WEBVTT - Conversations About Relationship Finances 0:00:00.280 --> 0:00:02.800 Watch up and welcome back to another episode and No 0:00:02.960 --> 0:00:05.680 Sillers podcast with your host and I fuck that with 0:00:05.800 --> 0:00:14.800 your low blasses, Malone. I grew up with my grandparents, 0:00:15.080 --> 0:00:17.400 you know, because my mom she got killed when years old. 0:00:17.400 --> 0:00:19.360 I had to live with them full time and I 0:00:19.360 --> 0:00:21.959 wouldn't stayed with them, and it was like we was 0:00:22.000 --> 0:00:26.759 living on my grandfather's income. So he was real old 0:00:26.760 --> 0:00:30.560 fashioned representation and tradition for me. So he would just 0:00:30.680 --> 0:00:33.639 come and get my grandmother this check. And I never 0:00:33.720 --> 0:00:35.640 understood that growing up. I was like, you're just gonna 0:00:35.640 --> 0:00:37.440 give her an old check. He was like, yeah, just 0:00:37.760 --> 0:00:41.040 smiled at you like and then later like as an 0:00:41.040 --> 0:00:43.920 adult and something. He said, you couldn't see it and 0:00:43.960 --> 0:00:45.960 you won't understand it because she was a baby. But 0:00:45.960 --> 0:00:48.120 she say, but when I gave your mama to check, 0:00:49.040 --> 0:00:54.400 it was it was? He said, when it gave your 0:00:54.400 --> 0:00:56.240 mama to check and stopped her from looking at things, 0:00:56.400 --> 0:01:00.120 I couldn't give up because she was aware of what 0:01:00.280 --> 0:01:05.240 was really there. It made my responsibilities her responsibilities. So 0:01:05.360 --> 0:01:08.320 she had to pay the bills. And because she was 0:01:08.360 --> 0:01:11.800 paying the bills, she knew she may require some black pumps, 0:01:11.840 --> 0:01:14.319 but to look good when we look good, we feel good. 0:01:15.319 --> 0:01:17.800 But she may not necessarily have to have read on 0:01:17.840 --> 0:01:21.560 the bottom. It may not have to be Christian Lupton, 0:01:21.920 --> 0:01:25.000 the expensive ones, and they just have to be nice 0:01:25.040 --> 0:01:27.160 black pumps for her to wear. You know, if she 0:01:27.240 --> 0:01:31.960 knows what financially you can bear, she don't feel deprived 0:01:32.080 --> 0:01:36.640 because she can't have him at that point. If you 0:01:37.720 --> 0:01:41.240 understand where you're at financially, you make the logical decisions 0:01:41.880 --> 0:01:45.679 versus if you didn't have an understanding, because he was 0:01:45.680 --> 0:01:52.080 handling things, then you could feel the pride. So again right, 0:01:53.400 --> 0:01:57.720 starting with this fifty cent thing. Right, he didn't understand 0:01:57.760 --> 0:02:01.720 why his grandfather gave his and mother the whole check 0:02:02.120 --> 0:02:06.920 and negotiated his kick back. Yeah, it's the way a 0:02:07.120 --> 0:02:12.400 sister will respect you contributing everything. And so there's two 0:02:12.520 --> 0:02:15.920 parts of that that makes sense. The first part is one, 0:02:16.200 --> 0:02:22.440 she'll respect your contributions. She she she goes your contributions right. 0:02:24.040 --> 0:02:27.079 Part two, you will be able to negotiate a better 0:02:27.200 --> 0:02:31.920 kick back with the same respect. Like I said, Muk. 0:02:32.480 --> 0:02:37.840 If Muk is giving up, let's say seventify of his check. 0:02:38.200 --> 0:02:42.680 Because a woman could not see the whole thing, it's 0:02:42.720 --> 0:02:47.320 still like, oh well, it's still ship talking. But if 0:02:47.320 --> 0:02:50.600 he was to give her his whole check and negotiate 0:02:50.680 --> 0:02:54.079 his kick back his arounds, he would end up with 0:02:54.120 --> 0:02:58.400 more money and less ship talking from motherfucking the woman. 0:03:00.480 --> 0:03:03.520 I don't even know if that's guaranteed, it's get runteed. 0:03:04.320 --> 0:03:07.680 I think that the phrase less ship talking from the 0:03:07.680 --> 0:03:12.320 woman and guaranteed need to be separated by some sort 0:03:12.320 --> 0:03:19.639 of qualifier linguistically, possibly the word not. I'm telling you 0:03:20.360 --> 0:03:23.640 this is really how it is. It makes sense, and 0:03:23.720 --> 0:03:26.519 that sounds logical. What you said, it's not logical. That's 0:03:26.520 --> 0:03:30.480 why it's not really logical. Like women are crazy, right 0:03:30.840 --> 0:03:35.800 when it comes to relationship finances. They would so this 0:03:35.880 --> 0:03:41.800 is them without information because they're emotionally they're emotionally intelligent. 0:03:42.280 --> 0:03:45.920 I mean, they're intelligence is really in their emotions. So 0:03:46.800 --> 0:03:49.720 they would data man that's giving them a hundred dollars 0:03:49.720 --> 0:03:53.920 a month and he's making three thousand dollars a month, 0:03:54.400 --> 0:03:57.520 then data man who's giving who's giving them sixty dollars 0:03:57.560 --> 0:04:01.320 a month and he's only making seventy. If they don't 0:04:01.360 --> 0:04:06.320 know how much is really there. The only way they 0:04:06.320 --> 0:04:09.120 were respected there is if you come up and you say, hey, 0:04:09.120 --> 0:04:13.120 I made seventy dollars today? Here is it all? Can 0:04:13.160 --> 0:04:15.640 I get ten dollars? I'm going to do something. She 0:04:15.680 --> 0:04:21.400 would respect you a hundred times more. But if if 0:04:21.400 --> 0:04:25.880 you avoid them of the complete picture, the complete picture, 0:04:27.040 --> 0:04:30.280 they're going to go with what's more, and they're gonna 0:04:30.320 --> 0:04:35.600 talk shit about what's more anyway or what's less. Very insatiable, 0:04:35.640 --> 0:04:38.880 so it's never enough. How was your household growing up, Pete? Like, 0:04:39.080 --> 0:04:41.520 how was your parents? I mean, was your dad pretty 0:04:41.600 --> 0:04:45.719 much carrying the whole burden of all the finances? Um, 0:04:45.880 --> 0:04:48.880 my mom didn't work till I was probably from when 0:04:48.880 --> 0:04:51.359 I was really little to like eleven, and she's worked 0:04:51.400 --> 0:04:58.000 ever since, like still to this day. So like even 0:04:58.200 --> 0:05:02.599 at that point, they put all the money into the 0:05:02.680 --> 0:05:06.080 joint account and my mom will pay the bills and 0:05:06.120 --> 0:05:08.880 buy the food and all that kind of ship. Like 0:05:09.000 --> 0:05:11.159 she my dad doesn't spend all the money. He's like 0:05:11.920 --> 0:05:18.360 dirt cheap, but he's gonna managed like other than buying 0:05:18.720 --> 0:05:23.200 day to day expensive ship. It's not a nickel moving that. 0:05:23.279 --> 0:05:30.400 He doesn't bring life by anybody, mm hmm move. What 0:05:30.480 --> 0:05:33.520 was what do you remember the relationship finances when you 0:05:33.560 --> 0:05:37.039 were younger? Um? From my mom's end. She was single, 0:05:37.160 --> 0:05:40.919 so she she did it all. Uh. And when I 0:05:41.000 --> 0:05:44.800 was at Pop's house, Uh, step mom brought in more 0:05:44.839 --> 0:05:51.160 money than Pops. He had times where he probably wasn't 0:05:51.160 --> 0:05:54.760 bringing in too much. So what I saw was the 0:05:54.920 --> 0:06:00.320 females dominating the economic side. Yeah, let me as your question, 0:06:00.360 --> 0:06:03.320 did your dad come give her the money? Yeah? He 0:06:03.360 --> 0:06:05.960 gave what he what he could when he got it. 0:06:06.040 --> 0:06:09.159 But I don't know as far as the specifics. Was 0:06:09.240 --> 0:06:13.400 he giving it all and negotiating um, you know, because 0:06:13.400 --> 0:06:16.839 you gotta remember also, even if he was doing that, 0:06:17.560 --> 0:06:19.760 what I do know is he always had cash and 0:06:19.800 --> 0:06:22.800 stuff on him. So if he was doing that, she 0:06:22.960 --> 0:06:26.960 made sure that he had a certain amount on him 0:06:27.160 --> 0:06:29.800 to look good in front of uncles and families and 0:06:29.800 --> 0:06:33.040 stuff like that. So he always had some cash and 0:06:33.080 --> 0:06:36.080 ship on him. So I but I just knew that 0:06:36.640 --> 0:06:40.920 who was dominating the finances based on Uh. I was 0:06:40.960 --> 0:06:43.360 smart enough to see the jobs he was having versus 0:06:43.360 --> 0:06:48.000 a job she had, you know what I mean. She 0:06:48.120 --> 0:06:51.159 was working back then at a pack bill and I 0:06:51.240 --> 0:06:54.960 remember at first, you know, she was going great, uh 0:06:55.080 --> 0:06:59.120 with him, like GT or something like that, doing that, 0:06:59.520 --> 0:07:04.640 and then uh, after that, he was even struggling with jobs, 0:07:06.040 --> 0:07:09.080 and then he ended up getting back on the probably 0:07:09.160 --> 0:07:13.400 the dominant side when he got with American Airlines m 0:07:14.640 --> 0:07:18.440 but that was later. I was kind of and didn't matter, 0:07:18.480 --> 0:07:26.040 didn't affect me. Big Al was a savage Olivia. I 0:07:26.080 --> 0:07:28.480 mean my dad. When I was real little, my dad 0:07:28.560 --> 0:07:31.040 was getting it. He had told trucks, so he put 0:07:31.040 --> 0:07:34.920 her through school. To some degree. My mom always was 0:07:35.440 --> 0:07:37.120 don't matter who she was, dad, and it was gonna 0:07:37.160 --> 0:07:39.760 be tough for them to compete with her because like 0:07:39.840 --> 0:07:43.760 her drive to get to it. It's different. I think 0:07:43.760 --> 0:07:47.680 I get a lot of my drive from her Jesus animal, 0:07:48.280 --> 0:07:52.240 and I have to really strain, how because I will 0:07:52.360 --> 0:07:54.800 go do a lot of things that most human beings, 0:07:55.520 --> 0:07:58.200 you know, I won't do to earn revenue, and I 0:07:58.240 --> 0:08:00.880 have no problem doing it. So I have to really 0:08:00.960 --> 0:08:08.760 strain my drive to some degree. But I always start 0:08:08.800 --> 0:08:12.800 growing up like I would like if I was a pharmacist, 0:08:13.080 --> 0:08:15.760 I would give my wife the whole check. I would 0:08:15.840 --> 0:08:19.280 let her deal with the finances, paying the bills, but 0:08:19.360 --> 0:08:25.120 I wouldn't negotiate my kick back mhm that I would 0:08:25.200 --> 0:08:29.640 function with through the month. Because at an early age, 0:08:29.680 --> 0:08:34.280 I understood. Women kind of have to see everything so 0:08:34.320 --> 0:08:36.719 they can see the whole picture, so they could put 0:08:36.800 --> 0:08:40.520 respect on what you bring it to the table, because 0:08:41.440 --> 0:08:47.720 if they can't see everything, then they will assume it's more. Again, 0:08:47.760 --> 0:08:51.360 we we all commonly all agreed between the conversation of accountability. 0:08:51.440 --> 0:08:55.560 They lack that right too. They're also insatiable. Nothing is 0:08:55.679 --> 0:09:00.440 ever enough, right, but they will put risk epect on 0:09:00.480 --> 0:09:05.800 your name when they see you giving them everything you got. Believe, yeah, 0:09:08.000 --> 0:09:10.960 I appreciate you giving me everything you have nowhere near enough, 0:09:11.200 --> 0:09:17.960 but I appreciate the They won't say say that to you, 0:09:18.480 --> 0:09:23.199 but that's what they're thinking. No, they they now see 0:09:23.440 --> 0:09:25.280 I don't know what they thank you. That's a whole 0:09:25.280 --> 0:09:27.440 another story. But I don't think they shouldn't have used 0:09:27.480 --> 0:09:30.520 the word thinking that's too strong a word. They're gonna 0:09:30.640 --> 0:09:33.600 cull too strong a word. That is, they're gonna murder you. 0:09:34.920 --> 0:09:37.240 You know what, I'll give them credit. I give them 0:09:37.320 --> 0:09:43.000 credits that they won't feel like it's not enough. I 0:09:43.080 --> 0:09:45.520 think they'll make it work until they want the next 0:09:46.040 --> 0:09:48.760 want and trying to see their friends have the thing 0:09:48.840 --> 0:09:53.320 that they don't have. That. Yeah, but it will always 0:09:53.480 --> 0:09:57.280 be this sense of my man is giving me everything 0:09:57.360 --> 0:10:01.199 he got. It's a different that's a different floss in 0:10:01.280 --> 0:10:04.360 two for a woman. It's a different floss in two 0:10:04.480 --> 0:10:07.800 for woman. Man, I think that depends on the woman. 0:10:07.880 --> 0:10:09.880 All these new school bitches, so I gotta get out 0:10:09.880 --> 0:10:13.640 of this bullshit. All these these new school bitches, they 0:10:13.679 --> 0:10:18.000 don't they're looking, they're watching all these other motherfucker's on 0:10:18.040 --> 0:10:20.600 the social media. They don't give a funk what what 0:10:20.720 --> 0:10:23.280 man is giving them all they got. They're looking at 0:10:23.320 --> 0:10:27.680 old with it. This man is able to give them this. Yeah, man, 0:10:27.800 --> 0:10:31.640 these don't agree with y'all. And for what in my life, 0:10:32.120 --> 0:10:35.280 I actually am finding myself in a position to to 0:10:35.440 --> 0:10:39.960 defend modern femininity. I think that's a consistent thing about women. 0:10:40.000 --> 0:10:44.600 It's good their motherfucker's is. I watched it all the time. 0:10:45.120 --> 0:10:47.720 I think, see, my fucking need a car because another 0:10:47.800 --> 0:10:50.280 because another motherfucker got a new But now we're feel 0:10:50.280 --> 0:10:52.319 to get to some whole instatational ship. But that's about 0:10:52.679 --> 0:10:55.079 that's what that involves. And I don't think they'll ever 0:10:55.160 --> 0:10:57.560 say to you. They'll know they can't afford a car. 0:10:58.440 --> 0:11:00.960 If they're seeing your whole chip, they'll know they can't 0:11:01.000 --> 0:11:03.760 afford the car, and they'll and they'll deal with it. 0:11:04.080 --> 0:11:08.000 One thousand times better than not knowing what exactly you 0:11:08.120 --> 0:11:12.600 have and you're not giving them a car. Hey, okay, 0:11:13.120 --> 0:11:15.280 you can believe what you want, I'm telling you. And 0:11:15.400 --> 0:11:17.960 that way, that's a thousand times better than the first way. 0:11:18.160 --> 0:11:27.360 It's still terrible. What's terrible about it? You see, she's 0:11:27.360 --> 0:11:30.600 gonna do something wrong with the money. Let me ask 0:11:30.600 --> 0:11:32.160 a question. Here's a here's a better question. Here's a 0:11:32.200 --> 0:11:36.320 better question. Let's say, Pete, right now, you meet some 0:11:36.480 --> 0:11:39.080 Miami style you, some cold woman that you really fall 0:11:39.120 --> 0:11:41.560 in love with. Right right, the magic happens for you. 0:11:41.760 --> 0:11:43.440 I know it's been a while since the magic happen 0:11:43.480 --> 0:11:46.760 for you. You're fighting magic. It's not really a twinkle 0:11:46.840 --> 0:11:51.160 for you. But let's say the magic happens, right. Do 0:11:51.280 --> 0:11:54.240 you believe because she lives there? Should you guys split 0:11:54.320 --> 0:11:58.719 the rent or the mortgage? I'm personally, I'm not having that. 0:11:59.559 --> 0:12:02.040 Just meet personally. If I can't carry the whole thing, 0:12:02.320 --> 0:12:04.679 thank you, I'll just let her go. You can go. 0:12:06.080 --> 0:12:11.720 You need to focus on ship anyway. Yeah, so you do. 0:12:12.000 --> 0:12:15.600 So your goal is to pay the whole thing you 0:12:15.640 --> 0:12:17.920 have to carry the financial burning. My my goal is 0:12:17.960 --> 0:12:26.040 one equity ownership. You just need to be able to 0:12:26.080 --> 0:12:29.719 tell her his mind. Everything here is mine. You can 0:12:29.760 --> 0:12:35.920 do what you please. But you know, I think no, no, no, no. 0:12:36.000 --> 0:12:38.240 See I definitely agree with that. I think that's where 0:12:38.240 --> 0:12:41.240 a lot of us go wrong. See what happens is 0:12:44.559 --> 0:12:47.120 I'll use more situations that I was in. That I've 0:12:47.160 --> 0:12:51.679 been in is my in my brain. I've said, man, 0:12:51.720 --> 0:12:54.920 the best bet is for us to wait till I 0:12:54.960 --> 0:12:57.040 can do this, this, this, and this. Let me stay 0:12:57.040 --> 0:12:59.520 where I'm at. You stay where you're at, and do 0:12:59.600 --> 0:13:03.760 what that way. And here's what happens in the community. 0:13:04.360 --> 0:13:08.080 And and men, we we you know, falling in love 0:13:08.160 --> 0:13:11.679 with the picture of some bullshit, but we get talked 0:13:11.720 --> 0:13:15.440 into no, it don't matter. I just want you here 0:13:15.520 --> 0:13:17.920 all the time, and we can make this ship word 0:13:19.080 --> 0:13:22.920 list and that. And then you got in that process 0:13:22.920 --> 0:13:25.679 for dupe for dup for do you get some and 0:13:25.800 --> 0:13:29.600 you get some pussy? And she really want me here, Yeah, 0:13:29.679 --> 0:13:34.920 she just wants me. And I'm talking about I've known better, 0:13:35.600 --> 0:13:39.240 I've known him where it and I got duped listening 0:13:39.240 --> 0:13:42.440 to the listening to nuts come out and all type 0:13:42.440 --> 0:13:46.160 of ship and pussy and liking it and and yeah, 0:13:46.520 --> 0:13:48.880 funk all that for dupe for dupe for dupe. I 0:13:48.920 --> 0:13:52.320 see a thing all time on like social media, women 0:13:52.400 --> 0:13:54.040 saying I just want a man I can build with, 0:13:54.360 --> 0:13:57.000 but they misspelled the word. They always say b U 0:13:57.200 --> 0:14:01.840 I l D and what they really mean our ourd. 0:14:05.679 --> 0:14:09.319 You fucking go No, that's right, because look, this is 0:14:09.320 --> 0:14:11.800 the ship. I've noticed too. It's happened all the time. 0:14:11.840 --> 0:14:13.480 That's why I'm not. I don't give an what he's 0:14:13.520 --> 0:14:19.040 talking about. Your hud and them just not seeing the 0:14:19.120 --> 0:14:25.240 rests and this is making dude, once you become involved, 0:14:25.760 --> 0:14:29.040 automatically they see, oh, well, automatically, I should be able 0:14:29.080 --> 0:14:31.160 to get this, this, this, and this and this now 0:14:33.000 --> 0:14:36.200 period you can give my hunted, this and that. You 0:14:36.240 --> 0:14:38.160 know what they're gonna saying, you give my hunt They 0:14:38.200 --> 0:14:41.160 see the whole ship, they're gonna see, well, you know what, 0:14:41.280 --> 0:14:42.800 he can figure out how to go out there and 0:14:42.800 --> 0:14:47.640 get more than totally disagree. I'm just telling you it's 0:14:47.640 --> 0:14:50.800 two against one, so I'm not It's not crazy. I 0:14:50.880 --> 0:14:54.560 just totally disagree. I genuinely think women think I think 0:14:55.080 --> 0:14:57.400 women back in the day had that in them I'm 0:14:57.400 --> 0:15:00.640 talking about even women today. Yeah, and I don't. I 0:15:00.680 --> 0:15:05.840 think that's really really, really really old women today. Yeah. 0:15:06.200 --> 0:15:14.360 How old we go born in nineteen twenty, born in nine, yeah, 0:15:14.480 --> 0:15:18.240 pre war, pre war chicks, pre World War two, yeah, 0:15:18.280 --> 0:15:22.760 the Big War, the Big one. Yeah, not pre commonly 0:15:23.000 --> 0:15:29.920 pre war majority for sure. We think no of them. 0:15:29.960 --> 0:15:36.880 I think, I think, um, I think men. The homie 0:15:36.920 --> 0:15:42.239 had a conversation women natural nature, right, is to be selfless. 0:15:43.200 --> 0:15:47.320 They that's their natural nature. Everything about a woman is giving, 0:15:48.280 --> 0:15:51.960 right and naturally. But then every day they are alive 0:15:52.040 --> 0:15:56.760 in this world, they begin to take and then they come. 0:15:57.160 --> 0:15:59.920 So once they get into the world right, and then 0:16:00.040 --> 0:16:03.160 they start listening to the world, then they actually go 0:16:03.240 --> 0:16:07.120 into a phase to be like me, me, me, I think, 0:16:07.160 --> 0:16:13.160 I think the world. I think, I think the red 0:16:13.680 --> 0:16:21.320 you're still vagina is it's me. Yeah. Lets let me 0:16:21.360 --> 0:16:26.520 point out an evolutionary approach to this. Since the dawn 0:16:26.560 --> 0:16:34.400 of you know, mankind, like I'm talking homo habilious, homo 0:16:34.440 --> 0:16:37.240 erect us, way back when we were just loose packs 0:16:37.320 --> 0:16:42.120 of mammals like any other pack mammal. Basically, how it 0:16:42.280 --> 0:16:46.320 is because it takes human offspring so long to develop 0:16:47.520 --> 0:16:52.600 women stay in. Men go out and bring resources to women. 0:16:53.280 --> 0:17:00.800 Men produced, women consumed. It's dug into the DNA. There's 0:17:00.880 --> 0:17:04.320 only older. There's there's older stories of many women. That 0:17:04.560 --> 0:17:08.080 proves that that's not true, that that women do go 0:17:08.160 --> 0:17:11.280 out and do the same thing. But I do wives tales. 0:17:12.840 --> 0:17:15.800 They created that their old stories and went back to 0:17:15.920 --> 0:17:18.720 right there, old story. There's no husband's tales. We just 0:17:18.760 --> 0:17:22.879 call host history and it's out here. He said, there's 0:17:22.920 --> 0:17:25.520 no old He said, he noticed, there's never no old 0:17:25.600 --> 0:17:34.879 husband tell There's only old. So listen. So the thing is, 0:17:34.960 --> 0:17:38.640 when you actually get into the actual part of sex, right, 0:17:38.680 --> 0:17:42.320 it's not about giving them me right. You're you're literally 0:17:42.400 --> 0:17:45.159 they're giving you their body right. And you put a 0:17:45.240 --> 0:17:47.600 baby in there, and then they give you a kid, 0:17:49.480 --> 0:17:51.240 and they make a house at home and the couch 0:17:51.280 --> 0:17:55.160 that no, literally they delivered the kid to you literally 0:17:55.240 --> 0:17:59.400 bring into this world. They don't bring the kid into 0:17:59.440 --> 0:18:03.040 this world. How many children you got? I got sick? 0:18:03.119 --> 0:18:06.320 How many times you've seen this happen? All right? Now, 0:18:06.359 --> 0:18:08.840 what the hell are you talking about? Trust me, whatever 0:18:09.040 --> 0:18:13.040 meet you gave them cannot contend with the meat they 0:18:13.119 --> 0:18:18.400 pushing out. Man, you ain't giving them ten pounds of meat. No, no, 0:18:18.400 --> 0:18:19.879 no, no no, I didn't say. I mean, you could be 0:18:19.920 --> 0:18:23.679 a bad motherfucking but god damn what I'm saying. At 0:18:23.720 --> 0:18:26.159 the end of the day, they used to receive and 0:18:26.160 --> 0:18:30.680 ship hands out at all time or something. I don't 0:18:30.760 --> 0:18:34.640 think that's true period. I don't. I don't. You can 0:18:34.640 --> 0:18:38.320 not think nothing. I mean because personally I've seen it's 0:18:38.359 --> 0:18:42.639 not always like that. I don't think they're always trying 0:18:42.680 --> 0:18:47.119 to receive. I think society teaches them you gotta think right. 0:18:47.200 --> 0:18:51.360 Society teaches women, and they teach us that women are special, right, 0:18:51.400 --> 0:18:55.000 and genetically speaking, that's true to some degree, right, But 0:18:55.080 --> 0:18:59.200 then the world tells them right to that they're valuable 0:18:59.359 --> 0:19:02.320 just because they exist. That's a weird thing. It's like, 0:19:02.359 --> 0:19:05.240 I think we were talking about this before where we 0:19:05.240 --> 0:19:07.280 was talking to some lady on the podcast back in 0:19:07.280 --> 0:19:09.439 the day, and she was like, he should just be 0:19:09.480 --> 0:19:14.880 happy that I'm just here. So they're taught that, right, 0:19:14.880 --> 0:19:17.960 and we're taught that, we're taught that they're special, they're innocent, 0:19:18.520 --> 0:19:21.800 they're great, right, and then every day we're on earth, 0:19:22.000 --> 0:19:27.120 they prove those things wrong outside because of bias juries. 0:19:29.400 --> 0:19:33.280 That's all. That's going on every day we're on Earth. 0:19:33.880 --> 0:19:36.520 They started showing us that they aren't that different from us. 0:19:37.440 --> 0:19:40.840 In California, Man, we pay attention to that. We're like, okay, 0:19:41.080 --> 0:19:44.120 feel me. So that's why I mean, so we we 0:19:44.400 --> 0:19:51.960 the pedestal gets lower and lower. But again, I still 0:19:52.119 --> 0:19:55.880 think the brilliant points, the genius points in them is 0:19:55.960 --> 0:19:59.640 if they know you're giving your all feel me. They 0:19:59.680 --> 0:20:05.080 are different. Even some of the worst ones like Pete don't. 0:20:05.400 --> 0:20:07.600 I don't know if Pete, I don't know if if 0:20:07.840 --> 0:20:12.760 white Pete Douce got money. I probably imagine because he's 0:20:12.760 --> 0:20:15.840 not as famous, he might got some money. But does he. 0:20:15.960 --> 0:20:18.000 I mean, he got white people money. So it's always different, 0:20:18.000 --> 0:20:19.960 even a wealthy nigga money and better the white people 0:20:20.040 --> 0:20:25.600 rich money. But whatever little bit he's given Kim right, 0:20:26.080 --> 0:20:32.200 it's more than enough. She him standing alone of money. 0:20:32.359 --> 0:20:34.880 But again we're talking about no no, no, I don't 0:20:34.880 --> 0:20:37.399 talk about that type of ship. No, talk about some 0:20:37.440 --> 0:20:41.960 regular smugglers. And we just heard fifty cents right now, 0:20:42.600 --> 0:20:48.240 right talk about grandfather giving his grandmother the whole check. 0:20:48.359 --> 0:20:51.879 In her mindset, it's totally different. It's like having a 0:20:52.080 --> 0:20:55.000 like what Eddie Murphys said, get you a zererra bitch 0:20:55.040 --> 0:20:59.480 before they become americanized. You're talking about an ancient woman 0:20:59.520 --> 0:21:03.240 and no longer exists. They don't exist. I don't. You 0:21:03.240 --> 0:21:05.920 can believe that all you want, and I'm glad you're 0:21:05.960 --> 0:21:10.880 so optimistic, but that ain't how it's going right now. Man. 0:21:10.960 --> 0:21:14.000 So you don't think there are a ton of households 0:21:14.440 --> 0:21:17.000 where men are giving women their check and they're not 0:21:17.040 --> 0:21:20.080 complaining to them about finances. No, I think there's a 0:21:20.080 --> 0:21:24.000 lot of households for men are giving women their check. Yeah. 0:21:24.440 --> 0:21:26.919 I agree with that part too. That's about it, the 0:21:27.000 --> 0:21:30.760 complaining part. When you're talking about regular average dudes. We're 0:21:30.760 --> 0:21:32.800 talking about dudes in the fifties and the sixties of 0:21:32.880 --> 0:21:39.320 thousands or forties. Man, most of these bras because they're 0:21:39.320 --> 0:21:42.600 sitting here and watching all these timelines and all these 0:21:42.640 --> 0:21:46.120 other people with these red bottoms or all these different cars, 0:21:46.720 --> 0:21:49.760 all the different ship that they want to be involved in. 0:21:51.440 --> 0:21:54.040 I don't think you're giving women enough credit. I'm telling 0:21:54.080 --> 0:21:57.160 I'm telling enough credit. I'm never give them enough credit. 0:21:57.200 --> 0:22:02.360 They burn right through it before the pace exactly, your 0:22:02.359 --> 0:22:05.879 credit score is gonna go drop. I don't think so. 0:22:05.920 --> 0:22:08.960 I think I think women at a certain way when 0:22:08.960 --> 0:22:16.159 they're always trying to figure things out. I was in 0:22:16.200 --> 0:22:21.280 the situation to give sure. I still was unable to 0:22:22.040 --> 0:22:28.240 pay my own car note, unable to pay insurance sure right, 0:22:28.760 --> 0:22:33.160 unable to pay cable and check this out. I still 0:22:33.280 --> 0:22:37.000 was doing it. But again, hold on where I'm getting 0:22:37.040 --> 0:22:43.200 to exist me hoping that she's gonna give me to negotiate. 0:22:44.040 --> 0:22:48.920 Sometimes the way I was doing things, it wasn't gonna 0:22:48.960 --> 0:22:50.640 work that way. If I if I had to wait 0:22:50.680 --> 0:22:52.679 to see what I'm gonna negotiate, it is to that 0:22:52.720 --> 0:22:54.320 to do. You don't You don't have to wait. You 0:22:54.359 --> 0:22:58.680 can put a permanent negotiation there. You can immediately start 0:22:58.720 --> 0:23:00.159 us to hell. You know what I had in the 0:23:00.240 --> 0:23:04.000 pige because I'm gonna give you the whole check. I'm 0:23:04.000 --> 0:23:07.400 gonna depot hole checking your account, and this is what 0:23:07.440 --> 0:23:10.879 we're gonna do. I'm gonna take this much percentage to 0:23:11.040 --> 0:23:13.359 live because I have to drive to work. I have 0:23:13.440 --> 0:23:15.639 to do these things right here. That's what I was doing. 0:23:15.760 --> 0:23:23.920 That's the same thing. She didn't see it that man. Listen, 0:23:23.920 --> 0:23:30.480 I'm telling you no counts except for the counts. That's 0:23:30.520 --> 0:23:38.080 also different. You said what that's also different. Yeah, because again, 0:23:38.480 --> 0:23:42.639 if somebody can see every dime coming in, they have 0:23:42.800 --> 0:23:46.840 to put a different respect on what's Listen, women just 0:23:46.880 --> 0:23:50.680 want you to give all yourself and then something. That's 0:23:50.680 --> 0:23:54.360 what that's in in the situation I'm referencing, is what 0:23:54.400 --> 0:23:58.520 I was doing. No again, because she can't see you 0:23:59.200 --> 0:24:01.920 giving all of yourself. You know what would have happened 0:24:02.440 --> 0:24:06.280 if she was saw All that would have happened was 0:24:06.960 --> 0:24:09.800 the expectation to be going somewhere else and getting some 0:24:09.840 --> 0:24:12.960 more money. You need to don the job. That's it. 0:24:13.440 --> 0:24:15.480 I thought that was gonna happen. I don't think so. 0:24:16.680 --> 0:24:18.880 I think I think I got happen. But I think 0:24:19.760 --> 0:24:22.320 you don't think so. You can't be sure if you 0:24:22.440 --> 0:24:26.760 never tried. I know you gotta try, man, I don't 0:24:26.760 --> 0:24:36.600 gotta try. Ship, I'm telling you right, man, See, when 0:24:36.600 --> 0:24:39.879 you know the motherfucker's you deal with, you know that 0:24:40.000 --> 0:24:43.800 certain ship, it ain't it ain't gonna change. I don't. 0:24:44.000 --> 0:24:47.160 I disagree. I think all of these things are variables 0:24:47.280 --> 0:24:50.800 right where you If you change certain numbers, the equation 0:24:51.000 --> 0:24:53.760 can spit out of different So check this out. So 0:24:53.840 --> 0:25:00.840 here here here's the deal I negotiate. Did this is 0:25:00.880 --> 0:25:04.440 what I could afford when I was at a job 0:25:04.760 --> 0:25:08.879 that I was making more money. So now let's go 0:25:09.080 --> 0:25:12.400 to logic. When we got men in the room, right, 0:25:12.800 --> 0:25:17.960 So if I negotiate, Let's say, if I negotiate, all 0:25:18.000 --> 0:25:24.320 I can pay is this, And I was at a job. Listen, listening, 0:25:25.359 --> 0:25:28.639 I was at a job that was making more money 0:25:28.840 --> 0:25:31.439 when this happened. When I negotiated this, this is what 0:25:31.480 --> 0:25:36.960 I'm gonna pay. Boom, boom boom. Then if I lost 0:25:37.040 --> 0:25:40.440 this job and got another job, but I was already 0:25:40.520 --> 0:25:47.920 making less, but I'm still paying the same overhead. See, automatically, 0:25:48.200 --> 0:25:51.680 that's a part of that. You you're you should automatically 0:25:51.680 --> 0:25:54.120 be able to see. Wait a minute, you was at 0:25:54.160 --> 0:25:56.920 this job and you're paying this amount. Now you're going 0:25:56.960 --> 0:26:00.359 to this job and I have informed you that I 0:26:00.400 --> 0:26:03.160 am making less than I was making at the other job, 0:26:03.480 --> 0:26:07.960 but I am still paying the same amount. That's automatic 0:26:08.600 --> 0:26:12.920 to go okay, But that ain't would happen because the 0:26:13.000 --> 0:26:15.760 respectus still be there going okay. Well, wait a minute, 0:26:15.840 --> 0:26:18.000 if he was only paying if he was paying this 0:26:18.040 --> 0:26:23.199 amount when he was making this amount, and now he 0:26:23.720 --> 0:26:26.760 dropped to where he's only making this amount, but he's 0:26:26.760 --> 0:26:32.160 still paying this. He's a cold nigger. And I would 0:26:32.240 --> 0:26:38.160 say the exact same thing if they saw the whole No, see, 0:26:38.200 --> 0:26:43.440 because me logic already says that if I'm fucking if you, 0:26:43.520 --> 0:26:48.600 if you're making sixty, thou here and you're paying fucking 0:26:50.520 --> 0:26:55.159 are they seeing it? Listen, it don't matter. It matters. 0:26:55.680 --> 0:26:57.880 I'm when I'm getting to why, I don't because if 0:26:58.640 --> 0:27:02.560 I was making six and I was giving you fifty, 0:27:03.119 --> 0:27:06.520