Speaker 1: I'm Tamika D.
Speaker 2: Mallory and the ship Boy my son in general.
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Speaker 3: Tamika and my Son's Information, Truth, Motivation and inspiration.
Speaker 1: Name New Energy.
Speaker 4: What's going on? My Son Lennon and Blessed.
Speaker 2: Black and Holly Favored, Amika D Married. How are you
Speaker 2: doing today?
Speaker 4: I am doing just fine. This is gonna be maybe
Speaker 4: kind of like a holiday week for me. I am
Speaker 4: in the Great State of Tennessee with the people, the Memphians,
Speaker 4: I think is what they call them, and all I'm
Speaker 4: going to do is eat, which is my problem in
Speaker 4: life is food.
Speaker 2: I'm actually hungry right now. I haven't really ate much,
Speaker 2: but yeah, Memphis does have good food.
Speaker 4: It's just too good. And that's all I want to
Speaker 4: do is eat. So I thought that I I booked
Speaker 4: my hotel. I came to check one a loved one
Speaker 4: who fell ill, and I thought that I booked my
Speaker 4: hotel right next to this restaurant that I loved. But
Speaker 4: obviously this is a different hotel from the one that
Speaker 4: I stayed at before. And so when I went to
Speaker 4: go eat, because I was so excited. After I left
Speaker 4: the hospital, I found out that I was twenty minutes
Speaker 4: away from where the restaurant is located. And I was
Speaker 4: literally devastated that I had to eat the hotel food,
Speaker 4: which is basically the same menu. As we always say,
Speaker 4: every single hotel just takes a carbon copy of the
Speaker 4: menu of the other hotels and that's it. So I
Speaker 4: was pretty devastated. But it won't catch me today. I
Speaker 4: bet you that you're gonna get.
Speaker 2: Them twenty minutes. You won't hike going up there and
Speaker 2: get that food, huh.
Speaker 4: And I gotta go there first. I have a whole plan,
Speaker 4: a whole schedule. But anyway, I don't understand last night
Speaker 4: while we were talking to the Public Advocate of New
Speaker 4: York City on the telephone, and the two of you
Speaker 4: were talking about what happened with the NIXT game. After
Speaker 4: First of all, he called to talk to us about
Speaker 4: some really serious stuff in New York City, in New
Speaker 4: York City politics. But then somehow the conversation turned into
Speaker 4: both of y'all needed life support and needed so he
Speaker 4: had to put on his jersey, his his good luck chain,
Speaker 4: something else, bring out the Bible and everything about these
Speaker 4: nick games. I y'all understand why y'all put y'allselves do this.
Speaker 4: Y'all already know what the Knicks do. Y'all already know.
Speaker 4: So if they win, great, If they lose, it's okay
Speaker 4: because that's what they do.
Speaker 2: Sometimes I think, is were you in New York? Like,
Speaker 2: I'm not even gonna I'm never I had stopped being
Speaker 2: a Knicks fan right because the heartache.
Speaker 3: Look, I stopped being a Knicks fan ever since step
Speaker 3: ever since Mello left. I'm like, you know what y'all got,
Speaker 3: mellows down teen, I'm not with the Knicks, but when
Speaker 3: you were New Yorker, you're a Nick at heart. So
Speaker 3: watching them play, watching Jalen Bronson and watching how he plays,
Speaker 3: like he plays the game the way I was taught
Speaker 3: to play. He has he has that fire. He's brought
Speaker 3: something back to the garden. So since my team, who was,
Speaker 3: you know, the Dallas Mavericks, Kyrie's not playing all this,
Speaker 3: I just started watching the Knicks, and I just started
Speaker 3: growing like, oh here we go again. I'm back into
Speaker 3: this Knicks frenzy. So watching them play and watching it
Speaker 3: and then seeing that it's like they gotta be down
Speaker 3: twenty something for them to come back and play, and
Speaker 3: it's just like.
Speaker 2: It's it's it's heartbreaking. It's really heartbreaking.
Speaker 3: Just watch them and you from New York and you
Speaker 3: see the energy, like when you're watching the news and
Speaker 3: you see you walk downtown, like during my birthday, the
Speaker 3: whole city was full of everybody going to the Nick game.
Speaker 3: The whole city was just everybody was outside and that energy.
Speaker 3: If you just from New York, you love to see
Speaker 3: that energy. So that's what it is. They grabbed me
Speaker 3: back with the energy. I'm feeling it. I like the
Speaker 3: chemistry of the team, but when they start losing or
Speaker 3: they lose games, like they lost a game up by
Speaker 3: fifteen with two minutes left in the game, and how the.
Speaker 2: Fuck does that happen? Like it it doesn't make sense,
Speaker 2: but it makes sense for the Knicks, and we just
Speaker 2: got to deal with it as being New Yorkers. Yes
Speaker 2: I don't.
Speaker 4: I'm like, what is the problem? Y'all already know what happens.
Speaker 4: That's why I can't be invested in because I already know.
Speaker 4: First of all, you know, I'm not really that into sports,
Speaker 4: although I do. I used to go to the Nick
Speaker 4: game almost every game, so I completely understand the love
Speaker 4: that we have for the team for the New York culture,
Speaker 4: for you know, the whole thing. Absolutely. However, I never
Speaker 4: once we decided to give up the Knicks season tickets.
Speaker 4: We didn't pick up the Brooklyn Nets because it's too
Speaker 4: much stress, Like you physically get stressed out, people screaming
Speaker 4: and throwing things. I'm like, what in the world y'all
Speaker 4: love it? So hey?
Speaker 3: I mean, I just love the sport and I love
Speaker 3: when you see teams play hard. You know, this year,
Speaker 3: New York actually has a team that has the capabilities
Speaker 3: to win. If you know, if everybody's playing the way
Speaker 3: they're supposed to, they actually can win.
Speaker 2: So you know, we just got to see what happens. Man.
Speaker 4: Well I'm here for it. But lord bless you. I
Speaker 4: was listening to two of you, like I can't even
Speaker 4: jump in to say, well, yeah, I felt because y'all
Speaker 4: was talking about life support machines. I mean, it was sky.
Speaker 4: I'm like, Jemia is a Nick fan to the blood,
Speaker 4: Like he is literally fanatic.
Speaker 2: It's like like it's not just a fan, he's a fanatic.
Speaker 4: But anyway, that brings me to my thought of the day.
Speaker 4: My thought of the day is really buried in a
Speaker 4: question I want to know why we as a people
Speaker 4: do not listen to other people's experiences with corporations and
Speaker 4: allow it to be a warning, like a telltale sign
Speaker 4: that we should start to step away, back up, don't
Speaker 4: go into these places. These places. Now, someone told me
Speaker 4: that it is possible that every that you think people
Speaker 4: know and they don't know. So just because an incident happened,
Speaker 4: it doesn't mean that everyone else knows about it. But
Speaker 4: I know people who will say, well, that didn't happen
Speaker 4: to me in that place, that restaurant, that airline, that whatever,
Speaker 4: and so therefore, since it didn't happen to me, I
Speaker 4: don't see it as being, you know, so much of
Speaker 4: a problem, and I'm still gonna go over there, or
Speaker 4: I'm still going to be a part of it. I
Speaker 4: think the part of the issue is that people don't
Speaker 4: necessarily value the way in which our society in terms
Speaker 4: of corporations, like how they treat some black folks, And
Speaker 4: I think that we feel like, as long as it
Speaker 4: doesn't happen to us, it's just that person, it's just
Speaker 4: those people they did something. So the reason why I'm
Speaker 4: bringing this up is because I've been told that a
Speaker 4: number of waffle house employees. It started in Georgia, but
Speaker 4: it is now spreading to different places across the country.
Speaker 4: They are on strike and the reason why they're on
Speaker 4: strike is because they say it's unsafe. The conditions are
Speaker 4: not again safe for employees. There have been issues where
Speaker 4: police have been called to deal with incidents and it
Speaker 4: takes twenty minutes or more for the police officers to
Speaker 4: show up. They say that the conditions that there were
Speaker 4: working in our hazardous. They're mistreated, and therefore these people
Speaker 4: are now striking and it's been going on for a while.
Speaker 4: And in fact, I want to read because they're working
Speaker 4: with a labor union, which is the Union of Southern
Speaker 4: Service Workers. So the Union of Southern Service Workers have
Speaker 4: come together with these people, these employees, which are mainly
Speaker 4: of course black and brown folks, and they are supporting
Speaker 4: them in their strike against waffle House. Now, we told
Speaker 4: folks a long time ago in the I think spring
Speaker 4: of twenty eighteen, Shakisha Clemens was abused in a waffle
Speaker 4: house in Sarahland, Alabama, because a white employee attempted to
Speaker 4: force her to pay for plastic spoon and fork right
Speaker 4: and whatever plastic utensils this particular employee asked her to pay.
Speaker 4: Shaqisha says, what are you talking about? You know, I
Speaker 4: don't want the silverware. I want plastic, which I do
Speaker 4: all the time. And there is no place ever, not
Speaker 4: even in the places where I feel kind of like
Speaker 4: they were a little rude. And never ever in the
Speaker 4: history of ever have I been asked to pay for
Speaker 4: plastic silverware if I did not want to, or plastic
Speaker 4: utensils if I did not want to use the silverware
Speaker 4: on the table. This employee starts telling her it's x
Speaker 4: y Z since per piece. Da da da da da.
Speaker 4: They get into it. The next thing you know, the
Speaker 4: woman calls the police on Shakisha Clements and when the
Speaker 4: police get there, they derobe, abuse, attack, humiliate, and again
Speaker 4: abuse this woman. Now you all know this story because
Speaker 4: every now and then we have to bring it up.
Speaker 4: We have to talk about it in order for people
Speaker 4: to be reminded of the sincerity, the severity of the
Speaker 4: severity of what took place that day to Shakisha Clemens,
Speaker 4: which she still has not all the way recovered from.
Speaker 4: And they said that she was resistant arrest and then
Speaker 4: came back arrested her and charged her Okay, this is
Speaker 4: how severe this situation was. We told people, let's just
Speaker 4: shut waffle House down because first of all, it is
Speaker 4: not treating and this was all the stuff that we said,
Speaker 4: they are not treating their employees properly. When we went
Speaker 4: to waffle House to get a statement from them and
Speaker 4: to get them to say that what took place in
Speaker 4: that restaurant was wrong, because first of all, they do
Speaker 4: not charge We know now the policy that they do
Speaker 4: not charge for plastic utensils, So that's number one. Number two,
Speaker 4: they knew that what took place in that restaurant their
Speaker 4: employee was the cause of how Shakisha Clements ended up
Speaker 4: being abused by sarah Land police. They knew that they
Speaker 4: understood the connection, but they refuse to speak against the police.
Speaker 4: They refused to say anything that would make them even
Speaker 4: just have some sympathy and compassion towards this young woman
Speaker 4: for what she went through. I'm not even talking about
Speaker 4: a money grab. I'm talking about just people saying you
Speaker 4: could at least say we're sorry that this happened. They
Speaker 4: were stone cold. No, I'm not talking about oh they
Speaker 4: could say, oh, she just wanted some money from us,
Speaker 4: or people out here because you know how we do.
Speaker 4: Even though she would have been justly due, the type
Speaker 4: of settlement from waffle House that could have that would
Speaker 4: have uh would have provided for her family for a
Speaker 4: long time. Why because her children which she now has
Speaker 4: three children, and her daughter was in the mix of
Speaker 4: this and saw this experience of her mother's body exposed
Speaker 4: and she's down on the floor with full white police
Speaker 4: officers on top of her body and smashing her head
Speaker 4: down to the ground of a waffle house restaurant, a nasty, filthy,
Speaker 4: dirty waffle house restaurant. She was humiliated and everything else
Speaker 4: you could think of. And her oldest daughter knows it
Speaker 4: because she lived through it, and now her other two
Speaker 4: children would have to experience it. So y'all will say
Speaker 4: money grab, I'm saying she was due. And I think
Speaker 4: whatever the settlement ended up being, it was so small
Speaker 4: that Ben Crump, her attorney at the time, was just like,
Speaker 4: take your resources and go. You know, they did all
Speaker 4: they could. They fought for years and years and years
Speaker 4: and years. The local attorneys, the national attorneys, the organizations
Speaker 4: that was out there, and Takisha Clements was never ever, ever,
Speaker 4: ever truly made good. There was no justice for her.
Speaker 1: So what I just.
Speaker 4: Asked myself is, as a thought of the day, why
Speaker 4: in the world would people not say, Okay, we already
Speaker 4: know from going in waffle that this place is basically
Speaker 4: a shithole country. Like, if you want to name something shithold,
Speaker 4: it would be the waffle House.
Speaker 1: Right.
Speaker 4: They mistreat their employees. They you know, they don't in
Speaker 4: any way act like they're trying to provide a safe
Speaker 4: environment for employees and or the customers that are coming there.
Speaker 4: The food is no good, it is unhealthy, it's greasy,
Speaker 4: it is dirty, everything else you could think of, and
Speaker 4: they have the audacity to abuse this young woman who
Speaker 4: was doing absolutely nothing. I don't understand with us why
Speaker 4: waffle house just becomes bammed off the list. That's a
Speaker 4: place we're not going. It's not like the all the
Speaker 4: employees that are working there, they're making so much money
Speaker 4: that it's going to interrupt their lives. That's actually not
Speaker 4: the case. And now you see the employees are striking
Speaker 4: because they are saying, we don't feel safe, We're not
Speaker 4: in an environment that is healthy for us. So I
Speaker 4: just don't understand why we didn't end waffle house some
Speaker 4: time ago. So that because it just felt like Shaqisha
Speaker 4: Clements wasn't a good enough victim for us to say
Speaker 4: this is the end of my support for waffle house.
Speaker 3: Well, that's pretty much what it is. People don't identify
Speaker 3: with certain individuals, right. It's certain they see they well,
Speaker 3: that's not my experience, like you said, and and they
Speaker 3: do that to our own detriment, right when we when
Speaker 3: we don't look at it's like they says, a wise
Speaker 3: man learns from somebody else's mistakes. A smart man learns
Speaker 3: from his own. So we don't deal with wisdom. We
Speaker 3: want to go through it ourselves, or we want to
Speaker 3: see what our experience is. And by the time is
Speaker 3: your experience, it might be way worse. You know, you
Speaker 3: might lose your life inside of a waffle house, you know,
Speaker 3: because you know, we didn't look at the signs, we
Speaker 3: didn't take the advice, We didn't look and say, damn,
Speaker 3: that was just wrong. So in order for us to
Speaker 3: make things right, we have to sacrifice. And a lot
Speaker 3: of people don't want to sacrifice. I've heard people say, well,
Speaker 3: not my wiffle house. My wiffle house is different. I
Speaker 3: go to my wiffele any time in the morning. It's convenient.
Speaker 3: It's killing you. It's all the things like we have
Speaker 3: embraced our own detriment, our own demands. We embrace everything
Speaker 3: we want to eat the food that's killing us. We're
Speaker 3: gonna make sure we go to McDonald's. We're gonna make
Speaker 3: sure we go to every fast food restaurant we can,
Speaker 3: and we're gonna keep eating the same food. We're gonna
Speaker 3: eat from the places that don't respect us. We're gonna
Speaker 3: do the ship to violate us. It's like it's some
Speaker 3: people that's still going to Target. Shout out to Jamaal Bryant.
Speaker 3: I just watched the video where they were praying outside
Speaker 3: of the Target continuing the boycott.
Speaker 2: You know, we're.
Speaker 3: Still on Target with the boycott. And that's what it's
Speaker 3: going to take in this moment. It's gonna take us
Speaker 3: to be on the same page, to look at situations
Speaker 3: and say, you know, it's not nothing. It's worth the disrespect. Right,
Speaker 3: it's nothing that I don't need to spend my money
Speaker 3: with people who don't respect me. I do not need
Speaker 3: to go to stores where people don't don't see the
Speaker 3: the value of black people inside their stores. Right, So
Speaker 3: and we have to get to that stage, you know,
Speaker 3: so when you talk about what's going on in the
Speaker 3: waffle house, yeah, we've been telling people, but all the time,
Speaker 3: you know, people have to see on their own. And
Speaker 3: hopefully this situation alone, coupled with what happened to Shakeisha Klemens,
Speaker 3: it actually brings people to awareness about you know what,
Speaker 3: First of all, Waiffle House ain't even good for us now,
Speaker 3: they ain't good to us, right, So when we know
Speaker 3: they're not good for us and good to us, then
Speaker 3: we don't need them at all. So hopefully, you know this,
Speaker 3: this garners the level of attention, and it gets attraction
Speaker 3: to people start saying I don't need waffle House. And
Speaker 3: then what it would do is not only make waffle
Speaker 3: House step up us where they treat us, right, then
Speaker 3: maybe they start serving us some food that's actually healthy. Right,
Speaker 3: we should really, like, we should be boycotting all of
Speaker 3: these restaurants because this shit is literally killing us.
Speaker 4: You know, I'm not gonna sit here and say all
Speaker 4: of them because I know that after a night where
Speaker 4: I may come from hanging out or whatever, a good
Speaker 4: greasy cheese burger might be just what I need to
Speaker 4: get me through the night, not killing you them up
Speaker 4: one hundred percent, right, And so because I want to
Speaker 4: not be hypocritical number one and two also to make
Speaker 4: sure that I'm acknowledging the needs of the people. So
Speaker 4: that's why when folks say boycott walmart't target Amazon, did
Speaker 4: that and all those things, I know that that's not
Speaker 4: realistic because folks are going to be left feeling like
Speaker 4: they have no options for where they can go. So
Speaker 4: this is why we try to zero in on a
Speaker 4: particular thing. You know, the Montgomery bus boycott was the
Speaker 4: bus boycott. They focused on one thing and they shut
Speaker 4: the system down, and then those people had to come back,
Speaker 4: the leadership of the bus system had to come back
Speaker 4: and say, okay, let's renegotiate the terms. And it is
Speaker 4: the same in this particular moment where target these people.
Speaker 4: Now when you talk about Pastor Jamal Bryant and Pastor
Speaker 4: Carrie Brian and they were outside of a target in Georgia,
Speaker 4: but there were people in fifty locations around the country
Speaker 4: outside of targets, praying down saying that I love that.
Speaker 4: Carrie Bryant, her particular prayer was that we want to
Speaker 4: cast out racism and oppression and division and all those
Speaker 4: things that are keeping our country separated and divided, but
Speaker 4: also things that are suppressing us and suppressing our rights.
Speaker 4: And I'm just saying that Shakeisha Clemens, for me, became
Speaker 4: our little sister because we saw ourselves in her immediately
Speaker 4: when I saw her down in that ground. And I know,
Speaker 4: I know how much for me, not just being a germaphobe,
Speaker 4: but just the lack of respect in general, the way
Speaker 4: these men seem like they were just getting off on
Speaker 4: having this black woman slammed down to the ground over
Speaker 4: some plastic utensils and some words that went back and forth.
Speaker 4: The police were not able to come into. That's because
Speaker 4: they don't have respect for people that are inside the
Speaker 4: waffle house. They don't give a damn. They already don't
Speaker 4: care nothing about us when we on the street. We
Speaker 4: could be in a rich Carlton and if they want to,
Speaker 4: they'll come in with some of that behavior. But there
Speaker 4: is a company standard where the rich Carlton might have
Speaker 4: the type of posture that if something happens with an employee,
Speaker 4: with an employee and a resident, you know, a hotel guest,
Speaker 4: you know, when you approach, let's try to de escalate
Speaker 4: because they don't want the environment to turn chaotic, for
Speaker 4: people to feel unsafe and to feel like when you're
Speaker 4: if a police officer has to come in here, this
Speaker 4: is the way. How far it escalates versus being de escalated.
Speaker 4: That's a company policy that the company policy of waffle
Speaker 4: House is all all bets are off, just come in,
Speaker 4: throw people down, do whatever you want. Because some white
Speaker 4: woman called from behind the desk to say I don't
Speaker 4: even know what she said, which was probably a lie
Speaker 4: because we've watched all the video tapes, that is outrageous
Speaker 4: to me. The company was responsible, but we as black people,
Speaker 4: should have said you won't catch meat and another waffle house.
Speaker 4: And the sad part about it is that celebrities who
Speaker 4: knew about the situation continue to go into waffle House
Speaker 4: and was posting about it as if it was cool.
Speaker 4: We have a problem saying we're going to stand together
Speaker 4: on something where we see that there's clearly clearly been
Speaker 4: an abusive power mistreatment of our people and we're going
Speaker 4: to actually do something about this. That is something that
Speaker 4: we have to work on because we cannot call on
Speaker 4: or demand respect from anybody if we do not ensure
Speaker 4: that we respect ourselves enough to see someone like Shakisha
Speaker 4: Clements as being our own, our own dear sistant. So
Speaker 4: I just pray that people now, maybe now, Shakisha Clemens
Speaker 4: was not the ideal victim for some of y'all. She
Speaker 4: was for us, but for some of y'all, y'all didn't
Speaker 4: see her as being an ideal abused individual within the
Speaker 4: waffle House space. Well, maybe now that the employees around
Speaker 4: the country and particularly in Georgia are saying that they
Speaker 4: are also unsafe, and now they are uniting with a union,
Speaker 4: the Union for Southern Service Workers, perhaps at this point
Speaker 4: you will see these workers as being important enough for
Speaker 4: you to say, I'm staying away from waffle House and
Speaker 4: I will not cross the picket line and go into
Speaker 4: a business that I know, for too many years has
Speaker 4: not respected our people and they also don't respect our health.
Speaker 3: Well, that's the hope we have. Hopefully, you know, this
Speaker 3: is this is the proper you know time, and like
Speaker 3: I said, couple what happened to Shakisha Clemens. If you
Speaker 3: look at both these things, hopefully people will wake up
Speaker 3: and realize that, you know, waffle House, ain't it all right?
Speaker 4: So let's go on to the TMI. So Little Mo
Speaker 4: released the video where she's talking about how she's paying
Speaker 4: for expedited shipping and finding out that, you know a
Speaker 4: lot of companies are not even sending the they don't
Speaker 4: even please They just take the expedite shipping and probably
Speaker 4: still send it regular shipping or they expedited when they
Speaker 4: get around to it. So you ask for exodited shipping today,
Speaker 4: thinking that maybe within a day or two your product
Speaker 4: is at least going to go out to you and
Speaker 4: you'll receive it in a reasonable time. But most of
Speaker 4: a lot of times, a lot of times these companies
Speaker 4: will say, well, you know, it'll take them five, six,
Speaker 4: seven days to get to the point that they expedite shipping.
Speaker 4: And she was saying that it's a problem because you know,
Speaker 4: she's noticing that this is happening with many different companies,
Speaker 4: and I was just thinking, for the team my some
Speaker 4: people might say, well, hey, you know they're getting to
Speaker 4: it when they can get to it, give them a break,
Speaker 4: right like that, We the people who expect good customer service,
Speaker 4: we're doing too much. But there are other people who
Speaker 4: will understand where I'm coming from in this, and to
Speaker 4: say that whether it be, and I definitely have this
Speaker 4: issue with many small businesses and black businesses, but in general,
Speaker 4: a lot of businesses just don't do business.
Speaker 1: They do.
Speaker 4: My business is my side hobby. My business is not
Speaker 4: the main thing that I know. I need to be
Speaker 4: on top of getting my products and services out responding
Speaker 4: to emails, questions, inquiries. I have at least four companies
Speaker 4: that I promise I'm going to put them online in
Speaker 4: the next couple of days because I've had to email
Speaker 4: these companies back and forth, back and forth, and no
Speaker 4: answer or no resolution to what I'm asking for. All
Speaker 4: the things are out of the stores. You go to
Speaker 4: the stores, you can hardly find anything. So now we've
Speaker 4: been forced to do online shopping and with our money.
Speaker 4: People just treat you any kind of way. But I'm
Speaker 4: telling you that there are people out there who'll listen
Speaker 4: a little more. Who is now saying, I can't take
Speaker 4: it anymore. I'm spending money and not getting the service.
Speaker 4: People like me who complain about the customer service, and
Speaker 4: they will say we are the ones that are doing
Speaker 4: too much. So we open up the floor for anybody
Speaker 4: else to let us know, do you think we're doing
Speaker 4: too much, or should we have a standard even for
Speaker 4: small businesses that says, if you take our money, we
Speaker 4: expect the product to be right, the quality to be right,
Speaker 4: the picture and the quality to be the same. Okay,
Speaker 4: hello that if we need to return it, or we
Speaker 4: have an issue and we email you, we want you
Speaker 4: to get back to us. Is are we being too
Speaker 4: much or or should there be a standard for any
Speaker 4: kind of business that is operated or should we all
Speaker 4: just sit back and say, oh, well it's a small business,
Speaker 4: or you know, we should just kind of allow things
Speaker 4: to be loose with our money because hey, we're all
Speaker 4: just trying to figure it out.
Speaker 3: I think I think people should expect their products to
Speaker 3: be properly delivered in the time, in the fashion that
Speaker 3: is supposed to be delivered. If you paid for overnight,
Speaker 3: your product should get to you overnight. If you pay
Speaker 3: for a product, it should look like the product that
Speaker 3: you paid for. It shouldn't be like the t Move
Speaker 3: version of every that's like to go and look Joe
Speaker 3: T Move you see some shouldn't te Mo and you
Speaker 3: be watching, Oh this is fire, It's only twenty dollars.
Speaker 3: Put my little twenty dollars and you get a shirt
Speaker 3: and the shirt beat like somebody odd it on.
Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 3: I ordered a I forgot what it was.
Speaker 2: It was.
Speaker 3: Oh, it was a thing that looked like it was
Speaker 3: a big cassette tape.
Speaker 2: And it was like a thing that was to stand
Speaker 2: in the living room. And I ordered it.
Speaker 3: They sent me a little it was like a pillowcase
Speaker 3: with some pham shit. It didn't look nothing like what
Speaker 3: I ordered. I was like, Oh, I thought, I'm gonna
Speaker 3: have me a little dope thing for my living room.
Speaker 3: Sit was trash, so like, nobody should be spending any minutes.
Speaker 4: You're crazy. You ordered stuff from pay places you already No, I.
Speaker 3: Didn't know TIMO was that bad.
Speaker 4: If it's twenty dollars and it looks good, it looks
Speaker 4: too good to be true. It's too good to be true.
Speaker 3: I ordered two more things from off a team, none
Speaker 3: of TEAMUL but I think Amazon some shit.
Speaker 2: I ordered two things that never even came, and I'm like,
Speaker 2: where are that it was? One of them was a.
Speaker 3: Drive that's supposed to hold a bunch of information. Because
Speaker 3: I got overloaded on my phone and on my computer.
Speaker 3: Something I want to put my shit in my drive
Speaker 3: I ordered this shit two months ago. I ain't never
Speaker 3: seen it yet. I ordered a new thing for my phone.
Speaker 3: They had to sit there, look crazy that it turns
Speaker 3: around the phone could sit inside it on its out
Speaker 3: your car and and like grips on the thing. Oh
Speaker 3: this shit is dope because I need that to adjust,
Speaker 3: like when I'm doing my videos in my car.
Speaker 5: It still ain't come.
Speaker 3: It's like I just spend fifty twenty thirty all types
Speaker 3: of douff. They done got over with me. I know
Speaker 3: it's about like good three four hundred dollars worth of
Speaker 3: my money that's in these companies that never sent me
Speaker 3: the product, and i'd be so I'll be forgetting I'm
Speaker 3: telling it, and I'll be forgetting that I did.
Speaker 2: I'm like, I know I ordered this, Why the fuck
Speaker 2: the shit ain't come? Where is it at?
Speaker 3: And then I've been trying to look back for it
Speaker 3: and I can't find it. But in my mind, I
Speaker 3: know I paid for stuff. So yes, this it is
Speaker 3: a big problem. These people are running scams. They're either
Speaker 3: selling you some shit that they don't have that they
Speaker 3: give you a version of it, and then it's the
Speaker 3: Plato version that the kids made and they send it
Speaker 3: to you, or they telling you you're paying for extra shipping,
Speaker 3: and the shit is coming the same day that it
Speaker 3: would come if it was regular shipping. So yes, man,
Speaker 3: we gotta do better. We better, We have to. We
Speaker 3: have to do better as consumers in demand. Let every
Speaker 3: time shit like that happens, we have to call it out.
Speaker 3: We got to call out the place that happens too,
Speaker 3: because if we just taking the air and we quiet
Speaker 3: about it, other people don't know. And by the time
Speaker 3: they don't jerk, they don't made a million dollars just
Speaker 3: jerking all of us.
Speaker 2: Because that's how they that's how they do it.
Speaker 3: They do it penny by penny right because you like,
Speaker 3: it's only twenty dollars, I ain't gonna say nothing. But
Speaker 3: if you get one thousand niggas to send you twenty
Speaker 3: dollars and they all get jerked out of it, this
Speaker 3: is how they get over because you think it's a
Speaker 3: little bit of money. They say, oh, it's only a
Speaker 3: little bit of money, and the average person is not
Speaker 3: gonna go to consumer fairs and say you're my twenty
Speaker 3: dollars did get here, So we all got every time
Speaker 3: we taking those losses we got to complain.
Speaker 4: Because we don't accountable. Yeah, I ordered stuff and it
Speaker 4: doesn't come. And then but see me, I'm starting to write,
Speaker 4: I got a little log. I write the name down.
Speaker 4: That's what I'm talking about. The school companies. It's on
Speaker 4: my list. In fact, one of them did email me
Speaker 4: back this morning and it's And by the way, the
Speaker 4: stuff is not cheap. Okay, I'm just to be clear.
Speaker 4: I know not to buy things for twenty because I
Speaker 4: already know what's going to happen, but these things are
Speaker 4: not cheap. I have a four hundred dollars order of
Speaker 4: something of some stuff that I am expecting to come
Speaker 4: from a particular place, and these people have not responded
Speaker 4: to me about why. It's now over a month and
Speaker 4: I haven't received it. Like this is ridiculous. And then
Speaker 4: it makes you say, well, I'm not going to buy
Speaker 4: these things online. But then the reality is that when
Speaker 4: you go to the stores you can't even find certain things.
Speaker 4: So I'm just like, no, we're going to have to
Speaker 4: have a process for exposing brands, companies and whatever else
Speaker 4: that are you know, are are scamming our people, because no,
Speaker 4: it's just too much, like don't get the money for
Speaker 4: me and then go try to make the product. No, sir,
Speaker 4: that's that wasn't the deal that we made when I
Speaker 4: clicked purchase. So I'll know what y'all think, all right,
Speaker 4: So we've got a friend. That's back to the TMI show.
Speaker 4: I think the first time doctor Singleton was on with us,
Speaker 4: we were street politicians, but we have rebranded for those
Speaker 4: of you who are out there listening. Street Politicians was
Speaker 4: our baby that we started a long time ago. But
Speaker 4: we continue and we're not just here for longevity, but
Speaker 4: we're actually better.
Speaker 1: So you think we better, mister.
Speaker 2: Lennon, I think we always been better.
Speaker 1: We were better, we're better better.
Speaker 4: But the best of us is doctor Robert Singleton, the second.
Speaker 4: He is a board certified anesthesiologist practicing just outside of Chicago, Illinois.
Speaker 4: A proud Howard University College of Medicine graduate, doctor, Singleton
Speaker 4: brings nearly a decade of experience in general anesthesia across
Speaker 4: multiple specialties including surgery, obstetrics, gynecology, and eurology.
Speaker 1: And there's a whole bunch of other.
Speaker 4: Things that this black man, this black doctor is an
Speaker 4: expert at. And I think one of the reasons why
Speaker 4: we wanted you to come on today, doctor Singleton, is
Speaker 4: to talk about agent because as we're getting older, we
Speaker 4: see different things. And you are our the TMI show
Speaker 4: doctor in residence.
Speaker 2: Yes, because we old as we old.
Speaker 1: We're happy to have you back with us. Thank you for.
Speaker 5: Joining, thank you for having me back. I appreciate it.
Speaker 4: So we the last several weeks we noticed, but it's
Speaker 4: been going on for longer than that for me that
Speaker 4: you know, when we come on the show or when
Speaker 4: we're just talking to folks, especially people over forty. My
Speaker 4: son just celebrated a birthday, which he doesn't seem to
Speaker 4: be telling many people how old he is, but he's
Speaker 4: definitely over forty and he's definitely older than me.
Speaker 1: And I'm about to turn forty.
Speaker 4: Five, so you know, so that oh now, but we
Speaker 4: noticed that we find ourselves saying, oh my god, this hurts,
Speaker 4: this is different, this feels different.
Speaker 1: What is that thought? What is this muscle?
Speaker 4: Why can't I sleep properly? All these things are happening,
Speaker 4: and it occurred to us that aging is.
Speaker 1: A real thing that no one prepares you for.
Speaker 4: You know, we barely have the right conversations about aging
Speaker 4: and what can help you not so much slow down
Speaker 4: the process, because certainly life is moving quickly and we
Speaker 4: age quickly, but you can at least try to maintain
Speaker 4: yourself and have certain practices and certain regimens that help
Speaker 4: to keep you here longer and stronger. And so that's
Speaker 4: what we wanted to talk about today, is just your
Speaker 4: experience as you look at your clients or your patients
Speaker 4: with aging, and especially for black men, what are some
Speaker 4: of the things that we need to be looking out
Speaker 4: for in order for them to stay around a little
Speaker 4: bit longer than the life expectancy.
Speaker 6: Most definitely, I think that, Well, I'm glad that you
Speaker 6: guys are talking about aging. I just joined the forty
Speaker 6: club as well. I turned forty in April, and it's
Speaker 6: good that we are talking about aging amongst each other,
Speaker 6: amongst our friends. But I feel like the most important
Speaker 6: thing is who we're talking to, and that is our
Speaker 6: primary care doctors. It's important to establish a primary care
Speaker 6: physician that we can go to to get the appropriate
Speaker 6: screenings based on our age, based on our family history,
Speaker 6: so that we can not only enjoy a long lifespan,
Speaker 6: but have a good quality of life as well. So
Speaker 6: establishing primary care is so important for so many reasons.
Speaker 3: Yet it really is I just got my physical this year.
Speaker 3: You know, I had a clean bill of health. What
Speaker 3: screenings after about forty five should especially black men be
Speaker 3: intentional about focusing on because you know, we noticed after
Speaker 3: that a lot of us can to be all these
Speaker 3: things that we don't we don't pay attention to because
Speaker 3: we really don't like to go to the doctor. I
Speaker 3: hate going to the doctor. I hate the anxiety of
Speaker 3: again anxiety. I was on a train, I was going
Speaker 3: to an event and I'm one of my friends. He
Speaker 3: was going to his corner fees what is his girl?
Speaker 3: And he was just nervous. He was like, I'm on
Speaker 3: my way through my corner speed and I had that feeling.
Speaker 3: I know that feeling a lot of black men go
Speaker 3: through it. So what should we be focusing on? What
Speaker 3: are the tests we should be focusing on? How often
Speaker 3: should we be doing it?
Speaker 2: Like?
Speaker 6: Yeah, so, I mean the test that we need, the
Speaker 6: screening tests that we need depend on a lot of
Speaker 6: different factors. I just posted yesterday or the Biden Biden's
Speaker 6: President Biden's team just shared yesterday that he's been diagnosed
Speaker 6: with prostate cancer.
Speaker 5: And I had a lot of people asking.
Speaker 6: Me, at what age should I be getting my prostay checked?
Speaker 6: At what age should I be having my PSA levels checked?
Speaker 6: And it really bears for the average person. For the
Speaker 6: average man, you should start the screening process at age fifty,
Speaker 6: but for us, as black men, it's earlier than that.
Speaker 6: Black men need to have their prostate screening starting at
Speaker 6: age forty five. If you have a first degree relative,
Speaker 6: meaning a father or a brother, who was diagnosed with
Speaker 6: prostate cancer before the age of sixty five, then you
Speaker 6: need to have a screening done sooner than that. So
Speaker 6: there's so many different variables, and also the screening guidelines
Speaker 6: changed with time. There was a time where colonoscopies were
Speaker 6: not recommended until you turn fifty.
Speaker 5: That changed a few years ago to forty five.
Speaker 6: And for some people they may need a colonoscopy at
Speaker 6: an even younger age. And so really it's important to
Speaker 6: have a primary care doctor who can guide you and
Speaker 6: who can help you with knowing what screenings to take,
Speaker 6: what immunizations to take, and so having that primary care
Speaker 6: doctor is important for that reason.
Speaker 3: Besides that would other things are black men more susceptible
Speaker 3: to than everyone else?
Speaker 6: You know, we Black people, we are more susceptible to
Speaker 6: things like diabetes, high blood pressure, and even you know,
Speaker 6: like prosted cancer, many types of cancers black men and
Speaker 6: black women, a lot of times black women. When you
Speaker 6: look at breast cancer, black women are being diagnosed at
Speaker 6: later stages, whereas had they been UH screened and diagnosed
Speaker 6: at earlier stages, the treatments and the outcomes are better.
Speaker 6: So there are a lot of discrepancies between how the
Speaker 6: average American bears with different health issues compared to Blacks.
Speaker 6: And that's something that you know, we have to educate
Speaker 6: our communities about the importance of taking control of our
Speaker 6: health because we really do have.
Speaker 5: A lot more control over our health than we realize.
Speaker 4: Control meaning what we eat, the amount of rest we're
Speaker 4: getting or not, and things. What else would you say
Speaker 4: are some of the controlling factors.
Speaker 6: Yeah, so the big ones like you mentioned, or diet, exercise.
Speaker 5: It's so important to not smoke.
Speaker 6: As an anesthesia doctor, I see so many patients, probably
Speaker 6: tend to twenty patients every day. And what's remarkable is
Speaker 6: that people age differently. Forty does not look the same
Speaker 6: on everybody, sixty does not look the same on everybody,
Speaker 6: and a lot of the difference that you see is
Speaker 6: people's lifestyle habits.
Speaker 5: Alcohol, smoking, your diet.
Speaker 6: Those all play a factor into not only how you
Speaker 6: look physically, but what diseases you develop.
Speaker 1: Hmmm, wow, alcohols and smoking.
Speaker 4: I'm like, people still smoke cigarettes, which is very interesting
Speaker 4: to me because it's just felt like cigarettes fell off
Speaker 4: the mat. But I still see a lot of people
Speaker 4: who smoked cigarettes and they're not giving it up, and
Speaker 4: that's just it doesn't matter what you say to them,
Speaker 4: They're just not going to give up the cigarettes.
Speaker 5: It's very, very addictive.
Speaker 6: And now you see younger people, they kind of have
Speaker 6: transition from looking from smoking cigarettes to now vaping, and
Speaker 6: vaping still has a lot of similar health problems as
Speaker 6: far as uh and issues that we haven't even researched
Speaker 6: because it hasn't been around as long as cigarette smoking has.
Speaker 5: So we're kind of trading one bad habit for another.
Speaker 6: Wow.
Speaker 1: So does it have nicotine?
Speaker 5: No, So I am vaping. You can vape different ways.
Speaker 6: I think that some forms of a thing do some don't,
Speaker 6: but I believe that some of it. Sometimes vaping can
Speaker 6: involve nicotine. It can be addictive.
Speaker 4: Oh, I didn't know vapin was addictive. I thought it
Speaker 4: was kind of like, you know, just I don't know.
Speaker 1: I don't vape.
Speaker 3: My brother was smoking hookah all day every day, so
Speaker 3: it had to be some level of addiction to like
Speaker 3: I would just walking like, Bro, you're smoking hookah again,
Speaker 3: like all day?
Speaker 2: Wow, all day?
Speaker 1: That's interesting And.
Speaker 2: A lot of times and he actually had like a siege.
Speaker 3: He was getting sieges right a couple of times based
Speaker 3: on him smoking hookah. And he made a conscious decision
Speaker 3: to stop doing it on his own. So probably for
Speaker 3: like the last six months he hasn't done it, but
Speaker 3: I've seen that happened.
Speaker 2: To him a lot.
Speaker 4: Wow.
Speaker 3: Is smoking weed? Is it healthy and not healthy? Is
Speaker 3: it wearing? Tearing on your body?
Speaker 2: Like? Because a lot of weeding is good for me,
Speaker 2: So I just want to know.
Speaker 5: Yeah, So I council.
Speaker 6: I handle marijuana a little bit differently because unlike cigarette smoking,
Speaker 6: marijuana does have a lot of medicinal uses. There are
Speaker 6: people with different health issues who do benefit from smoking marijuana.
Speaker 6: So I'm not as hard on people for smoking marijuana.
Speaker 6: But as with everything, it's all about risk and benefits.
Speaker 6: There are some people who benefit, but there are some
Speaker 6: studies that are coming out that are showing that marijuana
Speaker 6: is not harmless, that there are some long term consequences
Speaker 6: of marijuana smoke, changes in the brain, changes and the
Speaker 6: lungs that happen over time. And so whenever you decide
Speaker 6: whether or not to smoke in marijuana, it really has
Speaker 6: to be one that's well thought out.
Speaker 4: Yeah, now that they put the graba and they put
Speaker 4: things in it, which I think takes away from the purity,
Speaker 4: not to mention where it's being grown, the purity of
Speaker 4: that and the spray and all of that other stuff.
Speaker 4: So now people are like, well, I'm just gonna use edibles,
Speaker 4: and so it's kind of like we keep on moving
Speaker 4: the needle, but then every time you turn around something
Speaker 4: is wrong with everything. Go ahead, you can respond to
Speaker 4: that and then go ahead.
Speaker 5: Yeah.
Speaker 6: I mean, you know, even using edibles, there's different issues
Speaker 6: that can develop in your gastro intestinal track, your stomach,
Speaker 6: and a lot of these things were just starting to
Speaker 6: learn about because fifty years ago were people using edibles.
Speaker 6: Where they're using where they're vaping, So we're still learning
Speaker 6: a lot about the long term effects of doing these things.
Speaker 4: Row I every day I turned my telephone on you
Speaker 4: open up Instagram on Facebook and they say some new
Speaker 4: thing listerine now is on the list of caught cancer
Speaker 4: causing products.
Speaker 1: How do you live?
Speaker 4: Right, you're the doctors, So like, how are you surviving
Speaker 4: in the world?
Speaker 1: If everything causes cancer?
Speaker 4: The PAN, if the PAN is great, then it is
Speaker 4: releasing some kind of toxins. The popcorn they told me,
Speaker 4: I can't pop popcorn in my home no more anymore,
Speaker 4: because that's how does the doctor live?
Speaker 6: You know, I think that a lot of these studies
Speaker 6: you have to look at the credibility of them, and
Speaker 6: I think a lot of times people post these things
Speaker 6: just for clicks, just for attention, But whenever you look
Speaker 6: at the actual science, the research, the data behind these studies,
Speaker 6: a lot of that is lacking. Some of the most
Speaker 6: basic things are really what's important to us staying healthy,
Speaker 6: things like diet, exercise, not smoking, and as far as
Speaker 6: you know, what kind of popcorn and what kind of
Speaker 6: you know, are you drinking out.
Speaker 5: Of plastic water bottles versus metal?
Speaker 6: Right?
Speaker 5: You know, those things are kind of minutia, you think,
Speaker 5: so I.
Speaker 6: Believe so people have been you know, eating the same
Speaker 6: popcorn and drinking out of the same water bottles. Do
Speaker 6: is there something there? I think that there is. I
Speaker 6: think that, you know, microplastics should be a concern. I
Speaker 6: think that a lot of these are concerns. But you
Speaker 6: really can drive yourself crazy if you think about your
Speaker 6: toothpaste and your mouth washed, and you know, think about
Speaker 6: all the possible things that are causing cancer or that
Speaker 6: are have an effect in your body. But if you
Speaker 6: focus on the most important things, you know, uh, that
Speaker 6: is what is going to make sure that you have
Speaker 6: not only a longer life, but that you have a
Speaker 6: good quality of life. So it really is important to
Speaker 6: just focus on the basics.
Speaker 1: Are you vegan?
Speaker 6: I was vegan in medical school for about like sixteen months,
Speaker 6: but no, I proudly meat.
Speaker 4: See people make it something like eating meat. Well, we
Speaker 4: have a friend who cut you know, she was on
Speaker 4: her health journey and she cut beef and of course pork.
Speaker 4: I think she's still off pork, but she cut beef
Speaker 4: out of her diet and then she started having health
Speaker 4: challenges and the doctor told her that she's not one
Speaker 4: of those people who should stop eating beef because of
Speaker 4: the iron or the something that's in it. Is do
Speaker 4: you believe that you agree with that that for some
Speaker 4: people that's the case.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 6: I mean, whenever you adopt a vegan lifestyle, you have
Speaker 6: to be very careful because there are a lot of
Speaker 6: essential vitamins, essential nutrients that are and meat products and
Speaker 6: you know, beef especially, it has a lot of iron
Speaker 6: in it, and so sometimes cutting it out of your
Speaker 6: diet if you're already prone to anemia, if you already
Speaker 6: have you know, for women, very heavy periods, you might
Speaker 6: be missing that iron out of your diet if you're
Speaker 6: not careful to replace it or to substitute other things
Speaker 6: in your diet to make sure you have enough iron.
Speaker 6: Vegans have sometimes issues with getting enough protein, and so
Speaker 6: if you're not smart about how you are approaching the
Speaker 6: vegan lifestyle, you can miss out on a lot of nutrients.
Speaker 3: Yeah, that sounds well right as far as when it
Speaker 3: comes to meat, doesn't it clog a lot of your uteries?
Speaker 6: So what's important is the amount of cholesterol in mates.
Speaker 6: And right now on my diet, I do eat beef,
Speaker 6: but I try to limit the amount of beef that
Speaker 6: I have and I focus more on lean chicken, breast,
Speaker 6: lean turkey to try to keep my cholesterol low and
Speaker 6: What also helps with cholesterol is increasing your fiber intake.
Speaker 6: So it's important to have plenty of green leafy vegetables
Speaker 6: in your diet to also lower cholesterol.
Speaker 4: But when you cook the vegetables, we've been told that
Speaker 4: it sort of extracts the benefits of it when you
Speaker 4: cook it. So they're saying raw, I'm not getting ready
Speaker 4: to eat rawstring beans. Then some people say salad has
Speaker 4: no nutritional value. So I try to find, like my salad.
Speaker 4: Let me tell you what my salad is. I eat
Speaker 4: the same salad every week. I have spinach and mixed greens,
Speaker 4: which includes kale. No excuse me, I have kale and
Speaker 4: then mixed greens which include spinach and some other things.
Speaker 4: I have kidney beans, red onions, egg whites, feta, cheese, corn.
Speaker 1: Don't kill me on the corn.
Speaker 4: I just gotta have some taste and tarry and plum tomatoes.
Speaker 4: So that's my and grilled chicken. That's salad.
Speaker 1: So am I doing good?
Speaker 5: You're doing good? That's very healthy. I mean spinach, that's
Speaker 5: your green leafy vegetables.
Speaker 6: You have the chicken in there for protein, and the
Speaker 6: protein that you add kind of helps to keep you full.
Speaker 6: Throughout the day. It's a colorful salad. You have eggs,
Speaker 6: different color vegetables. That is a healthy lunch.
Speaker 1: What would you add to it?
Speaker 5: What would I add to it?
Speaker 2: No?
Speaker 5: Do you have dressing on your salad?
Speaker 1: Yeah? I'm a creamy Italian person?
Speaker 6: Okay, okay, yeah, some some dressings have a lot of calories.
Speaker 6: And when you look at the serving sizes of the dressing,
Speaker 6: it'll be like one hundred calories and just one tablespoon.
Speaker 6: And you know how many tablespoons are we putting on
Speaker 6: our salad. Sometimes the added toppings like bacon, eggs, the meats, those.
Speaker 5: Can really add up.
Speaker 6: And sometimes salads can have more calories and more fat
Speaker 6: than had you had a cheeseburger. So it's important to
Speaker 6: look at not only the salads, but the toppings that
Speaker 6: are on top of it as well.
Speaker 1: You go, and then I got my last question, but
Speaker 1: go ahead, you know what this is my thing?
Speaker 4: Here?
Speaker 2: Is ozimpic healthy for these people?
Speaker 1: Just tap I don't zimpi.
Speaker 6: That's such a controversial issue. I've talked about that a
Speaker 6: lot on my social media. So here's the thing. Whenever
Speaker 6: you are obese, you are at risk of having a
Speaker 6: lot of different medical conditions obesity, there's what we call
Speaker 6: comorbid conditions, meaning if you have obesity, you're more likely
Speaker 6: to have things like diabetes, congestive heart failure, sleep at MEA.
Speaker 6: And so if you can lose weight, then you can
Speaker 6: reduce your chances of getting those other medical conditions. And
Speaker 6: so for a lot of people, being on ozimpic improves
Speaker 6: their quality of life in their lifespan because it helps
Speaker 6: you to prevent having those conditions, Whereas there are some
Speaker 6: people who are able to lose weight through diet and
Speaker 6: exercise but just don't have the stick toitiveness, who.
Speaker 5: Don't have the discipline.
Speaker 6: And you know, it's a balance, and it's a conversation
Speaker 6: that is a tough one, but it's a balance that
Speaker 6: I think that every person should have with their doctor
Speaker 6: as far as is it right for me to take
Speaker 6: ozembic or not. I was looking at some statistics from
Speaker 6: the CDC. If you your lifespan is reduced by depending
Speaker 6: on how obese you are. Let me see, I think
Speaker 6: by being obese it lowers your lifespan by about six
Speaker 6: to seven years. Morbidly obese you can reduce your lifespan
Speaker 6: by about ten years. And so ozimpic may be making
Speaker 6: people live a little bit longer.
Speaker 1: Wow, so you okay with you?
Speaker 2: With Zimbi.
Speaker 6: My first choice is diet an exercise, healthy lifestyle. But
Speaker 6: for some people who just can't lose weight, or who
Speaker 6: might need just an extra boost, who might need to
Speaker 6: lose some pregnancy weight, I think that it can be
Speaker 6: good for those people.
Speaker 4: Okay, so now this is my question. Well, thank you
Speaker 4: for saying that. But I'm kind of on the same track,
Speaker 4: which is the you as an anesthesiologist.
Speaker 1: All the people who are having the surgeries, the.
Speaker 4: Everything I mean with brass, the Tommy Tucks, the BBLS,
Speaker 4: which we know at least we are learning that you
Speaker 4: can have a successful BBLS. But there's some challenges, some
Speaker 4: serious stuff that's happened. I mean, there's this video out
Speaker 4: there that is being it's there's so much controversy over
Speaker 4: this young woman saying that her BBL her sit down
Speaker 4: had a smell.
Speaker 1: Have you seen that?
Speaker 5: No, I haven't said that.
Speaker 4: Everybody's arguing that she's lying because there's nothing wrong with
Speaker 4: my BBL.
Speaker 1: It doesn't smell. And she's like, how y'all gonna tell
Speaker 1: me what happened to me?
Speaker 4: There? Was a wound that obviously didn't heal properly and
Speaker 4: it smelled.
Speaker 1: So that's kind of crazy. Not what I was going
Speaker 1: to ask you.
Speaker 4: But some people have multiple surgeries, right, you go back,
Speaker 4: you get this, you get that different things. I know,
Speaker 4: folks who started with breast went to tummy tuck then
Speaker 4: may have you know, wanted to do a fat replacement
Speaker 4: in the arms and whatever.
Speaker 1: How many anesthesia.
Speaker 4: Appointments or how many times it's too many times to
Speaker 4: keep getting anesthesia?
Speaker 6: You know, I wouldn't say there's a limit as far
Speaker 6: as how many times, but what I would say is
Speaker 6: that every time that you undergo sarchy, every time you
Speaker 6: undergo anesthesia, that is a risk. And so the more
Speaker 6: surgeries you have, the more times you're putting.
Speaker 5: Yourself at risk.
Speaker 6: And so you know, I do, and I have done
Speaker 6: different cosmetic procedures, mommy makeovers, gastric bypass, tummy tucks, you
Speaker 6: do that. I worked with a plastic surgeon in Peoria, Illinois,
Speaker 6: and people would fly in from around the country because
Speaker 6: he was such an amazing plastic surgeon. And it's kind
Speaker 6: of fun to do those cases because you know that
Speaker 6: these people, you know, it's purely elective and you're trying
Speaker 6: to make sure that you keep them happy. But it's
Speaker 6: not about a limit as far as how many anesthetics
Speaker 6: you can have. But every time you do go under
Speaker 6: the knife, you are at risk. And we've seen people
Speaker 6: like Joan Rivers, Kanye Wells, Kanye Westmom who unfortunately have
Speaker 6: had really bad So the decision to have surgery should
Speaker 6: not be taken lightly at all. And I want to
Speaker 6: say this too, whenever you're looking for a plastic surgeon,
Speaker 6: you want to look at their credentials, not just word
Speaker 6: of mouth, not just social media what they're posting on Instagram,
Speaker 6: but you want to make sure your plastic surgeon is
Speaker 6: Board certified, and you want to look at their record
Speaker 6: to make sure you're getting a good plastic surgeon who
Speaker 6: has a reputation of delivering good outcomes safely.
Speaker 1: How do you find out if they killed a bunch
Speaker 1: of people?
Speaker 4: No, I'm just choking, but I mean I do want
Speaker 4: to know, like because it because saying that the doctor
Speaker 4: killed the person is not really accurate because it depends
Speaker 4: on the person's medical history and this and that and
Speaker 4: the third. But nonetheless, there is something to be said
Speaker 4: about doctors plastic surgeons who've had a number of fatalities,
Speaker 4: you know, on the tables.
Speaker 1: So how do you find that out? Where do you go?
Speaker 5: Yeah?
Speaker 6: So my advice is, once you have the doctor's name,
Speaker 6: to go to the medical board.
Speaker 5: You can go to the.
Speaker 6: Plastic surgeries, the Plastic Surgeons Medical Board, and you can
Speaker 6: look up their license and see what the record is.
Speaker 6: I'll have to send you, guys the website for that.
Speaker 6: There's one specifically for plastic surgeons.
Speaker 4: Okay, well, thank you, because you know I need to
Speaker 4: I'm forty five. Some things need to be fixed up
Speaker 4: because stuff is just not let me tell you after
Speaker 4: a certain age. And my son is going to argue,
Speaker 4: like the other day, I was trying to tell him
Speaker 4: like I am fat and I'm trying to work on it.
Speaker 4: He's like, you worked out three times in two months
Speaker 4: and you got the nerve, you know, and then trying
Speaker 4: to cut back on the food.
Speaker 1: I understand.
Speaker 4: In fact, I took Manzeiro for three weeks and the
Speaker 4: first thing that happened to me, and it really works.
Speaker 1: It stopped me.
Speaker 4: From having the sugar cravings because sugar is sugar is
Speaker 4: my achilles heel, like that is the thing that if
Speaker 4: I'm gonna die for something, it's gonna be sugar.
Speaker 1: And I don't eat cakes. I like cereal, I like.
Speaker 4: Ginger ale, And now they want to tell you gingerl
Speaker 4: is not good for you. I have to have ginger
Speaker 4: el twice a day. That's the thing for me. So
Speaker 4: but anyway, I took mon Gyro. It was going well
Speaker 4: and then I lost my whole butt. And as soon
Speaker 4: as my booty went down to a flat pancake, I said,
Speaker 4: y'all can take this Maneiro back. I don't want it,
Speaker 4: no thank you, but I can see the benefit. So
Speaker 4: I get people with all of these things. But as
Speaker 4: I'm getting older, one of the things I realize is
Speaker 4: that working out, eating well, doing all of that, it
Speaker 4: does not remove the fat from certain places on a
Speaker 4: woman's body. You can work out, you can do all
Speaker 4: of it, but there are still pockets and places that
Speaker 4: it feels like no matter what you do that it
Speaker 4: just doesn't get there. The monzero didn't because, by the way,
Speaker 4: the reason why I took it for three weeks because
Speaker 4: I'm not obviously pretty small person. The reason why I
Speaker 4: took it was because my stomach is like a tire
Speaker 4: track so around the back and the sides of my
Speaker 4: stomach that and it didn't care. De mon Gerald did
Speaker 4: nothing for that. I'm a pilates freak. I love pilates.
Speaker 4: Nothing for that. It just none of this stuff works
Speaker 4: for that area.
Speaker 5: M Yeah, spot spot training and spot fat loss. It's
Speaker 5: very it's very difficult.
Speaker 6: Like you said, people gain weight and lose weight in
Speaker 6: different areas. And there are a lot of reports with
Speaker 6: Munjaro and the other weight loss drugs that it's kind
Speaker 6: of the areas where people lose weight sometimes it's not
Speaker 6: very desirable. People lose a lot of face fat that
Speaker 6: makes them look a little bit older. I had never
Speaker 6: heard of losing fat on your bottom, but it makes sense.
Speaker 1: It happened to me.
Speaker 4: But thank you, thank you so much, doctor Singleton. We
Speaker 4: appreciate you for coming and talking with us. We need
Speaker 4: a monthly check in check out.
Speaker 3: Because I just want to just I need the regimen
Speaker 3: just to stay young, Okay, okay, to complete stay young.
Speaker 2: I don't want to get old, my eyesight get bad.
Speaker 1: I'll be like, no way, you're pretty healthy.
Speaker 2: I mean I'm pretty healthy.
Speaker 4: You know.
Speaker 3: I work out, Like how many times a week should
Speaker 3: we be working out when you in your upper forties.
Speaker 1: Upper forties. This man is hilarious.
Speaker 5: Upper for that's a good question.
Speaker 6: You know, everybody has to work out and not just
Speaker 6: doing cardio, not just getting steps, but actually doing resistance training.
Speaker 6: My mom just turned sixty four recently and she still
Speaker 6: lifts weights. It's important that as we age. You know,
Speaker 6: every year after forty, you're losing muscle mass, and so
Speaker 6: if you're not lifting weights, if you're not doing things
Speaker 6: like gardening or sit ups or push ups, you're losing
Speaker 6: muscle mass. You're losing bone masks. Your bones are becoming weaker,
Speaker 6: and so it's important to stay active. The CDC has
Speaker 6: put forth the guidelines as far as how much we
Speaker 6: should be working out. I forget the exact amounts, but
Speaker 6: it's important to do both strength training and cardio to
Speaker 6: stay healthy.
Speaker 4: Before you go, let me ask you this last last question.
Speaker 4: When do the men start becoming impotent? Because that starts.
Speaker 4: I hear a lot of women. They don't talk about
Speaker 4: it publicly, but they're in marriages or relationships and they
Speaker 4: start saying things are not working like it used to.
Speaker 4: And it seems like women increase in our libido and
Speaker 4: then men start going in the opposite direction.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I mean that's different for every guy.
Speaker 6: You know, as we get older, our arteries get stiffer
Speaker 6: and the circulation is not the way that it used
Speaker 6: to be as whenever we were younger, and so as men,
Speaker 6: sometimes obesity can also affect your ability your.
Speaker 5: Performance in the bedroom. So things like obesity.
Speaker 4: Hearts so professional, like we say, stay up around.
Speaker 2: Things.
Speaker 3: Should men be taken as healthy to keep your arteries
Speaker 3: and on things like that?
Speaker 2: Clear?
Speaker 1: Good question.
Speaker 6: Yeah, So, like you said, eating plenty of vegetables, green
Speaker 6: leafy vegetables to lower your cholesterol, getting plenty of protein
Speaker 6: you're in the gym, exercise and that boost your testosterone
Speaker 6: which helps with performance as well.
Speaker 5: Those are the most important things.
Speaker 6: Healthy diet, healthy exercise, and also a healthy body weight, uh,
Speaker 6: to improve your testosterone levels as well.
Speaker 5: And if you are.
Speaker 6: Having issues with impotence, you know that might be a
Speaker 6: good opportunity to bring your husband and bring your boyfriend
Speaker 6: to the doctor because he can help not all lean
Speaker 6: with treatment for the impotence, but also can potentially help
Speaker 6: with lifestyle modification to make just the overall health picture better.
Speaker 2: M M.
Speaker 4: Well, there's the there's the promo for this show what happened,
Speaker 4: that's gonna be the promo for this men when the
Speaker 4: men become impotent. That's that's what I want you to
Speaker 4: put up as the promo. Thank you so much, doctor Sington.
Speaker 1: We appreciate you.
Speaker 5: Thank you for having.
Speaker 2: Me appreciate you. King Listen, man, man, give you the performance.
Speaker 1: It's not just about performance. Is like, yeah, but I.
Speaker 2: Would imagine you.
Speaker 4: Okay, But what I'm saying is that impotence it has
Speaker 4: to be like something else in your life that's impacted,
Speaker 4: not just sexual, right, Like don't you need that thing
Speaker 4: to work a certain way to put in the right
Speaker 4: direction about performing?
Speaker 1: Because you man, I'm mad. The doctor is gone.
Speaker 2: It's about your prostate.
Speaker 3: All those things that you know they paying a role
Speaker 3: of your prostate is clogged up or you're not.
Speaker 2: It's not healthy like that.
Speaker 3: Those things have to do with when you pee, is
Speaker 3: if you're dripping in all those.
Speaker 2: Things you're in large press.
Speaker 3: So a lot of those things about how you're eating,
Speaker 3: like he said, green stuff, you making sure that your
Speaker 3: colon is clean, making sure your arteries are flowing, blood
Speaker 3: is flowing through your arteries. Exercising increases your to stuss
Speaker 3: Own people got you know, see mass all these things
Speaker 3: that they say contributes to your performance.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna just be done with this conversation.
Speaker 4: Well, I'm just telling you I know a lot of
Speaker 4: women who have who are married or with men who
Speaker 4: are you know, a special approaching fifty or fifty years old,
Speaker 4: and they they're like, it ain't the same.
Speaker 2: Sometimes it's the woman.
Speaker 3: What do you mean Sometimes that the women are not
Speaker 3: doing the things necessary for the man to perform.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't think in this situation.
Speaker 3: In that situation, because you don't know what's going on
Speaker 3: in that man's head. The woman is coming to you saying, yo,
Speaker 3: he ain't doing this. It's just like you ever seen
Speaker 3: Poetic Justice and he was talking. She's like, yo, you
Speaker 3: you can't get her. He says, it's you man, You
Speaker 3: you always got negative. I could be with somebody that's
Speaker 3: all beautiful in this and then when it's with you,
Speaker 3: it don't work because sometimes the woman create a level
Speaker 3: of stress. A mind thing is not it's not an
Speaker 3: environment for that. So a lot of sometimes it's maybe yeah,
Speaker 3: he hasn't he's having a physical issue that's medical.
Speaker 4: But sometimes it's meant to like I had said, Okay,
Speaker 4: I'm I just want to be done with this because
Speaker 4: I'm trying to be serious that you being funny. What
Speaker 4: I am saying is that it is not just the woman. Okay,
Speaker 4: they want to and they struggle for various reasons. And
Speaker 4: by the way, a lot of the same women, once
Speaker 4: they get to be about fifty years old, their libido
Speaker 4: is increased, like they're more sexual, they have more stamina,
Speaker 4: and you know, they want to have sex more often
Speaker 4: than they did when they were younger. And then it's
Speaker 4: like an imbalance, like it's not it seems. And I'm
Speaker 4: not saying this for all people, because of course I
Speaker 4: have friends that are married they're having the best sex
Speaker 4: of their lives, because I think there is an age
Speaker 4: where it's kind of like it crosses together.
Speaker 1: But those people are pretty.
Speaker 4: Healthy when I think about it, and as I'm thinking
Speaker 4: of the friends that I have that are fifty years
Speaker 4: old that are married, they definitely are much healthier, and
Speaker 4: they're always on vacation, they always working out, and they
Speaker 4: love it and they love to tell you flat out yep,
Speaker 4: and were having sex. They love to say that. So
Speaker 4: I guess how.
Speaker 1: Fast something to do?
Speaker 3: Mine say mental health, physical health. All those things contribute
Speaker 3: to you know, your performance.
Speaker 1: Your performance, good night, thank you, my son.
Speaker 3: So for my I don't get it. I know everybody's
Speaker 3: seen what's been going on in West Africa in Burkini Fasso,
Speaker 3: where Ibraham Trari, the captain and the interim president, is
Speaker 3: basically stating that he wants his sovereignty of his country.
Speaker 3: He doesn't want outside influence, he doesn't want the white
Speaker 3: settlers that have come there. He doesn't he don't think
Speaker 3: they need to be there. And it's so hypocritical to
Speaker 3: me that America in France don't respect that because you
Speaker 3: hear this president quote unquote America first, and we want
Speaker 3: our own stuff, but you don't want to respect the
Speaker 3: sovereignty of another country, right And and to me, it
Speaker 3: plays into race because even when we look at this
Speaker 3: situation with the white people that they bring in from
Speaker 3: over there in Africa saying that there's a genocide going on,
Speaker 3: when there's been going on inside of the Congo for years,
Speaker 3: a real genocide. People know that there's a genocide. And
Speaker 3: it's just so hypocritical to me that America in France
Speaker 3: has this point of view as this man is such
Speaker 3: a threat to anything because he wants sovereignty of his
Speaker 3: own country. He wants to take back his own land.
Speaker 3: He wants his people to be independent of any outside
Speaker 3: influence because that's what he wants. So why does America
Speaker 3: in France see that as a threat, you know? And
Speaker 3: I just don't get it. I get it, but I
Speaker 3: don't get it, you know, because the common sense of it,
Speaker 3: it doesn't make common sense.
Speaker 2: But what I get is.
Speaker 3: Whenever black people want to do something for their own people,
Speaker 3: whenever he's trying to rise and we're building our own
Speaker 3: and we come back to you know, Pan Africanism, when
Speaker 3: we do about doing black first, that is a threat
Speaker 3: to the settler's mindset because they can no longer impose
Speaker 3: their will inside of these countries and colonize, you know.
Speaker 3: So it really, it really has been bothering me. And
Speaker 3: I shout out to Ibrahim Troi. I love him. I
Speaker 3: love his energy, you know, because in order to have
Speaker 3: a revolution, in order to grow, in order for black
Speaker 3: people to actually get where we're supposed to go, it's
Speaker 3: going to be people. It's going to require people who
Speaker 3: are willing to sacrifice their lives.
Speaker 2: You know.
Speaker 3: He's been threatened. They have been you know, attempts on
Speaker 3: his life already, and he stands firm, and he said,
Speaker 3: he embraces the reality. He said, you know, they say,
Speaker 3: what about this person? He tried to do what you
Speaker 3: would do and he was killed? What about this person
Speaker 3: he tried to do what you would do, he was
Speaker 3: locked up, he was this and that, and he said,
Speaker 3: that's what comes with it. I embrace the reality that
Speaker 3: they're gonna make attempts on my life and they might
Speaker 3: actually do it one day. But we can't live in fear.
Speaker 3: There's nothing that we've ever gained in this world that
Speaker 3: was won because we.
Speaker 2: Lived in fear.
Speaker 3: It's nothing wrong with being fear, being fearful, but you're
Speaker 3: supposed to use that fear as the power to continue
Speaker 3: to move on. So I appreciate him, and I just
Speaker 3: don't understand why American friends just don't mind their business.
Speaker 4: Well, I don't have anything to say to that, because,
Speaker 4: like you said, you get it, but then we don't
Speaker 4: get it. So it is what it is. I mean,
Speaker 4: I've been you know, reading and watching and learning a
Speaker 4: little bit about that situation. If people do not know
Speaker 4: what my son is talking about, you should absolutely go
Speaker 4: and do your research, because this is one of those
Speaker 4: moments in history where we will be able, if you
Speaker 4: know anything about history, will have an opportunity to learn
Speaker 4: and watch history play out in real time. Because what
Speaker 4: they are attempting to do to this man and to
Speaker 4: his nation is to suppress it as they have any
Speaker 4: other place around the world where people of African descent
Speaker 4: le people with dark skin are located, and that is
Speaker 4: to ensure that those nations represent their interests.
Speaker 1: And bow to the.
Speaker 4: What is it called the monarchies and the olibarchies of
Speaker 4: our world. And you know, I think, like you said,
Speaker 4: they're doing a good job there of putting it on
Speaker 4: mainstream and putting it in the face of the people
Speaker 4: on so many I've watched all these podcasts and shows
Speaker 4: and news clips here and there where people are talking
Speaker 4: about what's happening, which is helpful to that nation because
Speaker 4: once you when you put it on front street, it's
Speaker 4: harder for them to do the things that they want
Speaker 4: to do. Right. But what I do notice is that
Speaker 4: the media is now trying to drag him. This is
Speaker 4: what they do every single time. That's what I'm saying.
Speaker 4: If you don't know history, go back and study, because
Speaker 4: what you will see, what you will notice. And it
Speaker 4: was done in Nelson Mandela, and it has been done
Speaker 4: over and over and over again to any black or
Speaker 4: any African, or anybody of dark skin who decided to
Speaker 4: say that we now we no longer want the rule
Speaker 4: of particularly Europe. Excuse me, hello, we don't want the
Speaker 4: queen and again the monarchy to run our nation. Anytime
Speaker 4: that happens, the first thing they do is start to
Speaker 4: demonize and strip the leader of such revolution of their
Speaker 4: self respect and of their dignity before the press. They
Speaker 4: want to demonize you. They want to make people say
Speaker 4: they want to stay away from you. And as they
Speaker 4: do that, it makes it much easier for other folks
Speaker 4: to sort of come, you know, well, it makes it
Speaker 4: easier for them to go in and impose their will
Speaker 4: because at that point most of us are running away.
Speaker 4: They're doing the same exact thing in Gaza, the same thing.
Speaker 4: They want to demonize the people. They want you to
Speaker 4: think that you're going to be called, that you're going
Speaker 4: to be called a lover of a terrorist group that
Speaker 4: you are. You know, you are full of hate and
Speaker 4: you support hate, and you support the murder of Jews,
Speaker 4: or you are anti Semitic. That is the language that
Speaker 4: will be used about you if you choose to speak
Speaker 4: up about what's happening in Gaza or it's Palestinians in general.
Speaker 4: I was just told that Microsoft has now made it
Speaker 4: it is banned where they're internal emails. You can't even say.
Speaker 4: You can't use word genocide. I think you can't say Gaza.
Speaker 4: It was a few different words that have recently been banned,
Speaker 4: which are all words that relate to what has taken
Speaker 4: place in that part of the world. And so you know,
Speaker 4: our dear brother Charlamagne did a long piece the other
Speaker 4: day about these two young people who were killed the
Speaker 4: Israel at the Israeli embassy in DC just a few
Speaker 4: days ago, and he talked about how what goes on
Speaker 4: in the world impacts us right here in America. If
Speaker 4: we think that we're just going to say, well, that's
Speaker 4: over there, that has nothing to do with me, you
Speaker 4: are mistaken that what takes place over there impacts the
Speaker 4: political the political environment here, and that political environment could
Speaker 4: turn into a violent environment when people get to the
Speaker 4: point where they feel like their voices are not being
Speaker 4: heard in other ways, and we definitely do not want
Speaker 4: to see a lashing out of a killing of any people.
Speaker 4: We don't want to see innocent bystanders and people you know,
Speaker 4: being gunned down on our streets in America or anywhere
Speaker 4: else in the world. And at the same time, we
Speaker 4: don't want to see little girls, babies, children, fathers, mothers,
Speaker 4: anybody dying in fires and bombings, being starved to death,
Speaker 4: being really exiled, and a genocide taking place where people
Speaker 4: are losing their lives and losing any sense of their
Speaker 4: culture and the place where that belongs to them. We
Speaker 4: don't want to see that happen anything.
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