WEBVTT - Doing this every morning changed my life. 0:00:11.240 --> 0:00:13.960 You guys have been asking me some good questions. If 0:00:14.000 --> 0:00:15.720 you have ever sat down and been like, I wonder 0:00:15.840 --> 0:00:20.000 what Granger would think about this? You could email me anything, 0:00:20.040 --> 0:00:24.079 any question, any subject, Granger Smith Podcast at gmail dot com. 0:00:24.120 --> 0:00:27.319 Ask the question. And I've been loving the questions that 0:00:27.360 --> 0:00:29.840 have been rolling in and I get it. I get them, 0:00:29.840 --> 0:00:31.479 and I stored them and I say, oh, this is 0:00:31.520 --> 0:00:34.720 a career question, or this is a girl question, this 0:00:34.800 --> 0:00:37.239 is a music question, this is a touring question, and 0:00:37.280 --> 0:00:39.840 I kind of get them all put together and then 0:00:40.080 --> 0:00:42.640 depending on who my guest is, I'll go through that 0:00:42.720 --> 0:00:46.440 list and pick the right ones for that episode. This 0:00:46.479 --> 0:00:49.360 is a great one, and these are good questions. And 0:00:49.479 --> 0:00:52.960 my brother Parker is helping me today. Love having Parker on. 0:00:53.280 --> 0:00:57.720 He's so he's so good at going through these questions 0:00:57.720 --> 0:01:01.560 with me and like having a good thought behind it, 0:01:01.600 --> 0:01:04.640 as if we're in sitting in the truck driving down 0:01:04.680 --> 0:01:07.520 the road and two buddies are having a conversation about 0:01:07.520 --> 0:01:10.280 a question, or even better yet, we're sitting at a 0:01:10.280 --> 0:01:14.960 campfire chilling. Here comes the question and we get a 0:01:15.000 --> 0:01:19.679 long form, thoughtful answer. And I love this podcast and 0:01:19.720 --> 0:01:23.319 that's that's so much of what this podcast is is 0:01:23.400 --> 0:01:26.000 just having a conversation with you guys and answering your question. 0:01:26.120 --> 0:01:29.000 So thanks for that. Grangersmith Podcast at gmail dot com. 0:01:29.080 --> 0:01:31.560 Ask me anything. That's what we're gonna do today. I've 0:01:31.560 --> 0:01:34.520 been pretty pumped today because we've been also been talking 0:01:34.560 --> 0:01:37.560 about touring, and on this podcast, I'm gonna talk about 0:01:38.000 --> 0:01:39.600 some of the dates that are starting to come in. 0:01:39.680 --> 0:01:42.200 We're seeing more and more. There's like a run, a 0:01:42.280 --> 0:01:44.600 five show run. We're doing it in April. There'll be 0:01:44.640 --> 0:01:47.760 some in May, and then June, more and more July. 0:01:47.840 --> 0:01:49.760 It is starting to look like, hey, we're gonna be 0:01:49.760 --> 0:01:52.880 busy and then after that we'll be on the road. 0:01:52.920 --> 0:01:55.920 We're becoming to your town. So pumped about that. We'll 0:01:55.920 --> 0:01:57.920 get the podcast back on the road again, back on 0:01:58.040 --> 0:02:02.240 Wildflire just like it started. It's all coming full circle. 0:02:02.440 --> 0:02:06.000 This craziness is almost over. This is episode seventy seven. 0:02:06.480 --> 0:02:42.080 Thanks for listening. Great shift podcast, did kids in decent 0:02:43.880 --> 0:02:50.160 much tires and long line of five, fool of husband 0:02:50.280 --> 0:03:08.600 dined back. It's crazy, cool wagation. Good to have whole 0:03:08.600 --> 0:03:13.960 Parker back, brother Parker helping answer some questions. I want 0:03:14.000 --> 0:03:18.280 to start out with some really profound, deep questions. The 0:03:18.320 --> 0:03:25.000 subject line is Parker. It says, Hello, I'm Mariah from Michigan. 0:03:25.000 --> 0:03:28.600 Shout out to Michigan love the podcast. Number one, Why 0:03:28.680 --> 0:03:36.440 is Parker single? Number two? How old is Parker? So 0:03:37.440 --> 0:03:39.520 she sent this and I immediately put it into the 0:03:39.560 --> 0:03:43.400 Parker folder, waiting for you to be back so you 0:03:43.440 --> 0:03:49.360 could answer these profoundly interesting questions for the world. Well 0:03:52.240 --> 0:03:53.840 we could. We could switch it and we'll start with 0:03:53.920 --> 0:04:01.320 number two. I am twenty seven years old. Question number one. 0:04:02.000 --> 0:04:05.080 I have not ever been somebody to get in a 0:04:05.120 --> 0:04:07.920 relationship just for the sake of being in a relationship. 0:04:08.840 --> 0:04:13.320 I don't see myself as someone who enjoys just having 0:04:13.320 --> 0:04:16.120 someone else's company just for its own sake. I date. 0:04:16.240 --> 0:04:18.640 I haven't been on a date in probably over a year, 0:04:19.040 --> 0:04:21.280 because if I'm going on a date with someone, it's 0:04:21.320 --> 0:04:26.520 because I have vetted them and I see qualities in 0:04:26.600 --> 0:04:28.760 them that could be a potential wife and mother to 0:04:28.800 --> 0:04:32.440 my children and grandmother to my grandchildren. Vetting by social 0:04:32.480 --> 0:04:37.560 media or mutual friends. I gotchau and so I just 0:04:37.640 --> 0:04:42.160 have I just have standards that I put in place before. 0:04:42.240 --> 0:04:45.919 I don't date casually. I date to marry, and so 0:04:46.240 --> 0:04:48.080 if I go on one date with you, and I 0:04:48.080 --> 0:04:50.919 don't see myself marrying you, then I don't go on 0:04:51.080 --> 0:04:52.680 a date with you again. So that's why I've been 0:04:52.720 --> 0:04:56.839 single for most of my life. You you could have 0:04:57.360 --> 0:05:00.120 when you're twenty two. That's probably different. When you're twenty seven, 0:05:00.240 --> 0:05:04.080 that's changed, right, You would casually date when you're twenty two, 0:05:04.120 --> 0:05:07.919 like just have fun because you weren't. Yeah, just because 0:05:07.960 --> 0:05:09.960 I was just a completely different person. So that's more 0:05:10.000 --> 0:05:12.080 of just a matter of you're like dating just for 0:05:12.120 --> 0:05:14.640 the social aspect of it, to like go to like 0:05:15.040 --> 0:05:18.120 go to dances in college and formals and just because 0:05:18.120 --> 0:05:20.920 you're always around them and like hanging with friends and 0:05:21.680 --> 0:05:24.080 it's fun sort of thing. But yeah, when you when 0:05:24.080 --> 0:05:25.880 you're out of college and like you're a young man 0:05:26.000 --> 0:05:31.919 and you have work and responsibilities, I don't just do 0:05:32.000 --> 0:05:35.760 it casually. So what's something that you would see on 0:05:35.880 --> 0:05:38.480 say Instagram or Facebook. What's something that you would see 0:05:39.040 --> 0:05:43.720 that's agreeable, like, ah, this person has potential. Well, I 0:05:43.760 --> 0:05:46.520 personally have six non negotiables that I have written down 0:05:46.640 --> 0:05:52.040 here we go. No, And this may sound pretentious, and 0:05:52.080 --> 0:05:53.760 I don't mean it to be said that way. I 0:05:53.760 --> 0:05:55.919 don't think I'm that great of a guy by any means. 0:05:55.960 --> 0:05:58.960 But it's the most the person that you end up 0:05:58.960 --> 0:06:00.320 with for the rest of your life is it's the 0:06:00.360 --> 0:06:03.800 most arguably the most important decision, one of the most 0:06:03.800 --> 0:06:07.240 important decisions you'll ever make your whole life. It determines 0:06:08.400 --> 0:06:11.280 the generations of thousands of people that come after you, 0:06:11.400 --> 0:06:15.839 of your kin and your grandkids. And yeah, and it's 0:06:15.880 --> 0:06:18.520 the person that you will be with more than anybody 0:06:18.560 --> 0:06:20.480 else for the rest of your life. Like they are, 0:06:21.000 --> 0:06:24.440 they become You become one flesh when you get married, right, 0:06:24.480 --> 0:06:30.360 So anyway, my non negotiables are sweet. It's the six 0:06:30.480 --> 0:06:44.880 s's wow, sweet, secure, social, sweet, secure, social, spiritual, servient, 0:06:45.800 --> 0:06:51.480 and smoking hot, which sounds sounds really that Really it 0:06:51.600 --> 0:06:53.840 just means beautiful. And by servient servant could be taken 0:06:53.880 --> 0:06:55.200 the wrong way. I really don't mean that in a 0:06:55.200 --> 0:06:57.520 way like I want you to like be my slave 0:06:57.600 --> 0:06:59.800 and like do everything for me, but just servient and 0:07:00.240 --> 0:07:02.440 like God gave you a servant heart and you genuinely 0:07:02.560 --> 0:07:06.000 enjoy being a caretaker and being a mother and the 0:07:06.080 --> 0:07:09.720 person that and I deserve, I mean I don't deserve. 0:07:09.760 --> 0:07:14.200 I enjoy caring for others as well. So I don't 0:07:14.240 --> 0:07:16.720 mean that in that way. Well speak, I'm your brother, 0:07:16.760 --> 0:07:19.320 so I can tell you that you're not saying this, 0:07:19.440 --> 0:07:23.200 but in coming up with those six non negotiables, you're 0:07:23.280 --> 0:07:27.400 also I'm assuming you're holding trying to hold that same 0:07:27.400 --> 0:07:31.240 standard to yourself as well. So I like the old 0:07:31.280 --> 0:07:35.080 saying of there's a guy who he was like kind 0:07:35.080 --> 0:07:38.040 of known for being the single guy who didn't date 0:07:38.720 --> 0:07:40.960 just to date, and when I think he was like 0:07:41.040 --> 0:07:43.200 thirty three or thirty four, he finally found the girl 0:07:43.240 --> 0:07:45.280 that he was going to marry and he said, there's 0:07:45.320 --> 0:07:47.400 a quote that he said that when I became the 0:07:47.440 --> 0:07:51.000 man I knew I was capable of becoming the woman 0:07:51.040 --> 0:07:55.320 I was worthy of appeared m So that's just kind 0:07:55.320 --> 0:07:59.360 of like my never ending quest thus far to become 0:07:59.480 --> 0:08:01.920 the best possible man that I know I'm capable of 0:08:02.680 --> 0:08:05.920 on earth, and then a woman that I could potentially 0:08:05.920 --> 0:08:09.520 be worthy of would come into my life through that. Dude. 0:08:10.080 --> 0:08:15.320 That's awesome. Okay, so those are the six that not negotiable. 0:08:15.360 --> 0:08:18.040 What are what's something that you would see on social 0:08:18.080 --> 0:08:27.320 media from a girl that you'd think she's out really 0:08:28.000 --> 0:08:32.680 if you're I mean, gosh, it's it's so it sounds 0:08:32.880 --> 0:08:35.240 kind of pretentious for me to say you're out, Like 0:08:35.880 --> 0:08:38.240 I really don't mean it like that. But I could 0:08:38.280 --> 0:08:40.480 say just some of the things that I may look 0:08:40.520 --> 0:08:43.320 for in terms of like if I'm going on, like 0:08:43.440 --> 0:08:45.559 say your social media, which I don't like to just 0:08:45.640 --> 0:08:47.560 judge someone based on their social media, Like I don't 0:08:47.600 --> 0:08:49.559 like to do that either, But if someone showed me 0:08:49.640 --> 0:08:52.280 a girl's social media page, I would look for pictures 0:08:52.280 --> 0:08:54.000 with her and her family to see if she has 0:08:54.040 --> 0:09:01.840 a good relationship with them, not a lot of overfiltered selfies. 0:09:02.320 --> 0:09:04.640 When the girl has a lot a lot of selfies 0:09:04.760 --> 0:09:07.880 or a lot of like risque pictures and like bathing 0:09:07.920 --> 0:09:11.559 suits and stuff, then it it's typically a sign that 0:09:11.880 --> 0:09:14.600 like maybe you're not the most secure, maybe you're trying 0:09:14.600 --> 0:09:18.120 to get social validation through likes versus a girl who's 0:09:18.200 --> 0:09:22.520 just genuinely knows her worth and knows her value is 0:09:22.559 --> 0:09:27.559 not going to rely on likes on social media to 0:09:28.240 --> 0:09:31.000 validate herself. She'll post a picture with her grandma and 0:09:31.040 --> 0:09:34.120 it'll get six likes, and she's just like I literally 0:09:34.160 --> 0:09:36.160 don't care, Like that's totally fine with me. Yeah, that 0:09:36.200 --> 0:09:39.840 sort of thing I would say what a good judge, 0:09:39.840 --> 0:09:44.480 I could say, is and this is disqualifies probably the 0:09:44.559 --> 0:09:47.880 music business because if you're like a girl singer, most 0:09:47.880 --> 0:09:49.760 of your pictures are probably gonna know, yeah, you on 0:09:49.840 --> 0:09:53.520 stage or something. But if it's a personal page, it's 0:09:53.559 --> 0:09:58.160 a good indicator. With how many pictures on your Instagram 0:09:58.400 --> 0:10:02.199 are you with someone else, like a friend, like your 0:10:02.280 --> 0:10:06.520 arm around somebody, you're doing something kind of activity with 0:10:06.600 --> 0:10:09.800 other people. That's a really good indicator. If you see 0:10:09.840 --> 0:10:12.800 someone on social media and every single picture is them 0:10:13.000 --> 0:10:15.920 with friends and they're smiling, and they're with family or 0:10:15.960 --> 0:10:19.440 friends or dad or mom, or sibling or niece or 0:10:19.480 --> 0:10:24.080 nephew or or you know whatever, that's a good indicator 0:10:24.080 --> 0:10:28.720 that this person, this person is pretty secure in themselves 0:10:28.720 --> 0:10:32.440 because they've established a group around them that they love 0:10:32.480 --> 0:10:36.040 and trust. The opposite is if you see someone that's 0:10:36.080 --> 0:10:39.680 not not in the music business or whatever, that every 0:10:39.679 --> 0:10:43.120 single picture is them by themselves in some kind of pose. 0:10:43.360 --> 0:10:45.880 You got to wonder, like, why why do you don't 0:10:45.880 --> 0:10:50.520 have any pictures with friends? Yeah, agreed, Let's move to 0:10:50.840 --> 0:10:56.000 a question. And by the way, if you have any 0:10:56.080 --> 0:11:01.120 question for me, anything at all, email Granger Smith Podcast 0:11:01.360 --> 0:11:03.800 at gmail dot com I'll check these, I'll kind of 0:11:03.840 --> 0:11:07.480 categorize them and throw them into the podcast with my guest. 0:11:09.160 --> 0:11:11.839 This one. The subject matter or subject line of the 0:11:11.880 --> 0:11:15.920 email is business advice, says Hey Granger, your my name 0:11:15.960 --> 0:11:19.000 is Clay. I'm from Tennessee. Shout out to Tennessee. I'm 0:11:19.040 --> 0:11:22.160 seventeen years old. I just started a business this past 0:11:22.200 --> 0:11:25.440 summer making wood flags, and I'm soon going to be 0:11:25.440 --> 0:11:33.320 making gun holsters out of KAIDEKX thermoplastics. I'm wanting to 0:11:33.360 --> 0:11:36.079 eventually start making all tactical items such as police s, 0:11:36.080 --> 0:11:40.160 gear racks, consalment flags, concealment coffee tables, gun holsters. I'm 0:11:40.160 --> 0:11:43.040 also wanting this to eventually be a full time business. 0:11:43.120 --> 0:11:46.360 Just wondering if you had any advice for someone trying 0:11:46.400 --> 0:11:51.600 to run a successful business. And I put this into 0:11:51.640 --> 0:11:54.880 the Parker category because you do run a successful business 0:11:54.880 --> 0:11:58.640 at Ee Apparel. And the first thing that comes to 0:11:58.679 --> 0:12:01.320 my mind, Clay, well, you know, congrats man. You've got 0:12:01.360 --> 0:12:06.040 a lot of ambition, and you're a step of head 0:12:06.080 --> 0:12:09.760 already with having this kind of ambition and wanting to 0:12:09.880 --> 0:12:13.200 run a successful business, and you're only seventeen. So the 0:12:13.240 --> 0:12:15.920 first thing that pops out to me is you're seventeen, 0:12:16.720 --> 0:12:19.959 and when I was seventeen, I was playing high school 0:12:19.960 --> 0:12:23.640 football and singing on the weekends and didn't have that 0:12:23.760 --> 0:12:27.839 kind of ambition like you do. So that's really cool. 0:12:30.200 --> 0:12:32.080 And then at the same on the flip side of that, 0:12:32.400 --> 0:12:36.880 I would say, whatever you do in life and business 0:12:36.920 --> 0:12:39.920 and dreams and goals, whatever you do, don't skip over 0:12:40.520 --> 0:12:44.760 being seventeen. Don't let this year fly by because you're 0:12:44.760 --> 0:12:48.680 planning for the future. The most important thing you could 0:12:48.679 --> 0:12:51.000 do right now, and this is maybe contrary to what 0:12:51.040 --> 0:12:53.199 you might think, I'll say the most important thing you 0:12:53.200 --> 0:12:56.800 could do right now is just soak up being seventeen. 0:12:57.679 --> 0:12:59.440 I can't tell you how many songs I've written about 0:12:59.520 --> 0:13:02.440 being Saideen are being eighteen or being in being that 0:13:02.480 --> 0:13:06.720 age group and the girl you're dating at the time, 0:13:07.280 --> 0:13:09.760 or the friends that you have, or the trouble you're 0:13:09.760 --> 0:13:13.040 getting into with your buddies, you know, the late nights, 0:13:13.120 --> 0:13:16.560 the early mornings, that just enjoy that because you're only 0:13:16.600 --> 0:13:21.000 seventeen once and so it's so awesome that you have 0:13:21.040 --> 0:13:23.280 these dreams and goals. But don't worry about it and 0:13:23.320 --> 0:13:26.160 don't let it become so much of a focus that 0:13:26.200 --> 0:13:29.360 you're skipping out on just being a seventeen year old. 0:13:30.080 --> 0:13:33.000 Enjoy making this stuff, like you're making these holsters and 0:13:34.480 --> 0:13:37.760 wooden flags. Do that and put it on social media 0:13:38.400 --> 0:13:41.200 and perfect that craft. But only do it out of 0:13:41.280 --> 0:13:45.520 love of it and the fun of it. Don't already 0:13:45.559 --> 0:13:49.280 start preparing yourself for being twenty seven or twenty eight, 0:13:50.640 --> 0:13:54.480 you know what I mean, right, Yeah, Yeah, and while 0:13:54.480 --> 0:13:56.880 you're doing it, enjoy the process. Don't be worried about 0:13:57.559 --> 0:13:59.200 It's hard to say that to a seventeen year old, 0:13:59.240 --> 0:14:02.440 but yeah, try to not try to not have a 0:14:02.480 --> 0:14:05.560 monetary goal in mind of why you're doing it. Like 0:14:05.600 --> 0:14:09.160 once I have ten thousand dollars of sales, one thousand dollars, 0:14:09.200 --> 0:14:13.360 five hundred dollars, you know, whatever it may be. Yeah, 0:14:13.360 --> 0:14:15.880 that's just good life advice. And then on the business side, 0:14:16.720 --> 0:14:18.920 I can't really attest. I was thinking yesterday about how 0:14:18.920 --> 0:14:21.000 people ask us all the time about business advice, and 0:14:21.040 --> 0:14:23.000 I was like, man, I can only speak for what 0:14:23.960 --> 0:14:25.640 I'm just so fortunate enough to have been in a 0:14:25.680 --> 0:14:28.240 brand where we were in a different spot where our 0:14:28.280 --> 0:14:31.200 marketing kind of outgrew the product, and it was like 0:14:31.280 --> 0:14:33.400 the brand just took off and it's just been us 0:14:33.440 --> 0:14:35.480 trying to create quality product to catch up with it. 0:14:36.560 --> 0:14:37.920 But if I could do it again, I would just 0:14:37.920 --> 0:14:39.880 say it comes down to two things from a business 0:14:39.880 --> 0:14:43.280 sense form, and that's do you have an A plus 0:14:43.440 --> 0:14:46.960 quality product that's there's a million different people out there 0:14:46.960 --> 0:14:49.760 doing that these days. Do you have a product that 0:14:49.880 --> 0:14:53.400 you know we call it? We try to say, what 0:14:53.560 --> 0:14:57.120 is the word remarkable? Well, it's something that's worth remarking about. 0:14:57.320 --> 0:15:00.200 When someone gets that, wholester is it? Is it thing 0:15:00.280 --> 0:15:01.880 that it's going to just say, Wow, I'm going to 0:15:01.920 --> 0:15:04.320 tell my buddy about this. And so you got to 0:15:04.320 --> 0:15:06.720 have a great quality product and then you have to 0:15:06.760 --> 0:15:08.880 market it in an interesting way. See, you have your product, 0:15:08.960 --> 0:15:10.480 and then you need to get that product in front 0:15:10.480 --> 0:15:13.600 of eyeballs for the least amount of money possible. Right So, 0:15:14.240 --> 0:15:17.400 whatever that may be for your customer or your position 0:15:17.480 --> 0:15:19.000 in your life right now, whether that may just be 0:15:19.040 --> 0:15:22.960 posting on your Instagram or going to going to tailgates, 0:15:23.080 --> 0:15:25.960 or walking around the high school or walking to a 0:15:25.960 --> 0:15:29.200 local gun club or whatever that may be, focus on 0:15:29.240 --> 0:15:31.640 those two things and have persistence and don't give up 0:15:31.640 --> 0:15:34.440 and be focused on the journey and not the outcome. Yeah, 0:15:34.560 --> 0:15:37.520 I would say immediately. What you could do is start 0:15:37.960 --> 0:15:42.280 an Instagram page that's separate from your clay personal page 0:15:42.920 --> 0:15:45.320 and make it, you know, quote unquote your business page 0:15:45.880 --> 0:15:48.800 and concentrate I've heard people say this, like, especially in 0:15:48.800 --> 0:15:51.840 the photography world and the video world, concentrate on your 0:15:51.880 --> 0:15:55.360 top nine. Your top nine post on your Instagram are 0:15:55.440 --> 0:15:58.520 your most important post at all times. So whatever your 0:15:58.520 --> 0:16:02.520 top nine is, most people won't scroll below that. So 0:16:03.760 --> 0:16:08.720 get these awesome holsters and wooden flags and position them 0:16:08.880 --> 0:16:12.160 in really cool spots. Like sometimes with EE Apparel, we'll 0:16:12.200 --> 0:16:15.640 literally use an old stump and put a hat on 0:16:15.720 --> 0:16:17.960 top of the stump, and we have a couple where 0:16:17.960 --> 0:16:19.760 there's snow in the background, and then a couple where 0:16:19.760 --> 0:16:23.080 there's like wildflowers or green grass or just make it 0:16:23.120 --> 0:16:26.360 look really cool in that environment. And take take a 0:16:26.400 --> 0:16:29.480 couple angles, you know, edit it, color it a little 0:16:29.480 --> 0:16:32.840 bit so it looks it looks really sharp, and make 0:16:32.880 --> 0:16:36.600 your top nine on this new business page all the 0:16:36.640 --> 0:16:39.160 different varieties of what you can do and make them awesome, 0:16:39.280 --> 0:16:42.200 make them cool enough where people go, that is the 0:16:42.200 --> 0:16:44.960 coolest wooden flag I've ever seen. And then I would 0:16:45.040 --> 0:16:50.720 go to your local police department and bring a prototype 0:16:50.720 --> 0:16:53.200 of these gear axts that you're talking about or one 0:16:53.200 --> 0:16:56.160 of the things that you've made out of thermoplastic and 0:16:56.200 --> 0:16:58.600 go talk to a deputy there and just say, can 0:16:58.640 --> 0:17:01.240 I show you something? You know, my name is, I'm seventeen. 0:17:01.840 --> 0:17:03.560 I'm trying to start a business, and I'm trying to 0:17:03.560 --> 0:17:08.240 get into making tactical items and police gear racks. Could 0:17:08.240 --> 0:17:10.359 I show you a couple of things I've been working on, 0:17:10.480 --> 0:17:12.959 See what you think, how if you would actually use it? 0:17:13.680 --> 0:17:15.920 And could I give you guys one for your department? 0:17:16.640 --> 0:17:18.399 Start it with that way, and then if they like it, 0:17:18.440 --> 0:17:20.360 then say, oh, by the way, we follow my Instagram 0:17:20.359 --> 0:17:24.399 page and share it. And that's the beginning of all this, 0:17:24.680 --> 0:17:28.280 while keeping in mind to just enjoy being seventeen. But 0:17:28.720 --> 0:17:31.240 that's the beginning, Parker. Set it right, enjoy the process. 0:17:32.080 --> 0:17:36.000 Don't think about mass producing or just think about making 0:17:36.680 --> 0:17:41.480 the best, coolest, best quality items you can and make 0:17:41.680 --> 0:17:45.040 only like four or five of them, perfect them. If 0:17:45.080 --> 0:17:48.080 it's not right, make another one, Get really cool pictures 0:17:48.119 --> 0:17:50.800 and fill that top nine of your Instagram. You do 0:17:50.920 --> 0:17:53.600 all that, You're off to the races, all right, here's 0:17:53.640 --> 0:17:56.960 the let me pop up another one. I'm trying to 0:17:56.960 --> 0:18:01.840 build up into some of the heavier ones here. I'm 0:18:01.840 --> 0:18:03.160 gonna read this cold. I don't know what this says. 0:18:03.160 --> 0:18:06.680 I'm gonna read it cold. The subject matter is life advice. 0:18:08.119 --> 0:18:11.080 It says, Hey, I would like my name to remain anonymous. 0:18:13.680 --> 0:18:16.160 He says, I just wanted to say that, even from 0:18:16.200 --> 0:18:18.640 a big city, I still find your music very relatable 0:18:18.640 --> 0:18:22.280 and meaningful in certain ways. Listening through a shuffle of 0:18:22.400 --> 0:18:24.760 every single one of your songs since the late nineties 0:18:24.880 --> 0:18:27.280 is great because it touches on so many aspects of life. 0:18:27.359 --> 0:18:30.200 I'm seventeen. Here we go again, seventeen years old and 0:18:30.320 --> 0:18:33.199 about to go to college. I'm planning to go to 0:18:33.280 --> 0:18:35.439 med school and be a doctor. I would love to 0:18:35.440 --> 0:18:39.440 know what advice you have for dating. I have absolutely 0:18:39.480 --> 0:18:42.240 no experience, never been to a school dance or asked 0:18:42.240 --> 0:18:46.359 a girl out. I've always thought it was too early 0:18:46.440 --> 0:18:48.479 to be dating, and that I should focus on school, 0:18:48.800 --> 0:18:53.639 albeit my school's valed victorian, but at the cost of 0:18:53.640 --> 0:18:56.919 me being a bit uncomfortable socially in certain situations, like 0:18:57.040 --> 0:18:59.720 maybe talking to a girl or being at a party 0:18:59.760 --> 0:19:03.040 with a girl. But now I'm looking to change that. 0:19:03.119 --> 0:19:05.399 I don't want to just be single until I'm like 0:19:05.480 --> 0:19:07.680 thirty years old or something. Thanks so much for your time. 0:19:09.600 --> 0:19:13.200 Why right, No, right, This is a good transition from 0:19:13.240 --> 0:19:15.520 what you just talked about being twenty seven and still single. 0:19:15.640 --> 0:19:20.639 So I think you to remain your name remains anonymous. 0:19:22.119 --> 0:19:25.160 I think, first of all, it's okay if you're still 0:19:25.200 --> 0:19:30.200 single at thirty. Dude, you're about to be a doctor, 0:19:32.240 --> 0:19:37.679 a val Victorian, super smart guy. There is nothing wrong 0:19:38.640 --> 0:19:41.959 with you having not dated or been to a school 0:19:42.040 --> 0:19:45.439 dance or asked a girl out. There's nothing wrong with 0:19:45.480 --> 0:19:49.720 that at all. So, first of all, change your mindset 0:19:49.760 --> 0:19:55.680 from thinking you're missing out or you're not living appropriately, 0:19:57.040 --> 0:19:59.120 because that is what the world wants to tell you, 0:19:59.160 --> 0:20:01.200 and that's what so social media wants to tell you. 0:20:02.280 --> 0:20:03.840 Sitting here next to a twenty seven year old, I 0:20:03.840 --> 0:20:06.600 didn't get married till I was thirty. My brother Tyler 0:20:06.720 --> 0:20:11.359 is single and he's what thirty eight, So yeah, we 0:20:11.400 --> 0:20:14.400 come from a family of waiting for the right girl, 0:20:15.240 --> 0:20:20.480 and to be honest, when you find a girl, and 0:20:20.640 --> 0:20:26.960 you will, eventually, you're gonna find someone that's compatible with you, 0:20:27.080 --> 0:20:30.040 and it's going to appreciate your vulnerability and you saying 0:20:31.400 --> 0:20:33.639 and all the girls out here could listen, could and 0:20:33.800 --> 0:20:40.240 probably agree by you saying, I'm really nervous right now. 0:20:41.119 --> 0:20:43.000 I've never asked a girl out. I've never been on 0:20:43.040 --> 0:20:47.920 a date. Probably most girls listening would think, well, that's 0:20:47.920 --> 0:20:51.119 pretty sweet, Like I have a chance. This is great, 0:20:51.200 --> 0:20:53.320 Like I could I could come in and I'll show 0:20:53.400 --> 0:20:55.880 him everything for the first time, Like I'll go and eat, 0:20:55.920 --> 0:20:58.520 we'll eat dinner for the first time together. I could 0:20:58.560 --> 0:21:03.199 be his first kiss ever. That's that's really attractive to 0:21:03.840 --> 0:21:07.280 the girl that you're wanting to be with. Okay, if 0:21:07.320 --> 0:21:10.000 a girl is not attracted by that or is turned 0:21:10.040 --> 0:21:12.080 off by that, she's not the right girl for you. Dude, 0:21:12.760 --> 0:21:14.280 you don't want a girl that's been like I've been 0:21:14.320 --> 0:21:17.280 dating since I was eleven years old, So you don't 0:21:17.280 --> 0:21:23.560 want that. You're you're mister val Victorian and mister doctor. 0:21:24.920 --> 0:21:27.359 You're gonna go along your path. You're gonna go to 0:21:27.400 --> 0:21:31.119 medical school. You're gonna focus on you. You have to 0:21:31.200 --> 0:21:33.760 put you number one. You are number one in your 0:21:33.800 --> 0:21:37.120 life right now, because eventually, when you find a girl 0:21:37.119 --> 0:21:40.240 and you get married, you're no longer number one and 0:21:40.280 --> 0:21:42.280 this is This is guys and girls both. You have 0:21:42.359 --> 0:21:45.600 to be selfish when you're single, and people go selfish, 0:21:45.640 --> 0:21:49.880 that's that's rude. You don't want to be selfish when 0:21:49.880 --> 0:21:52.760 you're married, so you want to you want to focus 0:21:52.800 --> 0:21:56.479 on yourself, develop yourself, focus on school, get your good 0:21:56.520 --> 0:21:58.920 grades in medical school, get that land, that good job. 0:21:59.240 --> 0:22:02.359 If along the way you meet someone, that's great. But 0:22:02.760 --> 0:22:06.200 if you get all that and you focus on yourself, 0:22:06.240 --> 0:22:08.960 you're going to be ready to open up and give 0:22:09.000 --> 0:22:11.639 the rest of yourself to your spouse eventually when the 0:22:11.680 --> 0:22:14.159 time comes. And then when you're forty, you're not going 0:22:14.240 --> 0:22:16.440 to have any kind of regrets. You're not going to 0:22:16.480 --> 0:22:19.639 say I wish i'd focus more on school. You're going 0:22:19.720 --> 0:22:23.400 to say, I'm ready to give my life completely to you. Yeah, 0:22:23.400 --> 0:22:25.280 it's like what we're talking about. You become the man 0:22:25.720 --> 0:22:28.320 that you can become. Focus on your mental health, your 0:22:28.320 --> 0:22:31.880 physical health, your spiritual health, get your finances in order, 0:22:32.720 --> 0:22:35.040 and when you do that, the woman that you're worthy 0:22:35.040 --> 0:22:36.960 of will appear. The type of girl that you're looking 0:22:36.960 --> 0:22:39.520 for will probably be probably a peer. There's you know, 0:22:39.880 --> 0:22:43.160 at seventeen, you'll probably only have so much to offer, 0:22:43.240 --> 0:22:47.120 right but you know, I was a loser at seventeen, 0:22:47.160 --> 0:22:49.760 pretty much like to get the girl of your dreams, Like, 0:22:49.800 --> 0:22:53.560 you know, a supermodel girl that's twenty four, that's everything 0:22:53.600 --> 0:22:56.080 that you could dream of. Probably is not going to 0:22:56.160 --> 0:22:58.159 go for a seventeen or a twenty or twenty one 0:22:58.240 --> 0:23:00.840 year old guy in college that hasn't nothing to offer, 0:23:00.880 --> 0:23:03.920 that's overweight, that's just studying all the time, that has 0:23:03.960 --> 0:23:06.040 no time, that has no money or no way to 0:23:07.240 --> 0:23:11.600 no way to provide for potential children. But the more 0:23:11.640 --> 0:23:18.840 you develop yourself and and as time goes by, you 0:23:18.880 --> 0:23:22.000 will be in a better place to attract that type 0:23:22.040 --> 0:23:26.520 of girl and then really to bring I think about 0:23:26.520 --> 0:23:28.760 it all the time. It's a it's a line of 0:23:30.160 --> 0:23:33.840 you know, having faith too and trusting God and knowing 0:23:34.640 --> 0:23:36.919 you know. I struggle with it as well, saying you know, 0:23:37.280 --> 0:23:41.600 you alone are sufficient, Christ, You are all I need. 0:23:41.880 --> 0:23:44.800 You know, That's my prayer every night. It's like, Man, 0:23:44.840 --> 0:23:47.040 I want somebody to share life with. Man, I want 0:23:47.119 --> 0:23:51.119 children and more than anything, but but I know that 0:23:52.520 --> 0:23:55.760 this is your plan and you alone are sufficient if 0:23:55.760 --> 0:23:57.680 I don't find anybody, And so always having that in 0:23:57.680 --> 0:24:00.000 the back of your mind, knowing, hey, no matter, true 0:24:00.080 --> 0:24:03.280 confidence that life comes from knowing no matter what I know, 0:24:03.320 --> 0:24:07.159 I'll be Okay. That's so good man, so good. So 0:24:07.920 --> 0:24:12.280 once again, you're seventeen. Enjoy being seventeen. Focus on yourself, 0:24:12.560 --> 0:24:14.600