speaker 1: we shape our lives around that, and how do we 374 00:22:49,880 --> 00:22:53,680 Speaker 1: also give grace to people who, maybe because of so 375 00:22:53,800 --> 00:22:58,040 Speaker 1: many different things, may not have been able to experience 376 00:22:58,440 --> 00:23:02,439 Speaker 1: the pandemic in the same way that we dead. So Den, 377 00:23:02,680 --> 00:23:05,000 Speaker 1: I feel like you have just unlocked a whole new 378 00:23:05,600 --> 00:23:09,399 Speaker 1: episode conversation because I agree with you, like I also 379 00:23:09,480 --> 00:23:12,040 Speaker 1: feel that charge, and I think, you know, I think 380 00:23:12,119 --> 00:23:13,920 Speaker 1: because of what we do right, like, I think we're 381 00:23:13,920 --> 00:23:16,879 Speaker 1: tapped into it in a very particular way. But I 382 00:23:16,920 --> 00:23:18,719 Speaker 1: feel like a lot of people feel it. And I 383 00:23:18,760 --> 00:23:20,600 Speaker 1: think a lot of it is as you're saying, like 384 00:23:20,800 --> 00:23:24,320 Speaker 1: we're putting on the same clothes and whatever from but 385 00:23:24,359 --> 00:23:27,119 Speaker 1: the world is very different, and I don't think we 386 00:23:27,200 --> 00:23:31,840 Speaker 1: have processed the grief and the loss and the disappointment 387 00:23:31,880 --> 00:23:34,920 Speaker 1: and the anger and the hurt and the everything that 388 00:23:35,000 --> 00:23:39,960 Speaker 1: has happened. And I'm honestly confused about how we move forward. 389 00:23:40,400 --> 00:23:43,119 Speaker 1: I feel like it it feels so big that it 390 00:23:43,160 --> 00:23:46,800 Speaker 1: feels hard to even help people understand what they need 391 00:23:46,840 --> 00:23:50,040 Speaker 1: to do to kind of like trying to course correct 392 00:23:50,480 --> 00:23:54,000 Speaker 1: in some ways. And I know this is a big question, 393 00:23:54,000 --> 00:23:55,919 Speaker 1: but what are your thoughts in terms of, you know, 394 00:23:55,960 --> 00:23:59,000 Speaker 1: like how we even help people get started at chipping 395 00:23:59,000 --> 00:24:05,000 Speaker 1: away at some of this energy we It is so 396 00:24:05,000 --> 00:24:10,919 Speaker 1: so hard, and I think, not to speak for you, 397 00:24:11,520 --> 00:24:17,520 Speaker 1: I know some of us that are really observers of 398 00:24:17,600 --> 00:24:23,879 Speaker 1: inservants to humanity, it feels like, you know, in a 399 00:24:23,880 --> 00:24:26,639 Speaker 1: lot of ways, the gap got even bigger, like a 400 00:24:26,680 --> 00:24:32,480 Speaker 1: lot bigger, and it felt like there are demographics of 401 00:24:32,600 --> 00:24:37,840 Speaker 1: people who surged forward in really powerful ways and demographics 402 00:24:37,840 --> 00:24:41,240 Speaker 1: of people who stayed the same. But the thing is, 403 00:24:41,280 --> 00:24:44,000 Speaker 1: if you stay the same while everyone moves forward, you 404 00:24:44,040 --> 00:24:49,000 Speaker 1: are behind. I don't think that there is anything that 405 00:24:49,119 --> 00:24:52,399 Speaker 1: can change that, because, to be quite honest, my thought 406 00:24:52,520 --> 00:25:01,040 Speaker 1: is if for whatever reasons, you were not able to 407 00:25:01,080 --> 00:25:05,200 Speaker 1: move through some of your spiritual curriculum, move forward, lay 408 00:25:05,280 --> 00:25:07,760 Speaker 1: some things to rest during the pandemic, which was like 409 00:25:07,840 --> 00:25:11,240 Speaker 1: kind of that one moment in time that everything stood 410 00:25:11,280 --> 00:25:14,560 Speaker 1: still and you could really dive in, I don't know 411 00:25:14,600 --> 00:25:18,919 Speaker 1: how possible it would be. In another circumstance and a 412 00:25:19,000 --> 00:25:21,639 Speaker 1: practice that I've been in to kind of work with 413 00:25:21,680 --> 00:25:25,360 Speaker 1: this energy, I've had to really expand my compassion practice. 414 00:25:26,359 --> 00:25:29,480 Speaker 1: I don't want to sound overly ethereal, but I say 415 00:25:29,480 --> 00:25:31,479 Speaker 1: this to say there are things in life that do 416 00:25:31,520 --> 00:25:33,760 Speaker 1: not have hacks. There are things in life that do 417 00:25:33,800 --> 00:25:36,560 Speaker 1: not have tricks, that do not have a line of 418 00:25:36,560 --> 00:25:39,680 Speaker 1: advice or wisdom, and I think we're in a very 419 00:25:39,720 --> 00:25:43,160 Speaker 1: complicated time. I'm excited about this time that we're in, 420 00:25:43,600 --> 00:25:45,679 Speaker 1: but I think that we're going to start to see 421 00:25:45,800 --> 00:25:48,159 Speaker 1: pain rise to the surface in a way that we 422 00:25:48,240 --> 00:25:50,720 Speaker 1: never have. I think that we are going to begin 423 00:25:50,800 --> 00:25:55,879 Speaker 1: to unpack conversations about really complicated and complex abuses that 424 00:25:55,960 --> 00:25:59,560 Speaker 1: people have experienced that we never have as a society. 425 00:26:00,160 --> 00:26:03,239 Speaker 1: And it's dark and it's heavy, and there is no 426 00:26:03,280 --> 00:26:06,080 Speaker 1: way around it. And so for me, I think the 427 00:26:06,160 --> 00:26:09,920 Speaker 1: best case scenario is to not try to bypass any 428 00:26:09,960 --> 00:26:12,800 Speaker 1: of it. To witness all of it. Even if you 429 00:26:12,840 --> 00:26:15,560 Speaker 1: can't be a part of the solution, hold space for 430 00:26:15,680 --> 00:26:19,080 Speaker 1: it with neutrality, with non judgment, be willing to look 431 00:26:19,119 --> 00:26:22,080 Speaker 1: at it. If you can't offer anything else, just keep 432 00:26:22,119 --> 00:26:25,159 Speaker 1: your eyes open. And I think I'm just trying to 433 00:26:25,400 --> 00:26:29,520 Speaker 1: always cultivate as much grace and compassion as possible, and 434 00:26:29,560 --> 00:26:33,159 Speaker 1: to also use my discernment and my intuition at the 435 00:26:33,240 --> 00:26:36,959 Speaker 1: highest levels that I can. Intuition discernment. It's not just 436 00:26:37,080 --> 00:26:39,520 Speaker 1: for who you're going to date. It's not just, you know, 437 00:26:39,880 --> 00:26:43,400 Speaker 1: for friendships. It's not just for for the little thing 438 00:26:43,480 --> 00:26:46,240 Speaker 1: that you're looking on Instagram about trying to figure out 439 00:26:46,240 --> 00:26:49,639 Speaker 1: crack the code. You know, it's to be used in 440 00:26:49,680 --> 00:26:52,560 Speaker 1: your day to day interaction. So if something tells you 441 00:26:52,960 --> 00:26:55,560 Speaker 1: not to launch into that conversation, not to honk at 442 00:26:55,600 --> 00:26:58,280 Speaker 1: that person when they cut you off. Listen to it. 443 00:26:58,800 --> 00:27:01,600 Speaker 1: That's what I'm really trying to be present with right now. Mm. 444 00:27:02,600 --> 00:27:06,399 Speaker 1: So this conversation comes up a lot around intuition, around like, 445 00:27:06,480 --> 00:27:09,680 Speaker 1: how do you know the difference between intuition and anxiety? 446 00:27:10,080 --> 00:27:12,720 Speaker 1: Do you have some ideas about how we confirm of 447 00:27:12,800 --> 00:27:17,720 Speaker 1: that intuition muscle and not necessarily given to anxiety? Mm hmm. 448 00:27:19,720 --> 00:27:23,320 Speaker 1: Intuition is not dread. When I think of what the 449 00:27:23,400 --> 00:27:26,320 Speaker 1: feeling of anxiety at least has felt like for me 450 00:27:26,359 --> 00:27:29,040 Speaker 1: in my life, there is this sense of being out 451 00:27:29,040 --> 00:27:33,200 Speaker 1: of control. There is this sense of doom and gloom coming, 452 00:27:33,359 --> 00:27:42,639 Speaker 1: there is this sense of charge. Intuition, to me, feels 453 00:27:42,640 --> 00:27:46,200 Speaker 1: like peace, even if it's a no, even if it's 454 00:27:46,280 --> 00:27:49,720 Speaker 1: something that I don't want to hear. It doesn't feel 455 00:27:49,800 --> 00:27:53,119 Speaker 1: like a fight. It feels like a deep knowing, and 456 00:27:53,200 --> 00:27:57,359 Speaker 1: it feels like a guidance, like a gift. So I 457 00:27:57,400 --> 00:28:01,640 Speaker 1: think sometimes intuition begins us to feel more like anxiety. 458 00:28:01,840 --> 00:28:05,720 Speaker 1: If you are trying to force a different outcome than 459 00:28:05,760 --> 00:28:09,080 Speaker 1: what your body, mind, and heart are telling you, that 460 00:28:09,119 --> 00:28:12,840 Speaker 1: can lead to what is felt as anxiety in the 461 00:28:12,880 --> 00:28:16,919 Speaker 1: body I believe something I was thinking about recently. I 462 00:28:17,040 --> 00:28:19,480 Speaker 1: use the term God. I also use the term universe, 463 00:28:19,640 --> 00:28:22,800 Speaker 1: and I'm speaking to my specific relationship with the Creator, 464 00:28:22,920 --> 00:28:27,440 Speaker 1: which is nondenominational but includes a lot of wisdom, traditions 465 00:28:28,359 --> 00:28:31,840 Speaker 1: and a lot of devotion and faith interest. And so 466 00:28:32,720 --> 00:28:35,720 Speaker 1: I ask God for guidance about everything every day, and 467 00:28:35,760 --> 00:28:38,760 Speaker 1: then I wait and I listen, and sometimes the answer 468 00:28:38,920 --> 00:28:42,360 Speaker 1: is no. And I don't always like it, but I listen, 469 00:28:42,960 --> 00:28:46,120 Speaker 1: and I think that's what intuition feels like for me. 470 00:28:46,240 --> 00:28:48,800 Speaker 1: It's whether it is what you think you want in 471 00:28:48,920 --> 00:28:52,680 Speaker 1: desire or not coming back to you as intuition. It's 472 00:28:52,720 --> 00:28:56,320 Speaker 1: the choice, or it's the thought, or it's the knowing 473 00:28:57,200 --> 00:29:02,880 Speaker 1: that is for your protection. Thank you for that. I 474 00:29:02,960 --> 00:29:06,360 Speaker 1: appreciate that. So you mentioned earlier you know that a 475 00:29:06,360 --> 00:29:07,880 Speaker 1: part of the way that you try to start the 476 00:29:07,960 --> 00:29:10,920 Speaker 1: new year is in silent When you shared a blog 477 00:29:10,960 --> 00:29:13,160 Speaker 1: post recently that I would love for us to kind 478 00:29:13,200 --> 00:29:15,080 Speaker 1: of just talk about as you kind of talk about 479 00:29:15,120 --> 00:29:18,800 Speaker 1: how we can prepare for so you said, there's no 480 00:29:18,880 --> 00:29:21,080 Speaker 1: better way to map out a new year of abundance, 481 00:29:21,120 --> 00:29:24,600 Speaker 1: fulfillment and joy than creating with intention. The end of 482 00:29:24,600 --> 00:29:27,960 Speaker 1: the year is often shrouded in frantic energy. There seems 483 00:29:27,960 --> 00:29:30,800 Speaker 1: to be so much external exertion and an imbalance of 484 00:29:30,800 --> 00:29:34,480 Speaker 1: inner reflection and the ever shifting cycle of expansion. I 485 00:29:34,520 --> 00:29:37,160 Speaker 1: have practiced creating my New Year intentions in November and 486 00:29:37,200 --> 00:29:41,680 Speaker 1: December so that my daily routine vibration and vision is 487 00:29:41,720 --> 00:29:47,080 Speaker 1: already in motion come January first. So how might we 488 00:29:47,240 --> 00:29:50,840 Speaker 1: also following these footsteps of being more intentional about like 489 00:29:50,960 --> 00:29:55,240 Speaker 1: creating what we want to look like? Oh? I love that. 490 00:29:57,680 --> 00:30:01,560 Speaker 1: I would say, first of all, go deeper, Go deeper, 491 00:30:01,720 --> 00:30:05,840 Speaker 1: Go deeper, Go deeper, Go deeper. And I'm certain that 492 00:30:06,000 --> 00:30:10,120 Speaker 1: anyone listening to this show is into that. You know, 493 00:30:10,200 --> 00:30:13,200 Speaker 1: this is not a surface show that's just like, yeah, girl, 494 00:30:13,240 --> 00:30:15,200 Speaker 1: you want that new car, put it on your vision board. 495 00:30:15,880 --> 00:30:18,680 Speaker 1: Go deeper. When we think about the things that we 496 00:30:18,760 --> 00:30:21,760 Speaker 1: want for ourselves. If the first thing coming up is 497 00:30:21,800 --> 00:30:27,520 Speaker 1: something materialistic, cool, you deserve that too, And think about 498 00:30:27,640 --> 00:30:32,040 Speaker 1: the things that support whatever that material thing is. Think 499 00:30:32,080 --> 00:30:35,120 Speaker 1: about some of those deeper connections that you can maybe 500 00:30:35,120 --> 00:30:37,760 Speaker 1: reverse engineer to see what the deeper need to be 501 00:30:37,840 --> 00:30:41,840 Speaker 1: met is, and consider really setting that as the goal. 502 00:30:42,360 --> 00:30:44,840 Speaker 1: Maybe it's I want to be more expressive, I want 503 00:30:44,880 --> 00:30:47,880 Speaker 1: to be more emotionally open. Go for the gold, go 504 00:30:48,000 --> 00:30:49,880 Speaker 1: for the big things that are going to have a 505 00:30:49,920 --> 00:30:53,000 Speaker 1: massive return on the investment if you work on them, 506 00:30:53,080 --> 00:30:55,240 Speaker 1: the things that kind of allow other things to come 507 00:30:55,240 --> 00:30:58,440 Speaker 1: in more seamlessly. But my favorite time of year to 508 00:30:58,560 --> 00:31:01,600 Speaker 1: kind of start to do this prep it's really November December. 509 00:31:02,040 --> 00:31:03,880 Speaker 1: A lot of times people will wait till the first 510 00:31:03,960 --> 00:31:05,960 Speaker 1: day of the new year, New Year's Eve to kind 511 00:31:05,960 --> 00:31:08,320 Speaker 1: of say, Okay, what do I want? Who do I 512 00:31:08,360 --> 00:31:12,800 Speaker 1: want to be? If you get started two, three, four, 513 00:31:12,880 --> 00:31:16,480 Speaker 1: or five, six to eight weeks in advance, your brain 514 00:31:16,720 --> 00:31:20,160 Speaker 1: and body are kind of already moving towards those intentions 515 00:31:20,200 --> 00:31:22,480 Speaker 1: that you set, and when the top of year begins, 516 00:31:22,920 --> 00:31:25,959 Speaker 1: you feel really clear on who it is you'd like 517 00:31:26,040 --> 00:31:28,120 Speaker 1: to be more of, or on the things you'd like 518 00:31:28,200 --> 00:31:31,080 Speaker 1: to see happen in your life. I say, make lists, 519 00:31:31,280 --> 00:31:34,040 Speaker 1: journal and is such a beautiful tool for this. A 520 00:31:34,160 --> 00:31:38,800 Speaker 1: recapitulation exercise is so powerful to do. I usually take 521 00:31:38,800 --> 00:31:41,880 Speaker 1: the month of December to do that, where every few 522 00:31:41,960 --> 00:31:45,920 Speaker 1: days I will go over a month from the past year. 523 00:31:46,360 --> 00:31:50,080 Speaker 1: Recapitulation means you are going over the things that have 524 00:31:50,200 --> 00:31:53,800 Speaker 1: happened or that you've experienced your acknowledging them one by one, 525 00:31:53,880 --> 00:31:56,920 Speaker 1: and then you're releasing them. It's a beautiful practice to 526 00:31:56,960 --> 00:31:58,760 Speaker 1: do every single day. At the end of the day. 527 00:31:58,800 --> 00:32:01,600 Speaker 1: It really helps you sleep, that helps you in burdened distress. 528 00:32:02,000 --> 00:32:03,480 Speaker 1: When you do it at the end of the year, 529 00:32:04,680 --> 00:32:07,080 Speaker 1: it brings you into a completion with a lot of 530 00:32:07,080 --> 00:32:09,880 Speaker 1: the things that you've experienced. You're able to see the 531 00:32:10,000 --> 00:32:12,560 Speaker 1: power of the life you've lived. You're able to see 532 00:32:12,560 --> 00:32:15,520 Speaker 1: your growth. You're also able to see the things that 533 00:32:15,600 --> 00:32:19,640 Speaker 1: maybe the quote unquote ball dropped on you know, without judgment. 534 00:32:20,080 --> 00:32:22,440 Speaker 1: You're able to see where can I just say I'm 535 00:32:22,480 --> 00:32:26,280 Speaker 1: done with that? You can complete circles? Are there projects 536 00:32:26,280 --> 00:32:28,360 Speaker 1: I started that didn't finish and I don't have any 537 00:32:28,360 --> 00:32:31,360 Speaker 1: plans to finish. Let me acknowledge that and just call 538 00:32:31,400 --> 00:32:34,040 Speaker 1: it out and say it so that I'm done. Are 539 00:32:34,080 --> 00:32:37,760 Speaker 1: there things that I experience that now make me really 540 00:32:37,840 --> 00:32:41,400 Speaker 1: ready to experience X, Y, and Z in this next year. 541 00:32:41,880 --> 00:32:45,400 Speaker 1: It just makes you more equipped to make wiser decisions, 542 00:32:45,440 --> 00:32:48,360 Speaker 1: to make more impactful decisions in your life, and to 543 00:32:48,560 --> 00:32:54,120 Speaker 1: really be someone that brings more creativity into who you are. 544 00:32:54,240 --> 00:32:57,520 Speaker 1: And by creativity I mean feeds your purpose, feeds your work, 545 00:32:57,600 --> 00:33:02,960 Speaker 1: but also feeds cre creation. What can you create in yourself? 546 00:33:03,080 --> 00:33:06,640 Speaker 1: What can you create in your life? So getting those 547 00:33:06,680 --> 00:33:10,720 Speaker 1: thoughts kind of started earlier, and starting some note taking 548 00:33:10,840 --> 00:33:13,760 Speaker 1: earlier before the new year starts can be really really powerful. 549 00:33:14,320 --> 00:33:17,160 Speaker 1: So I like the idea of this recapigeilation exercise. I've 550 00:33:17,200 --> 00:33:19,160 Speaker 1: not heard of this way before, but I'm wondering, and 551 00:33:19,160 --> 00:33:21,480 Speaker 1: I'm guessing many other people will be too. How are 552 00:33:21,520 --> 00:33:23,440 Speaker 1: you doing this? So it sounds like you're a pretty 553 00:33:23,440 --> 00:33:25,920 Speaker 1: active journalist, so you're probably going back to your journals 554 00:33:25,920 --> 00:33:27,920 Speaker 1: to kind of make sense. But if somebody wants to 555 00:33:27,960 --> 00:33:30,400 Speaker 1: do this and they have not been keeping check, I'm 556 00:33:30,400 --> 00:33:32,160 Speaker 1: trying to think, like, okay, am I gonna go back 557 00:33:32,200 --> 00:33:34,800 Speaker 1: to my Google calendar and trying to make what's going on? 558 00:33:35,760 --> 00:33:39,320 Speaker 1: How would you do that? That is perfect? That's exactly 559 00:33:39,360 --> 00:33:41,800 Speaker 1: what I do. This is the thing that I've noticed. 560 00:33:42,320 --> 00:33:45,040 Speaker 1: If we're working on a project, or we're working on 561 00:33:45,080 --> 00:33:48,280 Speaker 1: something that other people are gonna see, we are so diligent, 562 00:33:48,440 --> 00:33:51,320 Speaker 1: right Like we may have our highlighter, we have our notebook. 563 00:33:51,640 --> 00:33:53,600 Speaker 1: We can pull up all the forms we can get 564 00:33:53,640 --> 00:33:56,200 Speaker 1: in the fibers of it, take notes, make our to 565 00:33:56,240 --> 00:34:00,000 Speaker 1: do list. Somehow when it comes to our personal growth, 566 00:34:00,040 --> 00:34:05,280 Speaker 1: our spirituality, our own nourishment. We like to just fly 567 00:34:05,440 --> 00:34:08,040 Speaker 1: by the seat of our pants say well, if it's mine, 568 00:34:08,040 --> 00:34:09,799 Speaker 1: it'll be mine, or all right, I'm gonna say that 569 00:34:09,800 --> 00:34:13,160 Speaker 1: prayer and I do, you know, And it's just like, no, 570 00:34:14,120 --> 00:34:18,480 Speaker 1: feed your internal life with the same level of excellence 571 00:34:18,920 --> 00:34:22,360 Speaker 1: that you feed your professional life. And so at the 572 00:34:22,480 --> 00:34:24,400 Speaker 1: end of the year in December, when I start this 573 00:34:24,480 --> 00:34:28,239 Speaker 1: practice for myself. Now, I am an avid journal er, 574 00:34:28,440 --> 00:34:32,800 Speaker 1: and by avid journal er, I mean like i'd be journaling, 575 00:34:33,280 --> 00:34:38,680 Speaker 1: and I it's very categorized. So I journal by the 576 00:34:38,719 --> 00:34:41,399 Speaker 1: month and I date everything. I don't journal every day, 577 00:34:41,400 --> 00:34:44,760 Speaker 1: but I journalist thoughts come to me and it's monthly. 578 00:34:44,880 --> 00:34:48,080 Speaker 1: It's by the month. And so when I want to 579 00:34:48,160 --> 00:34:51,359 Speaker 1: relook at January, I opened my journal to the tab 580 00:34:51,440 --> 00:34:54,120 Speaker 1: that says January, and I look through what I was 581 00:34:54,239 --> 00:34:56,920 Speaker 1: thinking in that month, what I was doing, What were 582 00:34:56,920 --> 00:34:59,879 Speaker 1: the breakthroughs that I was having, What releases were I having, 583 00:35:00,280 --> 00:35:03,680 Speaker 1: What were things that were just naturally quotes people places 584 00:35:03,800 --> 00:35:06,360 Speaker 1: on my mind. And then I do pull up my 585 00:35:06,400 --> 00:35:08,560 Speaker 1: Google calendar and I say, what were the things that 586 00:35:08,600 --> 00:35:11,480 Speaker 1: she did this month? Oh? Wow, you did that, you 587 00:35:11,520 --> 00:35:14,839 Speaker 1: went there, Oh god, you were so sick that month, 588 00:35:14,960 --> 00:35:17,360 Speaker 1: or oh the baby was so sick that month, and 589 00:35:17,400 --> 00:35:21,520 Speaker 1: I just take stock of the fullness of my experiences. 590 00:35:22,080 --> 00:35:24,919 Speaker 1: On one end, the recapitulation feeds you in so many 591 00:35:24,920 --> 00:35:27,880 Speaker 1: ways that I've already expressed, and it helps you to 592 00:35:27,920 --> 00:35:31,000 Speaker 1: acknowledge yourself. It helps you to really look at yourself 593 00:35:31,080 --> 00:35:33,880 Speaker 1: and how you use your time, how you're using your life. 594 00:35:34,719 --> 00:35:38,960 Speaker 1: So in that practice, I would definitely recommend take your time. 595 00:35:39,239 --> 00:35:41,600 Speaker 1: Say all right, I want to think about January of 596 00:35:41,680 --> 00:35:44,840 Speaker 1: last year today, look at your calendar, glance at it. 597 00:35:44,960 --> 00:35:47,960 Speaker 1: What was I doing? Oh wow, oh wow, I forgot 598 00:35:47,960 --> 00:35:50,400 Speaker 1: about that. Oh my god, I talked to that person 599 00:35:50,480 --> 00:35:53,200 Speaker 1: or who I stopped talking to that person? That was 600 00:35:53,239 --> 00:35:56,120 Speaker 1: the day that I had the difficult conversation. How has 601 00:35:56,160 --> 00:35:58,759 Speaker 1: that worked out for me over this last year? How 602 00:35:58,800 --> 00:36:01,799 Speaker 1: has that decision it out for me? It allows you 603 00:36:01,840 --> 00:36:04,279 Speaker 1: to become a lot more powerful in the way that 604 00:36:04,360 --> 00:36:07,960 Speaker 1: you're able to show up for yourself and your own desires. 605 00:36:08,560 --> 00:36:11,480 Speaker 1: M m mmmm. So I know something else that a 606 00:36:11,480 --> 00:36:13,640 Speaker 1: lot of people do in preparation for the New Years, 607 00:36:13,680 --> 00:36:16,680 Speaker 1: trying to think of a word or phrase or an 608 00:36:16,680 --> 00:36:19,719 Speaker 1: affirmation like you mentioned you trying to do. What suggestions 609 00:36:19,719 --> 00:36:21,960 Speaker 1: do you have for people to kind of narrow down on, 610 00:36:22,120 --> 00:36:25,640 Speaker 1: like what they might want the focus of to be M. 611 00:36:27,280 --> 00:36:33,040 Speaker 1: I definitely recommend having a meditation for yourself, really taking 612 00:36:33,080 --> 00:36:37,600 Speaker 1: a moment, five minutes, ten minutes, forty five, taking a 613 00:36:37,680 --> 00:36:41,440 Speaker 1: deep breath, and saying that question to yourself, allowed and internally, 614 00:36:41,800 --> 00:36:44,239 Speaker 1: what am I meant to know this year? What am 615 00:36:44,239 --> 00:36:48,200 Speaker 1: I meant to do this year? Close your eyes, take 616 00:36:48,239 --> 00:36:51,040 Speaker 1: a breath, don't let your mind try to fill that 617 00:36:51,120 --> 00:36:54,400 Speaker 1: space with an answer, but see what naturally begins to 618 00:36:54,440 --> 00:36:59,520 Speaker 1: come up and emerge. If you close your eyes and say, 619 00:37:02,560 --> 00:37:05,680 Speaker 1: how can I make my experience better? How can I 620 00:37:05,719 --> 00:37:10,240 Speaker 1: make my life better this year? It comes immediately. Whether 621 00:37:10,320 --> 00:37:13,279 Speaker 1: you want to acknowledge that particular thing because it might 622 00:37:13,320 --> 00:37:17,239 Speaker 1: have charge to it or not, it comes and we 623 00:37:17,320 --> 00:37:19,479 Speaker 1: can say, oh, I don't know, and I don't really 624 00:37:19,520 --> 00:37:22,239 Speaker 1: know what I want to do it you know, And 625 00:37:22,400 --> 00:37:27,120 Speaker 1: you are spending your time performing and saying and hemming 626 00:37:27,160 --> 00:37:31,719 Speaker 1: and hying to otherwise, which is cool if that's what 627 00:37:31,800 --> 00:37:35,840 Speaker 1: you wish, But if you want more, you have to 628 00:37:35,880 --> 00:37:38,360 Speaker 1: practice being honest with yourself and you have to practice 629 00:37:38,480 --> 00:37:42,200 Speaker 1: listening to yourself. M M Yeah, you talked a lot 630 00:37:42,239 --> 00:37:45,759 Speaker 1: about like trying to get in touch with the personal meditation. 631 00:37:45,800 --> 00:37:47,600 Speaker 1: I forget with the name of it that you called 632 00:37:47,640 --> 00:37:50,600 Speaker 1: it last time, but you shared that also about spending 633 00:37:50,640 --> 00:37:52,560 Speaker 1: time to try to get in touch with whatever your 634 00:37:52,600 --> 00:37:55,800 Speaker 1: personal meditation is going to be for the year. Yeah, 635 00:37:55,880 --> 00:37:58,560 Speaker 1: and you know what it. You know, Like in psychology, 636 00:37:58,680 --> 00:38:00,680 Speaker 1: like a process you might do someone is like a 637 00:38:00,719 --> 00:38:04,160 Speaker 1: guestalt right where you check in and have them switch 638 00:38:04,320 --> 00:38:08,839 Speaker 1: roles with someone that holds charge in their lives. And 639 00:38:09,120 --> 00:38:11,680 Speaker 1: we can do that process with ourselves. We can do 640 00:38:11,760 --> 00:38:14,120 Speaker 1: that process with our own souls and our spirits. We 641 00:38:14,160 --> 00:38:18,280 Speaker 1: can ask ourselves a question as long as we're detached 642 00:38:18,320 --> 00:38:20,120 Speaker 1: from ego with trying to just say, oh, I knew 643 00:38:20,160 --> 00:38:23,440 Speaker 1: the answer, right, But we can ask ourselves a question 644 00:38:23,600 --> 00:38:27,520 Speaker 1: and be silent and really let those deeper layers of 645 00:38:27,560 --> 00:38:30,360 Speaker 1: our thoughts and our feelings emerge to give us the 646 00:38:30,400 --> 00:38:34,239 Speaker 1: answers that we're looking for. M H. So when you 647 00:38:34,239 --> 00:38:36,440 Speaker 1: were with us last time, you also talked about crystals 648 00:38:36,440 --> 00:38:38,879 Speaker 1: and taught us all about like some of the healing properties. 649 00:38:39,160 --> 00:38:42,400 Speaker 1: So I'm wondering what crystals have you found yourself reaching 650 00:38:42,440 --> 00:38:44,960 Speaker 1: for recently and are there are some crystals we should 651 00:38:44,960 --> 00:38:47,000 Speaker 1: be thinking about as we kind of try to ground 652 00:38:47,000 --> 00:38:52,000 Speaker 1: ourselves for a new year. Oh, thank you for this question. Yes, 653 00:38:52,280 --> 00:38:55,480 Speaker 1: I think a crystal that I'm really that I'm really 654 00:38:55,600 --> 00:38:58,160 Speaker 1: connected to right now, and it's an o G it 655 00:38:58,200 --> 00:39:02,120 Speaker 1: should be a staple for everyone that's into crystals is selenite. 656 00:39:02,640 --> 00:39:05,560 Speaker 1: And selenite looks kind of like a milky white and 657 00:39:05,640 --> 00:39:09,279 Speaker 1: it has a texture that is it's a little bit porous, 658 00:39:09,280 --> 00:39:11,960 Speaker 1: and it can kind of be a little bit brittle. 659 00:39:12,200 --> 00:39:15,920 Speaker 1: But selenite is a really beautiful stone for purifying energy 660 00:39:16,120 --> 00:39:19,760 Speaker 1: and for kind of neutralizing spaces, bringing light into things, 661 00:39:19,920 --> 00:39:24,600 Speaker 1: drawing out negative energy. And that's just been one I 662 00:39:24,640 --> 00:39:27,359 Speaker 1: think I've been using in the last few months more 663 00:39:27,400 --> 00:39:29,720 Speaker 1: than ever, and I think it kind of just speaks 664 00:39:29,760 --> 00:39:32,759 Speaker 1: to that charge that we're experiencing in the world. So 665 00:39:33,200 --> 00:39:35,880 Speaker 1: sometimes I notice when I get home, I'm not just 666 00:39:35,960 --> 00:39:38,120 Speaker 1: trying to like come down from my day. I'm trying 667 00:39:38,160 --> 00:39:40,120 Speaker 1: to come down from all the energy I picked up 668 00:39:40,120 --> 00:39:43,240 Speaker 1: from everyone else in the day. I love just holding 669 00:39:43,280 --> 00:39:45,879 Speaker 1: onto that stone for about a minute and just like 670 00:39:46,680 --> 00:39:49,800 Speaker 1: not even anything too precious or complicated, but just holding 671 00:39:49,840 --> 00:39:52,359 Speaker 1: it and squeezing it in my hand. For a couple 672 00:39:52,360 --> 00:39:55,040 Speaker 1: of minutes and then letting it go. Another stone that 673 00:39:55,080 --> 00:39:58,440 Speaker 1: I really love right now is fluorite. Fluorite is really amazing. 674 00:39:58,960 --> 00:40:02,440 Speaker 1: It's believed to be a really beneficial stone for your 675 00:40:02,480 --> 00:40:06,319 Speaker 1: brain and for clarity in the deeper sense of like 676 00:40:06,520 --> 00:40:09,680 Speaker 1: just really sharp thinking and kind of the ability to 677 00:40:10,640 --> 00:40:13,000 Speaker 1: keep your brain feeling a little more vibrant, a little 678 00:40:13,040 --> 00:40:17,280 Speaker 1: more focused. So I've been loving that, and I love Chrystocola. 679 00:40:17,640 --> 00:40:21,120 Speaker 1: Chrystocola is a really beautiful stone that is a heart opener. 680 00:40:21,200 --> 00:40:23,680 Speaker 1: It's gorgeous to look at that It's supposed to be 681 00:40:23,800 --> 00:40:27,560 Speaker 1: very very good for your emotional health and balancing. I 682 00:40:27,600 --> 00:40:31,400 Speaker 1: love those. It sounds like very beautiful crystals to experience, 683 00:40:31,560 --> 00:40:33,759 Speaker 1: especially as we find ourselves in this time of the 684 00:40:33,840 --> 00:40:38,439 Speaker 1: year right and preparing for a new year. Oh yes, yeah, yeah. 685 00:40:39,040 --> 00:40:41,520 Speaker 1: So you had a beautiful conversation on one of your 686 00:40:41,560 --> 00:40:44,440 Speaker 1: most recent episodes of Dropping Gems, which is your podcast, 687 00:40:44,560 --> 00:40:47,880 Speaker 1: about who are you being called to become? And so 688 00:40:47,920 --> 00:40:49,640 Speaker 1: I wonder if you could speak a little bit about 689 00:40:49,719 --> 00:40:53,200 Speaker 1: the difficult but meaningful process of being who we are 690 00:40:53,239 --> 00:40:58,120 Speaker 1: called to be? M M. I don't think that there 691 00:40:58,239 --> 00:41:01,239 Speaker 1: is anything more important that we can be doing with 692 00:41:01,280 --> 00:41:07,000 Speaker 1: our lives than really understanding who we are and why 693 00:41:07,080 --> 00:41:10,359 Speaker 1: we're here and how we're meant to serve. And so 694 00:41:10,440 --> 00:41:13,920 Speaker 1: that question. I remember I was on a Zoom friend 695 00:41:13,960 --> 00:41:16,200 Speaker 1: group when the pandemic first hit, and we would get 696 00:41:16,239 --> 00:41:21,160 Speaker 1: together on Zoom every Sunday and just be each other's 697 00:41:21,200 --> 00:41:23,880 Speaker 1: companions while we were doing other things for the afternoon. 698 00:41:24,600 --> 00:41:27,200 Speaker 1: And we were talking on our very first one, and 699 00:41:27,239 --> 00:41:29,840 Speaker 1: I remember I just kind of blurted out of my mouth, 700 00:41:29,960 --> 00:41:32,080 Speaker 1: like just think about it, like this, who are you 701 00:41:32,120 --> 00:41:34,600 Speaker 1: being called to become? Right now? This one? We thought 702 00:41:34,600 --> 00:41:37,120 Speaker 1: the lockdown was going to be three weeks, and so 703 00:41:38,320 --> 00:41:39,640 Speaker 1: I was just like, you know, what can we do 704 00:41:39,719 --> 00:41:41,960 Speaker 1: with this three weeks? Who were you being called to become? 705 00:41:42,120 --> 00:41:46,239 Speaker 1: What can we create? And it actually became like the 706 00:41:46,280 --> 00:41:50,319 Speaker 1: ethos of two years for me. Who am I being 707 00:41:50,320 --> 00:41:54,360 Speaker 1: called to become? And so that kind of inquiry it 708 00:41:54,480 --> 00:41:57,120 Speaker 1: takes you out of the roles that you play. It 709 00:41:57,200 --> 00:41:59,839 Speaker 1: takes you out of the striving, It takes you out 710 00:41:59,840 --> 00:42:02,680 Speaker 1: of the I want to get this promotion or I 711 00:42:02,719 --> 00:42:05,120 Speaker 1: want to be perceived in this way, and it's no, 712 00:42:05,960 --> 00:42:09,799 Speaker 1: who are you being called to become? Which means you're 713 00:42:09,840 --> 00:42:12,560 Speaker 1: not all of that yet, so there's something to be remembered, 714 00:42:12,600 --> 00:42:15,240 Speaker 1: there are some areas to get clear. And it also 715 00:42:15,320 --> 00:42:19,320 Speaker 1: means that it's not your ego, it's divine will coming 716 00:42:19,400 --> 00:42:22,880 Speaker 1: in and guiding you. And so when I use that 717 00:42:23,000 --> 00:42:25,280 Speaker 1: term who are you being called to become? It open 718 00:42:25,440 --> 00:42:28,600 Speaker 1: space for more than you can conceive of in this 719 00:42:28,719 --> 00:42:32,160 Speaker 1: moment with your limited view of your life. And so 720 00:42:32,200 --> 00:42:34,280 Speaker 1: I think it's an important question that we all ask 721 00:42:36,040 --> 00:42:39,239 Speaker 1: and what other questions might we be in conversation with 722 00:42:39,400 --> 00:42:43,200 Speaker 1: around who we are being called to become? You know? 723 00:42:43,280 --> 00:42:47,160 Speaker 1: I think questions that help us foundationally get really clear 724 00:42:47,560 --> 00:42:52,759 Speaker 1: is on noticing anythings that we have up against more, 725 00:42:53,640 --> 00:42:56,600 Speaker 1: having someone career around do I like myself? Before you 726 00:42:56,640 --> 00:42:58,880 Speaker 1: even ask? Do I love myself? Do I like myself? 727 00:42:58,920 --> 00:43:00,719 Speaker 1: What do I like about my self? What do I 728 00:43:00,800 --> 00:43:04,080 Speaker 1: kind of reject about myself? And why? And then being 729 00:43:04,120 --> 00:43:06,799 Speaker 1: able to move some of that out of the way, 730 00:43:06,840 --> 00:43:09,719 Speaker 1: because when we hold all of that, we can't become more. 731 00:43:10,160 --> 00:43:13,560 Speaker 1: We are in too deep a judgment of ourselves. We 732 00:43:13,640 --> 00:43:16,680 Speaker 1: have locked in too tightly to this narrative that we 733 00:43:16,840 --> 00:43:20,160 Speaker 1: and others have created about us, this projection that it 734 00:43:20,200 --> 00:43:24,400 Speaker 1: doesn't create the space that's actually necessary for you to 735 00:43:24,480 --> 00:43:27,759 Speaker 1: not just move forward, but to ascend higher. And so 736 00:43:28,360 --> 00:43:32,480 Speaker 1: I think we have to have an ongoing inquiry practice 737 00:43:32,520 --> 00:43:36,600 Speaker 1: with ourselves in order to actually utilize who am I 738 00:43:36,640 --> 00:43:39,640 Speaker 1: being called to become more? And I think it also 739 00:43:39,719 --> 00:43:42,600 Speaker 1: speaks to you know, purposes that it's a really hot 740 00:43:42,600 --> 00:43:44,839 Speaker 1: topic the last couple of years. It's something that we're 741 00:43:44,880 --> 00:43:48,040 Speaker 1: saying a lot, but I think it's really very often 742 00:43:48,080 --> 00:43:51,719 Speaker 1: misused in Vedic tradition and Sanskrit. You want to use 743 00:43:51,719 --> 00:43:55,320 Speaker 1: the word purpose, you'd say dharma dharma loosely translated in 744 00:43:55,400 --> 00:44:00,080 Speaker 1: English and purpose, but dharma and Sanskrit, it's really a 745 00:44:00,200 --> 00:44:04,600 Speaker 1: totality of your life experiences and what they're meant to be. 746 00:44:04,800 --> 00:44:08,160 Speaker 1: It means it's a mixture of understanding your karma. What 747 00:44:08,239 --> 00:44:10,719 Speaker 1: are the patterns, what are the trends that I've been repeating, 748 00:44:11,200 --> 00:44:14,160 Speaker 1: What are the pains that have been the guiding posts 749 00:44:14,160 --> 00:44:16,359 Speaker 1: of my life? What are the joys that have been 750 00:44:16,400 --> 00:44:18,680 Speaker 1: the guiding post of my life? What is the work 751 00:44:18,760 --> 00:44:21,240 Speaker 1: that feels really meaningful for me? What are the ways 752 00:44:21,280 --> 00:44:24,040 Speaker 1: that I meant to show up for others? So when 753 00:44:24,080 --> 00:44:26,880 Speaker 1: we think of purpose and more of the ancient way, 754 00:44:27,120 --> 00:44:31,719 Speaker 1: it speaks to everything about us that needs to be 755 00:44:31,719 --> 00:44:35,920 Speaker 1: in alignment. When we just use the word purpose in 756 00:44:35,960 --> 00:44:39,880 Speaker 1: English and in Western tradition, it is very often just 757 00:44:40,080 --> 00:44:43,360 Speaker 1: seen as how do I quantify myself? How do I 758 00:44:43,520 --> 00:44:47,279 Speaker 1: stand taller? How do I have the job that I 759 00:44:47,320 --> 00:44:49,279 Speaker 1: want to have, how do I, you know, have the 760 00:44:49,280 --> 00:44:51,480 Speaker 1: title that I want to have? And how do I 761 00:44:51,520 --> 00:44:54,160 Speaker 1: make sure that people perceive me? In X, Y and Z. 762 00:44:54,960 --> 00:45:00,239 Speaker 1: It's more so looking to quantify yourself through ego or 763 00:45:00,320 --> 00:45:04,319 Speaker 1: through society. And so I think I'm trying to say 764 00:45:04,320 --> 00:45:07,239 Speaker 1: I might have gone all around the park on this, 765 00:45:07,400 --> 00:45:10,480 Speaker 1: but when I think of that phrase, who are you 766 00:45:10,560 --> 00:45:14,239 Speaker 1: being called to become? It speaks to everything about you. Yeah, 767 00:45:14,280 --> 00:45:16,000 Speaker 1: it can speak to how you want to make money, 768 00:45:16,320 --> 00:45:20,040 Speaker 1: but it also speaks to who do you want to become? Emotionally? 769 00:45:20,239 --> 00:45:23,919 Speaker 1: Who do you want to become? Mentally, spiritually, physically, all 770 00:45:23,960 --> 00:45:29,560 Speaker 1: the facets of this human experience. M mmmmm. I love that, Debby, 771 00:45:29,840 --> 00:45:31,600 Speaker 1: It's okay for you to go around the plank, and 772 00:45:31,960 --> 00:45:36,600 Speaker 1: we landed in a beautiful place. I was like, oh lord, 773 00:45:36,640 --> 00:45:42,319 Speaker 1: I just am I living with this More from my 774 00:45:42,360 --> 00:45:57,440 Speaker 1: conversation with Debbie after the break, You've talked quite a 775 00:45:57,480 --> 00:46:00,839 Speaker 1: bit about meditation as a through kind of of all 776 00:46:00,840 --> 00:46:02,640 Speaker 1: of the things that you've kind of shared today, and 777 00:46:02,680 --> 00:46:04,839 Speaker 1: so as we wrap up today, I would love it 778 00:46:05,239 --> 00:46:07,480 Speaker 1: and be very honored for you to grace us with 779 00:46:07,560 --> 00:46:10,759 Speaker 1: another meditation that kind of pools together some of the 780 00:46:10,800 --> 00:46:13,120 Speaker 1: things that you've shared and really helps us to ground 781 00:46:13,160 --> 00:46:16,320 Speaker 1: ourselves as we close this year and prepared to welcome 782 00:46:18,000 --> 00:46:27,080 Speaker 1: m M, My pleasure, My pleasure. Okay, first, I'd like 783 00:46:27,200 --> 00:46:30,840 Speaker 1: to ask everyone listening as long as you're not driving. 784 00:46:30,880 --> 00:46:34,120 Speaker 1: If you're driving, you pause this now and you finished later. 785 00:46:35,560 --> 00:46:40,239 Speaker 1: But everyone's listening, that is safe to do. So I 786 00:46:40,280 --> 00:46:43,520 Speaker 1: want you to allow yourself to position your body into 787 00:46:43,560 --> 00:46:47,360 Speaker 1: a comfortable position, whatever that means for you. For me 788 00:46:47,400 --> 00:46:50,000 Speaker 1: in this moment, I am sitting in a chair, so 789 00:46:50,040 --> 00:46:53,600 Speaker 1: I'm going to uncross my legs and my arm. I'm 790 00:46:53,640 --> 00:46:57,640 Speaker 1: gonna allow my spine and back to be upright and strong, 791 00:46:58,719 --> 00:47:02,560 Speaker 1: my belly to become soft, my feet to be flat 792 00:47:02,600 --> 00:47:07,200 Speaker 1: on the ground. If you're on the floor, perhaps you 793 00:47:07,200 --> 00:47:10,839 Speaker 1: are sitting in cross legged position, or your legs are 794 00:47:10,840 --> 00:47:14,319 Speaker 1: in front of you, or if you're able, you can 795 00:47:14,360 --> 00:47:17,200 Speaker 1: even lay down for this and support your neck a little, 796 00:47:17,440 --> 00:47:20,960 Speaker 1: get nice and comfortable, but keep your body in a 797 00:47:21,000 --> 00:47:28,360 Speaker 1: position that is both strong and relaxed. Allow your hands 798 00:47:29,080 --> 00:47:31,319 Speaker 1: to fall on the tops of your thighs or to 799 00:47:31,440 --> 00:47:36,200 Speaker 1: your sides with your palms facing up in a state 800 00:47:36,239 --> 00:49:41,719 Speaker 1: of receiving LA. Lay yeah, And if you haven't done 801 00:49:41,760 --> 00:49:45,160 Speaker 1: so yet, I want to invite you to ghently close 802 00:49:45,239 --> 00:49:50,520 Speaker 1: your eyes and now allow yourself to connect to the 803 00:49:50,640 --> 00:49:54,759 Speaker 1: natural rhythm of your breath. And if this is possible 804 00:49:54,800 --> 00:50:01,239 Speaker 1: for your body, connect to a nostril breath in and 805 00:50:01,280 --> 00:50:05,360 Speaker 1: out through your nose. Take just a moment to regulate 806 00:50:05,360 --> 00:50:29,880 Speaker 1: your breathing here, and as you're noticing that sensation the 807 00:50:30,120 --> 00:50:37,239 Speaker 1: rise and fall of your chest, let's all take in 808 00:50:37,400 --> 00:50:44,799 Speaker 1: some breaths together in a sequence of three, beginning your 809 00:50:44,880 --> 00:50:54,520 Speaker 1: inhale through your nose one two three four hold the 810 00:50:54,560 --> 00:51:03,680 Speaker 1: breath one two three mm four Release the breath through 811 00:51:03,719 --> 00:51:11,880 Speaker 1: your nose two three four and hold the breath at 812 00:51:11,920 --> 00:51:19,760 Speaker 1: the bottom two three four. Begin your inhale here again 813 00:51:19,920 --> 00:51:27,520 Speaker 1: through your nose two three four, hold it at the 814 00:51:27,560 --> 00:51:38,360 Speaker 1: top two three four. Exhale through your nose slowly two 815 00:51:39,560 --> 00:51:50,600 Speaker 1: three four hold at the bottom two three four. Beginning 816 00:51:50,600 --> 00:51:56,160 Speaker 1: your inhale through your nose, counting silently for yourself inside. 817 00:51:59,400 --> 00:52:18,080 Speaker 1: Hold the breath, release through your nose. Hold at the bottom, 818 00:52:18,120 --> 00:52:22,600 Speaker 1: and now begin a gentle inhale. Exhale through your nose 819 00:52:23,280 --> 00:52:36,480 Speaker 1: at your own pace, and now begin to notice your body, 820 00:52:37,400 --> 00:52:43,520 Speaker 1: your breath naturally coming in and out. Allow your body 821 00:52:43,560 --> 00:52:52,360 Speaker 1: to relax, eve and further into this present moment. Loosen 822 00:52:52,440 --> 00:53:02,680 Speaker 1: your jaw, relax your mouth, move your neck slowly from 823 00:53:02,719 --> 00:53:10,160 Speaker 1: side to side. Release your shoulders and let them drop. 824 00:53:16,640 --> 00:53:32,440 Speaker 1: Release your stomach, Relax your thighs, Relax your knees, relax 825 00:53:32,520 --> 00:53:44,319 Speaker 1: your toes, bringing your attention back to the rise and 826 00:53:44,400 --> 00:53:53,120 Speaker 1: the fall of your chest. And now bring your awareness 827 00:53:53,600 --> 00:53:59,240 Speaker 1: into the center of your heart, the beautiful heart beating 828 00:53:59,320 --> 00:54:06,799 Speaker 1: in your asked imagine yourself in the center of your 829 00:54:06,800 --> 00:54:15,040 Speaker 1: own heart. Some may notice a vibrant green color beginning 830 00:54:15,080 --> 00:54:20,840 Speaker 1: to emerge from the heart chakra an a hata, and 831 00:54:20,960 --> 00:54:26,080 Speaker 1: just be in that feeling for a moment without any judgment, 832 00:54:26,920 --> 00:54:34,239 Speaker 1: noticing any sensations that are present in your heart, noticing 833 00:54:35,000 --> 00:54:38,839 Speaker 1: anything that may want to be released. Before you begin 834 00:54:38,960 --> 00:54:52,000 Speaker 1: this new year, what's happened in? What happened in? What 835 00:54:52,160 --> 00:55:01,320 Speaker 1: happened in? What can you lay to down and release 836 00:55:01,920 --> 00:55:06,279 Speaker 1: from your life and experiences before this new year begins. 837 00:55:09,239 --> 00:55:12,920 Speaker 1: Where would you like to soften inside of that heart, 838 00:55:13,880 --> 00:55:23,160 Speaker 1: inside of this body? Set that intention and send love 839 00:55:23,200 --> 00:55:32,719 Speaker 1: to it here, And as you sit inside your beautiful 840 00:55:32,800 --> 00:55:39,600 Speaker 1: heart and notice it beginning to stretch itself open even more, 841 00:55:41,880 --> 00:55:45,720 Speaker 1: noticing the relaxed feeling you feel inside of your body, 842 00:55:48,719 --> 00:55:56,840 Speaker 1: Noticing that beautiful, supportive, vibrant, vital breath that fills those 843 00:55:56,920 --> 00:56:06,440 Speaker 1: lungs and circulates life through all of your being. I 844 00:56:06,480 --> 00:56:12,080 Speaker 1: want to invite you to imagine who you'd like to 845 00:56:12,120 --> 00:56:20,440 Speaker 1: become and how you'd like to feel in outside of 846 00:56:20,520 --> 00:56:31,800 Speaker 1: any societal goals, outside of day to day experiences, the 847 00:56:32,000 --> 00:56:42,120 Speaker 1: zoomed out view of your life and yourself in a 848 00:56:42,239 --> 00:56:52,239 Speaker 1: life of endless possibilities, in a life of endless opportunities 849 00:56:52,760 --> 00:57:06,040 Speaker 1: for choice making. Noticing yourself here, focus on the feeling 850 00:57:06,680 --> 00:57:15,920 Speaker 1: that you'd like to feel inside of your body mentally, physically, emotionally, spiritually, 851 00:57:21,160 --> 00:57:26,320 Speaker 1: and notice how you'd like to feel in the world 852 00:57:26,880 --> 00:57:39,840 Speaker 1: and in your life mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually. What 853 00:57:40,120 --> 00:57:44,439 Speaker 1: is the deeper truth of who you are and how 854 00:57:44,480 --> 00:57:49,280 Speaker 1: you're meant to share that that you have not had 855 00:57:49,320 --> 00:57:55,840 Speaker 1: access to you yet, that others have not been able 856 00:57:55,960 --> 00:58:02,320 Speaker 1: to experience from you yet what is craving to be 857 00:58:02,520 --> 00:58:09,920 Speaker 1: birthed in your life? And as you hold this knowing, 858 00:58:11,320 --> 00:58:16,280 Speaker 1: focus on the feeling inside of you and let the 859 00:58:16,400 --> 00:58:20,680 Speaker 1: universe send you the exact thing that will make you 860 00:58:20,720 --> 00:58:29,280 Speaker 1: feel this way, connecting to your breath. Hold here for 861 00:58:29,360 --> 00:58:33,240 Speaker 1: the next two minutes with this deep wisdom that is 862 00:58:33,280 --> 00:58:47,840 Speaker 1: emerging inside of you, and now coming back into the 863 00:58:47,880 --> 00:58:56,800 Speaker 1: present moment, releasing all thoughts that have come up, holding 864 00:58:56,880 --> 00:59:01,040 Speaker 1: in your heart space for the highest good it to 865 00:59:01,160 --> 00:59:07,320 Speaker 1: emerge in your life. Allow yourself to wiggle in your seat, 866 00:59:07,840 --> 00:59:11,600 Speaker 1: bringing yourself back to life a little. Perhaps you want 867 00:59:11,600 --> 00:59:17,120 Speaker 1: to sway back and forth, gently wiggle your toes and 868 00:59:17,160 --> 00:59:23,000 Speaker 1: your fingertips, connect to a breath pattern that feels natural 869 00:59:23,160 --> 00:59:29,000 Speaker 1: and nourishing, And if it feels comfortable, allow yourself to 870 00:59:29,040 --> 00:59:33,240 Speaker 1: bring your right hand to heart center, letting the palm 871 00:59:33,320 --> 00:59:37,680 Speaker 1: of your hand the bottom half connect right in the 872 00:59:37,800 --> 00:59:45,360 Speaker 1: center of your chest, and in this moment, allow yourself 873 00:59:45,400 --> 00:59:50,640 Speaker 1: to birth for yourself what your intention for three is. 874 00:59:52,040 --> 00:59:56,320 Speaker 1: Don't judge it, don't force it, allow it to emerge naturally, 875 00:59:57,480 --> 01:00:11,840 Speaker 1: saying internally or allowed my intention fore is and sending 876 01:00:11,920 --> 01:00:16,080 Speaker 1: love and light to that intention. If it feels comfortable, 877 01:00:16,160 --> 01:00:19,120 Speaker 1: you can bring your both hands to heart center and prayer, 878 01:00:19,160 --> 01:00:24,880 Speaker 1: position your poems, touching, taking a gentle bow for yourself 879 01:00:25,080 --> 01:00:28,200 Speaker 1: and all that are listening at the exact moment that 880 01:00:28,280 --> 01:00:32,480 Speaker 1: you are now the light in me recognizes and honors 881 01:00:32,560 --> 01:00:44,120 Speaker 1: the light in you, and I must stay so beautiful. 882 01:00:44,240 --> 01:00:46,360 Speaker 1: Thank you so much, David. It feels like such a 883 01:00:46,400 --> 01:00:50,520 Speaker 1: beautiful practice to enter us into a new year. Mm hmm. 884 01:00:51,360 --> 01:00:55,600 Speaker 1: Thank you. And whatever intention came up for each person 885 01:00:55,640 --> 01:01:00,560 Speaker 1: in this meditation, please write it down anything that came up. 886 01:01:00,600 --> 01:01:03,680 Speaker 1: Just grab a pen, grab a journal as you finished 887 01:01:03,720 --> 01:01:08,000 Speaker 1: this episode, and jot down any and everything that came 888 01:01:08,040 --> 01:01:13,000 Speaker 1: into your mind, even if it doesn't make sense. So 889 01:01:13,040 --> 01:01:15,480 Speaker 1: where can we stay connected with you? Debbie Wood is 890 01:01:15,520 --> 01:01:18,280 Speaker 1: your website as well as any social media handles you'd 891 01:01:18,280 --> 01:01:21,880 Speaker 1: like to share. Yes, hit me up on the Graham 892 01:01:22,120 --> 01:01:25,480 Speaker 1: at Debbie Brown. All my socials are the same Debbie 893 01:01:25,800 --> 01:01:29,320 Speaker 1: Brown and my website. I actually just relaunched it so 894 01:01:29,360 --> 01:01:33,160 Speaker 1: I have some goodies on their uh Debbie brown dot com. 895 01:01:33,200 --> 01:01:36,760 Speaker 1: I've added some blogs. I have some You can also 896 01:01:36,840 --> 01:01:40,240 Speaker 1: check out my podcast there and everywhere. My podcast is 897 01:01:40,280 --> 01:01:43,760 Speaker 1: called Dropping gyms. It is a wellness based podcast where 898 01:01:44,040 --> 01:01:46,320 Speaker 1: I talked to people of all walks of life. We 899 01:01:46,400 --> 01:01:50,000 Speaker 1: talked about everything that is a part of the wellness experience, 900 01:01:50,040 --> 01:01:55,880 Speaker 1: from higher consciousness to psychedelics, too sex, to healing to 901 01:01:55,960 --> 01:01:59,120 Speaker 1: intergenerational trauma. So you can check out my show. I 902 01:01:59,200 --> 01:02:03,280 Speaker 1: Heart Black Effect at Work dropping gems perfect and we'll 903 01:02:03,320 --> 01:02:05,320 Speaker 1: be short and include all of that in the show notes. 904 01:02:05,600 --> 01:02:07,880 Speaker 1: Thank you so much for joining us again today, Debbie, 905 01:02:07,920 --> 01:02:12,160 Speaker 1: I really appreciate it. Thank you, Dr Joy. Always a 906 01:02:12,200 --> 01:02:14,320 Speaker 1: pleasure to be with you. Thank you for your work 907 01:02:14,320 --> 01:02:21,560 Speaker 1: in the world. Thank you. Likewise, I'm so glad Debbie 908 01:02:21,600 --> 01:02:24,080 Speaker 1: was able to join us again this week. To learn 909 01:02:24,120 --> 01:02:26,560 Speaker 1: more about her and her work, Visit the show notes 910 01:02:26,600 --> 01:02:29,040 Speaker 1: at Therapy for Black Girls dot com slash session to 911 01:02:29,200 --> 01:02:31,880 Speaker 1: eighty seven, and don't forget to text two of your 912 01:02:31,920 --> 01:02:34,120 Speaker 1: girls right now and tell them to check out the 913 01:02:34,160 --> 01:02:37,680 Speaker 1: episode as well. A gentle reminder that we're taking the 914 01:02:37,720 --> 01:02:40,080 Speaker 1: next few weeks off to enjoy the holidays and spend 915 01:02:40,080 --> 01:02:42,720 Speaker 1: time with family and friends, but we'll be back with 916 01:02:42,800 --> 01:02:46,000 Speaker 1: our first episode of our January jump Start series on 917 01:02:46,120 --> 01:02:49,440 Speaker 1: January four. If you're looking for a therapist in your area, 918 01:02:49,800 --> 01:02:52,600 Speaker 1: check out our therapist directory at Therapy for Black Girls 919 01:02:52,640 --> 01:02:55,840 Speaker 1: dot com slash directory. And if you want to continue 920 01:02:55,840 --> 01:02:58,640 Speaker 1: digging into this topic or just be in community with 921 01:02:58,680 --> 01:03:01,160 Speaker 1: other sisters, come on over and join us in the 922 01:03:01,240 --> 01:03:04,400 Speaker 1: Sister Circle. It's our cozy corner of the Internet design 923 01:03:04,520 --> 01:03:07,360 Speaker 1: just for black women. You can join us at community 924 01:03:07,440 --> 01:03:10,960 Speaker 1: dot Therapy for Black Girls dot com. Thank you all 925 01:03:11,040 --> 01:03:13,520 Speaker 1: so much for joining me again this week. I look 926 01:03:13,560 --> 01:03:16,400 Speaker 1: forward to continuing this conversation with you all in the 927 01:03:16,440 --> 01:03:22,080 Speaker 1: new year. Take good care. My name's Jackson and with 928 01:03:22,120 --> 01:03:27,400 Speaker 1: my brother joining. Happy Kwanza, Happy new Year, Happy Hanukah, 929 01:03:27,560 --> 01:03:30,720 Speaker 1: Happy Christmas. Why don't you want to say Merry Christmas, 930 01:03:30,880 --> 01:03:35,240 Speaker 1: Happy Christmas and a merry Christmas. I thought you were 931 01:03:35,280 --> 01:03:38,200 Speaker 1: going to say a speech. All right, you can be 932 01:03:38,280 --> 01:03:40,880 Speaker 1: the best you want to be. You can grow up 933 01:03:40,960 --> 01:03:45,760 Speaker 1: and be a firefire, a police officer, a doctor and nurse, 934 01:03:46,240 --> 01:03:52,960 Speaker 1: a psychologist, anything. They say you can't do this. Don't 935 01:03:52,960 --> 01:03:56,480 Speaker 1: say you can't do this, because then you'll end up 936 01:03:56,600 --> 01:04:00,160 Speaker 1: not doing it. But say you can do this and 937 01:04:00,280 --> 01:04:06,560 Speaker 1: you'll be the best. Happy Christmas, everybody. I hope you 938 01:04:06,600 --> 01:04:11,320 Speaker 1: have a merry merry Christmas. Anica and Kwanza. That's all 939 01:04:11,360 --> 01:04:15,400 Speaker 1: I gotta say right now, that's all you want to say? Up. Oh, 940 01:04:16,200 --> 01:04:25,560 Speaker 1: happy Christmas this year. Merry Happy Christmas to you, very 941 01:04:25,680 --> 01:04:33,360 Speaker 1: happy Christmas to you, Happy Allidays people. Love you guys. Peace,