WEBVTT - "I PEGGED A CHRISTIAN MAN"

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<v Speaker 1>Hello, Hello, Oh my gosh, while what is your name?

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<v Speaker 2>Aj?

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<v Speaker 1>AJ?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>What is happening?

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<v Speaker 3>Aj?

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<v Speaker 1>How is life going for you?

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<v Speaker 2>Life's so good. I move into a new apartment in

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<v Speaker 2>like four days. I am in bed and I just

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<v Speaker 2>drink a margarita and two glasses of wine.

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<v Speaker 1>You just drank a margarita and two glasses of wine

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<v Speaker 1>by yourself? Are you alone getting drunk?

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<v Speaker 2>I am alone. I live with my grandma right now,

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<v Speaker 2>but I move out.

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<v Speaker 1>Soon, so that's cool. What did your grandma join you

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<v Speaker 1>to to get to get fucking wasted?

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<v Speaker 2>Dude? I wish she would. I wish you would get

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<v Speaker 2>wasted and smoke a joint or something, but no, she

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<v Speaker 2>doesn't like any of that stuff.

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<v Speaker 1>So I'm trying to wed. I've decided I'm going to

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<v Speaker 1>talk about it publicly so I'm held accountable. I'm quitting

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<v Speaker 1>for a week. I'm go I see how I feel.

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<v Speaker 1>I think the problem is that just it activates my

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<v Speaker 1>uh eating binges.

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<v Speaker 4>You know.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, I had cried a fucking crazy one the

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<v Speaker 1>other day. I was eating nest Quick vanilla milk and

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<v Speaker 1>fruit gushers and skittles, and he is just insane. It

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<v Speaker 1>was bad, but whatever, this is.

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<v Speaker 2>No, I get it. I have been smoking weed since

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<v Speaker 2>I was fourteen, and I stopped for the first time

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<v Speaker 2>for like two weeks a couple months ago, and my

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<v Speaker 2>brain just cleared, like the song was gone. And I

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<v Speaker 2>want to start doing that again so bad. But I

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<v Speaker 2>kind of use it to like help me with anxiety

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<v Speaker 2>and stuff like that. Like right now, I have been

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<v Speaker 2>calling you for months. I listened so much so I'm

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<v Speaker 2>like sweaty shaking right now.

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<v Speaker 3>But yeah, I'm very excited.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, hey, Jay, what's up. Well, you texted me something.

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<v Speaker 1>You wanted to talk to me about how your ex

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<v Speaker 1>is stalking you.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my gosh, I forgot. I try to forget about

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<v Speaker 2>that when I can.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, well, we don't have to talk about it. We

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<v Speaker 1>don't want to.

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<v Speaker 2>No, it's interesting, and I think that talking about it

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<v Speaker 2>might help, because I really never do.

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<v Speaker 3>But yeah, he was.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know. He was a sweet person. We met

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<v Speaker 2>over the summer, and I think religion is an awesome thing.

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<v Speaker 2>I think it's cool to have something to believe in.

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<v Speaker 2>It's not like my thing, but I'm open to it,

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<v Speaker 2>you know. And he was very religious and that kind

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<v Speaker 2>of I don't know, it got in the way of stuff.

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<v Speaker 2>His parents didn't like me, excit have tattoos, and I

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<v Speaker 2>don't know, it just got kind of strange. I went

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<v Speaker 2>to a Bible study and got pretty uncomfortable.

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<v Speaker 1>So so, how did you meet this young Christian boy?

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<v Speaker 2>Tender? Always tender?

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, I know, and boy, I mean, you don't sound

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know you, but do sound like you are

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<v Speaker 1>the religious type?

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<v Speaker 2>No, not at all.

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<v Speaker 1>Uh so then, but yeah, what was it that that

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<v Speaker 1>drew you two together?

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<v Speaker 2>He was really I love a mustache and I love

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<v Speaker 2>a mullet, and he had those and so like it

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<v Speaker 2>was a very like immediate physical attraction. And I don't know,

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<v Speaker 2>I try and be open minded. So it kind of

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<v Speaker 2>like intrigued me when he said that he was religious,

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<v Speaker 2>because I was like, I don't know, like I'd never

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<v Speaker 2>really been with anybody or like dated anybody that was

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<v Speaker 2>so I was like, let me maybe give this a try.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, he seems nice and respectful, nice, you know.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, when you're very physically attracted to someone, red flags

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<v Speaker 1>just become quirks very much.

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<v Speaker 2>So yeah, and then you like meet their parents and

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<v Speaker 2>I have like a I have a cool little tattoo

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<v Speaker 2>and from like an artist that I like on Instagram

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<v Speaker 2>and it says something about like dancing with devils and

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<v Speaker 2>it's a little devil with cowboy boots dancing around, and

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<v Speaker 2>that was a immediate like I walked in met his parents,

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<v Speaker 2>and his dad like started a discussion about that, and

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<v Speaker 2>I just knew it was gonna be, you know, well

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<v Speaker 2>basically that he would like for me to add to

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<v Speaker 2>the tattoo and make it something about finding gods. And

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<v Speaker 2>I haven't known him for a month at that before,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, so I was like, and I feel, I

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<v Speaker 2>don't want to expose this man's you know, personal life.

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<v Speaker 2>But his dad was almost a big reason why we

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<v Speaker 2>kind of like stopped doing everything because he would get

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<v Speaker 2>really intense, like he, uh, his dad was the big

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<v Speaker 2>Bible slumper guy, like he kind of thought that God

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<v Speaker 2>spoke through him to other people, so he would, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>he like baptized somebody. And I don't know how Christianity

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<v Speaker 2>works too well, but I don't think you could just

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<v Speaker 2>you know, I don't know, maybe like I just don't

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<v Speaker 2>know if a civilian can just baptize another person. But

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<v Speaker 2>he was out there doing that.

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<v Speaker 1>And so what do you think it was that Drew

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<v Speaker 1>him to you.

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<v Speaker 2>I think, I know for a fact, I'm sorry, I'm

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<v Speaker 2>out of breath, I'm nervous. So uh, he was definitely overprotected,

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<v Speaker 2>I think just throughout life, you know, like he opened

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<v Speaker 2>up to me about some like curiosity with sexuality, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>which like I'm super open to having my partner explore,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, especially as like a guy. You know, I

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<v Speaker 2>feel like a lot of people aren't able to explore that.

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<v Speaker 2>So I was really open with that. But I don't know,

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<v Speaker 2>he just never really, I think, had been with someone

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<v Speaker 2>like who was open minded. He only dated Christian girls

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<v Speaker 2>or didn't single and with his parents all the time.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, did you put your thumb in his ass?

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<v Speaker 2>That's put my whole strapple, though, I feel like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>that's always the thing. I don't know why, but like

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know if it's a vibe I give off.

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<v Speaker 2>But there's still like three or four guys that they're

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<v Speaker 2>just like all natural and tender, and the first message

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<v Speaker 2>is like peg question of work are you?

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<v Speaker 3>Are you?

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<v Speaker 1>A lot of guys like introduction to pegging.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, actually very much so, which I don't mind, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>as long as they're super comfy with it. It's something

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<v Speaker 2>I like because, like, I'm do you.

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<v Speaker 1>Take pride in that.

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<v Speaker 2>Very much?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 2>Kind of. It's like more so pride that I guess,

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<v Speaker 2>like people feel comfortable enough with me to like open

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<v Speaker 2>up in that way. But it's also like, yeah, I

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<v Speaker 2>just sucked that dude in the ass.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, man, you should. That'd be sick if you

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<v Speaker 1>did it while you were wearing a devil costume.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my god, I know.

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<v Speaker 1>Heart attack.

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<v Speaker 2>No, I actually I felt really as soon as we

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<v Speaker 2>broke up. It was right before Halloween, and then I

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<v Speaker 2>posted a picture on Instagram with me and like this

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<v Speaker 2>really sexy, provocative noun costume, and I was like, he's

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<v Speaker 2>gonna think that that's pointed towards him in some way.

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<v Speaker 1>So anyway, I mean, this guy turns out to be

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<v Speaker 1>bad news though bad news bears.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, he I don't know. We god, I'm trying to

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<v Speaker 2>think about his Oh yeah, so he while we were dating,

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<v Speaker 2>subscribe to some people's only fans that he had previously

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<v Speaker 2>been hooking up with. And sex work is awesome. I

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<v Speaker 2>love that, but I don't really love the consumption of

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<v Speaker 2>sex work while you're dating somebody. For me, personally, it's

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<v Speaker 2>a little boundary, you know, and he knew that beforehand,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, and so we like talked about it, and

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<v Speaker 2>then it ended up being that he didn't unsubscribe when

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<v Speaker 2>he said he did, so we broke up, and I'm like,

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<v Speaker 2>immediately I was just being harassed like the day and

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<v Speaker 2>night with calls and calmenting on my TikTok from private

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<v Speaker 2>accounts and just saying heinous stuff, not being very Christian.

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<v Speaker 1>Like, you know, I don't know m how Loyo was

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<v Speaker 1>all this.

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<v Speaker 2>We brought up in October. I guess it's it's been

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<v Speaker 2>happening on and off. It was very heavy through November,

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<v Speaker 2>and it kind of it's light that's a little bit

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<v Speaker 2>in December. Yeah, I'm actually back with my like long

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<v Speaker 2>term X that was from before him who travels around

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<v Speaker 2>because he's a firefighter and cuts down trees and puts

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<v Speaker 2>down those crazy Canada fires. So back with him, back

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<v Speaker 2>with doing all that long distance stuff trying to avoid

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<v Speaker 2>my ex.

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<v Speaker 1>That's cool. That guy definitely sounds like he is a

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<v Speaker 1>mustache and a mullet.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, the firefighter has a better mustache, better mullet.

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<v Speaker 1>So do you fuck him in the ass track?

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<v Speaker 2>I've asked, he's open to it, but that's not something

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<v Speaker 2>I ever want to push.

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<v Speaker 3>You know, so.

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<v Speaker 2>Little, you know if it happened to happen.

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<v Speaker 1>But so, how did you rekindle with the firefighter af

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<v Speaker 1>after so much time?

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<v Speaker 2>Well, it's crazy, because life's crazy. We me and the

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<v Speaker 2>Christian man were on the phone breaking up, and while

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<v Speaker 2>we were on the phone, he texted me and it

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<v Speaker 2>was like, Hey, I'm coming back to I live in Ohio.

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<v Speaker 2>He was like, I'm coming back to Ohio from Washington

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<v Speaker 2>State after six months and would love to see you.

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<v Speaker 2>I've been thinking about you, and so yeah, I guess

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<v Speaker 2>the Christian boy chas a bad time to fuck up

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<v Speaker 2>and watch his excess porn because the Firefighter texted And

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know, I think that that's the person, like

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<v Speaker 2>I really, you know, he feels like the person's supposed

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<v Speaker 2>to be with. We've been together for a while and

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<v Speaker 2>split up over the summer just because distance, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>can get to I think.

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<v Speaker 1>So this the Christian guys, he's still like he's not

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<v Speaker 1>like showing up at your fucking house and.

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<v Speaker 2>Shit is he not showing up at my house? Just

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<v Speaker 2>like a lot of a lot of her he did

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<v Speaker 2>try and marry Christmas his way back into my life.

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<v Speaker 1>But what does it mean to marry Christmas your way

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<v Speaker 1>back into somebody's life.

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<v Speaker 2>I think it's you know, when I guess you're no

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<v Speaker 2>longer on speaking terms with someone in a holiday or

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<v Speaker 2>special occidence comes up and it's an excuse to be like, hey,

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<v Speaker 2>I haven't talked to you in a while, Happy birthday,

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<v Speaker 2>Marry Christmas.

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<v Speaker 1>It's smart, but smart.

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<v Speaker 2>I got other stuff to worry about. I'm in nursing

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<v Speaker 2>school right now. I'm moving to my apartment out of my.

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<v Speaker 4>Grandma's so that's cool.

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<v Speaker 1>While you and we got a firefighter at an EMT,

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<v Speaker 1>that's pretty good. You guys can make You can deliver

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<v Speaker 1>your own baby. You don't even need to go to

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<v Speaker 1>a doctor.

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<v Speaker 2>Absolutely. I'm actually certified to do that. And I always

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<v Speaker 2>hope that, like one day I get the call. I

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<v Speaker 2>would love to deliver a bit in the back of

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<v Speaker 2>my truck, not my own, but yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>I'll take it to the chat for questions. Does the

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<v Speaker 1>chat have any questions for AJ about anything at all? Life,

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<v Speaker 1>being an AMT, doing, being a human being on the

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<v Speaker 1>planet Earth.

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<v Speaker 2>I cannot believe I'm on here. By the way, I'm

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<v Speaker 2>so very.

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<v Speaker 3>Excited to.

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<v Speaker 1>Someone wants to know what the best flavor pop tart

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<v Speaker 1>is in your opinion?

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<v Speaker 2>Ohores, I don't eat crust on pop tarts or any

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<v Speaker 2>other thing that's breaded, but I.

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<v Speaker 5>Like this s'more pop tart.

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<v Speaker 1>Someone says, how do I pitch my wife on pegging me?

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<v Speaker 2>Honestly, I think your best way to go is maybe

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<v Speaker 2>like start with a play on her. I don't want

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<v Speaker 2>to get too graphic, you know, but some light ass

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<v Speaker 2>play on her, and then maybe discuss switching it around

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<v Speaker 2>while the heat's going.

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<v Speaker 1>What is your Somebody said, what is your most embarrassing

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<v Speaker 1>EMTs story? And then somebody said what is your craziest

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<v Speaker 1>EMTs story? I don't know which one you want to cover,

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<v Speaker 1>or if you have one that covers both.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know if I've done anything embarrassing. I've just

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know. I've been like projectile, vomited on you know.

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<v Speaker 2>I've had to like swim around in people's blood and poo.

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<v Speaker 2>I think, like I guess, like the most entertaining runs

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<v Speaker 2>I get are my dementia patients. I love people like

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<v Speaker 2>I love getting a ten pm sundowner call, and it's

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<v Speaker 2>like a woman who's either mean and scratching at me

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<v Speaker 2>or she's quietly sitting there like singing a really scary tune,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, like oh love that.

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<v Speaker 1>Someone wants to someone wants to know, and this is

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<v Speaker 1>this is a good question. Are you How do you

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<v Speaker 1>feel about like the stalking. Do you think it will

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<v Speaker 1>get worse?

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<v Speaker 2>I don't feel like it will get worse. I do

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<v Speaker 2>feel like he at heart is a good person. I

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<v Speaker 2>think that I was really the first person that he

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<v Speaker 2>had like a truly deep relationship with, and it felt

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<v Speaker 2>like he told me I was the first person he

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<v Speaker 2>could fully beat himself around. So I think just like

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<v Speaker 2>the intensity of that really got to him. So you know,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm trying to be forgiving. I really don't judge him

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<v Speaker 2>too much for it.

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<v Speaker 1>So well, A J. Is there anything else you want

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<v Speaker 1>to say to the people of the computer before we go?

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<v Speaker 2>Thank you for having me. I appreciate you. I listen

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<v Speaker 2>anytime that you stream, So I'm a good night, yick,

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<v Speaker 2>have a.

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<v Speaker 1>Good night and enjoy. Hey, pour a marguerite out for me. Huh,

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<v Speaker 1>all poor too?

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<v Speaker 2>All right?

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<v Speaker 1>Rock and roll?

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<v Speaker 3>All right, you.

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<v Speaker 1>Man? It really would be sick to drink a margarita

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<v Speaker 1>alone in my room right now, should I.

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<v Speaker 3>Uh, hello, hey there, Oh my goodness, this is just

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<v Speaker 3>a gag.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, sir, to whom am I speaking with?

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<v Speaker 3>My name's I'm.

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<v Speaker 1>Gonna assume you cut out a little bit, but I'm

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<v Speaker 1>gonna assume you said Seymour.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>How often do you get people saying, feed me Seymour?

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<v Speaker 3>I don't get that reference.

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<v Speaker 1>You don't get that reference? All right, that's we'll save

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<v Speaker 1>it for the people who do, all right. Honestly, it's

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<v Speaker 1>kind of funny. It's it's funny that you even thought

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<v Speaker 1>it was It's funny that you even thought it was

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<v Speaker 1>a reference. Because if I didn't know that that was

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<v Speaker 1>a reference, and somebody said that to me, I wouldn't

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<v Speaker 1>say I don't get that reference. I would say, what

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<v Speaker 1>the fuck are you talking talking about? I wouldn't It

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<v Speaker 1>wouldn't even registered that it was a reference.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh man, dude, I'm a little shaky right now because oh.

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<v Speaker 1>Man saying oh man, it's a perfect response to any

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<v Speaker 1>of the bullshit I just said. Saw what's up? Seymore?

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<v Speaker 1>How's life?

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<v Speaker 3>Life is? Is actually pretty good for the most part.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know if you saw that. I send you

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<v Speaker 3>a text message after I tried giving you a call. Essentially,

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<v Speaker 3>I wanted to discuss a little dilemma and having with

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<v Speaker 3>between me and my family. I said in the message,

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<v Speaker 3>I'm twenty six years old and I come from like

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<v Speaker 3>a Catholic family background, and so I'm twenty six years

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<v Speaker 3>old and like I do smoke weed and I do vape,

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<v Speaker 3>and like I've gone like through the whole thing, I

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<v Speaker 3>guess you could say, like the whole the whole cycle

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<v Speaker 3>of you know, trying out marijuana, getting addicted to it,

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<v Speaker 3>to getting obsessed with it, and to the point where,

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<v Speaker 3>like you know, I had to you know, I've never

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<v Speaker 3>been to rehab or anything like that, but I've you know,

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<v Speaker 3>basically tried forcing myself to stop, and I guess since

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<v Speaker 3>you know here I am still doing it. Technically it

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<v Speaker 3>didn't really work, but ultimately it's like you know, I

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<v Speaker 3>control or at least I at least don't allow marijuana

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<v Speaker 3>to control my life as much as it used to. Whereas,

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<v Speaker 3>like you know, I it went where I'm like, you know,

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<v Speaker 3>I'm smoking like two three times a day, and so

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<v Speaker 3>like you know, I just smoke too. If I feel

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<v Speaker 3>like it, I will if not, whatever, you know, I

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<v Speaker 3>don't need it, and so it's like and throughout this

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<v Speaker 3>whole process, I've you know, I've tried discussing it with

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<v Speaker 3>my family because you know, in my family, you know,

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<v Speaker 3>we try not to We tried, at least I tried

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<v Speaker 3>to be honest with my family because you know, with

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<v Speaker 3>your family, it's your only family. Well you know, if

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<v Speaker 3>you can't be honest or you know, even trust your family,

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<v Speaker 3>then who really can you trust out in the world.

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<v Speaker 1>So then what what what would the conflict be?

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, Well, for my family, I mean to them, basically,

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<v Speaker 3>marijuana is just a no no. It is basically a sin,

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<v Speaker 3>and like you know, to them, they see it as

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<v Speaker 3>like a very evil thing or like a very addictive thing,

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<v Speaker 3>which I mean, yes, it is addictive, but you know,

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<v Speaker 3>I believe it's not the only thing that people can

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<v Speaker 3>really get addicted to, or even the worst thing, not

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<v Speaker 3>to not to put doubt that, you know, I believe

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<v Speaker 3>marijuana can do its work bad thing.

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<v Speaker 1>So so, so first of all, what's your name again?

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<v Speaker 3>Seymour?

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<v Speaker 1>All right, we did the whole thing. That's about hilarious

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<v Speaker 1>fake name to pick out of all fake names. Anyway,

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<v Speaker 1>I forgot. I can't believe I asked your name after

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<v Speaker 1>we did the whole feed me Seymour thing. I just

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<v Speaker 1>might here's the here, you know what. You know why

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<v Speaker 1>I asked you that? Because I have very bad short

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<v Speaker 1>term memory, Seymour. You know why I have very bad

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<v Speaker 1>short term memory?

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<v Speaker 3>Is it because of weed?

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<v Speaker 1>It's because of weed? Probably, I don't know. I'm not

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<v Speaker 1>a fucking scientist. But is the conflict here really with

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<v Speaker 1>your parents, because like I don't so obviously you know,

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<v Speaker 1>they're they're super Catholic and they think that, uh, the

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<v Speaker 1>devil really did create the lettuce which he made of

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<v Speaker 1>He might he may have, he might have. Yeah, So

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<v Speaker 1>is the conflict just that you can't talk to them

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<v Speaker 1>about this this addiction that you have and that makes

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<v Speaker 1>you feel kind of isolated?

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<v Speaker 3>Yes and no, because again like yes, I mean I'm

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<v Speaker 3>mainly just using the you know, me using weed as

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<v Speaker 3>kind of like the basis as to what the real

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<v Speaker 3>issue is. Like, my main issue is the fact that

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<v Speaker 3>you know, I have difficulty you know, expressing what I

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<v Speaker 3>really feel in my life, you know, because I I

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<v Speaker 3>uh not to get too much into my my personal

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<v Speaker 3>life again because again like I'm not trying, I'm trying

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<v Speaker 3>not to swerve too far off the topic here. Okay,

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<v Speaker 3>So essentially, like, you know, my parents divorced when I

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<v Speaker 3>was three. I grew up in a house with four sisters,

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<v Speaker 3>no brothers. I'm the second youngest child, and uh, you know,

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<v Speaker 3>I think the divorce, you know, I think that divorce

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<v Speaker 3>kind of took a toll between me and my my

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<v Speaker 3>siblings because throughout the majority of our of our childhood,

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<v Speaker 3>you know, we've always had arguments or fights, you know,

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<v Speaker 3>majority of them with with my mother, some of them

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<v Speaker 3>with my father. But ultimately, you know, here we are,

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<v Speaker 3>we're all growing up. You know, we're all adults here,

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<v Speaker 3>and we're all we're we all still have each other

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<v Speaker 3>in our lives. You know, I still have my mother,

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<v Speaker 3>I still have my father. All my siblings they're you know,

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<v Speaker 3>they're not doing bad. You know, they all have jobs.

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<v Speaker 3>You know, they're they're doing their their own thing. You know,

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<v Speaker 3>they're doing good. And that's you know, I believe. I

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<v Speaker 3>like to believe that I'm doing as.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, so so smart, so so uh again, and and

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<v Speaker 1>all all of that is is great. I'm glad that

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<v Speaker 1>everyone's doing good. So, you know, in that case, when

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<v Speaker 1>you when you told me just now, you were, like,

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<v Speaker 1>I think we it is just a side note to

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<v Speaker 1>what the actual problem is, right you said something along

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<v Speaker 1>those lines. Am I correct? So tell me, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>in as plain words as you can, what what is

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<v Speaker 1>the actual problem?

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<v Speaker 3>I believe, I'm I believe I'm having issues ultimately, just

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<v Speaker 3>I guess finding a reason to stay around my family,

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<v Speaker 3>if that make any sense?

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<v Speaker 1>Finding a reason to stay around your family?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah? Like I mean again, like I don't want to,

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<v Speaker 3>you know, confuse anything, Like I love my family with

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<v Speaker 3>all my heart. You know that that's my family, and

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<v Speaker 3>I understand that we all have our personal problems. I

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<v Speaker 3>know I have my problems that I've caused, and they

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<v Speaker 3>have problems that each everybody has caused. But you know,

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<v Speaker 3>I feel like you know, ultimately, why should we have

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<v Speaker 3>to argue with each other and you know, leave on

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<v Speaker 3>bad terms if we if we still are have each other.

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<v Speaker 1>So I just I'm you phrased this in a very

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<v Speaker 1>interesting way, and I don't know if you did that intentionally.

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<v Speaker 1>You phrased it as I need to find a reason

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<v Speaker 1>to be around my family. It's a very specific way

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<v Speaker 1>to phrase what you're talking about.

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<v Speaker 3>Right, again, Like I know, I know, I'm beating around

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<v Speaker 3>the bush because again, like I have issues pulling out

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<v Speaker 3>the real truth because it's like it's my own personal problems.

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<v Speaker 3>I guess trauma if you want to call it that. Again,

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<v Speaker 3>I'm beating around the bush because like I, I never

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<v Speaker 3>really had opportunities or you know, the option to actually

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<v Speaker 3>save my what I feel.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, what.

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<v Speaker 3>You know?

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<v Speaker 1>Well, look, here's the thing. Whatever you want to say

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<v Speaker 1>about however you feel when you're talking on here, you

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<v Speaker 1>know it's up to you. You could say whatever you

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<v Speaker 1>want or not say whatever you don't want to say.

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<v Speaker 1>But okay, when you said, when you say find the reason,

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<v Speaker 1>let me ask you, do you like your family? Do

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<v Speaker 1>you enjoy being around your family? Because here's the deal.

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<v Speaker 1>You're twenty six. Now you're an adult. I assume you

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<v Speaker 1>have a job and you make your own money, and

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<v Speaker 1>you don't you know need you know, you're not living

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<v Speaker 1>off of your parents financially, and as an adult, you

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<v Speaker 1>get to make your own decisions about what people you

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<v Speaker 1>spend time with and allow into your life. And you

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<v Speaker 1>know it's it's not your fault that that that you

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<v Speaker 1>grew up the way that you did, and that it

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<v Speaker 1>turns you into and that it did whatever it did

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<v Speaker 1>to you. But you know, you're an adult now and

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<v Speaker 1>you get to make your own decisions as to who

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<v Speaker 1>you want to hang out with. And so I ask

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<v Speaker 1>you with that power that is bestowed upon you, and

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<v Speaker 1>you can tell me the truth or you cannot tell

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<v Speaker 1>me whatever you don't want to tell me. But I

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<v Speaker 1>ask you plainly, you know, do you want to hang

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<v Speaker 1>out with your family?

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<v Speaker 3>Yes?

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, So if you're telling me that you're looking for

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<v Speaker 1>a reason to be around your family, you've just now

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<v Speaker 1>produced the best possible reason to be around your family,

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<v Speaker 1>which is because you want to.

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<v Speaker 3>Right.

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<v Speaker 1>So, but where's the conflict coming from within that? Because

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<v Speaker 1>you gave me You didn't even pause when you said that,

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<v Speaker 1>you didn't even have to think about it. You gave

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<v Speaker 1>me a restounding yes.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I don't know. I'm uh, I guess.

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<v Speaker 2>M.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know. I feel like i'm The thing is

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<v Speaker 3>is like you know, it's like whenever, uh, whenever you

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<v Speaker 3>have good and then you have your bad. You know,

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<v Speaker 3>you can't have one without the other, right, And it's

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<v Speaker 3>like and like, you know, I don't know. Maybe it's

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<v Speaker 3>because like personally, I feel like, you know, I feel

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<v Speaker 3>like I'm I'm a family oriented person. You know, to

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<v Speaker 3>me is like I I hold that my family not

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<v Speaker 3>in a high pedestal, but I value them very much.

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<v Speaker 3>Because that's I guess that's all you know, personality wise aside.

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<v Speaker 3>I guess that's just like instinctively, that's how I feel.

0:24:46.600 --> 0:24:49.040
<v Speaker 3>You know, it's more like, just get.

0:24:48.840 --> 0:24:53.800
<v Speaker 1>A big like a giant, get a giant.

0:24:53.600 --> 0:24:57.640
<v Speaker 3>Passion for the other person, box vape.

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<v Speaker 1>With th HC, and you roll up onto your parents'

0:25:02.359 --> 0:25:06.600
<v Speaker 1>house and just blow a big fucking cloud in all

0:25:06.600 --> 0:25:10.800
<v Speaker 1>their faces and go, this is who I am, and

0:25:10.880 --> 0:25:14.920
<v Speaker 1>you must accept me for it. No, I don't actually

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<v Speaker 1>know if.

0:25:15.160 --> 0:25:19.080
<v Speaker 3>He would do that. No, I mean, okay, so i'm

0:25:19.400 --> 0:25:21.760
<v Speaker 3>if I were to actually do that, like right now

0:25:22.880 --> 0:25:26.160
<v Speaker 3>my my okay, the planetature, I actually live right now

0:25:26.160 --> 0:25:30.919
<v Speaker 3>with my mother and one of my sisters in the house. Okay.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh see, okay, so where so you live with your family?

0:25:34.560 --> 0:25:37.520
<v Speaker 3>Yes? No, no, I I should I should have implied

0:25:37.560 --> 0:25:41.600
<v Speaker 3>that I still live currently with my family, because you know,

0:25:41.640 --> 0:25:43.640
<v Speaker 3>of course, yes I do have a job, and yes

0:25:44.160 --> 0:25:46.960
<v Speaker 3>I do make a decent amount of money, but I'm

0:25:47.000 --> 0:25:51.160
<v Speaker 3>still trying to make my way. I guess more financially stable.

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<v Speaker 6>Okay, I'm in the process. Yeah, And of course, and

0:25:58.880 --> 0:26:01.840
<v Speaker 6>I was like, you know, there's that. And of course,

0:26:01.880 --> 0:26:04.119
<v Speaker 6>like living in the house, we're always gonna meet butting

0:26:04.160 --> 0:26:07.280
<v Speaker 6>heads with each other. But with my family, it's like

0:26:07.320 --> 0:26:08.879
<v Speaker 6>it always seems like we want to like instead of

0:26:08.880 --> 0:26:11.080
<v Speaker 6>talking about it, we're just gonna argue. And so we

0:26:11.200 --> 0:26:14.359
<v Speaker 6>either we were somebody walked away or the cops have

0:26:14.480 --> 0:26:15.040
<v Speaker 6>to be called.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, all right, now, all right, if.

0:26:22.040 --> 0:26:23.840
<v Speaker 3>If you want, I an kind of paint a pictures

0:26:23.880 --> 0:26:25.879
<v Speaker 3>like what you what you said earlier about me, you know,

0:26:26.000 --> 0:26:27.200
<v Speaker 3>just babing in front of the house.

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<v Speaker 1>Well I was, I was just I was just trying

0:26:31.000 --> 0:26:33.840
<v Speaker 1>to be funny and it didn't work, but I I

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<v Speaker 1>I well, oh gay you all right, you've you've introduced

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<v Speaker 1>several new elements into this conversation now that are are peaking.

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<v Speaker 1>My my curiosity is, I'm you know, well, well, okay,

0:26:47.160 --> 0:26:49.040
<v Speaker 1>you live with your parents, which is fine, dude, if

0:26:49.040 --> 0:26:53.600
<v Speaker 1>you're like, you know, trying to find a nest or

0:26:53.640 --> 0:26:56.840
<v Speaker 1>a core of financial stability. I think living with your parents,

0:26:56.840 --> 0:26:59.480
<v Speaker 1>if you have the opportunity to do so, and if

0:26:59.480 --> 0:27:03.200
<v Speaker 1>it doesn't drive you fucking crazy, to the point where

0:27:03.200 --> 0:27:05.879
<v Speaker 1>you're suffering every day, and you should do it. But

0:27:06.840 --> 0:27:10.840
<v Speaker 1>you mentioned just now that things will escalate to the

0:27:10.840 --> 0:27:12.399
<v Speaker 1>point where the cops are called.

0:27:14.040 --> 0:27:18.320
<v Speaker 3>Yeah. So like when I say like, like, oh, it's

0:27:18.320 --> 0:27:21.359
<v Speaker 3>like hard headed. Hard headedness runs in the family. I know.

0:27:21.400 --> 0:27:23.080
<v Speaker 3>I'm very hard headed, and I get it from both

0:27:23.119 --> 0:27:27.639
<v Speaker 3>my mother and my father. Like it's like you know,

0:27:27.760 --> 0:27:29.439
<v Speaker 3>like you know the same, like it's my way or

0:27:29.440 --> 0:27:30.000
<v Speaker 3>the highway.

0:27:30.440 --> 0:27:31.760
<v Speaker 1>Well yeah, like.

0:27:32.080 --> 0:27:35.280
<v Speaker 3>Not to you know, specifically, like it's it's okay, especially

0:27:35.280 --> 0:27:39.520
<v Speaker 3>with my mother, it's it's my way or that's it.

0:27:39.520 --> 0:27:41.520
<v Speaker 3>It's either you you either it's my way, or you're

0:27:41.560 --> 0:27:43.359
<v Speaker 3>at my house where I'm gonna call the cops and

0:27:43.480 --> 0:27:44.920
<v Speaker 3>have them take you off my house.

0:27:45.600 --> 0:27:46.080
<v Speaker 1>Okay.

0:27:46.400 --> 0:27:49.840
<v Speaker 3>And and she has done that, I want to say

0:27:49.880 --> 0:27:52.240
<v Speaker 3>at least twice, and once to me and once to

0:27:52.440 --> 0:27:55.320
<v Speaker 3>one of my siblings in a time where I was

0:27:55.359 --> 0:27:57.520
<v Speaker 3>not actually around, I was living on my own.

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<v Speaker 1>Seamar get seamar get me on a few things. Okay,

0:28:02.960 --> 0:28:05.280
<v Speaker 1>All right, well let's talk about you know, your whole

0:28:05.320 --> 0:28:09.920
<v Speaker 1>financial stability thing. Are you do you have a job, yes, okay,

0:28:09.960 --> 0:28:10.359
<v Speaker 1>what do you do?

0:28:11.640 --> 0:28:14.719
<v Speaker 3>I work in a warehouse. I'm like I put like

0:28:14.760 --> 0:28:17.080
<v Speaker 3>you know, merchandise on a palette to be put onto

0:28:17.200 --> 0:28:20.000
<v Speaker 3>a truck, you know, reverse stocking something like that.

0:28:20.480 --> 0:28:24.199
<v Speaker 1>Cool? Cool, And do you do you make enough that

0:28:24.400 --> 0:28:27.080
<v Speaker 1>if you, if you wanted to, you could move out?

0:28:29.800 --> 0:28:32.440
<v Speaker 3>Ideally I want to say, Okay, well, it's a little confusing,

0:28:32.480 --> 0:28:36.000
<v Speaker 3>like I had to put more human details here. I'm

0:28:36.040 --> 0:28:39.320
<v Speaker 3>currently working at this job ultimately until next year, for

0:28:39.800 --> 0:28:42.720
<v Speaker 3>next summer, because I currently I'm in a relationship right

0:28:42.760 --> 0:28:46.920
<v Speaker 3>now with a girl. Okay, and uh, we've been together

0:28:47.160 --> 0:28:50.680
<v Speaker 3>in about two years coming this uh, this nixt may

0:28:51.240 --> 0:28:54.160
<v Speaker 3>great and she actually she's from my hometown. But she

0:28:54.240 --> 0:28:56.360
<v Speaker 3>ultimately she actually moved to a bigger city. I'm not

0:28:56.360 --> 0:28:57.000
<v Speaker 3>going to say where.

0:28:57.760 --> 0:29:01.840
<v Speaker 1>Okay, you think moving moving in with her?

0:29:03.000 --> 0:29:07.160
<v Speaker 3>I am, but it's we got together in the relationship,

0:29:07.360 --> 0:29:09.640
<v Speaker 3>like only a few months before she got offered the job,

0:29:10.200 --> 0:29:13.720
<v Speaker 3>and she had immediately moved. And I've done the whole like,

0:29:13.760 --> 0:29:16.360
<v Speaker 3>you know, like, hey, let's go move together, move in together,

0:29:16.400 --> 0:29:18.120
<v Speaker 3>it's going to be great, you know, all of a sudden,

0:29:18.880 --> 0:29:21.840
<v Speaker 3>no planning whatsoever. And that has backfired on me three

0:29:21.880 --> 0:29:25.960
<v Speaker 3>times already. And so it's like I've already talked with

0:29:25.960 --> 0:29:27.720
<v Speaker 3>her about it before she moved. I know, I do

0:29:27.800 --> 0:29:30.959
<v Speaker 3>want to move in with her. However, it's like because

0:29:30.960 --> 0:29:34.280
<v Speaker 3>she's moving over there specifically for her job, you know.

0:29:34.320 --> 0:29:37.680
<v Speaker 3>I told her was like, you know, we're in a

0:29:37.720 --> 0:29:40.640
<v Speaker 3>new relationship. You know, I'm not saying that I don't

0:29:40.680 --> 0:29:41.680
<v Speaker 3>want to go with you. I do.

0:29:42.080 --> 0:29:44.600
<v Speaker 1>Dude, Can I just wh Can I say something? Can

0:29:44.640 --> 0:29:46.040
<v Speaker 1>I say something to you? And I hope you don't

0:29:46.040 --> 0:29:50.160
<v Speaker 1>find this offensive because this is an actual this is

0:29:50.200 --> 0:29:52.400
<v Speaker 1>the thing. I want to get your take on this

0:29:52.600 --> 0:29:55.120
<v Speaker 1>entire phone call you have said. I don't know if

0:29:55.120 --> 0:29:57.480
<v Speaker 1>this is just how you talk or maybe you're just

0:29:57.680 --> 0:30:01.200
<v Speaker 1>like frazzled because we're speaking in a in a in

0:30:01.240 --> 0:30:05.280
<v Speaker 1>a public setting here, but the way that you're talking,

0:30:05.560 --> 0:30:09.560
<v Speaker 1>I'm I'm I'm picturing you right now like a mad

0:30:09.800 --> 0:30:14.720
<v Speaker 1>scientist with like pulling your hair out. You sound extremely

0:30:15.520 --> 0:30:18.120
<v Speaker 1>stressed and frazzled, and I just want to know if

0:30:18.160 --> 0:30:21.120
<v Speaker 1>that's like only because we're talking on a podcast right now,

0:30:21.280 --> 0:30:24.080
<v Speaker 1>or if that's just how you are, because you sound

0:30:24.200 --> 0:30:26.560
<v Speaker 1>you sound you sound like you're you're you're jumping.

0:30:27.800 --> 0:30:30.160
<v Speaker 3>Well, okay, look it's it's a picture of things. Like, dude,

0:30:30.240 --> 0:30:32.880
<v Speaker 3>I've been listening to your podcast since the last this

0:30:32.960 --> 0:30:35.760
<v Speaker 3>last summer, and I it ultimately have been enjoying it

0:30:35.880 --> 0:30:39.200
<v Speaker 3>very much. And I have like I have like major

0:30:39.240 --> 0:30:43.200
<v Speaker 3>stage fright, you know, if I know people are listening

0:30:43.200 --> 0:30:46.440
<v Speaker 3>to I, I get, you know, tended up, and sometimes

0:30:46.480 --> 0:30:49.120
<v Speaker 3>I have to like pace myself whenever I have to,

0:30:49.280 --> 0:30:51.440
<v Speaker 3>you know, speak. That's That's all that really.

0:30:51.240 --> 0:30:54.400
<v Speaker 1>Is, Okay, okay, cool. I just want to make sure

0:30:54.400 --> 0:30:57.120
<v Speaker 1>I just that's totally fine. I just want to make

0:30:57.120 --> 0:30:58.719
<v Speaker 1>sure that it wasn't It didn't have everything to do

0:30:58.760 --> 0:31:01.080
<v Speaker 1>with like all the stuff that you're to like stress

0:31:01.160 --> 0:31:05.600
<v Speaker 1>over the things that you are talking about. You're doing fine.

0:31:06.840 --> 0:31:10.400
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, no, it's no. I just have personal stage tried. Man,

0:31:11.360 --> 0:31:12.040
<v Speaker 3>you're doing great.

0:31:12.520 --> 0:31:13.240
<v Speaker 1>You're doing great.

0:31:13.360 --> 0:31:13.600
<v Speaker 3>Well.

0:31:13.800 --> 0:31:16.120
<v Speaker 1>Anyway, I hope I didn't make you feel self conscious

0:31:16.160 --> 0:31:18.440
<v Speaker 1>just now, but you know, anyway, I mean to get

0:31:18.480 --> 0:31:21.000
<v Speaker 1>to the route here. I say, you're so you this

0:31:21.120 --> 0:31:24.240
<v Speaker 1>girl that you're in a relationship with, you're kind of

0:31:24.320 --> 0:31:28.360
<v Speaker 1>you because here's the thing, right it is like you

0:31:29.720 --> 0:31:32.520
<v Speaker 1>I'm I. You know, look, I fucking lived in my

0:31:32.640 --> 0:31:35.800
<v Speaker 1>mom's basement for two years trying to build up a

0:31:36.560 --> 0:31:41.600
<v Speaker 1>financial nest egg and and work on stuff and and

0:31:41.720 --> 0:31:44.520
<v Speaker 1>you know, do do the whole thing. I think it's

0:31:44.560 --> 0:31:49.720
<v Speaker 1>a good idea, right for some but but if I

0:31:49.760 --> 0:31:51.480
<v Speaker 1>think it's a good idea, if that, if you're being

0:31:51.600 --> 0:31:54.320
<v Speaker 1>very intentional about it in that way, but there does

0:31:54.400 --> 0:31:58.200
<v Speaker 1>come a point where like you gotta be in your

0:31:58.320 --> 0:32:02.600
<v Speaker 1>mind thinking about, you know, what's next, what's your exit plan?

0:32:03.040 --> 0:32:06.360
<v Speaker 1>Especially it I mean, I'm I'm very lucky my mom

0:32:06.480 --> 0:32:09.760
<v Speaker 1>is is Is is a great person. But you know,

0:32:10.200 --> 0:32:15.240
<v Speaker 1>it's like if you're if you're butting heads and the

0:32:15.400 --> 0:32:18.960
<v Speaker 1>police are getting called and it's escalating to that point

0:32:19.040 --> 0:32:22.520
<v Speaker 1>and it's a daily source of stress and anxiety, it's

0:32:22.520 --> 0:32:24.920
<v Speaker 1>just making your life miserable. And I don't know if

0:32:24.920 --> 0:32:26.920
<v Speaker 1>that's the all I all I heard is that the

0:32:26.920 --> 0:32:29.400
<v Speaker 1>police are being called and that it's her way or

0:32:29.400 --> 0:32:32.000
<v Speaker 1>the highway. That's all you you you you haven't indicated

0:32:32.040 --> 0:32:34.800
<v Speaker 1>on your end that you are you know, you have

0:32:34.880 --> 0:32:38.440
<v Speaker 1>an expressly mentioned that you are miserable, but you know,

0:32:39.480 --> 0:32:42.040
<v Speaker 1>I mean, are you is this is this situation that

0:32:42.080 --> 0:32:43.280
<v Speaker 1>you're in? Is it?

0:32:43.320 --> 0:32:43.440
<v Speaker 4>Is?

0:32:43.440 --> 0:32:45.600
<v Speaker 1>It? Is it horrible? Every day? I mean where where

0:32:45.720 --> 0:32:48.280
<v Speaker 1>where are you at? I mean.

0:32:50.360 --> 0:32:52.880
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I mean yeah, I'm observer. That does seem horrible.

0:32:53.720 --> 0:32:55.880
<v Speaker 3>But like again, like when you have your you're good,

0:32:55.920 --> 0:32:59.280
<v Speaker 3>you have your bad, and like, okay, I'm only talking

0:32:59.280 --> 0:33:02.120
<v Speaker 3>about the bad thing. It's here like again, like you know,

0:33:03.240 --> 0:33:05.680
<v Speaker 3>I do have good moments with my family. You know,

0:33:05.760 --> 0:33:07.000
<v Speaker 3>we had a good Christmas.

0:33:06.960 --> 0:33:09.360
<v Speaker 1>This last week, right right, right, But I'm I'm talking

0:33:09.400 --> 0:33:12.640
<v Speaker 1>about just like the like living with with them, you know,

0:33:12.880 --> 0:33:15.960
<v Speaker 1>because no, yeah, here's let me tell you something. And

0:33:16.000 --> 0:33:17.880
<v Speaker 1>I don't care who the fuck you are and who

0:33:17.880 --> 0:33:21.000
<v Speaker 1>your family is. This there's no way that this isn't

0:33:21.080 --> 0:33:24.840
<v Speaker 1>universally true. Your relationship with your family is going to

0:33:24.880 --> 0:33:28.760
<v Speaker 1>be a lot better when you move out because I'm

0:33:28.760 --> 0:33:31.720
<v Speaker 1>a firm believer of absence making the heart grow fonder,

0:33:32.080 --> 0:33:32.960
<v Speaker 1>do you know what I'm saying.

0:33:34.320 --> 0:33:37.520
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, yeah, no, you're right. I mean when I first

0:33:37.600 --> 0:33:39.400
<v Speaker 3>moved out, I mean I was like, you know, on

0:33:39.480 --> 0:33:42.480
<v Speaker 3>cloud nine. I was a static, but I was also

0:33:42.800 --> 0:33:46.960
<v Speaker 3>you know, like nineteen at the time and very inexperienced.

0:33:47.520 --> 0:33:50.960
<v Speaker 3>You know, I take my good with my bad here.

0:33:51.000 --> 0:33:51.160
<v Speaker 1>You know.

0:33:51.200 --> 0:33:53.160
<v Speaker 3>It's like, you know, I understand, like there are moments

0:33:53.160 --> 0:33:55.120
<v Speaker 3>in my life where I am genuinely happy, you know,

0:33:55.160 --> 0:33:59.360
<v Speaker 3>I was, you know, I am happy, but of course,

0:33:59.400 --> 0:34:01.600
<v Speaker 3>I mean I had my bad days. So just like

0:34:01.640 --> 0:34:03.600
<v Speaker 3>you know, I look at it, it's like, hey, you know,

0:34:03.680 --> 0:34:05.400
<v Speaker 3>my life is going to have up sundowns. You know,

0:34:05.800 --> 0:34:08.759
<v Speaker 3>I've been in worse situation before, and of course I

0:34:08.760 --> 0:34:10.719
<v Speaker 3>would wish like to be in other situations that are

0:34:10.800 --> 0:34:13.200
<v Speaker 3>a lot better, you know, if I had the auction.

0:34:13.280 --> 0:34:14.920
<v Speaker 3>I literally talked to her about it with my girlfriend

0:34:14.960 --> 0:34:17.759
<v Speaker 3>today cause she's actually down in our hometown for the

0:34:17.760 --> 0:34:20.799
<v Speaker 3>weekend spending time with her family. She talked to me.

0:34:20.800 --> 0:34:22.480
<v Speaker 3>I was like, if you're really that upset about it,

0:34:22.560 --> 0:34:25.200
<v Speaker 3>like just come move in with me. You know, I'm

0:34:25.280 --> 0:34:27.280
<v Speaker 3>right here. And it's like she's one hundred percent of right.

0:34:29.280 --> 0:34:31.920
<v Speaker 1>Just so she's extended an invitation to come live with

0:34:31.920 --> 0:34:37.160
<v Speaker 1>her already. Yes, yeah, No, I mean, well, and what

0:34:37.160 --> 0:34:37.680
<v Speaker 1>are you waiting for?

0:34:40.239 --> 0:34:42.560
<v Speaker 3>I guess part of it to me is like I'm

0:34:42.640 --> 0:34:46.239
<v Speaker 3>ultimately afraid because you know, it's like I've already done

0:34:46.280 --> 0:34:49.560
<v Speaker 3>the whole moving out process and like, you know again,

0:34:49.640 --> 0:34:52.320
<v Speaker 3>like it's backfired on me, and so now it's like you,

0:34:53.000 --> 0:34:55.759
<v Speaker 3>I'd rather just play it smart.

0:34:55.920 --> 0:34:58.640
<v Speaker 1>You know, moving moving out backfire on you? Is it

0:34:58.680 --> 0:34:59.480
<v Speaker 1>a financial thing?

0:35:00.840 --> 0:35:04.239
<v Speaker 3>Financial and like you know, friendships, you know crumbling. You

0:35:04.280 --> 0:35:04.600
<v Speaker 3>know that.

0:35:06.440 --> 0:35:08.560
<v Speaker 1>You know your friendship's crumbled when you moved down to

0:35:08.600 --> 0:35:09.520
<v Speaker 1>the of your mom's house.

0:35:10.960 --> 0:35:15.000
<v Speaker 3>No, No, like when I moved out on my own, Okay,

0:35:15.160 --> 0:35:17.360
<v Speaker 3>Like you know, when I moved out, I tried getting roommates.

0:35:17.600 --> 0:35:20.040
<v Speaker 3>You know, none of the majority of them either backed

0:35:20.040 --> 0:35:22.960
<v Speaker 3>out or they just couldn't pay their own like their

0:35:23.000 --> 0:35:23.439
<v Speaker 3>own half.

0:35:24.000 --> 0:35:29.520
<v Speaker 1>Are you are you? Are you worried about your relationship

0:35:29.600 --> 0:35:32.880
<v Speaker 1>with your girlfriend being affected by this?

0:35:34.480 --> 0:35:36.800
<v Speaker 3>I mean obviously, I mean, like you're always going to

0:35:36.840 --> 0:35:39.239
<v Speaker 3>be worried about everything whenever you're like you're getting in

0:35:39.239 --> 0:35:42.360
<v Speaker 3>a relationship and especially moving across you know, cities or whatever.

0:35:43.040 --> 0:35:47.520
<v Speaker 3>But like it's mainly I guess it's just like it's

0:35:47.520 --> 0:35:50.640
<v Speaker 3>mainly with me, Like I've already talked with her about this,

0:35:50.800 --> 0:35:53.080
<v Speaker 3>is like you know, it's like, look, I just don't

0:35:53.080 --> 0:35:55.279
<v Speaker 3>want to get in that headset space because I got

0:35:55.520 --> 0:36:00.400
<v Speaker 3>really really depressed having to pay a lease on my

0:36:00.440 --> 0:36:04.000
<v Speaker 3>own for so long, especially like whenever, like the only

0:36:04.040 --> 0:36:06.960
<v Speaker 3>advice I can get is from my family, which their

0:36:06.960 --> 0:36:09.600
<v Speaker 3>only options or their only advice is like, well, why

0:36:09.680 --> 0:36:11.360
<v Speaker 3>did you move out in the first place if you

0:36:11.400 --> 0:36:13.839
<v Speaker 3>weren't ready, or why don't you just move back in

0:36:13.880 --> 0:36:21.520
<v Speaker 3>with mom and dad? You know, it's it's.

0:36:19.680 --> 0:36:22.800
<v Speaker 1>Look, I want, I want let me have a few things.

0:36:23.040 --> 0:36:29.279
<v Speaker 1>Is you know I've said it a bunch of times

0:36:29.280 --> 0:36:32.640
<v Speaker 1>over the course of this call. I'm very much you

0:36:32.680 --> 0:36:37.919
<v Speaker 1>know pro you know, living with your parents if if

0:36:37.960 --> 0:36:43.120
<v Speaker 1>you need to, it's fucking extremely tough out there, uh,

0:36:43.239 --> 0:36:45.840
<v Speaker 1>you know, to pay rent and do all this shit.

0:36:46.360 --> 0:36:48.160
<v Speaker 1>So you know, if that's where you've got to be,

0:36:48.280 --> 0:36:54.360
<v Speaker 1>that's where you got to be. But I and I

0:36:54.360 --> 0:36:55.840
<v Speaker 1>don't know. I've only been talking to you for like

0:36:55.880 --> 0:36:57.719
<v Speaker 1>a half hour. Is it been half hour? It's no,

0:36:57.800 --> 0:37:01.719
<v Speaker 1>not yet, but whatever, I've only been talking for twenty minutes.

0:37:01.760 --> 0:37:13.120
<v Speaker 1>But I have a sense that just generally that finding

0:37:13.280 --> 0:37:23.400
<v Speaker 1>independence will bring you a more enriched life, particularly if

0:37:23.800 --> 0:37:28.520
<v Speaker 1>your family drama is getting to a point where police

0:37:29.360 --> 0:37:30.000
<v Speaker 1>are called.

0:37:30.760 --> 0:37:30.960
<v Speaker 3>You know.

0:37:32.239 --> 0:37:33.799
<v Speaker 1>So that's what I have to say about that. And

0:37:33.840 --> 0:37:37.440
<v Speaker 1>you know, I before we go to Seymour, and by

0:37:37.440 --> 0:37:39.440
<v Speaker 1>the way, thanks for talking to me for so long.

0:37:39.480 --> 0:37:41.400
<v Speaker 1>I hope that this I wanted to bring it all

0:37:41.400 --> 0:37:43.840
<v Speaker 1>back because I hope that this conversation was helpful to you.

0:37:44.120 --> 0:37:46.520
<v Speaker 1>I know that there was a I know that there

0:37:46.600 --> 0:37:48.960
<v Speaker 1>was a central thing that you wanted to talk about

0:37:48.960 --> 0:37:52.000
<v Speaker 1>that we have veered far away from and so I

0:37:52.040 --> 0:37:56.080
<v Speaker 1>just wanted to ask you if, like if there was

0:37:56.120 --> 0:37:58.800
<v Speaker 1>a particular thing that you wanted to talk to me about,

0:37:58.920 --> 0:38:01.759
<v Speaker 1>I guess, and if if you feel as though we've

0:38:01.880 --> 0:38:05.640
<v Speaker 1>covered that thing, or if there's any other aspect of

0:38:05.719 --> 0:38:08.239
<v Speaker 1>any of this that you wanted.

0:38:07.920 --> 0:38:12.560
<v Speaker 3>To knock like the same the advice you've given me today,

0:38:12.640 --> 0:38:16.040
<v Speaker 3>Like it's ultimately similar to the majority of advice I've

0:38:16.040 --> 0:38:18.360
<v Speaker 3>been given to I've been given by you know, my

0:38:18.480 --> 0:38:20.960
<v Speaker 3>friends and other people I've talked to about this stuff.

0:38:21.560 --> 0:38:25.040
<v Speaker 3>And it's like, ultimately it's like, I guess the main

0:38:25.080 --> 0:38:26.880
<v Speaker 3>reason I call it is man, It's like, you know,

0:38:26.920 --> 0:38:28.960
<v Speaker 3>it's like, you know what, I want to keep talking

0:38:29.200 --> 0:38:31.000
<v Speaker 3>more to people because I don't really get these I

0:38:31.040 --> 0:38:33.160
<v Speaker 3>don't feel like I don't get much of these opportunities

0:38:33.480 --> 0:38:35.200
<v Speaker 3>good or at least, you know, I was like, maybe

0:38:35.280 --> 0:38:37.399
<v Speaker 3>let me keep talking to people, see if, like if

0:38:37.400 --> 0:38:40.000
<v Speaker 3>maybe I will get another answer and maybe I'll get

0:38:40.040 --> 0:38:41.839
<v Speaker 3>a different point of view that I'm maybe even I'm

0:38:41.840 --> 0:38:44.239
<v Speaker 3>missing here. It's like again, it's like I want to

0:38:44.320 --> 0:38:47.320
<v Speaker 3>keep my eyes or my mind open to other ideas,

0:38:47.680 --> 0:38:51.200
<v Speaker 3>but ultimately, like I guess, be smart with how I

0:38:51.280 --> 0:38:53.920
<v Speaker 3>move because the whole met like, you know, not moving

0:38:54.000 --> 0:38:56.160
<v Speaker 3>in with my girlfriend for like a whole year's time

0:38:56.239 --> 0:38:59.040
<v Speaker 3>that after she's moved out is just again just me.

0:38:59.239 --> 0:39:02.680
<v Speaker 3>One one can sure that our relationship is gonna last,

0:39:02.719 --> 0:39:06.080
<v Speaker 3>because I mean, I mean, long distant relationships are really hard.

0:39:06.640 --> 0:39:08.319
<v Speaker 3>But also it's like, you know, I want to see, like,

0:39:09.520 --> 0:39:11.520
<v Speaker 3>you know, are you gonna be okay? Am I gonna

0:39:11.520 --> 0:39:13.359
<v Speaker 3>be okay when we finally move over there when I

0:39:13.400 --> 0:39:15.920
<v Speaker 3>when I finally Like the financial issue isn't really not

0:39:15.960 --> 0:39:17.600
<v Speaker 3>a poem. I'm not you know, in debt or nothing

0:39:17.680 --> 0:39:19.680
<v Speaker 3>like that. It's just you know, I want to see

0:39:19.719 --> 0:39:21.040
<v Speaker 3>where seam are seam where.

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<v Speaker 1>Two things before we go.

0:39:24.840 --> 0:39:25.040
<v Speaker 4>Uh.

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<v Speaker 1>One, I'm very glad. I'm very glad that it sounds

0:39:28.640 --> 0:39:31.640
<v Speaker 1>as though you're it sounds like this is me playing

0:39:31.680 --> 0:39:34.879
<v Speaker 1>fucking armchair therapist here. But you mentioned not being able

0:39:34.920 --> 0:39:37.640
<v Speaker 1>to express yourself that much when you were like a kid,

0:39:38.239 --> 0:39:42.160
<v Speaker 1>and I'm very glad that you are comfortable expressing yourself now.

0:39:42.600 --> 0:39:46.759
<v Speaker 1>But also, two, don't don't kill yourself with your brain, man,

0:39:46.840 --> 0:39:50.719
<v Speaker 1>because you're Yeah, I know you said it's just because

0:39:50.719 --> 0:39:53.880
<v Speaker 1>of the podcast, but you I can, I can like

0:39:54.040 --> 0:39:56.919
<v Speaker 1>feel your brain thinking a thousand thoughts a minute, and

0:39:56.920 --> 0:40:00.400
<v Speaker 1>and and uh, I don't know, I don't know. I

0:40:00.400 --> 0:40:05.040
<v Speaker 1>don't want to say calm down, but you know, don't uh,

0:40:05.120 --> 0:40:06.720
<v Speaker 1>don't kill yourself with your brain.

0:40:07.640 --> 0:40:08.799
<v Speaker 3>Don't overthink it.

0:40:09.200 --> 0:40:10.319
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, don't overthink it.

0:40:11.600 --> 0:40:15.359
<v Speaker 3>No, you're right man, No, I mean, I mean, yeah,

0:40:15.360 --> 0:40:16.879
<v Speaker 3>you've only been talking to me for like twenty five

0:40:16.880 --> 0:40:19.440
<v Speaker 3>minutes or whatever, like, but you hit me right on

0:40:19.480 --> 0:40:21.120
<v Speaker 3>the nail. Yeah, Like I am an.

0:40:20.960 --> 0:40:26.560
<v Speaker 1>Overthinker, Seymour, Is there anything else you want to say

0:40:26.640 --> 0:40:28.040
<v Speaker 1>to the people of the computer before we go?

0:40:32.320 --> 0:40:35.520
<v Speaker 3>This is actually the part I've actually been anticipating because,

0:40:35.560 --> 0:40:37.759
<v Speaker 3>like I always like listening to people what they say

0:40:37.840 --> 0:40:40.440
<v Speaker 3>at the end of this Yeah, uh, you mind if

0:40:40.480 --> 0:40:41.319
<v Speaker 3>I have I hit it with.

0:40:41.280 --> 0:40:43.600
<v Speaker 1>A joke, yes, say whatever you want.

0:40:44.719 --> 0:40:46.960
<v Speaker 3>Okay, uh, there with my bear with me because this

0:40:47.120 --> 0:40:47.880
<v Speaker 3>kind of drags on.

0:40:49.400 --> 0:40:51.319
<v Speaker 1>How long? Hold on? How long is this joke?

0:40:52.680 --> 0:40:54.839
<v Speaker 3>I'm gonna say at least a minute? All right, tell

0:40:54.880 --> 0:40:59.200
<v Speaker 3>the joke, okay, Okay. So it's showing to in this

0:40:59.239 --> 0:41:01.440
<v Speaker 3>class going on right now, and this little boy goes

0:41:01.520 --> 0:41:02.960
<v Speaker 3>up at the front of the class and he says,

0:41:03.000 --> 0:41:09.759
<v Speaker 3>I'm gonna show you all by dingling okay, okay, here.

0:41:10.640 --> 0:41:12.760
<v Speaker 3>The teacher sends him to the principal's office. The principals

0:41:12.760 --> 0:41:14.800
<v Speaker 3>ask him, you know, why are you here? He said,

0:41:15.040 --> 0:41:18.160
<v Speaker 3>because I wanted to show my dingling. The principal sends

0:41:18.200 --> 0:41:20.600
<v Speaker 3>him home. The parents ask him, why are you here?

0:41:21.120 --> 0:41:23.799
<v Speaker 3>He said, because I wanted to show my dingaling. The

0:41:23.840 --> 0:41:25.640
<v Speaker 3>parents send him outside. He gets hit by a car

0:41:25.680 --> 0:41:31.239
<v Speaker 3>and dies. So the boy goes up to heaven. Yes,

0:41:31.320 --> 0:41:33.440
<v Speaker 3>this is still going. The boy goes up to heaven

0:41:34.040 --> 0:41:36.719
<v Speaker 3>and God asked him, why are you here? Because I

0:41:36.719 --> 0:41:39.600
<v Speaker 3>wanted to show my dingling. God sends him to Hell,

0:41:40.120 --> 0:41:42.160
<v Speaker 3>and then the devil asked him, why are you here

0:41:42.560 --> 0:41:45.640
<v Speaker 3>because I wanted to show my dingling. The devil says, okay,

0:41:45.640 --> 0:41:47.920
<v Speaker 3>we'll show me your dingaling. The boy pulls out a

0:41:47.920 --> 0:41:54.719
<v Speaker 3>little bell for his pocket and goes have a good night.

0:41:54.800 --> 0:42:04.080
<v Speaker 1>Yet, yeah you too. That's a very nice joke about.

0:42:05.400 --> 0:42:05.600
<v Speaker 3>You know.

0:42:05.680 --> 0:42:08.520
<v Speaker 1>It's at first I was kind of appalled when Satan

0:42:08.640 --> 0:42:11.360
<v Speaker 1>asked to see the little boy's penis, but then it's like, well,

0:42:12.120 --> 0:42:16.600
<v Speaker 1>you know, he's Satan. Of course, Satan probably is a pedophile.

0:42:18.120 --> 0:42:21.840
<v Speaker 1>I would not consider that out of character for Satan

0:42:21.920 --> 0:42:26.520
<v Speaker 1>to want to see little boy penises. It seems that

0:42:26.640 --> 0:42:31.799
<v Speaker 1>seems apt of him. Hey guys, it's Lyle here. I'm

0:42:31.840 --> 0:42:34.799
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<v Speaker 1>All right, let's do some ads.

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<v Speaker 4>All from violence?

0:43:19.600 --> 0:43:27.440
<v Speaker 1>Hello, Hello, Hi, what's your name? Violet Beauregard? From a

0:43:27.480 --> 0:43:32.319
<v Speaker 1>Series of Unfortunate Events? How you doing? Wait? Ship? That's not?

0:43:32.640 --> 0:43:34.520
<v Speaker 1>Is that from a Series of Unfortunate Events? Or is

0:43:34.520 --> 0:43:36.280
<v Speaker 1>that Willie Wonka?

0:43:36.520 --> 0:43:37.240
<v Speaker 4>No, it's.

0:43:39.000 --> 0:43:44.160
<v Speaker 1>Okay, I'm not sure. Violet Beauregard, she's the one that

0:43:44.280 --> 0:43:47.439
<v Speaker 1>likes to invent. No, wait, okay, there's a kid who

0:43:47.520 --> 0:43:50.560
<v Speaker 1>likes to read and a kid who likes to invent stuff,

0:43:50.920 --> 0:43:52.880
<v Speaker 1>the one that events or reads.

0:43:54.160 --> 0:43:56.120
<v Speaker 4>She's the one that invents. She's the one with a

0:43:56.120 --> 0:44:02.480
<v Speaker 4>little bow and out hat. Okay, yeah, this is insane.

0:44:02.600 --> 0:44:04.120
<v Speaker 4>I've loved you for years.

0:44:04.360 --> 0:44:09.560
<v Speaker 1>Oh thanks, Violet. Hell yeah, where we're in? Where in

0:44:09.560 --> 0:44:10.240
<v Speaker 1>in England?

0:44:10.239 --> 0:44:13.160
<v Speaker 3>That you call them from London?

0:44:13.560 --> 0:44:16.960
<v Speaker 4>I felt pretty strange. You've never had anyone from London

0:44:17.040 --> 0:44:18.080
<v Speaker 4>call you or England.

0:44:18.640 --> 0:44:22.520
<v Speaker 1>I've talked to people from England before I did a

0:44:22.560 --> 0:44:24.200
<v Speaker 1>show there. I did a show. I forget the name

0:44:24.239 --> 0:44:26.200
<v Speaker 1>of the venue, but I did two shows there. They

0:44:26.200 --> 0:44:26.800
<v Speaker 1>were really fun.

0:44:28.160 --> 0:44:29.319
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, I mean we've worked very well.

0:44:29.360 --> 0:44:29.680
<v Speaker 2>A book.

0:44:29.760 --> 0:44:31.040
<v Speaker 4>The next show you do in London?

0:44:31.120 --> 0:44:31.720
<v Speaker 2>Really excited?

0:44:32.080 --> 0:44:36.040
<v Speaker 1>Okay, cool, I'll come back over the pond soon. You can.

0:44:36.600 --> 0:44:38.640
<v Speaker 1>You can bring you can bring one of your famous

0:44:38.680 --> 0:44:41.560
<v Speaker 1>inventions and we'll talk about it on stage.

0:44:42.840 --> 0:44:44.520
<v Speaker 4>I will try.

0:44:46.560 --> 0:44:54.840
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, yes, please. I was going to ask, so I

0:44:54.880 --> 0:44:55.600
<v Speaker 1>thought you that's.

0:44:55.520 --> 0:45:00.680
<v Speaker 4>Interesting because my brother has been smoking weed for a

0:45:00.719 --> 0:45:12.720
<v Speaker 4>while now, and I think that it's become a problem.

0:45:13.239 --> 0:45:16.480
<v Speaker 1>What define a problem?

0:45:16.520 --> 0:45:21.080
<v Speaker 4>I think I think smoking weed can be like fun

0:45:21.280 --> 0:45:27.480
<v Speaker 4>and also like anxiety, reducing to a certain degree. But

0:45:27.640 --> 0:45:32.160
<v Speaker 4>I think the way in which he does it is

0:45:32.440 --> 0:45:33.440
<v Speaker 4>sort of damaging.

0:45:33.560 --> 0:45:35.200
<v Speaker 3>To him.

0:45:35.520 --> 0:45:44.520
<v Speaker 4>I think that he essentially smokes too much weed, okay,

0:45:46.160 --> 0:45:50.000
<v Speaker 4>And I was wondering because you talk about it quite openly.

0:45:50.520 --> 0:45:55.120
<v Speaker 4>Sure if you think that too much weed can be smoked.

0:45:55.480 --> 0:46:00.359
<v Speaker 1>Of course, yeah, of course. I mean it's crazy if

0:46:00.400 --> 0:46:05.080
<v Speaker 1>you think there's no negative adverse effects to smoking weed.

0:46:05.640 --> 0:46:09.120
<v Speaker 1>I mean, you're crazy. Of Course there's negative effects too,

0:46:09.920 --> 0:46:13.120
<v Speaker 1>you know, inhaling shit into your lungs. It's not air,

0:46:13.880 --> 0:46:17.520
<v Speaker 1>you know. And I'm not a doctor. I don't know shit,

0:46:18.480 --> 0:46:20.959
<v Speaker 1>you know. I mean, maybe it's maybe it's not. Maybe

0:46:20.960 --> 0:46:23.440
<v Speaker 1>it's maybe we's healthy for you. But if I had

0:46:23.440 --> 0:46:26.840
<v Speaker 1>to make a bet on it, I would say the opposite.

0:46:29.000 --> 0:46:30.040
<v Speaker 1>How old your brother.

0:46:32.360 --> 0:46:33.719
<v Speaker 4>Young? Eighteen?

0:46:34.520 --> 0:46:38.400
<v Speaker 1>He's eighteen, okay, does he have like goals for his life?

0:46:40.920 --> 0:46:44.600
<v Speaker 4>I mean he's really clever that he.

0:46:46.040 --> 0:46:46.759
<v Speaker 2>Has.

0:46:46.920 --> 0:46:49.759
<v Speaker 4>The thing that like I take issue with is that

0:46:50.440 --> 0:46:55.200
<v Speaker 4>he's really really intelligent. But because of weed, I think,

0:46:55.480 --> 0:46:58.600
<v Speaker 4>and there's my opinion, probably not like everyone else's general opinion,

0:46:58.960 --> 0:47:02.880
<v Speaker 4>but I think it's made him sort of less enthusiastic

0:47:03.800 --> 0:47:10.960
<v Speaker 4>about doing well academically, if that makes sense, because I

0:47:10.960 --> 0:47:13.560
<v Speaker 4>don't really know why, but I know Loweople smoke weed

0:47:13.560 --> 0:47:19.719
<v Speaker 4>and they're normally not as sort of what's the word,

0:47:19.960 --> 0:47:24.160
<v Speaker 4>like sort of just just lulled into a sense of

0:47:25.800 --> 0:47:29.400
<v Speaker 4>not really caring about that academic success because of weed.

0:47:29.480 --> 0:47:33.960
<v Speaker 4>But he has sort of doesn't care anymore. He just

0:47:34.000 --> 0:47:36.399
<v Speaker 4>wants to sort of smoke weeds, sit in his room

0:47:36.440 --> 0:47:40.120
<v Speaker 4>and play video games, which is fine, and I think

0:47:40.120 --> 0:47:42.760
<v Speaker 4>that's completely fine. But I think he could achieve much more,

0:47:43.080 --> 0:47:45.759
<v Speaker 4>which is why I'm worried. But I don't know if

0:47:45.760 --> 0:47:49.680
<v Speaker 4>that's a cause for concern or anything. It's just he

0:47:49.760 --> 0:47:55.279
<v Speaker 4>seems he's like pulled away from social interaction and he

0:47:55.440 --> 0:47:57.640
<v Speaker 4>is really intelligent, but he just doesn't really seem like

0:47:57.640 --> 0:47:59.360
<v Speaker 4>he wants to engage that anymore.

0:47:59.000 --> 0:47:59.360
<v Speaker 3>Because of.

0:48:01.120 --> 0:48:07.560
<v Speaker 1>M hm, how old are you me? Yeah?

0:48:07.640 --> 0:48:10.080
<v Speaker 4>You I'm pretty four.

0:48:10.680 --> 0:48:13.719
<v Speaker 1>Four okay, so you're you're You've got some years on

0:48:13.840 --> 0:48:17.879
<v Speaker 1>the boy, he could say, does he does he?

0:48:18.400 --> 0:48:18.840
<v Speaker 3>Uh?

0:48:19.040 --> 0:48:20.920
<v Speaker 1>Do you have agult? What's your relationship like with it

0:48:20.920 --> 0:48:22.879
<v Speaker 1>with the boy?

0:48:23.560 --> 0:48:26.719
<v Speaker 4>Yeah? I love the boy. I love him dearly, but

0:48:28.000 --> 0:48:30.680
<v Speaker 4>I definitely am worried about him.

0:48:31.040 --> 0:48:31.680
<v Speaker 2>I think.

0:48:33.680 --> 0:48:38.760
<v Speaker 4>I think that he doesn't like as most eighteen year olds,

0:48:38.840 --> 0:48:43.680
<v Speaker 4>he doesn't really know who he is. And I'm not

0:48:43.680 --> 0:48:45.960
<v Speaker 4>saying that LIE know who I am, but he really

0:48:46.000 --> 0:48:49.000
<v Speaker 4>doesn't know who he is, and I think that he's

0:48:49.040 --> 0:48:56.000
<v Speaker 4>trying to grasp the straws of that through weed and

0:48:56.080 --> 0:49:00.759
<v Speaker 4>alcohol and sort of attention from other people. And I

0:49:00.760 --> 0:49:03.319
<v Speaker 4>don't think I do you're healthy. But every time I

0:49:03.360 --> 0:49:05.480
<v Speaker 4>say to him, maybe you should smoke less weed, he

0:49:05.560 --> 0:49:09.120
<v Speaker 4>gets three defensive buy and or weed's actually great for

0:49:09.200 --> 0:49:11.360
<v Speaker 4>you and like we actually look really healthy for you.

0:49:11.440 --> 0:49:15.480
<v Speaker 4>And I don't really know how to say to him

0:49:15.560 --> 0:49:18.400
<v Speaker 4>that weed can be great for you, but it also

0:49:18.640 --> 0:49:23.600
<v Speaker 4>can have really sort of negative cos well.

0:49:23.600 --> 0:49:26.360
<v Speaker 1>Also, he lives in London, so he's buying his weed

0:49:26.440 --> 0:49:29.600
<v Speaker 1>from like clockwork orange looking guys instead of a store.

0:49:31.080 --> 0:49:34.680
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, I mean a lot of people smoke weed in London,

0:49:34.800 --> 0:49:40.120
<v Speaker 4>but a lot of that weed is probably not very

0:49:40.120 --> 0:49:40.560
<v Speaker 4>good for you.

0:49:43.280 --> 0:49:45.000
<v Speaker 1>Well, I mean, look at the end of the day,

0:49:45.040 --> 0:49:47.080
<v Speaker 1>when it comes to all things like this, where you

0:49:47.120 --> 0:49:51.600
<v Speaker 1>know it's not you, it's your family or friends, it's like,

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<v Speaker 1>do you tell him all these things? Do you tell

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<v Speaker 1>them why you think you shouldn't smoke weed? Do you

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<v Speaker 1>tell him like things beyond that, because he's because he

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<v Speaker 1>can say like because like whatever medical thing he thinks

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<v Speaker 1>or read and on a on Reddit or a podcast

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<v Speaker 1>or whatever. Where he's like, oh, it's actually making me better,

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<v Speaker 1>you can be like, well, we decide what the fuck

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<v Speaker 1>are you doing with your life? You know, if it's

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<v Speaker 1>it's it seems like it's making you lazy or or

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<v Speaker 1>or from an outsider perspective, it doesn't seem like it's

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<v Speaker 1>actually really helping you. Because look, I mean, I've been

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<v Speaker 1>smoking weed super regularly since I was I mean, fuck,

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<v Speaker 1>I guess for a decade now. But it did it,

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<v Speaker 1>and it has had its bad effects, but it never

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<v Speaker 1>really like messed with the uh main quest of of

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<v Speaker 1>of my life, you know. So ye, for him, it's

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<v Speaker 1>like he's got to have a main quest.

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<v Speaker 4>Do you find that you, or like people around you

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<v Speaker 4>smoke weed because you're anxious.

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<v Speaker 1>I smoke weed because I'm anxious all the time. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>for sure.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah. I think that's like probably the core of it

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<v Speaker 4>for him, which makes me feel like worse for saying, oh,

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<v Speaker 4>maybe you don't. But that's only because he's young. If

0:51:20.920 --> 0:51:24.880
<v Speaker 4>he was older, I would think it was different. But

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<v Speaker 4>I feel even worse being like, I can tell you're

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<v Speaker 4>really anxious, and I can tell you're trying to offset

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<v Speaker 4>that by making me because I know that helps, but

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<v Speaker 4>it's having sort of adverse consequences that are making you active.

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<v Speaker 1>Does that make sense, Yeah, of course. I mean especially

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<v Speaker 1>when you're I mean if you're when you're eighteen and

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<v Speaker 1>you don't really like know, you know, as you're talking about,

0:51:49.680 --> 0:51:51.960
<v Speaker 1>as you're you're figuring out your life. I mean, it's

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<v Speaker 1>a crazy anxious time, and I can totally see him

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<v Speaker 1>being like, I just don't want to deal with this

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<v Speaker 1>right fucking now, I'm going to get high.

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<v Speaker 4>I think that's actually really like poorly really relatable for him. Like,

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<v Speaker 4>I think his main issue is, like it's like the personally,

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<v Speaker 4>I've always wanted to grow up and be older and

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<v Speaker 4>like exist in the world. He's always sort of wanted

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<v Speaker 4>to sort of revert back to being a child and

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<v Speaker 4>like not exist in the big scary world and not

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<v Speaker 4>be perceived, if.

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<v Speaker 2>That makes sense.

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<v Speaker 4>And I think that has a lot to do with

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<v Speaker 4>his weed smoking. I think that's like common with a

0:52:32.160 --> 0:52:33.080
<v Speaker 4>lot of boys as well.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, do you want to well, well, look, I mean

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<v Speaker 1>it sounds like you're a good sister for caring this

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<v Speaker 1>much about him and trying.

0:52:43.719 --> 0:52:46.239
<v Speaker 4>This much, But I was just wondering, like from a

0:52:46.320 --> 0:52:50.480
<v Speaker 4>weed smoker's perspective, if you had any advice or sort.

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<v Speaker 1>Of have you Have you ever tried? You ever try weed?

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<v Speaker 4>I have?

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<v Speaker 2>I like, I liked it for a while, but.

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<v Speaker 4>It never really sort of I was never really obsessed

0:53:04.600 --> 0:53:07.279
<v Speaker 4>with that that this is lovely. This you feel quite

0:53:07.320 --> 0:53:10.920
<v Speaker 4>sort of calm or relaxed. But I think also like

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<v Speaker 4>one thing to note is that wherever you are, I'm

0:53:13.520 --> 0:53:17.720
<v Speaker 4>not going to guess, but I imagine that generally in America

0:53:17.880 --> 0:53:23.200
<v Speaker 4>weed is of a higher quality. In the UK, weed

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<v Speaker 4>here is quite heavily filled with things that it probably

0:53:27.080 --> 0:53:30.479
<v Speaker 4>shouldn't be, and it can actually make you much more

0:53:30.520 --> 0:53:33.960
<v Speaker 4>anxious and paranoid than you probably should be. So a

0:53:34.000 --> 0:53:37.040
<v Speaker 4>few times that's weird. Definitely, this is kind of scary

0:53:37.080 --> 0:53:40.319
<v Speaker 4>and awful, which is probably not the experience you should have,

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<v Speaker 4>if that makes sense.

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like smoking weed in London. It just makes

0:53:44.120 --> 0:53:46.920
<v Speaker 1>you see everything like you're in Wallace and Gramat.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, noclamation.

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<v Speaker 1>Everyone's talking in British accents. It sounds scary.

0:53:57.440 --> 0:53:59.800
<v Speaker 4>The British actions are in a sense.

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<v Speaker 2>Really fight man.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, listen, Violet. It's nice that you care that much

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<v Speaker 1>about your brother. I hope he figures this stuff out.

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<v Speaker 1>He's only eighteen too, you know. I mean, here's the

0:54:11.840 --> 0:54:13.880
<v Speaker 1>thing about your brother too, And this is why I

0:54:13.920 --> 0:54:16.480
<v Speaker 1>don't think you should be so worried. Is that your

0:54:16.520 --> 0:54:22.200
<v Speaker 1>brother can like smoke weed and not do anything for like,

0:54:23.160 --> 0:54:27.759
<v Speaker 1>for like a pretty long time without it being a

0:54:27.920 --> 0:54:34.279
<v Speaker 1>ginormous problem. He's got about. Your brother's got about I'm

0:54:34.280 --> 0:54:37.680
<v Speaker 1>gonna say I wouldn't even put a number on it.

0:54:37.800 --> 0:54:39.880
<v Speaker 1>Maybe twelve of you. I don't know. Your brother's got

0:54:40.520 --> 0:54:44.240
<v Speaker 1>several years ahead of him where he can do nothing

0:54:44.600 --> 0:54:47.960
<v Speaker 1>and get high all day and like he's he's not

0:54:48.000 --> 0:54:51.520
<v Speaker 1>gonna die, you know, right. I mean, it's not like

0:54:51.520 --> 0:54:53.560
<v Speaker 1>he's addicted to heroin. If he was addicted to heroin,

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<v Speaker 1>he would have less than twelve years, but much much

0:54:57.640 --> 0:55:02.360
<v Speaker 1>less so, so you know, he's I think he's going

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<v Speaker 1>to be Okay, I think you gotta let you gotta

0:55:04.520 --> 0:55:05.960
<v Speaker 1>let this ship play out.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, Well you put my mind at ease.

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<v Speaker 1>Thank you so much, Violet. Is there anything else you

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<v Speaker 1>want to say to the people of the computer before

0:55:14.040 --> 0:55:14.319
<v Speaker 1>we go?

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<v Speaker 4>I want to say, please try not to make fun

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<v Speaker 4>of my British accent, and thank you so much for listening.

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<v Speaker 4>And also don't worry about your weird family members doing

0:55:26.160 --> 0:55:28.120
<v Speaker 4>their weird things, because.

0:55:28.360 --> 0:55:29.560
<v Speaker 1>By weird, what doing my weird?

0:55:29.800 --> 0:55:34.239
<v Speaker 4>I say that again, your strange, weird family members doing

0:55:34.280 --> 0:55:38.360
<v Speaker 4>whatever they might be doing, they'll probably end up being okay.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, yes, Never ask your parents if they swing, because

0:55:43.480 --> 0:55:50.200
<v Speaker 1>you won't want to know the answer. I'll talk to

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<v Speaker 1>you later, Violet. Thank you for calling. Bye low bye, Violet.

0:55:56.800 --> 0:56:04.200
<v Speaker 1>Ye make fun of your accent. I would never Oi

0:56:04.280 --> 0:56:13.720
<v Speaker 1>would never, Oi would never never never Grommets, I've actually

0:56:13.760 --> 0:56:20.839
<v Speaker 1>seen Wallace and Grommets. Grommet, Yes, Wallas, that did sound

0:56:20.960 --> 0:56:24.359
<v Speaker 1>that didn't sound very British. All right, hello folks, it's

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, like so him and I never got along at

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<v Speaker 5>all in my life, and he asked me to do

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<v Speaker 5>a favor for him. So I did the favor for him,

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<v Speaker 5>buy a gun to come kill.

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<v Speaker 3>Me nice and spend good times.

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<v Speaker 1>It's kind of crazy how easy it is to just, like,

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<v Speaker 1>if you don't like somebody, you just get a gun

0:57:26.600 --> 0:57:30.880
<v Speaker 1>and kill them. Isn't it like weird that it's that simple, that, like,

0:57:31.440 --> 0:57:35.360
<v Speaker 1>if you really just decide that you don't like a guy,

0:57:35.720 --> 0:57:40.520
<v Speaker 1>you can pretty easily go to a store, buy a gun,

0:57:41.160 --> 0:57:44.960
<v Speaker 1>go to wherever the person is, and then shoot them

0:57:45.000 --> 0:57:47.440
<v Speaker 1>in the face and then they die. That part. It's

0:57:47.480 --> 0:57:49.480
<v Speaker 1>easy to do that, and then afterwards you go to

0:57:49.560 --> 0:57:53.240
<v Speaker 1>jail forever. But it's pretty crazy you don't have this.

0:57:53.440 --> 0:57:57.760
<v Speaker 1>It's not hard to kill somebody really that you don't like.

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