WEBVTT - Bond. Amy Bond. Agent 00Sexy: Making the Move From Mormon to Porn + Beyond

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<v Speaker 1>I wanted to be a good Mormon wife, but more

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<v Speaker 1>than that, I wanted to be an actress. More than that,

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<v Speaker 1>I wanted to be famous. And you know, sitting in

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<v Speaker 1>the hotel rooms and like being a call girl, I

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<v Speaker 1>kind of got to be an actress. Bond Amy Bond,

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<v Speaker 1>you know there's a there's a story about a young

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<v Speaker 1>actress goes to Hollywood and she's hanging out at the

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<v Speaker 1>counter of Schwab's drug store getting a milkshake or something,

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<v Speaker 1>and some guy comes up with his fingers in the

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<v Speaker 1>shape of a gold post and you know, trying to

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<v Speaker 1>figure out whether you're a movie star, and he discovers

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<v Speaker 1>her and she goes on to famine fortune. This trope

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<v Speaker 1>has traveled as long as Hollywood has been Hollywood, but

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<v Speaker 1>with Bond Amy Bond, it was a different sort of journey. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>she kim to Hollywood. Yeah she wanted to be an actress,

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<v Speaker 1>but in mainstream movies. I don't know, but I do know.

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<v Speaker 1>So I grew up Mormon. My dad was Mormon until

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<v Speaker 1>he died. My mom is like kind of Mormon. Um

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<v Speaker 1>we were. Ray is Mormon, and I think out of

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<v Speaker 1>everyone in my family, I probably became the most militant

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<v Speaker 1>Mormon of everyone. When I was like thirteen, I got

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<v Speaker 1>really into it. What does that? What does it mean

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<v Speaker 1>to be like a military Mormon? Yeah, I mean, like

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<v Speaker 1>you know, if you follow the rules, like by the

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<v Speaker 1>letter of the law gets pretty intense. So like, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>you go to church every day, and I went to

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<v Speaker 1>a Bible study school before school and I had a

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<v Speaker 1>hundred percent in attendance. And you know, that was really

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<v Speaker 1>important to me. To deal with the magical underwear thing

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<v Speaker 1>that you never take off your body. That's a thing,

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<v Speaker 1>and it's everybody has weird practices. Magical underwear is one

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<v Speaker 1>of them. You know. For a long time growing up,

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<v Speaker 1>I believed that that I had this I have this

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<v Speaker 1>mole on my chest and I believed and this belief

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<v Speaker 1>was like confirmed for me by multiple elders of my

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<v Speaker 1>church that God had put it on me to tell

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<v Speaker 1>me where I should wear all my shirts above because

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<v Speaker 1>that was that if I wore a shirt below that mole,

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<v Speaker 1>it was being a modest. And you know, there's all

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<v Speaker 1>these things that you tell yourselfer because God's trying to

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<v Speaker 1>help you through life. I think a lot of people

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<v Speaker 1>survived that way. My heart was always set on California.

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<v Speaker 1>From the time I was young, I wanted to move

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<v Speaker 1>to California. I wanted to be a Californian that you know,

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<v Speaker 1>it's like a young girl Minnesota. Honestly, I think it

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<v Speaker 1>was because of The Babysitters Club. This is the series

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<v Speaker 1>of books that was very popular what I was like

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<v Speaker 1>eight to fifteen years old. That was about this group

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<v Speaker 1>of women girls who had started a club called the

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<v Speaker 1>Babysitters Club. And one of the girls in the group

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<v Speaker 1>was named Don and Don was the quintessential California girl.

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<v Speaker 1>She had blonde hair, she was a vegetarian, she cared

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<v Speaker 1>about animals, and she was an artist. And I loved

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<v Speaker 1>that idea of like being an artist. How do you

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<v Speaker 1>go from being a daily church girl at the age

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<v Speaker 1>of thirteen to being a young adult chasing their dreams.

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<v Speaker 1>I was traveling to finish school and then you know,

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<v Speaker 1>doing that backpacking thing, and uh, I was in no

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<v Speaker 1>pair and really just I felt like a bohemian for

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<v Speaker 1>the first time in my life. I was like, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>this is cool. Like I met all these artists in

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<v Speaker 1>Paris and I was eighteen at the height of the

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<v Speaker 1>Iraq War, and so there are a lot of the

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<v Speaker 1>people I met were like squatters and like Paris mansions,

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<v Speaker 1>and they would they would go out on the artists

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<v Speaker 1>and war and I like met all these I was

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<v Speaker 1>in no pair, but I had a lot of spare time,

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<v Speaker 1>so I got to go hang out with these people,

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<v Speaker 1>and they really um shaped the way thought about spending time,

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<v Speaker 1>because up until then I came from a military slash

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<v Speaker 1>very religious background, and time was a thing that you,

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<v Speaker 1>like I did to to like put into work, and

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<v Speaker 1>the idea that you like spent it creating paper mache

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<v Speaker 1>caricatures of George wish to go put in a float

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<v Speaker 1>would probably be an insane thing too, or like a

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<v Speaker 1>waste to those demographics. And suddenly I was immersed in

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<v Speaker 1>this world of artists and it felt very deep and

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<v Speaker 1>real to me and like a good way to spend

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<v Speaker 1>time rather than what many would consider a waste of it.

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<v Speaker 1>But I was still very Mormon, and so I was

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<v Speaker 1>balancing this like go to church on Sundays and read

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<v Speaker 1>the Bible every night before you go to bed, with like, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>but there's all these cool people who you know, many

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<v Speaker 1>of them didn't believe in God and um, and I

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<v Speaker 1>thought that was just crazy, you know, like that's just wrong.

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<v Speaker 1>And so I would pray for them for their souls

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<v Speaker 1>to be saved, because that's what you do. And um

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<v Speaker 1>and I was able to like kind of live in

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<v Speaker 1>both worlds really easily. And I think that's actually probably

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<v Speaker 1>my superpower as a human, as I'm able to straddle

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<v Speaker 1>different world I had purchased this keyboard piano that because

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<v Speaker 1>one of the guys who was in this UM protest

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<v Speaker 1>group played the keyboard and he had started teaching me.

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<v Speaker 1>But I wasn't very dedicated. But I liked how when

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<v Speaker 1>I carried this keyboard around, people thought I was an artist.

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<v Speaker 1>As soon as I put that keyboard under my arm.

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<v Speaker 1>It was so easy to get hitchhike rides because people

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<v Speaker 1>are like, oh, she's an artist, you know, she just

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<v Speaker 1>needs to get to her next gig. And I remember

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<v Speaker 1>I had one with this one truck driver. I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>I'll take you if you play me a song, and

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<v Speaker 1>I was literally like I can't. It also had like

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<v Speaker 1>seventy pounds and I carried it the whole way to Italy.

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<v Speaker 1>Can't you play it now? You figure not, Na, No,

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<v Speaker 1>you can't understood. It was like it was a plot

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<v Speaker 1>device to get her from a place of no adventure

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<v Speaker 1>to a place of adventure, a physical place as well

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<v Speaker 1>as a fantastical place that existed in her mind and

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<v Speaker 1>later reality, except she still can't play keyboard. I went

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<v Speaker 1>to Europe mainly because my parents were fine with me

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<v Speaker 1>traveling as long as it was international. They're in the military,

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<v Speaker 1>so they're big thing was, you've got to travel the world.

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<v Speaker 1>You've got to see how the rest of the world lives.

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<v Speaker 1>And so it was okay to go to Europe. But then,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, I really wanted to go to California, and

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<v Speaker 1>so I went back home, made some money, and then

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<v Speaker 1>I got on a bus and and had one backpack.

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't have a keyboard anymore. And then I moved

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<v Speaker 1>to California and I had no plan. So were they

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<v Speaker 1>cool with this? Or were they? I wrote them a

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<v Speaker 1>note I ran away because they knew they wouldn't be

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<v Speaker 1>cool with it. They wouldn't be cool with California. They

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<v Speaker 1>wouldn't be cool with California because, I mean, my mom

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<v Speaker 1>was the only woman, the only person and her family

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<v Speaker 1>to graduate from college. In her mind, going to California

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<v Speaker 1>meant that I wasn't going to keep going to community

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<v Speaker 1>college and get my degree. And you know, for her,

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<v Speaker 1>getting her degree was her pathway to freedom. So okay,

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<v Speaker 1>So so you say you send them a note, I

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<v Speaker 1>run away. I'm in California, and did I wrote them

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<v Speaker 1>a note. I said, you're not gonna like this. But

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<v Speaker 1>I got on a bus and I moved into California

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<v Speaker 1>to chase my dreams to become an actress. I called

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<v Speaker 1>my mom from Texas when the bus landed, and I

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<v Speaker 1>called her and said, I'm okay, I'm safe. She was

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<v Speaker 1>very unhappy. She just wanted she said, are you okay?

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<v Speaker 1>What the funk are you doing? And yeah, that's kind

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<v Speaker 1>of what I expected. You know, you just want to

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<v Speaker 1>tell you we're okay. I wanted her to know I

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<v Speaker 1>was okay, that I loved her very much. I had

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<v Speaker 1>nothing to do with her, blah blah blah, but I

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<v Speaker 1>needed to like go create my own path, right. I

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<v Speaker 1>landed in Los Angeles and like I didn't have a

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<v Speaker 1>room to rent, Like I had not planned nothing, because

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<v Speaker 1>in my mind, if I planned it, then it wasn't

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<v Speaker 1>like the way an artist would do it. So the

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<v Speaker 1>bus stations in downtown l a work. Yeah, bus station

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<v Speaker 1>lands in downtown l A. At like three o'clock in

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<v Speaker 1>the morning. I walk out into the parking lot with

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<v Speaker 1>my like little I think my backpack had actual sparkles

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<v Speaker 1>on it, and there were two security guards standing in

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<v Speaker 1>front of a parking lot next to the Gray homebus station.

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<v Speaker 1>There's like glass all over the cement. There's people sleeping

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<v Speaker 1>on the parking lot, which I've never seen before, and

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<v Speaker 1>like freak out and I run back into the Gray

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<v Speaker 1>Home bus station and these two security guards. I see

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<v Speaker 1>one of them past the other five dollar bill and

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<v Speaker 1>goes We had a bet on how long you'd be

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<v Speaker 1>out there, and so I sat at this Gray homebus

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<v Speaker 1>station for like three hours. I told myself, well, if

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<v Speaker 1>you get to Westwood, that's where there's u C l A.

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<v Speaker 1>And then you can go find like a corkboard with

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<v Speaker 1>somebody who has housing for rent. And that's how I

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<v Speaker 1>lived in Europe, you know, you just find a corkboard

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<v Speaker 1>and a coffee shop and then you get your next

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<v Speaker 1>place to live. So we go look at all these

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<v Speaker 1>corkboards in l A. And everything is so expensive. And

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<v Speaker 1>by the time I'm done looking at all these corkboards,

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<v Speaker 1>like the sun is going down, so I'm like, well,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not going to find a place tonight, like my

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<v Speaker 1>my one plan is backfired. And on the bus, I

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<v Speaker 1>was so excited. I hadn't eaten in like three days,

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<v Speaker 1>Like I had just been too excited to eat. And

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<v Speaker 1>so I'm walking with like my luggage down this street

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<v Speaker 1>and I think I was I was probably crying and

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<v Speaker 1>like walking down the street like oh ship, what am

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<v Speaker 1>I gonna do? And this car pulls up behind me

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<v Speaker 1>and this guy jumps out and he goes hey. Then

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, what you know. He's like, you look like

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<v Speaker 1>you need help. And so, long story short, I end

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<v Speaker 1>up living with this dude for like three weeks, was

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<v Speaker 1>the old was the story. He was a graduate student

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<v Speaker 1>at U C. L A. And I think he liked

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<v Speaker 1>the idea of saving somebody so perfect. I needed some out.

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<v Speaker 1>So it was great. So there was no creepy alterior

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<v Speaker 1>sexual motive. There was no creepy alterior thing. I made

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<v Speaker 1>it very clear at this and I was still a virgin.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, I'm a virgin. I'm very religious. I don't

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<v Speaker 1>believe in premarital sex. So you said this as you

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<v Speaker 1>got in the car. Well, when when we got to

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<v Speaker 1>his house. I was like, look, I don't want it

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<v Speaker 1>to be weird, and he was cool. And this dude

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<v Speaker 1>like drove me around. He helped log me into his

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<v Speaker 1>like student board so that I could look at all

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<v Speaker 1>the housing that was on the internet, like on the

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<v Speaker 1>u c L a specific internet. He helped me find

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<v Speaker 1>a room. I found a room that was like three

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<v Speaker 1>seventy five a month in Westwood. I shared it with

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<v Speaker 1>like two other people and it was fine. So this

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<v Speaker 1>guy really did like that's a solid basically saying, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>why did you finally leave? Oh? I guess you found

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<v Speaker 1>the room. I found the room. He helped me find

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<v Speaker 1>the room. Like it was never like a long term solution,

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<v Speaker 1>but he was like, I think you need help. I

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<v Speaker 1>can help you. Yeah, all right, so you get your room.

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<v Speaker 1>I got my room. And Rick had driven me to

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<v Speaker 1>Central Casting the first day after I stayed at his house,

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<v Speaker 1>and I had heard that Central Casting was where everybody

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<v Speaker 1>went when they were trying to be an actor. So

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<v Speaker 1>I went there. I got my head shot taken and

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<v Speaker 1>lo and behold, they called me in like five minutes

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<v Speaker 1>and they were like, do you want to do judge Judy? Sure?

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<v Speaker 1>So I sat in the audience on Judge Judy, and

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<v Speaker 1>then I sat in the audience of Judge Joe Brown.

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<v Speaker 1>And then I sat in the audience there was another judge.

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<v Speaker 1>I forgot the third judge, but I like, I like

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<v Speaker 1>worked the audience of Judge shows for like three months.

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<v Speaker 1>How much were they? The opinion is an extra? Right?

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<v Speaker 1>Was an extra today? Fine? Good enough? Like my rents

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<v Speaker 1>four hundred bucks? Fine, you can tell the folks back home.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm on the show, on that show, that's right. So

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<v Speaker 1>anyway I'm on Judge Judy. I start going to all

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<v Speaker 1>of these other casting calls and I just can't nail

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<v Speaker 1>like a real part, like a part that has speaking right.

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<v Speaker 1>And in order to get the SAG card, which is

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<v Speaker 1>the holy grail for new actors in l A, you

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<v Speaker 1>have to get like three speaking parts. And I remember

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<v Speaker 1>going on this audition where there are these three girls,

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<v Speaker 1>three girls sitting in you had acting classes before or not?

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<v Speaker 1>I had never taken an acting class. Also, by the way,

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<v Speaker 1>I had tried out for my Hopkins High School Minnetonka,

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<v Speaker 1>Minnesota High School musical. I couldn't even get a part

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<v Speaker 1>in that. So, like, I'm by no means like an actress, like,

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<v Speaker 1>but I played an artist when I played that part,

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<v Speaker 1>when when I was the keyboard, you know, and I

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<v Speaker 1>was like, if I just do it, then it will

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<v Speaker 1>come true for me. And to a certain extent, I

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<v Speaker 1>think that's kind of a great way to live your life.

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<v Speaker 1>But for me, I was overly confident, Like I was

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<v Speaker 1>very positive that I was going to be famous in

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<v Speaker 1>like three months, and like there was no doubt in

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<v Speaker 1>my mind that was going to happen. So then that

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<v Speaker 1>didn't happen in three months, and I had started to

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<v Speaker 1>run out of money, and and I meet these three

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<v Speaker 1>girls at a sandal audition was like an audition to

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<v Speaker 1>be in a sandal commercial, you mean the resort or

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<v Speaker 1>the actual footwear like a sandal. So I'm at this

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<v Speaker 1>audition and the three other girls who I'm sitting there with,

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<v Speaker 1>and by the way, I had like taken the bus there,

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<v Speaker 1>woken up at like five am to get to this

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<v Speaker 1>ten am audition was still late, so i'd like run

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<v Speaker 1>the last half mile. And I'm sitting there like sweaty

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<v Speaker 1>and feeling just like the most disgusting person. And I'm

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<v Speaker 1>looking at these three women and they're like, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>they're wearing like very expensive clothes. They have like keratin

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<v Speaker 1>treatments in their hair, their nails are well done, and

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<v Speaker 1>they had had they had They were talking about how

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<v Speaker 1>they had just gotten their tone nails done for this audition,

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<v Speaker 1>and I was like, oh, you got your tone nails

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<v Speaker 1>done for this audition and they were like, yeah, that's

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<v Speaker 1>what you do. You dress for the part you want.

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<v Speaker 1>Like one of them looked at me with this very

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<v Speaker 1>like mean girl look and she was like, you dress

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<v Speaker 1>for the part you want. And I was like, oh, like,

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<v Speaker 1>I need to make like real money. I need to

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<v Speaker 1>buy a car, I need to like buy pedicures when

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<v Speaker 1>I go on auditions, like I need to do all

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<v Speaker 1>this ship. I didn't know that. So then I decided, Well,

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<v Speaker 1>the reason I'm not booking these, why I'm not nailing

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<v Speaker 1>them and then getting the parts, is because I just

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<v Speaker 1>need more money in order to like play the part.

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<v Speaker 1>Scant funds. And you see that you're being outpaced by

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<v Speaker 1>people who were spending a lot to look a lot

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<v Speaker 1>better and act actually act, So what do you do?

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<v Speaker 1>So I started nude modeling and that was like step one.

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<v Speaker 1>I was did you find the agency that got you

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<v Speaker 1>new modeling? Yeah? I mean yeah, you answer an ad

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<v Speaker 1>the back of l A Weekly has everything you need.

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<v Speaker 1>I answered two outs. I answered the back of an

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<v Speaker 1>l A Weekly, And the two outs were one was

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<v Speaker 1>a woman who was basically like a pimp, right, and

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<v Speaker 1>her thing her ads said no sex. And I really

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<v Speaker 1>liked the idea that I could come, that I could

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<v Speaker 1>do this work but go back to being religious because

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<v Speaker 1>I was still dating this Mormon guy at the same

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<v Speaker 1>time where DC and I was just lying to him

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<v Speaker 1>about everything close to your parents, close to my parents,

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<v Speaker 1>and this plan to eventually come out to really going

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<v Speaker 1>to do the long distance thing. See how it worked, right?

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<v Speaker 1>I mean I think his plan was like, we'll get

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<v Speaker 1>married and then you'll come live with me. But I like,

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<v Speaker 1>how did she make my dream come true? Right? So

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<v Speaker 1>I get hooked up with this woman who, um like,

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<v Speaker 1>does nude modeling shoots, and I get hooked up with

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<v Speaker 1>another woman who, um she puts you up in a

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<v Speaker 1>hotel room and then you do massages. Right. So that

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<v Speaker 1>was my pimp woman. Yeah. I never learned her name.

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<v Speaker 1>I always called her my girl. But she was no nonsense.

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<v Speaker 1>And I love that bitch because when you talked to her,

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<v Speaker 1>you knew she was in a hurry. She had better

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<v Speaker 1>ship to do than talk to you right now. So

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<v Speaker 1>it was always super straightforward to the point, get in there,

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<v Speaker 1>I'll call you when someone is here. I'll pick up

0:18:15.040 --> 0:18:16.960
<v Speaker 1>the money at ten thirty, and we did like a

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<v Speaker 1>fifty fifty split. So after like two weeks of like

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<v Speaker 1>the nude modeling and the massages in the hotel room,

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<v Speaker 1>which by the way, it was usually actually massages. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>it's just like lonely dudes. So it was actually like

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<v Speaker 1>pretty cool. So the nude modeling thing was the was

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<v Speaker 1>there a product associated with that? So we're taking pictures

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<v Speaker 1>of you for posters, we're taking pictures uh painters are

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<v Speaker 1>So there's a lot of photographers who do pictures that

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<v Speaker 1>they think they can sell to a magazine, porno mag

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<v Speaker 1>or anything. And in my mind the time, nobody actually

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<v Speaker 1>looks at porn. So I'm never going to get caught

0:19:04.119 --> 0:19:07.280
<v Speaker 1>doing this because I didn't look at porn. The guy

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<v Speaker 1>I was dating, I believed it didn't look at porn.

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<v Speaker 1>So you weren't draped over a nicely covered couch with

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<v Speaker 1>grapes in your hand. You know, the person is already

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<v Speaker 1>in the hotel or you're in the room and they

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<v Speaker 1>come to you. My girl calls me, hey, your name

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<v Speaker 1>is Candy Berryes coming up in ten minutes. So the

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<v Speaker 1>guy comes in the room, and what happens. He takes

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<v Speaker 1>all his clothes off. She was very clear about the

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<v Speaker 1>order of operations. So you know, he has to put

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<v Speaker 1>the money on the nights to first, and then he

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<v Speaker 1>can take his clothes off because the cops never gonna

0:19:42.080 --> 0:19:45.960
<v Speaker 1>just like put money down. So if he doesn't put

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<v Speaker 1>money down, run for your life. All right, all right?

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<v Speaker 1>Did you ask her Steven would be like where the

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<v Speaker 1>fire escape? She didn't. Not do you ever at any

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<v Speaker 1>point ask her like, why why are we afraid of cops?

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<v Speaker 1>It's just a massage? No, that made sense? Yeah, okay.

0:20:03.920 --> 0:20:06.280
<v Speaker 1>I was like, I think this is illegal. This is

0:20:06.359 --> 0:20:09.680
<v Speaker 1>probably illegal, but like that just made it more exciting.

0:20:10.200 --> 0:20:13.680
<v Speaker 1>I was here for the adventure. So now these guys

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<v Speaker 1>showed up from massages. Nobody tried to fuck you, Nobody

0:20:16.320 --> 0:20:20.640
<v Speaker 1>tried to suck me, like, absolutely nobody. Yeah. It wasn't

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<v Speaker 1>until I started doing house calls that that changed. So

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<v Speaker 1>in call versus outcol So, somebody calls, I want a

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<v Speaker 1>massage at my house, and she said, okay, well it

0:20:30.200 --> 0:20:31.960
<v Speaker 1>works out all right. He showed you the house and

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<v Speaker 1>then what happens in and then all that all bets

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<v Speaker 1>are off, like they'll offer more money for additional services.

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<v Speaker 1>So my girl had a really smart that. I think

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<v Speaker 1>it's really smart. I mean she's the only pimp I've

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<v Speaker 1>ever worked with, you know, which is she would only

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<v Speaker 1>send me to places where I was with somebody else.

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<v Speaker 1>So it was like two girls that were ordered. So

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<v Speaker 1>they asked for two girls yea with other girls willing

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<v Speaker 1>to have sex or not. Oh yeah, okay, so you

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<v Speaker 1>almost always the other girl was willing to have sucks

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<v Speaker 1>and like down like they were down to fuck because

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<v Speaker 1>then they got more money. I was like, I think, God,

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<v Speaker 1>I can't go that far because God won't forgive me.

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<v Speaker 1>So you were sitting there as you're screwing or you're like,

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<v Speaker 1>it's okay, I did the massage. I'll just sit out

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<v Speaker 1>here and wait for you. Guys know I watched okay,

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<v Speaker 1>so you're there, okay. I mean usually I would like

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<v Speaker 1>fondle somebody, you know, I would like massage somebody, fondle somebody,

0:21:29.720 --> 0:21:33.200
<v Speaker 1>you know, like, hey, can you play with her? Tiths? Sure?

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<v Speaker 1>You know that will be an extra. That was my question,

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<v Speaker 1>and so how much how much money are you pulling

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<v Speaker 1>now from So between those two things, nude modeling was

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<v Speaker 1>like four hundred a day and it was kind of

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<v Speaker 1>like six hour days, a lot of standing around and

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<v Speaker 1>being cold, which is, you know, kind of boring. And

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<v Speaker 1>then the like face to face was much more exciting

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<v Speaker 1>because you're seeing this whole as as a Mormon turned

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<v Speaker 1>thrown into the sex world's human I was like, holy

0:22:04.800 --> 0:22:08.280
<v Speaker 1>sh it, you know, this is so insane. This is

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<v Speaker 1>like what movies are about. I didn't think this was real,

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<v Speaker 1>you know. And so I would make a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>cash between the hotel rooms and the massages and the

0:22:19.920 --> 0:22:23.080
<v Speaker 1>calls I would make. At the beginning, I only did

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<v Speaker 1>hotel rooms, so I would make about eight hundred two

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<v Speaker 1>thousand a day if I did like a full day

0:22:28.520 --> 0:22:31.359
<v Speaker 1>sitting in a hotel room. The new modeling like four D.

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<v Speaker 1>So she meets this photographer Mike Square. Guy takes a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of photos of her. But one day Mike has

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<v Speaker 1>gotta problem. He's taking too many photos of her and

0:22:42.760 --> 0:22:52.399
<v Speaker 1>overexposure is an issue, and he's like, you know, but

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<v Speaker 1>what you could do is porn. And by the way,

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<v Speaker 1>it pays a lot better, and I was like, wow,

0:23:02.560 --> 0:23:05.520
<v Speaker 1>isn't that kind of what I'm already doing. So he

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<v Speaker 1>introduced his ma to Jim South. I don't know who

0:23:07.720 --> 0:23:10.600
<v Speaker 1>Jim South is. He's a legend, but at the time,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, oh, hi, Jim. You know, small man in

0:23:13.560 --> 0:23:16.359
<v Speaker 1>a cowboy hut and he's in this office off of

0:23:16.440 --> 0:23:20.040
<v Speaker 1>Van Eyes that's like dirty and like kind of dusty

0:23:20.200 --> 0:23:22.840
<v Speaker 1>and kind of musty and gross, and so I don't

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<v Speaker 1>think of him as this like, you know, epic legend

0:23:26.280 --> 0:23:28.879
<v Speaker 1>who like starts all these careers. To me, Poorma is

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<v Speaker 1>not a career. It was like a gateway to be

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<v Speaker 1>able to do the thing I really wanted to do.

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<v Speaker 1>And I'm still like undecided on like the porn thing.

0:23:36.520 --> 0:23:38.720
<v Speaker 1>I'm like, well, go meet Jim, but I don't know

0:23:38.840 --> 0:23:42.440
<v Speaker 1>if I'm going to have sex with anyone important. Like

0:23:42.600 --> 0:23:45.960
<v Speaker 1>that actually sounded so insane that it like made me

0:23:46.040 --> 0:23:50.200
<v Speaker 1>really excited that it was an adventure. And um So

0:23:50.320 --> 0:23:53.359
<v Speaker 1>I meet Jim and Jim tells me, well, you know

0:23:53.480 --> 0:23:59.080
<v Speaker 1>there's this guy named um At Powers. Yeah, and I'm like, okay,

0:23:59.560 --> 0:24:02.040
<v Speaker 1>And what I don't tell Jim, And what I hadn't

0:24:02.080 --> 0:24:04.399
<v Speaker 1>told Mike, because I thought that they wouldn't want to

0:24:04.440 --> 0:24:07.320
<v Speaker 1>book me is that I'm still a virgin, Like I'm

0:24:07.320 --> 0:24:09.560
<v Speaker 1>still a virgin, but I'm also a sex worker. So

0:24:09.680 --> 0:24:12.879
<v Speaker 1>that's a weird mix, right. I don't tell them that,

0:24:13.240 --> 0:24:17.240
<v Speaker 1>But I really liked the idea that Ed was nice.

0:24:17.720 --> 0:24:20.280
<v Speaker 1>He was nice, he wasn't going to be aggressive. And

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<v Speaker 1>there's another woman in the office at that time, and

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<v Speaker 1>she turns around and she's like, Jim's the best. He

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<v Speaker 1>will never put you in a compromise situation. So already

0:24:29.320 --> 0:24:31.640
<v Speaker 1>this girl who's sitting in the office is like, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>vouching for this guy, Like he's the real deal, Like

0:24:34.720 --> 0:24:37.440
<v Speaker 1>he won't put you in a bad situation. Which is

0:24:37.520 --> 0:24:40.320
<v Speaker 1>what I really liked about my girl. She always made

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<v Speaker 1>sure that we were we were safe. I got really

0:24:42.640 --> 0:24:45.240
<v Speaker 1>lucky in that sense because I wasn't fucked with that,

0:24:45.320 --> 0:24:47.640
<v Speaker 1>I wasn't raped, and I had a lot of fun

0:24:47.880 --> 0:24:52.280
<v Speaker 1>being an adult entertainment actress. Anyway, So you go over

0:24:52.520 --> 0:24:57.119
<v Speaker 1>to its place and he has this fancy house in Calabasas.

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<v Speaker 1>Couldn't be nicer. I like, comes to the door, So

0:25:02.320 --> 0:25:04.000
<v Speaker 1>are you going with the understanding? Like, Oh, I'm just

0:25:04.040 --> 0:25:06.280
<v Speaker 1>gonna meet this guy or do you know now? I'm like,

0:25:06.600 --> 0:25:09.560
<v Speaker 1>I'm going to do this alright, and so my my

0:25:09.800 --> 0:25:14.040
<v Speaker 1>stomach is like churning. I like, see the big mansion.

0:25:14.119 --> 0:25:16.680
<v Speaker 1>I'm like, oh, ship, like this is happening, and so

0:25:16.840 --> 0:25:21.080
<v Speaker 1>what you like one or I think I was still nineteen.

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<v Speaker 1>It's like right after my twentieth birthday, alright, yeah, I

0:25:25.960 --> 0:25:29.240
<v Speaker 1>mean six months later I went to an adult entertainment

0:25:29.320 --> 0:25:31.520
<v Speaker 1>event that I couldn't get into at a club because

0:25:31.560 --> 0:25:33.760
<v Speaker 1>I wasn't twenty one to drink, all right, So so

0:25:33.840 --> 0:25:35.800
<v Speaker 1>you show him it has He's got this mansion and

0:25:36.000 --> 0:25:39.400
<v Speaker 1>he's nice, super nice. He asked me a bunch of questions.

0:25:40.000 --> 0:25:43.760
<v Speaker 1>He could like, tell me about you. He loves the

0:25:43.840 --> 0:25:45.960
<v Speaker 1>fact that I have a Mormon boyfriend, so we talked

0:25:46.000 --> 0:25:50.119
<v Speaker 1>about that and then he could tell he was super nervous.

0:25:50.720 --> 0:25:54.800
<v Speaker 1>So he's like really gentle, really nice, really kind. He was.

0:25:55.000 --> 0:25:56.960
<v Speaker 1>He's just like very you just felt like what you

0:25:57.000 --> 0:26:00.119
<v Speaker 1>were getting was very authentic, and he was. And then

0:26:00.119 --> 0:26:02.280
<v Speaker 1>he paid me with a check and he had to

0:26:02.359 --> 0:26:07.240
<v Speaker 1>be like, oh, what's your real name again? To Candy. Well,

0:26:07.480 --> 0:26:10.080
<v Speaker 1>Mike and I had decided that my name would be Wendy,

0:26:11.200 --> 0:26:14.200
<v Speaker 1>So my poor name was Wendy James. Yeah, Wendy James.

0:26:14.200 --> 0:26:16.960
<v Speaker 1>She is a singer as well. Yeah I now know that,

0:26:18.119 --> 0:26:20.800
<v Speaker 1>but I didn't at the time, and so, you know,

0:26:20.960 --> 0:26:23.560
<v Speaker 1>he said, you know, you've got that Peter Pan thing,

0:26:23.720 --> 0:26:26.119
<v Speaker 1>that like forever youth thing going on, so you should

0:26:26.119 --> 0:26:28.359
<v Speaker 1>be Wendy. But I was there for probably like an

0:26:28.400 --> 0:26:30.520
<v Speaker 1>hour and a half, two hours, and I walk out

0:26:30.560 --> 0:26:33.240
<v Speaker 1>with fifteen hundred bucks, So I'm like, fuck, yeah, I

0:26:33.280 --> 0:26:35.920
<v Speaker 1>can pay like six months rent with this thing. Like

0:26:36.040 --> 0:26:38.800
<v Speaker 1>I'm on my way to my fifty grand. Now, given

0:26:38.840 --> 0:26:40.639
<v Speaker 1>that this was your first time, that people have all

0:26:40.680 --> 0:26:45.320
<v Speaker 1>this kind of um not necessarily romantic attached, but significant

0:26:45.320 --> 0:26:48.879
<v Speaker 1>attachment to their first time, how did this How did

0:26:48.960 --> 0:26:50.960
<v Speaker 1>this feel as the first time? Was it more or

0:26:51.040 --> 0:26:53.520
<v Speaker 1>less than what you had expected before? I'm trying to

0:26:53.600 --> 0:26:56.800
<v Speaker 1>get a fix in your frame of mind issue as

0:26:56.880 --> 0:27:00.600
<v Speaker 1>you leave. It really wasn't about this, So it was

0:27:00.680 --> 0:27:03.639
<v Speaker 1>about the money. So I like took myself to Starbucks,

0:27:03.760 --> 0:27:07.399
<v Speaker 1>got a vanilla frappuccino. Look at my phone, which by

0:27:07.480 --> 0:27:10.399
<v Speaker 1>now I have a new phone, and there's like five

0:27:10.720 --> 0:27:15.320
<v Speaker 1>missed voicemails from Jim that are like, Wendy, everybody wants

0:27:15.359 --> 0:27:19.639
<v Speaker 1>to book you and on the basis, off the basis

0:27:19.680 --> 0:27:23.560
<v Speaker 1>of the new modeling pictures, they see this like fresh faced,

0:27:24.119 --> 0:27:26.760
<v Speaker 1>chair up looking girl. You know, I've got that girl

0:27:26.920 --> 0:27:31.080
<v Speaker 1>next door look. And and then it's just like off

0:27:31.200 --> 0:27:35.639
<v Speaker 1>to the races. Like every place that I want on

0:27:36.040 --> 0:27:38.480
<v Speaker 1>an audition for there was a two side a piece

0:27:38.520 --> 0:27:41.879
<v Speaker 1>of paper that said what you were willing to do, like,

0:27:42.160 --> 0:27:45.399
<v Speaker 1>do you do like double penetration? Nope? Do you do

0:27:45.560 --> 0:27:50.080
<v Speaker 1>anal nope? Do you do lesbian? Great? It was fun,

0:27:50.240 --> 0:27:53.119
<v Speaker 1>Like I'm I met so many fun people, Like it

0:27:53.280 --> 0:27:55.240
<v Speaker 1>was fun and the people were really nice to me.

0:27:55.760 --> 0:27:58.240
<v Speaker 1>Do you have time left over to actually go on

0:27:58.720 --> 0:28:04.400
<v Speaker 1>auditions for non adult rules? Yeah? Like I still every Wednesday.

0:28:04.560 --> 0:28:07.879
<v Speaker 1>I reserved Wednesday to be on the extra on Judge

0:28:07.960 --> 0:28:10.600
<v Speaker 1>Juty Judge Show Brown, and I kept that because it

0:28:10.760 --> 0:28:14.359
<v Speaker 1>was my perfect cover. When I went to church on Sundays,

0:28:14.920 --> 0:28:16.680
<v Speaker 1>people would be like, oh, I saw you on Judge

0:28:16.720 --> 0:28:20.360
<v Speaker 1>Duty perfect. You can see I am a struggling actress

0:28:20.600 --> 0:28:23.840
<v Speaker 1>exactly how I want you to think. You know, my boyfriend,

0:28:23.960 --> 0:28:26.359
<v Speaker 1>Oh I saw you on Judge Judy. Oh perfect. I

0:28:26.480 --> 0:28:28.680
<v Speaker 1>was like living a double life, like I was trying

0:28:28.720 --> 0:28:30.639
<v Speaker 1>my best to live a double life. The dude in

0:28:30.720 --> 0:28:33.360
<v Speaker 1>d C. Four months into the porn I'm like, look,

0:28:33.840 --> 0:28:36.480
<v Speaker 1>this is what's going on. I'm probably like I'm really

0:28:36.560 --> 0:28:39.480
<v Speaker 1>enjoying this life. I don't think I'm actually Mormon anymore.

0:28:39.800 --> 0:28:43.120
<v Speaker 1>And for him, he like ran the other direction, which

0:28:43.360 --> 0:28:46.320
<v Speaker 1>like this is antithetical to everything. He believes that when

0:28:46.360 --> 0:28:48.239
<v Speaker 1>you said you told him you're not you don't think

0:28:48.240 --> 0:28:50.640
<v Speaker 1>you're into do you tell them about the movies or now?

0:28:51.640 --> 0:28:54.320
<v Speaker 1>I casually mentioned that maybe I had done an adults

0:28:54.480 --> 0:28:56.600
<v Speaker 1>entertainment Yeah. I did not say porn. I did not

0:28:56.720 --> 0:29:01.920
<v Speaker 1>say sex work. I said adult entertainment. Did he get

0:29:02.360 --> 0:29:05.680
<v Speaker 1>angry or was he just upset? Oh? I mean he

0:29:05.920 --> 0:29:10.160
<v Speaker 1>was heartbroken. Yeah, And like what would you feel if

0:29:10.200 --> 0:29:12.360
<v Speaker 1>you'd believe this person you were in love with has

0:29:12.440 --> 0:29:14.560
<v Speaker 1>been betraying you and lying to you for the past

0:29:14.800 --> 0:29:18.240
<v Speaker 1>like four months. Like that's shitty because on the side,

0:29:18.280 --> 0:29:22.080
<v Speaker 1>we were talking about how we were going to get married. Shitty. Yeah,

0:29:22.120 --> 0:29:24.800
<v Speaker 1>it's a shitty way to treat someone. But also I

0:29:24.960 --> 0:29:26.960
<v Speaker 1>was over the church, Like by that point I was like,

0:29:27.040 --> 0:29:32.040
<v Speaker 1>you know, I don't think this is really so then

0:29:32.080 --> 0:29:33.760
<v Speaker 1>I live in my best life for a good like

0:29:33.920 --> 0:29:38.160
<v Speaker 1>four months. Call girling. I'm going on cool gigs, and

0:29:38.440 --> 0:29:42.040
<v Speaker 1>I wasn't really auditioning for real movies anymore because that

0:29:42.240 --> 0:29:44.280
<v Speaker 1>was what I was going to do. After I'd made

0:29:44.320 --> 0:29:49.440
<v Speaker 1>all my cash and going on set. Suddenly I'm like

0:29:49.640 --> 0:29:53.160
<v Speaker 1>known as like a rising starlet in the porn world,

0:29:53.280 --> 0:29:56.480
<v Speaker 1>which is crazy, you know, not now if if this

0:29:56.600 --> 0:29:59.920
<v Speaker 1>were some other podcasts and some other interview this is

0:30:00.080 --> 0:30:02.200
<v Speaker 1>the point at which the interviewer gets his tone in

0:30:02.240 --> 0:30:05.320
<v Speaker 1>their voice where they indicate that they feel fucking sorry

0:30:05.480 --> 0:30:09.480
<v Speaker 1>for you. There's somehow that this is somehow a deviation,

0:30:10.040 --> 0:30:13.120
<v Speaker 1>a deviation from the normal, that is somehow sad. But

0:30:13.440 --> 0:30:15.959
<v Speaker 1>it doesn't sound at all to me like that jibs

0:30:16.000 --> 0:30:19.000
<v Speaker 1>with the reality that you're spelling out. And most people

0:30:19.040 --> 0:30:21.880
<v Speaker 1>would say they imagine life working as a point star

0:30:22.360 --> 0:30:24.560
<v Speaker 1>and a call girl would be miserable, But it doesn't

0:30:24.600 --> 0:30:27.360
<v Speaker 1>sound like that was your experience. It was fantastic, and

0:30:27.520 --> 0:30:30.440
<v Speaker 1>for me it was quite autonomous. For the first time

0:30:30.520 --> 0:30:32.680
<v Speaker 1>in my life, I'm making my own money, like real

0:30:32.840 --> 0:30:36.600
<v Speaker 1>fucking money, Like this is not like Nordstrom commission money

0:30:36.840 --> 0:30:38.960
<v Speaker 1>where you got like a thousand bucks a month. Like

0:30:39.400 --> 0:30:42.880
<v Speaker 1>this is like you're bringing in like two granded day cool,

0:30:43.440 --> 0:30:45.600
<v Speaker 1>and if you're disciplined enough to like put it away,

0:30:45.680 --> 0:30:48.240
<v Speaker 1>that adds up really fast. I mean it got to

0:30:48.320 --> 0:30:50.080
<v Speaker 1>the point where I couldn't like go to the bank

0:30:50.240 --> 0:30:52.600
<v Speaker 1>and look at the teller anymore because they look at

0:30:52.600 --> 0:30:57.080
<v Speaker 1>me suspiciously. What do you what do you say to

0:30:57.160 --> 0:31:00.080
<v Speaker 1>those people that who say, like this is degrading and

0:31:00.200 --> 0:31:01.920
<v Speaker 1>that this is not something that should and I don't

0:31:01.960 --> 0:31:03.840
<v Speaker 1>want to minimize I don't want to minimize that that

0:31:04.000 --> 0:31:06.520
<v Speaker 1>argument as well. I mean for me, I didn't know

0:31:06.800 --> 0:31:11.480
<v Speaker 1>enough to like think of myself as like an empowered

0:31:11.560 --> 0:31:13.960
<v Speaker 1>sex worker, right, Like I think if you talked to

0:31:14.280 --> 0:31:18.120
<v Speaker 1>there's a famous author named D'Antonio Crane, and there are

0:31:18.720 --> 0:31:22.520
<v Speaker 1>all these you know, Stormy Daniels is a great example.

0:31:22.640 --> 0:31:25.040
<v Speaker 1>I mean, she's an American hero at one, but also

0:31:25.680 --> 0:31:29.080
<v Speaker 1>she's a woman who was like, she is a sex worker,

0:31:29.160 --> 0:31:31.960
<v Speaker 1>and she is loud and proud about being a sex worker.

0:31:32.440 --> 0:31:34.360
<v Speaker 1>I was never that, So I want to be clear

0:31:34.400 --> 0:31:36.640
<v Speaker 1>about that. I was never loud and proud. I was

0:31:36.760 --> 0:31:39.120
<v Speaker 1>always lying about it. There was never a time when

0:31:39.160 --> 0:31:41.520
<v Speaker 1>I was fully honest with anyone about the fact that

0:31:41.640 --> 0:31:44.880
<v Speaker 1>I was doing it, because I clearly, like felt some

0:31:45.040 --> 0:31:48.800
<v Speaker 1>shame about it even after I stopped being Mormon, so

0:31:48.920 --> 0:31:51.040
<v Speaker 1>I didn't think of myself that way. But it was

0:31:51.120 --> 0:31:53.360
<v Speaker 1>the first time in my life that I thought of

0:31:53.520 --> 0:31:56.560
<v Speaker 1>myself as the owner of my own body. And like,

0:31:57.240 --> 0:32:00.480
<v Speaker 1>you know, nobody told me what they are going to

0:32:00.600 --> 0:32:03.520
<v Speaker 1>do to my body. They always asked on a piece

0:32:03.560 --> 0:32:06.800
<v Speaker 1>of paper, what are we? What are where are your boundaries?

0:32:07.480 --> 0:32:09.520
<v Speaker 1>And that's what I loved about porn, as everything was

0:32:09.640 --> 0:32:14.040
<v Speaker 1>so upfront. Yes, this is a transaction, Yes this is

0:32:14.160 --> 0:32:16.840
<v Speaker 1>for money. Yes we will be trading sex, but I

0:32:16.880 --> 0:32:19.080
<v Speaker 1>would need to know where your boundaries are. And porn

0:32:19.200 --> 0:32:22.080
<v Speaker 1>is highly regulated, so like you do your HIV test

0:32:22.160 --> 0:32:24.400
<v Speaker 1>every thirty days, and you show your piece of paper

0:32:24.480 --> 0:32:26.760
<v Speaker 1>to the other actor, and if they don't have your

0:32:26.800 --> 0:32:29.040
<v Speaker 1>paper their paper, you are not having sex with them.

0:32:29.520 --> 0:32:32.400
<v Speaker 1>And growing up religious, I never thought of my body

0:32:32.520 --> 0:32:35.640
<v Speaker 1>really is mine. I thought of it as a tool

0:32:35.760 --> 0:32:39.040
<v Speaker 1>to like have children with and something really to be

0:32:39.160 --> 0:32:42.120
<v Speaker 1>ashamed of. And so then I'm like immersed in this world.

0:32:42.160 --> 0:32:45.840
<v Speaker 1>It's telling me not only as your body yours, but

0:32:46.040 --> 0:32:50.560
<v Speaker 1>also you can like very utilitarian lie like make money

0:32:50.680 --> 0:32:54.520
<v Speaker 1>with it, and also it's something to be celebrated so

0:32:54.680 --> 0:32:57.040
<v Speaker 1>much so that we're going to sell this, you know, like,

0:32:57.760 --> 0:33:00.560
<v Speaker 1>and so that was all like very new and exciting

0:33:00.640 --> 0:33:03.000
<v Speaker 1>for me. And so now I'm making really good cash,

0:33:03.560 --> 0:33:05.560
<v Speaker 1>but I have to make it seem like I'm still

0:33:05.680 --> 0:33:09.160
<v Speaker 1>a starving artist, right, So I'm like playing at being

0:33:09.360 --> 0:33:11.840
<v Speaker 1>I'm like acting in my real life at being a

0:33:11.960 --> 0:33:14.240
<v Speaker 1>starving artist, which I'm not anymore. I have like a

0:33:14.320 --> 0:33:16.840
<v Speaker 1>ton of cash and I'm just like putting into the

0:33:16.880 --> 0:33:18.720
<v Speaker 1>bank and I'm like, you're actually being good about that,

0:33:18.720 --> 0:33:22.640
<v Speaker 1>because you're not. I was great about that. Yes, I

0:33:22.680 --> 0:33:25.520
<v Speaker 1>didn't get into drugs until I'm at a dude, and

0:33:25.640 --> 0:33:30.960
<v Speaker 1>then that's kind of where the fun ended. You paid

0:33:31.000 --> 0:33:36.040
<v Speaker 1>attention at all. The narrative is usually things start going

0:33:36.160 --> 0:33:40.400
<v Speaker 1>wrong and then you get into porn. An actual fact,

0:33:40.960 --> 0:33:43.760
<v Speaker 1>porn was a high point and they didn't start going

0:33:43.880 --> 0:33:50.120
<v Speaker 1>wrong for Amy until after she left porn. The bad Boyfriend,

0:33:50.640 --> 0:33:59.040
<v Speaker 1>the drugs hashtag it all. So I meet this dude,

0:33:59.520 --> 0:34:02.040
<v Speaker 1>and I meet him as a call girl. He's like

0:34:02.120 --> 0:34:04.680
<v Speaker 1>one of my clients, and I fall in love with him,

0:34:05.560 --> 0:34:07.840
<v Speaker 1>and maybe more than falling in love with him, I

0:34:07.880 --> 0:34:10.040
<v Speaker 1>fall in love with his math. As soon as I

0:34:10.160 --> 0:34:13.759
<v Speaker 1>move in with him. It's abusive. He's in the middle

0:34:13.800 --> 0:34:16.080
<v Speaker 1>of a divorce, and so I get in my car,

0:34:16.320 --> 0:34:19.320
<v Speaker 1>I drive away. I'm like, fuck you, I'm not moving

0:34:19.360 --> 0:34:22.680
<v Speaker 1>in after all, and he does the thing right. I'm

0:34:22.760 --> 0:34:26.200
<v Speaker 1>so sorry, baby. It will never happen again. Oh my god,

0:34:26.320 --> 0:34:29.120
<v Speaker 1>I can't believe that happened. It's because of my divorce

0:34:29.400 --> 0:34:32.279
<v Speaker 1>and all of the stress of my divorce. I go

0:34:32.400 --> 0:34:36.560
<v Speaker 1>back that night. I go back over and over and over.

0:34:36.960 --> 0:34:39.879
<v Speaker 1>We do math all night long. We fight all the time.

0:34:40.360 --> 0:34:42.760
<v Speaker 1>It's kind of exciting. So now what what a folks

0:34:42.840 --> 0:34:46.040
<v Speaker 1>going back home at this point anything. My sister actually

0:34:46.160 --> 0:34:48.640
<v Speaker 1>moved to see me Valley. She moves in with me

0:34:48.880 --> 0:34:51.560
<v Speaker 1>and Manny this guy who is abusive. Why did she

0:34:51.640 --> 0:34:53.960
<v Speaker 1>do this? Because I won't leave him, like I keep

0:34:54.040 --> 0:34:56.759
<v Speaker 1>not leaving him. So she moves out specifically to help

0:34:56.840 --> 0:35:00.120
<v Speaker 1>you leave him or yea, and she had to as

0:35:00.160 --> 0:35:02.320
<v Speaker 1>a plan, We're going to run away in the middle

0:35:02.360 --> 0:35:05.080
<v Speaker 1>of the night. She finds a place for us to live,

0:35:05.480 --> 0:35:08.920
<v Speaker 1>like secretly, and then in the middle of the night

0:35:09.440 --> 0:35:11.919
<v Speaker 1>she has this backpacked for us and we run away

0:35:12.440 --> 0:35:15.359
<v Speaker 1>like sleeping or he's not there. He's sleeping, but he's

0:35:15.400 --> 0:35:18.480
<v Speaker 1>not sleeping. That hard because five minutes after we walk

0:35:18.520 --> 0:35:20.560
<v Speaker 1>out the front door and start walking down the street.

0:35:21.000 --> 0:35:22.839
<v Speaker 1>I can hear his car and he had a link

0:35:22.920 --> 0:35:25.680
<v Speaker 1>in with like a really high cylinder engine. And so

0:35:25.800 --> 0:35:28.520
<v Speaker 1>when he starts his card and know what that sounds like,

0:35:29.080 --> 0:35:32.799
<v Speaker 1>and I'm like, oh fuck, that's manny. We run down

0:35:32.840 --> 0:35:35.400
<v Speaker 1>the street. We hide in the bushes of this graveyard

0:35:35.520 --> 0:35:37.640
<v Speaker 1>that's like behind the house that we were living in.

0:35:38.040 --> 0:35:40.279
<v Speaker 1>And it's like straight out of like a movie, Like

0:35:40.400 --> 0:35:43.759
<v Speaker 1>we're like hiding from this guy. And he's texting me

0:35:43.880 --> 0:35:46.239
<v Speaker 1>every two minutes, you piece of ship. What are you doing.

0:35:46.760 --> 0:35:49.480
<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna find you. I'm going to kill you. Yeah.

0:35:49.960 --> 0:35:52.239
<v Speaker 1>We try to get a restraining order. It's not enough

0:35:52.320 --> 0:35:55.320
<v Speaker 1>that he's made these threats over text message. And she

0:35:55.480 --> 0:35:59.560
<v Speaker 1>literally saved my life and and we just we go

0:35:59.680 --> 0:36:02.239
<v Speaker 1>back to being waitresses together. And I lived with my

0:36:02.360 --> 0:36:09.680
<v Speaker 1>sister and the dude slowly fades away exactly and um,

0:36:10.680 --> 0:36:14.680
<v Speaker 1>and then I read Build My Life. So I went

0:36:14.760 --> 0:36:17.520
<v Speaker 1>to community college. It took me like six years to

0:36:17.600 --> 0:36:19.840
<v Speaker 1>finish a two year degree like get my a. A

0:36:20.000 --> 0:36:24.719
<v Speaker 1>took six years, and I m transferred to Berkeley. So

0:36:24.800 --> 0:36:27.239
<v Speaker 1>I got into UC Berkeley good enough to get into

0:36:27.280 --> 0:36:30.520
<v Speaker 1>Berkeley exactly did when did you meet your husband? I

0:36:30.640 --> 0:36:34.360
<v Speaker 1>met my husband. Um, after I graduated from Berkeley. I

0:36:34.600 --> 0:36:39.560
<v Speaker 1>was in Portland, Oregon working as an ELSAT tutor, So

0:36:39.640 --> 0:36:42.480
<v Speaker 1>I was tutoring ELSA. I was a personal trainer on

0:36:42.560 --> 0:36:46.720
<v Speaker 1>the side, and uh, and I was just like taking

0:36:46.760 --> 0:36:50.200
<v Speaker 1>that gap year between undergrad and law school. You know,

0:36:50.440 --> 0:36:52.959
<v Speaker 1>I didn't want to meet anyone before law school because

0:36:52.960 --> 0:36:56.320
<v Speaker 1>I wanted to be able to focus. But I meet Keith,

0:36:56.400 --> 0:36:58.920
<v Speaker 1>and it was just like love at first sight situation,

0:36:59.280 --> 0:37:01.320
<v Speaker 1>and it wasn't even a choice. It's like, this is

0:37:01.360 --> 0:37:02.960
<v Speaker 1>the person I'm going to spend my life with. And

0:37:03.080 --> 0:37:05.440
<v Speaker 1>you know, right now, I I run two pole dance

0:37:05.520 --> 0:37:09.120
<v Speaker 1>studios and I'm an attorney, so you know, on the weekends,

0:37:09.239 --> 0:37:12.560
<v Speaker 1>I do like credible fear interviews for immigrants who are

0:37:12.600 --> 0:37:16.800
<v Speaker 1>trying to come to the United States. And then immigration

0:37:16.880 --> 0:37:19.320
<v Speaker 1>law is one that I've recently become interested in because

0:37:19.400 --> 0:37:22.040
<v Speaker 1>of the human rights violations that United States government is

0:37:22.120 --> 0:37:24.799
<v Speaker 1>involved in in terms of how we're separating children from

0:37:24.800 --> 0:37:27.800
<v Speaker 1>their families and and we actually don't have a process

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<v Speaker 1>for reuniting those children. And there's just an article about how, um,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, all these parents were sent back to Guatemala

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<v Speaker 1>their children are still here living in foster families. That's crazy.

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<v Speaker 1>So immigration law is not my specialty, but I've gotten

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<v Speaker 1>really into it in the past year. So I run

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<v Speaker 1>businesses by day, and I, you know, create pole dance art,

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<v Speaker 1>which is kind of weird and underground to most people,

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<v Speaker 1>even though it's what I see every day and um

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<v Speaker 1>and do law on the weekends. And that's kind of

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<v Speaker 1>how I like to live my life. Okay, So if

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<v Speaker 1>you're not, you're not stuck in some corporate law thing

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<v Speaker 1>where you've got billable hours to be with or no. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>oh yeah, I mean I meet a lot of those people.

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<v Speaker 1>I know a lot of those people. It's really shaped

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<v Speaker 1>the way that I think about my body now, which

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<v Speaker 1>is just a tool. And you know, my my creative

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<v Speaker 1>work as a pole dancer and a competitive pole dancer

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<v Speaker 1>now is really around like creating art with my body.

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<v Speaker 1>And I'm not sure I would have ever, um not,

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<v Speaker 1>had had not had this shame to be able to

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<v Speaker 1>do that if it hadn't been for becoming a sex

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<v Speaker 1>worker so long ago. And I wish that I had

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<v Speaker 1>had a place that was so full of like female

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<v Speaker 1>empowerment and like women celebrating other women, and you know,

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<v Speaker 1>moving to l A and having my formative growing up

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<v Speaker 1>years be like women competing with other women for roles

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<v Speaker 1>or whatever, um, and only finding that real like support

0:39:03.880 --> 0:39:07.560
<v Speaker 1>in the adult entertainment industry um, and then having that

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<v Speaker 1>taken from me because I made a poor relationship decision. UM.

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<v Speaker 1>Like I wish I had had spaces like this that

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<v Speaker 1>we're safe spaces to express sexuality. And so that's why

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<v Speaker 1>they're so important to me and why I create them today,

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<v Speaker 1>and so I want to keep doing this. If you

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<v Speaker 1>could tell your younger self something, what would you tell

0:39:28.360 --> 0:39:32.160
<v Speaker 1>your younger self? I think it would be the opposite

0:39:32.239 --> 0:39:35.360
<v Speaker 1>of what you would expect, which is for the for

0:39:35.520 --> 0:39:39.080
<v Speaker 1>the ten years after I got out of porn, I

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<v Speaker 1>didn't talk about my story. I told myself that it

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<v Speaker 1>was something to be ashamed of, and and the world

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<v Speaker 1>around me told me the same thing too. Write like

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<v Speaker 1>when people who when I was a waitress men would

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<v Speaker 1>recognize me, and then they would use the fact that

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<v Speaker 1>they recognized me against me. They'd like wait for me

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<v Speaker 1>in the parking lot and be like, I know your secret,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, if we don't fuck whatever, Da da da.

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<v Speaker 1>And it was to the point where I had somebody

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<v Speaker 1>escort me to my car, and I wish that I

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<v Speaker 1>had just owned my story earlier, Like I wish that,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, I'm really proud of, Like, looking back, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>really proud of how like resourceful I was. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>I arrived in Los Angeles with nothing, then I found

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<v Speaker 1>Rick and you know, and then I just let myself

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<v Speaker 1>be open to the universe in a way that the

0:40:29.400 --> 0:40:32.359
<v Speaker 1>universe actually really did take care of me. And I'm

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<v Speaker 1>a really big believer in like having a life that's

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<v Speaker 1>not so stringently planned that like you let the world

0:40:40.840 --> 0:40:45.200
<v Speaker 1>happen to you versus like trying to control everything. And um,

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<v Speaker 1>and I wish I hadn't spent so much time feeling

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<v Speaker 1>shame for something that's actually like a really exciting cool

0:40:53.320 --> 0:40:59.400
<v Speaker 1>thing looking back on it now. It wasn't until about

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<v Speaker 1>five year US ago when I'm living here, so a

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<v Speaker 1>decade in um San Francisco, So about a decade after

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<v Speaker 1>all of this story is over, that my fam texts

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<v Speaker 1>me and she says, Hey, Amy, who's Wendy James. And

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, oh, betch, You're gonna need to sit down

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<v Speaker 1>for this one. If your adventure high point hits when

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<v Speaker 1>you're twenty and you're thirty five. Now looking back on greatness,

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<v Speaker 1>can you square yourself going forward with a life that

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<v Speaker 1>you expect won't be nearly as adventurous. I don't know.

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