WEBVTT - Get curious when things don't go as planned

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio. Good Morning.

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<v Speaker 1>This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. Today's

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<v Speaker 1>tip is to get curious when things don't go as planned.

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<v Speaker 1>If you are finding it hard to follow through on

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<v Speaker 1>a plan you made, try to figure out why. Maybe

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<v Speaker 1>you will be able to adjust the plan for more success,

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<v Speaker 1>or you might realize what you do and do not

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<v Speaker 1>want to do. Because I write and speak about time management,

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<v Speaker 1>I hear from a lot of people about their goals

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<v Speaker 1>and plans. This includes their frustrations when things don't go

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<v Speaker 1>as expected. Sometimes people berate themselves for not doing what

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<v Speaker 1>they intended, and I guess that sometimes that provides a

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<v Speaker 1>kick in the pants, But other times this self flagellation

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<v Speaker 1>does not result in anything positive. It might be a

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<v Speaker 1>better idea to ask some questions to figure out why

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<v Speaker 1>things didn't go as you expected. Maybe it's not the

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<v Speaker 1>execution that was flawed, but the plan itself. For instance,

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<v Speaker 1>let's say that you and a friend decide that you're

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<v Speaker 1>going to go to a spin class together every Monday night,

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<v Speaker 1>but then you usually find yourself going out for drinks instead.

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<v Speaker 1>As you sit there feeling guilty. The next day, You

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<v Speaker 1>might promise yourself that next week is the week that

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<v Speaker 1>everything will be different. But let's be honest here, it's

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<v Speaker 1>probably wisest to figure out why you landed in the

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<v Speaker 1>bar instead of the gym five times out of the

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<v Speaker 1>last six. Maybe it's a schedule issue. One of you

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<v Speaker 1>can't realistically leave work, get to the gym, change clothes,

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<v Speaker 1>and be in the studio by five forty five. Maybe

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<v Speaker 1>it's a different one of you each week, but the

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<v Speaker 1>net result is that one of you is usually texting, Hey,

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<v Speaker 1>stuck in a meeting. Can we meet at the Frosty

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<v Speaker 1>Mug instead? If that is the issue, maybe you'd be

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<v Speaker 1>better off finding a class that meets at a different

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<v Speaker 1>time when you have control of your schedules, like nine

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<v Speaker 1>am on a Saturday. Or maybe the problem is that

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<v Speaker 1>you're both really tired on Monday and you do better

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<v Speaker 1>with a Thursday class. Or maybe the issue is that

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<v Speaker 1>this is the only time you see your friend and

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<v Speaker 1>you always have a lot to talk about, and you

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<v Speaker 1>can't really talk while you're spinning on a bike. If

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<v Speaker 1>that is the case, maybe you could meet for a

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<v Speaker 1>walk or a run instead, you exercise and get to

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<v Speaker 1>catch Maybe you want to like spin class, but you

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<v Speaker 1>just don't. Maybe your friend doesn't like it, so she

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<v Speaker 1>finds reasons to switch the plans. Not everybody likes spin class.

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<v Speaker 1>It doesn't mean either of you are bad people. When

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<v Speaker 1>we get curious about why a plan isn't working, we

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<v Speaker 1>are better positioned to develop a plan that will work.

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<v Speaker 1>Or I see this a lot. Maybe it's a morning

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<v Speaker 1>routine that you're struggling with. People come up with all

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<v Speaker 1>sorts of grand ideas of what they'd like to do

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<v Speaker 1>in the early mornings. They've read stories of very successful

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<v Speaker 1>people who get up at five am to run a

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<v Speaker 1>marathon and meditate for an hour and enjoy some breakfast

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<v Speaker 1>with a lot of greens. I confess that I have

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<v Speaker 1>written some of these profiles, and all of this is great.

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<v Speaker 1>But maybe these early rising folks don't have two toddlers

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<v Speaker 1>and a puppy who wake unpredictably and thus make your

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<v Speaker 1>mornings unpredictable. If that is the case, then setting your

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<v Speaker 1>alarm early doesn't guarantee you'll get to do your routine,

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<v Speaker 1>which gets quite frustrating. So people give up better to

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<v Speaker 1>figure out what does work, like trading off mornings with

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<v Speaker 1>your partner, so each of you get some certain time

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<v Speaker 1>or doing your morning routine from eight to eight forty

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<v Speaker 1>five after you drop your kids at daycare, but before

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<v Speaker 1>work usually starts. When you are struggling to follow through

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<v Speaker 1>on a plan, there are other approaches beyond just trying

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<v Speaker 1>and trying and failing and then feeling like a failure.

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<v Speaker 1>Think about whether the plan is truly aligned with your

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<v Speaker 1>goals and desires and whether it is realistic given your life.

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<v Speaker 1>When you understand why a plan isn't working, our better

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<v Speaker 1>position to adjust and you can make a plan you

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<v Speaker 1>will follow that will get you where you want to go.

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<v Speaker 1>If you get curious about a plan that's not working

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<v Speaker 1>for you, I'd love to hear what you discover and

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<v Speaker 1>how you adjust. You can reach me at Laura at

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<v Speaker 1>Laura vandercam dot com. In the meantime, this is Laura.

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<v Speaker 1>Thanks for listening, and here's to making the most of

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<v Speaker 1>our times. Thanks for listening to Before Breakfast. If you've

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<v Speaker 1>got questions, ideas, or feedback, you can reach me at

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<v Speaker 1>Laura at Laura vandercam dot com. Before Breakfast is a

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