Speaker 1: Welcome, Welcome here, Happy New Year, sled. We made it
Speaker 1: out of fucking twenty twenty and honest, twenty twenty one
Speaker 1: is probably gonna not be much different. Welcome guys to
Speaker 1: another episode of Horrible Decisions. I'm your girl, maybebe a
Speaker 1: K A debt bitch, a k A full court punks,
Speaker 1: a k A tripod mommy. Hi guys. If you've never
Speaker 1: heard my voice, I am so sad for you. My
Speaker 1: name is Wheezy. Welcome to our show, Horrible Decisions. We
Speaker 1: are so excited to start this fucking year off with
Speaker 1: a bang? Did you start with a bang? Um? A bang? Like?
Speaker 1: Am I pussy? Because I'm gonna be on my period
Speaker 1: on New Years before? Not me, bitch. Mine is about
Speaker 1: that mid mid month time frame like the fourth it
Speaker 1: just ended, which is why I'm about to get a
Speaker 1: bang tonight. Oh so yeahulate right now. And the only
Speaker 1: reason I know my period is gonna come on New
Speaker 1: Years is because Thanksgiving it came like clockwork. I had
Speaker 1: chicken and just bam. It was like, you know what's crazy,
Speaker 1: I'm actually scheduling now my yearly. But with scheduling my yearly,
Speaker 1: a bitch is also about to check fertility because bitch,
Speaker 1: he has been showing up this club, babe, And yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean, are you doing it when you ovulate? Check?
Speaker 1: I don't ain't tracking ship if we fuck you go in,
Speaker 1: you know, we could just rewrite like you'd be like
Speaker 1: these niggas coming in because it's these niggas. I just
Speaker 1: feel like you, these niggas were always my man, bitch
Speaker 1: I didn't like and know that. I don't know that.
Speaker 1: I don't know what you'd be doing. It's just a
Speaker 1: little bit. I don't even knowing that Mandy's in ba
Speaker 1: I'm on the new what she was mass, I don't
Speaker 1: feel like I was listening in the kitchen in her
Speaker 1: new green that part. So starting off the new year
Speaker 1: in a new place, Oh my god, Oh my god.
Speaker 1: So I've been in my apartment for the last going
Speaker 1: on five years. And just first off, I didn't know
Speaker 1: that how you deal with moving in the fucking documents
Speaker 1: they need, I didn't know that. I didn't know that
Speaker 1: them looking at bank statements meant they wanted to see
Speaker 1: the deposits going into my bank. I just thought they
Speaker 1: needed to see that a bitch had money. So I
Speaker 1: just gave them. I know, I gave them my one
Speaker 1: account that technically, in my mind is my savings, so
Speaker 1: there's really no money going in or out. So they're
Speaker 1: just like, so where is your Like how are you
Speaker 1: making money? Then? So I showed them my other account
Speaker 1: and then I guess that sufficed, but I was like, yeah,
Speaker 1: I don't get to see all the transactions. I don't
Speaker 1: have to show y'all three accounts now because I wasn't.
Speaker 1: I didn't go into this telling them that I was
Speaker 1: an entrepreneur, that I worked for myself. So I only
Speaker 1: showed them my personal accounts, not my business accounts as
Speaker 1: you do, which I said I was a media consultant.
Speaker 1: And also I had all the other documents. That's all
Speaker 1: I'm going to say. Do not be scared. People be like,
Speaker 1: what do you do? Talk about second date? Yeah, I said, well,
Speaker 1: it's not even that I'm scared about what I do.
Speaker 1: It's just when when you say you're an entrepreneur or
Speaker 1: a business owner, they want all of these documents. My
Speaker 1: account was like, they don't need to they don't need
Speaker 1: to know all that information. I mean, they always know
Speaker 1: I'm self employed because I've moved what twice since I've
Speaker 1: been self employed from I mean my tax return but
Speaker 1: oh yeah, not switched up on it too, yes, but
Speaker 1: I mean with the with with moving. Um, for anyone
Speaker 1: that's moving something that New York State does, at least,
Speaker 1: all you have to do is have a c P
Speaker 1: A letter, so they just have to verify what you'll
Speaker 1: make and what you're trajected to make. But um, I
Speaker 1: moved into a new crib too. That's why, you know,
Speaker 1: not fun? You know, I'm so bad to be an Elias, Like,
Speaker 1: I'm so happy to be back in Elias. Like my
Speaker 1: windows are insane, They're so big and beautiful, and it's like,
Speaker 1: I just love that I was able to come back
Speaker 1: to the lower and what I wanted. And it's funny
Speaker 1: because I almost moved into this building on Broom Street.
Speaker 1: I forgot what it's called the Artisan And I've lived
Speaker 1: in two luxury buildings since I've been in New York.
Speaker 1: And I was like, I feel like I'm going to
Speaker 1: move into this building and l e s and be like, no,
Speaker 1: this isn't what I wanted. Because I think that that
Speaker 1: was my issue with where I lived. I really had it.
Speaker 1: I lived in downtown Brooklyn. I know you y'all know
Speaker 1: I didn't like it, but I think I should have
Speaker 1: moved to Brooklyn Brooklyn because I would leave my building
Speaker 1: that was expensive and nice and pretty, and then it
Speaker 1: was it was really difficult for me, Like there's a
Speaker 1: lot of homeless people on my block. I've seen people
Speaker 1: like I saw ladies say when someone asked for food,
Speaker 1: she had bananas in her him She's like the funk
Speaker 1: away from me. It was like, you know, I couldn't
Speaker 1: even deal with it. It was just too much. And
Speaker 1: I think I just wanted to feel more like I
Speaker 1: was in a community again. And so I thought that
Speaker 1: if I moved to a boogee building in l e
Speaker 1: S that I'd be like, damn, I'm a gentrifier. And
Speaker 1: even though technically I am, you are, I mean we
Speaker 1: all are. But it's crazy. I mean it's so weird
Speaker 1: because I mean, everyone looks for something a friend and
Speaker 1: I was talking to my friend who's also moving, and
Speaker 1: she's like, I care about the neighborhood. I do not
Speaker 1: give a funk about the neighborhood. I give a funk
Speaker 1: about convenience. I give a funk about like it's like conveniences,
Speaker 1: my Starbucks, my Duncan, donuts, my grocery store of fucking
Speaker 1: post office convenience. I don't give a funk about my neighborhood.
Speaker 1: I leave to party. I come to the city to party.
Speaker 1: When I go home, I just kind of wanted silence.
Speaker 1: I don't want to walk out of my building and
Speaker 1: run into fans. I don't want to walk out of
Speaker 1: my building and see people drunk and bars. So that's
Speaker 1: not my thing. But I need all of y'all's help.
Speaker 1: So this is my first time moving into like a
Speaker 1: luxury building here in New York. But I have a
Speaker 1: balcony and clearly I'm gonna fuck on this balcony. And
Speaker 1: I'm just like, Okay, So what do I give my
Speaker 1: neighbor when I move into I bake him cookies? Do
Speaker 1: I give him wine? Do I go ahead and just
Speaker 1: give him a bag with sex toys. I don't know
Speaker 1: if it's a girl or guy yet either, but I'm
Speaker 1: just like, I need him to know that I am
Speaker 1: going to be fucking on this balcony. And not only
Speaker 1: will he know my name, he is gonna know my
Speaker 1: nigga's name because I'm gonna be dreaming it on my balcony.
Speaker 1: When I had a balcony. I didn't really feel the
Speaker 1: need to excuse myself at all. I don't know, I
Speaker 1: don't think that you have to, Like I pay my rent,
Speaker 1: you pay your rent, and I'm not asking what the
Speaker 1: funk you do? I know, I get that, but I
Speaker 1: always used to come outside with this dick out, yes see,
Speaker 1: And well, I just don't want complaints because it's you
Speaker 1: have to be courteous, like, which is why I would
Speaker 1: you keep sucking when it's like, you know, like if
Speaker 1: you hear somebody or see them outside if you I
Speaker 1: don't know which your balcony looks like mine was a
Speaker 1: little more private, but if you know, it's a terrorist,
Speaker 1: so it's divided, so his his terrorist is on the
Speaker 1: other side of the side. Don't, don't, don't do what,
Speaker 1: don't sunk with the other person's outside. And then I'm
Speaker 1: not gonna I'm not gonna know. And see that's what
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna do. I am not gonna change. I'm
Speaker 1: not gonna change my fucking schedule around whether my neighbor
Speaker 1: is outside or not. Like if I want to funk
Speaker 1: my nigga and suck his dick while I look at
Speaker 1: the view of Manhattan. That's what I want to do.
Speaker 1: Absolutely not, because I'll tell you right now, If my
Speaker 1: neighbor was working on my balcony, I'd be like cool
Speaker 1: for them. But bitch, if I'm outside having my Starbucks,
Speaker 1: paying the same rent that you do, and then you
Speaker 1: just decided to call funk this n oh, I don't right?
Speaker 1: How God damn Wendy Red Hair lady. What happened up?
Speaker 1: What happened to us both paying our rent? We book
Speaker 1: pay rent. I could do what I want to do
Speaker 1: in my apartment, but you want nigga on the which
Speaker 1: is why I said, Should I bake cookies? Bitch? Should
Speaker 1: I give him a bottle of wine? A bottle of Tito's?
Speaker 1: How could I let him know? I see you, You'll
Speaker 1: see me. I'm gonna be fucking I'm a balcony. You
Speaker 1: just reminded me of my new neighbor. She just sounded
Speaker 1: just like you. Let me tell you about the I
Speaker 1: know y'all want to talk about sex, but too bad
Speaker 1: we're talking about sex. You're telling me I can't have
Speaker 1: sex because about sex. Let me tell you about this girl.
Speaker 1: I don't even know how to how where to start,
Speaker 1: So I moved back to l e S and the
Speaker 1: apartment I live in. It's the two bedroom and it's
Speaker 1: the only one in the building. I used to be
Speaker 1: a workspace, like a commercial space years ago, and they
Speaker 1: literally took it out. They like knocked the stuff down
Speaker 1: and they made it an apartment. So that's why it's
Speaker 1: so much bigger. So the girl sees me downstairs and
Speaker 1: she was like, oh my god, you just moved into
Speaker 1: the two bedroom. Who's your roommate? Was like, Oh, I'm
Speaker 1: using it as a workspace, but nice to meet you.
Speaker 1: This is a Caucasian woman. I wanted she looks like
Speaker 1: her name is Sarah, but she was sounding like this,
Speaker 1: and then she said to me, she was like, yeah, girl,
Speaker 1: I'm just so happy another woman is in the building.
Speaker 1: She really wanted to say another black woman. That's what
Speaker 1: she wants. She's not black, No, she's not. She's a
Speaker 1: Caucasian woman talking like this. Then mean absolutely shout out
Speaker 1: to Tammy. My mama kind of thought like that, Well,
Speaker 1: let me tell you what she did. Maybe she's from
Speaker 1: the South. Well, she wanted to explain to me where
Speaker 1: she was from. After so she kept talking to me
Speaker 1: like girls, so what she'll do for work, and every
Speaker 1: time she would talk to me that way, I was like, oh,
Speaker 1: this is some thugshit. So I would just reply to
Speaker 1: her in my voice like, oh, actually working entertainment and
Speaker 1: how about yourself. She then says to me, verbatim, girl,
Speaker 1: just sound like dis because I'm from Middle Anna. But
Speaker 1: you know I grew up around it. I said, what
Speaker 1: is it? So then she ignored me and didn't tell
Speaker 1: me what it was. She grew up around it, you know,
Speaker 1: I grew up around eat And I'm like, what the
Speaker 1: funk is it? It just was so like put on dog.
Speaker 1: I was uncomfortable. So then she was like, well, let
Speaker 1: me know if you need help by packing or something. Girl,
Speaker 1: I'm just about to go to the show. And I was.
Speaker 1: I was so uncomfortable. Many why man? She was leaving,
Speaker 1: She said to me, have a good day, sis, bitch,
Speaker 1: who are you talking to? Technically half of you is
Speaker 1: her sister, bitch, half of you in the Caucasian Middle
Speaker 1: Eastern ISRAELI No, but I'm just saying half of half
Speaker 1: of hers. But but also like you know what, I
Speaker 1: I don't take away from I mean, we see a
Speaker 1: lot of our fans. We know, straight up when white
Speaker 1: women date black men. And also, I'm not gonna like
Speaker 1: go against her for sounding like that because if she's like, listen,
Speaker 1: I grew up in Atlanta. I know that my mom
Speaker 1: to to other people maybe like she's putting on, but
Speaker 1: she's not. Do you think your mom would talk to
Speaker 1: like that to someone she first met her, someone she
Speaker 1: was comfortable with. My mom worked at a daycare and
Speaker 1: beat up a mom my mom mom, and my mom
Speaker 1: voice when she'd be out in restaurants with us and
Speaker 1: chilling like if over the top, and it's extra, and
Speaker 1: it's making me feel uncomfortable. Frankly, because tell her that
Speaker 1: that's why she had to explain to me where she's from.
Speaker 1: I'm not having another conversation with her because I'm not
Speaker 1: her sist, and I'm not just gonna let people speak
Speaker 1: to me the way they think they want to hear it.
Speaker 1: Because it was very obvious she was putting on for me.
Speaker 1: If I looked like her, would she speak to me
Speaker 1: that way? We both don't know. We both don't know.
Speaker 1: I bet you it's to now. And when I knock
Speaker 1: on door number twelve because she's playing too much music,
Speaker 1: because I can already tell she's that type of bitch.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna I'm so annoyed. I feel bothered because I
Speaker 1: don't want nobody to think this of me, like a
Speaker 1: part of me. Even with the getting a proof for
Speaker 1: the apartment, like because they were asking me for so much.
Speaker 1: Everyone that I talked to immediate was like, well, did
Speaker 1: you look and see if they're racist? Did you look
Speaker 1: and see if they're discriminatory? And I don't want to
Speaker 1: put my mind straight there in a unit that listen,
Speaker 1: maybe my documents just wasn't what they wanted to see.
Speaker 1: So I don't I mean, I don't know. I'm gonna
Speaker 1: be here with you the building that you're moving in,
Speaker 1: and like, I don't even know where you're moving into, right,
Speaker 1: but a luxury building. They need people so bad they
Speaker 1: take Bro, they are giving six six months free. I
Speaker 1: want you if they give it six months free. I mean,
Speaker 1: I mean you came in there with Grand's Gold team
Speaker 1: saying do you remember the song like a few Buck
Speaker 1: I was on it, and they'd been like, come on in,
Speaker 1: that's how much bro. Real estate agents right now they
Speaker 1: were trying to pay me to show me apartments. Dead ass.
Speaker 1: They said, show us your lease and that you're leaving,
Speaker 1: and we'll give you a five hundred dollar gift card
Speaker 1: for like a few in apartments. Yeah, and I mean
Speaker 1: in the area I'm moving. They were offering five hundred
Speaker 1: dollar gift cards if you put an application in within
Speaker 1: the first twenty four hours, which I did. I'm not
Speaker 1: gonna lie. I went to four buildings, saw ten units,
Speaker 1: and I walked into this one that wasn't even listed,
Speaker 1: and what's We're crazy? What's crazy? Is like, as soon
Speaker 1: as I walked in, I was like, why are you
Speaker 1: showing me this? The saint in my budget? Like I
Speaker 1: just already knew it wasn't in my budget. And then
Speaker 1: once they, you know, put the incentives on that thing,
Speaker 1: I would like, oh, this is in the rat is
Speaker 1: very important. And I'm very clear if any of you
Speaker 1: guys work as in freelance, whatever you do, you have
Speaker 1: to always make sure I don't care what they're telling
Speaker 1: me about how much the rent is gonna be, what
Speaker 1: they're gonna do. I say, listen, I make money a
Speaker 1: few times a year in large chunks as you will see,
Speaker 1: and guess what I care about my net annual pay.
Speaker 1: I don't give off that what you're saying about how
Speaker 1: much it's gonna be, or we can take it down
Speaker 1: to this, I want this and this. You have to
Speaker 1: be very clear, like real estate agent will fuck you
Speaker 1: on everything else. But make sure that you're spending what
Speaker 1: you should be spending it within a year. And I
Speaker 1: think that another thing that could be scary for some
Speaker 1: people is if you know, let's say the rent is
Speaker 1: for a grand and they give you three months free
Speaker 1: or some sh it, it takes you down to twenty
Speaker 1: eight whatever. Right, make sure that if you can't afford
Speaker 1: for a grand a month, you let them break it up.
Speaker 1: You pay twenty eight and see if they're comfortable there.
Speaker 1: You have the way it's amortized amortized. I didn't know that. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's how that's pretty much, uh, meaning that you pay
Speaker 1: that net rate monthly instead of them giving you the
Speaker 1: three months whenever those are and then you paying them.
Speaker 1: Because I could see if people up like if you're
Speaker 1: not and they're advertising it as yeah, maybe hundred, but
Speaker 1: the actual rent is thirty nine. Like, girl, my real
Speaker 1: estate company wasn't shipped. I would shout him out, But
Speaker 1: the niggas I was sitting down like I can't understand
Speaker 1: why I'm only getting a month and a half and
Speaker 1: he was like a month and a half. A month
Speaker 1: and a half. He was also as really, he says,
Speaker 1: you have eleven hundred square in the east Side, why
Speaker 1: do you think you get more? So then I tried
Speaker 1: to play hardball with this and I was like, you
Speaker 1: know what, I don't want it. Everybody else is doing
Speaker 1: it too and a half. He's like, no problem. I
Speaker 1: was like, let me give it two hours till he
Speaker 1: called me fun So I'm like, let me wait till
Speaker 1: the morning. I call this nigga like eight am. He's like,
Speaker 1: I know you're going to be calling me. I fill
Speaker 1: out paid for work. I was like, fuck, do yeah,
Speaker 1: I get better ju than I think baby thinking I am.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying this, this this movie sh
Speaker 1: it ain't for me. So I went ahead locked in
Speaker 1: two years, so I got three months off each year
Speaker 1: and I'm like, thank you. I'm happy, but let's go in.
Speaker 1: We're gonna get into you. We're gonna do any of
Speaker 1: the baby room though there is no baby ever coming.
Speaker 1: I'm getting, bitch, I'm getting the vacuum. Even if my
Speaker 1: test came out positive tomorrow. Bitch, i'd be making an
Speaker 1: appointment for New Year's Day, Like, suck it out. I'm
Speaker 1: not having a goddamn baby. You make it out you'll
Speaker 1: maybe having a baby. No, it don't matter. What's the
Speaker 1: shoot up, and it don't matter what happened the little
Speaker 1: swimmer swimming then they go to the egg and then
Speaker 1: there's a baby. I'm so glad. Look, let's pock it up.
Speaker 1: And you know, in sex and you got a little
Speaker 1: swimmer swimming up and apparently it's science. Now I'm like
Speaker 1: number twelve. Anyway, Anyway, we're gonna get into the Vanilla
Speaker 1: Ship for this week. If you guys are just tuning
Speaker 1: in for the very first time, because you got into
Speaker 1: and was like, oh, let me add to my podcast playlist,
Speaker 1: and we popped up. Our vanilla Ship. Is kind of
Speaker 1: just a news article or is something that has to
Speaker 1: do with sex in the news. This one comes from Vice. Um,
Speaker 1: and I did want to talk about it because we've
Speaker 1: talked about porn a lot if you haven't yet, we
Speaker 1: have two episodes where we go into all these porn categories,
Speaker 1: and this one from Vice actually talks about how BBW
Speaker 1: porn encouraged uh someone to have better sex. Uh, So
Speaker 1: for this one, I am speaking to my girls who
Speaker 1: ain't comfortable with their bodies. Um. A lot of times
Speaker 1: we view porn and even follow women on Instagram that
Speaker 1: don't look like us. So this one says, I first
Speaker 1: came across images of b bws and b h m's
Speaker 1: in two thousand eleven. B h M. I don't think
Speaker 1: we talked about it. Wait, big huge, how are you
Speaker 1: gonna have to to bigger us and the big Harry. No,
Speaker 1: there they are synonyms. But thinking it asked me, I'm
Speaker 1: saying I was speaking that. Look at me saying all
Speaker 1: these words. You don't know I'm loving. I'm sorry. I
Speaker 1: thought you would like amatized. I don't know that. I
Speaker 1: don't thank you. Thank you for teaching me something but
Speaker 1: a hair loom. Oh we're not gonna do that. They
Speaker 1: don't even to know about that. Leave it there, bitch,
Speaker 1: big Harry. No, no, it's not another adjean, said, okay, right,
Speaker 1: it is it is. Yes, give me a give me
Speaker 1: a sound, bitch, big hot. Okay, So it's big handsome
Speaker 1: men the same way big beautiful women. You couldn't have
Speaker 1: thought of a synonym for beautiful. Oh yeah, it's man
Speaker 1: so um. If you've ever visited porn hub, chances are
Speaker 1: you've seen them as clickable categories full of content starring
Speaker 1: fat performers. And it does have it there also, it
Speaker 1: has it has the air quoth quotation with her hand. No,
Speaker 1: I'm just saying, b b W really become shorthand for
Speaker 1: quote unquote fat porn um. Of course, anyone who feels
Speaker 1: like they're bigger doesn't really care for the word fat.
Speaker 1: So that's why they use these other words. That's the
Speaker 1: wild ship to me though, because like I feel like
Speaker 1: when we've interviewed BBWs um s, particularly Ashley Chubby Bunny,
Speaker 1: who was like, you can say fat and I'm like,
Speaker 1: but she but she like it's because So that's the thing.
Speaker 1: It's all perspective, because I'm someone who doesn't like the
Speaker 1: word fat or chubby or the other words that were
Speaker 1: used to describe me, and she was fine with that.
Speaker 1: She also was okay with fluffy and guys holding her stomach.
Speaker 1: Would you prefer voluptuous curvy? Voluptuous curvy? Um? Even I'm
Speaker 1: not gonna lie. When I was when I would be
Speaker 1: shopping plus size as something like, I was like, oh,
Speaker 1: I have to shop By one, two, three X, Like,
Speaker 1: there was just a couple of things that to me personally,
Speaker 1: I just didn't like. But it's because I had insecurities
Speaker 1: about what I look like. That's why even back then
Speaker 1: I would have sex with the lights off and I
Speaker 1: wasn't comfortable writing dick and doing those If like, the
Speaker 1: more ownership you have over how you're feeling about your body,
Speaker 1: the more you don't give us. Maybe that's like us
Speaker 1: saying like core is not a big deal, you know
Speaker 1: what I mean, Like when you accept what people quote
Speaker 1: unquote think you are, how you're viewed as to the world,
Speaker 1: maybe that's why actually was I don't give a funk
Speaker 1: about nicks. Well, so that's why, uh, in this article,
Speaker 1: it's pretty much saying how what we take in I
Speaker 1: guess we can compare it to Instagram. When you follow
Speaker 1: all of these beautiful women that have these little weights,
Speaker 1: the big gass, and you know, the plump lips and
Speaker 1: the long hair, all of these things, you start to
Speaker 1: pick it your own insecurities because you don't have these qualities.
Speaker 1: So basically, when you're watching porn, it probably is better
Speaker 1: for you to feel more comfortable with sex if you're
Speaker 1: watching people have sex that look like you. You get
Speaker 1: what I mean. Yeah, Like, I actually only like watching
Speaker 1: porn with mixed girls or latinos because they kind of
Speaker 1: look like me, right, And I mean that's why I
Speaker 1: even said it's hard for me to watch porn right
Speaker 1: now because if I'm watching regular plan well no even
Speaker 1: to me with vanilla porn. But I watched gate porn
Speaker 1: and now because I just am so enthralled with what
Speaker 1: my man looks like. I told you I stopped kind
Speaker 1: of watching porn because I can't find a nigga it
Speaker 1: look like my nigga imporn. Even though I watched Gate porn,
Speaker 1: I'm like, I still want to nigga that looks like
Speaker 1: my man. I just watched our own porns, but I
Speaker 1: like watching Black Girl. You don't like recording what bitch
Speaker 1: I have, like, I'm that nasty, asked Niggat, Like he
Speaker 1: doesn't like recording that. No, we talked about it. He said, Man,
Speaker 1: I don't because if we're talking about I said, well,
Speaker 1: I want to record more, and he's like, I don't
Speaker 1: enjoy sex as much when I record because I'm too
Speaker 1: focused at looking at the camera and figuring out the
Speaker 1: angles to make it look good on camera that I
Speaker 1: don't enjoy what's right in front of me. I do
Speaker 1: have a porn with hospital Dick where I thought, maybe
Speaker 1: I just gotta set up the tripops ain't got to
Speaker 1: hold it real, big bitch. And he was like, you
Speaker 1: see how you look at and I was like, yeah,
Speaker 1: because I want you to remember me. And I was like, right,
Speaker 1: you know what what I'm saying. And honestly, the only reason
Speaker 1: I looked at the cameras because I knew he'd watch
Speaker 1: it later and I wanted him to watch me looking
Speaker 1: at him. And then he was like, no, yeah, no,
Speaker 1: I think So that's another thing that we got to
Speaker 1: have a whole conversation about that maybe with another guy
Speaker 1: that we come on. But when they record, because of
Speaker 1: course po V p o V, what they've record and
Speaker 1: what they want to see is completely different than how
Speaker 1: we think we look at what we're doing. Uh no, no,
Speaker 1: because I'd be thinking I look good and I do
Speaker 1: a bitch, I'll be looking can you tell you though?
Speaker 1: It's funny? How like? And this is the same with
Speaker 1: group fitness. When I'm working out like at a Berry's
Speaker 1: Blue Camp or at a spin class, like I always
Speaker 1: burn more calories. I'm always doing better when I fuck
Speaker 1: on camera. I ride longer because I know this, we
Speaker 1: just gonna watch it. And I'm not trying to look
Speaker 1: like I'm not a fucking champion because I am. That
Speaker 1: would be the last position that I would let a
Speaker 1: nigger record me. And you ain't go ahead me with
Speaker 1: cracker video. My physical perspective is it enjoyable? No, but
Speaker 1: they'll be looking good. And my titties are like you know,
Speaker 1: I mean, they're not new, they're seven years old, but
Speaker 1: they just look really good from the bike. My hair too,
Speaker 1: from the bike. That's the only way you getting me
Speaker 1: from the bike? Why? Girl? Because then when when it's
Speaker 1: like this my waist, this little my ass, little veg
Speaker 1: and it's just that's all you get on this happen
Speaker 1: with riding is when I come I'm like useless. I'd
Speaker 1: be like see what I mean, Ain't nobody recorded me
Speaker 1: being a failure. But I do sound I realized after
Speaker 1: watching My Importance that like when I'm coming really hard,
Speaker 1: which is funny because like there's a few videos I
Speaker 1: have where like the phone knocked over because we were
Speaker 1: working so hard, Right, I sound insane. I don't even know.
Speaker 1: I remember one specific one. I was like, oh my god,
Speaker 1: I have to like edit this and try to get
Speaker 1: my voice out of it. I was like, oh my god,
Speaker 1: coming me, Oh my god, you'd be sounding like a
Speaker 1: whole last white woman. Yes you do. No black girl
Speaker 1: sounds like that when they sucking. When I go out
Speaker 1: to like come the hardest ship, maybe maybe then I
Speaker 1: have the spirit of number twelve come to my body.
Speaker 1: I noticed that when when I record, like when I'm
Speaker 1: getting fund and I know I'm on camera, I pretty much.
Speaker 1: I don't know why. I just talked so much about
Speaker 1: the man, like your dick is so big. You see
Speaker 1: how big it is. Oh my god, you're making me wet. Like, yeah,
Speaker 1: we're not gonna talk about that because my nigga laughs
Speaker 1: at me calling myself a dom. Apparently I've shown no
Speaker 1: type of dom with him, and he's like, hmm, I
Speaker 1: don't think that's you. And so one, yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 1: I don't know. He is just so adamant that I
Speaker 1: am a sub and it's just I think because with him,
Speaker 1: he's he's kind of like seven in that sense where
Speaker 1: I do relinquish a lot of power to him. I'm
Speaker 1: just watching Malcolm X behind you. He is he is
Speaker 1: the reason fuck you anyway? Is I do want to
Speaker 1: get into now? Our hord derv our hord derv is
Speaker 1: our sex tip. Our sex tip pretty much comes from
Speaker 1: either someone who submits it when we have guests ourselves.
Speaker 1: This one actually came from my man and I shared
Speaker 1: it with the patrons, but I wanted to bring it
Speaker 1: bike one time and share it to our our all
Speaker 1: of our audience. Uh So, basically, I was in the
Speaker 1: middle about to have anal sex with my nigga a
Speaker 1: couple of nights ago. Actually it would have been a
Speaker 1: couple of weeks ago now, uh, And I was like,
Speaker 1: you want to put it in my ass? You want
Speaker 1: to put it in my ass? I just know he
Speaker 1: really liked anal sex. So the whole time we in bed,
Speaker 1: I'm like, you can put it in my ass. This
Speaker 1: is me giving him permission for anal sex that I
Speaker 1: normally be like no. So in the middle of us fucking,
Speaker 1: he just starts laughing, And mind you, he did not
Speaker 1: put it in my ass. So I was like, babe,
Speaker 1: you didn't want my ass tonight, I'm confused, like what
Speaker 1: the hell. But apparently he knows how much I don't
Speaker 1: really care for it, and a sex is often and
Speaker 1: so he thought of a joke, and so, ladies, this
Speaker 1: is for you, For you guys tuning in, he thought
Speaker 1: of this joke because he knew that I didn't really
Speaker 1: want the anal sex. But it was on his comedy
Speaker 1: school while he was sucking me. I mean no, it
Speaker 1: was funny too because I was like, damn, well, it
Speaker 1: was towards the end because clearly he came, but I
Speaker 1: was like, you came before you put it in my ass.
Speaker 1: I thought you wanted my ass. So anyways, ladies, for
Speaker 1: those of you who don't like anal sex and want
Speaker 1: to get your partner away from asking for it, specifically
Speaker 1: in a heterosexual relationship, what you can do is pretty
Speaker 1: much name your booty hole and this is how we
Speaker 1: do it, Okay. So basically, when you know your nigga
Speaker 1: want to have anal sex, what you do is name
Speaker 1: your Buddha hole the name of a man. So be like, baby,
Speaker 1: you want to fun Darius tonight? Is that what you do?
Speaker 1: You want to fuck Greg the night? And I'm telling
Speaker 1: you your man is not gonna wanna suck you thinking
Speaker 1: about Darius. No. He was thinking this is the joke
Speaker 1: that he had heard, and he just knows that. I'm like, baby,
Speaker 1: you could have my ass and you could have my ass,
Speaker 1: and I all want knowing I really didn't want him
Speaker 1: to get in my ass. So he's like, I don't know,
Speaker 1: way I didn't. I didn't want attitude. I feel like
Speaker 1: you lost the game of cards. You're like, you can
Speaker 1: just have him a budda hole, all right, like, and
Speaker 1: I guess he sends that I really didn't want him
Speaker 1: to open me up because we had just had anal
Speaker 1: sex the week before and I already told him, you're
Speaker 1: having antal sex way too much. It's supposed to be
Speaker 1: once a quarter. We're having it a little bit too much.
Speaker 1: I don't know if it's like a Fredian thing. But
Speaker 1: every time we talk about anal sex, specifically me and you,
Speaker 1: I have to ship because I just have this and
Speaker 1: maybe no, because you'll be acting like you be taking
Speaker 1: dicky taking dick girl like without as in my ass.
Speaker 1: You've been talking about riding and I just always think
Speaker 1: of my own ass. You. I literally have to ship
Speaker 1: my buddah hole be turned into a hole pussy like
Speaker 1: it'd be opening up. Okay, it does, and then it
Speaker 1: starts to get it does get wet. We do use luke,
Speaker 1: but then it be getting wetter, which is why I
Speaker 1: we care because I'm like, is this I know the
Speaker 1: boot hole don't really get wet like that, but my
Speaker 1: bussy talk because I just feel like it's leaking right now. Well,
Speaker 1: my booty ain't leaking. It might be because people say
Speaker 1: that it doesn't go back to normal, You're a liar.
Speaker 1: My booty has gone back to normal. Like girl, I
Speaker 1: tried to put my finger up today because I'm like,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna see him tonight. Let me make sure there's
Speaker 1: there's nothing under my acrylic nails, because then I'll be like, okay,
Speaker 1: what when I'm in the shower, that's what you do.
Speaker 1: I'm not saying it doesn't go back to normal. What
Speaker 1: I am saying, though, it is I have a friend
Speaker 1: of mine who'll be sucking this dude and he'd be like, yo,
Speaker 1: I don't like because ass is too big. Yeah, but
Speaker 1: with guys is different because you're getting your ass fucked
Speaker 1: a lot. Me I'm only getting it once a quarter
Speaker 1: or once a month, so like it goes back twelve times,
Speaker 1: and because I have time for it to go back.
Speaker 1: When when that's the only hole you have to offer,
Speaker 1: it's not gonna be a little tony tighthole normal. No,
Speaker 1: And imagine you do. You shoot out of it daily
Speaker 1: and you're probably getting funcked in it daily. Your your
Speaker 1: boot hole just not gonna be tight. But you're the
Speaker 1: one who said you're billy. How we'll go back to
Speaker 1: normal women that are scared about anal sex, but men
Speaker 1: that are the same. I refused to believe that women
Speaker 1: have a different type of but we have another hole
Speaker 1: for a man to go into that men men don't
Speaker 1: be fucking in a piss holes, but maybe don't pus
Speaker 1: the holes. Look, you know what what I mean, se
Speaker 1: what I mean Anyway, I have a horrid derve tip.
Speaker 1: This is more like an anti don't do it tip.
Speaker 1: If you want to send a nude to somebody and
Speaker 1: you want to change the date, don't save the photo
Speaker 1: from Instagram like I thought it would do. Because I
Speaker 1: actually posted my own nude recently. That was a fun
Speaker 1: time you saved it from Instagram. I thought if I
Speaker 1: saved the photo from Instagram, it would change the date,
Speaker 1: and it did. But accidentally, I'm so used to doing
Speaker 1: Instagram stories. I posted it to my story M and
Speaker 1: you are at the second time. You don't did this?
Speaker 1: I no, no, the first time I got acted, I
Speaker 1: remember what you're talking about. I sent that video in
Speaker 1: my d M. Okay, but anyway, this was the first time.
Speaker 1: And uh, lucky enough, thirteen people saw it. It was
Speaker 1: about four o'clock in the Morning's bad, It's not too bad.
Speaker 1: What type of newd was it? Full frontal? Just the
Speaker 1: titties because I feel like the titt is they'd be
Speaker 1: out anyway. Really yeah, I feel like the nipples like
Speaker 1: a big deal to me, not ariola, but maybe because
Speaker 1: they're new, Like if it was my old titties, you
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. Like, I found this nude of myself. Actually,
Speaker 1: wait here was it? I just took a picture of it.
Speaker 1: I was cleaning out my inbox and I found a
Speaker 1: nude from two thousand eleven. I was like, well, I
Speaker 1: does a little baby titties, it's your whole ass. I
Speaker 1: was really a home like I was spreading my pussy
Speaker 1: and everything. I don't know who else to do. But
Speaker 1: what I do know is if I had a nude
Speaker 1: like that leak. I'd be like, yo, I was a child,
Speaker 1: but now like I'm developed. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: I could afford tits and in my own apartment, and
Speaker 1: I would really prefer for my nuds not to be spread.
Speaker 1: But that's an I'm spoiled. My nigga don't even want
Speaker 1: nudes or videos. I don't have to do ship no more.
Speaker 1: Would be like, that's just because he lives near you, girl?
Speaker 1: Is that what it is? But I don't know. It's
Speaker 1: always a nice little I mean the afternoon delight. The
Speaker 1: cheta got social media, so the nikka just get to
Speaker 1: see the folk social media seeing you know what I do,
Speaker 1: because now you like this lingerie babe, good so to Instagram,
Speaker 1: Like you gotta take videos and you opulate in this
Speaker 1: is really nasty, but like you don't want videos. So
Speaker 1: basically here's my horrid derv When you're ovulating, you know
Speaker 1: what I'm saying, because it's a little bit creamy, so
Speaker 1: you gotta track it use like I'm worth mind called
Speaker 1: I think it's called pea tracker. But anyway, when you're
Speaker 1: using your ovulation app and you see the flower day,
Speaker 1: that's when you're like most likely to get pregnant, and
Speaker 1: your pussy is that it's juicy as period trackers and
Speaker 1: what I use. This is what mine looks like for
Speaker 1: everyone on YouTube. So my flower day was yesterday. So basically,
Speaker 1: you make a video and you like push on like
Speaker 1: the whole of your vagina and like squeeze all the
Speaker 1: juices out and it looks like there's come dripping out
Speaker 1: of your pussy, but it's really just you and niggas
Speaker 1: love it and find a way to change the date
Speaker 1: on it because I've easily. I don't know how, so
Speaker 1: I don't know how to do that either, not for videos,
Speaker 1: for pictures. You just and then crop it. That's what
Speaker 1: I did. It was like a quick videos three seconds.
Speaker 1: It was just like me in the bathroom. It was
Speaker 1: that in the video, this is a boomerang. I just
Speaker 1: wanted to hear like a boomerangs bit. It wasn't a
Speaker 1: boomerang three seconds a boomerang. It couldn't. It was longer,
Speaker 1: but I felt like I look goofy at the four
Speaker 1: process video. How do I change the date on my
Speaker 1: iPhone video? Help me be a whole series? Come on
Speaker 1: iPhone life dot com let's see master your iPhone in
Speaker 1: one day. I don't want to take that's the whole class.
Speaker 1: But you better go to the YouTube. Okay, you have
Speaker 1: to go on a Mac. There you go. Okay, here
Speaker 1: we go. Hold down the shift key while clicking all
Speaker 1: the photos whose dates you want to change. Next, go
Speaker 1: to images images click just date and time. This will
Speaker 1: allow you to change the dates for any photos selected
Speaker 1: at once. You can also use this message method to
Speaker 1: adjust the timestamp individually. Um oh, this is perfect. So
Speaker 1: like if you told your nigga you a Miami, are
Speaker 1: you not my nigg even know you could sign document?
Speaker 1: Like he asked me if I had a printer. I said, babe,
Speaker 1: you know everyone does everything electronically now right, so like
Speaker 1: this this right here, he ain't gonna even know how
Speaker 1: to check the time and shoot on stuff. I had
Speaker 1: to be like, babe, we don't need to print out
Speaker 1: and sign anything. Uh, okay, well, people, are you know
Speaker 1: I'm gonna saying you know what I mean electronically boo,
Speaker 1: you just send it by via email. I got I've
Speaker 1: gotten up not on the date but on the time,
Speaker 1: Like I I was a hout that was four hours ago.
Speaker 1: Niket so what the fuck you at now? CU, But
Speaker 1: we need to phone because it's a little too much
Speaker 1: investigative ship with me to I don't be investigating well. Anyways, guys,
Speaker 1: we're gonna get into now a horrid blade decision. Our
Speaker 1: horrible decision today is about the circle back. So let
Speaker 1: me start off with opening up why I wanted to
Speaker 1: talk about this, and also just some self reflections. So
Speaker 1: y'all know, I've been talking about my nigga since fucking
Speaker 1: may have last year. Uh so it's been an ongoing thing.
Speaker 1: But over the last two weeks, a lot of my
Speaker 1: niggas from the past have hit me up. Um, and
Speaker 1: it's not even my past because a lot of them
Speaker 1: were in my present. Green Eye with me, I don't know.
Speaker 1: Green Eyes hit me two other niggas that didn't even
Speaker 1: get a motherfucking uh nickname on the show, and Perpendicular
Speaker 1: Dick been hitting me up. I ain't even gonna hold you,
Speaker 1: but he just he know I got a boyfriend. He
Speaker 1: the only one that know because he'd be hitting me
Speaker 1: up like you still we him? Yes, nigga, I'm still
Speaker 1: we him. Get off my phone, damn. But anyway, other
Speaker 1: dudes text me that have girlfriends. I'd be like, he
Speaker 1: has a girlfriend. So I'm like, I know you tuose
Speaker 1: to cheat, but baby, I'm not there, not yet. I
Speaker 1: don't want to cheat on my nigga yet. You know
Speaker 1: what that you can cheat with like letting him know.
Speaker 1: It's called an open relation. Well no, so that's the
Speaker 1: that's the crazy thing, and that's why I wanted to
Speaker 1: talk about Well no, that's why I wanted to talk
Speaker 1: about this because my partner is okay with me having
Speaker 1: sex with other people. So here's what happened. And I
Speaker 1: want to talk about the circle back. It's a new year,
Speaker 1: it's supposed to be new year. Knew me. So I
Speaker 1: want to ask the girls why we continue to bring
Speaker 1: certain people into our present that are serving no purpose.
Speaker 1: So I go to say this, clearly, Green Eyes has
Speaker 1: amazing dick. He hit me up and it's like I'm coming.
Speaker 1: I'll be in New York and I'm like, okay, cool,
Speaker 1: Well I have a boyfriend. Now, however, you use the video. However,
Speaker 1: in that very moment, I was like, damn, it's it's December.
Speaker 1: At this point, I said, I'm just telling you I
Speaker 1: have a boyfriend. That made me reflect on the fact,
Speaker 1: mind you, the other three niggas well, the other two
Speaker 1: niggas that in me up in that same week, also,
Speaker 1: I had to let them know I had a nigga
Speaker 1: photo you posted or something. Maybe niggas was just ready.
Speaker 1: One was ready to put me on a flight. The
Speaker 1: other one was just on some hey, how you doing?
Speaker 1: You know? The other one was just like, I'm in
Speaker 1: New York this week. So I say all this to say,
Speaker 1: I realized that between May two December, none of them
Speaker 1: had hit me up, because clearly none of them knew
Speaker 1: I had a partner. And a part of me went
Speaker 1: back to reflect on the accessibility that I gave these
Speaker 1: niggas when I was single, and I was like, damn,
Speaker 1: it's a pandemic. I turned thirty, I got these new podcasts,
Speaker 1: I started a new company, and I said, between May
Speaker 1: and December, not now one hit me up for checking
Speaker 1: all my health, for wishing me a happy birthday. Mind
Speaker 1: they follow me on social media. You know everything I'm
Speaker 1: I'm going through and what's going on in my life.
Speaker 1: You haven't even checked on me. But as soon as
Speaker 1: you want some pussy, you expect me to just clear
Speaker 1: my schedule up and hop on a flight or meet
Speaker 1: you because you in my city. I only think that
Speaker 1: people give that energy like I've done that to people
Speaker 1: that have done it to me. Um, But like I'm saying,
Speaker 1: I don't think it's meant to be rude. Like if
Speaker 1: you know you just had a thing with someone, I
Speaker 1: think you're taking it personal now because you have something
Speaker 1: more in depth and well, and that's but that's what
Speaker 1: I'm thinking, Like, or when you're in that mind space right,
Speaker 1: like let's say that, like you've just been broken up
Speaker 1: with and you're like feeling some pain and then someone
Speaker 1: hits you up for dick that you used to fun
Speaker 1: and he'd be like, oh my god, all he wants
Speaker 1: to do is fun. Me it's like, well, all y'all
Speaker 1: used to do. It's fun. But that's where I'm just
Speaker 1: like now experiencing having just anything because I do still
Speaker 1: talk to some of my old homes like I do
Speaker 1: still talk to them, the ones that actually cared about
Speaker 1: my goddamn well being in life. I do still talk
Speaker 1: to them, even if it was an arrangement or just
Speaker 1: a fun thing or whatever. So to me, I was
Speaker 1: just like, h and I want anyone listening who may
Speaker 1: be experiencing this as well, the self reflection of not
Speaker 1: only the relationships that we have with men, but how
Speaker 1: much we really show them how we value ourselves and
Speaker 1: hear me out. I say this to say, when I
Speaker 1: was talking with my home girls about it, a part
Speaker 1: of me did judge myself. I said, Damn, did I
Speaker 1: really not require anything of these men? Damn? Did I
Speaker 1: really make myself accessible to where whenever they wanted my
Speaker 1: pussy it was just for the taking without at least
Speaker 1: have put out into I mean, as a listener, right
Speaker 1: being me being sitting across the table for you, you've
Speaker 1: put out that this was your choice. Yeah, but that's
Speaker 1: where Also I'm also looking back and seeing how much
Speaker 1: I wasn't in control at the end of the day,
Speaker 1: I was getting dick when they hit me up and
Speaker 1: was offering me they dick, and I made my pussy
Speaker 1: available like and I think I have said this on
Speaker 1: the show too. There I didn't feel like I could
Speaker 1: be like a nigga fly me out this week. I
Speaker 1: got some free time, a nigga, fly yourself to New
Speaker 1: York because I want to see you like so Also,
Speaker 1: it was a false perception of me being in control
Speaker 1: of my sex life because I essentially did allow my
Speaker 1: availability to happen when a nigga allowed me. I wonder
Speaker 1: if that's why I've always been so like I like
Speaker 1: to have nection with people first, because then I feel like,
Speaker 1: at least there's a mutual interest, Like I've found that
Speaker 1: even when I just want dick, if they just want
Speaker 1: sex for me. Sometimes it's difficult when I'm single because
Speaker 1: I'm like, I've had relationships, I've had someone that cares
Speaker 1: for me. I know what that feels like, and it's
Speaker 1: hard for me to be on the opposite side as
Speaker 1: someone who's normally in the relationship being none when this
Speaker 1: nigga break my heart a bit, going straight to the
Speaker 1: church because I don't know I was gonna be able
Speaker 1: to deal with no like hose come from like no bullshit?
Speaker 1: I think I was because I was born a heart.
Speaker 1: Don't come from heartbreak. Heartbroken. You could be born at home,
Speaker 1: you could be born a home. But I really do think, like,
Speaker 1: if I do believe heartbreak like brings your home. For example,
Speaker 1: you was the whole Like when we met as teenagers
Speaker 1: and your heartbroke, you wasn't all the way heartbroken as
Speaker 1: a teenager and you was the first of all. Man,
Speaker 1: I was sixteen, sixteen year old home straight out the ball.
Speaker 1: I like to have fun. I'm just saying, why are
Speaker 1: you gonna recording this is not funny, this is this
Speaker 1: is why port had to take videos down. Okay, because
Speaker 1: they were talking about a child. Don't talk about me
Speaker 1: at sixteen now, when I was eighteen, that was my
Speaker 1: own choice. I feel like I'm just saying, you're saying
Speaker 1: hoween comes from heartbreak, which I ain't experienced, breaking elementary
Speaker 1: and what I'm saying, we ain't gonna bring up the
Speaker 1: fifth grade playground love. Let me explain. I think hose
Speaker 1: are birds from heartbreaks, like I think behind every home
Speaker 1: is a nigga that made them do that ship for example,
Speaker 1: just hear me out. Nigga is gonna be so mad
Speaker 1: you're blaming them for us being homes. That's fine because
Speaker 1: here's what happens right now. My nigga calls me is like,
Speaker 1: fuck you, I'm done. It's not a pandemic. Gonna tell
Speaker 1: you exactly what I'm gonna do. Finish these fucking episodes out,
Speaker 1: Finish my apartment, getting moved in. I'm going to Miami
Speaker 1: I'm going to space, I'm going to do drugs. I'm
Speaker 1: gonna suck someone out else, I'm gonna get fucked up
Speaker 1: for a week. Had so I was like niggas bit
Speaker 1: on Instagram. Then after a week, I'm gonna go home
Speaker 1: and cry after I have chlamydia? What's gonna happen? Where
Speaker 1: did this? Just? Well? We but here we go? You
Speaker 1: know why, that's not the smart thing to say, because
Speaker 1: we can't just assume that hose all have STDs or
Speaker 1: catch I'm not saying that, hos. I'm saying that I
Speaker 1: would be wilding that much to where it would happen.
Speaker 1: So you haven't unprotected sex with someone you don't love.
Speaker 1: Weethy like, I didn't just say I'm protected. I'm just
Speaker 1: saying I was. You catch a chlamydia girl? First of all,
Speaker 1: condoms have like an not for chlamydia. It's HPV that
Speaker 1: you could catch on a condom. What I know, idio,
Speaker 1: if I'm quite broken, I'll be begging for it, Okay, nigga.
Speaker 1: When I went what was it last quarterly? Uh? No,
Speaker 1: no, no no, sorry? I go twice a year. The last
Speaker 1: time I went, and again they told me I didn't
Speaker 1: have HPV I was like, this is insane to me.
Speaker 1: You're telling me of women have it. I ever in
Speaker 1: the house, I talk all the time. I don't have HPV.
Speaker 1: I'm this is h V. HPV is something different, right,
Speaker 1: you're talking about HERP simple exprs. HPV is what human
Speaker 1: papalonia or something. Let me get the word yeah, because
Speaker 1: I'm yeah, say it right, but HPV women have right.
Speaker 1: I wish I knew how to I wish I knew
Speaker 1: how to say that P word. And for anyone who's
Speaker 1: listening who's like, damn, bit, you got a sex podcast
Speaker 1: you don't know, Shut the funk up you. I'm listening
Speaker 1: for how many years and you don't know either, bit,
Speaker 1: no fat human paper movie. You still ain't saying let
Speaker 1: me see, let me see paplona papalona virus. I think
Speaker 1: you said it pilloma varias various. The last word is virus.
Speaker 1: Start from the end and then work yourself back to
Speaker 1: the begin. HPV pronounced Pomela virus. I feel so stupid
Speaker 1: right now. I think it is pamela virus. But let's
Speaker 1: just leave this in here. Here we go HPV. No,
Speaker 1: we don't want to say pom Okay, we was closed.
Speaker 1: I'm mad, he said, HPV, Which we do that then,
Speaker 1: I think. So I say all this to say, please,
Speaker 1: anyone on our patron I would love to hear a
Speaker 1: story from you, but pretty much us going into this
Speaker 1: new year, I think that it's important to find purpose
Speaker 1: with our partners, and also as a woman who who,
Speaker 1: like I said, was out here just having all these
Speaker 1: partners and feeling like I was in control. Looking back
Speaker 1: on now, I really wasn't. And so I think it's
Speaker 1: important for you to know what it exactly is that
Speaker 1: you do want from these men and not allowed men
Speaker 1: to be around if they're not giving you what you want?
Speaker 1: So do decide? Is it money? Is it time? Is
Speaker 1: it affection? Is an intimacy? Because I ain't gonna hold
Speaker 1: you a bit the way I'll be cut it up
Speaker 1: and loving up now, like I will probably never have
Speaker 1: relationship again with someone that isn't showing me the intimacy
Speaker 1: and affection that I'm getting. Now that's not true. I'll
Speaker 1: tell you why, why talk to me? Because when I
Speaker 1: n again on your nerves and you kind of tired
Speaker 1: of that ship, like right now you're feeling, you know,
Speaker 1: you've never felt this in love before right, so like
Speaker 1: it's an amazing feeling and cuddling an intimacy like that's
Speaker 1: all ship. I love too, but as someone who is
Speaker 1: like a ho for love. Oh, I'm telling you dog,
Speaker 1: like sometimes you just want to get fucked. So so
Speaker 1: here's I am someone that you know is a serial
Speaker 1: relationship data Like I don't even know how to not
Speaker 1: lay a table out for someone like it's I've heard
Speaker 1: people you know talk about like pick me on Twitter,
Speaker 1: and it's like I genuinely thinks it comes from my
Speaker 1: mom being a housewife. I don't know if it's just
Speaker 1: something that's like just in me, like I noticed it. Well,
Speaker 1: my friends are over like everybody, I'm just like trying
Speaker 1: to do things for them, like almost over the top.
Speaker 1: I can't help but like serving that right now for this,
Speaker 1: I literally just what do you want to what do
Speaker 1: you want to eat tonight? I'm literally asking this nigger
Speaker 1: what do you want to eat? Who the fuck am
Speaker 1: I I always ask like, oh my god, are you
Speaker 1: feeding yourself? Well Jesus, But I will tell you this,
Speaker 1: there is sometimes a good feeling. And I know you
Speaker 1: all know what I was talking about when you like
Speaker 1: leave someone's house and you still smell like Dick and
Speaker 1: it's kind of friend. You're like, and I tell you
Speaker 1: I love a good dick smell too, and I ain't
Speaker 1: got your hair. I was about to say, bitch, I
Speaker 1: ain't got no hair no more. But you can't just
Speaker 1: like go out and dick breath. Didn't you come on
Speaker 1: Vice Live with Dick breath? Well it was because I
Speaker 1: had longer locks and I sucked dick in the spit
Speaker 1: and the dick all of that went into my hair
Speaker 1: and I was like, that's an is I love a
Speaker 1: good dick smell in my hair and bitch, I ain't
Speaker 1: got no more. Well, that's why we ain't got a
Speaker 1: TV show once, bitch, because you had to dick smell.
Speaker 1: And they were like, we can't have this bitch on again.
Speaker 1: Whatever they the pheromones was going and that's why we
Speaker 1: got into development because they was like, let's get you
Speaker 1: all into development and let's work on a TV show
Speaker 1: with y'all. But no, So I don't know. I've just
Speaker 1: been thinking a lot about damn how I really was
Speaker 1: moving with my past niggas and the fact that they
Speaker 1: now just trying to hop in my phone, like I'm
Speaker 1: just gonna be ready to give them something and not
Speaker 1: even though it's noticing that I'm a new woman, I've changed,
Speaker 1: I've grown. I love it. Fuck you guys. We are
Speaker 1: gonna give y'all to old mails this motherfucker week because
Speaker 1: that's how we're gonna start off the new year. So
Speaker 1: the first one I really like. It's short and simple. Um,
Speaker 1: and because why don't you just try to tell y'all
Speaker 1: how to send an email? It's short and simple. I
Speaker 1: started going through them. One was a five paragraph essay.
Speaker 1: I said, oh no, bitch, this ain't getting ready on
Speaker 1: not on my watch. And I just say something to
Speaker 1: you guys. That's in your emails and your homemail to
Speaker 1: the Horrible Decisions at gmail dot com. We like a backstory,
Speaker 1: but it's only when it's really juicy. When that girl
Speaker 1: wanted to fuck her sister, her step sister, the pregnant
Speaker 1: step sister, it was a good back story. If you
Speaker 1: want to hear that story, it's on our Patreon. But
Speaker 1: when you want to fuck your pregnant stepsister, write it out.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. But if your nigga is
Speaker 1: like cheating on you and you're not sure, and it's like,
Speaker 1: let me explain, we did it in high school. I'm
Speaker 1: still in love with him, right he you know he's
Speaker 1: been sucking around. Then we got back to I don't gay.
Speaker 1: We don't need all that, but because if you want
Speaker 1: to fund his dad, give us some a little bit
Speaker 1: for that. This is just homemlee criteria. I like short
Speaker 1: and sweet. This is sort let us know if you
Speaker 1: want to be anonymous, because we normally never we normally
Speaker 1: never read names anyway, so I actually be annoyed. Don't
Speaker 1: say my name, bitch, Win Dewey. Do you listen to
Speaker 1: the show. We don't be saying name sometimes we do
Speaker 1: no maybe like sincerely, Oh that's got coming to pussy
Speaker 1: stil and then that that's not okay. So this one
Speaker 1: is We're gonna start short and sweet, especially being the
Speaker 1: weird side size queens. The title for this one is
Speaker 1: big dick. I know that's right. Hi. So I'm fucking
Speaker 1: this guy who's dick is very big and long. We've
Speaker 1: only had vaginal set the two times we fucked. It
Speaker 1: wasn't enjoyable, as I've experienced before with guys who were smaller.
Speaker 1: I think it's because it's hard for me to fit
Speaker 1: all of him in me? Can I get some tips
Speaker 1: on how to handle his dick? You're the better, you said,
Speaker 1: not pass them to you, bitch. That ain't That ain't
Speaker 1: a tilt. It was the one I had. So this
Speaker 1: I actually wanted to bring up because I very much
Speaker 1: mean it for the fellas listening. There are women out
Speaker 1: there that like small dicks. There's women out there who
Speaker 1: like sch medium bro. My home. Girls don't like to
Speaker 1: feel pain with sex, so they do prefer smaller days.
Speaker 1: I want to, I want to. The only dick I
Speaker 1: cannot take is a curved dick. I don't like them things.
Speaker 1: I don't know where you hit, but like my home,
Speaker 1: like Venus, she was like a little captain. I need
Speaker 1: a net to hit my walls, not my windows. And
Speaker 1: I think on the side there's windows, and now you're
Speaker 1: gonna break my sheet. I think it's because all pussies
Speaker 1: like and I only know this from being in them
Speaker 1: with my hands in my mouth. But but that's not
Speaker 1: even close to a dick. Bro. Maybe your hand doesn't
Speaker 1: go as close as a dick, but this is small.
Speaker 1: You're not feeling everything that they feel. It did. I'm
Speaker 1: saying when i'd be in there. I've taken condoms out
Speaker 1: of friends. Okay, I've been in there. And what I
Speaker 1: can say is, pussies do not come the same. So
Speaker 1: when girls like, you know, curve dicks or whatever, I
Speaker 1: really believe like it has to do with where are
Speaker 1: like Some people, you know, they squirt from certain spots
Speaker 1: being hit, some don't, right, So I think it really
Speaker 1: has to do with where your pussy hits the best, right,
Speaker 1: Like we all come differently. I just red snapple hand.
Speaker 1: I hate when you call it that. Why is I
Speaker 1: think about fish? But it's a it'd be snapping like
Speaker 1: it'd be close, bitches, a red snapple like that because
Speaker 1: I'm red and my pussy snap red snapple. Ho. This
Speaker 1: is so what is the problem? What is the problem?
Speaker 1: What you don't like it? Busy? I can't call it
Speaker 1: a red snapple A fish? I like fish, bitch, Give
Speaker 1: me a motherfucker. I don't want anyone to ever compare
Speaker 1: my fucking pussy with a fish, and I compare. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but it's not the smell of a fish. Is just
Speaker 1: that it'd be snapping in When I hear the word
Speaker 1: red snapper, there's a looking at what you call your pussy,
Speaker 1: not that what you call it, the kitty cat. I
Speaker 1: don't call it anything. See that's the problem. That's the
Speaker 1: goddamn problem. You need to name that pussy, or like,
Speaker 1: at least attach some sort of thing to your pussy.
Speaker 1: Let me look up good vagina names. Let me see.
Speaker 1: There's the wallet, there's the kitty cat, the pussy. I
Speaker 1: feel like the box y'all know official box owner shout out,
Speaker 1: but bur burgers a fur burger? That sounds worse. Who
Speaker 1: wants to eat a furry burger? The white don't Never
Speaker 1: have I ever been like, damn, I can't. Oh, I
Speaker 1: like it your house, not your house? When I come home, Daddy,
Speaker 1: that was so you know, it's the garage. That's what
Speaker 1: CARDI BESI your flower. Actually, my ex used to tell
Speaker 1: me because whenever I was ovulating, like you talk about
Speaker 1: eating flowers, But who eat flowers? See what I mean?
Speaker 1: At least at least we eat fish. Bit it was
Speaker 1: context who eating flowers? Younger fish? Vegans? Vegans out, you're
Speaker 1: eating flowers? What they annoying? As one of the names,
Speaker 1: flower pie, lady, flower, penis fly trap? No, bro just no?
Speaker 1: Why is catfish? Oh? People? Do talk about fish. They
Speaker 1: called it fish a black hole. I don't like that.
Speaker 1: I don't like the black hole poem. Poem a Jamaican
Speaker 1: slang for pussy. Well, that's fun. International names, Oh, this
Speaker 1: is fun, okay. El salvad Or, they say poo poosa.
Speaker 1: Do you remember in Sex and the City? Here we go,
Speaker 1: go ahead, say you're sex. I do like it makes
Speaker 1: me feel Spanish. You could have a peppita and the
Speaker 1: Spanish what sound Brazilian? Right? I mean in your box?
Speaker 1: And in Serbia a pie or pizza. No, absolutely not.
Speaker 1: Well you could have, oh, in Japan a taco taca.
Speaker 1: You want to pu my taco to? Now? Why are
Speaker 1: you see? Now? Now that's the problem. Now that's racist,
Speaker 1: It's absolutely not. I'm surprised that they call it a
Speaker 1: taco in Mexicans. Now it's t a k oh taco
Speaker 1: like the geto's. Apparently it's an octopus. In Japanese you
Speaker 1: can have a tanema noyori. Okay, Well, I would say
Speaker 1: cut is on here. Cut's fun too. See. No, I
Speaker 1: don't like that. I don't like it. So the only
Speaker 1: thing I would say for you is if his dick
Speaker 1: is too big to where it's enjoyable, made a not
Speaker 1: either not be the right sex partner for you, or
Speaker 1: I would say, do not fear using lube. The thing
Speaker 1: with big dicks is that they do cause a lot
Speaker 1: more friction inside and so if you're not wet enough,
Speaker 1: a big dick can be very painful, especially because whether
Speaker 1: you got the a c blown on your bed like
Speaker 1: we do here in New York and not like there's
Speaker 1: a lot of factors that can draw you up there. Well,
Speaker 1: It's also like, why would say he is lube? We
Speaker 1: don't always like consider but like how porous it is? Right,
Speaker 1: So for example, like when a dick is porous, meaning
Speaker 1: that it will like suck up a bunch of juices,
Speaker 1: like not everybody's skin is like this, but like, hey,
Speaker 1: you might be wet and the dick just keeps soaking
Speaker 1: it up, so like you and things like that as well,
Speaker 1: which is why lube is super helpful. And um, I
Speaker 1: don't know. I feel like when I was younger, I
Speaker 1: got embarrassed about lub, but now I don't. I got
Speaker 1: I got two options next to the bed, and I
Speaker 1: told you all be having to be careful what I
Speaker 1: put next to the bed, and Nigga tried to goddamn
Speaker 1: spray my living clause spray. I said, baby, that's not loop,
Speaker 1: that's not louple. Put that back. Put that back, So
Speaker 1: I gotta put that on the other side. Now. I
Speaker 1: use a good clean love and uh something that I
Speaker 1: got from Adam and Eve. When I bought the anal
Speaker 1: training kit they sent you used their free in the
Speaker 1: box gift flube. No no, no no, they sent me
Speaker 1: the regular side. What was in my my gift box
Speaker 1: was actually up pH wash. But I went and they
Speaker 1: have a sensitive organic lube on their side too, and
Speaker 1: it's so good. I've used one that came with like
Speaker 1: a lil product that's kind of I just I don't know.
Speaker 1: I have Lilo to lie Lo. I have uh something
Speaker 1: called Queen V. But when I saw that they sold
Speaker 1: it at Walmart, I felt like I never wanted to
Speaker 1: use it again. I'm not gonna likee so for the
Speaker 1: and that's gonna be a tip that I would get
Speaker 1: if you're looking to use lube, because I wasn't a
Speaker 1: chatty house the other night and women were just like,
Speaker 1: they don't use lube, and I was just like, what
Speaker 1: the hell, why do you not use it because people
Speaker 1: make us feel embarrassed about our fucking pussies. Oh and
Speaker 1: there are that It doesn't always like sucking water, niggod.
Speaker 1: I watched it. I put a loube on it, but
Speaker 1: be careful because there are lubes that don't work well
Speaker 1: with condoms. Um. Also, you want to look at the products.
Speaker 1: They do have organic vegan loupes. They have all of
Speaker 1: these things too. If you're scared of what contents, maybe, bitch,
Speaker 1: there's fucking milk and condoms, some long words. We don't know.
Speaker 1: You don't think, so you're gonna look at the next
Speaker 1: all right, so next time out Before we get out
Speaker 1: of here, this one is actually a fear of sex.
Speaker 1: Yet again, Hi ladies, I have a fear of sex
Speaker 1: and don't know how to get over it. I've had
Speaker 1: a couple of bad sexual experiences that have made me
Speaker 1: distrustful of other people. Whenever it's a spontaneous hookup situation,
Speaker 1: I'm okay. However, if someone likes me and asks me out,
Speaker 1: I panic. I panic Whenever I have a chance to
Speaker 1: think through the situation and basically talk myself out of
Speaker 1: dating the person. I know not everyone is a bad person,
Speaker 1: and I need to try and move past this. I
Speaker 1: listened to a lot of sex dating and self off
Speaker 1: podcasts to to normalize the conversation in my head, which
Speaker 1: has actually helped a lot. I also have gone on
Speaker 1: casual dates to try to get used to being around
Speaker 1: men without adding extra pressure on myself. This has helped
Speaker 1: me become more comfortable and around new people, but I
Speaker 1: usually don't move past a second date. Do you have
Speaker 1: any advice on what I should do? Thank you? I
Speaker 1: mean I was going to tell her to go to therapy,
Speaker 1: because clearly those gonna say stuff listening to self help
Speaker 1: all the time, I don't know, to be honest with you,
Speaker 1: I think this could be adverse advice for somebody. But
Speaker 1: I think when we consume ourselves with too much self
Speaker 1: help and like overload dog like I was doing that,
Speaker 1: like last week when I was super depressed and I
Speaker 1: was like lighting candles, meditating, doing yoga when I woke
Speaker 1: up and still cussing things out like it's too much,
Speaker 1: Like I was just on fucking overload with like me
Speaker 1: trying too hard. And I think sometimes when we're trying
Speaker 1: and makes it more difficult to date. Right. I think
Speaker 1: also we can all agree that I'm not saying that
Speaker 1: I haven't maybe set the intention to date some but
Speaker 1: you know, like your boyfriend, you met him randomly and
Speaker 1: didn't expect it to happen, right, But when you're like
Speaker 1: constantly putting it out there, sometimes it's overwhelming. And I'm
Speaker 1: victims to this all the time because that really bad anxiety.
Speaker 1: But I don't think that like the Horrible Decisions podcast
Speaker 1: can help you. And I don't mean that to like
Speaker 1: like make you feel bad. I just mean like, I
Speaker 1: think you're already getting enough stimulation and like over the
Speaker 1: top that like it's just another piece And honestly, we
Speaker 1: only take the advice we want to hear anyway, like
Speaker 1: if it aligns with us, Right, I was gonna say, actually,
Speaker 1: it can be draining as well, um, to go on
Speaker 1: a lot of bad dates or dates that don't lead anywhere.
Speaker 1: That could be something that deters you from dating and
Speaker 1: meeting new people. The same way you said that sex
Speaker 1: you're bad couple, You're the couple of bad sexual experiences
Speaker 1: you had is keeping you to not want to have sex.
Speaker 1: Dating can do the same way, uh, to where then
Speaker 1: you just don't want to be bothered with anyone. But
Speaker 1: then too much alone time when you want to have
Speaker 1: someone around can also be bad, either with anxiety or
Speaker 1: feeling like just depressed because you don't have the interactions
Speaker 1: of you know, being around someone else. I think a
Speaker 1: lot of things that you should do too, though, is
Speaker 1: look back to what made those sexual experiences bad um
Speaker 1: and if and if it was trauma like rape, I
Speaker 1: do apologize. I don't want you to have to revisit that.
Speaker 1: But if it was something like our last letter to
Speaker 1: where it was just not enjoyable because the dick was
Speaker 1: too big, I think that you need to look back
Speaker 1: at those bad past sexual experiences and know that moving forward,
Speaker 1: maybe you need to be more vocal if it's too
Speaker 1: big or that person is hurting you, you know that
Speaker 1: you need to vocalize that upfront. If you're you're not
Speaker 1: wet and the person tried to just force his dick
Speaker 1: in you before you got wet, maybe have lou ready,
Speaker 1: Maybe let someone know that you really enjoy for play.
Speaker 1: But I was about to say, maybe you need to
Speaker 1: tell your partner you really need for play before you
Speaker 1: have sex. I need I think you need to learn
Speaker 1: yourself a little super intimate with right like one just
Speaker 1: kind of forgot to eat pussy and the other one
Speaker 1: is obsessed with eating pussy. And it was so funny
Speaker 1: because like I remember thinking, like, oh my god, this
Speaker 1: is like just complete opposite, right when you're used to
Speaker 1: something and when you're not used to something. I mean,
Speaker 1: and honestly, I don't really be trying to have sex
Speaker 1: anymore without my pussy. Eight. But also like when you're
Speaker 1: with someone for a while, like they need to know
Speaker 1: what gets you off. So at this point, I feel like,
Speaker 1: you know, it's very obvious where it's like, oh no,
Speaker 1: like unless we were out all day, eat it. But
Speaker 1: I think that And then even still, whether you're with
Speaker 1: someone for a long time and fucking them or it's
Speaker 1: a new partner, if there are things that you do
Speaker 1: not like sexually, or you know that your body operates
Speaker 1: a certain way to where you know you're not gonna
Speaker 1: get wet without four play, those needs to be things
Speaker 1: you say up front, because what if you're dealing with
Speaker 1: that don't eat pussy. But we can't guess, Like I
Speaker 1: think that's a thing like that we can't guess that
Speaker 1: someone's going to know how to guess. And like the
Speaker 1: good dick, good pussy thing is kind of antiquated way
Speaker 1: of thinking. Um, I've had sex with someone that someone
Speaker 1: else then told me it was bad and bed and
Speaker 1: I was like, damn, he sucked the ship out of me. Right,
Speaker 1: And I'm sure I've been bad with some niggas and
Speaker 1: not with others, right because like maybe not just playing,
Speaker 1: I'm just saying, well, I've to me if it's not
Speaker 1: enjoyable to me, like I like showing out. So if
Speaker 1: I'm with someone where I realized I ain't even like
Speaker 1: I think I've talked about it on the podcast. There's
Speaker 1: some niggas where I lied and said I didn't suck dick.
Speaker 1: Why did I even have sex if I hadn't lie
Speaker 1: about me not? Second, clearly, I'm just I don't even
Speaker 1: want to take it all the way there with you.
Speaker 1: So I think that's important too, Like like you said,
Speaker 1: like sometimes someone is just not sexually compatible with us.
Speaker 1: So if those sexual experiences were bad, you have to
Speaker 1: also think maybe dates though, like they can lead to
Speaker 1: good sex and bad dates and then sucking them because
Speaker 1: they're cute. It's like I sucked so many niggas because
Speaker 1: they look good. It was such a waste don't be
Speaker 1: fucking people just because they look good because they'm good looking.
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Speaker 1: mother fucking horrible decisions. Hey guys, I've been listening to
Speaker 1: Horrible Decisions for a bit now, and I felt you
Speaker 1: might have some advice or could relate to the current
Speaker 1: problem that I have. First off, long story short, I recently,
Speaker 1: in the last two years, came out as By. It's
Speaker 1: been crazy trying to be true to myself because in
Speaker 1: my background, my mom was highly against the idea of
Speaker 1: a woman being with anyone else but a but a man.
Speaker 1: But when I came out is By, I started experimenting
Speaker 1: with threesomes, guys, girls, all that. And then one day
Speaker 1: I started realizing, I keep thinking about a threesome with
Speaker 1: two men who were either by or gay or whatever.
Speaker 1: I just wanted to try it, and I did, and
Speaker 1: I loved it. So now I'm into that a lot,
Speaker 1: and I never knew it before. Fast forward to last year,
Speaker 1: my X and I got back together. We've been on
Speaker 1: and off for seven years. I had no intention of
Speaker 1: going back after he was so upset about me coming
Speaker 1: out to him as By during the last time we
Speaker 1: broke up, but nevertheless, here we are. I do love him.
Speaker 1: Our sex has been amazing. I just wish he was
Speaker 1: more open to the idea of a threesome. Maybe I'm
Speaker 1: not even asking for him to try a threesome with
Speaker 1: another man. I know that's a far as stress stretch,
Speaker 1: but damn, can I watch you another girl? Can we
Speaker 1: buck this girl together? I have needs. I can't deny
Speaker 1: my sexuality, and it's sad as hell, but I take
Speaker 1: it slow because I know I just should have been
Speaker 1: open from a jump, and I've always known I was
Speaker 1: into both. I was afraid because I was so shameful.
Speaker 1: My question is, do you think there are any ways
Speaker 1: I can introduce the idea successfully to have a threesome.
Speaker 1: I definitely don't want to just bring it up bluntly
Speaker 1: like I have in the past, because he'll probably think
Speaker 1: he's gonna have to compete with a woman. Um. Sorry,
Speaker 1: it's lengthy with the story needed context. Until I figured
Speaker 1: out I'll be watching corn of all the things I
Speaker 1: wish I could try. So now see why you brought
Speaker 1: that shot on Patreon. I'm so sick of he's goddamn.
Speaker 1: How do I get a threesome of my partner? Asked
Speaker 1: questions No, this one's a little bit different because she's
Speaker 1: just she's just announcing that she's bisexual. So I think
Speaker 1: it's in reverse. Right, it's normally men trying to bring
Speaker 1: women in on a threesome. And I had a situation
Speaker 1: with hospital dick and with the Jesus dude I dated
Speaker 1: where they really felt like and believed that other women
Speaker 1: were just as at as other men. In my head,
Speaker 1: fucked up. I have a sex podcast. I was like,
Speaker 1: but it's just a bit I'm not trying to suck
Speaker 1: other niggad And I will say this if there is
Speaker 1: any ladies listening to the podcast. I know we don't
Speaker 1: often talk about men saying no to threesomes, but I
Speaker 1: do believe, and both men that told me no have
Speaker 1: big dicks. I don't think it's a confidence issue. I
Speaker 1: truly believe it has to do with where someone feels
Speaker 1: like they stand with you. Hear me out. I don't
Speaker 1: think that men feel safe in threesomes unless they know
Speaker 1: who the funk they are to you, Like, I think
Speaker 1: there's a reason that people that go to swingers resorts
Speaker 1: have been together forever and they're oldest fuck Like, I
Speaker 1: don't think that especially you being on and off seven
Speaker 1: years with someone introducing someone else into the bedroom makes
Speaker 1: sense when they don't even know what the funk they
Speaker 1: have going on with you. And maybe you could say
Speaker 1: he knows you well or whatever, but like on and
Speaker 1: off for seven years, on and off a lot, and
Speaker 1: it sounds like you're more off than on for a
Speaker 1: niggati not know you've been by the whole time. And
Speaker 1: if you made then that to me, is you coming
Speaker 1: from a completely emo place, because niggas are okay with
Speaker 1: threesomes before they know where you stand with them, like clearly,
Speaker 1: but a lot of mind. I'm saying that I'm talking
Speaker 1: about in case where men don't your boyfriend a man
Speaker 1: I've had a threesome with, These aren't the men were
Speaker 1: talking about. We're talking about the men that aren't comfortable
Speaker 1: and where where it comes from maybe right? So I
Speaker 1: mean that's where I'm putting my input in. And I
Speaker 1: know we can all talk about men we funk that
Speaker 1: I've had a threesome with, But I'm curious to know
Speaker 1: what y'all think as far as a man who is
Speaker 1: not not a man who is, but a man who's not.
Speaker 1: I mean, I just think it should come from a
Speaker 1: lot more deeper rooted things, uh, such as religion, such
Speaker 1: as their views on sexuality. Um, because I mean I
Speaker 1: did have someone early on that I was talking to
Speaker 1: and well, this wasn't recent at all, you know who
Speaker 1: I'm talking about. But he actually did not like the
Speaker 1: fact that I liked other women and didn't feel like
Speaker 1: he would ever really care for me to be with
Speaker 1: another woman, and came to me like, if I feel
Speaker 1: like you have to bring in another woman to the
Speaker 1: bedroom or that you want to play with women, it's
Speaker 1: because you don't feel fully satisfied with me. And so
Speaker 1: I think that outside of religion, outside of what the
Speaker 1: relationship is, a man could have some insecurities if you
Speaker 1: want to bring someone in the room at all, like,
Speaker 1: and I think that that's really where a lot of
Speaker 1: that stems from. It's more so him a man feeling
Speaker 1: inadequate to please you fully and that's why you're seeking
Speaker 1: someone else. Yeah, there's article I read because when you
Speaker 1: try to like search advice about this, it's all about
Speaker 1: women asking my boyfriend wants to have a threesome, what
Speaker 1: do I do. There's this article on bold dot com
Speaker 1: and Bold with the athi end and it says, my
Speaker 1: boyfriend and I try to have a threesome and it
Speaker 1: destroyed us. And there's something really interesting about this, She says.
Speaker 1: At first, I was freaked out. It was moving so fast.
Speaker 1: Maybe I should have told him I was nervous, but
Speaker 1: I just wanted to be spontaneous. And see, I feel
Speaker 1: like if someone is telling you know before it's even happening,
Speaker 1: like this is a blessing in disguise. Threesomes can end
Speaker 1: so badly if you all don't know where you stand.
Speaker 1: And I think that, honestly, it's better left undone than
Speaker 1: trying to fund someone else with someone that doesn't want
Speaker 1: to do it. Like you know, we hear about men
Speaker 1: kind of coercing women into threesomes so much, and I
Speaker 1: think that as women, we've got to really respect fucking boundaries.
Speaker 1: And if you've got to fund someone else that bad
Speaker 1: and you're that your kinks are that important, then girl,
Speaker 1: do the game. You