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Speaker 2: That was That was the the mom from Bad Bad Boys.
Speaker 2: And they didn't bring her back, like she went through
Speaker 2: like a mental breakdown and she was all over running
Speaker 2: all over la all.
Speaker 1: I see in the videos are yeah, poor thing. Yeah,
Speaker 1: she's in our prayers. Damn it man, what's up, tam
Speaker 1: dam Yeah?
Speaker 2: What's up? How you doing? I love y'all, I love
Speaker 2: you Ajre.
Speaker 1: I'm well chilling out.
Speaker 2: What are you doing? Listen. I've been having like some
Speaker 2: mental struggles this week, like yesterday when I was because
Speaker 2: I'm back at work, but I have one foot, so y'all,
Speaker 2: I'm doing hair on one foot and I had to
Speaker 2: bring my laundry basket, my tools in my lunch in
Speaker 2: the salon and it was raining and I'm on one
Speaker 2: foot and they don't want to stop park in front
Speaker 2: of the building.
Speaker 1: So you had a handicap sticker.
Speaker 2: Yeah, are you driving now?
Speaker 1: Allegitly you have like you've been in a car accident
Speaker 1: and like an insurance agent watching you or something bit you.
Speaker 2: I don't know on the course.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but you ain't getting no money about this. You
Speaker 1: got a lawsuit.
Speaker 2: My right foot is broken out, not supposed to be driving.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but you don't. It's not like it's a lawsuit involved.
Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying. That's when you would normally hide
Speaker 1: using your shit, like you know, a lawsuit involved, bit
Speaker 1: you in your yourself? You bet a suit a bride.
Speaker 2: No, I'm just saying. No, I love a ride. I'm
Speaker 2: just talking about me. But you'ven behind the wheel, Like
Speaker 2: that's illegal?
Speaker 1: Why people drive with no foot?
Speaker 2: Yeah, but you're not supposed to drive with a broke
Speaker 2: with a boot on on your right foot. Yeah, it's not.
Speaker 2: It's illegal. So I haven't been doing that so so,
Speaker 2: but I just had like a moment of like, God,
Speaker 2: what is all of this for, you know, like it's
Speaker 2: the reason. Like that was so hard yesterday. It was
Speaker 2: really like I just want to drop all of this
Speaker 2: shit on the ground and lay here in the rain.
Speaker 2: That's how I felt. Real. So, oh yeah, that was
Speaker 2: my weekend. How was yours?
Speaker 1: Shit? Cool girl? I finally have cleared out the storage
Speaker 1: unit that I had been holding on to memories for
Speaker 1: the last I put this stuff in storage in twenty twenty. Okay,
Speaker 1: So I finally emptied this fucking storage unit completely over
Speaker 1: the weekend, and I have so much relief now because
Speaker 1: that's like one thing off my mind. So now the
Speaker 1: two hundred dollars a month I've been spending on that,
Speaker 1: I want to join this fucking high low gym because
Speaker 1: they got hot pilates and yoga. So I'm gonna put
Speaker 1: the two hundred dollars into that now. But I had
Speaker 1: to wait until that really motivated me to get the
Speaker 1: storage out because I'm like, I don't want to spend
Speaker 1: that extra money. Plus I'm already spending this for a
Speaker 1: fucking storage unit where there's a bunch of rat piss
Speaker 1: on a lot of my stuff. So I ended up
Speaker 1: just giving most of that stuff away to the fucking
Speaker 1: Habitat for Humanity. But girl, a lot of emotions came
Speaker 1: up while I was taking that stuff out because when
Speaker 1: I put the stuff, and I was engaged, and I
Speaker 1: was putting the things in the storage because I didn't
Speaker 1: trust who I was engaged too. So I'm like, damn,
Speaker 1: I might need my things like I might, we might
Speaker 1: not make it. And here I've gotten rid of everything,
Speaker 1: but really I should, like I don't suggest anybody to
Speaker 1: store shit. Get rid of that shit when you move,
Speaker 1: don't ever store nothing.
Speaker 2: Bruh. That's why you know what I was realizing. That's
Speaker 2: funny you say that. And I might have mentioned this
Speaker 2: before on the show, but I realized how much I
Speaker 2: don't need that shit at all. Like I haven't needed
Speaker 2: like I haven't been back to the storage for one thing.
Speaker 1: You see what I'm saying. So we be accumulating all
Speaker 1: this stuff, like I do strive to be a minimalist,
Speaker 1: but I am like I hoard mail, I hoard hair
Speaker 1: products like it'd be certain things that I might hoard,
Speaker 1: and I hoard like trinkets and little things that I
Speaker 1: spent my money on. I really still want hold I
Speaker 1: don't need.
Speaker 2: I heard dick pics from exues like I still haven't
Speaker 2: made my p.
Speaker 1: We talked about that shit, but you can't get a
Speaker 1: man with that shit on your phone.
Speaker 2: Why how they gonna know?
Speaker 1: Well, I made a mistake of telling the nigga how
Speaker 1: I had a video of another nigga eating my pussy
Speaker 1: on my phone, and he was so irate. He was like,
Speaker 1: I'm like, listen. I he was very mad, but I
Speaker 1: didn't think that he would get mad. And my thing
Speaker 1: is like, I know it's in the phone somewhere. I
Speaker 1: don't really know where it is, but I know I
Speaker 1: never deleted it.
Speaker 2: When I get in a relationship, I'll discard of those
Speaker 2: things in a secret folder.
Speaker 1: Why niggas phones be full of titties?
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's like your dowary do. I gotta throw away
Speaker 2: my diary because I got a new man girl.
Speaker 1: This nigga was fucking with one time and we really
Speaker 1: good friends. He got with this well, he wasn't even
Speaker 1: in a relationship with this girl, but he was fucking
Speaker 1: with a crazy bitch and she put me in about
Speaker 1: ten other bitches in the group chat, and she started
Speaker 1: sending us our pictures out. This nigga phone. I see
Speaker 1: it this meme, these my titties, Like I took this
Speaker 1: picture that I know who I sent it.
Speaker 2: To, right, so you ain't got to send it back.
Speaker 2: Craz let's getting sings.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, anyway, that was my weekend. I'm finished telling
Speaker 1: y'all because I like about my fucking emotions because I
Speaker 1: need therapy a little bit the show. Right, So when
Speaker 1: I put the stuff in the storage unit, I remember
Speaker 1: how my ex was acting the day we moved these things.
Speaker 1: He was acting very short tempered, like he just didn't
Speaker 1: want to help me. You know what I'm saying. Mind you,
Speaker 1: this nigga has a fucking furniture moving company, so he
Speaker 1: has box trucks all that shit. The way he was
Speaker 1: handling my things, like throwing my ship in the in
Speaker 1: the back of the truck, throwing my shit in the stores, like,
Speaker 1: all that emotion came up because here I am with
Speaker 1: my new old nigga, and you got an attitude helping
Speaker 1: me move this shit out the storage unit.
Speaker 2: You have a lot of trauma associated with that relationship. Shit,
Speaker 2: it's not funny. I like, I hate that for you.
Speaker 1: No, I do, I do, and I be working through it.
Speaker 1: But you know, the reason why it's hard for me
Speaker 1: to let things go sometimes because I still be trying
Speaker 1: to figure out what in me deserve that wouldn't me
Speaker 1: like caused me to even attract this type of shit.
Speaker 2: I don't think you need to look at it that way.
Speaker 1: I'm telling listen, a lot of times we be looking
Speaker 1: for outside reasons about stuff, and if I was in
Speaker 1: a different space, that shit would have never fucking happened. DC.
Speaker 2: So it do start with us. I get that, but
Speaker 2: I'm sure you didn't. It didn't start out that way.
Speaker 2: I'm sure you wasn't being like verbally and emotionally abused
Speaker 2: by this person in the very beginning, and you just
Speaker 2: stuck around for more abuse.
Speaker 1: Our first date, it was a bitch knocking on the window. Okay,
Speaker 1: it was a bit outside pregnant, so you whoa, it's
Speaker 1: the fucking roller coaster. But no, I was saying this
Speaker 1: new nigga, my new old nigga that I'm with now,
Speaker 1: was having an attitude helping me move this stuff because
Speaker 1: I didn't want to post. I didn't want to just
Speaker 1: get rid of my things like I had nice stuff,
Speaker 1: like somebody would be happy to have this for free
Speaker 1: or one hundred dollars, right, So I didn't just want
Speaker 1: to give my shit away to some organization, don't she
Speaker 1: didn't have my bed listed right now for five hundred dollars.
Speaker 1: And I posted it on Facebook, but people were not
Speaker 1: responding fast enough, so I just went ahead and dropped
Speaker 1: it off. And he didn't understand, like why I was
Speaker 1: waiting around waiting on people to respond, Because I consider
Speaker 1: other people. I don't just be considering myself, right, so
Speaker 1: I don't had dropped the shit off, and then a
Speaker 1: bunch of bitches was hit me up like you already
Speaker 1: got rid of the bed, like yeah, it's going now.
Speaker 1: One bitch called Habitat for Humanity. But anyway, I was
Speaker 1: being rushed. It just brought back these emotions about me
Speaker 1: just not being able to ask for help, right, because
Speaker 1: when I ask somebody for help always it's like I'm
Speaker 1: being rushed or it's such an unpleasantry for them to
Speaker 1: help me. Meanwhile, like I help people with a smile, yeah,
Speaker 1: or if I don't feel like that shit, I say no, yeah,
Speaker 1: but don't yeah don't exactly, but you can though, But
Speaker 1: then you would have felt bad if I rented a
Speaker 1: U haul and drove up there by myself, because that
Speaker 1: literally the last when I put that stuff in that storage.
Speaker 1: That's really the first time I ever had help moving.
Speaker 1: I have moved across the country by my fucking self before. Ye, well,
Speaker 1: midway halfway across the country, you know what I'm saying. Like,
Speaker 1: I've always moved myself and God will send me like
Speaker 1: a person or two to assist. But I'm used to
Speaker 1: doing shit by myself. But don't I don't want to
Speaker 1: ever be in a relationship and feel like I still
Speaker 1: got to do shit by my fucking self.
Speaker 2: Yeah, because what's the point, because you're.
Speaker 1: Gonna have an attitude when I ask you to help.
Speaker 1: And it's not that he didn't want it help. I
Speaker 1: just wasn't moving quick enough for him and how he
Speaker 1: wanted to do things this is, but this is my thing,
Speaker 1: and I just need you to be patient really, So yeah,
Speaker 1: I just wanted to vent about that.
Speaker 2: Am I tripping?
Speaker 1: No, you're not tripping, motherfuckers.
Speaker 2: It's fair.
Speaker 1: Relationships is hard, are y'all? Dealing with everybody in they
Speaker 1: little idiosyncrasies just get to my goddamn nerves, Like everybody
Speaker 1: in their antics and it's just personalities. I'm sick of people.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's hard. You gotta give grace and ask for
Speaker 2: grace in return.
Speaker 1: I don't ever give get grace.
Speaker 2: You probably just don't feel like it.
Speaker 1: Listen, you know some of those things I said this
Speaker 1: the other day, like off of the Hands, maintailled, I
Speaker 1: never talk about that shit. I can't wait for the
Speaker 1: new season. But that going grace, I love it. Uh,
Speaker 1: what's the other Let's go in grace in what you
Speaker 1: got going on? Man?
Speaker 2: All right, So I know y'all saw this, but we
Speaker 2: still got to talk about it. Cardi B while she
Speaker 2: was in Paris, she went live and she was spassing
Speaker 2: on off set.
Speaker 1: He's said, it's kind of triggering.
Speaker 2: He said to her, you my baby mama, I won.
Speaker 2: What does that mean? That shit is so triggering to me?
Speaker 1: Because it almost like and I and I feel like
Speaker 1: it might be triggering for women other women also, right,
Speaker 1: because we know these niggas be trying to lock us.
Speaker 2: In trap us.
Speaker 1: It's like, yes, me and while they be trying to
Speaker 1: sit us down intentionally, right, But Cardi B is obviously
Speaker 1: not a bitch that will sit down okay, pregnant okay,
Speaker 1: exactly be very like sit who down, I'm still doing
Speaker 1: all the things.
Speaker 2: He applied, that she got some outside dick while she
Speaker 2: was pregnant with the last baby, and her response and
Speaker 2: we don't know if it was to this, but the
Speaker 2: next thing she tweeted was and did.
Speaker 1: But you gotta do that to a nark. You can't
Speaker 1: ever let them feel like they got you in a
Speaker 1: crazy ass emotional state. You really gotta hurt them into submission.
Speaker 1: That's just like you gotta be. You gotta really use
Speaker 1: dark psychology on a narcissist. And that because that nigga
Speaker 1: man to put a post up and say people, everybody
Speaker 1: know I like you or some ship like that, like what,
Speaker 1: while simultaneously saying how friends and family warned you about her.
Speaker 1: Somebody should have worn cardy about you. I'm pretty sure
Speaker 1: the baby mamas were.
Speaker 2: It just makes me sad. Can anybody stay together? Can
Speaker 2: anybody be happy?
Speaker 1: I mean you could be. I just you know, I
Speaker 1: said you could be fake happy.
Speaker 2: Angela Simmons and Yo Gotti, I hope they stay together.
Speaker 2: I think, first of all, I think Angela Simms is
Speaker 2: a theo.
Speaker 1: I think.
Speaker 2: Cover up for the thug that she really is. I
Speaker 2: had to right street niggas for real, I.
Speaker 1: Thought something over the weekend. Hold on, let's finish that
Speaker 1: with Cardi be right quick though. Okay, so yeah, Cardi
Speaker 1: b she did say and did. But then now in
Speaker 1: this most recent video, she's talking about how she found
Speaker 1: out she was pregnant, like she was going in for
Speaker 1: some cosmetic shit and found out she was damnar seventeen
Speaker 1: eighteen weeks pregnant. She was like, I was like, no,
Speaker 1: no fucking way. I only had sex one time this year.
Speaker 1: So the one time she has sex is when she conceived,
Speaker 1: so obviously she ain't fucked somebody else while pregnant.
Speaker 2: She said she was that was that was one time
Speaker 2: this year prior to finding out.
Speaker 1: She was praying, my girl ain't have second we just listen.
Speaker 1: I don't believe she did either, but I don't think
Speaker 1: any woman believes she actually fucked somebody. And this ain't
Speaker 1: the first time he's publicly tried to accuse her of bullshit,
Speaker 1: because last time he did it, he went on the
Speaker 1: Breakfast Club and said, I was mad. So you you
Speaker 1: embarrass your girl when you're mad, your wife, the mother
Speaker 1: of your children. That's what you do when you're mad.
Speaker 1: You can't reason with a bitch ass nigga like that. Okay, yeah,
Speaker 1: that's scary. But Cardi Party was like, you know, I'm
Speaker 1: too good for you. I was always too good for you,
Speaker 1: but I loved you. Like and niggas in the comments
Speaker 1: like a stripper too good for anybody? Yes, nigga, a
Speaker 1: stripper can be stole. Too good for you, right, y'all
Speaker 1: literally be in the clubs like throwing money on the strippers.
Speaker 2: Right, praising and worshiping them.
Speaker 1: Yes, it's too good for you. Yeah, but back to
Speaker 1: Angela Simmons, bitch, so this shit with Yogatti and like, uh,
Speaker 1: the young man who was just on trial for the
Speaker 1: murder of Dolph and now fingers is definitely pointing at CMG.
Speaker 1: M hm, bitch, let's talk about Angela Simmons dead baby
Speaker 1: daddy because you was the virgin and then you're in
Speaker 1: a praik.
Speaker 2: I want to talk about her?
Speaker 1: What type of and then now you like where your
Speaker 1: God who been after you since before you got pregnant,
Speaker 1: He wanted you like, let me look, I'm would get
Speaker 1: this nigga completely out the way, like you, we can't
Speaker 1: put nothing past these. Listen, dog, listen, people really think
Speaker 1: like celebrities or people with influence of some sort, don't.
Speaker 1: I could be a serial killer, and because I'm not
Speaker 1: appearing as one, I don't come off as one. But
Speaker 1: at night I'm out here fucking terrorizing the community.
Speaker 2: Most serial killers don't tell people though.
Speaker 1: But why not? Though? That would be the most brilliant
Speaker 1: serial killer. These niggas is definitely telling people their serial killers.
Speaker 1: And these rap lyrics, no, they entertainment.
Speaker 2: Yeah, some like all this Diddy ship like has made
Speaker 2: me realize how people be in our face telling us
Speaker 2: the truth and we believe in something else face eyes,
Speaker 2: Why I should?
Speaker 1: Yeah, so Angela Simmons might seem seem nice, We don't
Speaker 1: what do smoke? Angela?
Speaker 2: I don't c MG. Goonies over here, Them pastries had
Speaker 2: us food. She brought that gun purse to that ship
Speaker 2: to let us know what type of time she really all.
Speaker 1: You know, she wasn't playing with that.
Speaker 2: Gun purse, smiling at y'all, pointing it in the camera.
Speaker 2: Angela was like, yeah, come see bout it.
Speaker 1: Boosy and his daughter, okay, boot people be giving Boosy
Speaker 1: a heart Well, I don't know. People really don't give
Speaker 1: him a hard time. People love Boosy Okay for whatever
Speaker 1: reason after listening to his brother interview about him, like
Speaker 1: the things that have transparred between them with business and
Speaker 1: just family, and she's like that over the years. I
Speaker 1: don't really, I don't think Boosy is a good person.
Speaker 1: But anyway he might mean, well, he just doesn't know
Speaker 1: how to articulate like his feelings. Well or maybe he
Speaker 1: says shit exactly how to fuck you feel and which
Speaker 1: is most black parents, right, they don't give a fuck
Speaker 1: about your feelings. This is what it is. So he's like,
Speaker 1: you know, I don't want her, like she could do
Speaker 1: what she want to do, but you're not about to
Speaker 1: come in my house and contamidate contaminate the other children. Right.
Speaker 1: So in a way he's feeling he's feeling like he
Speaker 1: is having to protect as other kids because of her lifestyle.
Speaker 1: And she's a young girl herself, you know what I'm saying,
Speaker 1: Like she needs her dad and not she needs her mom.
Speaker 1: But they're not gonna always support everything you do, right.
Speaker 1: I think you children, adults need to realize that, like
Speaker 1: you need to be okay being who you are without
Speaker 1: your parents' approval. You're not gonna always get it, It
Speaker 1: would be nice, but not all parents is for that shit. Whatever.
Speaker 1: It don't even have to be your sexuality. It could be,
Speaker 1: you know, any other type of lifestyle you choose, or
Speaker 1: something else that you're doing that they don't agree with.
Speaker 1: They always gonna want what's best for their children. If
Speaker 1: you are you want grandkids, you want your lineage to continue,
Speaker 1: of course, you want your daughters to be with men,
Speaker 1: and your men and your male sons, your sons to
Speaker 1: be with women, of course, right.
Speaker 2: But he did make a public apology to her, you know,
Speaker 2: and say that he was sorry and that he loved
Speaker 2: her and maybe he don't know how to say things.
Speaker 1: He said that, so yeah, what can you do? At
Speaker 1: least he apologize. Absolutely, people never get an apology, Yeah,
Speaker 1: because I mean, I think this is a private thing. Also,
Speaker 1: I don't know how it sold over to social media.
Speaker 2: You know what. I appreciate, you know, these people sharing
Speaker 2: their private lives on social media because it gives us
Speaker 2: content for the show. But I just wonder whatever happened
Speaker 2: to keeping family business in the family. That's how I
Speaker 2: was raised, you know, I grew up like what happens here,
Speaker 2: We discussed here. You know, you don't take it out
Speaker 2: in the street. That's our business to deal with and
Speaker 2: maybe that ain't healthy. But I don't know if taking
Speaker 2: to social media, where there's a lot, there's probably more
Speaker 2: people who don't care or are rooting for bad things
Speaker 2: to happen to you than it is people who are
Speaker 2: on the side of goodness for you, you know, So
Speaker 2: I don't know that's weird to me.
Speaker 1: Yeah, And I mean people always say why celebrities got
Speaker 1: us in the group chat, why they got the individual?
Speaker 1: Regular people be having a life on the internet too,
Speaker 1: that's just yes, we are.
Speaker 2: I guess we just talked about our whole shit. We
Speaker 2: talked about our vaginas, our six FLFE over here. So yeah,
Speaker 2: I guess you're right.
Speaker 1: It's therapeutic for me. But I mean as far as
Speaker 1: like putting like actual imagery of my whole life online,
Speaker 1: I don't think I'm comfortable with I'm not in that
Speaker 1: space to do that yet. But that's really where we're
Speaker 1: heading at. Like, so once AI takes over everybody's fucking job,
Speaker 1: because y'all know, the long shormance is, Shoreman's are picketing
Speaker 1: right now and it's because of a multitude of things,
Speaker 1: not just pay. So even them want to use AI,
Speaker 1: which I don't know how a computer is supposed to
Speaker 1: operate a crane. I don't know. Maybe they can figure
Speaker 1: it out one day. But once AI takes over everybody's job,
Speaker 1: you are going to have to sell yourself with social
Speaker 1: media like that is like how people regular day to
Speaker 1: day people are making hell of money on TikTok just
Speaker 1: being themselves every day. You have to I don't know,
Speaker 1: appeal to a group of people so you can make income.
Speaker 1: Like that's going to be the new barter system.
Speaker 2: M M.
Speaker 1: That's what we had jokes exactly. So as much as
Speaker 1: we don't want to be a part of this machine,
Speaker 1: like they keep forcing us, forcing us, forcing us there,
Speaker 1: So what you're gonna do?
Speaker 2: The red and blue pill, which one gonna take?
Speaker 1: It's a red pill for me all the time. But
Speaker 1: you know, if they come out with a little, uh,
Speaker 1: a little mutable, little pill, like a little in between,
Speaker 1: that's what I would like to take.
Speaker 2: I always like the middle, A little hybrid, always better.
Speaker 1: Can I get a little hybrid pill?
Speaker 2: So y'all over the weekend, AJ sent me this video
Speaker 2: and it was a court show. I didn't recognize the judge.
Speaker 2: I've never seen this particular judge before. But there was
Speaker 2: a white husband. Were they married, Well, this couple they
Speaker 2: it was a white man and a black woman and
Speaker 2: they produced a child together. And he was suing this
Speaker 2: black shoes, beautiful black woman because the baby. He said
Speaker 2: that he lived his life with pretty privilege pretty much,
Speaker 2: that he was handsome, and she gave him an ugly baby,
Speaker 2: and he was suing her because the baby was ugly.
Speaker 2: And she had had plastic surgery done to her face.
Speaker 1: I think she had a reconstructive surgery because she imagined
Speaker 1: like it reminds her of what happened to her parents.
Speaker 1: She's happened to her parents, so she's a new person now, right,
Speaker 1: So I think maybe she got into a car accident
Speaker 1: of some sort, because that's what the pictures look. Her
Speaker 1: face looked kind of distorted. So she had constructive, reconstructive
Speaker 1: surgery done. Beautiful girl, Yeah, beautiful baby.
Speaker 2: And the baby was beautiful to me too, So they.
Speaker 1: Her like, nigga, you don't even have a hairline.
Speaker 2: Who are you talking to? You benefit from white privilege,
Speaker 2: not pretty period twisted, that's what you benefited from. And
Speaker 2: I thought the baby was beautiful, you know so. But
Speaker 2: there was a case similar to this particular one and
Speaker 2: the man won. He won.
Speaker 1: That's because that lady changed her entire face. So the
Speaker 1: children came out this I think it was Korea and
Speaker 1: its South Korea or something. But the woman had like
Speaker 1: real cosmetic surgery done to had a whole new face.
Speaker 1: But guess what, you could change that face, but you
Speaker 1: cannot change that DNA bababic. So the kids came out
Speaker 1: looking like her old face, and he was handsome. He
Speaker 1: was like, man, hell no, ain't no wayis my offspring.
Speaker 1: Y'all think I'd be tripped, but I am not that
Speaker 1: selfish to do that to my kids intentionally. I don't
Speaker 1: like no nigga enough to let Rick Ross fuck me
Speaker 1: and produce like it's a fifty to fifty chance. I
Speaker 1: feel like it's selfish man. Y'all think I'd be tripped,
Speaker 1: But that shit is selfish as fuck to me, Like
Speaker 1: you love a nigga that much, you're willing to risk
Speaker 1: your kids' features, You're fucking their future up.
Speaker 2: This awful ages.
Speaker 1: It is the truth. Because we know pretty privilege is
Speaker 1: really a thing. We're not gonna act like if two
Speaker 1: people walk into a room, one's I guess general consensus
Speaker 1: would say, like, this person is handsome, right, and then
Speaker 1: this person not so much. Who you think that people
Speaker 1: are gonna gravitate to first before anybody opens their mouth.
Speaker 1: It's just an unfortunate truth.
Speaker 2: Yeah, well that's kind of it sounds similar to like
Speaker 2: back in the day great grandparents in the South being like,
Speaker 2: don't marry no man darker than you like that, because
Speaker 2: you're like gonna be harder if you're dark, merry lighter.
Speaker 2: So they was just trying to eliminate blackness from the skin.
Speaker 1: That's now that as mental health, right, because I think
Speaker 1: we are way more closer to just being in love
Speaker 1: with ourselves today then back then, And it was it
Speaker 1: was just a lot of different things happening at the
Speaker 1: time why people were that way and may have seemed
Speaker 1: easier to them for lighter people, which darker people They
Speaker 1: will say they feel the same way today. M hm,
Speaker 1: you know they might.
Speaker 2: I wouldn't necessarily pick my man, and my partner picks
Speaker 2: upon me it, you know, like or or appearance.
Speaker 1: So you don't want to find man.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, I would love a fine man, but that's
Speaker 2: not the top priority on how I picked my partners
Speaker 2: at this age, it's not look how I don't want
Speaker 2: to know ugly like I don't some how you.
Speaker 1: Picked part not fine.
Speaker 2: For the most important thing that a gotta have is
Speaker 2: you gotta make me laugh. We gotta be able to
Speaker 2: laugh together if you don't. AJ just told me that
Speaker 2: some nigga I don't even know who this nigga is,
Speaker 2: she was hanging out with this nigga and he was like, yeah,
Speaker 2: ten went out with one of my homeboys. He said
Speaker 2: they had a good time and they went back to
Speaker 2: the house and he thought he was about to get
Speaker 2: some pussy. And she started acting out scenes from TV
Speaker 2: shows the movie Weird. Y'all, if you don't like that
Speaker 2: about me, we not gonna make y'all.
Speaker 3: This bitch is such a character like imagine, y'all listen
Speaker 3: any niggas listening to the show, Imagine you don't spend
Speaker 3: about two three hundred dollars on a nice ass.
Speaker 1: Dinn a date with this bitch. Right you get back
Speaker 1: to her house, you thinking, oh shit, she inviting me up.
Speaker 1: Were about to shit. This bitch starts doing a robot
Speaker 1: in the middle of the living room, imagine that, like
Speaker 1: that's who taby yep nigga told me his homeboy said,
Speaker 1: this bitch started acting out love Jones and shit like
Speaker 1: she was acting out different scenes from different black movies.
Speaker 2: What pussy, pussy, niggas, you're gonna get these these snips
Speaker 2: from movies and go home.
Speaker 1: I left my pussy at my homegirl house.
Speaker 2: This is a theater. You thought you were walking into
Speaker 2: my house. You walked to the into the theater.
Speaker 1: Whome fucking not job. Okay, listen, so that leads us.
Speaker 1: That's a great segue into the today's topic. Big bitch,
Speaker 1: is single really a choice? Are you single by choice?
Speaker 1: Are you a fucking weirdo bitch? I'm just saying both.
Speaker 2: Listen. What like If you don't think that's funny, it's
Speaker 2: something wrong with you. Nigga.
Speaker 1: All right, y'all, we'll be back after this commercial.
Speaker 2: Girl, I laughed about that all day yesterday.
Speaker 1: I've been like a month ago. I didn't mean to
Speaker 1: tell you that.
Speaker 2: But what makes it so funny is I don't know
Speaker 2: what nigga you talk about because I do that ship
Speaker 2: so much.
Speaker 1: You just get off a date like, okay, we're back
Speaker 1: from commercial y'all. But anyway, that's gotta continue. So you
Speaker 1: get off the date and this bitch is like chake,
Speaker 1: wake up, cheek, wake up, acting out the Titanic and shit.
Speaker 2: And for a real crime cry for a nigga insne action.
Speaker 1: Ship that is fucking hillarious stupid, because I like he's
Speaker 1: not lying, all right, y'all. So it's being single a choice?
Speaker 1: Like do I think that for women being single it's
Speaker 1: more of a choice than for men, as much as
Speaker 1: they think that they have control over relationships. I think
Speaker 1: most women can be in a relationship tomorrow, even some
Speaker 1: that people may think are not datable, right. I think
Speaker 1: most women got somebody in the cut that they can
Speaker 1: be with tomorrow while they're chasing the nigga that they want.
Speaker 2: But the men are so men who some men can't
Speaker 2: get a bit. There's men who have endless possibilities and
Speaker 2: don't want nobody, you know, So there's that option, Like
Speaker 2: I just I just say, ready, I ain't looking for
Speaker 2: serious face ass nigga. You know what I'm talking about?
Speaker 1: Like, uh, oh, what's the nigga? Uh fifty year old virgin?
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm a fifty year old version.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'd be calling anybody like over forty, like men
Speaker 1: who aren't married or kids, I call them fifty year
Speaker 1: old virgin a forty ye old virgins. So I'm talking
Speaker 1: about David Banner and this. Oh yeah, yeah, I'm calling
Speaker 1: him the fifty year old virgin.
Speaker 2: Yeah, because he could have been married twice over, you know,
Speaker 2: but he just chose not to because why buy the
Speaker 2: cow when the milk has always been free, you know?
Speaker 1: Right? So for women, do we think that we actually
Speaker 1: control being single more than we actually do?
Speaker 2: I feel like yes and no, because I'm single. I
Speaker 2: don't like I could like sliding, like pick one of
Speaker 2: these niggas that's in my DMS and be like, hey,
Speaker 2: let's be together, and they would want to. I'm sure
Speaker 2: it's some in like, there's a lot of them in
Speaker 2: there that just wasn't buzzy, let's be clear, But there's
Speaker 2: some in there that would readily be ready to want
Speaker 2: a relationship and be serious.
Speaker 1: That's until they get you, though, right right, So then
Speaker 1: now they got to really experience you. So you still
Speaker 1: have to get to the point to where y'all actually
Speaker 1: get to the relationship. So sex might happen, dating might happen,
Speaker 1: and the relationship part may not ever happened.
Speaker 2: No, I think it's come in there that's definitely like
Speaker 2: ready to get married right now, and that may not work,
Speaker 2: but they're ready, you know. But then it's also I
Speaker 2: don't like I haven't enjoyed the selection, you know, like
Speaker 2: I'll go on dates and it'll just be something. And
Speaker 2: maybe we're too picky. Maybe we give up too easy,
Speaker 2: you know, because I know I'll have I thrown some
Speaker 2: good ones back. Yeah, but it just be for reasons
Speaker 2: that I just like, I get an itck, you know,
Speaker 2: like I don't like no nigga with no fat ass.
Speaker 2: I don't like niggas.
Speaker 1: With this, but like I don't like that, like no,
Speaker 1: it ain't the big butt though, but I don't like
Speaker 1: that little bookie at the bottom like that.
Speaker 2: But clapping when you run like oh boy across the state.
Speaker 1: But that's sometimes he looked like he got a fat ass. Okay,
Speaker 1: he shaped like his mama. Yeah, you can't be clapping
Speaker 1: through the house, you clapper, red boy, you boy, you
Speaker 1: clap a read.
Speaker 2: So that's you know that shallow though, you know that shallow.
Speaker 2: It's that shallow I mean kind of what us a
Speaker 2: person that is really good to you and really love
Speaker 2: you and do everything you want. But they ask clap
Speaker 2: when they the barroom.
Speaker 1: That's not shallow. I mean people are allowed to have preference.
Speaker 1: So I would prefer a nigga not have a super
Speaker 1: flat ass pancake booty. Okay, it don't have to be
Speaker 1: no fat ass, but it's not that I even like booty.
Speaker 1: You look funny with this no booty, like you look
Speaker 1: like sperm my nigga.
Speaker 2: No, you look like me with a ball head with
Speaker 2: that ass. So have I thrown some good ones back
Speaker 2: based on superficial things. Yes, I can't admit that I
Speaker 2: threw a good one back because he I was he can't.
Speaker 2: I let him come to my house. I started acting
Speaker 2: out scenes for the movies like I always do, and
Speaker 2: I remember my dog Diamonds. This was years ago. I'm
Speaker 2: talking about a four pound hua wha. She came out
Speaker 2: of her cage and he jumped put his sneakers in
Speaker 2: my couch, in my cream couch, jumped on the couch
Speaker 2: screaming like a bitch, and I was like, oh, no,
Speaker 2: you got to go.
Speaker 1: You can never protect me and scene get out.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you can't protect me if you.
Speaker 1: Study dog wasn't a little mean, but I'm not afraid
Speaker 1: of animals in any capacity, So yeah, you're dogs get
Speaker 1: like that when they get old though, they get like
Speaker 1: real irritable.
Speaker 2: But she wasn't even doing nothing. She was looking at
Speaker 2: him like.
Speaker 1: Is he well, yeah, stuff like that put your shoes on.
Speaker 2: Definitely made me send or be giving me the ick.
Speaker 1: Yeah. I think it do be like little little subtle
Speaker 1: bullshit that turned us off about people. Men too. I
Speaker 1: don't think men can pinpoint like a man wouldn't be
Speaker 1: able to tell you. I just didn't like, go, I
Speaker 1: betch you, like we look at all that shit.
Speaker 2: So in my single by choice yes and no, because
Speaker 2: there was one I can say one guy last year
Speaker 2: that I really could like he checked all the boxes
Speaker 2: I think for the most part, and he just was like,
Speaker 2: I'm just focused on my career and I know you
Speaker 2: want something serious and I'm not ready for something serious.
Speaker 2: So we just kind of like dissolved it.
Speaker 1: But I feel like when men in particular say they
Speaker 1: don't want something serious, a lot of times I feel
Speaker 1: like it may not be with me, cause then that
Speaker 1: same person ends up married have a kid. Like that
Speaker 1: has happened to me before.
Speaker 2: Right, that's where I take it as you just don't
Speaker 2: like me, you know, That's how I saw it, like,
Speaker 2: because I think if it was someone that you like,
Speaker 2: you might consider it.
Speaker 1: You're not gonna let them go. You're going to do
Speaker 1: everything to make sure they stay right, including committing today.
Speaker 2: So then when I hit them with the like, yeah,
Speaker 2: I kind of I see you as a friend too,
Speaker 2: he was like, well when did you start feeling like that?
Speaker 2: Like what fucking difference do it make? White questioned me, Yeah,
Speaker 2: like why you Why does it matter because you want
Speaker 2: to be the only one friend zoned somebody?
Speaker 3: No?
Speaker 1: Yes, okay, so I was dating somebody last year prior
Speaker 1: to this relationship, and I haven't dating him. A couple
Speaker 1: of y'all saw him at the UH at the live
Speaker 1: shows battle Yeah not Stacyattle's what do you call him them? Uh?
Speaker 1: What kind of boots? The Chelsea boots? So you know,
Speaker 1: it was just weird, like our thing was weird, Like
Speaker 1: one minute we on, next minute you off like this
Speaker 1: nigga be down with on a trip. I took a
Speaker 1: bit out of town somewhere, and now you acting weird
Speaker 1: to me when you come back, Like if we just
Speaker 1: friends just be like that then. But it got to
Speaker 1: the point to where like we would hang out and
Speaker 1: all that, and I told him like, listen, I don't
Speaker 1: have no expectations from this. I don't have no expectations
Speaker 1: from you. Like it was one time when we had
Speaker 1: like this gap and then I finally we went out
Speaker 1: to he hit me up and we went out to
Speaker 1: dinner and shit, and that's when I was telling him like, hey,
Speaker 1: I don't have no expectations from you no more, Like
Speaker 1: my feelings are completely different now. It's like a fuck
Speaker 1: on you hang out, do all the things. But I'm cool,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, and really like you a
Speaker 1: spaceholder at this point. Girl. He felt some type of
Speaker 1: way about that, like how you so, what do you?
Speaker 1: What space do you want me in you? Because there's
Speaker 1: really no middle ground on me. Either I'm on or
Speaker 1: I'm fucking off.
Speaker 2: That's the same shit, Like that's the same shit. When
Speaker 2: I said, oh, I see you as a friend anyway,
Speaker 2: he was like, oh, when did you start feeling like that?
Speaker 1: They want you to be madly in love and retarded,
Speaker 1: and then when you do, they call you crazy. I'm
Speaker 1: never crazy. I'm never delusional. I'm on whatever you're on, right,
Speaker 1: So I'm always meet a person where they at. So
Speaker 1: if I'm if if I'm feeling like you don't like
Speaker 1: me like that, why the fuck should I be liking
Speaker 1: you like that?
Speaker 2: Right? That's how that's because when I said that I
Speaker 2: ain't really feel that way, but you ain't gonna FriendZone
Speaker 2: me and think I ain't gonna offer that same.
Speaker 1: Right, we find ourselves like, really, what men? We actually like?
Speaker 1: We be hiding our feelings because it's always like a game,
Speaker 1: even at this big age and still trying to date,
Speaker 1: Like you really have to act like you don't like
Speaker 1: a nigga, You don't have to do that. I feel
Speaker 1: like I'm in a space now where I'm not doing that. Nigga.
Speaker 1: If I like you, I'm letting you know today, and
Speaker 1: if this is not what you want, you now have
Speaker 1: the opportunity to get the fuck on through. I'm not
Speaker 1: playing those like emotional like tug of war power and
Speaker 1: control games with anybody. I need somebody to fuck with
Speaker 1: me in the same that I fuck with them.
Speaker 2: But here's the thing. Then it's like, oh, hey, are
Speaker 2: you in La. I'm back in LA. I want to
Speaker 2: take you to dinner.
Speaker 1: Why why do you think I'm on hold for you?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 1: I don't know.
Speaker 2: So we were going to have that conversation about do
Speaker 2: women are women happier single?
Speaker 1: I mean science point science points to, yes, most women are.
Speaker 1: This is actually an article from The Guardian. It says
Speaker 1: women are happier without children or a spouse, says happiness expert.
Speaker 1: So it says we may have suspected it already, but
Speaker 1: now the science backs it up. Unmarried and childless women
Speaker 1: are the happiest subgroup in the population. I mean, I
Speaker 1: mean it already just says less stress, right, Yeah, I
Speaker 1: think married and married and unmarried and childless women our
Speaker 1: stressors could possibly be just having to finance our whole
Speaker 1: lives by ourselves, and then also also stressing about hey,
Speaker 1: I might want to be married, I might want to
Speaker 1: have you. Yeah, so but is it going to kill us? Though?
Speaker 1: That stress isn't going to kill us, like you literally
Speaker 1: get fuck going to die from being married, it says,
Speaker 1: and they are more likely to live longer. And we
Speaker 1: talk about that a lot, And it goes on to
Speaker 1: say that and they are more likely to live longer
Speaker 1: than their married and child wearing rearing peers. According to
Speaker 1: a leading expert in happiness, speaking at the Hay Festival
Speaker 1: on Saturday, Paul Dolan is his name of Professor of
Speaker 1: Behavioral Science at the London School of Economics said the
Speaker 1: latest evidence show that the traditional markers used to measure
Speaker 1: success did not correlate with happy and it's particularly marriage
Speaker 1: and raising children. So for women like that's not necessarily
Speaker 1: like where their happiness lies. M h. And they might
Speaker 1: be getting the data. I wonder if they're getting data.
Speaker 1: I wonder if the data just all came from single
Speaker 1: women or women who have raised their families and maybe
Speaker 1: now divorced. Like I wonder, like who's in the study.
Speaker 2: Yeah, because that's it's gonna make a difference, you know,
Speaker 2: wherever numbers lie, because.
Speaker 1: A lot of single women who already did that, like
Speaker 1: maybe sixty divorced, already raised their families. They're like, I
Speaker 1: wish I'd never did that shit and I'll never do
Speaker 1: it again.
Speaker 2: Or some of them are like happy that like because
Speaker 2: I don't know no women that will give back their kids,
Speaker 2: you know. Yeah, I haven't met a single woman that
Speaker 2: it'd be like I give back my kids if I could,
Speaker 2: you know, but.
Speaker 1: They might not say it out loud.
Speaker 2: No. So, you know a lot of women like their
Speaker 2: kids are the best thing that ever happened to them,
Speaker 2: or they'd be like, but if I could have waited,
Speaker 2: or if I could have did this, I would have
Speaker 2: did that. You know, I've heard that before, but I've
Speaker 2: never heard nobody say if I could go back and
Speaker 2: do it again, fuck them kids. I've never heard a
Speaker 2: single one.
Speaker 1: I know. My mom always says like she always wanted children,
Speaker 1: but she never necessarily wanted a husband. But she knew
Speaker 1: she wanted kids. And I don't know if that thought
Speaker 1: process came after the failed marriage or is that really
Speaker 1: something she actually wanted, because if that's something you actually
Speaker 1: want to be manifested, exactly what you got? Yeah, children
Speaker 1: without a husband? Yeah, I mean she was married, but
Speaker 1: she I don't know if that's a trauma response to
Speaker 1: the bad marriage.
Speaker 2: I want to do an episode here soon. Un Let's
Speaker 2: get three mothers different generations, like older, middle aged mother
Speaker 2: and then a young mother, because I hear a lot
Speaker 2: of women saying that they felt like single mothers would
Speaker 2: a partner, Oh and then actual single mother. You know
Speaker 2: yea so so women who women who have partners and
Speaker 2: then a single mother because home, Yeah, a lot of
Speaker 2: them feel like single mothers with the person right there
Speaker 2: in the house with them. So I want to have
Speaker 2: a conversation about what that looks like. Yeah, we see,
Speaker 2: Like I feel like I've seen an influx on present fathers,
Speaker 2: But are they really present? Are they just present.
Speaker 1: Around around They're not really present? Because I think I
Speaker 1: think being a present parent looks different for some people.
Speaker 1: Like I have a homegirl. She got three kids and
Speaker 1: then she had two with her now husband, and so
Speaker 1: they have a total of five children also home, like
Speaker 1: youngest being two, three years old, four three, she's three.
Speaker 1: So she was like it was such a burden on
Speaker 1: her because I guess he just sees her as the mother,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. But she needs help, right,
Speaker 1: Like I literally had these last for you. These are
Speaker 1: really your kids, my other three big Like, I really
Speaker 1: had these kids for you, beautiful, beautiful girls. I love them.
Speaker 1: But she she doesn't. He's not as present but in
Speaker 1: the house as she is with the cable, you know.
Speaker 1: So she she wears a lot of hats. They run
Speaker 1: a business together, they got the kids.
Speaker 2: And then that's the thing, and then it's still gotta work.
Speaker 2: It's not like, yeah, I get to just a.
Speaker 1: Lot of time. Men just think their one job is
Speaker 1: to work. But your woman works for you, she works
Speaker 1: for the children, she works for the house, and she
Speaker 1: might also work a job.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: So it's just not balancing out, which is why some
Speaker 1: women opt out of that shit completely.
Speaker 2: Or resentful of their pardon you know.
Speaker 1: So the article goes on to say that it says,
Speaker 1: we do have some good longitudin longitudinal data following the
Speaker 1: same people over time, But I am going to do
Speaker 1: a math massive disservice to the science and just say,
Speaker 1: if you're a man, you should probably get married. If
Speaker 1: you're a woman, don't bother exactly, because we all still
Speaker 1: fucking okay. Let's be very clear. It says men, okay,
Speaker 1: as much as men say they don't benefit from marriage,
Speaker 1: it says men benefit benefited from marriage because they calm down.
Speaker 1: He said, you take less risk, you earn more money
Speaker 1: at work, and you live a little longer. She, on
Speaker 1: the other hand, has to put up with that and
Speaker 1: die sooner than if she ever then died sooner than
Speaker 1: if she never married. The healthiest and happiest population subgroup
Speaker 1: are women who never married or had children. He said.
Speaker 1: Other studies measured some financial and health benefits in being
Speaker 1: married for both men and women on average, which Dolan
Speaker 1: said could be attributed to higher incomes and emotional support
Speaker 1: allowing married people to take risk and seek medical help. However,
Speaker 1: Dolan said men showed more health benefits from time and
Speaker 1: not as they took fewer risks. Women's health are mostly
Speaker 1: unaffected by marriage, with middle aged married women even being
Speaker 1: a higher risk of physical way says, women's health are
Speaker 1: mostly unaffected by marriage. How is that? And then it's
Speaker 1: like kind of contradicting itself, with middle aged married women
Speaker 1: even being at higher risk physical and mental conditions than
Speaker 1: their single counterparts. So I think they kind.
Speaker 2: Of well, this is disheartening a bit.
Speaker 1: I mean, so you yearned what you don't have a
Speaker 1: lot of times right until you get the thing, and
Speaker 1: you'd be like, oh shit, right, Like I have a
Speaker 1: commitment phobia. I mean that's about everything. It is so
Speaker 1: hard for me to commit. Relationships might be the easier
Speaker 1: one to commit to, but even then it's like if
Speaker 1: you say, like this is what you want and this
Speaker 1: is the person you want, like you really have to
Speaker 1: get rid of self, especially when you get married and
Speaker 1: especially when you have kids. So are we now more
Speaker 1: just more selfish? You know, we only consider in ourselves
Speaker 1: because you literally are a fractured person. I think sometimes
Speaker 1: some mothers, mothers might feel fractured. A piece of the hair,
Speaker 1: a piece of down air, a piecea down their you know,
Speaker 1: and they just they are dying.
Speaker 2: Can't even shit by themselves if somebody's picking their fingers
Speaker 2: under the door, like god.
Speaker 1: Damn well, I gotta escort right now. Animals do the
Speaker 1: same shit. This cat escort me to the bathroom every
Speaker 1: time I don't, and she sits there over my shoulder
Speaker 1: in the back of the toilet, like all right, my.
Speaker 2: Dog does that too. But it's so funny because I
Speaker 2: think she realizes I need privacy, so she'll come in,
Speaker 2: but she'll turn her back a little back and turn around.
Speaker 1: No, and she'd be sitting on the back of the tiller. Child. Okay.
Speaker 1: So now, if you are a single woman, like you
Speaker 1: also spending more money than an average person, and you're
Speaker 1: also still making less money than men and trying to
Speaker 1: do it by yourself, I just.
Speaker 2: Feel like, right now, for the first time in a
Speaker 2: long time, every dollar that comes in is going to something.
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, it's out of control.
Speaker 1: How much used to do you pay for car insurance?
Speaker 2: I used to. I used to hold on to a
Speaker 2: dollar a long time. Now that shit don't even touch
Speaker 2: my hand before somebody snatching it out of my account.
Speaker 2: Some auto paid.
Speaker 1: Gohead, damn you do auto pay.
Speaker 2: I all to pay most of girl.
Speaker 1: Y'all are very responsible. I don't pay my shit on time,
Speaker 1: But I don't ever want nobody to get that comfortable
Speaker 1: to just be able to take the shit out my account.
Speaker 1: Absolutely not.
Speaker 2: It's just it's convenient because I don't have to worry
Speaker 2: about being responsible for it.
Speaker 1: Like what if they taken an extra ten cents every year,
Speaker 1: I mean every month, your whole life, like you never know.
Speaker 2: I wouldn't have noticed. Yeah, that's what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: Like they could literally steal from millions of people because
Speaker 1: y'all doing auto pay.
Speaker 2: But when I take shit off of auto pay, then
Speaker 2: I'll go to the doctor and they'll be like, oh,
Speaker 2: your insurance is canceled. I'm like what, And then it'll
Speaker 2: be like I'll call me like, oh, you haven't paid
Speaker 2: since May, Like oh god, damn, my pay.
Speaker 1: Is That's how ateen t probably be looking at me, yad,
Speaker 1: because I swear to God, I'll be forgetting about that
Speaker 1: damn Internet bill.
Speaker 2: Just take it so I ain't got to worry about
Speaker 2: y'all lass, But that shit hurt. And one thing I
Speaker 2: won't do no more Klarna all the motherfuckers ca pay
Speaker 2: after pay. They can stuck my dick because after I
Speaker 2: wear that outfit, I don't feel like I need to
Speaker 2: be paying y'all that now.
Speaker 1: I was so pissed during the summertime when I went
Speaker 1: on vacation and I ordered all us throwaway clothes from
Speaker 1: Fashion over and none of it came for vacation and
Speaker 1: I after paid everything, So imagine having to pay and
Speaker 1: you know they only do store credit, So imagine having
Speaker 1: to pay after pay on some shit you done sent back.
Speaker 1: So are you forcing me to have store credit with
Speaker 1: y'all last?
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's why I do not fuck with those after
Speaker 2: I wear it. I ain't paid. You should have.
Speaker 1: Afterwhear to afterwear service, Like how I can get back
Speaker 1: fifty percent of this outfit?
Speaker 2: Right? That is so ghetto? Yeah, So I don't even
Speaker 2: play with it when that's your first drop, though I
Speaker 2: was after paying something twenty dollars, they take it five
Speaker 2: dollars a week for me, Like, why am I doing that?
Speaker 2: Just give them the whole twenty It just was just
Speaker 2: like dumb. It made me feel better for some reason, like.
Speaker 1: It's some psycho Maybe that's another episode of child because
Speaker 1: it's definitely some psychology with after pay.
Speaker 2: Right, it just makes you feel like you're not spending
Speaker 2: the same amount, but you are are. And I'm mad, like,
Speaker 2: who took twenty three dollars? Just now pay? I know
Speaker 2: the fuck you, lie girl?
Speaker 1: I had a fourteen dollars ninety five cent after pay
Speaker 1: coming stupid. Yeah that's what I'm saying.
Speaker 2: Five dollars a week, it's stupid. Just pay the twenty dollars.
Speaker 1: Just pay now.
Speaker 2: I didn't go by the philosophy. If I can't pay
Speaker 2: for it outright, I don't need it.
Speaker 1: That's usually how I live my life. I really don't
Speaker 1: use after pay a lot. I usually use after pay
Speaker 1: when I want to return stuff, like when I'm not
Speaker 1: sure about the thing because I don't want to time
Speaker 1: my money up and have to wait for a refund
Speaker 1: from y'all. So that's usually when I use after paid.
Speaker 1: When I don't like when I'm not sure how shit
Speaker 1: gonna fit wants to come. And Fashion Over is one
Speaker 1: of them places, child, but what they were return policy
Speaker 1: and just pisses me off. I won't do after pay
Speaker 1: with Fashion Over ever again in fucking life. But yeah,
Speaker 1: that's usually when I use that ship.
Speaker 2: I ain't fucking with them ever again. I'm sorry it
Speaker 2: made me mad, Like I wore that outfit two weeks ago.
Speaker 2: It's over, Yeah, it's over.
Speaker 1: I don't. I don't war that shit, So I don't know.
Speaker 1: I guess to go back on topic. Part of me
Speaker 1: feels like it is a choice when a woman is single,
Speaker 1: because I remember like wanting a relationship. I don't never
Speaker 1: do ever really want a relationship fall in my lap.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, Like, I'll just pick one and.
Speaker 2: Just that's the thing. I have rouble. I have huge,
Speaker 2: huge trouble picking I don't you gotta come pick me
Speaker 2: and then I have to pick you back, and it's
Speaker 2: all for me to pick you back.
Speaker 1: It's easy for me really because I'm a relationship person.
Speaker 2: There you are, you'd be like, like, since we've been
Speaker 2: doing this.
Speaker 1: Only I had two relationships. I was engaged when we started.
Speaker 1: Oh right, I have had a couple of sub relationships.
Speaker 2: Don't get on here line.
Speaker 1: Those ship don't count though, because like I already knew
Speaker 1: it was looking stupid from the beginning, so I knew
Speaker 1: those situations weren't going to lead to marriage. They were
Speaker 1: just like little SpaceHolders. And they all like me right
Speaker 1: now now, Okay, they still want.
Speaker 2: But it would be very locked in and like you'd
Speaker 2: be like spending like significant amounts of time with these people.
Speaker 1: Because I ain't need one person, Like I don't like
Speaker 1: hopping around because I like fucking raw Okay, like I
Speaker 1: already said that before, right, we're gonna make sure we're
Speaker 1: good and we're gonna be having a lot of raw sex.
Speaker 1: I don't I need one person for that. I don't
Speaker 1: need multiple people for that.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but even to just locking to be like around
Speaker 2: them that much, that like.
Speaker 1: Why see, like do you want a fucking relationship? Like
Speaker 1: how the fuck you not want to be around a
Speaker 1: nigga you like that much? It's not even a whole lot.
Speaker 2: Like it'd be fast. It'd be like y'all still together.
Speaker 2: You've been over there in two days? Dog, let me
Speaker 2: tell you you're like, yes, I'm here, and I'm like it.
Speaker 1: It feels good the grocery shop with a nigga, Like
Speaker 1: you don't got to carry the bag like it, like
Speaker 1: having a having a partner is nice. Sometimes that ship
Speaker 1: is weird to me. So so, bitch, you about to
Speaker 1: be single form, I'm gonna just go ahead and take you,
Speaker 1: because girl, you got to compromise at some point, not
Speaker 1: even compromise with another person. You need to compromise with
Speaker 1: your fucking self. Bitch, Like what.
Speaker 2: That has to happen? Gradually? If we grocery shopping, we
Speaker 2: skip some steps.
Speaker 1: I hate having the like I remember like feeling sad
Speaker 1: one day and this is when I was at my
Speaker 1: singlest This is why while I'm living in Charlotte some
Speaker 1: of the time, like I was single, single and I
Speaker 1: just used to like come out Walmart and it's pouring
Speaker 1: down raining, like why I don't have my nigga to
Speaker 1: pull a car up.
Speaker 2: No, honestly, that's how I felt yesterday when I was
Speaker 2: carrying all that shit down the street on one leg.
Speaker 2: I was like, oh, this is where I needed something.
Speaker 1: Should not be doing that, okay, so you should not
Speaker 1: be doing that by yourself at this point you should
Speaker 1: have a partner to help you.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you're right, And I like choosing to be right
Speaker 2: now that nobody is here to hold this door for me,
Speaker 2: nobody's here to carry these bags for me, like I'm
Speaker 2: just buying myself in the rain.
Speaker 1: We had a similar episode about this before, do you remember.
Speaker 1: It's coming to my memory now because you had seen
Speaker 1: a video online where this was a white girl. She
Speaker 1: was like, I'm having major surgery, and it just made
Speaker 1: me feel like, you know, I don't have I'm forty,
Speaker 1: I don't have a partner, And she was having a
Speaker 1: count on her sister and her mom. But what I
Speaker 1: told you then, like you still really can't count on
Speaker 1: men all the time, like when you're not feeling well
Speaker 1: or sick or surgery and stuff. They still don't always
Speaker 1: just know what to do innately like a woman would,
Speaker 1: So you probably still would have to depend on your mop.
Speaker 1: But it just feels good to have somebody that's concerned
Speaker 1: about you, right. I stopped. I stopped talking to that nigga,
Speaker 1: like rob my little single time, Like I stopped talking
Speaker 1: to that nigga because we had planned for me to
Speaker 1: come over to this house that evening and I took
Speaker 1: a shower. I'm like, hey, I'm about to be on
Speaker 1: the way once I got the shower. I got the shower,
Speaker 1: he wasn't answering the phone like. I immediately cut him
Speaker 1: off and he called me back. He was like, you
Speaker 1: don't have to drive down. I'll ub were you I
Speaker 1: accidentally fell as When it comes to me, nigga, you
Speaker 1: intentionally fell asleep. Because if you are liking me in
Speaker 1: any capacity and you're not concerned about my whereabouts, you
Speaker 1: don't like me. That's how I feel too, because you
Speaker 1: if you were getting a little tiny sleepy, you'd have
Speaker 1: called me and said, hey, I left the door unlock.
Speaker 1: I'm getting kind of tired because that's what I would
Speaker 1: do for somebody I like, so like it'd be shit
Speaker 1: like that. I'm out of there. Yeah, but but but
Speaker 1: your partner, you want somebody in those times of emergencies. Man,
Speaker 1: I can't keep putting my mama name down for emergency contact.
Speaker 1: And I still do, though I do too.
Speaker 2: I don't have no choice.
Speaker 1: I mean, I got a choice, but I still do.
Speaker 1: Because my mom would coming quicker even when we beefing,
Speaker 1: like she coming, yeah, guns are blazing if she needs to.
Speaker 2: But I don't got nobody else to right, But.
Speaker 1: Is that because that's what you're choosing? Is that what
Speaker 1: you really want?
Speaker 2: And no, I don't want a grocery shop with you
Speaker 2: in the first.
Speaker 1: Week my one of my first dates with one of
Speaker 1: the guys I was dating. Our first date was Whole Foods.
Speaker 1: Like we met, he came and picked me up from
Speaker 1: the house and we went played for the groceries. Yeah,
Speaker 1: he bought some of my stuff I needed to, but
Speaker 1: I helped him grocery shop.
Speaker 2: Oh, I mean, I guess that's cute.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and you know I'm Eric Abadou with this shiit
Speaker 1: like I really be changing a nigga palette, Like you're
Speaker 1: gonna eat what I eat when I start fucking with you.
Speaker 2: I mean, I guess that is a cute date.
Speaker 1: We did go after a y'all to eat to a
Speaker 1: restaurant afterwards, but that was the initial thing.
Speaker 2: I think I might have commitment phobia. I've said this before,
Speaker 2: so I don't know why I'm talking about, Mike.
Speaker 1: What do you think that single women be afraid of
Speaker 1: though choosing wrong? But you just choose again. I guess
Speaker 1: that's my thing, right. Well, I don't really have a
Speaker 1: commitment for me when it comes to relationships, because I'll
Speaker 1: get the fuck on through, Like I know how to leave.
Speaker 2: Now that's the thing I don't know how to do.
Speaker 1: Oh bitch, I know when I be locked.
Speaker 2: In, I be locked in, Like where are you going?
Speaker 2: This is took forever. This is because it takes so
Speaker 2: much for me to pick. Once I pick, I'd be like,
Speaker 2: this is my forever person. I'm willing to go through
Speaker 2: the turches with you.
Speaker 1: Well, i'd be like that too, which is why I'll leave.
Speaker 1: But it still takes some time.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but that's the thing. I don't got time, So
Speaker 2: it's easier for me just not to pick a motherfucker.
Speaker 1: But you do have time.
Speaker 2: I don't feel like I got time to be playing
Speaker 2: with these niggas. I'm gonna end up. I would be
Speaker 2: like Angela Simmons out here, I'm gonna take y'all out.
Speaker 2: I'm joking. I'm joking, y'all.
Speaker 1: I'm joking, like that's the that's gonna be the running joke.
Speaker 1: Watch I watch how Angela Simmons your ass.
Speaker 2: Playing with that purse? You thought that was the purse?
Speaker 1: Y'all? We love you. Probably be in the bedroom talking
Speaker 1: real greasy about people like y'all fucking I'm gonna put y'all.
Speaker 2: I'm calm down because that ship might be real and
Speaker 2: I ain't got time for Angeloce to pull up on
Speaker 2: me with.
Speaker 1: Shame. I'm gonna do ass like Angela for damn power,
Speaker 1: get jazz and low corner somewhere there.
Speaker 2: We love.
Speaker 1: You, look good, girl, but we know you don't know
Speaker 1: zimpic quit playing in our face.
Speaker 2: Everybody who been like thick or fat for a long
Speaker 2: time and now they just like I have together.
Speaker 1: Like so the one thing with Olympic. Okay, let's go
Speaker 1: into that right quick, and then we're gonna wrap this
Speaker 1: sh up. Listen, I'm gonna tell you, I'm gonna be honest. Okay.
Speaker 1: I am type jealous of people taking ozimping. I'm not
Speaker 1: jealous about the side effects of that ship because I'm
Speaker 1: not dying to be skinny, right And I know that
Speaker 1: it does help your your metabolic system, you know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying, Like hormone issues. It helps correct things. That's
Speaker 1: what gets you to start losing the weight. But sometimes
Speaker 1: your doctor stops are swabbing you that ship like now
Speaker 1: you're gonna nobody I know who is taking that ship
Speaker 1: has sustained the weight loss. They all earned it back
Speaker 1: with anything else because it's lifestyle, so it's really just
Speaker 1: changing your mind, right, So I'd rather just keep working
Speaker 1: on that.
Speaker 2: Then A lot of people like when I saw that
Speaker 2: there's an Olympic butt because it's not doing.
Speaker 1: That Olympic face.
Speaker 2: Yeah, all sunk in mm hm.
Speaker 1: So it's a goovi ozempic semic glue class, semic glue,
Speaker 1: semic glue tide I got. All of them are all
Speaker 1: the same g l g l C one or g
Speaker 1: l M something real sick.
Speaker 2: Some people even have died.
Speaker 1: So I just stummay issues. It's messing with people's digestive
Speaker 1: system and they kids, yeah.
Speaker 2: Growing up, like every time they take it, they throw
Speaker 2: up for two days straight. Y'all pitches look good, y'all
Speaker 2: look great. Y'all look great.
Speaker 1: Y'all look great, but face a little something in but
Speaker 1: you look good.
Speaker 2: Gone completely gone.
Speaker 1: I ain't bitch because when my clavicle be popping and
Speaker 1: like my little hip bone, I know I look good.
Speaker 1: I ain't look like that in a long time. But
Speaker 1: I'm just telling you, like those are the those are
Speaker 1: the things I like to see to know that the
Speaker 1: bitch is fine.
Speaker 2: I just want a yall line. That's all I want
Speaker 2: in life. Everything else I'm okay with.
Speaker 1: Shouldn't mine disappearing. Look at that fat ass face. I'm
Speaker 1: working on it though. I'm gonna start doing Korean fish exercises.
Speaker 2: So get paid.
Speaker 1: I have gotten. Uh. They do acupuncture in the face
Speaker 1: and stuff, so you could do that instead of doing BOLTOKX,
Speaker 1: that helps. What it does? It helps with the muscles
Speaker 1: in your face.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm not why both talks me.
Speaker 1: I got a good ass acupunctural lady, acupuncturist, a little
Speaker 1: Asian lady, and she don't play the radio Chad. She
Speaker 1: can put them boo bloop bloop. Okay, close your eye,
Speaker 1: turn the light off to leave your ass, bitch, what's
Speaker 1: your last last peck? A nigger? We said this the
Speaker 1: other day, like listen, it's like, I don't think no
Speaker 1: woman is really single by choice? Y'all say, y'all are
Speaker 1: I really? And I feel like the ones who are
Speaker 1: single by choice are the ones who have already had
Speaker 1: the families or failed marriages and things like that. And
Speaker 1: they're like, I'm not, you know, risking my mental health.
Speaker 1: But that shit no more. I feel like all of
Speaker 1: us want reallylationships, men and women. All of us want
Speaker 1: to be loved. We want to find our person. It
Speaker 1: just might be a little harder. Maybe you need to
Speaker 1: move around to different someplace else, to another city to
Speaker 1: find a person a different race. Yeah, different race, you
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. No, no, white grass ain't always greener.
Speaker 1: But but maybe maybe you gotta try that to find out,
Speaker 1: you know who, who's your actual person? But you gotta
Speaker 1: you gotta try, don't just it's my choice. I'm single.
Speaker 1: I don't think so. I don't think that. I don't
Speaker 1: believe most women are single by choice.
Speaker 2: I try, I just don't try very hard.
Speaker 1: Or like the men that you think that you want,
Speaker 1: they might not be attracted to you, or they might
Speaker 1: haven't seen you yet. Right, so we we. But you
Speaker 1: don't know that person until you know them. So the
Speaker 1: options that you do have, you need to try one.
Speaker 2: Of those.
Speaker 1: And see what that. No, they might be missing your blessing.
Speaker 2: No, I do. I think the people who I have
Speaker 2: access to you know, but it just don't be.
Speaker 1: My problem is only like men who I know will
Speaker 1: die from me. How do you know because I know
Speaker 1: what niggas gonna kill you over me. I know you
Speaker 1: just you just be knowing. So I be sticking with
Speaker 1: niggas that I know that a crash out for me,
Speaker 1: not really crash out, but like if shit get real,
Speaker 1: I know that I'm protected. I'm attracted.
Speaker 2: I know like that. Like there's this one guy in
Speaker 2: Charlotte that I know if I call on him, like
Speaker 2: if something happening to me, if I call on him,
Speaker 2: he gonna he got that whole place.
Speaker 1: That's what I that, and that's what I that is
Speaker 1: what I'm attracted to.
Speaker 2: I am attracted to protect the same time, I think
Speaker 2: I could get double back select too if I was
Speaker 2: in a relationship with this niggas. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: Oh now, so he's just ready to do whatever. Just
Speaker 1: he just needed reason. I like calculated men. Yeah, but
Speaker 1: I think when you get married to somebody and or
Speaker 1: you really love somebody, you are taking their life into
Speaker 1: consideration as if it were your own. So I need
Speaker 1: you to care for me like you care for yourself.
Speaker 1: So that's what I'm attracted to. So if I find
Speaker 1: that in a man, I'm more inclined because even the
Speaker 1: crazy they go I'd be talking about I know he
Speaker 1: would have died for me. Yeah, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: He is his personality just we was clashing. Otherwise we
Speaker 1: were very good friends. We just wasn't supposed to be
Speaker 1: in a relationship together sometimes that Yeah. Anyway, that's my
Speaker 1: last last. Do you have anything for the single ladies?
Speaker 2: Apparently we better off single ladies, So keep doing you, baby, period.
Speaker 2: And I have one more last thing to say, Angela Summits,
Speaker 2: this was all jope. Please don't hurt.
Speaker 1: Us sitting up CMG goonies over here for fifty bands. Goodness,
Speaker 1: all right, kick it all right, y'all. If y'all enjoyed
Speaker 1: this episode, we appreciate you so much, even the shit talkers. Okay,
Speaker 1: we love y'all even more baby because you're paying attention. Okay,
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Speaker 2: to speak now and never hold your nigga because I'm
Speaker 2: trying to get with you.
Speaker 1: Better hold your nigga. All the good niggas actually married.
Speaker 1: So your your husband might be married to another bitch
Speaker 1: right now. You just gotta wait for that divorce.
Speaker 2: But when they get but when they come back, they
Speaker 2: be jaded.
Speaker 1: No, man, married men are actually good people to be in.
Speaker 1: The men who have been previously married. Married men are
Speaker 1: good people. They're used to marriage, They're used to being
Speaker 1: with somebody. They are relationship prone people.
Speaker 2: So you might need to find a divorce they be jaded.
Speaker 1: I don't think so. All the time.
Speaker 2: A lot of divorcees be like, I never do it again,
Speaker 2: and they be.
Speaker 1: Saying that whole time, trying to find a wife. Yeah,
Speaker 1: get you a retired military nigga. Bye y'all, bye bye.
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