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Speaker 4: I caught my aunt and my cousin's boyfriend kissing, so

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Speaker 4: I expose them in front of everyone.

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Speaker 3: Oh, get exposed, expose this.

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Speaker 4: I nineteen female, am diagnosed with ASPD antisocial personality disorder.

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Speaker 4: Don't worry. I'm not a danger to myself or anyone else.

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Speaker 4: And I need opinions of people who can feel empathy

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Speaker 4: to know if I was wrong.

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Speaker 3: At least you get the self awareness te I'm just

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Speaker 3: to wake.

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Speaker 4: Sure you guys you know on the same bitch too.

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Speaker 4: By the way, this comes from Striking Letter twenty nine

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Speaker 4: oh four on the r slash Okay storytime Separate It.

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Speaker 4: Yesterday night, it was my cousin Bianca's twenty one female birthday.

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Speaker 4: We were all invited to her house. She still lives

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Speaker 4: with her parents and we have a big family. My

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Speaker 4: family arrived first, and a while later my aunt, who

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Speaker 4: was just divorced call me forty six female arrived and

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Speaker 4: when she hugged Bianca's boyfriend Vincent twenty one male, after

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Speaker 4: we sang Happy Birthday and cut the cake, kamios to

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Speaker 4: me to take pictures with her unlocked phone, as I

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Speaker 4: don't like to be in photos. As I was taking them,

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Speaker 4: I saw a notification from someone called Vincent and accidentally

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Speaker 4: more or less opened it. It said I can't wait

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Speaker 4: till the party is over. It was him. I knew

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Speaker 4: his profile picture. He didn't like look over to see

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Speaker 4: that she was taking pictures on the phone. He was

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Speaker 5: Accidentally, more or less like I got a help in

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Speaker 5: it and I hopped up.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, not even Ten minutes later, Commie asked Vincent to

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Speaker 4: help her bring her gift to Bianca from the car.

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Speaker 4: It was an electric guitar. Curious, I followed them into

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Speaker 4: the backyard. Oh piece, done a full snoop, and under

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Speaker 4: the little light of the car saw them kissing. Ew

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Speaker 4: As I had my phone in my hand, I quickly

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Speaker 4: much as I don't care about Bianca, I thought she

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Speaker 4: deserved to know the truth. So when it was my

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Speaker 4: turn to give her my gift, I pulled her aside

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Speaker 4: started screaming, confronting both Commie and Vincent. How could you

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Speaker 4: do this to me? There was lots of tears and shouting.

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Speaker 4: Vincent said it was only one kiss, only this time. Yes, sure,

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Speaker 4: But then I asked to see his phone. He denied.

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Speaker 4: Cammie also denied, calling me a psychopathic, heartless bee word.

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Speaker 4: The party ended soon after, and Vincent left with Cammie.

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Speaker 4: Now my family is divided into three fronts. One my grandma, grandpa, uncle,

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Speaker 4: and mother think it was not my place to tell too,

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Speaker 4: Bianca's father, my other aunt, Bianca's mother, Bianca's brother, and

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Speaker 4: Bianca who think I should have waited till the end

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Speaker 4: of the party to tell and not ruined her twenty

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Speaker 4: first birthday. And three my sister, my father, and my

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Speaker 4: other cousin who think I did the right thing. Feels

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Speaker 4: like everyone is mad at me and not the cheaters.

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Speaker 4: So read it. Tell me, am I the a hole.

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Speaker 4: What's your thoughts?

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Speaker 5: Dakota kind of ridiculous that they're like, you ruined her birthday.

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Speaker 5: It's like birthday, it's your boyfriend that ruined her twenty.

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Speaker 3: Birth birthday by kissing her aunt.

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Speaker 5: Is also true that you could have maybe picked a

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Speaker 5: better time instead of being like, oh, here's your birthday President,

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Speaker 5: I got a picture for your birthday presents for you.

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Speaker 5: You're like, I always feel like people being like it's

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Speaker 3: It's like, what do you mean, Like, who is supposed

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Speaker 5: Yeah, it's like once you find out, it's like I

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Speaker 4: It also seems like, I mean she said that she's not,

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Speaker 3: So she oh, that's right, she's got ah.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, yes, okay, that explains why it was like immediately

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Speaker 5: happy birthday.

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Speaker 3: Look at this photo you.

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Speaker 4: Need to know. Yeah, No, I don't think OPI's the

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Speaker 4: a hole. Jack Fruit Glad eight oh one to five says,

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Speaker 4: not the A hole. I feel like the birthday would

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Speaker 4: have been ruined either way. It's sad that they couldn't

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Speaker 4: even wait for your cousin to have a good birthday

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Speaker 4: to act on their affair. Opie says, right, I was labrigasted.

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Speaker 4: An external expert twenty sixty nine says it's anyone's place

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Speaker 4: to tell on a cheater, not the a hole, which

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Speaker 4: I agree. Yeah, I think if you find out, you

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Speaker 4: should have hit it better if you didn't want them

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Speaker 4: to tell. Juicy Sopie says, you're not the a hole

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Speaker 4: for exposing the affair, but you could have chosen a

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Speaker 4: better time in place to do it. Opie says, thank you.

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Speaker 4: I find it hard to take other people's feelings into

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Speaker 4: account since I don't have many of my own. I

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Speaker 4: will apologize to Bianca Hermione says, Yeah, finding out you've

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Speaker 4: been cheated on in public can also be really embarrassing.

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Speaker 4: You feel shame, anger, disgust and vulnerable. It's usually one

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Speaker 4: of the lowest points of someone's life, so you really

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Speaker 4: don't want an audience for it. It makes it a

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Speaker 4: spectacle if you're ever in a situation like that. Again,

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Speaker 4: as hard as it is to wait, make sure the

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Speaker 4: victim of cheating has some privacy, and Opie says, I

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Speaker 4: will thank you life. Let us when eighty says you

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Speaker 4: did the right thing by telling Bianca. In the future,

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Speaker 4: could you talk to someone close to you who tends

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Speaker 4: to do the right thing often and ask for their

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Speaker 4: advice on how to proceed. If you're close to anyone

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Speaker 4: in the second group of people who thought right thing

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Speaker 4: wrong time, they could be a good sounding board in

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Speaker 4: the future. There is an update one day later, a Hi. So,

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Speaker 4: as you can see from my profile, I'm not an

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Speaker 4: active user, so I hope this post finds those who

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Speaker 4: answered my previous post. My grandparents called for an urgent

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Speaker 4: family meeting this afternoon. Me, my sister, father, and mother

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Speaker 4: went as soon as we could. When we arrived, Bianca

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Speaker 4: dirty laundry in front of everyone. She cried a little

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Speaker 4: if I hadn't taken the picture, she wouldn't have believed me,

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Speaker 4: as she's been with Vincent for five years.

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Speaker 5: No, I oh, now that means that the aunt was

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Speaker 5: made be doing some groomy type behavior because they're twenty one,

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Speaker 5: so he was what sixteen?

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Speaker 3: I mean they started dating.

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Speaker 4: It's it's like triple weird. She hugged me, which was

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Speaker 4: a bit awkward since we haven't hugged in many years.

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Speaker 4: To give you a rundown, Vincent left with Commy last

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Speaker 4: night and broke up with Bianca overtext. Freaking song.

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Speaker 5: Whoa freaking size he's dedicated to being.

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Speaker 4: He's like, you know what, not only am I not

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Speaker 4: going to talk to her about me cheating on her,

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Speaker 4: I'm just gonna break up with her overtext?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, breaking up with you and I'm leaving with your aunt.

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Speaker 4: When Commy showed up at the family meeting, she was

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Speaker 4: bombarded with questions like when did it start? How did

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Speaker 4: it start? She answered calmly, although it seemed like she

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Speaker 4: cried a lot during the night. The affairs started. Ah,

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Speaker 3: Oh my, God, he got groomed by the end.

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Speaker 4: No, that's also really sad. Oh, like obviously you know

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Speaker 4: he has his own part to play in the cheating. Yeah,

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Speaker 4: but definitely a lot of like definitely grooming here. That's

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Speaker 4: because if he just turned it.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, really sad, disgusting.

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Speaker 4: So three years ago, at a previous birthday at Bianca,

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Speaker 4: My grandparents admitted knowing and encouraging the affair, but apologized.

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Speaker 4: What who's encouraging that behavior? What is wrong with this family?

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Speaker 4: The mom and the grandparents were both on her side.

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Speaker 4: Bianca stormed off and said that she would cut everyone

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Speaker 4: who kept in touch with Kamie off. I did not

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Speaker 4: she asked if she could talk to me. Curious, I went.

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Speaker 4: She told me she was sorry, and I said I

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Speaker 4: she was praying on Vincent, but She vehemently denies it,

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Speaker 4: saying she never had eyes for him before he was eighteen.

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Speaker 4: Yeah right, I said. She started crying, saying it was

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Speaker 4: Do not contact me ever again. She cried, begged, and pleaded,

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Speaker 4: saying I was like a daughter to her. By the way,

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Speaker 4: you could be like a daughter to us and join

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Speaker 4: us live every week ten three PMSD just tap that profile.

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Speaker 4: So I said, I'm a psychopathic, heartless be word after all?

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Speaker 5: Oh oh wait, whoa Oh She's throwing it back at

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Speaker 5: her because she was like, oh, I'm a like, you're

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Speaker 5: like a daughter to me, And she's like, I don't care,

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Speaker 5: I'm a psychopathic B word after you know, I guess

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Speaker 5: you were right about me when you said I was

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Speaker 4: And then she dropped the mic that she'd been caring wow,

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Speaker 4: and left. She tried calling and messaging, but I blocked

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Speaker 4: her everywhere, as did the rest of my family. I

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Speaker 4: don't think I will update again, but thanks to everyone

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Speaker 4: who tried to help and gave your input. And there

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Speaker 4: are some comments from Op as well. To finish this

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Speaker 4: story off, But what are you all thoughts.

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Speaker 3: I think she handled that perfect. Yeah, I think she was.

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Speaker 4: Like I told Bianca, my aunt tried to come back

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Speaker 4: and get forgiveness and I said, no, I'm not talking

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Speaker 5: Yeah, there is like a little red flag with the

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Speaker 3: But honestly, I don't.

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Speaker 5: Think Ope is Like I think OPI's in a good

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Speaker 5: place to sort of just like move beyond those people

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Speaker 5: in her life. Yeah, and just sort of not let

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Speaker 5: that like impact or affect her.

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Speaker 4: But Op, you're not the ale, Wacky Spath says, not

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Speaker 4: the ale. This woman groomed a kid and then started

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Speaker 4: gets add to that she's doing her niece's boyfriend. It's

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Speaker 4: even more sick. Grandparents are disgusting too. This isn't an

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Speaker 4: empathy question, this is basic morality. A man in Black says.

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Speaker 4: I'd honestly cut them off too. They encouraged her grooming

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Speaker 4: Me and my sister Bianca will be cutting them off.

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Speaker 3: Just cut them off. Yeah, it just and I think

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Speaker 3: No, I can't just be friendly these days. I've been

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Speaker 6: Yeah, that is a long sentence. I was gonna say so,

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Speaker 3: Nah, dude, he's just a secretary just behavior. No, No,

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Speaker 6: Yeah, d he's just people pleaser.

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Speaker 3: The jokes they told that, I could have sworn he

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Speaker 3: It was like he had morphed into this amazing person

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Speaker 6: Whoa wait, wait wait, So they went to the work event.

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Speaker 6: They went to the work event. He was the he was,

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Speaker 3: Maybe sometimes people put on their work voice.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, no, I do that all the time.

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Speaker 6: I don't know, especially if he's doing well and he's

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Speaker 3: But the fact that he's not a minute, no, I'm

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Speaker 6: Yeah, that's where it gets a little weird, where and

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Speaker 3: I can't stop thinking about Joe from you, Okay. I

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Speaker 6: He just wants He's literally the person that everyone wants

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Speaker 6: him to be. Maybe he's doing that for you to Op.

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Speaker 6: Maybe you didn't think about that. Mmmm well maybe you

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Speaker 3: Okay. Then he ended up showing up and insisting on

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Speaker 6: Oh, right out the floodgates.

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Speaker 3: I got in his face and told him to get out.

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Speaker 3: He brought his medical information with him to prove it,

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Speaker 3: all the tests, the diagnosis, all of it. I was floored. Dude,

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Speaker 3: Oh there could there could be good psycho paths out there, right,

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Speaker 3: I don't know.

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Speaker 6: I don't know. If this guy already maybe the medical

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Speaker 6: what does this consist of? Like, like, what does this mean?

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Speaker 6: What is this? What's your cycle? Like analysis?

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Speaker 3: He told me that people like him are extremely good

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Speaker 3: Of course, being friendly and liked at work served him.

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Speaker 3: It's why he's been promoted so fast.

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Speaker 6: Okay, Yeah, it's never a.

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Speaker 3: Bad thing to have too many friends. So he masks

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Speaker 6: Am I a psychopath? It's like, I like people. I

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Speaker 6: If they have a certain thing that they could talk about,

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Speaker 6: I could talk to them about it.

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Speaker 3: Okay, ok I'm conful. Well, okay, we'll see, we'll see.

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Speaker 6: Yeah. Like, well I haven't seen anything negative in.

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Speaker 6: Like everyone does that unless it be like you're not

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Speaker 3: Yeah, this makes me think, like I know more psychopaths. Yeah?

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Speaker 3: I asked him why me? Why had he made me

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Speaker 3: probably one. All Mary, I knew you for three months

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Speaker 6: This conversation is really weird.

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Speaker 3: Picked me.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, that that's where he got weird. This is I

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Speaker 3: He told me. It was when him and I were

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Speaker 6: This is weird.

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Speaker 3: That was a bar.

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Speaker 6: You make one good joke and you all right, yeah

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Speaker 3: Yeah, you know what, Okay, I've picked this one.

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Speaker 6: She made me feel laughter. You're mine now, you know,

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Speaker 3: I kind of did that with Angie. I was like, dude,

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Speaker 3: So I'm like, yeah, I see where this goes. I

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Speaker 6: Yeah, she's like, she's the one like she she made

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Speaker 6: Yeah? Are we psychopaths? Very scared?

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Speaker 3: Here and boom a month later, we're together. That happened

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Speaker 6: This guy seems fun, this guy seems like the guy.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, but what does the dog like. I wish we

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Speaker 3: First, thanks so much for all of the advice. I

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Speaker 3: I was going to cut my losses, which is why

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Speaker 3: I would miss things from my life if you left.

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Speaker 3: I can say I do, if that's what you like

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Speaker 6: love I love you, But but I'm making an effort

436
00:19:52,200 --> 00:19:54,840
Speaker 6: not to tell you what you want to hear me.

437
00:19:55,840 --> 00:19:58,200
Speaker 6: What do you think I want to hear? Boyfriend?

438
00:19:58,400 --> 00:20:00,520
Speaker 3: That I love you, that you're the only person in

439
00:20:00,560 --> 00:20:02,880
Speaker 3: the world I love and care about, and that I'd

440
00:20:02,920 --> 00:20:06,000
Speaker 3: never hurt you, and you're the only person who gets

441
00:20:06,000 --> 00:20:10,240
Speaker 3: to see the real me. Okay, And what's the truth, boyfriend?

442
00:20:10,640 --> 00:20:13,040
Speaker 3: That I'd marry you because I don't see myself being

443
00:20:13,080 --> 00:20:16,639
Speaker 3: happier in another relationship. That I would miss you if

444
00:20:16,680 --> 00:20:18,920
Speaker 3: you left my life, so I'm not in the business

445
00:20:18,960 --> 00:20:20,720
Speaker 3: of going out of my way to drive you out,

446
00:20:21,160 --> 00:20:23,760
Speaker 3: And that I would try my best to act like

447
00:20:23,840 --> 00:20:27,360
Speaker 3: myself around you and not how you want me to act.

448
00:20:27,720 --> 00:20:30,920
Speaker 3: And how you haven't left me, so that's a good sign.

449
00:20:31,080 --> 00:20:34,560
Speaker 3: No me, why did you say you picked me? Boyfriend?

450
00:20:34,840 --> 00:20:37,239
Speaker 3: Why is this beginning to sound like an interrogation? I'm

451
00:20:37,280 --> 00:20:40,280
Speaker 3: getting my facts sorted, so it kind of is, boyfriend. Okay,

452
00:20:40,280 --> 00:20:43,600
Speaker 3: that's right. I said, it is because it's what I did.

453
00:20:43,840 --> 00:20:46,080
Speaker 3: It was at a point of my life and career

454
00:20:46,119 --> 00:20:48,840
Speaker 3: where I figured I should have a long term girlfriend

455
00:20:49,160 --> 00:20:51,600
Speaker 3: and I wanted that person to be you.

456
00:20:52,320 --> 00:20:57,399
Speaker 6: This conversation is very odd. He says things correctly, and

457
00:20:57,440 --> 00:21:00,480
Speaker 6: then he adds like a sentence that's like so robotic.

458
00:21:00,720 --> 00:21:03,760
Speaker 6: He sounds like old robot. Yeah, he's like, I love you,

459
00:21:03,880 --> 00:21:05,320
Speaker 6: but that's what you wanted to hear. But I do

460
00:21:05,440 --> 00:21:08,320
Speaker 6: genuinely love you. But what why did you add the

461
00:21:08,720 --> 00:21:10,480
Speaker 6: that's what you want to hear? You like? I love you?

462
00:21:10,560 --> 00:21:12,399
Speaker 3: This is how it was brain words, probably, I.

463
00:21:12,400 --> 00:21:15,000
Speaker 6: Guess, but that's very like. Maybe that's where the psychopathic starts.

464
00:21:15,200 --> 00:21:16,200
Speaker 6: I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I

465
00:21:16,240 --> 00:21:17,840
Speaker 6: don't know too much about psychopaths.

466
00:21:17,920 --> 00:21:20,960
Speaker 3: Me because you liked me, boyfriend, because I think that

467
00:21:21,000 --> 00:21:23,639
Speaker 3: you're pretty, and I do generally think you're funny, and

468
00:21:23,680 --> 00:21:27,000
Speaker 3: your beliefs aligned with mine, and I know you very

469
00:21:27,040 --> 00:21:29,520
Speaker 3: well from when we were friends. I knew the type

470
00:21:29,520 --> 00:21:31,480
Speaker 3: of person you were and I thought wo'd be a

471
00:21:31,480 --> 00:21:33,679
Speaker 3: good match, and I was right. So you picked me

472
00:21:33,760 --> 00:21:37,960
Speaker 3: because I checked off a checklist, not because you had

473
00:21:38,119 --> 00:21:40,959
Speaker 3: like a charge crush on me, boyfriend. Yeah, at first

474
00:21:41,119 --> 00:21:44,520
Speaker 3: it was tactical, but I wouldn't have stayed with you

475
00:21:44,680 --> 00:21:48,679
Speaker 3: if I saw you as a walking tick list or

476
00:21:49,000 --> 00:21:51,920
Speaker 3: outside get bored. I'm staying with you and I plan

477
00:21:52,640 --> 00:21:55,600
Speaker 3: to marry you because I like you me. Will you

478
00:21:55,680 --> 00:21:59,119
Speaker 3: ever love me? Boyfriend? I'll do for you what a

479
00:21:59,160 --> 00:22:01,280
Speaker 3: boyfriend who loves you does me?

480
00:22:02,240 --> 00:22:02,479
Speaker 1: Is it?

481
00:22:02,480 --> 00:22:05,400
Speaker 3: Because your best interest is to keep me happy? Boyfriend?

482
00:22:06,080 --> 00:22:08,840
Speaker 3: That's what all boyfriends do. They do things to keep

483
00:22:08,880 --> 00:22:11,919
Speaker 3: their girlfriends happy because it serves them to have a

484
00:22:11,960 --> 00:22:15,080
Speaker 3: happy relationship. And I've done a good job because we

485
00:22:15,200 --> 00:22:18,320
Speaker 3: have had a happy relationship me. So do you mind

486
00:22:18,359 --> 00:22:21,480
Speaker 3: if you do that? Boyfriend? No, because you're happy, which

487
00:22:21,480 --> 00:22:24,359
Speaker 3: means I am. Because when you're pissed and impacts my

488
00:22:24,440 --> 00:22:27,480
Speaker 3: life in ways I don't want it to me. And

489
00:22:27,560 --> 00:22:31,399
Speaker 3: if I died, would you be sad? Boyfriend? That was

490
00:22:31,400 --> 00:22:35,560
Speaker 3: a dumb thing to say me. Would you boyfriend? I'd

491
00:22:35,600 --> 00:22:38,840
Speaker 3: miss you, but I wouldn't be sad in the way

492
00:22:39,000 --> 00:22:41,720
Speaker 3: you'd like me to be. Me. Do you ever care

493
00:22:41,880 --> 00:22:44,399
Speaker 3: when I'm sided? And you don't have to be sad?

494
00:22:44,560 --> 00:22:46,720
Speaker 3: Because we go live every weekday at three PMPST.

495
00:22:46,960 --> 00:22:49,760
Speaker 6: Just type our profile, tap it what in the world

496
00:22:50,600 --> 00:22:53,639
Speaker 6: both of them, both of the questioning that she's asking

497
00:22:53,800 --> 00:22:56,920
Speaker 6: is so weird. I feel like him yet, like I

498
00:22:56,960 --> 00:22:58,520
Speaker 6: feel like they're both asking like but I feel they're

499
00:22:58,520 --> 00:23:00,679
Speaker 6: both robots. I don't know this is this is a

500
00:23:00,680 --> 00:23:01,520
Speaker 6: weird conversation.

501
00:23:01,600 --> 00:23:02,120
Speaker 3: This is weird.

502
00:23:02,160 --> 00:23:04,440
Speaker 6: This is making me like not like it makes me

503
00:23:04,520 --> 00:23:05,040
Speaker 6: kind of cringe.

504
00:23:05,119 --> 00:23:07,480
Speaker 3: Yeah, it sounds like like there's a robot inside of him,

505
00:23:07,560 --> 00:23:08,879
Speaker 3: like like.

506
00:23:08,840 --> 00:23:11,159
Speaker 6: This is how emotion works, and this is what you

507
00:23:11,160 --> 00:23:14,240
Speaker 6: want to hear. That's what my programming says and data shows,

508
00:23:14,320 --> 00:23:17,720
Speaker 6: and that's what you want. It genuinely does sound sweet, though, No,

509
00:23:18,160 --> 00:23:20,680
Speaker 6: I think he's doing his best to communicate his emotions

510
00:23:20,680 --> 00:23:22,480
Speaker 6: and he understands how this is how his brain works,

511
00:23:22,680 --> 00:23:25,199
Speaker 6: and he does he has found someone he enjoys his

512
00:23:25,240 --> 00:23:28,320
Speaker 6: life with. But this questionnaire is very odd, Like this

513
00:23:28,440 --> 00:23:31,119
Speaker 6: is just a very awkward conversation, and I don't know

514
00:23:31,119 --> 00:23:33,280
Speaker 6: what's going to bothered. It's a very bothered.

515
00:23:33,400 --> 00:23:38,320
Speaker 3: Back to me. Do you ever care when I'm sad? Boyfriend? Yes,

516
00:23:38,400 --> 00:23:41,640
Speaker 3: and no, it doesn't affect me all that much if

517
00:23:41,640 --> 00:23:44,240
Speaker 3: you were sad, unless I know it's going to impact me.

518
00:23:44,800 --> 00:23:47,160
Speaker 3: But I don't like to see you cry. But whether

519
00:23:47,240 --> 00:23:50,600
Speaker 3: I've made you cry or something else hasn't mattered to me.

520
00:23:51,000 --> 00:23:53,440
Speaker 3: I just don't like to see it me. Thanks, who

521
00:23:53,440 --> 00:23:57,600
Speaker 3: else knows? Boyfriend, my parents? That's it me. I want

522
00:23:58,000 --> 00:24:00,240
Speaker 3: I want time to thank this over now, boyfriend friend,

523
00:24:00,640 --> 00:24:03,640
Speaker 3: I'm not going to wait forever me okay. And that's

524
00:24:03,640 --> 00:24:06,200
Speaker 3: how it pretty much went. I have an excellent memory,

525
00:24:06,359 --> 00:24:09,240
Speaker 3: so this is pretty much word for word. Look, based

526
00:24:09,280 --> 00:24:11,920
Speaker 3: off of this conversation, I think I'd like to stay

527
00:24:11,920 --> 00:24:15,480
Speaker 3: with him. But those reading this message who may spotted

528
00:24:15,560 --> 00:24:18,840
Speaker 3: red flags, please do tell me. And that's the end

529
00:24:18,840 --> 00:24:20,679
Speaker 3: of it. I'm gonna I'm gonna track and say if

530
00:24:20,680 --> 00:24:21,480
Speaker 3: there's anyone.

531
00:24:21,280 --> 00:24:23,359
Speaker 6: Look, okay, okay, the fact that he's told you that

532
00:24:23,359 --> 00:24:26,200
Speaker 6: he's a psychopath and only two people know that are

533
00:24:26,280 --> 00:24:29,120
Speaker 6: his parents, that's a very big thing. So he does

534
00:24:29,280 --> 00:24:33,439
Speaker 6: genuinely care. It does seem like the boyfriend genuinely cares

535
00:24:33,960 --> 00:24:36,120
Speaker 6: for op It's deleted.

536
00:24:36,640 --> 00:24:37,400
Speaker 3: It's deleted.

537
00:24:37,560 --> 00:24:39,240
Speaker 6: She's gone, she's gone to she's gone.

538
00:24:40,240 --> 00:24:43,000
Speaker 3: I confuse, guys in the comments, explain to us the

539
00:24:43,040 --> 00:24:44,120
Speaker 3: red flags that you saw.

540
00:24:44,400 --> 00:24:47,800
Speaker 6: I mean, the red flag is oh, Opie says, if

541
00:24:47,840 --> 00:24:52,000
Speaker 6: I passed away, how would you feel? He and he

542
00:24:52,040 --> 00:24:55,280
Speaker 6: says sad, but not to the to the degree of

543
00:24:55,359 --> 00:24:57,399
Speaker 6: like super sad. But I don't I don't know. I

544
00:24:57,440 --> 00:24:58,960
Speaker 6: don't know if he's telling the truth there, because maybe

545
00:24:58,960 --> 00:25:01,520
Speaker 6: he just doesn't know how lost works. It doesn't it

546
00:25:01,520 --> 00:25:04,160
Speaker 6: doesn't hit you until that person is actually like, gone.

547
00:25:04,080 --> 00:25:06,040
Speaker 3: Pretty strange. I'd be treading with Ratt.

548
00:25:06,520 --> 00:25:11,719
Speaker 6: This is definitely treading water carefully because again he's admitted

549
00:25:11,720 --> 00:25:13,639
Speaker 6: that he's a psychopath. But the thing, he's like, I

550
00:25:13,680 --> 00:25:16,600
Speaker 6: want to be real with you because I like you,

551
00:25:16,880 --> 00:25:19,720
Speaker 6: So he does like, Ope, this is just very odd. Again,

552
00:25:19,840 --> 00:25:22,800
Speaker 6: like we said earlier, Yeah, I don't know. This is

553
00:25:22,880 --> 00:25:24,760
Speaker 6: not for me, not for me, but if you can

554
00:25:24,800 --> 00:25:26,560
Speaker 6: figure it out, yeah, let us know in the comments

555
00:25:26,560 --> 00:25:28,880
Speaker 6: because I can't wrap my head around how this conversation went.

556
00:25:28,920 --> 00:25:33,240
Speaker 6: And then she op was like this is fine, I guess,

557
00:25:33,920 --> 00:25:38,040
Speaker 6: and he's like, this is fine. I guess. Wild that's

558
00:25:38,040 --> 00:25:40,399
Speaker 6: a weird that was a weird that that found like

559
00:25:40,440 --> 00:25:41,320
Speaker 6: a horror movie.

560
00:25:41,400 --> 00:25:44,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, oh, that's the end of the episode.

561
00:25:45,160 --> 00:25:49,400
Speaker 6: My girlfriend wants me to evict my roommate because he's trans.

562
00:25:49,920 --> 00:25:52,440
Speaker 6: I twenty two male have a roommate. Let's call him

563
00:25:52,600 --> 00:25:55,720
Speaker 6: Alex male twenty three who moved in about six months ago.

564
00:25:56,040 --> 00:25:59,439
Speaker 6: I honestly never considered Alex to be trans, not that

565
00:25:59,480 --> 00:26:02,440
Speaker 6: I would care he was, but that's not the issue.

566
00:26:02,480 --> 00:26:04,560
Speaker 6: He is a short guy and probably under one hundred

567
00:26:04,560 --> 00:26:07,920
Speaker 6: and sixty five centimeters five five to five keon size

568
00:26:08,160 --> 00:26:10,760
Speaker 6: five to seven, but yes my size, has a lot

569
00:26:10,800 --> 00:26:13,280
Speaker 6: of facial hair muscles, and looks a lot like a

570
00:26:13,320 --> 00:26:16,240
Speaker 6: short Henry Cavill in my opinion, m okay. No one

571
00:26:16,240 --> 00:26:19,040
Speaker 6: I know has ever brought this idea before. I've had

572
00:26:19,080 --> 00:26:21,760
Speaker 6: many friends and family at our apartment and they've never

573
00:26:21,760 --> 00:26:23,679
Speaker 6: said anything. This is really the part that gets to

574
00:26:23,680 --> 00:26:26,119
Speaker 6: me because my mom is extremely against any gay people,

575
00:26:26,200 --> 00:26:28,200
Speaker 6: and if she sends anything was up, she would have

576
00:26:28,280 --> 00:26:30,720
Speaker 6: caused problems right away. By the way, this comes from

577
00:26:30,840 --> 00:26:33,239
Speaker 6: user used your name on on the r slasho Ky

578
00:26:33,280 --> 00:26:36,640
Speaker 6: Storytime suppered it. So Alex and I get along. We're polite,

579
00:26:36,680 --> 00:26:40,439
Speaker 6: but not really friends. He's quiet, but again super polite.

580
00:26:40,920 --> 00:26:43,280
Speaker 6: He always pays rent on time, helps with the chores,

581
00:26:43,480 --> 00:26:45,800
Speaker 6: and even shares his cooking with me. I appreciate having

582
00:26:45,840 --> 00:26:48,800
Speaker 6: him around, especially because my last three roommates were each

583
00:26:48,960 --> 00:26:51,639
Speaker 6: their own horror story. The issue came up with my

584
00:26:51,800 --> 00:26:55,320
Speaker 6: girlfriend let's call her Sarah female twenty eight. She came

585
00:26:55,359 --> 00:26:59,240
Speaker 6: over one day Alex was shirtless. To clarify, I forgot

586
00:26:59,240 --> 00:27:01,960
Speaker 6: to tell Alex she was coming over and she noticed

587
00:27:02,000 --> 00:27:04,679
Speaker 6: the scars on his chest. After that, she was quiet

588
00:27:04,720 --> 00:27:08,040
Speaker 6: and short with me with her entire stay there. When

589
00:27:08,040 --> 00:27:10,680
Speaker 6: she got home, she blew up my phone asking why

590
00:27:10,680 --> 00:27:14,520
Speaker 6: I had a female living with me. I was confused

591
00:27:14,600 --> 00:27:17,840
Speaker 6: and asked what she was on about. She says that

592
00:27:17,880 --> 00:27:21,040
Speaker 6: she knows that his scars are from top surgery and

593
00:27:21,080 --> 00:27:23,640
Speaker 6: that he is a short. That he is short, so

594
00:27:23,680 --> 00:27:26,440
Speaker 6: he has to be trans or be born a female.

595
00:27:26,520 --> 00:27:28,720
Speaker 6: I tried to explain that even if it Alex is

596
00:27:28,840 --> 00:27:32,040
Speaker 6: trans or born female, that there's no way I'd be

597
00:27:32,040 --> 00:27:34,600
Speaker 6: attracted to him because to any person who looked at him,

598
00:27:34,800 --> 00:27:38,040
Speaker 6: you would see a freaking guy. Plus, he's respectful and

599
00:27:38,119 --> 00:27:40,840
Speaker 6: doesn't cause drama like my last roommates, which again she

600
00:27:40,920 --> 00:27:41,359
Speaker 6: knows about.

601
00:27:41,520 --> 00:27:43,080
Speaker 3: Yeah that's nice, no drama.

602
00:27:43,280 --> 00:27:46,000
Speaker 6: Oh man, what's wrong here? Is? What is the what

603
00:27:46,080 --> 00:27:46,920
Speaker 6: is the problem here?

604
00:27:47,160 --> 00:27:47,720
Speaker 3: Yeah?

605
00:27:47,800 --> 00:27:49,760
Speaker 6: Yeah, Alex, I mean it hasn't been stated.

606
00:27:49,960 --> 00:27:52,360
Speaker 3: It seems like the home life girlfriend maybe a little

607
00:27:52,480 --> 00:27:53,120
Speaker 3: jealous here.

608
00:27:54,040 --> 00:27:56,760
Speaker 6: Just to be clear, I honestly still have no idea

609
00:27:56,800 --> 00:27:59,480
Speaker 6: if Alex is even trans, so we don't even.

610
00:27:59,320 --> 00:28:01,320
Speaker 3: Know for her, not even dred percent.

611
00:28:01,440 --> 00:28:04,000
Speaker 6: So the girlfriend is just jumping to conclusions. And that's

612
00:28:04,040 --> 00:28:06,440
Speaker 6: the worst part. I googled it, and those scars could

613
00:28:06,440 --> 00:28:10,160
Speaker 6: be from some other surgery, like heart surgery or something

614
00:28:10,160 --> 00:28:12,320
Speaker 6: along those lines. And I really don't have an argument

615
00:28:12,359 --> 00:28:14,119
Speaker 6: for him being short, but there is a lot of

616
00:28:14,160 --> 00:28:16,919
Speaker 6: short men. Hi. At first, Sarah wanted me to just

617
00:28:16,960 --> 00:28:19,639
Speaker 6: ask Alex if he was trans, which why the f

618
00:28:19,720 --> 00:28:21,920
Speaker 6: would I do that? Or give her his last name

619
00:28:21,960 --> 00:28:24,040
Speaker 6: so she can run a background check. Oh whoa, I

620
00:28:24,080 --> 00:28:25,280
Speaker 6: said no to both.

621
00:28:25,560 --> 00:28:26,200
Speaker 3: Kind of creepy.

622
00:28:26,280 --> 00:28:29,040
Speaker 6: That's very odd. Then she said this was a violation

623
00:28:29,119 --> 00:28:31,640
Speaker 6: of trust and that if I didn't either find out

624
00:28:31,680 --> 00:28:34,760
Speaker 6: if Alex is trans and kick him out or just

625
00:28:34,840 --> 00:28:37,760
Speaker 6: kick him out, that she would have to reevaluate things.

626
00:28:38,080 --> 00:28:42,640
Speaker 6: Whoa basically threatening to break up should reevaluate?

627
00:28:42,680 --> 00:28:43,960
Speaker 3: How joeus who are right now?

628
00:28:44,120 --> 00:28:45,240
Speaker 6: This is very stupid?

629
00:28:45,640 --> 00:28:46,520
Speaker 3: Yeah, this is weird.

630
00:28:47,120 --> 00:28:51,040
Speaker 6: I said, I don't do ultimatums and that we're done.

631
00:28:51,440 --> 00:28:55,800
Speaker 3: Nice wow boundaries, Right then, that's fair.

632
00:28:55,920 --> 00:28:59,160
Speaker 6: Since then, she's been messaging me every single day for

633
00:28:59,280 --> 00:29:01,840
Speaker 6: over two weeks, even after I blocked her on everything

634
00:29:02,160 --> 00:29:04,680
Speaker 6: because she wouldn't leave me alone, pissed that I want

635
00:29:04,720 --> 00:29:06,760
Speaker 6: to do this small thing for her. She considered this

636
00:29:06,800 --> 00:29:07,480
Speaker 6: a small thing.

637
00:29:07,640 --> 00:29:08,560
Speaker 3: Ah.

638
00:29:08,680 --> 00:29:12,280
Speaker 6: She ranges from are you effing him? Let's just talk?

639
00:29:12,760 --> 00:29:14,880
Speaker 6: Why can't you at least give me closure and ask him?

640
00:29:15,120 --> 00:29:17,080
Speaker 3: Whoa? All over the place.

641
00:29:16,960 --> 00:29:19,920
Speaker 6: It's yeah, to the most recent her telling our mutual

642
00:29:19,960 --> 00:29:22,840
Speaker 6: friend about the situation. Our friend wants nothing a part

643
00:29:22,880 --> 00:29:25,560
Speaker 6: of this crap show. I didn't feel bad at first,

644
00:29:25,960 --> 00:29:28,640
Speaker 6: but after talking about it online, I've had some people

645
00:29:28,640 --> 00:29:30,560
Speaker 6: say I should have just asked my roommate if he

646
00:29:30,760 --> 00:29:33,440
Speaker 6: was indeed trance, just to keep the peace. What No?

647
00:29:33,880 --> 00:29:36,520
Speaker 3: Then if it was a yes, so it just gotten even.

648
00:29:36,280 --> 00:29:39,000
Speaker 6: Worse, Yeah it would, then she would have used it

649
00:29:39,040 --> 00:29:41,680
Speaker 6: against you. Oh yeah yeah. Or I shouldn't have essentially

650
00:29:41,720 --> 00:29:44,840
Speaker 6: picked my roommate who I've only had about six months

651
00:29:45,000 --> 00:29:48,040
Speaker 6: over my girlfriend of five years five years. I didn't

652
00:29:48,040 --> 00:29:49,760
Speaker 6: even know that was a five yearue relationship. But this

653
00:29:49,800 --> 00:29:50,760
Speaker 6: is what drew the line.

654
00:29:51,240 --> 00:29:54,000
Speaker 3: I guess there has to be other red flags.

655
00:29:54,080 --> 00:29:54,840
Speaker 6: This is very after.

656
00:29:55,000 --> 00:29:56,959
Speaker 3: We're gonna get an update. I guarantee you're gonna get

657
00:29:56,960 --> 00:29:59,160
Speaker 3: an update. We're gonna be like, actually, there's some other

658
00:29:59,200 --> 00:30:01,360
Speaker 3: things that I've noticed about her. That's what's gonna happen.

659
00:30:01,480 --> 00:30:04,440
Speaker 6: Yeah, but nonetheless, this is the way the girlfriend's got

660
00:30:04,480 --> 00:30:07,760
Speaker 6: Sarah is going about this is really crappy. Yeah, I

661
00:30:07,800 --> 00:30:11,640
Speaker 6: wonder if I'm being unreasonable. I legitimately do not see

662
00:30:12,040 --> 00:30:15,280
Speaker 6: how any straight dude could find Alex attractive. Okay, that's

663
00:30:15,320 --> 00:30:16,920
Speaker 6: a little it's a little rough.

664
00:30:17,080 --> 00:30:21,800
Speaker 3: Well, straight dude, straight dude founding another dude attractive.

665
00:30:21,880 --> 00:30:25,479
Speaker 6: I mean, I've Henry Cavill's attractive. Yeah, I'm not saying like,

666
00:30:25,600 --> 00:30:27,800
Speaker 6: oh yeah, I want him. I'm just saying, like he's attractive. Guy.

667
00:30:27,880 --> 00:30:29,840
Speaker 3: Well, I guess from me, he's just trying to see

668
00:30:29,960 --> 00:30:33,920
Speaker 3: the logic. Yeah, think logically, he's like, what, there's no way, like,

669
00:30:34,000 --> 00:30:36,600
Speaker 3: as a straight guy, I'm not gonna find another dude attracted.

670
00:30:36,640 --> 00:30:38,160
Speaker 6: Okay, Okay, yeah, I see what you're saying. I see

671
00:30:38,160 --> 00:30:40,080
Speaker 6: what you're saying. But maybe I should have done something

672
00:30:40,200 --> 00:30:42,840
Speaker 6: just to keep the peace. And there is an update.

673
00:30:42,960 --> 00:30:45,240
Speaker 6: I got advice saying to be upfront and tell him

674
00:30:45,280 --> 00:30:48,520
Speaker 6: what's up, completely hide the transport, and that I should

675
00:30:48,800 --> 00:30:51,440
Speaker 6: just shouldn't tell him. I don't know if this was

676
00:30:51,520 --> 00:30:54,520
Speaker 6: the right thing, but I just told him, because once

677
00:30:54,560 --> 00:30:57,000
Speaker 6: I was face to face with him, I couldn't really help,

678
00:30:57,040 --> 00:30:59,520
Speaker 6: but do it m M. To clarify, I did not

679
00:30:59,600 --> 00:31:03,040
Speaker 6: ask him about his scars or mentioned that specifically. Okay,

680
00:31:03,160 --> 00:31:06,000
Speaker 6: I said my ex girlfriend. My ex girlfriend was under

681
00:31:06,000 --> 00:31:09,080
Speaker 6: the impression he was a transperson. Made sure to say

682
00:31:09,120 --> 00:31:11,240
Speaker 6: I didn't care if he was or wasn't, and that

683
00:31:11,360 --> 00:31:14,560
Speaker 6: I broke things off, changed the gate codes, put her

684
00:31:14,600 --> 00:31:18,240
Speaker 6: on the do not let enlist all that drama. Before

685
00:31:18,280 --> 00:31:21,960
Speaker 6: even saying anything, he asked if I was okay. Like

686
00:31:22,040 --> 00:31:24,720
Speaker 6: I said, he is a chill dude. He also not

687
00:31:24,840 --> 00:31:28,200
Speaker 6: so subtly asked the same questions that a lot of

688
00:31:28,200 --> 00:31:31,160
Speaker 6: comments asked, especially if I was in an abusive situation.

689
00:31:32,080 --> 00:31:34,160
Speaker 6: I told him I don't know, but whatever kind of

690
00:31:34,200 --> 00:31:36,400
Speaker 6: situation it was, it's over.

691
00:31:36,680 --> 00:31:37,080
Speaker 4: Nice.

692
00:31:37,400 --> 00:31:39,440
Speaker 6: Good for OP. At the end, I really appreciate OPI

693
00:31:39,560 --> 00:31:42,360
Speaker 6: like you're doing ultimatums. I'm done with you.

694
00:31:42,560 --> 00:31:43,120
Speaker 3: Yeah.

695
00:31:43,200 --> 00:31:45,400
Speaker 6: The thing that really kind of efft with me is

696
00:31:45,440 --> 00:31:48,239
Speaker 6: that he called me his best friend. Oh wow, I

697
00:31:48,280 --> 00:31:50,840
Speaker 6: regret not saying we were close in other comments. I

698
00:31:50,920 --> 00:31:53,920
Speaker 6: realized now we have different definitions of close because he

699
00:31:54,040 --> 00:31:57,360
Speaker 6: is introverted and I'm not. We talked about irrelevant stuff

700
00:31:57,400 --> 00:32:00,280
Speaker 6: for a while, and then the question came up, would

701
00:32:00,320 --> 00:32:04,760
Speaker 6: you care if I was trans? To summarize things, yes,

702
00:32:05,120 --> 00:32:09,240
Speaker 6: Alex is trans masculine. He had top surgery when he

703
00:32:09,280 --> 00:32:12,240
Speaker 6: was nineteen and has been on hormone since he was eighteen.

704
00:32:12,480 --> 00:32:15,160
Speaker 6: He even has a tattoo with the date he started testosterone.

705
00:32:15,200 --> 00:32:17,640
Speaker 6: While the idea that he could have been a dude

706
00:32:17,680 --> 00:32:22,120
Speaker 6: with guyno cancer or something else is completely reasonable, it

707
00:32:22,320 --> 00:32:25,120
Speaker 6: just happens that Alex is trans, and I don't care

708
00:32:25,160 --> 00:32:28,840
Speaker 6: about that. Alex is Alex. I did show him the

709
00:32:28,880 --> 00:32:31,520
Speaker 6: post to get and got permission to update things, Okay,

710
00:32:31,680 --> 00:32:34,400
Speaker 6: I would have not otherwise. He is also running this

711
00:32:34,440 --> 00:32:37,240
Speaker 6: post somewhere but probably won't comment. Alex is going to

712
00:32:37,240 --> 00:32:39,640
Speaker 6: help me out with finding some low cost or pay

713
00:32:39,640 --> 00:32:42,480
Speaker 6: scale therapy because he personally hasn't heard good things about

714
00:32:42,520 --> 00:32:46,400
Speaker 6: the collegeist therapy services like everyone else has said. Yes,

715
00:32:46,720 --> 00:32:51,160
Speaker 6: it was abuse, Oh wow, wow, So he Opie was

716
00:32:51,200 --> 00:32:53,360
Speaker 6: an abusive relationship because I guess she was just very

717
00:32:53,400 --> 00:32:59,160
Speaker 6: demanding and oh boy, Opie says, I see that. I

718
00:32:59,160 --> 00:33:01,720
Speaker 6: will also hold high your standards for myself in the future.

719
00:33:02,480 --> 00:33:04,959
Speaker 6: Alex sent me the information for the therapist he sees

720
00:33:05,120 --> 00:33:07,680
Speaker 6: and I'll contact them in the morning. The landlord knows

721
00:33:07,760 --> 00:33:10,320
Speaker 6: there is a domestic incident, and I trust him when

722
00:33:10,360 --> 00:33:13,160
Speaker 6: it comes to making sure my ex doesn't show up.

723
00:33:14,040 --> 00:33:16,320
Speaker 6: That do not allow list was made in mind for

724
00:33:16,400 --> 00:33:19,120
Speaker 6: this reason. I'm not ready to talk about my mom

725
00:33:19,200 --> 00:33:22,400
Speaker 6: about this or just yet, but I hope with some

726
00:33:22,480 --> 00:33:25,840
Speaker 6: therapy and time I will be. She knows something is

727
00:33:25,920 --> 00:33:28,360
Speaker 6: going on, but she believes this is a break and

728
00:33:28,440 --> 00:33:31,680
Speaker 6: not a break up. Ooh ope, he's just getting all

729
00:33:31,720 --> 00:33:34,120
Speaker 6: of it. This is a storm of just like a

730
00:33:34,160 --> 00:33:35,040
Speaker 6: lot of realization.

731
00:33:35,280 --> 00:33:37,200
Speaker 3: Yeah, whenever you're in a I mean it sounds like

732
00:33:37,200 --> 00:33:40,000
Speaker 3: they're in college, in a five year relationship. That young.

733
00:33:40,120 --> 00:33:41,160
Speaker 3: This is part of who you are.

734
00:33:41,440 --> 00:33:45,760
Speaker 6: Yeah, that is a piece of you. And knowing that

735
00:33:45,800 --> 00:33:50,120
Speaker 6: this was a very abusive is very hard to come

736
00:33:50,160 --> 00:33:53,120
Speaker 6: to terms with. Sorry if this sounds like rambling, it is.

737
00:33:54,280 --> 00:33:56,640
Speaker 6: This has been a rough couple of weeks. My brain

738
00:33:56,800 --> 00:33:59,960
Speaker 6: is fried and I'm tired. Keep in mind, I'm still

739
00:34:00,080 --> 00:34:02,920
Speaker 6: full time student during this right, Like you said, Riley,

740
00:34:03,600 --> 00:34:06,760
Speaker 6: I also have to keep my grades up for my grants, scholarships,

741
00:34:06,800 --> 00:34:10,359
Speaker 6: government aid, et cetera. Oh wow, I do read all

742
00:34:10,440 --> 00:34:13,560
Speaker 6: the comments even though not so good ones. I will

743
00:34:13,560 --> 00:34:16,200
Speaker 6: try to respond more before I sleep tonight, but just know,

744
00:34:16,520 --> 00:34:19,200
Speaker 6: even if I don't reply, I have read it. I

745
00:34:19,239 --> 00:34:22,480
Speaker 6: appreciate all the advice, kicks in the rear and the sympathy.

746
00:34:22,560 --> 00:34:24,560
Speaker 6: A side note, I have seen a lot of trans

747
00:34:24,600 --> 00:34:26,839
Speaker 6: people comment on this post, and I've had a few

748
00:34:26,880 --> 00:34:29,080
Speaker 6: reach out to me in private. I'm thankful for your

749
00:34:29,120 --> 00:34:31,600
Speaker 6: comments as well. It has brought to my attention how

750
00:34:31,600 --> 00:34:34,680
Speaker 6: tough things are out there, because I honestly felt what

751
00:34:34,760 --> 00:34:37,000
Speaker 6: I did was the bare minimum and not worthy of

752
00:34:37,000 --> 00:34:39,920
Speaker 6: praise because it should just be expected. But I see

753
00:34:39,960 --> 00:34:42,120
Speaker 6: that it is being praise for how low a Barther

754
00:34:42,400 --> 00:34:45,360
Speaker 6: is when it comes to human decency towards you, And

755
00:34:45,400 --> 00:34:48,040
Speaker 6: I'm sorry for that and I hope things get better.

756
00:34:48,200 --> 00:34:48,920
Speaker 6: There's a second up.

757
00:34:49,200 --> 00:34:52,200
Speaker 3: Okay, wow, this was so this was like.

758
00:34:52,200 --> 00:34:56,000
Speaker 6: This update just seem like op is coming to realization. Yeah,

759
00:34:56,040 --> 00:34:57,040
Speaker 6: what is going on?

760
00:34:57,400 --> 00:34:57,920
Speaker 3: Yeah?

761
00:34:57,960 --> 00:35:01,040
Speaker 6: And it's just like whoa big woe moment for her.

762
00:35:01,120 --> 00:35:03,640
Speaker 3: The only villain here is the girlfriend, Yeah, and I'm

763
00:35:03,640 --> 00:35:05,360
Speaker 3: glad that's the only drama.

764
00:35:05,520 --> 00:35:09,160
Speaker 6: Yeah. No, and the mom. The mom is a I

765
00:35:09,200 --> 00:35:10,640
Speaker 6: hope the mom isn't going to be a villain in

766
00:35:10,640 --> 00:35:13,560
Speaker 6: the future, but it seems like it's going to happen. Yeah,

767
00:35:14,040 --> 00:35:17,000
Speaker 6: sooner or later, which sucks because the mom is very

768
00:35:17,000 --> 00:35:22,760
Speaker 6: anti just LGBTQA, so that really is annoying. He realizes

769
00:35:22,800 --> 00:35:25,719
Speaker 6: I was in a bad situation and now you're making

770
00:35:25,719 --> 00:35:27,719
Speaker 6: a good friend out of this. You're getting closer with

771
00:35:27,760 --> 00:35:30,440
Speaker 6: your roommate. Update number two. I talked to the therapist.

772
00:35:30,520 --> 00:35:33,160
Speaker 6: Alex recommended. Normally I would be on the wait list

773
00:35:33,239 --> 00:35:36,160
Speaker 6: until January, but due to the situation, the therapist referred

774
00:35:36,239 --> 00:35:38,839
Speaker 6: me to one of his associates and I'll be seen

775
00:35:38,880 --> 00:35:40,120
Speaker 6: as early as next week.

776
00:35:40,320 --> 00:35:40,840
Speaker 3: Nice.

777
00:35:41,040 --> 00:35:43,840
Speaker 6: I was also recommended to attend to domestic violence support

778
00:35:43,880 --> 00:35:46,239
Speaker 6: group that gathers once a month. I was originally not

779
00:35:46,360 --> 00:35:49,319
Speaker 6: going to go because the idea was uncomfortable as f

780
00:35:49,480 --> 00:35:52,520
Speaker 6: but Alex said he'll go with me. Wow, so at

781
00:35:52,600 --> 00:35:54,520
Speaker 6: least I'll know someone there and we can leave if

782
00:35:54,560 --> 00:35:59,120
Speaker 6: it's too weird for me. My mom is aware of

783
00:35:59,160 --> 00:36:02,000
Speaker 6: the breakup. She is not too happy. I did not

784
00:36:02,120 --> 00:36:04,840
Speaker 6: mention the transpart. I said that Sarah was being controlling

785
00:36:04,880 --> 00:36:06,520
Speaker 6: and I didn't want to put up with it anymore.

786
00:36:06,680 --> 00:36:10,879
Speaker 6: I got the usual that's a normal part of any relationship. Sweetie. Oh,

787
00:36:10,920 --> 00:36:14,040
Speaker 6: no comments, but I stood my ground. My mom seems

788
00:36:14,080 --> 00:36:16,279
Speaker 6: to be under the same delusion as Sarah that this

789
00:36:16,400 --> 00:36:18,680
Speaker 6: is a small argument or something and we will get

790
00:36:18,719 --> 00:36:22,720
Speaker 6: back together. But that is absolutely not happening. Mm hmm, Bye, Sarah.

791
00:36:22,800 --> 00:36:24,680
Speaker 6: I don't really talk to Sarah's mom, so I don't

792
00:36:24,680 --> 00:36:26,839
Speaker 6: know her thoughts on the matter. The landlord is aware

793
00:36:26,840 --> 00:36:29,720
Speaker 6: of the situation and will not let Sarah in. Nice

794
00:36:29,920 --> 00:36:31,880
Speaker 6: if you don't have the get code, you don't have

795
00:36:31,920 --> 00:36:34,400
Speaker 6: to go to the main office, and the employee landlord's

796
00:36:34,400 --> 00:36:36,800
Speaker 6: son will buzz the person in if they are accepted

797
00:36:36,880 --> 00:36:39,680
Speaker 6: on the person list, and call the tenant and ask

798
00:36:39,760 --> 00:36:42,120
Speaker 6: if they aren't on the list. So there's so many

799
00:36:42,440 --> 00:36:45,799
Speaker 6: failsafes got it, I got it. If the individual is

800
00:36:45,920 --> 00:36:48,279
Speaker 6: on the do not let in list, especially if it

801
00:36:48,280 --> 00:36:50,799
Speaker 6: involves a criminal matter, they will be asked to leave.

802
00:36:51,120 --> 00:36:53,759
Speaker 6: If they don't leave, then it becomes trespassing. I know

803
00:36:53,840 --> 00:36:55,759
Speaker 6: this sounds like a lot, but the security is why

804
00:36:55,760 --> 00:36:58,560
Speaker 6: a lot of people live here. Notes after reading some comments,

805
00:36:58,760 --> 00:37:01,720
Speaker 6: I am sorry for trivialized my abuse. It still feels

806
00:37:01,719 --> 00:37:04,680
Speaker 6: weird to say abuse, but I do not know that

807
00:37:04,800 --> 00:37:08,840
Speaker 6: it is abuse. Slapping, pushing and shoving is physical abuse,

808
00:37:09,360 --> 00:37:11,600
Speaker 6: and if another person came up and told me their

809
00:37:11,640 --> 00:37:14,279
Speaker 6: partner was doing that, I would call it abuse. It's

810
00:37:14,320 --> 00:37:16,399
Speaker 6: not that I don't think women can be abusive, but

811
00:37:16,560 --> 00:37:18,839
Speaker 6: as I said in one of the comments, I don't

812
00:37:18,920 --> 00:37:21,840
Speaker 6: view it as abuse when it's towards me. This is

813
00:37:21,880 --> 00:37:24,080
Speaker 6: probably due to being abused by my mom.

814
00:37:24,400 --> 00:37:27,720
Speaker 3: Oh no ah, that's so.

815
00:37:27,719 --> 00:37:31,040
Speaker 6: Sad, which I'm going to get help for. For reference,

816
00:37:31,080 --> 00:37:33,680
Speaker 6: when I mentioned my mom's abuse, it's why I'm low

817
00:37:33,719 --> 00:37:36,640
Speaker 6: contact with her. The reason why I was extremely underweight

818
00:37:36,680 --> 00:37:39,000
Speaker 6: as a kid is because she just straight up didn't

819
00:37:39,000 --> 00:37:42,080
Speaker 6: feed me a lot of the time. Child Protection Services

820
00:37:42,120 --> 00:37:45,640
Speaker 6: got called a lot, but never did anything. They also

821
00:37:45,719 --> 00:37:47,920
Speaker 6: didn't take any claims by my teachers that I was

822
00:37:47,960 --> 00:37:51,239
Speaker 6: being abused as credible because there were no marks or bruises,

823
00:37:51,480 --> 00:37:56,720
Speaker 6: which has warped my view on abuse. Whoa whoa, whoa whoa? Okay,

824
00:37:56,800 --> 00:38:00,359
Speaker 6: Opie is this is just this was like one tiny

825
00:38:00,440 --> 00:38:05,640
Speaker 6: argument to like the most eye opening realization therapeutic thing

826
00:38:05,680 --> 00:38:07,440
Speaker 6: that He's like, I got it with therapy. My mom

827
00:38:07,480 --> 00:38:09,680
Speaker 6: was abusive, but like I never saw that as like

828
00:38:09,719 --> 00:38:13,360
Speaker 6: a thing. Now I'm like, this is all eye opening.

829
00:38:13,400 --> 00:38:14,279
Speaker 6: Holy holy crap.

830
00:38:14,400 --> 00:38:16,600
Speaker 3: This is crazy going forward.

831
00:38:16,920 --> 00:38:19,239
Speaker 6: If I date again, then I won't put up with

832
00:38:19,280 --> 00:38:21,520
Speaker 6: any physical or verbal.

833
00:38:21,239 --> 00:38:22,560
Speaker 3: Abuse as you should have.

834
00:38:22,880 --> 00:38:24,799
Speaker 6: You know, no one should ever put up with that.

835
00:38:25,480 --> 00:38:27,560
Speaker 6: A couple of comments helped by saying that if I

836
00:38:27,680 --> 00:38:30,160
Speaker 6: was confused on it was if it was wrong to

837
00:38:30,200 --> 00:38:32,600
Speaker 6: think about if another person was going through it and

838
00:38:32,760 --> 00:38:33,800
Speaker 6: put yourself in their shoes.

839
00:38:33,880 --> 00:38:34,840
Speaker 3: Hmmm, that's smart.

840
00:38:34,880 --> 00:38:37,360
Speaker 6: That's really smart, which has been helpful in what I

841
00:38:37,400 --> 00:38:40,400
Speaker 6: feel is right and wrong treatment towards me or you know,

842
00:38:40,440 --> 00:38:44,240
Speaker 6: what's at least rights that joining us live three pm

843
00:38:44,320 --> 00:38:48,040
Speaker 6: PST every weekday. Just tap our profile, tippy tap tap,

844
00:38:48,360 --> 00:38:49,080
Speaker 6: tipp tap tap.

845
00:38:49,239 --> 00:38:53,640
Speaker 3: Dang, that is kind of crazy, how one like this

846
00:38:53,680 --> 00:38:55,719
Speaker 3: breakup was probably the best thing that could ever happen

847
00:38:55,719 --> 00:38:56,680
Speaker 3: to you in your life.

848
00:38:56,440 --> 00:39:00,399
Speaker 6: One hundred percent. It sucks that there's so much I said,

849
00:39:00,400 --> 00:39:03,799
Speaker 6: it's a big just cloud of like a whoa. But

850
00:39:04,360 --> 00:39:07,400
Speaker 6: great for OP and great that you have at least

851
00:39:07,600 --> 00:39:10,399
Speaker 6: your roommate Alex supporting you a.

852
00:39:10,400 --> 00:39:12,080
Speaker 3: Huge healing journey ahead of you.

853
00:39:12,200 --> 00:39:14,360
Speaker 6: After a lot of talking, it turns out Alex and

854
00:39:14,360 --> 00:39:17,879
Speaker 6: I have been friends this whole time, but because I've

855
00:39:17,880 --> 00:39:21,279
Speaker 6: never had an introvert friend before, I didn't exactly realize.

856
00:39:22,280 --> 00:39:24,399
Speaker 6: Alex says he didn't want to annoy me by trying

857
00:39:24,440 --> 00:39:26,600
Speaker 6: to chat with me all the time, which ironically is

858
00:39:26,640 --> 00:39:29,440
Speaker 6: what I was feeling. Now we're going to hang out

859
00:39:29,480 --> 00:39:31,120
Speaker 6: more and he's trying to get me to join a

860
00:39:31,239 --> 00:39:35,960
Speaker 6: D and D campaign. He is in. Let's wow, and

861
00:39:36,000 --> 00:39:38,759
Speaker 6: that's the end of the story. Let's go, okay, so Op,

862
00:39:39,280 --> 00:39:43,000
Speaker 6: you deserve like a hug. Yeah, yeah, you deserve a

863
00:39:43,160 --> 00:39:47,200
Speaker 6: r nrtual hug. There's no advice needed you. You again,

864
00:39:47,320 --> 00:39:49,239
Speaker 6: you have to have a conversation with your mom sooner

865
00:39:49,360 --> 00:39:51,799
Speaker 6: or later. I mean, the trance thing. I don't think

866
00:39:51,800 --> 00:39:53,359
Speaker 6: it has to come up if it unmust, if it

867
00:39:53,400 --> 00:39:56,600
Speaker 6: needs to come up. Yeah, but you're already low contact

868
00:39:56,600 --> 00:39:58,279
Speaker 6: with your mom. You know what she did as you

869
00:39:58,440 --> 00:40:02,000
Speaker 6: with your childhood. He doesn't, you know, deserve to talk

870
00:40:02,040 --> 00:40:05,640
Speaker 6: to you almost if you want to do that. But

871
00:40:05,760 --> 00:40:08,080
Speaker 6: you're doing things that are good for you. D and

872
00:40:08,160 --> 00:40:12,319
Speaker 6: d's great. You have again a really tight knit relationship

873
00:40:12,360 --> 00:40:15,120
Speaker 6: with Alex. There's no comments on this. It looks like

874
00:40:15,320 --> 00:40:17,799
Speaker 6: it looks like it just you know, it's just a process.

875
00:40:18,040 --> 00:40:20,280
Speaker 3: There we go, and that's the end of that story.

876
00:40:20,360 --> 00:40:21,680
Speaker 6: Is the end of that story. So we'll get to

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00:40:21,719 --> 00:40:23,560
Speaker 6: you guys at the next one.

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00:40:23,680 --> 00:40:24,919
Speaker 1: Hey, it's Sam, your og host.

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00:40:24,960 --> 00:40:25,080
Speaker 6: Here.

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00:40:25,080 --> 00:40:26,640
Speaker 1: We're gonna get back to the stories. But here's three

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00:40:26,680 --> 00:40:28,040
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00:40:29,160 --> 00:40:32,040
Speaker 6: My boyfriend is obsessed with streaming. I don't know how

883
00:40:32,080 --> 00:40:34,839
Speaker 6: to tell him it's never going to happen. Oh no,

884
00:40:35,960 --> 00:40:38,440
Speaker 6: just El's man, ELL's left and right. I know this

885
00:40:38,520 --> 00:40:41,319
Speaker 6: is a bit lighter than what this sub is used to,

886
00:40:41,640 --> 00:40:43,239
Speaker 6: but I don't know who else to tell this to

887
00:40:43,640 --> 00:40:45,960
Speaker 6: that doesn't know him. By the way, this comes from

888
00:40:46,040 --> 00:40:49,040
Speaker 6: user extra French Toast on the r slash Okay storytime

889
00:40:49,040 --> 00:40:51,359
Speaker 6: suppared it. Me and my boyfriend have been together for

890
00:40:51,400 --> 00:40:55,319
Speaker 6: five months roughly. For Christmas. One of my gifts was

891
00:40:55,320 --> 00:40:58,319
Speaker 6: an Xbox very nice. A while back, I was reading

892
00:40:58,360 --> 00:41:01,080
Speaker 6: something out loud to him from some gaming news site

893
00:41:01,160 --> 00:41:04,840
Speaker 6: and I mentioned that Ninja, a professional streamer, makes something

894
00:41:05,040 --> 00:41:09,359
Speaker 6: like five hundred k a month on Twitch. Since learning this,

895
00:41:09,760 --> 00:41:12,960
Speaker 6: he has since wanted to become a streamer himself. Brother's

896
00:41:13,000 --> 00:41:17,399
Speaker 6: gonna learn real quickly. He's not a streamer now. Every

897
00:41:17,440 --> 00:41:19,760
Speaker 6: time he plays a game, he streams it. I stated

898
00:41:19,800 --> 00:41:23,160
Speaker 6: in my title that he's trying to become a streamer.

899
00:41:23,160 --> 00:41:25,919
Speaker 6: But he really isn't trying at all. Oh no, he's

900
00:41:25,920 --> 00:41:28,360
Speaker 6: just streaming what's on his screen from his Xbox with

901
00:41:28,440 --> 00:41:30,080
Speaker 6: no facecam or even a mic.

902
00:41:30,520 --> 00:41:33,400
Speaker 3: There's a little bit of strategy of wine Ninja became

903
00:41:33,680 --> 00:41:34,600
Speaker 3: as big as he is.

904
00:41:35,239 --> 00:41:38,680
Speaker 6: It's a personality, brother. You gotta show your face. You

905
00:41:38,680 --> 00:41:41,520
Speaker 6: gotta have fun. You can't just show gaming. That's not

906
00:41:41,560 --> 00:41:43,759
Speaker 6: what everyone wants. He said to me that he's really

907
00:41:43,800 --> 00:41:47,800
Speaker 6: shocked he doesn't have many viewers. I tried gently explaining

908
00:41:47,800 --> 00:41:51,400
Speaker 6: to him that streaming slash YouTube is all about your personality,

909
00:41:51,560 --> 00:41:55,719
Speaker 6: to no avail. Wow. Wow. He's also really camera shy

910
00:41:55,800 --> 00:41:58,480
Speaker 6: and doesn't even have many pictures of him over the years,

911
00:41:58,719 --> 00:42:01,080
Speaker 6: to the point where his mother gave up on trying

912
00:42:01,080 --> 00:42:02,719
Speaker 6: to get him into family photos.

913
00:42:02,880 --> 00:42:05,719
Speaker 3: Oh wow. There are ways around that, though. If you don't,

914
00:42:06,760 --> 00:42:09,920
Speaker 3: you can do like an animated lego guy or animated saying.

915
00:42:09,960 --> 00:42:12,360
Speaker 6: But he's not this guy doesn't seem like he's doing anything.

916
00:42:12,680 --> 00:42:14,040
Speaker 6: But also, you have to be good at the game.

917
00:42:14,080 --> 00:42:16,040
Speaker 6: You don't I feel like this guy's good of the game.

918
00:42:16,360 --> 00:42:18,720
Speaker 3: You could be. You have to be either good or funny.

919
00:42:19,120 --> 00:42:23,200
Speaker 6: Imagine being both. I play video games. I hit hard Oh.

920
00:42:23,160 --> 00:42:24,200
Speaker 3: Yeah, we already knew that. Dude.

921
00:42:24,239 --> 00:42:26,880
Speaker 6: Yeah, maybe I should start streaming. So I don't understand

922
00:42:27,080 --> 00:42:29,480
Speaker 6: how being a streamer would even work for him, or

923
00:42:29,480 --> 00:42:31,520
Speaker 6: how he thinks it's a good idea. He also sits

924
00:42:31,600 --> 00:42:34,640
Speaker 6: very quietly muttering on an occasional f as he plays

925
00:42:34,640 --> 00:42:38,040
Speaker 6: a video game. The popular streamers he's trying to emulate

926
00:42:38,200 --> 00:42:42,319
Speaker 6: have natural humor and commentary, and he just doesn't have it,

927
00:42:43,080 --> 00:42:47,240
Speaker 6: if you know what I mean. He just doesn't factor.

928
00:42:48,120 --> 00:42:50,319
Speaker 6: He even mentioned that I should that I should start

929
00:42:50,360 --> 00:42:53,279
Speaker 6: streaming because I'm pretty okay at some games. Oh my god,

930
00:42:53,320 --> 00:42:56,280
Speaker 6: I can I can hear the eye roll in this sentence.

931
00:42:56,400 --> 00:42:58,200
Speaker 6: I laughed it off and said I have no interest

932
00:42:58,760 --> 00:43:01,239
Speaker 6: in a past relationship I and called negative, So I

933
00:43:01,280 --> 00:43:03,759
Speaker 6: didn't want to just crap all over his parade. For

934
00:43:03,840 --> 00:43:06,640
Speaker 6: some background, he is in school to be an architect

935
00:43:06,680 --> 00:43:10,160
Speaker 6: and has a good union job and gets paid pretty well,

936
00:43:10,280 --> 00:43:13,200
Speaker 6: so so it can't just solely be a money thing.

937
00:43:13,480 --> 00:43:15,520
Speaker 6: This week, I was doing errands and he said he

938
00:43:15,560 --> 00:43:17,680
Speaker 6: was going to pick up his laundry and the grocer

939
00:43:17,920 --> 00:43:20,919
Speaker 6: groceries for me to cook dinner before I get there.

940
00:43:21,040 --> 00:43:23,680
Speaker 3: Okay, oh no, already, already, I already see you, I

941
00:43:23,719 --> 00:43:25,800
Speaker 3: see I already know this.

942
00:43:25,800 --> 00:43:28,880
Speaker 6: This kid is glued. When I did get there, he

943
00:43:29,040 --> 00:43:32,760
Speaker 6: was sitting in his room in boxers, streaming for no viewers,

944
00:43:32,880 --> 00:43:35,799
Speaker 6: and the laundry slash groceries still hadn't been picked up,

945
00:43:36,000 --> 00:43:38,839
Speaker 6: even though it had been six or so hours. This

946
00:43:38,920 --> 00:43:42,480
Speaker 6: really pissed me off, but I didn't say anything. He

947
00:43:42,520 --> 00:43:45,640
Speaker 6: doesn't usually pay video games for that long, but now

948
00:43:45,719 --> 00:43:48,239
Speaker 6: it's all he does in his spare time.

949
00:43:48,400 --> 00:43:51,319
Speaker 3: He's trying to do. Come on, he's trying to game bro.

950
00:43:51,400 --> 00:43:52,600
Speaker 3: He's trying to get that grind on.

951
00:43:52,719 --> 00:43:54,480
Speaker 6: He's trying to get finished that battle pass. He's got

952
00:43:54,480 --> 00:43:56,799
Speaker 6: that gaming addiction. We have a trip to Japan coming

953
00:43:56,880 --> 00:43:59,080
Speaker 6: up in June, and he is now talking about buying

954
00:43:59,080 --> 00:44:02,480
Speaker 6: equipment for his stream. Oh no, this dude's personality is

955
00:44:02,560 --> 00:44:06,040
Speaker 6: just gamer, but like bad gamer. Oh no, I have

956
00:44:06,120 --> 00:44:09,080
Speaker 6: a lot of thoughts on this expensive equipment. My money

957
00:44:09,080 --> 00:44:10,880
Speaker 6: for the trip has been put away for a month

958
00:44:10,920 --> 00:44:13,200
Speaker 6: and he still hasn't started saving for it. I am

959
00:44:13,239 --> 00:44:15,640
Speaker 6: afraid that he will spend all the money on equipment

960
00:44:15,800 --> 00:44:18,319
Speaker 6: and our trip will go to Ruin the other night,

961
00:44:18,400 --> 00:44:20,960
Speaker 6: he said to me happily that he has one dedicated

962
00:44:21,040 --> 00:44:24,279
Speaker 6: viewer that watches every time he's on baby Steps. What

963
00:44:24,360 --> 00:44:26,320
Speaker 6: he doesn't know is that Twitch counts you as a

964
00:44:26,400 --> 00:44:28,040
Speaker 6: viewer when you start the stream.

965
00:44:28,400 --> 00:44:32,040
Speaker 3: Oh no, oh no, he's there all the time.

966
00:44:32,760 --> 00:44:34,080
Speaker 6: He's my number one supporters.

967
00:44:34,160 --> 00:44:36,240
Speaker 3: Like I started, and he's already there.

968
00:44:36,560 --> 00:44:39,560
Speaker 6: And he doesn't say anything, but he's watching me fine

969
00:44:39,680 --> 00:44:41,799
Speaker 6: when you start the stream. So the follower he's talking

970
00:44:41,800 --> 00:44:43,200
Speaker 6: about is himself.

971
00:44:43,360 --> 00:44:45,440
Speaker 3: Oh no, I justn't smart.

972
00:44:45,640 --> 00:44:48,280
Speaker 6: Giving him an Xbox was the worst decision ever. Ope.

973
00:44:48,600 --> 00:44:50,440
Speaker 6: I just really didn't have the heart to tell him

974
00:44:50,520 --> 00:44:53,799
Speaker 6: because I know how embarrassing that would be. Would you

975
00:44:53,800 --> 00:44:54,680
Speaker 6: tell him, dude?

976
00:44:54,680 --> 00:44:57,439
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, that a knowledge I know? Yeah him, dude,

977
00:44:57,440 --> 00:44:58,680
Speaker 3: I'd give him a whole breakdown.

978
00:44:58,760 --> 00:45:01,320
Speaker 6: I would tell him so he doesn't get the inspiration

979
00:45:01,840 --> 00:45:04,319
Speaker 6: like he uses that one viewer himself, by the way,

980
00:45:04,800 --> 00:45:07,239
Speaker 6: as inspiration, like, oh if I got one, I can

981
00:45:07,239 --> 00:45:08,959
Speaker 6: get two. If I can get two, I can get four.

982
00:45:09,520 --> 00:45:11,399
Speaker 3: There's a lot. There's a lot to this.

983
00:45:11,520 --> 00:45:13,839
Speaker 6: It's become a point of annoyance every time I hear

984
00:45:13,880 --> 00:45:17,759
Speaker 6: the word streamer. Any advice here or should I just

985
00:45:17,840 --> 00:45:21,200
Speaker 6: let this twitch tream fizzle out without my input? There's

986
00:45:21,239 --> 00:45:24,120
Speaker 6: an update some of You may not have been around

987
00:45:24,160 --> 00:45:26,759
Speaker 6: to read the comments after I posted this, but some

988
00:45:26,800 --> 00:45:29,439
Speaker 6: more details on this situation that I didn't initially say

989
00:45:29,560 --> 00:45:32,279
Speaker 6: were posted by me when I read it. Her, who

990
00:45:32,360 --> 00:45:34,480
Speaker 6: has since deleted her comments for the sake of privacy,

991
00:45:35,000 --> 00:45:37,680
Speaker 6: related to me and explained how her ex was the

992
00:45:37,760 --> 00:45:42,480
Speaker 6: same way and seemed to have a video game addiction earlier.

993
00:45:42,840 --> 00:45:47,479
Speaker 6: Her experience eerily mirrored mine. You can read my response here.

994
00:45:47,719 --> 00:45:49,719
Speaker 6: Yesterday after work, I had to rush home to deal

995
00:45:49,719 --> 00:45:51,960
Speaker 6: with some family stuff, so I did not get to

996
00:45:51,600 --> 00:45:54,080
Speaker 6: sit him down and talk to him besides a five

997
00:45:54,120 --> 00:45:57,680
Speaker 6: minute phone call and passing him at work. Today, however,

998
00:45:58,320 --> 00:46:00,319
Speaker 6: my path was clear and I was to I'm going

999
00:46:00,320 --> 00:46:03,120
Speaker 6: to speak to him about this. When I woke up

1000
00:46:03,280 --> 00:46:06,799
Speaker 6: and showered, I checked the Xbox app and saw that

1001
00:46:06,840 --> 00:46:10,800
Speaker 6: he was last online thirty minutes ago at seven a

1002
00:46:11,200 --> 00:46:12,080
Speaker 6: m oo.

1003
00:46:12,560 --> 00:46:16,880
Speaker 3: I was working the overnight shift. Oh man, dude, Oh man.

1004
00:46:16,760 --> 00:46:19,960
Speaker 6: Dude, which means again that he did not sleep at all.

1005
00:46:21,320 --> 00:46:24,440
Speaker 6: I didn't contact him. His day off was today, and

1006
00:46:24,480 --> 00:46:25,920
Speaker 6: he called me at three pm to say that he

1007
00:46:26,120 --> 00:46:26,640
Speaker 6: just woke up.

1008
00:46:26,680 --> 00:46:29,040
Speaker 3: All right, brother, that's all right, it's his day off.

1009
00:46:29,080 --> 00:46:31,399
Speaker 6: It's day off. But that's not a good day off.

1010
00:46:31,680 --> 00:46:32,359
Speaker 3: Yeah.

1011
00:46:32,400 --> 00:46:34,680
Speaker 6: I could hear overwatching the background, and he asked how

1012
00:46:34,680 --> 00:46:37,400
Speaker 6: my day was going, and immediately before I got to respond,

1013
00:46:37,719 --> 00:46:42,560
Speaker 6: very angrily, he said, why the f won't this guy

1014
00:46:42,560 --> 00:46:44,840
Speaker 6: get up? Honso he thing sucks.

1015
00:46:45,280 --> 00:46:46,280
Speaker 3: I don't even know what that means.

1016
00:46:46,719 --> 00:46:50,360
Speaker 6: I'm a Hanso main and diva main. Get off Hanso.

1017
00:46:50,560 --> 00:46:52,879
Speaker 6: I had a client approaching me and swiftly hung up.

1018
00:46:53,239 --> 00:46:55,360
Speaker 6: I can relate to this story so much. This is

1019
00:46:55,400 --> 00:46:57,920
Speaker 6: actually really funny. This is you, dude, This is not me,

1020
00:46:58,080 --> 00:46:58,920
Speaker 6: this is this is this is.

1021
00:46:58,880 --> 00:46:59,760
Speaker 3: You, and I'm a girlfriend.

1022
00:46:59,800 --> 00:47:01,720
Speaker 6: This is Christian. Stop, this is Christian.

1023
00:47:01,800 --> 00:47:02,560
Speaker 3: May Oh that's cute.

1024
00:47:02,680 --> 00:47:04,680
Speaker 6: Yeah. I called him back after work when I was

1025
00:47:04,719 --> 00:47:07,799
Speaker 6: walking home and decided to start with small talk. Before

1026
00:47:07,800 --> 00:47:09,719
Speaker 6: I got to the subject, I was leading to.

1027
00:47:10,080 --> 00:47:11,560
Speaker 3: No, girl, get right into it.

1028
00:47:12,719 --> 00:47:14,920
Speaker 6: You gotta stop playing playing around the bush here. You

1029
00:47:14,920 --> 00:47:17,000
Speaker 6: gotta go straight into this. I didn't even have a

1030
00:47:17,080 --> 00:47:19,759
Speaker 6: chance to start off with the small talk before he

1031
00:47:19,840 --> 00:47:22,200
Speaker 6: asked me why I was slightly out of breath. I said,

1032
00:47:22,200 --> 00:47:26,840
Speaker 6: it's because I'm walking through snow uphill. He said, it's snowing.

1033
00:47:27,280 --> 00:47:27,840
Speaker 3: Oh no.

1034
00:47:28,320 --> 00:47:31,640
Speaker 6: It snowed heavily for quite a few hours. His place

1035
00:47:31,719 --> 00:47:33,759
Speaker 6: is built that you can't enter the hallway to the

1036
00:47:33,840 --> 00:47:37,640
Speaker 6: kitchen in front door without seeing outside. Oh man, he'd

1037
00:47:37,719 --> 00:47:39,880
Speaker 6: even looked outside of his window at all today and

1038
00:47:39,960 --> 00:47:45,640
Speaker 6: spent all day in his bedroom playing video games. This

1039
00:47:46,200 --> 00:47:48,160
Speaker 6: snapped me into asking him if he was planning to

1040
00:47:48,160 --> 00:47:50,760
Speaker 6: do anything else with his life besides play video games.

1041
00:47:51,120 --> 00:47:57,279
Speaker 6: He said, of course, just not right now, relatable. He

1042
00:47:57,360 --> 00:48:00,879
Speaker 6: had not showered or it's like the like, y'all take

1043
00:48:00,880 --> 00:48:03,240
Speaker 6: a shower, dude, Come on, dude. He had not showered

1044
00:48:03,320 --> 00:48:06,799
Speaker 6: or eaten all day. I asked, and he admitted it.

1045
00:48:06,880 --> 00:48:08,840
Speaker 6: I asked him if he thought that I was healthy,

1046
00:48:08,920 --> 00:48:12,160
Speaker 6: and he said, with an edge, what playing video games?

1047
00:48:12,480 --> 00:48:16,760
Speaker 6: Of course? Am I? I think smoking math or something.

1048
00:48:16,960 --> 00:48:19,080
Speaker 6: I clarified on this and just decided to say it.

1049
00:48:19,120 --> 00:48:20,560
Speaker 6: I said, I think he has a problem.

1050
00:48:20,600 --> 00:48:24,719
Speaker 3: Well, honestly, his digital footprint is pretty low, or his

1051
00:48:24,760 --> 00:48:28,320
Speaker 3: digital print is big, but his natural carbon footprint is

1052
00:48:28,400 --> 00:48:30,399
Speaker 3: very low. Think about that. No one wants to talk

1053
00:48:30,440 --> 00:48:32,320
Speaker 3: about that. No one wants to talk about the carbon footprint.

1054
00:48:32,400 --> 00:48:33,600
Speaker 3: He is not creating.

1055
00:48:33,840 --> 00:48:35,879
Speaker 6: This guy's never gamed in his life, and he picked

1056
00:48:35,920 --> 00:48:38,880
Speaker 6: up a controller and he got instantly hooked. And the

1057
00:48:38,960 --> 00:48:42,399
Speaker 6: dude is morphing into Literally, it's like.

1058
00:48:42,320 --> 00:48:46,960
Speaker 3: The North Korean soldiers hooked on corn when they visited Russia.

1059
00:48:47,000 --> 00:48:47,640
Speaker 3: Do you about that?

1060
00:48:47,800 --> 00:48:48,000
Speaker 4: No?

1061
00:48:48,280 --> 00:48:50,480
Speaker 3: Yeah, so like Russian and North Korea are like joining

1062
00:48:50,520 --> 00:48:53,640
Speaker 3: forces and some like North Korean soldiers. As soon as

1063
00:48:53,640 --> 00:48:55,400
Speaker 3: he got access internet corn.

1064
00:48:55,640 --> 00:48:58,839
Speaker 6: Yeah. I clarified on this and decided to say it.

1065
00:48:58,960 --> 00:49:01,600
Speaker 6: I said, I think he has a problem. The skipping work.

1066
00:49:01,920 --> 00:49:04,160
Speaker 6: I didn't know he was skipping work. Oh shoot, he's

1067
00:49:04,200 --> 00:49:05,360
Speaker 6: skipping work now we didn't know.

1068
00:49:05,400 --> 00:49:06,479
Speaker 3: Wait wait, keep going.

1069
00:49:06,560 --> 00:49:09,440
Speaker 6: The skipping work, not sleeper or eating, and over all

1070
00:49:09,480 --> 00:49:11,919
Speaker 6: the pure amount of hours he dedicates to playing them.

1071
00:49:12,760 --> 00:49:17,040
Speaker 6: He then did what most addicts do, got angry, and

1072
00:49:17,080 --> 00:49:18,200
Speaker 6: then spun it back on me.

1073
00:49:18,400 --> 00:49:21,200
Speaker 3: Oh no, dude, he has some big problem.

1074
00:49:21,680 --> 00:49:24,080
Speaker 6: Oh yeah, he said that. I bought him the Xbox

1075
00:49:24,120 --> 00:49:26,880
Speaker 6: in the first place. What the F do you expect

1076
00:49:26,920 --> 00:49:28,879
Speaker 6: me to do with it? I don't know, just enjoy it.

1077
00:49:29,040 --> 00:49:31,120
Speaker 6: And then I've been playing video games long before we

1078
00:49:31,120 --> 00:49:34,319
Speaker 6: were a thing. My Xbox is mostly used as a

1079
00:49:34,360 --> 00:49:37,920
Speaker 6: Netflix machine and to play Overwatch, Slash the Dark Soul's

1080
00:49:37,920 --> 00:49:42,560
Speaker 6: trilogy on weekends. Good stuff, I said. I do not

1081
00:49:42,640 --> 00:49:45,279
Speaker 6: obsess with them or skip meals to play games, and

1082
00:49:45,320 --> 00:49:48,319
Speaker 6: that I would had never thought it for him if

1083
00:49:48,360 --> 00:49:51,239
Speaker 6: I knew this would what it would lead to. He

1084
00:49:51,320 --> 00:49:54,520
Speaker 6: got angry and asked, if I just called to harass him, Bro,

1085
00:49:54,600 --> 00:49:58,040
Speaker 6: you play Overwatch, this is the least amount of harassment

1086
00:49:58,080 --> 00:50:01,960
Speaker 6: you're getting. You already know again, Overwatch is very toxic,

1087
00:50:02,640 --> 00:50:04,920
Speaker 6: very very toxic. You think Call of Duty is a toxic,

1088
00:50:05,000 --> 00:50:10,520
Speaker 6: Overwatch is very toxic. I'm aware, look into my eyes.

1089
00:50:10,840 --> 00:50:12,799
Speaker 6: I've seen it all. I said. I called to speak

1090
00:50:12,800 --> 00:50:14,560
Speaker 6: to him and let him know my thoughts over the

1091
00:50:14,560 --> 00:50:17,080
Speaker 6: past few months. This is a few months. Oh my gosh,

1092
00:50:17,200 --> 00:50:20,080
Speaker 6: He said, I was crazy that everyone plays video games,

1093
00:50:20,400 --> 00:50:22,760
Speaker 6: and whoever said that the streaming was just a decoy

1094
00:50:22,800 --> 00:50:24,960
Speaker 6: and it excuse to play video games all day? You

1095
00:50:25,000 --> 00:50:28,920
Speaker 6: were absolutely right, Oh yo.

1096
00:50:29,760 --> 00:50:32,960
Speaker 3: No way, I did not see that.

1097
00:50:33,440 --> 00:50:36,239
Speaker 6: He feels justified in doing exactly that as long as

1098
00:50:36,239 --> 00:50:39,080
Speaker 6: he tells me that there's no there's a goal to

1099
00:50:39,160 --> 00:50:42,560
Speaker 6: it all. But there's no goal. There's nothing here. I

1100
00:50:42,560 --> 00:50:44,600
Speaker 6: told him that my mind isn't changed, and that I

1101
00:50:44,640 --> 00:50:46,720
Speaker 6: think he has a problem and should speak to someone.

1102
00:50:47,360 --> 00:50:50,000
Speaker 6: He said nothing to this, and then I said that

1103
00:50:50,040 --> 00:50:52,600
Speaker 6: I don't feel we have anything more to really speak about,

1104
00:50:52,920 --> 00:50:55,600
Speaker 6: and I can't spend my time worrying about him. I

1105
00:50:55,600 --> 00:50:58,000
Speaker 6: feel like I'm going to get hate for this, but

1106
00:50:58,120 --> 00:51:01,320
Speaker 6: I won't budge on it. He is not my child,

1107
00:51:01,520 --> 00:51:03,239
Speaker 6: and I can't force a girl man to eat or

1108
00:51:03,239 --> 00:51:08,239
Speaker 6: go outside. I have done my research and slept on it.

1109
00:51:08,480 --> 00:51:11,640
Speaker 6: Many people pmed me and commed it to tell me

1110
00:51:11,719 --> 00:51:13,960
Speaker 6: there's stories of dealing with a loved one with video

1111
00:51:13,960 --> 00:51:16,520
Speaker 6: game addiction, or that they were once in his shoes.

1112
00:51:16,680 --> 00:51:19,440
Speaker 6: Oh wow, I was once in his shoes. Yeah, this

1113
00:51:19,560 --> 00:51:20,920
Speaker 6: is not a battle I want to be in. You

1114
00:51:20,920 --> 00:51:22,840
Speaker 6: don't want to be in his battle. He's not the

1115
00:51:22,840 --> 00:51:25,440
Speaker 6: person I met last year. He responded to this with

1116
00:51:25,560 --> 00:51:28,719
Speaker 6: a very mellow voice that he knows he's been inattentive

1117
00:51:28,800 --> 00:51:30,520
Speaker 6: and would like a chance to make it up to me.

1118
00:51:30,880 --> 00:51:32,880
Speaker 6: He said he wanted to go on a date tomorrow.

1119
00:51:33,040 --> 00:51:36,200
Speaker 6: I declined, and he started rambling about how perfect I

1120
00:51:36,239 --> 00:51:38,839
Speaker 6: am for him. I thought the same. Once he kept

1121
00:51:38,840 --> 00:51:41,360
Speaker 6: going and I said I'm and said I'm being ridiculous,

1122
00:51:41,400 --> 00:51:43,800
Speaker 6: and started telling me the things he could do instead

1123
00:51:43,800 --> 00:51:46,880
Speaker 6: of playing video games, such as, I'm not a drinker,

1124
00:51:47,280 --> 00:51:50,799
Speaker 6: I don't cheat, etc. But you know what you could do, Sam,

1125
00:51:51,000 --> 00:51:53,920
Speaker 6: you can join us live every weekday three pm PSD

1126
00:51:54,200 --> 00:51:55,120
Speaker 6: just tape our profile.

1127
00:51:55,920 --> 00:51:56,480
Speaker 3: Tap it.

1128
00:51:57,640 --> 00:52:01,960
Speaker 6: The fact that he's gaslighting or gas sorry, gas lamping, op,

1129
00:52:03,640 --> 00:52:04,759
Speaker 6: Like you did this to me?

1130
00:52:05,040 --> 00:52:06,040
Speaker 3: Well that's how addicts go.

1131
00:52:06,320 --> 00:52:08,799
Speaker 6: Yeah, no they can't. The fact that he can't accept it.

1132
00:52:09,800 --> 00:52:12,480
Speaker 6: And again this has gone for months that he was

1133
00:52:12,480 --> 00:52:14,520
Speaker 6: trying to be a streamer and none of it. He

1134
00:52:14,600 --> 00:52:15,439
Speaker 6: knew what he was doing.

1135
00:52:15,600 --> 00:52:16,600
Speaker 3: Dude, that's crazy.

1136
00:52:17,000 --> 00:52:20,160
Speaker 6: I'm sad because before we dated, he really was a

1137
00:52:20,160 --> 00:52:22,359
Speaker 6: good friend. I said that I'm almost home and have

1138
00:52:22,440 --> 00:52:25,320
Speaker 6: to go. He stayed quiet for a while and said, okay.

1139
00:52:25,520 --> 00:52:28,040
Speaker 6: The fact that the video game noises didn't stop during

1140
00:52:28,040 --> 00:52:31,160
Speaker 6: the duration of the entire phone call didn't go unnoticed

1141
00:52:31,200 --> 00:52:34,160
Speaker 6: by me. He only lowered the volume, but not enough.

1142
00:52:34,840 --> 00:52:38,560
Speaker 6: I literally just called this out like again, like he's

1143
00:52:38,560 --> 00:52:42,080
Speaker 6: gotta keep playing the videos, and just like huh yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, okay.

1144
00:52:42,200 --> 00:52:43,800
Speaker 6: I didn't bring it up because I don't think he

1145
00:52:43,840 --> 00:52:45,759
Speaker 6: would get off even if I asked him to. We

1146
00:52:45,920 --> 00:52:48,359
Speaker 6: hung up and that that was that. Luckily I only

1147
00:52:48,360 --> 00:52:50,879
Speaker 6: see him in passing at work. I will now make

1148
00:52:50,920 --> 00:52:53,960
Speaker 6: sure to not see him at all. It's a huge building.

1149
00:52:54,280 --> 00:52:57,360
Speaker 6: It isn't hard. That sucks. Yeah, I would also like

1150
00:52:57,400 --> 00:53:00,160
Speaker 6: to note that I got some very pleasant PMS call

1151
00:53:00,239 --> 00:53:03,279
Speaker 6: me or personal messages calling me an absolute b for

1152
00:53:03,480 --> 00:53:05,400
Speaker 6: not supporting him and playing video games.

1153
00:53:05,840 --> 00:53:07,279
Speaker 3: Lovely love those people that.

1154
00:53:07,320 --> 00:53:10,400
Speaker 6: I'm going to regret everything when he's a famous streamer, okay,

1155
00:53:11,120 --> 00:53:13,640
Speaker 6: down to saying that I only care about him skipping

1156
00:53:13,680 --> 00:53:16,200
Speaker 6: work and potentially being fired because I'm not in it

1157
00:53:16,239 --> 00:53:19,000
Speaker 6: for his money. I'm prepared for more of those messages

1158
00:53:19,160 --> 00:53:22,640
Speaker 6: for now, abandon abandoning him, and I'm still going to Japan.

1159
00:53:22,760 --> 00:53:26,560
Speaker 3: Let's go. Let's go, opu go girl.

1160
00:53:26,640 --> 00:53:28,560
Speaker 6: That's the end of that story. But like go to Japan,

1161
00:53:28,800 --> 00:53:31,799
Speaker 6: you don't need him. His his mindset is set on

1162
00:53:31,800 --> 00:53:34,640
Speaker 6: one thing and one thing only. He's going to realize

1163
00:53:34,640 --> 00:53:37,880
Speaker 6: sooner or later that that deo game video games are

1164
00:53:37,920 --> 00:53:41,480
Speaker 6: just not life. Yeah, but right now it's not worth it.

1165
00:53:41,480 --> 00:53:43,040
Speaker 6: It's not worth trying to fight for it.

1166
00:53:43,120 --> 00:53:46,080
Speaker 3: Good for you for standing a ground, OPI Yeah, oh man.

1167
00:53:47,360 --> 00:53:49,719
Speaker 4: I moved him with my boyfriend and his parents, but

1168
00:53:49,800 --> 00:53:52,840
Speaker 4: they keep changing their house rule. So I was explaining

1169
00:53:52,880 --> 00:53:54,920
Speaker 4: this to my sister and one of my friends, and

1170
00:53:55,000 --> 00:53:59,319
Speaker 4: their mouths literally rupt when I told them. So, I

1171
00:53:59,480 --> 00:54:01,839
Speaker 4: want to here and see if it actually is as

1172
00:54:01,880 --> 00:54:05,200
Speaker 4: crazy as the reactions make it seem. By the way,

1173
00:54:05,239 --> 00:54:07,960
Speaker 4: this comes from an electronic Wolf sixty one seventy three

1174
00:54:08,239 --> 00:54:10,920
Speaker 4: on the Okay storytime Separate It. So, when I was seventeen,

1175
00:54:11,040 --> 00:54:13,480
Speaker 4: I was kicked out of my mother's house. That's an

1176
00:54:13,680 --> 00:54:17,120
Speaker 4: entirely different story, but my boyfriend and his parents took

1177
00:54:17,160 --> 00:54:19,600
Speaker 4: me in. When I first moved in, my boyfriend took

1178
00:54:19,640 --> 00:54:22,280
Speaker 4: the couch and I took his room. We'd closed the door,

1179
00:54:22,520 --> 00:54:25,160
Speaker 4: he'd stay in my room late. His parents allowed that

1180
00:54:25,200 --> 00:54:29,160
Speaker 4: for an entire week. Eventually, we all sat down and

1181
00:54:29,200 --> 00:54:31,839
Speaker 4: his parents explained the rules set for me and him

1182
00:54:31,920 --> 00:54:35,040
Speaker 4: to us, which work. My new room door had to

1183
00:54:35,040 --> 00:54:37,520
Speaker 4: be open at all times. If I were to be

1184
00:54:37,520 --> 00:54:39,640
Speaker 4: in his room, which got switched from the living room

1185
00:54:39,680 --> 00:54:41,520
Speaker 4: to the basement, we had to keep the door open

1186
00:54:41,560 --> 00:54:43,719
Speaker 4: there too. Due to me being in school at the time,

1187
00:54:43,800 --> 00:54:45,440
Speaker 4: we had to be out of the room by eleven.

1188
00:54:45,920 --> 00:54:48,040
Speaker 4: And if he wanted to spend more time together than

1189
00:54:48,080 --> 00:54:49,960
Speaker 4: we needed to be in the living room, I had

1190
00:54:49,960 --> 00:54:52,640
Speaker 4: to split my boyfriend's chore of doing the dishes. Those

1191
00:54:52,680 --> 00:54:55,239
Speaker 4: were all the rules they presented to us. Everything was

1192
00:54:55,280 --> 00:54:58,399
Speaker 4: fine for a while until his parents started to pull

1193
00:54:58,520 --> 00:55:01,439
Speaker 4: weird stuff and I'm weird, as in, they would act

1194
00:55:01,480 --> 00:55:04,440
Speaker 4: like they never said something when they did, or randomly

1195
00:55:04,480 --> 00:55:06,880
Speaker 4: add a rule or boundary that was never discussed or

1196
00:55:06,920 --> 00:55:09,920
Speaker 4: existed until they confronted us. Me and my boyfriend were

1197
00:55:09,960 --> 00:55:12,520
Speaker 4: down in the basement laying on his bed, just listening

1198
00:55:12,600 --> 00:55:14,879
Speaker 4: to music. His dad came down and went to another

1199
00:55:14,920 --> 00:55:17,120
Speaker 4: part of the basement to do laundry. The stairs are

1200
00:55:17,239 --> 00:55:20,000
Speaker 4: right next to his bed, but there's a wall covering it,

1201
00:55:20,400 --> 00:55:23,600
Speaker 4: and before his dad went upstairs, he leaned over and

1202
00:55:23,640 --> 00:55:26,880
Speaker 4: looked at us, went back upstairs, and then texted my

1203
00:55:26,920 --> 00:55:29,520
Speaker 4: boyfriend saying that he never remembers telling us that we

1204
00:55:29,520 --> 00:55:31,680
Speaker 4: could be down in the basement together and that it

1205
00:55:31,719 --> 00:55:34,320
Speaker 4: doesn't matter anyways. He doesn't want us down there anymore

1206
00:55:34,400 --> 00:55:36,560
Speaker 4: because it defeats the purpose of keeping an eye on us.

1207
00:55:36,800 --> 00:55:39,000
Speaker 4: Like they're in the basement. The door's not closed.

1208
00:55:39,200 --> 00:55:43,240
Speaker 6: Get my house, my house, my our house, our rules, honestly,

1209
00:55:43,680 --> 00:55:44,560
Speaker 6: get your own house.

1210
00:55:44,840 --> 00:55:47,279
Speaker 7: I want to say, yeah, even though it sucks. Yeah,

1211
00:55:47,320 --> 00:55:49,440
Speaker 7: and they're going about it. It seems like, well, let'school

1212
00:55:49,520 --> 00:55:51,000
Speaker 7: keep reading, But it seems like they're going about it

1213
00:55:51,040 --> 00:55:51,600
Speaker 7: and sketchy it.

1214
00:55:51,960 --> 00:55:55,240
Speaker 4: So we were annoyed because he clearly stated we could,

1215
00:55:55,320 --> 00:55:58,200
Speaker 4: but didn't argue and just went upstairs. We decided to

1216
00:55:58,200 --> 00:56:00,000
Speaker 4: go to a park near our house around a toy

1217
00:56:00,080 --> 00:56:02,480
Speaker 4: clock on a Sunday night. I was doing online school

1218
00:56:02,480 --> 00:56:04,799
Speaker 4: at this point, so I was usually home all day.

1219
00:56:05,160 --> 00:56:07,239
Speaker 4: As soon as we get to the park, my boyfriend's

1220
00:56:07,239 --> 00:56:09,319
Speaker 4: mom texts the group chat that me, her and my

1221
00:56:09,320 --> 00:56:12,399
Speaker 4: boyfriend had and says to him, not me, Kelly needs

1222
00:56:12,400 --> 00:56:15,040
Speaker 4: to be back by eleven. This instance was annoying because

1223
00:56:15,080 --> 00:56:18,360
Speaker 4: she never mentioned a curfew outside of the house, not once.

1224
00:56:18,920 --> 00:56:20,600
Speaker 4: I didn't know that being out of the room by

1225
00:56:20,640 --> 00:56:23,480
Speaker 4: eleven because I had school also applied to being in

1226
00:56:23,520 --> 00:56:25,960
Speaker 4: the house by eleven. It was annoying because it was

1227
00:56:25,960 --> 00:56:28,160
Speaker 4: sprung on me out of nowhere. It wasn't told to

1228
00:56:28,200 --> 00:56:30,439
Speaker 4: me directly, and no one sat me down to talk

1229
00:56:30,440 --> 00:56:32,520
Speaker 4: about it. I wasn't the one who argued about it.

1230
00:56:32,840 --> 00:56:35,040
Speaker 4: My boyfriend did. I told him to stop, though, because

1231
00:56:35,080 --> 00:56:36,759
Speaker 4: it just wasn't worth it to me. There was a

1232
00:56:36,800 --> 00:56:38,640
Speaker 4: time when me and my boyfriend were in my room.

1233
00:56:39,040 --> 00:56:41,200
Speaker 4: The door was open and we were under my covers

1234
00:56:41,239 --> 00:56:43,279
Speaker 4: watching a movie on his TV. I didn't know it

1235
00:56:43,320 --> 00:56:46,080
Speaker 4: at the time, but his mom texted him saying that

1236
00:56:46,120 --> 00:56:48,640
Speaker 4: we had been under the covers too long. He told

1237
00:56:48,640 --> 00:56:50,920
Speaker 4: me he ignored her message because we weren't doing anything

1238
00:56:50,920 --> 00:56:53,480
Speaker 4: appropriate and she could see directly into our room.

1239
00:56:53,640 --> 00:56:55,840
Speaker 7: You get ten minutes of undercover time, and then you

1240
00:56:55,920 --> 00:56:58,200
Speaker 7: gotta go over the cover over to cover.

1241
00:56:58,160 --> 00:57:00,560
Speaker 4: The eleven o'clock rule. I was told it was only

1242
00:57:00,600 --> 00:57:03,520
Speaker 4: because I was still in school. After I graduated and

1243
00:57:03,560 --> 00:57:06,200
Speaker 4: we moved, I got settled into my new room and

1244
00:57:06,239 --> 00:57:08,960
Speaker 4: my boyfriend was there with me. Eleven rolled around and

1245
00:57:09,000 --> 00:57:12,480
Speaker 4: I got a text saying that the rules still applies. Oh,

1246
00:57:12,640 --> 00:57:14,880
Speaker 4: if we want to spend time together past eleven, we

1247
00:57:15,000 --> 00:57:17,040
Speaker 4: had to be in the living room. This pissed me

1248
00:57:17,160 --> 00:57:19,800
Speaker 4: off because to me, why tell us that this rule

1249
00:57:19,840 --> 00:57:21,960
Speaker 4: is in place for this specific reason, and then when

1250
00:57:21,960 --> 00:57:24,480
Speaker 4: that reason no longer applies, keep it going. I just

1251
00:57:24,480 --> 00:57:27,439
Speaker 4: felt that his parents could have communicated better and told

1252
00:57:27,520 --> 00:57:29,680
Speaker 4: us that the rule wasn't all around one and not

1253
00:57:29,760 --> 00:57:31,480
Speaker 4: just because I was in school. She put me on

1254
00:57:31,640 --> 00:57:35,120
Speaker 4: birth control whoa, whoa, whoa, but didn't tell me until

1255
00:57:35,160 --> 00:57:37,200
Speaker 4: we were already on our way to the appointment. This

1256
00:57:37,240 --> 00:57:39,479
Speaker 4: annoyed me because again I felt like this was something

1257
00:57:39,520 --> 00:57:41,439
Speaker 4: I should have been able to at least talk about

1258
00:57:41,480 --> 00:57:45,200
Speaker 4: before taking the step to do it. That is totally unacceptable.

1259
00:57:45,240 --> 00:57:48,880
Speaker 7: Whoa so unacceptable? You can't make medical decisions?

1260
00:57:48,920 --> 00:57:52,400
Speaker 4: That's someone totally unacceptable. Also, just like that is a

1261
00:57:52,520 --> 00:57:53,960
Speaker 4: huge hormonal change.

1262
00:57:54,240 --> 00:57:56,520
Speaker 7: Yeah, that's so many people.

1263
00:57:56,800 --> 00:57:57,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, like that is.

1264
00:57:57,920 --> 00:58:01,560
Speaker 4: An individual decision for every you know, person with those

1265
00:58:01,600 --> 00:58:04,600
Speaker 4: parts to make. Can't You can't tell anyone to do that.

1266
00:58:04,720 --> 00:58:06,600
Speaker 6: I was to say, your house, your rules, but it's

1267
00:58:06,600 --> 00:58:07,320
Speaker 6: my body mind.

1268
00:58:07,400 --> 00:58:12,680
Speaker 4: Yeah, your house, your rules, my vagina, my rules one percent,

1269
00:58:12,760 --> 00:58:15,640
Speaker 4: And you can make the crappy rule you can't be

1270
00:58:15,800 --> 00:58:19,080
Speaker 4: in my house unless you're on birth control. Yeah, but

1271
00:58:19,120 --> 00:58:21,440
Speaker 4: you can't take her to the doctor's appointment, say this

1272
00:58:21,600 --> 00:58:22,600
Speaker 4: is what's going to happen.

1273
00:58:22,680 --> 00:58:25,520
Speaker 7: It would still be really crappy to do that, and

1274
00:58:25,640 --> 00:58:28,080
Speaker 7: to put that ultimatum, even though it's within your power,

1275
00:58:28,560 --> 00:58:31,320
Speaker 7: still would be really crappy. But again, to take so

1276
00:58:31,400 --> 00:58:32,240
Speaker 7: much to an appointment.

1277
00:58:32,360 --> 00:58:34,520
Speaker 4: Yeah. They kept telling me and my boyfriend that we

1278
00:58:34,560 --> 00:58:37,360
Speaker 4: couldn't sleep in the same room together because I wasn't

1279
00:58:37,400 --> 00:58:40,680
Speaker 4: eighteen yet, and he was basically making it seem like

1280
00:58:40,840 --> 00:58:43,240
Speaker 4: we could once I turned eighteen. Then told us that

1281
00:58:43,280 --> 00:58:45,480
Speaker 4: they don't care if I'm eighteen. We can't sleep together,

1282
00:58:45,520 --> 00:58:47,560
Speaker 4: which again I understand if they aren't comfortable with it,

1283
00:58:47,960 --> 00:58:49,720
Speaker 4: but I don't understand why they made us think we

1284
00:58:49,760 --> 00:58:51,800
Speaker 4: could for months and then told us differently. At the

1285
00:58:51,920 --> 00:58:54,720
Speaker 4: last second, I was talking to my boyfriend's mom about

1286
00:58:54,760 --> 00:58:56,800
Speaker 4: something and she admitted to me that she didn't like

1287
00:58:56,880 --> 00:58:59,480
Speaker 4: me and his general closeness. There was another time he

1288
00:58:59,600 --> 00:59:01,160
Speaker 4: was put on for the night and I sat and

1289
00:59:01,240 --> 00:59:03,120
Speaker 4: talked to his mom about why she did that, and

1290
00:59:03,240 --> 00:59:05,400
Speaker 4: she mentioned that he used to cuddle with her when

1291
00:59:05,480 --> 00:59:08,800
Speaker 4: he was younger, and then said, obviously that love language

1292
00:59:08,800 --> 00:59:10,880
Speaker 4: is getting fulfilled now that you're here, and I don't

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Speaker 4: know if she meant that in a negative way. We

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00:59:12,600 --> 00:59:14,560
Speaker 4: sat down and talked about the fact that we want

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Speaker 4: everyone to clear their plates before putting it in the kitchen,

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Speaker 4: and to stop leaving all their food out unopened on

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Speaker 4: the counter. His mom said she understood and knows that

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Speaker 4: it isn't fair to us to be doing that. Not

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Speaker 4: even a month later, I walk into the kitchen and

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Speaker 4: there's meat all over the stoves, plates of food sitting

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00:59:28,800 --> 00:59:31,280
Speaker 4: on the counter, dried sauce with chunks in it on

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Speaker 4: the counter, beer cans all over the counter, and food

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00:59:34,000 --> 00:59:36,040
Speaker 4: in the drain and no one but me and my

1304
00:59:36,160 --> 00:59:39,080
Speaker 4: boyfriend in the house. It happened again, but everyone was

1305
00:59:39,120 --> 00:59:42,840
Speaker 4: in the living watching TV. They were recording or evesdropping

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00:59:42,920 --> 00:59:45,240
Speaker 4: on me and my boyfriend's conversations. All I know is

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00:59:45,280 --> 00:59:47,200
Speaker 4: that there were times when me and him simply vented,

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00:59:47,600 --> 00:59:50,080
Speaker 4: or he was angry inventing, and his dad would confront

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00:59:50,160 --> 00:59:52,000
Speaker 4: us about what we said when he wasn't there the

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00:59:52,080 --> 00:59:54,640
Speaker 4: night before, or he'd confront us as we were talking

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00:59:54,680 --> 00:59:57,000
Speaker 4: about him. His parents no longer like me because I'm

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Speaker 4: struggling to find a job. I've been looking for one

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00:59:59,200 --> 01:00:01,560
Speaker 4: since I was seventy. My deadline to have one was

1314
01:00:01,600 --> 01:00:04,800
Speaker 4: on my eighteenth birthday. I've had interviews, I've called even

1315
01:00:04,840 --> 01:00:06,680
Speaker 4: when I didn't have a phone, I called now that

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01:00:06,720 --> 01:00:09,480
Speaker 4: I do have a phone, I'm applying every day. I'm

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Speaker 4: making it known I'm interested. I'm doing everything I can.

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01:00:12,480 --> 01:00:14,280
Speaker 4: But this town I live in isn't very big, and

1319
01:00:14,360 --> 01:00:16,960
Speaker 4: it's just hard. But my boyfriend's mom just thinks I'm

1320
01:00:17,000 --> 01:00:20,840
Speaker 4: sitting in my room doing nothing. This is so hard

1321
01:00:21,040 --> 01:00:23,960
Speaker 4: because obviously op doesn't really probably doesn't have any other

1322
01:00:24,240 --> 01:00:28,240
Speaker 4: options than this family. But obviously this family is just

1323
01:00:28,520 --> 01:00:31,200
Speaker 4: pushing all these boundaries, or not even letting her have

1324
01:00:31,360 --> 01:00:34,000
Speaker 4: any boundaries and just saying, oh, well, you're in our house.

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01:00:33,880 --> 01:00:38,160
Speaker 7: Yeah, and consistently switching up their boundaries without explanation or advance.

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Speaker 4: My boyfriend's mom got upset with me because I chose

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Speaker 4: to get a job instead of going to in person

1328
01:00:42,800 --> 01:00:45,640
Speaker 4: college classes after finding out I couldn't do online anymore,

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01:00:45,760 --> 01:00:47,680
Speaker 4: and seeing her come up with an in person schedule

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01:00:47,720 --> 01:00:49,760
Speaker 4: for me without talking to me about it after I

1331
01:00:49,840 --> 01:00:52,680
Speaker 4: told her a very real, very personal reason as to

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01:00:52,800 --> 01:00:55,760
Speaker 4: why I couldn't even do college in person anymore. After

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01:00:55,880 --> 01:00:58,280
Speaker 4: we moved to our new town, my boyfriend, who's nineteen,

1334
01:00:58,440 --> 01:01:00,160
Speaker 4: found out that he has to share a room this

1335
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Speaker 4: thirteen year old brother.

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Speaker 7: Oh it sucks.

1337
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Speaker 4: He didn't want his stuff in the room he's sharing

1338
01:01:04,920 --> 01:01:07,320
Speaker 4: because his brother likes to touch stuff that doesn't belong

1339
01:01:07,400 --> 01:01:09,160
Speaker 4: to him, So he asked me if he could keep

1340
01:01:09,200 --> 01:01:11,920
Speaker 4: his stuff in my room, and I happily agreed. Then

1341
01:01:12,000 --> 01:01:13,560
Speaker 4: his mom told me that I had to tell him

1342
01:01:13,600 --> 01:01:15,880
Speaker 4: to get his things out because I needed my space.

1343
01:01:16,200 --> 01:01:17,960
Speaker 4: I told her I didn't mind, and I gave him

1344
01:01:18,000 --> 01:01:20,720
Speaker 4: permission to. After an entire argument went down and I

1345
01:01:20,840 --> 01:01:22,640
Speaker 4: was in the car alone with her. By the way,

1346
01:01:22,920 --> 01:01:25,040
Speaker 4: you'll never be alone if you join us live every

1347
01:01:25,040 --> 01:01:29,120
Speaker 4: Weekdad three pmpst on YouTube, TikTok and Facebook. Just top

1348
01:01:29,160 --> 01:01:30,720
Speaker 4: her profile and there is a little bit left.

1349
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Speaker 7: But what do you think again, like just such an

1350
01:01:33,680 --> 01:01:38,520
Speaker 7: unfortunate circumstance. Yeah, like it's so amazing necessity. Yeah, like

1351
01:01:38,720 --> 01:01:40,640
Speaker 7: it is a necessity. It seems like, oh, he has

1352
01:01:40,680 --> 01:01:43,439
Speaker 7: nowhere else to go to go. It was extremely kind

1353
01:01:43,480 --> 01:01:47,040
Speaker 7: and compassionate for oh P's boyfriend to let her stay

1354
01:01:47,360 --> 01:01:50,160
Speaker 7: at the house, and yet at the same time, they're

1355
01:01:50,280 --> 01:01:55,400
Speaker 7: continuously overreaching, They're continuously being controlling and changing their mind

1356
01:01:55,440 --> 01:01:59,000
Speaker 7: without communicating about it, and so it's hard. I'm curious

1357
01:01:59,160 --> 01:02:03,120
Speaker 7: if any conver station has happened with them from either OP,

1358
01:02:03,440 --> 01:02:06,880
Speaker 7: which might be hard, or op's boyfriend. Yeah, of like

1359
01:02:07,080 --> 01:02:10,040
Speaker 7: coming at it from like a hey, you said this thing,

1360
01:02:10,440 --> 01:02:12,840
Speaker 7: and now you're saying this thing. It seems like this

1361
01:02:13,040 --> 01:02:16,200
Speaker 7: is a powdern of you continuously switching up rules or

1362
01:02:16,360 --> 01:02:19,240
Speaker 7: reasoning of rules, and it's I.

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01:02:19,280 --> 01:02:20,880
Speaker 4: Do think that the boyfriend would have to do that

1364
01:02:21,040 --> 01:02:23,720
Speaker 4: for sure. Yeah, just because her place in the house is.

1365
01:02:23,840 --> 01:02:26,960
Speaker 3: So not respected, well not respected, but it's just.

1366
01:02:27,000 --> 01:02:29,480
Speaker 4: So precarious, like she could get kicked.

1367
01:02:29,240 --> 01:02:30,800
Speaker 3: Out and she would have nowhere to go for sure.

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Speaker 7: Just to reiterate, like the birth control thing was like

1369
01:02:33,520 --> 01:02:37,640
Speaker 7: possibly the biggest overreach. So yeah, the body that was

1370
01:02:37,760 --> 01:02:41,040
Speaker 7: wild now making an in person schedule for her. Yeah,

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01:02:41,240 --> 01:02:43,600
Speaker 7: it feels like it's getting more and more as she

1372
01:02:43,760 --> 01:02:45,040
Speaker 7: gets older, which is interesting.

1373
01:02:45,040 --> 01:02:47,720
Speaker 4: Well yeah, yeah, you would think that before anyone says anything.

1374
01:02:47,920 --> 01:02:50,840
Speaker 4: I understand their house, their rules. The rules wouldn't have

1375
01:02:50,880 --> 01:02:52,200
Speaker 4: been a big deal to me if they had just

1376
01:02:52,320 --> 01:02:55,720
Speaker 4: communicated their true intentions behind the rule instead of giving

1377
01:02:55,800 --> 01:02:58,880
Speaker 4: us one reason and changing it or claiming they never

1378
01:02:58,960 --> 01:03:01,360
Speaker 4: made it halfway through, like advice on how to handle

1379
01:03:01,440 --> 01:03:03,800
Speaker 4: my feelings on all this. If I'm wrong for being upset,

1380
01:03:04,080 --> 01:03:06,160
Speaker 4: and that is the end. But you are not wrong

1381
01:03:06,240 --> 01:03:06,920
Speaker 4: for being upset.

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01:03:08,000 --> 01:03:10,919
Speaker 7: You're not the ahole. No, And yet at the same

1383
01:03:11,000 --> 01:03:14,000
Speaker 7: time I think that there is I think the next

1384
01:03:14,040 --> 01:03:17,000
Speaker 7: step possibly would be for your boyfriend to talk to

1385
01:03:17,080 --> 01:03:20,120
Speaker 7: his parents see if there's even possibility, if they're even

1386
01:03:20,240 --> 01:03:25,040
Speaker 7: open to being logical and compassionate around this and willing

1387
01:03:25,120 --> 01:03:29,080
Speaker 7: to be you know, less volatile and less controlling, and

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01:03:29,160 --> 01:03:33,040
Speaker 7: then go from there. Hopefully they are willing. If it's

1389
01:03:33,080 --> 01:03:35,520
Speaker 7: brought up in a way that's like non blaming. Yeah,

1390
01:03:35,560 --> 01:03:39,680
Speaker 7: and if not, maybe like it's come to a point where, like,

1391
01:03:40,200 --> 01:03:43,880
Speaker 7: if it's possible to find another circumstance.

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01:03:43,360 --> 01:03:46,520
Speaker 4: I do think the best solution is to whenever you

1393
01:03:46,640 --> 01:03:48,000
Speaker 4: can move out with your boyfriend.

1394
01:03:48,160 --> 01:03:51,360
Speaker 7: And that's not easy, but if that's possible, it might

1395
01:03:51,560 --> 01:03:54,520
Speaker 7: need to be the steps might need to be made

1396
01:03:54,560 --> 01:03:54,960
Speaker 7: towards that.

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Speaker 3: Hey's John, your og host. Here.

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01:03:56,880 --> 01:03:58,240
Speaker 2: We're gonna get back to the stories, but here's a

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01:03:58,280 --> 01:03:59,960
Speaker 2: quick three minute break of ASTHM form or sponsors.

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Speaker 7: My parents are tearing down my childhood tree house. I

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01:04:04,600 --> 01:04:07,360
Speaker 7: feel like I'm losing a piece of my soul.

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01:04:07,640 --> 01:04:08,400
Speaker 4: Tear them down.

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01:04:08,600 --> 01:04:11,720
Speaker 7: So background on my childhood. My parents ran a business

1404
01:04:11,760 --> 01:04:14,720
Speaker 7: together and constantly fought. I mean constantly. The fights would

1405
01:04:14,760 --> 01:04:18,560
Speaker 7: sometimes devolve into physical altercations that were terrifying to me.

1406
01:04:18,680 --> 01:04:20,840
Speaker 7: I was an only child, so I think I'm the

1407
01:04:21,040 --> 01:04:23,800
Speaker 7: only person in the world besides them who knows how

1408
01:04:23,880 --> 01:04:26,160
Speaker 7: bad it actually got. To the outside world. We were

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01:04:26,200 --> 01:04:29,040
Speaker 7: a very normal family. When I was six, my grandpa

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01:04:29,080 --> 01:04:31,040
Speaker 7: asked me what I wanted for my birthday, even though

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01:04:31,040 --> 01:04:33,600
Speaker 7: I knew I wanted to escape, so I said a

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01:04:33,720 --> 01:04:36,320
Speaker 7: tree house by the way. This comes from you, Jenny

1413
01:04:36,400 --> 01:04:39,560
Speaker 7: Jeans on the r okay Storytime subreddit. So I helped

1414
01:04:39,600 --> 01:04:42,160
Speaker 7: my grandpa with every single nail in that place, and

1415
01:04:42,240 --> 01:04:45,480
Speaker 7: it became my literal sanctuary when there was utter chaos

1416
01:04:45,600 --> 01:04:47,520
Speaker 7: in my house. I was in there when it was

1417
01:04:47,600 --> 01:04:49,880
Speaker 7: one hundred degrees outside. I was in there when it

1418
01:04:49,960 --> 01:04:52,880
Speaker 7: was below freezing. I painted it every year, decorated it.

1419
01:04:53,000 --> 01:04:53,920
Speaker 3: I treated it like it was.

1420
01:04:53,920 --> 01:04:56,680
Speaker 7: Almost a religious retreat for me. I came home every

1421
01:04:56,720 --> 01:04:59,640
Speaker 7: summer from college and cleaned, painted, and even slept in

1422
01:04:59,680 --> 01:05:02,360
Speaker 7: it most of the time. I permanently moved out about

1423
01:05:02,360 --> 01:05:04,720
Speaker 7: a year ago, but I also had fantasies that I

1424
01:05:04,760 --> 01:05:07,840
Speaker 7: could someday introduce my kids to my treehouse. Someday in

1425
01:05:07,960 --> 01:05:10,320
Speaker 7: my ultimate pie in the Sky dreams, I thought about

1426
01:05:10,400 --> 01:05:13,240
Speaker 7: taking it apart, poured by board, reassembling it in my

1427
01:05:13,440 --> 01:05:16,960
Speaker 7: own yard. Yesterday, I got an email from my mom

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01:05:17,520 --> 01:05:21,160
Speaker 7: that almost has a footnote. She said, very casually, Oh,

1429
01:05:21,440 --> 01:05:25,480
Speaker 7: me and your father are tearing out that old oak

1430
01:05:25,560 --> 01:05:28,760
Speaker 7: tree with your ugly tree house and finally putting in

1431
01:05:28,800 --> 01:05:30,439
Speaker 7: a gazebo with a hot tub.

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01:05:30,760 --> 01:05:32,760
Speaker 3: Why aren't you excited for us?

1433
01:05:33,320 --> 01:05:36,120
Speaker 4: This is a classic movie plot, and these are the

1434
01:05:36,360 --> 01:05:38,160
Speaker 4: evil villains of the movie.

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01:05:38,240 --> 01:05:41,160
Speaker 7: Oh, my parents always denied how much they scared me

1436
01:05:41,360 --> 01:05:43,520
Speaker 7: when they fought. They also flat out deny that the

1437
01:05:43,960 --> 01:05:46,120
Speaker 7: fights got as bad as they did. Or they say

1438
01:05:46,160 --> 01:05:49,240
Speaker 7: that since they found Christ, the fights and altercations have

1439
01:05:49,360 --> 01:05:52,000
Speaker 7: been forgiven and I should forgive them too. But I

1440
01:05:52,240 --> 01:05:55,040
Speaker 7: just can't forget, and now threatening to tear down my

1441
01:05:55,280 --> 01:05:58,840
Speaker 7: special space seems like the ultimate omission that they either

1442
01:05:58,960 --> 01:06:02,320
Speaker 7: don't know don't care how much they tormented me with

1443
01:06:02,440 --> 01:06:06,600
Speaker 7: their constant battles. I am crushed over this. Apparently it's

1444
01:06:06,640 --> 01:06:08,920
Speaker 7: coming down Saturday, and I just can't get home to

1445
01:06:09,000 --> 01:06:12,120
Speaker 7: do anything about it. I asked politely if they could

1446
01:06:12,160 --> 01:06:14,160
Speaker 7: try to please save the pieces, and my mom said,

1447
01:06:14,600 --> 01:06:17,640
Speaker 7: we're hiring laborers. I just don't think they'll care enough

1448
01:06:17,720 --> 01:06:20,520
Speaker 7: to try. Thanks a lot, Mom, Can I do here?

1449
01:06:20,920 --> 01:06:23,680
Speaker 7: I'm so crushed? Is this just a part of growing

1450
01:06:23,800 --> 01:06:25,880
Speaker 7: up and being an adult that I have to deal with?

1451
01:06:26,040 --> 01:06:28,240
Speaker 7: Should I pay over twelve one hundred dollars for a

1452
01:06:28,360 --> 01:06:30,440
Speaker 7: last minute ticket tomorrow and try to save as much

1453
01:06:30,480 --> 01:06:32,080
Speaker 7: as I can and we have an update?

1454
01:06:32,360 --> 01:06:33,600
Speaker 6: But what are your thoughts?

1455
01:06:33,880 --> 01:06:35,200
Speaker 7: I mean, like, what do you do here?

1456
01:06:35,320 --> 01:06:38,360
Speaker 4: When you're the kid you like this is your parents'.

1457
01:06:38,160 --> 01:06:40,480
Speaker 6: Tree rally, the troops ray the truth.

1458
01:06:40,640 --> 01:06:42,880
Speaker 4: I think you tie yourself to the tree and you

1459
01:06:42,960 --> 01:06:44,880
Speaker 4: don't let them pass. That's my solution.

1460
01:06:45,200 --> 01:06:49,160
Speaker 7: It seems like OP is not really expressing any of

1461
01:06:49,280 --> 01:06:52,200
Speaker 7: these things. I think there's room here for OP to

1462
01:06:52,320 --> 01:06:54,200
Speaker 7: be maybe a little more real and a little more

1463
01:06:54,320 --> 01:06:57,880
Speaker 7: vulnerable and share what this represents to them. And maybe

1464
01:06:58,080 --> 01:07:00,240
Speaker 7: there isn't an option to save the tree, but maybe

1465
01:07:00,280 --> 01:07:04,760
Speaker 7: there's options to one, you know, dave the pieces, or

1466
01:07:04,880 --> 01:07:08,040
Speaker 7: to maybe have a little more time or something that

1467
01:07:08,120 --> 01:07:11,000
Speaker 7: would maybe allow or this to not be so full

1468
01:07:11,040 --> 01:07:11,960
Speaker 7: of full of grief.

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01:07:12,240 --> 01:07:12,439
Speaker 4: Yeah.

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01:07:13,760 --> 01:07:16,480
Speaker 7: So I hope that there's a conversation space for a

1471
01:07:16,520 --> 01:07:20,320
Speaker 7: conversation you had or a hero's journey updates. So en

1472
01:07:20,480 --> 01:07:23,200
Speaker 7: story is I called my mom to please take several

1473
01:07:23,320 --> 01:07:27,080
Speaker 7: pictures of the treehouse for me, you sue from several angles,

1474
01:07:27,120 --> 01:07:30,000
Speaker 7: and inside she was so rude and dismissive and said

1475
01:07:30,160 --> 01:07:32,720
Speaker 7: something along the lines of, oh, Jenny, we don't have

1476
01:07:32,800 --> 01:07:34,479
Speaker 7: time for that, and you can't expect us to climb

1477
01:07:34,520 --> 01:07:35,600
Speaker 7: up into that piece of junk.

1478
01:07:35,760 --> 01:07:38,440
Speaker 4: Oh Jenny, we do not have signs for that, so

1479
01:07:38,560 --> 01:07:40,800
Speaker 4: we cannot climb up this piece of junk.

1480
01:07:41,240 --> 01:07:44,240
Speaker 7: I was heartbroken all over it again because she was

1481
01:07:44,480 --> 01:07:48,000
Speaker 7: callous the damn French. I decided that the only way

1482
01:07:48,240 --> 01:07:50,360
Speaker 7: I was going to have any keepstakes was to fly

1483
01:07:50,560 --> 01:07:53,480
Speaker 7: home and either take pictures myself or save as much

1484
01:07:53,480 --> 01:07:55,080
Speaker 7: as the wood as I could. I bought a really

1485
01:07:55,160 --> 01:07:57,840
Speaker 7: expensive last minute ticket home after I'd already paid the

1486
01:07:57,880 --> 01:08:00,280
Speaker 7: ticket or remember that maybe my neighbor would be willing

1487
01:08:00,280 --> 01:08:02,760
Speaker 7: to take some pictures from me. They are an elderly couple,

1488
01:08:02,880 --> 01:08:05,840
Speaker 7: but they had almost been like surrogate grandparents when they

1489
01:08:05,880 --> 01:08:08,880
Speaker 7: were home. They traveled a lot, but mister Smith prided

1490
01:08:09,000 --> 01:08:11,000
Speaker 7: himself on being in great shape, so I figured it

1491
01:08:11,040 --> 01:08:13,560
Speaker 7: couldn't hurt to ask him for pictures just in case

1492
01:08:13,600 --> 01:08:15,760
Speaker 7: I didn't make it home in time. To say. It

1493
01:08:15,880 --> 01:08:20,040
Speaker 7: was an odd conversation. I'll just type it out to

1494
01:08:20,120 --> 01:08:21,240
Speaker 7: the best of my memory.

1495
01:08:21,439 --> 01:08:21,479
Speaker 4: Me.

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01:08:21,720 --> 01:08:24,400
Speaker 7: Hi'm missus Smith. It's Jenny from next door. Are you

1497
01:08:24,479 --> 01:08:27,160
Speaker 7: guys in town by chance? Missus Smith, Jenny from block?

1498
01:08:27,200 --> 01:08:28,800
Speaker 7: It's so good to hear from you. No, we are

1499
01:08:28,840 --> 01:08:31,240
Speaker 7: at our place in XXXX. Is there something I could

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01:08:31,240 --> 01:08:31,479
Speaker 7: do for you?

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01:08:31,600 --> 01:08:32,240
Speaker 6: Is everything okay?

1502
01:08:32,400 --> 01:08:33,280
Speaker 3: Well not really.

1503
01:08:33,479 --> 01:08:35,320
Speaker 7: My parents are tearing down the oak tree with my

1504
01:08:35,520 --> 01:08:36,120
Speaker 7: missus Smith.

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01:08:36,520 --> 01:08:38,120
Speaker 6: What they are doing?

1506
01:08:38,200 --> 01:08:40,840
Speaker 7: What they are tearing down that oak tree with my

1507
01:08:41,360 --> 01:08:41,960
Speaker 7: free house.

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01:08:42,080 --> 01:08:46,400
Speaker 3: No, they can't do that. That's our that's our oak tree.

1509
01:08:46,800 --> 01:08:52,720
Speaker 6: Dust Ah the Hero's Journey, Yes, we're back on schedule.

1510
01:08:53,960 --> 01:08:58,840
Speaker 4: Yes, okay, Smith about to save then.

1511
01:09:00,280 --> 01:09:01,880
Speaker 7: This is the part of the Hero's Journey when like

1512
01:09:02,000 --> 01:09:04,799
Speaker 7: the mentor comes in like the wise Wizard.

1513
01:09:04,880 --> 01:09:07,439
Speaker 3: It is like, actually, I will defend the your tree myself.

1514
01:09:08,040 --> 01:09:09,040
Speaker 6: Yes, a young paddle one.

1515
01:09:09,160 --> 01:09:11,680
Speaker 7: Yes, well, I think either Friday or Saturday they are

1516
01:09:11,760 --> 01:09:14,680
Speaker 7: having people over to cut it all down. Jenny, I

1517
01:09:14,760 --> 01:09:15,719
Speaker 7: need to make some calls.

1518
01:09:15,960 --> 01:09:17,080
Speaker 3: I'm sorry, I need to let you go.

1519
01:09:17,200 --> 01:09:19,479
Speaker 6: I'll try to call you back. Rallying the troops, I

1520
01:09:19,840 --> 01:09:22,880
Speaker 6: called it rally the troop called it. So.

1521
01:09:23,240 --> 01:09:26,000
Speaker 7: I flew home early Friday morning. My parents had hired

1522
01:09:26,000 --> 01:09:28,800
Speaker 7: some laborers from home Depot, but weren't home. They were

1523
01:09:28,880 --> 01:09:31,360
Speaker 7: well underway tearing my treehouse.

1524
01:09:31,680 --> 01:09:31,720
Speaker 6: No.

1525
01:09:32,840 --> 01:09:35,160
Speaker 7: I approached them and asked if I could pay them

1526
01:09:35,240 --> 01:09:38,400
Speaker 7: to set aside the boards and metal parts and not

1527
01:09:38,720 --> 01:09:41,960
Speaker 7: throw them in the dumpster they had brought. They agreed,

1528
01:09:42,040 --> 01:09:44,080
Speaker 7: and I was able to save almost all the wood

1529
01:09:44,120 --> 01:09:46,679
Speaker 7: in a very neat pile. I even tried to number

1530
01:09:46,720 --> 01:09:49,639
Speaker 7: everything so if I ever do get to rebuild it someday,

1531
01:09:50,120 --> 01:09:52,800
Speaker 7: I know it goes together. It was an ideal, but

1532
01:09:52,920 --> 01:09:55,679
Speaker 7: I feel fortunate that I did get to save most

1533
01:09:55,800 --> 01:09:59,040
Speaker 7: everything that was sad. All seems lost might be.

1534
01:09:59,360 --> 01:10:01,760
Speaker 4: It might actually be lost. But the tree with the tree,

1535
01:10:01,960 --> 01:10:04,679
Speaker 4: the tree is still there. The tree is not gone

1536
01:10:04,840 --> 01:10:05,320
Speaker 4: quite yet.

1537
01:10:05,479 --> 01:10:06,639
Speaker 7: And the wood was saved.

1538
01:10:06,880 --> 01:10:07,840
Speaker 4: Yeah, the wood was saved.

1539
01:10:08,000 --> 01:10:10,479
Speaker 7: I'd say. At maybe six PM, my parents finally showed up,

1540
01:10:10,680 --> 01:10:13,120
Speaker 7: and they were as mad as I've ever seen them.

1541
01:10:13,240 --> 01:10:15,559
Speaker 7: They weren't even happy to see me. When it turns

1542
01:10:15,560 --> 01:10:19,120
Speaker 7: out the neighbors had their lawyer issued in injunction against

1543
01:10:19,200 --> 01:10:21,720
Speaker 7: tearing the tree down. I can't even begin to see

1544
01:10:21,720 --> 01:10:24,360
Speaker 7: how angry my parents were, and they didn't even really

1545
01:10:24,479 --> 01:10:26,080
Speaker 7: speak to me to tell me what was going on.

1546
01:10:26,240 --> 01:10:28,160
Speaker 7: So I called mister and missus Smith back. It took

1547
01:10:28,240 --> 01:10:30,360
Speaker 7: until Saturday, but finally called and they told me that

1548
01:10:30,439 --> 01:10:33,240
Speaker 7: basically there had been a surveying mistake when my parents

1549
01:10:33,280 --> 01:10:35,240
Speaker 7: had built their house in the eighties, and the tree

1550
01:10:35,240 --> 01:10:37,519
Speaker 7: had actually been on the Smith's properly the whole time.

1551
01:10:38,080 --> 01:10:40,240
Speaker 7: They told me they always had an uneasy piece with

1552
01:10:40,360 --> 01:10:42,639
Speaker 7: my parents over the era, and I never minded having

1553
01:10:42,680 --> 01:10:44,640
Speaker 7: a treehouse in the tree, but chopping it down was

1554
01:10:44,720 --> 01:10:46,719
Speaker 7: crossing a major line.

1555
01:10:46,880 --> 01:10:50,280
Speaker 4: Yes, put your foot down as Missus Smith tree.

1556
01:10:50,479 --> 01:10:52,680
Speaker 7: They said the tree gave them great shade in the

1557
01:10:52,720 --> 01:10:55,320
Speaker 7: summer mornings and they could not imagine tearing it down

1558
01:10:55,360 --> 01:10:58,200
Speaker 7: for any reason. They asked me what my parents' reasons were,

1559
01:10:58,280 --> 01:11:01,479
Speaker 7: and I told them about the because and he literally

1560
01:11:01,600 --> 01:11:05,200
Speaker 7: started laughing a ze bo that my parents had the

1561
01:11:05,400 --> 01:11:09,200
Speaker 7: nerve to knowingly build a gazebo on their property. He

1562
01:11:09,320 --> 01:11:12,240
Speaker 7: said he'd always planned on legally deaning the property over

1563
01:11:12,320 --> 01:11:14,360
Speaker 7: to my parents, since it's only about eleven foot era

1564
01:11:14,760 --> 01:11:17,519
Speaker 7: along the entire property, But since he thinks my parents

1565
01:11:17,640 --> 01:11:19,800
Speaker 7: purposely waited until he and Missus Smith were out of

1566
01:11:19,840 --> 01:11:21,960
Speaker 7: town that ripped down the tree, he wasn't in any

1567
01:11:22,040 --> 01:11:25,840
Speaker 7: mood to do them favors. Saturday was awkward and I

1568
01:11:26,000 --> 01:11:29,519
Speaker 7: spent the night at a friend from high school. This morning,

1569
01:11:29,600 --> 01:11:32,759
Speaker 7: my dad said he wanted my crap off his property.

1570
01:11:32,840 --> 01:11:34,400
Speaker 7: So I called the Smith's back and they said they

1571
01:11:34,439 --> 01:11:37,240
Speaker 7: didn't mind if I stored my wood in their barn,

1572
01:11:37,320 --> 01:11:39,760
Speaker 7: as long as I needed got a barn. You want

1573
01:11:39,800 --> 01:11:43,519
Speaker 7: to store your attention in this show, you can join

1574
01:11:43,640 --> 01:11:49,320
Speaker 7: us live on YouTube every weekday at three pm through Facebook, TikTok, Twitch,

1575
01:11:49,960 --> 01:11:52,519
Speaker 7: and YouTube. The most important want.

1576
01:11:53,000 --> 01:11:55,839
Speaker 4: What applots to ust. Honestly, I have no like advice

1577
01:11:56,040 --> 01:11:58,240
Speaker 4: because it seems like it's working out now. This feels

1578
01:11:58,280 --> 01:12:01,360
Speaker 4: like we've had this whole cinematic aperience and we just

1579
01:12:01,479 --> 01:12:04,799
Speaker 4: reached the climax and now we're bring to the denoment,

1580
01:12:05,120 --> 01:12:06,840
Speaker 4: the falling action of this tale.

1581
01:12:08,400 --> 01:12:10,320
Speaker 7: The resolution is in smelling range.

1582
01:12:10,800 --> 01:12:14,400
Speaker 6: You get yourself a gazebo and make it out of

1583
01:12:14,439 --> 01:12:16,840
Speaker 6: the wood on us. Yeah, maybe make it out of

1584
01:12:16,840 --> 01:12:17,120
Speaker 6: the wood.

1585
01:12:17,240 --> 01:12:19,360
Speaker 7: My parents went to church and I plan on leaving

1586
01:12:19,439 --> 01:12:23,479
Speaker 7: without saying goodbye. I had some memorabilia boxes in the attic.

1587
01:12:23,840 --> 01:12:26,360
Speaker 7: I'm taking them to a friend's house and she's going

1588
01:12:26,439 --> 01:12:28,960
Speaker 7: to ship them to me, so there's nothing left in

1589
01:12:29,000 --> 01:12:30,880
Speaker 7: the house for my parents take their anger out on.

1590
01:12:31,120 --> 01:12:33,080
Speaker 7: I don't know how this will affect our relationship, but

1591
01:12:33,160 --> 01:12:35,519
Speaker 7: the reality is we haven't had much of one for

1592
01:12:35,600 --> 01:12:38,479
Speaker 7: a long time. I don't have any attachment to my

1593
01:12:38,600 --> 01:12:41,120
Speaker 7: childhood home anymore, so, at least in the near term,

1594
01:12:41,240 --> 01:12:42,960
Speaker 7: there's nothing for me to really go home.

1595
01:12:44,560 --> 01:12:46,479
Speaker 4: And you've got the wood and the tree still around,

1596
01:12:46,760 --> 01:12:48,800
Speaker 4: you know, there's still a little bit of still a

1597
01:12:48,800 --> 01:12:51,200
Speaker 4: little bit of sadness about this tree. But I think

1598
01:12:51,320 --> 01:12:53,599
Speaker 4: in the end, you got some of what you wanted.

1599
01:12:53,680 --> 01:12:54,360
Speaker 6: You got the wood.

1600
01:12:54,680 --> 01:12:56,600
Speaker 4: Your parents didn't get any of what they wanted to

1601
01:12:56,720 --> 01:12:57,200
Speaker 4: that that's a win.

1602
01:12:57,360 --> 01:12:58,040
Speaker 7: That's great news.

1603
01:12:58,320 --> 01:12:59,280
Speaker 4: Yeah, win is a win.

1604
01:13:00,120 --> 01:13:03,960
Speaker 7: It was a w by any other name. It sucks again, Like,

1605
01:13:04,240 --> 01:13:08,200
Speaker 7: it's not just a treehouse that was sweet to him.

1606
01:13:08,320 --> 01:13:11,960
Speaker 7: It was it was a sanctuary away from watching the

1607
01:13:12,120 --> 01:13:17,360
Speaker 7: parents fighting and conflict and physical altercations. Like, I'm sure

1608
01:13:17,400 --> 01:13:20,720
Speaker 7: that represents so much and it is almost sacred. And

1609
01:13:20,960 --> 01:13:24,080
Speaker 7: to have that torn down, Yeah, it's just so awful.

1610
01:13:25,880 --> 01:13:28,120
Speaker 4: My mom kicked me out of the house but still

1611
01:13:28,240 --> 01:13:30,080
Speaker 4: wants me to pay for lawn service.

1612
01:13:30,600 --> 01:13:31,679
Speaker 7: I ain't paying for crap.

1613
01:13:32,960 --> 01:13:35,519
Speaker 4: And this is a direct Okay storytime submission.

1614
01:13:35,680 --> 01:13:37,360
Speaker 3: This is from one of you guys.

1615
01:13:37,600 --> 01:13:42,639
Speaker 4: Oh, so, my mom and stepdad started divorcing last year. Together,

1616
01:13:42,760 --> 01:13:45,800
Speaker 4: they owned their house and two rentals. My mom stayed

1617
01:13:45,840 --> 01:13:48,080
Speaker 4: at the house and stepdad moved to one of the rentals.

1618
01:13:48,160 --> 01:13:50,960
Speaker 4: To my understanding, stepdad was getting the two rentals and

1619
01:13:51,160 --> 01:13:54,439
Speaker 4: mom the house in the division of assets once the

1620
01:13:54,520 --> 01:13:57,519
Speaker 4: divorce was finalized. By the way, this comes from more

1621
01:13:57,560 --> 01:14:00,880
Speaker 4: anger please on the okay storytime separate. So last year,

1622
01:14:00,920 --> 01:14:03,439
Speaker 4: at the end of summer, my best friend, Slash roommate,

1623
01:14:03,439 --> 01:14:05,360
Speaker 4: and I were told that our landlord was planning on

1624
01:14:05,479 --> 01:14:09,160
Speaker 4: selling their rental that we lived in, so sometime around

1625
01:14:09,320 --> 01:14:11,439
Speaker 4: the beginning of next summer. We were already thinking of

1626
01:14:11,520 --> 01:14:14,839
Speaker 4: moving soonish anyways, since we were both finished with college

1627
01:14:14,880 --> 01:14:17,800
Speaker 4: and ready for a more adult house, but we still

1628
01:14:17,920 --> 01:14:20,160
Speaker 4: didn't like the idea of looking for a new place

1629
01:14:20,320 --> 01:14:22,720
Speaker 4: since we were getting a great deal on rent and

1630
01:14:22,880 --> 01:14:25,160
Speaker 4: knew it would not be like that at a new place.

1631
01:14:25,320 --> 01:14:27,720
Speaker 4: My mom and stepdad offered their remaining rental at a

1632
01:14:27,760 --> 01:14:30,040
Speaker 4: discount at the limit of our budget, but would need

1633
01:14:30,160 --> 01:14:32,160
Speaker 4: us to move in much sooner than we were originally

1634
01:14:32,200 --> 01:14:34,679
Speaker 4: planning for when their tenant moved out at the beginning

1635
01:14:34,680 --> 01:14:37,120
Speaker 4: of fall. We jumped at the chance and were excited

1636
01:14:37,160 --> 01:14:39,160
Speaker 4: to have a bigger place since we were getting a

1637
01:14:39,240 --> 01:14:42,080
Speaker 4: discount on the rent. There was no negotiating Slash offer

1638
01:14:42,200 --> 01:14:45,160
Speaker 4: to have lawn or any other utilities included, not that

1639
01:14:45,280 --> 01:14:47,240
Speaker 4: we assumed there would be. We had lawns since we

1640
01:14:47,320 --> 01:14:50,160
Speaker 4: have lived right next door to our previous landlord and

1641
01:14:50,240 --> 01:14:52,920
Speaker 4: a super small yard. Neither of us liked doing yard work,

1642
01:14:53,000 --> 01:14:55,280
Speaker 4: so we were pretty lazy with upkeep and kind of

1643
01:14:55,360 --> 01:14:57,240
Speaker 4: let it run wild. But we didn't mind the look

1644
01:14:57,240 --> 01:14:59,920
Speaker 4: of it, and there weren't any city regulations we were violating.

1645
01:15:00,000 --> 01:15:02,320
Speaker 4: This was a concern brought up in case we were fine,

1646
01:15:02,400 --> 01:15:04,040
Speaker 4: so we looked it up. We were planning on living

1647
01:15:04,080 --> 01:15:05,880
Speaker 4: there for at least a couple of years and would

1648
01:15:05,960 --> 01:15:08,120
Speaker 4: obviously deal with the lawn at some point when we

1649
01:15:08,200 --> 01:15:10,599
Speaker 4: were ready to move. Also, to note, we didn't sign

1650
01:15:10,640 --> 01:15:13,639
Speaker 4: a lease or pay a deposit. We had agreed verbally

1651
01:15:13,760 --> 01:15:16,040
Speaker 4: that we'd be totally willing and kind of expected at

1652
01:15:16,120 --> 01:15:19,400
Speaker 4: least a deposit, but my stepdad had never gotten around

1653
01:15:19,439 --> 01:15:21,280
Speaker 4: to it. But again, we were planning on being here

1654
01:15:21,320 --> 01:15:23,680
Speaker 4: for a long time, so we weren't concerned. Then, not

1655
01:15:23,840 --> 01:15:26,160
Speaker 4: even a full two months ago, my mom texts me

1656
01:15:26,280 --> 01:15:28,280
Speaker 4: that she might be selling her house and was looking

1657
01:15:28,320 --> 01:15:30,640
Speaker 4: at her new living options because her current house was

1658
01:15:30,680 --> 01:15:33,000
Speaker 4: too expensive. We had talked about her keeping the house

1659
01:15:33,080 --> 01:15:35,560
Speaker 4: and her and stepdad's asset division before we moved in,

1660
01:15:35,840 --> 01:15:39,439
Speaker 4: so that this wouldn't happen. Then, a week after the text,

1661
01:15:39,560 --> 01:15:42,240
Speaker 4: which again was very nondescript and not final, we were

1662
01:15:42,280 --> 01:15:44,320
Speaker 4: having family dinner and she said that we needed to

1663
01:15:44,400 --> 01:15:47,799
Speaker 4: move out of our house once she sells hers. Obviously,

1664
01:15:48,000 --> 01:15:50,040
Speaker 4: best friend and I were upset, but I was trying

1665
01:15:50,080 --> 01:15:52,360
Speaker 4: to be understanding of the situation. But we had talked

1666
01:15:52,400 --> 01:15:54,439
Speaker 4: about this last year before we moved in, so that

1667
01:15:54,600 --> 01:15:57,800
Speaker 4: this situation could be avoided. It hasn't even been a

1668
01:15:57,920 --> 01:16:00,040
Speaker 4: year since we moved in either, so best friends and

1669
01:16:00,160 --> 01:16:02,880
Speaker 4: I frantically looked for a new place to live since

1670
01:16:02,920 --> 01:16:05,639
Speaker 4: we had no real timeline when her house would sell

1671
01:16:05,760 --> 01:16:07,640
Speaker 4: and we need to leave. We found a place and

1672
01:16:07,800 --> 01:16:09,800
Speaker 4: moved within a month of finding out we were being

1673
01:16:09,880 --> 01:16:11,840
Speaker 4: kicked out, so we weren't able to give a thirty

1674
01:16:11,920 --> 01:16:15,360
Speaker 4: day notice. Well you didn't really get a thirty day notice.

1675
01:16:15,560 --> 01:16:17,719
Speaker 4: You just gotta you gotta leave. At the same time,

1676
01:16:17,880 --> 01:16:19,800
Speaker 4: we hadn't been living there a full year and we

1677
01:16:19,920 --> 01:16:22,639
Speaker 4: were told we needed to get out soon anyway. Both

1678
01:16:22,720 --> 01:16:25,280
Speaker 4: mom and stepdad were out of town the weekend we moved,

1679
01:16:25,400 --> 01:16:27,599
Speaker 4: so we cleaned the place and left the spare key.

1680
01:16:27,760 --> 01:16:29,960
Speaker 4: Both mom and stepdad were out of town the weekend

1681
01:16:30,000 --> 01:16:32,000
Speaker 4: we moved, so we cleaned the place and left the

1682
01:16:32,040 --> 01:16:34,800
Speaker 4: spare key, assuming we'd drop off our keys later, and

1683
01:16:34,920 --> 01:16:37,639
Speaker 4: I texted them that it was all theirs now. Then

1684
01:16:37,720 --> 01:16:39,880
Speaker 4: they text me back to back about how we should

1685
01:16:39,880 --> 01:16:42,559
Speaker 4: pay for the yard service since we never got around

1686
01:16:42,600 --> 01:16:45,599
Speaker 4: to mowing and cleaning service because it was common courtesy

1687
01:16:45,840 --> 01:16:47,959
Speaker 4: and they had been doing us a favor by discounting

1688
01:16:48,000 --> 01:16:51,040
Speaker 4: rent until then. Now this pissed me off. They kick

1689
01:16:51,120 --> 01:16:53,160
Speaker 4: us out and then want us to pay for maintenance

1690
01:16:53,200 --> 01:16:55,120
Speaker 4: since we didn't pay a deposit, but it was their

1691
01:16:55,240 --> 01:16:57,719
Speaker 4: decision to not make us pay one we were ready

1692
01:16:57,760 --> 01:17:00,240
Speaker 4: and willing to, and that all of a sudden they asked, like,

1693
01:17:00,280 --> 01:17:03,320
Speaker 4: our relationship is that of regular landlords and tenants and

1694
01:17:03,479 --> 01:17:06,240
Speaker 4: holding discounted rent over our heads to guilt us into

1695
01:17:06,320 --> 01:17:08,400
Speaker 4: doing whatever for them. I told them that we wouldn't

1696
01:17:08,400 --> 01:17:11,400
Speaker 4: pay for lawn service and it was perfectly clean inside otherwise.

1697
01:17:11,600 --> 01:17:16,000
Speaker 4: My mom then texts me, calling me untitled, unempathetic, and disappointing.

1698
01:17:16,120 --> 01:17:19,599
Speaker 4: I've been super helpful and understanding throughout their whole divorce,

1699
01:17:19,760 --> 01:17:22,479
Speaker 4: and I was legitimately depressed because of it, and I've

1700
01:17:22,560 --> 01:17:24,400
Speaker 4: kept a level head the whole time we were being

1701
01:17:24,479 --> 01:17:26,360
Speaker 4: kicked out of her home. I didn't expect them to

1702
01:17:26,520 --> 01:17:29,840
Speaker 4: rent us their rental when we started looking last year.

1703
01:17:29,920 --> 01:17:32,479
Speaker 4: It was just super nice. The timing and budget worked,

1704
01:17:32,680 --> 01:17:35,120
Speaker 4: and besides the yard, we took good care of the place.

1705
01:17:35,320 --> 01:17:38,719
Speaker 4: I'm not understanding where I'm being entitled. I don't understand

1706
01:17:38,760 --> 01:17:41,560
Speaker 4: why my mom is making everything so transactional now, like

1707
01:17:41,640 --> 01:17:43,360
Speaker 4: she does something for me, so I have to do

1708
01:17:43,439 --> 01:17:46,080
Speaker 4: what she wants to pay her back. Is that not entitled?

1709
01:17:46,280 --> 01:17:48,640
Speaker 4: I'm frustrated by her lack of long term planning and

1710
01:17:48,720 --> 01:17:52,400
Speaker 4: how it's affecting my living situation and my life so heavily. Yeah,

1711
01:17:52,439 --> 01:17:55,519
Speaker 4: I mean, she's expecting this kind of landlord treatment or

1712
01:17:55,640 --> 01:17:58,920
Speaker 4: at least like renterer treatment from you guys, but is

1713
01:17:59,000 --> 01:18:02,400
Speaker 4: not giving that same landlord courtesy back. It would just

1714
01:18:02,439 --> 01:18:05,400
Speaker 4: be a lot more formal with an actual landlord, and

1715
01:18:05,600 --> 01:18:08,600
Speaker 4: she's trying to impose that formality, but also you know,

1716
01:18:08,680 --> 01:18:10,400
Speaker 4: kicking them out with very little notice, and.

1717
01:18:10,479 --> 01:18:12,320
Speaker 3: So it's yeah, it's kind of weird.

1718
01:18:12,640 --> 01:18:17,000
Speaker 7: The short noticing is interesting. I'm curious. I want more

1719
01:18:17,040 --> 01:18:21,320
Speaker 7: context for that. And then there's like other kind of

1720
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Speaker 7: interesting things because it's like family. I don't think it's

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01:18:24,200 --> 01:18:28,719
Speaker 7: that unreasonable to ask for them to pay for yard service. Yeah,

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01:18:28,880 --> 01:18:31,080
Speaker 7: I don't know if it's like OP is making the

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01:18:31,120 --> 01:18:34,599
Speaker 7: assumption they're holding it over our head because we didn't

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01:18:34,600 --> 01:18:38,120
Speaker 7: pay the deposit and that and like other things there.

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01:18:38,160 --> 01:18:40,640
Speaker 7: But I don't know if that's necessarily true. I think

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01:18:40,680 --> 01:18:44,000
Speaker 7: it's just common courtesy. If you're living somewhere, it's your

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01:18:44,040 --> 01:18:46,320
Speaker 7: decision to take care of the lawn. But if not in,

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01:18:46,400 --> 01:18:48,360
Speaker 7: the lawn needs to be taken care of when you

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01:18:48,520 --> 01:18:51,280
Speaker 7: move out. That's kind of like what you pay for. Yeah,

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01:18:51,400 --> 01:18:54,479
Speaker 7: and like the house, if it's unclean, you pay for that.

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01:18:54,760 --> 01:18:58,160
Speaker 7: And sure that's like a standard you know, landlord, non

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01:18:58,280 --> 01:19:01,320
Speaker 7: family agreement. But I also think with family that's still

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01:19:01,479 --> 01:19:04,680
Speaker 7: common courtesy, and the fact that like they're upset that

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01:19:04,760 --> 01:19:06,800
Speaker 7: their mom would dare ask for that is a little

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01:19:06,840 --> 01:19:07,439
Speaker 7: confusing to me.

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Speaker 4: I think that next time, if you ever have to,

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01:19:10,800 --> 01:19:14,240
Speaker 4: like you know, live in a family member's home or

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01:19:14,280 --> 01:19:16,160
Speaker 4: something and there's some sort of rental agreement, there just

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01:19:16,200 --> 01:19:17,960
Speaker 4: needs to be a lot more like you have to

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01:19:18,040 --> 01:19:20,080
Speaker 4: go through it a lot more formally so that you

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01:19:20,320 --> 01:19:22,760
Speaker 4: each you know, you both know what the expectations are.

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01:19:22,920 --> 01:19:25,320
Speaker 7: Do you think it's unreasonable to ask, like, hey, the

1743
01:19:25,439 --> 01:19:27,920
Speaker 7: yard's a mess, can you can you fix that? People

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01:19:28,400 --> 01:19:28,960
Speaker 7: that we don't have.

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01:19:29,040 --> 01:19:31,400
Speaker 4: To the only reason, Yeah, I do kind of agree

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01:19:31,479 --> 01:19:35,400
Speaker 4: on that part because OPI said, oh, like we would

1747
01:19:35,800 --> 01:19:37,680
Speaker 4: they were going to clean up the yard, but then

1748
01:19:37,720 --> 01:19:40,439
Speaker 4: didn't because they got pushed out quickly. But I do

1749
01:19:40,600 --> 01:19:42,880
Speaker 4: think that there's just a lot of you know, like

1750
01:19:43,280 --> 01:19:46,360
Speaker 4: disrespect on the parents side as well, in terms of

1751
01:19:46,520 --> 01:19:48,080
Speaker 4: just pushing them out, because that's I mean, that was

1752
01:19:48,160 --> 01:19:50,800
Speaker 4: pretty out of nowhere when they they were it seems

1753
01:19:50,800 --> 01:19:52,439
Speaker 4: like Ope and her friend were under the impression that

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01:19:52,439 --> 01:19:53,439
Speaker 4: they would be there for years.

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01:19:53,640 --> 01:19:56,040
Speaker 7: Yeah, and we're there for like half year, I think,

1756
01:19:56,400 --> 01:19:58,400
Speaker 7: to say like you need to do this, and then

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01:19:58,479 --> 01:20:00,400
Speaker 7: if they don't, and then holding the money over to

1758
01:20:00,560 --> 01:20:03,280
Speaker 7: like insult them and saying like, oh, you're so this

1759
01:20:03,439 --> 01:20:05,320
Speaker 7: and this and this, rather than like having an adult

1760
01:20:05,360 --> 01:20:08,360
Speaker 7: conversation of like, hey, look like this is why we

1761
01:20:08,479 --> 01:20:11,680
Speaker 7: think you should and like we would like you to

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01:20:11,800 --> 01:20:12,000
Speaker 7: do this.

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01:20:12,280 --> 01:20:13,719
Speaker 4: Yeah. I feel like you could just say I feel

1764
01:20:13,720 --> 01:20:15,720
Speaker 4: like the parents could have just said, hey, could you

1765
01:20:15,920 --> 01:20:17,920
Speaker 4: help us clean up the yard? Could you mean to

1766
01:20:18,040 --> 01:20:19,800
Speaker 4: help us? Like I know we had talked about you

1767
01:20:19,880 --> 01:20:22,080
Speaker 4: guys maintaining the yard. Do you mind you know, doing

1768
01:20:22,160 --> 01:20:24,320
Speaker 4: that before you move out? Sorry for the yeah, but

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01:20:24,400 --> 01:20:27,080
Speaker 4: there was just a lot of lack of communication, I think,

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01:20:27,200 --> 01:20:29,240
Speaker 4: and also usually, I think when you move out of

1771
01:20:29,680 --> 01:20:32,840
Speaker 4: a house for cleaning services, that's not usually tied with

1772
01:20:33,120 --> 01:20:34,720
Speaker 4: a deposit. Those are two separate things.

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01:20:34,960 --> 01:20:37,080
Speaker 7: Actually, no, it's it is tied to the deposit, not

1774
01:20:37,479 --> 01:20:37,720
Speaker 7: or at.

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01:20:37,760 --> 01:20:41,400
Speaker 4: Least in the last place that I went to wasn't tied.

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01:20:41,800 --> 01:20:42,080
Speaker 5: It was.

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01:20:42,280 --> 01:20:44,719
Speaker 4: There was a cleaning fee and then there was a deposit.

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01:20:45,000 --> 01:20:47,040
Speaker 7: Yeah, but if there needs to be a cleaning fee,

1779
01:20:47,080 --> 01:20:48,240
Speaker 7: that's taken out of the deposit.

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01:20:48,320 --> 01:20:50,320
Speaker 4: I believe hmmm, there was a separate thing.

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01:20:51,040 --> 01:20:53,840
Speaker 7: Yeah, Okay, I think that it's totally we'll get back

1782
01:20:53,840 --> 01:20:56,280
Speaker 7: to the store. But I think it's totally reasonable to

1783
01:20:56,840 --> 01:20:58,840
Speaker 7: expect them to take care of the lawn. And I

1784
01:20:58,880 --> 01:21:00,880
Speaker 7: think it could have been communicating it in a different way.

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01:21:01,040 --> 01:21:03,040
Speaker 4: Yeah, I think so too. But her situation does not

1786
01:21:03,200 --> 01:21:05,200
Speaker 4: mean that I need to help her in every which way,

1787
01:21:05,479 --> 01:21:08,400
Speaker 4: even at the detriment to my livelihood. I've been helpful

1788
01:21:08,439 --> 01:21:11,519
Speaker 4: when I can be and never expected anything in return

1789
01:21:11,680 --> 01:21:14,559
Speaker 4: because she's my mom and family. But now I'm entitled

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01:21:14,600 --> 01:21:16,240
Speaker 4: if I don't do one thing to help her out.

1791
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1793
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Speaker 7: To this story, but in some sense there weren't in

1795
01:21:27,040 --> 01:21:30,120
Speaker 7: that they said they would pay for the yard at

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01:21:30,200 --> 01:21:33,880
Speaker 7: some point, and then when the parents were expecting that

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01:21:34,000 --> 01:21:36,840
Speaker 7: to be fulfilled, oh Pie said, how dare you, yeah,

1798
01:21:37,200 --> 01:21:39,320
Speaker 7: ask for this thing that I said I was going

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Speaker 7: to do.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I am wondering why, why, Like I was the

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01:21:42,640 --> 01:21:46,080
Speaker 4: switch up only because of the you know, the fact

1802
01:21:46,080 --> 01:21:48,240
Speaker 4: that your mom and stepdad just kind of randomly pushed

1803
01:21:48,280 --> 01:21:51,720
Speaker 4: you out or was you know, what was the original plan.

1804
01:21:51,920 --> 01:21:54,479
Speaker 4: I'm taking a break from them and limiting contact because

1805
01:21:54,479 --> 01:21:56,479
Speaker 4: of how everything has been handled in regards to me.

1806
01:21:57,000 --> 01:21:59,720
Speaker 4: But I'm still overthinking every interaction we've had the past

1807
01:21:59,720 --> 01:22:03,639
Speaker 4: two I'll add even more background context, but this already

1808
01:22:03,640 --> 01:22:06,439
Speaker 4: seems so long. I just want some outside perspective because

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01:22:06,520 --> 01:22:09,360
Speaker 4: my friends are obviously siding with me, and so are

1810
01:22:09,439 --> 01:22:12,680
Speaker 4: best friends' parents. But did I overreact? I think at

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01:22:12,720 --> 01:22:16,000
Speaker 4: the end of the day, I think it's very unreasonable

1812
01:22:16,080 --> 01:22:18,720
Speaker 4: for your parents to push you out without having a

1813
01:22:18,800 --> 01:22:22,400
Speaker 4: proper conversation about, you know, when you need to be out,

1814
01:22:22,400 --> 01:22:24,240
Speaker 4: because it seems like they never clarified that.

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01:22:24,800 --> 01:22:27,960
Speaker 7: I agree, unless it was an emergency, which is unclear.

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01:22:27,720 --> 01:22:29,320
Speaker 4: Which we don't know. It doesn't seem like Opee was

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01:22:29,360 --> 01:22:31,400
Speaker 4: told that, which again goes back to the.

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Speaker 7: They didn't really give a reason. No, op didn't give

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01:22:34,880 --> 01:22:35,680
Speaker 7: a reason.

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01:22:35,479 --> 01:22:36,920
Speaker 4: Which maybe Ope was never told the.

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01:22:36,920 --> 01:22:39,000
Speaker 7: Reason maybe or maybe you didn't include that.

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01:22:39,200 --> 01:22:43,200
Speaker 4: Yeah, but I do think paying for lawn service is

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01:22:43,560 --> 01:22:45,680
Speaker 4: fair or is a fair ask on their end. I

1824
01:22:45,760 --> 01:22:48,720
Speaker 4: think it's very fair, only because you also said that

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01:22:48,800 --> 01:22:49,640
Speaker 4: you were going to do that.

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Speaker 7: Whether it's family or not, like a like a normal landlord,

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Speaker 7: I think it's still just decency. You leave the house

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01:22:57,520 --> 01:22:59,960
Speaker 7: in wonderful condition, if there was upkeep that needed to happen,

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01:23:00,000 --> 01:23:02,120
Speaker 7: and if there was maintenance and that didn't happen because

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01:23:02,120 --> 01:23:06,200
Speaker 7: of you, it's it's decent, it's the law to do it.

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01:23:06,600 --> 01:23:08,799
Speaker 7: If not, if it's family, I think it's just decency

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01:23:08,920 --> 01:23:12,240
Speaker 7: of like, yeah, I'm going to, you know, put this

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01:23:12,479 --> 01:23:13,760
Speaker 7: in the condition I got it in.

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01:23:13,960 --> 01:23:17,000
Speaker 4: Yeah. That was the end of that story. Actually, there's

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01:23:17,040 --> 01:23:18,800
Speaker 4: no more to that story. And that was the end

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