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Speaker 1: Olah.

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Speaker 2: It is week one of July, and.

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Speaker 3: This month our motto is Tribe. It's Tribe July because

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Speaker 3: it takes a village.

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Speaker 4: Yes, we all know that it takes a village. Whether

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Speaker 4: you are a mother or just a woman in general,

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Speaker 4: you need your tribe. You need your village to help

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Speaker 4: support you, to lean on.

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Speaker 1: They need you. It's just crucial.

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Speaker 3: I'm so excited because our first episode of the month,

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Speaker 3: we're kicking it off with Monique Dowdy, who is a

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Speaker 3: mindset and self love coach. We're in Costa Rica kicking it.

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Speaker 3: It's beautiful and this week you can expect to hear

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Speaker 3: us talk about.

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Speaker 2: How Moe walked away from stability to move abroad.

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Speaker 3: The choice to cut the cord with her child's father

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Speaker 3: before her child's.

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Speaker 2: Birth, encouraging women to reimagine what their.

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Speaker 3: White picket fence looks like, the tribe and village mo

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Speaker 3: has cultivated for herself and her unborn baby in Costa Rica.

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Speaker 2: And why men need healing now whoa not later?

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Speaker 5: Right now?

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Speaker 1: Write the fuck now.

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Speaker 4: We hope you guys enjoyed this episode and the rest

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Speaker 4: of the month, because we have some really amazing, incredible

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Speaker 4: guests and friends coming on the show, so enjoy.

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Speaker 5: Welcome back to Good Mom's Bad Choices.

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Speaker 6: I'm Erica and I'm.

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Speaker 1: Mela and it's Wednesday.

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Speaker 5: Happy Wednesday, y'all.

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Speaker 4: We are reporting live from the jungle of Costa Rica.

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Speaker 3: Yes, we are in Lemone, on the Caribbean side of

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Speaker 3: Costa Rica. We have been traveling for ten days now

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Speaker 3: or nine days, ten days, and we are very happy

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Speaker 3: and moisturee very happy, very moisturized and glowing. We found

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Speaker 3: the black people and you can't tell us we're not

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Speaker 3: local Costa Ricans Atikayntica. Today's a special episode because we

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Speaker 3: are joined by my very very very good friend that

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Speaker 3: I've done in a long time, Monique Hager. Hey girl, hey, hey,

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Speaker 3: I am nurse me. So we're gonna hear about her

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Speaker 3: journeys and her travels. But first, are you gonna shuffle

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Speaker 3: our tarot cards?

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Speaker 1: My love?

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Speaker 6: Please not prepared.

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Speaker 3: And today we're going to really be using We're going

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Speaker 3: to really be putting our tarot which psychic abilities to

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Speaker 3: the test because we don't have our beloved Biddi Taro

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Speaker 3: dot com to assist us, because both of our cameras

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Speaker 3: are being utilized for this production. That is also being

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Speaker 3: held up by a coffee cup, a hamper, a chair,

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Speaker 3: and many many things, because that's what happens on vacation.

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Speaker 3: You get shit done even when you forget the SD

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Speaker 3: card and other important things.

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Speaker 1: Would you like to pull the card? My love? Mom?

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Speaker 1: Can I pull it from anywhere? Yeah? Sure, okay, I

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Speaker 1: what is it? Night of brooms?

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Speaker 6: The night of brooms?

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Speaker 1: So the night of brooms?

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Speaker 6: According to.

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Speaker 3: It's a voice standing on top of a big truck

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Speaker 3: holding up a broom, and I think the broom is

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Speaker 3: something different usually so.

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Speaker 4: The gifts of this card is energy, creativity, passion, swift, strength, enthusiasm,

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Speaker 4: where confidence levels rise to the surface and you'll feel

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Speaker 4: ready to take on the world. Some feel uplifted and

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Speaker 4: refreshed by your presence. Others may feel threatened or annoyed.

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Speaker 6: But nothing can hold you back right now?

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Speaker 1: Nope, nobody hold me back. Oh no, I got to

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Speaker 4: The challenges of this card is restlessness and patience, destructive powers,

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Speaker 4: cruelty and tolerance, and prejudice.

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Speaker 1: Oh okay, so just be mindful of that. Okay, all right?

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Speaker 3: Do you have an affirmation for us today. Mm hmm, okay,

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Speaker 3: tell the peoples. What's today's affirmation.

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Speaker 7: Oh, I am free.

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Speaker 1: It feels good to be me. I am free. It

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Speaker 1: feels good to be me.

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Speaker 7: I ain't gotta work for nobody.

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Speaker 5: I ain't gotta work for nobody.

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Speaker 1: I like to add that one on. That's one of

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Speaker 3: Speaking of that, We've been friends for such a long

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Speaker 3: I know. So Mo is also friends with my other

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Speaker 3: to Mira, Mirah. And it's such a small world. I

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Speaker 5: And I know now you know you're in the.

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Speaker 3: Jungle, living your best jungle life with your armpit hairs.

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Speaker 1: I do have armpit hair. They're really cute. You want it?

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Speaker 5: Sure? Show the people.

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Speaker 3: If you're on Patreon, you have the pleasure of seeing

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Speaker 4: I was like, you know, if I moved here, I

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Speaker 6: I'm looking in our arm look at this. It's so

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Speaker 5: Know, I always find once you come.

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Speaker 3: I've tried to do it a couple of times in

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Speaker 7: and you know, I think one of my most inspirational

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Speaker 6: Well, you're asking the men of here.

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Speaker 4: If you ask the men of Los Angeles, California, and

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Speaker 1: I wouldn't ask the men of Los Angeles, California shit.

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Speaker 4: But you know, niggas always act like they give a

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Speaker 3: Never in history, as a nigga said, I'm not getting

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Speaker 7: Did you ever see Kat Williams. I love Kat Williams,

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Speaker 7: Oh Kat, he said, And then not know, nigga in

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Speaker 6: I do love, Yeah, I do too.

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Speaker 3: So tell us about your journey and tell us how

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Speaker 5: Are you rooting here?

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Speaker 7: So that's a good question, because I mama's a rolling stone,

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Speaker 7: A nurse, Yeah, I saw nurses like hobbling about and

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Speaker 4: I've always wondered what a traveling nurse is, like, can

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Speaker 7: I can't do this kind of work anymore. I also

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Speaker 7: You know, I was living my life as a digital entrepreneur.

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Speaker 7: I lived in Portugal, Nicaragua, Bali. I had the whole

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Speaker 1: Hey, Jacob, I love you deeply.

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Speaker 7: I like, really lived a good, fun life. When the

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Speaker 7: to host retreats and I had this mantra called everything

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Speaker 4: What was it like asking for help for someone? Could

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Speaker 7: And she said, listen, there's these people on Earth that

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Speaker 7: exists to be Earth angels. To you, literally, that is

445
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Speaker 7: what we're here for, so let us do that and

446
00:20:25,040 --> 00:20:27,760
Speaker 7: then maybe you can do that for someone else. And

447
00:20:28,080 --> 00:20:30,280
Speaker 7: that time in my life was just like whoa because

448
00:20:30,320 --> 00:20:32,679
Speaker 7: the way that people were everything was getting out of

449
00:20:32,720 --> 00:20:35,639
Speaker 7: my way and now I know why, Like this baby

450
00:20:35,680 --> 00:20:36,960
Speaker 7: really wanted to be here and I had to give

451
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Speaker 7: up everything, like everything so that I could have this baby.

452
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Speaker 1: But the process actually was really easy.

453
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Speaker 7: And that was something that I saw on my mushroom trip,

454
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Speaker 7: was that I was like super resistant, resistant, and then

455
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Speaker 7: when I surrendered and relaxed, I was able to elevate

456
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Speaker 7: into something much higher.

457
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Speaker 1: And I'm seeing that in real life now.

458
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Speaker 4: You saying that, like you had to give up everything

459
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Speaker 4: for this for your child, Like your son is going

460
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Speaker 4: to meet like the purest form of you, or at

461
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Speaker 4: least the work in progress of getting to that, you know,

462
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Speaker 4: like he's meeting such a different mom than he may

463
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Speaker 4: would have met, like, oh any other scenario.

464
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Speaker 7: Yeah, for sure, because in any other scenario, I make

465
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Speaker 7: peace with a lot of things in my life that way,

466
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Speaker 7: because I had to relax so that I can create

467
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Speaker 7: him and make him.

468
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Speaker 1: I had to relax. I had to give up things.

469
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Speaker 7: I had to let go of how much is getting

470
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Speaker 7: done and what numbers are in the bank and what

471
00:21:28,359 --> 00:21:30,680
Speaker 7: numbers are in crypto and what is how organized my

472
00:21:30,720 --> 00:21:34,080
Speaker 7: house is? And just let him come in And yeah,

473
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Speaker 7: I do it again twice. I give up all my

474
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Speaker 7: shit so that and I haven't even met him yet.

475
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Speaker 6: So how many months pregnant are you?

476
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Speaker 1: I'm five months pregnant. I have not had one day

477
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Speaker 1: of morning sickness.

478
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Speaker 6: Amazing.

479
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Speaker 1: Yeah, be lucky. Yeah, So I will share this.

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Speaker 7: I've worked with all natural, pathic and spiritual midwives around

481
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Speaker 7: the process because I don't feel like birth is a

482
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Speaker 7: health issue or a health concern unless you have underlying issues.

483
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Speaker 7: And that is me speaking as a medical professional.

484
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Speaker 4: So my mom always says that pregnancy is a sign

485
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Speaker 4: of health. It is like, yeah, people always treat pregnant

486
00:22:09,240 --> 00:22:12,720
Speaker 4: women as like decrepit or handicap or like something is wrong.

487
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Speaker 4: But that's the greatest sign of health.

488
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Speaker 1: So me and Soul, that's my baby.

489
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Speaker 7: We have gone surfing, we have done waterfall hikes, we

490
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Speaker 7: have traveled to Guatemala, we have been on boats, we

491
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Speaker 7: have seen snakes. Like, we live a pretty adventurous life.

492
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Speaker 7: And my friends who are pregnant, A lot of people

493
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Speaker 7: who are pregnant right now are quarantine babies in the States.

494
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Speaker 7: A lot of them are really struggling with gestational diabetes

495
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Speaker 7: or having to induced labor and things. For me, it

496
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Speaker 7: was more of like, as soon as I found out

497
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Speaker 7: I was pregnant six weeks, I decided to give the

498
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Speaker 7: baby an identity and decide that there was two of

499
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Speaker 7: us and that was one of the things that my

500
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Speaker 7: spiritual midwife at the time talked to me about, was

501
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Speaker 7: saying that like a lot of women receive issues or

502
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Speaker 7: their issues seem heightened during pregnancy because they haven't fully

503
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Speaker 7: acknowledged the soul that's coming into their body.

504
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Speaker 1: And for me, it was just like, okay, it's to us. Now,

505
00:23:06,760 --> 00:23:07,520
Speaker 1: we go on to lunch.

506
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Speaker 7: We doing this, And it also made it a lot

507
00:23:09,800 --> 00:23:12,400
Speaker 7: easier to cut people off. And it's been a really

508
00:23:12,400 --> 00:23:15,520
Speaker 7: beautiful process because I can be naked a lot. I

509
00:23:15,560 --> 00:23:17,000
Speaker 7: have to pee all the time, and I can pee

510
00:23:17,000 --> 00:23:21,120
Speaker 7: outside like it's never a place I can't really pee.

511
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Speaker 7: You know, my feet's well from time to time, but

512
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Speaker 7: I don't wear shoes like I don't have to wear

513
00:23:25,000 --> 00:23:28,919
Speaker 7: shoes everywhere. And if I'm tired, I go to sleep

514
00:23:29,560 --> 00:23:33,640
Speaker 7: like that. If I'm hungry, I eat like. It's been

515
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Speaker 7: a nice process because I've been forced to listen to

516
00:23:36,960 --> 00:23:39,880
Speaker 7: my body and I have the luxury of creating life

517
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Speaker 7: at a time that that's all I have to do.

518
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Speaker 5: That's so beautiful.

519
00:23:44,200 --> 00:23:47,119
Speaker 3: I'm just so happy for you, and like, what a

520
00:23:47,160 --> 00:23:49,440
Speaker 3: blessing that soul is going to get you in this

521
00:23:49,560 --> 00:23:51,880
Speaker 3: form and after you've done, you know, so much work,

522
00:23:51,920 --> 00:23:54,280
Speaker 3: and that you're you know, you're coming in so clear,

523
00:23:54,840 --> 00:23:58,040
Speaker 3: and that you manifested him so clear. Like I mean,

524
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Speaker 3: we've been friends for a long time, but you know

525
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Speaker 3: you I see you on Instagram.

526
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Speaker 5: I'm like, oh, you're in love. Oh you're pregnant. And

527
00:24:03,840 --> 00:24:04,600
Speaker 5: I'm like, oh, I'm.

528
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Speaker 3: Coming to Coastareka, I'm gonna get the deets on this,

529
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Speaker 3: you know. And it's just I met up with her

530
00:24:09,640 --> 00:24:13,480
Speaker 3: in the town. She's just coming around all beautiful. She's like,

531
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Speaker 3: let's just walk by the beach. There's a place I

532
00:24:15,320 --> 00:24:17,200
Speaker 3: want to go eat. So we go go by towards

533
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Speaker 3: the place. She's like, oh, this is my friend.

534
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Speaker 1: Hi. Hey, and she's like hey.

535
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Speaker 5: So we're talking with the friend.

536
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Speaker 3: We're watching the sunset and she's like, oh yeah, like

537
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Speaker 3: this is my son's father's other baby mother.

538
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Speaker 5: We're doing the retreat together.

539
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Speaker 3: I'm like, oh, okay, wow, oh well that's interesting. And

540
00:24:34,840 --> 00:24:38,960
Speaker 3: I'm like so okay, I'm seeing immediately coming in. The

541
00:24:39,880 --> 00:24:42,600
Speaker 3: energy field is very different here, and the energy field

542
00:24:42,720 --> 00:24:46,600
Speaker 3: is love and like hippie dippy and island and simple

543
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Speaker 3: and it's just so beautiful and I'm so happy for you.

544
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Speaker 7: That's a long story that I'm gonna tell y'all at

545
00:24:52,040 --> 00:24:54,240
Speaker 7: some point on a different platform, but I'll give you

546
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Speaker 7: the fast version. My child's father and I didn't work out.

547
00:24:58,840 --> 00:25:03,120
Speaker 7: He can't be in the picture. However, my child's father's

548
00:25:03,440 --> 00:25:05,959
Speaker 7: other baby mother. They have a three year old and

549
00:25:06,040 --> 00:25:09,159
Speaker 7: I love him, and me and her decided to partner

550
00:25:09,240 --> 00:25:12,399
Speaker 7: up and make money together and serve people together and

551
00:25:12,960 --> 00:25:14,120
Speaker 7: also assist each.

552
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Speaker 1: Other in raising our children.

553
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Speaker 7: Our relationship is like non romantic at all, but it

554
00:25:19,520 --> 00:25:23,040
Speaker 7: completely defies all paradigms. Technically, I'm supposed to hate her

555
00:25:23,600 --> 00:25:26,080
Speaker 7: at some point. She was supposed to hate me with me,

556
00:25:26,160 --> 00:25:28,160
Speaker 7: and when she was seeing me in love with her

557
00:25:28,320 --> 00:25:31,239
Speaker 7: ex partner, I'm sure it was like hard. But at

558
00:25:31,240 --> 00:25:33,320
Speaker 7: the same time, she was happy that her son was

559
00:25:33,320 --> 00:25:36,240
Speaker 7: getting the love and nourishment that he needed from another woman.

560
00:25:36,880 --> 00:25:40,040
Speaker 7: And now that I don't have a relationship with my

561
00:25:40,280 --> 00:25:44,080
Speaker 7: child's father, like because that won't work, and that's I'll

562
00:25:44,119 --> 00:25:47,840
Speaker 7: speak to that briefly. Our relationship didn't have to die,

563
00:25:48,000 --> 00:25:51,320
Speaker 7: but it's just jay Z always say there's a million

564
00:25:51,400 --> 00:25:53,600
Speaker 7: ways to get it, choose one, and this is one,

565
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Speaker 7: and to me, I think there's this concept of like

566
00:25:57,760 --> 00:26:00,000
Speaker 7: I gotta hate her and I'm like, fuck that up.

567
00:26:00,000 --> 00:26:02,360
Speaker 7: I could get money with her, or I don't really

568
00:26:02,400 --> 00:26:04,879
Speaker 7: care for him, but like we still need to raise

569
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Speaker 7: these children.

570
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Speaker 4: Siblings can love one another and feel supportive by the

571
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Speaker 4: women in their life.

572
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Speaker 6: And they're both boys, right, yes, and.

573
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Speaker 4: Boys need to see two strong women, their mothers, those

574
00:26:16,000 --> 00:26:17,840
Speaker 4: female figures in their life come together.

575
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Speaker 1: I mean, it's they really boys need to see men.

576
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Speaker 6: They do.

577
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Speaker 1: They need to see men.

578
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Speaker 7: And right now where we are and the vibrational frequency

579
00:26:26,480 --> 00:26:30,120
Speaker 7: in the world, especially in land like this, that's matriarchal,

580
00:26:30,359 --> 00:26:33,520
Speaker 7: like all of the people from Brebery here and all over,

581
00:26:33,600 --> 00:26:39,080
Speaker 7: and as black melanated women, as indigenous women, we are matriarchal.

582
00:26:39,240 --> 00:26:42,160
Speaker 7: Like we come from a matriarch society. And like, I'm

583
00:26:42,160 --> 00:26:44,360
Speaker 7: not going to get anybody fucked up and not make

584
00:26:44,440 --> 00:26:46,720
Speaker 7: them believe that I didn't want the white picket fence,

585
00:26:46,800 --> 00:26:51,040
Speaker 7: the fucking shiny rock and the husband with no kids

586
00:26:51,040 --> 00:26:53,200
Speaker 7: and it's just us. But that's not what I got

587
00:26:53,880 --> 00:26:58,280
Speaker 7: because my child chose me, and he chose his dad,

588
00:26:58,640 --> 00:27:00,960
Speaker 7: and he chose her and that little boy.

589
00:27:01,560 --> 00:27:03,800
Speaker 1: So it's what it is, you know what I mean.

590
00:27:03,920 --> 00:27:08,040
Speaker 7: And it's also been a testament to you know, choosing

591
00:27:08,040 --> 00:27:11,240
Speaker 7: her and choosing how we choose to at this point

592
00:27:11,280 --> 00:27:15,480
Speaker 7: co parent and you know, co work and co create,

593
00:27:16,040 --> 00:27:18,000
Speaker 7: and then it got to a point where me and

594
00:27:18,080 --> 00:27:22,479
Speaker 7: him couldn't co work, co create, coexist, And so all

595
00:27:22,520 --> 00:27:24,080
Speaker 7: the women out there, I just want to let you

596
00:27:24,119 --> 00:27:25,120
Speaker 7: know you don't have to settle.

597
00:27:25,680 --> 00:27:27,520
Speaker 1: I think the hardest thing for me was like, oh,

598
00:27:27,560 --> 00:27:30,440
Speaker 1: my God, like I want my child's father in their life.

599
00:27:30,480 --> 00:27:33,480
Speaker 7: I want, But if the child's father is fucking draining

600
00:27:33,560 --> 00:27:36,920
Speaker 7: you and not making you feel like your highest vibratory self,

601
00:27:36,920 --> 00:27:40,000
Speaker 7: it might be time for a cord cut in that situation.

602
00:27:40,040 --> 00:27:42,680
Speaker 7: And that's what was there for me, and I think

603
00:27:42,720 --> 00:27:45,119
Speaker 7: it's really important that we let go of that fairy

604
00:27:45,160 --> 00:27:48,560
Speaker 7: tale and that narrative because this will be book speeches

605
00:27:48,680 --> 00:27:51,639
Speaker 7: years down the line. But the situation that I was

606
00:27:51,680 --> 00:27:56,240
Speaker 7: in with my child's father was very beautiful, very powerful.

607
00:27:56,080 --> 00:27:57,320
Speaker 1: But very temporary.

608
00:27:58,440 --> 00:28:01,439
Speaker 7: And we got together so that he could bring me

609
00:28:01,560 --> 00:28:05,480
Speaker 7: to this place to raise my child and feel comfortable

610
00:28:05,480 --> 00:28:08,000
Speaker 7: and free and to give me a child, and that

611
00:28:08,119 --> 00:28:13,119
Speaker 7: is it and gives you and give you a community community,

612
00:28:13,200 --> 00:28:15,680
Speaker 7: So you know, I could hold on to the idea

613
00:28:15,760 --> 00:28:18,320
Speaker 7: of what we're supposed to be and become the baby mama.

614
00:28:18,400 --> 00:28:20,919
Speaker 7: That's like, I want this and I want to or

615
00:28:21,200 --> 00:28:25,040
Speaker 7: I can utilize this beautiful land, this beautiful woman he

616
00:28:25,080 --> 00:28:27,520
Speaker 7: brought into my field, this beautiful child he brought into

617
00:28:27,560 --> 00:28:31,240
Speaker 7: my field, and this beautiful baby that I get to

618
00:28:31,320 --> 00:28:31,840
Speaker 7: raise and.

619
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Speaker 1: Do how I want.

620
00:28:32,640 --> 00:28:36,760
Speaker 7: So let go of that picture. Like that was the

621
00:28:36,760 --> 00:28:38,760
Speaker 7: biggest thing for me, was letting go at that picture.

622
00:28:38,760 --> 00:28:40,120
Speaker 7: And that's that's what I had to do with my

623
00:28:40,240 --> 00:28:42,240
Speaker 7: career when that ego death takes.

624
00:28:42,400 --> 00:28:43,440
Speaker 1: Who am I? Bit you?

625
00:28:44,000 --> 00:28:46,680
Speaker 7: That's who you are? Why is this happening to me?

626
00:28:46,880 --> 00:28:49,880
Speaker 7: Why isn't it happening to me? To be clear, like

627
00:28:49,960 --> 00:28:53,160
Speaker 7: I was abandoned by my child's father at ten weeks pregnant.

628
00:28:53,200 --> 00:28:55,480
Speaker 7: He didn't want anything to do with me or my

629
00:28:55,600 --> 00:28:58,200
Speaker 7: child because I didn't want the relationship, and I was

630
00:28:58,280 --> 00:29:01,600
Speaker 7: fucking hard. But at the same time, as a woman,

631
00:29:01,720 --> 00:29:04,720
Speaker 7: I had to say, what vibration am I sending to

632
00:29:04,800 --> 00:29:05,400
Speaker 7: this baby?

633
00:29:05,640 --> 00:29:05,760
Speaker 4: Like?

634
00:29:05,800 --> 00:29:07,440
Speaker 1: What am I sending off to this baby?

635
00:29:07,480 --> 00:29:10,280
Speaker 7: Am I telling him that he's worthy, that we need

636
00:29:10,320 --> 00:29:13,120
Speaker 7: to fight for his love, that we need to give

637
00:29:13,160 --> 00:29:16,360
Speaker 7: all this energy to someone else? Or do I say, look,

638
00:29:16,440 --> 00:29:18,720
Speaker 7: let's homeless sin, he don't want to be here right now.

639
00:29:19,280 --> 00:29:21,840
Speaker 7: Let's love each other. And that's what I had to do,

640
00:29:22,240 --> 00:29:24,720
Speaker 7: and I would do it again. So to the women

641
00:29:24,760 --> 00:29:28,000
Speaker 7: out there that are like fighting someone to fucking love them,

642
00:29:28,040 --> 00:29:31,280
Speaker 7: to show up to daycare, to care, to give a fuck,

643
00:29:31,760 --> 00:29:37,240
Speaker 7: to pay no like my peace. I can't speak for everyone,

644
00:29:37,280 --> 00:29:40,440
Speaker 7: but the peace that you have when you decide, all right,

645
00:29:40,520 --> 00:29:43,640
Speaker 7: this is us. It's really a beautiful power because you're

646
00:29:43,680 --> 00:29:48,920
Speaker 7: also allowing the baby, who's connected with another realm to

647
00:29:49,080 --> 00:29:50,840
Speaker 7: decide and choose who's in his life.

648
00:29:50,880 --> 00:29:53,280
Speaker 1: So my baby chose to have like four different daddies.

649
00:29:54,800 --> 00:29:57,480
Speaker 7: You've been here, you see all the someone cooks, one

650
00:29:57,680 --> 00:30:01,040
Speaker 7: helps me, tucks me in, one's massaging me. Once paying

651
00:30:01,160 --> 00:30:04,160
Speaker 7: for shit like the support that shows up for you

652
00:30:05,160 --> 00:30:07,960
Speaker 7: when you let go of It's kind of like the

653
00:30:07,960 --> 00:30:10,440
Speaker 7: money that shows up for you right when you stop

654
00:30:10,520 --> 00:30:12,360
Speaker 7: worrying about the bitch ass job that you had at

655
00:30:12,360 --> 00:30:15,200
Speaker 7: the office with Rebecca. With Rebecca and the co workers,

656
00:30:15,240 --> 00:30:16,960
Speaker 7: you don't stamp like you know, you're like, oh shit,

657
00:30:17,000 --> 00:30:18,760
Speaker 7: I got a podcast coming in here, I got influenced

658
00:30:18,800 --> 00:30:20,760
Speaker 7: work coming in here. I got this little side hustle

659
00:30:20,920 --> 00:30:22,520
Speaker 7: I could do hair I didn't know that, you know,

660
00:30:22,840 --> 00:30:25,600
Speaker 7: because you're opening yourself up to a new way to receive.

661
00:30:25,760 --> 00:30:29,479
Speaker 7: So when I decided to really just accept that, Okay,

662
00:30:29,520 --> 00:30:32,560
Speaker 7: this man is not who can be my child's father

663
00:30:32,720 --> 00:30:34,880
Speaker 7: right now, I'm not gonna fully close that door, but

664
00:30:35,000 --> 00:30:38,040
Speaker 7: right now it's a hell. Now, I was able to

665
00:30:38,200 --> 00:30:40,720
Speaker 7: really see the support and love around me. And you know,

666
00:30:40,800 --> 00:30:43,400
Speaker 7: we have those days where we look on Instagram and

667
00:30:43,440 --> 00:30:46,120
Speaker 7: this bitch just posted her fucking range rover, her fat

668
00:30:46,200 --> 00:30:49,680
Speaker 7: ring and her cute little and her matching kids, and.

669
00:30:49,600 --> 00:30:52,640
Speaker 1: I'm like, I'm like, oh my god, I'm probably gonna

670
00:30:52,680 --> 00:30:55,240
Speaker 1: have whole set. I've got a whole set.

671
00:30:55,040 --> 00:30:58,640
Speaker 7: From the same I'm probably gonna have a baby daddy

672
00:30:58,680 --> 00:31:01,760
Speaker 7: from two different cun Like, how is this possible?

673
00:31:01,840 --> 00:31:06,120
Speaker 1: But look, the baby is choosing let them.

674
00:31:06,000 --> 00:31:06,920
Speaker 5: Guide, you know what.

675
00:31:07,160 --> 00:31:09,920
Speaker 3: Like it reminds me that I remember when I got

676
00:31:09,920 --> 00:31:13,360
Speaker 3: pregnant and I called my really good friend, my best

677
00:31:13,360 --> 00:31:15,640
Speaker 3: friend who I called for like really serious things because

678
00:31:15,680 --> 00:31:18,240
Speaker 3: she doesn't judge me, and like she was gonna give

679
00:31:18,280 --> 00:31:21,600
Speaker 3: me the honest answer. My pissy's best friend, Shawnie, who

680
00:31:21,680 --> 00:31:23,040
Speaker 3: is a little bit older than me, and she has

681
00:31:23,080 --> 00:31:26,280
Speaker 3: three girls and she's a single mom and I sat

682
00:31:26,280 --> 00:31:27,760
Speaker 3: on the phone with her and I was like, bitch,

683
00:31:27,800 --> 00:31:30,680
Speaker 3: I'm pregnant, and she and I was like also telling her,

684
00:31:30,720 --> 00:31:34,720
Speaker 3: like simultaneously a story about my baby daddy disrespecting me

685
00:31:34,960 --> 00:31:37,200
Speaker 3: and like calling me a hoe or some stupid ass shit.

686
00:31:37,840 --> 00:31:40,240
Speaker 5: She was like, well, that's what he thinks of you.

687
00:31:40,960 --> 00:31:42,640
Speaker 3: If he said that's what he thinks of you, and

688
00:31:42,880 --> 00:31:45,040
Speaker 3: if you have a baby, he's still gonna say those things.

689
00:31:45,080 --> 00:31:47,719
Speaker 3: And he's still and I think that about you. Do

690
00:31:47,760 --> 00:31:50,320
Speaker 3: you still want to have a baby? And I remember

691
00:31:51,320 --> 00:31:57,800
Speaker 3: thinking she's right, and I was like, but but like, okay,

692
00:31:57,800 --> 00:31:59,800
Speaker 3: I'm gonna have the baby. Probably I was still unsure

693
00:31:59,840 --> 00:32:03,520
Speaker 3: of was like, but at least maybe there's a chance

694
00:32:03,600 --> 00:32:06,240
Speaker 3: that you know, I was like, but you know, I

695
00:32:06,320 --> 00:32:10,200
Speaker 3: had I remember consciously making the decision to cling to

696
00:32:10,240 --> 00:32:12,840
Speaker 3: this idea, this fairy tale of this person who I

697
00:32:12,880 --> 00:32:16,520
Speaker 3: knew exactly who the fuck he was. But yeah, and

698
00:32:16,560 --> 00:32:19,680
Speaker 3: I'm looking back and like, probably from that point it

699
00:32:19,720 --> 00:32:23,120
Speaker 3: took me two three years to break for him to

700
00:32:23,160 --> 00:32:25,719
Speaker 3: move out of my house, with a bunch of trauma

701
00:32:25,760 --> 00:32:26,800
Speaker 3: happening within that time.

702
00:32:26,920 --> 00:32:28,560
Speaker 1: Oh, this nigga got two months.

703
00:32:28,840 --> 00:32:31,440
Speaker 3: But like sometimes as women, we're so we're clinging to

704
00:32:31,480 --> 00:32:34,920
Speaker 3: that idea so much we waste And then after he

705
00:32:34,960 --> 00:32:37,040
Speaker 3: could moved out, I probably kept talking to the nigga

706
00:32:37,040 --> 00:32:39,600
Speaker 3: for three years, you know what I'm saying, Like, it's

707
00:32:39,720 --> 00:32:42,520
Speaker 3: just the trauma we inflict on ourselves by not honoring

708
00:32:42,560 --> 00:32:45,280
Speaker 3: ourselves and that mate like that we are that in

709
00:32:45,360 --> 00:32:48,200
Speaker 3: tune and that we really do be knowing and but

710
00:32:48,280 --> 00:32:52,240
Speaker 3: we're so still connected to this like western idea of

711
00:32:52,440 --> 00:32:56,000
Speaker 3: this fucking white picket fence and this like matching set

712
00:32:56,200 --> 00:32:58,440
Speaker 3: of a family and don't.

713
00:32:58,440 --> 00:33:01,320
Speaker 7: So and I was like to remove butt and do

714
00:33:01,480 --> 00:33:04,040
Speaker 7: and like because but to me, it's like such a

715
00:33:04,720 --> 00:33:08,720
Speaker 7: like word but like and and I still want the

716
00:33:08,720 --> 00:33:12,680
Speaker 7: white picket fence. But it might have a vanilla girl

717
00:33:12,880 --> 00:33:14,080
Speaker 7: and a chocolate.

718
00:33:13,680 --> 00:33:15,080
Speaker 1: Boy, you know what I mean.

719
00:33:15,200 --> 00:33:18,800
Speaker 7: It might have two different dads. It might have we

720
00:33:18,880 --> 00:33:21,640
Speaker 7: live here and there. It might just be a different

721
00:33:22,280 --> 00:33:22,920
Speaker 7: picket fence.

722
00:33:22,920 --> 00:33:24,880
Speaker 6: Your picket fence might be some coconut tree.

723
00:33:25,000 --> 00:33:26,120
Speaker 1: Yes exactly.

724
00:33:26,560 --> 00:33:28,560
Speaker 3: I have six dads in the household. You don't know

725
00:33:28,560 --> 00:33:30,120
Speaker 3: who a mom's community.

726
00:33:30,200 --> 00:33:32,840
Speaker 7: Yeah, that's my dynamic right now, is that I have

727
00:33:32,960 --> 00:33:35,800
Speaker 7: I have a lot of community. And you know, it's

728
00:33:35,920 --> 00:33:38,200
Speaker 7: very easy to get into space. Oh, my gosh, I

729
00:33:38,240 --> 00:33:40,600
Speaker 7: don't I don't have the dad. And then I'm also

730
00:33:40,760 --> 00:33:44,360
Speaker 7: having someone come downstairs, someone's cooking for me, someone's cleaning

731
00:33:44,400 --> 00:33:46,840
Speaker 7: my house. At people like showing up like hey, let

732
00:33:46,920 --> 00:33:49,040
Speaker 7: me help you with this. And you have to open

733
00:33:49,080 --> 00:33:52,360
Speaker 7: your eyes to what's showing up around you because that's God, spirit,

734
00:33:52,720 --> 00:33:55,680
Speaker 7: divine creator, omnipress and what every one jaw whatever you

735
00:33:55,720 --> 00:33:59,160
Speaker 7: want to call guy that's saying, hey, that didn't really

736
00:33:59,200 --> 00:34:01,640
Speaker 7: work for you. So I'm giving you these other things,

737
00:34:01,680 --> 00:34:05,000
Speaker 7: like appreciate them, you know. But yeah, when people show

738
00:34:05,040 --> 00:34:07,960
Speaker 7: you who they are, you really have to believe them.

739
00:34:07,960 --> 00:34:10,839
Speaker 7: But every woman has their own journey. Some women wait

740
00:34:10,840 --> 00:34:13,920
Speaker 7: ten years, some women wait fifteen years, and some women

741
00:34:14,360 --> 00:34:15,759
Speaker 7: cut the core immediately.

742
00:34:16,400 --> 00:34:18,880
Speaker 1: And that was I was to cut the court immediately.

743
00:34:19,280 --> 00:34:19,760
Speaker 5: I wish.

744
00:34:19,840 --> 00:34:22,239
Speaker 3: I mean, I can't wish, but that I see the

745
00:34:22,320 --> 00:34:25,080
Speaker 3: value and being so clear that you're able to do that,

746
00:34:25,160 --> 00:34:27,759
Speaker 3: because sometimes you just draw out the trauma that may

747
00:34:27,880 --> 00:34:29,240
Speaker 3: it's just just too much.

748
00:34:29,719 --> 00:34:32,839
Speaker 7: But it's a lot of so it's a lot of

749
00:34:33,320 --> 00:34:35,640
Speaker 7: looking at what's in front of you instead of what

750
00:34:35,760 --> 00:34:38,640
Speaker 7: should be. When I woke up this morning and you're beautiful, Villa,

751
00:34:38,680 --> 00:34:40,399
Speaker 7: thank you for having me after a night of laying

752
00:34:40,400 --> 00:34:43,799
Speaker 7: next to you, right, and there's a beautiful man in

753
00:34:43,840 --> 00:34:45,080
Speaker 7: the kitchen making us food.

754
00:34:45,120 --> 00:34:47,279
Speaker 1: Surelest but we're moving and we're gonna have to wrap

755
00:34:47,320 --> 00:34:51,400
Speaker 1: this up. Yeah, because he's eating. We're going to be

756
00:34:51,440 --> 00:34:51,959
Speaker 1: eating soon.

757
00:34:52,239 --> 00:34:54,520
Speaker 7: But yeah, when you look at what it is instead

758
00:34:54,520 --> 00:34:56,520
Speaker 7: of what it should be, it's good.

759
00:34:56,800 --> 00:34:58,000
Speaker 1: You always see that it's could.

760
00:34:58,760 --> 00:35:01,480
Speaker 7: But I'm really excited to raise children here, and I'm

761
00:35:01,480 --> 00:35:04,160
Speaker 7: excited for you two to bring your children here. And

762
00:35:04,480 --> 00:35:06,880
Speaker 7: I'm old, like thirty three. I'm having my first child

763
00:35:06,880 --> 00:35:07,439
Speaker 7: at thirty three.

764
00:35:07,480 --> 00:35:07,920
Speaker 1: That's not old.

765
00:35:07,960 --> 00:35:10,000
Speaker 7: But I felt like it was a perfect time and

766
00:35:10,320 --> 00:35:14,239
Speaker 7: I felt ready, like the situation isn't perfect, but it's beautiful,

767
00:35:14,320 --> 00:35:15,239
Speaker 7: and it's beautiful.

768
00:35:15,440 --> 00:35:18,400
Speaker 4: Even the situation that's perfect ain't perfect. Yeah, it's not,

769
00:35:18,560 --> 00:35:19,520
Speaker 4: let me tell you it's not.

770
00:35:20,280 --> 00:35:22,760
Speaker 7: One thing that I can say is that my baby

771
00:35:23,040 --> 00:35:25,840
Speaker 7: was wanted. When I told my child's father that I

772
00:35:25,920 --> 00:35:30,440
Speaker 7: was pregnant, the response was tears, joy, excitement, and the

773
00:35:30,440 --> 00:35:32,200
Speaker 7: biggest deal for me was that I didn't want to

774
00:35:32,200 --> 00:35:34,399
Speaker 7: share my pregnancy with anyone that was like, well, how's

775
00:35:34,440 --> 00:35:35,040
Speaker 7: that gonna work?

776
00:35:35,080 --> 00:35:38,400
Speaker 1: What are you gonna do? Like, woa, WHOA get the

777
00:35:38,440 --> 00:35:39,160
Speaker 1: fuck away.

778
00:35:39,520 --> 00:35:42,480
Speaker 7: Like, I was so excited and I'm still so happy.

779
00:35:42,520 --> 00:35:45,080
Speaker 7: Everyone laughs at me and my yoga classes. I'm like,

780
00:35:45,120 --> 00:35:48,680
Speaker 7: I'm just I'm tearful all the time because I'm so

781
00:35:48,840 --> 00:35:49,879
Speaker 7: happy to be a mom.

782
00:35:49,920 --> 00:35:51,960
Speaker 1: I'm so excited to embark on this journey.

783
00:35:52,440 --> 00:35:55,440
Speaker 7: And the core cut was important to me because I

784
00:35:55,440 --> 00:35:57,319
Speaker 7: didn't want anyone in the field who didn't have that

785
00:35:57,360 --> 00:35:58,000
Speaker 7: same energy.

786
00:35:59,239 --> 00:36:02,560
Speaker 6: Yeah important, Yeah you are mama Bear.

787
00:36:02,840 --> 00:36:05,000
Speaker 1: Mama Bear. I oh my gosh, yeah, Hi.

788
00:36:05,600 --> 00:36:08,879
Speaker 7: Hey, So so he's gonna learn how to surf at

789
00:36:08,880 --> 00:36:12,120
Speaker 7: like two god willing and swim at like three months.

790
00:36:12,120 --> 00:36:14,359
Speaker 1: And I'm excited for y'all to get y'all kids here.

791
00:36:14,280 --> 00:36:15,160
Speaker 6: Because they free.

792
00:36:15,440 --> 00:36:17,880
Speaker 3: Me and Erica were like, so you're just co parenting

793
00:36:17,880 --> 00:36:19,000
Speaker 3: because that's what we already do.

794
00:36:19,160 --> 00:36:19,359
Speaker 1: Yeah.

795
00:36:20,440 --> 00:36:23,239
Speaker 3: Yeah, can we like recruit maybe two or three of

796
00:36:23,280 --> 00:36:25,520
Speaker 3: your baby daddies and like maybe we can do stuff,

797
00:36:25,520 --> 00:36:26,440
Speaker 3: we can contribute.

798
00:36:26,760 --> 00:36:29,360
Speaker 7: It's important, I think to have a balance of masculine

799
00:36:29,400 --> 00:36:30,800
Speaker 7: and feminine support around.

800
00:36:31,320 --> 00:36:33,560
Speaker 1: I think that like a part.

801
00:36:33,400 --> 00:36:35,640
Speaker 7: Of the reason that I was drawn to this space

802
00:36:35,800 --> 00:36:37,200
Speaker 7: was that there was a lot of men that were

803
00:36:37,239 --> 00:36:42,440
Speaker 7: really comfortable in their sexuality and being around women and

804
00:36:42,520 --> 00:36:44,840
Speaker 7: being platonic but also being intimate.

805
00:36:45,160 --> 00:36:46,640
Speaker 1: Intimacy is really important.

806
00:36:46,680 --> 00:36:49,600
Speaker 7: I'm a hugger, kisser, snuggler, but that doesn't mean we

807
00:36:49,640 --> 00:36:52,040
Speaker 7: got to be sleeping together, you know. And I really

808
00:36:52,040 --> 00:36:54,480
Speaker 7: wanted my children to grow up into space that they

809
00:36:54,520 --> 00:36:55,080
Speaker 7: could see that.

810
00:36:55,840 --> 00:36:57,719
Speaker 1: But yes, it's I said, no, y'all can't handle y'all.

811
00:36:57,719 --> 00:37:02,360
Speaker 7: Find you'all own baby daddies, all right, sources locally sourced, so.

812
00:37:03,320 --> 00:37:06,080
Speaker 5: Grown, or you could be a baby daddy source of doula.

813
00:37:06,320 --> 00:37:10,520
Speaker 5: Yeah you can.

814
00:37:08,560 --> 00:37:13,120
Speaker 3: You can your sources something like local baby diming back,

815
00:37:13,560 --> 00:37:14,040
Speaker 3: Yeah I can.

816
00:37:14,560 --> 00:37:16,560
Speaker 5: I can't. They can learn how to serve, you know,

817
00:37:16,680 --> 00:37:17,120
Speaker 5: like I.

818
00:37:17,040 --> 00:37:17,920
Speaker 1: Got someone for that.

819
00:37:18,239 --> 00:37:21,560
Speaker 3: Maybe I'm some home of someone who own's own horse

820
00:37:22,080 --> 00:37:22,439
Speaker 3: or two.

821
00:37:23,800 --> 00:37:25,200
Speaker 1: Okay, just send me your wish list.

822
00:37:25,239 --> 00:37:25,600
Speaker 5: Okay.

823
00:37:25,600 --> 00:37:29,280
Speaker 7: Well, but I do think like the male collective needs

824
00:37:29,320 --> 00:37:30,640
Speaker 7: some help right now.

825
00:37:31,480 --> 00:37:34,480
Speaker 1: I'm not like fuck men or anything like that. I

826
00:37:34,520 --> 00:37:36,480
Speaker 1: love men. I like who I love men.

827
00:37:37,080 --> 00:37:40,040
Speaker 7: But you know, over the last ten to fifteen years,

828
00:37:40,040 --> 00:37:42,319
Speaker 7: women have really been diving into like self love and

829
00:37:42,320 --> 00:37:45,680
Speaker 7: self healing, particularly Black women, and talking about our worth

830
00:37:45,680 --> 00:37:48,239
Speaker 7: and value. And I think that men are really trying

831
00:37:48,239 --> 00:37:50,839
Speaker 7: to figure out what their role is right now in

832
00:37:50,880 --> 00:37:53,719
Speaker 7: the whole paradigm of the reality, like, you know, because

833
00:37:53,760 --> 00:37:55,759
Speaker 7: women are actually at a space where we don't need

834
00:37:55,800 --> 00:37:57,680
Speaker 7: them at all evolving.

835
00:37:57,960 --> 00:38:00,799
Speaker 4: There's almost trauma in that for them, and it's like

836
00:38:01,400 --> 00:38:03,440
Speaker 4: they need to heal from it. And actually I was

837
00:38:03,440 --> 00:38:05,799
Speaker 4: talking to Zach about this yesterday and saying that, like

838
00:38:06,160 --> 00:38:08,960
Speaker 4: men do, they need a place, they need a self

839
00:38:08,960 --> 00:38:12,399
Speaker 4: healing place to go where they can work, work, Yeah,

840
00:38:12,440 --> 00:38:15,520
Speaker 4: where they can come together and do man shit.

841
00:38:15,880 --> 00:38:17,879
Speaker 6: They're not going to do the type of shit we do. Yeah,

842
00:38:17,920 --> 00:38:18,800
Speaker 6: I mean, because they're different.

843
00:38:18,880 --> 00:38:21,239
Speaker 4: Yeah, they are different, you know, And but you know,

844
00:38:21,320 --> 00:38:23,880
Speaker 4: there is a balance. And just like women have masculinity,

845
00:38:23,960 --> 00:38:26,480
Speaker 4: men have femininity, and I feel like women are allowed

846
00:38:26,520 --> 00:38:28,040
Speaker 4: to tap into that a lot more.

847
00:38:27,920 --> 00:38:29,760
Speaker 1: Than men, both sides.

848
00:38:30,000 --> 00:38:32,480
Speaker 4: And it's I feel it here though I see that

849
00:38:32,560 --> 00:38:35,719
Speaker 4: there's it seems as though the men here feel a

850
00:38:35,719 --> 00:38:38,879
Speaker 4: little bit more. They've surrendered more, I think, especially because

851
00:38:38,880 --> 00:38:39,600
Speaker 4: of the environment.

852
00:38:39,680 --> 00:38:41,600
Speaker 1: This is the thing. It's still lost.

853
00:38:41,680 --> 00:38:42,200
Speaker 6: I know, I.

854
00:38:43,800 --> 00:38:49,040
Speaker 4: Saw one yesterday yesterday, But I do feel like when

855
00:38:49,080 --> 00:38:51,440
Speaker 4: you come to nature, inevitably you kind of do have

856
00:38:51,480 --> 00:38:52,520
Speaker 4: to surrender no matter what.

857
00:38:52,960 --> 00:38:55,440
Speaker 7: In some way, you know you do, because like I

858
00:38:55,480 --> 00:38:57,799
Speaker 7: was telling y'all last night, like When I first got here,

859
00:38:57,880 --> 00:39:00,239
Speaker 7: my sound bows broke. That's how I made money. My

860
00:39:00,320 --> 00:39:02,040
Speaker 7: laptop broke, That's how I made money.

861
00:39:02,440 --> 00:39:04,400
Speaker 1: I just got my phone. My phone got took in.

862
00:39:04,719 --> 00:39:06,680
Speaker 6: Like I mean even last night, bro you you had

863
00:39:06,680 --> 00:39:07,799
Speaker 6: a night. You had to get a day.

864
00:39:07,920 --> 00:39:10,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, my power went out. Okay.

865
00:39:10,280 --> 00:39:14,279
Speaker 7: So we're in Porto via ho Limont. When people come here,

866
00:39:14,840 --> 00:39:18,560
Speaker 7: they're like, this is Wakanda, all these black people. This

867
00:39:18,600 --> 00:39:25,480
Speaker 7: is amazing, soursop mangos locks, a black person surfing, all

868
00:39:25,480 --> 00:39:28,640
Speaker 7: these things that they get like super duper duper excited about.

869
00:39:28,719 --> 00:39:31,480
Speaker 7: And then you know, they're like, I'm gonna buy land here,

870
00:39:31,520 --> 00:39:34,360
Speaker 7: because buying land here is quite accessible. They're like, you know,

871
00:39:34,400 --> 00:39:36,440
Speaker 7: I'm gonna live here, I'm gonna bring my kids here.

872
00:39:36,480 --> 00:39:39,000
Speaker 7: And I'm like, okay, I think you need to stay

873
00:39:39,040 --> 00:39:41,000
Speaker 7: down for a little bit longer because you think you

874
00:39:41,160 --> 00:39:46,760
Speaker 7: want this, But then nature is unpredictable. Trees fall, knockout

875
00:39:46,800 --> 00:39:49,279
Speaker 7: power lines for days at a time, you run out

876
00:39:49,320 --> 00:39:51,440
Speaker 7: of water, you know what I mean, days go by

877
00:39:51,440 --> 00:39:54,520
Speaker 7: where you don't have Wi Fi. The bank systems are different.

878
00:39:54,640 --> 00:39:58,879
Speaker 7: So I definitely think that we should never be like colonizers.

879
00:39:58,920 --> 00:40:00,759
Speaker 1: Basically, you know what them nigga come and they be.

880
00:40:00,760 --> 00:40:04,920
Speaker 5: Like, let's gentrify this bit, let's make it, let's fix it.

881
00:40:05,080 --> 00:40:09,399
Speaker 1: Yeah, let's let's fix it down here aesop. Yeah, everything right.

882
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Speaker 7: So the first thing that you can do is just

883
00:40:11,680 --> 00:40:15,120
Speaker 7: respect and connect with the land, because that's why we

884
00:40:15,200 --> 00:40:16,759
Speaker 7: all hear it's because.

885
00:40:16,480 --> 00:40:18,360
Speaker 1: Of the dirt, the soil, all that stuff.

886
00:40:18,640 --> 00:40:21,640
Speaker 7: And call me a hippie, talk about my armpits, whatever,

887
00:40:21,719 --> 00:40:23,680
Speaker 7: but I'm connected to the land, and the land tells

888
00:40:23,719 --> 00:40:25,080
Speaker 7: me what I need to do and when I need

889
00:40:25,120 --> 00:40:28,439
Speaker 7: to slide and whatever. So I really encourage anybody where

890
00:40:28,480 --> 00:40:30,960
Speaker 7: you go, like, spend some time there. Figure out how

891
00:40:30,960 --> 00:40:34,120
Speaker 7: you can add and enrich the community before figuring out

892
00:40:34,120 --> 00:40:36,560
Speaker 7: how you can take to it. And within that flow,

893
00:40:36,640 --> 00:40:38,400
Speaker 7: you'll always be blessed and abundant.

894
00:40:38,560 --> 00:40:41,680
Speaker 1: But here, listen, it's a different it's a different beast.

895
00:40:41,719 --> 00:40:43,640
Speaker 7: I got to five months pregnant and I was like, look,

896
00:40:43,680 --> 00:40:46,560
Speaker 7: I need fucking AC and Uber and Uber.

897
00:40:46,400 --> 00:40:49,520
Speaker 1: Eats, Chick fil A and chick Chick fil A.

898
00:40:52,880 --> 00:40:54,680
Speaker 7: Yeah, but I wanted all those things, but I love

899
00:40:54,680 --> 00:40:57,040
Speaker 7: it here. It's definitely a great place to be pregnant.

900
00:40:57,080 --> 00:40:58,759
Speaker 7: You could be naked a lot, you can swim in

901
00:40:58,800 --> 00:40:59,240
Speaker 7: the ocean.

902
00:40:59,280 --> 00:41:01,520
Speaker 1: You can surf. You still hike, And.

903
00:41:01,520 --> 00:41:02,760
Speaker 5: Do you want me to fry you some chicken?

904
00:41:02,880 --> 00:41:05,200
Speaker 1: I would love you to fry me some chicken. She

905
00:41:05,200 --> 00:41:07,720
Speaker 1: fried chicken in our last I want fried chicken.

906
00:41:08,800 --> 00:41:11,000
Speaker 7: I actually have a chef coming over to have my

907
00:41:11,080 --> 00:41:12,360
Speaker 7: house tonight from Philly.

908
00:41:12,480 --> 00:41:14,400
Speaker 5: This girl fancy.

909
00:41:14,560 --> 00:41:14,799
Speaker 1: Yeah.

910
00:41:14,920 --> 00:41:18,000
Speaker 7: No, it's people just like to take care of pregnant women,

911
00:41:18,120 --> 00:41:20,719
Speaker 7: and I'm allowing it. Like I get sad all the

912
00:41:20,760 --> 00:41:23,200
Speaker 7: time when I think that soul is due and I

913
00:41:23,360 --> 00:41:26,640
Speaker 7: late October, like I love, I want to meet you due,

914
00:41:26,640 --> 00:41:28,279
Speaker 7: but I'm still enjoying the.

915
00:41:28,239 --> 00:41:29,960
Speaker 1: Perks of being in better side.

916
00:41:30,040 --> 00:41:31,680
Speaker 4: Yeah, well, you're gonna get those perks for a little

917
00:41:31,719 --> 00:41:34,480
Speaker 4: while he's a newborn. It's when they become like around

918
00:41:34,520 --> 00:41:38,680
Speaker 4: like five or people don't give a but also yeah,

919
00:41:38,840 --> 00:41:40,799
Speaker 4: also you're gonna people will love you, but they're just

920
00:41:40,800 --> 00:41:42,840
Speaker 4: gonna they're gonna take care of him more than you.

921
00:41:42,960 --> 00:41:46,400
Speaker 1: Yeah. Can you become like secondary, Oh your soul's mom?

922
00:41:46,600 --> 00:41:50,640
Speaker 1: Oh hi, they'd be like, oh hi even acknowledge you.

923
00:41:50,680 --> 00:41:55,640
Speaker 1: I mean, hill, where's where's salt like out here?

924
00:41:55,719 --> 00:41:57,920
Speaker 5: But where's your child?

925
00:41:58,719 --> 00:41:59,160
Speaker 1: Yeah?

926
00:41:59,200 --> 00:41:59,919
Speaker 6: It's just a point.

927
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Speaker 4: And so just get ready to not be like, and

928
00:42:02,000 --> 00:42:04,880
Speaker 4: you're gonna be cared for regardless adjacently, So it's going

929
00:42:04,920 --> 00:42:05,480
Speaker 4: to be number one.

930
00:42:05,480 --> 00:42:09,120
Speaker 7: Though I'm excited to meet him. I am staying there

931
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Speaker 7: for a long, long ago. Bro.

932
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Speaker 6: I can't wait till you are such a beautiful pregnant one.

933
00:42:12,520 --> 00:42:12,919
Speaker 1: Thank you.

934
00:42:12,920 --> 00:42:15,279
Speaker 6: You make me want to be pregnant again, because you

935
00:42:15,280 --> 00:42:15,440
Speaker 6: know what.

936
00:42:15,719 --> 00:42:18,040
Speaker 5: It looks good to be pregnant in the jungles I know.

937
00:42:18,120 --> 00:42:21,799
Speaker 4: I was like, is this what pregnancy look like?

938
00:42:19,800 --> 00:42:24,520
Speaker 1: Uh? I approach approaching pregnancy here.

939
00:42:24,520 --> 00:42:27,279
Speaker 7: It's a little different though, because, like you know, we

940
00:42:27,320 --> 00:42:31,279
Speaker 7: can't get things so easily, so like making a registry,

941
00:42:31,280 --> 00:42:33,600
Speaker 7: he gave me like intense anxiety because I'm like, where

942
00:42:33,600 --> 00:42:33,960
Speaker 7: am I going.

943
00:42:33,960 --> 00:42:35,800
Speaker 1: To put the fucking stroller? How is it going to

944
00:42:35,840 --> 00:42:37,120
Speaker 1: get over the terrain here?

945
00:42:37,280 --> 00:42:39,239
Speaker 5: Like get the terrain strollers?

946
00:42:39,360 --> 00:42:41,520
Speaker 7: Yeah, I'm looking at those and all those things. But

947
00:42:41,600 --> 00:42:44,120
Speaker 7: I also just took a break from doing all baby

948
00:42:44,120 --> 00:42:47,120
Speaker 7: stuff for a month and just to focus on my retreats.

949
00:42:47,440 --> 00:42:49,560
Speaker 1: You have to because I'm obsessed.

950
00:42:49,200 --> 00:42:50,960
Speaker 5: And honestly, most of the ship you think you need

951
00:42:50,960 --> 00:42:51,319
Speaker 5: you don't need.

952
00:42:51,440 --> 00:42:53,759
Speaker 6: You'll get anxiety, You'll get more anxiety about it because

953
00:42:53,760 --> 00:42:55,040
Speaker 6: you're just overdoing it.

954
00:42:55,800 --> 00:42:57,279
Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, yeah, thank you for that.

955
00:42:57,480 --> 00:43:01,359
Speaker 5: Very basic. It's like the Babby figures it out.

956
00:43:01,360 --> 00:43:04,560
Speaker 3: Everybody figured you don't need that much special shit for

957
00:43:04,560 --> 00:43:05,000
Speaker 3: a baby.

958
00:43:05,080 --> 00:43:07,600
Speaker 5: Yeah, you got your titty, you got the baby.

959
00:43:07,840 --> 00:43:09,360
Speaker 6: Did you buy the freedo snot thing?

960
00:43:09,480 --> 00:43:12,520
Speaker 3: No, people do that, People like hut their whole mouth

961
00:43:12,560 --> 00:43:15,160
Speaker 3: over around baby's nostril and close one.

962
00:43:16,640 --> 00:43:19,960
Speaker 1: What oh no, no wait there's a bulbs though.

963
00:43:20,760 --> 00:43:22,920
Speaker 6: Those don't really work. I mean they did work. Actually,

964
00:43:22,920 --> 00:43:23,920
Speaker 6: we're kids. Those shit works.

965
00:43:24,000 --> 00:43:24,840
Speaker 1: Yeah, I got the bulls.

966
00:43:24,840 --> 00:43:28,000
Speaker 6: Well, there was an updated version Freeda came out with Freda.

967
00:43:28,239 --> 00:43:29,560
Speaker 1: I had to seck it out and I.

968
00:43:29,520 --> 00:43:31,040
Speaker 4: Was like, I was doing this and I was like,

969
00:43:31,480 --> 00:43:34,279
Speaker 4: what am I fucking doing? What the fuck am I

970
00:43:34,520 --> 00:43:37,120
Speaker 4: in your baby?

971
00:43:38,320 --> 00:43:38,520
Speaker 1: Oh?

972
00:43:38,600 --> 00:43:39,040
Speaker 2: My god?

973
00:43:39,360 --> 00:43:40,799
Speaker 1: Well, mom, thank you so much for coming.

974
00:43:40,880 --> 00:43:41,880
Speaker 6: Thank you so much.

975
00:43:41,719 --> 00:43:42,560
Speaker 1: For having me.

976
00:43:42,719 --> 00:43:45,240
Speaker 3: Where can our listeners find you? Tell them about your retreats,

977
00:43:45,320 --> 00:43:47,480
Speaker 3: all your courses you have coming up, Tell them where

978
00:43:47,520 --> 00:43:50,080
Speaker 3: they can learn more about MO and you're healing.

979
00:43:50,280 --> 00:43:53,440
Speaker 7: Okay, one real quick though, do y'all have one piece

980
00:43:53,480 --> 00:43:55,839
Speaker 7: of advice for me each when becoming a mom, Because

981
00:43:56,000 --> 00:43:57,560
Speaker 7: y'all are doing the mom thing really good.

982
00:43:58,040 --> 00:44:00,120
Speaker 5: So that's my advice. Someone told me.

983
00:44:00,480 --> 00:44:03,680
Speaker 3: You know, people have a baby and then the baby

984
00:44:03,719 --> 00:44:05,799
Speaker 3: becomes the whole world. She's like, you have a baby,

985
00:44:05,840 --> 00:44:07,200
Speaker 3: and baby just jumps into your world?

986
00:44:07,400 --> 00:44:08,160
Speaker 5: Can you keep going?

987
00:44:08,280 --> 00:44:08,640
Speaker 1: All right?

988
00:44:08,680 --> 00:44:10,960
Speaker 5: I like that, and also that the baby doesn't break easy.

989
00:44:11,000 --> 00:44:14,520
Speaker 4: Don't worry, okay, don't be afraid to apologize to your child.

990
00:44:15,600 --> 00:44:17,879
Speaker 1: And man, just.

991
00:44:18,440 --> 00:44:21,680
Speaker 4: They always tell you go so fast, beautiful, and it

992
00:44:21,760 --> 00:44:22,480
Speaker 4: fucking does.

993
00:44:22,400 --> 00:44:25,040
Speaker 1: It really really really does, it really does.

994
00:44:25,080 --> 00:44:26,680
Speaker 4: So just try to and you know what, you're such

995
00:44:26,719 --> 00:44:29,839
Speaker 4: in a beautiful place to really be present and in

996
00:44:29,880 --> 00:44:31,600
Speaker 4: your spirit. I know that you're just a present person,

997
00:44:31,640 --> 00:44:33,160
Speaker 4: so you're not gonna have a lot of trouble with that.

998
00:44:33,280 --> 00:44:35,640
Speaker 4: But just be as present as you can. Because I

999
00:44:35,840 --> 00:44:38,279
Speaker 4: blinked and my daughter's six, and I'm like, and I'm

1000
00:44:38,280 --> 00:44:39,720
Speaker 4: gonna blink and she's gonna be thirteen.

1001
00:44:39,920 --> 00:44:42,719
Speaker 1: They're tall and they're not little anymore, and I get

1002
00:44:42,719 --> 00:44:43,239
Speaker 1: a little one.

1003
00:44:43,280 --> 00:44:46,840
Speaker 4: You can I would say, like, everyone's gonna have an opinion,

1004
00:44:46,840 --> 00:44:49,160
Speaker 4: but you are fiery as fuck, so I'm not worry.

1005
00:44:49,200 --> 00:44:51,720
Speaker 1: We shut that. I'm not worried about that part already.

1006
00:44:51,760 --> 00:44:55,440
Speaker 7: People with about my birth, about the amount of ultrasounds

1007
00:44:55,520 --> 00:44:57,759
Speaker 7: I'm getting, about the food, about me.

1008
00:44:57,840 --> 00:44:59,120
Speaker 5: You got minimal ultrasounds.

1009
00:44:59,440 --> 00:45:01,239
Speaker 1: Yeah, so I'm doing two.

1010
00:45:01,680 --> 00:45:04,040
Speaker 7: Yeah, because I saw a baby like this and I

1011
00:45:04,080 --> 00:45:05,399
Speaker 7: was like, oh no, he don't like this.

1012
00:45:06,480 --> 00:45:08,279
Speaker 1: But no, that was the research that I did.

1013
00:45:08,320 --> 00:45:10,239
Speaker 7: But yeah, people have something to say about everything and

1014
00:45:10,880 --> 00:45:13,719
Speaker 7: it never stops. Yeah, okay, yeah, so that's not after

1015
00:45:13,760 --> 00:45:15,000
Speaker 7: the person is out of my body.

1016
00:45:15,440 --> 00:45:16,200
Speaker 6: That keeps going.

1017
00:45:16,280 --> 00:45:19,560
Speaker 7: All right, So y'all can find me at iamnursemo dot com.

1018
00:45:19,560 --> 00:45:22,719
Speaker 7: That's where I have self paced workshops for My work

1019
00:45:22,760 --> 00:45:23,439
Speaker 7: is for black women.

1020
00:45:23,480 --> 00:45:26,200
Speaker 1: I'll be clear like everybody is welcome, petal.

1021
00:45:26,440 --> 00:45:29,880
Speaker 7: My work is for black women who really need to

1022
00:45:30,400 --> 00:45:33,880
Speaker 7: stop trying to achieve, get a certifications and just decide

1023
00:45:33,960 --> 00:45:36,120
Speaker 7: I'm enough. So that's who my work is for. And

1024
00:45:36,160 --> 00:45:38,600
Speaker 7: it's I amnursmo dot com. I have coaching there. I

1025
00:45:38,640 --> 00:45:41,000
Speaker 7: no longer do one on ones at the moment because

1026
00:45:41,360 --> 00:45:44,600
Speaker 7: I'm focused on my energy in my pregnancy. I am

1027
00:45:44,680 --> 00:45:47,560
Speaker 7: nurse mo dash reconnect or just to my website is

1028
00:45:47,560 --> 00:45:50,080
Speaker 7: where you can find my retreats. We're sold out for

1029
00:45:50,080 --> 00:45:53,279
Speaker 7: twenty twenty one, but twenty twenty two we'll be doing more.

1030
00:45:53,280 --> 00:45:54,560
Speaker 1: In twenty twenty three, I'll be.

1031
00:45:54,520 --> 00:45:58,560
Speaker 7: Doing Mommy and Me's and then my Instagram is at

1032
00:45:58,640 --> 00:45:59,360
Speaker 7: I am nurse Moo.

1033
00:46:00,000 --> 00:46:02,120
Speaker 1: I don't fuck with me at all. All good.

1034
00:46:02,160 --> 00:46:03,719
Speaker 7: You can still support me and my brand and put

1035
00:46:03,760 --> 00:46:06,319
Speaker 7: money in me and my baby's pocket. You can go

1036
00:46:06,440 --> 00:46:09,319
Speaker 7: to Luminous Energy Collective on Instagram and there's a team

1037
00:46:09,360 --> 00:46:12,040
Speaker 7: of fifteen healers and coaches that work under me from

1038
00:46:12,040 --> 00:46:14,799
Speaker 7: my teachings that can serve you in hold space for you.

1039
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Speaker 1: I love y'all, Thank you, I love you, love you too.

1040
00:46:19,200 --> 00:46:24,200
Speaker 1: Welcome to La Angla. We'll be back.

1041
00:46:24,280 --> 00:46:26,560
Speaker 3: I think I'm a jungle woman now you guys, you

1042
00:46:26,680 --> 00:46:29,040
Speaker 3: even get your pair? I mean not yet. By the

1043
00:46:29,080 --> 00:46:30,480
Speaker 3: time I come back, I'm gonna grow it back. So

1044
00:46:30,719 --> 00:46:35,279
Speaker 3: when I come back, I slide right in. Thank you, mo,

1045
00:46:35,760 --> 00:46:38,200
Speaker 3: and you know where to find us. Make sure you

1046
00:46:38,280 --> 00:46:41,160
Speaker 3: check out this episode on Patreon because we are in

1047
00:46:41,160 --> 00:46:43,279
Speaker 3: the jungle. Looks really sexy and good Dewey and we.

1048
00:46:44,280 --> 00:46:47,719
Speaker 5: And our bikinish. Yeah, so.

1049
00:46:49,320 --> 00:46:51,160
Speaker 3: Check us out on Patreon, but you have to go

1050
00:46:51,200 --> 00:46:54,680
Speaker 3: to ww dot Patreon, backslash good Mom's Bad Choices.

1051
00:46:55,200 --> 00:46:56,719
Speaker 1: And we'll see you guys next week.

1052
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Speaker 4: Bye bye, Ella j Solo Cada Recorder, Lalus Lade, the

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Speaker 4: Latter three s Comboby Lamoiselle La runs through the som