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Speaker 1: Hey everyone, welcome back to On Purpose, the number one

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Speaker 1: don't feel like going to, the person you don't feel

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Speaker 1: next dream won't satisfy you either. So practice attitude. How

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Speaker 1: one of one hundred, day two of one hundred, day

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Speaker 1: three of one hundred. Taking an announcement, making a moment

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Speaker 1: you because you have promised people something. Create a promise

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Speaker 1: to your community, your audience, your friends, and show up

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Speaker 1: for them. I want to thank you all for listening

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Speaker 1: to this episode. I'm so grateful that you made time

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Speaker 1: having bad feelings is not bad. Nothing is bad. But

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Speaker 1: what's better and what's healthy is that you find a

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Speaker 1: way to get things done even when you don't feel

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Speaker 1: Thank you for listening. I'll see you next week. I'm

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Speaker 1: being in the on Purpose community. I look forward to

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