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Speaker 1: Mandra to Tiffany and to Tiffany only who is not

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Speaker 1: with me today, But I am happy to be here anyway,

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Speaker 1: Brown Ambition Podcast at gmail dot com. Now, I'm not

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Speaker 1: gonna lie because we keep it one hundred on this show.

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Speaker 1: Your girl is on top of having a brand new

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Speaker 1: talk about the toddler stage everyone talks about, not the

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Speaker 1: my three and a half year tantrum. But on top

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Speaker 1: of that, y'all, I am writing my very first book

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Speaker 1: and it has been so rewarding and so challenging, and

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Speaker 1: I feel incredibly privileged to get the opportunity to do that,

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Speaker 1: but the level of focus that it requires when I

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Speaker 1: And I am grateful for y'all giving me a chance

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Speaker 1: but like mom brain plus book brain. Okay, well, we're

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