1 00:00:03,480 --> 00:00:09,560 Speaker 1: Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio. Good Morning. 2 00:00:10,960 --> 00:00:17,120 Speaker 1: This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. Today's 3 00:00:17,120 --> 00:00:20,759 Speaker 1: tip is to get curious when things don't go as planned. 4 00:00:22,160 --> 00:00:24,560 Speaker 1: If you are finding it hard to follow through on 5 00:00:24,640 --> 00:00:29,520 Speaker 1: a plan you made, try to figure out why. Maybe 6 00:00:29,520 --> 00:00:32,159 Speaker 1: you will be able to adjust the plan for more success, 7 00:00:33,640 --> 00:00:36,640 Speaker 1: or you might realize what you do and do not 8 00:00:37,479 --> 00:00:42,479 Speaker 1: want to do. Because I write and speak about time management, 9 00:00:43,240 --> 00:00:45,599 Speaker 1: I hear from a lot of people about their goals 10 00:00:45,640 --> 00:00:50,640 Speaker 1: and plans. This includes their frustrations when things don't go 11 00:00:50,720 --> 00:00:55,920 Speaker 1: as expected. Sometimes people berate themselves for not doing what 12 00:00:55,960 --> 00:01:00,880 Speaker 1: they intended, and I guess that sometimes that provides a 13 00:01:01,080 --> 00:01:05,960 Speaker 1: kick in the pants, But other times this self flagellation 14 00:01:06,880 --> 00:01:11,200 Speaker 1: does not result in anything positive. It might be a 15 00:01:11,319 --> 00:01:15,440 Speaker 1: better idea to ask some questions to figure out why 16 00:01:15,560 --> 00:01:19,880 Speaker 1: things didn't go as you expected. Maybe it's not the 17 00:01:19,920 --> 00:01:26,440 Speaker 1: execution that was flawed, but the plan itself. For instance, 18 00:01:26,520 --> 00:01:29,200 Speaker 1: let's say that you and a friend decide that you're 19 00:01:29,240 --> 00:01:32,240 Speaker 1: going to go to a spin class together every Monday night, 20 00:01:33,440 --> 00:01:37,920 Speaker 1: but then you usually find yourself going out for drinks instead. 21 00:01:38,440 --> 00:01:41,160 Speaker 1: As you sit there feeling guilty. The next day, You 22 00:01:41,240 --> 00:01:44,720 Speaker 1: might promise yourself that next week is the week that 23 00:01:44,920 --> 00:01:50,280 Speaker 1: everything will be different. But let's be honest here, it's 24 00:01:50,320 --> 00:01:53,800 Speaker 1: probably wisest to figure out why you landed in the 25 00:01:53,840 --> 00:01:56,880 Speaker 1: bar instead of the gym five times out of the 26 00:01:56,960 --> 00:02:03,200 Speaker 1: last six. Maybe it's a schedule issue. One of you 27 00:02:03,240 --> 00:02:08,240 Speaker 1: can't realistically leave work, get to the gym, change clothes, 28 00:02:08,919 --> 00:02:13,120 Speaker 1: and be in the studio by five forty five. Maybe 29 00:02:13,160 --> 00:02:15,720 Speaker 1: it's a different one of you each week, but the 30 00:02:15,760 --> 00:02:18,600 Speaker 1: net result is that one of you is usually texting, Hey, 31 00:02:18,680 --> 00:02:20,480 Speaker 1: stuck in a meeting. Can we meet at the Frosty 32 00:02:20,560 --> 00:02:25,080 Speaker 1: Mug instead? If that is the issue, maybe you'd be 33 00:02:25,120 --> 00:02:27,239 Speaker 1: better off finding a class that meets at a different 34 00:02:27,240 --> 00:02:31,959 Speaker 1: time when you have control of your schedules, like nine 35 00:02:32,000 --> 00:02:35,680 Speaker 1: am on a Saturday. Or maybe the problem is that 36 00:02:35,720 --> 00:02:38,880 Speaker 1: you're both really tired on Monday and you do better 37 00:02:38,919 --> 00:02:42,400 Speaker 1: with a Thursday class. Or maybe the issue is that 38 00:02:42,440 --> 00:02:45,440 Speaker 1: this is the only time you see your friend and 39 00:02:45,480 --> 00:02:48,000 Speaker 1: you always have a lot to talk about, and you 40 00:02:48,040 --> 00:02:52,160 Speaker 1: can't really talk while you're spinning on a bike. If 41 00:02:52,200 --> 00:02:54,919 Speaker 1: that is the case, maybe you could meet for a 42 00:02:54,919 --> 00:02:59,760 Speaker 1: walk or a run instead, you exercise and get to 43 00:02:59,760 --> 00:03:04,560 Speaker 1: catch Maybe you want to like spin class, but you 44 00:03:04,720 --> 00:03:09,000 Speaker 1: just don't. Maybe your friend doesn't like it, so she 45 00:03:09,120 --> 00:03:13,920 Speaker 1: finds reasons to switch the plans. Not everybody likes spin class. 46 00:03:14,960 --> 00:03:18,679 Speaker 1: It doesn't mean either of you are bad people. When 47 00:03:18,680 --> 00:03:22,800 Speaker 1: we get curious about why a plan isn't working, we 48 00:03:22,880 --> 00:03:25,960 Speaker 1: are better positioned to develop a plan that will work. 49 00:03:27,760 --> 00:03:30,880 Speaker 1: Or I see this a lot. Maybe it's a morning 50 00:03:30,960 --> 00:03:34,440 Speaker 1: routine that you're struggling with. People come up with all 51 00:03:34,480 --> 00:03:36,720 Speaker 1: sorts of grand ideas of what they'd like to do 52 00:03:36,800 --> 00:03:41,240 Speaker 1: in the early mornings. They've read stories of very successful 53 00:03:41,240 --> 00:03:43,680 Speaker 1: people who get up at five am to run a 54 00:03:43,680 --> 00:03:46,840 Speaker 1: marathon and meditate for an hour and enjoy some breakfast 55 00:03:46,880 --> 00:03:49,680 Speaker 1: with a lot of greens. I confess that I have 56 00:03:49,720 --> 00:03:53,360 Speaker 1: written some of these profiles, and all of this is great. 57 00:03:53,480 --> 00:03:57,080 Speaker 1: But maybe these early rising folks don't have two toddlers 58 00:03:57,080 --> 00:04:00,800 Speaker 1: and a puppy who wake unpredictably and thus make your 59 00:04:00,840 --> 00:04:05,520 Speaker 1: mornings unpredictable. If that is the case, then setting your 60 00:04:05,560 --> 00:04:08,680 Speaker 1: alarm early doesn't guarantee you'll get to do your routine, 61 00:04:09,520 --> 00:04:14,360 Speaker 1: which gets quite frustrating. So people give up better to 62 00:04:14,360 --> 00:04:18,000 Speaker 1: figure out what does work, like trading off mornings with 63 00:04:18,080 --> 00:04:21,679 Speaker 1: your partner, so each of you get some certain time 64 00:04:23,120 --> 00:04:26,320 Speaker 1: or doing your morning routine from eight to eight forty 65 00:04:26,320 --> 00:04:31,000 Speaker 1: five after you drop your kids at daycare, but before 66 00:04:31,160 --> 00:04:35,920 Speaker 1: work usually starts. When you are struggling to follow through 67 00:04:35,960 --> 00:04:40,480 Speaker 1: on a plan, there are other approaches beyond just trying 68 00:04:41,080 --> 00:04:45,120 Speaker 1: and trying and failing and then feeling like a failure. 69 00:04:46,560 --> 00:04:49,760 Speaker 1: Think about whether the plan is truly aligned with your 70 00:04:49,760 --> 00:04:55,400 Speaker 1: goals and desires and whether it is realistic given your life. 71 00:04:55,760 --> 00:05:00,440 Speaker 1: When you understand why a plan isn't working, our better 72 00:05:00,480 --> 00:05:03,760 Speaker 1: position to adjust and you can make a plan you 73 00:05:03,800 --> 00:05:07,600 Speaker 1: will follow that will get you where you want to go. 74 00:05:09,120 --> 00:05:11,320 Speaker 1: If you get curious about a plan that's not working 75 00:05:11,360 --> 00:05:14,479 Speaker 1: for you, I'd love to hear what you discover and 76 00:05:14,560 --> 00:05:19,200 Speaker 1: how you adjust. You can reach me at Laura at 77 00:05:19,240 --> 00:05:24,800 Speaker 1: Laura vandercam dot com. In the meantime, this is Laura. 78 00:05:25,760 --> 00:05:29,880 Speaker 1: Thanks for listening, and here's to making the most of 79 00:05:29,920 --> 00:05:39,680 Speaker 1: our times. Thanks for listening to Before Breakfast. If you've 80 00:05:39,720 --> 00:05:43,880 Speaker 1: got questions, ideas, or feedback, you can reach me at 81 00:05:43,960 --> 00:05:53,000 Speaker 1: Laura at Laura vandercam dot com. Before Breakfast is a 82 00:05:53,000 --> 00:05:57,800 Speaker 1: production of iHeartMedia. For more podcasts from iHeartMedia, please visit 83 00:05:57,839 --> 00:06:01,520 Speaker 1: the iHeartRadio app, Apple podcast guests, or wherever you listen 84 00:06:01,560 --> 00:06:02,520 Speaker 1: to your favorite shows.