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Speaker 1: Okay, guys, here are my dates for the High and

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Speaker 1: Mighty Tour. In August you can find me in Red Bank,

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Speaker 1: New Jersey, Montclair, New Jersey, and Calgary. That's Canada. And

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Speaker 1: September I will be in Santa Barbara, San Diego, New

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Speaker 1: York City, Philly and New Haven, Connecticut. October is Atlanta, Baltimore, Saginaw, Michigan, Pittsburgh, Toronto, Boise,

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Speaker 1: Idaho and Spokane. And then in November I'll be in

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Speaker 1: San Francisco. I'm coming to Salt Lake City, Austin, Houston,

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Speaker 1: Dallas Babies, I'll be there. And then in December I

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Speaker 1: am closing out my tour in Denver and Vancouver. So

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Speaker 1: get your tickets at Chelseahandler dot com for the High

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Speaker 1: and Mighty Tour.

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Speaker 2: Hi Catherine, Hi Chelsea.

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Speaker 3: How is the handsome Spaniard situation over there?

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Speaker 2: Oh?

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Speaker 1: I don't know.

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Speaker 2: I'm so focused on my studies. You know that I'm

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Speaker 2: not even looking at men. You know me. When I

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Speaker 2: have a one focus of attention, it is to learn more.

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Speaker 4: The consummate students.

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Speaker 5: Estoya Key Para ap there no inter ma Interesa and

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Speaker 5: Los Ombres Manana until tomorrow. That is where I'm actually

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Speaker 5: being set up with a man, So we'll see how

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Speaker 5: that goes.

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Speaker 6: Nice.

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Speaker 4: Yes, yeah, we'll check back next week.

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Speaker 5: Well, I'm going for a little apparatzivo. How is your

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Speaker 5: como tefue vision.

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Speaker 7: Wavian weilindo la pisin At the tempo, we were just

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Speaker 7: floating in the pool the entire time and did almost

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Speaker 7: nothing and it was really lovely. Don't they if we

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Speaker 7: stayers and Cancun. Uh so it plamhrs near Cancun and

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Speaker 7: it was really lovely.

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Speaker 2: Was it hot?

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Speaker 1: You know what?

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Speaker 3: I was worried it was gonna be like muggy and crazy,

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Speaker 3: but it actually was quite comfortable. Like during the day

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Speaker 3: the water, but yeah, the evenings were like fine and.

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Speaker 6: It was really it was really delightful.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's nice.

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Speaker 2: That's nice.

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Speaker 4: It was just like full relaxation.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I have to say Madrid is one of the

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Speaker 5: most special cities I've ever spent time in. I've been

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Speaker 5: here for now for two weeks almost sally Endo Sabado

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Speaker 5: el Sabado, and I've been going to school every day

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Speaker 5: like a good little girl with my I have people

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Speaker 9: It's very cute.

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Speaker 5: I go from nine thirty to one pm, and then

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Speaker 5: I go and I take myself to some ridiculous meal.

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Speaker 2: Where I drink white wine and eat the freshest fish.

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Speaker 2: They fly the fresh fish into Madrid. Every day. There's

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Speaker 4: Yeah, what's the deal, what's going on with that?

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Speaker 2: I don't know.

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Speaker 5: There's fires everywhere in Europe, but this air is pretty bad.

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Speaker 5: It's like you can feel it when you're walking around.

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Speaker 5: But I'm just enjoying my life, like Elouise at the Plaza.

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Speaker 5: I'm staying at a really beautiful hotel. I already have

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Speaker 5: set up like all these doctor just close to me.

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Speaker 5: I get my backcracked, I get dry needling. I'm like,

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Speaker 5: I'm just living my best life until I have to

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Speaker 5: come home, and yeah, it's pretty exciting. I'll see everybody

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Speaker 5: in Montclair or no red Bank red Bank assault out Montclair,

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Speaker 5: and then I have Calgary on the thirteenth of August,

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Speaker 5: I believe, or the fourteenth or the fifteenth, it could.

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Speaker 2: Be any one of those days. Second say, yeah, it's

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Speaker 4: Yeah, go to Chelseahanler dot com to find out.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm coming back on tour. I'm back and on track.

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Speaker 2: This has been my reprieve, my respite.

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Speaker 4: I can tell you're arrested. Yeah, I can tell you're

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Speaker 4: rested and restored.

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Speaker 2: I've been sleeping a lot.

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Speaker 6: Good.

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Speaker 5: That's excellent. Our guest was so fun this week. Oh yeah,

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Speaker 5: she's one of my favorites. She's been one of my

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Speaker 5: we've ever vacationed together. But she is a comic, she's

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Speaker 5: an actress, and she's a star of the upcoming Haunted Heist,

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Speaker 5: which is in theaters now. Please welcome Tiffany Hattish.

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Speaker 6: Oh look you. It reminds me of.

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Speaker 10: Mitzvah, reminds me of You're but totally perfect.

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Speaker 1: It was really cute.

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Speaker 9: That was a party that I'm glad I really didn't miss.

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Speaker 6: I'm glad because that was the best party ever.

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Speaker 1: It was. It was a great party. Who did I

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Speaker 1: sit with Billy Crystal? Billy Crystal and his wife, and

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Speaker 9: It was like they were your parents.

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Speaker 1: It was so Sweetlome Who did I go to that?

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Speaker 1: Who did I go to your party with Sarah?

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Speaker 8: Yes?

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Speaker 9: Yeah, it was a jew parade.

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Speaker 1: You're a bunch of juice parading around a bunch.

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Speaker 6: Of Jews, a bunch of black people too. It was

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Speaker 1: Rights You're here to promote your new movie, which is

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Speaker 1: called Haunted Heist.

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Speaker 9: It's gone video on demand.

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Speaker 1: First of all, I was watching a bunch of your

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Speaker 1: liked it. You were a detective like three different times.

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Speaker 11: I was like, I love I wanted to be the police.

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Speaker 11: You know, I slept with so many.

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Speaker 9: So many police officers.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, and I want to be the police.

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Speaker 1: With a lot of police officers I have, how many?

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Speaker 9: For really, I don't think that I've ever.

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Speaker 1: Slept with a police officer to get out of something.

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Speaker 9: And did you ever get something out of it from them?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's what I'm thinking.

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Speaker 11: I got some life lessons and I picked up some

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Speaker 11: character traits and I'm able to like, I picked up discernment.

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Speaker 1: That's right. I've also picked up discernment and later in

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Speaker 1: We are easily taken advantage of. But I have been

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Speaker 1: And not that I'm a victim, I'm not saying that,

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Speaker 6: Yeah, well I am a victim.

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Speaker 11: I am a victim, and the victim side of me

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Speaker 1: I know, Well, things are going really well for you.

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Speaker 1: Now they're going okay, No, they're going well, okay, they're

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Speaker 1: and that's gonna We're going to invite in the positivity.

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Speaker 6: Well, you know, the door is wide open for all

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Speaker 6: positives found the negative.

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Speaker 1: We you started off this year with your Sports Illustrated cover,

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Speaker 1: which was badass. Thank you and you were so excited

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Speaker 1: and Chrise. Tiffany with full disclosure, was one of my

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Speaker 1: christen it with good vibes. Nice Tiffany, my friend Sarah,

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Speaker 1: my friend Jane, Jane Fonda was here, and then Ya

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Speaker 1: Minika was here, but she was in a real fucking

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Speaker 1: funk that night, so luckily we were like, get the

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Speaker 4: Someone had to bring the bad vibes.

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Speaker 1: But yeah, so you helped Chris in my new house

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Speaker 1: and put it in the good vibes. But I want

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Speaker 1: to talk about your Sports Illustrated because I know you

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Speaker 6: For you to do everything right. And there was so

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Speaker 11: I didn't do everything that they wanted because everything counts

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Speaker 6: Yeah, I'm tipyad.

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Speaker 9: Tiffany likes to get for everything.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, I do want to be paid. I want to

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Speaker 11: No exploitation without compensation. That is something that I picked

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Speaker 1: But we both at a charity event the other night

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Speaker 1: for Jane, and we didn't get paid for that, unless

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Speaker 6: Not get paid for that.

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Speaker 11: But I feel like there was compensation in that because

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Speaker 11: we get the friendship of Jamee Fonder and that is

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Speaker 11: Yes, she said it's too bright in here, and she

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Speaker 6: He came through and he changed my switches.

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Speaker 1: Wow, Jane is amazing.

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Speaker 4: Like she's in there with a screwdriver.

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Speaker 6: But she said the very end, it's just amazing. That's

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Speaker 1: I know, I know she It's amazing to me how

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Speaker 9: I've never seen anybody like that.

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Speaker 11: I think she stares at the wall. Have you heard

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Speaker 11: this new? This thing is it's new to me, but

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Speaker 11: it's probably as old as time. But when you take

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Speaker 11: don't pick up your phone, don't look at pictures and nothing,

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Speaker 11: just stare at the wall or just stare at a tree,

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Speaker 11: but just stare at something for like ten to twenty minutes,

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Speaker 1: Just stare at something and then start again and then

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Speaker 1: start again. Yeah, that's like meditation.

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Speaker 11: Yeah, and I think she does that because I feel

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Speaker 6: Sometimes I feel like I'm telling her a story and

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Speaker 6: she's like, I've seen it.

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Speaker 9: I've definitely seen her look at you like that.

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Speaker 8: Sure.

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Speaker 9: Okay, so you got married to your you got married this.

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Speaker 6: Year to myself? Yeah? Last year?

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Speaker 11: Was it?

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Speaker 6: The year before?

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Speaker 11: I don't know, two your anniversaries coming up?

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Speaker 9: It's how did you decide to do that?

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Speaker 1: Well?

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Speaker 11: Like, that's why I put it in a manual with

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Speaker 11: You can't put this, you can't put this together.

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Speaker 6: I'll get there when I get there.

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Speaker 6: I didn't enjoy it. I didn't enjoy it.

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Speaker 11: I just didn't and but I like him as a person.

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Speaker 11: But then it just the more he would talk to me,

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Speaker 11: And that might be mistakes. Happened like two years ago,

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Speaker 11: Like and he's a beautiful man, but just don't don't

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Speaker 6: I hope you got other girls you're talking to you.

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Speaker 6: I get it. I have dudes that are online for that.

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Speaker 11: That's just like you know, if I need some I'll

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Speaker 11: want to be I don't want to be your thing.

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Speaker 1: What is the lowest thing that you've ever done during

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Speaker 6: The lowest thing do you have?

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Speaker 6: Nah? Really?

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Speaker 6: I didn't regret that at all.

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Speaker 6: He had? He's stupid.

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Speaker 11: He was stupid, he he he was dumb as fuck.

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Speaker 11: And then I was like, okay, I can't make I'm

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Speaker 11: And then I remember that my homegirl Anna, Anna, had

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Speaker 6: I was not playing.

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Speaker 6: On, let's make a movie. We making this movie. We

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Speaker 11: And then it cuts to it cuts to him saying, no,

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Speaker 11: watch this. This's gonna make me feel better, right. So

445
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Speaker 11: I was watching that and then he called me and

446
00:18:58,960 --> 00:18:59,800
Speaker 11: was like, what's up, y'all?

447
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Speaker 6: You feeling you feeling better? I was like, nah, I'm

448
00:19:01,520 --> 00:19:02,040
Speaker 6: still sick.

449
00:19:02,080 --> 00:19:04,240
Speaker 11: But the more sick I get, the more I just

450
00:19:04,240 --> 00:19:06,200
Speaker 11: think I don't think we should be together no more.

451
00:19:06,320 --> 00:19:08,000
Speaker 11: I want to break up with you. I told him

452
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Speaker 11: my mom break up with him. He told me, I'm crazy.

453
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Speaker 11: Are you tripping? He come banging on my door. I

454
00:19:12,480 --> 00:19:16,520
Speaker 11: don't answer the door, and then he leaves, and he

455
00:19:16,600 --> 00:19:18,680
Speaker 11: leaves like flowers and stuff at the door, like.

456
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Speaker 6: You need you just tripping.

457
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Speaker 11: And then his mama call me, his aunt, he's called me,

458
00:19:24,080 --> 00:19:26,520
Speaker 11: his grandmama call me. They all tell me I'm crazy,

459
00:19:26,560 --> 00:19:29,439
Speaker 11: I got a mental problem. How could you break up

460
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Speaker 11: with him? This man loves you, He'll do anything for you,

461
00:19:33,359 --> 00:19:36,840
Speaker 11: And I'm like, that's bullshit, that's bullshit. But you know

462
00:19:38,040 --> 00:19:40,400
Speaker 11: I still want to honor him, you know. But they

463
00:19:40,480 --> 00:19:43,479
Speaker 11: kept on pressing me, kept pressing, and it was pissing

464
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Speaker 11: me off. How they was pumping this man up.

465
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Speaker 1: And I started, did you tell them the truth?

466
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Speaker 6: Not yet? Now yet yet?

467
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Speaker 8: Not yet?

468
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Speaker 6: I just said, I like when.

469
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Speaker 1: Women aren't reactive and they hold onto their evidence and

470
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Speaker 1: then decide when they're going to.

471
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Speaker 11: I just said to him, you need to talk because

472
00:20:00,880 --> 00:20:03,920
Speaker 11: his sister warned me. His sister two months before told

473
00:20:04,000 --> 00:20:06,199
Speaker 11: me you not my brother cheating on you. You know, my

474
00:20:06,280 --> 00:20:08,760
Speaker 11: brother be sleeping with the neighbor girl, like every time

475
00:20:09,040 --> 00:20:11,320
Speaker 11: you leave for mother here, when my mama go to work,

476
00:20:11,359 --> 00:20:13,800
Speaker 11: keep me with the neighbor girl. He just little Jamaican girl,

477
00:20:13,880 --> 00:20:16,399
Speaker 11: so you know, don't you know he'd be cheating. And

478
00:20:16,440 --> 00:20:18,680
Speaker 11: his sister's like eight, And I'm like, this little girl lying,

479
00:20:18,720 --> 00:20:19,879
Speaker 11: This little girl just don't want.

480
00:20:19,760 --> 00:20:20,920
Speaker 6: Me to be with her brother or whatever.

481
00:20:21,200 --> 00:20:23,880
Speaker 11: But then I just start thinking about it, like, man,

482
00:20:24,000 --> 00:20:28,359
Speaker 11: she's always attached to me. She's like the girl always

483
00:20:28,359 --> 00:20:31,639
Speaker 11: wants to play with me, laugh with me, Like I

484
00:20:31,680 --> 00:20:33,480
Speaker 11: don't think she They'll start being like she might not

485
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Speaker 11: be lying. So then I ask him and he's like

486
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Speaker 11: she's making that up. I don't know where she get

487
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Speaker 11: that from. So, and I want to believe him. I'm

488
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Speaker 11: twenty one, I'm stupid, fully dumb, so whatever he say,

489
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Speaker 11: I believe. But after I saw that video, yes, So,

490
00:20:46,960 --> 00:20:49,080
Speaker 11: then I got so mad. I got so mad, and

491
00:20:49,119 --> 00:20:51,040
Speaker 11: I got so in my head, and I had my

492
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Speaker 11: homegirl come over and watch with me. I said, what

493
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Speaker 11: you think I should do? I think I'm a destroy

494
00:20:55,760 --> 00:20:58,040
Speaker 11: this man. She was like, did you break up with him?

495
00:20:58,080 --> 00:21:00,119
Speaker 11: I said, yeah, we broke up. And I'm like, his

496
00:21:00,119 --> 00:21:02,840
Speaker 11: family keep harassing me, but it's really bothered me. I

497
00:21:03,000 --> 00:21:05,399
Speaker 11: just really want to destroy him, like I feel like

498
00:21:05,440 --> 00:21:09,400
Speaker 11: he's destroyed me. And she said, do what you think

499
00:21:09,560 --> 00:21:12,320
Speaker 11: is right. And he had left some shoes at my house.

500
00:21:12,720 --> 00:21:17,119
Speaker 11: So I do do it in those shoes, I ate corn,

501
00:21:17,680 --> 00:21:20,199
Speaker 11: I do do it in them. But before that, I

502
00:21:20,240 --> 00:21:22,679
Speaker 11: went ahead and I got a bunch of blank of

503
00:21:22,920 --> 00:21:26,160
Speaker 11: VHS tapes. This is the early two thousands, by the way,

504
00:21:26,400 --> 00:21:29,480
Speaker 11: and I took that Charlie's Angels movie, and right in

505
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Speaker 11: the middle of the Charlie's Angels movie, I put his

506
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Speaker 11: sex tape and I made enough copies for every single

507
00:21:36,640 --> 00:21:38,640
Speaker 11: family member that called me and told me this man,

508
00:21:38,760 --> 00:21:43,000
Speaker 11: love you, and for Christmas, I sent it to every

509
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Speaker 11: single one of those family members.

510
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Speaker 1: And did you tell them I was imperative to watch

511
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Speaker 1: the movie because what if they weren't interested in Charlie's Angels?

512
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Speaker 6: No, no, I did not.

513
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Speaker 11: Say it was imperative to either they watch it or

514
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Speaker 11: did don't watch it? And right in there I put

515
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Speaker 11: Corn's angel.

516
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Speaker 1: His name was, His name was Cornelias old us that part,

517
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Speaker 1: that's an important part of the story for you eating

518
00:22:02,760 --> 00:22:05,520
Speaker 1: corn and then taking a shadubi and his shoes. This

519
00:22:05,560 --> 00:22:09,360
Speaker 1: is a strong play, yeah, very strong move. This is

520
00:22:09,400 --> 00:22:10,919
Speaker 1: another level of breaking up.

521
00:22:12,280 --> 00:22:14,960
Speaker 11: Actually, I wrote about that in my book and I

522
00:22:15,080 --> 00:22:17,880
Speaker 11: named him TuS Titus in the book. So his name

523
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Speaker 11: is Titus, middle name Cordinelius.

524
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Speaker 9: Have you had nice breakups with men?

525
00:22:26,359 --> 00:22:28,920
Speaker 6: Yeah, pretty much. Most of my breakups have been pretty nice.

526
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Speaker 1: That's nice.

527
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Speaker 11: But they all turned into a little bit of a

528
00:22:31,200 --> 00:22:33,919
Speaker 11: stalker for a little bit and.

529
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Speaker 9: The yeah, men can be like that.

530
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Speaker 6: And I could too. I might have been a little

531
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Speaker 6: bit of a stoker.

532
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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Once or twice I went through

533
00:22:43,119 --> 00:22:44,920
Speaker 1: a phase like that once. Tiffany and I, this is

534
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Speaker 1: a story. Tiffany and I I don't remember where we

535
00:22:47,160 --> 00:22:49,320
Speaker 1: were what we were doing, but we were Backsta. We

536
00:22:49,320 --> 00:22:52,960
Speaker 1: were doing something and she was like, you were like,

537
00:22:53,160 --> 00:22:55,160
Speaker 1: come over here, and you were talking about we're talking

538
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Speaker 1: about how much like we pay for other people and

539
00:22:57,680 --> 00:22:59,960
Speaker 1: family members and stuff like that, and she's like, I

540
00:23:00,080 --> 00:23:01,960
Speaker 1: need you to come here and look at my bank

541
00:23:01,960 --> 00:23:09,840
Speaker 1: account balance and she's like, does this seem right to you?

542
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Speaker 10: No, this does not right for the amount that you

543
00:23:13,520 --> 00:23:15,680
Speaker 10: are working, this is not the right balance.

544
00:23:16,280 --> 00:23:18,320
Speaker 1: And I was like, this, something has got to change.

545
00:23:19,880 --> 00:23:22,639
Speaker 11: That was that's because I really admire you, and I

546
00:23:22,680 --> 00:23:25,320
Speaker 11: feel like you should not like you can see my

547
00:23:25,400 --> 00:23:29,040
Speaker 11: career better than yeah. And I'm like, you tell me

548
00:23:29,080 --> 00:23:31,560
Speaker 11: what you think this, if this is right, because I.

549
00:23:31,520 --> 00:23:32,879
Speaker 6: Feel like this is wrong.

550
00:23:33,160 --> 00:23:33,400
Speaker 2: Yeah.

551
00:23:33,840 --> 00:23:36,840
Speaker 11: Maybe, and maybe I'm crazy, Maybe I'm just over thinking

552
00:23:36,920 --> 00:23:40,360
Speaker 11: too highly of myself or maybe I'm just going extending

553
00:23:40,400 --> 00:23:42,359
Speaker 11: myself too much. And so I was like, can you

554
00:23:42,400 --> 00:23:45,439
Speaker 11: tell me if this is right? And you look at

555
00:23:45,440 --> 00:23:48,040
Speaker 11: them numbers and you said, NAHVI, this is.

556
00:23:50,400 --> 00:23:51,879
Speaker 6: When you were doing your show.

557
00:23:52,320 --> 00:23:54,359
Speaker 10: When you were doing your game show, she was working

558
00:23:54,359 --> 00:23:57,879
Speaker 10: like fucking five shows a day, filming like and I

559
00:23:57,920 --> 00:24:01,680
Speaker 10: was like, there, no, no, we all need I know well,

560
00:24:01,680 --> 00:24:04,040
Speaker 10: women especially need an education and find out.

561
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Speaker 11: What I feel like it was so important for us

562
00:24:06,640 --> 00:24:09,320
Speaker 11: to talk about that though, like I think, women we don't.

563
00:24:09,160 --> 00:24:10,920
Speaker 6: Talk about that with each other.

564
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Speaker 11: Men do and they're like, yeah, man, I'm getting paid this,

565
00:24:13,240 --> 00:24:15,280
Speaker 11: so then they know what to go ask for, but

566
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Speaker 11: we don't do that. So then in that moment, that's

567
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Speaker 11: when I decided I'm finna start asking my friends that

568
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Speaker 11: I think is successful and I know it's doing well

569
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Speaker 11: from my point of view what they see in this

570
00:24:25,400 --> 00:24:28,240
Speaker 11: because maybe I'm tripping and so and you've been so.

571
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Speaker 6: Good with that.

572
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Speaker 1: Thank you with that.

573
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Speaker 11: You're definitely like, no, bitch, you broke right now, that's

574
00:24:32,840 --> 00:24:37,600
Speaker 11: not that's not okay. Somebody is stealing from it.

575
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Speaker 1: Like you, it seems like you've repositioned yourself. You have

576
00:24:40,960 --> 00:24:44,240
Speaker 1: different management, you have different people around. It seems like

577
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Speaker 1: everything is moving in the right direction.

578
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Speaker 12: It is.

579
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Speaker 1: I noticed, I noticed, Okay, we're gonna take some callers, Okay,

580
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Speaker 1: give some advice. Yes, I know, I know, since you

581
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Speaker 1: take a sermon, this one.

582
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Speaker 3: Is really juicy, so we yes.

583
00:25:02,080 --> 00:25:03,680
Speaker 4: He says, Dear Chelsea.

584
00:25:04,040 --> 00:25:06,920
Speaker 3: I started dating my boyfriend about four months ago before

585
00:25:06,920 --> 00:25:08,679
Speaker 3: we slept together for the first time we had a

586
00:25:08,720 --> 00:25:11,600
Speaker 3: conversation about contraception, and I explained to him that I

587
00:25:11,680 --> 00:25:14,440
Speaker 3: wasn't on birth control because my body doesn't react well

588
00:25:14,480 --> 00:25:16,359
Speaker 3: to it. He said that it was no issue at

589
00:25:16,359 --> 00:25:18,879
Speaker 3: all because he'd had of a sectomy. He already had

590
00:25:18,880 --> 00:25:21,520
Speaker 3: two kids from his previous marriage and doesn't want anymore.

591
00:25:21,600 --> 00:25:23,600
Speaker 3: So he said he'd made the decision to get snipped

592
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Speaker 3: or so.

593
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Speaker 1: I thought, Oh, this is like that fucking but documentary

594
00:25:27,240 --> 00:25:30,840
Speaker 1: on Netflix, paternal Instinct woman who did.

595
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Speaker 6: The fine?

596
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Speaker 1: Can you believe? First of all, let's just let's break

597
00:25:36,280 --> 00:25:38,080
Speaker 1: stop down for a second, because we need to discuss

598
00:25:38,119 --> 00:25:38,919
Speaker 1: that maternalist.

599
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Speaker 11: I haven't seen it yet. Oh it's good, Okay, that

600
00:25:41,480 --> 00:25:42,960
Speaker 11: was good. I couldn't take my eyes off of.

601
00:25:43,280 --> 00:25:47,440
Speaker 9: The level of white trash in this country.

602
00:25:47,520 --> 00:25:49,919
Speaker 1: And I listen, I don't use that term loosely, but

603
00:25:50,040 --> 00:25:53,760
Speaker 1: the level of miseducation, Like this guy couldn't even string

604
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Speaker 1: a sentence together. He couldn't even put the right tenses together.

605
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Speaker 4: What's what's the premise?

606
00:25:58,560 --> 00:26:01,479
Speaker 1: Okay? Sorry, sorry, I'm going I'm too upset about the grammar.

607
00:26:01,800 --> 00:26:04,840
Speaker 1: I just couldn't believe the dumb assness of these people.

608
00:26:04,880 --> 00:26:07,080
Speaker 1: It's like, no wonder we have fucking Trump in office

609
00:26:07,119 --> 00:26:10,480
Speaker 1: when people like this are just wandering around our country.

610
00:26:11,000 --> 00:26:13,200
Speaker 1: So the premise is, you want to take.

611
00:26:13,080 --> 00:26:17,879
Speaker 11: A woman two kids already meets handsome cowboy type du

612
00:26:18,280 --> 00:26:23,480
Speaker 11: that Okay, I was, I was dts Anyways, she she

613
00:26:23,600 --> 00:26:24,600
Speaker 11: wants to lock him in.

614
00:26:24,680 --> 00:26:24,960
Speaker 6: Now.

615
00:26:25,240 --> 00:26:31,080
Speaker 11: She's had a topic pregnancies before and had her tubes removed. Okay,

616
00:26:31,160 --> 00:26:36,119
Speaker 11: tubal ligation like she removed it. Oh, they had to

617
00:26:36,160 --> 00:26:37,720
Speaker 11: take the whole uter risk.

618
00:26:37,760 --> 00:26:40,920
Speaker 6: It's the directomy. Okay, she had a full kiss directedmy

619
00:26:41,080 --> 00:26:43,720
Speaker 6: she dating this dude, she trying to trap them. Okay.

620
00:26:44,000 --> 00:26:46,600
Speaker 11: She tells him, okay after a few months, a day,

621
00:26:46,680 --> 00:26:50,040
Speaker 11: not even a whole year, that she's pregnant. Okay, she

622
00:26:50,160 --> 00:26:53,600
Speaker 11: starts pretending to be pregnant, and her family is letting

623
00:26:53,680 --> 00:26:56,720
Speaker 11: us lie. This woman done told a thousand lies. Her

624
00:26:56,760 --> 00:26:59,960
Speaker 11: family is not saying nothing. She had a gender review,

625
00:27:00,520 --> 00:27:01,520
Speaker 11: a baby shower.

626
00:27:01,680 --> 00:27:02,240
Speaker 1: Oh my god.

627
00:27:03,040 --> 00:27:05,680
Speaker 11: Nobody's in her family saying nothing because she got something

628
00:27:05,680 --> 00:27:06,160
Speaker 11: over their.

629
00:27:06,080 --> 00:27:08,280
Speaker 6: Head or whatever. A few people here and there are

630
00:27:08,280 --> 00:27:09,359
Speaker 6: saying some one.

631
00:27:09,240 --> 00:27:11,040
Speaker 1: Of the boy family, it's starting.

632
00:27:12,400 --> 00:27:15,760
Speaker 11: And the mama, the mama, his mama calls up to

633
00:27:15,800 --> 00:27:17,960
Speaker 11: the or one of the friends or sister. Somebody in

634
00:27:18,000 --> 00:27:21,080
Speaker 11: this family calls the doctor's office because it's a small town, right.

635
00:27:21,080 --> 00:27:23,920
Speaker 6: The doctor's office see her posting stuff on Facebook.

636
00:27:23,640 --> 00:27:26,480
Speaker 10: My baby on the way the doctor's office.

637
00:27:26,480 --> 00:27:27,880
Speaker 1: They gave her the hystoryctic and.

638
00:27:27,840 --> 00:27:31,760
Speaker 11: They're like, they're like, she not having no baby nowhere

639
00:27:31,880 --> 00:27:34,679
Speaker 11: else she having a baby, right, And the one of

640
00:27:34,720 --> 00:27:37,480
Speaker 11: the family members called in. They're like, they can't because

641
00:27:37,480 --> 00:27:39,680
Speaker 11: of hippos. They can't say she had to disrect me.

642
00:27:39,760 --> 00:27:40,680
Speaker 6: But they saying.

643
00:27:40,680 --> 00:27:45,080
Speaker 11: Double check, I would pay attention in five of you,

644
00:27:45,240 --> 00:27:47,560
Speaker 11: Like they can't tell that this woman that had to

645
00:27:47,600 --> 00:27:49,440
Speaker 11: disrect me. But and they can't say that she can't

646
00:27:49,440 --> 00:27:51,400
Speaker 11: get pregnant because who knows God makes miracles?

647
00:27:51,440 --> 00:27:54,440
Speaker 6: But no, right, so what she do with.

648
00:27:54,480 --> 00:27:59,120
Speaker 11: This this crazy b She pretend like she pregnant. She

649
00:27:59,119 --> 00:28:00,880
Speaker 11: she just a big girl, right, but then I guess

650
00:28:00,880 --> 00:28:01,920
Speaker 11: she put a little fake belly on.

651
00:28:01,960 --> 00:28:03,240
Speaker 6: But how you hitting that, sir?

652
00:28:03,520 --> 00:28:03,600
Speaker 11: You?

653
00:28:03,880 --> 00:28:06,960
Speaker 9: This is this is what is so dumb asses.

654
00:28:06,960 --> 00:28:09,679
Speaker 11: And like the level foot push it through the belly,

655
00:28:09,800 --> 00:28:10,919
Speaker 11: nothing like babies a.

656
00:28:11,119 --> 00:28:15,720
Speaker 1: Level Some asses in this country is astonished.

657
00:28:15,119 --> 00:28:17,639
Speaker 11: And thinking she ate milk. Maybe she tells the tolerant

658
00:28:17,640 --> 00:28:18,920
Speaker 11: and you know how when you eat milk. You could

659
00:28:18,920 --> 00:28:19,840
Speaker 11: fill that rumble, like.

660
00:28:20,000 --> 00:28:25,040
Speaker 1: She had a fake pregnancy suit on that she ordered.

661
00:28:25,040 --> 00:28:27,639
Speaker 1: But like at some point the husband or the boyfriend

662
00:28:27,800 --> 00:28:30,919
Speaker 1: would see her naked or have sex with her, or

663
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Speaker 1: see her walk into the bathroom.

664
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Speaker 11: Now, but he'd like, pig farmer, dude, that's what I need.

665
00:28:37,280 --> 00:28:38,840
Speaker 11: If he ain't a pig, he don't.

666
00:28:38,640 --> 00:28:41,320
Speaker 1: Know, and he'd be like, I didn't know she had

667
00:28:41,480 --> 00:28:44,959
Speaker 1: she been. He'd be like, I didn't know she'd been expected.

668
00:28:45,280 --> 00:28:48,120
Speaker 1: Like the like the sentence structure was, I couldn't even

669
00:28:48,160 --> 00:28:50,320
Speaker 1: get past people.

670
00:28:50,760 --> 00:28:53,720
Speaker 11: But people talk like this. No he talked, They talked

671
00:28:53,920 --> 00:28:55,920
Speaker 11: like He's like, I don't know how in the hell

672
00:28:56,400 --> 00:29:00,960
Speaker 11: she was, adding, she says she suspected, so we like

673
00:29:01,040 --> 00:29:04,600
Speaker 11: it just sounds very slavey and it's like borderline slavery

674
00:29:04,640 --> 00:29:06,120
Speaker 11: slash like almost for your type.

675
00:29:06,800 --> 00:29:09,719
Speaker 6: It's just bad. It's just bad grammar, bad everything.

676
00:29:10,040 --> 00:29:13,880
Speaker 11: And she basically went and befriended this woman that she befriended,

677
00:29:14,320 --> 00:29:17,000
Speaker 11: took pictures of this woman at her wedding and everything.

678
00:29:17,040 --> 00:29:19,800
Speaker 11: She's a photographer to the woman's the lion ass bitches

679
00:29:19,800 --> 00:29:22,760
Speaker 11: a photographer. Okay, took pictures of her friend at the

680
00:29:22,920 --> 00:29:27,560
Speaker 11: mother fucking wedding after her friend's baby shower at her

681
00:29:27,640 --> 00:29:29,880
Speaker 11: friends party, go over to girl let's.

682
00:29:29,680 --> 00:29:30,600
Speaker 6: Hat tea lest whatever.

683
00:29:30,720 --> 00:29:32,959
Speaker 11: I've come kicking with my friend and all the other friends.

684
00:29:32,960 --> 00:29:35,960
Speaker 11: And the friend is very pregnant. And now she's ten

685
00:29:36,040 --> 00:29:39,240
Speaker 11: months and everybody's like, hey, you fourteen days behind your

686
00:29:39,280 --> 00:29:39,640
Speaker 11: do date?

687
00:29:39,680 --> 00:29:40,040
Speaker 12: What's up?

688
00:29:40,040 --> 00:29:43,480
Speaker 1: Point? Everyone has safe yet, Like even the mother of

689
00:29:43,560 --> 00:29:46,360
Speaker 1: the guy was like, hey this, we don't trust this woman.

690
00:29:46,560 --> 00:29:48,760
Speaker 1: We don't think she's pregnant. We don't believe she's pregnant.

691
00:29:48,760 --> 00:29:51,320
Speaker 1: She passed her due date by like a month, which

692
00:29:51,400 --> 00:29:53,000
Speaker 1: is like, are you an elephant?

693
00:29:53,040 --> 00:29:53,800
Speaker 9: That doesn't happen?

694
00:29:53,880 --> 00:29:54,520
Speaker 4: Right?

695
00:29:54,760 --> 00:29:58,280
Speaker 1: And and then so they were telling him and he's like,

696
00:29:58,560 --> 00:30:00,440
Speaker 1: oo nude.

697
00:30:00,760 --> 00:30:03,880
Speaker 11: And then and then this bitch go over to the

698
00:30:03,920 --> 00:30:07,120
Speaker 11: homegirl house right when everybody gone to work and stuff,

699
00:30:07,120 --> 00:30:09,360
Speaker 11: and her baby in near sleep, her daughter in there sleep.

700
00:30:09,440 --> 00:30:12,480
Speaker 6: This bitch come over early in the morning, kills her friend,

701
00:30:12,880 --> 00:30:14,480
Speaker 6: slices her baby.

702
00:30:14,200 --> 00:30:17,880
Speaker 11: Out of her bed, okay, leaves her on the floor,

703
00:30:18,200 --> 00:30:21,000
Speaker 11: takes the baby, starts driving a radical lead like she

704
00:30:21,040 --> 00:30:23,040
Speaker 11: had it to the hospital because she told her husband

705
00:30:23,320 --> 00:30:25,840
Speaker 11: to her boyfriend to meet her at the hospital because

706
00:30:25,880 --> 00:30:29,280
Speaker 11: she having a baby.

707
00:30:27,600 --> 00:30:32,480
Speaker 1: The baby still have the umbilical court on. But everyone

708
00:30:32,520 --> 00:30:34,720
Speaker 1: had been kind of red alerted in this town, the

709
00:30:34,760 --> 00:30:37,560
Speaker 1: hospital and the police both because they knew that she

710
00:30:37,720 --> 00:30:41,200
Speaker 1: was lying and everyone knew the story. So when they

711
00:30:41,200 --> 00:30:45,120
Speaker 1: got there, they filmed everything, and and she's like, i mean,

712
00:30:45,160 --> 00:30:47,840
Speaker 1: talk about a dumbouse. She's like, what, like she could

713
00:30:48,080 --> 00:30:50,719
Speaker 1: and they're like, well, let's see your vagina and make

714
00:30:50,760 --> 00:30:51,560
Speaker 1: sure you're okay.

715
00:30:51,680 --> 00:30:52,840
Speaker 9: Basically, you just.

716
00:30:52,600 --> 00:30:55,560
Speaker 6: Deliver the baby. Sure, stupid. She should have did that

717
00:30:55,600 --> 00:30:57,080
Speaker 6: shit when she was all her period.

718
00:30:57,080 --> 00:30:59,120
Speaker 11: Oh wait, you don't have periods because you got a

719
00:30:59,200 --> 00:31:02,600
Speaker 11: hysterict So she didn't even got no blood. You know,

720
00:31:03,480 --> 00:31:05,320
Speaker 11: you got a little blood on your pants, little blood

721
00:31:05,320 --> 00:31:06,960
Speaker 11: on the back of the pajama bottoms or something you

722
00:31:06,960 --> 00:31:08,040
Speaker 11: will be bleeding through.

723
00:31:08,560 --> 00:31:09,880
Speaker 6: She came out of there with just a little bit

724
00:31:09,880 --> 00:31:11,560
Speaker 6: of blood on her shirt from the bleeding.

725
00:31:13,880 --> 00:31:15,400
Speaker 4: The woman survive.

726
00:31:19,120 --> 00:31:21,680
Speaker 6: The doing life in jail. But I'm like, she's so dumb.

727
00:31:21,680 --> 00:31:23,320
Speaker 11: She should have put that blood of the lady all

728
00:31:23,360 --> 00:31:26,760
Speaker 11: between her legs or something like either white, but it

729
00:31:26,800 --> 00:31:29,040
Speaker 11: doesn't matter. Why are you taking somebody else's back?

730
00:31:29,480 --> 00:31:32,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, that, but also, how do you think that plan?

731
00:31:32,800 --> 00:31:35,720
Speaker 1: You think that you're gonna steal someone's baby from their belly,

732
00:31:35,960 --> 00:31:38,240
Speaker 1: take it out of their stomach, and they're not gonna

733
00:31:38,280 --> 00:31:39,200
Speaker 1: find out.

734
00:31:39,200 --> 00:31:41,360
Speaker 4: Right, They're not gonna find a body like what.

735
00:31:41,600 --> 00:31:45,280
Speaker 1: I just don't understand how stupid people are. It's I

736
00:31:45,280 --> 00:31:47,920
Speaker 1: guess you're just so crazy that it supersedes the stupid.

737
00:31:50,960 --> 00:31:53,600
Speaker 1: But then it's like a permanent state of psychosis.

738
00:31:54,200 --> 00:31:57,120
Speaker 11: All your friends, your neighbors, like everybody, like they just

739
00:31:57,200 --> 00:32:00,920
Speaker 11: let you keep talking that ship, like her mom and

740
00:32:01,040 --> 00:32:03,040
Speaker 11: dad said, they we don't deal with her at all.

741
00:32:03,120 --> 00:32:06,040
Speaker 6: She's a pathological lion. We don't deal with her at all.

742
00:32:06,080 --> 00:32:08,800
Speaker 1: What was really sad was after the husband or the boyfriend,

743
00:32:08,840 --> 00:32:11,479
Speaker 1: whatever he is, the farm or the pig farmer he is,

744
00:32:12,440 --> 00:32:15,640
Speaker 1: he's like, you know what was the most touching part

745
00:32:15,680 --> 00:32:17,640
Speaker 1: was how much his mother loved him and was like,

746
00:32:17,840 --> 00:32:19,480
Speaker 1: I just wish he had listened to me, Like I

747
00:32:19,560 --> 00:32:21,720
Speaker 1: warned him. I told him, but he was getting angry

748
00:32:21,760 --> 00:32:24,000
Speaker 1: at the people who were telling him the truths, as

749
00:32:24,040 --> 00:32:27,600
Speaker 1: one does. And then he's been shunned and ostracized by

750
00:32:27,640 --> 00:32:30,040
Speaker 1: the community and society because he was with her.

751
00:32:30,360 --> 00:32:32,320
Speaker 9: And so now this poor guy, and.

752
00:32:32,360 --> 00:32:34,640
Speaker 1: You know who I liked in that documentary, he's best friend,

753
00:32:35,040 --> 00:32:37,640
Speaker 1: he had some fucking soul. He came and he was like,

754
00:32:37,720 --> 00:32:40,240
Speaker 1: you have to listen to me. Forget about all this gossip.

755
00:32:40,320 --> 00:32:42,320
Speaker 1: You have to listen to me, Manda. Man, this woman

756
00:32:42,440 --> 00:32:44,720
Speaker 1: is out. She's not right, something's wrong with her, and

757
00:32:44,760 --> 00:32:46,800
Speaker 1: he couldn't listen to her because it's the power of

758
00:32:46,800 --> 00:32:47,240
Speaker 1: the pussy.

759
00:32:47,480 --> 00:32:48,520
Speaker 6: Yeah, she even.

760
00:32:48,320 --> 00:32:50,000
Speaker 1: Though he wasn't getting any pussy, because if he was,

761
00:32:50,000 --> 00:32:51,280
Speaker 1: he would have known she wasn't.

762
00:32:51,440 --> 00:32:53,800
Speaker 11: Pregnant, right, But he probably don't know the difference between

763
00:32:53,840 --> 00:32:55,440
Speaker 11: pregnant pissy and not pregnant pisty.

764
00:32:55,600 --> 00:32:59,160
Speaker 6: She probably really just.

765
00:33:00,080 --> 00:33:02,160
Speaker 11: Hobbing on a knob and keeping them drunk every night.

766
00:33:02,480 --> 00:33:04,200
Speaker 11: And then she probably had gas, so she's like, look,

767
00:33:04,200 --> 00:33:07,280
Speaker 11: the baby's moving with gas bubbles and stuff it. Then

768
00:33:07,400 --> 00:33:10,200
Speaker 11: I probably gave her liberty to fart and like freely

769
00:33:10,320 --> 00:33:12,920
Speaker 11: and stuff, and he's just thinking, oh, she's making my baby,

770
00:33:13,160 --> 00:33:15,560
Speaker 11: but really she's a nasty, dirty Okay.

771
00:33:15,560 --> 00:33:17,480
Speaker 9: Anyway, that was a slight sidebar.

772
00:33:17,120 --> 00:33:21,400
Speaker 4: A tiny sidebar. Minutes later that is taking this email

773
00:33:21,440 --> 00:33:25,440
Speaker 4: sound very tame. Okay, go, we'll pick back up where

774
00:33:25,440 --> 00:33:26,320
Speaker 4: we left off.

775
00:33:26,400 --> 00:33:29,080
Speaker 3: So you know, she thought that he had He told

776
00:33:29,080 --> 00:33:31,360
Speaker 3: her that he had had a vaseectomy, or so I thought.

777
00:33:31,560 --> 00:33:33,920
Speaker 3: I missed my period this month, but still thought nothing

778
00:33:33,920 --> 00:33:35,640
Speaker 3: of it and assumed it was due to stress or

779
00:33:35,680 --> 00:33:37,640
Speaker 3: lack of sleep. But when I still didn't get it

780
00:33:37,720 --> 00:33:40,600
Speaker 3: weeks later, I decided to take a pregnancy test. Well

781
00:33:40,720 --> 00:33:43,240
Speaker 3: it was positive. I'm hurt and upset that he lied

782
00:33:43,240 --> 00:33:45,480
Speaker 3: about something so serious. I'm not someone who wants to

783
00:33:45,520 --> 00:33:47,880
Speaker 3: carry a child and have never wanted kids. Even though

784
00:33:47,880 --> 00:33:49,840
Speaker 3: I adore his children, I still don't want one of

785
00:33:49,840 --> 00:33:52,680
Speaker 3: my own. Because of this, I've decided to terminate the pregnancy.

786
00:33:52,880 --> 00:33:55,240
Speaker 3: I'm trying to figure out how I should handle these feelings.

787
00:33:55,440 --> 00:33:57,160
Speaker 3: Things haven't been going well for us, and I've been

788
00:33:57,160 --> 00:33:59,720
Speaker 3: wanting to break things off anyway. But do I first

789
00:33:59,760 --> 00:34:02,440
Speaker 3: tell him that I'm pregnant and demand an explanation on

790
00:34:02,480 --> 00:34:04,680
Speaker 3: why he lied to me? Or do I go through

791
00:34:04,680 --> 00:34:07,720
Speaker 3: this alone and keep it to myself. I feel incredibly betrayed,

792
00:34:07,720 --> 00:34:09,480
Speaker 3: and any advice you have in the situation would be

793
00:34:09,520 --> 00:34:10,560
Speaker 3: greatly appreciated.

794
00:34:10,920 --> 00:34:15,120
Speaker 1: What do you think, oh, my nass? Though she wants

795
00:34:15,160 --> 00:34:19,320
Speaker 1: to play a trick on him, I'm evil.

796
00:34:19,440 --> 00:34:20,120
Speaker 6: I'm evil.

797
00:34:20,480 --> 00:34:24,120
Speaker 11: No, I would tell him his vasectomy doesn't work, and

798
00:34:24,320 --> 00:34:27,560
Speaker 11: I would if she wants to terminate the pregnancy, do

799
00:34:27,680 --> 00:34:28,800
Speaker 11: the little peel or whatever.

800
00:34:29,160 --> 00:34:34,040
Speaker 1: But absolutely don't fucking tell him anything. He doesn't get

801
00:34:34,040 --> 00:34:36,680
Speaker 1: to know because he's untrustworthy to lie about something like that.

802
00:34:37,239 --> 00:34:40,560
Speaker 1: It's very deceptive and something's wrong with him. So get

803
00:34:40,640 --> 00:34:42,440
Speaker 1: him out, get rid of him as quickly as possible.

804
00:34:42,440 --> 00:34:44,880
Speaker 1: If you want to confront him after the fact, go ahead.

805
00:34:45,239 --> 00:34:48,040
Speaker 1: But I mean, I know there's some self satisfaction you

806
00:34:48,120 --> 00:34:50,240
Speaker 1: think you're going to get by confronting people, but usually

807
00:34:50,520 --> 00:34:53,600
Speaker 1: no psychopath that you're just going to get moral lies.

808
00:34:53,920 --> 00:34:55,759
Speaker 3: Yeah, And I think if you're already thinking about bringing

809
00:34:55,800 --> 00:34:58,040
Speaker 3: up on him anyway, this is like way way way

810
00:34:58,080 --> 00:34:58,560
Speaker 3: right now.

811
00:34:58,600 --> 00:35:00,319
Speaker 9: This would be a reason to break up with someone

812
00:35:00,320 --> 00:35:01,040
Speaker 9: if you weren't.

813
00:35:00,840 --> 00:35:04,160
Speaker 4: Even if you weren't totally okay. Can viseectomies not work?

814
00:35:04,360 --> 00:35:05,759
Speaker 4: Don't they like work all of the time?

815
00:35:05,840 --> 00:35:08,040
Speaker 6: Or are there Well, it depends on how they did it.

816
00:35:08,120 --> 00:35:10,399
Speaker 11: Now, if they burnt the ends of the tubes, then

817
00:35:10,440 --> 00:35:13,600
Speaker 11: it should be done, unless he didn't get out eighty

818
00:35:13,960 --> 00:35:14,600
Speaker 11: nuts before.

819
00:35:14,719 --> 00:35:17,120
Speaker 6: But he got to visect me years before he meet.

820
00:35:17,880 --> 00:35:19,759
Speaker 11: So the only other thing is if they tied it

821
00:35:19,760 --> 00:35:23,000
Speaker 11: in a knot, then an could come untied and then

822
00:35:23,120 --> 00:35:25,200
Speaker 11: it could float through the Those are the only two

823
00:35:25,239 --> 00:35:25,920
Speaker 11: ways that I know of.

824
00:35:26,120 --> 00:35:28,880
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I mean well, yeah, wow, I didn't even

825
00:35:28,920 --> 00:35:29,600
Speaker 1: think about that.

826
00:35:29,680 --> 00:35:30,600
Speaker 9: Maybe it didn't work.

827
00:35:30,680 --> 00:35:33,960
Speaker 11: I mean I would, I would handle business and I

828
00:35:33,960 --> 00:35:35,799
Speaker 11: would let him know that I need to go back

829
00:35:35,800 --> 00:35:38,440
Speaker 11: to the doctor. Yeah, and get your stuff checked because

830
00:35:38,480 --> 00:35:40,720
Speaker 11: you because as far as I'm concerned, you're a liar

831
00:35:41,239 --> 00:35:44,480
Speaker 11: or the doctor messed up the malpractice, because that's that

832
00:35:44,840 --> 00:35:45,600
Speaker 11: is not true.

833
00:35:45,880 --> 00:35:48,080
Speaker 6: Yeah, you have a visect me. It's not true.

834
00:35:48,280 --> 00:35:50,800
Speaker 4: Yeah, all right, d best of luck to you.

835
00:35:51,239 --> 00:35:54,120
Speaker 1: I'm with a lot of medical stuff because I'm a doctor,

836
00:35:54,239 --> 00:35:55,280
Speaker 1: I know, but I'm a doctor.

837
00:35:55,320 --> 00:35:56,920
Speaker 9: I'm a pharmacist or a doctor.

838
00:35:57,480 --> 00:36:00,279
Speaker 1: She's a and I'm a pharmacist. We should of our

839
00:36:00,280 --> 00:36:03,040
Speaker 1: own doctor medical facillin. Allow, we should open one up

840
00:36:03,040 --> 00:36:03,680
Speaker 1: in my work gut.

841
00:36:03,760 --> 00:36:05,840
Speaker 6: We could do it. We could, Yeah, we couldn't.

842
00:36:05,920 --> 00:36:08,280
Speaker 1: Natural men diagnose them and then I prescribed.

843
00:36:13,400 --> 00:36:13,680
Speaker 11: Well.

844
00:36:13,760 --> 00:36:18,080
Speaker 3: Our first caller today is Miles, and Miles says, I

845
00:36:18,160 --> 00:36:20,960
Speaker 3: was in a relationship for fifteen years and when it ended,

846
00:36:21,000 --> 00:36:23,520
Speaker 3: I felt like I lost everything. I lost my wife,

847
00:36:23,600 --> 00:36:25,680
Speaker 3: my house, my family, and the future I thought I

848
00:36:25,760 --> 00:36:28,000
Speaker 3: was going to have. Now I'm living on my own

849
00:36:28,040 --> 00:36:29,960
Speaker 3: for the first time. I'm finding it hard to make

850
00:36:29,960 --> 00:36:33,080
Speaker 3: new friends, and honestly, the silence and loneliness can be overwhelming.

851
00:36:33,400 --> 00:36:35,439
Speaker 3: One of the hardest parts is knowing my ex has

852
00:36:35,480 --> 00:36:37,879
Speaker 3: already moved on and is in a new relationship while

853
00:36:37,920 --> 00:36:39,759
Speaker 3: I'm still trying to figure out who I am on

854
00:36:39,800 --> 00:36:42,280
Speaker 3: my own. How do I learn to be alone without

855
00:36:42,280 --> 00:36:44,680
Speaker 3: feeling lonely? How do I build a new life when

856
00:36:44,680 --> 00:36:46,880
Speaker 3: I feel like I'm starting from scratch? And how do

857
00:36:46,960 --> 00:36:48,759
Speaker 3: I truly move on when the person I thought I'd

858
00:36:48,760 --> 00:36:50,400
Speaker 3: spend my life with has already moved on?

859
00:36:50,680 --> 00:36:55,680
Speaker 1: Miles, Hi, Miles, Hello, Hello, Hello, Hello. This is our

860
00:36:55,719 --> 00:36:58,360
Speaker 1: special guest today, Miss Tiffany Hattish is here.

861
00:36:58,560 --> 00:36:58,920
Speaker 6: Hello.

862
00:36:59,200 --> 00:37:03,320
Speaker 12: Oh my god, I saw you recently in Sydney. You're amazing.

863
00:37:04,760 --> 00:37:09,240
Speaker 6: Yes, this person you were with a Bogan.

864
00:37:10,400 --> 00:37:10,920
Speaker 12: Again.

865
00:37:11,160 --> 00:37:15,760
Speaker 11: No, okay, I know, I know you're not all Bogans.

866
00:37:15,760 --> 00:37:16,480
Speaker 6: I know that, I know.

867
00:37:16,760 --> 00:37:17,000
Speaker 2: I know.

868
00:37:17,200 --> 00:37:18,000
Speaker 6: I was just checking.

869
00:37:18,800 --> 00:37:21,359
Speaker 9: Well, that sounds like you're going through a really difficult time.

870
00:37:22,239 --> 00:37:22,879
Speaker 12: It's been a lot.

871
00:37:23,200 --> 00:37:25,799
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's been a lot. I'm reading this book. It's

872
00:37:25,800 --> 00:37:28,319
Speaker 1: called This Is What Happens When Women Read that's the

873
00:37:28,400 --> 00:37:30,919
Speaker 1: name of the book, and it's about someone going through

874
00:37:31,120 --> 00:37:33,319
Speaker 1: not your exact situation, but like a kind of a

875
00:37:33,320 --> 00:37:36,000
Speaker 1: complete like breakdown of what she thought was her life

876
00:37:36,440 --> 00:37:38,480
Speaker 1: and the end of one of, you.

877
00:37:38,440 --> 00:37:40,080
Speaker 9: Know, of a part of her life.

878
00:37:40,400 --> 00:37:44,080
Speaker 1: And while that transition period, like what you're in right

879
00:37:44,200 --> 00:37:48,600
Speaker 1: now is so scary and unknown and like you feel

880
00:37:48,640 --> 00:37:52,319
Speaker 1: so destabilized, I can imagine and this is what you

881
00:37:52,480 --> 00:37:57,040
Speaker 1: expected from your life. This period of time is temporary,

882
00:37:57,160 --> 00:38:00,000
Speaker 1: it's not permanent, and what you do with this time

883
00:38:00,080 --> 00:38:03,480
Speaker 1: time is going to is going to matter for the

884
00:38:03,520 --> 00:38:06,719
Speaker 1: rest of your life. Like how you build and rebuild

885
00:38:06,760 --> 00:38:09,400
Speaker 1: your life from here is going to be really vital

886
00:38:09,640 --> 00:38:11,440
Speaker 1: to how you go through the rest of your life.

887
00:38:11,520 --> 00:38:15,400
Speaker 1: And it's a huge opportunity for intense growth and immense growth,

888
00:38:15,520 --> 00:38:19,960
Speaker 1: Like you want to really just dive in to actually

889
00:38:20,040 --> 00:38:23,680
Speaker 1: sitting alone and being alone with those feelings. Really, I

890
00:38:23,719 --> 00:38:26,400
Speaker 1: know it doesn't sound desirable and it's not fun to

891
00:38:26,480 --> 00:38:29,640
Speaker 1: be feeling this way, but the best way to get

892
00:38:29,680 --> 00:38:32,920
Speaker 1: through these things is to go straight through them and

893
00:38:33,040 --> 00:38:36,759
Speaker 1: not to numb yourself with alcohol or drugs or any

894
00:38:36,800 --> 00:38:39,640
Speaker 1: of that stuff, or exercise or whatever. Like you want

895
00:38:39,680 --> 00:38:42,040
Speaker 1: to do whatever you're doing, but you don't want to

896
00:38:42,680 --> 00:38:45,720
Speaker 1: numb yourself to what you're dealing with, because it's intensely painful,

897
00:38:45,760 --> 00:38:50,400
Speaker 1: I understand, and you want to experience that pain because

898
00:38:50,520 --> 00:38:52,399
Speaker 1: through that darkness you will find your light.

899
00:38:52,520 --> 00:38:53,480
Speaker 9: I promise you.

900
00:38:53,920 --> 00:38:57,520
Speaker 1: Everyone goes through really dark periods in their lives. Some

901
00:38:57,920 --> 00:39:00,160
Speaker 1: are more intense than others. But you have I have

902
00:39:00,160 --> 00:39:02,200
Speaker 1: a choice of how you handle it and how you

903
00:39:02,239 --> 00:39:03,440
Speaker 1: come out the other side.

904
00:39:03,600 --> 00:39:06,680
Speaker 11: And as someone who's been divorced and felt like everything

905
00:39:07,239 --> 00:39:09,799
Speaker 11: like that, when yeah, it felt like it was death,

906
00:39:09,920 --> 00:39:12,680
Speaker 11: death to the relationship in my mind kind of like

907
00:39:12,719 --> 00:39:16,040
Speaker 11: he's dead to me, Like everything was like, yeah, it

908
00:39:16,120 --> 00:39:19,320
Speaker 11: was dark. And what I did was I wallowed around

909
00:39:19,320 --> 00:39:20,759
Speaker 11: in that shit for a little bit. I ain't gonna

910
00:39:20,760 --> 00:39:23,319
Speaker 11: lie to you. I wallowed around in it, and I

911
00:39:23,400 --> 00:39:26,200
Speaker 11: did get drunk, and I did a lot of stupid stuff,

912
00:39:26,640 --> 00:39:30,480
Speaker 11: and I caused myself a lot of problems. Okay, And

913
00:39:30,520 --> 00:39:33,000
Speaker 11: then my grandma snatched me up and she said, like,

914
00:39:33,200 --> 00:39:36,359
Speaker 11: baby girl, baby girl, how long you're gonna be sad

915
00:39:36,360 --> 00:39:38,319
Speaker 11: about this man that's probably not sad about you, that's

916
00:39:38,440 --> 00:39:42,480
Speaker 11: probably already moved on, probably already doing somebody else. Like

917
00:39:42,800 --> 00:39:45,759
Speaker 11: do things that you enjoy. Just start doing things that

918
00:39:45,800 --> 00:39:48,319
Speaker 11: you enjoy, and if you don't enjoy nothing, pretend like

919
00:39:48,360 --> 00:39:50,880
Speaker 11: you enjoy it. So I got myself a little groupine.

920
00:39:50,920 --> 00:39:53,160
Speaker 11: I went to the little paint and sit classes. I

921
00:39:53,160 --> 00:39:55,640
Speaker 11: didn't my girlfriends wanted to take me places, but they

922
00:39:55,760 --> 00:39:58,240
Speaker 11: reminded me of him because that we all hung out together.

923
00:39:58,320 --> 00:40:00,680
Speaker 11: So I didn't want to really be around this that much.

924
00:40:01,040 --> 00:40:04,560
Speaker 11: I went to mail strip clubs. I watched men dance,

925
00:40:05,040 --> 00:40:07,359
Speaker 11: and I threw money at them, twenty dollars. I never

926
00:40:07,400 --> 00:40:08,359
Speaker 11: spent more than twenty dollars.

927
00:40:08,400 --> 00:40:09,000
Speaker 6: And I yelled.

928
00:40:10,040 --> 00:40:13,440
Speaker 11: I yelled really crazy things to them. Made I objectified

929
00:40:13,440 --> 00:40:15,960
Speaker 11: those men, and that made me feel good. Now, probably

930
00:40:16,080 --> 00:40:18,440
Speaker 11: was wrong, Probably should have been nice to those young men,

931
00:40:18,480 --> 00:40:20,600
Speaker 11: but I was not. I let me say that dick

932
00:40:20,680 --> 00:40:24,720
Speaker 11: slang motherfucker, dance better, bitch like. I was yelling stuff

933
00:40:24,760 --> 00:40:28,239
Speaker 11: like that, and it was a good time. And then

934
00:40:28,960 --> 00:40:31,960
Speaker 11: eleven months eleven months, I didn't date anybody else. And

935
00:40:31,960 --> 00:40:34,560
Speaker 11: then I just like kind of like really started figuring

936
00:40:34,600 --> 00:40:36,239
Speaker 11: out what do I want to do with my life,

937
00:40:36,280 --> 00:40:38,840
Speaker 11: what do I want to be? I started getting I

938
00:40:39,000 --> 00:40:42,360
Speaker 11: enrolled in acting classes. I enrolled in a calligraphy class,

939
00:40:42,440 --> 00:40:44,200
Speaker 11: which was weird as hell because I have the worst

940
00:40:44,200 --> 00:40:46,480
Speaker 11: handwriting and it was still bad. I failed back class,

941
00:40:47,160 --> 00:40:53,160
Speaker 11: but also took a voice vocal lessons, a dialect lessons,

942
00:40:53,239 --> 00:40:57,080
Speaker 11: like at speed reading class. I just started taking classes,

943
00:40:57,160 --> 00:41:00,520
Speaker 11: any kind of class. I went to the am the

944
00:41:00,520 --> 00:41:01,759
Speaker 11: AMAX at me.

945
00:41:02,480 --> 00:41:04,759
Speaker 6: You know, they had the speakers and the people that

946
00:41:04,880 --> 00:41:05,600
Speaker 6: teach little things.

947
00:41:05,600 --> 00:41:07,960
Speaker 11: And then like, I went to the community College for

948
00:41:07,960 --> 00:41:10,160
Speaker 11: a little bit, took a grooming dogs class, like and

949
00:41:10,200 --> 00:41:11,920
Speaker 11: I'll just meet people in these classes. And then I

950
00:41:11,960 --> 00:41:14,279
Speaker 11: would get on stage as much as possible because I'm

951
00:41:14,320 --> 00:41:17,080
Speaker 11: a comedian. I would talk about my problems and the

952
00:41:17,160 --> 00:41:18,239
Speaker 11: jokes didn't make no sense.

953
00:41:18,280 --> 00:41:20,720
Speaker 6: Baby, y'all. It was bad. I was bombing, but it's okay.

954
00:41:20,920 --> 00:41:23,879
Speaker 11: I was getting stuff off my chest, and I went

955
00:41:23,920 --> 00:41:27,600
Speaker 11: to therapy. And after eleven months, then I started dating.

956
00:41:27,640 --> 00:41:30,560
Speaker 11: And I started like, it's like the fog finally cleared.

957
00:41:30,880 --> 00:41:32,120
Speaker 9: How long has it been for you?

958
00:41:34,000 --> 00:41:36,480
Speaker 12: Well, it's been twelve months. But we lived together.

959
00:41:36,960 --> 00:41:38,640
Speaker 6: Oh yeah, you gotta get out of there.

960
00:41:39,120 --> 00:41:40,920
Speaker 12: Yeah no, no, we're not anymore. So we had to

961
00:41:40,960 --> 00:41:43,000
Speaker 12: live together. We have a five year old boy, so

962
00:41:43,040 --> 00:41:45,240
Speaker 12: we had to sell our house. I moved out in March,

963
00:41:45,560 --> 00:41:48,160
Speaker 12: bought my own place, so you know, I focused on,

964
00:41:48,920 --> 00:41:52,000
Speaker 12: you know, getting in a promotion at work, making sure

965
00:41:52,040 --> 00:41:55,040
Speaker 12: I bought my own place, so of all the right things,

966
00:41:55,120 --> 00:41:58,040
Speaker 12: and then it's you know, now twelve months later, I've

967
00:41:58,080 --> 00:42:00,600
Speaker 12: been living, you know, out on my own since March,

968
00:42:00,640 --> 00:42:03,479
Speaker 12: and then all of a sudden, the craziness stops, and

969
00:42:03,600 --> 00:42:05,040
Speaker 12: you know, all of the things that I wanted to

970
00:42:05,080 --> 00:42:09,240
Speaker 12: achieve I've done, and now it's just like emptiness.

971
00:42:09,840 --> 00:42:13,040
Speaker 11: Oh yeah, Now fill that up with something you always

972
00:42:13,080 --> 00:42:16,680
Speaker 11: wanted to do. Crochet sew when maybe learn how to

973
00:42:16,719 --> 00:42:19,600
Speaker 11: do here. Maybe become a dental high gennis, maybe you

974
00:42:19,680 --> 00:42:20,640
Speaker 11: become a mechanic.

975
00:42:21,040 --> 00:42:22,960
Speaker 6: Just pick up a little thing. You know.

976
00:42:23,200 --> 00:42:26,239
Speaker 11: You went Australia. It's a gang of finance man out there.

977
00:42:26,239 --> 00:42:27,960
Speaker 11: I would be hanging out at the little Is it

978
00:42:28,000 --> 00:42:30,040
Speaker 11: a woman or a man that you're with where you

979
00:42:30,080 --> 00:42:30,440
Speaker 11: were with?

980
00:42:30,880 --> 00:42:34,040
Speaker 12: I was with a woman for fifty I would try

981
00:42:34,040 --> 00:42:34,439
Speaker 12: a man.

982
00:42:34,560 --> 00:42:38,879
Speaker 11: Now, see how I try try something different, Just see

983
00:42:38,880 --> 00:42:39,439
Speaker 11: how it goes.

984
00:42:39,480 --> 00:42:40,359
Speaker 6: You might not like it.

985
00:42:40,440 --> 00:42:42,520
Speaker 11: You might be like, you know what, No, but it

986
00:42:42,600 --> 00:42:44,319
Speaker 11: says a gang of finance min it's a gang of

987
00:42:44,360 --> 00:42:47,160
Speaker 11: finance women too, so I would go enjoy it.

988
00:42:47,239 --> 00:42:48,759
Speaker 12: I definitely have tried that.

989
00:42:51,120 --> 00:42:52,759
Speaker 1: I think listen, first of all, you have to be

990
00:42:52,760 --> 00:42:54,600
Speaker 1: grateful for all of the things that you have, Like

991
00:42:54,600 --> 00:42:57,680
Speaker 1: you're not going through this and having financial struggles. You're

992
00:42:57,680 --> 00:42:59,680
Speaker 1: not going through this and you're unhealthy, or you're sick,

993
00:42:59,760 --> 00:43:02,640
Speaker 1: or you're kids sick or anything like that. Like you're

994
00:43:02,640 --> 00:43:06,680
Speaker 1: feeling emptiness. That's a completely valid human emotion to feel.

995
00:43:06,680 --> 00:43:07,359
Speaker 9: And feel it.

996
00:43:07,600 --> 00:43:10,400
Speaker 1: But because it's not going to last forever, I promise you,

997
00:43:10,400 --> 00:43:12,360
Speaker 1: you have to just feed your soul. You have to

998
00:43:12,400 --> 00:43:14,560
Speaker 1: read books that are going to help you move on

999
00:43:14,760 --> 00:43:17,279
Speaker 1: with your life. And what Tiffany is saying is great.

1000
00:43:17,360 --> 00:43:18,880
Speaker 1: I didn't know you did all that shit when you

1001
00:43:18,880 --> 00:43:19,800
Speaker 1: were going through your divorce.

1002
00:43:19,840 --> 00:43:20,920
Speaker 9: I mean, that's bad ass.

1003
00:43:21,120 --> 00:43:23,359
Speaker 1: To fill yourself up, Like do something that you never

1004
00:43:23,400 --> 00:43:25,560
Speaker 1: thought you do. Take a sailing class, or go take

1005
00:43:25,600 --> 00:43:28,120
Speaker 1: a pottery class, or do something that appeals to you,

1006
00:43:28,200 --> 00:43:32,840
Speaker 1: whatever that is. But just start giving to yourself more

1007
00:43:33,000 --> 00:43:36,359
Speaker 1: than you're giving in. It's okay to feel empty, it's

1008
00:43:36,400 --> 00:43:39,400
Speaker 1: okay to feel lonely, but you have to remember, like

1009
00:43:39,680 --> 00:43:41,840
Speaker 1: even the good times aren't permanent, so the bad times

1010
00:43:41,840 --> 00:43:42,799
Speaker 1: can't be permanent either.

1011
00:43:43,800 --> 00:43:45,920
Speaker 6: Or you could marry yourself. We could have a wedding

1012
00:43:46,000 --> 00:43:47,600
Speaker 6: for you, girl. We could put this out there together.

1013
00:43:48,360 --> 00:43:51,000
Speaker 1: Definitely just married herself two years ago. She's sending up

1014
00:43:51,000 --> 00:43:52,120
Speaker 1: on a two year anniversary.

1015
00:43:52,360 --> 00:43:54,320
Speaker 11: I'm coming up on that to year anniversary in August.

1016
00:43:54,360 --> 00:43:56,799
Speaker 11: Your congratulations, Yeah, I'm married me.

1017
00:43:57,480 --> 00:43:59,160
Speaker 1: Do you have a big support system?

1018
00:43:59,320 --> 00:44:00,840
Speaker 9: Do you have a good support system?

1019
00:44:01,400 --> 00:44:03,920
Speaker 12: So obviously I have my family, but you know, we

1020
00:44:03,920 --> 00:44:06,520
Speaker 12: were together a long time and we built a friendship

1021
00:44:06,520 --> 00:44:10,160
Speaker 12: group together. I think when she ended it, I stepped

1022
00:44:10,200 --> 00:44:13,520
Speaker 12: away because I didn't want to say anything hurtful or

1023
00:44:13,560 --> 00:44:16,480
Speaker 12: mean when I was angry to you know, mutual friends.

1024
00:44:16,520 --> 00:44:20,520
Speaker 12: So I'm slowly trying to get back into, you know,

1025
00:44:20,800 --> 00:44:23,920
Speaker 12: that friendship group that we had, but it's still awkward

1026
00:44:23,920 --> 00:44:27,040
Speaker 12: for me. I do have, you know, three really close friends,

1027
00:44:27,080 --> 00:44:29,719
Speaker 12: which is enough. Yeah, But now that I'm sort of

1028
00:44:29,760 --> 00:44:32,840
Speaker 12: living in back in the city in Sydney, you know,

1029
00:44:32,840 --> 00:44:34,600
Speaker 12: I want to go out and meet new people, but

1030
00:44:34,640 --> 00:44:38,120
Speaker 12: it's I feel like I'm not myself. It's just it's awkward.

1031
00:44:38,400 --> 00:44:41,480
Speaker 12: I've never been alone. And then obviously, you know, in

1032
00:44:41,600 --> 00:44:43,719
Speaker 12: terms of support, I have my son half the time,

1033
00:44:43,760 --> 00:44:44,960
Speaker 12: which is incredible.

1034
00:44:45,840 --> 00:44:48,080
Speaker 11: But you're a new self. You're not yourself. You're not

1035
00:44:48,120 --> 00:44:51,120
Speaker 11: yourself anymore. You're not that woman anymore that was married before.

1036
00:44:51,160 --> 00:44:53,839
Speaker 11: You are a new person now, so it's like, yeah,

1037
00:44:54,080 --> 00:44:56,080
Speaker 11: it's time to get to know you. It's time to

1038
00:44:56,080 --> 00:44:58,440
Speaker 11: get to know what you're really into it. For fifteen years,

1039
00:44:58,760 --> 00:45:01,440
Speaker 11: you were always consider it of this other person and

1040
00:45:01,480 --> 00:45:04,480
Speaker 11: what they liked and what can we do together? Now

1041
00:45:04,920 --> 00:45:07,000
Speaker 11: is what do I like? And what can I do

1042
00:45:07,160 --> 00:45:10,080
Speaker 11: with me that other people would want to do with

1043
00:45:10,200 --> 00:45:10,600
Speaker 11: me too?

1044
00:45:11,520 --> 00:45:14,799
Speaker 1: Yeah, I understand that you're like experiencing this is a

1045
00:45:14,840 --> 00:45:17,280
Speaker 1: great loss, but like you have to kind of flip

1046
00:45:17,320 --> 00:45:19,440
Speaker 1: the script on this because it's a new beginning in

1047
00:45:19,440 --> 00:45:21,640
Speaker 1: your life and even though it's not one that you

1048
00:45:21,800 --> 00:45:25,080
Speaker 1: necessarily chose, you have it now. You have all this

1049
00:45:25,239 --> 00:45:28,759
Speaker 1: opportunity for a whole new life and that's while that

1050
00:45:28,800 --> 00:45:32,480
Speaker 1: can be daunting, it's super fucking exciting also, So like

1051
00:45:32,640 --> 00:45:34,320
Speaker 1: you just want to change the way that you're talking

1052
00:45:34,360 --> 00:45:37,759
Speaker 1: to yourself about this experience. This is this is this

1053
00:45:37,840 --> 00:45:40,040
Speaker 1: can be the beginning of something very positive, and I

1054
00:45:40,080 --> 00:45:43,200
Speaker 1: know that it is. Every breakup leads to some rebirth,

1055
00:45:43,280 --> 00:45:46,520
Speaker 1: a new experience for people like no one. I mean,

1056
00:45:46,560 --> 00:45:49,080
Speaker 1: it's very rare that you hold on to a breakup

1057
00:45:49,120 --> 00:45:51,399
Speaker 1: for years and years and years. So I think let

1058
00:45:51,400 --> 00:45:52,840
Speaker 1: go of the fact that it's been a year, and

1059
00:45:52,920 --> 00:45:55,520
Speaker 1: let go of that time stamp in your head. It's

1060
00:45:55,560 --> 00:45:58,360
Speaker 1: not that pertinent. What you want to do is really

1061
00:45:58,680 --> 00:46:01,479
Speaker 1: a wake up and write down five things that are

1062
00:46:01,520 --> 00:46:03,880
Speaker 1: going well for you in your life. Write down how

1063
00:46:03,960 --> 00:46:06,600
Speaker 1: much you love your son. That you're grateful for your job,

1064
00:46:06,600 --> 00:46:08,920
Speaker 1: that you're grateful you've got a promotion, that you're financially

1065
00:46:08,960 --> 00:46:12,319
Speaker 1: secure and independent, that you have a beautiful house. Write

1066
00:46:12,400 --> 00:46:14,680
Speaker 1: down all of these things so you remind yourself of

1067
00:46:14,719 --> 00:46:18,160
Speaker 1: how lucky and fortunate you are. You're not sick, you're

1068
00:46:18,200 --> 00:46:20,799
Speaker 1: not broke, you're not you know, you have friends, you

1069
00:46:20,800 --> 00:46:24,360
Speaker 1: have family, you have wonderful things. You're just holding onto

1070
00:46:24,400 --> 00:46:26,719
Speaker 1: the pain, and in order to release the pain, you

1071
00:46:26,760 --> 00:46:28,640
Speaker 1: need to remind yourself of what's going well.

1072
00:46:28,800 --> 00:46:31,080
Speaker 6: Great advice, and don't be afraid to cry.

1073
00:46:31,960 --> 00:46:35,279
Speaker 1: Yeah, don't yeah, lean out so you laugh, yeah yeah,

1074
00:46:35,320 --> 00:46:36,600
Speaker 1: because you will start laughing.

1075
00:46:36,719 --> 00:46:36,919
Speaker 6: Yeah.

1076
00:46:37,040 --> 00:46:39,000
Speaker 11: Crying is just a removal of all beliefs and a

1077
00:46:39,040 --> 00:46:41,240
Speaker 11: replacement of numans to create some new beliefs.

1078
00:46:41,280 --> 00:46:44,160
Speaker 1: But just try to shake off that feeling of awkwardness.

1079
00:46:44,200 --> 00:46:47,080
Speaker 1: When you feel that, like, try to let it loose,

1080
00:46:47,200 --> 00:46:50,160
Speaker 1: like just like let go of that. That's the old

1081
00:46:50,280 --> 00:46:53,680
Speaker 1: you that's somebody who's holding onto the past. So every

1082
00:46:53,719 --> 00:46:55,880
Speaker 1: time you think of that, just think of that Taylor

1083
00:46:55,920 --> 00:46:59,200
Speaker 1: Swift song. Shake it off, just like literally shake your

1084
00:46:59,200 --> 00:47:01,760
Speaker 1: body and be like, no, that's not who I am anymore,

1085
00:47:02,040 --> 00:47:04,200
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, And move through your life

1086
00:47:04,480 --> 00:47:08,640
Speaker 1: with that energy and just start uplifting yourself, because really,

1087
00:47:08,760 --> 00:47:11,600
Speaker 1: this is all you can ever do is be your

1088
00:47:11,640 --> 00:47:15,040
Speaker 1: own best advocate. You can't rely on other people to

1089
00:47:15,080 --> 00:47:16,880
Speaker 1: lift you up. You have to do it yourself.

1090
00:47:17,000 --> 00:47:18,640
Speaker 6: Now, are you trying to get back out there dating

1091
00:47:18,680 --> 00:47:20,480
Speaker 6: again or no? Not yet or what?

1092
00:47:21,239 --> 00:47:21,319
Speaker 11: No?

1093
00:47:21,880 --> 00:47:25,160
Speaker 12: No, not yet? I mean I have sort of gone

1094
00:47:25,160 --> 00:47:27,920
Speaker 12: out and met a few people, but no, I've just

1095
00:47:27,960 --> 00:47:30,319
Speaker 12: been trying to focus on my son, make sure he's

1096
00:47:30,360 --> 00:47:31,400
Speaker 12: mentally okay.

1097
00:47:32,360 --> 00:47:33,759
Speaker 6: Yeah, yeah, focused on that.

1098
00:47:33,880 --> 00:47:36,200
Speaker 11: If you decide you want to start dating other people,

1099
00:47:36,600 --> 00:47:39,120
Speaker 11: let me know, because I know a few millionaire bitches

1100
00:47:39,680 --> 00:47:41,960
Speaker 11: that's you know, popping in Australia.

1101
00:47:43,080 --> 00:47:45,319
Speaker 12: You know, I'm not saying don't send them my wife.

1102
00:47:46,280 --> 00:47:46,880
Speaker 6: There we go.

1103
00:47:47,480 --> 00:47:52,360
Speaker 11: That's there because they know me while I was happy.

1104
00:47:52,400 --> 00:47:53,839
Speaker 4: That's the spirit that they were.

1105
00:47:54,120 --> 00:47:57,200
Speaker 1: But treat yourself with love and compassion. Okay, you are

1106
00:47:57,239 --> 00:47:59,680
Speaker 1: your best advocate and your happiness is important for your

1107
00:47:59,760 --> 00:48:02,879
Speaker 1: child happiness. So you got to just wake up every

1108
00:48:02,960 --> 00:48:05,080
Speaker 1: day and try and find the gratitude in where you

1109
00:48:05,120 --> 00:48:06,960
Speaker 1: are in this moment. And you're going to look back

1110
00:48:07,000 --> 00:48:09,800
Speaker 1: at this time in another year or two, I promise,

1111
00:48:10,400 --> 00:48:12,439
Speaker 1: and you're gonna be like, wow, that was really tough

1112
00:48:12,480 --> 00:48:14,200
Speaker 1: and I got through that like a fucking champ.

1113
00:48:15,400 --> 00:48:19,080
Speaker 12: Oh you guys are incredible. I'm s so much better already.

1114
00:48:19,960 --> 00:48:21,799
Speaker 1: But what promised me that you'll wake up and write

1115
00:48:21,840 --> 00:48:24,080
Speaker 1: down five things every day that you're grateful for.

1116
00:48:24,440 --> 00:48:26,680
Speaker 12: Absolutely. I do love journaling, so.

1117
00:48:26,880 --> 00:48:29,480
Speaker 1: Okay, great, So yeah, do that every day because that

1118
00:48:29,600 --> 00:48:32,440
Speaker 1: just sets you up for success for your day. And

1119
00:48:32,480 --> 00:48:35,000
Speaker 1: when you get off track and you get sad it,

1120
00:48:35,239 --> 00:48:37,759
Speaker 1: do the same thing. Write it down again, write down

1121
00:48:37,800 --> 00:48:40,560
Speaker 1: another five things. Just every time you start to feel

1122
00:48:40,560 --> 00:48:43,120
Speaker 1: like you're not on your right path and that like

1123
00:48:43,239 --> 00:48:46,279
Speaker 1: spirit of like shaking it off and lifting up, then

1124
00:48:46,440 --> 00:48:49,920
Speaker 1: just remind yourself that you're healthy, you're strong, you're vibrant,

1125
00:48:50,000 --> 00:48:52,160
Speaker 1: you have a son, like things are going well.

1126
00:48:52,400 --> 00:48:52,920
Speaker 6: You winning?

1127
00:48:53,200 --> 00:48:56,479
Speaker 3: Yeah all right, myles, let us know what you sign

1128
00:48:56,560 --> 00:48:58,920
Speaker 3: up for, what you start doing, what you start enjoying

1129
00:48:58,920 --> 00:49:00,200
Speaker 3: that you didn't think you would enjoy.

1130
00:49:00,880 --> 00:49:03,759
Speaker 12: Yeah, let's see. Let's see, I'm looking forward to meeting

1131
00:49:03,800 --> 00:49:05,000
Speaker 12: those millionaire baches.

1132
00:49:06,360 --> 00:49:08,840
Speaker 1: We'll send you a direction link to Tiffany's website.

1133
00:49:08,880 --> 00:49:10,279
Speaker 6: I got got you.

1134
00:49:10,400 --> 00:49:14,520
Speaker 11: I'm for it, all your information information to know you,

1135
00:49:14,560 --> 00:49:15,600
Speaker 11: I'm gonna get you.

1136
00:49:15,600 --> 00:49:16,759
Speaker 6: You know what, I'm gonna just tell you what. I

1137
00:49:16,840 --> 00:49:17,560
Speaker 6: be hanging out.

1138
00:49:22,000 --> 00:49:24,200
Speaker 12: So lovely to make you guys.

1139
00:49:24,680 --> 00:49:27,680
Speaker 1: Thanks Miles, Thanks Miles, sending you lots of love.

1140
00:49:28,320 --> 00:49:29,160
Speaker 12: Na, thank you.

1141
00:49:30,000 --> 00:49:31,399
Speaker 4: Oh sweetie.

1142
00:49:32,320 --> 00:49:35,359
Speaker 1: It breaks my heart when people's hearts are broken, I know.

1143
00:49:35,680 --> 00:49:37,840
Speaker 3: And she's really only like three months out of the

1144
00:49:37,920 --> 00:49:40,360
Speaker 3: chaos part of it, so it's interesting that she says, like,

1145
00:49:40,680 --> 00:49:42,719
Speaker 3: now it just feels like there's nothing because there is

1146
00:49:42,840 --> 00:49:45,600
Speaker 3: some Like it's so stimulating to me in the chaos,

1147
00:49:45,680 --> 00:49:46,200
Speaker 3: even though.

1148
00:49:46,040 --> 00:49:48,840
Speaker 4: It's like bad. Yeah, yeah, that's interesting.

1149
00:49:49,160 --> 00:49:52,279
Speaker 1: It's like when you realize after a breakup there's a

1150
00:49:52,360 --> 00:49:55,040
Speaker 1: drama that comes with the breakup, right, and then when

1151
00:49:55,080 --> 00:49:59,040
Speaker 1: that goes away, it's almost like, well, now there's no one,

1152
00:49:59,160 --> 00:50:01,600
Speaker 1: you know, like even in the aftermath of the breakup,

1153
00:50:01,600 --> 00:50:05,520
Speaker 1: there's a there's a possibility of reconciliation, or there's drama

1154
00:50:05,560 --> 00:50:07,280
Speaker 1: attached that keeps the engine going.

1155
00:50:07,640 --> 00:50:10,719
Speaker 11: I don't have that much drama after my breakups just

1156
00:50:10,880 --> 00:50:11,880
Speaker 11: because I disappeared.

1157
00:50:11,960 --> 00:50:13,959
Speaker 3: Yeah, they had to like live together for like nine

1158
00:50:13,960 --> 00:50:14,520
Speaker 3: months after.

1159
00:50:14,920 --> 00:50:16,880
Speaker 4: Yeah, that would be that's messy.

1160
00:50:16,960 --> 00:50:19,319
Speaker 6: Yeah, I disappear. You know, I'm a foster kid.

1161
00:50:19,360 --> 00:50:22,399
Speaker 11: I know how to evacuate the premises quickly and never

1162
00:50:22,480 --> 00:50:25,600
Speaker 11: show up again. I know how to do that. I

1163
00:50:25,640 --> 00:50:27,920
Speaker 11: hate that I do that. I hate that I do that,

1164
00:50:27,960 --> 00:50:28,520
Speaker 11: But I do that.

1165
00:50:29,080 --> 00:50:30,439
Speaker 1: Well, why do you hate that? You do it?

1166
00:50:31,480 --> 00:50:33,959
Speaker 11: Because I know that the other person wants to say

1167
00:50:34,000 --> 00:50:36,160
Speaker 11: more and do more, but it's like there's nothing else

1168
00:50:36,200 --> 00:50:39,080
Speaker 11: that could be said. There's nothing and I would love

1169
00:50:39,160 --> 00:50:41,759
Speaker 11: to be that ear for them to like pour their

1170
00:50:41,760 --> 00:50:44,880
Speaker 11: little heart out into. So they're not talking about me

1171
00:50:45,000 --> 00:50:47,000
Speaker 11: all over the world, but they gonna talk about me anyway,

1172
00:50:47,160 --> 00:50:48,360
Speaker 11: So just let it go.

1173
00:50:48,760 --> 00:50:52,200
Speaker 1: Yeah, sometimes you're Yeah, sometimes there's just too many conversations

1174
00:50:52,280 --> 00:50:53,840
Speaker 1: around the breakup.

1175
00:50:53,600 --> 00:50:55,439
Speaker 11: Right, And I don't even want to have them when

1176
00:50:55,440 --> 00:50:57,759
Speaker 11: I broke up with you know, a few people the

1177
00:50:57,840 --> 00:50:59,960
Speaker 11: last like I would say, the last four relationships I had.

1178
00:51:00,200 --> 00:51:02,399
Speaker 11: I think they thought I was gonna be like, why

1179
00:51:02,520 --> 00:51:06,080
Speaker 11: you don't want to we kept work on this. I'm like, uh,

1180
00:51:06,280 --> 00:51:08,960
Speaker 11: this seems like you want this to be over okay, cool,

1181
00:51:09,040 --> 00:51:11,279
Speaker 11: let's okay, you got your way.

1182
00:51:11,480 --> 00:51:14,760
Speaker 6: I'm gonna go mind and get my little defel bag. Bye.

1183
00:51:15,040 --> 00:51:19,720
Speaker 6: And they're like, wait, that's it, that's it, were done.

1184
00:51:20,719 --> 00:51:21,120
Speaker 12: Bye.

1185
00:51:22,160 --> 00:51:24,120
Speaker 11: See you're around. I'm always smiling. I always say hello

1186
00:51:24,200 --> 00:51:24,960
Speaker 11: when I see you.

1187
00:51:25,080 --> 00:51:28,440
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, you actually you're right, you're I mean,

1188
00:51:28,480 --> 00:51:30,520
Speaker 1: obviously you're right because it's your life. But you aren't

1189
00:51:30,560 --> 00:51:34,600
Speaker 1: dramatic with breakups. Yeah, it's much better when it's not dramatic.

1190
00:51:34,960 --> 00:51:35,320
Speaker 6: Yeah.

1191
00:51:35,480 --> 00:51:36,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's much more assault like.

1192
00:51:37,520 --> 00:51:41,160
Speaker 11: It's better because they'd be like, you never really loved me.

1193
00:51:41,239 --> 00:51:43,160
Speaker 11: I'm like, but a man, you didn't fight for me.

1194
00:51:44,040 --> 00:51:46,879
Speaker 11: I'm not fighting. I'm not fighting for no man. There's

1195
00:51:46,960 --> 00:51:48,120
Speaker 11: too many of y'all out here.

1196
00:51:48,480 --> 00:51:51,160
Speaker 1: I was looking up the definition the difference between suppress

1197
00:51:51,200 --> 00:51:54,680
Speaker 1: and repress earlier because I always get confused by those

1198
00:51:54,680 --> 00:51:57,719
Speaker 1: two words, which one is conscious. Suppress is consciously when

1199
00:51:57,719 --> 00:52:01,279
Speaker 1: you consciously suppressed it, and repress is uncon I just

1200
00:52:01,280 --> 00:52:07,239
Speaker 1: thought i'd throw that out there in relation to what

1201
00:52:07,360 --> 00:52:08,000
Speaker 1: I don't know.

1202
00:52:11,280 --> 00:52:12,040
Speaker 9: And breakups.

1203
00:52:16,160 --> 00:52:18,839
Speaker 3: Well, our next question comes from Olivia and she says,

1204
00:52:18,840 --> 00:52:21,760
Speaker 3: Dear Chelsea, I never pictured myself writing into a podcast

1205
00:52:21,760 --> 00:52:24,160
Speaker 3: for advice on how to navigate men in the dating world.

1206
00:52:24,160 --> 00:52:24,839
Speaker 4: But here we are.

1207
00:52:25,160 --> 00:52:26,960
Speaker 3: I'm turning thirty five in May, and I have been

1208
00:52:27,000 --> 00:52:29,839
Speaker 3: seriously single for about six years. I have a good job,

1209
00:52:29,920 --> 00:52:33,520
Speaker 3: hobbies like camping and film photography, a dog, solived friendships,

1210
00:52:33,560 --> 00:52:36,080
Speaker 3: and a wonderful relationship with my family. I have my

1211
00:52:36,120 --> 00:52:38,000
Speaker 3: own radio show once a week on one of the

1212
00:52:38,000 --> 00:52:41,320
Speaker 3: local community stations here where I play tunes and chat music.

1213
00:52:41,600 --> 00:52:43,440
Speaker 3: I feel I have a lot to offer in a partnership,

1214
00:52:43,440 --> 00:52:46,200
Speaker 3: and that's exactly what I'm seeking a partner. I moved

1215
00:52:46,200 --> 00:52:48,359
Speaker 3: out to California on my own four years ago, and

1216
00:52:48,360 --> 00:52:50,879
Speaker 3: now I want someone to explore with. I'm on several

1217
00:52:50,960 --> 00:52:53,040
Speaker 3: dating apps, have been for a long time, and also

1218
00:52:53,040 --> 00:52:55,040
Speaker 3: try my hardest to put myself out there in the wild.

1219
00:52:55,120 --> 00:52:57,680
Speaker 3: But it seems, whether via an app or in person,

1220
00:52:57,719 --> 00:53:00,279
Speaker 3: there's no follow through from the guys, and they just

1221
00:53:00,280 --> 00:53:03,319
Speaker 3: seem lackluster about dating in general. Yeah, if and when

1222
00:53:03,360 --> 00:53:05,359
Speaker 3: I get a match, there is barely any follow through

1223
00:53:05,400 --> 00:53:07,360
Speaker 3: from them about wanting to get to know me or

1224
00:53:07,400 --> 00:53:10,320
Speaker 3: meet in person. It's beyond discouraging. I'm almost to the

1225
00:53:10,360 --> 00:53:12,160
Speaker 3: point where I've decided that my life might be better

1226
00:53:12,200 --> 00:53:14,319
Speaker 3: off without a man. I've enjoyed a lot of these

1227
00:53:14,360 --> 00:53:16,160
Speaker 3: last six years with just my dog. We have a

1228
00:53:16,200 --> 00:53:18,759
Speaker 3: peaceful existence and do as we please. Deep down, as

1229
00:53:18,840 --> 00:53:20,719
Speaker 3: much as I tell myself it doesn't matter. In the end,

1230
00:53:20,719 --> 00:53:22,880
Speaker 3: I want a partner. How do I keep putting in

1231
00:53:22,880 --> 00:53:26,120
Speaker 3: the effort when it feels totally unreciprocated by the opposite sex?

1232
00:53:26,200 --> 00:53:32,160
Speaker 1: Olivia, Hi, Olivia, Hello, This is Tiffany Hottish, our special guest.

1233
00:53:32,400 --> 00:53:36,239
Speaker 6: Hi girl, Hey, Hi, Hi.

1234
00:53:36,680 --> 00:53:38,200
Speaker 9: The good news is you're not alone.

1235
00:53:38,600 --> 00:53:41,680
Speaker 1: Many women are feeling this way, and I do think

1236
00:53:41,719 --> 00:53:44,719
Speaker 1: the apps and the social media aspect of everything has diminished.

1237
00:53:44,760 --> 00:53:46,879
Speaker 11: It's too many prositutes out here. Most of these women

1238
00:53:47,000 --> 00:53:49,000
Speaker 11: is prostitutes. Now they're making me so easy.

1239
00:53:49,040 --> 00:53:49,759
Speaker 6: No, this is real talk.

1240
00:53:49,800 --> 00:53:51,839
Speaker 11: I don't talk about fifty two dudes over the last

1241
00:53:51,840 --> 00:53:54,640
Speaker 11: seventeen days, and they all said, it's just really easy

1242
00:53:54,680 --> 00:53:58,319
Speaker 11: to just get us hundred dollars, and you can get

1243
00:53:58,320 --> 00:54:00,800
Speaker 11: a bed a beautiful woman for two hundred dollars and

1244
00:54:00,840 --> 00:54:02,800
Speaker 11: should do nasty things to you and go away.

1245
00:54:02,960 --> 00:54:05,280
Speaker 1: Yeah, but you would do nasty things to somebody for free.

1246
00:54:05,360 --> 00:54:07,080
Speaker 6: So yeah, but it's gonna take them a year for

1247
00:54:07,160 --> 00:54:07,480
Speaker 6: me to do.

1248
00:54:07,600 --> 00:54:12,080
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I would just say, you're open. You've put

1249
00:54:12,120 --> 00:54:14,440
Speaker 1: yourself out there, so that's like all you can really do.

1250
00:54:14,960 --> 00:54:17,759
Speaker 1: You and you you seem like a go getter. You've

1251
00:54:17,800 --> 00:54:20,319
Speaker 1: moved to California on your own, you have your own

1252
00:54:20,400 --> 00:54:22,520
Speaker 1: radio show, you have all these things going on for you.

1253
00:54:22,560 --> 00:54:26,000
Speaker 1: Like I would really just invest in yourself and just

1254
00:54:26,200 --> 00:54:28,800
Speaker 1: know that when the person comes along, they're going to

1255
00:54:28,840 --> 00:54:30,520
Speaker 1: come along, and you're gonna be ready for them, you

1256
00:54:30,520 --> 00:54:33,160
Speaker 1: know what I mean. Enjoy your time without the expectation

1257
00:54:33,719 --> 00:54:35,200
Speaker 1: of meeting the guy.

1258
00:54:35,480 --> 00:54:37,320
Speaker 9: And it's a guy you're looking for, not a woman.

1259
00:54:37,680 --> 00:54:38,920
Speaker 8: Yeah, right, I wish it was.

1260
00:54:39,920 --> 00:54:41,640
Speaker 9: I know it would be so much easier.

1261
00:54:42,120 --> 00:54:44,400
Speaker 8: I feel like it'd be so much easier. Yeah. And

1262
00:54:44,400 --> 00:54:47,319
Speaker 8: in fact, I'm back in Connecticut visiting my family right now,

1263
00:54:47,360 --> 00:54:49,360
Speaker 8: and I kind of told them that I was going

1264
00:54:49,440 --> 00:54:53,080
Speaker 8: to be talking to you guys. And I fight. I

1265
00:54:53,120 --> 00:54:56,400
Speaker 8: fight the I feel like oftentimes women are fighting the

1266
00:54:56,480 --> 00:54:59,319
Speaker 8: tide of like societal pressure, you know. When I talk

1267
00:54:59,360 --> 00:55:03,319
Speaker 8: to Catherine pre interview, I've been happy, like the last

1268
00:55:03,360 --> 00:55:06,239
Speaker 8: six years, right doing my thing, moving to California, but

1269
00:55:06,320 --> 00:55:11,839
Speaker 8: I do sometimes find myself camping around adventures, saying like

1270
00:55:12,120 --> 00:55:14,319
Speaker 8: it would be nice to have someone sitting here with me,

1271
00:55:14,440 --> 00:55:17,319
Speaker 8: like drinking a glass of wine, or jumping in this

1272
00:55:17,520 --> 00:55:19,080
Speaker 8: lake or sleeping in a tent.

1273
00:55:19,160 --> 00:55:19,360
Speaker 2: You know.

1274
00:55:19,520 --> 00:55:23,400
Speaker 8: So I'm very confident and fine traveling alone.

1275
00:55:24,160 --> 00:55:24,320
Speaker 11: You know.

1276
00:55:24,360 --> 00:55:26,520
Speaker 8: I went to Italy for a month last year by myself,

1277
00:55:27,160 --> 00:55:28,520
Speaker 8: always just these lit Did you.

1278
00:55:28,480 --> 00:55:30,840
Speaker 6: Meet some guys there? And I say they horny Italy?

1279
00:55:31,040 --> 00:55:31,480
Speaker 12: Yeah?

1280
00:55:31,680 --> 00:55:36,560
Speaker 8: Girl, no what I know? And so oh I got.

1281
00:55:36,600 --> 00:55:37,920
Speaker 11: To say, you gotta come hang out with me. I

1282
00:55:37,920 --> 00:55:39,799
Speaker 11: gotta see what you're doing in these streets.

1283
00:55:40,320 --> 00:55:41,239
Speaker 9: You think you can help her?

1284
00:55:41,440 --> 00:55:44,759
Speaker 8: Just think so, sitting on the Spanish steps in Rome,

1285
00:55:44,840 --> 00:55:46,560
Speaker 8: saying it'd be nice to like have a glass of

1286
00:55:46,560 --> 00:55:49,480
Speaker 8: wine with someone. I'm loving traveling alone, but there are

1287
00:55:49,560 --> 00:55:51,920
Speaker 8: moments where I say to myself, it really would be

1288
00:55:52,040 --> 00:55:55,440
Speaker 8: nice to I think men too, I find between the

1289
00:55:55,520 --> 00:55:57,880
Speaker 8: ages of thirty five and thirty nine, think that have

1290
00:55:58,040 --> 00:56:00,239
Speaker 8: this like predisposition to think that women are looking for

1291
00:56:00,360 --> 00:56:02,719
Speaker 8: ringing and I just want someone to adventure with, have

1292
00:56:02,760 --> 00:56:05,160
Speaker 8: a good time, a committed partner in a way.

1293
00:56:05,239 --> 00:56:05,400
Speaker 12: You know.

1294
00:56:05,520 --> 00:56:06,600
Speaker 1: Yeah I like that, I do.

1295
00:56:06,920 --> 00:56:09,440
Speaker 8: And yeah, it's just the last few experience I've had

1296
00:56:09,480 --> 00:56:11,160
Speaker 8: have just been a total letdown.

1297
00:56:11,239 --> 00:56:13,560
Speaker 1: So why don't you do this? Why don't you get

1298
00:56:13,600 --> 00:56:16,440
Speaker 1: off this call and write down the twenty things that

1299
00:56:16,480 --> 00:56:19,040
Speaker 1: you want in a man. Write down everything that you're

1300
00:56:19,080 --> 00:56:22,839
Speaker 1: looking for. It doesn't matter if it's materialistic or superficial,

1301
00:56:23,080 --> 00:56:25,080
Speaker 1: like the way they look. Whatever it is that comes

1302
00:56:25,120 --> 00:56:28,360
Speaker 1: into your head, the really most important twenty things to you.

1303
00:56:28,480 --> 00:56:30,640
Speaker 1: Write that down on a piece of paper, put it

1304
00:56:30,680 --> 00:56:33,120
Speaker 1: in a drawer, and don't look at it again, and

1305
00:56:33,280 --> 00:56:35,680
Speaker 1: go about your business and go about your life being

1306
00:56:35,680 --> 00:56:38,040
Speaker 1: grateful that you don't have the wrong guy in your life,

1307
00:56:38,320 --> 00:56:40,799
Speaker 1: or somebody who's draining you, or somebody you know what

1308
00:56:40,840 --> 00:56:43,680
Speaker 1: I mean, that you're not in a toxic relationship, you're free,

1309
00:56:43,719 --> 00:56:46,239
Speaker 1: you're independent, you have all this stuff going for you.

1310
00:56:46,320 --> 00:56:47,919
Speaker 1: The fact that you went to Italy for a month

1311
00:56:47,960 --> 00:56:50,720
Speaker 1: by yourself, that's badass. I wouldn't do that. I wouldn't

1312
00:56:50,760 --> 00:56:52,680
Speaker 1: go to Italy by myself for a month. I don't

1313
00:56:52,680 --> 00:56:54,600
Speaker 1: even know how to find my way around, you know,

1314
00:56:54,719 --> 00:56:59,200
Speaker 1: places like I So like you're crushing life, and any

1315
00:56:59,239 --> 00:57:00,800
Speaker 1: guy that would get to be with you is a

1316
00:57:00,880 --> 00:57:01,480
Speaker 1: huge addition.

1317
00:57:01,560 --> 00:57:02,760
Speaker 9: It has to be a huge addition.

1318
00:57:03,280 --> 00:57:06,279
Speaker 1: And so I don't doubt that you're going to meet

1319
00:57:06,320 --> 00:57:09,000
Speaker 1: somebody that's going to fit the criteria. But I think

1320
00:57:09,000 --> 00:57:11,200
Speaker 1: you need to really put it out there and put

1321
00:57:11,200 --> 00:57:13,160
Speaker 1: it in your drawer and just leave it there and

1322
00:57:13,200 --> 00:57:15,759
Speaker 1: you can continue on the apps or you cannot, but

1323
00:57:15,920 --> 00:57:19,160
Speaker 1: really just enjoy the time that you have by yourself,

1324
00:57:19,640 --> 00:57:22,320
Speaker 1: and because it won't be forever, there will be somebody

1325
00:57:22,400 --> 00:57:25,000
Speaker 1: that comes along. There always is, whether it's your forever

1326
00:57:25,080 --> 00:57:28,000
Speaker 1: person or just somebody for a few months, somebody will

1327
00:57:28,000 --> 00:57:29,880
Speaker 1: come into your life.

1328
00:57:30,520 --> 00:57:32,960
Speaker 8: I think I go back and forth about the apps

1329
00:57:33,160 --> 00:57:36,200
Speaker 8: because they can become a really dark ye at a

1330
00:57:36,240 --> 00:57:38,800
Speaker 8: dark place, and so that was also something I wanted

1331
00:57:38,800 --> 00:57:41,000
Speaker 8: to pick your brain about the apps, because I know

1332
00:57:41,040 --> 00:57:43,480
Speaker 8: I've heard you do your stand up and talk how

1333
00:57:43,240 --> 00:57:46,320
Speaker 8: you dabbled in the apps. I think for like a bit,

1334
00:57:46,480 --> 00:57:49,280
Speaker 8: and I'm at to the point now where I don't

1335
00:57:49,320 --> 00:57:50,680
Speaker 8: want to pay for them anymore and I kind of

1336
00:57:50,680 --> 00:57:52,760
Speaker 8: just want to delete them and maybe, like just as

1337
00:57:52,760 --> 00:57:55,680
Speaker 8: you were saying, let the chips fall, kind of real

1338
00:57:55,720 --> 00:57:58,960
Speaker 8: they will. I just feel like there's no success on there.

1339
00:57:59,320 --> 00:58:02,200
Speaker 3: Are you ever asking somebody out when you like are

1340
00:58:02,240 --> 00:58:04,600
Speaker 3: out in the wild and you feel a vibe with

1341
00:58:04,720 --> 00:58:05,720
Speaker 3: like the cube race.

1342
00:58:05,760 --> 00:58:08,160
Speaker 8: Or when I did that. I did that about a

1343
00:58:08,160 --> 00:58:10,040
Speaker 8: month ago. I met a guy at a birthday party

1344
00:58:10,680 --> 00:58:13,720
Speaker 8: and we hit it off. I was traveling, he was traveling.

1345
00:58:13,720 --> 00:58:15,520
Speaker 8: We said, let's get in touch when we get back.

1346
00:58:16,200 --> 00:58:17,720
Speaker 8: He got in touch with me. We went to a

1347
00:58:17,720 --> 00:58:21,000
Speaker 8: little music festival up the coast. We had a great time,

1348
00:58:21,760 --> 00:58:24,720
Speaker 8: invited him back down tour I was living. We didn't

1349
00:58:25,280 --> 00:58:27,920
Speaker 8: have sex or anything. We hooked up. He in fact

1350
00:58:27,920 --> 00:58:30,960
Speaker 8: said that he was trying to approach his relationships differently

1351
00:58:31,040 --> 00:58:34,080
Speaker 8: and take things slow. So I thought, okay, these are

1352
00:58:34,360 --> 00:58:37,800
Speaker 8: like green flags and as it goes and what I've

1353
00:58:37,840 --> 00:58:41,360
Speaker 8: been experiencing the last last six years. The next morning,

1354
00:58:41,400 --> 00:58:44,320
Speaker 8: he was saying how he could. He thought his summer

1355
00:58:44,400 --> 00:58:47,120
Speaker 8: was going to be like his alone time and he

1356
00:58:47,200 --> 00:58:49,640
Speaker 8: wasn't ready to like commit to anything yet, but that

1357
00:58:49,680 --> 00:58:52,400
Speaker 8: we should stay in touch. And you know, I asked

1358
00:58:52,440 --> 00:58:56,400
Speaker 8: him to hang out a few more. It was kind

1359
00:58:56,400 --> 00:58:58,720
Speaker 8: of just like a ghosting thing, like I asked him

1360
00:58:58,720 --> 00:59:00,400
Speaker 8: to hang out again. I told him my coming up

1361
00:59:00,440 --> 00:59:02,320
Speaker 8: to San Francisco, and I just never heard from him.

1362
00:59:02,400 --> 00:59:04,040
Speaker 6: Girl block that motherfucker.

1363
00:59:04,160 --> 00:59:05,760
Speaker 1: Well, she doesn't have to block him because he's not

1364
00:59:06,560 --> 00:59:07,760
Speaker 1: to connect with her.

1365
00:59:08,320 --> 00:59:10,360
Speaker 8: Tiffany, what this guy still does is he'll like my

1366
00:59:10,400 --> 00:59:11,200
Speaker 8: Instagram stories.

1367
00:59:11,280 --> 00:59:20,640
Speaker 1: Okay, so this is, So are you listening. I hope

1368
00:59:20,640 --> 00:59:24,880
Speaker 1: you are sending this episode, because honestly, I hate this

1369
00:59:24,960 --> 00:59:28,400
Speaker 1: ship with this idea that a man like this is.

1370
00:59:28,800 --> 00:59:31,280
Speaker 1: This is why they I know, but don't.

1371
00:59:32,240 --> 00:59:34,320
Speaker 11: That's the hole, okay, And that's what he wanted to

1372
00:59:34,320 --> 00:59:36,000
Speaker 11: be was a how did he eat your ask at

1373
00:59:36,080 --> 00:59:39,600
Speaker 11: least like at the end of the day, like like,

1374
00:59:43,240 --> 00:59:46,000
Speaker 11: and that's why you move on, move on if I

1375
00:59:46,160 --> 00:59:47,720
Speaker 11: was you personally, Okay.

1376
00:59:47,760 --> 00:59:49,720
Speaker 6: So I like Bumble. I don't know about y'all, but

1377
00:59:49,800 --> 00:59:52,360
Speaker 6: I like going on. I like going on Bubble.

1378
00:59:53,160 --> 00:59:56,000
Speaker 11: And what I've noticed is okay, So I'll go to

1379
00:59:56,040 --> 00:59:59,120
Speaker 11: a new place, uh, and I'll like pick you know,

1380
00:59:59,160 --> 01:00:01,560
Speaker 11: you could pick. Look, and so I look for guys

1381
01:00:01,560 --> 01:00:03,240
Speaker 11: where I'm going to go, Like I'm going to Louisville,

1382
01:00:03,320 --> 01:00:05,600
Speaker 11: Kentucky this week. So I look for guys on there

1383
01:00:05,760 --> 01:00:08,120
Speaker 11: and their shock that is me. They're like, don't believe

1384
01:00:08,120 --> 01:00:10,000
Speaker 11: it's me. And what I love about Bumble is you

1385
01:00:10,000 --> 01:00:12,720
Speaker 11: can FaceTime with them through the app and they never

1386
01:00:12,800 --> 01:00:15,720
Speaker 11: have your phone number, right, It's so hard I could tell.

1387
01:00:15,800 --> 01:00:17,640
Speaker 11: And I tell them, Look, I'm not trying to have

1388
01:00:17,760 --> 01:00:21,640
Speaker 11: no boyfriend. I'm not looking for nothing serious. I'm coming

1389
01:00:21,680 --> 01:00:24,200
Speaker 11: to your town. I want to do something fun. I

1390
01:00:24,200 --> 01:00:26,600
Speaker 11: want you to take me somewhere in your town that's fun.

1391
01:00:26,960 --> 01:00:29,479
Speaker 11: You're gonna have to and it better be a good time.

1392
01:00:29,560 --> 01:00:33,120
Speaker 11: And don't be smelling funny, don't be looking crazy. Don't

1393
01:00:33,120 --> 01:00:35,320
Speaker 11: be there, because I will talk about you to your face, sir.

1394
01:00:35,880 --> 01:00:38,880
Speaker 11: Every single one's like, oh, Mary, challenge accepted, like and

1395
01:00:38,920 --> 01:00:41,120
Speaker 11: they show up right and I just give them kind

1396
01:00:41,120 --> 01:00:43,200
Speaker 11: of like a criteria of what they gotta do before

1397
01:00:43,200 --> 01:00:46,000
Speaker 11: they even like, get in my space if you're trying

1398
01:00:46,000 --> 01:00:48,680
Speaker 11: to be in my space, because I think men love challenges,

1399
01:00:48,840 --> 01:00:52,800
Speaker 11: men love rules and and rules of engagement, and like,

1400
01:00:53,000 --> 01:00:55,240
Speaker 11: oh can I push the boundaries with her? And then

1401
01:00:55,560 --> 01:00:56,760
Speaker 11: and then I'll tell them by the end of the

1402
01:00:56,840 --> 01:00:59,160
Speaker 11: day that like, hey man, this was super fun. Thanks

1403
01:00:59,160 --> 01:01:01,320
Speaker 11: for taking me to this music. Thanks for showing me

1404
01:01:01,360 --> 01:01:03,200
Speaker 11: a piece of your town. I don't ever want to

1405
01:01:03,200 --> 01:01:05,360
Speaker 11: see you again. They'd be like, what, yeah, I'm cool

1406
01:01:05,360 --> 01:01:08,320
Speaker 11: on you, bro, like this, but this was an amazing experience.

1407
01:01:08,320 --> 01:01:09,000
Speaker 6: I had a good time.

1408
01:01:09,280 --> 01:01:12,320
Speaker 11: Then that guy is constantly sending me messages in Bumble

1409
01:01:12,720 --> 01:01:13,680
Speaker 11: like can you hang out again?

1410
01:01:14,000 --> 01:01:15,160
Speaker 6: Then he starts following me on.

1411
01:01:15,160 --> 01:01:17,800
Speaker 11: Instagram like hey, it was really you, and I really

1412
01:01:17,840 --> 01:01:19,480
Speaker 11: want to hang out look to check out this thing,

1413
01:01:19,520 --> 01:01:21,800
Speaker 11: and then they're sending me facts about their town and ship

1414
01:01:22,280 --> 01:01:24,720
Speaker 11: like and I appreciate it, but that that wasn't the

1415
01:01:24,760 --> 01:01:28,840
Speaker 11: guy for me. But also girl farmers only dot com

1416
01:01:29,360 --> 01:01:32,360
Speaker 11: if you it's some men with land that know.

1417
01:01:32,600 --> 01:01:34,600
Speaker 6: That understands cycles.

1418
01:01:35,760 --> 01:01:36,120
Speaker 1: Instinct.

1419
01:01:36,280 --> 01:01:39,440
Speaker 6: Yeah, but they understand available patient.

1420
01:01:39,600 --> 01:01:41,880
Speaker 11: You could tell them any motherfucking thing you let you

1421
01:01:41,920 --> 01:01:43,400
Speaker 11: get away with it, like the guy from.

1422
01:01:44,800 --> 01:01:46,880
Speaker 8: No. I don't know about success I have.

1423
01:01:47,120 --> 01:01:49,640
Speaker 11: I've had fun. I've had fun. I haven't had sex

1424
01:01:49,680 --> 01:01:51,800
Speaker 11: with anybody on there. I don't have a boy friend

1425
01:01:52,000 --> 01:01:54,360
Speaker 11: from there. But I've made some really great friends. I've

1426
01:01:54,440 --> 01:01:56,680
Speaker 11: learned a lot about the land. I've learned a lot

1427
01:01:56,720 --> 01:01:59,520
Speaker 11: about the vessels. And you know, as a business woman,

1428
01:01:59,720 --> 01:02:02,440
Speaker 11: you know, I'm always like and I'm into food and stuff,

1429
01:02:02,480 --> 01:02:04,640
Speaker 11: so I want to I only want to be around

1430
01:02:04,640 --> 01:02:07,640
Speaker 11: people that's into what I'm into. Right, So I've been

1431
01:02:07,720 --> 01:02:12,040
Speaker 11: learning so much. I done made some investments too land. Yeah,

1432
01:02:12,040 --> 01:02:17,800
Speaker 11: in farmland, not necessarily a guy who I was dating Farmland,

1433
01:02:17,840 --> 01:02:21,360
Speaker 11: but like in anyways, it doesn't matter. I made investments

1434
01:02:21,360 --> 01:02:23,560
Speaker 11: meeting these guys, and I'm learning. I think I'm learning

1435
01:02:23,560 --> 01:02:25,280
Speaker 11: a lot. Like at the end of the day, I'm

1436
01:02:25,320 --> 01:02:28,080
Speaker 11: not going into it thinking of, oh, I'm gonna get

1437
01:02:28,120 --> 01:02:30,919
Speaker 11: a husband. I'm going in like I want, like you said,

1438
01:02:30,960 --> 01:02:32,720
Speaker 11: a partner. I want to grow with somebody. I want

1439
01:02:32,720 --> 01:02:35,440
Speaker 11: to learn something. Can you teach me something? Like I

1440
01:02:35,440 --> 01:02:37,960
Speaker 11: ask every guy, can what you're gonna teach me today?

1441
01:02:38,280 --> 01:02:40,400
Speaker 1: Like I don't want to teach me something.

1442
01:02:40,560 --> 01:02:43,400
Speaker 11: I'm like thirsty for knowledge, sir. Some of these women

1443
01:02:43,400 --> 01:02:46,080
Speaker 11: out here thirsty for dick. I'm thirsty for knowledge.

1444
01:02:46,160 --> 01:02:48,360
Speaker 1: Another thing you can do is can you can geo

1445
01:02:48,480 --> 01:02:50,520
Speaker 1: target where you live? You know what I mean? And

1446
01:02:50,600 --> 01:02:53,440
Speaker 1: for Instagram and kind of slide into people's dms.

1447
01:02:53,760 --> 01:02:54,720
Speaker 8: Oh interesting, you know.

1448
01:02:54,720 --> 01:02:56,600
Speaker 1: What I mean, Like look at their profile. That kind

1449
01:02:56,600 --> 01:02:59,200
Speaker 1: of gives you a nice full picture of what's happening

1450
01:02:59,440 --> 01:03:02,160
Speaker 1: if they're married or if they have a girlfriend, or

1451
01:03:02,400 --> 01:03:05,440
Speaker 1: you know what the situation is, and like look within

1452
01:03:05,480 --> 01:03:08,840
Speaker 1: your area and just start like you know, browsing, use

1453
01:03:08,920 --> 01:03:09,960
Speaker 1: that as a dating app.

1454
01:03:10,920 --> 01:03:13,960
Speaker 6: That makes to yet a dmy You're.

1455
01:03:13,880 --> 01:03:16,480
Speaker 1: Fully you know, you're you have no problem like approaching

1456
01:03:16,480 --> 01:03:19,600
Speaker 1: a man. I mean, listen, you're my hero. From this call.

1457
01:03:19,680 --> 01:03:22,720
Speaker 1: You're doing everything fucking right. So like I love it.

1458
01:03:22,800 --> 01:03:24,520
Speaker 1: A lot of women don't have the balls to go

1459
01:03:24,640 --> 01:03:26,320
Speaker 1: up and ask men like to go out.

1460
01:03:26,680 --> 01:03:26,880
Speaker 8: You know.

1461
01:03:26,960 --> 01:03:29,360
Speaker 1: I can even be shy around that myself, which doesn't

1462
01:03:29,400 --> 01:03:30,480
Speaker 1: really make much sense.

1463
01:03:30,680 --> 01:03:33,240
Speaker 9: Yeah, just because yeah, yeah, I don't know why.

1464
01:03:33,440 --> 01:03:35,640
Speaker 1: Just girl stuff. But I love what you're doing. I

1465
01:03:35,680 --> 01:03:38,120
Speaker 1: love everything you're doing, and it's just like, enjoy yourself.

1466
01:03:38,160 --> 01:03:39,480
Speaker 6: Are you afraid to date younger?

1467
01:03:40,320 --> 01:03:43,680
Speaker 8: I'm not afraid to date younger, but I do I

1468
01:03:43,680 --> 01:03:46,400
Speaker 8: feel like there should. I feel like my cap is

1469
01:03:46,480 --> 01:03:48,000
Speaker 8: like twenty eight.

1470
01:03:48,440 --> 01:03:51,480
Speaker 11: Because I noticed twenty six year old dude, he's six

1471
01:03:51,520 --> 01:03:54,400
Speaker 11: foot two, very hands, he might be six foot fowhere.

1472
01:03:54,560 --> 01:03:56,080
Speaker 1: Where do you live in California?

1473
01:03:56,120 --> 01:03:57,200
Speaker 8: Santa Cruz, California.

1474
01:03:57,400 --> 01:03:58,600
Speaker 6: Oh he's in LA.

1475
01:03:58,920 --> 01:04:03,320
Speaker 8: Here's my thing. Like, even guys who are like the

1476
01:04:03,360 --> 01:04:06,720
Speaker 8: immaturity just lasts for like so long. So my fear

1477
01:04:06,760 --> 01:04:09,240
Speaker 8: with dating younger is like, yeah, I can't even get like.

1478
01:04:09,280 --> 01:04:12,600
Speaker 11: But if they're a business man, there's younger business Like,

1479
01:04:12,840 --> 01:04:14,520
Speaker 11: there's all souls out here.

1480
01:04:14,920 --> 01:04:19,040
Speaker 6: They approached me all the time. There's some young bro

1481
01:04:19,240 --> 01:04:19,840
Speaker 6: men out here.

1482
01:04:19,960 --> 01:04:21,760
Speaker 8: I think one of my good qualities is that I

1483
01:04:21,800 --> 01:04:22,320
Speaker 8: am open.

1484
01:04:23,080 --> 01:04:25,920
Speaker 3: So Okay, this might not be your vibe, but just

1485
01:04:25,960 --> 01:04:28,560
Speaker 3: hear me out. I think a lot of women who

1486
01:04:28,640 --> 01:04:32,320
Speaker 3: are into a masculine guy need to start seeing about

1487
01:04:32,400 --> 01:04:38,520
Speaker 3: dating transmen because you have like the personality you have,

1488
01:04:38,680 --> 01:04:40,040
Speaker 3: like they were raised right.

1489
01:04:40,440 --> 01:04:43,160
Speaker 4: And then you have all the masculine qualities of a man.

1490
01:04:43,680 --> 01:04:45,520
Speaker 1: If this is the second time you've brought that up,

1491
01:04:45,560 --> 01:04:48,280
Speaker 1: it feels like you want a data transfer. I mean,

1492
01:04:48,080 --> 01:04:51,280
Speaker 1: and you're happily married, but you know, I mean, you

1493
01:04:51,280 --> 01:04:52,600
Speaker 1: shouldn't really transmit out.

1494
01:04:53,120 --> 01:04:55,720
Speaker 8: No, I'm not there's I'm not really like I said,

1495
01:04:55,720 --> 01:04:59,600
Speaker 8: I'm very open. It's just the years keep rolling on.

1496
01:05:00,080 --> 01:05:01,280
Speaker 9: You know, how old are you?

1497
01:05:01,360 --> 01:05:02,919
Speaker 8: She's thirty, I'm thirty five.

1498
01:05:03,240 --> 01:05:03,919
Speaker 6: Yeah.

1499
01:05:04,040 --> 01:05:06,160
Speaker 9: I think you're probably going to meet somebody, you know.

1500
01:05:06,160 --> 01:05:07,600
Speaker 1: I don't know that you're going to marry someone, but

1501
01:05:07,640 --> 01:05:09,440
Speaker 1: you're definitely going to meet a couple more guys in

1502
01:05:09,480 --> 01:05:10,120
Speaker 1: your life like that.

1503
01:05:10,320 --> 01:05:14,280
Speaker 11: State sales, funerals. It's always vulnerable men at funerals.

1504
01:05:14,280 --> 01:05:16,040
Speaker 6: I've met. I've dated a lot of men at.

1505
01:05:16,040 --> 01:05:18,640
Speaker 11: From funerals, and they spoil you too because they trying

1506
01:05:18,640 --> 01:05:21,000
Speaker 11: to feel better. Uh didn't I say it? Stay sales

1507
01:05:21,120 --> 01:05:24,160
Speaker 11: auctions are usually good. There's a lot of good men here.

1508
01:05:24,240 --> 01:05:30,200
Speaker 11: Grocery stores near gyms, a place to meet. Your grocery

1509
01:05:30,200 --> 01:05:32,520
Speaker 11: store near the gym is the best place, not in

1510
01:05:32,640 --> 01:05:33,520
Speaker 11: the gym, but ba.

1511
01:05:34,040 --> 01:05:36,280
Speaker 1: So if you're in Santa Cruz, join a biking group

1512
01:05:36,400 --> 01:05:38,840
Speaker 1: or join a hiking group or whatever, rock climbing, whatever,

1513
01:05:38,840 --> 01:05:43,680
Speaker 1: you're in services and find some you know, find some

1514
01:05:43,760 --> 01:05:45,720
Speaker 1: different kind of groups of people that way.

1515
01:05:46,720 --> 01:05:50,080
Speaker 8: Yeah, joining groups, that's something. Yeah, I moved there. I've moved.

1516
01:05:50,120 --> 01:05:51,880
Speaker 8: I've been in California for four years. I've been in

1517
01:05:51,960 --> 01:05:54,360
Speaker 8: Santa Cruz for a little over a year, so still

1518
01:05:54,440 --> 01:05:56,640
Speaker 8: kind of I've just now started feeling applimated.

1519
01:05:56,720 --> 01:05:59,560
Speaker 1: Yeah. You so you're new to that area, So yeah,

1520
01:05:59,640 --> 01:06:00,920
Speaker 1: give it a little bit more time.

1521
01:06:01,040 --> 01:06:02,320
Speaker 9: I bet you're going to meet someone.

1522
01:06:02,760 --> 01:06:04,880
Speaker 11: Yeah, you're pretty. You're gonna pull fast if you just

1523
01:06:04,920 --> 01:06:07,720
Speaker 11: like I just gonna have fun. Ah, yes, she will

1524
01:06:07,760 --> 01:06:12,320
Speaker 11: be mine.

1525
01:06:13,640 --> 01:06:15,560
Speaker 8: This is a good story to tell. My girlfriends were like,

1526
01:06:15,640 --> 01:06:18,240
Speaker 8: you got to tell this story. I met a gay

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Speaker 8: a dating app in San Francisco, and it very soon

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Speaker 8: into the day. I was like, oh, this is going

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01:06:23,000 --> 01:06:24,919
Speaker 8: to be a good time, not a long time sort

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Speaker 8: of situation, which I was into because again just trying

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01:06:28,600 --> 01:06:32,120
Speaker 8: to like make connections. We ended up being in Las Vegas,

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Speaker 8: at the same time for a concert, and he met

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01:06:34,640 --> 01:06:37,479
Speaker 8: up with a bunch of my friends and I hadn't

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Speaker 8: gotten laid in a really long time, and they were like,

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Speaker 8: this is your night, like the guy from San Francisco's

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01:06:41,800 --> 01:06:44,080
Speaker 8: in Las Vegas, like perfect, perfect, perfect. We go back

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Speaker 8: up to the hotel room. We're hooking up. Inches from penetration.

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Speaker 8: He tells me has an STD.

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Speaker 6: Oh hell, it's not the time.

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Speaker 1: At least he told you, I know, But at least

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01:06:58,760 --> 01:07:02,000
Speaker 1: he told you what was the STD? What was the STD?

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Speaker 8: Herpes?

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Speaker 1: And was he having an outbreak or herpy outbreak or

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Speaker 1: he just.

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Speaker 8: He wasn't having an outbreak?

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Speaker 1: But oh well, that's very responsible.

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01:07:09,960 --> 01:07:12,440
Speaker 8: But I wasn't an out But he didn't have a condom?

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Speaker 9: Right, yes, but he did the right thing.

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Speaker 6: I'm a jack you off.

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Speaker 1: But where is that guy now?

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01:07:20,520 --> 01:07:23,920
Speaker 8: He's traveling the world somewhere.

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01:07:23,240 --> 01:07:26,960
Speaker 1: Catching more stvs. So okay, well, okay, well, at least

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01:07:26,960 --> 01:07:28,840
Speaker 1: he told you. So that's not the worst thing in

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Speaker 1: the world.

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01:07:29,680 --> 01:07:32,280
Speaker 8: No, it's not. But between that interaction and the one

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01:07:32,280 --> 01:07:34,960
Speaker 8: who keeps liking my Instagram stories, I just am like,

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01:07:36,120 --> 01:07:39,600
Speaker 8: those are the latest interactions I've had with the male species.

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Speaker 1: My my Listen, there are a lot better than some

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01:07:42,200 --> 01:07:44,400
Speaker 1: of the other stories that are out there. And my

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Speaker 1: advice to all women is to stop fucking looking to

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Speaker 1: check and see who is looking at your Instagram stories.

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Speaker 1: It doesn't matter. If that person wants to contact you,

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01:07:53,720 --> 01:07:56,600
Speaker 1: there will, and it's not because they're looking through your

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01:07:56,640 --> 01:07:59,920
Speaker 1: stories like it's like watching someone watching TV. It does

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Speaker 1: Does it matter who's looking through your Instagram stories? It

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01:08:02,600 --> 01:08:05,800
Speaker 1: doesn't matter unless that person sends you a message about

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Speaker 1: your Instagram story and then you want to talk, and

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01:08:08,280 --> 01:08:11,560
Speaker 1: then they're initiating a conversation. So I would just stop

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Speaker 1: looking at that.

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Speaker 8: You're very right. I think it's just this this kind

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01:08:15,840 --> 01:08:18,680
Speaker 8: of like maddening, Like Okay, I never heard from him, right,

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Speaker 8: and he didn't text me back? Why is he liking

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01:08:20,840 --> 01:08:23,439
Speaker 8: my story? Like get out of my life? So Tiffany's point,

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Speaker 8: I think I'm just gonna like remove him.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, mute is as black and black?

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Speaker 11: What he what he got to call you to be like, hey,

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Speaker 11: I can't see you on the stories more. Well, you're

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01:08:32,439 --> 01:08:34,360
Speaker 11: not supposed to see me no more. You're a ghost

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01:08:34,640 --> 01:08:39,880
Speaker 11: boom all right, keep us posted. Will you let us

1580
01:08:39,920 --> 01:08:41,760
Speaker 11: know a few months if you meet someone.

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Speaker 6: What the vibe is.

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Speaker 8: Okay, I will do that, and I am gonna take

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01:08:44,840 --> 01:08:45,240
Speaker 8: your advice.

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01:08:45,320 --> 01:08:47,600
Speaker 11: I want to invitation to your baby shower and to

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01:08:47,720 --> 01:08:50,160
Speaker 11: your wedding. I predict that in two years she will

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01:08:50,200 --> 01:08:53,800
Speaker 11: be getting married. Okay, it will be very pregnant, and

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Speaker 11: I'll make sure invitation. Okay you want, okay, whatever, You're

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01:09:02,360 --> 01:09:04,320
Speaker 11: gonna be pregnant if you might not have it, but

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Speaker 11: in two years, in two years, mark my word, In

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Speaker 11: two years, you're gonna be like dang, Tiffany said. I'm

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01:09:10,400 --> 01:09:12,920
Speaker 11: not saying I'm psychic, but my instincts tell me in

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01:09:13,000 --> 01:09:16,080
Speaker 11: two years, it's you're gonna be hemmed up. You're gonna

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Speaker 11: be cooking and cleaning and all this stuff and happy

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Speaker 11: as here.

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Speaker 8: Okay, I like that mindset. I'm gonna take your advice, though, Chelsea,

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Speaker 8: and write down, put it in a.

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Speaker 11: Drawer, write it down, help and right down. Tiffany said,

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Speaker 11: in two years, I'm gonna be in a relationship.

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Speaker 4: Recorded.

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Speaker 11: Yes, I want the invitation to the wedding and the

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Speaker 11: baby shower, because I know you say you're not you're

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01:09:37,320 --> 01:09:39,519
Speaker 11: not thinking about having nobody's but you're gonna have a baby.

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01:09:39,520 --> 01:09:40,519
Speaker 6: You're gonna have two of them.

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Speaker 11: We will come and we will be like the party.

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Speaker 1: Okay, thank you so much, take care of Thank you.

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Speaker 1: That was that was she was awesome.

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Speaker 9: She's great. That was great.

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Speaker 6: Guests.

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Speaker 1: Thank you you you're a great guest. Tiffany, I promise.

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Speaker 4: With your nonsense.

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01:10:06,439 --> 01:10:09,679
Speaker 1: Her full name is Tiffany Sarah Cornelia Hattish.

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Speaker 9: Did you know that?

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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01:10:11,040 --> 01:10:11,639
Speaker 6: I knew that?

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Speaker 9: Did you?

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Speaker 6: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: And her new movie, Haunted Heist is on video on

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Speaker 1: Maya Baby Yea.

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Speaker 6: I love you, I love you.

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Speaker 3: If you want advice from Chelsea, right into Dear Chelsea

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