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<v Speaker 1>named Hannah is on the phone through a Second Date

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<v Speaker 1>Update today and her situation is kind of unique. She

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<v Speaker 1>sent an email in she talked about her date. Everything

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<v Speaker 1>went great, they got along great. Even after that they

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<v Speaker 1>talked on the phone. Things were going great, and then

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<v Speaker 1>something happened and now things are not going great. We'll

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<v Speaker 1>good to that in just a second. But what's that, Hannah?

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<v Speaker 1>How are you? Hey? How's it coming? Guys? Pretty good?

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<v Speaker 1>I like when people know the exact moment things went wrong,

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<v Speaker 1>because that's what it sounds like for you. Yeah, I mean, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>so let me explain what happened first before I get

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<v Speaker 1>to it. Okay, what's his name? First of all, his

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<v Speaker 1>name's Mark Mark. All right, So I'm at Mark at

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<v Speaker 1>the airport, getting ready, you know, bord a flight. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>I was looking for a place to charge my phone

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<v Speaker 1>and there were no open outlets. So you know, I

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<v Speaker 1>met this nice guy. He was like, hey, you want

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<v Speaker 1>to borrow mine? I was like, oh, that's awesome, thanks.

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<v Speaker 1>But it sat down, and uh we started chatting randomly,

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<v Speaker 1>and he was super cute and really nice and and

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<v Speaker 1>he obviously thought the same of you, because there's no

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<v Speaker 1>way he's going to let you use a charger. If

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, that's a good opening pipe, I'm never use

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<v Speaker 1>my charge Yeah, keep your hands off. I guess yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean he was cool though, So you started chatting

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<v Speaker 1>and turned to win the plane. I was hoping, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>maybe he'd be on the same flight and you know,

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<v Speaker 1>I would get a chance to maybe sit close to

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<v Speaker 1>him and keep talking. But it turned out he was

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<v Speaker 1>actually on a different flight, of course. But he asked me.

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<v Speaker 1>He's like, are you from here? I was like yeah, yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>So he asked me from my number, which I was

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<v Speaker 1>super excited about. I was hoping he was going to

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<v Speaker 1>call me and everything. But if he didn't, I feel like,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, too bad, that sucks. He's really cute, so

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<v Speaker 1>it wasn't one of those things where you're like some

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<v Speaker 1>people who instantly thought that he was your soul mate.

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<v Speaker 1>And if he doesn't call you, the whole world is

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<v Speaker 1>going to end. You were He was like, oh, I

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<v Speaker 1>hope he called him, but if he doesn't, not the

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<v Speaker 1>end of the world. I was hoping he was going

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<v Speaker 1>to call me, but but no, not the end of

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<v Speaker 1>the world. Obviously he called because you went out on

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<v Speaker 1>a date. Yeah, so we've kept chatting on the phone.

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<v Speaker 1>We talked a few times and set up plans. So

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<v Speaker 1>when we booke up back from our trips and you know,

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<v Speaker 1>went to the Space far and got some drinks and

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<v Speaker 1>he came to us in the Sioux and looked really nice,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, like handsome, it all done up. So we

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<v Speaker 1>had this amazing time and then by the end of

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<v Speaker 1>the night we ended up making out. Okay, so that's

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<v Speaker 1>good at all. Good at this point, what are you

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<v Speaker 1>thinking of him? I mean, because obviously he's moved from

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<v Speaker 1>just like the random guy at the airport to now

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<v Speaker 1>potential boyfriend. I wouldn't say that I was sure he

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<v Speaker 1>was boyfriend right away, but I mean definitely interested, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>definitely potential. You know, that's good. You made out with him,

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<v Speaker 1>so I would hope you would be hoping for some

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<v Speaker 1>pot Yeah, there's nothing with this guy. I'm not even

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<v Speaker 1>attracted to him, but let's make out real quick. Yeah. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>So I don't know, Like things went really well, and

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<v Speaker 1>we talked for a few times on the phone and

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<v Speaker 1>kept chatting, and so here's I guess where things kind

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<v Speaker 1>of get a little bit strange. Like I know that

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<v Speaker 1>I wanted to keep seeing him and see where things go,

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<v Speaker 1>and I think that he did too. So I told him,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, the last time we chatted that I've been

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<v Speaker 1>I've been hurt really really bad before with some crazy

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<v Speaker 1>XS and some bad situations. So you know, I told him.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, I have this thing that is like

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<v Speaker 1>a safety net for me. But it's basically like a

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<v Speaker 1>dating contract. What okay? And what does that mean? It's

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<v Speaker 1>like something that I wrote up to Kila help protect

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<v Speaker 1>myself about like things that he has to reveal to me,

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<v Speaker 1>like do you have any crazy psycho access, do you

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<v Speaker 1>have any dependent children? Do you have any STDs? This

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<v Speaker 1>is an actual written document that you have, Yeah, I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>like it's not like I sent it to my lawyer,

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<v Speaker 1>but it's like a paper that I wrote up because

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<v Speaker 1>I want to be respect did and like there's some

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<v Speaker 1>weirdos out there, like and you never know, and like

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<v Speaker 1>I want to know what I'm getting myself into, I guess.

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<v Speaker 1>And on one side, they always say you need to

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<v Speaker 1>be clear with what your expectations are, and that's a

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<v Speaker 1>very clear way to do it. That's very true. Yeah. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>So I emailed it over to him and I said,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, like take a look. This is kind of

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<v Speaker 1>like what I'm about and s important to me. But

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<v Speaker 1>I know it's not a normal thing. And I said that,

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<v Speaker 1>but you know, I just thought he would take a look,

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<v Speaker 1>and I was up front everything was there. Have you

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<v Speaker 1>given that to other dudes before and they've been cool

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<v Speaker 1>with it, to be honest, this is the first time

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<v Speaker 1>that I've done it, but it's because like I've been

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<v Speaker 1>hurt so bad from the other one. So yeah, so

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<v Speaker 1>it is it? Like what was his response to that.

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<v Speaker 1>He chatted with me a couple of times, but it

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<v Speaker 1>was kind of like brief, like he said he was

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<v Speaker 1>busy and how to go to work, and then like

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<v Speaker 1>I haven't seen him in like I haven't scheduled any dates.

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<v Speaker 1>And I really like this guy. So I was like

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<v Speaker 1>really concerned and I didn't want to scare them away,

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<v Speaker 1>but I don't scare him away, but I gave him

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<v Speaker 1>a contract. I say that could be a little done, right, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I like the thing is, like, I can understand why

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<v Speaker 1>you did it, and you're reasoning, but if you were

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<v Speaker 1>to receive one for me, If I ever got one

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<v Speaker 1>of those, it would be a huge red flag that

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<v Speaker 1>the person I was about to date has major trust issues.

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<v Speaker 1>It wasn't my intention to scare him away. And I guess,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, with what you guys said that maybe maybe

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<v Speaker 1>it did. But I really like this guy, like I

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<v Speaker 1>had serious intentions of, you know, wanting to see where

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<v Speaker 1>it goes. Okay, well, at least we can get him

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<v Speaker 1>on the phone and maybe you can make your case,

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<v Speaker 1>like if that's the thing that did scare him off,

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<v Speaker 1>which probably was, then you can try to reassure him

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<v Speaker 1>that you're not crazy. You've just been hurt before. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>Well play a song and then come back and call

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<v Speaker 1>them and get your second day update. Okay, Oh okay,

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<v Speaker 1>thanks guys, All right, hang frooking jubil in the morning.

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<v Speaker 1>Nothing says true love like contract negotiations. That's right. I

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<v Speaker 1>know everybody probably just swooned when I said that. Heavy

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<v Speaker 1>And that's what Hannahs they with right now because she

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<v Speaker 1>went on on a date with some dude named Mark.

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<v Speaker 1>They liked each other a lot, even made out at

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<v Speaker 1>the end of the day and continued to talk on

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<v Speaker 1>the phone trying to set up another date, and then

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<v Speaker 1>she dropped her dating contract on him. Apparently she wrote

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<v Speaker 1>up a contract for dating her because she's been burned

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<v Speaker 1>in the past. She emailed it over to him, and

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<v Speaker 1>since then he's kind of seemed not interested. So we're

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<v Speaker 1>about to call him and find out if it is

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<v Speaker 1>the dating contract that turned him off, you know, Hannah,

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<v Speaker 1>everything about Maybe he's got it with his lawyers right

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<v Speaker 1>now and they're reviewing it and he's gonna make account.

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<v Speaker 1>I think that's taking it a little too far, But

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<v Speaker 1>I think you need to realize, even if this one

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<v Speaker 1>doesn't turn out, it is a very good lesson since

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<v Speaker 1>he's the first guy you've given this too, to maybe

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<v Speaker 1>do a better job explaining how you're trying to be

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<v Speaker 1>honest with your expectations beforehand so he doesn't take it

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<v Speaker 1>the wrong way. Yeah, I guess. I mean, I honestly

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<v Speaker 1>don't think it's anything past, you know, like what I

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<v Speaker 1>would expect in a relationship. But we'll see. That's why

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<v Speaker 1>I have you guys to help me. All right, well,

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<v Speaker 1>we'll see what we can do that. I'm a Dallas

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<v Speaker 1>one of me right now. Okay, okay, all right, here

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<v Speaker 1>we go. Hello, Hi, guys, speaks to Mark. Please. This

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<v Speaker 1>is him? Hey, Mark, how are you? This is Jewel

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<v Speaker 1>from Brooke and Jewel in the Morning. Who Jewil from

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<v Speaker 1>Brook and Jewel in the Morning. It's a radio program

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<v Speaker 1>show Graham on the radio in the morning. On the

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<v Speaker 1>radio show. I don't really listen to the radio. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>don't blame you. Well, it's a radio show called Brooke

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<v Speaker 1>and Jewel in the Morning. And one of our listeners

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<v Speaker 1>emailed us about you. That's why I'm calling you. Somebody

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<v Speaker 1>about me? Who who is? I don't understand? Good question. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna start with the who is first? Okay. Hannah

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<v Speaker 1>emailed us about you. Hannah. Oh oh, okay, yeah, I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know. Yeah, it sounded pleasurable. Okay, I don't understand

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<v Speaker 1>what's going on here. I can tell and I'm starting

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<v Speaker 1>to not understand either. And I've done this like a

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<v Speaker 1>million times. She emailed us because we do a segment

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<v Speaker 1>on our show called the Second Date Update. That's where

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<v Speaker 1>if you go out on a date with somebody and

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<v Speaker 1>then end up not calling them back, they can email

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<v Speaker 1>us to get you on the phone and figure out

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<v Speaker 1>what happened. And she says that you guys have been

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<v Speaker 1>talking a lot. You met, you had a really cool

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<v Speaker 1>first date, you made out, and you guys were talking

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<v Speaker 1>a bunch of things were going great, and then all

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<v Speaker 1>of a sudden, it seems like you're not interested. So

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<v Speaker 1>she wants to know why. Yeah, but does that laugh

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<v Speaker 1>mean that she should already know why you're not calling

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<v Speaker 1>her back. I would think that she would so weird.

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<v Speaker 1>She was cool and yeah, we like mete out at

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<v Speaker 1>the end, so that was promising. But like we're talking

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<v Speaker 1>on the phone and she's like, oh, just one little thing,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna send you something, And she sends me this

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<v Speaker 1>three page document of a contract, like a dating contract.

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<v Speaker 1>Three pages. It's at three full pages of rules and conditions. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>she told us that she sent that to you. I

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<v Speaker 1>didn't realize that it was three pages long, though I

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<v Speaker 1>thought it was. Someone just said, hey man, it's Hannah,

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<v Speaker 1>Please don't hurt me. Sound on the dotted line. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>Oh no. It was a whole list of things I

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<v Speaker 1>had to do, like disclosed crazy excess, asking you if

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<v Speaker 1>I had STDs. Hold on, let me, I'm gonna pull

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<v Speaker 1>it up. It's still on my phone home. Sweet, Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know exactly what's in there. While you pull

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<v Speaker 1>it up, I feel like you should understand. Like from

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<v Speaker 1>her side, she says that she was just trying to

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<v Speaker 1>be honest and upfront with what her expectations for dating

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<v Speaker 1>are because she hasn't been in the past and it

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<v Speaker 1>hasn't turned out. Well, I get that everybody's been burned.

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<v Speaker 1>Hold on, look look at this. Okay, STDs disclosed political beliefs. Wow,

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<v Speaker 1>that's tough. I mean, I guess that's okay. She would

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<v Speaker 1>just want to date somebody who doesn't align with herically,

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<v Speaker 1>So you guys aren't arguing about that all the time. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>and usually that just happens organically, Like you figure that out. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>that's the point of dating, right, Like, that's probably why

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<v Speaker 1>you were upset. Yeah, But then it gets into like

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<v Speaker 1>more behavioral stuff like you have to text or call

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<v Speaker 1>once a day to check in. Okay, now we're getting Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I can see that would start to throw up some

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<v Speaker 1>flags for me that we've got two hours notice if

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<v Speaker 1>you want to cancel a date, oh my gosh, dentist appointment? Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>come on, yeah, you guys are always getting mad at

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<v Speaker 1>women who maybe we can't tell what you want. You

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<v Speaker 1>know what you want. I mean that is true. You

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<v Speaker 1>got it there in writing. And if she ever tries

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<v Speaker 1>to give you a crap about something and be like, no,

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<v Speaker 1>no, no no, no, I am completely within my contract. I

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<v Speaker 1>canceled the date, but it was with it, it was

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<v Speaker 1>for two hours. I'm good. You can't get mad about this.

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<v Speaker 1>It could be nice. Actually, honestly, if it was just

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<v Speaker 1>those things, I would probably agree to it. But this

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<v Speaker 1>list keeps going. There's worse things in it. How about

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<v Speaker 1>this when fighting, no silent treatment is allowed or any

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<v Speaker 1>passive aggressive behavior. Dude, She's never going to be a

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<v Speaker 1>relationship with expectations like this. And then below that there's

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<v Speaker 1>an amendment saying all disagreements must be fully discussed, even

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<v Speaker 1>if we agree to disagree. Oh that sounds good actually,

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<v Speaker 1>with tiring a lot, a lot of long conversations, I

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<v Speaker 1>would imagine Boston, though, what line was it that really

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<v Speaker 1>made you completely decide you weren't going to ever call

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<v Speaker 1>her back again? I can't choose one, but this one's

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<v Speaker 1>definitely a bad one. Mandatory presence for Christmas, Valentine's and

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<v Speaker 1>all major anniversaries. Yeah you should be doing that, but

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<v Speaker 1>put that in writing saying very detailed though. Okay, you guys,

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<v Speaker 1>it's a nuts thing that she did, really, but you

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<v Speaker 1>liked her, and if she could like disregard this contract,

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<v Speaker 1>would you still be interested in seeing her? I don't know,

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<v Speaker 1>like this thing, like how you guys are trying to

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<v Speaker 1>pull any sort of positive that I'm like, if there

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<v Speaker 1>wasn't a huge giant red Yeah, you don't want it,

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<v Speaker 1>give me, guys. I don't really understand what the problem is.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just trying to protect myself. I don't really see

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<v Speaker 1>this as like a bad thing. Who's Oh, Mark, I

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<v Speaker 1>forgot to tell you. That's Hannah. She's actually on the

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<v Speaker 1>other line listing and wants to talk to you. I

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<v Speaker 1>should have been in the contracts. Sorry about that? No, no, no, yeah, no, Mark, Mark,

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<v Speaker 1>I honestly like, I feel like, you know, having this

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<v Speaker 1>communication was so important for like a relationship to like

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<v Speaker 1>last that we you know, we're on the same page

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<v Speaker 1>and you know what I want, Like, what is wrong

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<v Speaker 1>with you agreeing to those things, like, are you hiding

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<v Speaker 1>something that's like stuff that normal boyfriend relationships do? Look

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<v Speaker 1>like everybody has been hurt by somebody before, but this

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<v Speaker 1>is not the way to handle it. Well, most of

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<v Speaker 1>those people didn't sign a contract beforehand, and that's probably why. Mark, No,

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<v Speaker 1>but this is really excessive. Like We've been on one

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<v Speaker 1>date and now I'm supposed to sign a contract that

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<v Speaker 1>puts me on the hook for a bunch of presents

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<v Speaker 1>and like calls every day. I mean, at least I

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<v Speaker 1>didn't put like the amount of the present that you

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<v Speaker 1>had to buy me, like the price, but you had

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<v Speaker 1>an amount in mind, didn't you. I mean, I like

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<v Speaker 1>nice things, what girl doesn't. But like what I'm saying

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<v Speaker 1>is I'm not crazy, Like I think I'm being pretty reasonable.

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<v Speaker 1>I've been totally one up front of you. I feel

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<v Speaker 1>like in a relationship, you want to know those things

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<v Speaker 1>so you know what I would like it in a

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<v Speaker 1>relationship though, Yeah, but this is like all expectations. It

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<v Speaker 1>takes the romance out of it that I'm contractually obligated

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<v Speaker 1>to do these things with you. Right. Well, look, if

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<v Speaker 1>you were like an actual stand up guy, it wouldn't

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<v Speaker 1>feel like a contractual obligation. Those would be like normal

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<v Speaker 1>things that you would want to do. Yeah, they would be.

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<v Speaker 1>But now if this is so weird, like I don't

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<v Speaker 1>want to have an anything to do with it. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>it'd be weird if like President Day is coming up,

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<v Speaker 1>You're like, oh, where's that contract? I gotta figure out

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<v Speaker 1>if I need to get your a gift or something.

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<v Speaker 1>What happens if I breaks the contract but you just fail?

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<v Speaker 1>That's a good question too. Yeah, what's the out on

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<v Speaker 1>that contract? Hannah? Well, I mean it depends on what

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<v Speaker 1>it is. Like if you ghost me and they'll talk

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<v Speaker 1>to me for four or five days, then I might

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<v Speaker 1>think about it because I want somebody who's going to

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<v Speaker 1>be there and communicate with me and make me feel secure.

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<v Speaker 1>But you want someone to do that because they want to.

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<v Speaker 1>You don't want them to do it because you've made them.

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<v Speaker 1>That's not a healthy relationship for you either, Like, this

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<v Speaker 1>isn't a good way to start things. I get what

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<v Speaker 1>you're saying, but I really liked you, Like we have

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of fun, and you're charming and you're smart

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<v Speaker 1>and honestly, Mark, Like that's why I gave this to you.

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<v Speaker 1>Like I've never done this before I thought about taking

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<v Speaker 1>this to the next level. So that's why I wanted

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<v Speaker 1>to be prepared, Mark, Mark, what do you think would

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<v Speaker 1>you like to go on a second date with her?

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<v Speaker 1>We'll pay for it and maybe she can take back

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<v Speaker 1>the contract stuff and you guys can talk it out

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<v Speaker 1>a bit more. Would you do that though? Would you

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<v Speaker 1>take back the contract? I mean maybe we can delay

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<v Speaker 1>the signing until like the third date. Oh, go, Mark,

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<v Speaker 1>what do you think just out of curiosity? Yeah, I

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<v Speaker 1>would definitely go on another date. Really, but like, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>never going to sign a contract. Oh oh damn. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>if you want these things, we can talk about it,

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<v Speaker 1>Like we can just talk about it and come to

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<v Speaker 1>a verbal agreement, but ack negotiation. I know this is exciting.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh you guys, I feel like I'm at the table

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<v Speaker 1>with like some pro athletes and an agent. Hannah, Seriously,

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<v Speaker 1>that is a big deal that he said. Yes, I

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<v Speaker 1>think that he's a stand up guy. Without the contract, Okay, fine,

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<v Speaker 1>well leeve the contract for now. I am happy we're

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<v Speaker 1>gonna go out again. Awesome. I do like you. But

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<v Speaker 1>we got to talk about this last rule on the contract,

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<v Speaker 1>which one if a breakup becomes necessary It must be

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<v Speaker 1>done face to face and not via text, own or FaceTime.

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<v Speaker 1>You'd rather have a tax breakup broken jupil in the morning,