WEBVTT - EP1341: CRAZIEST BREAKUPS on Reddit 0:00:00.240 --> 0:00:03.000 Hey, we get it. Breakups are messy, but there is 0:00:03.040 --> 0:00:05.240 a right way to break up with someone and a 0:00:05.280 --> 0:00:07.520 wrong way. Today, we're going to talk through some of 0:00:07.560 --> 0:00:10.240 the worst reasons and ways to break up with someone 0:00:10.320 --> 0:00:12.840 so you can avoid the mess and drama of these 0:00:12.920 --> 0:00:16.239 terrible ways. They're gonna get increasingly messy. Let's start with 0:00:16.360 --> 0:00:19.800 number five. I broke it with my boyfriend over TikTok trend? 0:00:20.160 --> 0:00:24.120 Was I wrong? Was the TikTok trend? Hey, you should 0:00:24.120 --> 0:00:27.160 go cheat on your girlfriend? Because then yes, but if 0:00:27.160 --> 0:00:29.960 it was just like shaking some booty, then maybe no. Interesting? 0:00:30.280 --> 0:00:32.400 So what what are you predicting is going to be 0:00:32.400 --> 0:00:34.760 a good trend or bad trend? I'm going to be predicted. 0:00:34.800 --> 0:00:37.639 It was like a silly trend. Me too, I'm going 0:00:37.640 --> 0:00:40.560 with silly trend. I mean, there's a new TikTok trend 0:00:40.600 --> 0:00:42.440 every day every day, and can we all be honest. 0:00:42.479 --> 0:00:44.479 They're all silly. They're all silly, I mean, but some 0:00:44.520 --> 0:00:47.080 of them are like one of them could be the 0:00:47.120 --> 0:00:49.800 relationship test one, which let's see a good one. It's 0:00:50.040 --> 0:00:52.960 I mean, if you fail, it's about what No, let's 0:00:52.960 --> 0:00:55.520 get it, do it. Let's read what is the orange 0:00:55.520 --> 0:00:58.080 peel theory. I was scrolling on TikTok when I saw 0:00:58.080 --> 0:01:00.959 a post about the orange peel theory, which, to sum up, 0:01:01.160 --> 0:01:03.360 is when you ask another person to do a small 0:01:03.400 --> 0:01:06.280 task for you, like peeling an orange or asking them 0:01:06.280 --> 0:01:08.760 to tie your shoes for you. Both of these tasks 0:01:08.800 --> 0:01:12.000 that you can do by yourself. The real test is 0:01:12.040 --> 0:01:14.800 how they respond to you. If they respond with you 0:01:14.800 --> 0:01:17.640 can do it yourself, or can't you do that? Or 0:01:17.720 --> 0:01:20.279 I guess, then they are not willing to do small 0:01:20.319 --> 0:01:22.960 tasks for you and will most likely fail to do 0:01:23.200 --> 0:01:28.400 larger tasks for you in the future. That is fucking bullshit, dude. 0:01:29.000 --> 0:01:34.640 Oh however, yes, that is such bs. However, if they 0:01:34.680 --> 0:01:37.640 do it willingly or take the initiative to do it immediately, 0:01:37.840 --> 0:01:40.960 then they pass. In a way, TikTok is braiding an 0:01:41.040 --> 0:01:44.280 army of simps. Why are we? What is what is 0:01:44.400 --> 0:01:47.400 happening here? Like it's the simp army, That's what's happening. 0:01:47.480 --> 0:01:49.800 It's so like, yes, if you don't bend over and 0:01:49.960 --> 0:01:53.480 tie my shoes, that you are a terrible person. Literally, 0:01:53.520 --> 0:01:55.800 like I won't help a friend in need. Hey babe, 0:01:56.240 --> 0:01:58.080 I just just just go dump? Could you? Could you 0:01:58.200 --> 0:02:00.240 just like, help me out a little bit. Like on, 0:02:00.800 --> 0:02:02.880 these socks are getting a little smelly. Could you just 0:02:02.960 --> 0:02:06.160 take this off? Please? Just it's a orange peel. It's 0:02:06.200 --> 0:02:09.440 the orange peel. If you really cared, you would. Hey, Sam, 0:02:09.560 --> 0:02:10.640 we just hung out today. 0:02:10.639 --> 0:02:12.560 Can you drive me three twenty three minutes home? 0:02:12.639 --> 0:02:17.920 Please? Oh? That one cut a little too deep. Produce 0:02:17.919 --> 0:02:20.720 a rally with the big jokes. She's coming on the 0:02:20.720 --> 0:02:26.960 show tomorrow, so oh dear, he's driving her Rome. Oh 0:02:27.120 --> 0:02:31.359 enough jokes at same as expense. Now onto the situation. 0:02:32.000 --> 0:02:34.440 My boyfriend of seven months was sitting on the couch 0:02:34.520 --> 0:02:37.360 when I saw the TikTok video explaining the theory, and 0:02:37.560 --> 0:02:41.399 I decided that I should try it out. Oh no, oh, 0:02:41.440 --> 0:02:42.840 I thought it was gonna be the other way around. 0:02:43.520 --> 0:02:46.120 Up to this point we were happy. But now looking 0:02:46.160 --> 0:02:52.760 back on it, I am not surprised by how he responded. Dude, 0:02:52.800 --> 0:02:56.600 and a TikTok trend is dictating your entire relationship. You 0:02:56.639 --> 0:03:01.200 didn't touch some grass when you fail. I asked him 0:03:01.200 --> 0:03:03.320 to tie my hair up for me, and he looked 0:03:03.320 --> 0:03:05.800 at me and asked me why I couldn't do it, 0:03:06.000 --> 0:03:08.240 which is also so hilarious because they just watched this 0:03:08.400 --> 0:03:13.280 video with his exact thing. Bro, you're failing. At first, 0:03:13.600 --> 0:03:19.400 I thought that maybe he was intimidated by my long hair. However, however, 0:03:19.800 --> 0:03:21.960 he had long hair in the past and knew how 0:03:21.960 --> 0:03:24.640 to tie it up. I asked him again, thinking it 0:03:24.680 --> 0:03:27.280 was just a fluke, but he told me that I 0:03:27.320 --> 0:03:29.280 could do it since I was in the kitchen and 0:03:29.360 --> 0:03:32.000 he needed to relax, saying that he just got off 0:03:32.040 --> 0:03:34.720 of work. I know what y'all are thinking. Let the 0:03:34.760 --> 0:03:38.600 man relax. He just got off y'all, he works from home. 0:03:39.800 --> 0:03:43.480 Anything was the burning gun, the smoking gun, you can 0:03:43.600 --> 0:03:47.480 still just have it. Worked a long day and Nita, relax? 0:03:48.720 --> 0:03:52.760 What is going on here? And even if he was 0:03:52.840 --> 0:03:56.200 truly tired, he had plenty of energy to play games 0:03:56.400 --> 0:03:58.840 or go out to the bar with his friends. Yeah, 0:03:58.880 --> 0:04:03.360 how dare he not braid my hair? How dare you 0:04:03.400 --> 0:04:07.600 want to play video games over braiding my hair? Regardless, 0:04:07.680 --> 0:04:13.720 I honestly felt regardless. Honestly, I didn't want to break 0:04:13.800 --> 0:04:16.560 up and thought it was a dumb reason to throw 0:04:16.560 --> 0:04:21.159 a relationship away over TikTok. Why are you doing it? Then? No? 0:04:21.480 --> 0:04:26.080 Stop stop. I feel like I'm watching the train coming 0:04:26.120 --> 0:04:29.360 towards op and she's like, I wish i could get 0:04:29.360 --> 0:04:32.000 out of the way of the train, but I'm on 0:04:32.160 --> 0:04:38.039 the tracks. Can't You can't move one step is too much. Well, 0:04:38.279 --> 0:04:40.680 that was until later in the day when I asked 0:04:40.760 --> 0:04:43.960 him if he could toss a towel in the dryer 0:04:44.600 --> 0:04:47.040 so I could be warm when I got out of 0:04:47.040 --> 0:04:50.400 the shower, since I forgot to do it myself. That's 0:04:50.400 --> 0:04:52.600 actually kind of a hack. That is a great hack. 0:04:52.680 --> 0:04:54.240 I love that hack. We have to kind of like 0:04:54.320 --> 0:04:56.680 run naked through the house though, to get the towel, right, 0:04:56.960 --> 0:05:00.679 that's true instituting that in our house? Will you get caught? 0:05:01.040 --> 0:05:08.000 It's up to you now, Just imagining everyone starts flashing 0:05:08.040 --> 0:05:14.560 each other in the house, you could just get back 0:05:14.600 --> 0:05:18.120 to the story. Surprise, surprise. He never did it, And 0:05:18.160 --> 0:05:20.839 it just made me realize how much I do for 0:05:20.960 --> 0:05:24.520 him and his daughter that is not even mine. Damn, 0:05:26.080 --> 0:05:27.880 tell us how you really feel about this on us? 0:05:29.040 --> 0:05:32.080 And I think that I have fed, held and changed 0:05:32.080 --> 0:05:35.320 her more than he has. So Reddit, I ask you, 0:05:35.680 --> 0:05:39.400 am I the a hole? If I go through with it, Air, 0:05:39.520 --> 0:05:45.039 go end the relationship now? Oh man, we're about to 0:05:45.040 --> 0:05:47.400 come up to an edit and then into an update, 0:05:47.600 --> 0:05:51.360 but let's pause skirt and park it right here. Do 0:05:51.400 --> 0:05:53.920 we think that he's the a hole for don't pick 0:05:53.960 --> 0:05:56.839 her boyfriend over not tying her hair and warm hole? 0:05:57.600 --> 0:05:59.640 I was like, I want to get it out before 0:05:59.680 --> 0:06:02.360 I start laughing, But I just fairly missed the right. 0:06:02.400 --> 0:06:05.000 I questioned, if your girlfriend asked you to braid her 0:06:05.040 --> 0:06:08.440 hair and you just came off like twelve hours of recording, 0:06:08.839 --> 0:06:12.960 need to relax, what are you saying normally? I'm I'm 0:06:13.240 --> 0:06:15.799 fine with it. Also, her hair does take a while 0:06:15.960 --> 0:06:19.839 to braid, three hours, John, not three hours the way 0:06:19.839 --> 0:06:22.839 she does is it probably like thirty minutes. I would 0:06:22.880 --> 0:06:25.880 probably be like, can't you do it? I did you 0:06:25.920 --> 0:06:28.160 break up? I would probably I would probably go for it. 0:06:28.200 --> 0:06:29.839 You would do it, I'd probably go for it. Oh 0:06:30.279 --> 0:06:35.520 freaking sim I don't really care. Sae TikTok is freading 0:06:35.560 --> 0:06:39.160 as sim army. Yeah, if I was like if I 0:06:39.200 --> 0:06:41.640 was like to the point where I couldn't keep my 0:06:41.760 --> 0:06:44.159 eyes open and I was like literally dying of tiredness, 0:06:44.160 --> 0:06:47.320 I might be like, baby, I'm so sorry, but I'm 0:06:47.400 --> 0:06:50.240 literally about to pass out and probably fall asleep during it. 0:06:50.279 --> 0:06:53.039 But like, unless I'm like literally about to like, unless 0:06:53.120 --> 0:06:57.080 John is literally about to die, you will braid your hair. 0:06:58.560 --> 0:07:03.360 The sloop don is a real one out here. I 0:07:03.360 --> 0:07:05.520 would love to know what you guys think, let us 0:07:05.560 --> 0:07:09.080 know if it's worth breaking up. I mean what it 0:07:10.640 --> 0:07:12.520 sounds like though, it is like she's just looking for 0:07:12.600 --> 0:07:14.320 real Well, no, it doesn't sound like she's looking for 0:07:14.320 --> 0:07:15.800 each She's like, this is kind of a dumb idea, 0:07:15.840 --> 0:07:18.160 but I guess some Tiktook says and I should do it. Well, okay, 0:07:18.200 --> 0:07:21.880 so here's the big thing. She then mentioned that she, oh, 0:07:22.000 --> 0:07:26.120 she's changed and basically cared for his child more than 0:07:26.160 --> 0:07:31.520 he has, which is a infinitely better reason than not 0:07:31.680 --> 0:07:35.320 tying her hair. Or is the real red flag? That 0:07:35.440 --> 0:07:38.000 is the real red flag. The hair tying and the 0:07:39.080 --> 0:07:41.040 you know when was the other one? The hair tying, 0:07:41.120 --> 0:07:43.680 hair tying and warming a towel, Yeah, that was not 0:07:43.800 --> 0:07:47.440 red flags. But the man not caring for his child, 0:07:47.600 --> 0:07:50.160 his own child, that's a major red flag. Why not 0:07:50.280 --> 0:07:54.520 pick that as the reason? You're the the dumb reason? 0:07:55.400 --> 0:08:00.880 My god, but we haven't had it to read. Hello everyone, 0:08:01.000 --> 0:08:03.440 thank you for listening to the post. I read what 0:08:03.520 --> 0:08:06.720 you guys are saying loud and clear and completely see 0:08:06.720 --> 0:08:09.000 where you guys are coming from. I admit that I 0:08:09.040 --> 0:08:12.800 should not have taken advice from a TikTok, and it 0:08:12.840 --> 0:08:15.800 showed immaturity to do so. How old is OPI? We 0:08:16.000 --> 0:08:20.800 do not know. We don't know. Sounds like Opie is 0:08:20.800 --> 0:08:31.280 like sixteen, taken care of her her boyfriend's child. Yeah, mom, okay, 0:08:31.520 --> 0:08:34.840 still young, Still still pretty young. However, I disagree on 0:08:34.920 --> 0:08:38.520 the fact that what happened wasn't a big deal. Oh no, Opie, 0:08:38.640 --> 0:08:42.200 Oh come on now, the method worked and made me 0:08:42.280 --> 0:08:44.840 see that I do a lot more for him than 0:08:44.880 --> 0:08:48.040 he does for me. Okay that this is true, which 0:08:48.120 --> 0:08:51.480 is probably true. Yes, not the two tiny tasks, but 0:08:51.520 --> 0:08:56.040 the bigger thing. Yeah, okay, it's maybe. Maybe it's legit 0:08:56.320 --> 0:09:00.960 like it does show if it's emblematic of the larger issue. 0:09:01.120 --> 0:09:03.720 Could be because like you never answered, would you would 0:09:03.720 --> 0:09:05.760 I break up? Or what would you? 0:09:05.840 --> 0:09:05.920 Like? 0:09:06.360 --> 0:09:09.160 You know, put your even just do like a ponytail 0:09:09.200 --> 0:09:13.880 or like a little little bun. Yeah yeah, I mean yeah, 0:09:13.920 --> 0:09:15.839 if they said I I think I've I've done that 0:09:15.880 --> 0:09:18.199 for girlfriends in the past, where it's like, hey, can 0:09:18.240 --> 0:09:19.439 you help me put my hair in a bun? Or 0:09:19.480 --> 0:09:21.160 can you help me zip up the stress or like 0:09:21.320 --> 0:09:23.559 it seems like they get off to it, you know, yeah, 0:09:23.760 --> 0:09:30.600 like like anything. I almost missed that one. Now our 0:09:30.760 --> 0:09:33.560 relationship is not going to end because of my towel 0:09:33.640 --> 0:09:35.920 not being warm or my hair not being up, but 0:09:36.040 --> 0:09:38.800 because I realized that I am just settling for a 0:09:38.920 --> 0:09:42.120 lazy man who doesn't take me out, doesn't help with 0:09:42.240 --> 0:09:45.960 his baby, and has no motivations in life except to 0:09:46.000 --> 0:09:49.840 live at his parents' house, play video games and drink. 0:09:50.800 --> 0:09:55.960 Now we see, I just heard like seven nails in 0:09:56.000 --> 0:10:02.640 the coffin. The man is under the dirt six feet 0:10:03.240 --> 0:10:05.839 and is not coming back. Is this orange peel working, dude? 0:10:06.320 --> 0:10:09.520 Me honestly not like maybe the orange peel that it does. 0:10:10.120 --> 0:10:15.720 Or have you orange peeled that your significant other try 0:10:15.760 --> 0:10:20.439 it and get back to us? Yeah? Us. Ask your 0:10:20.480 --> 0:10:22.720 significant other to braid your hair and see what they do, 0:10:22.840 --> 0:10:27.000 and if they don't, sit the road, let's see what happens. 0:10:27.760 --> 0:10:30.320 All of this while taking advantage of what I do 0:10:30.400 --> 0:10:33.160 for him. In my mind, since we are so new 0:10:33.320 --> 0:10:37.400 seven months into the relationship, these problems are foreshadowing what's 0:10:37.440 --> 0:10:40.120 to come, and I see no future with him or 0:10:40.120 --> 0:10:43.160 his baby again. Thank you everyone who took the time 0:10:43.240 --> 0:10:46.240 to read this. We have a juicy update coming up. 0:10:46.480 --> 0:10:49.360 But the question is should we leave the relationship at 0:10:49.360 --> 0:10:51.640 this point? Now we know would at this point, I mean, 0:10:51.679 --> 0:10:54.440 we have so much more context now, yes, and we 0:10:54.559 --> 0:10:58.079 have the actual reasons someone should break up with someone, yes, 0:10:58.120 --> 0:11:02.680 instead of the TikTok reasons. So from what we know now, yeah, yeah, 0:11:02.720 --> 0:11:04.880 I mean if he's not taking care of his kid, 0:11:05.160 --> 0:11:09.520 then like red flag right exactly, if he is not 0:11:09.920 --> 0:11:13.600 like moving out of his parents' basement and has no 0:11:14.120 --> 0:11:16.760 plans for the future, red flag. Especially if he as 0:11:16.800 --> 0:11:20.160 a kid, he's a provide for like not only his kid, 0:11:20.200 --> 0:11:22.240 but like a future family if you guys keep dating 0:11:22.240 --> 0:11:25.160 and want to have kids. So yeah, major red flags. 0:11:25.240 --> 0:11:27.840 I would dump them, I say the same dump him. 0:11:28.520 --> 0:11:30.680 I would. I already dump them. He's dumped it, he's 0:11:30.679 --> 0:11:34.800 gone to the curve. Yeah, but we have a major 0:11:34.880 --> 0:11:40.000 t alerts with this next two sea Hello again read it. HI, 0:11:40.280 --> 0:11:42.880 fast update for you guys. First, I would like to 0:11:42.880 --> 0:11:46.560 thank everyone with how brutally honest the comments were. Again 0:11:46.720 --> 0:11:51.520 I guess, and no I am not twelve, I am 0:11:51.559 --> 0:11:55.000 twenty two. That's what I was wondering. Maybe I was 0:11:55.040 --> 0:11:58.440 a little bit too generous with saying that she was sixty. 0:11:58.640 --> 0:12:01.000 I was going easy on you. I would also like 0:12:01.040 --> 0:12:04.240 to clear up some things. First off, I didn't mean 0:12:04.280 --> 0:12:06.360 to make it seem like I was testing him like 0:12:06.360 --> 0:12:09.440 a crazy girlfriend who sets her boyfriend up for failure. 0:12:09.760 --> 0:12:12.120 I simply use the theory to see what he would 0:12:12.160 --> 0:12:15.240 do out of curiosity and came to the realization that 0:12:15.400 --> 0:12:18.040 I was giving ninety percent while he was only giving 0:12:18.080 --> 0:12:22.040 thirty percent into the relationship. The theory helped me take 0:12:22.080 --> 0:12:25.640 off my rose tinted glasses and truly see just how 0:12:25.720 --> 0:12:29.200 much I am doing without an ounce of appreciation. Sometimes 0:12:29.240 --> 0:12:33.800 TikTok will do that. That is true. Thanks TikTok. Thanks. Yeah, 0:12:33.880 --> 0:12:37.640 you really have helped this generation. Oh that's so great, 0:12:37.760 --> 0:12:40.160 right yeah. Thanks. As for the ones saying that they 0:12:40.160 --> 0:12:43.800 would also refuse the small tasks as well, this simply 0:12:43.880 --> 0:12:46.520 does not apply to me. If my partner asked me 0:12:46.640 --> 0:12:49.120 to tie his shoes, I would be down on one 0:12:49.240 --> 0:12:51.800 knee because I feel like it is a simple way 0:12:52.040 --> 0:12:54.800 to show love. How are you feeling, I feel like 0:12:55.559 --> 0:13:04.480 tie my shoes like it feels. I don't know, man, 0:13:05.120 --> 0:13:06.600 I feel like I feel like I would do it 0:13:06.679 --> 0:13:08.719 and be like, you're crazy. Why are you asking me 0:13:08.800 --> 0:13:11.760 this crazy? Like it would be fun and silly. Yeah, 0:13:11.840 --> 0:13:16.280 but it was like, consistently tie my shoes consistent. No, 0:13:17.559 --> 0:13:20.960 obviously not get out your knees time. I don't see 0:13:21.000 --> 0:13:23.880 you on your knees. Put my laces through the rabbit hole. 0:13:24.480 --> 0:13:27.280 They're still jumping down the hole. John, what are you doing? 0:13:27.480 --> 0:13:30.000 Don't use your hands, use your tongue. I want you 0:13:30.040 --> 0:13:36.720 to practice. This is trading session for later tonight. Groom, 0:13:37.160 --> 0:13:38.080 I'm flying. 0:13:40.520 --> 0:13:45.800 Oh my goodness, gracious, Riley, where's your beautiful head? Riley, 0:13:45.800 --> 0:13:48.840 give us some head? Come on. Previously, I had never 0:13:48.920 --> 0:13:51.120 asked him to do something that I could do myself, 0:13:51.200 --> 0:13:54.040 since I am relatively independent. This was not the case 0:13:54.040 --> 0:13:57.280 for him, since he uses me for almost everything babysitter 0:13:57.320 --> 0:14:02.360 while he goes out nighttime, nanny, chef, cleaner, washing machine, chauffeur, 0:14:02.920 --> 0:14:08.000 EtCO at whist. As I took time to read the comments, 0:14:08.040 --> 0:14:10.080 there was a lot of reflecting, and I knew I 0:14:10.160 --> 0:14:12.240 had to talk to him and give him a chance 0:14:12.280 --> 0:14:15.080 to work this in balance out. I texted him and 0:14:15.120 --> 0:14:17.520 told him we needed to talk, and he asked me 0:14:17.600 --> 0:14:19.960 for a ride to my house since his mom was out. 0:14:20.200 --> 0:14:23.960 Oh his mom is driving in places. Oh dude, and 0:14:24.000 --> 0:14:29.480 he's over twenty two and has a child. Bro babies 0:14:29.600 --> 0:14:32.960 raising babies for real. I picked him up, but to 0:14:33.000 --> 0:14:36.160 my surprise, he had his baby. So I asked him 0:14:36.280 --> 0:14:38.960 if we could stay in his driveway and talk. He 0:14:39.040 --> 0:14:41.240 told me that he was hoping that we could talk 0:14:41.360 --> 0:14:43.680 on the way. When I asked him on the way 0:14:43.720 --> 0:14:46.240 to what he told me that his buddy wanted to 0:14:46.280 --> 0:14:49.400 meet up for drinks. And I just lost it and 0:14:49.480 --> 0:14:53.560 told him to get out of my car. Oh my god. 0:14:53.640 --> 0:14:57.120 He's an uber and and they were going to talk 0:14:57.120 --> 0:14:59.680 about their relationship. He's like, Oh, I'm like, Greg's going 0:14:59.760 --> 0:15:02.040 to be the but he's just gonna knock back a 0:15:02.040 --> 0:15:04.400 couple of pines we can have for talk. Yeah, yeah, Greg, 0:15:04.480 --> 0:15:09.640 don't worry about Craig. Greg's family. Greg is basically part 0:15:09.640 --> 0:15:13.520 of our relationship. Greg's her third in fact, Babe, I 0:15:13.520 --> 0:15:15.520 have an idea to pitch you. Yeah, yeah, the whole 0:15:15.520 --> 0:15:20.880 reason I brought you here to Paris. I just let 0:15:20.960 --> 0:15:24.520 out everything I was thinking and feeling. He looked very confused, 0:15:24.640 --> 0:15:28.520 but then changed his tune and stated blaming me, saying 0:15:28.560 --> 0:15:31.400 that I waited too long to tell him this, and 0:15:31.400 --> 0:15:34.480 that his daughter is already bonded to me. She's around 0:15:34.520 --> 0:15:38.120 one years old. Now, I'm not sure that is a 0:15:38.480 --> 0:15:40.800 fuck like using your daughter as a way to stay 0:15:40.800 --> 0:15:45.360 in the relationship is a fucked another can't like another 0:15:45.640 --> 0:15:48.920 like Cannon fought like another reason just to break up? 0:15:49.360 --> 0:15:52.480 Dump him right here, right now. I'm not sure. And 0:15:52.520 --> 0:15:58.000 his daughter too, Oh take that baby. I'm not sure 0:15:58.040 --> 0:16:00.320 what to do. I went home and my phone was 0:16:00.360 --> 0:16:03.640 filled with method and my phone was filled with methage 0:16:04.960 --> 0:16:10.840 and my phone was filled with method. I'm not sure 0:16:10.840 --> 0:16:13.320 what to do. I went home and my phone was 0:16:13.440 --> 0:16:16.880 filled with messages from his mom saying that I needed 0:16:16.920 --> 0:16:20.840 to step up and be a good mom and future wife. 0:16:20.960 --> 0:16:26.040 Excuse me. The thing is I don't want to be either, 0:16:26.880 --> 0:16:30.520 especially not dear dipshit son. Dude, Come on, she's like, 0:16:30.800 --> 0:16:34.480 please please help me. I cannot be his mother for 0:16:34.520 --> 0:16:38.400 another twenty years in this capacity. Oh lastly, I know 0:16:38.480 --> 0:16:40.960 you guys don't like the orange peel theory, but I 0:16:41.000 --> 0:16:43.680 think I dodged a bullet, or the ones who feel 0:16:43.680 --> 0:16:46.840 bad for him, he dodged a bullet. So I guess 0:16:46.840 --> 0:16:50.240 the question here that OPI is kind of implying is 0:16:50.640 --> 0:16:55.200 was Opie wrong to use the orange peel theory in 0:16:55.200 --> 0:16:57.800 the first place. It's almost like snooping in the phone 0:16:57.840 --> 0:17:00.920 with evidence and then finding that they're cheating. I mean, 0:17:01.440 --> 0:17:05.199 it sounds like it was ultimately good for her. I 0:17:05.240 --> 0:17:06.880 want to know what you guys think, like, would use 0:17:06.880 --> 0:17:09.800 the orange peel method or have you or are you 0:17:09.920 --> 0:17:14.000 about to right now confess to your father's for the 0:17:14.040 --> 0:17:16.520 sins that you were about to do? But I don't. 0:17:16.560 --> 0:17:20.320 I think if it can break the reality distortion field 0:17:20.359 --> 0:17:22.720 or the relationship and see how you're actually being treated, 0:17:22.720 --> 0:17:26.200 it's kind of a good thing, but it is done 0:17:26.280 --> 0:17:28.800 out of like maybe a little bit of spite. So 0:17:29.640 --> 0:17:34.960 I would say maybe it's it can be information, but 0:17:35.080 --> 0:17:37.880 I wouldn't. I wouldn't recommend people use it. I would 0:17:37.880 --> 0:17:40.720 more just like look at the past relationship because the 0:17:40.800 --> 0:17:43.159 thing is the orange in this In this example, the 0:17:43.200 --> 0:17:48.080 orange peel method didn't show us the actual bad actions 0:17:48.600 --> 0:17:51.439 that OPI like, like the like the actual reasons that 0:17:51.440 --> 0:17:53.600 Opie should break up with a partner. It showed us 0:17:53.640 --> 0:17:57.320 the TikTok reasons. The real reasons were everything that happened 0:17:57.320 --> 0:17:59.920 before any of this orange peel stuff happened before, so 0:18:00.080 --> 0:18:02.000 it's like you should actually just look at what's been 0:18:02.000 --> 0:18:05.040 happening in the relationship. Is this guy a deadbeat? Is 0:18:05.080 --> 0:18:07.639 this guy not taking year as his daughter? That is 0:18:07.640 --> 0:18:09.080 the stuff that you should look at, not the orange 0:18:09.080 --> 0:18:11.800 peel stuff, which I'm sure people ham up the orange 0:18:11.800 --> 0:18:13.400 peel part of it as like, you know, to make 0:18:13.440 --> 0:18:15.679 it silly and like people comment and engage on it. 0:18:15.680 --> 0:18:17.479 But I feel like the real thing it's looking at 0:18:17.680 --> 0:18:21.000 is like, oh, does this does this help break through 0:18:21.040 --> 0:18:23.560 your rose tinted glasses to help you understand if the 0:18:23.560 --> 0:18:26.119 person does it. I kind of I agree in the 0:18:26.160 --> 0:18:28.080 sense of like you kind of don't need to do 0:18:28.160 --> 0:18:30.720 it and just like really just deep dive into your relationship. 0:18:30.720 --> 0:18:32.920 But I think it's kind of like a knife, because 0:18:32.960 --> 0:18:36.000 a knife can be used to cook a delicious meal 0:18:36.160 --> 0:18:39.480 or murder or stab somebody. So I feel like it 0:18:39.480 --> 0:18:42.720 could be completely innocent. But Big Protein has an objection. 0:18:42.880 --> 0:18:46.400 Okay, go I think she was wrong because what if 0:18:46.720 --> 0:18:50.639 his love language is it acts of surface. It isn't 0:18:51.040 --> 0:18:54.800 doing the talent in the you know, dryer. 0:18:54.960 --> 0:18:58.200 Maybe it's you know, physical touch or all the others, 0:18:58.240 --> 0:19:02.920 you know, the other ones. Yeah, I do you see 0:19:02.960 --> 0:19:05.240 what you're saying, Like, like people don't show love in 0:19:05.280 --> 0:19:08.840 the same ways and all relationships, but often if your 0:19:08.880 --> 0:19:12.920 love languages are not the same one, you should ideally 0:19:12.960 --> 0:19:16.520 talk about it. But sometimes like they can be incompatible too, 0:19:17.520 --> 0:19:20.960 at the very least it should be talked about. So 0:19:21.080 --> 0:19:25.280 like is it Yeah, I mean, like the thirty seventy percent, 0:19:25.280 --> 0:19:26.960 Like I do seventy percent of the work, Like he 0:19:27.040 --> 0:19:29.960 only does thirty percent. That feels maybe too tit for tat. 0:19:30.560 --> 0:19:32.760 Maybe it's just it's just the list of all like 0:19:32.760 --> 0:19:34.320 but it's like if you feel that way, then that's 0:19:34.359 --> 0:19:37.240 what matters. Yeah, I mean, like he's staying home drinking 0:19:37.400 --> 0:19:40.600 not you know, she's she's taking care of the kid, 0:19:40.680 --> 0:19:43.480 like all basically all the leadsons the reasons she listed out. 0:19:43.520 --> 0:19:45.320 Like we said at the top of the episode, girl, 0:19:45.320 --> 0:19:49.080 that's reason enough, leave his ace, leave his ass. But 0:19:49.320 --> 0:19:50.720 you know what, we're not going to leave you with 0:19:50.840 --> 0:19:53.520 what an absence of this next story. We're gonna get 0:19:53.760 --> 0:19:56.600 right into it. Let's do it. My boyfriend flirted with 0:19:56.680 --> 0:20:00.359 another woman after being a wingman for a friend. Should 0:20:00.400 --> 0:20:03.280 I leave him? This is okay op where we read 0:20:03.359 --> 0:20:07.520 the craziest stories on Earth. I'm Sam and John should 0:20:07.560 --> 0:20:12.159 o P leave that dastardly boyfriend? Well, here's the question. 0:20:13.040 --> 0:20:18.840 Was the flirting really just trying to warm warmer up, 0:20:18.880 --> 0:20:22.680 you know for the front. It really depends, like would 0:20:22.720 --> 0:20:26.600 you ever wing man me? Absolutely? Yeah, dude, I would 0:20:26.880 --> 0:20:30.240 love to do that. Oh my god, I'm I'm what's 0:20:30.320 --> 0:20:35.960 known as the d dB. What's that the d delivery boy? 0:20:36.320 --> 0:20:41.800 Oh you're delivering that d but I oh yeah, you're 0:20:41.880 --> 0:20:44.399 you're helping. Yes, you are like the Amazon. The d 0:20:44.520 --> 0:20:47.440 n P can be swapped, you know what I'm saying. 0:20:47.480 --> 0:20:50.520 But I you know what I'm gonna go with. Probably 0:20:50.560 --> 0:20:52.960 the a hole is the a hole for leaving the 0:20:54.440 --> 0:20:57.719 so like, you have this much room. As soon as 0:20:57.720 --> 0:21:00.199 you go past that line, you're the ahole. That he 0:21:00.320 --> 0:21:03.760 is the a hole for doing too much flirting. So 0:21:04.280 --> 0:21:06.800 oh he is the girlfriend. Oh he's a girlfriend. Oh oh, 0:21:06.920 --> 0:21:09.800 so the boyfriend flirted with another this much room. I 0:21:09.840 --> 0:21:12.040 think the boyfriend went past That's what I'm saying. Okay, 0:21:12.560 --> 0:21:15.760 let's see. So I was truly hoping I wouldn't be 0:21:15.800 --> 0:21:18.360 typing in this subreddit again. But here I am, I 0:21:18.400 --> 0:21:20.800 twenty eight female have been dating my boyfriend twenty nine 0:21:20.840 --> 0:21:24.320 male for almost eight months now. Last night we went 0:21:24.359 --> 0:21:27.000 out to a bar with our mutual friend, twenty seven male, 0:21:27.040 --> 0:21:30.760 who's single and very shy with women. My boyfriend thought 0:21:30.800 --> 0:21:32.480 he could be a wingman for him, which I was 0:21:32.520 --> 0:21:35.520 fine with. Later on that night, while the three of 0:21:35.560 --> 0:21:38.320 us stood at this bar, my boyfriend looked at me 0:21:38.440 --> 0:21:42.200 and our mutual friend and said, watch this, and proceeded 0:21:42.200 --> 0:21:45.840 to approach this beautiful blonde woman standing nearby with her friends. 0:21:46.240 --> 0:21:48.960 He asked her what time it was when the bar closed, 0:21:49.000 --> 0:21:51.439 where she was from, and a few other things I 0:21:51.440 --> 0:21:54.320 couldn't make out. I was so confused at this point. 0:21:54.680 --> 0:21:57.080 After this, my boyfriend turned to our mutual friend and 0:21:57.200 --> 0:21:59.960 explains the questions he asked her that led to her 0:22:00.119 --> 0:22:03.639 opening up and engaging in conversation. He clarified with me 0:22:03.800 --> 0:22:06.720 that it meant nothing and I tried to shrug it off. 0:22:07.080 --> 0:22:11.640 So basically he was just like demonstrating game. He just 0:22:11.680 --> 0:22:16.320 flirting with her. We don't know, but asking her at 0:22:16.320 --> 0:22:20.000 the time the bar closes, it's flirting. Uh, what's the time, 0:22:20.160 --> 0:22:25.760 baby boom? Flirting? What I'm joking? I'm joking, but like 0:22:25.960 --> 0:22:29.240 it's it if with all the other things that he said, 0:22:29.320 --> 0:22:31.240 like it sounds like what do you mean all the 0:22:31.280 --> 0:22:33.919 other things, all the other things that she couldn't make 0:22:33.960 --> 0:22:34.520 out or whatever? 0:22:34.600 --> 0:22:34.760