WEBVTT - Don't keep good news to yourself

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of I Heart Radio.

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<v Speaker 1>Good Morning, This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>Today's tip is that you shouldn't keep good news to yourself.

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<v Speaker 1>Spread the word about others accomplishments to give people a

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<v Speaker 1>chance to congratulate them and share in their joy. So

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<v Speaker 1>it is an unfortunate aspect of human nature that we

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<v Speaker 1>tend to dwell on the negative. As you are talking

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<v Speaker 1>with people, note what proportion of the material amounts to

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<v Speaker 1>complaining about the weather, the price of gas, whatever unfortunate

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<v Speaker 1>thing a partner or boss happened to do. We do

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<v Speaker 1>all this complaining because it is easier to notice bad

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<v Speaker 1>things than good things. We all to do it because

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<v Speaker 1>shared complaining is a way to bond. Since no one's

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<v Speaker 1>life is perfect, we are always careful not to talk

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<v Speaker 1>at length about the good things in our lives in

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<v Speaker 1>case our conversation partner is not experiencing such wonderful things.

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<v Speaker 1>By complaining together, we establish that we are all in

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<v Speaker 1>this together. But if you think about it, constantly complaining

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<v Speaker 1>is an unfortunate way to go through life. Most of

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<v Speaker 1>us don't want to brag about our own accomplishments, but Fortunately,

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<v Speaker 1>we don't have to resort to that. A very easy

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<v Speaker 1>way to elevate conversations is to talk about other people's accomplishments.

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<v Speaker 1>When we share good news about mutual acquaintances, we create

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<v Speaker 1>a culture of shared encouragement and joy. This is a

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<v Speaker 1>good enough outcome that it is worth starting conversations just

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<v Speaker 1>to spread good news. So whenever you hear a bit

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<v Speaker 1>of good news that can be shared, figure out a

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<v Speaker 1>way to do just that. If your college roommate was

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<v Speaker 1>just elected the chair of a local committee, congratulate her

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<v Speaker 1>on the text chain you have with all your college friends.

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<v Speaker 1>They will no doubt leap in to congratulate her too,

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<v Speaker 1>and you have just turned that group text into something

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<v Speaker 1>less of a complaint zone. When a work buddy gets promoted,

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<v Speaker 1>share it with all your online industry groups. The goal

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<v Speaker 1>is for your work friend to be hearing from colleagues

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<v Speaker 1>from three jobs ago about the good news, thus contributing

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<v Speaker 1>to her sense that lots of people are cheering for her.

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<v Speaker 1>And when a kid does something great, be sure to

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<v Speaker 1>share that great news too. You can tell former teachers

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<v Speaker 1>when your older child does something wonderful thanks to the

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<v Speaker 1>strong foundation they helped lay earlier. You could even share

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<v Speaker 1>something great that you see other kids doing with people

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<v Speaker 1>you know, or perhaps even on social media if it

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<v Speaker 1>seems like the right thing to do. Kids helping people

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<v Speaker 1>clear snow off their cars, girl scouts doing a professional

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<v Speaker 1>job selling cookies at the grocery store. Even if you

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<v Speaker 1>don't know the people involved, there is great benefit and

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<v Speaker 1>not keeping good news to yourself. You want the world

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<v Speaker 1>to know that good things are happening. You can make

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<v Speaker 1>other people smile and feel more content about life in general.

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<v Speaker 1>That is a good in its own right, though I

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<v Speaker 1>note that there is also a secondary benefit for you

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<v Speaker 1>when you are the person sharing all the good things

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<v Speaker 1>going on in your corner of the world. Some of

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<v Speaker 1>this glow brushes off on YouTube. In the professional realm,

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<v Speaker 1>it's one of the best ways to network. When people

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<v Speaker 1>see you posting about your friends promotion, they are in

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<v Speaker 1>fact seeing your name and remembering you too, and they

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<v Speaker 1>are doing something that is congratulating your friend based on

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<v Speaker 1>your recommendation, that is expanding your influence. So basically it

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<v Speaker 1>is a win all around. Now, of course, there are

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<v Speaker 1>some situations where people want good news to stay private

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<v Speaker 1>at least for a while, in which case you should

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<v Speaker 1>honor that. But in general, if you are happy to

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<v Speaker 1>hear it, others will be happy to hear it too,

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<v Speaker 1>So don't keep good news to yourself. Find as many

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<v Speaker 1>occasions as possible to celebrate the good stuff going on,

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<v Speaker 1>and a lot of your conversations will be far more enjoyable.

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<v Speaker 1>In the meantime. This is Laura. Thanks for listening, and

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<v Speaker 1>here's to make the most of our time. Hey, everybody,

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