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Speaker 3: My friend let his girlfriend move into my house and

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Speaker 3: now she wants to stay.

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Speaker 1: No, you pain, rent, I don't think so.

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Speaker 3: I had gone for one week vacation and gave my

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Speaker 3: house keys to my friend to look after and take

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Speaker 3: care of my two dogs at my house. Now he

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Speaker 3: gave keys to his girlfriend and let her stay at

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Speaker 3: my home. She isn't leaving even after I came home,

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Speaker 3: and I call the cops, but they say this would

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Speaker 3: be a civil matter. What are cops good for?

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Speaker 2: Like?

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Speaker 1: Literally, what are you good for? Person broke into my

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Speaker 1: home and refuses to leave? Huh?

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Speaker 3: By the way, this comes from a little roadway And

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Speaker 3: and we're here.

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Speaker 1: To give good advice.

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Speaker 3: Gooflee. But we don't have all the answers. We only

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Speaker 3: know what we'd do, So let us know what you

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Speaker 3: would do in the comments and dope says. I'm the

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Speaker 3: owner of a two story house. I had gone Touai

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Speaker 3: last week for a one week vacation with my wife.

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Speaker 3: No one was at home and it wasn't feasible for

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Speaker 3: us to take the dogs with us, So I gave

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Speaker 3: my aus keys to a good friend of mine and

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Speaker 3: asked him to take care of my two dogs. This

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Speaker 3: would involve feeding them, changing water, and taking them on

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Speaker 3: an hour walk daily. So his girlfriend was in town

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Speaker 3: and she had no place to stay. He lives in

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Speaker 3: a one bedroom condo with two other roommates, so he

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Speaker 3: messaged me and asked me if I would allow his

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Speaker 3: girlfriend to stay at my home for just one night.

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Speaker 3: I agreed, as it was just a matter of one night.

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Speaker 1: Now.

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Speaker 3: Yesterday I came back and found out his girlfriend had

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Speaker 3: made a dwelling in the upper floor of my house.

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Speaker 3: She's been staying here for four days. I asked her

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Speaker 3: to leave immediately, but she and my friend are insisting

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Speaker 3: to let her stay one more week because she's in

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Speaker 1: Don't care he get out of my house. Yeah what,

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Speaker 1: that's not my problem. I don't even know you.

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Speaker 3: I call the police. They came and said, this would

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Speaker 3: the eviction process.

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Speaker 1: That's so stupid. Yeah, why are they even there? I

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Speaker 3: So I'm here with an unwanted stranger in the upper floor,

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Speaker 3: an a whole friend who broke his promise, and a

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Speaker 1: What do I do?

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Speaker 3: Guys, cannot change the locks and throw her stuff out

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Speaker 3: when she's away. Yeah, cut the electricity to the upper floor. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: it's your house. All the above, do it all even more.

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Speaker 3: This is what you do. That's what I'm doing.

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Speaker 1: Every day.

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Speaker 3: I make fish, the fishiest fish ever. It's so fishy.

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Speaker 3: Every day I accidentally burn something, fire alarm goes off.

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Speaker 3: Actually every day, I'm just setting off the fire alarm

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Speaker 3: every day and then she's gone.

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Speaker 1: Honestly, yeah, I'd be a little pissed every.

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Speaker 3: Day I'm playing blasting music, plasting opera, relevant comments. Miss

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Speaker 3: your Red says, sounds like trespassing. I think you have

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Speaker 3: to stay someplace a week before eviction is required. Time

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Speaker 3: to lose your friend. Honestly, I just pack her crap

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Speaker 3: sand I don't wanter in my house.

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Speaker 1: I mean, she isn't supposed to be living here, right.

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Speaker 3: I never allowed her to live more than one day here.

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Speaker 3: Isn't that illegal to live in someone's house without their permission?

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Speaker 3: My permission ended after one day? Did Op offer money

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Speaker 1: Witch is saying, raise.

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Speaker 3: It to five thousand dollars and she'll consider my offer.

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Speaker 3: What girl, get out of my house? That is my house. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: I have to pay you to leave. Get out of

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Speaker 1: If you give me some ill consider excuse me. That's

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Speaker 1: when I grab you by your hair and throw you out.

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Speaker 3: Missy rad says, seriously, pack up her crap and throw

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Speaker 3: it on the street. In California, there are guests, lodgers,

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Speaker 3: and tenants, all with different rights. Guests are less than

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Speaker 3: If they don't leave, it's trespassing. After seven days, she'll

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Speaker 3: Before we get into that update, any thoughts. You just

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Speaker 3: gotta get her out. Yeah, California does have some squatters

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I honestly don't care what the law says. I'd

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Speaker 1: be like, no, get out, or I will bring like

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Speaker 1: a posse and bring we will make you come out.

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Speaker 1: I'll bring a posse of possums and they're gonna bite you.

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Speaker 3: You want rabies or I think you want to live

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Speaker 3: possums Actually don't. Yeah, brabies, Yeah, possum's actually right. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: Update.

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Speaker 3: First of all, I'd like to thank all of you

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Speaker 3: guys for such an overwhelming response. I'm glad that there

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Speaker 3: are people who would spend time from their busy life

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Speaker 3: to help a random stranger on the internet. So, after

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Speaker 3: reading all the advice here and carefully discussing this matter

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Speaker 3: with my cousin, we made enough to plan yesterday night

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Speaker 3: that squatter girl went outside to grab some dinner with

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Speaker 3: her stuff into three bags, left it on our front porch,

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Speaker 3: the girl returned, Like, what kind of idiot are you?

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Speaker 3: Just leave and you think that they're not going to

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Speaker 1: That you can't be They want you out. They've been

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Speaker 3: She figured it out and started pounding at our door,

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Speaker 3: yelling loudly to open the door. You know, typical squad

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Speaker 3: you idiot, you have no rights now that you're outside

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Speaker 3: I was nervous how it would turn out. Cops arrived.

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Speaker 3: I explicitly told them that I was the sole owner

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Speaker 3: and was now kicking her out. The officer said, does

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Speaker 3: she have any proof of that? She claims she died

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Speaker 3: some message which accidentally got deleted, So you don't have

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Speaker 3: any proof. Hi, Wow, you're in troubled girl. Stupid kind

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Speaker 1: Thought this was gonna work out. I don't know in

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Speaker 1: And she said that somewhere in a message that I deleted.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, stupid Now the best part. Officer then asked her

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Speaker 3: require any further action, So finally I'm relieved of this

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Speaker 1: Ah's well that ends well.

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Speaker 3: And Creeper Crafter says, how did your friend react when

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Speaker 3: You don't tell you what we would do, but you

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Speaker 1: Piece, says. She called me today at three pm and

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Speaker 1: You don't have a plan? Yeah? What were these things?

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Speaker 1: I am an adult with bills to pay and can't

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Speaker 1: isn't set up for small kids. She told me, figure

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Speaker 3: pick them up. I'm calling CPS. If you do not

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Speaker 1: so traumatic for the kids. Yeah, they have nothing to

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Speaker 3: tell you what we would do, but you shoul let

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00:18:55,000 --> 00:18:56,880
Speaker 3: us know what you would do down the comments. As

438
00:18:56,920 --> 00:18:59,719
Speaker 3: Opie says, yesterday, I was out for a walk and

439
00:19:00,160 --> 00:19:03,160
Speaker 3: I turned a corner onto another street. A little cat

440
00:19:03,240 --> 00:19:05,560
Speaker 3: ran straight up to me from a family sitting on

441
00:19:05,560 --> 00:19:08,560
Speaker 3: their front porch on the opposite sidewalk. He basically leaped

442
00:19:08,640 --> 00:19:10,639
Speaker 3: up into my arms, and the family asked if I

443
00:19:10,680 --> 00:19:13,160
Speaker 3: knew him, because he'd be lined for me as soon

444
00:19:13,200 --> 00:19:14,760
Speaker 3: as I was in the line of sight and he

445
00:19:14,800 --> 00:19:17,119
Speaker 3: was trying to get into their house. I told him no,

446
00:19:17,240 --> 00:19:19,119
Speaker 3: but that I would try and find out. That is,

447
00:19:19,160 --> 00:19:21,760
Speaker 3: honestly my dream lined into a house.

448
00:19:21,960 --> 00:19:26,399
Speaker 1: I am seething with jealousy right now, she's burning up.

449
00:19:26,520 --> 00:19:27,520
Speaker 1: I'm seething.

450
00:19:27,840 --> 00:19:31,440
Speaker 3: I'm green with envy. So I carried the little guy home.

451
00:19:31,840 --> 00:19:35,200
Speaker 3: He seemed familiar with indoors and behaved well, didn't mess

452
00:19:35,240 --> 00:19:38,120
Speaker 3: with things, seems unsurprised by stairs, et cetera. I felt

453
00:19:38,119 --> 00:19:40,679
Speaker 3: pretty sure he belonged to somebody, even though he wasn't neutered.

454
00:19:40,800 --> 00:19:43,440
Speaker 3: My plan was to hold him overnight, maybe two nights

455
00:19:43,520 --> 00:19:45,120
Speaker 3: max to see if his owner turned.

456
00:19:44,960 --> 00:19:47,120
Speaker 1: Up and try to hand him off in person. If

457
00:19:47,160 --> 00:19:48,880
Speaker 1: nobody turned up, I would bring him to the local

458
00:19:48,920 --> 00:19:51,360
Speaker 1: shelter and give them my thoughts that this was someone's

459
00:19:51,400 --> 00:19:54,080
Speaker 1: cat before anyone says it. I know I should have

460
00:19:54,080 --> 00:19:56,439
Speaker 1: had him checked for a micro chip, but it was

461
00:19:56,440 --> 00:19:59,960
Speaker 1: Sunday yesterday and I would have needed to wait until

462
00:20:00,280 --> 00:20:03,120
Speaker 1: after work today. Anyway, I posted a pic of him

463
00:20:03,160 --> 00:20:06,080
Speaker 1: in a local group. It wasn't approved until ten pm

464
00:20:06,440 --> 00:20:09,040
Speaker 1: because an admin had to okay the photo posts first

465
00:20:09,080 --> 00:20:11,520
Speaker 1: before it went live on the group page. I woke

466
00:20:11,600 --> 00:20:15,119
Speaker 1: up to three people who reached out to me staking ownership,

467
00:20:15,280 --> 00:20:19,040
Speaker 1: Daisy and her mother, June and Lorraine. Daisy and June

468
00:20:19,119 --> 00:20:22,200
Speaker 1: stated their cat was neutered, but this was definitely him.

469
00:20:22,359 --> 00:20:25,280
Speaker 1: Daisy stated she was looking for him all night. Daisy

470
00:20:25,320 --> 00:20:27,960
Speaker 1: stated she was looking for him all night. He was

471
00:20:27,960 --> 00:20:31,480
Speaker 1: her cat since she found him while feeding local cats

472
00:20:31,520 --> 00:20:35,199
Speaker 1: since January first. I told Daisy that this cat is

473
00:20:35,240 --> 00:20:38,960
Speaker 1: not neutered, and although the photos looked similar similar Tuxedo Blaze,

474
00:20:38,960 --> 00:20:41,400
Speaker 1: but not enough full body photos to confirm, I did

475
00:20:41,400 --> 00:20:44,640
Speaker 1: not think it was him because well oscal bowls.

476
00:20:45,359 --> 00:20:48,080
Speaker 3: I think you just send a picture of the cats.

477
00:20:48,119 --> 00:20:51,760
Speaker 3: Oh you're like, uh, not your cat?

478
00:20:52,000 --> 00:20:53,920
Speaker 1: Can you get? You get a cat?

479
00:20:54,240 --> 00:20:54,480
Speaker 3: Pick?

480
00:20:54,560 --> 00:20:56,920
Speaker 1: What do you do? I'd be like, I don't even

481
00:20:56,960 --> 00:20:58,520
Speaker 1: want it from a guy. Why am I getting from

482
00:20:58,520 --> 00:21:01,840
Speaker 1: a cat? She proceeded to tell me all of her

483
00:21:01,920 --> 00:21:04,360
Speaker 1: cats still have balls despite being neutered.

484
00:21:04,520 --> 00:21:08,960
Speaker 3: Baby girl, that ain't how it works, Baby girl, that

485
00:21:09,040 --> 00:21:10,520
Speaker 3: ain't never works.

486
00:21:10,640 --> 00:21:14,439
Speaker 1: They're not newtered. Then you don't have cats? Then I

487
00:21:14,560 --> 00:21:18,199
Speaker 1: told her, yes, scrotum skin stays, but the balls do not.

488
00:21:18,560 --> 00:21:21,239
Speaker 1: Daisy and June continue to message me, telling me he

489
00:21:21,359 --> 00:21:24,000
Speaker 1: is fixed and he is theirs that Daisy lets him

490
00:21:24,040 --> 00:21:26,280
Speaker 1: outside to play all the time, and they will call

491
00:21:26,320 --> 00:21:28,720
Speaker 1: the police on me, which they probably said to try

492
00:21:28,720 --> 00:21:31,120
Speaker 1: and scare me, because what would the police even do.

493
00:21:31,359 --> 00:21:34,480
Speaker 1: Lorraine expressed that her cat had been missing since January

494
00:21:34,560 --> 00:21:37,520
Speaker 1: and was mistakenly let out by her kid's friend who

495
00:21:37,560 --> 00:21:39,880
Speaker 1: was visiting and was too scared to say anything until

496
00:21:39,920 --> 00:21:42,320
Speaker 1: it was too late. She also stated he was not fixed.

497
00:21:42,600 --> 00:21:45,879
Speaker 1: She provided photos from kittenhood in summer and up until

498
00:21:45,880 --> 00:21:48,960
Speaker 1: he escaped in January, and included front door cam footage

499
00:21:48,960 --> 00:21:51,560
Speaker 1: from when she bought a camera to try and catch him.

500
00:21:51,560 --> 00:21:53,880
Speaker 1: To provide dates for when he had gone missing. That's

501
00:21:53,880 --> 00:21:55,000
Speaker 1: the true owner right there.

502
00:21:55,119 --> 00:21:56,440
Speaker 3: That's the real owner.

503
00:21:57,280 --> 00:22:00,679
Speaker 1: That's that cat's mama right there. That's that let her

504
00:22:00,760 --> 00:22:03,720
Speaker 1: have him. They each had a different name for this cat.

505
00:22:03,880 --> 00:22:05,760
Speaker 3: I let him out of the bathroom since I didn't

506
00:22:05,760 --> 00:22:08,399
Speaker 3: want him wondering on supervised while I slept. I have

507
00:22:08,440 --> 00:22:11,400
Speaker 3: plants that aren't cat safe, and decided to try the name.

508
00:22:11,520 --> 00:22:14,560
Speaker 3: I called out Daisy in June's name for him. His

509
00:22:14,600 --> 00:22:16,960
Speaker 3: ear twitched, but not much of a reaction beyond that.

510
00:22:17,160 --> 00:22:20,720
Speaker 3: I tried Lorraine's name, and he chirped, then rammed into

511
00:22:20,760 --> 00:22:24,480
Speaker 3: me and started purring like crazy. It was like he

512
00:22:24,600 --> 00:22:27,639
Speaker 3: was saying, yes, that's me. That's honestly so sweet, and

513
00:22:27,680 --> 00:22:30,240
Speaker 3: I love this story that I mean, I don't like

514
00:22:30,440 --> 00:22:32,800
Speaker 3: love that this is happening, but I love this cat.

515
00:22:33,760 --> 00:22:36,160
Speaker 1: I want to touch this cat. I ended up giving

516
00:22:36,160 --> 00:22:38,760
Speaker 1: the cat to Lorraine and updated the local post I

517
00:22:38,800 --> 00:22:41,359
Speaker 1: made to say I reunited the cat with the owner.

518
00:22:41,560 --> 00:22:44,320
Speaker 1: When I invited Lorrain inside and spoke to her, she

519
00:22:44,480 --> 00:22:47,560
Speaker 1: mentioned seeing the post and feeling upset that possibly Daisy

520
00:22:47,600 --> 00:22:50,320
Speaker 1: in June had her cat this whole time, even though

521
00:22:50,320 --> 00:22:53,000
Speaker 1: she posted about having lost her cat at the time,

522
00:22:53,080 --> 00:22:56,359
Speaker 1: to no response. She also said she felt grateful because

523
00:22:56,400 --> 00:22:59,720
Speaker 1: we had some snowstorms around that time, so he survived.

524
00:23:00,240 --> 00:23:03,760
Speaker 1: A while she was talking, the cat dashed down the

525
00:23:03,800 --> 00:23:07,159
Speaker 1: stairs with his tail fluffed out at the sound of

526
00:23:07,160 --> 00:23:10,560
Speaker 1: her voice and went right for her. Ah, this is

527
00:23:10,600 --> 00:23:15,880
Speaker 1: so cute. I love the story one hundred percent. Believe

528
00:23:15,920 --> 00:23:18,640
Speaker 1: that Lorraine is the real owner. And yeah, I don't know.

529
00:23:18,560 --> 00:23:19,600
Speaker 3: Who Daisy and June are.

530
00:23:19,880 --> 00:23:21,879
Speaker 1: I think they just found this cat and were like ours.

531
00:23:22,320 --> 00:23:23,320
Speaker 1: They're like, this is our cat.

532
00:23:23,400 --> 00:23:25,600
Speaker 3: Now, yeah, he doesn't have boths or he has boss,

533
00:23:25,640 --> 00:23:26,800
Speaker 3: but he's snootered.

534
00:23:26,640 --> 00:23:29,320
Speaker 1: Like what now. Daisy and June are all over this

535
00:23:29,440 --> 00:23:32,399
Speaker 1: post saying I have done a terrible, awful thing, they

536
00:23:32,440 --> 00:23:36,040
Speaker 1: will never see their cat again, that I will find

537
00:23:36,040 --> 00:23:39,560
Speaker 1: out how wrong I am, and making strange threats to

538
00:23:40,160 --> 00:23:43,720
Speaker 1: me via DM and on the post itself. It's literally

539
00:23:43,840 --> 00:23:46,080
Speaker 1: just Facebook, and I am not worried because I personally

540
00:23:46,119 --> 00:23:48,600
Speaker 1: feel like they are going positively crazy over a cat

541
00:23:48,640 --> 00:23:50,919
Speaker 1: that doesn't belong to them. I have a feeling that

542
00:23:51,000 --> 00:23:53,760
Speaker 1: maybe Daisy and June didn't fix this cat, but decided

543
00:23:53,800 --> 00:23:56,320
Speaker 1: he belonged to them because he was so friendly and sweet.

544
00:23:56,520 --> 00:23:59,119
Speaker 1: I have no clue, But the constant messages from these

545
00:23:59,160 --> 00:24:01,320
Speaker 1: two has gone under my skin a little bit. Maybe

546
00:24:01,400 --> 00:24:03,399
Speaker 1: I should have just brought him to the shelter and

547
00:24:03,440 --> 00:24:05,399
Speaker 1: wipe my hands clean of it. So these women have

548
00:24:05,560 --> 00:24:08,040
Speaker 1: nobody to blame. But I always worry about a cat

549
00:24:08,160 --> 00:24:10,920
Speaker 1: not being found by their owners in time before they're

550
00:24:10,920 --> 00:24:14,280
Speaker 1: put up for adoption. Also the very real possibility of

551
00:24:14,280 --> 00:24:17,159
Speaker 1: getting sick in a shelter. I don't know, lay it

552
00:24:17,200 --> 00:24:19,080
Speaker 1: on me, run it. I think I did fine, But

553
00:24:19,200 --> 00:24:22,440
Speaker 1: am I truly some twisted monster and don't know it? Lol?

554
00:24:22,720 --> 00:24:26,600
Speaker 3: No? No, you reunited a cat with its original family.

555
00:24:27,119 --> 00:24:29,440
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I think they just found this cat and

556
00:24:29,440 --> 00:24:33,640
Speaker 1: we're like, nor cat, Oh look, I'll take that mine

557
00:24:33,640 --> 00:24:36,840
Speaker 1: mine now. I mean the cat literally like went right

558
00:24:36,920 --> 00:24:39,720
Speaker 1: up to her, like, you know, perked at its name,

559
00:24:39,840 --> 00:24:40,800
Speaker 1: like it's yes, this is.

560
00:24:40,800 --> 00:24:41,800
Speaker 3: This person's cat.

561
00:24:42,000 --> 00:24:43,960
Speaker 1: So he I guess if they start like threatening you,

562
00:24:43,960 --> 00:24:46,200
Speaker 1: you could go to the police and be like, yeah,

563
00:24:46,200 --> 00:24:47,200
Speaker 1: I'm getting threatened.

564
00:24:47,240 --> 00:24:49,879
Speaker 3: Although we should like definitely do to that cat, because

565
00:24:50,480 --> 00:24:53,600
Speaker 3: that cat for sure had babies with so many cats

566
00:24:53,600 --> 00:24:54,200
Speaker 3: when it was out.

567
00:24:54,359 --> 00:24:58,200
Speaker 1: For sure, I got a lot of little kiddies. Daisy

568
00:24:58,240 --> 00:25:00,439
Speaker 1: and June can go take one of them.

569
00:25:00,440 --> 00:25:01,119
Speaker 3: There's a ton of them.

570
00:25:01,240 --> 00:25:02,959
Speaker 1: But anyway, that's the end of that story.

571
00:25:03,560 --> 00:25:06,320
Speaker 3: My neighbor demanded a lot of things. I said no

572
00:25:06,680 --> 00:25:10,080
Speaker 3: every time. No, I'm not doing your laundry again. A

573
00:25:10,080 --> 00:25:12,440
Speaker 3: little under a year ago, my partner and I moved

574
00:25:12,480 --> 00:25:16,240
Speaker 3: into our first place together. Everything's perfect. We live in

575
00:25:16,280 --> 00:25:18,600
Speaker 3: a very sought out area and the only issue we've

576
00:25:18,680 --> 00:25:20,840
Speaker 3: encountered is this one fox.

577
00:25:20,560 --> 00:25:23,920
Speaker 1: Who screams from ten pm to four am every night.

578
00:25:24,080 --> 00:25:26,960
Speaker 1: Loll wait a fox. By the way, this comes from

579
00:25:27,080 --> 00:25:29,080
Speaker 1: Louis Rodner to six oh two.

580
00:25:29,200 --> 00:25:30,720
Speaker 3: And if you want to spit your own stories, go

581
00:25:30,760 --> 00:25:33,720
Speaker 3: to the rslash Okay storytime severed it. I'm Sophia and

582
00:25:33,840 --> 00:25:36,160
Speaker 3: I'm Savannah and we're here to give good of ice goofy.

583
00:25:36,200 --> 00:25:38,159
Speaker 3: But we don't have all the answers. We only know

584
00:25:38,200 --> 00:25:40,080
Speaker 3: what we do, so let us know what you would

585
00:25:40,080 --> 00:25:42,800
Speaker 3: do in the comments, and op says, I wouldn't say

586
00:25:42,840 --> 00:25:45,000
Speaker 3: I have any issues with my neighbor, but I definitely

587
00:25:45,040 --> 00:25:47,119
Speaker 3: do not have any sort of relationship with her. The

588
00:25:47,160 --> 00:25:49,679
Speaker 3: only times we have ever spoken is when I bumped

589
00:25:49,720 --> 00:25:52,159
Speaker 3: into her in the stairwell. Even then it was a

590
00:25:52,200 --> 00:25:56,560
Speaker 3: simple hey. Also, nothing she has done is necessarily bad,

591
00:25:56,840 --> 00:25:59,920
Speaker 3: just annoying and weirdly entitled. For example, she knocked on

592
00:26:00,119 --> 00:26:02,600
Speaker 3: our door at six am in the middle of December,

593
00:26:02,720 --> 00:26:05,440
Speaker 3: asking if I could jumpstart her car. She was sort

594
00:26:05,440 --> 00:26:07,560
Speaker 3: of rambling, and I had woken up to her knocking,

595
00:26:07,680 --> 00:26:10,399
Speaker 3: so I didn't really get the whole story, but was

596
00:26:10,440 --> 00:26:13,399
Speaker 3: reluctant to leave my flat in the pitch black just

597
00:26:13,440 --> 00:26:16,520
Speaker 3: because a woman I hardly know asked me to. Anyway,

598
00:26:16,560 --> 00:26:19,240
Speaker 3: I said no. A few reasons why, one being it

599
00:26:19,280 --> 00:26:21,560
Speaker 3: was pitch black outside, another being it was the middle

600
00:26:21,600 --> 00:26:24,040
Speaker 3: of December and freezing cold outside, and also I hardly

601
00:26:24,080 --> 00:26:24,560
Speaker 3: know this woman.

602
00:26:24,600 --> 00:26:26,920
Speaker 1: I love that you just repeated everything.

603
00:26:26,600 --> 00:26:29,080
Speaker 3: You just said, and here are my reasons. I already

604
00:26:29,080 --> 00:26:31,560
Speaker 3: said everything above. She then sort of switched to what,

605
00:26:32,119 --> 00:26:35,920
Speaker 3: but I'm your neighbor. Actually, I mean, yeah, I guess

606
00:26:35,960 --> 00:26:38,320
Speaker 3: you're my neighbor, but like, I still don't know you.

607
00:26:38,320 --> 00:26:40,680
Speaker 3: You think I should trust going outside in the darkness

608
00:26:40,680 --> 00:26:44,119
Speaker 3: with a stranger just because our flats are opposite each other. No,

609
00:26:44,760 --> 00:26:45,240
Speaker 3: thank you?

610
00:26:45,880 --> 00:26:47,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, Well, she didn't.

611
00:26:47,240 --> 00:26:49,040
Speaker 3: Like that, so she told me that when I shut

612
00:26:49,080 --> 00:26:51,720
Speaker 3: the door, she's got to stand outside my flat and

613
00:26:51,840 --> 00:26:55,800
Speaker 3: wait for me. Okay, lady, I'm going back to sleep,

614
00:26:55,880 --> 00:26:59,040
Speaker 3: so you'll be waiting a while. Wait what Anyway, there

615
00:26:59,040 --> 00:27:01,320
Speaker 3: have been a handful of requests that have been rejected

616
00:27:01,320 --> 00:27:03,560
Speaker 3: every time because of many different reasons.

617
00:27:03,680 --> 00:27:06,119
Speaker 1: She once asked us if we had any chicken she

618
00:27:06,160 --> 00:27:07,680
Speaker 1: could have. Huh.

619
00:27:07,720 --> 00:27:09,679
Speaker 3: My partner turned to me and said, we have some

620
00:27:09,800 --> 00:27:13,080
Speaker 3: in the freezer. No, yes, we do. We buy big

621
00:27:13,160 --> 00:27:16,120
Speaker 3: packs of chicken and separate it into freezer bags as

622
00:27:16,160 --> 00:27:18,800
Speaker 3: there's only two of us. But our last chicken is

623
00:27:18,840 --> 00:27:20,640
Speaker 3: not being given away. So I went to the door

624
00:27:20,680 --> 00:27:23,160
Speaker 3: and said, yes we do, but it's for tea tonight. Sorry,

625
00:27:23,600 --> 00:27:26,760
Speaker 3: once again, what but I'm your neighbor. I was like,

626
00:27:26,880 --> 00:27:30,200
Speaker 3: a ah, sorry, we can help and shut the door. No,

627
00:27:30,400 --> 00:27:33,160
Speaker 3: this probably sounds very witchy, but I want to reiterate

628
00:27:33,200 --> 00:27:35,399
Speaker 3: one more time. I don't know this lady.

629
00:27:35,520 --> 00:27:35,760
Speaker 1: Now.

630
00:27:35,840 --> 00:27:38,119
Speaker 3: I don't mind being the a hole in those situations

631
00:27:38,119 --> 00:27:40,639
Speaker 3: because they happened over the time we've been here some

632
00:27:40,800 --> 00:27:43,719
Speaker 3: months ago. My question is for the most recent encounter

633
00:27:43,760 --> 00:27:46,480
Speaker 3: I've had with this lady. She buzzes my flat from

634
00:27:46,520 --> 00:27:49,359
Speaker 3: the front entrance and informs me that she's my neighbor

635
00:27:49,480 --> 00:27:53,919
Speaker 3: and she has forgotten her keys. I responded, Oh, that's

636
00:27:54,000 --> 00:27:58,840
Speaker 3: no good. Silence, silence, silence. So I put the phone down.

637
00:27:59,000 --> 00:28:02,840
Speaker 3: It buzzes again almost immediately. Excuse me, can you buzz

638
00:28:02,880 --> 00:28:03,200
Speaker 3: me in?

639
00:28:03,359 --> 00:28:03,520
Speaker 1: Now?

640
00:28:03,520 --> 00:28:05,760
Speaker 3: I hate to be that guy, but the landlord owner

641
00:28:05,760 --> 00:28:08,679
Speaker 3: of the building is told us numerous times we are not,

642
00:28:08,880 --> 00:28:13,280
Speaker 3: under any circumstances allowed to buzz anyone in unless they

643
00:28:13,320 --> 00:28:16,200
Speaker 3: are our guest. The delivery personnel have their own pin

644
00:28:16,320 --> 00:28:19,119
Speaker 3: to get into the buildings, so that's different for that reason.

645
00:28:19,200 --> 00:28:21,240
Speaker 3: So I stood there and I thought for a second,

646
00:28:21,560 --> 00:28:25,000
Speaker 3: if she's as pushy as she is, even after numerous projections,

647
00:28:25,240 --> 00:28:26,919
Speaker 3: what's she gonna be like if I let her in?

648
00:28:27,080 --> 00:28:27,760
Speaker 3: So I didn't.

649
00:28:28,200 --> 00:28:30,560
Speaker 1: I hung up the phone and sat down on my couch.

650
00:28:30,720 --> 00:28:35,760
Speaker 3: She buzzed again and again and again, and continue buzzing

651
00:28:35,800 --> 00:28:39,040
Speaker 3: for about ten minutes until she finally gave up. Now

652
00:28:39,080 --> 00:28:40,680
Speaker 3: she doesn't live alone, so I don't know why she

653
00:28:40,720 --> 00:28:43,160
Speaker 3: couldn't just buzz her own door or get a key

654
00:28:43,240 --> 00:28:45,520
Speaker 3: from a flatmate or whatever. I don't really care all

655
00:28:45,560 --> 00:28:47,440
Speaker 3: that much if I am the a hole, as my

656
00:28:47,560 --> 00:28:49,800
Speaker 3: lease ends next month and I don't have to deal

657
00:28:49,840 --> 00:28:52,080
Speaker 3: with her anymore, but i'd like to know what others think.

658
00:28:52,360 --> 00:28:54,240
Speaker 3: Hold on, you are the a hole?

659
00:28:54,600 --> 00:28:58,200
Speaker 1: Yeah? What I feel like that is what that is

660
00:28:58,240 --> 00:29:00,960
Speaker 1: a big a hole move because you know, you know

661
00:29:01,000 --> 00:29:03,400
Speaker 1: that she lives there. She's like, oh, I forgot my keys?

662
00:29:03,400 --> 00:29:04,800
Speaker 1: Can you just puss me? Inyo? You have to do

663
00:29:04,840 --> 00:29:07,480
Speaker 1: is press the button. That is like the biggest a

664
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Speaker 1: hole move. What are you talking about?

665
00:29:09,480 --> 00:29:11,800
Speaker 3: Yeah, you don't like her because she like asks you

666
00:29:11,920 --> 00:29:13,680
Speaker 3: for things that you say no to.

667
00:29:13,920 --> 00:29:16,840
Speaker 1: But you know she lives there. It's huge a movie

668
00:29:16,880 --> 00:29:18,960
Speaker 1: and also like the things that she asked for, Like

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Speaker 1: I mean, yeah, it's inconvenient, Like I mean I probably

670
00:29:21,720 --> 00:29:24,440
Speaker 1: wouldn't have given her the chicken, but like I probably

671
00:29:24,480 --> 00:29:25,440
Speaker 1: would have jumped her car.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

673
00:29:27,040 --> 00:29:28,320
Speaker 1: I feel like she just has.

674
00:29:28,160 --> 00:29:31,040
Speaker 3: Like a different kind of idea of what neighbors do

675
00:29:31,160 --> 00:29:34,040
Speaker 3: and who they are to people. And maybe she grew

676
00:29:34,120 --> 00:29:37,280
Speaker 3: up with having close neighbors who were very helpful and

677
00:29:37,320 --> 00:29:40,840
Speaker 3: that kind of friendly neighbor stereotype and stuff. Obviously you

678
00:29:40,920 --> 00:29:42,640
Speaker 3: kind of have to build up to that. You don't

679
00:29:42,720 --> 00:29:44,680
Speaker 3: just get to demand stuff for people you don't know,

680
00:29:44,960 --> 00:29:47,720
Speaker 3: Like she should have started with cookies, you know, before

681
00:29:47,760 --> 00:29:52,000
Speaker 3: she started asking for favors. Yeah, however, you know she

682
00:29:52,080 --> 00:29:55,280
Speaker 3: lives there, let her in, Yeah, and yeah, I'll give

683
00:29:55,320 --> 00:29:55,520
Speaker 3: me that.

684
00:29:55,680 --> 00:29:57,880
Speaker 1: Oh well, my landlord says, we can't let anyone in.

685
00:29:57,960 --> 00:30:00,920
Speaker 1: Shut up. Yeah, but the thing she lives there, and

686
00:30:01,000 --> 00:30:03,360
Speaker 1: you know, she lives there, so it's like you can't

687
00:30:03,400 --> 00:30:06,280
Speaker 1: trust her, like, oh no, like who she bringing in here?

688
00:30:06,360 --> 00:30:08,920
Speaker 1: And she's like, hey, I forgot my keys. I went

689
00:30:08,920 --> 00:30:10,600
Speaker 1: to the grocery store. You know, could you just buzz

690
00:30:10,640 --> 00:30:12,920
Speaker 1: me in? And you just leave her out there like

691
00:30:13,040 --> 00:30:15,960
Speaker 1: that's cruel and it's cruel. So yeah, you're the a hole.

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00:30:16,080 --> 00:30:19,120
Speaker 3: Updates she's been evicted. Well, I guess she doesn't live

693
00:30:19,160 --> 00:30:19,720
Speaker 3: there anymore.

694
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Speaker 1: Oh what happened?

695
00:30:20,920 --> 00:30:24,080
Speaker 3: Google play God is by Kanye West. Our landlor put

696
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Speaker 3: a message in the group chat a few hours ago,

697
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Speaker 3: and I would tell you about the dinner party and

698
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Speaker 3: the works, but I'm guessing that'll cause more crashouts. Okay, okay,

699
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Speaker 3: I'll tell you. We're having a crazy neighbor themed dinner party.

700
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Speaker 3: We're currently listening the numerous ingredients this woman has asked

701
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Speaker 3: us for over the years to figure out what we

702
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Speaker 3: can cook with them all. We're also going to call

703
00:30:42,960 --> 00:30:45,240
Speaker 3: the mechanic to our building to explain to all of

704
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Speaker 3: us in deep detail, how to jumpstart a car. This

705
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Speaker 3: post will be streamed to the TV so we can

706
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Speaker 3: go through the comments with the husbands for evening entertainment.

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Speaker 3: Thank you all for the material and for help with

708
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Speaker 3: my dinner party activity. Why did she get evicted?

709
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Speaker 2: Also, I just oh, you're kind of mean.

710
00:31:01,920 --> 00:31:05,280
Speaker 1: You're kind of like a mean girl. Yeah for real though, Yeah,

711
00:31:05,360 --> 00:31:07,240
Speaker 1: like this person gets a victim. You're kind of throwing

712
00:31:07,280 --> 00:31:10,080
Speaker 1: like a little celebration part Like, Ah, she never did

713
00:31:10,080 --> 00:31:11,440
Speaker 1: anything like mean to you.

714
00:31:11,560 --> 00:31:13,760
Speaker 3: She just asked like, oh, could she like please help

715
00:31:13,760 --> 00:31:15,320
Speaker 3: me jump my car, you know, like I have to

716
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Speaker 3: get it worked or something.

717
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Speaker 1: You're like, now it's six in the morning.

718
00:31:18,080 --> 00:31:20,480
Speaker 3: I hate you, Like she literally I don't know. From

719
00:31:20,480 --> 00:31:24,040
Speaker 3: my understanding, she was annoying and that was her crime,

720
00:31:24,280 --> 00:31:25,920
Speaker 3: you know. Yeah, but I mean the things that she

721
00:31:26,000 --> 00:31:28,880
Speaker 3: easily you can easily say no to them, but you did.

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Speaker 4: And that's the end of this story. We're gonna go

723
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Speaker 4: to the next one.

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Speaker 1: My girlfriend gave me an ultimatum about my best friend.

729
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Speaker 1: I refused.

730
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Speaker 2: What did your best friend do?

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Speaker 3: My twenty three male girlfriend Grace twenty four female doesn't

732
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Speaker 3: feel comfortable with my friend Foley Suh twenty three female.

733
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Speaker 1: Uh oh. I've been dating my girlfriend for two years

734
00:32:01,920 --> 00:32:02,920
Speaker 1: now and she's great.

735
00:32:03,480 --> 00:32:05,920
Speaker 3: She's super smart. We share a lot of interests and

736
00:32:06,080 --> 00:32:08,520
Speaker 3: until now I never took her for the jealous type.

737
00:32:08,680 --> 00:32:11,280
Speaker 3: I grew up with Felicia. We lived on the same

738
00:32:11,320 --> 00:32:14,520
Speaker 3: street and our mother's are friends. Besides that, after my

739
00:32:14,600 --> 00:32:17,000
Speaker 3: grandma came to live with us my grandpa passed away,

740
00:32:17,560 --> 00:32:20,720
Speaker 3: they became really close. By the way, this comes from

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743
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Speaker 3: separate it. I'm Sophia, I'm Carly, and we're here to

744
00:32:29,600 --> 00:32:31,960
Speaker 3: give good advice. Goofy, but we don't have all the answers.

745
00:32:32,040 --> 00:32:34,040
Speaker 3: We Aleena what we'd do, so let us know what

746
00:32:34,040 --> 00:32:36,240
Speaker 3: you would do in the comments and Opie says they're

747
00:32:36,360 --> 00:32:39,920
Speaker 3: very much alike and the whole family thinks she's great. Honestly,

748
00:32:40,040 --> 00:32:43,440
Speaker 3: she's considered part of the family. My brother's cousin's parents

749
00:32:43,600 --> 00:32:46,640
Speaker 3: all by her Christmas Birthday presents, and she spends a

750
00:32:46,640 --> 00:32:49,800
Speaker 3: lot of holidays at my parents' house. Auntie helps them

751
00:32:49,840 --> 00:32:51,960
Speaker 3: if they need anything. Since I now live out of

752
00:32:51,960 --> 00:32:54,040
Speaker 3: the state, I took my girlfriend to my state to

753
00:32:54,120 --> 00:32:57,920
Speaker 3: visit my parents, and I was very excited. The introduction

754
00:32:58,120 --> 00:33:01,360
Speaker 3: seemed to go okay. Girlfriend got along with my dad

755
00:33:01,400 --> 00:33:04,440
Speaker 3: and was already sharing recipes with Granny. Later that night,

756
00:33:04,600 --> 00:33:07,000
Speaker 3: we went out to hang out with some friends, Felicia

757
00:33:07,040 --> 00:33:09,840
Speaker 3: and some of my brothers. They seemed to like each

758
00:33:09,880 --> 00:33:13,640
Speaker 3: other and my girlfriend laughed a lot. Felicia is hilarious.

759
00:33:14,080 --> 00:33:16,480
Speaker 3: On the next couple of days, Felicia came to my

760
00:33:16,520 --> 00:33:19,240
Speaker 3: house a lot, which is very normal for us. She

761
00:33:19,280 --> 00:33:21,239
Speaker 3: has dinner at least once a week there, and she

762
00:33:21,320 --> 00:33:23,640
Speaker 3: and my grandma takes Susa, dance and glasses together.

763
00:33:23,800 --> 00:33:25,719
Speaker 1: I find it kind of cute. That is sweet.

764
00:33:25,840 --> 00:33:27,880
Speaker 3: My brother's treat her like a little sister, and my

765
00:33:27,960 --> 00:33:31,200
Speaker 3: grandma called her a time lost twin. And you have

766
00:33:31,480 --> 00:33:35,080
Speaker 3: no idea why your girlfriend.

767
00:33:34,600 --> 00:33:39,000
Speaker 2: May be a little jealous of Felicia, not even like him.

768
00:33:40,000 --> 00:33:40,520
Speaker 1: Okay.

769
00:33:40,800 --> 00:33:44,680
Speaker 3: Sure. After about three days, my girlfriend pulled me aside

770
00:33:44,720 --> 00:33:48,200
Speaker 3: and said she felt very uncomfortable with Felicia's relationship with

771
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Speaker 3: my family.

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Speaker 1: She said that it looked like we were married by

773
00:33:50,560 --> 00:33:51,479
Speaker 1: the way she was treated.

774
00:33:51,840 --> 00:33:55,360
Speaker 3: I tried telling her that everyone likes her Felicia like

775
00:33:55,400 --> 00:33:59,040
Speaker 3: a cousin or something, but she wasn't buying it. She

776
00:33:59,160 --> 00:34:01,120
Speaker 3: kept telling me that but it wasn't appropriate for a

777
00:34:01,200 --> 00:34:04,600
Speaker 3: strange woman to be so close to a family, and

778
00:34:04,640 --> 00:34:07,440
Speaker 3: that everyone looks like they'd rather see me dating her.

779
00:34:07,840 --> 00:34:10,600
Speaker 3: She asked Peter distance myself and talk with Felicia about

780
00:34:10,600 --> 00:34:11,879
Speaker 3: the whole family involvement thing.

781
00:34:12,120 --> 00:34:13,280
Speaker 1: I find this very weird.

782
00:34:13,440 --> 00:34:15,600
Speaker 3: Felicia is like a sister to me and the rest

783
00:34:15,640 --> 00:34:18,359
Speaker 3: of my family, and she's not doing anything wrong. She's

784
00:34:18,360 --> 00:34:21,799
Speaker 3: not romantically interested to me, and she's great with my

785
00:34:21,840 --> 00:34:24,439
Speaker 3: grandma and little brother. I can't cut her out because

786
00:34:24,480 --> 00:34:27,239
Speaker 3: I honestly don't think she's done anything wrong and so

787
00:34:27,480 --> 00:34:30,520
Speaker 3: doesn't deserve this treatment. It's not really just me, she

788
00:34:30,560 --> 00:34:33,120
Speaker 3: has close ties with my family. Truth be told, if

789
00:34:33,120 --> 00:34:36,520
Speaker 3: I did that, my brother's parents and grandparents wouldn't forgive me,

790
00:34:36,920 --> 00:34:40,520
Speaker 3: and considering their adults, I don't believe I could prevent

791
00:34:40,560 --> 00:34:43,520
Speaker 3: them from having contact. Overall, I feel like everyone would

792
00:34:43,520 --> 00:34:46,680
Speaker 3: be punished, and it's not really fair to make things worse.

793
00:34:46,880 --> 00:34:48,840
Speaker 1: We had this discussion close.

794
00:34:48,600 --> 00:34:50,920
Speaker 3: To the bathroom my brother was in and he heard

795
00:34:51,120 --> 00:34:54,520
Speaker 3: everything my grandma still hasn't called me over, which she will,

796
00:34:54,960 --> 00:34:57,600
Speaker 3: but everyone has been colder to her and it shows.

797
00:34:57,840 --> 00:35:02,319
Speaker 1: Oh no, girl, Oh oh no, you mean it's so

798
00:35:02,440 --> 00:35:03,240
Speaker 1: much worse.

799
00:35:03,480 --> 00:35:03,840
Speaker 3: Girl.

800
00:35:04,600 --> 00:35:06,839
Speaker 2: I mean my advice before this was gonna be like,

801
00:35:06,960 --> 00:35:10,000
Speaker 2: maybe you ask your mom what she's feeling. Yeah, she

802
00:35:10,040 --> 00:35:12,520
Speaker 2: sees anything weird. Too late for that.

803
00:35:12,920 --> 00:35:13,520
Speaker 1: Too late.

804
00:35:14,120 --> 00:35:16,600
Speaker 3: I don't know how to navigate this situation. How can

805
00:35:16,680 --> 00:35:19,080
Speaker 3: I put my girlfriend at ease about Felicia, and how

806
00:35:19,080 --> 00:35:21,759
Speaker 3: can I smooth things over with the rest of my family. Yeah,

807
00:35:21,760 --> 00:35:25,759
Speaker 3: we've got relevant comments, but what do you think that's

808
00:35:25,760 --> 00:35:26,920
Speaker 3: a tough one to be.

809
00:35:27,120 --> 00:35:29,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, this is pretty tough.

810
00:35:29,440 --> 00:35:32,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, because I can totally see where girlfriend's like, this.

811
00:35:32,960 --> 00:35:34,120
Speaker 1: Is a little weird.

812
00:35:34,560 --> 00:35:41,239
Speaker 3: Yeah, y Felicia, though it's Felicia. Everyone loves Felicia. Can't

813
00:35:41,239 --> 00:35:42,520
Speaker 3: get rid of Felicia.

814
00:35:42,719 --> 00:35:46,000
Speaker 2: No, But I do feel like we could limit Felicia

815
00:35:46,239 --> 00:35:49,280
Speaker 2: being around as often when girlfriend's visiting in town.

816
00:35:49,680 --> 00:35:52,760
Speaker 3: Sure, it could be, like I don't know if Felicia,

817
00:35:52,920 --> 00:35:55,200
Speaker 3: I mean, if girlfriend doesn't like to hang out with Felicia,

818
00:35:55,320 --> 00:36:00,480
Speaker 3: then maybe it's just prioritizing having a girlfriend and family time.

819
00:36:00,800 --> 00:36:03,839
Speaker 2: That's what I feel like. If we just limited Felicia

820
00:36:03,880 --> 00:36:07,800
Speaker 2: a little bit during when girlfriends in town visiting. It

821
00:36:07,840 --> 00:36:10,960
Speaker 2: would allow a girlfriend to get closer to family.

822
00:36:10,760 --> 00:36:11,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, because she.

823
00:36:12,320 --> 00:36:15,200
Speaker 3: I think you can have another sit down conversation and say, hey,

824
00:36:15,440 --> 00:36:18,560
Speaker 3: Felicia's not going anywhere because honestly, it's not even my

825
00:36:18,640 --> 00:36:22,080
Speaker 3: relationship to control or she has her own relationship with

826
00:36:22,200 --> 00:36:25,480
Speaker 3: my family. However, if the issue here is that you

827
00:36:25,600 --> 00:36:28,359
Speaker 3: feel like you're not close to my family, we can

828
00:36:28,400 --> 00:36:28,839
Speaker 3: fix that.

829
00:36:29,040 --> 00:36:30,719
Speaker 2: Yeah, we can work on how that go.

830
00:36:31,040 --> 00:36:31,239
Speaker 4: Yeah.

831
00:36:31,719 --> 00:36:34,320
Speaker 3: Relevant comment says, it doesn't sound like you or Felicia

832
00:36:34,360 --> 00:36:37,359
Speaker 3: are doing anything wrong. Unfortunately, a lot of people would

833
00:36:37,400 --> 00:36:40,799
Speaker 3: be insecure in your girlfriend's position. There's another woman that

834
00:36:40,960 --> 00:36:43,360
Speaker 3: knows you well, that as a deep connection to you,

835
00:36:43,680 --> 00:36:46,320
Speaker 3: that is ingrained in your family, and that a girlfriend

836
00:36:46,360 --> 00:36:48,759
Speaker 3: of yours could see his competition for not just your

837
00:36:48,800 --> 00:36:51,840
Speaker 3: approval but your family's. I can see why she'd be

838
00:36:51,920 --> 00:36:54,839
Speaker 3: freaked out by seeing the level of involvement Felicia has

839
00:36:54,880 --> 00:36:58,560
Speaker 3: with you and with your family. I'd say insecurity.

840
00:36:58,040 --> 00:37:00,319
Speaker 1: But it could also be a deal breaker for her hope.

841
00:37:00,320 --> 00:37:02,960
Speaker 3: He says, Yeah, I can understand and sympathize, but I

842
00:37:03,000 --> 00:37:05,319
Speaker 3: don't think it's fair I talk to her.

843
00:37:05,680 --> 00:37:09,040
Speaker 2: Thanks, I would be very cautious though about just like

844
00:37:09,680 --> 00:37:12,840
Speaker 2: not giving any time of day to your girlfriend's feelings.

845
00:37:12,920 --> 00:37:15,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, because they are pretty valid.

846
00:37:15,920 --> 00:37:18,520
Speaker 2: Anyone would feel a little insecure by that.

847
00:37:18,960 --> 00:37:22,239
Speaker 3: Yeah, And a private conversation that she wanted to talk

848
00:37:22,280 --> 00:37:25,200
Speaker 3: to you about that you could have, you know, reeled

849
00:37:25,239 --> 00:37:26,840
Speaker 3: back in and said, hey, I'm not going to do

850
00:37:26,880 --> 00:37:30,080
Speaker 3: that is now broadcast to the entire family.

851
00:37:30,600 --> 00:37:33,360
Speaker 1: That's tough, not a planet. Remember that.

852
00:37:33,400 --> 00:37:35,960
Speaker 3: She also might be worried that your family likes Felicia

853
00:37:36,000 --> 00:37:38,680
Speaker 3: more than they like Grace, And she's probably wondering if

854
00:37:38,719 --> 00:37:40,759
Speaker 3: your parents and family want the two of you, you

855
00:37:40,800 --> 00:37:43,600
Speaker 3: and Felicia to be together instead of you and Grace.

856
00:37:43,719 --> 00:37:45,320
Speaker 1: I mean, they probably.

857
00:37:44,880 --> 00:37:49,480
Speaker 3: Knew unfortunately, so they probably do, or at least they

858
00:37:49,520 --> 00:37:50,280
Speaker 3: did at one point.

859
00:37:50,440 --> 00:37:50,640
Speaker 1: Yeah.

860
00:37:50,840 --> 00:37:54,840
Speaker 2: I don't really believe the oh she's just like a sister.

861
00:37:55,320 --> 00:37:57,480
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, that.

862
00:37:57,560 --> 00:38:00,120
Speaker 3: Is probably not the case. But from Grace's perspective, if

863
00:38:00,160 --> 00:38:03,120
Speaker 3: Felicia is someone who has a long history with your

864
00:38:03,120 --> 00:38:06,000
Speaker 3: family and they obviously love and respect her, so it's

865
00:38:06,040 --> 00:38:07,960
Speaker 3: not too far fetched for her to think that they

866
00:38:07,960 --> 00:38:10,560
Speaker 3: would want you to end up with Felicia. Opie says,

867
00:38:10,640 --> 00:38:13,279
Speaker 3: it's possible, and I'll address this when I talk to her.

868
00:38:13,560 --> 00:38:13,880
Speaker 1: Thanks.

869
00:38:14,640 --> 00:38:18,640
Speaker 3: My family and hers never pressured us for a romantic relationship.

870
00:38:18,920 --> 00:38:22,200
Speaker 3: They actually think it would be quite weird. And Alita says,

871
00:38:22,280 --> 00:38:24,279
Speaker 3: I didn't say it a change anything, but I don't

872
00:38:24,280 --> 00:38:27,160
Speaker 3: think it's crazy. She's insecure either, and it may mean

873
00:38:27,200 --> 00:38:30,239
Speaker 3: your relationship may not work out. But I'm curious. Does

874
00:38:30,280 --> 00:38:32,439
Speaker 3: any of your family make comments about you two being

875
00:38:32,480 --> 00:38:36,000
Speaker 3: together or her family? Opie says they actually don't. Once

876
00:38:36,080 --> 00:38:37,800
Speaker 3: my sister in law said something about the two of

877
00:38:37,880 --> 00:38:42,520
Speaker 3: us ending up together, and the whole family, including Felicia, cringed.

878
00:38:43,000 --> 00:38:45,880
Speaker 3: My dad said something like it would be like my shut.

879
00:38:45,600 --> 00:38:46,799
Speaker 1: And daughter dated.

880
00:38:47,080 --> 00:38:49,760
Speaker 3: Okay, well that's good to know, good to know. Okay,

881
00:38:50,000 --> 00:38:52,799
Speaker 3: we've got an update. I think we can work through this.

882
00:38:52,920 --> 00:38:54,320
Speaker 1: Maybe. I think if all.

883
00:38:54,200 --> 00:38:56,680
Speaker 2: Parties are willing, yeah, put some time into it.

884
00:38:56,960 --> 00:38:57,200
Speaker 1: Yeah.

885
00:38:57,239 --> 00:38:59,960
Speaker 3: If I were Felicia also, I would want to be

886
00:39:01,160 --> 00:39:02,319
Speaker 3: like putting in the.

887
00:39:02,280 --> 00:39:06,920
Speaker 1: Effort to make it very clear that I have no interest. Yeah.

888
00:39:06,960 --> 00:39:09,160
Speaker 2: I also feel like if I was, and who knows,

889
00:39:09,520 --> 00:39:11,279
Speaker 2: because I'm not in this position, but I feel like

890
00:39:11,320 --> 00:39:15,240
Speaker 2: as Felicia, I would have naturally taken a step back

891
00:39:15,960 --> 00:39:19,560
Speaker 2: when this man that I'm hanging out with a lot

892
00:39:19,920 --> 00:39:21,720
Speaker 2: got started like dating.

893
00:39:21,680 --> 00:39:23,759
Speaker 1: Yeah, but I don't know. I think there's a way

894
00:39:23,800 --> 00:39:24,839
Speaker 1: to be respectful about it.

895
00:39:25,080 --> 00:39:28,800
Speaker 3: Update I guess, to the surprise of nobody except for myself.

896
00:39:28,440 --> 00:39:31,439
Speaker 1: Grace and I broke up. Well oh okay, I guess

897
00:39:31,800 --> 00:39:35,080
Speaker 1: not all parties were willing. Didn't give far at all tough.

898
00:39:35,680 --> 00:39:38,279
Speaker 3: After posting, I talked with my family and explain the

899
00:39:38,320 --> 00:39:41,120
Speaker 3: situation that I didn't communicate well and whatnot. They were

900
00:39:41,120 --> 00:39:43,440
Speaker 3: actually very understanding, but the mood was still kind of

901
00:39:43,440 --> 00:39:47,719
Speaker 3: awkward and uncomfortable. Besides that, my youngest brother wasn't on

902
00:39:47,800 --> 00:39:51,600
Speaker 3: his best behavior and he can hold a grudge. He's thirteen, though,

903
00:39:51,640 --> 00:39:53,879
Speaker 3: so I tried to cut him some slack, and knowing

904
00:39:53,920 --> 00:39:57,080
Speaker 3: that Felicia has been helping him with some girl problems,

905
00:39:57,560 --> 00:39:59,840
Speaker 3: I guess he was scared of losing a big sister figure.

906
00:40:00,160 --> 00:40:02,680
Speaker 3: He was kind of short and sassy, but nothing too bad.

907
00:40:02,719 --> 00:40:04,920
Speaker 3: We ended up leaving earlier because I knew she was

908
00:40:04,960 --> 00:40:06,719
Speaker 3: not feeling very well and I didn't want her to

909
00:40:06,760 --> 00:40:09,680
Speaker 3: feel pressured or something. We talked during the ride and

910
00:40:09,719 --> 00:40:12,680
Speaker 3: I apologize for not being very clear and made sure

911
00:40:12,719 --> 00:40:15,919
Speaker 3: to say I don't have and never had any kind

912
00:40:15,920 --> 00:40:19,200
Speaker 3: of romantic or spicy feeling for Felicia, and neither does

913
00:40:19,239 --> 00:40:21,560
Speaker 3: she for me, and that my family doesn't want us

914
00:40:21,600 --> 00:40:23,480
Speaker 3: to end up together. I think she felt kind of

915
00:40:23,520 --> 00:40:27,120
Speaker 3: conflicted and asked for a few days to herself. We

916
00:40:27,200 --> 00:40:30,320
Speaker 3: met up and she broke up with me. Okay, yeah,

917
00:40:30,360 --> 00:40:31,440
Speaker 3: well there you go.

918
00:40:31,640 --> 00:40:33,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, parties not willing.

919
00:40:33,640 --> 00:40:36,880
Speaker 3: No, and said that even though rationally she knows I

920
00:40:36,920 --> 00:40:39,560
Speaker 3: would never cheat and that she believes me, she can't

921
00:40:39,560 --> 00:40:41,560
Speaker 3: feel comfortable in a relationship like this.

922
00:40:42,040 --> 00:40:45,600
Speaker 2: Which is totally fair. Though. Yeah, she knows her boundaries

923
00:40:46,120 --> 00:40:48,160
Speaker 2: as soon or she knows like how she is as

924
00:40:48,160 --> 00:40:50,480
Speaker 2: a person. I guess it's not even boundaries, but like

925
00:40:50,640 --> 00:40:52,719
Speaker 2: that it wouldn't be something that she could do. And

926
00:40:52,840 --> 00:40:55,160
Speaker 2: it's unfortunate that it was two years in by the

927
00:40:55,160 --> 00:40:57,640
Speaker 2: time that you guys went back to your hometown. Yeah,

928
00:40:57,680 --> 00:41:00,120
Speaker 2: at least she knew right away, and she didn't try

929
00:41:00,160 --> 00:41:03,200
Speaker 2: for another two years, knowing she was gonna hate it

930
00:41:03,200 --> 00:41:04,640
Speaker 2: and be uncomfortable.

931
00:41:04,080 --> 00:41:06,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, and resenting you, and then you're resenting her.

932
00:41:07,000 --> 00:41:09,720
Speaker 2: It just was like better to end on like semi

933
00:41:09,760 --> 00:41:12,040
Speaker 2: good terms and like a resentful mess.

934
00:41:12,280 --> 00:41:16,120
Speaker 3: Absolutely, in terms of breakups, it was pretty okay. We

935
00:41:16,239 --> 00:41:18,839
Speaker 3: both cried then we talked and laughed, but I think

936
00:41:18,880 --> 00:41:21,120
Speaker 3: it was for the best. Remaining in the relationship would

937
00:41:21,160 --> 00:41:24,759
Speaker 3: only hurt us both overall. She was my first serious girlfriend.

938
00:41:25,120 --> 00:41:26,480
Speaker 2: Well, okay, that too then.

939
00:41:27,000 --> 00:41:28,840
Speaker 1: Yeah, you're still learning anyway.

940
00:41:29,200 --> 00:41:32,720
Speaker 2: Yeah ages twenty three, Okay, that's young.

941
00:41:33,200 --> 00:41:36,560
Speaker 3: Yeah, you were learning, and I'm glad we had this.

942
00:41:36,880 --> 00:41:40,000
Speaker 3: I'm sure she'll find someone amazing. I'm taking some time

943
00:41:40,040 --> 00:41:43,160
Speaker 3: off dating, but I'm fine, I guess. Ironically, though, Felicia

944
00:41:43,200 --> 00:41:45,320
Speaker 3: got a boyfriend. Nice Felicia.

945
00:41:45,880 --> 00:41:47,640
Speaker 1: I met him and they're perfect for each other.

946
00:41:47,800 --> 00:41:50,120
Speaker 3: I'm happy for I told her why Grace and I

947
00:41:50,160 --> 00:41:52,080
Speaker 3: broke up, and she felt kind of guilty, but I

948
00:41:52,120 --> 00:41:54,120
Speaker 3: told her it was no one's fault and advised her

949
00:41:54,120 --> 00:41:58,200
Speaker 3: to explain clearly to her boyfriend. Yeah, let's not wait

950
00:41:58,920 --> 00:42:01,839
Speaker 3: for the two years in mar Nope, straight out, I

951
00:42:01,880 --> 00:42:03,399
Speaker 3: have this friend back home. Yeah.

952
00:42:03,800 --> 00:42:05,480
Speaker 1: Edit, totally crap.

953
00:42:05,719 --> 00:42:08,720
Speaker 3: Okay, the response is here blown up and they pissed

954
00:42:08,719 --> 00:42:11,759
Speaker 3: me off enough to edit and clarify some things. Felicia

955
00:42:11,840 --> 00:42:13,879
Speaker 3: is part of the family. I don't care if she's

956
00:42:13,920 --> 00:42:16,760
Speaker 3: not approved by the government, not blood related, just a neighbor.

957
00:42:17,120 --> 00:42:19,600
Speaker 3: We grew up together, and my family treats her like

958
00:42:19,640 --> 00:42:23,040
Speaker 3: another kid. We cried when she got into her dream college.

959
00:42:23,480 --> 00:42:26,439
Speaker 3: My parents scolded her when she did something wrong, took

960
00:42:26,480 --> 00:42:28,279
Speaker 3: her side if they thought she was right, and the

961
00:42:28,320 --> 00:42:31,200
Speaker 3: opposite too. I do have fault in this situation because

962
00:42:31,200 --> 00:42:34,000
Speaker 3: I didn't communicate properly with Grace and gave her the

963
00:42:34,040 --> 00:42:37,200
Speaker 3: wrong impression of what me and Felicia had. I admit this.

964
00:42:37,400 --> 00:42:39,840
Speaker 3: I talked to her and apologized. I have no romantic

965
00:42:39,880 --> 00:42:43,200
Speaker 3: feelings for Felicia, nor does my family want us to

966
00:42:43,360 --> 00:42:44,080
Speaker 3: end up together.

967
00:42:44,400 --> 00:42:45,359
Speaker 1: Yes, it is.

968
00:42:45,440 --> 00:42:48,320
Speaker 3: Possible for a man and a woman to be platonic friends,

969
00:42:48,360 --> 00:42:50,520
Speaker 3: and that's what we are. I didn't discuss with my

970
00:42:50,600 --> 00:42:53,440
Speaker 3: family when Grace was there, not really sure why people

971
00:42:53,560 --> 00:42:55,840
Speaker 3: thought I did. She was out and I explained to

972
00:42:55,880 --> 00:42:58,680
Speaker 3: everyone why she felt uncomfortable and made it clear it

973
00:42:58,719 --> 00:43:02,360
Speaker 3: was a communication issue. Everyone there saying my family shouldn't

974
00:43:02,400 --> 00:43:05,480
Speaker 3: be involved in our relationships. This wasn't just about us,

975
00:43:05,719 --> 00:43:08,040
Speaker 3: this was about a family friend. I don't agree with

976
00:43:08,080 --> 00:43:10,960
Speaker 3: what my brother did and talk with him, but they

977
00:43:11,000 --> 00:43:12,879
Speaker 3: do have the right to be aware if someone wants

978
00:43:12,880 --> 00:43:16,000
Speaker 3: their son or brother to cut off contact with someone

979
00:43:16,000 --> 00:43:19,200
Speaker 3: who's always at the house. I'm not angry at Grace

980
00:43:19,239 --> 00:43:21,399
Speaker 3: and she's not angry at me. We have different deal

981
00:43:21,440 --> 00:43:24,080
Speaker 3: breakers and that's okay. I can respect this and she

982
00:43:24,120 --> 00:43:27,560
Speaker 3: couldn't respect my family dynamic. Stop trying to turn felicia

983
00:43:27,680 --> 00:43:30,560
Speaker 3: involvement with my family into a bad thing. It's not.

984
00:43:30,960 --> 00:43:34,719
Speaker 3: When someone posts about closet guard parents, people are quick

985
00:43:34,760 --> 00:43:37,040
Speaker 3: to say, she is your own family and similar things.

986
00:43:37,200 --> 00:43:39,279
Speaker 3: Why is it wrong for Felicia to be close to

987
00:43:39,320 --> 00:43:41,520
Speaker 3: my family like this? Do we really live in a

988
00:43:41,520 --> 00:43:44,520
Speaker 3: society so closed off by blood ties that we can't

989
00:43:44,560 --> 00:43:46,759
Speaker 3: make our own family of choice unless we don't have

990
00:43:46,800 --> 00:43:49,680
Speaker 3: any other option. I feel sorry for you guys. This

991
00:43:49,880 --> 00:43:51,839
Speaker 3: mentality of once they get ans though I don't need

992
00:43:51,880 --> 00:43:54,160
Speaker 3: anyone else is toxic and immature.

993
00:43:54,400 --> 00:43:57,439
Speaker 2: It's like, I don't think that people are necessarily being

994
00:43:57,880 --> 00:44:02,640
Speaker 2: toxic and immature with things like I don't agree that.

995
00:44:03,480 --> 00:44:04,960
Speaker 2: To be fair, we didn't read the comments, but in

996
00:44:04,960 --> 00:44:07,279
Speaker 2: my head, I'm not picturing it so much as like, uh,

997
00:44:07,680 --> 00:44:09,840
Speaker 2: you can never have these friends now that you would

998
00:44:09,840 --> 00:44:12,520
Speaker 2: like No, Like obviously, no one's being like like, it's

999
00:44:12,520 --> 00:44:14,399
Speaker 2: not right to be like cut off everybody that you've

1000
00:44:14,400 --> 00:44:17,360
Speaker 2: ever talked to because you have a partner now. But

1001
00:44:17,440 --> 00:44:19,319
Speaker 2: at the same time, I think what you could have

1002
00:44:19,440 --> 00:44:22,520
Speaker 2: done that you should do for your next relationship is

1003
00:44:22,640 --> 00:44:27,000
Speaker 2: just like from the pretty much get go. Start talking

1004
00:44:27,040 --> 00:44:31,040
Speaker 2: more about Felicia in like, uh, she is my family friend.

1005
00:44:31,120 --> 00:44:33,360
Speaker 2: This is our dynamic, so that you're not two years

1006
00:44:33,360 --> 00:44:36,319
Speaker 2: in and it's not like thrown onto this person the

1007
00:44:36,360 --> 00:44:36,799
Speaker 2: first time.

1008
00:44:36,840 --> 00:44:37,120
Speaker 1: You go.

1009
00:44:37,880 --> 00:44:41,480
Speaker 3: Yeah, exactly. For everyone saying they're glad Grace broke up

1010
00:44:41,480 --> 00:44:43,800
Speaker 3: with me, I'm glad too. She would never be happy

1011
00:44:43,800 --> 00:44:45,920
Speaker 3: in this family dynamic, and I would never be happy

1012
00:44:45,920 --> 00:44:48,080
Speaker 3: if I had to cut Flesha off. We had different

1013
00:44:48,200 --> 00:44:51,480
Speaker 3: values and that's okay. So yeah, just because this would

1014
00:44:51,520 --> 00:44:53,680
Speaker 3: be a deal breaker for you doesn't mean it's wrong.

1015
00:44:53,880 --> 00:44:56,520
Speaker 3: Get off your high horse. Just because you're uncomfortable with

1016
00:44:56,600 --> 00:44:58,680
Speaker 3: something doesn't mean it's inherently wrong.

1017
00:44:58,960 --> 00:45:00,799
Speaker 1: And Op also says you're right.

1018
00:45:00,880 --> 00:45:03,560
Speaker 3: I'll work on being more direct and explaining what Felicia

1019
00:45:03,600 --> 00:45:05,880
Speaker 3: means to me and my family and how she's considered

1020
00:45:05,920 --> 00:45:09,480
Speaker 3: a family friend. I was at fault for this communication issue,

1021
00:45:09,560 --> 00:45:12,000
Speaker 3: and I'll try harder next time. They think the idea

1022
00:45:12,000 --> 00:45:14,399
Speaker 3: of me and Felicia ending up together is really weird

1023
00:45:14,400 --> 00:45:16,280
Speaker 3: to them, I mean I was there when she pooped

1024
00:45:16,280 --> 00:45:18,160
Speaker 3: in the pool, when we were little kids, and they

1025
00:45:18,160 --> 00:45:19,640
Speaker 3: can't look at her without seeing this.

1026
00:45:19,840 --> 00:45:22,560
Speaker 1: My parents can't either, rough for Felicia.

1027
00:45:22,640 --> 00:45:25,040
Speaker 2: Other stuff they like you don't need to include, though. Yeah,

1028
00:45:25,080 --> 00:45:27,480
Speaker 2: I feel like when you're talking to next partner, you

1029
00:45:27,480 --> 00:45:30,040
Speaker 2: don't need to be like she. Well, obviously they wouldn't

1030
00:45:30,120 --> 00:45:32,520
Speaker 2: want us to end up together. We've been together our

1031
00:45:32,640 --> 00:45:35,920
Speaker 2: whole life. Yeah, nope, she's your cousin. It's your cousin,

1032
00:45:36,360 --> 00:45:37,319
Speaker 2: youse something like that.

1033
00:45:37,680 --> 00:45:40,040
Speaker 3: I don't think they were extra nice, maybe to someone

1034
00:45:40,080 --> 00:45:42,640
Speaker 3: outside of the family. We're Latinos, so my family is

1035
00:45:42,800 --> 00:45:46,680
Speaker 3: very welcoming and warm. They greet everyone with kisses and hugs,

1036
00:45:46,719 --> 00:45:48,520
Speaker 3: and my grandma adores Felicia.

1037
00:45:48,960 --> 00:45:49,799
Speaker 1: The joke is that she.

1038
00:45:49,840 --> 00:45:52,279
Speaker 3: Likes her better than everyone, even our dad, her son.

1039
00:45:52,400 --> 00:45:54,080
Speaker 3: But I don't think they were extra nice with her.

1040
00:45:54,200 --> 00:45:56,279
Speaker 2: It kind of sounds like they were extra nice with you.

1041
00:45:57,120 --> 00:46:00,440
Speaker 3: I don't think it's anyone's like fault fall, but I

1042
00:46:00,440 --> 00:46:02,239
Speaker 3: think there are ways that you can make your next

1043
00:46:02,239 --> 00:46:03,520
Speaker 3: partner more comfortable.

1044
00:46:03,600 --> 00:46:05,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, I would fully agree.

1045
00:46:05,080 --> 00:46:06,880
Speaker 4: And that's the end of this story. We're gonna go

1046
00:46:06,880 --> 00:46:07,600
Speaker 4: to the next one.

1047
00:46:08,560 --> 00:46:11,560
Speaker 2: My girlfriend told me her dream, then I found out

1048
00:46:11,600 --> 00:46:12,960
Speaker 2: she'd already been living it.

1049
00:46:13,400 --> 00:46:14,359
Speaker 1: Well, congrats.

1050
00:46:14,600 --> 00:46:17,040
Speaker 2: My girlfriend and I are both in our early twenties

1051
00:46:17,080 --> 00:46:18,279
Speaker 2: and have been together.

1052
00:46:18,040 --> 00:46:18,600
Speaker 1: For a year.

1053
00:46:19,320 --> 00:46:21,640
Speaker 2: I really love this girl and I see a real

1054
00:46:21,680 --> 00:46:23,839
Speaker 2: future with her, and I know she feels the same

1055
00:46:23,880 --> 00:46:28,319
Speaker 2: way about me. Our relationship has been almost picture perfect

1056
00:46:28,440 --> 00:46:31,640
Speaker 2: until now. By the way, this comes from throwaway at

1057
00:46:31,680 --> 00:46:35,160
Speaker 2: twelve XASD and if you want to meet your own stories,

1058
00:46:35,160 --> 00:46:37,200
Speaker 2: go to the r slash Okay storytime stuff areddit.

1059
00:46:37,200 --> 00:46:39,000
Speaker 1: I'm Carly, I'm Sophia, and.

1060
00:46:38,920 --> 00:46:41,239
Speaker 2: We're here to give good advice. Goofily, but we don't

1061
00:46:41,239 --> 00:46:43,440
Speaker 2: have all the answers. We really know what we would do.

1062
00:46:43,600 --> 00:46:45,200
Speaker 2: It's know what you would do in the comments. I know,

1063
00:46:45,320 --> 00:46:48,960
Speaker 2: he says. My girlfriend is a fairly successful amateur model.

1064
00:46:49,280 --> 00:46:52,080
Speaker 2: It's been her dream forever to be a model, and

1065
00:46:52,160 --> 00:46:54,600
Speaker 2: while she has not signed with a big agency yet,

1066
00:46:54,880 --> 00:46:58,040
Speaker 2: her career has advanced rapidly and she's making a good

1067
00:46:58,080 --> 00:47:01,239
Speaker 2: amount of money. Recently, she's been looking for a breakthrough

1068
00:47:01,400 --> 00:47:03,560
Speaker 2: the other day she got a great offer from an

1069
00:47:03,600 --> 00:47:07,000
Speaker 2: agency with a very generous amount of money. It was

1070
00:47:07,040 --> 00:47:11,200
Speaker 2: honestly the exact kind of breakthrough she was looking for. I, however,

1071
00:47:11,600 --> 00:47:14,560
Speaker 2: have a problem with it because it's a nude photo.

1072
00:47:14,560 --> 00:47:14,880
Speaker 3: Shoot.

1073
00:47:14,960 --> 00:47:17,400
Speaker 2: When my girlfriend approached me to talk about the offer,

1074
00:47:17,800 --> 00:47:20,759
Speaker 2: I am ashamed to admit I didn't react very well.

1075
00:47:21,960 --> 00:47:26,360
Speaker 2: Oh buddy, okay, I lashed out, although later I felt

1076
00:47:26,440 --> 00:47:28,960
Speaker 2: kind of bad because she was so excited when she

1077
00:47:29,040 --> 00:47:31,040
Speaker 2: came up to tell me about it, and I just

1078
00:47:31,160 --> 00:47:35,000
Speaker 2: wiped the happiness right off her face. Anyway, I told

1079
00:47:35,000 --> 00:47:38,400
Speaker 2: her this was something I was absolutely not okay with.

1080
00:47:38,680 --> 00:47:41,239
Speaker 2: I do feel like this should have been a conversation

1081
00:47:41,600 --> 00:47:42,920
Speaker 2: when she started modeling.

1082
00:47:43,680 --> 00:47:47,440
Speaker 3: Yeah, like, hey, is there anything you're not okay with

1083
00:47:47,800 --> 00:47:50,080
Speaker 3: in terms of like my career.

1084
00:47:50,239 --> 00:47:52,880
Speaker 2: Right, and then you could have said no nude photo shoots,

1085
00:47:53,080 --> 00:47:55,160
Speaker 2: and then she could have decided if she still wanted

1086
00:47:55,160 --> 00:47:58,080
Speaker 2: to be with you. Yeah, she says, in the beginning

1087
00:47:58,080 --> 00:48:01,080
Speaker 2: of our relationship, I said I would always be supportive

1088
00:48:01,080 --> 00:48:03,719
Speaker 2: of her dreams. She vaguely mentioned how one of the

1089
00:48:03,760 --> 00:48:06,960
Speaker 2: things she really wanted to do was overcome her shyness

1090
00:48:07,000 --> 00:48:09,880
Speaker 2: and get into nude photography. At the time, I just

1091
00:48:09,920 --> 00:48:12,600
Speaker 2: said yeah, sure quickly, because I hoped that if our

1092
00:48:12,640 --> 00:48:17,440
Speaker 2: relationship ever got serious, she would give up those dreams

1093
00:48:17,480 --> 00:48:20,040
Speaker 2: and reorient herself to You're.

1094
00:48:19,880 --> 00:48:24,360
Speaker 1: The a I don't like eving mad. So we just

1095
00:48:24,400 --> 00:48:26,560
Speaker 1: found out that she did tell you that this is

1096
00:48:26,600 --> 00:48:27,440
Speaker 1: one of our dreams?

1097
00:48:27,520 --> 00:48:27,680
Speaker 2: Is it?

1098
00:48:27,920 --> 00:48:28,240
Speaker 1: Now?

1099
00:48:28,280 --> 00:48:31,880
Speaker 2: You're lying to her and you blewed off in hopes

1100
00:48:31,920 --> 00:48:35,959
Speaker 2: that she would change just for you for some unknown reason.

1101
00:48:35,680 --> 00:48:40,120
Speaker 3: Because apparently yeah, no, no, no bye.

1102
00:48:40,320 --> 00:48:43,400
Speaker 2: After that, her career online started to take off rapidly,

1103
00:48:43,480 --> 00:48:46,239
Speaker 2: and I put it from my mind. When we cooled down,

1104
00:48:46,320 --> 00:48:48,600
Speaker 2: we sat to have a discussion. She told me she

1105
00:48:48,840 --> 00:48:51,319
Speaker 2: had something to tell me, that she'd always been too

1106
00:48:51,400 --> 00:48:54,080
Speaker 2: shy too. I said, okay, And she tells me that

1107
00:48:54,120 --> 00:48:58,319
Speaker 2: she's always wanted to do soft corn and nude photoshoots.

1108
00:48:58,560 --> 00:49:01,919
Speaker 2: She struggled with her body for years, but she says

1109
00:49:01,960 --> 00:49:04,760
Speaker 2: she loves her body now and wants to express herself

1110
00:49:05,080 --> 00:49:07,680
Speaker 2: and really hopes that I can accept that, and that

1111
00:49:07,760 --> 00:49:10,120
Speaker 2: nothing would make her happier. She assured me that she

1112
00:49:10,120 --> 00:49:12,680
Speaker 2: does not want to get into actual corn scenes or

1113
00:49:12,800 --> 00:49:15,799
Speaker 2: have spicy sleep with anyone other than me, and just

1114
00:49:15,840 --> 00:49:18,160
Speaker 2: wants to express herself in a way she knows will

1115
00:49:18,200 --> 00:49:21,200
Speaker 2: make her the happiest. She said that it had always

1116
00:49:21,239 --> 00:49:23,760
Speaker 2: been her dream, and then I promised I would accept

1117
00:49:23,800 --> 00:49:25,880
Speaker 2: all of her. I did say something like that when

1118
00:49:25,920 --> 00:49:28,799
Speaker 2: we were being gushy during the early part of our relationship,

1119
00:49:29,040 --> 00:49:31,560
Speaker 2: but I wasn't thinking of her going into corn at

1120
00:49:31,560 --> 00:49:33,640
Speaker 2: the time, and I would always support her dreams.

1121
00:49:33,760 --> 00:49:36,680
Speaker 3: Okay, So now I'm a little bit on your side,

1122
00:49:37,760 --> 00:49:38,359
Speaker 3: just a little bit.

1123
00:49:38,840 --> 00:49:40,839
Speaker 2: I'm not because she was upfront with it.

1124
00:49:40,920 --> 00:49:43,200
Speaker 3: She but well she didn't, she wasn't afraid about the

1125
00:49:43,239 --> 00:49:46,120
Speaker 3: corn stuff. It's to me, it sounds like she's coming

1126
00:49:46,120 --> 00:49:48,239
Speaker 3: to him now and saying, I want to get into

1127
00:49:48,280 --> 00:49:52,160
Speaker 3: soft core corn. Yeah, the new needs she does, and

1128
00:49:52,280 --> 00:49:55,200
Speaker 3: she mentioned so that's that I think you shouldn't be

1129
00:49:55,280 --> 00:49:57,640
Speaker 3: upset about or like you should have said something at

1130
00:49:57,640 --> 00:49:58,760
Speaker 3: that point. Yeah.

1131
00:49:58,840 --> 00:50:04,000
Speaker 2: To me, though, the corecorn sounds pretty similar still to

1132
00:50:04,400 --> 00:50:07,360
Speaker 2: just like a nude shoot of some sort, because she

1133
00:50:07,360 --> 00:50:10,279
Speaker 2: doesn't want to actually do anything. Ye anybody, So I'm

1134
00:50:10,280 --> 00:50:13,480
Speaker 2: picturing it's just I'm picturing more of just like a

1135
00:50:13,600 --> 00:50:16,560
Speaker 2: video nude shoot instead of a photo nude shoot.

1136
00:50:16,800 --> 00:50:19,120
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean, I guess, I guess, or I guess

1137
00:50:19,120 --> 00:50:22,919
Speaker 3: it just depends on what that entails. Yeah, and how

1138
00:50:23,000 --> 00:50:25,840
Speaker 3: far from what she originally said.

1139
00:50:26,000 --> 00:50:28,759
Speaker 2: And this is also the time where you speak you're

1140
00:50:28,800 --> 00:50:32,239
Speaker 2: comfortable you with that because she's reopening that door of

1141
00:50:32,280 --> 00:50:33,960
Speaker 2: boundaries to be talked about.

1142
00:50:33,760 --> 00:50:37,880
Speaker 3: And you don't just say, Okay, I guess I whatever.

1143
00:50:37,960 --> 00:50:39,440
Speaker 2: She'll totally change for me.

1144
00:50:39,840 --> 00:50:42,520
Speaker 3: Yeah, Like, this is where you get to decide what

1145
00:50:42,640 --> 00:50:45,520
Speaker 3: are your boundaries because you already kind of ignored your

1146
00:50:45,840 --> 00:50:49,399
Speaker 3: you know, ignored what she asked you the first time, right,

1147
00:50:49,640 --> 00:50:51,400
Speaker 3: so decide now, I guess.

1148
00:50:51,520 --> 00:50:54,640
Speaker 2: I told her it was a reasonable expectation that when

1149
00:50:54,640 --> 00:50:57,040
Speaker 2: you're in a relationship with someone, you were going to

1150
00:50:57,080 --> 00:51:00,560
Speaker 2: have to make some sacrifices. And yeah, sometimes those things

1151
00:51:00,640 --> 00:51:05,160
Speaker 2: will have to be dreams. Tough luck, my god, dude, God,

1152
00:51:05,680 --> 00:51:08,080
Speaker 2: see the other side of this, where like maybe you'll

1153
00:51:08,080 --> 00:51:11,000
Speaker 2: have to like figure out your boundaries. This isn't something

1154
00:51:11,040 --> 00:51:12,839
Speaker 2: you're willing she might just say, but bye.

1155
00:51:13,040 --> 00:51:16,640
Speaker 3: Like, guys, I just think you aren't meant for each other.

1156
00:51:16,880 --> 00:51:21,319
Speaker 3: And that's that, And that's fine. To can go live

1157
00:51:21,360 --> 00:51:24,240
Speaker 3: her dreams. You can go live your dreams. We're good.

1158
00:51:24,800 --> 00:51:26,799
Speaker 2: We're find someone that just wants.

1159
00:51:26,560 --> 00:51:28,960
Speaker 1: To give up all their dreams for you.

1160
00:51:29,040 --> 00:51:32,279
Speaker 2: Literally, I've given up my fair share for her too. Like, what,

1161
00:51:32,560 --> 00:51:36,040
Speaker 2: please tell us that's vague? I told her, under no

1162
00:51:36,239 --> 00:51:39,520
Speaker 2: circumstance would I ever consider being okay with this. She

1163
00:51:39,600 --> 00:51:42,839
Speaker 2: started crying and shut herself in our bedroom. A relationship

1164
00:51:42,920 --> 00:51:47,960
Speaker 2: is spicy related exclusivity in every form. I mean I

1165
00:51:47,960 --> 00:51:49,840
Speaker 2: feel like that's a talk you have with your partner.

1166
00:51:50,160 --> 00:51:51,000
Speaker 3: Yeah.

1167
00:51:51,200 --> 00:51:51,600
Speaker 1: Yeah.

1168
00:51:51,760 --> 00:51:54,200
Speaker 3: And also I mean like she's not having spicy sleep

1169
00:51:54,200 --> 00:51:56,640
Speaker 3: with anyone else. She's just doing and she said to

1170
00:51:56,680 --> 00:51:57,920
Speaker 3: hard stop she doesn't want to.

1171
00:51:58,160 --> 00:52:00,880
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's what I believe, but I'm open to be

1172
00:52:00,920 --> 00:52:03,479
Speaker 2: proven wrong. So tell me, am I the a hole

1173
00:52:03,600 --> 00:52:06,480
Speaker 2: or am I being reasonable at it? By soft corn,

1174
00:52:06,560 --> 00:52:08,960
Speaker 2: I mean she wants to do photoshoots with other people

1175
00:52:09,239 --> 00:52:11,640
Speaker 2: where it looks like they're having spicy sleep, so it's

1176
00:52:11,640 --> 00:52:13,280
Speaker 2: still just nude photography.

1177
00:52:13,640 --> 00:52:16,759
Speaker 3: Yeah, that one would be a little bit different for me.

1178
00:52:16,840 --> 00:52:20,239
Speaker 3: I think I have from what she originally said.

1179
00:52:20,400 --> 00:52:24,359
Speaker 2: See to me, it's not super different. Yeah, I would

1180
00:52:24,440 --> 00:52:28,320
Speaker 2: say a good compromise for that one to like ease

1181
00:52:28,360 --> 00:52:31,560
Speaker 2: into it would be like I will make sure that

1182
00:52:31,640 --> 00:52:34,920
Speaker 2: the first one I schedule, you can come to set

1183
00:52:35,920 --> 00:52:38,840
Speaker 2: and you can see what it's actually like. They probably

1184
00:52:38,920 --> 00:52:43,640
Speaker 2: have an intimacy coordinator, it would have to h so

1185
00:52:43,760 --> 00:52:45,960
Speaker 2: like you could see the behind the scenes that it's

1186
00:52:46,040 --> 00:52:50,400
Speaker 2: literally nothing, that it's posed still, that it's not like

1187
00:52:50,440 --> 00:52:53,800
Speaker 2: they're just like, yeah, actually going at it and someone's

1188
00:52:53,800 --> 00:52:54,640
Speaker 2: taking pictures.

1189
00:52:55,280 --> 00:52:59,719
Speaker 3: I think it would be a reasonable boundary for him

1190
00:53:00,200 --> 00:53:03,640
Speaker 3: having already technically agreed to the nude photography. Yeah, to

1191
00:53:03,760 --> 00:53:07,920
Speaker 3: say I don't feel comfortable with you doing the softcore stuff.

1192
00:53:08,120 --> 00:53:09,839
Speaker 1: However, I'm good with the.

1193
00:53:09,880 --> 00:53:12,799
Speaker 3: Nude photography, and I totally agree with you. Yeah, I

1194
00:53:12,840 --> 00:53:14,879
Speaker 3: think that would have been a fair But I think

1195
00:53:14,920 --> 00:53:17,080
Speaker 3: for you to say none of it when you already

1196
00:53:17,120 --> 00:53:19,479
Speaker 3: agreed to it, I just break up at this point

1197
00:53:19,480 --> 00:53:21,040
Speaker 3: because you're not gonna be comfortable and she wants to

1198
00:53:21,040 --> 00:53:21,319
Speaker 3: do it.

1199
00:53:21,400 --> 00:53:23,880
Speaker 2: She won't actually have spicy sleep with them, but they

1200
00:53:23,920 --> 00:53:26,560
Speaker 2: will be touching each other, et cetera. And we have

1201
00:53:26,800 --> 00:53:27,640
Speaker 2: an update.

1202
00:53:27,760 --> 00:53:31,520
Speaker 1: Oh, let's see it update.

1203
00:53:31,719 --> 00:53:35,480
Speaker 2: It turns out she's been posting to Gone Wild and

1204
00:53:35,560 --> 00:53:37,359
Speaker 2: Real Girls for almost a year.

1205
00:53:37,680 --> 00:53:39,239
Speaker 3: Oh man, how did you?

1206
00:53:39,719 --> 00:53:40,719
Speaker 1: How did how?

1207
00:53:41,360 --> 00:53:41,560
Speaker 2: Oh?

1208
00:53:41,840 --> 00:53:42,200
Speaker 3: Dang it?

1209
00:53:42,760 --> 00:53:45,440
Speaker 1: Ah Dan? Is this an everyone's sexier kind of situation?

1210
00:53:46,400 --> 00:53:46,600
Speaker 4: Ah?

1211
00:53:46,840 --> 00:53:47,120
Speaker 3: Dang it?

1212
00:53:47,719 --> 00:53:49,319
Speaker 2: She said she asked if I was okay with it

1213
00:53:49,360 --> 00:53:51,640
Speaker 2: in the beginning because she wanted to start posting there.

1214
00:53:52,120 --> 00:53:54,320
Speaker 2: She says she went ahead because I said I was

1215
00:53:54,400 --> 00:53:56,400
Speaker 2: okay with it, and that she planned to tell me

1216
00:53:56,560 --> 00:54:00,600
Speaker 2: eventually once she gained enough confidence than herself.

1217
00:54:00,760 --> 00:54:06,640
Speaker 3: No, no, okay, so no to know she lied she lied.

1218
00:54:07,440 --> 00:54:10,040
Speaker 2: I'm the first person in real life to know. Apparently

1219
00:54:10,400 --> 00:54:12,600
Speaker 2: in light of that, I will not be moving forward

1220
00:54:12,640 --> 00:54:13,600
Speaker 2: with this relationship.

1221
00:54:13,760 --> 00:54:15,479
Speaker 1: That's fair, smart move.

1222
00:54:15,719 --> 00:54:18,719
Speaker 2: Yeah, thank you for all your comments. That's the end

1223
00:54:18,760 --> 00:54:19,040
Speaker 2: of that.

1224
00:54:19,280 --> 00:54:20,040
Speaker 3: Well, there you go.

1225
00:54:20,239 --> 00:54:23,240
Speaker 1: Somehow ope ended up not the only a whole.

1226
00:54:23,040 --> 00:54:23,760
Speaker 3: In the story.

1227
00:54:24,000 --> 00:54:27,239
Speaker 2: Yeah, that kind of resolved pretty easily. Yeah for devastating,

1228
00:54:27,280 --> 00:54:29,040
Speaker 2: but pretty easily for you tough.

1229
00:54:30,760 --> 00:54:31,840
Speaker 1: Sorry about that, dude.

1230
00:54:32,520 --> 00:54:35,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, I would say she does sound like she sucks

1231
00:54:35,640 --> 00:54:38,200
Speaker 2: a bit. And my only advice to you would be

1232
00:54:38,200 --> 00:54:40,360
Speaker 2: be more a proud with your feelings even if you're

1233
00:54:40,400 --> 00:54:43,040
Speaker 2: worried about the outcome of it, Like it's better to

1234
00:54:43,040 --> 00:54:47,239
Speaker 2: be overly communicative about that stuff, like head on kind

1235
00:54:47,280 --> 00:54:47,600
Speaker 2: of thing.

1236
00:54:47,920 --> 00:54:50,879
Speaker 4: Completely agree, And that's the end of this story. We're

1237
00:54:50,880 --> 00:54:52,919
Speaker 4: going to go to the next one.

1238
00:54:53,080 --> 00:54:55,399
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1239
00:54:55,480 --> 00:54:55,640
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1240
00:54:55,800 --> 00:54:57,919
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1241
00:54:57,960 --> 00:55:00,360
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1242
00:55:00,800 --> 00:55:04,040
Speaker 3: I worked three jobs to support my boyfriend. Then he

1243
00:55:04,120 --> 00:55:06,040
Speaker 3: called me materialistic.

1244
00:55:05,360 --> 00:55:06,640
Speaker 2: Tell him to get three jobs.

1245
00:55:06,800 --> 00:55:09,720
Speaker 3: So I twenty four female, have been dating Andrew thirty

1246
00:55:09,800 --> 00:55:15,160
Speaker 3: four male for four years and just left a week ago. Yes,

1247
00:55:15,680 --> 00:55:19,840
Speaker 3: huge age gap but I was emancipated young, so this

1248
00:55:19,920 --> 00:55:24,400
Speaker 3: has never been very noticeable. Oh so you're telling me

1249
00:55:24,560 --> 00:55:28,440
Speaker 3: you never had any reliable adult figures in your life

1250
00:55:28,840 --> 00:55:32,480
Speaker 3: and you got emancipated when you were a minor.

1251
00:55:33,160 --> 00:55:37,040
Speaker 2: I feel like Andrew might think it's noticeable and might.

1252
00:55:36,920 --> 00:55:37,920
Speaker 1: Have liked that.

1253
00:55:38,760 --> 00:55:41,799
Speaker 2: Yes, but hey, hey, real quick to judge. We'll give

1254
00:55:41,840 --> 00:55:42,400
Speaker 2: him a chance.

1255
00:55:42,840 --> 00:55:45,120
Speaker 3: For some background, we first met at a job, but

1256
00:55:45,239 --> 00:55:47,200
Speaker 3: I had just been hired and he had worked there

1257
00:55:47,239 --> 00:55:50,920
Speaker 3: for many years. Steady job, great friend, group, funny, handsome.

1258
00:55:51,080 --> 00:55:55,040
Speaker 3: He literally couldn't get better. Yew good, he though. The

1259
00:55:55,080 --> 00:55:56,960
Speaker 3: only thing I thought I'd have to settle on was

1260
00:55:57,040 --> 00:55:59,560
Speaker 3: lack of compliments, as he felt corny saying them.

1261
00:56:00,040 --> 00:56:01,960
Speaker 2: Sure, I think it could get better.

1262
00:56:02,440 --> 00:56:04,799
Speaker 3: By the way, this comes from cautious Concept twenty one

1263
00:56:04,880 --> 00:56:08,480
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1264
00:56:08,520 --> 00:56:10,440
Speaker 3: And if you want to spent your own stories, go there.

1265
00:56:10,760 --> 00:56:14,319
Speaker 1: Woo woo. And I'm Sophia, I'm Carly, and we're here

1266
00:56:14,320 --> 00:56:15,280
Speaker 1: to give good advice scoofy.

1267
00:56:15,360 --> 00:56:17,040
Speaker 3: But we don't have all the answers. We only know

1268
00:56:17,080 --> 00:56:18,480
Speaker 3: what we'd do, So I'll let us know what you

1269
00:56:18,480 --> 00:56:20,600
Speaker 3: would do in the comments and nope, he says. A

1270
00:56:20,680 --> 00:56:23,040
Speaker 3: year and a half into our relationship, he was offered

1271
00:56:23,040 --> 00:56:26,640
Speaker 3: a new position at his friends company with much better

1272
00:56:26,680 --> 00:56:29,880
Speaker 3: pay and hours, and he jumped on it. He was

1273
00:56:29,920 --> 00:56:32,960
Speaker 3: a service advisor for a mechanic shop and very often

1274
00:56:33,000 --> 00:56:36,000
Speaker 3: had to give people bad news about their cars, and

1275
00:56:36,120 --> 00:56:39,439
Speaker 3: this was not a rich area, and oftentimes people would

1276
00:56:39,480 --> 00:56:42,200
Speaker 3: have to get very steep loans to get repairs done.

1277
00:56:42,280 --> 00:56:44,239
Speaker 3: Within about two months, you could start to see the

1278
00:56:44,239 --> 00:56:46,280
Speaker 3: wear and tear it was doing on his mental state.

1279
00:56:46,520 --> 00:56:49,320
Speaker 3: He would come home no longer walked in with a smile,

1280
00:56:50,080 --> 00:56:53,240
Speaker 3: never seemed happy or relieved to see me or our cat,

1281
00:56:53,440 --> 00:56:56,560
Speaker 3: stop seeking his friends out, and fell back on his hobbies.

1282
00:56:56,719 --> 00:56:58,799
Speaker 3: We both knew he was depressed, but he didn't want

1283
00:56:58,800 --> 00:57:00,799
Speaker 3: to let his friends down, and the money was great.

1284
00:57:01,200 --> 00:57:03,440
Speaker 3: I did everything I could to make his life easier.

1285
00:57:03,560 --> 00:57:06,799
Speaker 3: He always came home to a spotless house with candleslit,

1286
00:57:07,080 --> 00:57:09,840
Speaker 3: a warm dinner in the oven, lunch packed for the

1287
00:57:09,880 --> 00:57:12,680
Speaker 3: next day, and knew adult sodas in the fridge for

1288
00:57:12,760 --> 00:57:15,000
Speaker 3: him to unwind with. This was all while I was

1289
00:57:15,040 --> 00:57:18,640
Speaker 3: working three jobs, served at a local brewery about twenty

1290
00:57:18,640 --> 00:57:21,520
Speaker 3: five hours a week, owned and operated a real estate

1291
00:57:21,560 --> 00:57:25,880
Speaker 3: company and did demolition work here and there. Okay, dang.

1292
00:57:26,520 --> 00:57:28,920
Speaker 3: Something worth noting is that he has always known that

1293
00:57:28,960 --> 00:57:31,800
Speaker 3: I have a boundary with adult content, like of women,

1294
00:57:32,040 --> 00:57:35,360
Speaker 3: and during this trying time, he was consuming this content well.

1295
00:57:35,440 --> 00:57:37,400
Speaker 3: I wanted nothing more but to be close to.

1296
00:57:37,440 --> 00:57:38,040
Speaker 1: Him in that way.

1297
00:57:38,280 --> 00:57:41,280
Speaker 3: I gave and gave and gave and got nothing in return.

1298
00:57:41,560 --> 00:57:43,840
Speaker 3: But this was his rock bottom and I was there

1299
00:57:43,880 --> 00:57:46,120
Speaker 3: for him. About a year in they all made the

1300
00:57:46,200 --> 00:57:48,840
Speaker 3: mutual decision to let him go and gave him an

1301
00:57:48,920 --> 00:57:52,760
Speaker 3: incredible severance package. He started talking more and more about

1302
00:57:52,760 --> 00:57:56,160
Speaker 3: his issue with the workforce, capitalism, et cetera, and wanted

1303
00:57:56,200 --> 00:57:59,240
Speaker 3: to do something he fully enjoyed. He landed on driving

1304
00:57:59,280 --> 00:58:01,600
Speaker 3: and started to live in car parts for a local store.

1305
00:58:01,760 --> 00:58:04,160
Speaker 3: When the season came to a close and he wasn't

1306
00:58:04,160 --> 00:58:07,200
Speaker 3: getting enough hours, he decided to DoorDash.

1307
00:58:07,480 --> 00:58:08,840
Speaker 1: At this point, he has been doing.

1308
00:58:08,760 --> 00:58:12,280
Speaker 3: That job for fourteen months, with little research into other

1309
00:58:12,360 --> 00:58:14,840
Speaker 3: fields and careers he'd like to do. The money is

1310
00:58:14,880 --> 00:58:17,920
Speaker 3: not stable and outside factors like his car not working,

1311
00:58:18,000 --> 00:58:21,640
Speaker 3: can affect his livelihood out of nowhere. I've been paying

1312
00:58:21,680 --> 00:58:23,960
Speaker 3: his half of the rent for five months, pay for

1313
00:58:24,040 --> 00:58:26,520
Speaker 3: all the dates, and cover most of the groceries so

1314
00:58:26,560 --> 00:58:29,160
Speaker 3: he can build his savings and get back on his feet.

1315
00:58:30,120 --> 00:58:32,640
Speaker 1: Why cooky gookie?

1316
00:58:33,040 --> 00:58:35,040
Speaker 3: At this point, I feel that if he would just

1317
00:58:35,080 --> 00:58:37,240
Speaker 3: have a more stable job by now, I wouldn't have

1318
00:58:37,280 --> 00:58:40,040
Speaker 3: had to do most of this. Our life is fairly cheap,

1319
00:58:40,200 --> 00:58:43,040
Speaker 3: with rent alone being only eight hundred dollars a month,

1320
00:58:43,400 --> 00:58:45,320
Speaker 3: which includes all the utilities.

1321
00:58:45,840 --> 00:58:46,959
Speaker 1: Dang, where do you live?

1322
00:58:47,560 --> 00:58:50,640
Speaker 3: Yeah, my savings have remained the same for over a

1323
00:58:50,720 --> 00:58:53,880
Speaker 3: year when I'm a sevice siver. We have talked about

1324
00:58:53,880 --> 00:58:56,520
Speaker 3: this quite a few times, and he has expressed wanting

1325
00:58:56,520 --> 00:58:59,240
Speaker 3: to get a better job, with no real actions being taken.

1326
00:58:59,440 --> 00:59:02,280
Speaker 3: Now we get to two months ago, our house floods

1327
00:59:02,320 --> 00:59:05,640
Speaker 3: and I'm stuck dealing with the prep for mediation, ripping

1328
00:59:05,680 --> 00:59:08,440
Speaker 3: our house apart, and set house being a camper that

1329
00:59:08,480 --> 00:59:11,360
Speaker 3: I've gone through four harsh winters in as he doesn't

1330
00:59:11,360 --> 00:59:13,560
Speaker 3: want to move into an apartment and is waiting to

1331
00:59:13,600 --> 00:59:15,800
Speaker 3: buy a house. We had already had a Key West

1332
00:59:15,840 --> 00:59:18,440
Speaker 3: trip planned with my family and use that time to

1333
00:59:18,480 --> 00:59:20,600
Speaker 3: allow the treatment to be done while us and the

1334
00:59:20,600 --> 00:59:23,000
Speaker 3: cats were out of there. You're still in contact with

1335
00:59:23,040 --> 00:59:26,240
Speaker 3: your family. You must have a really complicated relationship with him.

1336
00:59:26,320 --> 00:59:28,720
Speaker 3: The only thing he pays for on the entire trip

1337
00:59:28,760 --> 00:59:30,760
Speaker 3: is gas for a very economical car.

1338
00:59:30,960 --> 00:59:31,920
Speaker 1: When we get.

1339
00:59:31,760 --> 00:59:34,400
Speaker 3: Back, it became my turn to hit rock bottom. My

1340
00:59:34,720 --> 00:59:38,400
Speaker 3: entire plant collection, over thirty varieties that I have cared

1341
00:59:38,480 --> 00:59:42,640
Speaker 3: for four years, were all passed away. My house was

1342
00:59:42,680 --> 00:59:45,960
Speaker 3: torn apart. The hardwood floor I installed last year is warped.

1343
00:59:46,320 --> 00:59:49,320
Speaker 3: My OCD is raging at the chaos, and my ADHD

1344
00:59:49,440 --> 00:59:51,360
Speaker 3: is panicked by the amount of work to do. Then

1345
00:59:51,440 --> 00:59:53,920
Speaker 3: my business partner decided it may be best for me

1346
00:59:53,960 --> 00:59:57,160
Speaker 3: to step back and may even close the brokerage altogether.

1347
00:59:57,360 --> 00:59:59,680
Speaker 3: My best friends are all distant and busy with their

1348
00:59:59,720 --> 01:00:03,280
Speaker 3: own life. I feel like my entire world was crumbling

1349
01:00:03,320 --> 01:00:06,240
Speaker 3: around me, and when I turned to him for support,

1350
01:00:06,320 --> 01:00:09,080
Speaker 3: I was met with harsh words meant to encourage me

1351
01:00:09,200 --> 01:00:12,080
Speaker 3: to reach my potential, when all I needed was a hug.

1352
01:00:12,200 --> 01:00:15,040
Speaker 3: I coped by increasing my hangouts with a coworker that's

1353
01:00:15,080 --> 01:00:17,680
Speaker 3: a bit messy with men, and becoming friends with a

1354
01:00:17,720 --> 01:00:20,240
Speaker 3: mechanic next door to one of the breweries I work at.

1355
01:00:20,360 --> 01:00:22,320
Speaker 3: With my coworker, we would go to the bars on

1356
01:00:22,360 --> 01:00:25,560
Speaker 3: the weekend. And Andrew was okay with this, only concerned

1357
01:00:25,600 --> 01:00:28,520
Speaker 3: for my safety and always assured me he trusted me

1358
01:00:28,920 --> 01:00:31,360
Speaker 3: as for the mechanic. The more work on cars we

1359
01:00:31,400 --> 01:00:34,120
Speaker 3: did together, the more I could tell my boyfriend was

1360
01:00:34,160 --> 01:00:37,240
Speaker 3: becoming irritated. To a point I was almost afraid to

1361
01:00:37,280 --> 01:00:39,800
Speaker 3: tell him we hung out, or that I wanted to

1362
01:00:39,840 --> 01:00:40,520
Speaker 3: hang out with him.

1363
01:00:41,040 --> 01:00:42,720
Speaker 2: Sounds like a great time to break up.

1364
01:00:42,920 --> 01:00:46,600
Speaker 3: Yeah, when we're afraid of our partner, that's not good.

1365
01:00:46,920 --> 01:00:48,800
Speaker 2: And also it sounds like we might have some interest

1366
01:00:48,880 --> 01:00:52,440
Speaker 2: in Andrew, and maybe that's a better thing to pursue.

1367
01:00:52,840 --> 01:00:55,200
Speaker 1: Yeah, he's got a job. He's got a job.

1368
01:00:55,400 --> 01:00:57,920
Speaker 3: This friend even helped us prep Andrew's car for our

1369
01:00:57,920 --> 01:01:01,320
Speaker 3: Florida trip. I could understand llusy as I'd often work

1370
01:01:01,400 --> 01:01:04,040
Speaker 3: on cars with Andrew, as he tends to get mad,

1371
01:01:04,120 --> 01:01:06,680
Speaker 3: and I came from a household where yelling was common

1372
01:01:06,800 --> 01:01:09,800
Speaker 3: and set off my survival instincts. But I also hate

1373
01:01:09,840 --> 01:01:12,080
Speaker 3: the cold, and this mechanic friend had a shop, so

1374
01:01:12,160 --> 01:01:14,160
Speaker 3: we didn't have to be in the cold. I get

1375
01:01:14,160 --> 01:01:16,720
Speaker 3: home one night and start telling Andrew about what I

1376
01:01:16,800 --> 01:01:18,640
Speaker 3: learned that night and what we did at the shop.

1377
01:01:18,760 --> 01:01:21,480
Speaker 3: I start prepping a super fancy dinner I had planned

1378
01:01:21,920 --> 01:01:24,920
Speaker 3: when I discover the fish has gone bad. He questions

1379
01:01:24,920 --> 01:01:27,400
Speaker 3: me on it if it's really bad, and I say

1380
01:01:27,400 --> 01:01:29,600
Speaker 3: in a playful way, it's funny how when you cook

1381
01:01:29,680 --> 01:01:31,400
Speaker 3: you always want me to check the meat as you

1382
01:01:31,480 --> 01:01:33,560
Speaker 3: trust what I think, but you don't trust me on

1383
01:01:33,640 --> 01:01:34,760
Speaker 3: this and giggle.

1384
01:01:35,120 --> 01:01:38,240
Speaker 1: Oh no. Within seconds, he yells at me.

1385
01:01:38,320 --> 01:01:40,920
Speaker 3: Just have a break up with me already, and uh,

1386
01:01:40,960 --> 01:01:42,000
Speaker 3: that's unhealthy.

1387
01:01:42,160 --> 01:01:45,160
Speaker 1: That's super unhealthy. You should never be screaming at you.

1388
01:01:45,440 --> 01:01:48,560
Speaker 2: That's also when you say, okay, sure, yeah, I will

1389
01:01:48,600 --> 01:01:48,920
Speaker 2: do that.

1390
01:01:48,960 --> 01:01:51,760
Speaker 3: Then yeah, grabs the trash bag and walks out of

1391
01:01:51,760 --> 01:01:54,880
Speaker 3: the house. I stood there, stunned until he walks back

1392
01:01:54,920 --> 01:01:57,480
Speaker 3: in and stands in silence about five feet away. I

1393
01:01:57,520 --> 01:02:00,000
Speaker 3: asked him if he wanted to talk about what just happened,

1394
01:02:00,200 --> 01:02:03,000
Speaker 3: and he begins around, well, I just find it perfect

1395
01:02:03,040 --> 01:02:06,440
Speaker 3: that you're writing your very own okay story time about

1396
01:02:06,480 --> 01:02:09,720
Speaker 3: mechanic friend turn into f buddy. I get it. He's

1397
01:02:09,760 --> 01:02:12,360
Speaker 3: an insert name of local prolific family last name, and

1398
01:02:12,440 --> 01:02:14,880
Speaker 3: owns a house and a shop and can provide all

1399
01:02:14,920 --> 01:02:17,360
Speaker 3: of these things that I can't. He's just my replacement.

1400
01:02:17,600 --> 01:02:18,120
Speaker 3: I get it.

1401
01:02:18,240 --> 01:02:18,400
Speaker 2: Dud.

1402
01:02:18,680 --> 01:02:20,960
Speaker 1: You're so insecure and you're thirty four years old and

1403
01:02:21,000 --> 01:02:23,320
Speaker 1: you have no job, you're dating a twenty four year old.

1404
01:02:25,200 --> 01:02:27,600
Speaker 3: I couldn't believe any of it. He has my location

1405
01:02:27,840 --> 01:02:30,960
Speaker 3: passport and I'm always honest with where I'm going and

1406
01:02:31,040 --> 01:02:34,400
Speaker 3: who will be there. Also, I'm by I've had many

1407
01:02:34,440 --> 01:02:37,080
Speaker 3: friends who are girls with all the same credentials, but

1408
01:02:37,120 --> 01:02:39,120
Speaker 3: he never questioned my loyalty with them.

1409
01:02:39,480 --> 01:02:42,480
Speaker 1: Well, he doesn't believe that that's valid.

1410
01:02:42,840 --> 01:02:43,680
Speaker 2: Probably not.

1411
01:02:45,000 --> 01:02:47,240
Speaker 1: So it's simply that he has male genitals.

1412
01:02:47,280 --> 01:02:50,360
Speaker 3: That is his only evidence that I apparently must be cheating,

1413
01:02:50,840 --> 01:02:53,240
Speaker 3: and not only cheating, but I'm doing it because of

1414
01:02:53,280 --> 01:02:55,800
Speaker 3: his money and what he can provide. So once I

1415
01:02:55,880 --> 01:02:58,880
Speaker 3: was done snickering at the absurdity of what he just said,

1416
01:02:59,320 --> 01:03:02,120
Speaker 3: I responded, I have not lived in this camper for

1417
01:03:02,240 --> 01:03:05,520
Speaker 3: four brutal winters, paid for your rent for months, and

1418
01:03:05,640 --> 01:03:07,880
Speaker 3: continue to give and give to you for you to

1419
01:03:07,920 --> 01:03:10,840
Speaker 3: accuse me of being materialistic and a gold digger, and,

1420
01:03:10,920 --> 01:03:13,280
Speaker 3: on top of it, a cheat or two. And this

1421
01:03:13,320 --> 01:03:15,919
Speaker 3: doesn't even include the lack of support I've had from him.

1422
01:03:16,120 --> 01:03:18,720
Speaker 3: These friends have been my only real support system.

1423
01:03:18,880 --> 01:03:20,560
Speaker 1: He back pedals and admits.

1424
01:03:20,240 --> 01:03:23,360
Speaker 3: He's projecting and he's feeling insecure, but the damage has

1425
01:03:23,400 --> 01:03:25,680
Speaker 3: been done. I let him set me back in life

1426
01:03:26,200 --> 01:03:29,040
Speaker 3: and now he disrespects me like that. I moved out

1427
01:03:29,080 --> 01:03:31,560
Speaker 3: a few days later to my coworker's house, but I

1428
01:03:31,600 --> 01:03:34,160
Speaker 3: still don't have much of my stuff back and haven't

1429
01:03:34,200 --> 01:03:35,160
Speaker 3: taken my cat yet.

1430
01:03:35,200 --> 01:03:39,120
Speaker 2: Go get your cat' and then fully break up with

1431
01:03:39,160 --> 01:03:41,280
Speaker 2: this man because I'm not sure that you have here.

1432
01:03:41,400 --> 01:03:44,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, it seems like she moved out, which.

1433
01:03:43,880 --> 01:03:46,320
Speaker 2: Is great, right, I need you to go back and

1434
01:03:46,400 --> 01:03:48,680
Speaker 2: say the words, yeah, I'm breaking.

1435
01:03:48,400 --> 01:03:51,480
Speaker 3: Up with you, and op like it's less of an

1436
01:03:51,520 --> 01:03:54,280
Speaker 3: issue now because you're twenty four. But I think going

1437
01:03:54,320 --> 01:03:58,640
Speaker 3: back to the age gap, it was a huge factor

1438
01:03:58,960 --> 01:04:01,360
Speaker 3: and I think a lot of the elements in this relationship.

1439
01:04:01,440 --> 01:04:04,200
Speaker 3: This guy is a thirty thirty year old who started

1440
01:04:04,240 --> 01:04:06,320
Speaker 3: dating a twenty year old, didn't have a job for

1441
01:04:06,360 --> 01:04:09,520
Speaker 3: a lot of that, and it seemed like he was

1442
01:04:10,200 --> 01:04:12,640
Speaker 3: you know, I mean, like just ask yourself, why would

1443
01:04:12,720 --> 01:04:15,160
Speaker 3: someone that old date someone that young? Yeah, when he

1444
01:04:15,200 --> 01:04:17,360
Speaker 3: doesn't have a job, is relying on you, like it

1445
01:04:17,440 --> 01:04:19,760
Speaker 3: really doesn't feel like he is at a maturity level.

1446
01:04:19,880 --> 01:04:21,840
Speaker 2: And I mean, I don't know for sure that you're

1447
01:04:21,880 --> 01:04:25,200
Speaker 2: in the States, but if you are, then you couldn't

1448
01:04:25,200 --> 01:04:26,800
Speaker 2: even like legally drink it.

1449
01:04:27,400 --> 01:04:28,479
Speaker 4: Yeah, and there's just.

1450
01:04:28,360 --> 01:04:32,680
Speaker 2: Something like That's honestly, where I draw the line of

1451
01:04:32,720 --> 01:04:36,840
Speaker 2: bigger age gap relationships is if you legally still can't

1452
01:04:36,880 --> 01:04:39,600
Speaker 2: do something yet the other person can. That's such like

1453
01:04:39,640 --> 01:04:42,520
Speaker 2: a social thing in this country, and I think a

1454
01:04:42,520 --> 01:04:45,080
Speaker 2: lot of countries like, yeah, there is just a general

1455
01:04:45,160 --> 01:04:48,680
Speaker 2: disconnect and a lack of like you going through life already.

1456
01:04:48,880 --> 01:04:51,400
Speaker 3: Yeah, Like, obviously that doesn't apply if you're like twenty

1457
01:04:51,440 --> 01:04:54,000
Speaker 3: and the person's twenty two or something now, but with

1458
01:04:54,080 --> 01:04:58,360
Speaker 3: a big, big age yap, it does make a difference.

1459
01:04:58,680 --> 01:05:02,720
Speaker 3: And yeah, really, this guy, you know, was just not

1460
01:05:03,520 --> 01:05:06,160
Speaker 3: at the maturity level of where he should have been.

1461
01:05:06,440 --> 01:05:08,680
Speaker 3: I come to Reddit as I have a track record

1462
01:05:08,680 --> 01:05:10,480
Speaker 3: of staying with people who are bad for me and

1463
01:05:10,560 --> 01:05:12,960
Speaker 3: not knowing what should be acceptable behavior and what's not.

1464
01:05:13,360 --> 01:05:16,080
Speaker 3: I grew up with no healthy examples of love. What

1465
01:05:16,120 --> 01:05:17,640
Speaker 3: I need to know is did I let this go

1466
01:05:17,720 --> 01:05:20,560
Speaker 3: too far? Was I the A hole? Communication is still

1467
01:05:20,600 --> 01:05:22,200
Speaker 3: open and I told him he could take me out

1468
01:05:22,200 --> 01:05:24,560
Speaker 3: a date if he actually starts to improve his own life.

1469
01:05:24,840 --> 01:05:28,040
Speaker 3: Work ethic and always reaching for improvement and new opportunities

1470
01:05:28,080 --> 01:05:30,240
Speaker 3: are important to me. I agree with his views on

1471
01:05:30,280 --> 01:05:32,760
Speaker 3: capitalism at all, and I'm angry with him about it all.

1472
01:05:32,960 --> 01:05:35,600
Speaker 3: But I grew up extremely poor and want to do better,

1473
01:05:35,760 --> 01:05:38,000
Speaker 3: even if I am kind of a slave to the system.

1474
01:05:38,160 --> 01:05:40,240
Speaker 3: I'm not asking him to make six figures.

1475
01:05:40,280 --> 01:05:43,040
Speaker 1: But door dashing isn't enough. Thank you. If you've made

1476
01:05:43,040 --> 01:05:44,840
Speaker 1: it this far and have something to say to.

1477
01:05:44,800 --> 01:05:48,320
Speaker 2: Me, Mm, yes, you let this go too far. No,

1478
01:05:48,760 --> 01:05:51,080
Speaker 2: you're not the a hole. Do not give this man

1479
01:05:51,120 --> 01:05:51,880
Speaker 2: a second chance?

1480
01:05:52,160 --> 01:05:53,720
Speaker 3: Do you give him a second chance?

1481
01:05:54,560 --> 01:05:54,960
Speaker 1: Yeah?

1482
01:05:55,000 --> 01:05:58,800
Speaker 2: Honestly, Like, if I was really reaching, I would say,

1483
01:05:59,280 --> 01:06:02,720
Speaker 2: like the hiding who you're hanging out with could have

1484
01:06:02,840 --> 01:06:06,920
Speaker 2: been a point of being slightly like, yeah, icky to

1485
01:06:06,960 --> 01:06:09,400
Speaker 2: do in a relationship. I personally would be like that

1486
01:06:09,560 --> 01:06:12,360
Speaker 2: was kind of bad. But knowing what you were dealing

1487
01:06:12,400 --> 01:06:14,200
Speaker 2: with and not that it makes it right. I think

1488
01:06:14,240 --> 01:06:17,840
Speaker 2: it was what you needed to realize that you had

1489
01:06:17,920 --> 01:06:18,320
Speaker 2: to get.

1490
01:06:18,200 --> 01:06:18,640
Speaker 3: Out of this.

1491
01:06:18,880 --> 01:06:21,760
Speaker 2: Yeah, And sometimes with crazy relationships like that, it is

1492
01:06:21,880 --> 01:06:24,200
Speaker 2: just like okay, fine, it wasn't great, but like get

1493
01:06:24,200 --> 01:06:24,640
Speaker 2: out of there.

1494
01:06:25,160 --> 01:06:29,400
Speaker 3: Yeah. I think it's just you know, don't go back

1495
01:06:29,400 --> 01:06:32,400
Speaker 3: into a relationship where you felt you needed to hide things,

1496
01:06:32,640 --> 01:06:36,160
Speaker 3: where you were scared to tell him things, where he

1497
01:06:36,280 --> 01:06:40,400
Speaker 3: yelled at you, where he didn't support you. I think

1498
01:06:40,680 --> 01:06:44,200
Speaker 3: my final thought is that you seem much more mature

1499
01:06:44,280 --> 01:06:48,120
Speaker 3: for your age, and he seems very not mature at

1500
01:06:48,120 --> 01:06:50,680
Speaker 3: all for his age. And I think that is it

1501
01:06:51,040 --> 01:06:53,320
Speaker 3: seems like you would somehow meet in the middle, but

1502
01:06:53,360 --> 01:06:56,600
Speaker 3: I think I think that is not how it works.

1503
01:06:56,640 --> 01:06:59,640
Speaker 2: Too far, God, Yes, he's too far in the other direction.

1504
01:07:00,360 --> 01:07:03,360
Speaker 1: Uh, don't go back with them. No, you're one of us.

1505
01:07:03,400 --> 01:07:05,320
Speaker 1: I want you to be happy and safe and not

1506
01:07:05,520 --> 01:07:06,040
Speaker 1: with this guy.

1507
01:07:06,200 --> 01:07:08,080
Speaker 4: Yeah, and that's the end of this story.