Speaker 1: Hello, Hello, Oh my gosh, while what is your name?
Speaker 2: Aj?
Speaker 1: AJ?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 1: What is happening?
Speaker 3: Aj?
Speaker 1: How is life going for you?
Speaker 2: Life's so good. I move into a new apartment in
Speaker 2: like four days. I am in bed and I just
Speaker 2: drink a margarita and two glasses of wine.
Speaker 1: You just drank a margarita and two glasses of wine
Speaker 1: by yourself? Are you alone getting drunk?
Speaker 2: I am alone. I live with my grandma right now,
Speaker 2: but I move out.
Speaker 1: Soon, so that's cool. What did your grandma join you
Speaker 1: to to get to get fucking wasted?
Speaker 2: Dude? I wish she would. I wish you would get
Speaker 2: wasted and smoke a joint or something, but no, she
Speaker 2: doesn't like any of that stuff.
Speaker 1: So I'm trying to wed. I've decided I'm going to
Speaker 1: talk about it publicly so I'm held accountable. I'm quitting
Speaker 1: for a week. I'm go I see how I feel.
Speaker 1: I think the problem is that just it activates my
Speaker 1: uh eating binges.
Speaker 4: You know.
Speaker 1: I mean, I had cried a fucking crazy one the
Speaker 1: other day. I was eating nest Quick vanilla milk and
Speaker 1: fruit gushers and skittles, and he is just insane. It
Speaker 1: was bad, but whatever, this is.
Speaker 2: No, I get it. I have been smoking weed since
Speaker 2: I was fourteen, and I stopped for the first time
Speaker 2: for like two weeks a couple months ago, and my
Speaker 2: brain just cleared, like the song was gone. And I
Speaker 2: want to start doing that again so bad. But I
Speaker 2: kind of use it to like help me with anxiety
Speaker 2: and stuff like that. Like right now, I have been
Speaker 2: calling you for months. I listened so much so I'm
Speaker 2: like sweaty shaking right now.
Speaker 3: But yeah, I'm very excited.
Speaker 1: Yeah, hey, Jay, what's up. Well, you texted me something.
Speaker 1: You wanted to talk to me about how your ex
Speaker 1: is stalking you.
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, I forgot. I try to forget about
Speaker 2: that when I can.
Speaker 1: Yeah, well, we don't have to talk about it. We
Speaker 1: don't want to.
Speaker 2: No, it's interesting, and I think that talking about it
Speaker 2: might help, because I really never do.
Speaker 3: But yeah, he was.
Speaker 2: I don't know. He was a sweet person. We met
Speaker 2: over the summer, and I think religion is an awesome thing.
Speaker 2: I think it's cool to have something to believe in.
Speaker 2: It's not like my thing, but I'm open to it,
Speaker 2: you know. And he was very religious and that kind
Speaker 2: of I don't know, it got in the way of stuff.
Speaker 2: His parents didn't like me, excit have tattoos, and I
Speaker 2: don't know, it just got kind of strange. I went
Speaker 2: to a Bible study and got pretty uncomfortable.
Speaker 1: So so, how did you meet this young Christian boy?
Speaker 2: Tender? Always tender?
Speaker 1: Okay, I know, and boy, I mean, you don't sound
Speaker 1: I don't know you, but do sound like you are
Speaker 1: the religious type?
Speaker 2: No, not at all.
Speaker 1: Uh so then, but yeah, what was it that that
Speaker 1: drew you two together?
Speaker 2: He was really I love a mustache and I love
Speaker 2: a mullet, and he had those and so like it
Speaker 2: was a very like immediate physical attraction. And I don't know,
Speaker 2: I try and be open minded. So it kind of
Speaker 2: like intrigued me when he said that he was religious,
Speaker 2: because I was like, I don't know, like I'd never
Speaker 2: really been with anybody or like dated anybody that was
Speaker 2: so I was like, let me maybe give this a try.
Speaker 2: You know, he seems nice and respectful, nice, you know.
Speaker 1: Yeah, when you're very physically attracted to someone, red flags
Speaker 1: just become quirks very much.
Speaker 2: So yeah, and then you like meet their parents and
Speaker 2: I have like a I have a cool little tattoo
Speaker 2: and from like an artist that I like on Instagram
Speaker 2: and it says something about like dancing with devils and
Speaker 2: it's a little devil with cowboy boots dancing around, and
Speaker 2: that was a immediate like I walked in met his parents,
Speaker 2: and his dad like started a discussion about that, and
Speaker 2: I just knew it was gonna be, you know, well
Speaker 2: basically that he would like for me to add to
Speaker 2: the tattoo and make it something about finding gods. And
Speaker 2: I haven't known him for a month at that before,
Speaker 2: you know, so I was like, and I feel, I
Speaker 2: don't want to expose this man's you know, personal life.
Speaker 2: But his dad was almost a big reason why we
Speaker 2: kind of like stopped doing everything because he would get
Speaker 2: really intense, like he, uh, his dad was the big
Speaker 2: Bible slumper guy, like he kind of thought that God
Speaker 2: spoke through him to other people, so he would, you know,
Speaker 2: he like baptized somebody. And I don't know how Christianity
Speaker 2: works too well, but I don't think you could just
Speaker 2: you know, I don't know, maybe like I just don't
Speaker 2: know if a civilian can just baptize another person. But
Speaker 2: he was out there doing that.
Speaker 1: And so what do you think it was that Drew
Speaker 1: him to you.
Speaker 2: I think, I know for a fact, I'm sorry, I'm
Speaker 2: out of breath, I'm nervous. So uh, he was definitely overprotected,
Speaker 2: I think just throughout life, you know, like he opened
Speaker 2: up to me about some like curiosity with sexuality, you know,
Speaker 2: which like I'm super open to having my partner explore,
Speaker 2: you know, especially as like a guy. You know, I
Speaker 2: feel like a lot of people aren't able to explore that.
Speaker 2: So I was really open with that. But I don't know,
Speaker 2: he just never really, I think, had been with someone
Speaker 2: like who was open minded. He only dated Christian girls
Speaker 2: or didn't single and with his parents all the time.
Speaker 1: You know, did you put your thumb in his ass?
Speaker 2: That's put my whole strapple, though, I feel like, yeah,
Speaker 2: that's always the thing. I don't know why, but like
Speaker 2: I don't know if it's a vibe I give off.
Speaker 2: But there's still like three or four guys that they're
Speaker 2: just like all natural and tender, and the first message
Speaker 2: is like peg question of work are you?
Speaker 3: Are you?
Speaker 1: A lot of guys like introduction to pegging.
Speaker 2: Yeah, actually very much so, which I don't mind, you know,
Speaker 2: as long as they're super comfy with it. It's something
Speaker 2: I like because, like, I'm do you.
Speaker 1: Take pride in that.
Speaker 2: Very much?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 2: Kind of. It's like more so pride that I guess,
Speaker 2: like people feel comfortable enough with me to like open
Speaker 2: up in that way. But it's also like, yeah, I
Speaker 2: just sucked that dude in the ass.
Speaker 1: You know, man, you should. That'd be sick if you
Speaker 1: did it while you were wearing a devil costume.
Speaker 2: Oh my god, I know.
Speaker 1: Heart attack.
Speaker 2: No, I actually I felt really as soon as we
Speaker 2: broke up. It was right before Halloween, and then I
Speaker 2: posted a picture on Instagram with me and like this
Speaker 2: really sexy, provocative noun costume, and I was like, he's
Speaker 2: gonna think that that's pointed towards him in some way.
Speaker 1: So anyway, I mean, this guy turns out to be
Speaker 1: bad news though bad news bears.
Speaker 2: Yeah, he I don't know. We god, I'm trying to
Speaker 2: think about his Oh yeah, so he while we were dating,
Speaker 2: subscribe to some people's only fans that he had previously
Speaker 2: been hooking up with. And sex work is awesome. I
Speaker 2: love that, but I don't really love the consumption of
Speaker 2: sex work while you're dating somebody. For me, personally, it's
Speaker 2: a little boundary, you know, and he knew that beforehand,
Speaker 2: you know, and so we like talked about it, and
Speaker 2: then it ended up being that he didn't unsubscribe when
Speaker 2: he said he did, so we broke up, and I'm like,
Speaker 2: immediately I was just being harassed like the day and
Speaker 2: night with calls and calmenting on my TikTok from private
Speaker 2: accounts and just saying heinous stuff, not being very Christian.
Speaker 1: Like, you know, I don't know m how Loyo was
Speaker 1: all this.
Speaker 2: We brought up in October. I guess it's it's been
Speaker 2: happening on and off. It was very heavy through November,
Speaker 2: and it kind of it's light that's a little bit
Speaker 2: in December. Yeah, I'm actually back with my like long
Speaker 2: term X that was from before him who travels around
Speaker 2: because he's a firefighter and cuts down trees and puts
Speaker 2: down those crazy Canada fires. So back with him, back
Speaker 2: with doing all that long distance stuff trying to avoid
Speaker 2: my ex.
Speaker 1: That's cool. That guy definitely sounds like he is a
Speaker 1: mustache and a mullet.
Speaker 2: Yeah, the firefighter has a better mustache, better mullet.
Speaker 1: So do you fuck him in the ass track?
Speaker 2: I've asked, he's open to it, but that's not something
Speaker 2: I ever want to push.
Speaker 3: You know, so.
Speaker 2: Little, you know if it happened to happen.
Speaker 1: But so, how did you rekindle with the firefighter af
Speaker 1: after so much time?
Speaker 2: Well, it's crazy, because life's crazy. We me and the
Speaker 2: Christian man were on the phone breaking up, and while
Speaker 2: we were on the phone, he texted me and it
Speaker 2: was like, Hey, I'm coming back to I live in Ohio.
Speaker 2: He was like, I'm coming back to Ohio from Washington
Speaker 2: State after six months and would love to see you.
Speaker 2: I've been thinking about you, and so yeah, I guess
Speaker 2: the Christian boy chas a bad time to fuck up
Speaker 2: and watch his excess porn because the Firefighter texted And
Speaker 2: I don't know, I think that that's the person, like
Speaker 2: I really, you know, he feels like the person's supposed
Speaker 2: to be with. We've been together for a while and
Speaker 2: split up over the summer just because distance, you know,
Speaker 2: can get to I think.
Speaker 1: So this the Christian guys, he's still like he's not
Speaker 1: like showing up at your fucking house and.
Speaker 2: Shit is he not showing up at my house? Just
Speaker 2: like a lot of a lot of her he did
Speaker 2: try and marry Christmas his way back into my life.
Speaker 1: But what does it mean to marry Christmas your way
Speaker 1: back into somebody's life.
Speaker 2: I think it's you know, when I guess you're no
Speaker 2: longer on speaking terms with someone in a holiday or
Speaker 2: special occidence comes up and it's an excuse to be like, hey,
Speaker 2: I haven't talked to you in a while, Happy birthday,
Speaker 2: Marry Christmas.
Speaker 1: It's smart, but smart.
Speaker 2: I got other stuff to worry about. I'm in nursing
Speaker 2: school right now. I'm moving to my apartment out of my.
Speaker 4: Grandma's so that's cool.
Speaker 1: While you and we got a firefighter at an EMT,
Speaker 1: that's pretty good. You guys can make You can deliver
Speaker 1: your own baby. You don't even need to go to
Speaker 1: a doctor.
Speaker 2: Absolutely. I'm actually certified to do that. And I always
Speaker 2: hope that, like one day I get the call. I
Speaker 2: would love to deliver a bit in the back of
Speaker 2: my truck, not my own, but yeah.
Speaker 1: I'll take it to the chat for questions. Does the
Speaker 1: chat have any questions for AJ about anything at all? Life,
Speaker 1: being an AMT, doing, being a human being on the
Speaker 1: planet Earth.
Speaker 2: I cannot believe I'm on here. By the way, I'm
Speaker 2: so very.
Speaker 3: Excited to.
Speaker 1: Someone wants to know what the best flavor pop tart
Speaker 1: is in your opinion?
Speaker 2: Ohores, I don't eat crust on pop tarts or any
Speaker 2: other thing that's breaded, but I.
Speaker 5: Like this s'more pop tart.
Speaker 1: Someone says, how do I pitch my wife on pegging me?
Speaker 2: Honestly, I think your best way to go is maybe
Speaker 2: like start with a play on her. I don't want
Speaker 2: to get too graphic, you know, but some light ass
Speaker 2: play on her, and then maybe discuss switching it around
Speaker 2: while the heat's going.
Speaker 1: What is your Somebody said, what is your most embarrassing
Speaker 1: EMTs story? And then somebody said what is your craziest
Speaker 1: EMTs story? I don't know which one you want to cover,
Speaker 1: or if you have one that covers both.
Speaker 2: I don't know if I've done anything embarrassing. I've just
Speaker 2: I don't know. I've been like projectile, vomited on you know.
Speaker 2: I've had to like swim around in people's blood and poo.
Speaker 2: I think, like I guess, like the most entertaining runs
Speaker 2: I get are my dementia patients. I love people like
Speaker 2: I love getting a ten pm sundowner call, and it's
Speaker 2: like a woman who's either mean and scratching at me
Speaker 2: or she's quietly sitting there like singing a really scary tune,
Speaker 2: you know, like oh love that.
Speaker 1: Someone wants to someone wants to know, and this is
Speaker 1: this is a good question. Are you How do you
Speaker 1: feel about like the stalking. Do you think it will
Speaker 1: get worse?
Speaker 2: I don't feel like it will get worse. I do
Speaker 2: feel like he at heart is a good person. I
Speaker 2: think that I was really the first person that he
Speaker 2: had like a truly deep relationship with, and it felt
Speaker 2: like he told me I was the first person he
Speaker 2: could fully beat himself around. So I think just like
Speaker 2: the intensity of that really got to him. So you know,
Speaker 2: I'm trying to be forgiving. I really don't judge him
Speaker 2: too much for it.
Speaker 1: So well, A J. Is there anything else you want
Speaker 1: to say to the people of the computer before we go?
Speaker 2: Thank you for having me. I appreciate you. I listen
Speaker 2: anytime that you stream, So I'm a good night, yick,
Speaker 2: have a.
Speaker 1: Good night and enjoy. Hey, pour a marguerite out for me. Huh,
Speaker 1: all poor too?
Speaker 2: All right?
Speaker 1: Rock and roll?
Speaker 3: All right, you.
Speaker 1: Man? It really would be sick to drink a margarita
Speaker 1: alone in my room right now, should I.
Speaker 3: Uh, hello, hey there, Oh my goodness, this is just
Speaker 3: a gag.
Speaker 1: Yes, sir, to whom am I speaking with?
Speaker 3: My name's I'm.
Speaker 1: Gonna assume you cut out a little bit, but I'm
Speaker 1: gonna assume you said Seymour.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 1: How often do you get people saying, feed me Seymour?
Speaker 3: I don't get that reference.
Speaker 1: You don't get that reference? All right, that's we'll save
Speaker 1: it for the people who do, all right. Honestly, it's
Speaker 1: kind of funny. It's it's funny that you even thought
Speaker 1: it was It's funny that you even thought it was
Speaker 1: a reference. Because if I didn't know that that was
Speaker 1: a reference, and somebody said that to me, I wouldn't
Speaker 1: say I don't get that reference. I would say, what
Speaker 1: the fuck are you talking talking about? I wouldn't It
Speaker 1: wouldn't even registered that it was a reference.
Speaker 3: Oh man, dude, I'm a little shaky right now because oh.
Speaker 1: Man saying oh man, it's a perfect response to any
Speaker 1: of the bullshit I just said. Saw what's up? Seymore?
Speaker 1: How's life?
Speaker 3: Life is? Is actually pretty good for the most part.
Speaker 3: I don't know if you saw that. I send you
Speaker 3: a text message after I tried giving you a call. Essentially,
Speaker 3: I wanted to discuss a little dilemma and having with
Speaker 3: between me and my family. I said in the message,
Speaker 3: I'm twenty six years old and I come from like
Speaker 3: a Catholic family background, and so I'm twenty six years
Speaker 3: old and like I do smoke weed and I do vape,
Speaker 3: and like I've gone like through the whole thing, I
Speaker 3: guess you could say, like the whole the whole cycle
Speaker 3: of you know, trying out marijuana, getting addicted to it,
Speaker 3: to getting obsessed with it, and to the point where,
Speaker 3: like you know, I had to you know, I've never
Speaker 3: been to rehab or anything like that, but I've you know,
Speaker 3: basically tried forcing myself to stop, and I guess since
Speaker 3: you know here I am still doing it. Technically it
Speaker 3: didn't really work, but ultimately it's like you know, I
Speaker 3: control or at least I at least don't allow marijuana
Speaker 3: to control my life as much as it used to. Whereas,
Speaker 3: like you know, I it went where I'm like, you know,
Speaker 3: I'm smoking like two three times a day, and so
Speaker 3: like you know, I just smoke too. If I feel
Speaker 3: like it, I will if not, whatever, you know, I
Speaker 3: don't need it, and so it's like and throughout this
Speaker 3: whole process, I've you know, I've tried discussing it with
Speaker 3: my family because you know, in my family, you know,
Speaker 3: we try not to We tried, at least I tried
Speaker 3: to be honest with my family because you know, with
Speaker 3: your family, it's your only family. Well you know, if
Speaker 3: you can't be honest or you know, even trust your family,
Speaker 3: then who really can you trust out in the world.
Speaker 1: So then what what what would the conflict be?
Speaker 3: Okay, Well, for my family, I mean to them, basically,
Speaker 3: marijuana is just a no no. It is basically a sin,
Speaker 3: and like you know, to them, they see it as
Speaker 3: like a very evil thing or like a very addictive thing,
Speaker 3: which I mean, yes, it is addictive, but you know,
Speaker 3: I believe it's not the only thing that people can
Speaker 3: really get addicted to, or even the worst thing, not
Speaker 3: to not to put doubt that, you know, I believe
Speaker 3: marijuana can do its work bad thing.
Speaker 1: So so, so first of all, what's your name again?
Speaker 3: Seymour?
Speaker 1: All right, we did the whole thing. That's about hilarious
Speaker 1: fake name to pick out of all fake names. Anyway,
Speaker 1: I forgot. I can't believe I asked your name after
Speaker 1: we did the whole feed me Seymour thing. I just
Speaker 1: might here's the here, you know what. You know why
Speaker 1: I asked you that? Because I have very bad short
Speaker 1: term memory, Seymour. You know why I have very bad
Speaker 1: short term memory?
Speaker 3: Is it because of weed?
Speaker 1: It's because of weed? Probably, I don't know. I'm not
Speaker 1: a fucking scientist. But is the conflict here really with
Speaker 1: your parents, because like I don't so obviously you know,
Speaker 1: they're they're super Catholic and they think that, uh, the
Speaker 1: devil really did create the lettuce which he made of
Speaker 1: He might he may have, he might have. Yeah, So
Speaker 1: is the conflict just that you can't talk to them
Speaker 1: about this this addiction that you have and that makes
Speaker 1: you feel kind of isolated?
Speaker 3: Yes and no, because again like yes, I mean I'm
Speaker 3: mainly just using the you know, me using weed as
Speaker 3: kind of like the basis as to what the real
Speaker 3: issue is. Like, my main issue is the fact that
Speaker 3: you know, I have difficulty you know, expressing what I
Speaker 3: really feel in my life, you know, because I I
Speaker 3: uh not to get too much into my my personal
Speaker 3: life again because again like I'm not trying, I'm trying
Speaker 3: not to swerve too far off the topic here. Okay,
Speaker 3: So essentially, like, you know, my parents divorced when I
Speaker 3: was three. I grew up in a house with four sisters,
Speaker 3: no brothers. I'm the second youngest child, and uh, you know,
Speaker 3: I think the divorce, you know, I think that divorce
Speaker 3: kind of took a toll between me and my my
Speaker 3: siblings because throughout the majority of our of our childhood,
Speaker 3: you know, we've always had arguments or fights, you know,
Speaker 3: majority of them with with my mother, some of them
Speaker 3: with my father. But ultimately, you know, here we are,
Speaker 3: we're all growing up. You know, we're all adults here,
Speaker 3: and we're all we're we all still have each other
Speaker 3: in our lives. You know, I still have my mother,
Speaker 3: I still have my father. All my siblings they're you know,
Speaker 3: they're not doing bad. You know, they all have jobs.
Speaker 3: You know, they're they're doing their their own thing. You know,
Speaker 3: they're doing good. And that's you know, I believe. I
Speaker 3: like to believe that I'm doing as.
Speaker 1: Well, so so smart, so so uh again, and and
Speaker 1: all all of that is is great. I'm glad that
Speaker 1: everyone's doing good. So, you know, in that case, when
Speaker 1: you when you told me just now, you were, like,
Speaker 1: I think we it is just a side note to
Speaker 1: what the actual problem is, right you said something along
Speaker 1: those lines. Am I correct? So tell me, you know,
Speaker 1: in as plain words as you can, what what is
Speaker 1: the actual problem?
Speaker 3: I believe, I'm I believe I'm having issues ultimately, just
Speaker 3: I guess finding a reason to stay around my family,
Speaker 3: if that make any sense?
Speaker 1: Finding a reason to stay around your family?
Speaker 3: Yeah? Like I mean again, like I don't want to,
Speaker 3: you know, confuse anything, Like I love my family with
Speaker 3: all my heart. You know that that's my family, and
Speaker 3: I understand that we all have our personal problems. I
Speaker 3: know I have my problems that I've caused, and they
Speaker 3: have problems that each everybody has caused. But you know,
Speaker 3: I feel like you know, ultimately, why should we have
Speaker 3: to argue with each other and you know, leave on
Speaker 3: bad terms if we if we still are have each other.
Speaker 1: So I just I'm you phrased this in a very
Speaker 1: interesting way, and I don't know if you did that intentionally.
Speaker 1: You phrased it as I need to find a reason
Speaker 1: to be around my family. It's a very specific way
Speaker 1: to phrase what you're talking about.
Speaker 3: Right, again, Like I know, I know, I'm beating around
Speaker 3: the bush because again, like I have issues pulling out
Speaker 3: the real truth because it's like it's my own personal problems.
Speaker 3: I guess trauma if you want to call it that. Again,
Speaker 3: I'm beating around the bush because like I, I never
Speaker 3: really had opportunities or you know, the option to actually
Speaker 3: save my what I feel.
Speaker 1: Well, what.
Speaker 3: You know?
Speaker 1: Well, look, here's the thing. Whatever you want to say
Speaker 1: about however you feel when you're talking on here, you
Speaker 1: know it's up to you. You could say whatever you
Speaker 1: want or not say whatever you don't want to say.
Speaker 1: But okay, when you said, when you say find the reason,
Speaker 1: let me ask you, do you like your family? Do
Speaker 1: you enjoy being around your family? Because here's the deal.
Speaker 1: You're twenty six. Now you're an adult. I assume you
Speaker 1: have a job and you make your own money, and
Speaker 1: you don't you know need you know, you're not living
Speaker 1: off of your parents financially, and as an adult, you
Speaker 1: get to make your own decisions about what people you
Speaker 1: spend time with and allow into your life. And you
Speaker 1: know it's it's not your fault that that that you
Speaker 1: grew up the way that you did, and that it
Speaker 1: turns you into and that it did whatever it did
Speaker 1: to you. But you know, you're an adult now and
Speaker 1: you get to make your own decisions as to who
Speaker 1: you want to hang out with. And so I ask
Speaker 1: you with that power that is bestowed upon you, and
Speaker 1: you can tell me the truth or you cannot tell
Speaker 1: me whatever you don't want to tell me. But I
Speaker 1: ask you plainly, you know, do you want to hang
Speaker 1: out with your family?
Speaker 3: Yes?
Speaker 1: Okay, So if you're telling me that you're looking for
Speaker 1: a reason to be around your family, you've just now
Speaker 1: produced the best possible reason to be around your family,
Speaker 1: which is because you want to.
Speaker 3: Right.
Speaker 1: So, but where's the conflict coming from within that? Because
Speaker 1: you gave me You didn't even pause when you said that,
Speaker 1: you didn't even have to think about it. You gave
Speaker 1: me a restounding yes.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't know. I'm uh, I guess.
Speaker 2: M.
Speaker 3: I don't know. I feel like i'm The thing is
Speaker 3: is like you know, it's like whenever, uh, whenever you
Speaker 3: have good and then you have your bad. You know,
Speaker 3: you can't have one without the other, right, And it's
Speaker 3: like and like, you know, I don't know. Maybe it's
Speaker 3: because like personally, I feel like, you know, I feel
Speaker 3: like I'm I'm a family oriented person. You know, to
Speaker 3: me is like I I hold that my family not
Speaker 3: in a high pedestal, but I value them very much.
Speaker 3: Because that's I guess that's all you know, personality wise aside.
Speaker 3: I guess that's just like instinctively, that's how I feel.
Speaker 3: You know, it's more like, just get.
Speaker 1: A big like a giant, get a giant.
Speaker 3: Passion for the other person, box vape.
Speaker 1: With th HC, and you roll up onto your parents'
Speaker 1: house and just blow a big fucking cloud in all
Speaker 1: their faces and go, this is who I am, and
Speaker 1: you must accept me for it. No, I don't actually
Speaker 1: know if.
Speaker 3: He would do that. No, I mean, okay, so i'm
Speaker 3: if I were to actually do that, like right now
Speaker 3: my my okay, the planetature, I actually live right now
Speaker 3: with my mother and one of my sisters in the house. Okay.
Speaker 1: Oh see, okay, so where so you live with your family?
Speaker 3: Yes? No, no, I I should I should have implied
Speaker 3: that I still live currently with my family, because you know,
Speaker 3: of course, yes I do have a job, and yes
Speaker 3: I do make a decent amount of money, but I'm
Speaker 3: still trying to make my way. I guess more financially stable.
Speaker 6: Okay, I'm in the process. Yeah, And of course, and
Speaker 6: I was like, you know, there's that. And of course,
Speaker 6: like living in the house, we're always gonna meet butting
Speaker 6: heads with each other. But with my family, it's like
Speaker 6: it always seems like we want to like instead of
Speaker 6: talking about it, we're just gonna argue. And so we
Speaker 6: either we were somebody walked away or the cops have
Speaker 6: to be called.
Speaker 1: Okay, all right, now, all right, if.
Speaker 3: If you want, I an kind of paint a pictures
Speaker 3: like what you what you said earlier about me, you know,
Speaker 3: just babing in front of the house.
Speaker 1: Well I was, I was just I was just trying
Speaker 1: to be funny and it didn't work, but I I
Speaker 1: I well, oh gay you all right, you've you've introduced
Speaker 1: several new elements into this conversation now that are are peaking.
Speaker 1: My my curiosity is, I'm you know, well, well, okay,
Speaker 1: you live with your parents, which is fine, dude, if
Speaker 1: you're like, you know, trying to find a nest or
Speaker 1: a core of financial stability. I think living with your parents,
Speaker 1: if you have the opportunity to do so, and if
Speaker 1: it doesn't drive you fucking crazy, to the point where
Speaker 1: you're suffering every day, and you should do it. But
Speaker 1: you mentioned just now that things will escalate to the
Speaker 1: point where the cops are called.
Speaker 3: Yeah. So like when I say like, like, oh, it's
Speaker 3: like hard headed. Hard headedness runs in the family. I know.
Speaker 3: I'm very hard headed, and I get it from both
Speaker 3: my mother and my father. Like it's like you know,
Speaker 3: like you know the same, like it's my way or
Speaker 3: the highway.
Speaker 1: Well yeah, like.
Speaker 3: Not to you know, specifically, like it's it's okay, especially
Speaker 3: with my mother, it's it's my way or that's it.
Speaker 3: It's either you you either it's my way, or you're
Speaker 3: at my house where I'm gonna call the cops and
Speaker 3: have them take you off my house.
Speaker 1: Okay.
Speaker 3: And and she has done that, I want to say
Speaker 3: at least twice, and once to me and once to
Speaker 3: one of my siblings in a time where I was
Speaker 3: not actually around, I was living on my own.
Speaker 1: Seamar get seamar get me on a few things. Okay,
Speaker 1: All right, well let's talk about you know, your whole
Speaker 1: financial stability thing. Are you do you have a job, yes, okay,
Speaker 1: what do you do?
Speaker 3: I work in a warehouse. I'm like I put like
Speaker 3: you know, merchandise on a palette to be put onto
Speaker 3: a truck, you know, reverse stocking something like that.
Speaker 1: Cool? Cool, And do you do you make enough that
Speaker 1: if you, if you wanted to, you could move out?
Speaker 3: Ideally I want to say, Okay, well, it's a little confusing,
Speaker 3: like I had to put more human details here. I'm
Speaker 3: currently working at this job ultimately until next year, for
Speaker 3: next summer, because I currently I'm in a relationship right
Speaker 3: now with a girl. Okay, and uh, we've been together
Speaker 3: in about two years coming this uh, this nixt may
Speaker 3: great and she actually she's from my hometown. But she
Speaker 3: ultimately she actually moved to a bigger city. I'm not
Speaker 3: going to say where.
Speaker 1: Okay, you think moving moving in with her?
Speaker 3: I am, but it's we got together in the relationship,
Speaker 3: like only a few months before she got offered the job,
Speaker 3: and she had immediately moved. And I've done the whole like,
Speaker 3: you know, like, hey, let's go move together, move in together,
Speaker 3: it's going to be great, you know, all of a sudden,
Speaker 3: no planning whatsoever. And that has backfired on me three
Speaker 3: times already. And so it's like I've already talked with
Speaker 3: her about it before she moved. I know, I do
Speaker 3: want to move in with her. However, it's like because
Speaker 3: she's moving over there specifically for her job, you know.
Speaker 3: I told her was like, you know, we're in a
Speaker 3: new relationship. You know, I'm not saying that I don't
Speaker 3: want to go with you. I do.
Speaker 1: Dude, Can I just wh Can I say something? Can
Speaker 1: I say something to you? And I hope you don't
Speaker 1: find this offensive because this is an actual this is
Speaker 1: the thing. I want to get your take on this
Speaker 1: entire phone call you have said. I don't know if
Speaker 1: this is just how you talk or maybe you're just
Speaker 1: like frazzled because we're speaking in a in a in
Speaker 1: a public setting here, but the way that you're talking,
Speaker 1: I'm I'm I'm picturing you right now like a mad
Speaker 1: scientist with like pulling your hair out. You sound extremely
Speaker 1: stressed and frazzled, and I just want to know if
Speaker 1: that's like only because we're talking on a podcast right now,
Speaker 1: or if that's just how you are, because you sound
Speaker 1: you sound you sound like you're you're you're jumping.
Speaker 3: Well, okay, look it's it's a picture of things. Like, dude,
Speaker 3: I've been listening to your podcast since the last this
Speaker 3: last summer, and I it ultimately have been enjoying it
Speaker 3: very much. And I have like I have like major
Speaker 3: stage fright, you know, if I know people are listening
Speaker 3: to I, I get, you know, tended up, and sometimes
Speaker 3: I have to like pace myself whenever I have to,
Speaker 3: you know, speak. That's That's all that really.
Speaker 1: Is, Okay, okay, cool. I just want to make sure
Speaker 1: I just that's totally fine. I just want to make
Speaker 1: sure that it wasn't It didn't have everything to do
Speaker 1: with like all the stuff that you're to like stress
Speaker 1: over the things that you are talking about. You're doing fine.
Speaker 3: Yeah, no, it's no. I just have personal stage tried. Man,
Speaker 3: you're doing great.
Speaker 1: You're doing great.
Speaker 3: Well.
Speaker 1: Anyway, I hope I didn't make you feel self conscious
Speaker 1: just now, but you know, anyway, I mean to get
Speaker 1: to the route here. I say, you're so you this
Speaker 1: girl that you're in a relationship with, you're kind of
Speaker 1: you because here's the thing, right it is like you
Speaker 1: I'm I. You know, look, I fucking lived in my
Speaker 1: mom's basement for two years trying to build up a
Speaker 1: financial nest egg and and work on stuff and and
Speaker 1: you know, do do the whole thing. I think it's
Speaker 1: a good idea, right for some but but if I
Speaker 1: think it's a good idea, if that, if you're being
Speaker 1: very intentional about it in that way, but there does
Speaker 1: come a point where like you gotta be in your
Speaker 1: mind thinking about, you know, what's next, what's your exit plan?
Speaker 1: Especially it I mean, I'm I'm very lucky my mom
Speaker 1: is is Is is a great person. But you know,
Speaker 1: it's like if you're if you're butting heads and the
Speaker 1: police are getting called and it's escalating to that point
Speaker 1: and it's a daily source of stress and anxiety, it's
Speaker 1: just making your life miserable. And I don't know if
Speaker 1: that's the all I all I heard is that the
Speaker 1: police are being called and that it's her way or
Speaker 1: the highway. That's all you you you you haven't indicated
Speaker 1: on your end that you are you know, you have
Speaker 1: an expressly mentioned that you are miserable, but you know,
Speaker 1: I mean, are you is this is this situation that
Speaker 1: you're in? Is it?
Speaker 4: Is?
Speaker 1: It? Is it horrible? Every day? I mean where where
Speaker 1: where are you at? I mean.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean yeah, I'm observer. That does seem horrible.
Speaker 3: But like again, like when you have your you're good,
Speaker 3: you have your bad, and like, okay, I'm only talking
Speaker 3: about the bad thing. It's here like again, like you know,
Speaker 3: I do have good moments with my family. You know,
Speaker 3: we had a good Christmas.
Speaker 1: This last week, right right, right, But I'm I'm talking
Speaker 1: about just like the like living with with them, you know,
Speaker 1: because no, yeah, here's let me tell you something. And
Speaker 1: I don't care who the fuck you are and who
Speaker 1: your family is. This there's no way that this isn't
Speaker 1: universally true. Your relationship with your family is going to
Speaker 1: be a lot better when you move out because I'm
Speaker 1: a firm believer of absence making the heart grow fonder,
Speaker 1: do you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, no, you're right. I mean when I first
Speaker 3: moved out, I mean I was like, you know, on
Speaker 3: cloud nine. I was a static, but I was also
Speaker 3: you know, like nineteen at the time and very inexperienced.
Speaker 3: You know, I take my good with my bad here.
Speaker 1: You know.
Speaker 3: It's like, you know, I understand, like there are moments
Speaker 3: in my life where I am genuinely happy, you know,
Speaker 3: I was, you know, I am happy, but of course,
Speaker 3: I mean I had my bad days. So just like
Speaker 3: you know, I look at it, it's like, hey, you know,
Speaker 3: my life is going to have up sundowns. You know,
Speaker 3: I've been in worse situation before, and of course I
Speaker 3: would wish like to be in other situations that are
Speaker 3: a lot better, you know, if I had the auction.
Speaker 3: I literally talked to her about it with my girlfriend
Speaker 3: today cause she's actually down in our hometown for the
Speaker 3: weekend spending time with her family. She talked to me.
Speaker 3: I was like, if you're really that upset about it,
Speaker 3: like just come move in with me. You know, I'm
Speaker 3: right here. And it's like she's one hundred percent of right.
Speaker 1: Just so she's extended an invitation to come live with
Speaker 1: her already. Yes, yeah, No, I mean, well, and what
Speaker 1: are you waiting for?
Speaker 3: I guess part of it to me is like I'm
Speaker 3: ultimately afraid because you know, it's like I've already done
Speaker 3: the whole moving out process and like, you know again,
Speaker 3: like it's backfired on me, and so now it's like you,
Speaker 3: I'd rather just play it smart.
Speaker 1: You know, moving moving out backfire on you? Is it
Speaker 1: a financial thing?
Speaker 3: Financial and like you know, friendships, you know crumbling. You
Speaker 3: know that.
Speaker 1: You know your friendship's crumbled when you moved down to
Speaker 1: the of your mom's house.
Speaker 3: No, No, like when I moved out on my own, Okay,
Speaker 3: Like you know, when I moved out, I tried getting roommates.
Speaker 3: You know, none of the majority of them either backed
Speaker 3: out or they just couldn't pay their own like their
Speaker 3: own half.
Speaker 1: Are you are you? Are you worried about your relationship
Speaker 1: with your girlfriend being affected by this?
Speaker 3: I mean obviously, I mean, like you're always going to
Speaker 3: be worried about everything whenever you're like you're getting in
Speaker 3: a relationship and especially moving across you know, cities or whatever.
Speaker 3: But like it's mainly I guess it's just like it's
Speaker 3: mainly with me, Like I've already talked with her about this,
Speaker 3: is like you know, it's like, look, I just don't
Speaker 3: want to get in that headset space because I got
Speaker 3: really really depressed having to pay a lease on my
Speaker 3: own for so long, especially like whenever, like the only
Speaker 3: advice I can get is from my family, which their
Speaker 3: only options or their only advice is like, well, why
Speaker 3: did you move out in the first place if you
Speaker 3: weren't ready, or why don't you just move back in
Speaker 3: with mom and dad? You know, it's it's.
Speaker 1: Look, I want, I want let me have a few things.
Speaker 1: Is you know I've said it a bunch of times
Speaker 1: over the course of this call. I'm very much you
Speaker 1: know pro you know, living with your parents if if
Speaker 1: you need to, it's fucking extremely tough out there, uh,
Speaker 1: you know, to pay rent and do all this shit.
Speaker 1: So you know, if that's where you've got to be,
Speaker 1: that's where you got to be. But I and I
Speaker 1: don't know. I've only been talking to you for like
Speaker 1: a half hour. Is it been half hour? It's no,
Speaker 1: not yet, but whatever, I've only been talking for twenty minutes.
Speaker 1: But I have a sense that just generally that finding
Speaker 1: independence will bring you a more enriched life, particularly if
Speaker 1: your family drama is getting to a point where police
Speaker 1: are called.
Speaker 3: You know.
Speaker 1: So that's what I have to say about that. And
Speaker 1: you know, I before we go to Seymour, and by
Speaker 1: the way, thanks for talking to me for so long.
Speaker 1: I hope that this I wanted to bring it all
Speaker 1: back because I hope that this conversation was helpful to you.
Speaker 1: I know that there was a I know that there
Speaker 1: was a central thing that you wanted to talk about
Speaker 1: that we have veered far away from and so I
Speaker 1: just wanted to ask you if, like if there was
Speaker 1: a particular thing that you wanted to talk to me about,
Speaker 1: I guess, and if if you feel as though we've
Speaker 1: covered that thing, or if there's any other aspect of
Speaker 1: any of this that you wanted.
Speaker 3: To knock like the same the advice you've given me today,
Speaker 3: Like it's ultimately similar to the majority of advice I've
Speaker 3: been given to I've been given by you know, my
Speaker 3: friends and other people I've talked to about this stuff.
Speaker 3: And it's like, ultimately it's like, I guess the main
Speaker 3: reason I call it is man, It's like, you know,
Speaker 3: it's like, you know what, I want to keep talking
Speaker 3: more to people because I don't really get these I
Speaker 3: don't feel like I don't get much of these opportunities
Speaker 3: good or at least, you know, I was like, maybe
Speaker 3: let me keep talking to people, see if, like if
Speaker 3: maybe I will get another answer and maybe I'll get
Speaker 3: a different point of view that I'm maybe even I'm
Speaker 3: missing here. It's like again, it's like I want to
Speaker 3: keep my eyes or my mind open to other ideas,
Speaker 3: but ultimately, like I guess, be smart with how I
Speaker 3: move because the whole met like, you know, not moving
Speaker 3: in with my girlfriend for like a whole year's time
Speaker 3: that after she's moved out is just again just me.
Speaker 3: One one can sure that our relationship is gonna last,
Speaker 3: because I mean, I mean, long distant relationships are really hard.
Speaker 3: But also it's like, you know, I want to see, like,
Speaker 3: you know, are you gonna be okay? Am I gonna
Speaker 3: be okay when we finally move over there when I
Speaker 3: when I finally Like the financial issue isn't really not
Speaker 3: a poem. I'm not you know, in debt or nothing
Speaker 3: like that. It's just you know, I want to see
Speaker 3: where seam are seam where.
Speaker 1: Two things before we go.
Speaker 4: Uh.
Speaker 1: One, I'm very glad. I'm very glad that it sounds
Speaker 1: as though you're it sounds like this is me playing
Speaker 1: fucking armchair therapist here. But you mentioned not being able
Speaker 1: to express yourself that much when you were like a kid,
Speaker 1: and I'm very glad that you are comfortable expressing yourself now.
Speaker 1: But also, two, don't don't kill yourself with your brain, man,
Speaker 1: because you're Yeah, I know you said it's just because
Speaker 1: of the podcast, but you I can, I can like
Speaker 1: feel your brain thinking a thousand thoughts a minute, and
Speaker 1: and and uh, I don't know, I don't know. I
Speaker 1: don't want to say calm down, but you know, don't uh,
Speaker 1: don't kill yourself with your brain.
Speaker 3: Don't overthink it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, don't overthink it.
Speaker 3: No, you're right man, No, I mean, I mean, yeah,
Speaker 3: you've only been talking to me for like twenty five
Speaker 3: minutes or whatever, like, but you hit me right on
Speaker 3: the nail. Yeah, Like I am an.
Speaker 1: Overthinker, Seymour, Is there anything else you want to say
Speaker 1: to the people of the computer before we go?
Speaker 3: This is actually the part I've actually been anticipating because,
Speaker 3: like I always like listening to people what they say
Speaker 3: at the end of this Yeah, uh, you mind if
Speaker 3: I have I hit it with.
Speaker 1: A joke, yes, say whatever you want.
Speaker 3: Okay, uh, there with my bear with me because this
Speaker 3: kind of drags on.
Speaker 1: How long? Hold on? How long is this joke?
Speaker 3: I'm gonna say at least a minute? All right, tell
Speaker 3: the joke, okay, Okay. So it's showing to in this
Speaker 3: class going on right now, and this little boy goes
Speaker 3: up at the front of the class and he says,
Speaker 3: I'm gonna show you all by dingling okay, okay, here.
Speaker 3: The teacher sends him to the principal's office. The principals
Speaker 3: ask him, you know, why are you here? He said,
Speaker 3: because I wanted to show my dingling. The principal sends
Speaker 3: him home. The parents ask him, why are you here?
Speaker 3: He said, because I wanted to show my dingaling. The
Speaker 3: parents send him outside. He gets hit by a car
Speaker 3: and dies. So the boy goes up to heaven. Yes,
Speaker 3: this is still going. The boy goes up to heaven
Speaker 3: and God asked him, why are you here? Because I
Speaker 3: wanted to show my dingling. God sends him to Hell,
Speaker 3: and then the devil asked him, why are you here
Speaker 3: because I wanted to show my dingling. The devil says, okay,
Speaker 3: we'll show me your dingaling. The boy pulls out a
Speaker 3: little bell for his pocket and goes have a good night.
Speaker 1: Yet, yeah you too. That's a very nice joke about.
Speaker 3: You know.
Speaker 1: It's at first I was kind of appalled when Satan
Speaker 1: asked to see the little boy's penis, but then it's like, well,
Speaker 1: you know, he's Satan. Of course, Satan probably is a pedophile.
Speaker 1: I would not consider that out of character for Satan
Speaker 1: to want to see little boy penises. It seems that
Speaker 1: seems apt of him. Hey guys, it's Lyle here. I'm
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Speaker 4: All from violence?
Speaker 1: Hello, Hello, Hi, what's your name? Violet Beauregard? From a
Speaker 1: Series of Unfortunate Events? How you doing? Wait? Ship? That's not?
Speaker 1: Is that from a Series of Unfortunate Events? Or is
Speaker 1: that Willie Wonka?
Speaker 4: No, it's.
Speaker 1: Okay, I'm not sure. Violet Beauregard, she's the one that
Speaker 1: likes to invent. No, wait, okay, there's a kid who
Speaker 1: likes to read and a kid who likes to invent stuff,
Speaker 1: the one that events or reads.
Speaker 4: She's the one that invents. She's the one with a
Speaker 4: little bow and out hat. Okay, yeah, this is insane.
Speaker 4: I've loved you for years.
Speaker 1: Oh thanks, Violet. Hell yeah, where we're in? Where in
Speaker 1: in England?
Speaker 3: That you call them from London?
Speaker 4: I felt pretty strange. You've never had anyone from London
Speaker 4: call you or England.
Speaker 1: I've talked to people from England before I did a
Speaker 1: show there. I did a show. I forget the name
Speaker 1: of the venue, but I did two shows there. They
Speaker 1: were really fun.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean we've worked very well.
Speaker 2: A book.
Speaker 4: The next show you do in London?
Speaker 2: Really excited?
Speaker 1: Okay, cool, I'll come back over the pond soon. You can.
Speaker 1: You can bring you can bring one of your famous
Speaker 1: inventions and we'll talk about it on stage.
Speaker 4: I will try.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yes, please. I was going to ask, so I
Speaker 1: thought you that's.
Speaker 4: Interesting because my brother has been smoking weed for a
Speaker 4: while now, and I think that it's become a problem.
Speaker 1: What define a problem?
Speaker 4: I think I think smoking weed can be like fun
Speaker 4: and also like anxiety, reducing to a certain degree. But
Speaker 4: I think the way in which he does it is
Speaker 4: sort of damaging.
Speaker 3: To him.
Speaker 4: I think that he essentially smokes too much weed, okay,
Speaker 4: And I was wondering because you talk about it quite openly.
Speaker 4: Sure if you think that too much weed can be smoked.
Speaker 1: Of course, yeah, of course. I mean it's crazy if
Speaker 1: you think there's no negative adverse effects to smoking weed.
Speaker 1: I mean, you're crazy. Of Course there's negative effects too,
Speaker 1: you know, inhaling shit into your lungs. It's not air,
Speaker 1: you know. And I'm not a doctor. I don't know shit,
Speaker 1: you know. I mean, maybe it's maybe it's not. Maybe
Speaker 1: it's maybe we's healthy for you. But if I had
Speaker 1: to make a bet on it, I would say the opposite.
Speaker 1: How old your brother.
Speaker 4: Young? Eighteen?
Speaker 1: He's eighteen, okay, does he have like goals for his life?
Speaker 4: I mean he's really clever that he.
Speaker 2: Has.
Speaker 4: The thing that like I take issue with is that
Speaker 4: he's really really intelligent. But because of weed, I think,
Speaker 4: and there's my opinion, probably not like everyone else's general opinion,
Speaker 4: but I think it's made him sort of less enthusiastic
Speaker 4: about doing well academically, if that makes sense, because I
Speaker 4: don't really know why, but I know Loweople smoke weed
Speaker 4: and they're normally not as sort of what's the word,
Speaker 4: like sort of just just lulled into a sense of
Speaker 4: not really caring about that academic success because of weed.
Speaker 4: But he has sort of doesn't care anymore. He just
Speaker 4: wants to sort of smoke weeds, sit in his room
Speaker 4: and play video games, which is fine, and I think
Speaker 4: that's completely fine. But I think he could achieve much more,
Speaker 4: which is why I'm worried. But I don't know if
Speaker 4: that's a cause for concern or anything. It's just he
Speaker 4: seems he's like pulled away from social interaction and he
Speaker 4: is really intelligent, but he just doesn't really seem like
Speaker 4: he wants to engage that anymore.
Speaker 3: Because of.
Speaker 1: M hm, how old are you me? Yeah?
Speaker 4: You I'm pretty four.
Speaker 1: Four okay, so you're you're You've got some years on
Speaker 1: the boy, he could say, does he does he?
Speaker 3: Uh?
Speaker 1: Do you have agult? What's your relationship like with it
Speaker 1: with the boy?
Speaker 4: Yeah? I love the boy. I love him dearly, but
Speaker 4: I definitely am worried about him.
Speaker 2: I think.
Speaker 4: I think that he doesn't like as most eighteen year olds,
Speaker 4: he doesn't really know who he is. And I'm not
Speaker 4: saying that LIE know who I am, but he really
Speaker 4: doesn't know who he is, and I think that he's
Speaker 4: trying to grasp the straws of that through weed and
Speaker 4: alcohol and sort of attention from other people. And I
Speaker 4: don't think I do you're healthy. But every time I
Speaker 4: say to him, maybe you should smoke less weed, he
Speaker 4: gets three defensive buy and or weed's actually great for
Speaker 4: you and like we actually look really healthy for you.
Speaker 4: And I don't really know how to say to him
Speaker 4: that weed can be great for you, but it also
Speaker 4: can have really sort of negative cos well.
Speaker 1: Also, he lives in London, so he's buying his weed
Speaker 1: from like clockwork orange looking guys instead of a store.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean a lot of people smoke weed in London,
Speaker 4: but a lot of that weed is probably not very
Speaker 4: good for you.
Speaker 1: Well, I mean, look at the end of the day,
Speaker 1: when it comes to all things like this, where you
Speaker 1: know it's not you, it's your family or friends, it's like,
Speaker 1: do you tell him all these things? Do you tell
Speaker 1: them why you think you shouldn't smoke weed? Do you
Speaker 1: tell him like things beyond that, because he's because he
Speaker 1: can say like because like whatever medical thing he thinks
Speaker 1: or read and on a on Reddit or a podcast
Speaker 1: or whatever. Where he's like, oh, it's actually making me better,
Speaker 1: you can be like, well, we decide what the fuck
Speaker 1: are you doing with your life? You know, if it's
Speaker 1: it's it seems like it's making you lazy or or
Speaker 1: or from an outsider perspective, it doesn't seem like it's
Speaker 1: actually really helping you. Because look, I mean, I've been
Speaker 1: smoking weed super regularly since I was I mean, fuck,
Speaker 1: I guess for a decade now. But it did it,
Speaker 1: and it has had its bad effects, but it never
Speaker 1: really like messed with the uh main quest of of
Speaker 1: of my life, you know. So ye, for him, it's
Speaker 1: like he's got to have a main quest.
Speaker 4: Do you find that you, or like people around you
Speaker 4: smoke weed because you're anxious.
Speaker 1: I smoke weed because I'm anxious all the time. Yeah,
Speaker 1: for sure.
Speaker 4: Yeah. I think that's like probably the core of it
Speaker 4: for him, which makes me feel like worse for saying, oh,
Speaker 4: maybe you don't. But that's only because he's young. If
Speaker 4: he was older, I would think it was different. But
Speaker 4: I feel even worse being like, I can tell you're
Speaker 4: really anxious, and I can tell you're trying to offset
Speaker 4: that by making me because I know that helps, but
Speaker 4: it's having sort of adverse consequences that are making you active.
Speaker 1: Does that make sense, Yeah, of course. I mean especially
Speaker 1: when you're I mean if you're when you're eighteen and
Speaker 1: you don't really like know, you know, as you're talking about,
Speaker 1: as you're you're figuring out your life. I mean, it's
Speaker 1: a crazy anxious time, and I can totally see him
Speaker 1: being like, I just don't want to deal with this
Speaker 1: right fucking now, I'm going to get high.
Speaker 4: I think that's actually really like poorly really relatable for him. Like,
Speaker 4: I think his main issue is, like it's like the personally,
Speaker 4: I've always wanted to grow up and be older and
Speaker 4: like exist in the world. He's always sort of wanted
Speaker 4: to sort of revert back to being a child and
Speaker 4: like not exist in the big scary world and not
Speaker 4: be perceived, if.
Speaker 2: That makes sense.
Speaker 4: And I think that has a lot to do with
Speaker 4: his weed smoking. I think that's like common with a
Speaker 4: lot of boys as well.
Speaker 1: Yeah, do you want to well, well, look, I mean
Speaker 1: it sounds like you're a good sister for caring this
Speaker 1: much about him and trying.
Speaker 4: This much, But I was just wondering, like from a
Speaker 4: weed smoker's perspective, if you had any advice or sort.
Speaker 1: Of have you Have you ever tried? You ever try weed?
Speaker 4: I have?
Speaker 2: I like, I liked it for a while, but.
Speaker 4: It never really sort of I was never really obsessed
Speaker 4: with that that this is lovely. This you feel quite
Speaker 4: sort of calm or relaxed. But I think also like
Speaker 4: one thing to note is that wherever you are, I'm
Speaker 4: not going to guess, but I imagine that generally in America
Speaker 4: weed is of a higher quality. In the UK, weed
Speaker 4: here is quite heavily filled with things that it probably
Speaker 4: shouldn't be, and it can actually make you much more
Speaker 4: anxious and paranoid than you probably should be. So a
Speaker 4: few times that's weird. Definitely, this is kind of scary
Speaker 4: and awful, which is probably not the experience you should have,
Speaker 4: if that makes sense.
Speaker 1: I feel like smoking weed in London. It just makes
Speaker 1: you see everything like you're in Wallace and Gramat.
Speaker 4: Yeah, noclamation.
Speaker 1: Everyone's talking in British accents. It sounds scary.
Speaker 4: The British actions are in a sense.
Speaker 2: Really fight man.
Speaker 1: Well, listen, Violet. It's nice that you care that much
Speaker 1: about your brother. I hope he figures this stuff out.
Speaker 1: He's only eighteen too, you know. I mean, here's the
Speaker 1: thing about your brother too, And this is why I
Speaker 1: don't think you should be so worried. Is that your
Speaker 1: brother can like smoke weed and not do anything for like,
Speaker 1: for like a pretty long time without it being a
Speaker 1: ginormous problem. He's got about. Your brother's got about I'm
Speaker 1: gonna say I wouldn't even put a number on it.
Speaker 1: Maybe twelve of you. I don't know. Your brother's got
Speaker 1: several years ahead of him where he can do nothing
Speaker 1: and get high all day and like he's he's not
Speaker 1: gonna die, you know, right. I mean, it's not like
Speaker 1: he's addicted to heroin. If he was addicted to heroin,
Speaker 1: he would have less than twelve years, but much much
Speaker 1: less so, so you know, he's I think he's going
Speaker 1: to be Okay, I think you gotta let you gotta
Speaker 1: let this ship play out.
Speaker 4: Okay, Well you put my mind at ease.
Speaker 1: Thank you so much, Violet. Is there anything else you
Speaker 1: want to say to the people of the computer before
Speaker 1: we go?
Speaker 4: I want to say, please try not to make fun
Speaker 4: of my British accent, and thank you so much for listening.
Speaker 4: And also don't worry about your weird family members doing
Speaker 4: their weird things, because.
Speaker 1: By weird, what doing my weird?
Speaker 4: I say that again, your strange, weird family members doing
Speaker 4: whatever they might be doing, they'll probably end up being okay.
Speaker 1: Yes, yes, Never ask your parents if they swing, because
Speaker 1: you won't want to know the answer. I'll talk to
Speaker 1: you later, Violet. Thank you for calling. Bye low bye, Violet.
Speaker 1: Ye make fun of your accent. I would never Oi
Speaker 1: would never, Oi would never never never Grommets, I've actually
Speaker 1: seen Wallace and Grommets. Grommet, Yes, Wallas, that did sound
Speaker 1: that didn't sound very British. All right, hello folks, it's
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