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Speaker 1: Am I the a hole for not inviting my husband's

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Speaker 1: dole Chanderine says, there have been strong opinions regarding this situation,

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Speaker 1: so I'm needing outside perspective to determine if I am

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Speaker 1: the a hole. Recently, a group of us went on

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Speaker 1: a trip fake names for clarity. The group consisted of

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Speaker 1: my husband, Nathan twenty nine male, myself twenty seven female,

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Speaker 1: my husband's best friend Lenny twenty nine male, Lenny's wife

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Speaker 1: Cassie twenty five female, and two of Lenny's male friends

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Speaker 2: I am, I am on the case.

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Speaker 1: You're on the case.

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna let their relevance become known and got that

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Speaker 1: Lenny and Nathan have been best friends since grade school

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Speaker 1: and talk weekly. Cassie and myself are friends by association

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Speaker 1: she said no, she wanted to enjoy the pool. Noted

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Speaker 1: events that led to my decision. Number one. I asked

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Speaker 1: She said no and continued to stand next to me.

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Speaker 1: Felt bad for suggesting this idea when she clearly wasn't

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Speaker 1: golf was a scheduled group activity. Mind you, it's outdoors

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Speaker 1: in Arizona in July. That is hot.

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Speaker 2: Run away, that is what you do hot. You're an idiot.

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Speaker 1: Why are you outdoors in Arizona in July.

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Speaker 2: You should just unfriend who ever had that idea.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, No, I have family in Arizona, and I was like,

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Speaker 2: Yeah, don't come this summer. Also, look you can see

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Speaker 1: I said that I would not be participating due to

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Speaker 1: the minigolf location and mentioned I might pop over to

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Speaker 1: TJ Target Action. Oh wait, sorry, that's the wrong TJ

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Speaker 1: Target TG to target for the AC until they were finished.

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Speaker 1: Then we would have dinner as planned. Cassie said, Aha,

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Speaker 3: I was about to say, Wow, your acting skills are

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Speaker 2: Heres like, where did it come from? You're really selling

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Speaker 2: that character? Where did they come from? Sophia is pressed

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Speaker 1: I will admit, Cassie said, if you go, come find

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Speaker 1: A whole situation happened near the end of the trip.

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Speaker 1: The group was lounging in the pool and I briefly

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Speaker 1: I said no, I kind of want time to myself,

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Speaker 1: I enjoy but she does not. She continued to push

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Speaker 1: I was also going to say maybe maybe for friendship

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Speaker 2: Yes, I just but for style lines because yes, so expanding.

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Speaker 2: We have Opi and OPI's husband Nathan, and basically uh,

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Speaker 1: Co signing the annoying. Well, it seems like they were

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Speaker 1: Is I don't think that's Opie's kind of job.

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Speaker 2: She wants alone. She just wants a whole time time.

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Speaker 3: So Cassie's being annoying by always trying to go in,

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Speaker 2: Blah blah blah blah blah blah blah. Yeah, like the

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Speaker 1: I need some me time. I'm gonna go thrifting. Edit

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Speaker 1: too uh oh has six parts. Number one, the trip

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Speaker 2: And so they're all on this trip together in Scottsdale.

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Speaker 1: They're all on this trip together in Scottsdale for four

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Speaker 2: I think it's completely invalid. How dare you want to

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Speaker 2: You heard it here first.

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Speaker 1: That's my John's opinion.

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Speaker 1: Tony splac Spilaki spala yo wait, Tony Spiliacos. Spiliacos says

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Speaker 5: with comments such as welcome back. That was thrifting. Must

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Speaker 1: We told her her boyfriend or her husband.

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Speaker 1: She said, hey, I need some alone time, so I'm

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Speaker 1: And she said no, because I want the meantime.

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Speaker 2: She told the husband, who can tell everyone else?

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Speaker 1: You could tell everyone else. What do you mean you

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Speaker 2: Time for okop free lash. I have cancer, but my

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Speaker 4: Fine, you'll regret it.

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Speaker 2: I'm so sorry. I'm dying. My most sincere apologies.

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Speaker 7: Hey a, I don't care if you're dying. I want

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Speaker 7: sure that's great. If you failed college English, you will

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Speaker 7: So what's more important? You dying of cancer? Are you

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Speaker 4: That is true. That is true fact. So let's see

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Speaker 7: So this happened years ago when I was in high school,

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Speaker 7: Smile Like my high school had a policy that anyone

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Speaker 7: Amazing, it's amazing, amazing. I'm trying to skim all my finals.

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Speaker 2: I mean, bro, what what what more do you want

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Speaker 2: It was bold, and she's still alive.

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Speaker 7: I couldnot remember the name for a slotted spoon.

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Speaker 7: One instructor took it to mean show me what you learned.

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Speaker 7: But that was a baking class, so it was easy

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Speaker 7: I guess the final was as easy as baking a cake.

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Speaker 2: The other lab classes I took.

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Speaker 7: One of the tests was ten questions, and our instructor

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Speaker 7: Questions like what size is a quarter inch dice? What

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Speaker 7: that was worth fifteen points.

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Speaker 4: I love that, Hey, teacher's hooking it up.

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Speaker 2: For the final. Dude, we love to hear that, We

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Speaker 7: I had a teacher in college that it was about

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Speaker 2: But if you read the.

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Speaker 7: Instructions, she just put a smiley face, dude, And there

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Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, read the instructions.

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Speaker 3: Hey, I don't know if I hate her love that,

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Speaker 7: Am Iv a hole for making my aunt's husband homeless

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Speaker 7: on Christmas after he called me an f slur. Okayop,

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Speaker 7: we tell the funniest stories on the internet.

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Speaker 4: And John, there's actually something else we want to tell people.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I think we got to tell the people.

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Speaker 3: We launched a Patreon the petrio trying not to be homeless.

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Speaker 3: There is like a direct message feature on Patreon, which

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Speaker 7: Yes, I do am id a hole for making my

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Speaker 3: Spicy, spicy.

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Speaker 2: That's right there, spicy, I am.

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Speaker 4: This is not the Christmas present that you want.

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Speaker 7: All my life, my parents always hosted the big family

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Speaker 7: bought my first house recently. Ay, I'm twenty five and

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Speaker 7: leave alone.

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Speaker 2: Damn me.

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Speaker 3: You know we ain't got our own houses, you know,

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Speaker 3: Every every piece of merch or Patreon subscription equals one

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Speaker 2: I love it.

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Speaker 3: Please.

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Speaker 7: I bought my first house recently. I'm twenty five and

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Speaker 7: parents would also come by and help me host. My

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Speaker 4: I offered to host them all week because oh he

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Speaker 2: Late opie, opie, what a great person.

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Speaker 7: And I'd only met Peter twice before, only twice foreshadow foreshadowing.

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Speaker 7: They showed up this afternoon after a long fight. I

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Speaker 7: just went, you're an f slur. They didn't say f

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Speaker 7: slurry said the bad thing. What yeah, dude, just out

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Speaker 7: of the blue is just like bang, let me show

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Speaker 7: you how bigger than I am bang bang, Wow, Peter

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Speaker 7: All night, buddy. Then oh pegos, Nah, I'm a lesbian

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Speaker 7: right because he calls it fla hold on, hold.

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Speaker 7: Peter starts to say some stuff like you've gotta be

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Speaker 7: f and kidding me in front of my daughter, and

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Speaker 7: I'm not kidding. And I'm also not kidding when I

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Speaker 7: say that bigoted chiz doesn't fly in my house.

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Speaker 2: Get the f out for bruh you bro, you're pulling

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Speaker 2: up to my house.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, she's doing down justice over Peter saw me right.

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Speaker 7: When you get in, get out, bang bang. That's a

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Speaker 7: And I'm like, dude, he laughed, and I'm like, dude,

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Speaker 7: I'm dead ass serious. Get out of here, he says.

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Speaker 7: He just he said, he just flew in and the

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Speaker 7: return fight wasn't for a week and he didn't even

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Speaker 7: have a guy.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 4: I said that. It sounded like, yeah, too bad.

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Speaker 2: Sounds like your problem, Peter, sounds like a Peter problem.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, it does, Peter band problem. I'm really going for

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Speaker 7: the freaking digging baby. I said that it sounded like

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Speaker 7: he thought I cared where I said it. I said

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Speaker 7: that sounded like he thought I cared where he went,

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Speaker 7: but I frankly don't as long as it wasn't my Houseplap, baby, damn.

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Speaker 2: Take that.

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Speaker 7: That's a burn that's gonna stick with you. That's a

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Speaker 7: third degree bird is biggot it a It's like it

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Speaker 7: came down the It's like it came down the fireplace

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Speaker 7: and hit his bum on the fire because he's bad,

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Speaker 7: said at.

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Speaker 2: The boom boom. Take that.

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Speaker 7: Lisa convinced Peter to grab the essentials and step out

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Speaker 7: for a while to let things cool off. After that burn,

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Speaker 7: you better cool off. Lisa went out on a walk

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Speaker 7: with him. My parents try to convince me to let

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Speaker 7: Peter stay. I had agreed to host him and his family.

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Speaker 7: Would I really put a family with a kid out

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Speaker 7: on Christmas?

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Speaker 4: On Christmas?

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Speaker 7: I said, I wasn't putting the family out, just Peter

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Speaker 7: damn laying down the law. They said it was really

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Speaker 7: against hosting etiquette to have someone fly across the country

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Speaker 7: to visit and then put them out. You know, it's

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Speaker 7: against etiquette to freaking insult your host right at the

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Speaker 7: back like whoof, and then it would be And they

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Speaker 7: also said that it would be rude to make him

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Speaker 7: stay in a hotel till Christmas dinner. I said, whoa,

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Speaker 7: you thought I was still having him over for Christmas?

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Speaker 7: Denn oh oh way. My parents tried to convince me,

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Speaker 7: and I said, O way. I went upstairs to grab

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Speaker 7: Peter's suitcase, and my girlfriend came with me and was

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Speaker 7: really grateful I handled it and didn't make her have

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Speaker 7: to be the bad guy in front of my family. Yeah,

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Speaker 7: good girlfriend, Yeah, stick it up. I put a suitcase

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Speaker 7: out and sent Lisa text saying that I would still

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Speaker 7: and send Lisai tech. I put his suitcase out and

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Speaker 7: sent Lisa text saying that I would still love to

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Speaker 7: have her and her daughter over for the holidays, but

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Speaker 7: I wasn't comfortable with Peter coming into my home. She

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Speaker 7: came by to grab their things, her family was getting

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Speaker 7: a hotel. I told her she was welcome to come

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Speaker 7: to Christmas with her daughter, and she said she'd let

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Speaker 7: us know. My parents are furious. They think I overreacted

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Speaker 7: and oversteped my place, and that the rest of the

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Speaker 7: family was visiting, and that the rest of the family

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Speaker 7: was visiting wanted to see their family. And said that

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Speaker 7: the rest of the family that was visiting wanted to

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Speaker 7: see their family. I said they could still meet up,

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Speaker 7: just not at mine. I am not in my house.

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Speaker 7: Not in my house.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, she's laying down the lost, laying down the perimeter.

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Speaker 3: Here's the thing for the parents, right, I'd be like, mom, Dad,

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Speaker 3: you remember when I was a teenager and.

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Speaker 2: You said, oh, not in my house. Listen, it's my house.

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Speaker 3: Now, bit let's go the power. I returned the home seriously,

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Speaker 3: like if so? Also, bro, how did Lisa not know?

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Speaker 3: And like, I know she she has like an open sight.

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Speaker 7: She had to be like you have to like tell

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Speaker 7: your bigoted husband, Hey, honey, you're gonna meet to lesbian to.

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Speaker 4: Lesbie, don't say anything out of.

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Speaker 3: Pocket right when you meet him at a bare minimum

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Speaker 3: like goodness, Yeah, like that is just wow. And also

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Speaker 3: like shout out to Op for still saying to the

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Speaker 3: sister like, hey, you can still come in the daughter

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Speaker 3: you know so well.

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Speaker 7: So the question is is is she is Op the

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Speaker 7: a hole for kicking out this homophobic guy.

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