Speaker 1: Watch up and welcome back to another episode and No
Speaker 1: Sillers podcast with your host and I fuck that with
Speaker 1: your low blasses, Malone. I grew up with my grandparents,
Speaker 1: you know, because my mom she got killed when years old.
Speaker 1: I had to live with them full time and I
Speaker 1: wouldn't stayed with them, and it was like we was
Speaker 1: living on my grandfather's income. So he was real old
Speaker 1: fashioned representation and tradition for me. So he would just
Speaker 1: come and get my grandmother this check. And I never
Speaker 1: understood that growing up. I was like, you're just gonna
Speaker 1: give her an old check. He was like, yeah, just
Speaker 1: smiled at you like and then later like as an
Speaker 1: adult and something. He said, you couldn't see it and
Speaker 1: you won't understand it because she was a baby. But
Speaker 1: she say, but when I gave your mama to check,
Speaker 1: it was it was? He said, when it gave your
Speaker 1: mama to check and stopped her from looking at things,
Speaker 1: I couldn't give up because she was aware of what
Speaker 1: was really there. It made my responsibilities her responsibilities. So
Speaker 1: she had to pay the bills. And because she was
Speaker 1: paying the bills, she knew she may require some black pumps,
Speaker 1: but to look good when we look good, we feel good.
Speaker 1: But she may not necessarily have to have read on
Speaker 1: the bottom. It may not have to be Christian Lupton,
Speaker 1: the expensive ones, and they just have to be nice
Speaker 1: black pumps for her to wear. You know, if she
Speaker 1: knows what financially you can bear, she don't feel deprived
Speaker 1: because she can't have him at that point. If you
Speaker 1: understand where you're at financially, you make the logical decisions
Speaker 1: versus if you didn't have an understanding, because he was
Speaker 1: handling things, then you could feel the pride. So again right,
Speaker 1: starting with this fifty cent thing. Right, he didn't understand
Speaker 1: why his grandfather gave his and mother the whole check
Speaker 1: and negotiated his kick back. Yeah, it's the way a
Speaker 1: sister will respect you contributing everything. And so there's two
Speaker 1: parts of that that makes sense. The first part is one,
Speaker 1: she'll respect your contributions. She she she goes your contributions right.
Speaker 1: Part two, you will be able to negotiate a better
Speaker 1: kick back with the same respect. Like I said, Muk.
Speaker 1: If Muk is giving up, let's say seventify of his check.
Speaker 1: Because a woman could not see the whole thing, it's
Speaker 1: still like, oh well, it's still ship talking. But if
Speaker 1: he was to give her his whole check and negotiate
Speaker 1: his kick back his arounds, he would end up with
Speaker 1: more money and less ship talking from motherfucking the woman.
Speaker 1: I don't even know if that's guaranteed, it's get runteed.
Speaker 1: I think that the phrase less ship talking from the
Speaker 1: woman and guaranteed need to be separated by some sort
Speaker 1: of qualifier linguistically, possibly the word not. I'm telling you
Speaker 1: this is really how it is. It makes sense, and
Speaker 1: that sounds logical. What you said, it's not logical. That's
Speaker 1: why it's not really logical. Like women are crazy, right
Speaker 1: when it comes to relationship finances. They would so this
Speaker 1: is them without information because they're emotionally they're emotionally intelligent.
Speaker 1: I mean, they're intelligence is really in their emotions. So
Speaker 1: they would data man that's giving them a hundred dollars
Speaker 1: a month and he's making three thousand dollars a month,
Speaker 1: then data man who's giving who's giving them sixty dollars
Speaker 1: a month and he's only making seventy. If they don't
Speaker 1: know how much is really there. The only way they
Speaker 1: were respected there is if you come up and you say, hey,
Speaker 1: I made seventy dollars today? Here is it all? Can
Speaker 1: I get ten dollars? I'm going to do something. She
Speaker 1: would respect you a hundred times more. But if if
Speaker 1: you avoid them of the complete picture, the complete picture,
Speaker 1: they're going to go with what's more, and they're gonna
Speaker 1: talk shit about what's more anyway or what's less. Very insatiable,
Speaker 1: so it's never enough. How was your household growing up, Pete? Like,
Speaker 1: how was your parents? I mean, was your dad pretty
Speaker 1: much carrying the whole burden of all the finances? Um,
Speaker 1: my mom didn't work till I was probably from when
Speaker 1: I was really little to like eleven, and she's worked
Speaker 1: ever since, like still to this day. So like even
Speaker 1: at that point, they put all the money into the
Speaker 1: joint account and my mom will pay the bills and
Speaker 1: buy the food and all that kind of ship. Like
Speaker 1: she my dad doesn't spend all the money. He's like
Speaker 1: dirt cheap, but he's gonna managed like other than buying
Speaker 1: day to day expensive ship. It's not a nickel moving that.
Speaker 1: He doesn't bring life by anybody, mm hmm move. What
Speaker 1: was what do you remember the relationship finances when you
Speaker 1: were younger? Um? From my mom's end. She was single,
Speaker 1: so she she did it all. Uh. And when I
Speaker 1: was at Pop's house, Uh, step mom brought in more
Speaker 1: money than Pops. He had times where he probably wasn't
Speaker 1: bringing in too much. So what I saw was the
Speaker 1: females dominating the economic side. Yeah, let me as your question,
Speaker 1: did your dad come give her the money? Yeah? He
Speaker 1: gave what he what he could when he got it.
Speaker 1: But I don't know as far as the specifics. Was
Speaker 1: he giving it all and negotiating um, you know, because
Speaker 1: you gotta remember also, even if he was doing that,
Speaker 1: what I do know is he always had cash and
Speaker 1: stuff on him. So if he was doing that, she
Speaker 1: made sure that he had a certain amount on him
Speaker 1: to look good in front of uncles and families and
Speaker 1: stuff like that. So he always had some cash and
Speaker 1: ship on him. So I but I just knew that
Speaker 1: who was dominating the finances based on Uh. I was
Speaker 1: smart enough to see the jobs he was having versus
Speaker 1: a job she had, you know what I mean. She
Speaker 1: was working back then at a pack bill and I
Speaker 1: remember at first, you know, she was going great, uh
Speaker 1: with him, like GT or something like that, doing that,
Speaker 1: and then uh, after that, he was even struggling with jobs,
Speaker 1: and then he ended up getting back on the probably
Speaker 1: the dominant side when he got with American Airlines m
Speaker 1: but that was later. I was kind of and didn't matter,
Speaker 1: didn't affect me. Big Al was a savage Olivia. I
Speaker 1: mean my dad. When I was real little, my dad
Speaker 1: was getting it. He had told trucks, so he put
Speaker 1: her through school. To some degree. My mom always was
Speaker 1: don't matter who she was, dad, and it was gonna
Speaker 1: be tough for them to compete with her because like
Speaker 1: her drive to get to it. It's different. I think
Speaker 1: I get a lot of my drive from her Jesus animal,
Speaker 1: and I have to really strain, how because I will
Speaker 1: go do a lot of things that most human beings,
Speaker 1: you know, I won't do to earn revenue, and I
Speaker 1: have no problem doing it. So I have to really
Speaker 1: strain my drive to some degree. But I always start
Speaker 1: growing up like I would like if I was a pharmacist,
Speaker 1: I would give my wife the whole check. I would
Speaker 1: let her deal with the finances, paying the bills, but
Speaker 1: I wouldn't negotiate my kick back mhm that I would
Speaker 1: function with through the month. Because at an early age,
Speaker 1: I understood. Women kind of have to see everything so
Speaker 1: they can see the whole picture, so they could put
Speaker 1: respect on what you bring it to the table, because
Speaker 1: if they can't see everything, then they will assume it's more. Again,
Speaker 1: we we all commonly all agreed between the conversation of accountability.
Speaker 1: They lack that right too. They're also insatiable. Nothing is
Speaker 1: ever enough, right, but they will put risk epect on
Speaker 1: your name when they see you giving them everything you got. Believe, yeah,
Speaker 1: I appreciate you giving me everything you have nowhere near enough,
Speaker 1: but I appreciate the They won't say say that to you,
Speaker 1: but that's what they're thinking. No, they they now see
Speaker 1: I don't know what they thank you. That's a whole
Speaker 1: another story. But I don't think they shouldn't have used
Speaker 1: the word thinking that's too strong a word. They're gonna
Speaker 1: cull too strong a word. That is, they're gonna murder you.
Speaker 1: You know what, I'll give them credit. I give them
Speaker 1: credits that they won't feel like it's not enough. I
Speaker 1: think they'll make it work until they want the next
Speaker 1: want and trying to see their friends have the thing
Speaker 1: that they don't have. That. Yeah, but it will always
Speaker 1: be this sense of my man is giving me everything
Speaker 1: he got. It's a different that's a different floss in
Speaker 1: two for a woman. It's a different floss in two
Speaker 1: for woman. Man, I think that depends on the woman.
Speaker 1: All these new school bitches, so I gotta get out
Speaker 1: of this bullshit. All these these new school bitches, they
Speaker 1: don't they're looking, they're watching all these other motherfucker's on
Speaker 1: the social media. They don't give a funk what what
Speaker 1: man is giving them all they got. They're looking at
Speaker 1: old with it. This man is able to give them this. Yeah, man,
Speaker 1: these don't agree with y'all. And for what in my life,
Speaker 1: I actually am finding myself in a position to to
Speaker 1: defend modern femininity. I think that's a consistent thing about women.
Speaker 1: It's good their motherfucker's is. I watched it all the time.
Speaker 1: I think, see, my fucking need a car because another
Speaker 1: because another motherfucker got a new But now we're feel
Speaker 1: to get to some whole instatational ship. But that's about
Speaker 1: that's what that involves. And I don't think they'll ever
Speaker 1: say to you. They'll know they can't afford a car.
Speaker 1: If they're seeing your whole chip, they'll know they can't
Speaker 1: afford the car, and they'll and they'll deal with it.
Speaker 1: One thousand times better than not knowing what exactly you
Speaker 1: have and you're not giving them a car. Hey, okay,
Speaker 1: you can believe what you want, I'm telling you. And
Speaker 1: that way, that's a thousand times better than the first way.
Speaker 1: It's still terrible. What's terrible about it? You see, she's
Speaker 1: gonna do something wrong with the money. Let me ask
Speaker 1: a question. Here's a here's a better question. Here's a
Speaker 1: better question. Let's say, Pete, right now, you meet some
Speaker 1: Miami style you, some cold woman that you really fall
Speaker 1: in love with. Right right, the magic happens for you.
Speaker 1: I know it's been a while since the magic happen
Speaker 1: for you. You're fighting magic. It's not really a twinkle
Speaker 1: for you. But let's say the magic happens, right. Do
Speaker 1: you believe because she lives there? Should you guys split
Speaker 1: the rent or the mortgage? I'm personally, I'm not having that.
Speaker 1: Just meet personally. If I can't carry the whole thing,
Speaker 1: thank you, I'll just let her go. You can go.
Speaker 1: You need to focus on ship anyway. Yeah, so you do.
Speaker 1: So your goal is to pay the whole thing you
Speaker 1: have to carry the financial burning. My my goal is
Speaker 1: one equity ownership. You just need to be able to
Speaker 1: tell her his mind. Everything here is mine. You can
Speaker 1: do what you please. But you know, I think no, no, no, no.
Speaker 1: See I definitely agree with that. I think that's where
Speaker 1: a lot of us go wrong. See what happens is
Speaker 1: I'll use more situations that I was in. That I've
Speaker 1: been in is my in my brain. I've said, man,
Speaker 1: the best bet is for us to wait till I
Speaker 1: can do this, this, this, and this. Let me stay
Speaker 1: where I'm at. You stay where you're at, and do
Speaker 1: what that way. And here's what happens in the community.
Speaker 1: And and men, we we you know, falling in love
Speaker 1: with the picture of some bullshit, but we get talked
Speaker 1: into no, it don't matter. I just want you here
Speaker 1: all the time, and we can make this ship word
Speaker 1: list and that. And then you got in that process
Speaker 1: for dupe for dup for do you get some and
Speaker 1: you get some pussy? And she really want me here, Yeah,
Speaker 1: she just wants me. And I'm talking about I've known better,
Speaker 1: I've known him where it and I got duped listening
Speaker 1: to the listening to nuts come out and all type
Speaker 1: of ship and pussy and liking it and and yeah,
Speaker 1: funk all that for dupe for dupe for dupe. I
Speaker 1: see a thing all time on like social media, women
Speaker 1: saying I just want a man I can build with,
Speaker 1: but they misspelled the word. They always say b U
Speaker 1: I l D and what they really mean our ourd.
Speaker 1: You fucking go No, that's right, because look, this is
Speaker 1: the ship. I've noticed too. It's happened all the time.
Speaker 1: That's why I'm not. I don't give an what he's
Speaker 1: talking about. Your hud and them just not seeing the
Speaker 1: rests and this is making dude, once you become involved,
Speaker 1: automatically they see, oh, well, automatically, I should be able
Speaker 1: to get this, this, this, and this and this now
Speaker 1: period you can give my hunted, this and that. You
Speaker 1: know what they're gonna saying, you give my hunt They
Speaker 1: see the whole ship, they're gonna see, well, you know what,
Speaker 1: he can figure out how to go out there and
Speaker 1: get more than totally disagree. I'm just telling you it's
Speaker 1: two against one, so I'm not It's not crazy. I
Speaker 1: just totally disagree. I genuinely think women think I think
Speaker 1: women back in the day had that in them I'm
Speaker 1: talking about even women today. Yeah, and I don't. I
Speaker 1: think that's really really, really really old women today. Yeah.
Speaker 1: How old we go born in nineteen twenty, born in nine, yeah,
Speaker 1: pre war, pre war chicks, pre World War two, yeah,
Speaker 1: the Big War, the Big one. Yeah, not pre commonly
Speaker 1: pre war majority for sure. We think no of them.
Speaker 1: I think, I think, um, I think men. The homie
Speaker 1: had a conversation women natural nature, right, is to be selfless.
Speaker 1: They that's their natural nature. Everything about a woman is giving,
Speaker 1: right and naturally. But then every day they are alive
Speaker 1: in this world, they begin to take and then they come.
Speaker 1: So once they get into the world right, and then
Speaker 1: they start listening to the world, then they actually go
Speaker 1: into a phase to be like me, me, me, I think,
Speaker 1: I think the world. I think, I think the red
Speaker 1: you're still vagina is it's me. Yeah. Lets let me
Speaker 1: point out an evolutionary approach to this. Since the dawn
Speaker 1: of you know, mankind, like I'm talking homo habilious, homo
Speaker 1: erect us, way back when we were just loose packs
Speaker 1: of mammals like any other pack mammal. Basically, how it
Speaker 1: is because it takes human offspring so long to develop
Speaker 1: women stay in. Men go out and bring resources to women.
Speaker 1: Men produced, women consumed. It's dug into the DNA. There's
Speaker 1: only older. There's there's older stories of many women. That
Speaker 1: proves that that's not true, that that women do go
Speaker 1: out and do the same thing. But I do wives tales.
Speaker 1: They created that their old stories and went back to
Speaker 1: right there, old story. There's no husband's tales. We just
Speaker 1: call host history and it's out here. He said, there's
Speaker 1: no old He said, he noticed, there's never no old
Speaker 1: husband tell There's only old. So listen. So the thing is,
Speaker 1: when you actually get into the actual part of sex, right,
Speaker 1: it's not about giving them me right. You're you're literally
Speaker 1: they're giving you their body right. And you put a
Speaker 1: baby in there, and then they give you a kid,
Speaker 1: and they make a house at home and the couch
Speaker 1: that no, literally they delivered the kid to you literally
Speaker 1: bring into this world. They don't bring the kid into
Speaker 1: this world. How many children you got? I got sick?
Speaker 1: How many times you've seen this happen? All right? Now,
Speaker 1: what the hell are you talking about? Trust me, whatever
Speaker 1: meet you gave them cannot contend with the meat they
Speaker 1: pushing out. Man, you ain't giving them ten pounds of meat. No, no,
Speaker 1: no, no no, I didn't say. I mean, you could be
Speaker 1: a bad motherfucking but god damn what I'm saying. At
Speaker 1: the end of the day, they used to receive and
Speaker 1: ship hands out at all time or something. I don't
Speaker 1: think that's true period. I don't. I don't. You can
Speaker 1: not think nothing. I mean because personally I've seen it's
Speaker 1: not always like that. I don't think they're always trying
Speaker 1: to receive. I think society teaches them you gotta think right.
Speaker 1: Society teaches women, and they teach us that women are special, right,
Speaker 1: and genetically speaking, that's true to some degree, right, But
Speaker 1: then the world tells them right to that they're valuable
Speaker 1: just because they exist. That's a weird thing. It's like,
Speaker 1: I think we were talking about this before where we
Speaker 1: was talking to some lady on the podcast back in
Speaker 1: the day, and she was like, he should just be
Speaker 1: happy that I'm just here. So they're taught that, right,
Speaker 1: and we're taught that, we're taught that they're special, they're innocent,
Speaker 1: they're great, right, and then every day we're on earth,
Speaker 1: they prove those things wrong outside because of bias juries.
Speaker 1: That's all. That's going on every day we're on Earth.
Speaker 1: They started showing us that they aren't that different from us.
Speaker 1: In California, Man, we pay attention to that. We're like, okay,
Speaker 1: feel me. So that's why I mean, so we we
Speaker 1: the pedestal gets lower and lower. But again, I still
Speaker 1: think the brilliant points, the genius points in them is
Speaker 1: if they know you're giving your all feel me. They
Speaker 1: are different. Even some of the worst ones like Pete don't.
Speaker 1: I don't know if Pete, I don't know if if
Speaker 1: white Pete Douce got money. I probably imagine because he's
Speaker 1: not as famous, he might got some money. But does he.
Speaker 1: I mean, he got white people money. So it's always different,
Speaker 1: even a wealthy nigga money and better the white people
Speaker 1: rich money. But whatever little bit he's given Kim right,
Speaker 1: it's more than enough. She him standing alone of money.
Speaker 1: But again we're talking about no no, no, I don't
Speaker 1: talk about that type of ship. No, talk about some
Speaker 1: regular smugglers. And we just heard fifty cents right now,
Speaker 1: right talk about grandfather giving his grandmother the whole check.
Speaker 1: In her mindset, it's totally different. It's like having a
Speaker 1: like what Eddie Murphys said, get you a zererra bitch
Speaker 1: before they become americanized. You're talking about an ancient woman
Speaker 1: and no longer exists. They don't exist. I don't. You
Speaker 1: can believe that all you want, and I'm glad you're
Speaker 1: so optimistic, but that ain't how it's going right now. Man.
Speaker 1: So you don't think there are a ton of households
Speaker 1: where men are giving women their check and they're not
Speaker 1: complaining to them about finances. No, I think there's a
Speaker 1: lot of households for men are giving women their check. Yeah.
Speaker 1: I agree with that part too. That's about it, the
Speaker 1: complaining part. When you're talking about regular average dudes. We're
Speaker 1: talking about dudes in the fifties and the sixties of
Speaker 1: thousands or forties. Man, most of these bras because they're
Speaker 1: sitting here and watching all these timelines and all these
Speaker 1: other people with these red bottoms or all these different cars,
Speaker 1: all the different ship that they want to be involved in.
Speaker 1: I don't think you're giving women enough credit. I'm telling
Speaker 1: I'm telling enough credit. I'm never give them enough credit.
Speaker 1: They burn right through it before the pace exactly, your
Speaker 1: credit score is gonna go drop. I don't think so.
Speaker 1: I think I think women at a certain way when
Speaker 1: they're always trying to figure things out. I was in
Speaker 1: the situation to give sure. I still was unable to
Speaker 1: pay my own car note, unable to pay insurance sure right,
Speaker 1: unable to pay cable and check this out. I still
Speaker 1: was doing it. But again, hold on where I'm getting
Speaker 1: to exist me hoping that she's gonna give me to negotiate.
Speaker 1: Sometimes the way I was doing things, it wasn't gonna
Speaker 1: work that way. If I if I had to wait
Speaker 1: to see what I'm gonna negotiate, it is to that
Speaker 1: to do. You don't You don't have to wait. You
Speaker 1: can put a permanent negotiation there. You can immediately start
Speaker 1: us to hell. You know what I had in the
Speaker 1: pige because I'm gonna give you the whole check. I'm
Speaker 1: gonna depot hole checking your account, and this is what
Speaker 1: we're gonna do. I'm gonna take this much percentage to
Speaker 1: live because I have to drive to work. I have
Speaker 1: to do these things right here. That's what I was doing.
Speaker 1: That's the same thing. She didn't see it that man. Listen,
Speaker 1: I'm telling you no counts except for the counts. That's
Speaker 1: also different. You said what that's also different. Yeah, because again,
Speaker 1: if somebody can see every dime coming in, they have
Speaker 1: to put a different respect on what's Listen, women just
Speaker 1: want you to give all yourself and then something. That's
Speaker 1: what that's in in the situation I'm referencing, is what
Speaker 1: I was doing. No again, because she can't see you
Speaker 1: giving all of yourself. You know what would have happened
Speaker 1: if she was saw All that would have happened was
Speaker 1: the expectation to be going somewhere else and getting some
Speaker 1: more money. You need to don the job. That's it.
Speaker 1: I thought that was gonna happen. I don't think so.
Speaker 1: I think I think I got happen. But I think
Speaker 1: you don't think so. You can't be sure if you
Speaker 1: never tried. I know you gotta try, man, I don't
Speaker 1: gotta try. Ship, I'm telling you right, man, See, when
Speaker 1: you know the motherfucker's you deal with, you know that
Speaker 1: certain ship, it ain't it ain't gonna change. I don't.
Speaker 1: I disagree. I think all of these things are variables
Speaker 1: right where you If you change certain numbers, the equation
Speaker 1: can spit out of different So check this out. So
Speaker 1: here here here's the deal I negotiate. Did this is
Speaker 1: what I could afford when I was at a job
Speaker 1: that I was making more money. So now let's go
Speaker 1: to logic. When we got men in the room, right,
Speaker 1: So if I negotiate, Let's say, if I negotiate, all
Speaker 1: I can pay is this, And I was at a job. Listen, listening,
Speaker 1: I was at a job that was making more money
Speaker 1: when this happened. When I negotiated this, this is what
Speaker 1: I'm gonna pay. Boom, boom boom. Then if I lost
Speaker 1: this job and got another job, but I was already
Speaker 1: making less, but I'm still paying the same overhead. See, automatically,
Speaker 1: that's a part of that. You you're you should automatically
Speaker 1: be able to see. Wait a minute, you was at
Speaker 1: this job and you're paying this amount. Now you're going
Speaker 1: to this job and I have informed you that I
Speaker 1: am making less than I was making at the other job,
Speaker 1: but I am still paying the same amount. That's automatic
Speaker 1: to go okay, But that ain't would happen because the
Speaker 1: respectus still be there going okay. Well, wait a minute,
Speaker 1: if he was only paying if he was paying this
Speaker 1: amount when he was making this amount, and now he
Speaker 1: dropped to where he's only making this amount, but he's
Speaker 1: still paying this. He's a cold nigger. And I would
Speaker 1: say the exact same thing if they saw the whole No, see,
Speaker 1: because me logic already says that if I'm fucking if you,
Speaker 1: if you're making sixty, thou here and you're paying fucking
Speaker 1: are they seeing it? Listen, it don't matter. It matters.
Speaker 1: I'm when I'm getting to why, I don't because if
Speaker 1: I was making six and I was giving you fifty,
Speaker 1: and now I lost that job that was paying me sixty,
Speaker 1: and now I'm only making fifty, but I'm still figuring
Speaker 1: out how to give you fifty, you should automatically logically,
Speaker 1: just nothing about a woman is automatic. But that just
Speaker 1: what this tells me is at some point then you're
Speaker 1: an idiot. So if you're an idiot, that's cool. It's
Speaker 1: like you don't have to respect it, but that you
Speaker 1: don't have to respect that I'm giving you fifty. It's
Speaker 1: out of fifty. That's it's not about respecting, right, it's
Speaker 1: and it's not just you just said they were gonna
Speaker 1: respect me more if they knew the whole picture. Yes,
Speaker 1: So if I'm giving you the whole know now what
Speaker 1: you're doing is saying the whole picture. I think you
Speaker 1: can see the whole picture. Then something's wrong with you. No,
Speaker 1: you're not the whole picture. Said against link here. I
Speaker 1: think you're talking about seeing the whole number. I don't
Speaker 1: think that's really what it is. I think they like
Speaker 1: to have U the control and the role and the
Speaker 1: feeling of purpose to where they I'm so integral. I
Speaker 1: have to be here when he gets a check, I
Speaker 1: get the whole check, and then I can manage my life,
Speaker 1: his life, the householdows to give them a scale of
Speaker 1: purpose and belonging. I think he's right. Yeah, but here's
Speaker 1: the problem. You said you you said you who me.
Speaker 1: I've had girls complained about you like that to me.
Speaker 1: Like They'll be like like, like, what do you want
Speaker 1: for me? I'm like nothing? So what am I supposed
Speaker 1: to do? I don't know, be here or don't, but
Speaker 1: I don't want or need anything from you. I'll I
Speaker 1: could cook better than you, I can clean. You don't
Speaker 1: need to do that. You only to do a goddamn thing.
Speaker 1: If your presence makes me happy, to just be present
Speaker 1: and do whatever makes you happy. But they need to
Speaker 1: feel a sense of purpose and then bothered them being
Speaker 1: of no consequence spotted them because they live in the
Speaker 1: university consequences. I agree, I agree, I agree, you know, honestly,
Speaker 1: I agree with what y'all what you're seeing g as
Speaker 1: well as far as giving it to him and then
Speaker 1: seeing it and and hopefully is gonna open up something
Speaker 1: in their head. But what I'm telling you is how
Speaker 1: I'm feeling my cases that I've been involved in. To me,
Speaker 1: what's the difference in you seeing the exact number or
Speaker 1: I just gave you the number? A total difference. It's
Speaker 1: not about the number. It's like white men can't jump,
Speaker 1: um hm. It's about the feeling. It's just you really lose.
Speaker 1: Sometimes when you pay, you really with hold that sometimes
Speaker 1: hold and sometimes when you right get laid off, you
Speaker 1: pay and with hold or neither. Ye always you give
Speaker 1: it a whole unemployment. Yea. So here's the other deal,
Speaker 1: because now that I'm thinking about it, it is being sold.
Speaker 1: It was all based on when when you do things together,
Speaker 1: it got it got saw that way. How when when
Speaker 1: you when you get a car together, again, that's not
Speaker 1: you're doing something what really is or paycheck stuff? Now
Speaker 1: it's not he's telling you, yes, but what you do
Speaker 1: not see a number. You're you're trying to find a
Speaker 1: sophisticated logical way, right, that's simple. It's not. I can
Speaker 1: tell you it's not about the numbers. So what is
Speaker 1: it about seeing the number? You know, it's about my number,
Speaker 1: the whole number of what I get going into the count,
Speaker 1: running the house. It's not the number. And that's where
Speaker 1: we differ at They will take somebody that's making one
Speaker 1: thousand dollars, he said, Man, I just need a hundred
Speaker 1: dollars to catch bus to work. She'll be happy and
Speaker 1: somebody else could have more than her. And now this
Speaker 1: this could be me being a bit naive to thinking
Speaker 1: women could be you know, this is just optimistic. Respect.
Speaker 1: This is beautiful. I don't know I'm saying. I think
Speaker 1: they would give you a hundred dollars and be just
Speaker 1: as proud you're giving them the money, even a modern
Speaker 1: woman who is kind of the prisoner to social media.
Speaker 1: And okay, you know the desires of modern day people period,
Speaker 1: because of what social media the force. Of course, it's
Speaker 1: exceptions to the rule. And I'm telling you, at the
Speaker 1: end of the day, the percentage is fucking eight of
Speaker 1: the brawls ain't doing that. I think it's brads doing it,
Speaker 1: not doing it. That's beautiful. Highly disagree because to me,
Speaker 1: what you just said with giving them the whole check
Speaker 1: and this and that and that, same woman should be
Speaker 1: able to see mathematics. If you if you tell a motherfucker,
Speaker 1: i'm making sixty, I'm giving you fifty. So you so
Speaker 1: they have no They have no fucking logic, no conversation.
Speaker 1: We just started the conversation, say women, are you have
Speaker 1: no logic? It's not about that. It's if you say
Speaker 1: you're making if you're smart enough to be able to
Speaker 1: I've dune my whole check in right, you seeing my
Speaker 1: hundred percent of everything I'm giving you right if you're
Speaker 1: smart enough to go, oh, I'll give you. You know
Speaker 1: you're smart enough to do and calculate. Emotionally intelligent, Okay,
Speaker 1: I hear you. How they feel is a lot different
Speaker 1: than the conversation of intellect of you saying numbers. The
Speaker 1: fact that she feels that you will commit your whole
Speaker 1: check to her right shows a different level of commitment.
Speaker 1: Even if you are getting more back right at that time,
Speaker 1: even if you're getting more back than you were giving her,
Speaker 1: it's how she would feel about it. So she can't
Speaker 1: feel that I'm giving a if first off, if I'm
Speaker 1: even if I literally she sees it, you're undercutting. She
Speaker 1: had to feel like you want the cutting her because
Speaker 1: I'm doing what Because you're you're taking from her the
Speaker 1: opportunity to be in charge and to have a role.
Speaker 1: You're reducing her role. Oh wow, you know, and you
Speaker 1: know I will agree with y'all on this because I've
Speaker 1: seen this too. I've seen never mind, go ahead, I'll
Speaker 1: just you know what we're gonna say. No, no, no,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna agree. I'm just gonna agree on this one.
Speaker 1: I agree. So my my mentality is, and this is
Speaker 1: how I feel about that whole ship. If I had
Speaker 1: a regular gig, I would always pay the rent, even
Speaker 1: if I needed to make her pay bills, I would
Speaker 1: pay that well. Actually, if I would be more committed,
Speaker 1: actually that's probably what I would do. Like if I'm
Speaker 1: I'm married and I'll regularly give I'll give it a
Speaker 1: whole check and negotiate a percentage myself every month. This
Speaker 1: is what I need. If I'm making let's say I'm
Speaker 1: making three dollars a month. Little what about now, Okay,
Speaker 1: So I wouldn't negotiate a percentage and give her the
Speaker 1: whole thing that would make her feel better consistently, no
Speaker 1: matter what the amount is, because that way I got it.
Speaker 1: Whatever he was, I got it off from me. If
Speaker 1: you give her all the money and then she gives
Speaker 1: you some of your money back, then she's up the
Speaker 1: understanding that you work for her and that's all she wants. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's what you think it is, dude, that's all you
Speaker 1: just explained. It's not strong enough a word. That's all
Speaker 1: you explained. I don't believe. And this is my thing.
Speaker 1: I don't know, man. I think I think women. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I genuinely think. I genuinely think women just want to
Speaker 1: feel like whoever they're dealing with is all the way,
Speaker 1: and they want to feel that they're all the way in. Yeah. Yeah,
Speaker 1: like an employee who lives paycheck to paycheck. You can't
Speaker 1: afford to lose this job. That's exactly now. Now, now
Speaker 1: y'all make it more sense again, It's all about how
Speaker 1: she feels. It's all the same ship. Like I said,
Speaker 1: at the end of the day, at some point, you
Speaker 1: gotta have some type of understanding of just fucking numbers.
Speaker 1: If you can't see fucking somebody giving you a keep
Speaker 1: speaking Spanish, and then you're saying that not small, you're
Speaker 1: speaking English to somebody who speaks Spanish. I understand. We
Speaker 1: both agree that in theory they should speak English because
Speaker 1: there are ergan citizens use in words like women and should,
Speaker 1: back and back, and then incorporating energ these concepts like
Speaker 1: numbers and lots and things. That is ridiculous. We're gonna
Speaker 1: listen to a show like this kind of ideas flowing around.
Speaker 1: They go burg you on the cross, so they so
Speaker 1: they can't understand ten dollars giving you eight they don't understand,
Speaker 1: Just give them the ten and make them give you
Speaker 1: back to and make them give me back to. That
Speaker 1: way you count to two, you're still doing the numbers,
Speaker 1: and they're still in charge exactly. Well, and that, my friend,
Speaker 1: is why you've probably got a lot of issues in
Speaker 1: the in the world. Well, it's only issues if you
Speaker 1: don't want to speak somebody else's language. Women have a
Speaker 1: different language than we have. Some of them don't, but
Speaker 1: most have to start speaking our language too at some
Speaker 1: point and or not. That's how it's gonna go. Now,
Speaker 1: that's where I think women have changed. They definitely are
Speaker 1: a lot less likely to speak our language than ever before. Yes,
Speaker 1: they definitely have got rid of the concept of bilingual.
Speaker 1: They are speaking Spanish, they are not speaking English. They
Speaker 1: like funk with y'all, talk about I'm not speaking no
Speaker 1: motherfucking Anglish. I speak Spanish definitely, so they don't care
Speaker 1: to learn English again. It's also about being a master
Speaker 1: of everything around you and understanding also right in these relationships.
Speaker 1: Like I was telling the hommie of how to conquer it.
Speaker 1: So if you're not gonna pay for everything, you give
Speaker 1: her a check, negotiate your kick back. That's gonna shut
Speaker 1: her right up real fast, and it'll shut her up
Speaker 1: for a long time. She know you've given all you got. Man.
Speaker 1: You say a long time, A long time in woman
Speaker 1: terms is like nine months. That's pretty good. You're talking
Speaker 1: to calendars, I was talking clocks, you know, about tomorrow.
Speaker 1: I was like, maybe through the afternoon, you'll be all right.
Speaker 1: I have a little bit more faith in women than that.
Speaker 1: That's beautiful, man, But what you said is not wrong.
Speaker 1: I've proven that to be correct a couple of times
Speaker 1: in life. But overall, I think that's the catch. They
Speaker 1: just want to feel like, I feel like you're only.
Speaker 1: We want to see your only and they want to
Speaker 1: feel like your only. Yeah, that's probably true if it
Speaker 1: goes that women do crave security of life. As weird
Speaker 1: as that sound, like, I could die tomorrow. How could
Speaker 1: you crave something that I don't have control over? Again,
Speaker 1: their goal is to control right as much as they can. Here,
Speaker 1: here's another statistical fact for you. When when when a woman?
Speaker 1: When a married couples in married a long time, when
Speaker 1: the wife dies, husband follows pretty closely thereafter. When the
Speaker 1: husband dies, woman don't have another fifteen years, right, they'll
Speaker 1: find security. That's why they invented the guy next door.
Speaker 1: So you just have no Do you want to get married? Pete?
Speaker 1: Wants again? Wants is too strong a word. Would you
Speaker 1: be surprised if you got married at this point in time?
Speaker 1: Surprised is also not strong enough a word. Um, I
Speaker 1: don't know. I mean, anybody can get hit by a bus,
Speaker 1: I guess, but I don't know. Pretty hard to do
Speaker 1: when you're flying on scott Okay, So what would you do?
Speaker 1: What's your wife finances? Like? Just let's say you got
Speaker 1: hit by that bus that we call marriage. Look, I've
Speaker 1: set a poet to contribute any of the finances, She'll
Speaker 1: be doing none of that. What about the equity, lock, stock,
Speaker 1: and barrel? In my operation and my motto, as I've
Speaker 1: said before on this podcast, is anti quote. A good
Speaker 1: policy is spent twice as much money on the pre
Speaker 1: up legal costs as you spend on the ring. And that,
Speaker 1: my friend, is sound jack this free game and beat. Yeah,
Speaker 1: if you spend ten thousand dollars in the ring, you
Speaker 1: better be throwing out twenty dollars on the pre and
Speaker 1: up legal fees. Have a nice law firm and draw
Speaker 1: that document of error type and I mean airtight. I
Speaker 1: literally had this conversation with one of my co workers.
Speaker 1: I told them, just like this, man, this is a mistake.
Speaker 1: It is make because they were all in this bullshit
Speaker 1: trying to get some pussy. But motherfucker's is supposed to
Speaker 1: have your ship tight. They need to be coming and
Speaker 1: moving into Yola court instead of this old let's link
Speaker 1: up together or they you they already got the spot
Speaker 1: and you go into the spot. That's where we make
Speaker 1: the errors, man, That's where that's what happens. Man, And
Speaker 1: you're getting ruts and you're getting bullshit, you're getting conversations
Speaker 1: you don't even need to be having talking about throw
Speaker 1: your whole hundred percent because they can't see it. They
Speaker 1: need to see the whole hundred percent. They wouldn't need
Speaker 1: to see ship if they was coming to YO ship
Speaker 1: in the beginning. So that's where it needed to go.
Speaker 1: But if once you made the era, you ain't gotta
Speaker 1: you don't gotta do that. You gotta step your ship
Speaker 1: up and get it, get your ship together. But you
Speaker 1: need it. You need to do the right thing first,
Speaker 1: which is taking care of all your own ship, and
Speaker 1: they need to come move to your core, like brother
Speaker 1: Pete explained so eloquently earlier, and then they can stay
Speaker 1: or move or do what the funk they want to do,
Speaker 1: because they already know that they're coming into a hundred
Speaker 1: percent is YO ship. Once you start uh fucking negotiating
Speaker 1: moving in and all this whold other ship, when, especially
Speaker 1: when you ain't in position to be running it, you
Speaker 1: funk yourself, young man. Then you gotta do what this
Speaker 1: ny is talking about, which is fucking to give your
Speaker 1: whole hundred percent and negotiate thirty and hope that it's
Speaker 1: gonna work for no hope. Yeah, it's going it's gonna work.
Speaker 1: It worked for fifty grandfather, It's gonna work fifty saying
Speaker 1: grandfather was dealing with a whole another mentality. You keep
Speaker 1: doing that, but but you're not also told about niggas changed,
Speaker 1: like niggas is not consistent, so it's not women have changed. Listen,
Speaker 1: the best thing to do is have your ship straight,
Speaker 1: and you ain't gonna have to be worrying about what
Speaker 1: the fun is going on. And I'm saying, if you
Speaker 1: don't have your ship straight, just get many negotiate your
Speaker 1: man sucking kicked back even though you are already doing
Speaker 1: the distributing the other way. Guys, that don't even make sense.
Speaker 1: It's not your manhood. It's not your manhood. You really
Speaker 1: have a family, right, you can have a family. That's
Speaker 1: a man has a family, you mean man, You actually
Speaker 1: should do that if you're doing it. So, if you're
Speaker 1: doing it and it don't look the way you're saying,
Speaker 1: it looks you're saying that's a problem, it's not. Look
Speaker 1: it's feeling. I'm telling you you have to speak Spanish, Okay, Well,
Speaker 1: if if you're doing the same thing and it don't
Speaker 1: feel the same way for the same thing. It's the
Speaker 1: reason you're you're saying it's not the same thing. Brother.
Speaker 1: So yeah, you're talking about giving the ex Listen, No,
Speaker 1: we're talking about giving the same amount of money. Alright,
Speaker 1: we're talking about that's the thing that is the same.
Speaker 1: But the process outside of that is not saying. That's
Speaker 1: what I just said. If you're giving the same amount
Speaker 1: of money but it don't feel the same to her,
Speaker 1: that's where the problem is. So what about the man
Speaker 1: not feeling the same uh, as as a distributor, as
Speaker 1: as the provider, Well, he ain't feeling the same if
Speaker 1: he's giving off. If our whole check this was dumped
Speaker 1: somewhere else and I'm sitting here, we dump in your house.
Speaker 1: It ain't in my house because to be in her
Speaker 1: account so that she doesn't live in the same house.
Speaker 1: Said for it all to go there, and then I
Speaker 1: have to wait for her to distribute it back to me. Right,
Speaker 1: she could distribute it the same day. I'm still waiting
Speaker 1: card and take it. You can literally have a man
Speaker 1: today to have a joint account. Right, he could have
Speaker 1: a joint account and depositives, whole check in there, go
Speaker 1: and pull out the Let's say if he's making forty
Speaker 1: dollars bringing on forty, right, his check every month is
Speaker 1: thirty was that thirty five, thirty two or some change,
Speaker 1: thirty three somethingwhere like that. So let's say he negotiates
Speaker 1: then me roughly six hundred dollars, so you or or
Speaker 1: seven hundred dollars. Let's say twenty six is going to
Speaker 1: the house. He's taking save he can go, walk to
Speaker 1: the tim and that joint account, take that same honey
Speaker 1: that he's operating with right there, and it's done. I
Speaker 1: think if you're not having an account, you're kind of
Speaker 1: asking for some exactly you said what I think. If
Speaker 1: you're not, if you don't have a joint checking account
Speaker 1: in place, you're you're asking for a little You're you're
Speaker 1: you're establishing a premise that lends itself to a natural
Speaker 1: progression of a little bit attention. Dude, I'm not gonna
Speaker 1: shout I don't agree. My thing still it runs in
Speaker 1: it is Yeah, all right, man, I'm gonna concede. It's
Speaker 1: not and we're not debating, right, we're just talking theories.
Speaker 1: It's not really a debate. It's just theory. This is
Speaker 1: something that you you've experienced at one time, and men
Speaker 1: are getting into it today. What out what believe it? Again?
Speaker 1: The motherfucker still has to be grateful, and it's some
Speaker 1: motherfucker's that just sound grateful. It don't matter women women
Speaker 1: be grateful. They're not even grateful to God for the
Speaker 1: body they have. They're not grateful to God for the
Speaker 1: face they have. They literally alter a maka. They're not
Speaker 1: grateful to God with their height they were healed. They're
Speaker 1: not grate for to God with this shape they were.
Speaker 1: This is not a conversation. Somebody like probably the antonym like, uh,
Speaker 1: insafe strategy. So in the phone answers, y'all in this
Speaker 1: account negotiated. Both of you guys are sounding a little mule.
Speaker 1: I heard. So after you go do all these negotiations
Speaker 1: and then it still doesn't work, then what you do
Speaker 1: now you're stuck with a joint account with all your
Speaker 1: money going to hunderstand that you gotta fun. You can't
Speaker 1: play a game like you're going to lose. You can't
Speaker 1: play a game you're gonna lose like I get don't
Speaker 1: expect to lose. Yeah, but if you're walking into saying, well,
Speaker 1: what if it don't happen, it's it's it's going to win.
Speaker 1: I respect Pete Man. Then I didn't then now now
Speaker 1: I'm I'm definitely right for not putting a hunter, percing
Speaker 1: and nothing. Because when you say something like that, if
Speaker 1: I go into other parts of the finances, I got
Speaker 1: other I got other things that I could discuss on that.
Speaker 1: So you're gonna play on the team. You gotta play
Speaker 1: on the team so the team wins. Not to pack
Speaker 1: your stats. Yeah, I'm with you. I agree with you
Speaker 1: have to do all your bargaining independently before you sign it.
Speaker 1: Like Peter said, you have to have all your stipulations
Speaker 1: and clauses pre game, pre take the field. Because if
Speaker 1: if a dude, let's say, like like talking about Joey right,
Speaker 1: like let's say pre today, feel mean like if he
Speaker 1: walks into it he thought I was crazy, Like you
Speaker 1: mean give him my whole check. I'm like, yeah, if
Speaker 1: you're not going to cover at a percent of the expenses,
Speaker 1: just give her your whole check and negotiate the kickback.
Speaker 1: If you do that, you will cancel of the problems
Speaker 1: you're gonna run into economics, and you're gonna have her
Speaker 1: filling on a different level again because it's also showing
Speaker 1: trust in her to handle her business like peace saying,
Speaker 1: giving her purpose, about handling the business with bills. It
Speaker 1: all works together. Go ahead, tell us and get there's
Speaker 1: a there is an inherence. I say, have your ship
Speaker 1: together first, and then that's that way. You don't have
Speaker 1: to give You ain't got to do this. What's the
Speaker 1: problem with why? Why? Why? I have a family? Like
Speaker 1: let's say, like why give somebody? Why somebody? Why let
Speaker 1: somebody bring kids into this earth? Right? And then you
Speaker 1: share a domain with them and not feel like you
Speaker 1: should give a bro you should, I mean, you're you're
Speaker 1: all in, but you already all There's an intending collision
Speaker 1: that's on on track when they're talking about give all
Speaker 1: your trust and then that train's coming down, the trust train,
Speaker 1: and then you say the word money, and then you
Speaker 1: say the word woman, and and there's gonna be an
Speaker 1: explosive collision that happens. They're called reality and it's not
Speaker 1: gonna be fun. Good looking out for tuning into the
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