WEBVTT - Marrying Yourself with Tiffany Haddish

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, guys, here are my dates for the High and

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<v Speaker 1>Mighty Tour. In August you can find me in Red Bank,

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<v Speaker 1>New Jersey, Montclair, New Jersey, and Calgary. That's Canada. And

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<v Speaker 1>September I will be in Santa Barbara, San Diego, New

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<v Speaker 1>York City, Philly and New Haven, Connecticut. October is Atlanta, Baltimore, Saginaw, Michigan, Pittsburgh, Toronto, Boise,

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<v Speaker 1>Idaho and Spokane. And then in November I'll be in

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<v Speaker 1>San Francisco. I'm coming to Salt Lake City, Austin, Houston,

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<v Speaker 1>Dallas Babies, I'll be there. And then in December I

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<v Speaker 1>am closing out my tour in Denver and Vancouver. So

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<v Speaker 1>get your tickets at Chelseahandler dot com for the High

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<v Speaker 1>and Mighty Tour.

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<v Speaker 2>Hi Catherine, Hi Chelsea.

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<v Speaker 3>How is the handsome Spaniard situation over there?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh?

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm so focused on my studies. You know that I'm

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<v Speaker 2>not even looking at men. You know me. When I

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<v Speaker 2>have a one focus of attention, it is to learn more.

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<v Speaker 4>The consummate students.

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<v Speaker 5>Estoya Key Para ap there no inter ma Interesa and

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<v Speaker 5>Los Ombres Manana until tomorrow. That is where I'm actually

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<v Speaker 5>being set up with a man, So we'll see how

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<v Speaker 5>that goes.

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<v Speaker 6>Nice.

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<v Speaker 4>Yes, yeah, we'll check back next week.

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<v Speaker 5>Well, I'm going for a little apparatzivo. How is your

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<v Speaker 5>como tefue vision.

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<v Speaker 7>Wavian weilindo la pisin At the tempo, we were just

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<v Speaker 7>floating in the pool the entire time and did almost

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<v Speaker 7>nothing and it was really lovely. Don't they if we

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<v Speaker 7>stayers and Cancun. Uh so it plamhrs near Cancun and

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<v Speaker 7>it was really lovely.

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<v Speaker 2>Was it hot?

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<v Speaker 1>You know what?

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<v Speaker 3>I was worried it was gonna be like muggy and crazy,

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<v Speaker 3>but it actually was quite comfortable. Like during the day

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<v Speaker 3>you definitely wanted to be like in the pool, in

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<v Speaker 3>the water, but yeah, the evenings were like fine and.

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<v Speaker 6>It was really it was really delightful.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, that's nice.

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<v Speaker 2>That's nice.

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<v Speaker 4>It was just like full relaxation.

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<v Speaker 8>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, I have to say Madrid is one of the

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<v Speaker 5>most special cities I've ever spent time in. I've been

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<v Speaker 5>here for now for two weeks almost sally Endo Sabado

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<v Speaker 5>el Sabado, and I've been going to school every day

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<v Speaker 5>like a good little girl with my I have people

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<v Speaker 5>in my class.

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<v Speaker 9>It's very cute.

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<v Speaker 5>I go from nine thirty to one pm, and then

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<v Speaker 5>I go and I take myself to some ridiculous meal.

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<v Speaker 2>Where I drink white wine and eat the freshest fish.

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<v Speaker 2>They fly the fresh fish into Madrid. Every day. There's

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<v Speaker 2>fires everywhere, unfortunately.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, what's the deal, what's going on with that?

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 5>There's fires everywhere in Europe, but this air is pretty bad.

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<v Speaker 5>It's like you can feel it when you're walking around.

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<v Speaker 5>But I'm just enjoying my life, like Elouise at the Plaza.

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<v Speaker 5>I'm staying at a really beautiful hotel. I already have

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<v Speaker 5>set up like all these doctor just close to me.

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<v Speaker 5>I get my backcracked, I get dry needling. I'm like,

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<v Speaker 5>I'm just living my best life until I have to

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<v Speaker 5>come home, and yeah, it's pretty exciting. I'll see everybody

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<v Speaker 5>in Montclair or no red Bank red Bank assault out Montclair,

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<v Speaker 5>and then I have Calgary on the thirteenth of August,

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<v Speaker 5>I believe, or the fourteenth or the fifteenth, it could.

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<v Speaker 2>Be any one of those days. Second say, yeah, it's

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<v Speaker 2>one of those days.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, go to Chelseahanler dot com to find out.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I'm coming back on tour. I'm back and on track.

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<v Speaker 2>This has been my reprieve, my respite.

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<v Speaker 4>I can tell you're arrested. Yeah, I can tell you're

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<v Speaker 4>rested and restored.

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<v Speaker 2>I've been sleeping a lot.

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<v Speaker 6>Good.

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<v Speaker 5>That's excellent. Our guest was so fun this week. Oh yeah,

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<v Speaker 5>she's one of my favorites. She's been one of my

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<v Speaker 5>favorite friends for so many years. And I think she's

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<v Speaker 5>coming to my house in my worka next month. So

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<v Speaker 5>that's going to be really fun because I don't think

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<v Speaker 5>we've ever vacationed together. But she is a comic, she's

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<v Speaker 5>an actress, and she's a star of the upcoming Haunted Heist,

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<v Speaker 5>which is in theaters now. Please welcome Tiffany Hattish.

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<v Speaker 6>Oh look you. It reminds me of.

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<v Speaker 10>Mitzvah, reminds me of You're but totally perfect.

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<v Speaker 1>It was really cute.

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<v Speaker 9>That was a party that I'm glad I really didn't miss.

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<v Speaker 6>I'm glad because that was the best party ever.

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<v Speaker 1>It was. It was a great party. Who did I

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<v Speaker 1>sit with Billy Crystal? Billy Crystal and his wife, and

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<v Speaker 1>they were so proud of you.

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<v Speaker 9>It was like they were your parents.

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<v Speaker 1>It was so Sweetlome Who did I go to that?

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<v Speaker 1>Who did I go to your party with Sarah?

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<v Speaker 8>Yes?

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<v Speaker 9>Yeah, it was a jew parade.

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<v Speaker 1>You're a bunch of juice parading around a bunch.

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<v Speaker 6>Of Jews, a bunch of black people too. It was

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<v Speaker 6>the perfect civil.

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<v Speaker 1>Rights You're here to promote your new movie, which is

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<v Speaker 1>called Haunted Heist.

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<v Speaker 9>It's gone video on demand.

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<v Speaker 1>First of all, I was watching a bunch of your

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<v Speaker 1>stuff in the last couple of weeks. You like a

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<v Speaker 1>fucking murder mystery, don't you? You love that ship, you

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<v Speaker 1>liked it. You were a detective like three different times.

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<v Speaker 11>I was like, I love I wanted to be the police.

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<v Speaker 11>You know, I slept with so many.

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<v Speaker 9>So many police officers.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, and I want to be the police.

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<v Speaker 1>With a lot of police officers I have, how many?

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<v Speaker 1>Do you think?

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<v Speaker 6>Probably?

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<v Speaker 9>For really, I don't think that I've ever.

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<v Speaker 1>Slept with a police officer to get out of something.

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<v Speaker 11>No, No, to get into something, to get something out

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<v Speaker 11>of it. And one of them turned into a judge,

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<v Speaker 11>went from police lawyer judge.

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<v Speaker 9>And did you ever get something out of it from them?

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<v Speaker 11>No?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, that's what I'm thinking.

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<v Speaker 11>I got some life lessons and I picked up some

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<v Speaker 11>character traits and I'm able to like, I picked up discernment.

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<v Speaker 1>That's right. I've also picked up discernment and later in

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<v Speaker 1>my later years. I didn't get discernment until a couple

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<v Speaker 1>of like years ago. It's pretty recent, and it's kind

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<v Speaker 1>of shocking when you do. When you do achieve discernment,

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<v Speaker 1>you're kind of like, wow, I was really fucking stupid

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<v Speaker 1>before that. Stupid is like and and no one would

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<v Speaker 1>ever look at me or you and think that they were.

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<v Speaker 1>We are easily taken advantage of. But I have been

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<v Speaker 1>taken advantage of by friends, by lovers, by so many people.

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<v Speaker 1>And not that I'm a victim, I'm not saying that,

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<v Speaker 1>but just like you would think I would be smarter

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<v Speaker 1>than that, and I'm not.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, well I am a victim.

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<v Speaker 11>I am a victim, and the victim side of me

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<v Speaker 11>has taken all that, all that energy and mutated it

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<v Speaker 11>into something good.

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<v Speaker 1>I know, Well, things are going really well for you.

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<v Speaker 1>Now they're going okay, No, they're going well, okay, they're

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<v Speaker 1>going well. Right, I'm going to say they're going well,

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<v Speaker 1>and that's gonna We're going to invite in the positivity.

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<v Speaker 6>Well, you know, the door is wide open for all

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<v Speaker 6>positives found the negative.

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<v Speaker 1>We you started off this year with your Sports Illustrated cover,

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<v Speaker 1>which was badass. Thank you and you were so excited

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<v Speaker 1>and Chrise. Tiffany with full disclosure, was one of my

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<v Speaker 1>first dinner guest at my house when I had to

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<v Speaker 1>christen it with good vibes. Nice Tiffany, my friend Sarah,

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<v Speaker 1>my friend Jane, Jane Fonda was here, and then Ya

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<v Speaker 1>Minika was here, but she was in a real fucking

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<v Speaker 1>funk that night, so luckily we were like, get the

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<v Speaker 1>fuck out of here. She came downstairs to meet Jane

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<v Speaker 1>Fond and she had a migraine and she didn't even

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<v Speaker 1>acknowledge Jane. She sits down and she just like looks

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<v Speaker 1>up and Jane's like hello, And so that was ridiculous.

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<v Speaker 4>Someone had to bring the bad vibes.

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<v Speaker 1>But yeah, so you helped Chris in my new house

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<v Speaker 1>and put it in the good vibes. But I want

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<v Speaker 1>to talk about your Sports Illustrated because I know you

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<v Speaker 1>were so proud of that, and I was so proud

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<v Speaker 1>of it. When you told me, I was like wow,

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<v Speaker 1>and then I saw it all the time, Like you

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<v Speaker 1>guys did a runway show, do they make you do

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<v Speaker 1>all of this stuff.

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<v Speaker 11>When you're on the cover, they don't make you do it,

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<v Speaker 11>but they definitely would like.

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<v Speaker 6>For you to do everything right. And there was so

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<v Speaker 6>much more.

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<v Speaker 11>I didn't do everything that they wanted because everything counts

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<v Speaker 11>with the big check.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, I'm tipyad.

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<v Speaker 9>Tiffany likes to get for everything.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, I do want to be paid. I want to

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<v Speaker 6>be compensated.

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<v Speaker 11>No exploitation without compensation. That is something that I picked

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<v Speaker 11>to discernment.

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<v Speaker 1>But we both at a charity event the other night

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<v Speaker 1>for Jane, and we didn't get paid for that, unless

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<v Speaker 1>you had a side hustle going no, no, we did.

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<v Speaker 6>Not get paid for that.

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<v Speaker 11>But I feel like there was compensation in that because

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<v Speaker 11>we get the friendship of Jamee Fonder and that is

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<v Speaker 11>very valuable. Like I mean, she changed the light switches

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<v Speaker 11>in my house so that I could have demurs.

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<v Speaker 1>She did that night.

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<v Speaker 11>Yes, she said it's too bright in here, and she

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<v Speaker 11>sent a very sexy electrician over and.

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<v Speaker 6>He came through and he changed my switches.

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<v Speaker 1>Wow, Jane is amazing.

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<v Speaker 4>Like she's in there with a screwdriver.

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<v Speaker 6>But she said the very end, it's just amazing. That's

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<v Speaker 6>what real friends do.

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<v Speaker 1>I know, I know she It's amazing to me how

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<v Speaker 1>much shit she gets done every single day, Like she

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<v Speaker 1>is tireless.

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<v Speaker 9>I've never seen anybody like that.

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<v Speaker 11>I think she stares at the wall. Have you heard

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<v Speaker 11>this new? This thing is it's new to me, but

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<v Speaker 11>it's probably as old as time. But when you take

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<v Speaker 11>a break, like actually take a break, like don't do anything,

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<v Speaker 11>don't pick up your phone, don't look at pictures and nothing,

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<v Speaker 11>just stare at the wall or just stare at a tree,

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<v Speaker 11>but just stare at something for like ten to twenty minutes,

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<v Speaker 11>like empty your brain out.

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<v Speaker 1>Just stare at something and then start again and then

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<v Speaker 1>start again. Yeah, that's like meditation.

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<v Speaker 11>Yeah, and I think she does that because I feel

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<v Speaker 11>like she does it in the middle of conversation.

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<v Speaker 6>Sometimes I feel like I'm telling her a story and

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<v Speaker 6>she's like, I've seen it.

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<v Speaker 9>I've definitely seen her look at you like that.

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<v Speaker 8>Sure.

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<v Speaker 9>Okay, so you got married to your you got married this.

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<v Speaker 6>Year to myself? Yeah? Last year?

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<v Speaker 11>Was it?

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<v Speaker 6>The year before?

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<v Speaker 11>I don't know, two your anniversaries coming up?

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<v Speaker 9>It's how did you decide to do that?

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<v Speaker 1>Well?

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<v Speaker 11>I just was really real, like, okay, so everybody sol Tiffany,

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<v Speaker 11>who are you with?

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<v Speaker 6>Who you with? Who you're dating? And that kind of

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<v Speaker 6>bothered me.

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<v Speaker 11>I don't like that because I remember before fame, nobody

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<v Speaker 11>cared who I was dating. I could be whatever kind

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<v Speaker 11>of horror I wanted to be, and nobody thought about it,

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<v Speaker 11>nobody asked questions about it. And then I started like,

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<v Speaker 11>I'm dating these different guys and like they all want

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<v Speaker 11>to be with me so bad, but then I'm not

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<v Speaker 11>wanting them like that, and then they're not like really

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<v Speaker 11>serving me, and then I'm like, how can I expect

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<v Speaker 11>them to make me happy if I don't know exactly

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<v Speaker 11>what makes me happy? And how am I going to

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<v Speaker 11>make a real commitment if I'm not making any commitment.

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<v Speaker 11>I've never made a commitment to myself, except like to

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<v Speaker 11>fulfill my dreams, but nothing like for like let me

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<v Speaker 11>take care of you, let me love on you, Like

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<v Speaker 11>I've never really committed like that, except for I guess

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<v Speaker 11>when I got married for real life to a man

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<v Speaker 11>and then I had the fore clothes on him that

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<v Speaker 11>didn't work out.

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<v Speaker 1>That did not work out, No, I didn't, no, I.

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<v Speaker 6>But discernment came with that lesson.

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<v Speaker 9>So how did you celebrate your wedding to yourself.

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<v Speaker 11>So basically, I invited my best friends and we went

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<v Speaker 11>to Africa and I had a ceremony and marry me

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<v Speaker 11>and then we danced a little bit, ate some food.

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<v Speaker 11>And now every year on my anniversary, I take me

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<v Speaker 11>to like the bel Air hotel.

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<v Speaker 6>I take me.

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<v Speaker 11>Somewhere nice and that has a jacuzzie, and I basically

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<v Speaker 11>buy me flowers and I do all this nice stuff

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<v Speaker 11>for me that I would want my man to do

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<v Speaker 11>for me. And I made a manual basically, and I'm

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<v Speaker 11>about to I think I kind of want to publish it,

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<v Speaker 11>but then I think that might be too much. But

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<v Speaker 11>I'm going to give it to the guy that I

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<v Speaker 11>think is the guy and be like, this is all

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<v Speaker 11>the stuff you got to do to just make me happy.

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<v Speaker 11>This is how you win me over. Yeah, this is

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<v Speaker 11>how you can, you know, get whatever you want out

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<v Speaker 11>of me. This is how you win you know.

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<v Speaker 1>What's really annoying is when you tell people directly what

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<v Speaker 1>you want, especially men that you're dating. If you tell

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<v Speaker 1>them directly what you want and they don't follow that, Like, you're.

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<v Speaker 11>Like, that's why I put it in a manual with

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<v Speaker 11>sketches and stuff, and then like I can. And if

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<v Speaker 11>you can't do this, then we wasn't supposed to be together.

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<v Speaker 11>You can't put this, you can't put this together.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, exactly. It's like listen, if we're telling you like

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<v Speaker 1>we're self empowered, that means we need that in order

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<v Speaker 1>to stay with you. So if you're not following the manual,

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<v Speaker 1>then you're not going to get to stay with us.

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<v Speaker 1>This is a very frustrating thing. Being direct is like,

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<v Speaker 1>sometimes you think I want to ask you a question.

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<v Speaker 1>I know you've had a lot of breakups, Like I.

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<v Speaker 11>Just went off on somebody earlier today on the way here.

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<v Speaker 6>That might be why I came so early.

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<v Speaker 1>I've never seen you early in your life, so it

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<v Speaker 1>was shocking.

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<v Speaker 11>And I'm always early if I think it's work. If

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<v Speaker 11>it's work, I will show it's true. Yes, yes, yes,

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<v Speaker 11>and social I behind.

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<v Speaker 6>I'll get there when I get there.

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<v Speaker 1>Between hanging out, why did you do? What happened today?

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<v Speaker 11>So this guy that I've been talking to that lives

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<v Speaker 11>in New York, we've been talking for a while and

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<v Speaker 11>we ended up hooking up, and I was.

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<v Speaker 6>I didn't enjoy it. I didn't enjoy it.

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<v Speaker 11>I just didn't and but I like him as a person.

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<v Speaker 11>But then it just the more he would talk to me,

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<v Speaker 11>the more I just don't want to talk, you know,

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<v Speaker 11>like once to somebody and if it's bad, or it's

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<v Speaker 11>not necessarily bad, it's just good enough for me. It's

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<v Speaker 11>just like, yeah, I don't want to I don't want

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<v Speaker 11>to be bothered. Yeah, I don't want to be bothered.

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<v Speaker 11>And that might be mistakes. Happened like two years ago,

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<v Speaker 11>it has happened since, but I still be like entertaining

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<v Speaker 11>the conversation, and so I'm like, look, I can't keep

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<v Speaker 11>entertaining this no more. Like I'm not into you. I'll

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<v Speaker 11>never be into you. You ain't seen me naked in

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<v Speaker 11>a long ass time. I don't want to see you naked.

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<v Speaker 11>Like and he's a beautiful man, but just don't don't

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<v Speaker 11>don't be putting your hopes on me.

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<v Speaker 6>I hope you got other girls you're talking to you.

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<v Speaker 1>This is the difference between women and men is that

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<v Speaker 1>we will I will put out a flame on behalf

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<v Speaker 1>of the other person. Like what you're saying is you're like,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't want to give you any false hope, right,

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<v Speaker 1>Whereas men want to keep women lingering around so they

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<v Speaker 1>don't definitively tell you when they're not interested, whereas we're

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<v Speaker 1>not trying to waste anybody's time. I don't want to

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<v Speaker 1>break your heart. If you're into this and I'm not

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<v Speaker 1>into this, I want to just cut you loose and

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<v Speaker 1>be respectful of another person, right, be nice if everyone

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<v Speaker 1>behavior yeah.

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<v Speaker 11>Yeah, well, because it's like, well to me, they I

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<v Speaker 11>think they do that case this one that I really

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<v Speaker 11>want to be with, don't want to give me no

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<v Speaker 11>ask today? Maybe this one that I kind of like,

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<v Speaker 11>which is cool.

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<v Speaker 6>I get it. I have dudes that are online for that.

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<v Speaker 1>You know.

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<v Speaker 11>That's just like you know, if I need some I'll

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<v Speaker 11>give you a car. But it's not like I don't

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<v Speaker 11>want to be I don't want to be your thing.

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<v Speaker 11>I don't want to be your main person.

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<v Speaker 1>What is the lowest thing that you've ever done during

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<v Speaker 1>a breakup?

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<v Speaker 6>The lowest thing do you have?

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<v Speaker 8>Do you have a.

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<v Speaker 1>Regret any regrets about the way you've handled a breakup?

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<v Speaker 6>Nah? Really?

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<v Speaker 11>I mean I've shitten in shoes, but I don't regret

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<v Speaker 11>shitting in them shoes I have I have made uh

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<v Speaker 11>sex videos, made copies of the dude sex state that

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<v Speaker 11>he had with the bitch that he was cheating on

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<v Speaker 11>me with.

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<v Speaker 6>I didn't regret that at all.

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<v Speaker 1>You got videos of the affair. Yeah, how did you

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<v Speaker 1>do that?

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<v Speaker 6>He had? He's stupid.

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<v Speaker 11>He was stupid, he he he was dumb as fuck.

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<v Speaker 6>So okay.

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<v Speaker 11>So he was trying to film me. He wants to

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<v Speaker 11>film me and him having sex. This is We're twenty

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<v Speaker 11>one years old. He wanted to film us having sex together.

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<v Speaker 11>And I was like, no, no, I don't want to

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<v Speaker 11>do that. And then one day, this is like a

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<v Speaker 11>few days after my birthday, I wanted to film it.

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<v Speaker 11>I'm like, let's film it. Okay, let's do this. I've

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<v Speaker 11>been thinking about it. Yeah, you know, we only be

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<v Speaker 11>young for so long. We need to capture our bodies

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<v Speaker 11>the way they are now. And I say, so good, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 11>this is gonna be great. And I grab the camera

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<v Speaker 11>and I start to push record. When I grabs the

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<v Speaker 11>camera and it was on top of the TV, he

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<v Speaker 11>yanks the camera from me, scratches my face.

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<v Speaker 6>I still got a scratch on his.

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<v Speaker 11>Cheek from it, and he takes the tape out, goes

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<v Speaker 11>outside in the rain, throws the tape in a dumpster.

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<v Speaker 6>So I'm like, what the hell is on that tape? Right?

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<v Speaker 11>So I play dumb or whatever. We start making out,

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<v Speaker 11>like ooh, my stomach making wear noise.

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<v Speaker 6>Let me go to the bathroom real quick. I go

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<v Speaker 6>to the bathroom.

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<v Speaker 11>I wait like twenty minutes in the bathroom, just staring

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<v Speaker 11>at the wall, deciding how I'm a murder this motherfucker.

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<v Speaker 11>And then I was like, okay, I can't make I'm

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<v Speaker 11>not gonna commit murder. I got a lot of life

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<v Speaker 11>to live. I want to do that. But I'm I'm

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<v Speaker 11>gonna go in that dumpster. So I tell him I'm sick.

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<v Speaker 11>I'm really sick. I cannot do this. I gotta go home.

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<v Speaker 6>I get in my car and I drive.

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<v Speaker 11>About three blocks away, come back around park about a

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<v Speaker 11>half a block away from his place, walk down, go

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<v Speaker 11>down into the garage area where the dumpsters are, and

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<v Speaker 11>I get the dumpster diving.

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<v Speaker 6>It's raining too, it's.

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<v Speaker 1>Nasty, it's outside the yeah.

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<v Speaker 6>And it's raining and it's raining, and I'm out there.

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<v Speaker 6>I find the tape.

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<v Speaker 11>Okay, I needed one of those adapter VHS tapes to

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<v Speaker 11>see what was on there because it's a little high eight.

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<v Speaker 11>So I drove around till three o'clock in the morning

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<v Speaker 11>to every drug store, Walmart, I mean everywhere, Kmart, Target,

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<v Speaker 11>I was driving everywhere CVS.

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<v Speaker 6>I don't even think CVS existed.

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<v Speaker 11>Then I think it was Savin's and Walgreens. Girl, I

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<v Speaker 11>was driving down ever trying to find that damn adapter.

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<v Speaker 11>And then I remember that my homegirl Anna, Anna, had

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<v Speaker 11>the same video camera that he had. I had to

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<v Speaker 11>start going into my memory like who do I know

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<v Speaker 11>they got cameras?

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<v Speaker 6>Who do I know?

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<v Speaker 11>Like literally, when I tell you, I was sitting in

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<v Speaker 11>my Geo Metro trying to manifest the thoughts, trying to

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<v Speaker 11>find trying to the knowledge, and then I was like, oh, Anna,

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<v Speaker 11>Anna has the same sony camera. So I called Anna

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<v Speaker 11>like five in the morning and I said, Anna, I

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<v Speaker 11>will bring you whatever alcohol, beverage you want.

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<v Speaker 6>Whatever weed, tobacco, whatever you need.

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<v Speaker 11>I will bring it to you right now if you

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<v Speaker 11>let me borrow your camera for a couple of days.

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<v Speaker 6>And she said what do you need it for?

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<v Speaker 11>I said, girl, I got this this acting project I'm

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<v Speaker 11>trying to put together. And she said, okay, yeah, just

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<v Speaker 11>bring me. Just bring me like a six pack and

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<v Speaker 11>some six I said, all right, bet what brand you want,

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<v Speaker 11>got her the brand, got her the cist out and

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<v Speaker 11>got her some black and miles, and I got her

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<v Speaker 11>at fifthy Weed.

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<v Speaker 6>I was not playing.

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<v Speaker 11>Okay and bro out of and she gave me the

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<v Speaker 11>camera and I went home. I was home probably about

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<v Speaker 11>about seven in the morning. I plug up the camera,

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<v Speaker 11>I put the taping in. I rewinded all the way

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<v Speaker 11>to the beginning before I push play, now, push play,

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<v Speaker 11>and then I hear me going, come.

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<v Speaker 6>On, let's make a movie. We making this movie. We

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<v Speaker 6>gotta be something sexy. Our body's gonna look so you

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<v Speaker 6>know this.

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<v Speaker 11>And then it cuts to it cuts to him saying, no,

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<v Speaker 11>that's not how Tiffany do it.

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<v Speaker 6>When you do it, you gotta do it like this.

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<v Speaker 6>This is how Tiffany do it.

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<v Speaker 11>And and like he's telling her, he's basically teaching this

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<v Speaker 11>bitch all my moves, and then they're like and then

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<v Speaker 11>it's it's dark, it's dark. And then all of a sudden,

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<v Speaker 11>the picture comes up and he's blowing this girl's back

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<v Speaker 11>out and he ain't got no kind of all. And

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<v Speaker 11>I watched it probably fifty times. That was so hard,

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<v Speaker 11>and I I wanted I wanted to I wanted to

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<v Speaker 11>destroy this man soul because it was it was killing

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<v Speaker 11>my soul.

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<v Speaker 6>It was like, HER's so bad.

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<v Speaker 11>So I went to hit and went down to the

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<v Speaker 11>swap meet and uh, and I had got that movie

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<v Speaker 11>Charlie's Angels on bootleg and I was like, I'm gonna

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<v Speaker 11>watch this. This's gonna make me feel better, right. So

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<v Speaker 11>I was watching that and then he called me and

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<v Speaker 11>was like, what's up, y'all?

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<v Speaker 6>You feeling you feeling better? I was like, nah, I'm

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<v Speaker 6>still sick.

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<v Speaker 11>But the more sick I get, the more I just

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<v Speaker 11>think I don't think we should be together no more.

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<v Speaker 11>I want to break up with you. I told him

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<v Speaker 11>my mom break up with him. He told me, I'm crazy.

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<v Speaker 11>Are you tripping? He come banging on my door. I

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<v Speaker 11>don't answer the door, and then he leaves, and he

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<v Speaker 11>leaves like flowers and stuff at the door, like.

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<v Speaker 6>You need you just tripping.

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<v Speaker 11>And then his mama call me, his aunt, he's called me,

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<v Speaker 11>his grandmama call me. They all tell me I'm crazy,

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<v Speaker 11>I got a mental problem. How could you break up

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<v Speaker 11>with him? This man loves you, He'll do anything for you,

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<v Speaker 11>And I'm like, that's bullshit, that's bullshit. But you know

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<v Speaker 11>I still want to honor him, you know. But they

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<v Speaker 11>kept on pressing me, kept pressing, and it was pissing

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<v Speaker 11>me off. How they was pumping this man up.

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<v Speaker 1>And I started, did you tell them the truth?

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<v Speaker 6>Not yet? Now yet yet?

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<v Speaker 8>Not yet?

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<v Speaker 6>I just said, I like when.

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<v Speaker 1>Women aren't reactive and they hold onto their evidence and

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<v Speaker 1>then decide when they're going to.

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<v Speaker 11>I just said to him, you need to talk because

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<v Speaker 11>his sister warned me. His sister two months before told

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<v Speaker 11>me you not my brother cheating on you. You know, my

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<v Speaker 11>brother be sleeping with the neighbor girl, like every time

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<v Speaker 11>you leave for mother here, when my mama go to work,

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<v Speaker 11>keep me with the neighbor girl. He just little Jamaican girl,

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<v Speaker 11>so you know, don't you know he'd be cheating. And

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<v Speaker 11>his sister's like eight, And I'm like, this little girl lying,

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<v Speaker 11>This little girl just don't want.

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<v Speaker 6>Me to be with her brother or whatever.

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<v Speaker 11>But then I just start thinking about it, like, man,

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<v Speaker 11>she's always attached to me. She's like the girl always

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<v Speaker 11>wants to play with me, laugh with me, Like I

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<v Speaker 11>don't think she They'll start being like she might not

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<v Speaker 11>be lying. So then I ask him and he's like

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<v Speaker 11>she's making that up. I don't know where she get

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<v Speaker 11>that from. So, and I want to believe him. I'm

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<v Speaker 11>twenty one, I'm stupid, fully dumb, so whatever he say,

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<v Speaker 11>I believe. But after I saw that video, yes, So,

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<v Speaker 11>then I got so mad. I got so mad, and

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<v Speaker 11>I got so in my head, and I had my

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<v Speaker 11>homegirl come over and watch with me. I said, what

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<v Speaker 11>you think I should do? I think I'm a destroy

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<v Speaker 11>this man. She was like, did you break up with him?

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<v Speaker 11>I said, yeah, we broke up. And I'm like, his

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<v Speaker 11>family keep harassing me, but it's really bothered me. I

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<v Speaker 11>just really want to destroy him, like I feel like

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<v Speaker 11>he's destroyed me. And she said, do what you think

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<v Speaker 11>is right. And he had left some shoes at my house.

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<v Speaker 11>So I do do it in those shoes, I ate corn,

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<v Speaker 11>I do do it in them. But before that, I

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<v Speaker 11>went ahead and I got a bunch of blank of

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<v Speaker 11>VHS tapes. This is the early two thousands, by the way,

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<v Speaker 11>and I took that Charlie's Angels movie, and right in

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<v Speaker 11>the middle of the Charlie's Angels movie, I put his

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<v Speaker 11>sex tape and I made enough copies for every single

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<v Speaker 11>family member that called me and told me this man,

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<v Speaker 11>love you, and for Christmas, I sent it to every

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<v Speaker 11>single one of those family members.

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<v Speaker 1>And did you tell them I was imperative to watch

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<v Speaker 1>the movie because what if they weren't interested in Charlie's Angels?

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<v Speaker 6>No, no, I did not.

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<v Speaker 11>Say it was imperative to either they watch it or

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<v Speaker 11>did don't watch it? And right in there I put

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<v Speaker 11>Corn's angel.

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<v Speaker 1>His name was, His name was Cornelias old us that part,

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<v Speaker 1>that's an important part of the story for you eating

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<v Speaker 1>corn and then taking a shadubi and his shoes. This

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<v Speaker 1>is a strong play, yeah, very strong move. This is

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<v Speaker 1>another level of breaking up.

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<v Speaker 11>Actually, I wrote about that in my book and I

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<v Speaker 11>named him TuS Titus in the book. So his name

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<v Speaker 11>is Titus, middle name Cordinelius.

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<v Speaker 9>Have you had nice breakups with men?

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, pretty much. Most of my breakups have been pretty nice.

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<v Speaker 1>That's nice.

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<v Speaker 11>But they all turned into a little bit of a

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<v Speaker 11>stalker for a little bit and.

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<v Speaker 9>The yeah, men can be like that.

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<v Speaker 6>And I could too. I might have been a little

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<v Speaker 6>bit of a stoker.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Once or twice I went through

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<v Speaker 1>a phase like that once. Tiffany and I, this is

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<v Speaker 1>a story. Tiffany and I I don't remember where we

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<v Speaker 1>were what we were doing, but we were Backsta. We

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<v Speaker 1>were doing something and she was like, you were like,

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<v Speaker 1>come over here, and you were talking about we're talking

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<v Speaker 1>about how much like we pay for other people and

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<v Speaker 1>family members and stuff like that, and she's like, I

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<v Speaker 1>need you to come here and look at my bank

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<v Speaker 1>account balance and she's like, does this seem right to you?

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<v Speaker 10>No, this does not right for the amount that you

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<v Speaker 10>are working, this is not the right balance.

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<v Speaker 1>And I was like, this, something has got to change.

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<v Speaker 11>That was that's because I really admire you, and I

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<v Speaker 11>feel like you should not like you can see my

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<v Speaker 11>career better than yeah. And I'm like, you tell me

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<v Speaker 11>what you think this, if this is right, because I.

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<v Speaker 6>Feel like this is wrong.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 11>Maybe, and maybe I'm crazy, Maybe I'm just over thinking

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<v Speaker 11>too highly of myself or maybe I'm just going extending

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<v Speaker 11>myself too much. And so I was like, can you

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<v Speaker 11>tell me if this is right? And you look at

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<v Speaker 11>them numbers and you said, NAHVI, this is.

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<v Speaker 6>When you were doing your show.

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<v Speaker 10>When you were doing your game show, she was working

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<v Speaker 10>like fucking five shows a day, filming like and I

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<v Speaker 10>was like, there, no, no, we all need I know well,

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<v Speaker 10>women especially need an education and find out.

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<v Speaker 11>What I feel like it was so important for us

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<v Speaker 11>to talk about that though, like I think, women we don't.

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<v Speaker 6>Talk about that with each other.

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<v Speaker 11>Men do and they're like, yeah, man, I'm getting paid this,

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<v Speaker 11>so then they know what to go ask for, but

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<v Speaker 11>we don't do that. So then in that moment, that's

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<v Speaker 11>when I decided I'm finna start asking my friends that

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<v Speaker 11>I think is successful and I know it's doing well

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<v Speaker 11>from my point of view what they see in this

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<v Speaker 11>because maybe I'm tripping and so and you've been so.

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<v Speaker 6>Good with that.

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<v Speaker 1>Thank you with that.

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<v Speaker 11>You're definitely like, no, bitch, you broke right now, that's

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<v Speaker 11>not that's not okay. Somebody is stealing from it.

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<v Speaker 1>Like you, it seems like you've repositioned yourself. You have

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<v Speaker 1>different management, you have different people around. It seems like

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<v Speaker 1>everything is moving in the right direction.

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<v Speaker 12>It is.

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<v Speaker 1>I noticed, I noticed, Okay, we're gonna take some callers, Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>give some advice. Yes, I know, I know, since you

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<v Speaker 1>take a sermon, this one.

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<v Speaker 3>Is really juicy, so we yes.

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<v Speaker 4>He says, Dear Chelsea.

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<v Speaker 3>I started dating my boyfriend about four months ago before

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<v Speaker 3>we slept together for the first time we had a

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<v Speaker 3>conversation about contraception, and I explained to him that I

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<v Speaker 3>wasn't on birth control because my body doesn't react well

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<v Speaker 3>to it. He said that it was no issue at

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<v Speaker 3>all because he'd had of a sectomy. He already had

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<v Speaker 3>two kids from his previous marriage and doesn't want anymore.

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<v Speaker 3>So he said he'd made the decision to get snipped

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<v Speaker 3>or so.

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<v Speaker 1>I thought, Oh, this is like that fucking but documentary

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<v Speaker 1>on Netflix, paternal Instinct woman who did.

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<v Speaker 6>The fine?

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<v Speaker 1>Can you believe? First of all, let's just let's break

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<v Speaker 1>stop down for a second, because we need to discuss

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<v Speaker 1>that maternalist.

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<v Speaker 11>I haven't seen it yet. Oh it's good, Okay, that

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<v Speaker 11>was good. I couldn't take my eyes off of.

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<v Speaker 9>The level of white trash in this country.

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<v Speaker 1>And I listen, I don't use that term loosely, but

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<v Speaker 1>the level of miseducation, Like this guy couldn't even string

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<v Speaker 1>a sentence together. He couldn't even put the right tenses together.

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<v Speaker 4>What's what's the premise?

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<v Speaker 1>Okay? Sorry, sorry, I'm going I'm too upset about the grammar.

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<v Speaker 1>I just couldn't believe the dumb assness of these people.

0:26:04.880 --> 0:26:07.080
<v Speaker 1>It's like, no wonder we have fucking Trump in office

0:26:07.119 --> 0:26:10.480
<v Speaker 1>when people like this are just wandering around our country.

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<v Speaker 1>So the premise is, you want to take.

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<v Speaker 11>A woman two kids already meets handsome cowboy type du

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<v Speaker 11>that Okay, I was, I was dts Anyways, she she

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<v Speaker 11>wants to lock him in.

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<v Speaker 6>Now.

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<v Speaker 11>She's had a topic pregnancies before and had her tubes removed. Okay,

0:26:31.160 --> 0:26:36.119
<v Speaker 11>tubal ligation like she removed it. Oh, they had to

0:26:36.160 --> 0:26:37.720
<v Speaker 11>take the whole uter risk.

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<v Speaker 6>It's the directomy. Okay, she had a full kiss directedmy

0:26:41.080 --> 0:26:43.720
<v Speaker 6>she dating this dude, she trying to trap them. Okay.

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<v Speaker 11>She tells him, okay after a few months, a day,

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<v Speaker 11>not even a whole year, that she's pregnant. Okay, she

0:26:50.160 --> 0:26:53.600
<v Speaker 11>starts pretending to be pregnant, and her family is letting

0:26:53.680 --> 0:26:56.720
<v Speaker 11>us lie. This woman done told a thousand lies. Her

0:26:56.760 --> 0:26:59.960
<v Speaker 11>family is not saying nothing. She had a gender review,

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<v Speaker 11>a baby shower.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my god.

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<v Speaker 11>Nobody's in her family saying nothing because she got something

0:27:05.680 --> 0:27:06.160
<v Speaker 11>over their.

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<v Speaker 6>Head or whatever. A few people here and there are

0:27:08.280 --> 0:27:09.359
<v Speaker 6>saying some one.

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<v Speaker 1>Of the boy family, it's starting.

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<v Speaker 11>And the mama, the mama, his mama calls up to

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<v Speaker 11>the or one of the friends or sister. Somebody in

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<v Speaker 11>this family calls the doctor's office because it's a small town, right.

0:27:21.080 --> 0:27:23.920
<v Speaker 6>The doctor's office see her posting stuff on Facebook.

0:27:23.640 --> 0:27:26.480
<v Speaker 10>My baby on the way the doctor's office.

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<v Speaker 1>They gave her the hystoryctic and.

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<v Speaker 11>They're like, they're like, she not having no baby nowhere

0:27:31.880 --> 0:27:34.679
<v Speaker 11>else she having a baby, right, And the one of

0:27:34.720 --> 0:27:37.480
<v Speaker 11>the family members called in. They're like, they can't because

0:27:37.480 --> 0:27:39.680
<v Speaker 11>of hippos. They can't say she had to disrect me.

0:27:39.760 --> 0:27:40.680
<v Speaker 6>But they saying.

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<v Speaker 11>Double check, I would pay attention in five of you,

0:27:45.240 --> 0:27:47.560
<v Speaker 11>Like they can't tell that this woman that had to

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<v Speaker 11>disrect me. But and they can't say that she can't

0:27:49.440 --> 0:27:51.400
<v Speaker 11>get pregnant because who knows God makes miracles?

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<v Speaker 6>But no, right, so what she do with.

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<v Speaker 11>This this crazy b She pretend like she pregnant. She

0:27:59.119 --> 0:28:00.880
<v Speaker 11>she just a big girl, right, but then I guess

0:28:00.880 --> 0:28:01.920
<v Speaker 11>she put a little fake belly on.

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<v Speaker 6>But how you hitting that, sir?

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<v Speaker 11>You?

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<v Speaker 9>This is this is what is so dumb asses.

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<v Speaker 11>And like the level foot push it through the belly,

0:28:09.800 --> 0:28:10.919
<v Speaker 11>nothing like babies a.

0:28:11.119 --> 0:28:15.720
<v Speaker 1>Level Some asses in this country is astonished.

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<v Speaker 11>And thinking she ate milk. Maybe she tells the tolerant

0:28:17.640 --> 0:28:18.920
<v Speaker 11>and you know how when you eat milk. You could

0:28:18.920 --> 0:28:19.840
<v Speaker 11>fill that rumble, like.

0:28:20.000 --> 0:28:25.040
<v Speaker 1>She had a fake pregnancy suit on that she ordered.

0:28:25.040 --> 0:28:27.639
<v Speaker 1>But like at some point the husband or the boyfriend

0:28:27.800 --> 0:28:30.919
<v Speaker 1>would see her naked or have sex with her, or

0:28:31.000 --> 0:28:32.679
<v Speaker 1>see her walk into the bathroom.

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<v Speaker 11>Now, but he'd like, pig farmer, dude, that's what I need.

0:28:37.280 --> 0:28:38.840
<v Speaker 11>If he ain't a pig, he don't.

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<v Speaker 1>Know, and he'd be like, I didn't know she had

0:28:41.480 --> 0:28:44.959
<v Speaker 1>she been. He'd be like, I didn't know she'd been expected.

0:28:45.280 --> 0:28:48.120
<v Speaker 1>Like the like the sentence structure was, I couldn't even

0:28:48.160 --> 0:28:50.320
<v Speaker 1>get past people.

0:28:50.760 --> 0:28:53.720
<v Speaker 11>But people talk like this. No he talked, They talked

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<v Speaker 11>like He's like, I don't know how in the hell

0:28:56.400 --> 0:29:00.960
<v Speaker 11>she was, adding, she says she suspected, so we like

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<v Speaker 11>it just sounds very slavey and it's like borderline slavery

0:29:04.640 --> 0:29:06.120
<v Speaker 11>slash like almost for your type.

0:29:06.800 --> 0:29:09.719
<v Speaker 6>It's just bad. It's just bad grammar, bad everything.

0:29:10.040 --> 0:29:13.880
<v Speaker 11>And she basically went and befriended this woman that she befriended,

0:29:14.320 --> 0:29:17.000
<v Speaker 11>took pictures of this woman at her wedding and everything.

0:29:17.040 --> 0:29:19.800
<v Speaker 11>She's a photographer to the woman's the lion ass bitches

0:29:19.800 --> 0:29:22.760
<v Speaker 11>a photographer. Okay, took pictures of her friend at the

0:29:22.920 --> 0:29:27.560
<v Speaker 11>mother fucking wedding after her friend's baby shower at her

0:29:27.640 --> 0:29:29.880
<v Speaker 11>friends party, go over to girl let's.

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<v Speaker 6>Hat tea lest whatever.

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<v Speaker 11>I've come kicking with my friend and all the other friends.

0:29:32.960 --> 0:29:35.960
<v Speaker 11>And the friend is very pregnant. And now she's ten

0:29:36.040 --> 0:29:39.240
<v Speaker 11>months and everybody's like, hey, you fourteen days behind your

0:29:39.280 --> 0:29:39.640
<v Speaker 11>do date?

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<v Speaker 12>What's up?

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<v Speaker 1>Point? Everyone has safe yet, Like even the mother of

0:29:43.560 --> 0:29:46.360
<v Speaker 1>the guy was like, hey this, we don't trust this woman.

0:29:46.560 --> 0:29:48.760
<v Speaker 1>We don't think she's pregnant. We don't believe she's pregnant.

0:29:48.760 --> 0:29:51.320
<v Speaker 1>She passed her due date by like a month, which

0:29:51.400 --> 0:29:53.000
<v Speaker 1>is like, are you an elephant?

0:29:53.040 --> 0:29:53.800
<v Speaker 9>That doesn't happen?

0:29:53.880 --> 0:29:54.520
<v Speaker 4>Right?

0:29:54.760 --> 0:29:58.280
<v Speaker 1>And and then so they were telling him and he's like,

0:29:58.560 --> 0:30:00.440
<v Speaker 1>oo nude.

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<v Speaker 11>And then and then this bitch go over to the

0:30:03.920 --> 0:30:07.120
<v Speaker 11>homegirl house right when everybody gone to work and stuff,

0:30:07.120 --> 0:30:09.360
<v Speaker 11>and her baby in near sleep, her daughter in there sleep.

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<v Speaker 6>This bitch come over early in the morning, kills her friend,

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<v Speaker 6>slices her baby.

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<v Speaker 11>Out of her bed, okay, leaves her on the floor,

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<v Speaker 11>takes the baby, starts driving a radical lead like she

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<v Speaker 11>had it to the hospital because she told her husband

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<v Speaker 11>to her boyfriend to meet her at the hospital because

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<v Speaker 11>she having a baby.

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<v Speaker 1>The baby still have the umbilical court on. But everyone

0:30:32.520 --> 0:30:34.720
<v Speaker 1>had been kind of red alerted in this town, the

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<v Speaker 1>hospital and the police both because they knew that she

0:30:37.720 --> 0:30:41.200
<v Speaker 1>was lying and everyone knew the story. So when they

0:30:41.200 --> 0:30:45.120
<v Speaker 1>got there, they filmed everything, and and she's like, i mean,

0:30:45.160 --> 0:30:47.840
<v Speaker 1>talk about a dumbouse. She's like, what, like she could

0:30:48.080 --> 0:30:50.719
<v Speaker 1>and they're like, well, let's see your vagina and make

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<v Speaker 1>sure you're okay.

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<v Speaker 9>Basically, you just.

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<v Speaker 6>Deliver the baby. Sure, stupid. She should have did that

0:30:55.600 --> 0:30:57.080
<v Speaker 6>shit when she was all her period.

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<v Speaker 11>Oh wait, you don't have periods because you got a

0:30:59.200 --> 0:31:02.600
<v Speaker 11>hysterict So she didn't even got no blood. You know,

0:31:03.480 --> 0:31:05.320
<v Speaker 11>you got a little blood on your pants, little blood

0:31:05.320 --> 0:31:06.960
<v Speaker 11>on the back of the pajama bottoms or something you

0:31:06.960 --> 0:31:08.040
<v Speaker 11>will be bleeding through.

0:31:08.560 --> 0:31:09.880
<v Speaker 6>She came out of there with just a little bit

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<v Speaker 6>of blood on her shirt from the bleeding.

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<v Speaker 4>The woman survive.

0:31:19.120 --> 0:31:21.680
<v Speaker 6>The doing life in jail. But I'm like, she's so dumb.

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<v Speaker 11>She should have put that blood of the lady all

0:31:23.360 --> 0:31:26.760
<v Speaker 11>between her legs or something like either white, but it

0:31:26.800 --> 0:31:29.040
<v Speaker 11>doesn't matter. Why are you taking somebody else's back?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, yeah, that, but also, how do you think that plan?

0:31:32.800 --> 0:31:35.720
<v Speaker 1>You think that you're gonna steal someone's baby from their belly,

0:31:35.960 --> 0:31:38.240
<v Speaker 1>take it out of their stomach, and they're not gonna

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<v Speaker 1>find out.

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<v Speaker 4>Right, They're not gonna find a body like what.

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<v Speaker 1>I just don't understand how stupid people are. It's I

0:31:45.280 --> 0:31:47.920
<v Speaker 1>guess you're just so crazy that it supersedes the stupid.

0:31:50.960 --> 0:31:53.600
<v Speaker 1>But then it's like a permanent state of psychosis.

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<v Speaker 11>All your friends, your neighbors, like everybody, like they just

0:31:57.200 --> 0:32:00.920
<v Speaker 11>let you keep talking that ship, like her mom and

0:32:01.040 --> 0:32:03.040
<v Speaker 11>dad said, they we don't deal with her at all.

0:32:03.120 --> 0:32:06.040
<v Speaker 6>She's a pathological lion. We don't deal with her at all.

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<v Speaker 1>What was really sad was after the husband or the boyfriend,

0:32:08.840 --> 0:32:11.479
<v Speaker 1>whatever he is, the farm or the pig farmer he is,

0:32:12.440 --> 0:32:15.640
<v Speaker 1>he's like, you know what was the most touching part

0:32:15.680 --> 0:32:17.640
<v Speaker 1>was how much his mother loved him and was like,

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<v Speaker 1>I just wish he had listened to me, Like I

0:32:19.560 --> 0:32:21.720
<v Speaker 1>warned him. I told him, but he was getting angry

0:32:21.760 --> 0:32:24.000
<v Speaker 1>at the people who were telling him the truths, as

0:32:24.040 --> 0:32:27.600
<v Speaker 1>one does. And then he's been shunned and ostracized by

0:32:27.640 --> 0:32:30.040
<v Speaker 1>the community and society because he was with her.

0:32:30.360 --> 0:32:32.320
<v Speaker 9>And so now this poor guy, and.

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<v Speaker 1>You know who I liked in that documentary, he's best friend,

0:32:35.040 --> 0:32:37.640
<v Speaker 1>he had some fucking soul. He came and he was like,

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<v Speaker 1>you have to listen to me. Forget about all this gossip.

0:32:40.320 --> 0:32:42.320
<v Speaker 1>You have to listen to me, Manda. Man, this woman

0:32:42.440 --> 0:32:44.720
<v Speaker 1>is out. She's not right, something's wrong with her, and

0:32:44.760 --> 0:32:46.800
<v Speaker 1>he couldn't listen to her because it's the power of

0:32:46.800 --> 0:32:47.240
<v Speaker 1>the pussy.

0:32:47.480 --> 0:32:48.520
<v Speaker 6>Yeah, she even.

0:32:48.320 --> 0:32:50.000
<v Speaker 1>Though he wasn't getting any pussy, because if he was,

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<v Speaker 1>he would have known she wasn't.

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<v Speaker 11>Pregnant, right, But he probably don't know the difference between

0:32:53.840 --> 0:32:55.440
<v Speaker 11>pregnant pissy and not pregnant pisty.

0:32:55.600 --> 0:32:59.160
<v Speaker 6>She probably really just.

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<v Speaker 11>Hobbing on a knob and keeping them drunk every night.

0:33:02.480 --> 0:33:04.200
<v Speaker 11>And then she probably had gas, so she's like, look,

0:33:04.200 --> 0:33:07.280
<v Speaker 11>the baby's moving with gas bubbles and stuff it. Then

0:33:07.400 --> 0:33:10.200
<v Speaker 11>I probably gave her liberty to fart and like freely

0:33:10.320 --> 0:33:12.920
<v Speaker 11>and stuff, and he's just thinking, oh, she's making my baby,

0:33:13.160 --> 0:33:15.560
<v Speaker 11>but really she's a nasty, dirty Okay.

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<v Speaker 9>Anyway, that was a slight sidebar.

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<v Speaker 4>A tiny sidebar. Minutes later that is taking this email

0:33:21.440 --> 0:33:25.440
<v Speaker 4>sound very tame. Okay, go, we'll pick back up where

0:33:25.440 --> 0:33:26.320
<v Speaker 4>we left off.

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<v Speaker 3>So you know, she thought that he had He told

0:33:29.080 --> 0:33:31.360
<v Speaker 3>her that he had had a vaseectomy, or so I thought.

0:33:31.560 --> 0:33:33.920
<v Speaker 3>I missed my period this month, but still thought nothing

0:33:33.920 --> 0:33:35.640
<v Speaker 3>of it and assumed it was due to stress or

0:33:35.680 --> 0:33:37.640
<v Speaker 3>lack of sleep. But when I still didn't get it

0:33:37.720 --> 0:33:40.600
<v Speaker 3>weeks later, I decided to take a pregnancy test. Well

0:33:40.720 --> 0:33:43.240
<v Speaker 3>it was positive. I'm hurt and upset that he lied

0:33:43.240 --> 0:33:45.480
<v Speaker 3>about something so serious. I'm not someone who wants to

0:33:45.520 --> 0:33:47.880
<v Speaker 3>carry a child and have never wanted kids. Even though

0:33:47.880 --> 0:33:49.840
<v Speaker 3>I adore his children, I still don't want one of

0:33:49.840 --> 0:33:52.680
<v Speaker 3>my own. Because of this, I've decided to terminate the pregnancy.

0:33:52.880 --> 0:33:55.240
<v Speaker 3>I'm trying to figure out how I should handle these feelings.

0:33:55.440 --> 0:33:57.160
<v Speaker 3>Things haven't been going well for us, and I've been

0:33:57.160 --> 0:33:59.720
<v Speaker 3>wanting to break things off anyway. But do I first

0:33:59.760 --> 0:34:02.440
<v Speaker 3>tell him that I'm pregnant and demand an explanation on

0:34:02.480 --> 0:34:04.680
<v Speaker 3>why he lied to me? Or do I go through

0:34:04.680 --> 0:34:07.720
<v Speaker 3>this alone and keep it to myself. I feel incredibly betrayed,

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<v Speaker 3>and any advice you have in the situation would be

0:34:09.520 --> 0:34:10.560
<v Speaker 3>greatly appreciated.

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<v Speaker 1>What do you think, oh, my nass? Though she wants

0:34:15.160 --> 0:34:19.320
<v Speaker 1>to play a trick on him, I'm evil.

0:34:19.440 --> 0:34:20.120
<v Speaker 6>I'm evil.

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<v Speaker 11>No, I would tell him his vasectomy doesn't work, and

0:34:24.320 --> 0:34:27.560
<v Speaker 11>I would if she wants to terminate the pregnancy, do

0:34:27.680 --> 0:34:28.800
<v Speaker 11>the little peel or whatever.

0:34:29.160 --> 0:34:34.040
<v Speaker 1>But absolutely don't fucking tell him anything. He doesn't get

0:34:34.040 --> 0:34:36.680
<v Speaker 1>to know because he's untrustworthy to lie about something like that.

0:34:37.239 --> 0:34:40.560
<v Speaker 1>It's very deceptive and something's wrong with him. So get

0:34:40.640 --> 0:34:42.440
<v Speaker 1>him out, get rid of him as quickly as possible.

0:34:42.440 --> 0:34:44.880
<v Speaker 1>If you want to confront him after the fact, go ahead.

0:34:45.239 --> 0:34:48.040
<v Speaker 1>But I mean, I know there's some self satisfaction you

0:34:48.120 --> 0:34:50.240
<v Speaker 1>think you're going to get by confronting people, but usually

0:34:50.520 --> 0:34:53.600
<v Speaker 1>no psychopath that you're just going to get moral lies.

0:34:53.920 --> 0:34:55.759
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, And I think if you're already thinking about bringing

0:34:55.800 --> 0:34:58.040
<v Speaker 3>up on him anyway, this is like way way way

0:34:58.080 --> 0:34:58.560
<v Speaker 3>right now.

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<v Speaker 9>This would be a reason to break up with someone

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<v Speaker 9>if you weren't.

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<v Speaker 4>Even if you weren't totally okay. Can viseectomies not work?

0:35:04.360 --> 0:35:05.759
<v Speaker 4>Don't they like work all of the time?

0:35:05.840 --> 0:35:08.040
<v Speaker 6>Or are there Well, it depends on how they did it.

0:35:08.120 --> 0:35:10.399
<v Speaker 11>Now, if they burnt the ends of the tubes, then

0:35:10.440 --> 0:35:13.600
<v Speaker 11>it should be done, unless he didn't get out eighty

0:35:13.960 --> 0:35:14.600
<v Speaker 11>nuts before.

0:35:14.719 --> 0:35:17.120
<v Speaker 6>But he got to visect me years before he meet.

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<v Speaker 11>So the only other thing is if they tied it

0:35:19.760 --> 0:35:23.000
<v Speaker 11>in a knot, then an could come untied and then

0:35:23.120 --> 0:35:25.200
<v Speaker 11>it could float through the Those are the only two

0:35:25.239 --> 0:35:25.920
<v Speaker 11>ways that I know of.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, yeah, I mean well, yeah, wow, I didn't even

0:35:28.920 --> 0:35:29.600
<v Speaker 1>think about that.

0:35:29.680 --> 0:35:30.600
<v Speaker 9>Maybe it didn't work.

0:35:30.680 --> 0:35:33.960
<v Speaker 11>I mean I would, I would handle business and I

0:35:33.960 --> 0:35:35.799
<v Speaker 11>would let him know that I need to go back

0:35:35.800 --> 0:35:38.440
<v Speaker 11>to the doctor. Yeah, and get your stuff checked because

0:35:38.480 --> 0:35:40.720
<v Speaker 11>you because as far as I'm concerned, you're a liar

0:35:41.239 --> 0:35:44.480
<v Speaker 11>or the doctor messed up the malpractice, because that's that

0:35:44.840 --> 0:35:45.600
<v Speaker 11>is not true.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, you have a visect me. It's not true.

0:35:48.280 --> 0:35:50.800
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, all right, d best of luck to you.

0:35:51.239 --> 0:35:54.120
<v Speaker 1>I'm with a lot of medical stuff because I'm a doctor,

0:35:54.239 --> 0:35:55.280
<v Speaker 1>I know, but I'm a doctor.

0:35:55.320 --> 0:35:56.920
<v Speaker 9>I'm a pharmacist or a doctor.

0:35:57.480 --> 0:36:00.279
<v Speaker 1>She's a and I'm a pharmacist. We should of our

0:36:00.280 --> 0:36:03.040
<v Speaker 1>own doctor medical facillin. Allow, we should open one up

0:36:03.040 --> 0:36:03.680
<v Speaker 1>in my work gut.

0:36:03.760 --> 0:36:05.840
<v Speaker 6>We could do it. We could, Yeah, we couldn't.

0:36:05.920 --> 0:36:08.280
<v Speaker 1>Natural men diagnose them and then I prescribed.

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<v Speaker 11>Well.

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<v Speaker 3>Our first caller today is Miles, and Miles says, I

0:36:18.160 --> 0:36:20.960
<v Speaker 3>was in a relationship for fifteen years and when it ended,

0:36:21.000 --> 0:36:23.520
<v Speaker 3>I felt like I lost everything. I lost my wife,

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<v Speaker 3>my house, my family, and the future I thought I

0:36:25.760 --> 0:36:28.000
<v Speaker 3>was going to have. Now I'm living on my own

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<v Speaker 3>for the first time. I'm finding it hard to make

0:36:29.960 --> 0:36:33.080
<v Speaker 3>new friends, and honestly, the silence and loneliness can be overwhelming.

0:36:33.400 --> 0:36:35.439
<v Speaker 3>One of the hardest parts is knowing my ex has

0:36:35.480 --> 0:36:37.879
<v Speaker 3>already moved on and is in a new relationship while

0:36:37.920 --> 0:36:39.759
<v Speaker 3>I'm still trying to figure out who I am on

0:36:39.800 --> 0:36:42.280
<v Speaker 3>my own. How do I learn to be alone without

0:36:42.280 --> 0:36:44.680
<v Speaker 3>feeling lonely? How do I build a new life when

0:36:44.680 --> 0:36:46.880
<v Speaker 3>I feel like I'm starting from scratch? And how do

0:36:46.960 --> 0:36:48.759
<v Speaker 3>I truly move on when the person I thought I'd

0:36:48.760 --> 0:36:50.400
<v Speaker 3>spend my life with has already moved on?

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<v Speaker 1>Miles, Hi, Miles, Hello, Hello, Hello, Hello. This is our

0:36:55.719 --> 0:36:58.360
<v Speaker 1>special guest today, Miss Tiffany Hattish is here.

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<v Speaker 6>Hello.

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<v Speaker 12>Oh my god, I saw you recently in Sydney. You're amazing.

0:37:04.760 --> 0:37:09.240
<v Speaker 6>Yes, this person you were with a Bogan.

0:37:10.400 --> 0:37:10.920
<v Speaker 12>Again.

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<v Speaker 11>No, okay, I know, I know you're not all Bogans.

0:37:15.760 --> 0:37:16.480
<v Speaker 6>I know that, I know.

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<v Speaker 2>I know.

0:37:17.200 --> 0:37:18.000
<v Speaker 6>I was just checking.

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<v Speaker 9>Well, that sounds like you're going through a really difficult time.

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<v Speaker 12>It's been a lot.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, it's been a lot. I'm reading this book. It's

0:37:25.800 --> 0:37:28.319
<v Speaker 1>called This Is What Happens When Women Read that's the

0:37:28.400 --> 0:37:30.919
<v Speaker 1>name of the book, and it's about someone going through

0:37:31.120 --> 0:37:33.319
<v Speaker 1>not your exact situation, but like a kind of a

0:37:33.320 --> 0:37:36.000
<v Speaker 1>complete like breakdown of what she thought was her life

0:37:36.440 --> 0:37:38.480
<v Speaker 1>and the end of one of, you.

0:37:38.440 --> 0:37:40.080
<v Speaker 9>Know, of a part of her life.

0:37:40.400 --> 0:37:44.080
<v Speaker 1>And while that transition period, like what you're in right

0:37:44.200 --> 0:37:48.600
<v Speaker 1>now is so scary and unknown and like you feel

0:37:48.640 --> 0:37:52.319
<v Speaker 1>so destabilized, I can imagine and this is what you

0:37:52.480 --> 0:37:57.040
<v Speaker 1>expected from your life. This period of time is temporary,

0:37:57.160 --> 0:38:00.000
<v Speaker 1>it's not permanent, and what you do with this time

0:38:00.080 --> 0:38:03.480
<v Speaker 1>time is going to is going to matter for the

0:38:03.520 --> 0:38:06.719
<v Speaker 1>rest of your life. Like how you build and rebuild

0:38:06.760 --> 0:38:09.400
<v Speaker 1>your life from here is going to be really vital

0:38:09.640 --> 0:38:11.440
<v Speaker 1>to how you go through the rest of your life.

0:38:11.520 --> 0:38:15.400
<v Speaker 1>And it's a huge opportunity for intense growth and immense growth,

0:38:15.520 --> 0:38:19.960
<v Speaker 1>Like you want to really just dive in to actually

0:38:20.040 --> 0:38:23.680
<v Speaker 1>sitting alone and being alone with those feelings. Really, I

0:38:23.719 --> 0:38:26.400
<v Speaker 1>know it doesn't sound desirable and it's not fun to

0:38:26.480 --> 0:38:29.640
<v Speaker 1>be feeling this way, but the best way to get

0:38:29.680 --> 0:38:32.920
<v Speaker 1>through these things is to go straight through them and

0:38:33.040 --> 0:38:36.759
<v Speaker 1>not to numb yourself with alcohol or drugs or any

0:38:36.800 --> 0:38:39.640
<v Speaker 1>of that stuff, or exercise or whatever. Like you want

0:38:39.680 --> 0:38:42.040
<v Speaker 1>to do whatever you're doing, but you don't want to

0:38:42.680 --> 0:38:45.720
<v Speaker 1>numb yourself to what you're dealing with, because it's intensely painful,

0:38:45.760 --> 0:38:50.400
<v Speaker 1>I understand, and you want to experience that pain because

0:38:50.520 --> 0:38:52.399
<v Speaker 1>through that darkness you will find your light.

0:38:52.520 --> 0:38:53.480
<v Speaker 9>I promise you.

0:38:53.920 --> 0:38:57.520
<v Speaker 1>Everyone goes through really dark periods in their lives. Some

0:38:57.920 --> 0:39:00.160
<v Speaker 1>are more intense than others. But you have I have

0:39:00.160 --> 0:39:02.200
<v Speaker 1>a choice of how you handle it and how you

0:39:02.239 --> 0:39:03.440
<v Speaker 1>come out the other side.

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<v Speaker 11>And as someone who's been divorced and felt like everything

0:39:07.239 --> 0:39:09.799
<v Speaker 11>like that, when yeah, it felt like it was death,

0:39:09.920 --> 0:39:12.680
<v Speaker 11>death to the relationship in my mind kind of like

0:39:12.719 --> 0:39:16.040
<v Speaker 11>he's dead to me, Like everything was like, yeah, it

0:39:16.120 --> 0:39:19.320
<v Speaker 11>was dark. And what I did was I wallowed around

0:39:19.320 --> 0:39:20.759
<v Speaker 11>in that shit for a little bit. I ain't gonna

0:39:20.760 --> 0:39:23.319
<v Speaker 11>lie to you. I wallowed around in it, and I

0:39:23.400 --> 0:39:26.200
<v Speaker 11>did get drunk, and I did a lot of stupid stuff,

0:39:26.640 --> 0:39:30.480
<v Speaker 11>and I caused myself a lot of problems. Okay, And

0:39:30.520 --> 0:39:33.000
<v Speaker 11>then my grandma snatched me up and she said, like,

0:39:33.200 --> 0:39:36.359
<v Speaker 11>baby girl, baby girl, how long you're gonna be sad

0:39:36.360 --> 0:39:38.319
<v Speaker 11>about this man that's probably not sad about you, that's

0:39:38.440 --> 0:39:42.480
<v Speaker 11>probably already moved on, probably already doing somebody else. Like

0:39:42.800 --> 0:39:45.759
<v Speaker 11>do things that you enjoy. Just start doing things that

0:39:45.800 --> 0:39:48.319
<v Speaker 11>you enjoy, and if you don't enjoy nothing, pretend like

0:39:48.360 --> 0:39:50.880
<v Speaker 11>you enjoy it. So I got myself a little groupine.

0:39:50.920 --> 0:39:53.160
<v Speaker 11>I went to the little paint and sit classes. I

0:39:53.160 --> 0:39:55.640
<v Speaker 11>didn't my girlfriends wanted to take me places, but they

0:39:55.760 --> 0:39:58.240
<v Speaker 11>reminded me of him because that we all hung out together.

0:39:58.320 --> 0:40:00.680
<v Speaker 11>So I didn't want to really be around this that much.

0:40:01.040 --> 0:40:04.560
<v Speaker 11>I went to mail strip clubs. I watched men dance,

0:40:05.040 --> 0:40:07.359
<v Speaker 11>and I threw money at them, twenty dollars. I never

0:40:07.400 --> 0:40:08.359
<v Speaker 11>spent more than twenty dollars.

0:40:08.400 --> 0:40:09.000
<v Speaker 6>And I yelled.

0:40:10.040 --> 0:40:13.440
<v Speaker 11>I yelled really crazy things to them. Made I objectified

0:40:13.440 --> 0:40:15.960
<v Speaker 11>those men, and that made me feel good. Now, probably

0:40:16.080 --> 0:40:18.440
<v Speaker 11>was wrong, Probably should have been nice to those young men,

0:40:18.480 --> 0:40:20.600
<v Speaker 11>but I was not. I let me say that dick

0:40:20.680 --> 0:40:24.720
<v Speaker 11>slang motherfucker, dance better, bitch like. I was yelling stuff

0:40:24.760 --> 0:40:28.239
<v Speaker 11>like that, and it was a good time. And then

0:40:28.960 --> 0:40:31.960
<v Speaker 11>eleven months eleven months, I didn't date anybody else. And

0:40:31.960 --> 0:40:34.560
<v Speaker 11>then I just like kind of like really started figuring

0:40:34.600 --> 0:40:36.239
<v Speaker 11>out what do I want to do with my life,

0:40:36.280 --> 0:40:38.840
<v Speaker 11>what do I want to be? I started getting I

0:40:39.000 --> 0:40:42.360
<v Speaker 11>enrolled in acting classes. I enrolled in a calligraphy class,

0:40:42.440 --> 0:40:44.200
<v Speaker 11>which was weird as hell because I have the worst

0:40:44.200 --> 0:40:46.480
<v Speaker 11>handwriting and it was still bad. I failed back class,

0:40:47.160 --> 0:40:53.160
<v Speaker 11>but also took a voice vocal lessons, a dialect lessons,

0:40:53.239 --> 0:40:57.080
<v Speaker 11>like at speed reading class. I just started taking classes,

0:40:57.160 --> 0:41:00.520
<v Speaker 11>any kind of class. I went to the am the

0:41:00.520 --> 0:41:01.759
<v Speaker 11>AMAX at me.

0:41:02.480 --> 0:41:04.759
<v Speaker 6>You know, they had the speakers and the people that

0:41:04.880 --> 0:41:05.600
<v Speaker 6>teach little things.

0:41:05.600 --> 0:41:07.960
<v Speaker 11>And then like, I went to the community College for

0:41:07.960 --> 0:41:10.160
<v Speaker 11>a little bit, took a grooming dogs class, like and

0:41:10.200 --> 0:41:11.920
<v Speaker 11>I'll just meet people in these classes. And then I

0:41:11.960 --> 0:41:14.279
<v Speaker 11>would get on stage as much as possible because I'm

0:41:14.320 --> 0:41:17.080
<v Speaker 11>a comedian. I would talk about my problems and the

0:41:17.160 --> 0:41:18.239
<v Speaker 11>jokes didn't make no sense.

0:41:18.280 --> 0:41:20.720
<v Speaker 6>Baby, y'all. It was bad. I was bombing, but it's okay.

0:41:20.920 --> 0:41:23.879
<v Speaker 11>I was getting stuff off my chest, and I went

0:41:23.920 --> 0:41:27.600
<v Speaker 11>to therapy. And after eleven months, then I started dating.

0:41:27.640 --> 0:41:30.560
<v Speaker 11>And I started like, it's like the fog finally cleared.

0:41:30.880 --> 0:41:32.120
<v Speaker 9>How long has it been for you?

0:41:34.000 --> 0:41:36.480
<v Speaker 12>Well, it's been twelve months. But we lived together.

0:41:36.960 --> 0:41:38.640
<v Speaker 6>Oh yeah, you gotta get out of there.

0:41:39.120 --> 0:41:40.920
<v Speaker 12>Yeah no, no, we're not anymore. So we had to

0:41:40.960 --> 0:41:43.000
<v Speaker 12>live together. We have a five year old boy, so

0:41:43.040 --> 0:41:45.240
<v Speaker 12>we had to sell our house. I moved out in March,

0:41:45.560 --> 0:41:48.160
<v Speaker 12>bought my own place, so you know, I focused on,

0:41:48.920 --> 0:41:52.000
<v Speaker 12>you know, getting in a promotion at work, making sure

0:41:52.040 --> 0:41:55.040
<v Speaker 12>I bought my own place, so of all the right things,

0:41:55.120 --> 0:41:58.040
<v Speaker 12>and then it's you know, now twelve months later, I've

0:41:58.080 --> 0:42:00.600
<v Speaker 12>been living, you know, out on my own since March,

0:42:00.640 --> 0:42:03.479
<v Speaker 12>and then all of a sudden, the craziness stops, and

0:42:03.600 --> 0:42:05.040
<v Speaker 12>you know, all of the things that I wanted to

0:42:05.080 --> 0:42:09.240
<v Speaker 12>achieve I've done, and now it's just like emptiness.

0:42:09.840 --> 0:42:13.040
<v Speaker 11>Oh yeah, Now fill that up with something you always

0:42:13.080 --> 0:42:16.680
<v Speaker 11>wanted to do. Crochet sew when maybe learn how to

0:42:16.719 --> 0:42:19.600
<v Speaker 11>do here. Maybe become a dental high gennis, maybe you

0:42:19.680 --> 0:42:20.640
<v Speaker 11>become a mechanic.

0:42:21.040 --> 0:42:22.960
<v Speaker 6>Just pick up a little thing. You know.

0:42:23.200 --> 0:42:26.239
<v Speaker 11>You went Australia. It's a gang of finance man out there.

0:42:26.239 --> 0:42:27.960
<v Speaker 11>I would be hanging out at the little Is it

0:42:28.000 --> 0:42:30.040
<v Speaker 11>a woman or a man that you're with where you

0:42:30.080 --> 0:42:30.440
<v Speaker 11>were with?

0:42:30.880 --> 0:42:34.040
<v Speaker 12>I was with a woman for fifty I would try

0:42:34.040 --> 0:42:34.439
<v Speaker 12>a man.

0:42:34.560 --> 0:42:38.879
<v Speaker 11>Now, see how I try try something different, Just see

0:42:38.880 --> 0:42:39.439
<v Speaker 11>how it goes.

0:42:39.480 --> 0:42:40.359
<v Speaker 6>You might not like it.

0:42:40.440 --> 0:42:42.520
<v Speaker 11>You might be like, you know what, No, but it

0:42:42.600 --> 0:42:44.319
<v Speaker 11>says a gang of finance min it's a gang of

0:42:44.360 --> 0:42:47.160
<v Speaker 11>finance women too, so I would go enjoy it.

0:42:47.239 --> 0:42:48.759
<v Speaker 12>I definitely have tried that.

0:42:51.120 --> 0:42:52.759
<v Speaker 1>I think listen, first of all, you have to be

0:42:52.760 --> 0:42:54.600
<v Speaker 1>grateful for all of the things that you have, Like

0:42:54.600 --> 0:42:57.680
<v Speaker 1>you're not going through this and having financial struggles. You're

0:42:57.680 --> 0:42:59.680
<v Speaker 1>not going through this and you're unhealthy, or you're sick,

0:42:59.760 --> 0:43:02.640
<v Speaker 1>or you're kids sick or anything like that. Like you're

0:43:02.640 --> 0:43:06.680
<v Speaker 1>feeling emptiness. That's a completely valid human emotion to feel.

0:43:06.680 --> 0:43:07.359
<v Speaker 9>And feel it.

0:43:07.600 --> 0:43:10.400
<v Speaker 1>But because it's not going to last forever, I promise you,

0:43:10.400 --> 0:43:12.360
<v Speaker 1>you have to just feed your soul. You have to

0:43:12.400 --> 0:43:14.560
<v Speaker 1>read books that are going to help you move on

0:43:14.760 --> 0:43:17.279
<v Speaker 1>with your life. And what Tiffany is saying is great.

0:43:17.360 --> 0:43:18.880
<v Speaker 1>I didn't know you did all that shit when you

0:43:18.880 --> 0:43:19.800
<v Speaker 1>were going through your divorce.

0:43:19.840 --> 0:43:20.920
<v Speaker 9>I mean, that's bad ass.

0:43:21.120 --> 0:43:23.359
<v Speaker 1>To fill yourself up, Like do something that you never

0:43:23.400 --> 0:43:25.560
<v Speaker 1>thought you do. Take a sailing class, or go take

0:43:25.600 --> 0:43:28.120
<v Speaker 1>a pottery class, or do something that appeals to you,

0:43:28.200 --> 0:43:32.840
<v Speaker 1>whatever that is. But just start giving to yourself more

0:43:33.000 --> 0:43:36.359
<v Speaker 1>than you're giving in. It's okay to feel empty, it's

0:43:36.400 --> 0:43:39.400
<v Speaker 1>okay to feel lonely, but you have to remember, like

0:43:39.680 --> 0:43:41.840
<v Speaker 1>even the good times aren't permanent, so the bad times

0:43:41.840 --> 0:43:42.799
<v Speaker 1>can't be permanent either.

0:43:43.800 --> 0:43:45.920
<v Speaker 6>Or you could marry yourself. We could have a wedding

0:43:46.000 --> 0:43:47.600
<v Speaker 6>for you, girl. We could put this out there together.

0:43:48.360 --> 0:43:51.000
<v Speaker 1>Definitely just married herself two years ago. She's sending up

0:43:51.000 --> 0:43:52.120
<v Speaker 1>on a two year anniversary.

0:43:52.360 --> 0:43:54.320
<v Speaker 11>I'm coming up on that to year anniversary in August.

0:43:54.360 --> 0:43:56.799
<v Speaker 11>Your congratulations, Yeah, I'm married me.

0:43:57.480 --> 0:43:59.160
<v Speaker 1>Do you have a big support system?

0:43:59.320 --> 0:44:00.840
<v Speaker 9>Do you have a good support system?

0:44:01.400 --> 0:44:03.920
<v Speaker 12>So obviously I have my family, but you know, we

0:44:03.920 --> 0:44:06.520
<v Speaker 12>were together a long time and we built a friendship

0:44:06.520 --> 0:44:10.160
<v Speaker 12>group together. I think when she ended it, I stepped

0:44:10.200 --> 0:44:13.520
<v Speaker 12>away because I didn't want to say anything hurtful or

0:44:13.560 --> 0:44:16.480
<v Speaker 12>mean when I was angry to you know, mutual friends.

0:44:16.520 --> 0:44:20.520
<v Speaker 12>So I'm slowly trying to get back into, you know,

0:44:20.800 --> 0:44:23.920
<v Speaker 12>that friendship group that we had, but it's still awkward

0:44:23.920 --> 0:44:27.040
<v Speaker 12>for me. I do have, you know, three really close friends,

0:44:27.080 --> 0:44:29.719
<v Speaker 12>which is enough. Yeah, But now that I'm sort of

0:44:29.760 --> 0:44:32.840
<v Speaker 12>living in back in the city in Sydney, you know,

0:44:32.840 --> 0:44:34.600
<v Speaker 12>I want to go out and meet new people, but

0:44:34.640 --> 0:44:38.120
<v Speaker 12>it's I feel like I'm not myself. It's just it's awkward.

0:44:38.400 --> 0:44:41.480
<v Speaker 12>I've never been alone. And then obviously, you know, in

0:44:41.600 --> 0:44:43.719
<v Speaker 12>terms of support, I have my son half the time,

0:44:43.760 --> 0:44:44.960
<v Speaker 12>which is incredible.

0:44:45.840 --> 0:44:48.080
<v Speaker 11>But you're a new self. You're not yourself. You're not

0:44:48.120 --> 0:44:51.120
<v Speaker 11>yourself anymore. You're not that woman anymore that was married before.

0:44:51.160 --> 0:44:53.839
<v Speaker 11>You are a new person now, so it's like, yeah,

0:44:54.080 --> 0:44:56.080
<v Speaker 11>it's time to get to know you. It's time to

0:44:56.080 --> 0:44:58.440
<v Speaker 11>get to know what you're really into it. For fifteen years,

0:44:58.760 --> 0:45:01.440
<v Speaker 11>you were always consider it of this other person and

0:45:01.480 --> 0:45:04.480
<v Speaker 11>what they liked and what can we do together? Now

0:45:04.920 --> 0:45:07.000
<v Speaker 11>is what do I like? And what can I do

0:45:07.160 --> 0:45:10.080
<v Speaker 11>with me that other people would want to do with

0:45:10.200 --> 0:45:10.600
<v Speaker 11>me too?

0:45:11.520 --> 0:45:14.799
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I understand that you're like experiencing this is a

0:45:14.840 --> 0:45:17.280
<v Speaker 1>great loss, but like you have to kind of flip

0:45:17.320 --> 0:45:19.440
<v Speaker 1>the script on this because it's a new beginning in

0:45:19.440 --> 0:45:21.640
<v Speaker 1>your life and even though it's not one that you

0:45:21.800 --> 0:45:25.080
<v Speaker 1>necessarily chose, you have it now. You have all this

0:45:25.239 --> 0:45:28.759
<v Speaker 1>opportunity for a whole new life and that's while that

0:45:28.800 --> 0:45:32.480
<v Speaker 1>can be daunting, it's super fucking exciting also, So like

0:45:32.640 --> 0:45:34.320
<v Speaker 1>you just want to change the way that you're talking

0:45:34.360 --> 0:45:37.759
<v Speaker 1>to yourself about this experience. This is this is this

0:45:37.840 --> 0:45:40.040
<v Speaker 1>can be the beginning of something very positive, and I

0:45:40.080 --> 0:45:43.200
<v Speaker 1>know that it is. Every breakup leads to some rebirth,

0:45:43.280 --> 0:45:46.520
<v Speaker 1>a new experience for people like no one. I mean,

0:45:46.560 --> 0:45:49.080
<v Speaker 1>it's very rare that you hold on to a breakup

0:45:49.120 --> 0:45:51.399
<v Speaker 1>for years and years and years. So I think let

0:45:51.400 --> 0:45:52.840
<v Speaker 1>go of the fact that it's been a year, and

0:45:52.920 --> 0:45:55.520
<v Speaker 1>let go of that time stamp in your head. It's

0:45:55.560 --> 0:45:58.360
<v Speaker 1>not that pertinent. What you want to do is really

0:45:58.680 --> 0:46:01.479
<v Speaker 1>a wake up and write down five things that are

0:46:01.520 --> 0:46:03.880
<v Speaker 1>going well for you in your life. Write down how

0:46:03.960 --> 0:46:06.600
<v Speaker 1>much you love your son. That you're grateful for your job,

0:46:06.600 --> 0:46:08.920
<v Speaker 1>that you're grateful you've got a promotion, that you're financially

0:46:08.960 --> 0:46:12.319
<v Speaker 1>secure and independent, that you have a beautiful house. Write

0:46:12.400 --> 0:46:14.680
<v Speaker 1>down all of these things so you remind yourself of

0:46:14.719 --> 0:46:18.160
<v Speaker 1>how lucky and fortunate you are. You're not sick, you're

0:46:18.200 --> 0:46:20.799
<v Speaker 1>not broke, you're not you know, you have friends, you

0:46:20.800 --> 0:46:24.360
<v Speaker 1>have family, you have wonderful things. You're just holding onto

0:46:24.400 --> 0:46:26.719
<v Speaker 1>the pain, and in order to release the pain, you

0:46:26.760 --> 0:46:28.640
<v Speaker 1>need to remind yourself of what's going well.

0:46:28.800 --> 0:46:31.080
<v Speaker 6>Great advice, and don't be afraid to cry.

0:46:31.960 --> 0:46:35.279
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, don't yeah, lean out so you laugh, yeah yeah,

0:46:35.320 --> 0:46:36.600
<v Speaker 1>because you will start laughing.

0:46:36.719 --> 0:46:36.919
<v Speaker 6>Yeah.

0:46:37.040 --> 0:46:39.000
<v Speaker 11>Crying is just a removal of all beliefs and a

0:46:39.040 --> 0:46:41.240
<v Speaker 11>replacement of numans to create some new beliefs.

0:46:41.280 --> 0:46:44.160
<v Speaker 1>But just try to shake off that feeling of awkwardness.

0:46:44.200 --> 0:46:47.080
<v Speaker 1>When you feel that, like, try to let it loose,

0:46:47.200 --> 0:46:50.160
<v Speaker 1>like just like let go of that. That's the old

0:46:50.280 --> 0:46:53.680
<v Speaker 1>you that's somebody who's holding onto the past. So every

0:46:53.719 --> 0:46:55.880
<v Speaker 1>time you think of that, just think of that Taylor

0:46:55.920 --> 0:46:59.200
<v Speaker 1>Swift song. Shake it off, just like literally shake your

0:46:59.200 --> 0:47:01.760
<v Speaker 1>body and be like, no, that's not who I am anymore,

0:47:02.040 --> 0:47:04.200
<v Speaker 1>you know what I mean, And move through your life

0:47:04.480 --> 0:47:08.640
<v Speaker 1>with that energy and just start uplifting yourself, because really,

0:47:08.760 --> 0:47:11.600
<v Speaker 1>this is all you can ever do is be your

0:47:11.640 --> 0:47:15.040
<v Speaker 1>own best advocate. You can't rely on other people to

0:47:15.080 --> 0:47:16.880
<v Speaker 1>lift you up. You have to do it yourself.

0:47:17.000 --> 0:47:18.640
<v Speaker 6>Now, are you trying to get back out there dating

0:47:18.680 --> 0:47:20.480
<v Speaker 6>again or no? Not yet or what?

0:47:21.239 --> 0:47:21.319
<v Speaker 11>No?

0:47:21.880 --> 0:47:25.160
<v Speaker 12>No, not yet? I mean I have sort of gone

0:47:25.160 --> 0:47:27.920
<v Speaker 12>out and met a few people, but no, I've just

0:47:27.960 --> 0:47:30.319
<v Speaker 12>been trying to focus on my son, make sure he's

0:47:30.360 --> 0:47:31.400
<v Speaker 12>mentally okay.

0:47:32.360 --> 0:47:33.759
<v Speaker 6>Yeah, yeah, focused on that.

0:47:33.880 --> 0:47:36.200
<v Speaker 11>If you decide you want to start dating other people,

0:47:36.600 --> 0:47:39.120
<v Speaker 11>let me know, because I know a few millionaire bitches

0:47:39.680 --> 0:47:41.960
<v Speaker 11>that's you know, popping in Australia.

0:47:43.080 --> 0:47:45.319
<v Speaker 12>You know, I'm not saying don't send them my wife.

0:47:46.280 --> 0:47:46.880
<v Speaker 6>There we go.

0:47:47.480 --> 0:47:52.360
<v Speaker 11>That's there because they know me while I was happy.

0:47:52.400 --> 0:47:53.839
<v Speaker 4>That's the spirit that they were.

0:47:54.120 --> 0:47:57.200
<v Speaker 1>But treat yourself with love and compassion. Okay, you are

0:47:57.239 --> 0:47:59.680
<v Speaker 1>your best advocate and your happiness is important for your

0:47:59.760 --> 0:48:02.879
<v Speaker 1>child happiness. So you got to just wake up every

0:48:02.960 --> 0:48:05.080
<v Speaker 1>day and try and find the gratitude in where you

0:48:05.120 --> 0:48:06.960
<v Speaker 1>are in this moment. And you're going to look back

0:48:07.000 --> 0:48:09.800
<v Speaker 1>at this time in another year or two, I promise,

0:48:10.400 --> 0:48:12.439
<v Speaker 1>and you're gonna be like, wow, that was really tough

0:48:12.480 --> 0:48:14.200
<v Speaker 1>and I got through that like a fucking champ.

0:48:15.400 --> 0:48:19.080
<v Speaker 12>Oh you guys are incredible. I'm s so much better already.

0:48:19.960 --> 0:48:21.799
<v Speaker 1>But what promised me that you'll wake up and write

0:48:21.840 --> 0:48:24.080
<v Speaker 1>down five things every day that you're grateful for.

0:48:24.440 --> 0:48:26.680
<v Speaker 12>Absolutely. I do love journaling, so.

0:48:26.880 --> 0:48:29.480
<v Speaker 1>Okay, great, So yeah, do that every day because that

0:48:29.600 --> 0:48:32.440
<v Speaker 1>just sets you up for success for your day. And

0:48:32.480 --> 0:48:35.000
<v Speaker 1>when you get off track and you get sad it,

0:48:35.239 --> 0:48:37.759
<v Speaker 1>do the same thing. Write it down again, write down

0:48:37.800 --> 0:48:40.560
<v Speaker 1>another five things. Just every time you start to feel

0:48:40.560 --> 0:48:43.120
<v Speaker 1>like you're not on your right path and that like

0:48:43.239 --> 0:48:46.279
<v Speaker 1>spirit of like shaking it off and lifting up, then

0:48:46.440 --> 0:48:49.920
<v Speaker 1>just remind yourself that you're healthy, you're strong, you're vibrant,

0:48:50.000 --> 0:48:52.160
<v Speaker 1>you have a son, like things are going well.

0:48:52.400 --> 0:48:52.920
<v Speaker 6>You winning?

0:48:53.200 --> 0:48:56.479
<v Speaker 3>Yeah all right, myles, let us know what you sign

0:48:56.560 --> 0:48:58.920
<v Speaker 3>up for, what you start doing, what you start enjoying

0:48:58.920 --> 0:49:00.200
<v Speaker 3>that you didn't think you would enjoy.

0:49:00.880 --> 0:49:03.759
<v Speaker 12>Yeah, let's see. Let's see, I'm looking forward to meeting

0:49:03.800 --> 0:49:05.000
<v Speaker 12>those millionaire baches.

0:49:06.360 --> 0:49:08.840
<v Speaker 1>We'll send you a direction link to Tiffany's website.

0:49:08.880 --> 0:49:10.279
<v Speaker 6>I got got you.

0:49:10.400 --> 0:49:14.520
<v Speaker 11>I'm for it, all your information information to know you,

0:49:14.560 --> 0:49:15.600
<v Speaker 11>I'm gonna get you.

0:49:15.600 --> 0:49:16.759
<v Speaker 6>You know what, I'm gonna just tell you what. I

0:49:16.840 --> 0:49:17.560
<v Speaker 6>be hanging out.

0:49:22.000 --> 0:49:24.200
<v Speaker 12>So lovely to make you guys.

0:49:24.680 --> 0:49:27.680
<v Speaker 1>Thanks Miles, Thanks Miles, sending you lots of love.

0:49:28.320 --> 0:49:29.160
<v Speaker 12>Na, thank you.

0:49:30.000 --> 0:49:31.399
<v Speaker 4>Oh sweetie.

0:49:32.320 --> 0:49:35.359
<v Speaker 1>It breaks my heart when people's hearts are broken, I know.

0:49:35.680 --> 0:49:37.840
<v Speaker 3>And she's really only like three months out of the

0:49:37.920 --> 0:49:40.360
<v Speaker 3>chaos part of it, so it's interesting that she says, like,

0:49:40.680 --> 0:49:42.719
<v Speaker 3>now it just feels like there's nothing because there is

0:49:42.840 --> 0:49:45.600
<v Speaker 3>some Like it's so stimulating to me in the chaos,

0:49:45.680 --> 0:49:46.200
<v Speaker 3>even though.

0:49:46.040 --> 0:49:48.840
<v Speaker 4>It's like bad. Yeah, yeah, that's interesting.

0:49:49.160 --> 0:49:52.279
<v Speaker 1>It's like when you realize after a breakup there's a

0:49:52.360 --> 0:49:55.040
<v Speaker 1>drama that comes with the breakup, right, and then when

0:49:55.080 --> 0:49:59.040
<v Speaker 1>that goes away, it's almost like, well, now there's no one,

0:49:59.160 --> 0:50:01.600
<v Speaker 1>you know, like even in the aftermath of the breakup,

0:50:01.600 --> 0:50:05.520
<v Speaker 1>there's a there's a possibility of reconciliation, or there's drama

0:50:05.560 --> 0:50:07.280
<v Speaker 1>attached that keeps the engine going.

0:50:07.640 --> 0:50:10.719
<v Speaker 11>I don't have that much drama after my breakups just

0:50:10.880 --> 0:50:11.880
<v Speaker 11>because I disappeared.

0:50:11.960 --> 0:50:13.959
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, they had to like live together for like nine

0:50:13.960 --> 0:50:14.520
<v Speaker 3>months after.

0:50:14.920 --> 0:50:16.880
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, that would be that's messy.

0:50:16.960 --> 0:50:19.319
<v Speaker 6>Yeah, I disappear. You know, I'm a foster kid.

0:50:19.360 --> 0:50:22.399
<v Speaker 11>I know how to evacuate the premises quickly and never

0:50:22.480 --> 0:50:25.600
<v Speaker 11>show up again. I know how to do that. I

0:50:25.640 --> 0:50:27.920
<v Speaker 11>hate that I do that. I hate that I do that,

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<v Speaker 11>But I do that.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, why do you hate that? You do it?

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<v Speaker 11>Because I know that the other person wants to say

0:50:34.000 --> 0:50:36.160
<v Speaker 11>more and do more, but it's like there's nothing else

0:50:36.200 --> 0:50:39.080
<v Speaker 11>that could be said. There's nothing and I would love

0:50:39.160 --> 0:50:41.759
<v Speaker 11>to be that ear for them to like pour their

0:50:41.760 --> 0:50:44.880
<v Speaker 11>little heart out into. So they're not talking about me

0:50:45.000 --> 0:50:47.000
<v Speaker 11>all over the world, but they gonna talk about me anyway,

0:50:47.160 --> 0:50:48.360
<v Speaker 11>So just let it go.

0:50:48.760 --> 0:50:52.200
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, sometimes you're Yeah, sometimes there's just too many conversations

0:50:52.280 --> 0:50:53.840
<v Speaker 1>around the breakup.

0:50:53.600 --> 0:50:55.439
<v Speaker 11>Right, And I don't even want to have them when

0:50:55.440 --> 0:50:57.759
<v Speaker 11>I broke up with you know, a few people the

0:50:57.840 --> 0:50:59.960
<v Speaker 11>last like I would say, the last four relationships I had.

0:51:00.200 --> 0:51:02.399
<v Speaker 11>I think they thought I was gonna be like, why

0:51:02.520 --> 0:51:06.080
<v Speaker 11>you don't want to we kept work on this. I'm like, uh,

0:51:06.280 --> 0:51:08.960
<v Speaker 11>this seems like you want this to be over okay, cool,

0:51:09.040 --> 0:51:11.279
<v Speaker 11>let's okay, you got your way.

0:51:11.480 --> 0:51:14.760
<v Speaker 6>I'm gonna go mind and get my little defel bag. Bye.

0:51:15.040 --> 0:51:19.720
<v Speaker 6>And they're like, wait, that's it, that's it, were done.

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<v Speaker 12>Bye.

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<v Speaker 11>See you're around. I'm always smiling. I always say hello

0:51:24.200 --> 0:51:24.960
<v Speaker 11>when I see you.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, yeah, yeah, you actually you're right, you're I mean,

0:51:28.480 --> 0:51:30.520
<v Speaker 1>obviously you're right because it's your life. But you aren't

0:51:30.560 --> 0:51:34.600
<v Speaker 1>dramatic with breakups. Yeah, it's much better when it's not dramatic.

0:51:34.960 --> 0:51:35.320
<v Speaker 6>Yeah.

0:51:35.480 --> 0:51:36.960
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, it's much more assault like.

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<v Speaker 11>It's better because they'd be like, you never really loved me.

0:51:41.239 --> 0:51:43.160
<v Speaker 11>I'm like, but a man, you didn't fight for me.

0:51:44.040 --> 0:51:46.879
<v Speaker 11>I'm not fighting. I'm not fighting for no man. There's

0:51:46.960 --> 0:51:48.120
<v Speaker 11>too many of y'all out here.

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<v Speaker 1>I was looking up the definition the difference between suppress

0:51:51.200 --> 0:51:54.680
<v Speaker 1>and repress earlier because I always get confused by those

0:51:54.680 --> 0:51:57.719
<v Speaker 1>two words, which one is conscious. Suppress is consciously when

0:51:57.719 --> 0:52:01.279
<v Speaker 1>you consciously suppressed it, and repress is uncon I just

0:52:01.280 --> 0:52:07.239
<v Speaker 1>thought i'd throw that out there in relation to what

0:52:07.360 --> 0:52:08.000
<v Speaker 1>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 9>And breakups.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, our next question comes from Olivia and she says,

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<v Speaker 3>Dear Chelsea, I never pictured myself writing into a podcast

0:52:21.760 --> 0:52:24.160
<v Speaker 3>for advice on how to navigate men in the dating world.

0:52:24.160 --> 0:52:24.839
<v Speaker 4>But here we are.

0:52:25.160 --> 0:52:26.960
<v Speaker 3>I'm turning thirty five in May, and I have been

0:52:27.000 --> 0:52:29.839
<v Speaker 3>seriously single for about six years. I have a good job,

0:52:29.920 --> 0:52:33.520
<v Speaker 3>hobbies like camping and film photography, a dog, solived friendships,

0:52:33.560 --> 0:52:36.080
<v Speaker 3>and a wonderful relationship with my family. I have my

0:52:36.120 --> 0:52:38.000
<v Speaker 3>own radio show once a week on one of the

0:52:38.000 --> 0:52:41.320
<v Speaker 3>local community stations here where I play tunes and chat music.

0:52:41.600 --> 0:52:43.440
<v Speaker 3>I feel I have a lot to offer in a partnership,

0:52:43.440 --> 0:52:46.200
<v Speaker 3>and that's exactly what I'm seeking a partner. I moved

0:52:46.200 --> 0:52:48.359
<v Speaker 3>out to California on my own four years ago, and

0:52:48.360 --> 0:52:50.879
<v Speaker 3>now I want someone to explore with. I'm on several

0:52:50.960 --> 0:52:53.040
<v Speaker 3>dating apps, have been for a long time, and also

0:52:53.040 --> 0:52:55.040
<v Speaker 3>try my hardest to put myself out there in the wild.

0:52:55.120 --> 0:52:57.680
<v Speaker 3>But it seems, whether via an app or in person,

0:52:57.719 --> 0:53:00.279
<v Speaker 3>there's no follow through from the guys, and they just

0:53:00.280 --> 0:53:03.319
<v Speaker 3>seem lackluster about dating in general. Yeah, if and when

0:53:03.360 --> 0:53:05.359
<v Speaker 3>I get a match, there is barely any follow through

0:53:05.400 --> 0:53:07.360
<v Speaker 3>from them about wanting to get to know me or

0:53:07.400 --> 0:53:10.320
<v Speaker 3>meet in person. It's beyond discouraging. I'm almost to the

0:53:10.360 --> 0:53:12.160
<v Speaker 3>point where I've decided that my life might be better

0:53:12.200 --> 0:53:14.319
<v Speaker 3>off without a man. I've enjoyed a lot of these

0:53:14.360 --> 0:53:16.160
<v Speaker 3>last six years with just my dog. We have a

0:53:16.200 --> 0:53:18.759
<v Speaker 3>peaceful existence and do as we please. Deep down, as

0:53:18.840 --> 0:53:20.719
<v Speaker 3>much as I tell myself it doesn't matter. In the end,

0:53:20.719 --> 0:53:22.880
<v Speaker 3>I want a partner. How do I keep putting in

0:53:22.880 --> 0:53:26.120
<v Speaker 3>the effort when it feels totally unreciprocated by the opposite sex?

0:53:26.200 --> 0:53:32.160
<v Speaker 1>Olivia, Hi, Olivia, Hello, This is Tiffany Hottish, our special guest.

0:53:32.400 --> 0:53:36.239
<v Speaker 6>Hi girl, Hey, Hi, Hi.

0:53:36.680 --> 0:53:38.200
<v Speaker 9>The good news is you're not alone.

0:53:38.600 --> 0:53:41.680
<v Speaker 1>Many women are feeling this way, and I do think

0:53:41.719 --> 0:53:44.719
<v Speaker 1>the apps and the social media aspect of everything has diminished.

0:53:44.760 --> 0:53:46.879
<v Speaker 11>It's too many prositutes out here. Most of these women

0:53:47.000 --> 0:53:49.000
<v Speaker 11>is prostitutes. Now they're making me so easy.

0:53:49.040 --> 0:53:49.759
<v Speaker 6>No, this is real talk.

0:53:49.800 --> 0:53:51.839
<v Speaker 11>I don't talk about fifty two dudes over the last

0:53:51.840 --> 0:53:54.640
<v Speaker 11>seventeen days, and they all said, it's just really easy

0:53:54.680 --> 0:53:58.319
<v Speaker 11>to just get us hundred dollars, and you can get

0:53:58.320 --> 0:54:00.800
<v Speaker 11>a bed a beautiful woman for two hundred dollars and

0:54:00.840 --> 0:54:02.800
<v Speaker 11>should do nasty things to you and go away.

0:54:02.960 --> 0:54:05.280
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, but you would do nasty things to somebody for free.

0:54:05.360 --> 0:54:07.080
<v Speaker 6>So yeah, but it's gonna take them a year for

0:54:07.160 --> 0:54:07.480
<v Speaker 6>me to do.

0:54:07.600 --> 0:54:12.080
<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah, I would just say, you're open. You've put

0:54:12.120 --> 0:54:14.440
<v Speaker 1>yourself out there, so that's like all you can really do.

0:54:14.960 --> 0:54:17.759
<v Speaker 1>You and you you seem like a go getter. You've

0:54:17.800 --> 0:54:20.319
<v Speaker 1>moved to California on your own, you have your own

0:54:20.400 --> 0:54:22.520
<v Speaker 1>radio show, you have all these things going on for you.

0:54:22.560 --> 0:54:26.000
<v Speaker 1>Like I would really just invest in yourself and just

0:54:26.200 --> 0:54:28.800
<v Speaker 1>know that when the person comes along, they're going to

0:54:28.840 --> 0:54:30.520
<v Speaker 1>come along, and you're gonna be ready for them, you

0:54:30.520 --> 0:54:33.160
<v Speaker 1>know what I mean. Enjoy your time without the expectation

0:54:33.719 --> 0:54:35.200
<v Speaker 1>of meeting the guy.

0:54:35.480 --> 0:54:37.320
<v Speaker 9>And it's a guy you're looking for, not a woman.

0:54:37.680 --> 0:54:38.920
<v Speaker 8>Yeah, right, I wish it was.

0:54:39.920 --> 0:54:41.640
<v Speaker 9>I know it would be so much easier.

0:54:42.120 --> 0:54:44.400
<v Speaker 8>I feel like it'd be so much easier. Yeah. And

0:54:44.400 --> 0:54:47.319
<v Speaker 8>in fact, I'm back in Connecticut visiting my family right now,

0:54:47.360 --> 0:54:49.360
<v Speaker 8>and I kind of told them that I was going

0:54:49.440 --> 0:54:53.080
<v Speaker 8>to be talking to you guys. And I fight. I

0:54:53.120 --> 0:54:56.400
<v Speaker 8>fight the I feel like oftentimes women are fighting the

0:54:56.480 --> 0:54:59.319
<v Speaker 8>tide of like societal pressure, you know. When I talk

0:54:59.360 --> 0:55:03.319
<v Speaker 8>to Catherine pre interview, I've been happy, like the last

0:55:03.360 --> 0:55:06.239
<v Speaker 8>six years, right doing my thing, moving to California, but

0:55:06.320 --> 0:55:11.839
<v Speaker 8>I do sometimes find myself camping around adventures, saying like

0:55:12.120 --> 0:55:14.319
<v Speaker 8>it would be nice to have someone sitting here with me,

0:55:14.440 --> 0:55:17.319
<v Speaker 8>like drinking a glass of wine, or jumping in this

0:55:17.520 --> 0:55:19.080
<v Speaker 8>lake or sleeping in a tent.

0:55:19.160 --> 0:55:19.360
<v Speaker 2>You know.

0:55:19.520 --> 0:55:23.400
<v Speaker 8>So I'm very confident and fine traveling alone.

0:55:24.160 --> 0:55:24.320
<v Speaker 11>You know.

0:55:24.360 --> 0:55:26.520
<v Speaker 8>I went to Italy for a month last year by myself,

0:55:27.160 --> 0:55:28.520
<v Speaker 8>always just these lit Did you.

0:55:28.480 --> 0:55:30.840
<v Speaker 6>Meet some guys there? And I say they horny Italy?

0:55:31.040 --> 0:55:31.480
<v Speaker 12>Yeah?

0:55:31.680 --> 0:55:36.560
<v Speaker 8>Girl, no what I know? And so oh I got.

0:55:36.600 --> 0:55:37.920
<v Speaker 11>To say, you gotta come hang out with me. I

0:55:37.920 --> 0:55:39.799
<v Speaker 11>gotta see what you're doing in these streets.

0:55:40.320 --> 0:55:41.239
<v Speaker 9>You think you can help her?

0:55:41.440 --> 0:55:44.759
<v Speaker 8>Just think so, sitting on the Spanish steps in Rome,

0:55:44.840 --> 0:55:46.560
<v Speaker 8>saying it'd be nice to like have a glass of

0:55:46.560 --> 0:55:49.480
<v Speaker 8>wine with someone. I'm loving traveling alone, but there are

0:55:49.560 --> 0:55:51.920
<v Speaker 8>moments where I say to myself, it really would be

0:55:52.040 --> 0:55:55.440
<v Speaker 8>nice to I think men too, I find between the

0:55:55.520 --> 0:55:57.880
<v Speaker 8>ages of thirty five and thirty nine, think that have

0:55:58.040 --> 0:56:00.239
<v Speaker 8>this like predisposition to think that women are looking for

0:56:00.360 --> 0:56:02.719
<v Speaker 8>ringing and I just want someone to adventure with, have

0:56:02.760 --> 0:56:05.160
<v Speaker 8>a good time, a committed partner in a way.

0:56:05.239 --> 0:56:05.400
<v Speaker 12>You know.

0:56:05.520 --> 0:56:06.600
<v Speaker 1>Yeah I like that, I do.

0:56:06.920 --> 0:56:09.440
<v Speaker 8>And yeah, it's just the last few experience I've had

0:56:09.480 --> 0:56:11.160
<v Speaker 8>have just been a total letdown.

0:56:11.239 --> 0:56:13.560
<v Speaker 1>So why don't you do this? Why don't you get

0:56:13.600 --> 0:56:16.440
<v Speaker 1>off this call and write down the twenty things that

0:56:16.480 --> 0:56:19.040
<v Speaker 1>you want in a man. Write down everything that you're

0:56:19.080 --> 0:56:22.839
<v Speaker 1>looking for. It doesn't matter if it's materialistic or superficial,

0:56:23.080 --> 0:56:25.080
<v Speaker 1>like the way they look. Whatever it is that comes

0:56:25.120 --> 0:56:28.360
<v Speaker 1>into your head, the really most important twenty things to you.

0:56:28.480 --> 0:56:30.640
<v Speaker 1>Write that down on a piece of paper, put it

0:56:30.680 --> 0:56:33.120
<v Speaker 1>in a drawer, and don't look at it again, and

0:56:33.280 --> 0:56:35.680
<v Speaker 1>go about your business and go about your life being

0:56:35.680 --> 0:56:38.040
<v Speaker 1>grateful that you don't have the wrong guy in your life,

0:56:38.320 --> 0:56:40.799
<v Speaker 1>or somebody who's draining you, or somebody you know what

0:56:40.840 --> 0:56:43.680
<v Speaker 1>I mean, that you're not in a toxic relationship, you're free,

0:56:43.719 --> 0:56:46.239
<v Speaker 1>you're independent, you have all this stuff going for you.

0:56:46.320 --> 0:56:47.919
<v Speaker 1>The fact that you went to Italy for a month

0:56:47.960 --> 0:56:50.720
<v Speaker 1>by yourself, that's badass. I wouldn't do that. I wouldn't

0:56:50.760 --> 0:56:52.680
<v Speaker 1>go to Italy by myself for a month. I don't

0:56:52.680 --> 0:56:54.600
<v Speaker 1>even know how to find my way around, you know,

0:56:54.719 --> 0:56:59.200
<v Speaker 1>places like I So like you're crushing life, and any

0:56:59.239 --> 0:57:00.800
<v Speaker 1>guy that would get to be with you is a

0:57:00.880 --> 0:57:01.480
<v Speaker 1>huge addition.

0:57:01.560 --> 0:57:02.760
<v Speaker 9>It has to be a huge addition.

0:57:03.280 --> 0:57:06.279
<v Speaker 1>And so I don't doubt that you're going to meet

0:57:06.320 --> 0:57:09.000
<v Speaker 1>somebody that's going to fit the criteria. But I think

0:57:09.000 --> 0:57:11.200
<v Speaker 1>you need to really put it out there and put

0:57:11.200 --> 0:57:13.160
<v Speaker 1>it in your drawer and just leave it there and

0:57:13.200 --> 0:57:15.759
<v Speaker 1>you can continue on the apps or you cannot, but

0:57:15.920 --> 0:57:19.160
<v Speaker 1>really just enjoy the time that you have by yourself,

0:57:19.640 --> 0:57:22.320
<v Speaker 1>and because it won't be forever, there will be somebody

0:57:22.400 --> 0:57:25.000
<v Speaker 1>that comes along. There always is, whether it's your forever

0:57:25.080 --> 0:57:28.000
<v Speaker 1>person or just somebody for a few months, somebody will

0:57:28.000 --> 0:57:29.880
<v Speaker 1>come into your life.

0:57:30.520 --> 0:57:32.960
<v Speaker 8>I think I go back and forth about the apps

0:57:33.160 --> 0:57:36.200
<v Speaker 8>because they can become a really dark ye at a

0:57:36.240 --> 0:57:38.800
<v Speaker 8>dark place, and so that was also something I wanted

0:57:38.800 --> 0:57:41.000
<v Speaker 8>to pick your brain about the apps, because I know

0:57:41.040 --> 0:57:43.480
<v Speaker 8>I've heard you do your stand up and talk how

0:57:43.240 --> 0:57:46.320
<v Speaker 8>you dabbled in the apps. I think for like a bit,

0:57:46.480 --> 0:57:49.280
<v Speaker 8>and I'm at to the point now where I don't

0:57:49.320 --> 0:57:50.680
<v Speaker 8>want to pay for them anymore and I kind of

0:57:50.680 --> 0:57:52.760
<v Speaker 8>just want to delete them and maybe, like just as

0:57:52.760 --> 0:57:55.680
<v Speaker 8>you were saying, let the chips fall, kind of real

0:57:55.720 --> 0:57:58.960
<v Speaker 8>they will. I just feel like there's no success on there.

0:57:59.320 --> 0:58:02.200
<v Speaker 3>Are you ever asking somebody out when you like are

0:58:02.240 --> 0:58:04.600
<v Speaker 3>out in the wild and you feel a vibe with

0:58:04.720 --> 0:58:05.720
<v Speaker 3>like the cube race.

0:58:05.760 --> 0:58:08.160
<v Speaker 8>Or when I did that. I did that about a

0:58:08.160 --> 0:58:10.040
<v Speaker 8>month ago. I met a guy at a birthday party

0:58:10.680 --> 0:58:13.720
<v Speaker 8>and we hit it off. I was traveling, he was traveling.

0:58:13.720 --> 0:58:15.520
<v Speaker 8>We said, let's get in touch when we get back.

0:58:16.200 --> 0:58:17.720
<v Speaker 8>He got in touch with me. We went to a

0:58:17.720 --> 0:58:21.000
<v Speaker 8>little music festival up the coast. We had a great time,

0:58:21.760 --> 0:58:24.720
<v Speaker 8>invited him back down tour I was living. We didn't

0:58:25.280 --> 0:58:27.920
<v Speaker 8>have sex or anything. We hooked up. He in fact

0:58:27.920 --> 0:58:30.960
<v Speaker 8>said that he was trying to approach his relationships differently

0:58:31.040 --> 0:58:34.080
<v Speaker 8>and take things slow. So I thought, okay, these are

0:58:34.360 --> 0:58:37.800
<v Speaker 8>like green flags and as it goes and what I've

0:58:37.840 --> 0:58:41.360
<v Speaker 8>been experiencing the last last six years. The next morning,

0:58:41.400 --> 0:58:44.320
<v Speaker 8>he was saying how he could. He thought his summer

0:58:44.400 --> 0:58:47.120
<v Speaker 8>was going to be like his alone time and he

0:58:47.200 --> 0:58:49.640
<v Speaker 8>wasn't ready to like commit to anything yet, but that

0:58:49.680 --> 0:58:52.400
<v Speaker 8>we should stay in touch. And you know, I asked

0:58:52.440 --> 0:58:56.400
<v Speaker 8>him to hang out a few more. It was kind

0:58:56.400 --> 0:58:58.720
<v Speaker 8>of just like a ghosting thing, like I asked him

0:58:58.720 --> 0:59:00.400
<v Speaker 8>to hang out again. I told him my coming up

0:59:00.440 --> 0:59:02.320
<v Speaker 8>to San Francisco, and I just never heard from him.

0:59:02.400 --> 0:59:04.040
<v Speaker 6>Girl block that motherfucker.

0:59:04.160 --> 0:59:05.760
<v Speaker 1>Well, she doesn't have to block him because he's not

0:59:06.560 --> 0:59:07.760
<v Speaker 1>to connect with her.

0:59:08.320 --> 0:59:10.360
<v Speaker 8>Tiffany, what this guy still does is he'll like my

0:59:10.400 --> 0:59:11.200
<v Speaker 8>Instagram stories.

0:59:11.280 --> 0:59:20.640
<v Speaker 1>Okay, so this is, So are you listening. I hope

0:59:20.640 --> 0:59:24.880
<v Speaker 1>you are sending this episode, because honestly, I hate this

0:59:24.960 --> 0:59:28.400
<v Speaker 1>ship with this idea that a man like this is.

0:59:28.800 --> 0:59:31.280
<v Speaker 1>This is why they I know, but don't.

0:59:32.240 --> 0:59:34.320
<v Speaker 11>That's the hole, okay, And that's what he wanted to

0:59:34.320 --> 0:59:36.000
<v Speaker 11>be was a how did he eat your ask at

0:59:36.080 --> 0:59:39.600
<v Speaker 11>least like at the end of the day, like like,

0:59:43.240 --> 0:59:46.000
<v Speaker 11>and that's why you move on, move on if I

0:59:46.160 --> 0:59:47.720
<v Speaker 11>was you personally, Okay.

0:59:47.760 --> 0:59:49.720
<v Speaker 6>So I like Bumble. I don't know about y'all, but

0:59:49.800 --> 0:59:52.360
<v Speaker 6>I like going on. I like going on Bubble.

0:59:53.160 --> 0:59:56.000
<v Speaker 11>And what I've noticed is okay, So I'll go to

0:59:56.040 --> 0:59:59.120
<v Speaker 11>a new place, uh, and I'll like pick you know,

0:59:59.160 --> 1:00:01.560
<v Speaker 11>you could pick. Look, and so I look for guys

1:00:01.560 --> 1:00:03.240
<v Speaker 11>where I'm going to go, Like I'm going to Louisville,

1:00:03.320 --> 1:00:05.600
<v Speaker 11>Kentucky this week. So I look for guys on there

1:00:05.760 --> 1:00:08.120
<v Speaker 11>and their shock that is me. They're like, don't believe

1:00:08.120 --> 1:00:10.000
<v Speaker 11>it's me. And what I love about Bumble is you

1:00:10.000 --> 1:00:12.720
<v Speaker 11>can FaceTime with them through the app and they never

1:00:12.800 --> 1:00:15.720
<v Speaker 11>have your phone number, right, It's so hard I could tell.

1:00:15.800 --> 1:00:17.640
<v Speaker 11>And I tell them, Look, I'm not trying to have

1:00:17.760 --> 1:00:21.640
<v Speaker 11>no boyfriend. I'm not looking for nothing serious. I'm coming

1:00:21.680 --> 1:00:24.200
<v Speaker 11>to your town. I want to do something fun. I

1:00:24.200 --> 1:00:26.600
<v Speaker 11>want you to take me somewhere in your town that's fun.

1:00:26.960 --> 1:00:29.479
<v Speaker 11>You're gonna have to and it better be a good time.

1:00:29.560 --> 1:00:33.120
<v Speaker 11>And don't be smelling funny, don't be looking crazy. Don't

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<v Speaker 11>be there, because I will talk about you to your face, sir.

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<v Speaker 11>Every single one's like, oh, Mary, challenge accepted, like and

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<v Speaker 11>they show up right and I just give them kind

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<v Speaker 11>of like a criteria of what they gotta do before

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<v Speaker 11>they even like, get in my space if you're trying

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<v Speaker 11>to be in my space, because I think men love challenges,

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<v Speaker 11>men love rules and and rules of engagement, and like,

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<v Speaker 11>oh can I push the boundaries with her? And then

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<v Speaker 11>and then I'll tell them by the end of the

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<v Speaker 11>day that like, hey man, this was super fun. Thanks

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<v Speaker 11>for taking me to this music. Thanks for showing me

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<v Speaker 11>a piece of your town. I don't ever want to

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<v Speaker 11>see you again. They'd be like, what, yeah, I'm cool

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<v Speaker 11>on you, bro, like this, but this was an amazing experience.

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<v Speaker 6>I had a good time.

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<v Speaker 11>Then that guy is constantly sending me messages in Bumble

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<v Speaker 11>like can you hang out again?

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<v Speaker 6>Then he starts following me on.

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<v Speaker 11>Instagram like hey, it was really you, and I really

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<v Speaker 11>want to hang out look to check out this thing,

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<v Speaker 11>and then they're sending me facts about their town and ship

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<v Speaker 11>like and I appreciate it, but that that wasn't the

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<v Speaker 11>guy for me. But also girl farmers only dot com

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<v Speaker 11>if you it's some men with land that know.

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<v Speaker 6>That understands cycles.

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<v Speaker 1>Instinct.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, but they understand available patient.

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<v Speaker 11>You could tell them any motherfucking thing you let you

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<v Speaker 11>get away with it, like the guy from.

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<v Speaker 8>No. I don't know about success I have.

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<v Speaker 11>I've had fun. I've had fun. I haven't had sex

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<v Speaker 11>with anybody on there. I don't have a boy friend

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<v Speaker 11>from there. But I've made some really great friends. I've

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<v Speaker 11>learned a lot about the land. I've learned a lot

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<v Speaker 11>about the vessels. And you know, as a business woman,

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<v Speaker 11>you know, I'm always like and I'm into food and stuff,

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<v Speaker 11>so I want to I only want to be around

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<v Speaker 11>people that's into what I'm into. Right, So I've been

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<v Speaker 11>learning so much. I done made some investments too land. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 11>in farmland, not necessarily a guy who I was dating Farmland,

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<v Speaker 11>but like in anyways, it doesn't matter. I made investments

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<v Speaker 11>meeting these guys, and I'm learning. I think I'm learning

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<v Speaker 11>a lot. Like at the end of the day, I'm

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<v Speaker 11>not going into it thinking of, oh, I'm gonna get

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<v Speaker 11>a husband. I'm going in like I want, like you said,

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<v Speaker 11>a partner. I want to grow with somebody. I want

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<v Speaker 11>to learn something. Can you teach me something? Like I

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<v Speaker 11>ask every guy, can what you're gonna teach me today?

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<v Speaker 1>Like I don't want to teach me something.

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<v Speaker 11>I'm like thirsty for knowledge, sir. Some of these women

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<v Speaker 11>out here thirsty for dick. I'm thirsty for knowledge.

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<v Speaker 1>Another thing you can do is can you can geo

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<v Speaker 1>target where you live? You know what I mean? And

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<v Speaker 1>for Instagram and kind of slide into people's dms.

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<v Speaker 8>Oh interesting, you know.

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<v Speaker 1>What I mean, Like look at their profile. That kind

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<v Speaker 1>of gives you a nice full picture of what's happening

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<v Speaker 1>if they're married or if they have a girlfriend, or

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<v Speaker 1>you know what the situation is, and like look within

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<v Speaker 1>your area and just start like you know, browsing, use

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<v Speaker 1>that as a dating app.

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<v Speaker 6>That makes to yet a dmy You're.

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<v Speaker 1>Fully you know, you're you have no problem like approaching

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<v Speaker 1>a man. I mean, listen, you're my hero. From this call.

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<v Speaker 1>You're doing everything fucking right. So like I love it.

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<v Speaker 1>A lot of women don't have the balls to go

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<v Speaker 1>up and ask men like to go out.

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<v Speaker 8>You know.

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<v Speaker 1>I can even be shy around that myself, which doesn't

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<v Speaker 1>really make much sense.

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<v Speaker 9>Yeah, just because yeah, yeah, I don't know why.

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<v Speaker 1>Just girl stuff. But I love what you're doing. I

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<v Speaker 1>love everything you're doing, and it's just like, enjoy yourself.

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<v Speaker 6>Are you afraid to date younger?

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<v Speaker 8>I'm not afraid to date younger, but I do I

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<v Speaker 8>feel like there should. I feel like my cap is

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<v Speaker 8>like twenty eight.

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<v Speaker 11>Because I noticed twenty six year old dude, he's six

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<v Speaker 11>foot two, very hands, he might be six foot fowhere.

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<v Speaker 1>Where do you live in California?

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<v Speaker 8>Santa Cruz, California.

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<v Speaker 6>Oh he's in LA.

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<v Speaker 8>Here's my thing. Like, even guys who are like the

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<v Speaker 8>immaturity just lasts for like so long. So my fear

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<v Speaker 8>with dating younger is like, yeah, I can't even get like.

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<v Speaker 11>But if they're a business man, there's younger business Like,

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<v Speaker 11>there's all souls out here.

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<v Speaker 6>They approached me all the time. There's some young bro

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<v Speaker 6>men out here.

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<v Speaker 8>I think one of my good qualities is that I

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<v Speaker 8>am open.

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<v Speaker 3>So Okay, this might not be your vibe, but just

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<v Speaker 3>hear me out. I think a lot of women who

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<v Speaker 3>are into a masculine guy need to start seeing about

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<v Speaker 3>dating transmen because you have like the personality you have,

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<v Speaker 3>like they were raised right.

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<v Speaker 4>And then you have all the masculine qualities of a man.

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<v Speaker 1>If this is the second time you've brought that up,

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<v Speaker 1>it feels like you want a data transfer. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>and you're happily married, but you know, I mean, you

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<v Speaker 1>shouldn't really transmit out.

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<v Speaker 8>No, I'm not there's I'm not really like I said,

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<v Speaker 8>I'm very open. It's just the years keep rolling on.

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<v Speaker 9>You know, how old are you?

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<v Speaker 8>She's thirty, I'm thirty five.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 9>I think you're probably going to meet somebody, you know.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know that you're going to marry someone, but

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<v Speaker 1>you're definitely going to meet a couple more guys in

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<v Speaker 1>your life like that.

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<v Speaker 11>State sales, funerals. It's always vulnerable men at funerals.

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<v Speaker 6>I've met. I've dated a lot of men at.

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<v Speaker 11>From funerals, and they spoil you too because they trying

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<v Speaker 11>to feel better. Uh didn't I say it? Stay sales

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<v Speaker 11>auctions are usually good. There's a lot of good men here.

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<v Speaker 11>Grocery stores near gyms, a place to meet. Your grocery

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<v Speaker 11>store near the gym is the best place, not in

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<v Speaker 11>the gym, but ba.

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<v Speaker 1>So if you're in Santa Cruz, join a biking group

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<v Speaker 1>or join a hiking group or whatever, rock climbing, whatever,

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<v Speaker 1>you're in services and find some you know, find some

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<v Speaker 1>different kind of groups of people that way.

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<v Speaker 8>Yeah, joining groups, that's something. Yeah, I moved there. I've moved.

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<v Speaker 8>I've been in California for four years. I've been in

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<v Speaker 8>Santa Cruz for a little over a year, so still

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<v Speaker 8>kind of I've just now started feeling applimated.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah. You so you're new to that area, So yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>give it a little bit more time.

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<v Speaker 9>I bet you're going to meet someone.

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<v Speaker 11>Yeah, you're pretty. You're gonna pull fast if you just

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<v Speaker 11>like I just gonna have fun. Ah, yes, she will

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<v Speaker 11>be mine.

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<v Speaker 8>This is a good story to tell. My girlfriends were like,

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<v Speaker 8>you got to tell this story. I met a gay

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<v Speaker 8>a dating app in San Francisco, and it very soon

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<v Speaker 8>into the day. I was like, oh, this is going

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<v Speaker 8>to be a good time, not a long time sort

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<v Speaker 8>of situation, which I was into because again just trying

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<v Speaker 8>to like make connections. We ended up being in Las Vegas,

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<v Speaker 8>at the same time for a concert, and he met

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<v Speaker 8>up with a bunch of my friends and I hadn't

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<v Speaker 8>gotten laid in a really long time, and they were like,

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<v Speaker 8>this is your night, like the guy from San Francisco's

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<v Speaker 8>in Las Vegas, like perfect, perfect, perfect. We go back

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<v Speaker 8>up to the hotel room. We're hooking up. Inches from penetration.

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<v Speaker 8>He tells me has an STD.

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<v Speaker 6>Oh hell, it's not the time.

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<v Speaker 1>At least he told you, I know, But at least

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<v Speaker 1>he told you what was the STD? What was the STD?

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<v Speaker 8>Herpes?

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<v Speaker 1>And was he having an outbreak or herpy outbreak or

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<v Speaker 1>he just.

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<v Speaker 8>He wasn't having an outbreak?

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<v Speaker 1>But oh well, that's very responsible.

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<v Speaker 8>But I wasn't an out But he didn't have a condom?

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<v Speaker 9>Right, yes, but he did the right thing.

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<v Speaker 6>I'm a jack you off.

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<v Speaker 1>But where is that guy now?

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<v Speaker 8>He's traveling the world somewhere.

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<v Speaker 1>Catching more stvs. So okay, well, okay, well, at least

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<v Speaker 1>he told you. So that's not the worst thing in

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<v Speaker 1>the world.

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<v Speaker 8>No, it's not. But between that interaction and the one

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<v Speaker 8>who keeps liking my Instagram stories, I just am like,

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<v Speaker 8>those are the latest interactions I've had with the male species.

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<v Speaker 1>My my Listen, there are a lot better than some

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<v Speaker 1>of the other stories that are out there. And my

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<v Speaker 1>advice to all women is to stop fucking looking to

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<v Speaker 1>check and see who is looking at your Instagram stories.

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<v Speaker 1>It doesn't matter. If that person wants to contact you,

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<v Speaker 1>there will, and it's not because they're looking through your

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<v Speaker 1>stories like it's like watching someone watching TV. It does

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<v Speaker 1>Does it matter who's looking through your Instagram stories? It

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<v Speaker 1>doesn't matter unless that person sends you a message about

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<v Speaker 1>your Instagram story and then you want to talk, and

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<v Speaker 1>then they're initiating a conversation. So I would just stop

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<v Speaker 1>looking at that.

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<v Speaker 8>You're very right. I think it's just this this kind

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<v Speaker 8>of like maddening, Like Okay, I never heard from him, right,

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<v Speaker 8>and he didn't text me back? Why is he liking

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<v Speaker 8>my story? Like get out of my life? So Tiffany's point,

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<v Speaker 8>I think I'm just gonna like remove him.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, mute is as black and black?

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<v Speaker 11>What he what he got to call you to be like, hey,

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<v Speaker 11>I can't see you on the stories more. Well, you're

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<v Speaker 11>not supposed to see me no more. You're a ghost

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<v Speaker 11>boom all right, keep us posted. Will you let us

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<v Speaker 11>know a few months if you meet someone.

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<v Speaker 6>What the vibe is.

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<v Speaker 8>Okay, I will do that, and I am gonna take

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<v Speaker 8>your advice.

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<v Speaker 11>I want to invitation to your baby shower and to

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<v Speaker 11>your wedding. I predict that in two years she will

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<v Speaker 11>be getting married. Okay, it will be very pregnant, and

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<v Speaker 11>I'll make sure invitation. Okay you want, okay, whatever, You're

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<v Speaker 11>gonna be pregnant if you might not have it, but

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<v Speaker 11>in two years, in two years, mark my word, In

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<v Speaker 11>two years, you're gonna be like dang, Tiffany said. I'm

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<v Speaker 11>not saying I'm psychic, but my instincts tell me in

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<v Speaker 11>two years, it's you're gonna be hemmed up. You're gonna

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<v Speaker 11>be cooking and cleaning and all this stuff and happy

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<v Speaker 11>as here.

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<v Speaker 8>Okay, I like that mindset. I'm gonna take your advice, though, Chelsea,

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<v Speaker 8>and write down, put it in a.

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<v Speaker 11>Drawer, write it down, help and right down. Tiffany said,

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<v Speaker 11>in two years, I'm gonna be in a relationship.

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<v Speaker 4>Recorded.

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<v Speaker 11>Yes, I want the invitation to the wedding and the

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<v Speaker 11>baby shower, because I know you say you're not you're

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<v Speaker 11>not thinking about having nobody's but you're gonna have a baby.

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<v Speaker 6>You're gonna have two of them.

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<v Speaker 11>We will come and we will be like the party.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, thank you so much, take care of Thank you.

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<v Speaker 1>That was that was she was awesome.

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<v Speaker 9>She's great. That was great.

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<v Speaker 6>Guests.

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<v Speaker 1>Thank you you you're a great guest. Tiffany, I promise.

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<v Speaker 4>With your nonsense.

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<v Speaker 1>Her full name is Tiffany Sarah Cornelia Hattish.

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<v Speaker 9>Did you know that?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 6>I knew that?

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<v Speaker 9>Did you?

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>And her new movie, Haunted Heist is on video on

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<v Speaker 1>Maya Baby Yea.

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<v Speaker 6>I love you, I love you.

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