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Speaker 1: for Ryan's roses? Dear Ryan and Sisty. My husband and

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Speaker 1: I have been through a lot. He cheated on me

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Speaker 1: three years ago on a business trip. I found out

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Speaker 1: but decided to try therapy and since then things have

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Speaker 1: PAULA strong, strong to go back and give it a shot.

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Speaker 1: So I'm glad you found peace after the cheating and

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Speaker 1: I just don't know, but I know that he lied

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Speaker 1: That's what we're doing right now. One or two point

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Speaker 1: thank you. Hello. Hi is this Reuben? Yes, it is

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Speaker 1: hi Reuben. My name is Fiona. I'm calling from the

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Speaker 1: Fresh Florists actually deliver in the Glendale in l A. Area,

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Speaker 1: and today we're offering local residents of promotion. It's a

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Speaker 1: Is that something you'd be interested in? I'm sorry you're

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Speaker 1: free roses. We do this about once a month, and

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Speaker 1: We're just trying to promote our new business and all

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Speaker 1: we ask is that if you're pleased with our arrangements,

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Speaker 1: I'm not gonna give you a credit card, no, none,

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Speaker 1: Thank you for all the wonderful years. Okay, Ruben. Hello Reuben,

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Speaker 1: and that is about a flight recently you said was

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Speaker 1: So Ruben, what happened? It was already discussed this in therapy.

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Speaker 1: Thank you? Ryan. Yeah, I'm sorry. I am so sorry

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Speaker 1: Paula and Ryan, I'm sorry. I I just was embarrassed

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Speaker 1: sorry last time. But you can't keep lying, Reuben, no

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Speaker 1: if I'm paranoid, you're lying to me, you miss you

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Speaker 1: missed your flight. I don't believe I still don't believe you.

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Speaker 1: I want to believe you. I swear I did miss

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Speaker 1: for reaching out. Good luck, Paula, Thank you all right.

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Speaker 1: First of all, I don't know, I mean fifteen years,

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Speaker 1: I don't know, you know, it's always going to be

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