1 00:00:16,040 --> 00:00:18,960 Speaker 1: Yes, Yes, I am Dramas And this is the Street 2 00:00:19,000 --> 00:00:23,080 Speaker 1: Stoic Podcast, bringing your daily dose of timeless stoic philosophy 3 00:00:23,560 --> 00:00:26,640 Speaker 1: remix for the hip hop generation. And with that in mind, 4 00:00:26,760 --> 00:00:36,479 Speaker 1: let's get things started with your daily shot of inspiration. Now. 5 00:00:36,520 --> 00:00:39,920 Speaker 1: Today we're going to be focusing all around the stoic 6 00:00:40,000 --> 00:00:44,880 Speaker 1: idea of practicing resilience when faced with obstacles, failure or tragedy. 7 00:00:45,280 --> 00:00:48,680 Speaker 1: And once again we are going back to Miss Lauren Hill. 8 00:00:49,560 --> 00:00:51,839 Speaker 1: And I don't know why this record has just been 9 00:00:51,840 --> 00:00:53,960 Speaker 1: speaking to me so much lately. Obviously I've listened to 10 00:00:53,960 --> 00:00:56,240 Speaker 1: a bunch growing up like anybody else, but she is 11 00:00:56,400 --> 00:01:00,080 Speaker 1: just was beyond her time, Miss Lauren Hill. Sadly we 12 00:01:00,240 --> 00:01:03,080 Speaker 1: did not get more music from her, just the talent 13 00:01:03,120 --> 00:01:05,680 Speaker 1: that she is, but Man, Miseducation of Lauren Hill's just 14 00:01:05,720 --> 00:01:08,400 Speaker 1: an incredible work of art. And this song right here, 15 00:01:08,480 --> 00:01:12,320 Speaker 1: Everything is Everything, an amazing, amazing record. And you know 16 00:01:12,360 --> 00:01:14,759 Speaker 1: these lines that I pulled from her from that record, 17 00:01:14,800 --> 00:01:17,959 Speaker 1: she says, everything is everything, what is meant to be 18 00:01:18,040 --> 00:01:23,440 Speaker 1: will be after winter must come spring, Change it comes eventually. 19 00:01:24,319 --> 00:01:28,600 Speaker 1: And I love this sort of distinction and this sort 20 00:01:28,640 --> 00:01:32,400 Speaker 1: of acceptance of change because I think that's sort of 21 00:01:32,400 --> 00:01:36,240 Speaker 1: one of the biggest problems many of us have as 22 00:01:36,319 --> 00:01:39,800 Speaker 1: human beings. And it's hard, right, because we develop routines, 23 00:01:40,319 --> 00:01:44,520 Speaker 1: we develop feelings around a particular situation or person, and 24 00:01:44,600 --> 00:01:49,280 Speaker 1: even in relationships that are long term, lasting relationships, the 25 00:01:49,400 --> 00:01:52,920 Speaker 1: dynamic of your relationship is constantly changing. The person that 26 00:01:52,960 --> 00:01:56,480 Speaker 1: you first met whatever seven years ago is not going 27 00:01:56,560 --> 00:01:59,760 Speaker 1: to be the same person today, and the challenge comes 28 00:01:59,760 --> 00:02:04,600 Speaker 1: in being able to grow together, and that is incredibly challenging. 29 00:02:04,720 --> 00:02:08,320 Speaker 1: But I think we also fail to recognize the beauty 30 00:02:08,520 --> 00:02:13,160 Speaker 1: in change and the beauty in something ending, because it 31 00:02:13,200 --> 00:02:16,959 Speaker 1: allows for something new to grow. Right. I love sort 32 00:02:17,000 --> 00:02:19,960 Speaker 1: of this idea of like after winter must come spring, right, 33 00:02:20,000 --> 00:02:22,000 Speaker 1: and building off of that when you talk about just 34 00:02:22,120 --> 00:02:25,000 Speaker 1: crops and things like that, right, a crop must die 35 00:02:25,200 --> 00:02:28,600 Speaker 1: right in the winter before then it can grow again 36 00:02:28,639 --> 00:02:31,000 Speaker 1: in the spring. And this leads perfectly to a quote 37 00:02:31,080 --> 00:02:33,360 Speaker 1: from one of the stokes markets Aurelius, where he says, 38 00:02:33,680 --> 00:02:37,720 Speaker 1: everything's destiny is to change, to be transformed, to perish 39 00:02:38,000 --> 00:02:41,720 Speaker 1: so that new things can be born. A lot of 40 00:02:41,800 --> 00:02:44,119 Speaker 1: times this is easier said than done. When you are 41 00:02:44,400 --> 00:02:48,080 Speaker 1: heartbroken by somebody, it's really difficult to see how it's 42 00:02:48,120 --> 00:02:50,519 Speaker 1: a good thing. You lose somebody in your life, it's 43 00:02:50,560 --> 00:02:52,160 Speaker 1: really difficult to see how this is a good thing. 44 00:02:52,160 --> 00:02:54,960 Speaker 1: You lose your job, whatever, your friend gets fired, whatever 45 00:02:55,000 --> 00:02:58,480 Speaker 1: it might be. It's obviously incredibly difficult at times in 46 00:02:58,520 --> 00:03:02,200 Speaker 1: the moment to embrace this sort of change. But I 47 00:03:02,200 --> 00:03:05,040 Speaker 1: think we often look at change through a lens of 48 00:03:05,360 --> 00:03:08,120 Speaker 1: bad of it not being a good thing, of it 49 00:03:08,200 --> 00:03:10,360 Speaker 1: being scary, And I think to a degree it is 50 00:03:10,400 --> 00:03:13,200 Speaker 1: scary because it's the unknown, but we often don't talk 51 00:03:13,360 --> 00:03:17,799 Speaker 1: about how something new could be incredibly beautiful, could be 52 00:03:17,800 --> 00:03:20,840 Speaker 1: better than the previous version of whatever it is that 53 00:03:20,880 --> 00:03:25,440 Speaker 1: we're talking about. And I had actually posted something recently 54 00:03:25,520 --> 00:03:29,519 Speaker 1: on my Instagram, but it was a post where I 55 00:03:30,000 --> 00:03:33,639 Speaker 1: was taking an insert of my book that I had written, 56 00:03:33,840 --> 00:03:35,560 Speaker 1: Just Be Just Bet to NYC if you want to 57 00:03:35,560 --> 00:03:38,720 Speaker 1: pick that up. But I had taken a little excerpt 58 00:03:39,040 --> 00:03:41,360 Speaker 1: from it where I talked about how I kind of 59 00:03:41,440 --> 00:03:44,800 Speaker 1: changed my life pretty drastically, where I was cutting certain 60 00:03:44,800 --> 00:03:47,440 Speaker 1: people out of my life, where I was really taking 61 00:03:47,480 --> 00:03:50,000 Speaker 1: inventory of the type of relationships that I had around 62 00:03:50,080 --> 00:03:53,400 Speaker 1: me right, and I was sort of separating myself from 63 00:03:53,560 --> 00:03:57,480 Speaker 1: the sort of superficial friendships that I had and really 64 00:03:57,840 --> 00:04:01,640 Speaker 1: holding anybody else in my life or anybody potentially coming 65 00:04:01,680 --> 00:04:05,400 Speaker 1: into my life to a higher standard of really providing 66 00:04:05,400 --> 00:04:09,280 Speaker 1: me with a fulfilling friendship or relationship in general. And 67 00:04:10,080 --> 00:04:14,080 Speaker 1: a part of that was changing my life to a degree, right, 68 00:04:14,600 --> 00:04:18,679 Speaker 1: changing who had access to me being okay with certain 69 00:04:18,800 --> 00:04:21,600 Speaker 1: acquaintances who maybe I had a lot of fun with, 70 00:04:22,000 --> 00:04:24,279 Speaker 1: being okay with sort of those relationships kind of flying 71 00:04:24,320 --> 00:04:26,560 Speaker 1: by the wayside, right with those sort of dissolving and 72 00:04:26,600 --> 00:04:29,560 Speaker 1: no longer being a thing being okay with my lifestyle 73 00:04:29,680 --> 00:04:33,320 Speaker 1: changing a bit right where I wasn't going out all 74 00:04:33,360 --> 00:04:37,320 Speaker 1: the time, where maybe I wasn't being as social, or 75 00:04:37,440 --> 00:04:42,599 Speaker 1: I was challenging myself to do things a bit differently, 76 00:04:42,680 --> 00:04:45,000 Speaker 1: right to not just say, oh, it's a Friday night, 77 00:04:45,000 --> 00:04:46,920 Speaker 1: so I guess we're going to the bar, to say, hey, 78 00:04:46,920 --> 00:04:50,760 Speaker 1: why don't I challenge myself to go experience something new, 79 00:04:51,320 --> 00:04:55,040 Speaker 1: And all of that was a bit of me killing 80 00:04:55,040 --> 00:04:58,559 Speaker 1: off a previous version of myself, allowing a previous version 81 00:04:58,600 --> 00:05:00,760 Speaker 1: of myself to sort of die off so that I 82 00:05:00,800 --> 00:05:05,160 Speaker 1: could have this rebirth and become the version of myself 83 00:05:05,200 --> 00:05:09,279 Speaker 1: that now fulfills me at thirty five years old. But again, 84 00:05:09,680 --> 00:05:13,400 Speaker 1: it was being okay with much of my normal, everyday 85 00:05:13,440 --> 00:05:17,880 Speaker 1: life changing in a pretty drastic way, but understanding that 86 00:05:17,960 --> 00:05:21,040 Speaker 1: there was going to be more of what I needed 87 00:05:21,080 --> 00:05:23,520 Speaker 1: and more of what I wanted on the other side 88 00:05:23,600 --> 00:05:27,240 Speaker 1: of that discomfort. Now we have heard from Lauren Hill, 89 00:05:27,279 --> 00:05:29,440 Speaker 1: we have heard from Marcus Aurelius, You've heard from myself, 90 00:05:29,440 --> 00:05:34,240 Speaker 1: all around this idea of practicing resilience when faced with failure, obstacles, 91 00:05:34,279 --> 00:05:37,520 Speaker 1: and or tragedy. Now let's talk about how you can 92 00:05:37,560 --> 00:05:39,960 Speaker 1: make it your mantra for today. But first le's take 93 00:05:40,040 --> 00:05:51,040 Speaker 1: a quick break and then we'll be right back. All right, 94 00:05:51,080 --> 00:05:53,479 Speaker 1: So today we are focusing all around the Stoic idea 95 00:05:53,560 --> 00:05:57,359 Speaker 1: of practicing resilience when faced with obstacles, failure, or tragedy. 96 00:05:57,680 --> 00:06:01,159 Speaker 1: You've heard the words of the great miss Lauren Hill. 97 00:06:01,320 --> 00:06:04,040 Speaker 1: We have heard quote from one of the Stoics, Marcus Aurelius. 98 00:06:04,080 --> 00:06:07,000 Speaker 1: I'll give you some insight into how I've applied the 99 00:06:07,040 --> 00:06:11,880 Speaker 1: idea of embracing change and maybe even unplanned change, how 100 00:06:11,880 --> 00:06:14,599 Speaker 1: I've embraced that in my life. Now let's talk about 101 00:06:14,600 --> 00:06:18,080 Speaker 1: how you can make it your mantra for today. And 102 00:06:18,160 --> 00:06:22,280 Speaker 1: I think the simplest sort of way to really kind 103 00:06:22,279 --> 00:06:25,520 Speaker 1: of break down. All that we're talking about today is 104 00:06:25,640 --> 00:06:30,360 Speaker 1: trying to challenge yourself to change your relationship with the 105 00:06:30,400 --> 00:06:34,520 Speaker 1: idea of change, instead of fearing change, instead of it 106 00:06:34,600 --> 00:06:38,000 Speaker 1: being sort of the scary monster that lives under our bed, 107 00:06:38,080 --> 00:06:40,159 Speaker 1: right that we're afraid of that we don't want to face, 108 00:06:41,000 --> 00:06:45,360 Speaker 1: embracing it with the idea that something new, something better 109 00:06:45,520 --> 00:06:47,520 Speaker 1: is on the other side of it. And that's not 110 00:06:47,520 --> 00:06:51,720 Speaker 1: always easy, as we've talked about, right, some circumstances are 111 00:06:51,760 --> 00:06:56,919 Speaker 1: more difficult than others. But it's just allowing yourself to 112 00:06:57,040 --> 00:07:01,080 Speaker 1: change the relationship with change, to be ok with change, 113 00:07:01,160 --> 00:07:05,839 Speaker 1: to recognize it as a necessary part of our human existence, 114 00:07:06,120 --> 00:07:08,520 Speaker 1: just like breathing is, just like eating is, just like 115 00:07:08,600 --> 00:07:12,120 Speaker 1: sleeping is, right, all of that is sort of inevitable 116 00:07:12,120 --> 00:07:14,280 Speaker 1: things that we will have to do as human beings, 117 00:07:14,680 --> 00:07:18,200 Speaker 1: and change is an inevitable experience that we're all going 118 00:07:18,240 --> 00:07:20,680 Speaker 1: to have as human beings. We can't fight it, we 119 00:07:20,720 --> 00:07:23,320 Speaker 1: can't push back against it, we can't avoid it. It's 120 00:07:23,360 --> 00:07:25,720 Speaker 1: going to happen whether we want to or not. And 121 00:07:25,800 --> 00:07:28,760 Speaker 1: with that said, recognizing that there's so much beauty in 122 00:07:28,920 --> 00:07:31,280 Speaker 1: said change as well. Right again, I think it's just 123 00:07:31,840 --> 00:07:35,440 Speaker 1: our mindset, the way that we view how things happen, 124 00:07:35,840 --> 00:07:37,640 Speaker 1: and a recap all we've been talking about to kind 125 00:07:37,640 --> 00:07:40,800 Speaker 1: of really piggyback on this idea, Lauren Hill, you know, 126 00:07:40,920 --> 00:07:45,640 Speaker 1: really talking about change. It comes eventually, it always happens. 127 00:07:45,720 --> 00:07:49,760 Speaker 1: Winter must come after spring, and think about looking outside 128 00:07:49,960 --> 00:07:52,000 Speaker 1: all of the change that happens. And I live here 129 00:07:52,040 --> 00:07:54,760 Speaker 1: on the East Coast in the New York area, and 130 00:07:54,960 --> 00:07:57,840 Speaker 1: winters are pretty brutal. The change that happens is pretty 131 00:07:57,920 --> 00:08:00,400 Speaker 1: damn brutal when you're out there freezing your us off 132 00:08:00,440 --> 00:08:02,760 Speaker 1: walking your dog in the middle of the night. But 133 00:08:03,160 --> 00:08:05,760 Speaker 1: there's also so much beauty that happens right in the 134 00:08:05,840 --> 00:08:08,120 Speaker 1: changing of the seasons. When there's snow on the ground 135 00:08:08,120 --> 00:08:10,040 Speaker 1: and you don't have to shovel, it's beautiful. Look at 136 00:08:10,560 --> 00:08:13,440 Speaker 1: when the fall happens, The changing of the leaves is beautiful, 137 00:08:13,880 --> 00:08:16,800 Speaker 1: getting to wear those different outfits beautiful. Then when it 138 00:08:16,880 --> 00:08:20,120 Speaker 1: changes back to spring and it starts getting you know, 139 00:08:20,360 --> 00:08:23,000 Speaker 1: darker later and later, and you're able to enjoy being 140 00:08:23,000 --> 00:08:25,440 Speaker 1: outside more, there's a happiness that comes over you. Right 141 00:08:25,760 --> 00:08:28,600 Speaker 1: there's just beauty when you allow yourself to see it 142 00:08:29,000 --> 00:08:31,760 Speaker 1: in all of that change. And it's also an incredibly 143 00:08:31,800 --> 00:08:35,319 Speaker 1: necessary part of life, right, And just like Marcus Aurelius says, 144 00:08:35,679 --> 00:08:40,160 Speaker 1: everything's destiny is to change, to be transformed, to perish 145 00:08:40,360 --> 00:08:42,520 Speaker 1: so that new things can be born. That is the 146 00:08:42,520 --> 00:08:45,280 Speaker 1: destiny that all of us face, and the destiny that 147 00:08:45,320 --> 00:08:48,679 Speaker 1: every single thing in our life faces. And there's beauty 148 00:08:48,720 --> 00:08:50,960 Speaker 1: in that because that is how we get new things 149 00:08:51,040 --> 00:08:54,480 Speaker 1: right And even for me, you know, thinking about change 150 00:08:54,520 --> 00:08:58,000 Speaker 1: that happened in my social life, in my way of life, 151 00:08:58,040 --> 00:09:02,000 Speaker 1: some of it happening outside of my control, people falling off, 152 00:09:02,040 --> 00:09:06,040 Speaker 1: you know, friendships, relationships, whatever that might be. But also 153 00:09:06,679 --> 00:09:09,640 Speaker 1: recognizing that if I wanted to dig deeper into my 154 00:09:09,720 --> 00:09:13,120 Speaker 1: own fulfillment, I had to make personal changes, right. I 155 00:09:13,160 --> 00:09:15,839 Speaker 1: had to become a better version of myself. I had 156 00:09:15,880 --> 00:09:18,160 Speaker 1: to be better at setting boundaries. I had to be 157 00:09:18,200 --> 00:09:22,520 Speaker 1: more proactive in sort of taking control of the people 158 00:09:22,559 --> 00:09:24,680 Speaker 1: that I had around me in these situations that I 159 00:09:24,679 --> 00:09:29,280 Speaker 1: found myself in, right, changing my lifestyle completely to then 160 00:09:29,360 --> 00:09:34,079 Speaker 1: birth this new version of myself that I'm incredibly happy 161 00:09:34,120 --> 00:09:36,640 Speaker 1: and fulfilled, getting to live as right and accepting the 162 00:09:36,679 --> 00:09:38,520 Speaker 1: fact that at some point I'm gonna have to do 163 00:09:38,559 --> 00:09:41,000 Speaker 1: this all over again. For the next chapter of my 164 00:09:41,080 --> 00:09:43,400 Speaker 1: life now. With that said, thank you so much for 165 00:09:43,600 --> 00:09:46,160 Speaker 1: checking out the Street Stoke Podcast. Do your best to 166 00:09:46,160 --> 00:09:48,559 Speaker 1: apply these concepts that we discussed into everyday life, and 167 00:09:48,600 --> 00:09:57,480 Speaker 1: I'll catch you next time. The Street Stoke Podcast is 168 00:09:57,480 --> 00:10:00,840 Speaker 1: a production of Iheart's Michael Dura Cast Networks