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Speaker 1: Welcome to We Talk Back podcast, the production of iHeart

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Speaker 1: Radio and the Black Effect Network Talk Talk Talk to.

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Speaker 2: We're just two unapologetically black women with an opinion who talks.

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Speaker 1: What's up y'all? Thank you for tuning in for a

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Speaker 1: new episode and we talked Back because show dedicated to

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Speaker 1: your dreamers and chasers. It's not like a girl talk

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Speaker 1: What's what? Women at a movie? What was the name

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Speaker 1: of the movie? I like the people the women was

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Speaker 1: working in like a call center and they do like

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Speaker 1: sexophone talk girls six for this is your co host

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Speaker 2: That was That was the the mom from Bad Bad Boys.

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Speaker 2: And they didn't bring her back, like she went through

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Speaker 2: like a mental breakdown and she was all over running

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Speaker 2: all over la all.

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Speaker 1: I see in the videos are yeah, poor thing. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: she's in our prayers. Damn it man, what's up, tam

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Speaker 1: dam Yeah?

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Speaker 2: What's up? How you doing? I love y'all, I love

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Speaker 2: you Ajre.

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Speaker 1: I'm well chilling out.

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Speaker 2: What are you doing? Listen. I've been having like some

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Speaker 2: mental struggles this week, like yesterday when I was because

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Speaker 2: I'm back at work, but I have one foot, so y'all,

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Speaker 2: I'm doing hair on one foot and I had to

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Speaker 2: bring my laundry basket, my tools in my lunch in

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Speaker 2: the salon and it was raining and I'm on one

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Speaker 2: foot and they don't want to stop park in front

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Speaker 2: of the building.

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Speaker 1: So you had a handicap sticker.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, are you driving now?

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Speaker 1: Allegitly you have like you've been in a car accident

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Speaker 1: and like an insurance agent watching you or something bit you.

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Speaker 2: I don't know on the course.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but you ain't getting no money about this. You

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Speaker 1: got a lawsuit.

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Speaker 2: My right foot is broken out, not supposed to be driving.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but you don't. It's not like it's a lawsuit involved.

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Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying. That's when you would normally hide

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Speaker 1: using your shit, like you know, a lawsuit involved, bit

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Speaker 1: you in your yourself? You bet a suit a bride.

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Speaker 2: No, I'm just saying. No, I love a ride. I'm

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Speaker 2: just talking about me. But you'ven behind the wheel, Like

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Speaker 2: that's illegal?

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Speaker 1: Why people drive with no foot?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but you're not supposed to drive with a broke

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Speaker 2: with a boot on on your right foot. Yeah, it's not.

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Speaker 2: It's illegal. So I haven't been doing that so so,

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Speaker 2: but I just had like a moment of like, God,

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Speaker 2: what is all of this for, you know, like it's

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Speaker 2: the reason. Like that was so hard yesterday. It was

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Speaker 2: really like I just want to drop all of this

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Speaker 2: shit on the ground and lay here in the rain.

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Speaker 2: That's how I felt. Real. So, oh yeah, that was

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Speaker 2: my weekend. How was yours?

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Speaker 1: Shit? Cool girl? I finally have cleared out the storage

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Speaker 1: unit that I had been holding on to memories for

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Speaker 1: the last I put this stuff in storage in twenty twenty. Okay,

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Speaker 1: So I finally emptied this fucking storage unit completely over

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Speaker 1: the weekend, and I have so much relief now because

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Speaker 1: that's like one thing off my mind. So now the

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Speaker 1: two hundred dollars a month I've been spending on that,

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Speaker 1: I want to join this fucking high low gym because

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Speaker 1: they got hot pilates and yoga. So I'm gonna put

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Speaker 1: the two hundred dollars into that now. But I had

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Speaker 1: to wait until that really motivated me to get the

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Speaker 1: storage out because I'm like, I don't want to spend

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Speaker 1: that extra money. Plus I'm already spending this for a

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Speaker 1: fucking storage unit where there's a bunch of rat piss

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Speaker 1: on a lot of my stuff. So I ended up

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Speaker 1: just giving most of that stuff away to the fucking

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Speaker 1: Habitat for Humanity. But girl, a lot of emotions came

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Speaker 1: up while I was taking that stuff out because when

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Speaker 1: I put the stuff, and I was engaged, and I

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Speaker 1: was putting the things in the storage because I didn't

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Speaker 1: trust who I was engaged too. So I'm like, damn,

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Speaker 1: I might need my things like I might, we might

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Speaker 1: not make it. And here I've gotten rid of everything,

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Speaker 1: but really I should, like I don't suggest anybody to

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Speaker 1: store shit. Get rid of that shit when you move,

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Speaker 1: don't ever store nothing.

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Speaker 2: Bruh. That's why you know what I was realizing. That's

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Speaker 2: funny you say that. And I might have mentioned this

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Speaker 2: before on the show, but I realized how much I

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Speaker 2: don't need that shit at all. Like I haven't needed

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Speaker 2: like I haven't been back to the storage for one thing.

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Speaker 1: You see what I'm saying. So we be accumulating all

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Speaker 1: this stuff, like I do strive to be a minimalist,

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Speaker 1: but I am like I hoard mail, I hoard hair

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Speaker 1: products like it'd be certain things that I might hoard,

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Speaker 1: and I hoard like trinkets and little things that I

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Speaker 1: spent my money on. I really still want hold I

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Speaker 1: don't need.

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Speaker 2: I heard dick pics from exues like I still haven't

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Speaker 2: made my p.

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Speaker 1: We talked about that shit, but you can't get a

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Speaker 1: man with that shit on your phone.

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Speaker 2: Why how they gonna know?

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Speaker 1: Well, I made a mistake of telling the nigga how

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Speaker 1: I had a video of another nigga eating my pussy

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Speaker 1: on my phone, and he was so irate. He was like,

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Speaker 1: I'm like, listen. I he was very mad, but I

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Speaker 1: didn't think that he would get mad. And my thing

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Speaker 1: is like, I know it's in the phone somewhere. I

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Speaker 1: don't really know where it is, but I know I

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Speaker 1: never deleted it.

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Speaker 2: When I get in a relationship, I'll discard of those

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Speaker 2: things in a secret folder.

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Speaker 1: Why niggas phones be full of titties?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's like your dowary do. I gotta throw away

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Speaker 2: my diary because I got a new man girl.

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Speaker 1: This nigga was fucking with one time and we really

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Speaker 1: good friends. He got with this well, he wasn't even

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Speaker 1: in a relationship with this girl, but he was fucking

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Speaker 1: with a crazy bitch and she put me in about

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Speaker 1: ten other bitches in the group chat, and she started

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Speaker 1: sending us our pictures out. This nigga phone. I see

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Speaker 1: it this meme, these my titties, Like I took this

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Speaker 1: picture that I know who I sent it.

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Speaker 2: To, right, so you ain't got to send it back.

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Speaker 2: Craz let's getting sings.

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, anyway, that was my weekend. I'm finished telling

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Speaker 1: y'all because I like about my fucking emotions because I

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Speaker 1: need therapy a little bit the show. Right, So when

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Speaker 1: I put the stuff in the storage unit, I remember

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Speaker 1: how my ex was acting the day we moved these things.

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Speaker 1: He was acting very short tempered, like he just didn't

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Speaker 1: want to help me. You know what I'm saying. Mind you,

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Speaker 1: this nigga has a fucking furniture moving company, so he

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Speaker 1: has box trucks all that shit. The way he was

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Speaker 1: handling my things, like throwing my ship in the in

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Speaker 1: the back of the truck, throwing my shit in the stores, like,

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Speaker 1: all that emotion came up because here I am with

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Speaker 1: my new old nigga, and you got an attitude helping

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Speaker 1: me move this shit out the storage unit.

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Speaker 2: You have a lot of trauma associated with that relationship. Shit,

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Speaker 2: it's not funny. I like, I hate that for you.

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Speaker 1: No, I do, I do, and I be working through it.

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Speaker 1: But you know, the reason why it's hard for me

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Speaker 1: to let things go sometimes because I still be trying

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Speaker 1: to figure out what in me deserve that wouldn't me

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Speaker 1: like caused me to even attract this type of shit.

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Speaker 2: I don't think you need to look at it that way.

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Speaker 1: I'm telling listen, a lot of times we be looking

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Speaker 1: for outside reasons about stuff, and if I was in

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Speaker 1: a different space, that shit would have never fucking happened. DC.

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Speaker 2: So it do start with us. I get that, but

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Speaker 2: I'm sure you didn't. It didn't start out that way.

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Speaker 2: I'm sure you wasn't being like verbally and emotionally abused

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Speaker 2: by this person in the very beginning, and you just

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Speaker 2: stuck around for more abuse.

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Speaker 1: Our first date, it was a bitch knocking on the window. Okay,

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Speaker 1: it was a bit outside pregnant, so you whoa, it's

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Speaker 1: the fucking roller coaster. But no, I was saying this

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Speaker 1: new nigga, my new old nigga that I'm with now,

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Speaker 1: was having an attitude helping me move this stuff because

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Speaker 1: I didn't want to post. I didn't want to just

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Speaker 1: get rid of my things like I had nice stuff,

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Speaker 1: like somebody would be happy to have this for free

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Speaker 1: or one hundred dollars, right, So I didn't just want

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Speaker 1: to give my shit away to some organization, don't she

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Speaker 1: didn't have my bed listed right now for five hundred dollars.

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Speaker 1: And I posted it on Facebook, but people were not

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Speaker 1: responding fast enough, so I just went ahead and dropped

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Speaker 1: waiting around waiting on people to respond, Because I consider

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Speaker 1: other people. I don't just be considering myself, right, so

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Speaker 1: I don't had dropped the shit off, and then a

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Speaker 1: bunch of bitches was hit me up like you already

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Speaker 1: got rid of the bed, like yeah, it's going now.

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Speaker 1: One bitch called Habitat for Humanity. But anyway, I was

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Speaker 1: being rushed. It just brought back these emotions about me

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Speaker 1: just not being able to ask for help, right, because

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Speaker 1: when I ask somebody for help always it's like I'm

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Speaker 1: being rushed or it's such an unpleasantry for them to

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Speaker 1: help me. Meanwhile, like I help people with a smile, yeah,

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Speaker 1: or if I don't feel like that shit, I say no, yeah,

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Speaker 1: but don't yeah don't exactly, but you can though, But

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Speaker 1: then you would have felt bad if I rented a

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Speaker 1: U haul and drove up there by myself, because that

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Speaker 1: literally the last when I put that stuff in that storage.

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Speaker 1: That's really the first time I ever had help moving.

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Speaker 1: I have moved across the country by my fucking self before. Ye, well,

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Speaker 1: midway halfway across the country, you know what I'm saying. Like,

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Speaker 1: I've always moved myself and God will send me like

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Speaker 1: a person or two to assist. But I'm used to

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Speaker 1: doing shit by myself. But don't I don't want to

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Speaker 2: Yeah, because what's the point, because you're.

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Speaker 1: Gonna have an attitude when I ask you to help.

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Speaker 1: And it's not that he didn't want it help. I

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Speaker 1: just wasn't moving quick enough for him and how he

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Speaker 1: wanted to do things this is, but this is my thing,

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Speaker 1: and I just need you to be patient really, So yeah,

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Speaker 1: I just wanted to vent about that.

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Speaker 2: Am I tripping?

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Speaker 1: No, you're not tripping, motherfuckers.

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Speaker 2: It's fair.

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Speaker 1: Relationships is hard, are y'all? Dealing with everybody in they

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Speaker 1: little idiosyncrasies just get to my goddamn nerves, Like everybody

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Speaker 1: in their antics and it's just personalities. I'm sick of people.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's hard. You gotta give grace and ask for

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Speaker 2: grace in return.

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Speaker 1: I don't ever give get grace.

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Speaker 2: You probably just don't feel like it.

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Speaker 1: Listen, you know some of those things I said this

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Speaker 1: the other day, like off of the Hands, maintailled, I

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Speaker 1: never talk about that shit. I can't wait for the

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Speaker 1: new season. But that going grace, I love it. Uh,

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Speaker 1: what's the other Let's go in grace in what you

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Speaker 1: got going on? Man?

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Speaker 2: All right, So I know y'all saw this, but we

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Speaker 2: still got to talk about it. Cardi B while she

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Speaker 2: was in Paris, she went live and she was spassing

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Speaker 2: on off set.

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Speaker 1: He's said, it's kind of triggering.

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Speaker 2: He said to her, you my baby mama, I won.

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Speaker 1: looking like her old face, and he was handsome. He

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00:22:55,600 --> 00:22:59,320
Speaker 1: was like, man, hell no, ain't no wayis my offspring.

435
00:23:00,480 --> 00:23:02,679
Speaker 1: Y'all think I'd be tripped, but I am not that

436
00:23:02,880 --> 00:23:06,760
Speaker 1: selfish to do that to my kids intentionally. I don't

437
00:23:06,800 --> 00:23:09,440
Speaker 1: like no nigga enough to let Rick Ross fuck me

438
00:23:09,640 --> 00:23:15,520
Speaker 1: and produce like it's a fifty to fifty chance. I

439
00:23:15,560 --> 00:23:18,000
Speaker 1: feel like it's selfish man. Y'all think I'd be tripped,

440
00:23:18,040 --> 00:23:20,080
Speaker 1: But that shit is selfish as fuck to me, Like

441
00:23:20,160 --> 00:23:22,040
Speaker 1: you love a nigga that much, you're willing to risk

442
00:23:22,119 --> 00:23:25,760
Speaker 1: your kids' features, You're fucking their future up.

443
00:23:27,280 --> 00:23:28,600
Speaker 2: This awful ages.

444
00:23:30,280 --> 00:23:33,199
Speaker 1: It is the truth. Because we know pretty privilege is

445
00:23:33,280 --> 00:23:36,280
Speaker 1: really a thing. We're not gonna act like if two

446
00:23:36,359 --> 00:23:41,400
Speaker 1: people walk into a room, one's I guess general consensus

447
00:23:41,440 --> 00:23:44,000
Speaker 1: would say, like, this person is handsome, right, and then

448
00:23:44,080 --> 00:23:48,120
Speaker 1: this person not so much. Who you think that people

449
00:23:48,160 --> 00:23:51,680
Speaker 1: are gonna gravitate to first before anybody opens their mouth.

450
00:23:51,760 --> 00:23:53,600
Speaker 1: It's just an unfortunate truth.

451
00:23:55,119 --> 00:23:57,720
Speaker 2: Yeah, well that's kind of it sounds similar to like

452
00:23:58,560 --> 00:24:01,919
Speaker 2: back in the day great grandparents in the South being like,

453
00:24:02,080 --> 00:24:06,440
Speaker 2: don't marry no man darker than you like that, because

454
00:24:06,440 --> 00:24:09,199
Speaker 2: you're like gonna be harder if you're dark, merry lighter.

455
00:24:09,600 --> 00:24:12,480
Speaker 2: So they was just trying to eliminate blackness from the skin.

456
00:24:14,359 --> 00:24:17,000
Speaker 1: That's now that as mental health, right, because I think

457
00:24:17,160 --> 00:24:22,040
Speaker 1: we are way more closer to just being in love

458
00:24:22,119 --> 00:24:25,320
Speaker 1: with ourselves today then back then, And it was it

459
00:24:25,359 --> 00:24:27,679
Speaker 1: was just a lot of different things happening at the

460
00:24:27,720 --> 00:24:30,280
Speaker 1: time why people were that way and may have seemed

461
00:24:30,280 --> 00:24:34,000
Speaker 1: easier to them for lighter people, which darker people They

462
00:24:34,119 --> 00:24:37,080
Speaker 1: will say they feel the same way today. M hm,

463
00:24:37,600 --> 00:24:38,239
Speaker 1: you know they might.

464
00:24:38,440 --> 00:24:42,120
Speaker 2: I wouldn't necessarily pick my man, and my partner picks

465
00:24:42,240 --> 00:24:46,840
Speaker 2: upon me it, you know, like or or appearance.

466
00:24:46,840 --> 00:24:48,040
Speaker 1: So you don't want to find man.

467
00:24:49,400 --> 00:24:51,360
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, I would love a fine man, but that's

468
00:24:51,400 --> 00:24:54,840
Speaker 2: not the top priority on how I picked my partners

469
00:24:54,960 --> 00:24:58,840
Speaker 2: at this age, it's not look how I don't want

470
00:24:58,840 --> 00:25:00,960
Speaker 2: to know ugly like I don't some how you.

471
00:25:00,920 --> 00:25:02,080
Speaker 1: Picked part not fine.

472
00:25:03,320 --> 00:25:07,520
Speaker 2: For the most important thing that a gotta have is

473
00:25:07,560 --> 00:25:09,920
Speaker 2: you gotta make me laugh. We gotta be able to

474
00:25:10,000 --> 00:25:12,639
Speaker 2: laugh together if you don't. AJ just told me that

475
00:25:12,760 --> 00:25:14,959
Speaker 2: some nigga I don't even know who this nigga is,

476
00:25:15,840 --> 00:25:17,680
Speaker 2: she was hanging out with this nigga and he was like, yeah,

477
00:25:17,800 --> 00:25:21,520
Speaker 2: ten went out with one of my homeboys. He said

478
00:25:21,520 --> 00:25:23,159
Speaker 2: they had a good time and they went back to

479
00:25:23,200 --> 00:25:24,560
Speaker 2: the house and he thought he was about to get

480
00:25:24,600 --> 00:25:27,000
Speaker 2: some pussy. And she started acting out scenes from TV

481
00:25:27,040 --> 00:25:31,639
Speaker 2: shows the movie Weird. Y'all, if you don't like that

482
00:25:31,760 --> 00:25:34,680
Speaker 2: about me, we not gonna make y'all.

483
00:25:34,720 --> 00:25:38,800
Speaker 3: This bitch is such a character like imagine, y'all listen

484
00:25:38,840 --> 00:25:42,520
Speaker 3: any niggas listening to the show, Imagine you don't spend

485
00:25:42,520 --> 00:25:45,359
Speaker 3: about two three hundred dollars on a nice ass.

486
00:25:45,119 --> 00:25:48,640
Speaker 1: Dinn a date with this bitch. Right you get back

487
00:25:48,680 --> 00:25:51,439
Speaker 1: to her house, you thinking, oh shit, she inviting me up.

488
00:25:51,480 --> 00:25:55,560
Speaker 1: Were about to shit. This bitch starts doing a robot

489
00:25:56,400 --> 00:25:58,919
Speaker 1: in the middle of the living room, imagine that, like

490
00:25:59,000 --> 00:26:04,000
Speaker 1: that's who taby yep nigga told me his homeboy said,

491
00:26:04,040 --> 00:26:06,399
Speaker 1: this bitch started acting out love Jones and shit like

492
00:26:06,440 --> 00:26:09,280
Speaker 1: she was acting out different scenes from different black movies.

493
00:26:12,400 --> 00:26:18,040
Speaker 2: What pussy, pussy, niggas, you're gonna get these these snips

494
00:26:18,040 --> 00:26:19,680
Speaker 2: from movies and go home.

495
00:26:20,320 --> 00:26:22,320
Speaker 1: I left my pussy at my homegirl house.

496
00:26:22,840 --> 00:26:25,040
Speaker 2: This is a theater. You thought you were walking into

497
00:26:25,040 --> 00:26:26,840
Speaker 2: my house. You walked to the into the theater.

498
00:26:30,040 --> 00:26:33,399
Speaker 1: Whome fucking not job. Okay, listen, so that leads us.

499
00:26:33,480 --> 00:26:37,000
Speaker 1: That's a great segue into the today's topic. Big bitch,

500
00:26:37,080 --> 00:26:40,080
Speaker 1: is single really a choice? Are you single by choice?

501
00:26:40,640 --> 00:26:43,280
Speaker 1: Are you a fucking weirdo bitch? I'm just saying both.

502
00:26:45,960 --> 00:26:48,600
Speaker 2: Listen. What like If you don't think that's funny, it's

503
00:26:48,600 --> 00:26:50,040
Speaker 2: something wrong with you. Nigga.

504
00:26:52,240 --> 00:26:54,240
Speaker 1: All right, y'all, we'll be back after this commercial.

505
00:26:58,880 --> 00:27:01,440
Speaker 2: Girl, I laughed about that all day yesterday.

506
00:27:01,640 --> 00:27:04,760
Speaker 1: I've been like a month ago. I didn't mean to

507
00:27:04,800 --> 00:27:05,320
Speaker 1: tell you that.

508
00:27:05,440 --> 00:27:07,560
Speaker 2: But what makes it so funny is I don't know

509
00:27:07,600 --> 00:27:10,040
Speaker 2: what nigga you talk about because I do that ship

510
00:27:10,160 --> 00:27:10,639
Speaker 2: so much.

511
00:27:16,960 --> 00:27:19,040
Speaker 1: You just get off a date like, okay, we're back

512
00:27:19,080 --> 00:27:22,200
Speaker 1: from commercial y'all. But anyway, that's gotta continue. So you

513
00:27:22,359 --> 00:27:25,480
Speaker 1: get off the date and this bitch is like chake,

514
00:27:26,320 --> 00:27:32,240
Speaker 1: wake up, cheek, wake up, acting out the Titanic and shit.

515
00:27:34,480 --> 00:27:40,280
Speaker 2: And for a real crime cry for a nigga insne action.

516
00:27:43,720 --> 00:27:47,960
Speaker 1: Ship that is fucking hillarious stupid, because I like he's

517
00:27:48,000 --> 00:27:54,840
Speaker 1: not lying, all right, y'all. So it's being single a choice?

518
00:27:55,040 --> 00:28:00,200
Speaker 1: Like do I think that for women being single it's

519
00:28:00,280 --> 00:28:03,080
Speaker 1: more of a choice than for men, as much as

520
00:28:03,080 --> 00:28:07,200
Speaker 1: they think that they have control over relationships. I think

521
00:28:07,480 --> 00:28:10,080
Speaker 1: most women can be in a relationship tomorrow, even some

522
00:28:10,280 --> 00:28:14,320
Speaker 1: that people may think are not datable, right. I think

523
00:28:14,400 --> 00:28:17,040
Speaker 1: most women got somebody in the cut that they can

524
00:28:17,119 --> 00:28:22,520
Speaker 1: be with tomorrow while they're chasing the nigga that they want.

525
00:28:23,680 --> 00:28:28,359
Speaker 2: But the men are so men who some men can't

526
00:28:28,440 --> 00:28:32,159
Speaker 2: get a bit. There's men who have endless possibilities and

527
00:28:32,200 --> 00:28:36,399
Speaker 2: don't want nobody, you know, So there's that option, Like

528
00:28:36,480 --> 00:28:39,120
Speaker 2: I just I just say, ready, I ain't looking for

529
00:28:39,640 --> 00:28:41,960
Speaker 2: serious face ass nigga. You know what I'm talking about?

530
00:28:42,040 --> 00:28:47,960
Speaker 1: Like, uh, oh, what's the nigga? Uh fifty year old virgin?

531
00:28:48,640 --> 00:28:50,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm a fifty year old version.

532
00:28:50,960 --> 00:28:54,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'd be calling anybody like over forty, like men

533
00:28:54,800 --> 00:28:57,680
Speaker 1: who aren't married or kids, I call them fifty year

534
00:28:57,680 --> 00:29:00,360
Speaker 1: old virgin a forty ye old virgins. So I'm talking

535
00:29:00,360 --> 00:29:04,000
Speaker 1: about David Banner and this. Oh yeah, yeah, I'm calling

536
00:29:04,080 --> 00:29:05,320
Speaker 1: him the fifty year old virgin.

537
00:29:05,400 --> 00:29:07,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, because he could have been married twice over, you know,

538
00:29:09,080 --> 00:29:12,920
Speaker 2: but he just chose not to because why buy the

539
00:29:12,960 --> 00:29:16,240
Speaker 2: cow when the milk has always been free, you know?

540
00:29:16,520 --> 00:29:19,840
Speaker 1: Right? So for women, do we think that we actually

541
00:29:19,840 --> 00:29:22,760
Speaker 1: control being single more than we actually do?

542
00:29:24,000 --> 00:29:28,640
Speaker 2: I feel like yes and no, because I'm single. I

543
00:29:28,680 --> 00:29:31,840
Speaker 2: don't like I could like sliding, like pick one of

544
00:29:31,880 --> 00:29:33,840
Speaker 2: these niggas that's in my DMS and be like, hey,

545
00:29:34,520 --> 00:29:37,320
Speaker 2: let's be together, and they would want to. I'm sure

546
00:29:37,360 --> 00:29:39,520
Speaker 2: it's some in like, there's a lot of them in

547
00:29:39,560 --> 00:29:42,160
Speaker 2: there that just wasn't buzzy, let's be clear, But there's

548
00:29:42,280 --> 00:29:44,920
Speaker 2: some in there that would readily be ready to want

549
00:29:44,960 --> 00:29:46,600
Speaker 2: a relationship and be serious.

550
00:29:46,960 --> 00:29:49,680
Speaker 1: That's until they get you, though, right right, So then

551
00:29:49,720 --> 00:29:52,200
Speaker 1: now they got to really experience you. So you still

552
00:29:52,200 --> 00:29:54,479
Speaker 1: have to get to the point to where y'all actually

553
00:29:54,480 --> 00:29:58,280
Speaker 1: get to the relationship. So sex might happen, dating might happen,

554
00:29:58,320 --> 00:30:00,840
Speaker 1: and the relationship part may not ever happened.

555
00:30:01,240 --> 00:30:04,120
Speaker 2: No, I think it's come in there that's definitely like

556
00:30:04,240 --> 00:30:07,800
Speaker 2: ready to get married right now, and that may not work,

557
00:30:08,200 --> 00:30:12,640
Speaker 2: but they're ready, you know. But then it's also I

558
00:30:12,640 --> 00:30:16,600
Speaker 2: don't like I haven't enjoyed the selection, you know, like

559
00:30:17,360 --> 00:30:19,680
Speaker 2: I'll go on dates and it'll just be something. And

560
00:30:19,720 --> 00:30:22,480
Speaker 2: maybe we're too picky. Maybe we give up too easy,

561
00:30:22,880 --> 00:30:27,040
Speaker 2: you know, because I know I'll have I thrown some

562
00:30:27,080 --> 00:30:34,120
Speaker 2: good ones back. Yeah, but it just be for reasons

563
00:30:34,160 --> 00:30:37,160
Speaker 2: that I just like, I get an itck, you know,

564
00:30:37,320 --> 00:30:39,560
Speaker 2: like I don't like no nigga with no fat ass.

565
00:30:39,640 --> 00:30:41,000
Speaker 2: I don't like niggas.

566
00:30:40,640 --> 00:30:46,360
Speaker 1: With this, but like I don't like that, like no,

567
00:30:46,600 --> 00:30:48,920
Speaker 1: it ain't the big butt though, but I don't like

568
00:30:49,040 --> 00:30:51,800
Speaker 1: that little bookie at the bottom like that.

569
00:30:53,120 --> 00:30:59,720
Speaker 2: But clapping when you run like oh boy across the state.

570
00:31:02,800 --> 00:31:05,680
Speaker 1: But that's sometimes he looked like he got a fat ass. Okay,

571
00:31:05,680 --> 00:31:08,760
Speaker 1: he shaped like his mama. Yeah, you can't be clapping

572
00:31:08,840 --> 00:31:11,760
Speaker 1: through the house, you clapper, red boy, you boy, you

573
00:31:11,800 --> 00:31:12,480
Speaker 1: clap a read.

574
00:31:14,320 --> 00:31:17,760
Speaker 2: So that's you know that shallow though, you know that shallow.

575
00:31:17,960 --> 00:31:20,920
Speaker 2: It's that shallow I mean kind of what us a

576
00:31:20,920 --> 00:31:23,200
Speaker 2: person that is really good to you and really love

577
00:31:23,240 --> 00:31:25,280
Speaker 2: you and do everything you want. But they ask clap

578
00:31:25,320 --> 00:31:27,960
Speaker 2: when they the barroom.

579
00:31:30,840 --> 00:31:34,080
Speaker 1: That's not shallow. I mean people are allowed to have preference.

580
00:31:34,360 --> 00:31:37,200
Speaker 1: So I would prefer a nigga not have a super

581
00:31:37,240 --> 00:31:40,520
Speaker 1: flat ass pancake booty. Okay, it don't have to be

582
00:31:40,560 --> 00:31:44,000
Speaker 1: no fat ass, but it's not that I even like booty.

583
00:31:44,520 --> 00:31:47,840
Speaker 1: You look funny with this no booty, like you look

584
00:31:47,920 --> 00:31:49,360
Speaker 1: like sperm my nigga.

585
00:31:49,960 --> 00:31:53,480
Speaker 2: No, you look like me with a ball head with

586
00:31:53,520 --> 00:31:57,440
Speaker 2: that ass. So have I thrown some good ones back

587
00:31:57,520 --> 00:32:02,200
Speaker 2: based on superficial things. Yes, I can't admit that I

588
00:32:02,240 --> 00:32:05,840
Speaker 2: threw a good one back because he I was he can't.

589
00:32:05,880 --> 00:32:08,000
Speaker 2: I let him come to my house. I started acting

590
00:32:08,040 --> 00:32:11,360
Speaker 2: out scenes for the movies like I always do, and

591
00:32:11,800 --> 00:32:14,680
Speaker 2: I remember my dog Diamonds. This was years ago. I'm

592
00:32:14,720 --> 00:32:18,000
Speaker 2: talking about a four pound hua wha. She came out

593
00:32:18,000 --> 00:32:21,960
Speaker 2: of her cage and he jumped put his sneakers in

594
00:32:22,080 --> 00:32:25,360
Speaker 2: my couch, in my cream couch, jumped on the couch

595
00:32:25,480 --> 00:32:28,760
Speaker 2: screaming like a bitch, and I was like, oh, no,

596
00:32:29,760 --> 00:32:30,400
Speaker 2: you got to go.

597
00:32:30,920 --> 00:32:34,480
Speaker 1: You can never protect me and scene get out.

598
00:32:35,880 --> 00:32:37,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, you can't protect me if you.

599
00:32:37,120 --> 00:32:39,800
Speaker 1: Study dog wasn't a little mean, but I'm not afraid

600
00:32:39,840 --> 00:32:45,040
Speaker 1: of animals in any capacity, So yeah, you're dogs get

601
00:32:45,080 --> 00:32:46,880
Speaker 1: like that when they get old though, they get like

602
00:32:47,080 --> 00:32:47,760
Speaker 1: real irritable.

603
00:32:48,560 --> 00:32:51,040
Speaker 2: But she wasn't even doing nothing. She was looking at

604
00:32:51,120 --> 00:32:51,640
Speaker 2: him like.

605
00:32:51,880 --> 00:32:56,520
Speaker 1: Is he well, yeah, stuff like that put your shoes on.

606
00:32:56,920 --> 00:32:59,840
Speaker 2: Definitely made me send or be giving me the ick.

607
00:33:01,120 --> 00:33:04,320
Speaker 1: Yeah. I think it do be like little little subtle

608
00:33:04,360 --> 00:33:08,080
Speaker 1: bullshit that turned us off about people. Men too. I

609
00:33:08,120 --> 00:33:10,640
Speaker 1: don't think men can pinpoint like a man wouldn't be

610
00:33:10,640 --> 00:33:11,840
Speaker 1: able to tell you. I just didn't like, go, I

611
00:33:11,880 --> 00:33:14,560
Speaker 1: betch you, like we look at all that shit.

612
00:33:17,640 --> 00:33:21,600
Speaker 2: So in my single by choice yes and no, because

613
00:33:22,120 --> 00:33:26,280
Speaker 2: there was one I can say one guy last year

614
00:33:27,200 --> 00:33:29,880
Speaker 2: that I really could like he checked all the boxes

615
00:33:30,240 --> 00:33:33,880
Speaker 2: I think for the most part, and he just was like,

616
00:33:33,920 --> 00:33:37,440
Speaker 2: I'm just focused on my career and I know you

617
00:33:37,480 --> 00:33:40,680
Speaker 2: want something serious and I'm not ready for something serious.

618
00:33:40,680 --> 00:33:43,840
Speaker 2: So we just kind of like dissolved it.

619
00:33:44,760 --> 00:33:48,640
Speaker 1: But I feel like when men in particular say they

620
00:33:48,680 --> 00:33:51,480
Speaker 1: don't want something serious, a lot of times I feel

621
00:33:51,480 --> 00:33:53,640
Speaker 1: like it may not be with me, cause then that

622
00:33:53,760 --> 00:33:56,680
Speaker 1: same person ends up married have a kid. Like that

623
00:33:56,720 --> 00:33:57,880
Speaker 1: has happened to me before.

624
00:33:58,240 --> 00:34:00,320
Speaker 2: Right, that's where I take it as you just don't

625
00:34:00,360 --> 00:34:02,160
Speaker 2: like me, you know, That's how I saw it, like,

626
00:34:02,480 --> 00:34:04,280
Speaker 2: because I think if it was someone that you like,

627
00:34:04,360 --> 00:34:05,120
Speaker 2: you might consider it.

628
00:34:05,200 --> 00:34:07,160
Speaker 1: You're not gonna let them go. You're going to do

629
00:34:07,240 --> 00:34:10,840
Speaker 1: everything to make sure they stay right, including committing today.

630
00:34:11,960 --> 00:34:14,080
Speaker 2: So then when I hit them with the like, yeah,

631
00:34:14,160 --> 00:34:15,839
Speaker 2: I kind of I see you as a friend too,

632
00:34:16,239 --> 00:34:18,080
Speaker 2: he was like, well when did you start feeling like that?

633
00:34:18,880 --> 00:34:25,600
Speaker 2: Like what fucking difference do it make? White questioned me, Yeah,

634
00:34:25,680 --> 00:34:28,560
Speaker 2: like why you Why does it matter because you want

635
00:34:28,600 --> 00:34:30,320
Speaker 2: to be the only one friend zoned somebody?

636
00:34:30,520 --> 00:34:30,600
Speaker 3: No?

637
00:34:31,280 --> 00:34:34,680
Speaker 1: Yes, okay, so I was dating somebody last year prior

638
00:34:34,719 --> 00:34:37,680
Speaker 1: to this relationship, and I haven't dating him. A couple

639
00:34:37,680 --> 00:34:41,120
Speaker 1: of y'all saw him at the UH at the live

640
00:34:41,160 --> 00:34:47,640
Speaker 1: shows battle Yeah not Stacyattle's what do you call him them? Uh?

641
00:34:47,800 --> 00:34:53,560
Speaker 1: What kind of boots? The Chelsea boots? So you know,

642
00:34:53,840 --> 00:34:56,400
Speaker 1: it was just weird, like our thing was weird, Like

643
00:34:56,719 --> 00:34:58,759
Speaker 1: one minute we on, next minute you off like this

644
00:34:58,800 --> 00:35:00,600
Speaker 1: nigga be down with on a trip. I took a

645
00:35:00,600 --> 00:35:03,520
Speaker 1: bit out of town somewhere, and now you acting weird

646
00:35:03,560 --> 00:35:05,400
Speaker 1: to me when you come back, Like if we just

647
00:35:05,480 --> 00:35:07,719
Speaker 1: friends just be like that then. But it got to

648
00:35:07,760 --> 00:35:09,360
Speaker 1: the point to where like we would hang out and

649
00:35:09,400 --> 00:35:11,239
Speaker 1: all that, and I told him like, listen, I don't

650
00:35:11,280 --> 00:35:14,600
Speaker 1: have no expectations from this. I don't have no expectations

651
00:35:14,600 --> 00:35:17,080
Speaker 1: from you. Like it was one time when we had

652
00:35:17,080 --> 00:35:19,120
Speaker 1: like this gap and then I finally we went out

653
00:35:19,120 --> 00:35:20,640
Speaker 1: to he hit me up and we went out to

654
00:35:20,640 --> 00:35:23,279
Speaker 1: dinner and shit, and that's when I was telling him like, hey,

655
00:35:23,320 --> 00:35:25,360
Speaker 1: I don't have no expectations from you no more, Like

656
00:35:25,440 --> 00:35:28,479
Speaker 1: my feelings are completely different now. It's like a fuck

657
00:35:28,560 --> 00:35:32,240
Speaker 1: on you hang out, do all the things. But I'm cool,

658
00:35:32,480 --> 00:35:34,319
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, and really like you a

659
00:35:34,360 --> 00:35:37,520
Speaker 1: spaceholder at this point. Girl. He felt some type of

660
00:35:37,520 --> 00:35:40,360
Speaker 1: way about that, like how you so, what do you?

661
00:35:40,760 --> 00:35:43,359
Speaker 1: What space do you want me in you? Because there's

662
00:35:43,520 --> 00:35:46,440
Speaker 1: really no middle ground on me. Either I'm on or

663
00:35:46,440 --> 00:35:47,440
Speaker 1: I'm fucking off.

664
00:35:47,800 --> 00:35:50,480
Speaker 2: That's the same shit, Like that's the same shit. When

665
00:35:50,520 --> 00:35:52,360
Speaker 2: I said, oh, I see you as a friend anyway,

666
00:35:52,800 --> 00:35:54,879
Speaker 2: he was like, oh, when did you start feeling like that?

667
00:35:54,920 --> 00:35:57,840
Speaker 1: They want you to be madly in love and retarded,

668
00:35:57,920 --> 00:36:01,760
Speaker 1: and then when you do, they call you crazy. I'm

669
00:36:01,840 --> 00:36:06,680
Speaker 1: never crazy. I'm never delusional. I'm on whatever you're on, right,

670
00:36:06,719 --> 00:36:10,560
Speaker 1: So I'm always meet a person where they at. So

671
00:36:10,960 --> 00:36:14,480
Speaker 1: if I'm if if I'm feeling like you don't like

672
00:36:14,520 --> 00:36:16,040
Speaker 1: me like that, why the fuck should I be liking

673
00:36:16,080 --> 00:36:16,680
Speaker 1: you like that?

674
00:36:17,160 --> 00:36:19,360
Speaker 2: Right? That's how that's because when I said that I

675
00:36:19,400 --> 00:36:21,960
Speaker 2: ain't really feel that way, but you ain't gonna FriendZone

676
00:36:21,960 --> 00:36:23,680
Speaker 2: me and think I ain't gonna offer that same.

677
00:36:25,239 --> 00:36:29,480
Speaker 1: Right, we find ourselves like, really, what men? We actually like?

678
00:36:29,560 --> 00:36:33,520
Speaker 1: We be hiding our feelings because it's always like a game,

679
00:36:34,040 --> 00:36:36,839
Speaker 1: even at this big age and still trying to date,

680
00:36:36,960 --> 00:36:39,480
Speaker 1: Like you really have to act like you don't like

681
00:36:39,520 --> 00:36:42,160
Speaker 1: a nigga, You don't have to do that. I feel

682
00:36:42,160 --> 00:36:44,720
Speaker 1: like I'm in a space now where I'm not doing that. Nigga.

683
00:36:44,719 --> 00:36:46,520
Speaker 1: If I like you, I'm letting you know today, and

684
00:36:46,560 --> 00:36:48,640
Speaker 1: if this is not what you want, you now have

685
00:36:48,680 --> 00:36:50,799
Speaker 1: the opportunity to get the fuck on through. I'm not

686
00:36:51,040 --> 00:36:55,359
Speaker 1: playing those like emotional like tug of war power and

687
00:36:55,400 --> 00:36:59,080
Speaker 1: control games with anybody. I need somebody to fuck with

688
00:36:59,120 --> 00:37:01,839
Speaker 1: me in the same that I fuck with them.

689
00:37:02,400 --> 00:37:05,120
Speaker 2: But here's the thing. Then it's like, oh, hey, are

690
00:37:05,160 --> 00:37:07,239
Speaker 2: you in La. I'm back in LA. I want to

691
00:37:07,280 --> 00:37:08,000
Speaker 2: take you to dinner.

692
00:37:09,760 --> 00:37:12,239
Speaker 1: Why why do you think I'm on hold for you?

693
00:37:15,320 --> 00:37:15,720
Speaker 2: Yeah?

694
00:37:15,840 --> 00:37:16,239
Speaker 1: I don't know.

695
00:37:20,600 --> 00:37:23,680
Speaker 2: So we were going to have that conversation about do

696
00:37:23,840 --> 00:37:26,520
Speaker 2: women are women happier single?

697
00:37:28,680 --> 00:37:34,919
Speaker 1: I mean science point science points to, yes, most women are.

698
00:37:35,160 --> 00:37:37,439
Speaker 1: This is actually an article from The Guardian. It says

699
00:37:37,480 --> 00:37:43,600
Speaker 1: women are happier without children or a spouse, says happiness expert.

700
00:37:44,920 --> 00:37:47,799
Speaker 1: So it says we may have suspected it already, but

701
00:37:48,040 --> 00:37:52,080
Speaker 1: now the science backs it up. Unmarried and childless women

702
00:37:52,560 --> 00:37:56,719
Speaker 1: are the happiest subgroup in the population. I mean, I

703
00:37:56,760 --> 00:38:00,160
Speaker 1: mean it already just says less stress, right, Yeah, I

704
00:38:00,160 --> 00:38:06,480
Speaker 1: think married and married and unmarried and childless women our

705
00:38:06,520 --> 00:38:10,359
Speaker 1: stressors could possibly be just having to finance our whole

706
00:38:10,400 --> 00:38:14,479
Speaker 1: lives by ourselves, and then also also stressing about hey,

707
00:38:14,480 --> 00:38:16,320
Speaker 1: I might want to be married, I might want to

708
00:38:16,360 --> 00:38:20,680
Speaker 1: have you. Yeah, so but is it going to kill us? Though?

709
00:38:20,719 --> 00:38:24,280
Speaker 1: That stress isn't going to kill us, like you literally

710
00:38:24,280 --> 00:38:28,360
Speaker 1: get fuck going to die from being married, it says,

711
00:38:28,400 --> 00:38:30,880
Speaker 1: and they are more likely to live longer. And we

712
00:38:31,000 --> 00:38:32,960
Speaker 1: talk about that a lot, And it goes on to

713
00:38:33,000 --> 00:38:35,880
Speaker 1: say that and they are more likely to live longer

714
00:38:35,920 --> 00:38:41,560
Speaker 1: than their married and child wearing rearing peers. According to

715
00:38:41,600 --> 00:38:45,560
Speaker 1: a leading expert in happiness, speaking at the Hay Festival

716
00:38:45,560 --> 00:38:49,000
Speaker 1: on Saturday, Paul Dolan is his name of Professor of

717
00:38:49,040 --> 00:38:52,600
Speaker 1: Behavioral Science at the London School of Economics said the

718
00:38:52,680 --> 00:38:57,440
Speaker 1: latest evidence show that the traditional markers used to measure

719
00:38:57,440 --> 00:39:01,560
Speaker 1: success did not correlate with happy and it's particularly marriage

720
00:39:01,600 --> 00:39:05,799
Speaker 1: and raising children. So for women like that's not necessarily

721
00:39:05,880 --> 00:39:11,160
Speaker 1: like where their happiness lies. M h. And they might

722
00:39:11,200 --> 00:39:13,040
Speaker 1: be getting the data. I wonder if they're getting data.

723
00:39:14,239 --> 00:39:16,120
Speaker 1: I wonder if the data just all came from single

724
00:39:16,120 --> 00:39:19,720
Speaker 1: women or women who have raised their families and maybe

725
00:39:19,719 --> 00:39:22,600
Speaker 1: now divorced. Like I wonder, like who's in the study.

726
00:39:22,400 --> 00:39:24,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, because that's it's gonna make a difference, you know,

727
00:39:25,880 --> 00:39:28,120
Speaker 2: wherever numbers lie, because.

728
00:39:27,920 --> 00:39:30,719
Speaker 1: A lot of single women who already did that, like

729
00:39:30,920 --> 00:39:34,800
Speaker 1: maybe sixty divorced, already raised their families. They're like, I

730
00:39:35,680 --> 00:39:37,719
Speaker 1: wish I'd never did that shit and I'll never do

731
00:39:37,760 --> 00:39:38,120
Speaker 1: it again.

732
00:39:39,040 --> 00:39:42,080
Speaker 2: Or some of them are like happy that like because

733
00:39:42,080 --> 00:39:44,120
Speaker 2: I don't know no women that will give back their kids,

734
00:39:44,320 --> 00:39:47,160
Speaker 2: you know. Yeah, I haven't met a single woman that

735
00:39:47,200 --> 00:39:51,360
Speaker 2: it'd be like I give back my kids if I could,

736
00:39:51,520 --> 00:39:53,759
Speaker 2: you know, but.

737
00:39:53,080 --> 00:39:54,440
Speaker 1: They might not say it out loud.

738
00:39:57,880 --> 00:40:00,600
Speaker 2: No. So, you know a lot of women like their

739
00:40:00,680 --> 00:40:02,760
Speaker 2: kids are the best thing that ever happened to them,

740
00:40:02,960 --> 00:40:04,720
Speaker 2: or they'd be like, but if I could have waited,

741
00:40:05,280 --> 00:40:06,840
Speaker 2: or if I could have did this, I would have

742
00:40:06,920 --> 00:40:09,399
Speaker 2: did that. You know, I've heard that before, but I've

743
00:40:09,440 --> 00:40:12,200
Speaker 2: never heard nobody say if I could go back and

744
00:40:12,239 --> 00:40:14,880
Speaker 2: do it again, fuck them kids. I've never heard a

745
00:40:14,880 --> 00:40:15,279
Speaker 2: single one.

746
00:40:15,360 --> 00:40:18,040
Speaker 1: I know. My mom always says like she always wanted children,

747
00:40:18,120 --> 00:40:21,359
Speaker 1: but she never necessarily wanted a husband. But she knew

748
00:40:21,440 --> 00:40:24,480
Speaker 1: she wanted kids. And I don't know if that thought

749
00:40:24,520 --> 00:40:28,399
Speaker 1: process came after the failed marriage or is that really

750
00:40:28,440 --> 00:40:31,160
Speaker 1: something she actually wanted, because if that's something you actually

751
00:40:31,160 --> 00:40:34,440
Speaker 1: want to be manifested, exactly what you got? Yeah, children

752
00:40:35,000 --> 00:40:37,839
Speaker 1: without a husband? Yeah, I mean she was married, but

753
00:40:38,040 --> 00:40:41,160
Speaker 1: she I don't know if that's a trauma response to

754
00:40:41,560 --> 00:40:42,680
Speaker 1: the bad marriage.

755
00:40:42,920 --> 00:40:46,640
Speaker 2: I want to do an episode here soon. Un Let's

756
00:40:46,640 --> 00:40:52,080
Speaker 2: get three mothers different generations, like older, middle aged mother

757
00:40:52,280 --> 00:40:55,160
Speaker 2: and then a young mother, because I hear a lot

758
00:40:55,200 --> 00:40:58,359
Speaker 2: of women saying that they felt like single mothers would

759
00:40:58,360 --> 00:41:01,560
Speaker 2: a partner, Oh and then actual single mother. You know

760
00:41:01,920 --> 00:41:04,520
Speaker 2: yea so so women who women who have partners and

761
00:41:04,560 --> 00:41:08,400
Speaker 2: then a single mother because home, Yeah, a lot of

762
00:41:08,480 --> 00:41:11,680
Speaker 2: them feel like single mothers with the person right there

763
00:41:11,719 --> 00:41:13,840
Speaker 2: in the house with them. So I want to have

764
00:41:13,840 --> 00:41:18,799
Speaker 2: a conversation about what that looks like. Yeah, we see,

765
00:41:18,960 --> 00:41:21,919
Speaker 2: Like I feel like I've seen an influx on present fathers,

766
00:41:22,320 --> 00:41:25,200
Speaker 2: But are they really present? Are they just present.

767
00:41:25,160 --> 00:41:28,799
Speaker 1: Around around They're not really present? Because I think I

768
00:41:28,840 --> 00:41:32,720
Speaker 1: think being a present parent looks different for some people.

769
00:41:33,080 --> 00:41:35,480
Speaker 1: Like I have a homegirl. She got three kids and

770
00:41:35,520 --> 00:41:39,600
Speaker 1: then she had two with her now husband, and so

771
00:41:39,640 --> 00:41:42,880
Speaker 1: they have a total of five children also home, like

772
00:41:43,000 --> 00:41:47,400
Speaker 1: youngest being two, three years old, four three, she's three.

773
00:41:47,719 --> 00:41:52,080
Speaker 1: So she was like it was such a burden on

774
00:41:52,160 --> 00:41:54,560
Speaker 1: her because I guess he just sees her as the mother,

775
00:41:54,960 --> 00:41:57,600
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. But she needs help, right,

776
00:41:57,920 --> 00:42:01,600
Speaker 1: Like I literally had these last for you. These are

777
00:42:01,680 --> 00:42:06,600
Speaker 1: really your kids, my other three big Like, I really

778
00:42:06,719 --> 00:42:11,200
Speaker 1: had these kids for you, beautiful, beautiful girls. I love them.

779
00:42:11,600 --> 00:42:15,239
Speaker 1: But she she doesn't. He's not as present but in

780
00:42:15,280 --> 00:42:18,759
Speaker 1: the house as she is with the cable, you know.

781
00:42:18,880 --> 00:42:21,160
Speaker 1: So she she wears a lot of hats. They run

782
00:42:21,160 --> 00:42:23,520
Speaker 1: a business together, they got the kids.

783
00:42:23,440 --> 00:42:25,359
Speaker 2: And then that's the thing, and then it's still gotta work.

784
00:42:25,760 --> 00:42:29,160
Speaker 2: It's not like, yeah, I get to just a.

785
00:42:29,160 --> 00:42:31,560
Speaker 1: Lot of time. Men just think their one job is

786
00:42:31,600 --> 00:42:34,560
Speaker 1: to work. But your woman works for you, she works

787
00:42:34,600 --> 00:42:36,839
Speaker 1: for the children, she works for the house, and she

788
00:42:36,920 --> 00:42:38,120
Speaker 1: might also work a job.

789
00:42:38,840 --> 00:42:39,640
Speaker 2: Yeah.

790
00:42:40,280 --> 00:42:42,719
Speaker 1: So it's just not balancing out, which is why some

791
00:42:42,760 --> 00:42:45,440
Speaker 1: women opt out of that shit completely.

792
00:42:45,880 --> 00:42:48,719
Speaker 2: Or resentful of their pardon you know.

793
00:42:49,080 --> 00:42:51,880
Speaker 1: So the article goes on to say that it says,

794
00:42:51,880 --> 00:42:56,560
Speaker 1: we do have some good longitudin longitudinal data following the

795
00:42:56,640 --> 00:42:59,600
Speaker 1: same people over time, But I am going to do

796
00:42:59,640 --> 00:43:03,000
Speaker 1: a math massive disservice to the science and just say,

797
00:43:03,680 --> 00:43:06,799
Speaker 1: if you're a man, you should probably get married. If

798
00:43:06,880 --> 00:43:13,600
Speaker 1: you're a woman, don't bother exactly, because we all still

799
00:43:13,680 --> 00:43:18,880
Speaker 1: fucking okay. Let's be very clear. It says men, okay,

800
00:43:18,920 --> 00:43:20,920
Speaker 1: as much as men say they don't benefit from marriage,

801
00:43:20,960 --> 00:43:25,120
Speaker 1: it says men benefit benefited from marriage because they calm down.

802
00:43:26,000 --> 00:43:30,360
Speaker 1: He said, you take less risk, you earn more money

803
00:43:30,360 --> 00:43:34,120
Speaker 1: at work, and you live a little longer. She, on

804
00:43:34,160 --> 00:43:37,319
Speaker 1: the other hand, has to put up with that and

805
00:43:37,719 --> 00:43:41,560
Speaker 1: die sooner than if she ever then died sooner than

806
00:43:41,560 --> 00:43:45,840
Speaker 1: if she never married. The healthiest and happiest population subgroup

807
00:43:45,880 --> 00:43:49,000
Speaker 1: are women who never married or had children. He said.

808
00:43:53,400 --> 00:43:56,720
Speaker 1: Other studies measured some financial and health benefits in being

809
00:43:56,719 --> 00:44:00,319
Speaker 1: married for both men and women on average, which Dolan

810
00:44:00,480 --> 00:44:03,640
Speaker 1: said could be attributed to higher incomes and emotional support

811
00:44:03,960 --> 00:44:09,160
Speaker 1: allowing married people to take risk and seek medical help. However,

812
00:44:09,239 --> 00:44:12,000
Speaker 1: Dolan said men showed more health benefits from time and

813
00:44:12,080 --> 00:44:15,560
Speaker 1: not as they took fewer risks. Women's health are mostly

814
00:44:15,880 --> 00:44:21,040
Speaker 1: unaffected by marriage, with middle aged married women even being

815
00:44:21,080 --> 00:44:24,719
Speaker 1: a higher risk of physical way says, women's health are

816
00:44:24,960 --> 00:44:27,839
Speaker 1: mostly unaffected by marriage. How is that? And then it's

817
00:44:27,880 --> 00:44:32,960
Speaker 1: like kind of contradicting itself, with middle aged married women

818
00:44:33,080 --> 00:44:37,080
Speaker 1: even being at higher risk physical and mental conditions than

819
00:44:37,120 --> 00:44:40,240
Speaker 1: their single counterparts. So I think they kind.

820
00:44:40,040 --> 00:44:47,719
Speaker 2: Of well, this is disheartening a bit.

821
00:44:48,960 --> 00:44:55,279
Speaker 1: I mean, so you yearned what you don't have a

822
00:44:55,320 --> 00:44:57,360
Speaker 1: lot of times right until you get the thing, and

823
00:44:57,400 --> 00:45:03,799
Speaker 1: you'd be like, oh shit, right, Like I have a

824
00:45:03,840 --> 00:45:08,120
Speaker 1: commitment phobia. I mean that's about everything. It is so

825
00:45:08,360 --> 00:45:12,520
Speaker 1: hard for me to commit. Relationships might be the easier

826
00:45:13,160 --> 00:45:17,759
Speaker 1: one to commit to, but even then it's like if

827
00:45:17,800 --> 00:45:19,920
Speaker 1: you say, like this is what you want and this

828
00:45:19,960 --> 00:45:23,719
Speaker 1: is the person you want, like you really have to

829
00:45:24,719 --> 00:45:28,239
Speaker 1: get rid of self, especially when you get married and

830
00:45:28,320 --> 00:45:30,600
Speaker 1: especially when you have kids. So are we now more

831
00:45:30,640 --> 00:45:34,840
Speaker 1: just more selfish? You know, we only consider in ourselves

832
00:45:34,840 --> 00:45:37,920
Speaker 1: because you literally are a fractured person. I think sometimes

833
00:45:37,920 --> 00:45:41,040
Speaker 1: some mothers, mothers might feel fractured. A piece of the hair,

834
00:45:41,120 --> 00:45:43,759
Speaker 1: a piece of down air, a piecea down their you know,

835
00:45:43,960 --> 00:45:46,400
Speaker 1: and they just they are dying.

836
00:45:46,560 --> 00:45:49,600
Speaker 2: Can't even shit by themselves if somebody's picking their fingers

837
00:45:49,680 --> 00:45:51,000
Speaker 2: under the door, like god.

838
00:45:50,880 --> 00:45:54,480
Speaker 1: Damn well, I gotta escort right now. Animals do the

839
00:45:54,520 --> 00:45:57,839
Speaker 1: same shit. This cat escort me to the bathroom every

840
00:45:57,880 --> 00:46:02,000
Speaker 1: time I don't, and she sits there over my shoulder

841
00:46:02,000 --> 00:46:06,160
Speaker 1: in the back of the toilet, like all right, my.

842
00:46:06,239 --> 00:46:08,680
Speaker 2: Dog does that too. But it's so funny because I

843
00:46:08,719 --> 00:46:11,839
Speaker 2: think she realizes I need privacy, so she'll come in,

844
00:46:11,880 --> 00:46:16,040
Speaker 2: but she'll turn her back a little back and turn around.

845
00:46:18,120 --> 00:46:21,440
Speaker 1: No, and she'd be sitting on the back of the tiller. Child. Okay.

846
00:46:24,280 --> 00:46:26,560
Speaker 1: So now, if you are a single woman, like you

847
00:46:26,640 --> 00:46:30,399
Speaker 1: also spending more money than an average person, and you're

848
00:46:30,440 --> 00:46:34,279
Speaker 1: also still making less money than men and trying to

849
00:46:34,320 --> 00:46:35,879
Speaker 1: do it by yourself, I just.

850
00:46:35,840 --> 00:46:38,799
Speaker 2: Feel like, right now, for the first time in a

851
00:46:38,920 --> 00:46:44,320
Speaker 2: long time, every dollar that comes in is going to something.

852
00:46:45,640 --> 00:46:48,080
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, it's out of control.

853
00:46:49,760 --> 00:46:51,600
Speaker 1: How much used to do you pay for car insurance?

854
00:46:51,680 --> 00:46:53,440
Speaker 2: I used to. I used to hold on to a

855
00:46:53,520 --> 00:46:56,279
Speaker 2: dollar a long time. Now that shit don't even touch

856
00:46:56,360 --> 00:46:58,960
Speaker 2: my hand before somebody snatching it out of my account.

857
00:46:59,080 --> 00:47:00,120
Speaker 2: Some auto paid.

858
00:47:00,640 --> 00:47:03,759
Speaker 1: Gohead, damn you do auto pay.

859
00:47:04,640 --> 00:47:06,560
Speaker 2: I all to pay most of girl.

860
00:47:06,640 --> 00:47:11,000
Speaker 1: Y'all are very responsible. I don't pay my shit on time,

861
00:47:11,120 --> 00:47:13,600
Speaker 1: But I don't ever want nobody to get that comfortable

862
00:47:13,600 --> 00:47:16,000
Speaker 1: to just be able to take the shit out my account.

863
00:47:16,400 --> 00:47:17,239
Speaker 1: Absolutely not.

864
00:47:18,280 --> 00:47:21,000
Speaker 2: It's just it's convenient because I don't have to worry

865
00:47:21,040 --> 00:47:24,040
Speaker 2: about being responsible for it.

866
00:47:24,080 --> 00:47:27,160
Speaker 1: Like what if they taken an extra ten cents every year,

867
00:47:28,000 --> 00:47:30,719
Speaker 1: I mean every month, your whole life, like you never know.

868
00:47:31,120 --> 00:47:33,160
Speaker 2: I wouldn't have noticed. Yeah, that's what I'm saying.

869
00:47:33,239 --> 00:47:35,759
Speaker 1: Like they could literally steal from millions of people because

870
00:47:35,800 --> 00:47:36,839
Speaker 1: y'all doing auto pay.

871
00:47:37,320 --> 00:47:39,960
Speaker 2: But when I take shit off of auto pay, then

872
00:47:40,000 --> 00:47:41,759
Speaker 2: I'll go to the doctor and they'll be like, oh,

873
00:47:41,800 --> 00:47:46,280
Speaker 2: your insurance is canceled. I'm like what, And then it'll

874
00:47:46,320 --> 00:47:48,439
Speaker 2: be like I'll call me like, oh, you haven't paid

875
00:47:48,520 --> 00:47:51,680
Speaker 2: since May, Like oh god, damn, my pay.

876
00:47:52,040 --> 00:47:54,960
Speaker 1: Is That's how ateen t probably be looking at me, yad,

877
00:47:55,000 --> 00:47:57,080
Speaker 1: because I swear to God, I'll be forgetting about that

878
00:47:57,160 --> 00:47:58,120
Speaker 1: damn Internet bill.

879
00:47:58,840 --> 00:48:00,439
Speaker 2: Just take it so I ain't got to worry about

880
00:48:00,520 --> 00:48:04,840
Speaker 2: y'all lass, But that shit hurt. And one thing I

881
00:48:04,880 --> 00:48:09,200
Speaker 2: won't do no more Klarna all the motherfuckers ca pay

882
00:48:09,360 --> 00:48:11,400
Speaker 2: after pay. They can stuck my dick because after I

883
00:48:11,440 --> 00:48:13,200
Speaker 2: wear that outfit, I don't feel like I need to

884
00:48:13,200 --> 00:48:14,200
Speaker 2: be paying y'all that now.

885
00:48:16,960 --> 00:48:20,000
Speaker 1: I was so pissed during the summertime when I went

886
00:48:20,040 --> 00:48:23,080
Speaker 1: on vacation and I ordered all us throwaway clothes from

887
00:48:23,120 --> 00:48:25,920
Speaker 1: Fashion over and none of it came for vacation and

888
00:48:26,000 --> 00:48:30,279
Speaker 1: I after paid everything, So imagine having to pay and

889
00:48:30,360 --> 00:48:33,880
Speaker 1: you know they only do store credit, So imagine having

890
00:48:33,920 --> 00:48:37,920
Speaker 1: to pay after pay on some shit you done sent back.

891
00:48:38,480 --> 00:48:40,800
Speaker 1: So are you forcing me to have store credit with

892
00:48:40,880 --> 00:48:41,359
Speaker 1: y'all last?

893
00:48:41,840 --> 00:48:47,360
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's why I do not fuck with those after

894
00:48:47,400 --> 00:48:49,399
Speaker 2: I wear it. I ain't paid. You should have.

895
00:48:51,040 --> 00:48:57,000
Speaker 1: Afterwhear to afterwear service, Like how I can get back

896
00:48:57,040 --> 00:48:58,400
Speaker 1: fifty percent of this outfit?

897
00:48:59,000 --> 00:49:03,000
Speaker 2: Right? That is so ghetto? Yeah, So I don't even

898
00:49:03,040 --> 00:49:05,160
Speaker 2: play with it when that's your first drop, though I

899
00:49:05,280 --> 00:49:08,200
Speaker 2: was after paying something twenty dollars, they take it five

900
00:49:08,239 --> 00:49:10,360
Speaker 2: dollars a week for me, Like, why am I doing that?

901
00:49:10,560 --> 00:49:12,399
Speaker 2: Just give them the whole twenty It just was just

902
00:49:12,440 --> 00:49:15,440
Speaker 2: like dumb. It made me feel better for some reason, like.

903
00:49:15,520 --> 00:49:18,279
Speaker 1: It's some psycho Maybe that's another episode of child because

904
00:49:18,280 --> 00:49:20,680
Speaker 1: it's definitely some psychology with after pay.

905
00:49:21,080 --> 00:49:23,760
Speaker 2: Right, it just makes you feel like you're not spending

906
00:49:23,800 --> 00:49:27,920
Speaker 2: the same amount, but you are are. And I'm mad, like,

907
00:49:28,000 --> 00:49:32,640
Speaker 2: who took twenty three dollars? Just now pay? I know

908
00:49:32,800 --> 00:49:34,080
Speaker 2: the fuck you, lie girl?

909
00:49:34,120 --> 00:49:36,919
Speaker 1: I had a fourteen dollars ninety five cent after pay

910
00:49:36,960 --> 00:49:41,280
Speaker 1: coming stupid. Yeah that's what I'm saying.

911
00:49:41,360 --> 00:49:44,920
Speaker 2: Five dollars a week, it's stupid. Just pay the twenty dollars.

912
00:49:45,320 --> 00:49:45,880
Speaker 1: Just pay now.

913
00:49:45,920 --> 00:49:48,120
Speaker 2: I didn't go by the philosophy. If I can't pay

914
00:49:48,160 --> 00:49:49,960
Speaker 2: for it outright, I don't need it.

915
00:49:50,080 --> 00:49:52,240
Speaker 1: That's usually how I live my life. I really don't

916
00:49:52,320 --> 00:49:54,799
Speaker 1: use after pay a lot. I usually use after pay

917
00:49:55,040 --> 00:49:57,279
Speaker 1: when I want to return stuff, like when I'm not

918
00:49:57,320 --> 00:49:59,879
Speaker 1: sure about the thing because I don't want to time

919
00:50:00,040 --> 00:50:01,720
Speaker 1: my money up and have to wait for a refund

920
00:50:01,760 --> 00:50:04,879
Speaker 1: from y'all. So that's usually when I use after paid.

921
00:50:04,880 --> 00:50:07,120
Speaker 1: When I don't like when I'm not sure how shit

922
00:50:07,160 --> 00:50:09,279
Speaker 1: gonna fit wants to come. And Fashion Over is one

923
00:50:09,280 --> 00:50:11,960
Speaker 1: of them places, child, but what they were return policy

924
00:50:12,040 --> 00:50:14,359
Speaker 1: and just pisses me off. I won't do after pay

925
00:50:14,600 --> 00:50:18,799
Speaker 1: with Fashion Over ever again in fucking life. But yeah,

926
00:50:19,760 --> 00:50:21,080
Speaker 1: that's usually when I use that ship.

927
00:50:22,000 --> 00:50:25,800
Speaker 2: I ain't fucking with them ever again. I'm sorry it

928
00:50:25,920 --> 00:50:28,120
Speaker 2: made me mad, Like I wore that outfit two weeks ago.

929
00:50:28,400 --> 00:50:30,840
Speaker 2: It's over, Yeah, it's over.

930
00:50:31,120 --> 00:50:36,080
Speaker 1: I don't. I don't war that shit, So I don't know.

931
00:50:36,160 --> 00:50:39,440
Speaker 1: I guess to go back on topic. Part of me

932
00:50:39,480 --> 00:50:41,800
Speaker 1: feels like it is a choice when a woman is single,

933
00:50:41,880 --> 00:50:46,239
Speaker 1: because I remember like wanting a relationship. I don't never

934
00:50:47,080 --> 00:50:51,200
Speaker 1: do ever really want a relationship fall in my lap.

935
00:50:51,400 --> 00:50:55,000
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, Like, I'll just pick one and.

936
00:50:55,000 --> 00:50:58,200
Speaker 2: Just that's the thing. I have rouble. I have huge,

937
00:50:58,480 --> 00:51:02,480
Speaker 2: huge trouble picking I don't you gotta come pick me

938
00:51:02,800 --> 00:51:04,799
Speaker 2: and then I have to pick you back, and it's

939
00:51:04,800 --> 00:51:06,080
Speaker 2: all for me to pick you back.

940
00:51:07,400 --> 00:51:10,800
Speaker 1: It's easy for me really because I'm a relationship person.

941
00:51:11,320 --> 00:51:14,520
Speaker 2: There you are, you'd be like, like, since we've been

942
00:51:14,520 --> 00:51:15,200
Speaker 2: doing this.

943
00:51:16,080 --> 00:51:19,360
Speaker 1: Only I had two relationships. I was engaged when we started.

944
00:51:19,480 --> 00:51:24,080
Speaker 1: Oh right, I have had a couple of sub relationships.

945
00:51:25,239 --> 00:51:27,840
Speaker 2: Don't get on here line.

946
00:51:28,640 --> 00:51:31,160
Speaker 1: Those ship don't count though, because like I already knew

947
00:51:31,600 --> 00:51:34,000
Speaker 1: it was looking stupid from the beginning, so I knew

948
00:51:34,040 --> 00:51:36,879
Speaker 1: those situations weren't going to lead to marriage. They were

949
00:51:36,920 --> 00:51:41,480
Speaker 1: just like little SpaceHolders. And they all like me right

950
00:51:41,520 --> 00:51:43,160
Speaker 1: now now, Okay, they still want.

951
00:51:43,080 --> 00:51:45,080
Speaker 2: But it would be very locked in and like you'd

952
00:51:45,120 --> 00:51:49,000
Speaker 2: be like spending like significant amounts of time with these people.

953
00:51:48,920 --> 00:51:51,520
Speaker 1: Because I ain't need one person, Like I don't like

954
00:51:51,600 --> 00:51:54,840
Speaker 1: hopping around because I like fucking raw Okay, like I

955
00:51:54,840 --> 00:51:57,640
Speaker 1: already said that before, right, we're gonna make sure we're

956
00:51:57,640 --> 00:51:59,920
Speaker 1: good and we're gonna be having a lot of raw sex.

957
00:52:00,719 --> 00:52:04,239
Speaker 1: I don't I need one person for that. I don't

958
00:52:04,280 --> 00:52:05,600
Speaker 1: need multiple people for that.

959
00:52:06,440 --> 00:52:09,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, but even to just locking to be like around

960
00:52:09,920 --> 00:52:12,719
Speaker 2: them that much, that like.

961
00:52:12,120 --> 00:52:15,839
Speaker 1: Why see, like do you want a fucking relationship? Like

962
00:52:15,920 --> 00:52:17,640
Speaker 1: how the fuck you not want to be around a

963
00:52:17,680 --> 00:52:22,800
Speaker 1: nigga you like that much? It's not even a whole lot.

964
00:52:23,480 --> 00:52:26,200
Speaker 2: Like it'd be fast. It'd be like y'all still together.

965
00:52:26,239 --> 00:52:28,640
Speaker 2: You've been over there in two days? Dog, let me

966
00:52:28,680 --> 00:52:32,120
Speaker 2: tell you you're like, yes, I'm here, and I'm like it.

967
00:52:33,040 --> 00:52:35,239
Speaker 1: It feels good the grocery shop with a nigga, Like

968
00:52:35,280 --> 00:52:38,120
Speaker 1: you don't got to carry the bag like it, like

969
00:52:39,080 --> 00:52:42,439
Speaker 1: having a having a partner is nice. Sometimes that ship

970
00:52:42,640 --> 00:52:48,200
Speaker 1: is weird to me. So so, bitch, you about to

971
00:52:48,200 --> 00:52:50,120
Speaker 1: be single form, I'm gonna just go ahead and take you,

972
00:52:51,960 --> 00:52:54,440
Speaker 1: because girl, you got to compromise at some point, not

973
00:52:54,480 --> 00:52:56,880
Speaker 1: even compromise with another person. You need to compromise with

974
00:52:56,920 --> 00:52:58,719
Speaker 1: your fucking self. Bitch, Like what.

975
00:53:00,160 --> 00:53:03,040
Speaker 2: That has to happen? Gradually? If we grocery shopping, we

976
00:53:03,080 --> 00:53:04,960
Speaker 2: skip some steps.

977
00:53:05,320 --> 00:53:08,680
Speaker 1: I hate having the like I remember like feeling sad

978
00:53:08,760 --> 00:53:10,920
Speaker 1: one day and this is when I was at my

979
00:53:11,040 --> 00:53:14,520
Speaker 1: singlest This is why while I'm living in Charlotte some

980
00:53:14,600 --> 00:53:19,839
Speaker 1: of the time, like I was single, single and I

981
00:53:19,960 --> 00:53:22,600
Speaker 1: just used to like come out Walmart and it's pouring

982
00:53:22,640 --> 00:53:24,759
Speaker 1: down raining, like why I don't have my nigga to

983
00:53:24,800 --> 00:53:25,400
Speaker 1: pull a car up.

984
00:53:26,520 --> 00:53:29,000
Speaker 2: No, honestly, that's how I felt yesterday when I was

985
00:53:29,040 --> 00:53:31,640
Speaker 2: carrying all that shit down the street on one leg.

986
00:53:32,160 --> 00:53:34,080
Speaker 2: I was like, oh, this is where I needed something.

987
00:53:34,200 --> 00:53:38,360
Speaker 1: Should not be doing that, okay, so you should not

988
00:53:38,480 --> 00:53:42,160
Speaker 1: be doing that by yourself at this point you should

989
00:53:42,200 --> 00:53:45,399
Speaker 1: have a partner to help you.

990
00:53:46,520 --> 00:53:52,319
Speaker 2: Yeah, you're right, And I like choosing to be right

991
00:53:52,360 --> 00:53:54,719
Speaker 2: now that nobody is here to hold this door for me,

992
00:53:54,800 --> 00:53:57,080
Speaker 2: nobody's here to carry these bags for me, like I'm

993
00:53:57,160 --> 00:53:58,920
Speaker 2: just buying myself in the rain.

994
00:53:59,480 --> 00:54:02,200
Speaker 1: We had a similar episode about this before, do you remember.

995
00:54:02,440 --> 00:54:05,719
Speaker 1: It's coming to my memory now because you had seen

996
00:54:05,760 --> 00:54:08,560
Speaker 1: a video online where this was a white girl. She

997
00:54:08,640 --> 00:54:11,839
Speaker 1: was like, I'm having major surgery, and it just made

998
00:54:11,880 --> 00:54:14,120
Speaker 1: me feel like, you know, I don't have I'm forty,

999
00:54:14,200 --> 00:54:17,520
Speaker 1: I don't have a partner, And she was having a

1000
00:54:17,600 --> 00:54:19,680
Speaker 1: count on her sister and her mom. But what I

1001
00:54:19,719 --> 00:54:21,640
Speaker 1: told you then, like you still really can't count on

1002
00:54:21,719 --> 00:54:23,919
Speaker 1: men all the time, like when you're not feeling well

1003
00:54:24,120 --> 00:54:27,520
Speaker 1: or sick or surgery and stuff. They still don't always

1004
00:54:27,520 --> 00:54:30,280
Speaker 1: just know what to do innately like a woman would,

1005
00:54:30,800 --> 00:54:32,600
Speaker 1: So you probably still would have to depend on your mop.

1006
00:54:32,640 --> 00:54:34,960
Speaker 1: But it just feels good to have somebody that's concerned

1007
00:54:34,960 --> 00:54:38,400
Speaker 1: about you, right. I stopped. I stopped talking to that nigga,

1008
00:54:38,719 --> 00:54:41,040
Speaker 1: like rob my little single time, Like I stopped talking

1009
00:54:41,080 --> 00:54:43,719
Speaker 1: to that nigga because we had planned for me to

1010
00:54:43,920 --> 00:54:47,120
Speaker 1: come over to this house that evening and I took

1011
00:54:47,120 --> 00:54:48,480
Speaker 1: a shower. I'm like, hey, I'm about to be on

1012
00:54:48,520 --> 00:54:52,280
Speaker 1: the way once I got the shower. I got the shower,

1013
00:54:52,360 --> 00:54:55,799
Speaker 1: he wasn't answering the phone like. I immediately cut him

1014
00:54:55,840 --> 00:54:57,600
Speaker 1: off and he called me back. He was like, you

1015
00:54:57,600 --> 00:54:59,200
Speaker 1: don't have to drive down. I'll ub were you I

1016
00:54:59,200 --> 00:55:02,160
Speaker 1: accidentally fell as When it comes to me, nigga, you

1017
00:55:02,280 --> 00:55:05,640
Speaker 1: intentionally fell asleep. Because if you are liking me in

1018
00:55:05,680 --> 00:55:09,279
Speaker 1: any capacity and you're not concerned about my whereabouts, you

1019
00:55:09,280 --> 00:55:12,480
Speaker 1: don't like me. That's how I feel too, because you

1020
00:55:12,560 --> 00:55:15,000
Speaker 1: if you were getting a little tiny sleepy, you'd have

1021
00:55:15,040 --> 00:55:16,680
Speaker 1: called me and said, hey, I left the door unlock.

1022
00:55:16,719 --> 00:55:19,080
Speaker 1: I'm getting kind of tired because that's what I would

1023
00:55:19,080 --> 00:55:22,200
Speaker 1: do for somebody I like, so like it'd be shit

1024
00:55:22,320 --> 00:55:26,480
Speaker 1: like that. I'm out of there. Yeah, but but but

1025
00:55:26,600 --> 00:55:30,759
Speaker 1: your partner, you want somebody in those times of emergencies. Man,

1026
00:55:31,160 --> 00:55:35,560
Speaker 1: I can't keep putting my mama name down for emergency contact.

1027
00:55:35,600 --> 00:55:37,719
Speaker 1: And I still do, though I do too.

1028
00:55:37,760 --> 00:55:38,840
Speaker 2: I don't have no choice.

1029
00:55:38,960 --> 00:55:40,680
Speaker 1: I mean, I got a choice, but I still do.

1030
00:55:40,719 --> 00:55:43,120
Speaker 1: Because my mom would coming quicker even when we beefing,

1031
00:55:43,520 --> 00:55:47,120
Speaker 1: like she coming, yeah, guns are blazing if she needs to.

1032
00:55:47,160 --> 00:55:52,759
Speaker 2: But I don't got nobody else to right, But.

1033
00:55:54,040 --> 00:55:56,680
Speaker 1: Is that because that's what you're choosing? Is that what

1034
00:55:56,719 --> 00:55:57,799
Speaker 1: you really want?

1035
00:55:58,000 --> 00:56:03,279
Speaker 2: And no, I don't want a grocery shop with you

1036
00:56:03,280 --> 00:56:03,960
Speaker 2: in the first.

1037
00:56:03,719 --> 00:56:07,120
Speaker 1: Week my one of my first dates with one of

1038
00:56:07,160 --> 00:56:10,160
Speaker 1: the guys I was dating. Our first date was Whole Foods.

1039
00:56:10,760 --> 00:56:13,120
Speaker 1: Like we met, he came and picked me up from

1040
00:56:13,120 --> 00:56:15,359
Speaker 1: the house and we went played for the groceries. Yeah,

1041
00:56:15,400 --> 00:56:17,239
Speaker 1: he bought some of my stuff I needed to, but

1042
00:56:17,280 --> 00:56:18,640
Speaker 1: I helped him grocery shop.

1043
00:56:19,640 --> 00:56:21,080
Speaker 2: Oh, I mean, I guess that's cute.

1044
00:56:21,280 --> 00:56:23,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, and you know I'm Eric Abadou with this shiit

1045
00:56:23,560 --> 00:56:25,719
Speaker 1: like I really be changing a nigga palette, Like you're

1046
00:56:25,719 --> 00:56:28,000
Speaker 1: gonna eat what I eat when I start fucking with you.

1047
00:56:28,800 --> 00:56:30,480
Speaker 2: I mean, I guess that is a cute date.

1048
00:56:31,120 --> 00:56:32,960
Speaker 1: We did go after a y'all to eat to a

1049
00:56:33,000 --> 00:56:35,520
Speaker 1: restaurant afterwards, but that was the initial thing.

1050
00:56:36,200 --> 00:56:42,760
Speaker 2: I think I might have commitment phobia. I've said this before,

1051
00:56:43,360 --> 00:56:44,879
Speaker 2: so I don't know why I'm talking about, Mike.

1052
00:56:47,040 --> 00:56:49,000
Speaker 1: What do you think that single women be afraid of

1053
00:56:49,040 --> 00:56:53,440
Speaker 1: though choosing wrong? But you just choose again. I guess

1054
00:56:53,480 --> 00:56:55,040
Speaker 1: that's my thing, right. Well, I don't really have a

1055
00:56:55,080 --> 00:56:57,399
Speaker 1: commitment for me when it comes to relationships, because I'll

1056
00:56:57,400 --> 00:56:59,799
Speaker 1: get the fuck on through, Like I know how to leave.

1057
00:56:59,840 --> 00:57:02,600
Speaker 2: Now that's the thing I don't know how to do.

1058
00:57:03,400 --> 00:57:05,840
Speaker 1: Oh bitch, I know when I be locked.

1059
00:57:05,560 --> 00:57:08,400
Speaker 2: In, I be locked in, Like where are you going?

1060
00:57:09,640 --> 00:57:13,400
Speaker 2: This is took forever. This is because it takes so

1061
00:57:13,480 --> 00:57:15,759
Speaker 2: much for me to pick. Once I pick, I'd be like,

1062
00:57:15,800 --> 00:57:18,280
Speaker 2: this is my forever person. I'm willing to go through

1063
00:57:18,280 --> 00:57:19,120
Speaker 2: the turches with you.

1064
00:57:19,520 --> 00:57:22,240
Speaker 1: Well, i'd be like that too, which is why I'll leave.

1065
00:57:22,320 --> 00:57:23,520
Speaker 1: But it still takes some time.

1066
00:57:24,440 --> 00:57:26,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, but that's the thing. I don't got time, So

1067
00:57:26,160 --> 00:57:28,960
Speaker 2: it's easier for me just not to pick a motherfucker.

1068
00:57:30,840 --> 00:57:32,160
Speaker 1: But you do have time.

1069
00:57:33,240 --> 00:57:35,080
Speaker 2: I don't feel like I got time to be playing

1070
00:57:35,080 --> 00:57:37,200
Speaker 2: with these niggas. I'm gonna end up. I would be

1071
00:57:37,240 --> 00:57:39,919
Speaker 2: like Angela Simmons out here, I'm gonna take y'all out.

1072
00:57:41,440 --> 00:57:43,120
Speaker 2: I'm joking. I'm joking, y'all.

1073
00:57:43,160 --> 00:57:46,360
Speaker 1: I'm joking, like that's the that's gonna be the running joke.

1074
00:57:46,800 --> 00:57:50,080
Speaker 1: Watch I watch how Angela Simmons your ass.

1075
00:57:50,800 --> 00:57:52,960
Speaker 2: Playing with that purse? You thought that was the purse?

1076
00:57:56,320 --> 00:58:00,440
Speaker 1: Y'all? We love you. Probably be in the bedroom talking

1077
00:58:00,520 --> 00:58:09,320
Speaker 1: real greasy about people like y'all fucking I'm gonna put y'all.

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00:58:15,320 --> 00:58:21,880
Speaker 2: I'm calm down because that ship might be real and

1079
00:58:21,920 --> 00:58:24,040
Speaker 2: I ain't got time for Angeloce to pull up on

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00:58:24,160 --> 00:58:24,520
Speaker 2: me with.

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00:58:27,120 --> 00:58:30,600
Speaker 1: Shame. I'm gonna do ass like Angela for damn power,

1082
00:58:34,280 --> 00:58:36,480
Speaker 1: get jazz and low corner somewhere there.

1083
00:58:37,320 --> 00:58:38,720
Speaker 2: We love.

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00:58:40,920 --> 00:58:42,840
Speaker 1: You, look good, girl, but we know you don't know

1085
00:58:43,120 --> 00:58:44,680
Speaker 1: zimpic quit playing in our face.

1086
00:58:45,560 --> 00:58:48,520
Speaker 2: Everybody who been like thick or fat for a long

1087
00:58:48,600 --> 00:58:52,320
Speaker 2: time and now they just like I have together.

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00:58:52,640 --> 00:58:55,800
Speaker 1: Like so the one thing with Olympic. Okay, let's go

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00:58:55,840 --> 00:58:57,360
Speaker 1: into that right quick, and then we're gonna wrap this

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00:58:57,360 --> 00:59:01,000
Speaker 1: sh up. Listen, I'm gonna tell you, I'm gonna be honest. Okay.

1091
00:59:01,320 --> 00:59:05,800
Speaker 1: I am type jealous of people taking ozimping. I'm not

1092
00:59:05,920 --> 00:59:08,120
Speaker 1: jealous about the side effects of that ship because I'm

1093
00:59:08,160 --> 00:59:12,240
Speaker 1: not dying to be skinny, right And I know that

1094
00:59:12,280 --> 00:59:17,720
Speaker 1: it does help your your metabolic system, you know what

1095
00:59:17,760 --> 00:59:20,479
Speaker 1: I'm saying, Like hormone issues. It helps correct things. That's

1096
00:59:20,520 --> 00:59:24,880
Speaker 1: what gets you to start losing the weight. But sometimes

1097
00:59:24,880 --> 00:59:26,919
Speaker 1: your doctor stops are swabbing you that ship like now

1098
00:59:26,920 --> 00:59:29,280
Speaker 1: you're gonna nobody I know who is taking that ship

1099
00:59:29,320 --> 00:59:33,479
Speaker 1: has sustained the weight loss. They all earned it back

1100
00:59:33,600 --> 00:59:36,880
Speaker 1: with anything else because it's lifestyle, so it's really just

1101
00:59:37,000 --> 00:59:39,480
Speaker 1: changing your mind, right, So I'd rather just keep working

1102
00:59:39,520 --> 00:59:39,840
Speaker 1: on that.

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00:59:41,080 --> 00:59:44,000
Speaker 2: Then A lot of people like when I saw that

1104
00:59:44,160 --> 00:59:48,440
Speaker 2: there's an Olympic butt because it's not doing.

1105
00:59:48,160 --> 00:59:50,000
Speaker 1: That Olympic face.

1106
00:59:50,760 --> 00:59:52,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, all sunk in mm hm.

1107
00:59:53,240 --> 00:59:56,800
Speaker 1: So it's a goovi ozempic semic glue class, semic glue,

1108
00:59:56,840 --> 00:59:59,120
Speaker 1: semic glue tide I got. All of them are all

1109
00:59:59,240 --> 01:00:02,920
Speaker 1: the same g l g l C one or g

1110
01:00:03,120 --> 01:00:05,000
Speaker 1: l M something real sick.

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01:00:05,280 --> 01:00:06,720
Speaker 2: Some people even have died.

1112
01:00:06,880 --> 01:00:10,360
Speaker 1: So I just stummay issues. It's messing with people's digestive

1113
01:00:10,440 --> 01:00:12,520
Speaker 1: system and they kids, yeah.

1114
01:00:12,560 --> 01:00:15,160
Speaker 2: Growing up, like every time they take it, they throw

1115
01:00:15,240 --> 01:00:18,439
Speaker 2: up for two days straight. Y'all pitches look good, y'all

1116
01:00:18,440 --> 01:00:22,640
Speaker 2: look great. Y'all look great.

1117
01:00:23,400 --> 01:00:27,640
Speaker 1: Y'all look great, but face a little something in but

1118
01:00:27,680 --> 01:00:28,800
Speaker 1: you look good.

1119
01:00:29,680 --> 01:00:31,640
Speaker 2: Gone completely gone.

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01:00:31,680 --> 01:00:34,600
Speaker 1: I ain't bitch because when my clavicle be popping and

1121
01:00:34,680 --> 01:00:37,360
Speaker 1: like my little hip bone, I know I look good.

1122
01:00:37,680 --> 01:00:39,280
Speaker 1: I ain't look like that in a long time. But

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01:00:39,320 --> 01:00:41,680
Speaker 1: I'm just telling you, like those are the those are

1124
01:00:41,680 --> 01:00:43,320
Speaker 1: the things I like to see to know that the

1125
01:00:43,400 --> 01:00:44,280
Speaker 1: bitch is fine.

1126
01:00:44,560 --> 01:00:46,560
Speaker 2: I just want a yall line. That's all I want

1127
01:00:46,600 --> 01:00:48,320
Speaker 2: in life. Everything else I'm okay with.

1128
01:00:48,560 --> 01:00:52,919
Speaker 1: Shouldn't mine disappearing. Look at that fat ass face. I'm

1129
01:00:52,920 --> 01:00:58,160
Speaker 1: working on it though. I'm gonna start doing Korean fish exercises.

1130
01:00:57,880 --> 01:00:59,360
Speaker 2: So get paid.

1131
01:00:59,760 --> 01:01:03,120
Speaker 1: I have gotten. Uh. They do acupuncture in the face

1132
01:01:03,160 --> 01:01:06,480
Speaker 1: and stuff, so you could do that instead of doing BOLTOKX,

1133
01:01:06,560 --> 01:01:09,320
Speaker 1: that helps. What it does? It helps with the muscles

1134
01:01:09,320 --> 01:01:09,840
Speaker 1: in your face.

1135
01:01:10,360 --> 01:01:13,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm not why both talks me.

1136
01:01:18,000 --> 01:01:23,280
Speaker 1: I got a good ass acupunctural lady, acupuncturist, a little

1137
01:01:23,320 --> 01:01:25,640
Speaker 1: Asian lady, and she don't play the radio Chad. She

1138
01:01:25,640 --> 01:01:29,120
Speaker 1: can put them boo bloop bloop. Okay, close your eye,

1139
01:01:29,800 --> 01:01:32,400
Speaker 1: turn the light off to leave your ass, bitch, what's

1140
01:01:32,440 --> 01:01:36,920
Speaker 1: your last last peck? A nigger? We said this the

1141
01:01:36,960 --> 01:01:40,400
Speaker 1: other day, like listen, it's like, I don't think no

1142
01:01:40,520 --> 01:01:43,080
Speaker 1: woman is really single by choice? Y'all say, y'all are

1143
01:01:43,840 --> 01:01:45,600
Speaker 1: I really? And I feel like the ones who are

1144
01:01:45,720 --> 01:01:48,360
Speaker 1: single by choice are the ones who have already had

1145
01:01:48,400 --> 01:01:51,840
Speaker 1: the families or failed marriages and things like that. And

1146
01:01:51,920 --> 01:01:55,520
Speaker 1: they're like, I'm not, you know, risking my mental health.

1147
01:01:55,600 --> 01:01:58,960
Speaker 1: But that shit no more. I feel like all of

1148
01:01:59,040 --> 01:02:02,280
Speaker 1: us want reallylationships, men and women. All of us want

1149
01:02:02,320 --> 01:02:05,040
Speaker 1: to be loved. We want to find our person. It

1150
01:02:05,160 --> 01:02:06,920
Speaker 1: just might be a little harder. Maybe you need to

1151
01:02:06,960 --> 01:02:11,840
Speaker 1: move around to different someplace else, to another city to

1152
01:02:11,920 --> 01:02:15,400
Speaker 1: find a person a different race. Yeah, different race, you

1153
01:02:15,400 --> 01:02:18,440
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. No, no, white grass ain't always greener.

1154
01:02:19,000 --> 01:02:23,320
Speaker 1: But but maybe maybe you gotta try that to find out,

1155
01:02:23,440 --> 01:02:28,520
Speaker 1: you know who, who's your actual person? But you gotta

1156
01:02:28,640 --> 01:02:31,920
Speaker 1: you gotta try, don't just it's my choice. I'm single.

1157
01:02:32,000 --> 01:02:35,280
Speaker 1: I don't think so. I don't think that. I don't

1158
01:02:35,280 --> 01:02:38,160
Speaker 1: believe most women are single by choice.

1159
01:02:38,520 --> 01:02:43,520
Speaker 2: I try, I just don't try very hard.

1160
01:02:46,800 --> 01:02:48,959
Speaker 1: Or like the men that you think that you want,

1161
01:02:49,120 --> 01:02:51,440
Speaker 1: they might not be attracted to you, or they might

1162
01:02:51,480 --> 01:02:54,240
Speaker 1: haven't seen you yet. Right, so we we. But you

1163
01:02:54,240 --> 01:02:56,560
Speaker 1: don't know that person until you know them. So the

1164
01:02:56,600 --> 01:02:59,520
Speaker 1: options that you do have, you need to try one.

1165
01:02:59,480 --> 01:03:00,000
Speaker 2: Of those.

1166
01:03:01,640 --> 01:03:06,520
Speaker 1: And see what that. No, they might be missing your blessing.

1167
01:03:07,400 --> 01:03:11,080
Speaker 2: No, I do. I think the people who I have

1168
01:03:11,160 --> 01:03:14,120
Speaker 2: access to you know, but it just don't be.

1169
01:03:16,040 --> 01:03:18,919
Speaker 1: My problem is only like men who I know will

1170
01:03:18,960 --> 01:03:24,080
Speaker 1: die from me. How do you know because I know

1171
01:03:24,240 --> 01:03:27,840
Speaker 1: what niggas gonna kill you over me. I know you

1172
01:03:27,920 --> 01:03:30,240
Speaker 1: just you just be knowing. So I be sticking with

1173
01:03:30,400 --> 01:03:32,440
Speaker 1: niggas that I know that a crash out for me,

1174
01:03:37,160 --> 01:03:39,720
Speaker 1: not really crash out, but like if shit get real,

1175
01:03:39,920 --> 01:03:43,960
Speaker 1: I know that I'm protected. I'm attracted.

1176
01:03:43,960 --> 01:03:46,640
Speaker 2: I know like that. Like there's this one guy in

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01:03:46,720 --> 01:03:48,720
Speaker 2: Charlotte that I know if I call on him, like

1178
01:03:48,760 --> 01:03:50,960
Speaker 2: if something happening to me, if I call on him,

1179
01:03:51,360 --> 01:03:53,960
Speaker 2: he gonna he got that whole place.

1180
01:03:54,240 --> 01:03:56,440
Speaker 1: That's what I that, and that's what I that is

1181
01:03:56,480 --> 01:03:57,400
Speaker 1: what I'm attracted to.

1182
01:03:57,480 --> 01:04:01,040
Speaker 2: I am attracted to protect the same time, I think

1183
01:04:01,080 --> 01:04:02,960
Speaker 2: I could get double back select too if I was

1184
01:04:03,000 --> 01:04:05,120
Speaker 2: in a relationship with this niggas. You know what I'm saying.

1185
01:04:05,400 --> 01:04:09,360
Speaker 1: Oh now, so he's just ready to do whatever. Just

1186
01:04:09,400 --> 01:04:14,320
Speaker 1: he just needed reason. I like calculated men. Yeah, but

1187
01:04:15,040 --> 01:04:20,040
Speaker 1: I think when you get married to somebody and or

1188
01:04:20,080 --> 01:04:22,320
Speaker 1: you really love somebody, you are taking their life into

1189
01:04:22,320 --> 01:04:25,919
Speaker 1: consideration as if it were your own. So I need

1190
01:04:25,920 --> 01:04:27,760
Speaker 1: you to care for me like you care for yourself.

1191
01:04:28,360 --> 01:04:30,800
Speaker 1: So that's what I'm attracted to. So if I find

1192
01:04:30,800 --> 01:04:32,640
Speaker 1: that in a man, I'm more inclined because even the

1193
01:04:32,680 --> 01:04:35,480
Speaker 1: crazy they go I'd be talking about I know he

1194
01:04:35,520 --> 01:04:39,040
Speaker 1: would have died for me. Yeah, you know what I'm saying.

1195
01:04:39,200 --> 01:04:42,840
Speaker 1: He is his personality just we was clashing. Otherwise we

1196
01:04:42,840 --> 01:04:45,720
Speaker 1: were very good friends. We just wasn't supposed to be

1197
01:04:45,720 --> 01:04:50,720
Speaker 1: in a relationship together sometimes that Yeah. Anyway, that's my

1198
01:04:50,840 --> 01:04:53,120
Speaker 1: last last. Do you have anything for the single ladies?

1199
01:04:54,720 --> 01:05:00,600
Speaker 2: Apparently we better off single ladies, So keep doing you, baby, period.

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01:05:02,040 --> 01:05:05,000
Speaker 2: And I have one more last thing to say, Angela Summits,

1201
01:05:05,080 --> 01:05:07,320
Speaker 2: this was all jope. Please don't hurt.

1202
01:05:07,200 --> 01:05:13,720
Speaker 1: Us sitting up CMG goonies over here for fifty bands. Goodness,

1203
01:05:13,920 --> 01:05:16,760
Speaker 1: all right, kick it all right, y'all. If y'all enjoyed

1204
01:05:16,760 --> 01:05:20,120
Speaker 1: this episode, we appreciate you so much, even the shit talkers. Okay,

1205
01:05:20,160 --> 01:05:23,680
Speaker 1: we love y'all even more baby because you're paying attention. Okay,

1206
01:05:23,720 --> 01:05:25,800
Speaker 1: So if you enjoyed this episode, y'all tune in every

1207
01:05:25,800 --> 01:05:29,600
Speaker 1: Thursday on the Black Effect iHeartRadio app or wherever you

1208
01:05:29,640 --> 01:05:33,240
Speaker 1: get your podcast at. This is your co host, AJ Holiday.

1209
01:05:33,280 --> 01:05:36,080
Speaker 1: That's Big AJ, not the little one. What's up?

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01:05:36,920 --> 01:05:40,320
Speaker 2: It's official Tambama on Instagram. Y'all follow me now. Remember

1211
01:05:40,360 --> 01:05:44,680
Speaker 2: to speak now and never hold your nigga because I'm

1212
01:05:44,720 --> 01:05:46,560
Speaker 2: trying to get with you.

1213
01:05:46,680 --> 01:05:52,040
Speaker 1: Better hold your nigga. All the good niggas actually married.

1214
01:05:52,080 --> 01:05:54,320
Speaker 1: So your your husband might be married to another bitch

1215
01:05:54,400 --> 01:05:55,840
Speaker 1: right now. You just gotta wait for that divorce.

1216
01:05:56,600 --> 01:05:58,840
Speaker 2: But when they get but when they come back, they

1217
01:05:58,880 --> 01:05:59,440
Speaker 2: be jaded.

1218
01:05:59,800 --> 01:06:02,840
Speaker 1: No, man, married men are actually good people to be in.

1219
01:06:02,840 --> 01:06:06,720
Speaker 1: The men who have been previously married. Married men are

1220
01:06:06,760 --> 01:06:11,840
Speaker 1: good people. They're used to marriage, They're used to being

1221
01:06:11,840 --> 01:06:14,360
Speaker 1: with somebody. They are relationship prone people.

1222
01:06:15,520 --> 01:06:18,640
Speaker 2: So you might need to find a divorce they be jaded.

1223
01:06:19,440 --> 01:06:20,919
Speaker 1: I don't think so. All the time.

1224
01:06:21,840 --> 01:06:24,480
Speaker 2: A lot of divorcees be like, I never do it again,

1225
01:06:25,960 --> 01:06:26,480
Speaker 2: and they be.

1226
01:06:26,480 --> 01:06:29,280
Speaker 1: Saying that whole time, trying to find a wife. Yeah,

1227
01:06:29,720 --> 01:06:36,919
Speaker 1: get you a retired military nigga. Bye y'all, bye bye.

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