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Speaker 1: sah dot com Rooking Jebels. Second Date Update. A listener

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Speaker 1: named Hannah is on the phone through a Second Date

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Speaker 1: Update today and her situation is kind of unique. She

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Speaker 1: sent an email in she talked about her date. Everything

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Speaker 1: went great, they got along great. Even after that they

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Speaker 1: talked on the phone. Things were going great, and then

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Speaker 1: something happened and now things are not going great. We'll

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Speaker 1: good to that in just a second. But what's that, Hannah?

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Speaker 1: How are you? Hey? How's it coming? Guys? Pretty good?

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Speaker 1: I like when people know the exact moment things went wrong,

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Speaker 1: because that's what it sounds like for you. Yeah, I mean, okay,

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Speaker 1: so let me explain what happened first before I get

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Speaker 1: to it. Okay, what's his name? First of all, his

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Speaker 1: name's Mark Mark. All right, So I'm at Mark at

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Speaker 1: the airport, getting ready, you know, bord a flight. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I was looking for a place to charge my phone

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Speaker 1: met this nice guy. He was like, hey, you want

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Speaker 1: But it sat down, and uh we started chatting randomly,

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Speaker 1: and he was super cute and really nice and and

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Speaker 1: I mean, that's a good opening pipe, I'm never use

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Speaker 1: I mean he was cool though, So you started chatting

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Speaker 1: He's like, are you from here? I was like yeah, yeah.

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Speaker 1: So he asked me from my number, which I was

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Speaker 1: it wasn't one of those things where you're like some

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Speaker 1: And if he doesn't call you, the whole world is

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Speaker 1: We talked a few times and set up plans. So

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Speaker 1: when we booke up back from our trips and you know,

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Speaker 1: I was like, I have this thing that is like

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Speaker 1: it is it? Like what was his response to that.

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Speaker 1: but I don't scare him away, but I gave him

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Speaker 1: Well play a song and then come back and call

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Speaker 1: them and get your second day update. Okay, Oh okay,

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Speaker 1: thanks guys, All right, hang frooking jubil in the morning.

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Speaker 1: Nothing says true love like contract negotiations. That's right. I

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Speaker 1: And that's what Hannahs they with right now because she

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Speaker 1: from Brooke and Jewel in the Morning. Who Jewil from

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Speaker 1: Brook and Jewel in the Morning. It's a radio program

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Speaker 1: emailed us about you. That's why I'm calling you. Somebody

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Speaker 1: she told us that she sent that to you. I

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Speaker 1: Please don't hurt me. Sound on the dotted line. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: Oh no. It was a whole list of things I

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Speaker 1: I had STDs. Hold on, let me, I'm gonna pull

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Speaker 1: I don't know exactly what's in there. While you pull

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Speaker 1: Hold on, look look at this. Okay, STDs disclosed political beliefs. Wow,

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Speaker 1: if you want these things, we can talk about it,

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Speaker 1: with like some pro athletes and an agent. Hannah, Seriously,

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Speaker 1: that is a big deal that he said. Yes, I

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Speaker 1: well leeve the contract for now. I am happy we're

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