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Speaker 1: Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of I Heart Radio.

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Speaker 1: Good Morning, This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast.

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Speaker 1: Today's tip is that you shouldn't keep good news to yourself.

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Speaker 1: Spread the word about others accomplishments to give people a

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Speaker 1: chance to congratulate them and share in their joy. So

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Speaker 1: it is an unfortunate aspect of human nature that we

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Speaker 1: tend to dwell on the negative. As you are talking

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Speaker 1: with people, note what proportion of the material amounts to

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Speaker 1: complaining about the weather, the price of gas, whatever unfortunate

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Speaker 1: thing a partner or boss happened to do. We do

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Speaker 1: all this complaining because it is easier to notice bad

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Speaker 1: things than good things. We all to do it because

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Speaker 1: shared complaining is a way to bond. Since no one's

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Speaker 1: life is perfect, we are always careful not to talk

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Speaker 1: at length about the good things in our lives in

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Speaker 1: case our conversation partner is not experiencing such wonderful things.

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Speaker 1: By complaining together, we establish that we are all in

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Speaker 1: this together. But if you think about it, constantly complaining

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Speaker 1: is an unfortunate way to go through life. Most of

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Speaker 1: us don't want to brag about our own accomplishments, but Fortunately,

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Speaker 1: we don't have to resort to that. A very easy

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Speaker 1: way to elevate conversations is to talk about other people's accomplishments.

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Speaker 1: When we share good news about mutual acquaintances, we create

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Speaker 1: a culture of shared encouragement and joy. This is a

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Speaker 1: good enough outcome that it is worth starting conversations just

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Speaker 1: to spread good news. So whenever you hear a bit

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Speaker 1: of good news that can be shared, figure out a

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Speaker 1: way to do just that. If your college roommate was

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Speaker 1: just elected the chair of a local committee, congratulate her

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Speaker 1: on the text chain you have with all your college friends.

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Speaker 1: They will no doubt leap in to congratulate her too,

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Speaker 1: and you have just turned that group text into something

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Speaker 1: less of a complaint zone. When a work buddy gets promoted,

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Speaker 1: share it with all your online industry groups. The goal

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Speaker 1: is for your work friend to be hearing from colleagues

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Speaker 1: from three jobs ago about the good news, thus contributing

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Speaker 1: to her sense that lots of people are cheering for her.

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Speaker 1: And when a kid does something great, be sure to

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Speaker 1: share that great news too. You can tell former teachers

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Speaker 1: when your older child does something wonderful thanks to the

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Speaker 1: strong foundation they helped lay earlier. You could even share

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Speaker 1: something great that you see other kids doing with people

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Speaker 1: you know, or perhaps even on social media if it

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Speaker 1: seems like the right thing to do. Kids helping people

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Speaker 1: clear snow off their cars, girl scouts doing a professional

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Speaker 1: job selling cookies at the grocery store. Even if you

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Speaker 1: don't know the people involved, there is great benefit and

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Speaker 1: not keeping good news to yourself. You want the world

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Speaker 1: to know that good things are happening. You can make

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Speaker 1: other people smile and feel more content about life in general.

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Speaker 1: That is a good in its own right, though I

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Speaker 1: note that there is also a secondary benefit for you

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Speaker 1: when you are the person sharing all the good things

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Speaker 1: going on in your corner of the world. Some of

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Speaker 1: this glow brushes off on YouTube. In the professional realm,

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Speaker 1: it's one of the best ways to network. When people

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Speaker 1: see you posting about your friends promotion, they are in

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Speaker 1: fact seeing your name and remembering you too, and they

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Speaker 1: are doing something that is congratulating your friend based on

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Speaker 1: your recommendation, that is expanding your influence. So basically it

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Speaker 1: is a win all around. Now, of course, there are

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Speaker 1: some situations where people want good news to stay private

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Speaker 1: at least for a while, in which case you should

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Speaker 1: honor that. But in general, if you are happy to

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Speaker 1: hear it, others will be happy to hear it too,

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Speaker 1: So don't keep good news to yourself. Find as many

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Speaker 1: occasions as possible to celebrate the good stuff going on,

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Speaker 1: and a lot of your conversations will be far more enjoyable.

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Speaker 1: In the meantime. This is Laura. Thanks for listening, and

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Speaker 1: here's to make the most of our time. Hey, everybody,

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