Speaker 1: We don't plan for the voice in our head. We go, Okay,
Speaker 1: I've made this commitment. I've decided Jay, that I'm going
Speaker 1: to go to the gym tomorrow. I've decided that I'm
Speaker 1: going to work on my book for four hours. I've
Speaker 1: decided I'm going to start a podcast. And we think
Speaker 1: when we make that decision, there's going to be no opposition.
Speaker 1: But every decision you make will have opposition in your head.
Speaker 1: You wake up early, the voice says, go back to bed.
Speaker 1: Hey everyone, welcome back to On Purpose, the number one
Speaker 1: health podcast in the world. Thanks to each and every
Speaker 1: single one of you that come back every week to listen,
Speaker 1: learn and grow. Now we've been having an incredible number
Speaker 1: of listens right now and that is thanks to each
Speaker 1: and every single one of you. It means the world
Speaker 1: to me. And I wanted to take a moment to
Speaker 1: read your reviews again. When you leave a review, please
Speaker 1: leave your name, because I want to say it. I
Speaker 1: want to shout you out, and then I want you
Speaker 1: to come up to me one day and be like, Jay,
Speaker 1: that was my review, and then I'll give you a
Speaker 1: big hug and it would just be amazing. This is
Speaker 1: from LG. Jay, you are such a young, refreshing voice
Speaker 1: of wisdom. Thank you for your positive messages and teachings
Speaker 1: in such a way that I can pass along to
Speaker 1: my young adult kids. They love you too. Thank you,
Speaker 1: LG LG. I appreciate you and I'm so grateful for you.
Speaker 1: This is from Rochelle. I try to listen every day.
Speaker 1: This is the best podcast I've ever come across. Thank you,
Speaker 1: Jay for all your thoughtfulness and attention to details. You
Speaker 1: have not only helped myself but also my husband. We
Speaker 1: typically listen to episodes separately and then discuss them together
Speaker 1: of what we learned. That is such a great idea.
Speaker 1: By the way, I have your book and I'm reading
Speaker 1: it now. I take it with me through the day,
Speaker 1: and even looking at the cover makes me stop and
Speaker 1: be a little more present. The meditations you've done on
Speaker 1: YouTube have been incredible. Thank you for making those. By
Speaker 1: the way, check out the ones on Calm Calm Doc
Speaker 1: Forward Slash Jay. Thank you for being you, Rachelle. I
Speaker 1: really really appreciate these amazing, amazing messages. Thank you so much.
Speaker 1: I'm going to find one more. I'm literally scrolling through
Speaker 1: the app right now. This is Felicity this is special.
Speaker 1: Been listening since twenty nineteen, when I was fresh out
Speaker 1: of college and didn't know my place in this world.
Speaker 1: You helped see a different perspective of life. I continue
Speaker 1: to listen and grow into a completely different person who's
Speaker 1: always trying to express love and compassion wherever I go.
Speaker 1: Thank you, Jay, keep making this killer podcast, and I
Speaker 1: will continue to thrive Felicity. Thank you so much. Those
Speaker 1: are just three of the incredible messages and reviews that
Speaker 1: I've seen recently. Please keep leaving them. I do read
Speaker 1: them myself. I do love sharing them. We're at seventeen thousand,
Speaker 1: three hundred reviews. I would love to go to twenty
Speaker 1: thousand this year. It helps podcasts so much. So I
Speaker 1: want to dive straight into today's topic because this came
Speaker 1: from a question and I've thought about this again and
Speaker 1: again and again. Someone asked me recently, Jay, what's the
Speaker 1: most important skill you have or what's the most important
Speaker 1: skill you think the people that you respect have? And
Speaker 1: I spend a lot of time thinking about it. I
Speaker 1: was like, is it meditation? Is it knowing how to
Speaker 1: set goals? Is it being resilient? Is it having motivation?
Speaker 1: Like I was trying to figure out what it was,
Speaker 1: and the honest answer that keeps coming up again and
Speaker 1: again and again is that this skill is to get
Speaker 1: something done even when you don't feel like it. This
Speaker 1: is the number one skill to get something done, to
Speaker 1: do something, to make it happen even when you don't
Speaker 1: feel like it, because you're not always going to feel
Speaker 1: like it. People think when you do something you love,
Speaker 1: you always want to do it. We think that we
Speaker 1: should always want to feel like doing things, but our
Speaker 1: feelings are not always aligned with who we want to
Speaker 1: be or how we want to feel. I'll give you
Speaker 1: an example of what I mean by that. Chances are
Speaker 1: that you don't always feel like doing the things that
Speaker 1: are good for you. Chances are you don't feel like
Speaker 1: doing the things you need to do. But we all
Speaker 1: know that when we do them, we feel better about ourselves.
Speaker 1: We know when we do them we create a stronger
Speaker 1: sense of confidence and identity. I never felt like going
Speaker 1: to public speaking classes or drama classes that my parents
Speaker 1: forced me to go to. Today I am so grateful
Speaker 1: to them. I never felt like doing my homework and
Speaker 1: learning in the evenings, But today I'm so grateful to
Speaker 1: my parents for making me do that. I don't think
Speaker 1: I ever felt like going to work, but by going
Speaker 1: to work, I was able to learn how to share
Speaker 1: meditation in those spaces. I don't think I ever felt
Speaker 1: like moving country, or moving city or moving state, but
Speaker 1: when I did, it expanded my vision. So many of
Speaker 1: the most amazing things, not just in my life, but
Speaker 1: in the lives of the people you admire, the people
Speaker 1: you respect, the people you look up to. They did
Speaker 1: things they didn't feel like. So let's dive into what
Speaker 1: are the ways to get something done even when you
Speaker 1: don't feel like it because you have this idea that
Speaker 1: I should feel motivated. I get that question a lot, Jay,
Speaker 1: how do I feel motivated? It's like, I want to
Speaker 1: feel motivated before I do something. I want to feel
Speaker 1: inspired before I do something. And the thing about motivation
Speaker 1: and inspiration is you can keep filling your life with
Speaker 1: those to try and do something, but you're not always
Speaker 1: going to be motivated. I'll give you an example. Comedians
Speaker 1: don't always want to tell jokes. Therapists don't always want
Speaker 1: to listen, basketball players don't always want to play. Everyone
Speaker 1: has to do their job even when they don't feel
Speaker 1: like it, and that includes us, but today I want
Speaker 1: to share with you the ways to make it powerful
Speaker 1: and potent in a way that will change your life.
Speaker 1: The first thing I want to talk to you about
Speaker 1: is intrinsic versus extrinsic motivators. So extrinsic motivators are like,
Speaker 1: I'm doing this because it will help me buy that house.
Speaker 1: I'm doing this because it will help me get that car.
Speaker 1: I'm doing this because it helps me go on vacation
Speaker 1: every year. These are extrinsic motivators. It's tied to an external,
Speaker 1: tangible thing that you want to get, and that's where
Speaker 1: motivation runs out. That's where inspiration runs out. That's where
Speaker 1: we stop wanting to feel like we want to do it,
Speaker 1: because we go, well, maybe I don't need that, maybe
Speaker 1: I don't want that. Now. Studies show that intrinsic motivation
Speaker 1: leads to greater persistence. This study by Adam Grant talks
Speaker 1: about how pro social motivation is essentially being motivated by
Speaker 1: a desire to protect or promote other people's well being
Speaker 1: without seeking to gain any personal benefits. When intrinsic motivation
Speaker 1: is high, does it have any impact on pro social
Speaker 1: motivation and persistence? As a result, Adam Grant's study, again
Speaker 1: another on purpose guest we've had, suggests it does by
Speaker 1: acting to strengthen the relationship between the two. In the research,
Speaker 1: firefighters who reported high levels of both pro social and
Speaker 1: intrinsic motivation then went on to demonstrate greater persistence by
Speaker 1: subsequently working considerably more overtime hours per week over a
Speaker 1: two month period. The desire to help others had resulted
Speaker 1: in increased effort and increased levels of persistence. That's intrinsic motivator.
Speaker 1: So I know that my podcast serves you. It helps you.
Speaker 1: So there are days or weeks when I'm tired, when
Speaker 1: I'm thinking I don't have that much time, but I
Speaker 1: know that I'm going to prepare, I'm going to research,
Speaker 1: I'm going to get my notes ready, and I'm going
Speaker 1: to do this because I know you're waiting on the
Speaker 1: other side. I know that you're expecting this. Now. If
Speaker 1: I was really tired, i'd be honest with you and say, hey, guys,
Speaker 1: i'm tired. I'm not sure, but I just want to
Speaker 1: be here with you, right, I just want to be
Speaker 1: present with you. I would always be honest with you,
Speaker 1: but I like showing up for that reason. There's a
Speaker 1: twenty twelve study from Choen Perry that showed that intrinsic
Speaker 1: motives have three times the impact on employee engagement levels
Speaker 1: compared to extrinsic motives. The research found that intrinsic motivation
Speaker 1: was positively associated with employee satisfaction and unsurprisingly was negatively
Speaker 1: associated with the intention to right. So the idea of
Speaker 1: intrinsic motivation is shown across the board no matter what
Speaker 1: area of life are in now. They also linked intrinsic
Speaker 1: motivation to learning. One of the findings in Grand Valley
Speaker 1: State University identified that these kinds of external motivators can
Speaker 1: actually slow learning down and lead to students making more
Speaker 1: errors during the learning process. What really matters is the
Speaker 1: level of intrinsic motivation and how much the student wants
Speaker 1: to learn. If the students learning because it's fulfilling them
Speaker 1: and it's enjoyable, rather than because they're fixated on getting
Speaker 1: high grades. So I ask you this today, when you
Speaker 1: don't want to do something, is it because the external
Speaker 1: reward is not good enough? And you may be one
Speaker 1: of those people. I have a lot of people in
Speaker 1: my life and say, jo, I'm not ambitious. I don't
Speaker 1: want more money, I don't want a bigger house. I'm
Speaker 1: happy with what I have, Sure, but we still have
Speaker 1: to get joy from what we do. We still have
Speaker 1: to experience it now. But how do we get things
Speaker 1: done when we don't feel like it? We remind ourselves
Speaker 1: of that intrinsic motivator. Why are you doing it? What
Speaker 1: is the reason you're doing it? Why are you here
Speaker 1: right now? Why are you turning up? Make it about
Speaker 1: that intrinsic motivation. The second way to get everything done
Speaker 1: even when you don't feel like it is everything must
Speaker 1: be in your schedule. If you don't have a plan,
Speaker 1: you don't have an approach. It's easy to miss the
Speaker 1: stuff you don't feel like. When I wake up and
Speaker 1: look at my schedule in the morning, it already has
Speaker 1: everything I have to do today. And when I look
Speaker 1: at everything I have to do today, I know that
Speaker 1: I will get it done because it's in my calendar,
Speaker 1: it's properly planned out. But if I didn't have it,
Speaker 1: then I might miss the stuff I don't feel like.
Speaker 1: And that's what we do. We avoid the stuff we
Speaker 1: don't feel like doing. It gets bigger and bigger and bigger,
Speaker 1: it gets harder and harder and harder, and then by
Speaker 1: the time you get to it, you know, you're saying
Speaker 1: to yourself, why did I do this to myself? Right like,
Speaker 1: why did I put myself in this position? Why did
Speaker 1: I start earlier? Schedule? Put it in your calendar, break
Speaker 1: it down. Stop putting things off because you don't feel
Speaker 1: like doing them. Because when you don't feel like doing something,
Speaker 1: it's going to feel a lot harder in the long
Speaker 1: run to actually do it. Make a plan, put it
Speaker 1: in your schedule, commit to it, and prepare everything the
Speaker 1: night before. I know the night before when I'm recording
Speaker 1: my podcast that my recorder and my microphone are already
Speaker 1: here on my desk, so I don't have to think, oh,
Speaker 1: I need to go and get it from somewhere. It's like,
Speaker 1: you know what it's like. It's like when you want
Speaker 1: to watch TV and then the remotes on the other
Speaker 1: side of the room and you're like, oh, it's all
Speaker 1: the way on the other side, right or my charger.
Speaker 1: Oh no, it's in the bedroom. I'm not going to
Speaker 1: get it. Make it easy for yourself. Make it simple
Speaker 1: for yourself. I leave a book in every room that
Speaker 1: I spend time in so that in a spare moment,
Speaker 1: instead of jumping on my phone, I'll jump to a book.
Speaker 1: I keep my workout clothes ready the night before so
Speaker 1: that when I wake up in the morning, it's not
Speaker 1: a long process to convince myself to put them on
Speaker 1: and go to the gym. I creep the mic right
Speaker 1: on my desk right now where I am recording this,
Speaker 1: because I want to make it easy for myself, schedule it,
Speaker 1: plan it, and make it really, really practical. This third
Speaker 1: one is probably a huge one. It's a big one. Actually,
Speaker 1: it's a really important one for me, because I spent
Speaker 1: a lot of my monk life doing this. Plan for
Speaker 1: the voice in your head. We don't plan for the
Speaker 1: voice in our head. We go, Okay, I've made this commitment.
Speaker 1: I've decided Jay, then I'm going to go to the
Speaker 1: gym tomorrow. I've decided that I'm going to work on
Speaker 1: my book for four hours. I've decided I'm going to
Speaker 1: start a podcast. And we think when we make that decision,
Speaker 1: there's going to be no opposition. We think, when we've
Speaker 1: made that decision, there will be no resistance. But every
Speaker 1: decision you make will have position in your head. You
Speaker 1: wake up early, the voice says, go back to bed.
Speaker 1: You're trying to eat healthy. The voice says, it's okay,
Speaker 1: a little bit won't hurt. You're trying to start something new,
Speaker 1: a new habit, a new focus. The voice says, just relax,
Speaker 1: calm down. Who cares? And when we hear that voice,
Speaker 1: we either follow it or we resent it. We get
Speaker 1: mad at ourselves. We judge ourselves. We become critical of ourselves.
Speaker 1: Why can't I just do this? What's wrong with me?
Speaker 1: Or we follow it and then we regret it and
Speaker 1: we say, oh, I wish I didn't follow it. I
Speaker 1: knew I shouldn't have. Okay, let me go back. Never
Speaker 1: again will I ever eat unhealthy food? Ever? Again? How
Speaker 1: do we get things done even when we don't feel
Speaker 1: like it. We plan for the voice in our head
Speaker 1: because it's the voice that doesn't feel like it's not us.
Speaker 1: We know it's important. You know it's important to read more,
Speaker 1: to work out more, to eat healthier. You know it's
Speaker 1: important to serve more, to help people. You know it's
Speaker 1: important to overcome your ego. You know it's important to
Speaker 1: not fight over little things. But then, why does the
Speaker 1: voice in our head, mislead us. Here's why, because we
Speaker 1: don't create an alternative script to communicate and conversate with
Speaker 1: that voice. When that voice becomes strong, our voice becomes weak.
Speaker 1: When the volume on that voice turnds loud, the volume
Speaker 1: on our voice goes weak because we don't have a script.
Speaker 1: So one thing I did when I lived as a
Speaker 1: monk is that for every emotion I felt, which is
Speaker 1: something I didn't want to feel, like the idea of pride,
Speaker 1: or ego, or the idea of arrogance, I created a script.
Speaker 1: When the voice in my head would start saying, don't
Speaker 1: wake up for today's meditation. You are okay to have
Speaker 1: a big ego, I would create a script that I
Speaker 1: would not only write out, but that I would practice.
Speaker 1: I would even role play, so that when that voice
Speaker 1: came up in my head, I actually had a script
Speaker 1: to combat it with. So when mind says you don't
Speaker 1: need to go to the gym, so how do I
Speaker 1: get something done when I don't feel like it. I
Speaker 1: don't feel like going to the gym, that's the voice
Speaker 1: in my head. But my script says you always feel
Speaker 1: amazing when you leave. My script says you want to
Speaker 1: be fit and healthy to serve. My script says, if
Speaker 1: you don't work out today, you'll regret it tomorrow. My
Speaker 1: script says you deeply enjoy being a healthy, focused individual.
Speaker 1: My script says you're able to do better mental work
Speaker 1: when you've done a physical workout. Notice how if you
Speaker 1: have all those arguments ready, it's almost like planning for
Speaker 1: a debate. If you deeply understand your weaknesses, you can
Speaker 1: create strength in your debate. And now, when you hear
Speaker 1: that voice, you already know how to talk to yourself,
Speaker 1: so you don't just listen to it. So how do
Speaker 1: you get things done even when you don't feel like it?
Speaker 1: You have a script to talk to that voice that
Speaker 1: doesn't feel like it, because it's not you that doesn't
Speaker 1: feel like it. It's that voice. And that voice has
Speaker 1: been built on conditioning and patterns and the human laziness
Speaker 1: and complacency to say, of course, I'd rather sit around
Speaker 1: all day. But if I just sit in bed all
Speaker 1: day because I don't feel like getting up, chances are
Speaker 1: I don't feel better later on. That's the interesting thing, right,
Speaker 1: The mind tricks us, The voice tricks us. It says, Oh,
Speaker 1: don't get out of bed, you don't feel great, But
Speaker 1: then if you spend your whole day in bed, you
Speaker 1: don't feel great either. So we have to learn not
Speaker 1: always to trust how we feel in an instance. Right, Yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm not telling you to not trust your feelings, but
Speaker 1: you can't trust how you feel in a millisecond of
Speaker 1: a moment and expand that feeling out. Number four is
Speaker 1: pushed through, and measure how you feel after, not before,
Speaker 1: focus on the feelings after. Now, this is a memory thing.
Speaker 1: The mind holds on to negative memories and negative experiences
Speaker 1: stronger than positive ones. This is why it's so important
Speaker 1: to take a mental picture of physical picture and journal
Speaker 1: about positive experiences. So when I come back from the gym,
Speaker 1: I will write out why it was an amazing decision.
Speaker 1: I may tell my friend that I went. I may
Speaker 1: tell Rady to remind me that I loved it, like
Speaker 1: I'll come home and say, Rady tell me that I
Speaker 1: love the gym. Journal. Journal, Journal. When you have a
Speaker 1: positive experience, look how long your journal entries are. And
Speaker 1: when you have a negative experience or a challenge, look
Speaker 1: how long your journal entries are. I promise you your
Speaker 1: journal when you negative experience are longer than when you
Speaker 1: have a positive one. It's fascinating, isn't it that we
Speaker 1: do that to ourselves? So what I encourage you to do?
Speaker 1: Journal about positive experiences, Take pictures, take mental pictures, honor them,
Speaker 1: share them, talk about them. Imagine you missed a flight
Speaker 1: last week, You'll tell everyone about it, but if the
Speaker 1: flight was on time, you wouldn't tell anyone about it.
Speaker 1: If last week you unfortunately got caught in an accident,
Speaker 1: you tell everyone about it, But if you had a
Speaker 1: beautiful drive, you don't tell that many people about it.
Speaker 1: Why is it that we tell people about things when
Speaker 1: they go wrong versus when they go right. Studies from
Speaker 1: very Well Mind show that as humans, we tend to
Speaker 1: remember traumatic experience better than positive ones, recall insults better
Speaker 1: than praise. We think about negative things more frequently than
Speaker 1: positive things. Right now, Reset says that negativity bias starts
Speaker 1: to emerge in infancy. Very young infants tend to pay
Speaker 1: greater attention to positive facial expression and tone of voice,
Speaker 1: but this begins to shift as they near one year
Speaker 1: of age. Brain studies indicate that around this time, babies
Speaker 1: begin to experience greater brain responses to negative stimuli. This
Speaker 1: suggests that the brain's negative bias emerges during the latter
Speaker 1: half of a child's first year of life. There is
Speaker 1: some evidence that the bias may actually start even earlier
Speaker 1: in development. One study found that infants as young as
Speaker 1: three months old show signs of negativity bias when making
Speaker 1: social evaluations of others. So what we have to do
Speaker 1: is we have to make our positive experiences more powerfully memorable.
Speaker 1: Or we have to create stories through the challenging experiences
Speaker 1: of what we learned from that scenario, or at least
Speaker 1: learn to laugh at So those are two ways of
Speaker 1: overcoming this area. How do you get things done when
Speaker 1: you don't feel like it, Well, you go through because
Speaker 1: you remind yourself of how things felt after you did them,
Speaker 1: because you deepened your understanding of it being beneficial for you.
Speaker 1: But we have to make that memory imprint stronger because
Speaker 1: our negativity bias is so high. I want to share
Speaker 1: with you the biggest news of the year. How many
Speaker 1: of you want to meditate? I can see your heads nodding,
Speaker 1: I can see you raising your hands, I can see
Speaker 1: you saying, yes, jay, I really want to learn to meditate.
Speaker 1: How many of you would like to learn to meditate
Speaker 1: with me every single day. Now, I already know what
Speaker 1: the answer is because I know how many messages DMS
Speaker 1: reviews notes that I get saying Jay, I'd love to
Speaker 1: meditate with you. Last year, we took meditation to Instagram
Speaker 1: and I meditated for around forty days live and twenty
Speaker 1: million of you tuned in. Now I am taking that
Speaker 1: same focus, that same presence to Calm. I've partnered up
Speaker 1: with Calm to release a new series called The Daily Ja,
Speaker 1: where you can meditate with me every single day for
Speaker 1: seven minutes. To make it a real habit. I would
Speaker 1: love for you to come and join me and take
Speaker 1: part in building a really powerful meditation practice. And guess
Speaker 1: what we're going to do it together? Head over right
Speaker 1: now Calm dot com forward slash j to get forty
Speaker 1: percent off a premium membership. That's Calm dot Com Forward
Speaker 1: slash J Now. Step number five is see how it
Speaker 1: fits into the bigger picture. Constantly zoom out right when
Speaker 1: you look at the thing for what it is. When
Speaker 1: you zoom in, you may not feel like it, but
Speaker 1: when you zoom out, you realize, oh, I totally get it.
Speaker 1: There are so many times when I get asked to
Speaker 1: do something last minute, or I have to work late,
Speaker 1: or I have to work a weekend. And if you
Speaker 1: ask me, do I want to work a weekend, the
Speaker 1: truth is I don't want to. I don't feel like it.
Speaker 1: But when I zoom out and I think, wait a minute,
Speaker 1: disconnects perfectly with what I'm trying to do next month,
Speaker 1: and actually this is going to be so synergistic. Oh,
Speaker 1: this is amazing. I should definitely do it right. So
Speaker 1: when you zoom out, you get to check in with perspective. Now,
Speaker 1: if you zoom out and there's nothing there either, that's fine.
Speaker 1: I'm not telling you to only do things in life
Speaker 1: that you don't feel like. What I'm saying is that
Speaker 1: sometimes your feelings mislead you. Sometimes your feelings distract you
Speaker 1: from what you really want and who you want to be,
Speaker 1: because if you follow your feelings, you may never learn
Speaker 1: any of the lessons that are useful. Now, the next
Speaker 1: step is create accountability. Do it with someone as a
Speaker 1: peer or ahead in your journey. I find this to
Speaker 1: be the biggest easiest one that I think we're missing
Speaker 1: out on. Accountability. Partners are everything. Finding someone to do
Speaker 1: something with, finding a coach, a mentor someone slightly ahead
Speaker 1: on the journey to commit to having a commitment to
Speaker 1: show up. I would cancel going to the gym every
Speaker 1: day if I was doing it on my own, but
Speaker 1: because I'm doing it with my trainer, I have to
Speaker 1: turn up. Because you're doing it with a friend, you
Speaker 1: have to turn up. This is the simplest fix to
Speaker 1: anyone who's saying I don't want to do something. Find
Speaker 1: someone to do it with, then commit to them, and
Speaker 1: ideally someone who's a little ahead on the journey than you.
Speaker 1: Number seven. Give yourself a reward. Mine is always a break.
Speaker 1: I find my favorite reward for working hard is taking
Speaker 1: a break. That break could mean going to a spark.
Speaker 1: It could be going on a walk. It could be
Speaker 1: being outdoors in nature. It could be doing nothing. It
Speaker 1: could be taking myself out for brunch. It could be
Speaker 1: just being with myself. Is my reward to myself for
Speaker 1: doing things even when I don't feel like it. If
Speaker 1: I've had a whole week of doing a lot of
Speaker 1: things even when I don't feel like it, I will
Speaker 1: give myself a full break that weekend, and that reward
Speaker 1: for me is so motivating that by Monday, I'm ready
Speaker 1: to go at it again. What I'm trying to help
Speaker 1: you understand here is that even I have days where
Speaker 1: I do things even when I don't feel like it
Speaker 1: does mean I don't love what I do. It doesn't
Speaker 1: mean that I don't deeply appreciate what I do, and
Speaker 1: I'll get to that. What it means is that you're
Speaker 1: not going to be able to control how you feel
Speaker 1: every day, but you can control what you focus on
Speaker 1: so that you feel better at the end of every day.
Speaker 1: If you follow your feelings at the beginning of your day,
Speaker 1: you may not actually feel better. You will probably feel worse.
Speaker 1: But if you ignore your feelings at the beginning of
Speaker 1: the day, you might actually do the things that bring
Speaker 1: you great joy. Number eight is obviously, if you're trying
Speaker 1: to get something done constantly and you never feel like it,
Speaker 1: sure outsource it, right. If you never feel like doing something,
Speaker 1: Usually in our life what it is is sometimes we
Speaker 1: feel like and sometimes we don't. It's rarely that it's
Speaker 1: completely extremes. But if you don't feel like doing something ever, yes,
Speaker 1: we should get rid of that in our life. Right.
Speaker 1: If you never ever feel like doing something, we should
Speaker 1: remove that from our lives. If we can now the
Speaker 1: last two principles, number nine, Remember how it was when
Speaker 1: you couldn't do this or didn't have the opportunity. Remind
Speaker 1: yourself what that was like. Have gratitude. This one is
Speaker 1: huge for me today. There are so many opportunities come
Speaker 1: my way that I would have begged for in the past,
Speaker 1: and it's so easy to get complacent. It's so easy
Speaker 1: to think, oh, I don't want to do this anymore.
Speaker 1: But gratitude, gratitude, gratitude. I promise you some of the
Speaker 1: stuff you don't feel like doing today, that job you
Speaker 1: don't feel like going to, the person you don't feel
Speaker 1: like connecting with, there was a time when that was
Speaker 1: really important to you. And that doesn't mean that you
Speaker 1: have to stay there, but it does mean we have
Speaker 1: to have a sense of gratitude, because if we can't
Speaker 1: be grateful for a dream we used to have, we
Speaker 1: won't be grateful when we reached the next dream. That's
Speaker 1: what we don't realize. If you're not grateful for the
Speaker 1: dream you used to have that you have now, this
Speaker 1: next dream won't satisfy you either. So practice attitude. How
Speaker 1: do you get something done even when you don't feel
Speaker 1: like it. You feel grateful for the opportunity, You feel
Speaker 1: grateful that you even get to do that, You feel
Speaker 1: grateful that that has even come across your way. Gratitude
Speaker 1: is huge in this area and number ten one of
Speaker 1: my personal favorites. Create an announcement, an external announcement. You're
Speaker 1: going to do something. I'm going to write a book
Speaker 1: and launch you by this date. I'm going to record
Speaker 1: and upload one episode of my podcast every day, announce
Speaker 1: it on social media, tell people they're expecting it now.
Speaker 1: I'm going to post once a day, every day, and
Speaker 1: every day in the post, I'm going to put day
Speaker 1: one of one hundred, day two of one hundred, day
Speaker 1: three of one hundred. Taking an announcement, making a moment
Speaker 1: out of it creates a commitment, and that commitment drives
Speaker 1: you because you have promised people something. Create a promise
Speaker 1: to your community, your audience, your friends, and show up
Speaker 1: for them. I want to thank you all for listening
Speaker 1: to this episode. I'm so grateful that you made time
Speaker 1: for this. And remember that having bad thoughts is not bad,
Speaker 1: having bad feelings is not bad. Nothing is bad. But
Speaker 1: what's better and what's healthy is that you find a
Speaker 1: way to get things done even when you don't feel
Speaker 1: like it, because when they're done, you'll feel better for it.
Speaker 1: Thank you for listening. I'll see you next week. I'm
Speaker 1: so grateful you joining me today, and thank you for
Speaker 1: being in the on Purpose community. I look forward to
Speaker 1: meeting you one day