WEBVTT - Self Love 0:00:01.200 --> 0:00:06.040 Good morning, good afternoon, good evening. Thank you, Thank you 0:00:06.160 --> 0:00:09.080 for taking time to tune into the Vitamin D Podcast. 0:00:09.320 --> 0:00:14.240 And if this is your first time, welcome. You know. 0:00:14.360 --> 0:00:17.000 Vitamins is a multi vitamin for your mind. It's where 0:00:17.079 --> 0:00:22.400 I use lyrics of popular music, conversations with everyday people 0:00:22.480 --> 0:00:25.239 like you and me and some of your favorite celebrities 0:00:25.280 --> 0:00:31.160 for inspiring conversations and insights. Vitamin D is a multi 0:00:31.320 --> 0:00:34.280 vitamin for your mind, your body, and your soul. You 0:00:34.360 --> 0:00:36.960 dig me. It's all about you living your best life. 0:00:37.680 --> 0:00:41.400 It's all about you living your life on purpose and 0:00:41.479 --> 0:00:45.960 for a purpose. Can you dig that this podcast is 0:00:46.120 --> 0:00:53.920 simply about you getting excited about your life? Do you 0:00:53.960 --> 0:00:56.480 dig what I'm saying? Like only for you to feel good? 0:00:57.040 --> 0:01:00.600 Like who doesn't want to feel good? You know, it 0:01:00.640 --> 0:01:03.400 feels good to feel good. Think about like when you 0:01:03.440 --> 0:01:05.920 were a child and you were having fun and you 0:01:06.080 --> 0:01:11.960 didn't have anything to worry about. It felt good. Whether 0:01:12.000 --> 0:01:14.240 it was you on the playground, whether it was you 0:01:14.880 --> 0:01:18.160 having an imaginary story, you were feeling good. So this 0:01:18.240 --> 0:01:20.800 is all about coming back to the goodness. And see 0:01:20.959 --> 0:01:23.600 I call it vitamin D because Vitamin D is all 0:01:23.640 --> 0:01:26.440 about shedding light. So you get vitamin D from the sun. 0:01:26.760 --> 0:01:28.800 You know, my name is Dawn something shedding light into 0:01:28.800 --> 0:01:31.480 your life? Can you dig what I'm saying? Okay, so 0:01:31.560 --> 0:01:35.080 we gotta so. If you're new, welcome, As you spend 0:01:35.080 --> 0:01:37.400 more time with us, you'll see how it unfolds more. 0:01:37.920 --> 0:01:41.679 And if you're returning, welcome back, family. How are you doing. 0:01:42.720 --> 0:01:50.320 We are in the second week of February of one. Now, 0:01:50.360 --> 0:01:52.840 you know I told you on the first episode, remember 0:01:52.920 --> 0:01:57.400 who you are? One? This is an and one season. 0:01:57.720 --> 0:02:00.960 We're talking and one. Okay, we got a vision. This 0:02:01.080 --> 0:02:05.920 is and one. We're adding itt and I may have 0:02:06.040 --> 0:02:09.400 mentioned this, but I also talked about the whole idea 0:02:09.639 --> 0:02:13.480 of resonating and joy because you know, happiness is fleeting, 0:02:14.040 --> 0:02:17.080 you know, it's a moment, but joy is a state 0:02:17.120 --> 0:02:20.160 of being. Okay, we gotta walk in that, we gotta 0:02:20.200 --> 0:02:23.120 reside and that we gotta really feel in that. And 0:02:23.160 --> 0:02:27.880 so I wanted this episode this, uh, and I'm gonna 0:02:27.880 --> 0:02:30.720 start doing this more and more to really unfold the 0:02:30.720 --> 0:02:35.280 principles of what vitamin D is and just things that 0:02:35.320 --> 0:02:37.080 I think the basics of what we stand for. It's 0:02:37.120 --> 0:02:41.280 gonna be like our creed, you know what feels good 0:02:41.280 --> 0:02:44.080 in the moment. And like I told you before, and 0:02:44.120 --> 0:02:46.960 if if this is your first time hearing it, Vitamin 0:02:47.040 --> 0:02:48.880 D is a gift for me as well, and I 0:02:49.440 --> 0:02:52.080 pray that it's a gift for you. But I'm learning 0:02:52.080 --> 0:02:56.000 new things. I'm discovering new things. They say the journey 0:02:56.080 --> 0:02:59.840 is the experience, and the experience is the journey. And 0:03:00.000 --> 0:03:02.080 and one of the main things that you will hear 0:03:02.160 --> 0:03:04.519 me say at the end of every episode of Vitamin 0:03:04.639 --> 0:03:07.799 D is that you are your greatest asset. Because it's 0:03:07.800 --> 0:03:10.160 like a life bank account. Right if you think of 0:03:10.200 --> 0:03:13.840 any account, you can put things in and make a 0:03:13.880 --> 0:03:16.960 deposit or you make a withdrawal, and oftentimes we refer 0:03:17.040 --> 0:03:20.760 to as a liability. One cannot coexist without the other. 0:03:20.840 --> 0:03:23.040 Like you're allowed to get credit so that you can 0:03:23.080 --> 0:03:26.280 purchase new things, right, but it takes debt to acquire credit. 0:03:26.440 --> 0:03:29.040 But understand you when when you can learn how to balance, 0:03:29.080 --> 0:03:31.720 And that's what we have to do with life, just 0:03:31.760 --> 0:03:34.360 like the end and then yang. Just like with Vitamin Z, 0:03:34.440 --> 0:03:36.080 we're shutting up the good and the bad. And it's 0:03:36.080 --> 0:03:39.480 not negating girl, you know, um disregarding another. It's saying 0:03:39.520 --> 0:03:43.200 you see it because one thing that vitamin D does 0:03:43.320 --> 0:03:46.040 is it allows you to see. And when you can 0:03:46.080 --> 0:03:49.320 see that whole notion of the fear, false evidence appearing real, 0:03:49.400 --> 0:03:52.160 will guess what it doesn't exist, and if it doesn't exist, 0:03:52.160 --> 0:03:54.520 you reside and enjoy. When it doesn't exist, you decide 0:03:54.560 --> 0:03:57.080 to live your best life. When it doesn't exist. You 0:03:57.160 --> 0:03:59.920 can be everything you are destined to be because you 0:04:00.040 --> 0:04:04.800 have nothing to fear. Okay, oftentimes we get upsetten situations 0:04:04.960 --> 0:04:07.840 because it didn't unfold how we thought it was gonnaun fold. 0:04:07.880 --> 0:04:11.000 For whatever reason, we had this construct that, oh, I 0:04:11.040 --> 0:04:13.400 wanted to acquire this, I want to succeed in that. 0:04:13.600 --> 0:04:15.680 And if it didn't work at the timing that we 0:04:15.720 --> 0:04:17.680 wanted it, or perhaps we didn't receive it in the 0:04:17.720 --> 0:04:19.800 way we thought we were supposed to receive it, we 0:04:19.880 --> 0:04:22.440 forget the gift that everything is happening for the greater good. 0:04:23.000 --> 0:04:28.039 When you were side and joy, you understand that everything 0:04:28.160 --> 0:04:30.400 is shaping you so that you can have the whole 0:04:30.440 --> 0:04:34.080 capacity to hold whatever it is that you're coming and 0:04:34.120 --> 0:04:36.920 see that's the gift of life and see in order 0:04:36.960 --> 0:04:38.800 to receive the gift, that's going to require you to 0:04:38.839 --> 0:04:44.520 be the present, Hello, present, presents present, come on all right, 0:04:45.000 --> 0:04:48.000 So as we unfold more and more, I want to 0:04:48.040 --> 0:04:52.120 dedicate this dose of vitamin D simply to self love. 0:04:53.279 --> 0:04:56.800 So without further ado, it's time for your dopes a 0:04:56.880 --> 0:05:03.080 Vitamin D D. Right with me and get excited about 0:05:03.279 --> 0:05:10.960 your lives real love. I'm searching for the real life. 0:05:12.560 --> 0:05:16.960 Someone that kept my heart to real love probably messed 0:05:16.960 --> 0:05:20.240 it up. But what's real love to you? Now? In 0:05:20.240 --> 0:05:26.480 this conversation, we are getting to the heart of the matter. Huh. Now, 0:05:26.480 --> 0:05:27.920 So when we talk about heart of the matter, we 0:05:27.960 --> 0:05:30.120 have to think about you know, home is where the 0:05:30.160 --> 0:05:34.880 heart is. It's where we were side right. And when 0:05:34.880 --> 0:05:39.760 we talk about being our greatest asset, you have to 0:05:39.839 --> 0:05:42.240 love it just because when you love, you honor something. 0:05:42.240 --> 0:05:45.159 There is an appreciation. And you know, as you're in 0:05:45.279 --> 0:05:48.640 this finite time called life, there is an authority that 0:05:48.720 --> 0:05:51.520 you have. There is a dominion that you have. There 0:05:51.680 --> 0:05:54.360 is a duty, a calling for you to live your 0:05:54.400 --> 0:05:57.440 best life because you were given a gift and understand 0:05:57.440 --> 0:06:00.400 that the greatest gifts are the gifts that keep on giving. 0:06:00.839 --> 0:06:04.480 I mean, look at it. Look look the gift of 0:06:04.880 --> 0:06:13.960 light is life. Stop what huh? Try it? When we 0:06:14.080 --> 0:06:18.160 talk about like the gift of life, right, and what 0:06:18.200 --> 0:06:23.840 it means. You can't negate what light does. And I 0:06:23.880 --> 0:06:27.240 was thinking about today. You know, I've been seeing on 0:06:27.279 --> 0:06:32.200 a few past episodes this little light of mine. I'm 0:06:32.279 --> 0:06:35.960 gonna let it shine. There's light that's inside of me, right, 0:06:36.000 --> 0:06:41.960 there's gifts. Right. We celebrate life each year, and when 0:06:41.960 --> 0:06:46.000 you think about it, you're celebrating another evolution around the sun. 0:06:47.080 --> 0:06:50.279 Wait a minute, come on, are you checking with me now? 0:06:50.440 --> 0:06:54.240 If we're a situation, if we're celebrating this next evolution 0:06:54.279 --> 0:06:58.880 around the sun, do you understand that that's a new 0:06:58.960 --> 0:07:08.839 year around the light? Remember, light yields life. You heard 0:07:08.880 --> 0:07:12.120 what we talked about with Dr red Cross Envitamin D 0:07:12.520 --> 0:07:19.600 and how imperative it is. Light yields life. But here's 0:07:19.600 --> 0:07:24.560 the thing. When you talk about self love, you can't 0:07:25.000 --> 0:07:27.560 miss out on a certain attributes of it and its 0:07:27.560 --> 0:07:30.440 things that it's unfolding to me. It's unraveling to me. 0:07:30.520 --> 0:07:33.280 But what I what I'm starting to realize with self 0:07:33.360 --> 0:07:37.560 love is there's a permission, um that you give yourself 0:07:37.560 --> 0:07:42.840 to experience life. Huh, what was the last time you 0:07:42.920 --> 0:07:48.400 gave your self permission to be you? Because I feel 0:07:48.400 --> 0:07:51.080 like oftentimes we put ourselves in boxes of restraints where 0:07:51.080 --> 0:07:53.680 we have the color inside the lines that we have 0:07:53.760 --> 0:07:55.800 to do the norm. But when do you go out 0:07:55.840 --> 0:07:58.120 and take a chance on you? When did you go 0:07:58.240 --> 0:08:00.360 out to be so open and vulnerable. Well, you're not 0:08:00.440 --> 0:08:03.120 even thinking about how much you're gonna lose, but how 0:08:03.200 --> 0:08:07.240 much you're gonna gain. When did you realize that that 0:08:07.320 --> 0:08:10.000 self love from you doesn't require you to change who 0:08:10.040 --> 0:08:13.160 you are because there are no attachments when you talk 0:08:13.200 --> 0:08:16.400 about love, because love is free and if you are 0:08:16.520 --> 0:08:20.120 love and you are loved, why wouldn't you be free? 0:08:21.080 --> 0:08:23.920 But at the same time, it's also have an appreciation 0:08:24.000 --> 0:08:27.200 of your boundaries. You know, when I was working with 0:08:27.240 --> 0:08:30.920 one of the renowned speakers, Lisa Nichols, one thing I 0:08:31.080 --> 0:08:35.120 learned and it's always stuck with me. She says, Um, 0:08:35.320 --> 0:08:38.360 you have to allow you have to allow your note 0:08:38.480 --> 0:08:44.199 to others to be the yes to yourself. Huh. Well, 0:08:45.440 --> 0:08:49.800 here's the thing. Sometimes we get in a situation where 0:08:49.800 --> 0:08:54.959 we're so uh balance to try to appease other people, right, 0:08:56.640 --> 0:08:59.599 we try to conform ourselves to follow a career. We 0:08:59.679 --> 0:09:02.760 probably the conform ourselves to go into certain relationships to 0:09:02.840 --> 0:09:07.240 acquire certain things to want to change who we are 0:09:07.720 --> 0:09:12.520 because we're seeking some other approval. But when you talk 0:09:12.559 --> 0:09:16.800 about love, love has already contained, it's equipped. So in 0:09:16.880 --> 0:09:20.880 setting that boundaries, you are saying, hey, I'm saying no 0:09:21.000 --> 0:09:23.360 to you so I can say yes to me. Whether 0:09:23.440 --> 0:09:27.880 that's if you're somebody that works a lot, which that's me. 0:09:29.120 --> 0:09:32.120 Don you are not going to say yes to every 0:09:32.120 --> 0:09:34.800 single thing. You have to set a boundary. Perhaps you're 0:09:34.800 --> 0:09:37.240 an individual who loves on your family and you love 0:09:37.280 --> 0:09:39.480 to do things for them, but you find that every 0:09:39.520 --> 0:09:42.640 time you're over extending yourself. And when you overextend yourself, 0:09:42.640 --> 0:09:45.360 remember we talked about the life bank account. Well, guess 0:09:45.360 --> 0:09:47.760 what your account goes into the negative? Because when are 0:09:47.760 --> 0:09:52.120 you giving time to deposit back into yourself? That's love. Now, 0:09:52.400 --> 0:09:56.480 remember what I said about now requiring you to change. 0:09:56.800 --> 0:09:59.480 I didn't mean that you can't change for the greater good. 0:09:59.559 --> 0:10:02.960 I'm taught think about changing for other people, saying no 0:10:03.200 --> 0:10:06.240 to appease someone else. Now, when you talk about love, 0:10:08.040 --> 0:10:10.720 that kind of change is good. Whether that's loving yourself 0:10:10.720 --> 0:10:14.040 in a healthier lifestyle, loving yourself to equip yourself in 0:10:14.040 --> 0:10:16.680 a relationship. Now, if we go onto a biblical stance. 0:10:17.080 --> 0:10:21.080 Think about it. The Potter's house. God Jesus is love, 0:10:22.040 --> 0:10:24.680 and I've talked about it before. We talked about molding 0:10:24.720 --> 0:10:27.800 and sculpting. We talked about the pressures. We talked about 0:10:27.800 --> 0:10:30.559 the water, the tears. We talked about you know, the pinching, 0:10:30.640 --> 0:10:33.160 the squeezing to mold it self so that we can 0:10:33.200 --> 0:10:36.160 pull the capacity of what is meant on our life. Right, 0:10:36.400 --> 0:10:38.840 and then we're testing the fire. Now, if you didn't 0:10:38.880 --> 0:10:41.440 catch it there, how about we talk about what allows 0:10:41.440 --> 0:10:44.400 the diamond to shine are the multitudes of cuts that 0:10:44.440 --> 0:10:46.880 have been placed within it. This diamond was once a 0:10:46.880 --> 0:10:50.679 piece of coal, cold, and all of this pressure from 0:10:50.720 --> 0:10:53.960 every angle, did you hear me? All of this pressure 0:10:54.040 --> 0:11:01.719 from every angle unimaginable. Transform this state. And we talk 0:11:01.800 --> 0:11:05.400 about life, We are transforming the state of our existence. 0:11:05.600 --> 0:11:09.240 The whole goal is to get elevated. Whoa, The whole 0:11:09.280 --> 0:11:12.679 goal is to get elevated. So this diamond is changing 0:11:12.679 --> 0:11:17.199 in the existence. And if that wasn't enough, it's sliced 0:11:17.240 --> 0:11:21.319 and diced from even more pain for me, even more disdained. 0:11:21.360 --> 0:11:23.839 But even regardless of all of that, decides to step 0:11:23.880 --> 0:11:28.040 in the same thing. We evolve around every year of 0:11:28.040 --> 0:11:31.480 our life. The light. Do you see what I'm saying? 0:11:32.400 --> 0:11:34.719 What allows the diamond, the shine of the multitudes that 0:11:34.800 --> 0:11:36.880 cuts with the place within it. So when we talk 0:11:36.920 --> 0:11:39.839 about love, how are you going to say the no 0:11:40.080 --> 0:11:42.840 to others so that you can save the guests to yourself? 0:11:43.240 --> 0:11:46.440 Because when you do that, you give yourself permission to 0:11:46.640 --> 0:11:50.120 live your life such as you and you understand that 0:11:50.160 --> 0:11:53.160 you have to set boundaries and you know what you 0:11:53.240 --> 0:11:56.360 also have to understand. You gotta understand that also self 0:11:56.400 --> 0:12:01.560 love is about forgiveness. Huh. We make mistakes, were not perfect. Hello, 0:12:01.600 --> 0:12:04.400 I'm gonna give you another example. When Jesus was down 0:12:04.440 --> 0:12:07.800 here in this whole story, he even fell three times. 0:12:08.320 --> 0:12:13.040 That was in the flesh moment. Forgiveness of myself is saying, 0:12:13.400 --> 0:12:17.720 even remembering my mother. You know, my mom's anniversary is 0:12:17.760 --> 0:12:21.960 coming up, But even remembering my mother. I was a 0:12:21.960 --> 0:12:23.960 little kid. I didn't know anybody. I was probably like 0:12:24.000 --> 0:12:28.480 eight years old. And my mother, she was known to 0:12:28.520 --> 0:12:31.160 have super long hair, like thick. They hear her hair 0:12:31.200 --> 0:12:33.319 could be in a ponytail and it's all the way 0:12:33.320 --> 0:12:35.040 in the middle of her back, if not like in 0:12:35.080 --> 0:12:39.800 the chair sitting there and she said she didn't like 0:12:39.880 --> 0:12:42.360 the way I did something, and she was handling her 0:12:42.440 --> 0:12:44.800 chemo treatments and I looked at her and I said, well, 0:12:44.800 --> 0:12:46.640 what if I didn't like the fact that your head 0:12:46.760 --> 0:12:50.200 was bald? I didn't know what I was really saying. 0:12:51.040 --> 0:12:55.160 My fast forward, I don't know about fifteen seventeen years 0:12:55.200 --> 0:12:59.720 after that, my mother dies, and all I can think 0:12:59.760 --> 0:13:01.640 about it was like, oh my gosh, I can't believe 0:13:01.640 --> 0:13:06.440 I said that. And as a result of that, for 0:13:06.520 --> 0:13:08.559 a few years after, I would shave my head bald 0:13:09.760 --> 0:13:12.040 because I wanted to be that representation that you are 0:13:12.080 --> 0:13:17.960 not your hair, like truly, your beauty is inside. And 0:13:18.920 --> 0:13:22.160 I had to give that forgiveness. Adn't because I was 0:13:22.240 --> 0:13:27.960 a child. I was a child. I have to forgive 0:13:28.040 --> 0:13:30.400 myself even times I think that maybe I didn't go 0:13:30.440 --> 0:13:35.160 home enough. You know, if I wasn't out in New 0:13:35.240 --> 0:13:37.840 York living, you know, you know, the past, the last 0:13:37.880 --> 0:13:39.560 couple of years of my mom's life, I would have 0:13:39.559 --> 0:13:42.880 been there. But I understand that my mom wanted me 0:13:42.920 --> 0:13:44.920 to live up my dreams, and I was there for her. 0:13:45.840 --> 0:13:47.760 Because when you find yourself and you're in a moment, 0:13:47.800 --> 0:13:52.040 you condemn it's a shame. It's a shame of me 0:13:52.080 --> 0:13:54.040 and who you are because the mistakes you have made. 0:13:54.040 --> 0:13:58.200 But you can't do it. Told yourself, that's not what 0:13:58.320 --> 0:14:02.120 love is because remember love is free. Okay, when you 0:14:02.160 --> 0:14:04.120 don't forgive you a lot of things to be locked up, 0:14:04.120 --> 0:14:05.840 that doesn't mean that you have to have yourself to 0:14:05.920 --> 0:14:08.360 come to it. But remember we talked about the boundress. 0:14:08.960 --> 0:14:12.160 Now here's another thing. You ready, I gotta take a 0:14:12.200 --> 0:14:14.800 sip and take a sip in my lacroix. On this one, 0:14:18.280 --> 0:14:23.600 You're gonna have to be honest with yourself and hey, 0:14:23.680 --> 0:14:28.560 catch this. It's gonna require you to be patient because 0:14:28.560 --> 0:14:31.520 we're constantly growing and for many such as myself, I'm 0:14:31.560 --> 0:14:35.520 constantly going where you know, I think my actions, I 0:14:35.560 --> 0:14:37.760 think my words are being conveyed one how But Dawn, 0:14:38.680 --> 0:14:41.600 take a minute, stop and listen. Now I told you 0:14:41.640 --> 0:14:43.760 maybe before if you go back on some past episodes, 0:14:43.800 --> 0:14:46.200 all I made a vision board and it's amazing how 0:14:46.240 --> 0:14:49.040 I'm seeing all of it unfold. You know, Um we 0:14:49.080 --> 0:14:53.400 got on here like coming from behind the scenes. It says, 0:14:53.440 --> 0:14:56.280 out of the shadows being a woman in color and media, 0:14:56.320 --> 0:14:58.240 look at me, Dawing day in her podcast, look at 0:14:58.240 --> 0:15:00.920 Me drawing there on the Love of Jason, Uh, look 0:15:00.920 --> 0:15:02.800 at me dawing day with cosmic forces. But one of 0:15:02.840 --> 0:15:05.400 the things that I also have is take your time. 0:15:07.240 --> 0:15:09.520 You know, I'm an area, so I'm like fire, go go, go, 0:15:09.600 --> 0:15:13.040 go go, just the same as fire that can keep 0:15:13.080 --> 0:15:15.400 you warm and to cook your food, that fire can 0:15:15.400 --> 0:15:18.720 burn you. So I'm learning to take my time because 0:15:18.760 --> 0:15:20.760 just as if you come on the light too quick, 0:15:21.200 --> 0:15:25.920 it can blind your eyes. So when we talk about 0:15:26.440 --> 0:15:30.720 being honest, it's sitting there. It's waiting for things to 0:15:30.800 --> 0:15:35.960 be revealed, understanding that things take time. Don't wash it. 0:15:36.400 --> 0:15:38.240 Think about your roots. Oh, let me tell you the 0:15:38.280 --> 0:15:41.480 story that just happened today. So, um, I've been in 0:15:41.520 --> 0:15:46.520 the process of redecorated my home, and I've been traveling 0:15:46.520 --> 0:15:49.040 back and forth out of town, and you know, I 0:15:49.080 --> 0:15:51.960 have a plant and so I think you see a 0:15:52.000 --> 0:15:53.680 little neglecting a little bit. But I was so excited 0:15:53.720 --> 0:15:56.480 because outside, you know, we're going to the season and 0:15:56.600 --> 0:16:00.720 going into spring. Cot On's birthday. But they put some 0:16:00.760 --> 0:16:03.120 fertilizes around there. And when I was in Detroit last 0:16:03.120 --> 0:16:05.080 week or a couple of weeks ago, one of my 0:16:05.200 --> 0:16:08.240 cousins man man. He was talking about making a compost 0:16:08.280 --> 0:16:09.840 for the plants. I was like, oh my gosh, there's 0:16:09.840 --> 0:16:12.800 manure out there. I'm gonna bring it inside. Not even thinking. 0:16:13.960 --> 0:16:15.960 I come in the house and I'm like, okay, let 0:16:15.960 --> 0:16:17.920 me dig up the soil. And I was like, I'm 0:16:17.960 --> 0:16:19.680 gonna put the manure there. But as I'm taking in, 0:16:19.800 --> 0:16:23.080 I'm breaking the soil apart. I see roots, roots are 0:16:23.080 --> 0:16:25.760 being pulled up. Oh my gosh, and I'm putting the 0:16:25.800 --> 0:16:30.280 manure down. And because I'm moving so fast, I forgot that. 0:16:30.360 --> 0:16:33.800 You know, the roots are connected to the core. If 0:16:33.840 --> 0:16:37.000 your roots aren't connected, everything that is an extension of 0:16:37.000 --> 0:16:41.240 that can die. So now what I hope happened or 0:16:41.320 --> 0:16:45.080 will happen that this nourishment with the plant is that 0:16:45.120 --> 0:16:47.360 it could bypass. But there's a chance that the roots 0:16:47.360 --> 0:16:49.600 have been effected. Now let's think about us. Let's come 0:16:49.600 --> 0:16:51.920 back to self love, and then you think about it, 0:16:52.000 --> 0:16:54.560 being honest with yourself. It's going down deep, right, that's 0:16:54.600 --> 0:16:56.840 what we talk about, this little lot of mine, that's 0:16:56.880 --> 0:16:59.080 the core. Even when you think about and I was 0:16:59.120 --> 0:17:01.520 thinking about this plan that I'm telling you, which I'm thinking, 0:17:01.520 --> 0:17:03.680 I'm rushing I'm pulling up the soil. When you think 0:17:03.680 --> 0:17:08.840 about the plants outside, the roots are all going towards 0:17:08.960 --> 0:17:12.000 the core. Remember I told you at the top of 0:17:12.000 --> 0:17:15.080 this episode, I said, we're getting down to the heart 0:17:15.359 --> 0:17:19.360 of the matter. And it reminds me of the song 0:17:19.400 --> 0:17:23.440 with nd RRA and she she says, we're gonna get 0:17:23.480 --> 0:17:26.800 down to the heart of the matter. But my flesh guests, 0:17:27.000 --> 0:17:30.320 we you got anyway Testimonials volume two and I'm getting 0:17:30.400 --> 0:17:33.560 n d R She's coming on the podcast, but she 0:17:33.920 --> 0:17:36.880 I took some some lyrics from there. She says, it's 0:17:36.920 --> 0:17:39.639 like the thoughts scene to scatter, and the heart is 0:17:39.640 --> 0:17:42.760 so shattered you realize it's time to get to the 0:17:42.760 --> 0:17:47.320 heart of the matter. It's about forgiveness forgetting us to you, 0:17:47.560 --> 0:17:49.640 me and ourselves. But you gotta get to the core 0:17:49.680 --> 0:17:51.960 of what you're saying. You gotta get to the court 0:17:52.040 --> 0:17:54.200 why you do what it is that you're doing. Until 0:17:54.240 --> 0:17:57.080 you take time with yourself, that's when you see that. 0:17:57.160 --> 0:17:59.639 And this is what you gotta realize too. When we 0:17:59.680 --> 0:18:03.680 talk about self love. Self love is doing right by yourself. 0:18:03.720 --> 0:18:05.920 It's being your true self. Just like I told you 0:18:05.960 --> 0:18:09.760 about not having restraints, I was just telling my sketchmate, 0:18:10.600 --> 0:18:12.520 and do you know I do in profit study and 0:18:12.600 --> 0:18:14.840 profit the groundings. I told you about this theory of 0:18:14.840 --> 0:18:17.840 the yes in which I love. We were just speaking 0:18:17.920 --> 0:18:20.280 and I was telling him. I said, you know, it's 0:18:20.320 --> 0:18:23.200 so interesting. For so long I've wanted to get locks, 0:18:23.280 --> 0:18:27.360 and I didn't because I thought that it was going 0:18:27.440 --> 0:18:30.560 to restrict me from opportunities and and and things that 0:18:30.600 --> 0:18:32.000 I wanted to do. Was gonna put me in the 0:18:32.040 --> 0:18:34.960 box of people are going to be labling. I look 0:18:35.040 --> 0:18:39.400 back and probably they was really um by changing for me. 0:18:39.560 --> 0:18:43.399 And it was literally like one of my good girlfriends, SHELLEYE. Slacks, 0:18:43.440 --> 0:18:46.600 says that of a transformation of a butterfly. She has 0:18:46.600 --> 0:18:49.399 her book Life Is a Butterfly, And thinking about in 0:18:49.480 --> 0:18:52.040 that cocoon when I had to step out and get 0:18:52.080 --> 0:18:55.800 brave and get naked and I was growing my locks, 0:18:56.960 --> 0:19:00.679 and how is it my podcast I told you want 0:19:00.720 --> 0:19:03.879 to love Jason my weakenst segment on the Steve Harvey 0:19:03.920 --> 0:19:07.480 Morning Show, It's Dawn still has our locks because it's 0:19:07.520 --> 0:19:09.920 about being true to who you are. Remember that whole 0:19:09.960 --> 0:19:13.159 thing about being honest and even as my hair the 0:19:13.200 --> 0:19:16.000 beginning process, it's not what I can say the best 0:19:16.080 --> 0:19:18.960 or the cutest, but it's part of the process of 0:19:19.000 --> 0:19:21.480 the journey. And just like when we talk about when 0:19:21.480 --> 0:19:24.520 the roots are going in, whether you're going after your dreams, 0:19:24.560 --> 0:19:27.040 whether you're sowing your relationship with yourself, with your guy, 0:19:27.400 --> 0:19:32.680 with whomever, whatever, it's going to take time. I'll even 0:19:32.680 --> 0:19:37.000 tell you this. I got excited today. I Um. I 0:19:37.080 --> 0:19:40.320 was sitting here, um really excited about the fact of 0:19:40.400 --> 0:19:43.680 just the revelations that I'm having my life and knowing 0:19:43.800 --> 0:19:46.199 that I am on the path of this aspiration of 0:19:46.240 --> 0:19:48.560 being big in the open, like it's happening, Like I 0:19:48.600 --> 0:19:51.080 can feel the magic. You ever felt magic on your 0:19:51.080 --> 0:19:53.760 life when you expect greatness? See, that's what love. You 0:19:53.880 --> 0:19:57.600 just expect the best. Right, So I'm so excited, I said, 0:19:57.600 --> 0:19:59.199 Oh my gosh. I felt like I was like, you 0:19:59.240 --> 0:20:01.159 know what, I'm going to down to this a vegan 0:20:01.200 --> 0:20:03.439 cafe and I'm going to get this smoothie. They have 0:20:03.480 --> 0:20:08.199 something called a Banana Banana black Magic smoothie. And I 0:20:08.320 --> 0:20:11.280 ran into this young lady and it's amazing that when 0:20:11.320 --> 0:20:13.119 you go after your mind what to do, what you 0:20:13.160 --> 0:20:17.520 wanna do, how the gifts and things unfold and the 0:20:17.520 --> 0:20:20.240 gift that I got from her. Um. She was telling 0:20:20.280 --> 0:20:23.560 me of what she studied with yoga. She says, nothing 0:20:23.640 --> 0:20:26.000 meant for you will pass you by as long as 0:20:26.000 --> 0:20:33.280 you are putting yourself out there and actively seeking the opportunities. Huh. 0:20:33.680 --> 0:20:38.040 Every time that I've decided to be bolded by my dreams, 0:20:39.359 --> 0:20:42.520 every time that I decided to travel, to take a trip, 0:20:42.600 --> 0:20:45.480 to go out an opportunity, I had to put myself 0:20:45.520 --> 0:20:48.960 out there. Now, if anything's meant for you won't pass 0:20:49.000 --> 0:20:53.160 you by, you gotta understand it's a double edged sword here. Okay. 0:20:53.800 --> 0:21:05.959 Remember how light yields life, right, Hydrogen and oxygen yields water. 0:21:08.720 --> 0:21:13.000 Understand that the life that you feel that is meant 0:21:13.119 --> 0:21:16.879 for you will not necessarily exist if you aren't doing 0:21:16.920 --> 0:21:19.639 the work to achieve that life. See, that's why the 0:21:19.760 --> 0:21:23.600 self love part is important, because you honor what you love. 0:21:24.760 --> 0:21:27.520 So don't sit there thinking that things will fall into 0:21:27.560 --> 0:21:30.439 your lap. That you will find love without being loved yourself. 0:21:30.480 --> 0:21:34.200 And that even means being vulnerable if you're not putting 0:21:34.240 --> 0:21:39.359 yourself out there. Because remember, like attracts like one plus 0:21:39.440 --> 0:21:43.920 one equals to certain actions yield certain results. So are 0:21:44.040 --> 0:21:47.879 you open to loving yourself. That's self love. That's what 0:21:48.040 --> 0:21:52.120 you call self care. It's about being in the now 0:21:52.440 --> 0:21:55.800 with the yes and type of attitude because we're building, 0:21:55.800 --> 0:21:59.680 we're growing, we're receiving, we're seeing, we're believing, we're achieving, 0:22:01.200 --> 0:22:06.720 we're consistently conceiving who we are because we're embracing the now, 0:22:07.480 --> 0:22:11.000 this moment, this moment to say whether or not I 0:22:11.080 --> 0:22:12.959 want to be more, whether or not I want to 0:22:13.000 --> 0:22:16.000 be extension, whether or not I am content, whether or 0:22:16.040 --> 0:22:17.920 not I can see who I am, where I am, 0:22:17.960 --> 0:22:22.639 and where am I going wing. Why self love is 0:22:22.680 --> 0:22:25.080 so important, it's because you understand the things that you 0:22:25.200 --> 0:22:29.240 pay attention to. Are you paying attention to yourself? Remember 0:22:29.240 --> 0:22:32.680 we talk about tap in, tap tap tap in? Are 0:22:32.760 --> 0:22:38.960 you tapping into you? Mm hmm. And if you aren't, 0:22:40.040 --> 0:22:46.640 why aren't you? Why would you? And remember we talk 0:22:46.720 --> 0:22:51.919 about this thing about patients. You gotta be honest and 0:22:51.960 --> 0:22:57.840 if you aren't, understand, that's okay because the journey is 0:22:57.880 --> 0:23:04.080 the experience, and the experience is the journey. Everything happens 0:23:04.280 --> 0:23:08.280 at the right timing. When you are in the now, 0:23:08.440 --> 0:23:12.479 you will understand why things had to happen the way 0:23:12.680 --> 0:23:15.720 they happen. Even with myself. I had a conversation with 0:23:15.760 --> 0:23:19.520 my boss, and it was about me standing in my authority, 0:23:19.560 --> 0:23:22.680 you know, really being um up from and honest about 0:23:22.720 --> 0:23:24.600 what do I want, what do I want to achieve? 0:23:24.680 --> 0:23:27.040 The first time, I'm nervous and sweating. I got my 0:23:27.119 --> 0:23:30.320 mom's picture of her and I I'm burning a white candle. 0:23:30.600 --> 0:23:32.399 You know, the tears are common because I had to 0:23:32.440 --> 0:23:36.439 be bold right Then the next year, you know, I 0:23:36.480 --> 0:23:39.520 still took notes and have all the crying going on, 0:23:42.080 --> 0:23:44.239 and I asked for what I want and then I 0:23:44.240 --> 0:23:48.200