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Speaker 1: Hello, Hello, Oh my gosh, while what is your name?

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Speaker 2: Aj?

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Speaker 1: AJ?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: What is happening?

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Speaker 3: Aj?

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Speaker 1: How is life going for you?

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Speaker 2: Life's so good. I move into a new apartment in

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Speaker 2: like four days. I am in bed and I just

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Speaker 2: drink a margarita and two glasses of wine.

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Speaker 1: You just drank a margarita and two glasses of wine

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Speaker 1: by yourself? Are you alone getting drunk?

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Speaker 2: I am alone. I live with my grandma right now,

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Speaker 2: but I move out.

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Speaker 1: Soon, so that's cool. What did your grandma join you

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Speaker 1: to to get to get fucking wasted?

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Speaker 2: Dude? I wish she would. I wish you would get

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Speaker 2: wasted and smoke a joint or something, but no, she

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Speaker 2: doesn't like any of that stuff.

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Speaker 1: So I'm trying to wed. I've decided I'm going to

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Speaker 1: talk about it publicly so I'm held accountable. I'm quitting

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Speaker 1: for a week. I'm go I see how I feel.

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Speaker 1: I think the problem is that just it activates my

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Speaker 1: uh eating binges.

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Speaker 4: You know.

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Speaker 1: I mean, I had cried a fucking crazy one the

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Speaker 1: other day. I was eating nest Quick vanilla milk and

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Speaker 1: fruit gushers and skittles, and he is just insane. It

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Speaker 1: was bad, but whatever, this is.

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Speaker 2: No, I get it. I have been smoking weed since

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Speaker 2: I was fourteen, and I stopped for the first time

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Speaker 2: for like two weeks a couple months ago, and my

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Speaker 2: brain just cleared, like the song was gone. And I

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Speaker 2: want to start doing that again so bad. But I

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Speaker 2: kind of use it to like help me with anxiety

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Speaker 2: and stuff like that. Like right now, I have been

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Speaker 2: calling you for months. I listened so much so I'm

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Speaker 2: like sweaty shaking right now.

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Speaker 3: But yeah, I'm very excited.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, hey, Jay, what's up. Well, you texted me something.

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Speaker 1: You wanted to talk to me about how your ex

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Speaker 1: is stalking you.

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Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, I forgot. I try to forget about

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Speaker 2: that when I can.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, well, we don't have to talk about it. We

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Speaker 1: don't want to.

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Speaker 2: No, it's interesting, and I think that talking about it

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Speaker 2: might help, because I really never do.

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Speaker 3: But yeah, he was.

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Speaker 2: I don't know. He was a sweet person. We met

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Speaker 2: over the summer, and I think religion is an awesome thing.

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Speaker 2: I think it's cool to have something to believe in.

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Speaker 2: It's not like my thing, but I'm open to it,

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Speaker 2: you know. And he was very religious and that kind

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Speaker 2: of I don't know, it got in the way of stuff.

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Speaker 2: His parents didn't like me, excit have tattoos, and I

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Speaker 2: don't know, it just got kind of strange. I went

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Speaker 2: to a Bible study and got pretty uncomfortable.

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Speaker 1: So so, how did you meet this young Christian boy?

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Speaker 2: Tender? Always tender?

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Speaker 1: Okay, I know, and boy, I mean, you don't sound

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Speaker 1: I don't know you, but do sound like you are

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Speaker 1: the religious type?

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Speaker 2: No, not at all.

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Speaker 1: Uh so then, but yeah, what was it that that

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Speaker 2: He was really I love a mustache and I love

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Speaker 2: a mullet, and he had those and so like it

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Speaker 2: was a very like immediate physical attraction. And I don't know,

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Speaker 2: I try and be open minded. So it kind of

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Speaker 2: like intrigued me when he said that he was religious,

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Speaker 2: because I was like, I don't know, like I'd never

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Speaker 2: so I was like, let me maybe give this a try.

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Speaker 2: You know, he seems nice and respectful, nice, you know.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, when you're very physically attracted to someone, red flags

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Speaker 1: just become quirks very much.

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Speaker 2: So yeah, and then you like meet their parents and

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Speaker 2: I have like a I have a cool little tattoo

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Speaker 2: and from like an artist that I like on Instagram

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Speaker 2: and it says something about like dancing with devils and

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Speaker 2: it's a little devil with cowboy boots dancing around, and

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Speaker 2: that was a immediate like I walked in met his parents,

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Speaker 2: and his dad like started a discussion about that, and

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Speaker 2: I just knew it was gonna be, you know, well

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Speaker 2: I haven't known him for a month at that before,

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Speaker 2: you know, so I was like, and I feel, I

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Speaker 2: don't want to expose this man's you know, personal life.

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Speaker 2: But his dad was almost a big reason why we

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Speaker 2: kind of like stopped doing everything because he would get

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Speaker 2: really intense, like he, uh, his dad was the big

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Speaker 2: Bible slumper guy, like he kind of thought that God

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Speaker 2: spoke through him to other people, so he would, you know,

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Speaker 2: he like baptized somebody. And I don't know how Christianity

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Speaker 2: works too well, but I don't think you could just

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Speaker 2: you know, I don't know, maybe like I just don't

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Speaker 2: know if a civilian can just baptize another person. But

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Speaker 2: he was out there doing that.

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Speaker 1: And so what do you think it was that Drew

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Speaker 1: him to you.

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Speaker 2: I think, I know for a fact, I'm sorry, I'm

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Speaker 2: out of breath, I'm nervous. So uh, he was definitely overprotected,

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Speaker 2: I think just throughout life, you know, like he opened

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Speaker 2: up to me about some like curiosity with sexuality, you know,

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Speaker 2: which like I'm super open to having my partner explore,

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Speaker 2: feel like a lot of people aren't able to explore that.

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Speaker 2: So I was really open with that. But I don't know,

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Speaker 2: he just never really, I think, had been with someone

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Speaker 2: like who was open minded. He only dated Christian girls

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Speaker 2: or didn't single and with his parents all the time.

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Speaker 1: You know, did you put your thumb in his ass?

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Speaker 2: That's put my whole strapple, though, I feel like, yeah,

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Speaker 2: that's always the thing. I don't know why, but like

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Speaker 2: I don't know if it's a vibe I give off.

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Speaker 2: But there's still like three or four guys that they're

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Speaker 2: just like all natural and tender, and the first message

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Speaker 2: is like peg question of work are you?

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Speaker 3: Are you?

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Speaker 1: A lot of guys like introduction to pegging.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, actually very much so, which I don't mind, you know,

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Speaker 2: as long as they're super comfy with it. It's something

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Speaker 2: I like because, like, I'm do you.

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Speaker 1: Take pride in that.

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Speaker 2: Very much?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: Kind of. It's like more so pride that I guess,

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Speaker 2: like people feel comfortable enough with me to like open

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Speaker 2: up in that way. But it's also like, yeah, I

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Speaker 2: just sucked that dude in the ass.

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Speaker 1: You know, man, you should. That'd be sick if you

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Speaker 1: did it while you were wearing a devil costume.

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, I know.

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Speaker 1: Heart attack.

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Speaker 2: No, I actually I felt really as soon as we

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Speaker 2: broke up. It was right before Halloween, and then I

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Speaker 2: posted a picture on Instagram with me and like this

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Speaker 2: really sexy, provocative noun costume, and I was like, he's

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Speaker 2: gonna think that that's pointed towards him in some way.

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Speaker 1: So anyway, I mean, this guy turns out to be

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Speaker 1: bad news though bad news bears.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, he I don't know. We god, I'm trying to

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Speaker 2: think about his Oh yeah, so he while we were dating,

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Speaker 2: subscribe to some people's only fans that he had previously

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Speaker 2: been hooking up with. And sex work is awesome. I

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Speaker 2: love that, but I don't really love the consumption of

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Speaker 2: sex work while you're dating somebody. For me, personally, it's

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Speaker 2: a little boundary, you know, and he knew that beforehand,

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Speaker 2: you know, and so we like talked about it, and

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Speaker 2: then it ended up being that he didn't unsubscribe when

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Speaker 2: he said he did, so we broke up, and I'm like,

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Speaker 2: immediately I was just being harassed like the day and

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Speaker 2: night with calls and calmenting on my TikTok from private

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Speaker 2: accounts and just saying heinous stuff, not being very Christian.

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Speaker 1: Like, you know, I don't know m how Loyo was

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Speaker 1: all this.

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Speaker 2: We brought up in October. I guess it's it's been

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Speaker 2: and it kind of it's light that's a little bit

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Speaker 2: in December. Yeah, I'm actually back with my like long

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Speaker 2: term X that was from before him who travels around

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Speaker 2: because he's a firefighter and cuts down trees and puts

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Speaker 2: down those crazy Canada fires. So back with him, back

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Speaker 2: with doing all that long distance stuff trying to avoid

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Speaker 2: my ex.

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Speaker 1: That's cool. That guy definitely sounds like he is a

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Speaker 1: mustache and a mullet.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, the firefighter has a better mustache, better mullet.

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Speaker 1: So do you fuck him in the ass track?

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Speaker 2: I've asked, he's open to it, but that's not something

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Speaker 2: I ever want to push.

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Speaker 3: You know, so.

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Speaker 2: Little, you know if it happened to happen.

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Speaker 1: But so, how did you rekindle with the firefighter af

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Speaker 2: Well, it's crazy, because life's crazy. We me and the

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Speaker 2: we were on the phone, he texted me and it

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Speaker 2: was like, Hey, I'm coming back to I live in Ohio.

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Speaker 2: He was like, I'm coming back to Ohio from Washington

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Speaker 2: I've been thinking about you, and so yeah, I guess

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Speaker 2: the Christian boy chas a bad time to fuck up

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Speaker 2: and watch his excess porn because the Firefighter texted And

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Speaker 2: I don't know, I think that that's the person, like

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Speaker 2: I really, you know, he feels like the person's supposed

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Speaker 2: to be with. We've been together for a while and

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Speaker 2: split up over the summer just because distance, you know,

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Speaker 1: So this the Christian guys, he's still like he's not

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Speaker 1: like showing up at your fucking house and.

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Speaker 2: Shit is he not showing up at my house? Just

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Speaker 2: like a lot of a lot of her he did

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Speaker 2: try and marry Christmas his way back into my life.

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Speaker 1: But what does it mean to marry Christmas your way

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Speaker 2: I think it's you know, when I guess you're no

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Speaker 2: longer on speaking terms with someone in a holiday or

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Speaker 2: special occidence comes up and it's an excuse to be like, hey,

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Speaker 2: I haven't talked to you in a while, Happy birthday,

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Speaker 2: Marry Christmas.

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Speaker 1: It's smart, but smart.

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Speaker 2: I got other stuff to worry about. I'm in nursing

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Speaker 2: school right now. I'm moving to my apartment out of my.

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Speaker 4: Grandma's so that's cool.

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Speaker 1: While you and we got a firefighter at an EMT,

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Speaker 1: that's pretty good. You guys can make You can deliver

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Speaker 1: your own baby. You don't even need to go to

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Speaker 1: a doctor.

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Speaker 2: Absolutely. I'm actually certified to do that. And I always

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Speaker 2: hope that, like one day I get the call. I

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Speaker 2: would love to deliver a bit in the back of

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Speaker 2: my truck, not my own, but yeah.

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Speaker 1: I'll take it to the chat for questions. Does the

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Speaker 1: chat have any questions for AJ about anything at all? Life,

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Speaker 1: being an AMT, doing, being a human being on the

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Speaker 2: I cannot believe I'm on here. By the way, I'm

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Speaker 2: so very.

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Speaker 2: Honestly, I think your best way to go is maybe

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Speaker 1: What is your Somebody said, what is your most embarrassing

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Speaker 1: So well, A J. Is there anything else you want

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Speaker 2: Thank you for having me. I appreciate you. I listen

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Speaker 2: anytime that you stream, So I'm a good night, yick,

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Speaker 1: Good night and enjoy. Hey, pour a marguerite out for me. Huh,

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Speaker 2: All right?

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Speaker 1: Rock and roll?

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Speaker 1: Man? It really would be sick to drink a margarita

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Speaker 3: Uh, hello, hey there, Oh my goodness, this is just

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Speaker 1: Yes, sir, to whom am I speaking with?

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Speaker 1: You don't get that reference? All right, that's we'll save

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Speaker 1: Man saying oh man, it's a perfect response to any

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Speaker 1: So then what what what would the conflict be?

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Speaker 1: So so, so first of all, what's your name again?

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Speaker 3: Seymour?

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Speaker 1: All right, we did the whole thing. That's about hilarious

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Speaker 3: Is it because of weed?

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Speaker 1: It's because of weed? Probably, I don't know. I'm not

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Speaker 3: So essentially, like, you know, my parents divorced when I

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Speaker 3: if that make any sense?

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Speaker 3: Yeah? Like I mean again, like I don't want to,

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Speaker 1: You phrased it as I need to find a reason

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Speaker 3: Right, again, Like I know, I know, I'm beating around

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Speaker 3: I guess trauma if you want to call it that. Again,

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Speaker 1: Well, what.

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Speaker 3: You know?

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Speaker 1: Well, look, here's the thing. Whatever you want to say

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Speaker 1: out with your family?

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Speaker 3: Yes?

442
00:23:26,119 --> 00:23:30,399
Speaker 1: Okay, So if you're telling me that you're looking for

443
00:23:30,440 --> 00:23:34,040
Speaker 1: a reason to be around your family, you've just now

444
00:23:34,520 --> 00:23:39,000
Speaker 1: produced the best possible reason to be around your family,

445
00:23:39,359 --> 00:23:41,600
Speaker 1: which is because you want to.

446
00:23:43,520 --> 00:23:43,760
Speaker 3: Right.

447
00:23:44,520 --> 00:23:48,760
Speaker 1: So, but where's the conflict coming from within that? Because

448
00:23:48,800 --> 00:23:52,199
Speaker 1: you gave me You didn't even pause when you said that,

449
00:23:52,280 --> 00:23:53,720
Speaker 1: you didn't even have to think about it. You gave

450
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Speaker 1: me a restounding yes.

451
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Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't know. I'm uh, I guess.

452
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Speaker 2: M.

453
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Speaker 3: I don't know. I feel like i'm The thing is

454
00:24:12,880 --> 00:24:15,600
Speaker 3: is like you know, it's like whenever, uh, whenever you

455
00:24:15,960 --> 00:24:17,720
Speaker 3: have good and then you have your bad. You know,

456
00:24:17,960 --> 00:24:20,680
Speaker 3: you can't have one without the other, right, And it's

457
00:24:20,800 --> 00:24:26,040
Speaker 3: like and like, you know, I don't know. Maybe it's

458
00:24:26,040 --> 00:24:28,280
Speaker 3: because like personally, I feel like, you know, I feel

459
00:24:28,280 --> 00:24:31,000
Speaker 3: like I'm I'm a family oriented person. You know, to

460
00:24:31,080 --> 00:24:35,439
Speaker 3: me is like I I hold that my family not

461
00:24:35,480 --> 00:24:37,879
Speaker 3: in a high pedestal, but I value them very much.

462
00:24:38,520 --> 00:24:43,439
Speaker 3: Because that's I guess that's all you know, personality wise aside.

463
00:24:43,480 --> 00:24:45,800
Speaker 3: I guess that's just like instinctively, that's how I feel.

464
00:24:46,600 --> 00:24:49,040
Speaker 3: You know, it's more like, just get.

465
00:24:48,840 --> 00:24:53,800
Speaker 1: A big like a giant, get a giant.

466
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Speaker 3: Passion for the other person, box vape.

467
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Speaker 1: With th HC, and you roll up onto your parents'

468
00:25:02,359 --> 00:25:06,600
Speaker 1: house and just blow a big fucking cloud in all

469
00:25:06,600 --> 00:25:10,800
Speaker 1: their faces and go, this is who I am, and

470
00:25:10,880 --> 00:25:14,920
Speaker 1: you must accept me for it. No, I don't actually

471
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Speaker 1: know if.

472
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Speaker 3: He would do that. No, I mean, okay, so i'm

473
00:25:19,400 --> 00:25:21,760
Speaker 3: if I were to actually do that, like right now

474
00:25:22,880 --> 00:25:26,160
Speaker 3: my my okay, the planetature, I actually live right now

475
00:25:26,160 --> 00:25:30,919
Speaker 3: with my mother and one of my sisters in the house. Okay.

476
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Speaker 1: Oh see, okay, so where so you live with your family?

477
00:25:34,560 --> 00:25:37,520
Speaker 3: Yes? No, no, I I should I should have implied

478
00:25:37,560 --> 00:25:41,600
Speaker 3: that I still live currently with my family, because you know,

479
00:25:41,640 --> 00:25:43,640
Speaker 3: of course, yes I do have a job, and yes

480
00:25:44,160 --> 00:25:46,960
Speaker 3: I do make a decent amount of money, but I'm

481
00:25:47,000 --> 00:25:51,160
Speaker 3: still trying to make my way. I guess more financially stable.

482
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Speaker 6: Okay, I'm in the process. Yeah, And of course, and

483
00:25:58,880 --> 00:26:01,840
Speaker 6: I was like, you know, there's that. And of course,

484
00:26:01,880 --> 00:26:04,119
Speaker 6: like living in the house, we're always gonna meet butting

485
00:26:04,160 --> 00:26:07,280
Speaker 6: heads with each other. But with my family, it's like

486
00:26:07,320 --> 00:26:08,879
Speaker 6: it always seems like we want to like instead of

487
00:26:08,880 --> 00:26:11,080
Speaker 6: talking about it, we're just gonna argue. And so we

488
00:26:11,200 --> 00:26:14,359
Speaker 6: either we were somebody walked away or the cops have

489
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Speaker 6: to be called.

490
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Speaker 1: Okay, all right, now, all right, if.

491
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Speaker 3: If you want, I an kind of paint a pictures

492
00:26:23,880 --> 00:26:25,879
Speaker 3: like what you what you said earlier about me, you know,

493
00:26:26,000 --> 00:26:27,200
Speaker 3: just babing in front of the house.

494
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Speaker 1: Well I was, I was just I was just trying

495
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Speaker 1: to be funny and it didn't work, but I I

496
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Speaker 1: I well, oh gay you all right, you've you've introduced

497
00:26:36,760 --> 00:26:40,840
Speaker 1: several new elements into this conversation now that are are peaking.

498
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Speaker 1: My my curiosity is, I'm you know, well, well, okay,

499
00:26:47,160 --> 00:26:49,040
Speaker 1: you live with your parents, which is fine, dude, if

500
00:26:49,040 --> 00:26:53,600
Speaker 1: you're like, you know, trying to find a nest or

501
00:26:53,640 --> 00:26:56,840
Speaker 1: a core of financial stability. I think living with your parents,

502
00:26:56,840 --> 00:26:59,480
Speaker 1: if you have the opportunity to do so, and if

503
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Speaker 1: it doesn't drive you fucking crazy, to the point where

504
00:27:03,200 --> 00:27:05,879
Speaker 1: you're suffering every day, and you should do it. But

505
00:27:06,840 --> 00:27:10,840
Speaker 1: you mentioned just now that things will escalate to the

506
00:27:10,840 --> 00:27:12,399
Speaker 1: point where the cops are called.

507
00:27:14,040 --> 00:27:18,320
Speaker 3: Yeah. So like when I say like, like, oh, it's

508
00:27:18,320 --> 00:27:21,359
Speaker 3: like hard headed. Hard headedness runs in the family. I know.

509
00:27:21,400 --> 00:27:23,080
Speaker 3: I'm very hard headed, and I get it from both

510
00:27:23,119 --> 00:27:27,639
Speaker 3: my mother and my father. Like it's like you know,

511
00:27:27,760 --> 00:27:29,439
Speaker 3: like you know the same, like it's my way or

512
00:27:29,440 --> 00:27:30,000
Speaker 3: the highway.

513
00:27:30,440 --> 00:27:31,760
Speaker 1: Well yeah, like.

514
00:27:32,080 --> 00:27:35,280
Speaker 3: Not to you know, specifically, like it's it's okay, especially

515
00:27:35,280 --> 00:27:39,520
Speaker 3: with my mother, it's it's my way or that's it.

516
00:27:39,520 --> 00:27:41,520
Speaker 3: It's either you you either it's my way, or you're

517
00:27:41,560 --> 00:27:43,359
Speaker 3: at my house where I'm gonna call the cops and

518
00:27:43,480 --> 00:27:44,920
Speaker 3: have them take you off my house.

519
00:27:45,600 --> 00:27:46,080
Speaker 1: Okay.

520
00:27:46,400 --> 00:27:49,840
Speaker 3: And and she has done that, I want to say

521
00:27:49,880 --> 00:27:52,240
Speaker 3: at least twice, and once to me and once to

522
00:27:52,440 --> 00:27:55,320
Speaker 3: one of my siblings in a time where I was

523
00:27:55,359 --> 00:27:57,520
Speaker 3: not actually around, I was living on my own.

524
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Speaker 1: Seamar get seamar get me on a few things. Okay,

525
00:28:02,960 --> 00:28:05,280
Speaker 1: All right, well let's talk about you know, your whole

526
00:28:05,320 --> 00:28:09,920
Speaker 1: financial stability thing. Are you do you have a job, yes, okay,

527
00:28:09,960 --> 00:28:10,359
Speaker 1: what do you do?

528
00:28:11,640 --> 00:28:14,719
Speaker 3: I work in a warehouse. I'm like I put like

529
00:28:14,760 --> 00:28:17,080
Speaker 3: you know, merchandise on a palette to be put onto

530
00:28:17,200 --> 00:28:20,000
Speaker 3: a truck, you know, reverse stocking something like that.

531
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Speaker 1: Cool? Cool, And do you do you make enough that

532
00:28:24,400 --> 00:28:27,080
Speaker 1: if you, if you wanted to, you could move out?

533
00:28:29,800 --> 00:28:32,440
Speaker 3: Ideally I want to say, Okay, well, it's a little confusing,

534
00:28:32,480 --> 00:28:36,000
Speaker 3: like I had to put more human details here. I'm

535
00:28:36,040 --> 00:28:39,320
Speaker 3: currently working at this job ultimately until next year, for

536
00:28:39,800 --> 00:28:42,720
Speaker 3: next summer, because I currently I'm in a relationship right

537
00:28:42,760 --> 00:28:46,920
Speaker 3: now with a girl. Okay, and uh, we've been together

538
00:28:47,160 --> 00:28:50,680
Speaker 3: in about two years coming this uh, this nixt may

539
00:28:51,240 --> 00:28:54,160
Speaker 3: great and she actually she's from my hometown. But she

540
00:28:54,240 --> 00:28:56,360
Speaker 3: ultimately she actually moved to a bigger city. I'm not

541
00:28:56,360 --> 00:28:57,000
Speaker 3: going to say where.

542
00:28:57,760 --> 00:29:01,840
Speaker 1: Okay, you think moving moving in with her?

543
00:29:03,000 --> 00:29:07,160
Speaker 3: I am, but it's we got together in the relationship,

544
00:29:07,360 --> 00:29:09,640
Speaker 3: like only a few months before she got offered the job,

545
00:29:10,200 --> 00:29:13,720
Speaker 3: and she had immediately moved. And I've done the whole like,

546
00:29:13,760 --> 00:29:16,360
Speaker 3: you know, like, hey, let's go move together, move in together,

547
00:29:16,400 --> 00:29:18,120
Speaker 3: it's going to be great, you know, all of a sudden,

548
00:29:18,880 --> 00:29:21,840
Speaker 3: no planning whatsoever. And that has backfired on me three

549
00:29:21,880 --> 00:29:25,960
Speaker 3: times already. And so it's like I've already talked with

550
00:29:25,960 --> 00:29:27,720
Speaker 3: her about it before she moved. I know, I do

551
00:29:27,800 --> 00:29:30,959
Speaker 3: want to move in with her. However, it's like because

552
00:29:30,960 --> 00:29:34,280
Speaker 3: she's moving over there specifically for her job, you know.

553
00:29:34,320 --> 00:29:37,680
Speaker 3: I told her was like, you know, we're in a

554
00:29:37,720 --> 00:29:40,640
Speaker 3: new relationship. You know, I'm not saying that I don't

555
00:29:40,680 --> 00:29:41,680
Speaker 3: want to go with you. I do.

556
00:29:42,080 --> 00:29:44,600
Speaker 1: Dude, Can I just wh Can I say something? Can

557
00:29:44,640 --> 00:29:46,040
Speaker 1: I say something to you? And I hope you don't

558
00:29:46,040 --> 00:29:50,160
Speaker 1: find this offensive because this is an actual this is

559
00:29:50,200 --> 00:29:52,400
Speaker 1: the thing. I want to get your take on this

560
00:29:52,600 --> 00:29:55,120
Speaker 1: entire phone call you have said. I don't know if

561
00:29:55,120 --> 00:29:57,480
Speaker 1: this is just how you talk or maybe you're just

562
00:29:57,680 --> 00:30:01,200
Speaker 1: like frazzled because we're speaking in a in a in

563
00:30:01,240 --> 00:30:05,280
Speaker 1: a public setting here, but the way that you're talking,

564
00:30:05,560 --> 00:30:09,560
Speaker 1: I'm I'm I'm picturing you right now like a mad

565
00:30:09,800 --> 00:30:14,720
Speaker 1: scientist with like pulling your hair out. You sound extremely

566
00:30:15,520 --> 00:30:18,120
Speaker 1: stressed and frazzled, and I just want to know if

567
00:30:18,160 --> 00:30:21,120
Speaker 1: that's like only because we're talking on a podcast right now,

568
00:30:21,280 --> 00:30:24,080
Speaker 1: or if that's just how you are, because you sound

569
00:30:24,200 --> 00:30:26,560
Speaker 1: you sound you sound like you're you're you're jumping.

570
00:30:27,800 --> 00:30:30,160
Speaker 3: Well, okay, look it's it's a picture of things. Like, dude,

571
00:30:30,240 --> 00:30:32,880
Speaker 3: I've been listening to your podcast since the last this

572
00:30:32,960 --> 00:30:35,760
Speaker 3: last summer, and I it ultimately have been enjoying it

573
00:30:35,880 --> 00:30:39,200
Speaker 3: very much. And I have like I have like major

574
00:30:39,240 --> 00:30:43,200
Speaker 3: stage fright, you know, if I know people are listening

575
00:30:43,200 --> 00:30:46,440
Speaker 3: to I, I get, you know, tended up, and sometimes

576
00:30:46,480 --> 00:30:49,120
Speaker 3: I have to like pace myself whenever I have to,

577
00:30:49,280 --> 00:30:51,440
Speaker 3: you know, speak. That's That's all that really.

578
00:30:51,240 --> 00:30:54,400
Speaker 1: Is, Okay, okay, cool. I just want to make sure

579
00:30:54,400 --> 00:30:57,120
Speaker 1: I just that's totally fine. I just want to make

580
00:30:57,120 --> 00:30:58,719
Speaker 1: sure that it wasn't It didn't have everything to do

581
00:30:58,760 --> 00:31:01,080
Speaker 1: with like all the stuff that you're to like stress

582
00:31:01,160 --> 00:31:05,600
Speaker 1: over the things that you are talking about. You're doing fine.

583
00:31:06,840 --> 00:31:10,400
Speaker 3: Yeah, no, it's no. I just have personal stage tried. Man,

584
00:31:11,360 --> 00:31:12,040
Speaker 3: you're doing great.

585
00:31:12,520 --> 00:31:13,240
Speaker 1: You're doing great.

586
00:31:13,360 --> 00:31:13,600
Speaker 3: Well.

587
00:31:13,800 --> 00:31:16,120
Speaker 1: Anyway, I hope I didn't make you feel self conscious

588
00:31:16,160 --> 00:31:18,440
Speaker 1: just now, but you know, anyway, I mean to get

589
00:31:18,480 --> 00:31:21,000
Speaker 1: to the route here. I say, you're so you this

590
00:31:21,120 --> 00:31:24,240
Speaker 1: girl that you're in a relationship with, you're kind of

591
00:31:24,320 --> 00:31:28,360
Speaker 1: you because here's the thing, right it is like you

592
00:31:29,720 --> 00:31:32,520
Speaker 1: I'm I. You know, look, I fucking lived in my

593
00:31:32,640 --> 00:31:35,800
Speaker 1: mom's basement for two years trying to build up a

594
00:31:36,560 --> 00:31:41,600
Speaker 1: financial nest egg and and work on stuff and and

595
00:31:41,720 --> 00:31:44,520
Speaker 1: you know, do do the whole thing. I think it's

596
00:31:44,560 --> 00:31:49,720
Speaker 1: a good idea, right for some but but if I

597
00:31:49,760 --> 00:31:51,480
Speaker 1: think it's a good idea, if that, if you're being

598
00:31:51,600 --> 00:31:54,320
Speaker 1: very intentional about it in that way, but there does

599
00:31:54,400 --> 00:31:58,200
Speaker 1: come a point where like you gotta be in your

600
00:31:58,320 --> 00:32:02,600
Speaker 1: mind thinking about, you know, what's next, what's your exit plan?

601
00:32:03,040 --> 00:32:06,360
Speaker 1: Especially it I mean, I'm I'm very lucky my mom

602
00:32:06,480 --> 00:32:09,760
Speaker 1: is is Is is a great person. But you know,

603
00:32:10,200 --> 00:32:15,240
Speaker 1: it's like if you're if you're butting heads and the

604
00:32:15,400 --> 00:32:18,960
Speaker 1: police are getting called and it's escalating to that point

605
00:32:19,040 --> 00:32:22,520
Speaker 1: and it's a daily source of stress and anxiety, it's

606
00:32:22,520 --> 00:32:24,920
Speaker 1: just making your life miserable. And I don't know if

607
00:32:24,920 --> 00:32:26,920
Speaker 1: that's the all I all I heard is that the

608
00:32:26,920 --> 00:32:29,400
Speaker 1: police are being called and that it's her way or

609
00:32:29,400 --> 00:32:32,000
Speaker 1: the highway. That's all you you you you haven't indicated

610
00:32:32,040 --> 00:32:34,800
Speaker 1: on your end that you are you know, you have

611
00:32:34,880 --> 00:32:38,440
Speaker 1: an expressly mentioned that you are miserable, but you know,

612
00:32:39,480 --> 00:32:42,040
Speaker 1: I mean, are you is this is this situation that

613
00:32:42,080 --> 00:32:43,280
Speaker 1: you're in? Is it?

614
00:32:43,320 --> 00:32:43,440
Speaker 4: Is?

615
00:32:43,440 --> 00:32:45,600
Speaker 1: It? Is it horrible? Every day? I mean where where

616
00:32:45,720 --> 00:32:48,280
Speaker 1: where are you at? I mean.

617
00:32:50,360 --> 00:32:52,880
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean yeah, I'm observer. That does seem horrible.

618
00:32:53,720 --> 00:32:55,880
Speaker 3: But like again, like when you have your you're good,

619
00:32:55,920 --> 00:32:59,280
Speaker 3: you have your bad, and like, okay, I'm only talking

620
00:32:59,280 --> 00:33:02,120
Speaker 3: about the bad thing. It's here like again, like you know,

621
00:33:03,240 --> 00:33:05,680
Speaker 3: I do have good moments with my family. You know,

622
00:33:05,760 --> 00:33:07,000
Speaker 3: we had a good Christmas.

623
00:33:06,960 --> 00:33:09,360
Speaker 1: This last week, right right, right, But I'm I'm talking

624
00:33:09,400 --> 00:33:12,640
Speaker 1: about just like the like living with with them, you know,

625
00:33:12,880 --> 00:33:15,960
Speaker 1: because no, yeah, here's let me tell you something. And

626
00:33:16,000 --> 00:33:17,880
Speaker 1: I don't care who the fuck you are and who

627
00:33:17,880 --> 00:33:21,000
Speaker 1: your family is. This there's no way that this isn't

628
00:33:21,080 --> 00:33:24,840
Speaker 1: universally true. Your relationship with your family is going to

629
00:33:24,880 --> 00:33:28,760
Speaker 1: be a lot better when you move out because I'm

630
00:33:28,760 --> 00:33:31,720
Speaker 1: a firm believer of absence making the heart grow fonder,

631
00:33:32,080 --> 00:33:32,960
Speaker 1: do you know what I'm saying.

632
00:33:34,320 --> 00:33:37,520
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, no, you're right. I mean when I first

633
00:33:37,600 --> 00:33:39,400
Speaker 3: moved out, I mean I was like, you know, on

634
00:33:39,480 --> 00:33:42,480
Speaker 3: cloud nine. I was a static, but I was also

635
00:33:42,800 --> 00:33:46,960
Speaker 3: you know, like nineteen at the time and very inexperienced.

636
00:33:47,520 --> 00:33:50,960
Speaker 3: You know, I take my good with my bad here.

637
00:33:51,000 --> 00:33:51,160
Speaker 1: You know.

638
00:33:51,200 --> 00:33:53,160
Speaker 3: It's like, you know, I understand, like there are moments

639
00:33:53,160 --> 00:33:55,120
Speaker 3: in my life where I am genuinely happy, you know,

640
00:33:55,160 --> 00:33:59,360
Speaker 3: I was, you know, I am happy, but of course,

641
00:33:59,400 --> 00:34:01,600
Speaker 3: I mean I had my bad days. So just like

642
00:34:01,640 --> 00:34:03,600
Speaker 3: you know, I look at it, it's like, hey, you know,

643
00:34:03,680 --> 00:34:05,400
Speaker 3: my life is going to have up sundowns. You know,

644
00:34:05,800 --> 00:34:08,759
Speaker 3: I've been in worse situation before, and of course I

645
00:34:08,760 --> 00:34:10,719
Speaker 3: would wish like to be in other situations that are

646
00:34:10,800 --> 00:34:13,200
Speaker 3: a lot better, you know, if I had the auction.

647
00:34:13,280 --> 00:34:14,920
Speaker 3: I literally talked to her about it with my girlfriend

648
00:34:14,960 --> 00:34:17,759
Speaker 3: today cause she's actually down in our hometown for the

649
00:34:17,760 --> 00:34:20,799
Speaker 3: weekend spending time with her family. She talked to me.

650
00:34:20,800 --> 00:34:22,480
Speaker 3: I was like, if you're really that upset about it,

651
00:34:22,560 --> 00:34:25,200
Speaker 3: like just come move in with me. You know, I'm

652
00:34:25,280 --> 00:34:27,280
Speaker 3: right here. And it's like she's one hundred percent of right.

653
00:34:29,280 --> 00:34:31,920
Speaker 1: Just so she's extended an invitation to come live with

654
00:34:31,920 --> 00:34:37,160
Speaker 1: her already. Yes, yeah, No, I mean, well, and what

655
00:34:37,160 --> 00:34:37,680
Speaker 1: are you waiting for?

656
00:34:40,239 --> 00:34:42,560
Speaker 3: I guess part of it to me is like I'm

657
00:34:42,640 --> 00:34:46,239
Speaker 3: ultimately afraid because you know, it's like I've already done

658
00:34:46,280 --> 00:34:49,560
Speaker 3: the whole moving out process and like, you know again,

659
00:34:49,640 --> 00:34:52,320
Speaker 3: like it's backfired on me, and so now it's like you,

660
00:34:53,000 --> 00:34:55,759
Speaker 3: I'd rather just play it smart.

661
00:34:55,920 --> 00:34:58,640
Speaker 1: You know, moving moving out backfire on you? Is it

662
00:34:58,680 --> 00:34:59,480
Speaker 1: a financial thing?

663
00:35:00,840 --> 00:35:04,239
Speaker 3: Financial and like you know, friendships, you know crumbling. You

664
00:35:04,280 --> 00:35:04,600
Speaker 3: know that.

665
00:35:06,440 --> 00:35:08,560
Speaker 1: You know your friendship's crumbled when you moved down to

666
00:35:08,600 --> 00:35:09,520
Speaker 1: the of your mom's house.

667
00:35:10,960 --> 00:35:15,000
Speaker 3: No, No, like when I moved out on my own, Okay,

668
00:35:15,160 --> 00:35:17,360
Speaker 3: Like you know, when I moved out, I tried getting roommates.

669
00:35:17,600 --> 00:35:20,040
Speaker 3: You know, none of the majority of them either backed

670
00:35:20,040 --> 00:35:22,960
Speaker 3: out or they just couldn't pay their own like their

671
00:35:23,000 --> 00:35:23,439
Speaker 3: own half.

672
00:35:24,000 --> 00:35:29,520
Speaker 1: Are you are you? Are you worried about your relationship

673
00:35:29,600 --> 00:35:32,880
Speaker 1: with your girlfriend being affected by this?

674
00:35:34,480 --> 00:35:36,800
Speaker 3: I mean obviously, I mean, like you're always going to

675
00:35:36,840 --> 00:35:39,239
Speaker 3: be worried about everything whenever you're like you're getting in

676
00:35:39,239 --> 00:35:42,360
Speaker 3: a relationship and especially moving across you know, cities or whatever.

677
00:35:43,040 --> 00:35:47,520
Speaker 3: But like it's mainly I guess it's just like it's

678
00:35:47,520 --> 00:35:50,640
Speaker 3: mainly with me, Like I've already talked with her about this,

679
00:35:50,800 --> 00:35:53,080
Speaker 3: is like you know, it's like, look, I just don't

680
00:35:53,080 --> 00:35:55,279
Speaker 3: want to get in that headset space because I got

681
00:35:55,520 --> 00:36:00,400
Speaker 3: really really depressed having to pay a lease on my

682
00:36:00,440 --> 00:36:04,000
Speaker 3: own for so long, especially like whenever, like the only

683
00:36:04,040 --> 00:36:06,960
Speaker 3: advice I can get is from my family, which their

684
00:36:06,960 --> 00:36:09,600
Speaker 3: only options or their only advice is like, well, why

685
00:36:09,680 --> 00:36:11,360
Speaker 3: did you move out in the first place if you

686
00:36:11,400 --> 00:36:13,839
Speaker 3: weren't ready, or why don't you just move back in

687
00:36:13,880 --> 00:36:21,520
Speaker 3: with mom and dad? You know, it's it's.

688
00:36:19,680 --> 00:36:22,800
Speaker 1: Look, I want, I want let me have a few things.

689
00:36:23,040 --> 00:36:29,279
Speaker 1: Is you know I've said it a bunch of times

690
00:36:29,280 --> 00:36:32,640
Speaker 1: over the course of this call. I'm very much you

691
00:36:32,680 --> 00:36:37,919
Speaker 1: know pro you know, living with your parents if if

692
00:36:37,960 --> 00:36:43,120
Speaker 1: you need to, it's fucking extremely tough out there, uh,

693
00:36:43,239 --> 00:36:45,840
Speaker 1: you know, to pay rent and do all this shit.

694
00:36:46,360 --> 00:36:48,160
Speaker 1: So you know, if that's where you've got to be,

695
00:36:48,280 --> 00:36:54,360
Speaker 1: that's where you got to be. But I and I

696
00:36:54,360 --> 00:36:55,840
Speaker 1: don't know. I've only been talking to you for like

697
00:36:55,880 --> 00:36:57,719
Speaker 1: a half hour. Is it been half hour? It's no,

698
00:36:57,800 --> 00:37:01,719
Speaker 1: not yet, but whatever, I've only been talking for twenty minutes.

699
00:37:01,760 --> 00:37:13,120
Speaker 1: But I have a sense that just generally that finding

700
00:37:13,280 --> 00:37:23,400
Speaker 1: independence will bring you a more enriched life, particularly if

701
00:37:23,800 --> 00:37:28,520
Speaker 1: your family drama is getting to a point where police

702
00:37:29,360 --> 00:37:30,000
Speaker 1: are called.

703
00:37:30,760 --> 00:37:30,960
Speaker 3: You know.

704
00:37:32,239 --> 00:37:33,799
Speaker 1: So that's what I have to say about that. And

705
00:37:33,840 --> 00:37:37,440
Speaker 1: you know, I before we go to Seymour, and by

706
00:37:37,440 --> 00:37:39,440
Speaker 1: the way, thanks for talking to me for so long.

707
00:37:39,480 --> 00:37:41,400
Speaker 1: I hope that this I wanted to bring it all

708
00:37:41,400 --> 00:37:43,840
Speaker 1: back because I hope that this conversation was helpful to you.

709
00:37:44,120 --> 00:37:46,520
Speaker 1: I know that there was a I know that there

710
00:37:46,600 --> 00:37:48,960
Speaker 1: was a central thing that you wanted to talk about

711
00:37:48,960 --> 00:37:52,000
Speaker 1: that we have veered far away from and so I

712
00:37:52,040 --> 00:37:56,080
Speaker 1: just wanted to ask you if, like if there was

713
00:37:56,120 --> 00:37:58,800
Speaker 1: a particular thing that you wanted to talk to me about,

714
00:37:58,920 --> 00:38:01,759
Speaker 1: I guess, and if if you feel as though we've

715
00:38:01,880 --> 00:38:05,640
Speaker 1: covered that thing, or if there's any other aspect of

716
00:38:05,719 --> 00:38:08,239
Speaker 1: any of this that you wanted.

717
00:38:07,920 --> 00:38:12,560
Speaker 3: To knock like the same the advice you've given me today,

718
00:38:12,640 --> 00:38:16,040
Speaker 3: Like it's ultimately similar to the majority of advice I've

719
00:38:16,040 --> 00:38:18,360
Speaker 3: been given to I've been given by you know, my

720
00:38:18,480 --> 00:38:20,960
Speaker 3: friends and other people I've talked to about this stuff.

721
00:38:21,560 --> 00:38:25,040
Speaker 3: And it's like, ultimately it's like, I guess the main

722
00:38:25,080 --> 00:38:26,880
Speaker 3: reason I call it is man, It's like, you know,

723
00:38:26,920 --> 00:38:28,960
Speaker 3: it's like, you know what, I want to keep talking

724
00:38:29,200 --> 00:38:31,000
Speaker 3: more to people because I don't really get these I

725
00:38:31,040 --> 00:38:33,160
Speaker 3: don't feel like I don't get much of these opportunities

726
00:38:33,480 --> 00:38:35,200
Speaker 3: good or at least, you know, I was like, maybe

727
00:38:35,280 --> 00:38:37,399
Speaker 3: let me keep talking to people, see if, like if

728
00:38:37,400 --> 00:38:40,000
Speaker 3: maybe I will get another answer and maybe I'll get

729
00:38:40,040 --> 00:38:41,839
Speaker 3: a different point of view that I'm maybe even I'm

730
00:38:41,840 --> 00:38:44,239
Speaker 3: missing here. It's like again, it's like I want to

731
00:38:44,320 --> 00:38:47,320
Speaker 3: keep my eyes or my mind open to other ideas,

732
00:38:47,680 --> 00:38:51,200
Speaker 3: but ultimately, like I guess, be smart with how I

733
00:38:51,280 --> 00:38:53,920
Speaker 3: move because the whole met like, you know, not moving

734
00:38:54,000 --> 00:38:56,160
Speaker 3: in with my girlfriend for like a whole year's time

735
00:38:56,239 --> 00:38:59,040
Speaker 3: that after she's moved out is just again just me.

736
00:38:59,239 --> 00:39:02,680
Speaker 3: One one can sure that our relationship is gonna last,

737
00:39:02,719 --> 00:39:06,080
Speaker 3: because I mean, I mean, long distant relationships are really hard.

738
00:39:06,640 --> 00:39:08,319
Speaker 3: But also it's like, you know, I want to see, like,

739
00:39:09,520 --> 00:39:11,520
Speaker 3: you know, are you gonna be okay? Am I gonna

740
00:39:11,520 --> 00:39:13,359
Speaker 3: be okay when we finally move over there when I

741
00:39:13,400 --> 00:39:15,920
Speaker 3: when I finally Like the financial issue isn't really not

742
00:39:15,960 --> 00:39:17,600
Speaker 3: a poem. I'm not you know, in debt or nothing

743
00:39:17,680 --> 00:39:19,680
Speaker 3: like that. It's just you know, I want to see

744
00:39:19,719 --> 00:39:21,040
Speaker 3: where seam are seam where.

745
00:39:23,160 --> 00:39:24,160
Speaker 1: Two things before we go.

746
00:39:24,840 --> 00:39:25,040
Speaker 4: Uh.

747
00:39:25,080 --> 00:39:28,600
Speaker 1: One, I'm very glad. I'm very glad that it sounds

748
00:39:28,640 --> 00:39:31,640
Speaker 1: as though you're it sounds like this is me playing

749
00:39:31,680 --> 00:39:34,879
Speaker 1: fucking armchair therapist here. But you mentioned not being able

750
00:39:34,920 --> 00:39:37,640
Speaker 1: to express yourself that much when you were like a kid,

751
00:39:38,239 --> 00:39:42,160
Speaker 1: and I'm very glad that you are comfortable expressing yourself now.

752
00:39:42,600 --> 00:39:46,759
Speaker 1: But also, two, don't don't kill yourself with your brain, man,

753
00:39:46,840 --> 00:39:50,719
Speaker 1: because you're Yeah, I know you said it's just because

754
00:39:50,719 --> 00:39:53,880
Speaker 1: of the podcast, but you I can, I can like

755
00:39:54,040 --> 00:39:56,919
Speaker 1: feel your brain thinking a thousand thoughts a minute, and

756
00:39:56,920 --> 00:40:00,400
Speaker 1: and and uh, I don't know, I don't know. I

757
00:40:00,400 --> 00:40:05,040
Speaker 1: don't want to say calm down, but you know, don't uh,

758
00:40:05,120 --> 00:40:06,720
Speaker 1: don't kill yourself with your brain.

759
00:40:07,640 --> 00:40:08,799
Speaker 3: Don't overthink it.

760
00:40:09,200 --> 00:40:10,319
Speaker 1: Yeah, don't overthink it.

761
00:40:11,600 --> 00:40:15,359
Speaker 3: No, you're right man, No, I mean, I mean, yeah,

762
00:40:15,360 --> 00:40:16,879
Speaker 3: you've only been talking to me for like twenty five

763
00:40:16,880 --> 00:40:19,440
Speaker 3: minutes or whatever, like, but you hit me right on

764
00:40:19,480 --> 00:40:21,120
Speaker 3: the nail. Yeah, Like I am an.

765
00:40:20,960 --> 00:40:26,560
Speaker 1: Overthinker, Seymour, Is there anything else you want to say

766
00:40:26,640 --> 00:40:28,040
Speaker 1: to the people of the computer before we go?

767
00:40:32,320 --> 00:40:35,520
Speaker 3: This is actually the part I've actually been anticipating because,

768
00:40:35,560 --> 00:40:37,759
Speaker 3: like I always like listening to people what they say

769
00:40:37,840 --> 00:40:40,440
Speaker 3: at the end of this Yeah, uh, you mind if

770
00:40:40,480 --> 00:40:41,319
Speaker 3: I have I hit it with.

771
00:40:41,280 --> 00:40:43,600
Speaker 1: A joke, yes, say whatever you want.

772
00:40:44,719 --> 00:40:46,960
Speaker 3: Okay, uh, there with my bear with me because this

773
00:40:47,120 --> 00:40:47,880
Speaker 3: kind of drags on.

774
00:40:49,400 --> 00:40:51,319
Speaker 1: How long? Hold on? How long is this joke?

775
00:40:52,680 --> 00:40:54,839
Speaker 3: I'm gonna say at least a minute? All right, tell

776
00:40:54,880 --> 00:40:59,200
Speaker 3: the joke, okay, Okay. So it's showing to in this

777
00:40:59,239 --> 00:41:01,440
Speaker 3: class going on right now, and this little boy goes

778
00:41:01,520 --> 00:41:02,960
Speaker 3: up at the front of the class and he says,

779
00:41:03,000 --> 00:41:09,759
Speaker 3: I'm gonna show you all by dingling okay, okay, here.

780
00:41:10,640 --> 00:41:12,760
Speaker 3: The teacher sends him to the principal's office. The principals

781
00:41:12,760 --> 00:41:14,800
Speaker 3: ask him, you know, why are you here? He said,

782
00:41:15,040 --> 00:41:18,160
Speaker 3: because I wanted to show my dingling. The principal sends

783
00:41:18,200 --> 00:41:20,600
Speaker 3: him home. The parents ask him, why are you here?

784
00:41:21,120 --> 00:41:23,799
Speaker 3: He said, because I wanted to show my dingaling. The

785
00:41:23,840 --> 00:41:25,640
Speaker 3: parents send him outside. He gets hit by a car

786
00:41:25,680 --> 00:41:31,239
Speaker 3: and dies. So the boy goes up to heaven. Yes,

787
00:41:31,320 --> 00:41:33,440
Speaker 3: this is still going. The boy goes up to heaven

788
00:41:34,040 --> 00:41:36,719
Speaker 3: and God asked him, why are you here? Because I

789
00:41:36,719 --> 00:41:39,600
Speaker 3: wanted to show my dingling. God sends him to Hell,

790
00:41:40,120 --> 00:41:42,160
Speaker 3: and then the devil asked him, why are you here

791
00:41:42,560 --> 00:41:45,640
Speaker 3: because I wanted to show my dingling. The devil says, okay,

792
00:41:45,640 --> 00:41:47,920
Speaker 3: we'll show me your dingaling. The boy pulls out a

793
00:41:47,920 --> 00:41:54,719
Speaker 3: little bell for his pocket and goes have a good night.

794
00:41:54,800 --> 00:42:04,080
Speaker 1: Yet, yeah you too. That's a very nice joke about.

795
00:42:05,400 --> 00:42:05,600
Speaker 3: You know.

796
00:42:05,680 --> 00:42:08,520
Speaker 1: It's at first I was kind of appalled when Satan

797
00:42:08,640 --> 00:42:11,360
Speaker 1: asked to see the little boy's penis, but then it's like, well,

798
00:42:12,120 --> 00:42:16,600
Speaker 1: you know, he's Satan. Of course, Satan probably is a pedophile.

799
00:42:18,120 --> 00:42:21,840
Speaker 1: I would not consider that out of character for Satan

800
00:42:21,920 --> 00:42:26,520
Speaker 1: to want to see little boy penises. It seems that

801
00:42:26,640 --> 00:42:31,799
Speaker 1: seems apt of him. Hey guys, it's Lyle here. I'm

802
00:42:31,840 --> 00:42:34,799
Speaker 1: about to do some ad reads, but if you're a

803
00:42:34,840 --> 00:42:37,960
Speaker 1: premium member of the podcast, you will not hear them.

804
00:42:38,239 --> 00:42:41,719
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805
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806
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807
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Speaker 1: members only streams, and they support my ability to keep

808
00:42:52,920 --> 00:42:55,680
Speaker 1: doing this show for a long time, do it in cooler,

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Speaker 1: more interesting places, and also eat food, which is important.

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00:43:00,520 --> 00:43:02,440
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811
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813
00:43:10,920 --> 00:43:19,440
Speaker 1: All right, let's do some ads.

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00:43:16,280 --> 00:43:17,680
Speaker 4: All from violence?

815
00:43:19,600 --> 00:43:27,440
Speaker 1: Hello, Hello, Hi, what's your name? Violet Beauregard? From a

816
00:43:27,480 --> 00:43:32,319
Speaker 1: Series of Unfortunate Events? How you doing? Wait? Ship? That's not?

817
00:43:32,640 --> 00:43:34,520
Speaker 1: Is that from a Series of Unfortunate Events? Or is

818
00:43:34,520 --> 00:43:36,280
Speaker 1: that Willie Wonka?

819
00:43:36,520 --> 00:43:37,240
Speaker 4: No, it's.

820
00:43:39,000 --> 00:43:44,160
Speaker 1: Okay, I'm not sure. Violet Beauregard, she's the one that

821
00:43:44,280 --> 00:43:47,439
Speaker 1: likes to invent. No, wait, okay, there's a kid who

822
00:43:47,520 --> 00:43:50,560
Speaker 1: likes to read and a kid who likes to invent stuff,

823
00:43:50,920 --> 00:43:52,880
Speaker 1: the one that events or reads.

824
00:43:54,160 --> 00:43:56,120
Speaker 4: She's the one that invents. She's the one with a

825
00:43:56,120 --> 00:44:02,480
Speaker 4: little bow and out hat. Okay, yeah, this is insane.

826
00:44:02,600 --> 00:44:04,120
Speaker 4: I've loved you for years.

827
00:44:04,360 --> 00:44:09,560
Speaker 1: Oh thanks, Violet. Hell yeah, where we're in? Where in

828
00:44:09,560 --> 00:44:10,240
Speaker 1: in England?

829
00:44:10,239 --> 00:44:13,160
Speaker 3: That you call them from London?

830
00:44:13,560 --> 00:44:16,960
Speaker 4: I felt pretty strange. You've never had anyone from London

831
00:44:17,040 --> 00:44:18,080
Speaker 4: call you or England.

832
00:44:18,640 --> 00:44:22,520
Speaker 1: I've talked to people from England before I did a

833
00:44:22,560 --> 00:44:24,200
Speaker 1: show there. I did a show. I forget the name

834
00:44:24,239 --> 00:44:26,200
Speaker 1: of the venue, but I did two shows there. They

835
00:44:26,200 --> 00:44:26,800
Speaker 1: were really fun.

836
00:44:28,160 --> 00:44:29,319
Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean we've worked very well.

837
00:44:29,360 --> 00:44:29,680
Speaker 2: A book.

838
00:44:29,760 --> 00:44:31,040
Speaker 4: The next show you do in London?

839
00:44:31,120 --> 00:44:31,720
Speaker 2: Really excited?

840
00:44:32,080 --> 00:44:36,040
Speaker 1: Okay, cool, I'll come back over the pond soon. You can.

841
00:44:36,600 --> 00:44:38,640
Speaker 1: You can bring you can bring one of your famous

842
00:44:38,680 --> 00:44:41,560
Speaker 1: inventions and we'll talk about it on stage.

843
00:44:42,840 --> 00:44:44,520
Speaker 4: I will try.

844
00:44:46,560 --> 00:44:54,840
Speaker 1: Yeah, yes, please. I was going to ask, so I

845
00:44:54,880 --> 00:44:55,600
Speaker 1: thought you that's.

846
00:44:55,520 --> 00:45:00,680
Speaker 4: Interesting because my brother has been smoking weed for a

847
00:45:00,719 --> 00:45:12,720
Speaker 4: while now, and I think that it's become a problem.

848
00:45:13,239 --> 00:45:16,480
Speaker 1: What define a problem?

849
00:45:16,520 --> 00:45:21,080
Speaker 4: I think I think smoking weed can be like fun

850
00:45:21,280 --> 00:45:27,480
Speaker 4: and also like anxiety, reducing to a certain degree. But

851
00:45:27,640 --> 00:45:32,160
Speaker 4: I think the way in which he does it is

852
00:45:32,440 --> 00:45:33,440
Speaker 4: sort of damaging.

853
00:45:33,560 --> 00:45:35,200
Speaker 3: To him.

854
00:45:35,520 --> 00:45:44,520
Speaker 4: I think that he essentially smokes too much weed, okay,

855
00:45:46,160 --> 00:45:50,000
Speaker 4: And I was wondering because you talk about it quite openly.

856
00:45:50,520 --> 00:45:55,120
Speaker 4: Sure if you think that too much weed can be smoked.

857
00:45:55,480 --> 00:46:00,359
Speaker 1: Of course, yeah, of course. I mean it's crazy if

858
00:46:00,400 --> 00:46:05,080
Speaker 1: you think there's no negative adverse effects to smoking weed.

859
00:46:05,640 --> 00:46:09,120
Speaker 1: I mean, you're crazy. Of Course there's negative effects too,

860
00:46:09,920 --> 00:46:13,120
Speaker 1: you know, inhaling shit into your lungs. It's not air,

861
00:46:13,880 --> 00:46:17,520
Speaker 1: you know. And I'm not a doctor. I don't know shit,

862
00:46:18,480 --> 00:46:20,959
Speaker 1: you know. I mean, maybe it's maybe it's not. Maybe

863
00:46:20,960 --> 00:46:23,440
Speaker 1: it's maybe we's healthy for you. But if I had

864
00:46:23,440 --> 00:46:26,840
Speaker 1: to make a bet on it, I would say the opposite.

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00:46:29,000 --> 00:46:30,040
Speaker 1: How old your brother.

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00:46:32,360 --> 00:46:33,719
Speaker 4: Young? Eighteen?

867
00:46:34,520 --> 00:46:38,400
Speaker 1: He's eighteen, okay, does he have like goals for his life?

868
00:46:40,920 --> 00:46:44,600
Speaker 4: I mean he's really clever that he.

869
00:46:46,040 --> 00:46:46,759
Speaker 2: Has.

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00:46:46,920 --> 00:46:49,759
Speaker 4: The thing that like I take issue with is that

871
00:46:50,440 --> 00:46:55,200
Speaker 4: he's really really intelligent. But because of weed, I think,

872
00:46:55,480 --> 00:46:58,600
Speaker 4: and there's my opinion, probably not like everyone else's general opinion,

873
00:46:58,960 --> 00:47:02,880
Speaker 4: but I think it's made him sort of less enthusiastic

874
00:47:03,800 --> 00:47:10,960
Speaker 4: about doing well academically, if that makes sense, because I

875
00:47:10,960 --> 00:47:13,560
Speaker 4: don't really know why, but I know Loweople smoke weed

876
00:47:13,560 --> 00:47:19,719
Speaker 4: and they're normally not as sort of what's the word,

877
00:47:19,960 --> 00:47:24,160
Speaker 4: like sort of just just lulled into a sense of

878
00:47:25,800 --> 00:47:29,400
Speaker 4: not really caring about that academic success because of weed.

879
00:47:29,480 --> 00:47:33,960
Speaker 4: But he has sort of doesn't care anymore. He just

880
00:47:34,000 --> 00:47:36,399
Speaker 4: wants to sort of smoke weeds, sit in his room

881
00:47:36,440 --> 00:47:40,120
Speaker 4: and play video games, which is fine, and I think

882
00:47:40,120 --> 00:47:42,760
Speaker 4: that's completely fine. But I think he could achieve much more,

883
00:47:43,080 --> 00:47:45,759
Speaker 4: which is why I'm worried. But I don't know if

884
00:47:45,760 --> 00:47:49,680
Speaker 4: that's a cause for concern or anything. It's just he

885
00:47:49,760 --> 00:47:55,279
Speaker 4: seems he's like pulled away from social interaction and he

886
00:47:55,440 --> 00:47:57,640
Speaker 4: is really intelligent, but he just doesn't really seem like

887
00:47:57,640 --> 00:47:59,360
Speaker 4: he wants to engage that anymore.

888
00:47:59,000 --> 00:47:59,360
Speaker 3: Because of.

889
00:48:01,120 --> 00:48:07,560
Speaker 1: M hm, how old are you me? Yeah?

890
00:48:07,640 --> 00:48:10,080
Speaker 4: You I'm pretty four.

891
00:48:10,680 --> 00:48:13,719
Speaker 1: Four okay, so you're you're You've got some years on

892
00:48:13,840 --> 00:48:17,879
Speaker 1: the boy, he could say, does he does he?

893
00:48:18,400 --> 00:48:18,840
Speaker 3: Uh?

894
00:48:19,040 --> 00:48:20,920
Speaker 1: Do you have agult? What's your relationship like with it

895
00:48:20,920 --> 00:48:22,879
Speaker 1: with the boy?

896
00:48:23,560 --> 00:48:26,719
Speaker 4: Yeah? I love the boy. I love him dearly, but

897
00:48:28,000 --> 00:48:30,680
Speaker 4: I definitely am worried about him.

898
00:48:31,040 --> 00:48:31,680
Speaker 2: I think.

899
00:48:33,680 --> 00:48:38,760
Speaker 4: I think that he doesn't like as most eighteen year olds,

900
00:48:38,840 --> 00:48:43,680
Speaker 4: he doesn't really know who he is. And I'm not

901
00:48:43,680 --> 00:48:45,960
Speaker 4: saying that LIE know who I am, but he really

902
00:48:46,000 --> 00:48:49,000
Speaker 4: doesn't know who he is, and I think that he's

903
00:48:49,040 --> 00:48:56,000
Speaker 4: trying to grasp the straws of that through weed and

904
00:48:56,080 --> 00:49:00,759
Speaker 4: alcohol and sort of attention from other people. And I

905
00:49:00,760 --> 00:49:03,319
Speaker 4: don't think I do you're healthy. But every time I

906
00:49:03,360 --> 00:49:05,480
Speaker 4: say to him, maybe you should smoke less weed, he

907
00:49:05,560 --> 00:49:09,120
Speaker 4: gets three defensive buy and or weed's actually great for

908
00:49:09,200 --> 00:49:11,360
Speaker 4: you and like we actually look really healthy for you.

909
00:49:11,440 --> 00:49:15,480
Speaker 4: And I don't really know how to say to him

910
00:49:15,560 --> 00:49:18,400
Speaker 4: that weed can be great for you, but it also

911
00:49:18,640 --> 00:49:23,600
Speaker 4: can have really sort of negative cos well.

912
00:49:23,600 --> 00:49:26,360
Speaker 1: Also, he lives in London, so he's buying his weed

913
00:49:26,440 --> 00:49:29,600
Speaker 1: from like clockwork orange looking guys instead of a store.

914
00:49:31,080 --> 00:49:34,680
Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean a lot of people smoke weed in London,

915
00:49:34,800 --> 00:49:40,120
Speaker 4: but a lot of that weed is probably not very

916
00:49:40,120 --> 00:49:40,560
Speaker 4: good for you.

917
00:49:43,280 --> 00:49:45,000
Speaker 1: Well, I mean, look at the end of the day,

918
00:49:45,040 --> 00:49:47,080
Speaker 1: when it comes to all things like this, where you

919
00:49:47,120 --> 00:49:51,600
Speaker 1: know it's not you, it's your family or friends, it's like,

920
00:49:56,239 --> 00:49:58,160
Speaker 1: do you tell him all these things? Do you tell

921
00:49:58,200 --> 00:50:00,600
Speaker 1: them why you think you shouldn't smoke weed? Do you

922
00:50:00,640 --> 00:50:06,360
Speaker 1: tell him like things beyond that, because he's because he

923
00:50:06,440 --> 00:50:09,920
Speaker 1: can say like because like whatever medical thing he thinks

924
00:50:10,040 --> 00:50:12,920
Speaker 1: or read and on a on Reddit or a podcast

925
00:50:13,000 --> 00:50:16,200
Speaker 1: or whatever. Where he's like, oh, it's actually making me better,

926
00:50:16,880 --> 00:50:21,759
Speaker 1: you can be like, well, we decide what the fuck

927
00:50:21,800 --> 00:50:25,319
Speaker 1: are you doing with your life? You know, if it's

928
00:50:25,440 --> 00:50:29,200
Speaker 1: it's it seems like it's making you lazy or or

929
00:50:29,520 --> 00:50:32,359
Speaker 1: or from an outsider perspective, it doesn't seem like it's

930
00:50:32,360 --> 00:50:35,160
Speaker 1: actually really helping you. Because look, I mean, I've been

931
00:50:35,200 --> 00:50:38,879
Speaker 1: smoking weed super regularly since I was I mean, fuck,

932
00:50:38,920 --> 00:50:43,719
Speaker 1: I guess for a decade now. But it did it,

933
00:50:44,400 --> 00:50:46,640
Speaker 1: and it has had its bad effects, but it never

934
00:50:46,680 --> 00:50:51,440
Speaker 1: really like messed with the uh main quest of of

935
00:50:51,440 --> 00:50:55,160
Speaker 1: of my life, you know. So ye, for him, it's

936
00:50:55,200 --> 00:50:58,280
Speaker 1: like he's got to have a main quest.

937
00:50:58,840 --> 00:51:03,080
Speaker 4: Do you find that you, or like people around you

938
00:51:03,120 --> 00:51:05,080
Speaker 4: smoke weed because you're anxious.

939
00:51:05,640 --> 00:51:08,040
Speaker 1: I smoke weed because I'm anxious all the time. Yeah,

940
00:51:08,080 --> 00:51:08,479
Speaker 1: for sure.

941
00:51:09,000 --> 00:51:12,480
Speaker 4: Yeah. I think that's like probably the core of it

942
00:51:12,600 --> 00:51:17,359
Speaker 4: for him, which makes me feel like worse for saying, oh,

943
00:51:17,560 --> 00:51:20,920
Speaker 4: maybe you don't. But that's only because he's young. If

944
00:51:20,920 --> 00:51:24,880
Speaker 4: he was older, I would think it was different. But

945
00:51:24,960 --> 00:51:27,359
Speaker 4: I feel even worse being like, I can tell you're

946
00:51:27,400 --> 00:51:30,600
Speaker 4: really anxious, and I can tell you're trying to offset

947
00:51:30,680 --> 00:51:34,319
Speaker 4: that by making me because I know that helps, but

948
00:51:34,960 --> 00:51:40,840
Speaker 4: it's having sort of adverse consequences that are making you active.

949
00:51:40,920 --> 00:51:43,640
Speaker 1: Does that make sense, Yeah, of course. I mean especially

950
00:51:43,640 --> 00:51:45,560
Speaker 1: when you're I mean if you're when you're eighteen and

951
00:51:45,600 --> 00:51:49,680
Speaker 1: you don't really like know, you know, as you're talking about,

952
00:51:49,680 --> 00:51:51,960
Speaker 1: as you're you're figuring out your life. I mean, it's

953
00:51:52,000 --> 00:51:55,879
Speaker 1: a crazy anxious time, and I can totally see him

954
00:51:55,880 --> 00:51:58,040
Speaker 1: being like, I just don't want to deal with this

955
00:51:58,640 --> 00:52:02,480
Speaker 1: right fucking now, I'm going to get high.

956
00:52:03,120 --> 00:52:06,239
Speaker 4: I think that's actually really like poorly really relatable for him. Like,

957
00:52:06,320 --> 00:52:10,000
Speaker 4: I think his main issue is, like it's like the personally,

958
00:52:10,000 --> 00:52:14,000
Speaker 4: I've always wanted to grow up and be older and

959
00:52:14,120 --> 00:52:18,400
Speaker 4: like exist in the world. He's always sort of wanted

960
00:52:18,400 --> 00:52:21,839
Speaker 4: to sort of revert back to being a child and

961
00:52:21,880 --> 00:52:24,360
Speaker 4: like not exist in the big scary world and not

962
00:52:24,480 --> 00:52:26,360
Speaker 4: be perceived, if.

963
00:52:26,320 --> 00:52:27,000
Speaker 2: That makes sense.

964
00:52:27,719 --> 00:52:29,480
Speaker 4: And I think that has a lot to do with

965
00:52:29,520 --> 00:52:32,160
Speaker 4: his weed smoking. I think that's like common with a

966
00:52:32,160 --> 00:52:33,080
Speaker 4: lot of boys as well.

967
00:52:34,440 --> 00:52:39,200
Speaker 1: Yeah, do you want to well, well, look, I mean

968
00:52:39,200 --> 00:52:40,920
Speaker 1: it sounds like you're a good sister for caring this

969
00:52:41,080 --> 00:52:43,520
Speaker 1: much about him and trying.

970
00:52:43,719 --> 00:52:46,239
Speaker 4: This much, But I was just wondering, like from a

971
00:52:46,320 --> 00:52:50,480
Speaker 4: weed smoker's perspective, if you had any advice or sort.

972
00:52:50,320 --> 00:52:53,160
Speaker 1: Of have you Have you ever tried? You ever try weed?

973
00:52:55,320 --> 00:52:55,600
Speaker 4: I have?

974
00:52:57,120 --> 00:52:59,680
Speaker 2: I like, I liked it for a while, but.

975
00:53:01,239 --> 00:53:04,600
Speaker 4: It never really sort of I was never really obsessed

976
00:53:04,600 --> 00:53:07,279
Speaker 4: with that that this is lovely. This you feel quite

977
00:53:07,320 --> 00:53:10,920
Speaker 4: sort of calm or relaxed. But I think also like

978
00:53:11,000 --> 00:53:13,520
Speaker 4: one thing to note is that wherever you are, I'm

979
00:53:13,520 --> 00:53:17,720
Speaker 4: not going to guess, but I imagine that generally in America

980
00:53:17,880 --> 00:53:23,200
Speaker 4: weed is of a higher quality. In the UK, weed

981
00:53:23,280 --> 00:53:27,040
Speaker 4: here is quite heavily filled with things that it probably

982
00:53:27,080 --> 00:53:30,479
Speaker 4: shouldn't be, and it can actually make you much more

983
00:53:30,520 --> 00:53:33,960
Speaker 4: anxious and paranoid than you probably should be. So a

984
00:53:34,000 --> 00:53:37,040
Speaker 4: few times that's weird. Definitely, this is kind of scary

985
00:53:37,080 --> 00:53:40,319
Speaker 4: and awful, which is probably not the experience you should have,

986
00:53:40,520 --> 00:53:41,160
Speaker 4: if that makes sense.

987
00:53:41,200 --> 00:53:44,080
Speaker 1: I feel like smoking weed in London. It just makes

988
00:53:44,120 --> 00:53:46,920
Speaker 1: you see everything like you're in Wallace and Gramat.

989
00:53:48,600 --> 00:53:52,320
Speaker 4: Yeah, noclamation.

990
00:53:53,160 --> 00:53:55,800
Speaker 1: Everyone's talking in British accents. It sounds scary.

991
00:53:57,440 --> 00:53:59,800
Speaker 4: The British actions are in a sense.

992
00:53:59,680 --> 00:54:00,440
Speaker 2: Really fight man.

993
00:54:02,640 --> 00:54:06,680
Speaker 1: Well, listen, Violet. It's nice that you care that much

994
00:54:06,680 --> 00:54:08,480
Speaker 1: about your brother. I hope he figures this stuff out.

995
00:54:08,600 --> 00:54:11,759
Speaker 1: He's only eighteen too, you know. I mean, here's the

996
00:54:11,840 --> 00:54:13,880
Speaker 1: thing about your brother too, And this is why I

997
00:54:13,920 --> 00:54:16,480
Speaker 1: don't think you should be so worried. Is that your

998
00:54:16,520 --> 00:54:22,200
Speaker 1: brother can like smoke weed and not do anything for like,

999
00:54:23,160 --> 00:54:27,759
Speaker 1: for like a pretty long time without it being a

1000
00:54:27,920 --> 00:54:34,279
Speaker 1: ginormous problem. He's got about. Your brother's got about I'm

1001
00:54:34,280 --> 00:54:37,680
Speaker 1: gonna say I wouldn't even put a number on it.

1002
00:54:37,800 --> 00:54:39,880
Speaker 1: Maybe twelve of you. I don't know. Your brother's got

1003
00:54:40,520 --> 00:54:44,240
Speaker 1: several years ahead of him where he can do nothing

1004
00:54:44,600 --> 00:54:47,960
Speaker 1: and get high all day and like he's he's not

1005
00:54:48,000 --> 00:54:51,520
Speaker 1: gonna die, you know, right. I mean, it's not like

1006
00:54:51,520 --> 00:54:53,560
Speaker 1: he's addicted to heroin. If he was addicted to heroin,

1007
00:54:53,640 --> 00:54:57,520
Speaker 1: he would have less than twelve years, but much much

1008
00:54:57,640 --> 00:55:02,360
Speaker 1: less so, so you know, he's I think he's going

1009
00:55:02,440 --> 00:55:04,439
Speaker 1: to be Okay, I think you gotta let you gotta

1010
00:55:04,520 --> 00:55:05,960
Speaker 1: let this ship play out.

1011
00:55:07,160 --> 00:55:08,919
Speaker 4: Okay, Well you put my mind at ease.

1012
00:55:09,200 --> 00:55:12,480
Speaker 1: Thank you so much, Violet. Is there anything else you

1013
00:55:12,520 --> 00:55:14,040
Speaker 1: want to say to the people of the computer before

1014
00:55:14,040 --> 00:55:14,319
Speaker 1: we go?

1015
00:55:16,160 --> 00:55:19,160
Speaker 4: I want to say, please try not to make fun

1016
00:55:19,200 --> 00:55:21,840
Speaker 4: of my British accent, and thank you so much for listening.

1017
00:55:22,440 --> 00:55:26,160
Speaker 4: And also don't worry about your weird family members doing

1018
00:55:26,160 --> 00:55:28,120
Speaker 4: their weird things, because.

1019
00:55:28,360 --> 00:55:29,560
Speaker 1: By weird, what doing my weird?

1020
00:55:29,800 --> 00:55:34,239
Speaker 4: I say that again, your strange, weird family members doing

1021
00:55:34,280 --> 00:55:38,360
Speaker 4: whatever they might be doing, they'll probably end up being okay.

1022
00:55:39,680 --> 00:55:43,439
Speaker 1: Yes, yes, Never ask your parents if they swing, because

1023
00:55:43,480 --> 00:55:50,200
Speaker 1: you won't want to know the answer. I'll talk to

1024
00:55:50,280 --> 00:55:55,160
Speaker 1: you later, Violet. Thank you for calling. Bye low bye, Violet.

1025
00:55:56,800 --> 00:56:04,200
Speaker 1: Ye make fun of your accent. I would never Oi

1026
00:56:04,280 --> 00:56:13,720
Speaker 1: would never, Oi would never never never Grommets, I've actually

1027
00:56:13,760 --> 00:56:20,839
Speaker 1: seen Wallace and Grommets. Grommet, Yes, Wallas, that did sound

1028
00:56:20,960 --> 00:56:24,359
Speaker 1: that didn't sound very British. All right, hello folks, it's

1029
00:56:24,440 --> 00:56:28,120
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Speaker 5: Yeah, like so him and I never got along at

1041
00:57:10,040 --> 00:57:12,560
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1042
00:57:12,600 --> 00:57:15,200
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1043
00:57:15,400 --> 00:57:18,240
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1044
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1045
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1047
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Speaker 1: if you don't like somebody, you just get a gun

1048
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1049
00:57:31,440 --> 00:57:35,360
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1050
00:57:35,720 --> 00:57:40,520
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1051
00:57:41,160 --> 00:57:44,960
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1052
00:57:45,000 --> 00:57:47,440
Speaker 1: in the face and then they die. That part. It's

1053
00:57:47,480 --> 00:57:49,480
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1054
00:57:49,560 --> 00:57:53,240
Speaker 1: jail forever. But it's pretty crazy you don't have this.

1055
00:57:53,440 --> 00:57:57,760
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