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Speaker 1: My mother thinks she can sleep in a tent in

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Speaker 2: Get her out of your yard, dude, get her there

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Speaker 2: for five years, crazy sentences.

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Speaker 1: That's her yard. And this is again to answer the

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Speaker 1: question of how do you handle housing issues? And by

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Speaker 1: the way, I don't know if you knew this, Sam,

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Speaker 1: what if you knew the smiles? You can join us

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Speaker 1: live you do every weekday, not the weekends.

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Speaker 2: Every weekday, thick standard time.

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Speaker 1: Just stop a profile.

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Speaker 2: To see it faster than plumb it.

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Speaker 1: Guys. Guys, by the way, you can join us live

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Speaker 1: on YouTube every weekday at three pm Pacific.

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Speaker 3: Centertime, just to failed it. I got everywhere of that.

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Speaker 1: Jess and learn says, I'm a twenty nine year old

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Speaker 1: woman and my mother and I have had our problems.

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Speaker 2: Woman, I'm a twenty nine year old woman.

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Speaker 1: Just like many other toxic mother daughter relationships. I left

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Speaker 1: but that's a story for a different post. And continue

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Speaker 1: to keep communication open. She's continued to cause drama at

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Speaker 1: every major event in my life, but I consider myself

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Speaker 1: a pro at moving on. At this point, I have

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Speaker 1: a visit during this time. Over the past few months.

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Speaker 1: She's mentioned a few times, and we've worked through the

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Speaker 1: she comes to visit, she will likely not have funding

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Speaker 1: for anything more than gas. She plans to bring a

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Speaker 1: tent for her and her husband to sleep in during

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Speaker 1: the stay, and is inquired about an available space in

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Speaker 1: any amount of time, much less several days. Why does

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Speaker 2: I think maybe it's too small, Oh.

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Speaker 4: He doesn't have a couch, or like they couldn't get

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Speaker 4: like a little you know, air mattress.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I yeah, I'm like it could You know what

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Speaker 1: But I'm confused because they had been talking about the

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Speaker 2: Maybe she just wants the camp, maybe she likes it,

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Speaker 2: maybe she likes this camp life. But like, I mean,

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Speaker 2: is any I guess if multiple people have you know,

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Speaker 2: and she's like, mom and dad were like, hey, can

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Speaker 2: I don't think my neighbors would be chill with you.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I think that's probably what it is. Yeah, at

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Speaker 2: I think making her Maybe it's maybe it's both.

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Speaker 3: That's just classic mom, classic mom.

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Speaker 1: She's a camper. Once she pretended she even pretended to

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Speaker 2: I can't believe anyone would fake turetts.

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Speaker 1: That's embarrassing.

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Speaker 2: That honestly is embarrassing.

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Speaker 1: That's so.

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Speaker 2: And I can't believe anyone would do that.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it would be terrible to know that anyone would

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Speaker 2: Yeah, why is she moving all around the country with

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Speaker 1: To just gas money? I guess, but I feel.

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Speaker 2: Like gas money get there?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, like, if you're running out of money,

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Speaker 2: long ago where the guys like, I'm in so much debt,

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Speaker 2: that I got into the divorce, but still has a

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Speaker 2: ton of debt. Like why are people traveling with debt?

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Speaker 2: Pay off your debts first, pay off your debt. Good advice,

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Speaker 1: I have no idea what will happen, but I'm expecting,

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Speaker 1: Uh what don't you want to see us response anytime?

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Speaker 1: Since I advised her not to make the trip at all,

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Speaker 1: I want to know what their first plan was before

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Speaker 2: I mean, I mean, like I get like maybe they

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Speaker 2: if you look at BLM land, it's like all around.

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Speaker 3: I heard you say that earlier. Yeah, and I didn't

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, you thought like black protests Bureau of Land Man.

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Speaker 1: So you find an encampment and you just join it,

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Speaker 3: But then you get a free places.

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Speaker 1: Usually there's free food. Edit. Wow, I have never gotten

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Speaker 1: So I'm going to answer a few questions I feel

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Speaker 1: I would regret losing. I'm just afraid, I guess. Number two,

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Speaker 1: why don't you offer to put her in a hotel. A.

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Speaker 1: I'm like a lot of people in my age group

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Speaker 1: these days, druggling. I'm not even the only earner in

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Speaker 1: but it would be irresponsible to attempt a trip I

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Speaker 1: is not worth the moment of happiness I might find

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Speaker 1: checking in on others I miss And number three? Is

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Speaker 1: it possible her living situation has changed and she doesn't

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Speaker 1: plan on leaving my yard? Who says A. I have

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Speaker 1: never even considered this, and it horrified me to see

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Speaker 1: anything is possible. Thank you all for your life logical advice.

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Speaker 1: I really appreciate knowing that my only little circle isn't

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Speaker 1: wrong to think the things I've seen here, Oh, that

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Speaker 1: hear how she responds to my suggestion that she not come,

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Speaker 1: to this unfortunate story. There isn't it it?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean I think I still stand Yeah, earlier.

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Speaker 1: I think it advising just to not come is the

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Speaker 1: best deal. If you don't have space.

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Speaker 2: For her, you don't have space and wants to.

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Speaker 1: Camp in the backyard that you don't own.

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Speaker 2: And she's gonna end poorly for her because if let's

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Speaker 2: reported by the neighbors. Then the police arrived. Fine, they

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Speaker 2: give her a fine, possibly arrest her. Now she's in

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Speaker 1: She just can't vote.

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Speaker 2: Free retirement for Bob and with one simple hack.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I also never considered her that she might stick around.

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Speaker 4: And just just yeah, just squat. Yeah, if she cares

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Speaker 4: for five years she owns.

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Speaker 1: Just does be really sneaky about it. If they catch

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Speaker 2: You know. Maybe maybe maybe this is a good idea.

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Speaker 2: Maybe we just solved it.

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Speaker 1: Oh, but there's a little bit more I did too. Wow. Okay,

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Speaker 1: apparently this whole I can't afford anything. But gas story

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Speaker 1: was all a ruse to get to spend more time together.

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Speaker 1: While she visits. Allegedly, she is more than comfortable financially

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Speaker 1: into financial hardship as she's making better money than ever before.

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Speaker 1: What what?

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Speaker 1: Plus she gets really good deals on rooms because she

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Speaker 1: works for a popular hotel brand. I honestly don't know

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Speaker 1: what to think at this point. What a switch. I

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Speaker 1: honest don't know if it'll be worse if she's lying

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Speaker 1: or if it's one hundred percent legitimate and she's lied

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Speaker 1: about financial hardship simply to play on my emotions. Either way,

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Speaker 1: I can't stop her from making the trip. All I

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Speaker 1: can do is make sure I stick to my boundaries

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Speaker 1: and not allow her to overstep them. Thank you all

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Speaker 1: for your helpful advice and honest opinions. Hard as it

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Speaker 1: may be to hear some of them, I can't deny

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Speaker 1: it all needed to be said. This didn't explain you.

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Speaker 2: Know what I think, actually what I think. The mom

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Speaker 2: just misses.

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Speaker 1: Well. But we know that they have a bad relationship,

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Speaker 1: which all the more.

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Speaker 2: All the more that she feels like she needs to

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Speaker 1: But we also know that she's a little trickster. She

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Speaker 2: He's making money, So she says she misses them.

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Speaker 3: There's face time, Yeah, they can.

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Speaker 2: Chat, but the best face time is a tent right

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Speaker 1: Yeah. I don't know. I feel like the hotel. If

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Speaker 2: Yes, now that you have reminded me of those details.

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Speaker 1: Right now camping in your backyard? Right now?

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Speaker 2: We can do a we can do a call in, yeah,

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Speaker 2: in number if that's easier.

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Speaker 1: You probably will be easy. What is it? Do you guys? Remember?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, megana one hundred percent she's lying.

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Speaker 2: Shall we sit spin that wheel?

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Speaker 1: Spin that we.

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Speaker 2: So exciting?

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Speaker 6: Oh it broke no more when will spin broke broke,

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Speaker 1: I did really bad chopster fire. Thank you for the

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Speaker 1: ten buck tip. Welcome to the wham Queen. Hello, Hello,

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Speaker 1: our queen has been putting in the hours this week

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Speaker 1: I wake up, I find all the stories for the day,

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Speaker 1: and then I jump on Empress, have never more, Empress

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Speaker 2: with Miles is necessary. He needs to experience how streams

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Speaker 1: Sitting without kidding, says Sophia said, if she had a

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Speaker 1: I wasn't. I I was finding stories. I was finding stories, guys.

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Speaker 1: I wasn't making a rap all right, the rap battle

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Speaker 1: I have words here.

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Speaker 5: I wish John was here, but Miles will do I

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Speaker 5: know Sam's gonna kill it.

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Speaker 2: I could kill it.

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Speaker 1: I have words that you guys have to like say

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Speaker 1: as you do it. The same words. Yeah, they are

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Speaker 2: Can do different words.

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Speaker 1: Just come up with the new words.

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Speaker 4: Okay, okay, okay, okay, like okay, those are the only words.

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Speaker 2: We don't have another style.

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Speaker 1: Words that are possible, really find says John's purple shampoo

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Speaker 7: Tina with the twenty gifted memberships, my goodness giving us

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Speaker 1: Yes, Tina M dot.

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Speaker 2: Tina m die. Oh my goodness, Tina m dot brain

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Speaker 2: right degradation. Yeah, there you go?

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Speaker 1: Ready, ready, sammy.

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Speaker 2: Way, what if I what do I have to do?

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Speaker 1: Okay the last see see what I said to you one?

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Speaker 7: It's gonna pull my hair and make it less soil blue.

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Speaker 7: It's gonna make it yellow. And I'm gonna be a

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Speaker 7: getting like Tom Brady, gonna do some doggy style and

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Speaker 7: then beat old lady. Then I'm gonna follow my girlfriend

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Speaker 2: But no, it just was a little hit and I'm

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Speaker 1: That was really good? Oh?

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Speaker 3: Okay, I did?

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Speaker 1: Okay, Here we go magic on the mic.

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Speaker 4: No hocus, focus, Hold up, everybody, Y'll stop talking, let

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Speaker 4: me focus. There we go dropping bars in the studio.

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Speaker 4: When my boy Riley with my girls, Worm Queen, We're on.

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Speaker 3: The same team.

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Speaker 2: I've never been here before.

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Speaker 1: Look at this dog. It is so cute.

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Speaker 3: What's her name?

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Speaker 4: Ava, Ava, Ava, You're my girl. I just got a name, Kristen.

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Speaker 4: That's the name of my commercial agent. She's a great one.

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Speaker 4: She's a real one. She puts me out there and

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Speaker 3: Thanks, let's go more than the rings.

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Speaker 6: Two thousands also big, Yes, it's tenfoil hot with the

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Speaker 2: Fifty Oh my, Christen, that is so many.

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Speaker 7: If you're not in the YouTube right now, you should

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Speaker 7: be because you're about to get freaking everyone gifted.

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Speaker 1: Everybody got a gifted membership. Say thank you, Kristen.

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Speaker 1: Mommy, that was actually really good. Yeah, oh yeah, thanks

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Speaker 2: Yeah, Molly and I did ours and we did horribly.

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Speaker 2: First wheel spend ever, first wheel spent ever.

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Speaker 1: One day we'll get John onto this because we'll really

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Speaker 2: Okay, here a poem.

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Speaker 1: I have a poem about a worm that's so fitting.

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Speaker 2: No I made it, Joe would it.

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Speaker 1: On stream already? But let's read it in that's.

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Speaker 2: How it started.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's kind of cute. Yeah, do I read it now? Okay, Uh,

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Speaker 1: This is called a bit like you. The nematode worm.

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Speaker 2: That's it. I like it.

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Speaker 1: That was beautiful, beautiful. I felt touched.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, there's a real tone to that.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's about worms. I saw him on the pavement.

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Speaker 2: But shall we get into this next story?

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Speaker 1: Get into it? Riley, can you let it out? No?

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Speaker 2: All right? No, hey, it was getting let out snaps

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Speaker 2: in the chat. All right. So my landlord tried to

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Speaker 2: Knock him out, knock him out. This all is answering

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Speaker 2: This first story comes from Power Powerful Raid and they

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Speaker 2: say a few years ago, we are in a small

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Speaker 2: no problem. He told us he would be sanding the

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Speaker 1: Covered with prepared Yeah, that's not good at all.

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Speaker 2: It took hours of wiping down and vacuuming to get

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Speaker 2: Darn toutin President Putin. He then wanted to come back

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Speaker 2: value to the house and it looks better, etc. However,

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Speaker 2: he told us he would be there for four hours.

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Speaker 2: Well eight hours later, he decided that was enough for

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Speaker 2: the day and called it. That night, he messaged me

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Speaker 2: saying he wanted to come back and do more painting

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Speaker 2: the next day. I said that didn't work for us,

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Speaker 2: wasn't enough notice, didn't allow us piece of living, et cetera.

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Speaker 2: He then tried to claim that in our contract, the

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Speaker 2: Tennessee contract he called it, it stated that we must

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Speaker 2: allow him to complete projects in a timely fashion, and

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Speaker 2: if I were to decline him entry, then the cost

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Speaker 2: of the rest of the project and its completion would

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Speaker 2: lie with me and be my responsibility.

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Speaker 1: Okay, but a timely fashion doesn't mean oh, I can

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Speaker 1: come in every day whenever I want.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. And also he said he was gonna be there

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Speaker 2: for four hours, and it doubled in time and he's going.

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Speaker 1: To do the next Yeah, it sucks you're to have

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Speaker 1: forty eight hours. Notice that is not sound.

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Speaker 2: It's like you're not doing your job. It sound like

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Speaker 2: you're not doing your job.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Well I sent this text. It's always nice when people

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Speaker 2: lie to you in writing off the lovely property manager,

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Speaker 2: who again called me and said not to worry, she

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Speaker 2: would sort it out. About a week goes by and

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Speaker 2: I get a text asking, very nicely if what I

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Speaker 2: if I would allow them access in a few days

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Speaker 2: to complete the work. No problem. His Lordship and a

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Speaker 2: pal arrived caring on painting, and they were there for

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Speaker 2: another eight hours. However, this time I don't think they

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Speaker 2: took any pleasure in it. My PC is next to

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Speaker 2: my PS five, so on my PC, I put tiptoe

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Speaker 2: through the tulips on repeat for the full eight hours

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Speaker 2: MAT's volume. I just popped my headphones into my controller

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Speaker 2: and gamed all day long. After eight hours, his Lordship

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Speaker 2: comes up the stairs and into the lounge. It's open

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Speaker 2: plan and said with great strain and wariness of a

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Speaker 2: man worn down. He said that they had finally finished,

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Speaker 2: without breaking eye contact with my screen. I said okay, bye,

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Speaker 2: and he just hovered for a second before shakily walking

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Speaker 2: out as soon. Yeah, I can't help that anymore. As

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Speaker 2: soon as I heard the front door closed, I turned

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Speaker 2: the music off. No doubt it was for you, big boy.

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Speaker 2: Don't lie to people, especially those who know how to

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Speaker 2: read a contract. And there are some quick relevant comments

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Speaker 2: that I breezed through.

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Speaker 3: Everyone knows that.

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Speaker 1: Window like that song.

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Speaker 2: That song, Yeah, dude, it's it is a torture.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, emambras music torture.

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Speaker 3: Look, I never said anything about it.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, dude, I would have been that they stayed. Miss

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Speaker 2: Jabers says psychological warfare. Yeah, it is definitely psychological.

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Speaker 3: I respect it.

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Speaker 2: I do respect to respect it and at it. Since

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Speaker 2: it might not be well known to strong are somewhat

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Speaker 2: too strong? Oh wait, no, we already to strong arm

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Speaker 2: someone is to bully or intimidate them. He didn't literally

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Speaker 2: put strong arms on me.

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Speaker 1: His arms were so strong, so strong, he was shaking.

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Speaker 2: Relevant comments Onery Winter one five nine says, no way,

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Speaker 2: I would let them sand anything while I'm still in

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Speaker 2: the house. They can wait until I move. And Powerful

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Speaker 2: Raid Who's op says weren't moving at the time. The

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Speaker 2: place was being sold, which turned out well because the

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Speaker 2: new owners were really nice and drove like an hour

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Speaker 2: and a half to drop us off Christmas presents, Like

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Speaker 2: what the f way? Too nice And he didn't put

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Speaker 2: the rent up because he knew we were looking after

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Speaker 2: the place and we're planning on moving. So there are

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Speaker 2: some good landlords and that's all the answer. How do

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Speaker 2: you handle housing issues, I guess with psychological warfare.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I think that if your landlord is not, you know,

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Speaker 1: complying with your lease and stuff and not giving you notice,

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Speaker 1: psychological warfare.

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Speaker 2: Psychological warfare is needed. Also, what else is needed is

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Speaker 2: join her alive right now. Hit the profile, actually do it.

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Speaker 1: It's just a small or okay, storytime, but it's not

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Speaker 1: my story. My one of my friend's landlords. She's she's

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Speaker 1: moving out right now, and the landlord keeps showing people

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Speaker 1: her apartment but not telling her that they're coming, and

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Speaker 1: so they'll literally open the door and like show people

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Speaker 1: the apartment without any notice. And she was like, yeah,

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Speaker 1: like there wasn't a time that my roommate and I

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Speaker 1: were out getting out of the shower and people just

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Speaker 1: entered our apartment.

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Speaker 7: Ill.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I was like that's illegal, and she's like, I.

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Speaker 4: Know, help, Yeah, film it because like if you need privacy.

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Speaker 2: At all, for the for the police.

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Speaker 3: Okay, story time.

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Speaker 4: I got in trouble when I was in high school

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Speaker 4: because I was sneaking out of my house and my

536
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Speaker 4: parents took my bedroom door off of its hinges, so

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Speaker 4: I just didn't have a door for like months.

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Speaker 2: We've read stories about that.

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Speaker 4: And the way I got it back was I just

540
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Speaker 4: started walking around my room naked, and eventually they got

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Speaker 4: sick of that and they gave me my door back.

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Speaker 3: But like iological warfare.

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Speaker 4: Psychological war for them hang out naked to yet a

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Speaker 4: little gross and.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, honestly, just they should just have a nude policy

546
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Speaker 2: and their their the Yeah, they should just walk around

547
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Speaker 2: nude and then if the people come in, then they

548
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Speaker 2: won't get the house, like oh I should have given.

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Speaker 4: Probably hard to sell a place, like when there's naked

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Speaker 4: people around, especially the families.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, big brain, move your landlords, bite your landlords. But

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Speaker 2: you know, what else we have to fight against?

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Speaker 1: Stars follow up, Thank you for the two bucks. I

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Speaker 1: had a landlord, shame you for my job.

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Speaker 2: Awful, It's terrible.

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Speaker 1: What we what do we do?

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Speaker 2: What's the end of this episode?

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Speaker 1: Miles? Thank you so much for coming on, my dude.

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Speaker 3: Thank you all for.

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Speaker 4: Having met a blast pleasure style.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, we got the freestyle and done.

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Speaker 3: It's like high school, bro.

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Speaker 1: It was very good. It was great, awesome, all right.

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Speaker 2: Later this episode is over, but guess what we got

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Speaker 2: more episodes coming right now.

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Speaker 1: This episode is brought to you by Okay freestyle.

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Speaker 2: Okay freestyle.

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Speaker 1: Maintenance guys bargin and that's such a not a win.

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Speaker 1: You better watch out, or I'm gonna shout get out

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Speaker 1: of my home. I'm all alone. I don't want no

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Speaker 1: landlord here. I'm gonna shout it in your ear really often.

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Speaker 2: I like this the flow switch.

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Speaker 1: Thanks, yeah, I know I was trying to.

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Speaker 2: Find in my ear. You can be a victed here.

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Speaker 1: Give me twenty four notice.

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Speaker 2: Or I will be naked and will show this.

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Speaker 1: Oh wait, okay, wait, let's do that. Okay, you give

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Speaker 1: me a rhyme and the must pitch off. I have

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Speaker 1: to rhyme whatever you okay.

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Speaker 2: Go, I will never I will never not show my bum.

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Speaker 1: I will always rub a dumb dumb. Oh wait, I

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Speaker 1: have to do.

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Speaker 2: I can put on I can put on a I

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Speaker 2: can put on a freestyle beat.

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Speaker 1: Put on a freestyle beat. This is what Sam does

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Speaker 1: on car like long car rides. He puts on a

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Speaker 1: freestyle beat and he goes, so feel, let's do it,

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Speaker 1: let's do it. De Beam says, please stop. We can't

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Speaker 1: stop to wait for Ley. We have to wait for Riley. Guys.

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Speaker 2: It's not our faulty. Hey here. Oh oh wait. Actually

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna do my favorite beat.

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Speaker 1: Huh huh wow. I don't like it anymore than you

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Speaker 1: guys do. When I'm on the road trip.

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Speaker 2: What you do? You love it? He goes, he come on,

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Speaker 2: come on route with.

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Speaker 1: Me, and I go no, and he goes, come on,

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Speaker 1: just a freestyle. He bugs me and toil do it.

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Speaker 1: He uses the cringe to be cringe, just to be free.

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Speaker 2: That is true.

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Speaker 1: Okay, we're Riley's back. Riley's back. It's too late Sam.

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Speaker 2: The royalty yes, no, it's royalty free.

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Speaker 1: Okay, what are we on? And is it me? Landload?

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Speaker 2: T No?

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Speaker 1: I did that Okay, we're on the next episode number three.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, next episode. Wow, wow, pitt it Sophia. Wait, why

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Speaker 2: are people hating on this freestyle freestyle wrapping? You guys

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Speaker 2: are just you didn't even do anything.

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Speaker 1: We didn't even one. We did one. Oh okay, ready,

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Speaker 1: my best friend told our friends that my boyfriend chat

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Speaker 1: tried to cheat on me with her. Oh no. And

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Speaker 1: this stands with the question of how should you confront

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Speaker 1: a liar?

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Speaker 2: Any thoughts uh, I'm excited to see how they do it.

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Speaker 1: All right, And just by the way, you can join

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Speaker 1: us a live on YouTube every weekday at three pm

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Speaker 1: pacifics standard time to stop on a profile.

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Speaker 2: That was good, that was good, I'm gonna I'm gonna arn.

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Speaker 2: I'm going to memorize it so I can say, yeah,

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Speaker 2: memorize it.

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Speaker 1: By the way, you can join us live on YouTube

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Speaker 1: at three pm Pacific standard time. Just tap on a

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Speaker 1: profile every weekday, every weekday. So puzzleheaded Tart six nine

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Speaker 1: three says throw away because some of my friends follow

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Speaker 2: T Is this a okay? Storytime?

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Speaker 4: No.

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Speaker 1: Two Hot takes oh Ellen twenty two female and I

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Speaker 1: twenty one female met through an internship three years ago

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Speaker 1: and instantly became best friends, best friends best friend. About

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Speaker 1: a year ago, I started crushing on George, twenty four

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Speaker 1: male who interns at the same company but in a

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Speaker 1: different department as us. Ellen and one other of our

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Speaker 1: coworkers set us up last fall. Whoa uh, and we

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Speaker 1: really hit it off. We've fallen in love and we

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Speaker 1: often talk about our future together.

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Speaker 2: This is that yah when people talk.

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Speaker 1: This is where things get messy. From early in our relationship,

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Speaker 1: pretty much as soon as we went from just dating

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Speaker 1: to being official, Ellen has been colder to me.

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Speaker 2: He's jealous.

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Speaker 1: She's never made it a secret that she doesn't particularly

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Speaker 1: like George, though she's never said anything direct about it.

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Speaker 1: The only issue she ever raised was when we first

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Speaker 1: got together and he got really sick. I was STU

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Speaker 1: for the m CAT at the time and I was

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Speaker 1: only about a month out from my main test day

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Speaker 1: when he had a pretty bad flare up of a

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Speaker 1: chronic illness. Because he knew that Ellen and I were close,

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Speaker 1: he called her to ask her if she thought, uh,

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Speaker 1: he should tell me he was sick, or if it

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Speaker 1: would be better to keep it from me. So he

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Speaker 1: doesn't take me away from my studies. Ellen didn't like

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Speaker 1: this at all. She told me she thought it was

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Speaker 1: incredibly inappropriate that he tried to contact her like that

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Speaker 1: and he shouldn't have called her about something so personal.

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Speaker 2: I think she's jealous.

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Speaker 1: I think she's jealous old, but I don't want oh

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Speaker 1: Pe to worry? Should I do? You think I should

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Speaker 1: talk to her? And she's like, a damn you.

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Speaker 2: I feel like that's a classic, Oh you're doing something

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Speaker 2: so thoughtful for someone else, and it makes me sad

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Speaker 2: because I actually really like you and know what she

663
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Speaker 2: was doing thoughtful things for me.

664
00:35:51,520 --> 00:35:55,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, She's like, literally, don't tell me, literally freaking He's

665
00:35:55,040 --> 00:35:56,040
Speaker 1: a freaking jelly bean.

666
00:35:56,480 --> 00:35:57,960
Speaker 2: She is a jelly bean.

667
00:35:58,360 --> 00:36:01,840
Speaker 1: But she didn't let oh wait. I thought her reaction

668
00:36:02,000 --> 00:36:03,680
Speaker 1: was a little over the top, but I talked to

669
00:36:03,719 --> 00:36:06,040
Speaker 1: George about it, and he apologized to her and never

670
00:36:06,160 --> 00:36:08,480
Speaker 1: called her again. But she did not let it go.

671
00:36:09,640 --> 00:36:11,880
Speaker 1: A few weeks later, at a party, she made a

672
00:36:11,920 --> 00:36:15,040
Speaker 1: comment about how I am always choosing George over my friends.

673
00:36:15,560 --> 00:36:17,080
Speaker 1: My roommate was going to be out of town the

674
00:36:17,120 --> 00:36:19,640
Speaker 1: next week, so she said she should say her goodbyes

675
00:36:19,760 --> 00:36:22,040
Speaker 1: since I would probably just spend the whole week get

676
00:36:22,080 --> 00:36:27,080
Speaker 1: home with George, with George with George. She tried to

677
00:36:27,080 --> 00:36:30,680
Speaker 1: play it off as a joke, but I was never

678
00:36:31,200 --> 00:36:31,839
Speaker 1: what are you doing?

679
00:36:33,640 --> 00:36:33,680
Speaker 4: What?

680
00:36:34,000 --> 00:36:34,640
Speaker 2: This is normal?

681
00:36:34,920 --> 00:36:37,600
Speaker 1: Okay? She tried to play it off as a joke,

682
00:36:37,760 --> 00:36:39,960
Speaker 1: but I was really surprised she felt that way. I

683
00:36:40,120 --> 00:36:42,240
Speaker 1: never wanted to be the kind of girl who turns

684
00:36:42,280 --> 00:36:44,680
Speaker 1: her back on her friends when she gets into a relationship.

685
00:36:45,160 --> 00:36:47,400
Speaker 1: And I had been trying really hard to balance my

686
00:36:47,480 --> 00:36:50,640
Speaker 1: time with my boyfriend and with my friends. But it

687
00:36:50,719 --> 00:36:54,480
Speaker 1: seems she felt neglected, so I started putting more effort

688
00:36:54,560 --> 00:36:57,560
Speaker 1: into our friendship. Over the next few weeks, I tried

689
00:36:57,600 --> 00:36:59,919
Speaker 1: to make plans with her at least five or six times,

690
00:37:00,400 --> 00:37:02,920
Speaker 1: but every time she came up with some excuse not

691
00:37:03,080 --> 00:37:03,440
Speaker 1: to see me.

692
00:37:03,960 --> 00:37:06,480
Speaker 2: She doesn't want to see you. She's jealous of your relationship.

693
00:37:06,560 --> 00:37:09,840
Speaker 1: She's jealous, and she wants to hide in her little

694
00:37:12,200 --> 00:37:15,880
Speaker 1: hobble hole, even once canceling at the last minute inciting

695
00:37:16,000 --> 00:37:19,120
Speaker 1: a meeting she forgot about at ten am on a

696
00:37:19,200 --> 00:37:21,960
Speaker 1: Sunday morning. I don't buy it.

697
00:37:22,320 --> 00:37:28,200
Speaker 2: A meeting on Sunday at ten am, Yeah, I mean,

698
00:37:28,320 --> 00:37:30,319
Speaker 2: she she's just coming up with excuses at this point.

699
00:37:30,560 --> 00:37:33,759
Speaker 2: I mean like like, if this is this is how

700
00:37:33,880 --> 00:37:37,440
Speaker 2: she wants to stop the friendship, then yeah, maybe just

701
00:37:37,480 --> 00:37:40,520
Speaker 2: take the hint. Maybe just letter this letter, let.

702
00:37:40,480 --> 00:37:44,640
Speaker 1: Her die live and let lit learn little die?

703
00:37:45,680 --> 00:37:47,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, liv and let die.

704
00:37:47,719 --> 00:37:49,960
Speaker 1: I was hurt. Yeah there is a song.

705
00:37:50,080 --> 00:37:50,800
Speaker 2: Yeah, how does it go?

706
00:37:51,520 --> 00:37:52,560
Speaker 1: Liv and let die?

707
00:37:53,000 --> 00:37:55,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, that is how it goes. It's like very gravelly.

708
00:37:55,320 --> 00:38:01,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, I was hurt. I knew where friendship was dying,

709
00:38:01,080 --> 00:38:04,440
Speaker 1: and every time I tried to revive it, she rejected me.

710
00:38:06,080 --> 00:38:06,960
Speaker 1: Rejection hurts.

711
00:38:07,160 --> 00:38:13,839
Speaker 2: Also conspiracy theory from Tricia d Maybe she wants Opoh.

712
00:38:14,120 --> 00:38:16,440
Speaker 1: That actually, I think makes more sense. Why she's like

713
00:38:16,560 --> 00:38:19,759
Speaker 1: Opie's boyfriend. Don't even talk to me. I just want

714
00:38:19,800 --> 00:38:21,120
Speaker 1: to spend time with freaking Ope.

715
00:38:22,440 --> 00:38:22,879
Speaker 2: That's true.

716
00:38:23,120 --> 00:38:26,359
Speaker 1: It would be could be. I was hurt. I knew

717
00:38:26,400 --> 00:38:28,200
Speaker 1: our friendship was dying, and every time I tried to

718
00:38:28,239 --> 00:38:32,080
Speaker 1: revive it, she rejected me. Finally, I decided the ball

719
00:38:32,239 --> 00:38:34,640
Speaker 1: was in her court if she wanted to be friends.

720
00:38:34,760 --> 00:38:36,600
Speaker 1: I was open to it, but I was sick of

721
00:38:36,680 --> 00:38:38,680
Speaker 1: being rejected and she would have to be the one

722
00:38:38,800 --> 00:38:43,439
Speaker 1: to reach out to me. She never did. Meanwhile, things

723
00:38:43,520 --> 00:38:46,040
Speaker 1: were deteriorating at work. We had been assigned to the

724
00:38:46,080 --> 00:38:49,880
Speaker 1: same project for the year, which required working very closely together.

725
00:38:50,880 --> 00:38:53,719
Speaker 1: As our friendship fell apart, she started ignoring me at work,

726
00:38:54,080 --> 00:38:56,360
Speaker 1: being rude and short, and making my share of our

727
00:38:56,480 --> 00:38:59,759
Speaker 1: tasks very difficult for me. I felt like she was

728
00:38:59,840 --> 00:39:02,400
Speaker 1: constantly breathing down my neck and waiting to catch me

729
00:39:02,560 --> 00:39:05,680
Speaker 1: in a mistake. I figured she was gossiping about me

730
00:39:05,800 --> 00:39:07,840
Speaker 1: behind my back, but at this point I was so

731
00:39:08,320 --> 00:39:11,480
Speaker 1: exhausted from dealing with her that I couldn't be bothered

732
00:39:11,520 --> 00:39:13,960
Speaker 1: about it. She would say whatever she wanted to say,

733
00:39:14,440 --> 00:39:16,200
Speaker 1: and I would just be nice and patient with her

734
00:39:16,320 --> 00:39:21,000
Speaker 1: and count down the days until our internship ended. That

735
00:39:21,360 --> 00:39:23,880
Speaker 1: really sucks when you're trying to work with someone and

736
00:39:23,960 --> 00:39:26,759
Speaker 1: be professional and they're not doing that.

737
00:39:26,920 --> 00:39:29,279
Speaker 2: They're not giving that because now it's not it's like

738
00:39:29,480 --> 00:39:33,359
Speaker 2: it's worse because it was just a friendship thing. Yeah,

739
00:39:33,400 --> 00:39:37,359
Speaker 2: and now and now it's it's like it's infecting her

740
00:39:37,480 --> 00:39:40,200
Speaker 2: whole life. Yeah, she doesn't deserve that. No.

741
00:39:40,840 --> 00:39:42,480
Speaker 1: I also think that even if you have like a

742
00:39:42,560 --> 00:39:48,000
Speaker 1: friendship breakup, I think you should still be respectful in

743
00:39:48,239 --> 00:39:52,719
Speaker 1: especially in public settings. Yeah, you should, especially if you

744
00:39:52,840 --> 00:39:56,320
Speaker 1: still have to see them day to day. Don't cause dramas.

745
00:39:56,520 --> 00:39:59,919
Speaker 1: You don't have to name well, I mean, I don't

746
00:40:00,040 --> 00:40:02,040
Speaker 1: even know if you necessarily have to respect them, but

747
00:40:02,120 --> 00:40:03,840
Speaker 1: you have to respect the setting that you're in.

748
00:40:04,200 --> 00:40:05,960
Speaker 2: You know, which is respecting them.

749
00:40:06,080 --> 00:40:08,560
Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, I guess so I just mean, like, I

750
00:40:08,560 --> 00:40:10,759
Speaker 1: guess you don't have to like them, but yeah, you

751
00:40:10,880 --> 00:40:13,120
Speaker 1: do have to be professional.

752
00:40:13,239 --> 00:40:15,960
Speaker 2: You have to be professional, which includes respect.

753
00:40:16,160 --> 00:40:18,040
Speaker 1: Yeah. And I also think it's a measure of respect

754
00:40:18,040 --> 00:40:19,960
Speaker 1: to everyone around you because you're not pulling everyone else

755
00:40:20,040 --> 00:40:20,759
Speaker 1: into Yeah.

756
00:40:20,960 --> 00:40:23,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's like like I feel like what this person

757
00:40:23,760 --> 00:40:26,040
Speaker 2: is doing is it's like a it's like a black

758
00:40:26,160 --> 00:40:29,680
Speaker 2: hole of aggression or she's just everyone she's sucking the

759
00:40:29,719 --> 00:40:31,560
Speaker 2: productivity out of the office. Yeah.

760
00:40:33,360 --> 00:40:37,280
Speaker 1: Until today, I had lunch with one of our friends,

761
00:40:37,400 --> 00:40:39,719
Speaker 1: or with one of our other coworkers and my good

762
00:40:39,800 --> 00:40:44,400
Speaker 1: friend K twenty two male, and he told me everything.

763
00:40:45,120 --> 00:40:47,800
Speaker 1: Apparently Ellen has been telling all of her coworkers and

764
00:40:48,080 --> 00:40:51,080
Speaker 1: friends that George has been trying to cheat on me

765
00:40:52,160 --> 00:40:52,720
Speaker 1: with her.

766
00:40:53,640 --> 00:40:59,360
Speaker 2: Cheat on op with her. So she's just making stuff up.

767
00:40:59,400 --> 00:41:01,600
Speaker 1: At this point, I don't believe her. I don't believe

768
00:41:01,640 --> 00:41:02,080
Speaker 1: her at all.

769
00:41:03,880 --> 00:41:07,960
Speaker 2: There's no there's nothing that she's done to make me

770
00:41:08,080 --> 00:41:09,120
Speaker 2: believe her everything.

771
00:41:09,160 --> 00:41:11,359
Speaker 1: Apparently they've only hung out like talk, He's only talked

772
00:41:11,400 --> 00:41:14,080
Speaker 1: to her one on one once, and she freaked.

773
00:41:13,800 --> 00:41:19,080
Speaker 2: Out, Yeah, really, why is she like all there, I don't.

774
00:41:18,920 --> 00:41:21,799
Speaker 1: Know, telling them that he calls her in the middle

775
00:41:21,800 --> 00:41:24,680
Speaker 1: of the night, sends her inappropriate texts, and when I

776
00:41:24,760 --> 00:41:27,239
Speaker 1: hosted a party after I wrote the m cat, he

777
00:41:27,360 --> 00:41:30,880
Speaker 1: spent the whole night eyeing her. Maybe he was glaring

778
00:41:30,920 --> 00:41:32,200
Speaker 1: at her, and she was like, Oh God, he's so

779
00:41:32,320 --> 00:41:35,880
Speaker 1: in to me, and he's like the ill ill.

780
00:41:38,000 --> 00:41:38,320
Speaker 2: I was.

781
00:41:39,120 --> 00:41:41,879
Speaker 1: I knew that none of this is true. I love

782
00:41:42,000 --> 00:41:45,120
Speaker 1: George and I know that he loves me, And even

783
00:41:45,160 --> 00:41:46,960
Speaker 1: as Kay was telling me all this, I knew that

784
00:41:47,040 --> 00:41:50,680
Speaker 1: Ellen was lying. It seemed that Kay didn't believe it either.

785
00:41:51,040 --> 00:41:53,000
Speaker 1: He was just telling me what he had heard. But

786
00:41:53,120 --> 00:41:55,400
Speaker 1: the thought that she'd been going around accusing George of

787
00:41:55,480 --> 00:41:59,560
Speaker 1: infidelity makes me sick. I went straight to George's house

788
00:42:00,000 --> 00:42:02,759
Speaker 1: and told him everything I told him. I didn't even

789
00:42:02,800 --> 00:42:05,320
Speaker 1: think for a second that it was true. And the

790
00:42:05,400 --> 00:42:07,839
Speaker 1: real betrayal is how Ellen made all of this up

791
00:42:07,960 --> 00:42:10,880
Speaker 1: and spread it around. I was crushed to know that

792
00:42:11,000 --> 00:42:13,359
Speaker 1: not only did Ellen say all of this, but she'd

793
00:42:13,440 --> 00:42:16,160
Speaker 1: been saying it to all of my friends for months

794
00:42:16,719 --> 00:42:19,399
Speaker 1: and not one of them came to me about it. Yeah,

795
00:42:19,520 --> 00:42:22,759
Speaker 1: that's also. That also is kind of even if they thought,

796
00:42:23,280 --> 00:42:25,360
Speaker 1: even if they thought that Ellen was lying and they

797
00:42:25,400 --> 00:42:27,239
Speaker 1: didn't trust her, you.

798
00:42:27,239 --> 00:42:30,040
Speaker 2: Should have said it, but away from your friend, like

799
00:42:30,120 --> 00:42:31,839
Speaker 2: I mean, assuming that's your friend. Yeah.

800
00:42:32,080 --> 00:42:34,279
Speaker 1: No, I think both scenarios of if they thought she

801
00:42:34,480 --> 00:42:36,640
Speaker 1: was lying, they should have come to op and said, hey,

802
00:42:37,040 --> 00:42:39,840
Speaker 1: you're spending spreading rumors, just wanted to let you know.

803
00:42:40,400 --> 00:42:41,680
Speaker 1: Or if they thought it was the truth, then they

804
00:42:41,719 --> 00:42:45,680
Speaker 1: should have told her those aren't your friends. Yeah, that's

805
00:42:45,719 --> 00:42:46,279
Speaker 1: really not cool.

806
00:42:46,400 --> 00:42:51,360
Speaker 2: They've shown their loyalty and it's to the to the devil,

807
00:42:52,080 --> 00:42:52,560
Speaker 2: the devil.

808
00:42:54,560 --> 00:42:59,839
Speaker 1: Yeah, and ellenism got him.

809
00:43:00,000 --> 00:43:05,359
Speaker 2: Ellen thinks I Ellen is the devil? Yeah?

810
00:43:05,680 --> 00:43:07,680
Speaker 1: Have you heard it here first? Yeah, I actually heard

811
00:43:07,680 --> 00:43:08,839
Speaker 1: a rumor that Ellen's the devil?

812
00:43:10,000 --> 00:43:13,320
Speaker 2: It is true. Yeah, but you also know about Ellen

813
00:43:13,840 --> 00:43:16,520
Speaker 2: generous and all of her stuff, what you know, she's

814
00:43:16,600 --> 00:43:17,320
Speaker 2: like really mean.

815
00:43:17,440 --> 00:43:18,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, I did actually hear that.

816
00:43:18,840 --> 00:43:22,839
Speaker 2: You know she hi She hires her housekeepers to clean

817
00:43:22,920 --> 00:43:26,600
Speaker 2: her house and hides three match sticks in random places

818
00:43:26,640 --> 00:43:30,080
Speaker 2: in the house and their only can finish when they

819
00:43:30,160 --> 00:43:32,040
Speaker 2: find all the match sticks. Oh, that's a key.

820
00:43:33,080 --> 00:43:37,640
Speaker 1: That's really a key. I don't like that. It's just

821
00:43:37,719 --> 00:43:42,400
Speaker 1: like rich people behavior. George helped me. Where was I?

822
00:43:42,880 --> 00:43:45,080
Speaker 1: But she's been saying it to all my I was

823
00:43:45,160 --> 00:43:47,040
Speaker 1: crushed to know that not only did Ellen say all

824
00:43:47,080 --> 00:43:48,640
Speaker 1: of this, but she's been saying it to all of

825
00:43:48,719 --> 00:43:51,399
Speaker 1: my friends four months and not one of them came

826
00:43:51,440 --> 00:43:53,960
Speaker 1: to me about it. George helped me get past the

827
00:43:54,040 --> 00:43:58,000
Speaker 1: hurt stage, and now all I feel is rage.

828
00:43:59,560 --> 00:44:01,719
Speaker 2: You know of the grieving process, that's rage.

829
00:44:03,280 --> 00:44:06,640
Speaker 1: Tomorrow I'm going to call my supervisor and ask if

830
00:44:06,680 --> 00:44:08,279
Speaker 1: I can work from home until the end of my

831
00:44:08,400 --> 00:44:11,200
Speaker 1: contract so that I never have to see Ellen's face again.

832
00:44:11,800 --> 00:44:14,040
Speaker 1: I feel so betrayed and I just hate her so

833
00:44:14,280 --> 00:44:18,399
Speaker 1: much Right now? Am I overreacting? Should I be taking

834
00:44:18,480 --> 00:44:20,560
Speaker 1: the high road and just keep working with Ellen as

835
00:44:20,600 --> 00:44:23,120
Speaker 1: if I don't know? I feel betrayed by my other

836
00:44:23,160 --> 00:44:25,400
Speaker 1: friends too, because Kay thinks they all knew what she

837
00:44:25,520 --> 00:44:28,600
Speaker 1: was saying and not one of them told me. Could

838
00:44:28,600 --> 00:44:30,719
Speaker 1: I cut them all off the same way I plan

839
00:44:30,800 --> 00:44:33,960
Speaker 1: to cut off Ellen? And there are some relevant comments

840
00:44:34,239 --> 00:44:35,919
Speaker 1: to finish this story.

841
00:44:35,880 --> 00:44:39,920
Speaker 2: Off, I don't think I think OP should keep it cordial.

842
00:44:40,040 --> 00:44:41,200
Speaker 2: Don't stoop to her level.

843
00:44:41,480 --> 00:44:43,839
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think that you can cut these friends off

844
00:44:43,960 --> 00:44:45,600
Speaker 1: kind of quiet quit from the friendship.

845
00:44:45,719 --> 00:44:46,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, quiet quit the friendship.

846
00:44:47,120 --> 00:44:49,200
Speaker 1: Yeah, keep k because case seems like a real one.

847
00:44:50,160 --> 00:44:52,239
Speaker 1: But because this is a work friendship, I think you

848
00:44:52,400 --> 00:44:53,520
Speaker 1: just yeah, quiet quit.

849
00:44:54,080 --> 00:44:56,200
Speaker 2: I think you don't want a professional You don't want

850
00:44:56,200 --> 00:44:57,399
Speaker 2: to bring that drama into the work.

851
00:44:57,520 --> 00:44:59,440
Speaker 1: Yeah, you want to. I think that when you are

852
00:44:59,520 --> 00:45:02,840
Speaker 1: working at a in a professional setting, you want to

853
00:45:02,960 --> 00:45:06,120
Speaker 1: show that you are a good worker first and foremost

854
00:45:07,120 --> 00:45:10,440
Speaker 1: and keep your personal issues to the side.

855
00:45:10,320 --> 00:45:10,759
Speaker 2: To the side.

856
00:45:11,560 --> 00:45:15,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, but let's read these relevant comments to this story.

857
00:45:15,760 --> 00:45:18,719
Speaker 1: Off kat Mom twenty two says, have you given any

858
00:45:18,800 --> 00:45:21,080
Speaker 1: thought that what she was saying was true? What did

859
00:45:21,160 --> 00:45:24,200
Speaker 1: boyfriends say about it? All? Offer to show texts, et cetera,

860
00:45:24,400 --> 00:45:27,680
Speaker 1: obviously playing devil's advocate here. In either way, a real

861
00:45:27,760 --> 00:45:30,120
Speaker 1: friend would tell you directly about your man acting out,

862
00:45:30,440 --> 00:45:34,560
Speaker 1: not gossiping, so no judgment on dropping her butt, and

863
00:45:34,640 --> 00:45:38,120
Speaker 1: then Ope responds, I really don't think it could be true.

864
00:45:38,360 --> 00:45:41,240
Speaker 1: George has offered a number of has offered a number

865
00:45:41,320 --> 00:45:43,560
Speaker 1: of times to let me go through his phone, which

866
00:45:43,640 --> 00:45:46,800
Speaker 1: I've declined because I really do trust him. Okay, I

867
00:45:46,920 --> 00:45:49,440
Speaker 1: love that I love that. OP was like, no, I

868
00:45:49,640 --> 00:45:51,480
Speaker 1: literally believe you. You don't even have to show me

869
00:45:51,520 --> 00:45:53,600
Speaker 1: your phone. I think that is a sign of a

870
00:45:53,719 --> 00:45:57,120
Speaker 1: very healthy relationship. And we both agree that the accusations

871
00:45:57,160 --> 00:46:00,560
Speaker 1: are absurd. He's never been anything but completely honest with me,

872
00:46:00,719 --> 00:46:03,319
Speaker 1: and he's been saying for weeks that I should drop

873
00:46:03,400 --> 00:46:05,520
Speaker 1: Ellen because he doesn't like the way she's been treating me.

874
00:46:06,440 --> 00:46:08,440
Speaker 1: I don't want to contact her about it right now,

875
00:46:08,920 --> 00:46:11,439
Speaker 1: because honestly, I'm just so angry, and like you said,

876
00:46:11,520 --> 00:46:13,719
Speaker 1: if there was any truth to it, and if she

877
00:46:13,880 --> 00:46:15,960
Speaker 1: was ever my friend at all, she should have come

878
00:46:16,040 --> 00:46:18,840
Speaker 1: to me about it directly. I also don't think that

879
00:46:18,960 --> 00:46:21,560
Speaker 1: Kay would lie about something like this. He's not the

880
00:46:21,680 --> 00:46:23,759
Speaker 1: kind of person to make up rumors, and there's no

881
00:46:24,000 --> 00:46:26,120
Speaker 1: way he could have known. He would have known that

882
00:46:26,200 --> 00:46:30,160
Speaker 1: George called Ellen if she hadn't told him, albeit a

883
00:46:30,200 --> 00:46:35,800
Speaker 1: twisted version. And that is the end of this story,

884
00:46:37,680 --> 00:46:39,399
Speaker 1: and that is to answer the question of how should

885
00:46:39,440 --> 00:46:43,960
Speaker 1: you confront a liar? And I think in this case, maybe.

886
00:46:44,560 --> 00:46:46,279
Speaker 2: I don't know, Maybe I don't need to confront her,

887
00:46:46,760 --> 00:46:47,480
Speaker 2: but she would.

888
00:46:47,360 --> 00:46:50,000
Speaker 1: She continue spreading these lies, I guess is the question.

889
00:46:50,120 --> 00:46:52,400
Speaker 2: I don't know. If you confront her in the office.

890
00:46:52,520 --> 00:46:54,680
Speaker 1: But I feel like, I think, yeah, outside you text

891
00:46:54,680 --> 00:46:55,840
Speaker 1: her and say, hey, stop.

892
00:46:55,800 --> 00:47:00,359
Speaker 2: Spreading these friend it's like yeah, or maybe maybe maybe

893
00:47:00,440 --> 00:47:03,840
Speaker 2: so you're not like you don't have a paper trail

894
00:47:03,920 --> 00:47:05,840
Speaker 2: or whatever. You say like, hey can we meet for coffee?

895
00:47:06,280 --> 00:47:06,520
Speaker 1: Yeah?

896
00:47:06,640 --> 00:47:09,360
Speaker 2: Oh, but she said, but she's kept dodging hangouts.

897
00:47:10,440 --> 00:47:11,879
Speaker 1: I don't know. I think that there is a way.

898
00:47:11,960 --> 00:47:13,560
Speaker 1: I think that while I do think that you should

899
00:47:13,560 --> 00:47:17,440
Speaker 1: maintain like professionalism, I do think that maybe it's getting

900
00:47:17,480 --> 00:47:19,880
Speaker 1: to a point because she's spreading it around to other

901
00:47:19,960 --> 00:47:23,200
Speaker 1: people at the office where it could affect your work.

902
00:47:23,480 --> 00:47:26,520
Speaker 1: You could when you could talk to HR, you could

903
00:47:26,520 --> 00:47:29,760
Speaker 1: talk to your boss and say, hey, she's been spreading

904
00:47:29,800 --> 00:47:33,319
Speaker 1: a lot of rumors, and I just I don't appreciate it. Yeah,

905
00:47:33,600 --> 00:47:35,000
Speaker 1: I mean, is the answer as well.

906
00:47:35,320 --> 00:47:42,000
Speaker 2: I feel I feel like, ideally she talks to her

907
00:47:42,080 --> 00:47:45,040
Speaker 2: friend that her ex friend, But if the friend isn't

908
00:47:45,120 --> 00:47:48,239
Speaker 2: having any of it, then probably go to HR.

909
00:47:48,760 --> 00:47:50,560
Speaker 1: I mean, the fact that she's lying about her is

910
00:47:50,719 --> 00:47:51,719
Speaker 1: a pretty bad sign.

911
00:47:52,360 --> 00:47:55,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, and it's affecting work. As soon as you feel

912
00:47:55,200 --> 00:47:57,600
Speaker 2: like it could affect work, yeah, that's when you go

913
00:47:57,680 --> 00:47:58,160
Speaker 2: to HR.

914
00:47:58,360 --> 00:48:01,040
Speaker 1: Yeah. No, I just think that like, yeah, when I

915
00:48:01,120 --> 00:48:03,839
Speaker 1: don't think, yeah, I don't think this friendship is solvageable

916
00:48:03,920 --> 00:48:06,920
Speaker 1: at all, because I think that when someone starts not

917
00:48:07,080 --> 00:48:09,440
Speaker 1: only talking about you behind your back, but also specifically

918
00:48:09,600 --> 00:48:11,719
Speaker 1: lying about you behind your back, it's like, okay.

919
00:48:11,840 --> 00:48:15,240
Speaker 2: Yeah, like we're not we're not friends anymore.

920
00:48:15,280 --> 00:48:15,759
Speaker 1: We're not friends.

921
00:48:15,840 --> 00:48:16,040
Speaker 2: Yeah.

922
00:48:16,040 --> 00:48:18,520
Speaker 1: No, I had I had a person do that to me.

923
00:48:18,560 --> 00:48:23,320
Speaker 2: And I'm like, really, yeah, here in this environment.

924
00:48:24,239 --> 00:48:27,440
Speaker 1: In this in this day and a no, no, I've

925
00:48:27,480 --> 00:48:33,359
Speaker 1: told you better, don't say it, but you know, how

926
00:48:33,400 --> 00:48:40,320
Speaker 1: long are you last yeary? Sam doesn't?

927
00:48:40,480 --> 00:48:42,320
Speaker 2: Can you wait? Can you? Can you give me more contact?

928
00:48:42,360 --> 00:48:42,759
Speaker 1: No, I'll tell you.

929
00:48:42,800 --> 00:48:43,320
Speaker 2: I'll tell you that.

930
00:48:43,600 --> 00:48:45,839
Speaker 1: But basically it was just I mean, it wasn't at

931
00:48:45,880 --> 00:48:47,640
Speaker 1: work or anything, but it was a similar situation.

932
00:48:48,040 --> 00:48:54,880
Speaker 2: Oh it was in a friend group, Oatop trying to

933
00:48:54,960 --> 00:48:55,200
Speaker 2: say it.

934
00:48:55,760 --> 00:48:56,480
Speaker 1: Just don't say it?

935
00:49:03,640 --> 00:49:10,840
Speaker 2: Yes, yeah, yeah, but yeah, I remember that.

936
00:49:11,080 --> 00:49:11,279
Speaker 1: I was.

937
00:49:11,520 --> 00:49:13,000
Speaker 2: I was confused because I was like, oh, was it

938
00:49:13,520 --> 00:49:14,160
Speaker 2: like a work thing?

939
00:49:14,280 --> 00:49:18,759
Speaker 1: But yeah, no, no, it wasn't work related. Oblivious Bean

940
00:49:18,800 --> 00:49:21,400
Speaker 1: says will Op be able to avoid Emma while on contract.

941
00:49:21,480 --> 00:49:24,239
Speaker 1: It seems like they're working pretty closely together, which is

942
00:49:26,239 --> 00:49:29,600
Speaker 1: dicey and Devil's Advocates says, don't risk your livelihood for

943
00:49:29,680 --> 00:49:34,319
Speaker 1: someone you don't even have a relationship for anyeah. Agree, yeah, yeah,

944
00:49:34,600 --> 00:49:36,640
Speaker 1: y'all y'ah.

945
00:49:37,920 --> 00:49:41,320
Speaker 2: But shall we get into this next story?

946
00:49:41,600 --> 00:49:46,719
Speaker 1: Get into it and I'll get into these donations. I

947
00:49:46,840 --> 00:49:48,560
Speaker 1: have a the I R S. Thank you for the

948
00:49:48,600 --> 00:49:52,160
Speaker 1: two celebrating two months of membership. Hope y'all are doing well.

949
00:49:52,280 --> 00:49:54,719
Speaker 1: Haven't been able to catch a stream lately? Does test

950
00:49:54,880 --> 00:49:57,960
Speaker 1: positive for COVID? Just my luck? Elmeo, I'm so sorry

951
00:49:58,040 --> 00:50:03,440
Speaker 1: that sucks. Gets rest and m yeah, I hope. I

952
00:50:03,520 --> 00:50:06,239
Speaker 1: hope it goes away soon. Emily w thank you for

953
00:50:06,320 --> 00:50:08,239
Speaker 1: the two bucks. I love you guys so much. I

954
00:50:08,320 --> 00:50:12,279
Speaker 1: listened to y'all daily, Love you too, Emily, and that's it.

955
00:50:12,880 --> 00:50:13,200
Speaker 2: Thanks.

956
00:50:14,840 --> 00:50:17,439
Speaker 1: Zori Pistachio says, I had a friend spread rumors about

957
00:50:17,480 --> 00:50:21,560
Speaker 1: me to my friend group that joined, and it turned

958
00:50:21,560 --> 00:50:24,319
Speaker 1: out she had a huge crush on me. I want

959
00:50:24,360 --> 00:50:26,680
Speaker 1: to hear more about that story. Can you call us?

960
00:50:26,800 --> 00:50:31,400
Speaker 1: Because that's what kind of like pigtail pulling? Is that?

961
00:50:31,880 --> 00:50:35,000
Speaker 1: That's wild? How did she think that was going to

962
00:50:35,080 --> 00:50:35,440
Speaker 1: turn out?

963
00:50:37,120 --> 00:50:37,160
Speaker 2: Like?

964
00:50:37,320 --> 00:50:40,800
Speaker 1: I hate this person all right? I hate or sorry

965
00:50:42,040 --> 00:50:46,680
Speaker 1: and thought that would that work. Yeah, I mean that

966
00:50:46,880 --> 00:50:50,080
Speaker 1: that's elementary school. So I'm saying it's the pigtail pulling.

967
00:50:50,800 --> 00:50:53,280
Speaker 1: That's what you guys call it hair pulling.

968
00:50:54,280 --> 00:51:00,560
Speaker 5: People do that nowadays we're like, you know, hitting and buying, well, okay,

969
00:51:02,120 --> 00:51:06,600
Speaker 5: throwing rocks doing no Like girls used to throw rocks

970
00:51:06,600 --> 00:51:10,160
Speaker 5: at me because they had crushes on me. Go through

971
00:51:10,200 --> 00:51:12,320
Speaker 5: a shoe at me because I asked her if she

972
00:51:12,360 --> 00:51:13,719
Speaker 5: wanted a hot dog, and she threw a shoe at

973
00:51:13,719 --> 00:51:14,320
Speaker 5: me in kindergarten.

974
00:51:14,400 --> 00:51:15,759
Speaker 1: I don't think I ever did that.

975
00:51:18,520 --> 00:51:21,640
Speaker 2: Well, obviously you weren't crushing hard enough. But I wasn't.

976
00:51:23,000 --> 00:51:25,080
Speaker 1: There was I wasn't. I certainly wasn't.

977
00:51:25,680 --> 00:51:33,360
Speaker 2: Certainly certainly. All right, shall we get into this next story?

978
00:51:35,480 --> 00:51:38,840
Speaker 2: Leah Glossenger or Sam got that date set up? I

979
00:51:39,200 --> 00:51:41,640
Speaker 2: need to You're gonna walk us through it?

980
00:51:41,920 --> 00:51:44,040
Speaker 1: What? What? What's the shoe? I?

981
00:51:44,239 --> 00:51:46,920
Speaker 2: I just all right, So there's all right, there's three

982
00:51:47,320 --> 00:51:53,759
Speaker 2: people from Hinge, which I just downloaded. It is it?

983
00:51:53,920 --> 00:51:58,720
Speaker 2: Is it? Well? I mean, I'm we're we're setting up things.

984
00:51:58,960 --> 00:52:01,719
Speaker 2: I don't know if it's working, but I have to

985
00:52:01,880 --> 00:52:04,320
Speaker 2: like think of what to do, and I want to

986
00:52:04,360 --> 00:52:07,719
Speaker 2: do a triple triple spot date I have to do

987
00:52:07,800 --> 00:52:08,560
Speaker 2: the triple spot date.

988
00:52:08,600 --> 00:52:10,919
Speaker 1: Triple spot date. Yeah, I don't know if you guys

989
00:52:11,000 --> 00:52:19,319
Speaker 1: have ideas. Uh, definitely ice cream at the end.

990
00:52:19,640 --> 00:52:22,920
Speaker 2: I was thinking ice At the beginning, I was thinking

991
00:52:23,040 --> 00:52:24,920
Speaker 2: ice cream. This is here, This is what I was thinking.

992
00:52:25,160 --> 00:52:31,080
Speaker 2: So ice cream, wine bar, be keasy, I like that,

993
00:52:31,640 --> 00:52:33,200
Speaker 2: that's fun where I was also thinking.

994
00:52:33,320 --> 00:52:35,319
Speaker 1: But also speakeasy is kind of like a wine bar,

995
00:52:35,480 --> 00:52:37,319
Speaker 1: so it's kind of like a double right.

996
00:52:37,440 --> 00:52:38,200
Speaker 2: Then go to the beach.

997
00:52:38,520 --> 00:52:42,440
Speaker 1: I think what you do is food intellectual.

998
00:52:43,560 --> 00:52:46,400
Speaker 2: And then I don't want to do food because what

999
00:52:46,440 --> 00:52:49,200
Speaker 2: if I don't No food is ice cream? Oh yeah, okay, Well,

1000
00:52:49,280 --> 00:52:56,000
Speaker 2: I was also thinking sunset at the airport. This like

1001
00:52:56,080 --> 00:52:59,360
Speaker 2: to the Santa Monica airport because there's this like viewing area,

1002
00:53:00,200 --> 00:53:02,760
Speaker 2: maybe with with wine.

1003
00:53:03,200 --> 00:53:05,120
Speaker 1: I have never been to the airport, so I'm just thinking,

1004
00:53:05,239 --> 00:53:06,520
Speaker 1: like airport.

1005
00:53:06,560 --> 00:53:12,120
Speaker 2: The Santa Monica Airport is cute, Okay, I believe you. Uh,

1006
00:53:13,480 --> 00:53:18,120
Speaker 2: And then and then drinks.

1007
00:53:19,000 --> 00:53:23,080
Speaker 1: Then the Devil's avacacays. Ice cream and wine might not.

1008
00:53:23,360 --> 00:53:27,360
Speaker 2: Mix well at the same time. Yeah, you let your

1009
00:53:27,400 --> 00:53:33,360
Speaker 2: stomach if she's tolerant ice cream, ice cream make that

1010
00:53:33,600 --> 00:53:37,040
Speaker 2: last unless there's a comfortable bathroom with two plots.

1011
00:53:37,120 --> 00:53:39,400
Speaker 1: This is Santa Monica. They got vegan ice cream everywhere.

1012
00:53:40,400 --> 00:53:43,040
Speaker 2: Courtney Brady says, what are these ideas? Walk in the

1013
00:53:43,080 --> 00:53:45,399
Speaker 2: beach ice cream then sunset. Yeah, that's my that's that's

1014
00:53:45,440 --> 00:53:45,920
Speaker 2: a classic.

1015
00:53:46,960 --> 00:53:49,359
Speaker 1: That's a classic one where she do you know where

1016
00:53:49,400 --> 00:53:50,360
Speaker 1: she is located?

1017
00:53:51,160 --> 00:53:52,600
Speaker 2: They're on the west side.

1018
00:53:54,080 --> 00:53:57,120
Speaker 1: Well, let's you know what I want to die?

1019
00:53:57,280 --> 00:54:03,040
Speaker 2: West hit the west Side. He's this text story we

1020
00:54:03,080 --> 00:54:07,520
Speaker 2: told people that's past. Uh how do they say that?

1021
00:54:08,560 --> 00:54:09,400
Speaker 2: I don't know how they did?

1022
00:54:09,760 --> 00:54:11,080
Speaker 1: Oh the awful tower.

1023
00:54:11,200 --> 00:54:14,040
Speaker 2: That's what we are going to Paris a squad.

1024
00:54:14,160 --> 00:54:18,880
Speaker 1: How did you know that? Yeah, yeah, we're doing that.

1025
00:54:19,120 --> 00:54:21,600
Speaker 2: We're doing that. Do miskilled it.

1026
00:54:22,280 --> 00:54:22,800
Speaker 1: I'm hungry.

1027
00:54:23,040 --> 00:54:25,160
Speaker 2: That could be good. Beach to look at the stars

1028
00:54:25,200 --> 00:54:28,880
Speaker 2: with wine or something. Food truck, beach drinks.

1029
00:54:31,160 --> 00:54:33,040
Speaker 1: One time when I was in Poland, they had the

1030
00:54:33,239 --> 00:54:38,239
Speaker 1: best Indian food truck. It was so good. Like they

1031
00:54:38,280 --> 00:54:42,680
Speaker 1: had they had aligobi uh non wraps that were like

1032
00:54:42,800 --> 00:54:48,160
Speaker 1: this big for five bucks. So I got it three times. Anyway,

1033
00:54:48,239 --> 00:54:49,120
Speaker 1: let's read the story.

1034
00:54:50,840 --> 00:54:55,879
Speaker 2: I was after Yeah, after stream, I gotta cook.

1035
00:54:56,840 --> 00:54:57,840
Speaker 1: Yes, I'm still going to go.

1036
00:54:58,480 --> 00:55:00,399
Speaker 2: You gotta cook because they chicken.

1037
00:55:00,480 --> 00:55:01,319
Speaker 1: I haven't even cooked that.

1038
00:55:01,360 --> 00:55:03,760
Speaker 2: I'm actually getting dinner. Henry.

1039
00:55:05,200 --> 00:55:07,840
Speaker 1: We'll go, We'll go bring Henry.

1040
00:55:09,680 --> 00:55:12,000
Speaker 2: I could, I could bring Henry, but I think we

1041
00:55:12,080 --> 00:55:15,360
Speaker 2: want to have like a one on one thing, you know, okay,

1042
00:55:15,440 --> 00:55:16,440
Speaker 2: really really really.

1043
00:55:16,360 --> 00:55:21,840
Speaker 1: Okay, we're gonna gets let's uh and switch. Oh Minecraft,

1044
00:55:22,840 --> 00:55:23,720
Speaker 1: we can play Minecraft?

1045
00:55:23,920 --> 00:55:24,160
Speaker 2: Can you?

1046
00:55:24,320 --> 00:55:27,080
Speaker 1: You can play Minecraft in my room. Let's give the

1047
00:55:27,120 --> 00:55:27,719
Speaker 1: people what they.

1048
00:55:27,719 --> 00:55:35,080
Speaker 2: Want gaming Minecraft. All right, let's do it. So my

1049
00:55:35,200 --> 00:55:37,799
Speaker 2: friend faked a pregnancy because she wanted me to take

1050
00:55:37,920 --> 00:55:38,440
Speaker 2: care of her.

1051
00:55:39,920 --> 00:55:45,960
Speaker 1: And sometimes sometimes you just want to be held, okay, and.

1052
00:55:46,080 --> 00:55:49,000
Speaker 2: You need a fake a pregnancy to have that being

1053
00:55:49,280 --> 00:55:50,800
Speaker 2: that that being held feel it.

1054
00:55:51,080 --> 00:55:56,520
Speaker 1: Sometimes you need to be vulnerable. Okay, guys, okay, sorry,

1055
00:55:56,520 --> 00:55:56,799
Speaker 1: I just.

1056
00:55:56,800 --> 00:56:01,719
Speaker 2: Really if your belly is hugging and another human will

1057
00:56:01,800 --> 00:56:02,520
Speaker 2: hug you, my.

1058
00:56:02,680 --> 00:56:05,320
Speaker 1: Question is how committed to the bit was she? And

1059
00:56:05,800 --> 00:56:06,759
Speaker 1: and we're about to find out.

1060
00:56:07,239 --> 00:56:09,400
Speaker 2: Jude, I think she faked the did she get the

1061
00:56:09,520 --> 00:56:11,200
Speaker 2: like a pregnancy belly? I think she got the pregnancy

1062
00:56:11,280 --> 00:56:13,279
Speaker 2: bellt I go to like kind of like an acting

1063
00:56:13,360 --> 00:56:15,960
Speaker 2: school where she like pregnant women on the street. The

1064
00:56:16,040 --> 00:56:19,440
Speaker 2: piano stick. Yeah, she went all the way and went

1065
00:56:19,480 --> 00:56:19,879
Speaker 2: all the way.

1066
00:56:20,040 --> 00:56:20,400
Speaker 1: Damn.

1067
00:56:22,040 --> 00:56:24,880
Speaker 2: And this is all to answer the question how should

1068
00:56:24,920 --> 00:56:27,680
Speaker 2: you confront a liar? And I'm not lying when I

1069
00:56:27,760 --> 00:56:30,800
Speaker 2: say We're live every weekday at three pm PSD. So

1070
00:56:31,040 --> 00:56:33,840
Speaker 2: click our profile and come join us live. And this

1071
00:56:34,200 --> 00:56:39,360
Speaker 2: story comes from hef a lump one half a lumpin.

1072
00:56:40,280 --> 00:56:42,279
Speaker 5: I have to guys, if you were pregnant, how much

1073
00:56:42,520 --> 00:56:45,520
Speaker 5: would you pay? Well, how much would someone have to

1074
00:56:45,560 --> 00:56:48,040
Speaker 5: pay you to be on a stick they can prove?

1075
00:56:48,280 --> 00:56:51,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, well that's a great question, dude, Thank you, thank you.

1076
00:56:51,080 --> 00:56:51,839
Speaker 1: I thought it was weird.

1077
00:56:51,920 --> 00:56:52,160
Speaker 2: Thank you.

1078
00:56:53,320 --> 00:56:56,600
Speaker 1: How much would someone have to pay you if you're pregnant?

1079
00:56:56,680 --> 00:57:00,920
Speaker 2: Right now, I'm pregnant, you are with child? And I say, hey, lady,

1080
00:57:01,680 --> 00:57:04,080
Speaker 2: I'll give you blank amount of money the pee on

1081
00:57:04,160 --> 00:57:07,080
Speaker 2: this stick like pregnancy testick.

1082
00:57:07,200 --> 00:57:12,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't know, probably like one hundred bucks. One

1083
00:57:12,440 --> 00:57:14,560
Speaker 1: hundred bucks, but no, but I would upsell it because

1084
00:57:14,600 --> 00:57:18,120
Speaker 1: I want more money, So I'd say five hundred dollars

1085
00:57:18,680 --> 00:57:21,200
Speaker 1: bucks and then they'd be like, I'm only taking three hundred,

1086
00:57:21,240 --> 00:57:24,240
Speaker 1: and I'd go four fifty and they go three seventy five.

1087
00:57:24,280 --> 00:57:26,760
Speaker 1: I go four hundred, take it or leave it, and.

1088
00:57:26,760 --> 00:57:29,560
Speaker 2: Then they say a deal, so it would be four hundred.

1089
00:57:29,600 --> 00:57:31,680
Speaker 1: Now, Well, I'm not peeing in the open, presumably I

1090
00:57:31,720 --> 00:57:34,440
Speaker 1: can go to the bathroom, all right, So, okay, I

1091
00:57:34,600 --> 00:57:35,240
Speaker 1: had my baby.

1092
00:57:36,080 --> 00:57:38,960
Speaker 2: I've known this friend quote unquote for years, and we

1093
00:57:39,040 --> 00:57:41,000
Speaker 2: were close and used to spend a lot of time

1094
00:57:41,040 --> 00:57:44,160
Speaker 2: together after my child was born. At the end of

1095
00:57:44,240 --> 00:57:46,280
Speaker 2: last year, she lives in a different state. She told

1096
00:57:46,360 --> 00:57:48,640
Speaker 2: me her roomy slash boss was going to be closing

1097
00:57:48,680 --> 00:57:51,360
Speaker 2: his office and moving and she wouldn't be able to

1098
00:57:51,440 --> 00:57:54,040
Speaker 2: go with them. She asked if we planned to move back,

1099
00:57:54,160 --> 00:57:55,920
Speaker 2: and tried to say it would be a good time

1100
00:57:56,000 --> 00:57:58,000
Speaker 2: to buy a house, and it would be a good

1101
00:57:58,600 --> 00:58:01,400
Speaker 2: and it would be good if we could move in

1102
00:58:01,520 --> 00:58:05,800
Speaker 2: together myself. Hubby eight year old in her also asked

1103
00:58:05,840 --> 00:58:07,840
Speaker 2: if I could get her a job with my workplace.

1104
00:58:08,160 --> 00:58:10,520
Speaker 2: I told her we are never moving back, worst time

1105
00:58:10,600 --> 00:58:12,760
Speaker 2: to buy a house, can't get her a job because

1106
00:58:12,760 --> 00:58:14,440
Speaker 2: she isn't in the same profession and doesn't have the

1107
00:58:14,480 --> 00:58:17,840
Speaker 2: necessary degree or training, and as we are in our

1108
00:58:18,080 --> 00:58:23,080
Speaker 2: early forties, the window for having roommates is firmly closed.

1109
00:58:23,720 --> 00:58:28,320
Speaker 2: So just the slam down of the century. Okay, didn't

1110
00:58:28,440 --> 00:58:31,840
Speaker 2: He didn't hear from her much until a month ago

1111
00:58:31,960 --> 00:58:35,520
Speaker 2: when she called freaking out saying it was an emergency

1112
00:58:35,880 --> 00:58:38,480
Speaker 2: and she had no one else to turn to. Ex

1113
00:58:38,640 --> 00:58:42,120
Speaker 2: roomy slash boss had kicked her out a few months prior,

1114
00:58:42,240 --> 00:58:46,000
Speaker 2: as she thought he may have essayed her. Now she

1115
00:58:46,200 --> 00:58:49,040
Speaker 2: was staying with a gang banger cousin of a friend

1116
00:58:49,200 --> 00:58:52,480
Speaker 2: who was watching her every move, recording her with cameras,

1117
00:58:52,640 --> 00:58:55,080
Speaker 2: threatening to call the cops and kick her out. He

1118
00:58:55,120 --> 00:58:56,200
Speaker 2: didn't feel safe, etc.

1119
00:58:56,720 --> 00:59:00,120
Speaker 1: Okay, so she is telling this to Opie. Are you

1120
00:59:00,200 --> 00:59:02,520
Speaker 1: saying these are all the reasons I don't feel safe

1121
00:59:02,560 --> 00:59:03,240
Speaker 1: I need to move in?

1122
00:59:03,680 --> 00:59:09,600
Speaker 2: Yes? Okay, yes, after she asked before and was like

1123
00:59:10,600 --> 00:59:12,880
Speaker 2: an op was like, no, I'm not gonna let you live.

1124
00:59:13,200 --> 00:59:16,720
Speaker 1: If it is the case, then wait, what did you say,

1125
00:59:16,720 --> 00:59:17,600
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna let you live.

1126
00:59:17,720 --> 00:59:18,760
Speaker 2: I'm not gonna let you live with me.

1127
00:59:21,120 --> 00:59:23,000
Speaker 1: If that is the case, that's horrible and I hope

1128
00:59:23,040 --> 00:59:27,280
Speaker 1: that she gets out safe. However, because she asked before

1129
00:59:27,520 --> 00:59:30,080
Speaker 1: and was denied, and then asked again coming up with

1130
00:59:30,120 --> 00:59:32,680
Speaker 1: all of these new things, I don't believe her.

1131
00:59:33,120 --> 00:59:36,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, highly suspect, highly suspect, hilely suspect.

1132
00:59:37,040 --> 00:59:39,880
Speaker 1: Social persuasion, says conspiracy, she's faking to not pay rent.

1133
00:59:40,080 --> 00:59:40,280
Speaker 6: Yeah.

1134
00:59:40,680 --> 00:59:43,640
Speaker 2: So now she was staying with the game. Mayer cousin

1135
00:59:44,120 --> 00:59:48,160
Speaker 2: also she is six months pregnant and has been trying

1136
00:59:48,200 --> 00:59:50,800
Speaker 2: to get aid. Can't get into a woman's shelter, and

1137
00:59:50,960 --> 00:59:53,040
Speaker 2: she has been to a few doctors, but none will

1138
00:59:53,040 --> 00:59:56,480
Speaker 2: confirm she is pregnant, though she is visibly six months

1139
00:59:56,840 --> 00:59:59,680
Speaker 2: according to her. I asked her more about this, where

1140
00:59:59,760 --> 01:00:02,760
Speaker 2: she on what they told her, etc. But she said

1141
01:00:02,800 --> 01:00:05,080
Speaker 2: it was really weird and she was scared and thought

1142
01:00:05,080 --> 01:00:07,400
Speaker 2: maybe one of them was trying to steal her baby.

1143
01:00:07,880 --> 01:00:09,800
Speaker 2: I thought maybe they were trying to prevent her from

1144
01:00:09,840 --> 01:00:12,680
Speaker 2: getting aid, and told her she could come stay with

1145
01:00:12,840 --> 01:00:15,200
Speaker 2: us for a bit as she had some money coming

1146
01:00:15,240 --> 01:00:17,880
Speaker 2: in the next month and just needed someplace where she

1147
01:00:17,960 --> 01:00:21,120
Speaker 2: can stay temporarily. So op is like, all right, you

1148
01:00:21,200 --> 01:00:25,040
Speaker 2: can stay, you can stay. I also told her we

1149
01:00:25,200 --> 01:00:27,920
Speaker 2: are cramped here and in the process of finding a

1150
01:00:28,000 --> 01:00:30,400
Speaker 2: new place to live, so our money is tight and

1151
01:00:30,480 --> 01:00:34,360
Speaker 2: accommodations are temporary, so she's like, hey, you can stay

1152
01:00:34,400 --> 01:00:35,560
Speaker 2: with us, but not for that long.

1153
01:00:36,080 --> 01:00:36,280
Speaker 1: Yeah.

1154
01:00:37,480 --> 01:00:41,560
Speaker 2: She arrives early next morning and death not six months

1155
01:00:41,680 --> 01:00:44,320
Speaker 2: long and has no sign of a baby bump.

1156
01:00:44,560 --> 01:00:44,840
Speaker 1: Lying.

1157
01:00:45,640 --> 01:00:47,800
Speaker 2: I'm thinking at this point that since it's her first

1158
01:00:47,920 --> 01:00:50,200
Speaker 2: baby and she is not clear who the father is.

1159
01:00:50,800 --> 01:00:54,280
Speaker 2: Maybe she's only a month or two along. Okay, still

1160
01:00:54,320 --> 01:00:57,040
Speaker 2: going to help, and still thinks she is pregnant, So

1161
01:00:57,160 --> 01:00:59,640
Speaker 2: we let her use our eight year old's room because

1162
01:00:59,680 --> 01:01:02,080
Speaker 2: we have no extra rooms and space is cramped.

1163
01:01:02,200 --> 01:01:04,520
Speaker 1: Oh wait, so OPI has a family there living with

1164
01:01:04,680 --> 01:01:06,280
Speaker 1: ye like she's got her whole family there.

1165
01:01:06,440 --> 01:01:12,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, the entire visit. She wears tight clothing, takes frequent naps,

1166
01:01:13,240 --> 01:01:15,520
Speaker 2: baby is moving around a lot and makes her tired.

1167
01:01:15,840 --> 01:01:19,840
Speaker 2: Does yoga in our front yard facing a busy local street.

1168
01:01:20,320 --> 01:01:23,240
Speaker 2: Sits on the patio all day using my work phone

1169
01:01:23,400 --> 01:01:26,520
Speaker 2: because I said no, I would not pay to have

1170
01:01:26,640 --> 01:01:30,120
Speaker 2: our phone turned on. Every question we ask who is

1171
01:01:30,200 --> 01:01:33,080
Speaker 2: the dad of the baby? You have further details about

1172
01:01:33,120 --> 01:01:36,240
Speaker 2: when your money is coming through? What happened with the

1173
01:01:36,440 --> 01:01:40,840
Speaker 2: ex boss slash roomy All met with vague details and

1174
01:01:40,960 --> 01:01:42,800
Speaker 2: a lot of her saying she wants to change the

1175
01:01:42,840 --> 01:01:45,360
Speaker 2: subject because it is too hard to talk about.

1176
01:01:46,480 --> 01:01:49,360
Speaker 1: She doesn't have answers because she's a liar.

1177
01:01:49,640 --> 01:01:52,240
Speaker 2: No, it's just too hard, Sophia, Why are you pushing me?

1178
01:01:52,360 --> 01:01:54,920
Speaker 2: This is a boundary. It's a boundary. You don't want

1179
01:01:54,960 --> 01:01:55,680
Speaker 2: to talk about it?

1180
01:01:56,000 --> 01:01:58,160
Speaker 1: Talk about six months pregnant.

1181
01:01:58,320 --> 01:02:00,800
Speaker 2: My therapist says, I shouldn't talk about this kind of

1182
01:02:00,840 --> 01:02:06,400
Speaker 2: stuff with you. Yah, throw it back to another story.

1183
01:02:07,000 --> 01:02:13,680
Speaker 2: Was that here it was so bad? Well, so all

1184
01:02:13,720 --> 01:02:16,360
Speaker 2: of this meant with vague details. She wants to change

1185
01:02:16,360 --> 01:02:18,040
Speaker 2: the subject because it too hard for her to talk about.

1186
01:02:18,320 --> 01:02:21,840
Speaker 2: She does and has done nothing to prepare for the baby,

1187
01:02:23,120 --> 01:02:29,440
Speaker 2: absolutely nothing, nothing. We are very concerned for her maybe baby,

1188
01:02:29,560 --> 01:02:32,560
Speaker 2: so we give her info from a pregnant friend of

1189
01:02:32,640 --> 01:02:34,840
Speaker 2: a good doctor. So she get checked out. As she

1190
01:02:34,960 --> 01:02:39,160
Speaker 2: continues to insist she is six months pregnant and I

1191
01:02:39,400 --> 01:02:42,640
Speaker 2: am either freaked that she is and something is terribly

1192
01:02:42,720 --> 01:02:45,680
Speaker 2: wrong with a baby, or she is less far along

1193
01:02:46,040 --> 01:02:48,920
Speaker 2: and needs to do better about managing her pregnancy. She

1194
01:02:49,000 --> 01:02:50,640
Speaker 2: books an appointment for the end of the week, and

1195
01:02:50,760 --> 01:02:53,160
Speaker 2: an interim keeps trying to make plans with us, like

1196
01:02:53,280 --> 01:02:55,760
Speaker 2: she's on vacation, Like we should all get dressed up

1197
01:02:55,800 --> 01:02:57,040
Speaker 2: and go to a fancy dinner.

1198
01:02:57,000 --> 01:03:01,160
Speaker 1: Like let's get some wines, get some like yeah, let's.

1199
01:03:01,120 --> 01:03:06,840
Speaker 2: Smoke, you know, let's listen. She's like, not on the weekends.

1200
01:03:06,960 --> 01:03:08,720
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, it works.

1201
01:03:08,840 --> 01:03:09,320
Speaker 2: I don't worry.

1202
01:03:09,360 --> 01:03:10,960
Speaker 1: My baby's chill, Yeah, my baby's chill.

1203
01:03:11,000 --> 01:03:13,520
Speaker 2: Like that chill like that. Yeah, you know your baby

1204
01:03:13,600 --> 01:03:18,320
Speaker 2: was chill like that? Far less along, She books appointment

1205
01:03:18,360 --> 01:03:21,320
Speaker 2: for the end of the week on vacation. What are

1206
01:03:21,360 --> 01:03:23,840
Speaker 2: we going to do something fun? She says, we should

1207
01:03:23,880 --> 01:03:26,680
Speaker 2: do something fun for her upcoming birthday and she would

1208
01:03:26,720 --> 01:03:29,040
Speaker 2: like to help us plan. What else is there to

1209
01:03:29,080 --> 01:03:31,840
Speaker 2: do around here? The only time she talks about the baby,

1210
01:03:31,960 --> 01:03:34,480
Speaker 2: she talks about how she can, how she came here

1211
01:03:34,520 --> 01:03:37,600
Speaker 2: because she trusts us and wants us to help raise

1212
01:03:37,680 --> 01:03:39,160
Speaker 2: her baby as she can't do.

1213
01:03:40,240 --> 01:03:44,120
Speaker 1: Even that, I'd be like, even if she was being truthful,

1214
01:03:45,040 --> 01:03:46,120
Speaker 1: I'd be like, that's a lot.

1215
01:03:46,520 --> 01:03:49,840
Speaker 2: And guess what, Sophia, we were right. She smokes a

1216
01:03:49,880 --> 01:03:53,240
Speaker 2: lot of that green Oh my God, asks for a

1217
01:03:53,480 --> 01:03:55,040
Speaker 2: beer for the first few days.

1218
01:03:55,240 --> 01:03:57,080
Speaker 1: What kind of method acting is this?

1219
01:03:57,440 --> 01:04:01,080
Speaker 2: Talks about needing to dye her hair, which probably fumes,

1220
01:04:01,400 --> 01:04:02,640
Speaker 2: probably for the baby.

1221
01:04:03,200 --> 01:04:03,320
Speaker 7: Is that?

1222
01:04:04,080 --> 01:04:06,160
Speaker 2: Is that real? Is that the dye your hair bad

1223
01:04:06,240 --> 01:04:12,560
Speaker 2: for a baby? No prenatal vitamins and says she doesn't

1224
01:04:12,600 --> 01:04:16,720
Speaker 2: need them because she is healthy. He's not healthy.

1225
01:04:17,360 --> 01:04:17,920
Speaker 1: It works.

1226
01:04:19,400 --> 01:04:21,840
Speaker 2: I cook our dinner every night. During the day, my

1227
01:04:21,960 --> 01:04:24,280
Speaker 2: hobby makes sure our child is well fed with snacks

1228
01:04:24,280 --> 01:04:26,880
Speaker 2: and light meals. Do you ask several times, Oh, you

1229
01:04:27,000 --> 01:04:29,360
Speaker 2: only cook dinner. You don't cook a lunch or breakfast?

1230
01:04:29,560 --> 01:04:30,720
Speaker 2: What kind of mom are you?

1231
01:04:31,440 --> 01:04:33,400
Speaker 1: She's like, I don't get a three course meal.

1232
01:04:33,600 --> 01:04:34,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm hungry.

1233
01:04:35,680 --> 01:04:36,560
Speaker 1: I'm eating for two.

1234
01:04:37,040 --> 01:04:38,240
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm eating for two.

1235
01:04:38,760 --> 01:04:42,320
Speaker 1: I'm also drinking for two and I'm smoking for two.

1236
01:04:42,920 --> 01:04:46,520
Speaker 2: Please give me more drinks right now. You don't understanding

1237
01:04:47,200 --> 01:04:50,120
Speaker 2: of being the sickest chad in this belly.

1238
01:04:50,440 --> 01:04:52,640
Speaker 1: I come down for my hide twice as fast, so

1239
01:04:52,760 --> 01:04:53,760
Speaker 1: I need to take more.

1240
01:04:55,160 --> 01:04:58,720
Speaker 2: Well, and ask Hobby several times as he was making

1241
01:04:58,760 --> 01:05:00,880
Speaker 2: food for a child if he could make her some too.

1242
01:05:01,400 --> 01:05:05,040
Speaker 2: She never offers to make dinner or lunch or breakfast.

1243
01:05:05,400 --> 01:05:07,520
Speaker 2: And the time she asked me if I only make

1244
01:05:07,600 --> 01:05:10,880
Speaker 2: that one meal a day? I tell her yes, but

1245
01:05:11,000 --> 01:05:13,320
Speaker 2: she's welcome to make any meal she'd like, and always

1246
01:05:13,400 --> 01:05:17,160
Speaker 2: welcome to any food in her house. She says, you

1247
01:05:17,280 --> 01:05:19,560
Speaker 2: can't cook well. At this point, I would be like,

1248
01:05:20,480 --> 01:05:21,520
Speaker 2: I'm this is kind.

1249
01:05:21,440 --> 01:05:24,760
Speaker 1: Of sus bye. I'd be like, hey, you need to

1250
01:05:24,960 --> 01:05:25,360
Speaker 1: move out.

1251
01:05:25,640 --> 01:05:29,200
Speaker 2: Yeah. Nicole Hadden says you should look up cryptic pregnancy.

1252
01:05:29,360 --> 01:05:32,000
Speaker 2: It's wild. I saw one lady who was full term

1253
01:05:32,720 --> 01:05:36,400
Speaker 2: and wearing a bikini. And she did not look pregnant

1254
01:05:36,440 --> 01:05:36,720
Speaker 2: at all.

1255
01:05:36,800 --> 01:05:39,800
Speaker 1: Well, yeah, there are absolutely cases where, you know, women

1256
01:05:40,360 --> 01:05:43,160
Speaker 1: who are very far along don't like our mom. Actually,

1257
01:05:43,200 --> 01:05:46,560
Speaker 1: I think when she had Sam, I want to say,

1258
01:05:47,000 --> 01:05:51,720
Speaker 1: was still working at her architecture firm up until six months,

1259
01:05:52,320 --> 01:05:54,880
Speaker 1: and no one knew. Really, yeah, no one knew. And

1260
01:05:54,960 --> 01:05:57,040
Speaker 1: then she she left and they're like, why are you leaving?

1261
01:05:57,440 --> 01:06:00,640
Speaker 1: And she was like, I'm going on maternity and they're like,

1262
01:06:00,760 --> 01:06:04,480
Speaker 1: what she was six months? Yeah, So I mean there

1263
01:06:04,520 --> 01:06:07,280
Speaker 1: are cases where people don't really look pregnant but they're fine, go.

1264
01:06:07,400 --> 01:06:07,880
Speaker 2: Off, mom.

1265
01:06:08,320 --> 01:06:08,520
Speaker 1: Yeah.

1266
01:06:09,160 --> 01:06:11,040
Speaker 2: We started telling her she should get a job or

1267
01:06:11,080 --> 01:06:13,000
Speaker 2: some short term work since she has no money or

1268
01:06:13,120 --> 01:06:15,960
Speaker 2: idea of when her money is coming through. She says

1269
01:06:16,120 --> 01:06:18,280
Speaker 2: she will start applying, but can't get a W two job,

1270
01:06:18,360 --> 01:06:20,120
Speaker 2: So we tell her there are a number of places

1271
01:06:20,200 --> 01:06:22,360
Speaker 2: near us where we know for sure she can get

1272
01:06:22,400 --> 01:06:25,080
Speaker 2: ten ninety nine work. She applies to none of them,

1273
01:06:25,280 --> 01:06:28,000
Speaker 2: has a few interviews via zoom for places too far

1274
01:06:28,080 --> 01:06:31,200
Speaker 2: for her to drive, and keeps telling the interviewers she's

1275
01:06:31,280 --> 01:06:33,960
Speaker 2: six months along and doesn't want to lie about that,

1276
01:06:34,240 --> 01:06:37,880
Speaker 2: so it seems like she is purposely sabotaging these interviews.

1277
01:06:38,200 --> 01:06:39,760
Speaker 2: So she won't get the position.

1278
01:06:39,920 --> 01:06:41,880
Speaker 1: She's not even she's not even trying to get a job.

1279
01:06:42,720 --> 01:06:44,400
Speaker 2: She's just trying to look like she's trying to.

1280
01:06:44,640 --> 01:06:46,240
Speaker 1: She's a freaking freeloader.

1281
01:06:46,680 --> 01:06:48,320
Speaker 2: She's a freeloader and a con artist.

1282
01:06:48,600 --> 01:06:51,880
Speaker 1: Eh, you should she should link up with the grandma.

1283
01:06:51,960 --> 01:06:55,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, the grandma, seven year old grandma trying to freeload

1284
01:06:55,280 --> 01:06:58,560
Speaker 2: and con I give her gas money to get to

1285
01:06:58,720 --> 01:07:01,720
Speaker 2: her doctor's appointment. She comes back and she can't believe it.

1286
01:07:01,920 --> 01:07:05,600
Speaker 2: But the doctor says he is not pregnant. Oh, she

1287
01:07:05,720 --> 01:07:08,400
Speaker 2: doesn't know how that is possible. But the next day

1288
01:07:08,440 --> 01:07:11,160
Speaker 2: she is fine, and it's like she said, he was

1289
01:07:11,280 --> 01:07:14,320
Speaker 2: never pregnant. She's upbeat and back to asking what our

1290
01:07:14,360 --> 01:07:18,440
Speaker 2: plans are for the weekend. Yeah, we can really drink.

1291
01:07:19,080 --> 01:07:21,200
Speaker 2: We tell her we are setting up our camper and

1292
01:07:21,280 --> 01:07:23,240
Speaker 2: she can sleep in there. And we only let her

1293
01:07:23,280 --> 01:07:25,800
Speaker 2: sleep in our daughter's bed because we thought she was pregnant.

1294
01:07:26,080 --> 01:07:28,000
Speaker 2: She stays a few more days before coming to me

1295
01:07:28,160 --> 01:07:30,720
Speaker 2: midday saying she's going back to her state. She has

1296
01:07:30,760 --> 01:07:33,360
Speaker 2: a better job opportunity there and has found a different

1297
01:07:33,520 --> 01:07:36,920
Speaker 2: sap to live with, who said she can help around

1298
01:07:36,920 --> 01:07:39,080
Speaker 2: the house to earn her keep until she gets a

1299
01:07:39,200 --> 01:07:41,840
Speaker 2: job and can afford to pay rent there for the

1300
01:07:41,920 --> 01:07:44,120
Speaker 2: room she'll be staying, and I give her money for

1301
01:07:44,200 --> 01:07:47,760
Speaker 2: gas because at that point we are ridiculously uncomfortable and

1302
01:07:47,840 --> 01:07:50,480
Speaker 2: want her to move out. I mean, she's she's been

1303
01:07:50,560 --> 01:07:51,760
Speaker 2: lying to you this whole time.

1304
01:07:51,880 --> 01:07:53,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, of course she wanted to anything.

1305
01:07:53,520 --> 01:07:56,600
Speaker 2: You don't owe her anything. The kicker, Yeah, she knows

1306
01:07:56,640 --> 01:07:57,000
Speaker 2: you money.

1307
01:07:57,920 --> 01:07:58,640
Speaker 1: Here's your rent.

1308
01:07:59,360 --> 01:08:02,919
Speaker 2: The kicker is she says, well, since you guys don't

1309
01:08:02,920 --> 01:08:04,960
Speaker 2: want a roommate, it's better off if I go.

1310
01:08:05,400 --> 01:08:06,400
Speaker 1: What the F.

1311
01:08:07,280 --> 01:08:09,480
Speaker 2: I'm at a loss for what her plan was, apart

1312
01:08:09,720 --> 01:08:11,960
Speaker 2: for us to take care of her, give her a

1313
01:08:12,000 --> 01:08:14,640
Speaker 2: place to live, cook for pay the bills, because she

1314
01:08:14,760 --> 01:08:18,200
Speaker 2: asked again when she got here if I could get

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Speaker 2: her a job with my place of employment. He obviously knew,

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Speaker 2: as I had reiterated multiple times when she was here

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Speaker 2: and before she got here, that we didn't want a

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Speaker 2: roommate and don't need the headache, and that financially things

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01:08:30,520 --> 01:08:33,760
Speaker 2: were tight and we can't afford to support her. She

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Speaker 2: said multiple times while here she was glad we would

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Speaker 2: help her raise her baby, to which I said, no,

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01:08:39,520 --> 01:08:41,720
Speaker 2: we would not. I feel bad about this, but I

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01:08:41,840 --> 01:08:44,280
Speaker 2: was very blunt and told her that while I'm glad

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Speaker 2: for her, we have been going through rough times and

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Speaker 2: don't have the emotional bandwidth to help raise a baby,

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01:08:51,200 --> 01:08:54,320
Speaker 2: which they kind of said from the beginning, but Opie

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01:08:54,439 --> 01:08:57,960
Speaker 2: was just taking advance or of Eupe's friend was taking advantaged.

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Speaker 2: Absolutely that we would give her help that we choose

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Speaker 2: to and are able to give, but none of this

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Speaker 2: would include helping her raise her baby, or her living

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01:09:07,920 --> 01:09:10,599
Speaker 2: with us while raising her baby. It blows my mind

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01:09:10,680 --> 01:09:13,400
Speaker 2: because while she is a diva, she has never pulled

1333
01:09:13,439 --> 01:09:15,839
Speaker 2: crap like this when I knew her before. She obviously

1334
01:09:15,960 --> 01:09:18,000
Speaker 2: lied about being pregnant, so I would feel bad enough

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Speaker 2: to take her in, but don't. But don't wear a

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01:09:21,600 --> 01:09:25,240
Speaker 2: skin tight bodysuit in the grocery store if you're pretending

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Speaker 2: to be pregnant.

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Speaker 1: Funny, it's just like not at all, lose nobody. Yeah, yeah,

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01:09:32,120 --> 01:09:35,559
Speaker 1: she's just like she's the finish she's everbidden.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. I am so stupid for bringing her here and

1341
01:09:39,479 --> 01:09:42,040
Speaker 2: ignoring all the red flags in our emergency convo.

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Speaker 1: I think this is a sign. This is like a

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01:09:46,200 --> 01:09:50,280
Speaker 1: separate issue. I guess of Ope needs to maybe go

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01:09:50,479 --> 01:09:56,080
Speaker 1: to therapy and work on like her, what maybe a

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01:09:56,160 --> 01:09:58,120
Speaker 1: tendency of like being too helpful.

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01:09:58,479 --> 01:10:00,559
Speaker 2: Yeah, this is this is like I feel like she's

1347
01:10:00,880 --> 01:10:04,320
Speaker 2: because she's being taken over, stepping in terms of healthfulness.

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01:10:04,479 --> 01:10:07,559
Speaker 1: Yeah, like she doesn't deserve that. Like I'm worried about

1349
01:10:07,600 --> 01:10:10,080
Speaker 1: future scenarios. Yeah, this happens again.

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01:10:10,439 --> 01:10:13,800
Speaker 2: To further add to my stupidity. I really trusted this chick.

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01:10:14,160 --> 01:10:16,800
Speaker 2: My hobby had made comments for years about why this

1352
01:10:16,960 --> 01:10:21,360
Speaker 2: chick wore super short skirts with no or tiny underpants,

1353
01:10:21,680 --> 01:10:23,960
Speaker 2: and it was so common that he has a towel

1354
01:10:24,160 --> 01:10:28,200
Speaker 2: or lap blanket ready whenever she came over because otherwise

1355
01:10:28,320 --> 01:10:33,200
Speaker 2: he had a front row seat to her nethers. What like,

1356
01:10:33,840 --> 01:10:38,559
Speaker 2: Like she basically wore no pants and only super short

1357
01:10:38,640 --> 01:10:41,759
Speaker 2: skirts when she was in the house, and the husband

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01:10:41,800 --> 01:10:43,680
Speaker 2: would bring a towel because he's like, I don't want

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01:10:43,720 --> 01:10:47,599
Speaker 2: to see your whole ass.

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01:10:48,320 --> 01:10:51,680
Speaker 1: But does he's giving her the towel. Yeah, he was

1361
01:10:51,720 --> 01:10:53,720
Speaker 1: putting it on himself. I was like, what, yeah, yeah,

1362
01:10:55,439 --> 01:10:59,840
Speaker 1: it is massive, okay, yep.

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01:11:02,240 --> 01:11:05,639
Speaker 2: I stipily put this at the door of her being foreign,

1364
01:11:05,840 --> 01:11:08,360
Speaker 2: and I raised and raised in a place that wasn't

1365
01:11:08,400 --> 01:11:11,519
Speaker 2: founded by Puritans. I never questioned why I never saw

1366
01:11:11,560 --> 01:11:13,439
Speaker 2: her in other's why this was ever an issue when

1367
01:11:13,479 --> 01:11:15,519
Speaker 2: we went out together or when it was just me

1368
01:11:15,600 --> 01:11:19,320
Speaker 2: and her. I didn't question that until this stay, when

1369
01:11:19,360 --> 01:11:21,600
Speaker 2: she asked my hubby why he let me wear a

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01:11:21,720 --> 01:11:25,200
Speaker 2: long dress that enhanced my chestel features to go out

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01:11:25,240 --> 01:11:28,840
Speaker 2: and run errands. It's a summer dress and it's effing hot.

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01:11:28,920 --> 01:11:32,599
Speaker 2: Here be clear, My sweater hams were covered, no nips

1373
01:11:32,720 --> 01:11:36,000
Speaker 2: or aerola showing. But I'm a busty lady. So how

1374
01:11:36,080 --> 01:11:38,400
Speaker 2: does someone who always told me how pretty I am

1375
01:11:38,760 --> 01:11:42,719
Speaker 2: and that she wants bigger boobies like mine wait until

1376
01:11:42,760 --> 01:11:44,880
Speaker 2: I'm gone to ask my husband how he could allow

1377
01:11:44,920 --> 01:11:47,800
Speaker 2: me to leave looking like that? And when he called

1378
01:11:47,800 --> 01:11:50,640
Speaker 2: her out for wearing her club wear cut out bodysuits

1379
01:11:50,680 --> 01:11:53,519
Speaker 2: to the grocery store, she said, but she'd never wear

1380
01:11:53,960 --> 01:11:58,080
Speaker 2: something like that if she was married, And the TLDR

1381
01:11:59,040 --> 01:12:01,240
Speaker 2: friend said she was pregn an essay to get her

1382
01:12:01,240 --> 01:12:03,840
Speaker 2: an invite to her to stay, arrive not pregnant, and

1383
01:12:04,000 --> 01:12:07,040
Speaker 2: wanted to be our roommate and to be taken care of.

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01:12:07,880 --> 01:12:13,639
Speaker 2: And there is some additional context, Yeah, not quite an update,

1385
01:12:13,640 --> 01:12:15,840
Speaker 2: but additional context. Why I think this is a massive

1386
01:12:15,880 --> 01:12:19,200
Speaker 2: case of entitlement is that my friend is tall and gorgeous.

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01:12:20,360 --> 01:12:23,000
Speaker 2: He takes excellent care of herself and turns heads everywhere

1388
01:12:23,080 --> 01:12:25,840
Speaker 2: she goes. I think that because guys constantly tell her

1389
01:12:25,960 --> 01:12:28,559
Speaker 2: she's beautiful, buy her drinks, take her out, and pay

1390
01:12:28,640 --> 01:12:32,240
Speaker 2: for everything, it has altered her perception of reality. Maybe

1391
01:12:32,320 --> 01:12:34,720
Speaker 2: now she expects that everyone wants to take care of her.

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01:12:35,080 --> 01:12:37,760
Speaker 2: I think she intentionally courts his attention from wealthy men

1393
01:12:38,120 --> 01:12:41,240
Speaker 2: as she dresses provocatively twenty four to seven seven and

1394
01:12:41,320 --> 01:12:44,519
Speaker 2: tends to hang around older men with money. He would

1395
01:12:44,560 --> 01:12:46,679
Speaker 2: also ask if we were going to change for dinner

1396
01:12:47,200 --> 01:12:51,000
Speaker 2: or before leaving for the store. Felt a little aristocratic

1397
01:12:51,240 --> 01:12:58,080
Speaker 2: and antiquated to me, and that is where this story ends.

1398
01:12:58,200 --> 01:13:01,479
Speaker 1: Well, well that's wild.

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01:13:01,760 --> 01:13:03,720
Speaker 2: So do you think Op was being a little bit

1400
01:13:03,880 --> 01:13:04,840
Speaker 2: too giving?

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01:13:05,240 --> 01:13:07,240
Speaker 1: I think so. I think that Op needed to set

1402
01:13:07,280 --> 01:13:09,360
Speaker 1: boundaries a lot sooner. And I think that this kind

1403
01:13:09,400 --> 01:13:12,479
Speaker 1: of snowball, which isn't to say that this is necessarily like, oh,

1404
01:13:12,560 --> 01:13:17,240
Speaker 1: piece fault. Obviously, it's this horrible friend who's taking advantage

1405
01:13:17,280 --> 01:13:19,720
Speaker 1: of her, But I think that a lot of it

1406
01:13:19,840 --> 01:13:24,439
Speaker 1: could have been avoided if if she kind of set

1407
01:13:24,479 --> 01:13:25,439
Speaker 1: those boundaries earlier.

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01:13:25,720 --> 01:13:28,479
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I mean, like, which is hard to do.

1409
01:13:28,560 --> 01:13:29,120
Speaker 1: Which is hard to do?

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01:13:29,439 --> 01:13:32,040
Speaker 2: You want to help your friend, but absolutely, I feel like.

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01:13:32,040 --> 01:13:34,080
Speaker 1: I don't think like it's not It's not like OP

1412
01:13:34,280 --> 01:13:36,639
Speaker 1: is at fault. I'm just saying in the future, you'd

1413
01:13:36,680 --> 01:13:39,919
Speaker 1: probably be benefited if she set boundaries.

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01:13:41,120 --> 01:13:43,360
Speaker 2: Yes, of course, of course, that's what I'm saying. Yeah,

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01:13:43,360 --> 01:13:47,160
Speaker 2: and like this, this friend doesn't actually seem like no

1416
01:13:47,600 --> 01:13:48,320
Speaker 2: a friend.

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01:13:48,240 --> 01:13:50,600
Speaker 1: Exactly, And it's like, this is a hard thing I

1418
01:13:50,640 --> 01:13:53,760
Speaker 1: think for everyone sometimes, you know, being able to tell

1419
01:13:53,840 --> 01:13:56,960
Speaker 1: who your real friends are, Yeah, which I feel like

1420
01:13:57,080 --> 01:13:57,960
Speaker 1: you're taking advantage of.

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01:13:58,160 --> 01:14:03,080
Speaker 2: Only really see when things are not really bad. Yeah. Yeah,

1422
01:14:03,439 --> 01:14:04,559
Speaker 2: like that's that's why.

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01:14:04,600 --> 01:14:06,479
Speaker 1: Because we often give our friends, you know, a lot

1424
01:14:06,560 --> 01:14:09,720
Speaker 1: of a lot of slee way and a lot of

1425
01:14:10,760 --> 01:14:11,720
Speaker 1: room for error.

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01:14:12,000 --> 01:14:13,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, because we know them.

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01:14:13,080 --> 01:14:14,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, because we know them movie or like oh no, no,

1428
01:14:15,000 --> 01:14:15,880
Speaker 1: I know all the good stuff.

1429
01:14:16,000 --> 01:14:16,200
Speaker 3: Yeah.

1430
01:14:16,439 --> 01:14:19,679
Speaker 2: But I think this is an example of maybe seeing

1431
01:14:19,720 --> 01:14:24,360
Speaker 2: a bit of your friend's true colors and their uh entitlement.

1432
01:14:24,920 --> 01:14:25,120
Speaker 1: Yeah.

1433
01:14:26,600 --> 01:14:28,640
Speaker 2: But yeah, I'm curious what what y'all think. Do you

1434
01:14:28,720 --> 01:14:32,880
Speaker 2: think OP should have let their friend into their house?

1435
01:14:34,280 --> 01:14:36,559
Speaker 1: Courtney Brady says Op is a good person but needs

1436
01:14:36,600 --> 01:14:39,519
Speaker 1: to learn to recognize red flags well set boundary, which

1437
01:14:39,560 --> 01:14:40,000
Speaker 1: I agree.

1438
01:14:40,640 --> 01:14:42,920
Speaker 2: Dutchess Cassanda says she could have opened up an of

1439
01:14:43,280 --> 01:14:51,360
Speaker 2: and gotten everything she wanted. Good good of Cassanda Hunt says,

1440
01:14:51,600 --> 01:14:54,280
Speaker 2: sometimes it's hard to set boundary to the friends. But yes,

1441
01:14:54,400 --> 01:14:56,680
Speaker 2: this one was just so entitled and so rude. I

1442
01:14:56,760 --> 01:14:59,519
Speaker 2: want to put up a pole. So I'm going to

1443
01:14:59,680 --> 01:15:03,720
Speaker 2: re read what the friend initially said. And if your

1444
01:15:03,920 --> 01:15:07,680
Speaker 2: friend said this, I.

1445
01:15:07,680 --> 01:15:11,960
Speaker 1: Would absolutely let them stay. I'm just saying that when

1446
01:15:12,080 --> 01:15:15,599
Speaker 1: she was staying, I would have set up like, well,

1447
01:15:15,920 --> 01:15:17,200
Speaker 1: I don't know if I would. I'm a kind of

1448
01:15:17,200 --> 01:15:19,240
Speaker 1: a people pleaser as well, but I think that Opie

1449
01:15:19,400 --> 01:15:21,840
Speaker 1: should in the future set up boundaries in that if

1450
01:15:21,880 --> 01:15:22,920
Speaker 1: that case happened again.

1451
01:15:23,960 --> 01:15:25,920
Speaker 2: Because initially what she said is at the end of

1452
01:15:26,040 --> 01:15:28,280
Speaker 2: last year, she told me her roomy slash boss was

1453
01:15:28,360 --> 01:15:30,600
Speaker 2: going to be closing his office and moving and she

1454
01:15:30,640 --> 01:15:33,120
Speaker 2: wouldn't be able to go back with him. So she's like,

1455
01:15:33,200 --> 01:15:33,840
Speaker 2: can I stay?

1456
01:15:34,400 --> 01:15:34,920
Speaker 7: And then.

1457
01:15:36,280 --> 01:15:39,479
Speaker 2: OPI's like, hey, no, we don't have room. And then

1458
01:15:39,520 --> 01:15:43,920
Speaker 2: again later she said ex roomy boss had kicked her

1459
01:15:44,000 --> 01:15:46,360
Speaker 2: out a few months prior and she thought she may

1460
01:15:46,439 --> 01:15:49,360
Speaker 2: have essayed her And now she was staying with like

1461
01:15:49,760 --> 01:15:54,160
Speaker 2: a cousin. So would you with those two ask before

1462
01:15:54,200 --> 01:15:57,000
Speaker 2: any of this other stuff happened, would you let Ope

1463
01:15:57,280 --> 01:16:01,080
Speaker 2: stay or would you or would you let Opie's friends

1464
01:16:01,080 --> 01:16:02,680
Speaker 2: stay or not?

1465
01:16:04,400 --> 01:16:06,439
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think in that situation of a friend came

1466
01:16:06,520 --> 01:16:09,040
Speaker 1: to me and said that I absolutely would let them stay.

1467
01:16:09,080 --> 01:16:10,960
Speaker 1: I think it's just a matter of after the fact.

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01:16:11,720 --> 01:16:15,920
Speaker 2: But so like, when would you have not what would

1469
01:16:15,960 --> 01:16:18,000
Speaker 2: you have stopped? Because like she came and she was

1470
01:16:18,080 --> 01:16:24,840
Speaker 2: not pregnant, You're not grilly, you're not you're not looking

1471
01:16:25,000 --> 01:16:27,200
Speaker 2: very pregnant. Would you make her take a pregnancy test?

1472
01:16:27,760 --> 01:16:27,800
Speaker 6: No?

1473
01:16:29,320 --> 01:16:31,439
Speaker 1: I think I would just be like, hey, we need

1474
01:16:31,520 --> 01:16:32,920
Speaker 1: to find you a place to live because we don't

1475
01:16:32,960 --> 01:16:34,040
Speaker 1: have the room for you.

1476
01:16:34,720 --> 01:16:36,160
Speaker 2: But would you you wouldn't.

1477
01:16:36,160 --> 01:16:37,640
Speaker 1: I probably help them find a place to live.

1478
01:16:37,680 --> 01:16:39,320
Speaker 2: You wouldn't address if she's pregnant or not.

1479
01:16:40,439 --> 01:16:44,479
Speaker 1: I'd be like, really early, come on, I don't know.

1480
01:16:44,520 --> 01:16:46,000
Speaker 1: If it was one of my friends, I probably would

1481
01:16:46,000 --> 01:16:47,400
Speaker 1: have been like, you don't look pregnant.

1482
01:16:47,479 --> 01:16:49,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, you don't look pregnant. How do you know you're pregnant?

1483
01:16:49,560 --> 01:16:51,960
Speaker 2: And then she'd be like, oh, I know I'm pregnant,

1484
01:16:52,000 --> 01:16:53,320
Speaker 2: and I'm like, did you take a pregnancy test.

1485
01:16:53,840 --> 01:16:55,719
Speaker 1: Yeah, I probably would have asked a little bit more question.

1486
01:16:55,760 --> 01:16:58,479
Speaker 2: Six months and you don't have any sign I don't know.

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01:16:59,560 --> 01:17:03,360
Speaker 2: Oh wow, people are pretty fifty to fifty fifty percent

1488
01:17:03,439 --> 01:17:07,840
Speaker 2: of people are our stay and forty five percent of

1489
01:17:07,880 --> 01:17:09,800
Speaker 2: people are na. Wow.

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01:17:10,160 --> 01:17:13,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think I definitely would have initially let my

1491
01:17:13,240 --> 01:17:13,720
Speaker 1: friends stay.

1492
01:17:14,200 --> 01:17:18,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, me too, me too. But once they came and

1493
01:17:18,040 --> 01:17:21,160
Speaker 2: they were like, no, pregnant, they've been like, yeah, this

1494
01:17:21,400 --> 01:17:22,280
Speaker 2: seems little fishing.

1495
01:17:22,400 --> 01:17:22,599
Speaker 4: Yeah.

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01:17:24,600 --> 01:17:27,400
Speaker 1: Ah, boy, Ellie Gray, they give you the five bucks.

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01:17:27,439 --> 01:17:29,840
Speaker 1: Op is on her way to becoming a recovering people.

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Speaker 2: Please, are recovering, learn excited.

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Speaker 1: But we also have another story. Is the story maybe

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Speaker 1: the final story of the night. Oh all right, let's

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Speaker 1: get into it.

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Speaker 2: Let's get down to business.

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Speaker 1: My sister went on a trip without telling me, so

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Speaker 1: I refuse to pay her rent. And this is to

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Speaker 1: answer the question how should you confront a liar?

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Speaker 1: Twenty five female got laid off about five months ago.

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Speaker 1: She's really struggled to find another job in her since,

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Speaker 1: as it's a really bad time for her field and

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Speaker 1: people are being laid off left and right.

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Speaker 2: We'll at tech.

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Speaker 1: She's currently working as a waitress while she looks for

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Speaker 1: a more permanent job, but isn't earning enough to fully

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Speaker 1: cover a rent. I have a pretty well paying job

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Speaker 1: and I share rent with my partner, so I offered

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Speaker 1: to help her cover the rent while she looks for

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Speaker 1: another job. She was extremely grateful, and together we agreed

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Speaker 1: on an amount which would allow her to cover rent

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01:19:00,320 --> 01:19:03,879
Speaker 1: Really nice. It's important to note that her monthly expenses

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Speaker 1: for food, travel, bills, et cetera. Were all provided by her.

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01:19:09,160 --> 01:19:12,000
Speaker 1: I didn't have any issues or suspect that anything was amiss.

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01:19:12,520 --> 01:19:15,439
Speaker 1: She hates working as a waitress, so I'm confident that

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01:19:15,520 --> 01:19:18,200
Speaker 1: she is doing everything in her power to find another job.

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01:19:18,920 --> 01:19:21,000
Speaker 1: The last time I saw her, she mentioned that she

1535
01:19:21,080 --> 01:19:23,760
Speaker 1: has picked up a few extra shifts recently so that

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01:19:23,880 --> 01:19:26,439
Speaker 1: she can afford to get her parents a nice anniversary gift.

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01:19:26,600 --> 01:19:29,439
Speaker 1: So I figured she was basically living paycheck to paycheck.

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01:19:30,360 --> 01:19:33,800
Speaker 1: Fast forward to now, and I've just received word from

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01:19:33,880 --> 01:19:36,719
Speaker 1: our cousin that my sister is in Paris.

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01:19:37,720 --> 01:19:45,439
Speaker 2: Paris, in Paris, Well we're gonna be soon, my god.

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01:19:45,520 --> 01:19:49,040
Speaker 1: So she lies job, so she said that she's living

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01:19:49,439 --> 01:19:51,800
Speaker 1: or made ope think that she was living paycheck to

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01:19:51,840 --> 01:19:53,000
Speaker 1: paycheck and then flew to Paris.

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01:19:53,280 --> 01:19:55,960
Speaker 2: Well, maybe she's living paycheck to paycheck in Paris now,

1545
01:19:56,040 --> 01:19:57,400
Speaker 2: she's definitely living to paycheck to.

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01:20:00,200 --> 01:20:03,479
Speaker 1: When I expressed confusion, my cousin sent me a bunch

1547
01:20:03,520 --> 01:20:08,519
Speaker 1: of screenshots from my sister's Instagram. Freaking snitch. Uh my

1548
01:20:08,680 --> 01:20:11,200
Speaker 1: sister must have blocked me and my parents on there,

1549
01:20:11,280 --> 01:20:13,240
Speaker 1: because none of us could see any of her posts

1550
01:20:13,360 --> 01:20:18,280
Speaker 1: or stories. I was very confused, then angry, because if

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01:20:18,320 --> 01:20:21,240
Speaker 1: she's living paycheck to paycheck, how on earth can she

1552
01:20:21,320 --> 01:20:24,120
Speaker 1: afford to go on a trip to Europe. For context,

1553
01:20:24,280 --> 01:20:28,160
Speaker 1: we live in Australia and plane tickets typically cost upwards

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01:20:28,160 --> 01:20:31,919
Speaker 1: of one thousand dollars, and that's not accounting for food, hotels,

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01:20:32,040 --> 01:20:34,040
Speaker 1: or anything else. And also that can be a long

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01:20:35,120 --> 01:20:39,000
Speaker 1: that's a long flight. I was so pissed that not

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01:20:39,200 --> 01:20:42,400
Speaker 1: only has she gone on an expensive trip, she clearly

1558
01:20:42,520 --> 01:20:45,160
Speaker 1: tried to hide it from me. I ended up sending

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01:20:45,200 --> 01:20:48,400
Speaker 1: her a few short messages basically saying that I know

1560
01:20:49,240 --> 01:20:51,720
Speaker 1: she was in Europe and that clearly she doesn't need

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01:20:51,800 --> 01:20:54,120
Speaker 1: my help paying for rent anymore if she can afford

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01:20:54,160 --> 01:20:58,000
Speaker 1: a big trip. She called me and was basically in tears,

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01:20:58,120 --> 01:21:00,439
Speaker 1: begging me not to cut her off. She said that

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01:21:00,479 --> 01:21:02,160
Speaker 1: she was on the trip with her new boyfriend and

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01:21:02,280 --> 01:21:05,719
Speaker 1: that he's paying for everything. She insisted that she still

1566
01:21:05,800 --> 01:21:07,840
Speaker 1: needs the money to cover her rent and that she

1567
01:21:07,920 --> 01:21:09,960
Speaker 1: will have to move in if I don't help her.

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01:21:10,840 --> 01:21:13,080
Speaker 2: Oh, so it was that that is plausible.

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01:21:13,479 --> 01:21:15,800
Speaker 1: That is plausible. Do we think that she's telling the truth?

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01:21:16,080 --> 01:21:17,000
Speaker 2: I think she could.

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01:21:17,120 --> 01:21:17,840
Speaker 1: I think she could be.

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01:21:18,000 --> 01:21:18,200
Speaker 2: Yeah.

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01:21:18,520 --> 01:21:20,680
Speaker 1: I basically told her that it was her problem now

1574
01:21:20,880 --> 01:21:23,800
Speaker 1: and hung up, which I admit was childish of me,

1575
01:21:24,000 --> 01:21:26,880
Speaker 1: but I was still so mad. I don't know much

1576
01:21:26,880 --> 01:21:29,200
Speaker 1: about her new boyfriend, so maybe he is a millionaire

1577
01:21:29,280 --> 01:21:31,880
Speaker 1: or something, but the fact that she tried to hide

1578
01:21:31,960 --> 01:21:35,360
Speaker 1: it from me sets off alarm bells. I'll obviously have

1579
01:21:35,439 --> 01:21:37,519
Speaker 1: a proper discussion with her when she gets back, but

1580
01:21:37,640 --> 01:21:41,200
Speaker 1: from now I'm going to block her number. Since then,

1581
01:21:41,320 --> 01:21:43,320
Speaker 1: she has reached out to some other family members who

1582
01:21:43,400 --> 01:21:45,240
Speaker 1: think I'm mean, too harsh and should give her the

1583
01:21:45,320 --> 01:21:47,840
Speaker 1: benefit of the doubt. They all seem to think I'm

1584
01:21:47,880 --> 01:21:49,559
Speaker 1: going to force her to be out on the streets.

1585
01:21:49,880 --> 01:21:52,080
Speaker 1: It's looking like this will be a whole fiasco when

1586
01:21:52,160 --> 01:21:55,479
Speaker 1: she gets back. I need an outside opinion.

1587
01:21:55,640 --> 01:21:57,840
Speaker 5: This reminds me of the story we read where the

1588
01:21:57,920 --> 01:22:01,560
Speaker 5: guy borrowed twenty k from his other and spin it

1589
01:22:01,680 --> 01:22:02,880
Speaker 5: on a Disneyland trip.

1590
01:22:03,240 --> 01:22:04,960
Speaker 1: Oh my god, that's expensive Disney.

1591
01:22:05,080 --> 01:22:10,280
Speaker 2: Also, I honestly think that she might be telling the truth.

1592
01:22:10,439 --> 01:22:12,160
Speaker 1: I think she might be telling the truth, and I

1593
01:22:12,200 --> 01:22:15,720
Speaker 1: think how op should approach this is saying, Hey, I

1594
01:22:15,880 --> 01:22:20,479
Speaker 1: need you to have some financial transparency with me. I

1595
01:22:20,600 --> 01:22:24,439
Speaker 1: need you just show me, you know, if this truly

1596
01:22:24,560 --> 01:22:26,640
Speaker 1: is coming from his account, If this is coming, I

1597
01:22:26,720 --> 01:22:30,599
Speaker 1: want to know what you're paying for. Yeah, I need more.

1598
01:22:30,800 --> 01:22:33,639
Speaker 1: I can we can maybe work out a way where

1599
01:22:33,680 --> 01:22:36,160
Speaker 1: I will continue helping you with rent, but I need

1600
01:22:36,240 --> 01:22:37,840
Speaker 1: you to be completely transparent with me.

1601
01:22:38,120 --> 01:22:40,880
Speaker 2: Like I know girls that were like like in debt

1602
01:22:41,240 --> 01:22:44,040
Speaker 2: or broke, but would like you know, we're cute and

1603
01:22:44,439 --> 01:22:48,200
Speaker 2: went on dates and got everything paid for, like would

1604
01:22:48,240 --> 01:22:51,839
Speaker 2: go out to like super expensive restaurants or go traveling

1605
01:22:51,960 --> 01:22:55,320
Speaker 2: because they were being paid for. And so I think

1606
01:22:55,400 --> 01:22:57,839
Speaker 2: this could definitely be the case of like a rich boyfriend,

1607
01:22:57,920 --> 01:23:02,479
Speaker 2: but his his financial is not necessarily shared by her. Yeah,

1608
01:23:02,840 --> 01:23:07,479
Speaker 2: but then it's like, hey, babe, love the idea of Paris,

1609
01:23:07,560 --> 01:23:10,120
Speaker 2: but you know what I love more rent being paid,

1610
01:23:10,760 --> 01:23:12,719
Speaker 2: Like maybe move the pars money to rent.

1611
01:23:12,840 --> 01:23:15,200
Speaker 1: Yeah, but I think the only weird thing is that

1612
01:23:15,280 --> 01:23:17,400
Speaker 1: she kept it a secret, which is what some people

1613
01:23:17,439 --> 01:23:17,760
Speaker 1: are saying.

1614
01:23:17,840 --> 01:23:19,519
Speaker 2: Yeah, she blocked that. That's bad.

1615
01:23:19,760 --> 01:23:19,960
Speaker 1: Yeah.

1616
01:23:20,040 --> 01:23:22,360
Speaker 2: Bad. She could have a lot of little bit avoided

1617
01:23:22,400 --> 01:23:27,040
Speaker 2: where it's like, hey, I'm going to money, yeah. Yeah,

1618
01:23:27,080 --> 01:23:29,840
Speaker 2: And honestly, I feel like maybe op would have understood that.

1619
01:23:30,240 --> 01:23:31,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think she would have.

1620
01:23:31,200 --> 01:23:34,120
Speaker 2: I think she would have, or maybe not. Maybe it's like, hey,

1621
01:23:34,200 --> 01:23:37,280
Speaker 2: instead of instead of freaking going to Paris, maybe you

1622
01:23:37,320 --> 01:23:38,800
Speaker 2: should try to get a job.

1623
01:23:39,000 --> 01:23:42,519
Speaker 1: Yeah, but there is an update so we can find

1624
01:23:42,560 --> 01:23:46,760
Speaker 1: out what the real ruth of the matter is. I

1625
01:23:46,880 --> 01:23:49,600
Speaker 1: decided that at the very least I should let my

1626
01:23:49,720 --> 01:23:52,479
Speaker 1: sister explain herself. So I rang her again. After I

1627
01:23:52,560 --> 01:23:56,240
Speaker 1: had calmed down okay, we love we love communication. She

1628
01:23:56,360 --> 01:23:58,280
Speaker 1: said that the trip was a very last minute thing

1629
01:23:58,760 --> 01:24:00,920
Speaker 1: and that her boyfriend was all already going to Europe

1630
01:24:01,000 --> 01:24:03,240
Speaker 1: and he offered to pay for her plane ticket so

1631
01:24:03,400 --> 01:24:05,080
Speaker 1: she could come along with him, and she felt that

1632
01:24:05,160 --> 01:24:06,880
Speaker 1: it was too good of an offer to pass up.

1633
01:24:07,760 --> 01:24:10,320
Speaker 1: When I asked about other expenses, she told me that

1634
01:24:10,400 --> 01:24:12,800
Speaker 1: he was mostly paying for everything and she only had

1635
01:24:12,840 --> 01:24:15,679
Speaker 1: to contribute a small amount. When I asked her where

1636
01:24:15,840 --> 01:24:18,400
Speaker 1: she got the money for that, she got kind of

1637
01:24:18,439 --> 01:24:21,200
Speaker 1: defensive and said that she had saved some money while

1638
01:24:21,240 --> 01:24:23,320
Speaker 1: working as a waitress and that it wasn't fair that

1639
01:24:23,400 --> 01:24:25,519
Speaker 1: I was judging her for just trying to have a break,

1640
01:24:25,960 --> 01:24:28,400
Speaker 1: and that's why she didn't tell me. I did bring

1641
01:24:28,520 --> 01:24:30,720
Speaker 1: up that he could help her bay Rent, but she

1642
01:24:30,840 --> 01:24:32,680
Speaker 1: said that they hadn't been dating for that long and

1643
01:24:32,760 --> 01:24:35,719
Speaker 1: she doesn't feel comfortable asking him. I think he comes

1644
01:24:35,840 --> 01:24:38,400
Speaker 1: from quite a well off family and she doesn't want

1645
01:24:38,439 --> 01:24:41,400
Speaker 1: to come across like a gold digger. I do get this.

1646
01:24:41,720 --> 01:24:43,360
Speaker 1: I think it would be weird to ask someone you

1647
01:24:43,439 --> 01:24:45,599
Speaker 1: hadn't known for that long, and I do believe her

1648
01:24:45,760 --> 01:24:48,120
Speaker 1: for the most part, but I'm still pissed that she

1649
01:24:48,160 --> 01:24:50,400
Speaker 1: didn't tell me, and that she could clearly and that

1650
01:24:50,479 --> 01:24:52,680
Speaker 1: she clearly did have some money saved that could have

1651
01:24:52,760 --> 01:24:56,360
Speaker 1: been used to contribute to rent. I'm also pretty convinced

1652
01:24:56,360 --> 01:24:58,200
Speaker 1: that the money she said would go towards a gift

1653
01:24:58,280 --> 01:25:01,519
Speaker 1: for her parents also got sped on the trip, which

1654
01:25:01,560 --> 01:25:03,560
Speaker 1: feels a bit scummy because she did say that was

1655
01:25:03,600 --> 01:25:05,160
Speaker 1: going towards an anniversary gift.

1656
01:25:06,040 --> 01:25:08,320
Speaker 2: I think she's lying, but I I.

1657
01:25:08,400 --> 01:25:10,639
Speaker 1: Did stand my ground about no longer paying her rent,

1658
01:25:10,760 --> 01:25:13,000
Speaker 1: but I did agree to discuss it again when she

1659
01:25:13,120 --> 01:25:16,720
Speaker 1: got back. However, I will definitely ask to see her

1660
01:25:16,760 --> 01:25:19,960
Speaker 1: bank statements before I give her a cent more. And

1661
01:25:20,080 --> 01:25:22,400
Speaker 1: if it turns out she has been scamming me, then

1662
01:25:22,479 --> 01:25:24,439
Speaker 1: not only will I not give her any more money,

1663
01:25:24,840 --> 01:25:27,120
Speaker 1: but I will make her pay back what I loaned her.

1664
01:25:27,840 --> 01:25:30,439
Speaker 1: And this is to answer the question of how should

1665
01:25:30,479 --> 01:25:31,360
Speaker 1: you confront a liar?

1666
01:25:31,880 --> 01:25:35,080
Speaker 2: And also feel like OP did a pretty good job calling.

1667
01:25:34,960 --> 01:25:35,759
Speaker 1: And calling around.

1668
01:25:36,080 --> 01:25:40,439
Speaker 2: This doesn't immediately, and I do think it's like instead

1669
01:25:40,439 --> 01:25:42,360
Speaker 2: of just blocking someone, get the full story.

1670
01:25:42,520 --> 01:25:43,840
Speaker 1: I agree, especially it's your sister.

1671
01:25:43,920 --> 01:25:46,479
Speaker 2: It's your sister. Yeah, even if you were whisked away

1672
01:25:46,520 --> 01:25:48,639
Speaker 2: to Paris and I was paying your rent, I would

1673
01:25:48,800 --> 01:25:51,320
Speaker 2: I would be like, Hey, Sophia, what's what's the deal here?

1674
01:25:51,360 --> 01:25:54,000
Speaker 2: I thought you were trying to get a job. You

1675
01:25:54,040 --> 01:25:56,360
Speaker 2: go work tomorrow, You work tomorrow, you kt a stream.

1676
01:25:58,360 --> 01:26:00,800
Speaker 1: Yeah. No, I think that I'm a little bit more

1677
01:26:00,880 --> 01:26:06,800
Speaker 1: suspicious about her situation, the sister's situation after this next part,

1678
01:26:07,040 --> 01:26:09,320
Speaker 1: just because she seemed like a little bit cagey about it. Yeah,

1679
01:26:10,160 --> 01:26:13,799
Speaker 1: but I think getting the big statement, ah.

1680
01:26:14,720 --> 01:26:16,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, let's get to the bottom of it. And I

1681
01:26:16,479 --> 01:26:18,400
Speaker 2: think that's what op is trying to do. She's trying

1682
01:26:18,439 --> 01:26:19,760
Speaker 2: to get to the bottom of it, and I think

1683
01:26:20,080 --> 01:26:23,719
Speaker 2: honestly she will successfully do so with the bank statement stuff.

1684
01:26:23,760 --> 01:26:26,880
Speaker 1: I agree. I also do agree with the sister, however,

1685
01:26:27,040 --> 01:26:31,120
Speaker 1: about not feeling comfortable enough to ask for rent, because

1686
01:26:31,120 --> 01:26:33,200
Speaker 1: I think that is a completely different thing than asking

1687
01:26:33,240 --> 01:26:35,559
Speaker 1: about than him being like, hey do you want to yeah,

1688
01:26:35,560 --> 01:26:37,679
Speaker 1: because he offered, do you want to come to Paris

1689
01:26:37,720 --> 01:26:37,880
Speaker 1: with me?

1690
01:26:37,960 --> 01:26:40,439
Speaker 2: I'll pay Yeah, that is I think those are two

1691
01:26:40,479 --> 01:26:43,160
Speaker 2: different and saying like, hey I don't want Paris or

1692
01:26:43,280 --> 01:26:45,519
Speaker 2: to pay my rent. That does feel gold Dick great. Yes,

1693
01:26:45,800 --> 01:26:47,280
Speaker 2: I could think of like someone did that to me.

1694
01:26:47,360 --> 01:26:49,679
Speaker 2: It would be like red flag. Yeah, I'm not taking

1695
01:26:49,760 --> 01:26:50,360
Speaker 2: you anywhere.

1696
01:26:50,439 --> 01:26:52,240
Speaker 1: Yeah, like, if you that girl that you took to

1697
01:26:52,320 --> 01:26:54,519
Speaker 1: North Carolina. Yeah, if she was like, don't take me

1698
01:26:54,600 --> 01:26:59,280
Speaker 1: to North Carolina, pay my rent, I would be like no, no, yeah,

1699
01:26:59,320 --> 01:27:02,960
Speaker 1: that would be really weird. Weird. Yeah, yeah, no jolly toaster,

1700
01:27:03,040 --> 01:27:05,960
Speaker 1: says Opie's sisters. A sugar baby maybe, but also I

1701
01:27:06,040 --> 01:27:06,439
Speaker 1: think there.

1702
01:27:06,360 --> 01:27:08,639
Speaker 2: Is a world where there's a world war. That's fine

1703
01:27:09,080 --> 01:27:09,280
Speaker 2: if he.

1704
01:27:09,360 --> 01:27:12,760
Speaker 1: Was well if he was well off. Sometimes people will just.

1705
01:27:13,120 --> 01:27:16,640
Speaker 2: Take your places, take you to places, but you know,

1706
01:27:16,800 --> 01:27:18,400
Speaker 2: this is the last place that we're taking you to

1707
01:27:19,120 --> 01:27:23,479
Speaker 2: because the stream is officially over, officially over. So if

1708
01:27:23,560 --> 01:27:25,360
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01:27:25,560 --> 01:27:27,719
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