WEBVTT - Change Locations 0:00:00.170 --> 0:00:04.760 Sometimes changing your mentality isn't enough. You have to change 0:00:05.019 --> 0:00:05.720 your environment. 0:00:06.820 --> 0:00:09.860 I like that one. For me, I think there's no 0:00:09.920 --> 0:00:13.540 perfect time, I think, to pull the trigger on a relocation. 0:00:13.600 --> 0:00:18.670 Just know what you're moving toward, not necessarily what you're 0:00:18.710 --> 0:00:19.370 moving away from. 0:00:19.390 --> 0:00:21.290 Ooh, that ass. 0:00:21.310 --> 0:00:21.389 Wow. 0:00:24.140 --> 0:00:27.180 It all started with real talk, unfiltered, honest, and straight 0:00:27.200 --> 0:00:29.240 from the heart. Since then, we've gone on to become 0:00:29.280 --> 0:00:32.599 Webby Award winning podcasters and New York Times bestselling authors. 0:00:32.760 --> 0:00:35.419 Deadass was more than a podcast for us. It was 0:00:35.540 --> 0:00:38.120 about our growth. A place where we could be vulnerable, 0:00:38.300 --> 0:00:38.860 be raw. 0:00:39.180 --> 0:00:41.420 But most importantly, be us. 0:00:41.580 --> 0:00:44.560 But as we know, life keeps evolving and so do we. 0:00:44.659 --> 0:00:47.540 And through it all, one thing has never changed. 0:00:48.040 --> 0:00:50.600 This is Ellis Ever After. Deadass. 0:00:50.880 --> 0:00:52.560 Because we got a lot to talk about. 0:00:53.479 --> 0:00:55.460 All right, story time. So as you guys know, we've 0:00:55.500 --> 0:00:59.050 moved a lot. A whole lot. We've told you about 0:00:59.090 --> 0:01:02.030 the time we moved from Detroit back to New York. 0:01:02.550 --> 0:01:04.050 We told you about the time we moved from New 0:01:04.090 --> 0:01:07.070 York to L.A., but we never told anybody why we 0:01:07.110 --> 0:01:07.970 moved from L.A. 0:01:08.330 --> 0:01:08.870 To Atlanta. 0:01:09.330 --> 0:01:13.510 And it's funny because L.A. was, that was our destination. 0:01:13.550 --> 0:01:16.230 We wanted to go there because of the TV film industry. 0:01:16.830 --> 0:01:18.740 And we got to L.A. and we were enjoying it. 0:01:18.810 --> 0:01:20.900 But things started to change for us. Number one, like 0:01:20.920 --> 0:01:23.580 we talked about this before, That homeowner's insurance. 0:01:24.080 --> 0:01:27.040 Allstate dropped us. Remember, we had renter's insurance. 0:01:27.080 --> 0:01:27.380 Yeah. 0:01:27.720 --> 0:01:30.120 We had renter's insurance. And because of where we were staying, 0:01:30.140 --> 0:01:31.330 they started having the fires. 0:01:32.410 --> 0:01:33.220 Allstate dropped us. 0:01:33.270 --> 0:01:35.449 And we was like, yo, what is happening here? So 0:01:35.490 --> 0:01:37.090 now I got to pay all this money in rent. 0:01:37.130 --> 0:01:38.310 I got to do all of these things. 0:01:38.709 --> 0:01:39.170 And then. 0:01:39.190 --> 0:01:40.530 No village. 0:01:41.030 --> 0:01:45.350 No village at all. We were in Calabasas. We was 0:01:45.450 --> 0:01:47.280 out there in the sticks. We weren't in L.A. That's 0:01:47.300 --> 0:01:48.880 why when people say you moved to L.A., not really. 0:01:48.920 --> 0:01:50.860 We didn't move to L.A. We moved to Calabasas, which 0:01:50.920 --> 0:01:53.570 is not L.A. So we had no Village. But lastly, 0:01:54.210 --> 0:01:59.810 the industry had shifted. We moved to L.A. in 2019. 0:01:59.810 --> 0:02:03.580 At that time, two things happened. Number one, COVID hit. 0:02:04.660 --> 0:02:05.520 Six months in, yep. 0:02:05.720 --> 0:02:07.460 When COVID hit, everything closed down. 0:02:07.480 --> 0:02:10.079 They weren't doing any more in-person auditions and stuff like that. 0:02:10.139 --> 0:02:13.540 Everything was digital. But the second thing, I think it 0:02:13.580 --> 0:02:17.340 was Marvel had decided to move a lot. 0:02:17.200 --> 0:02:18.620 Of their productions to Atlanta. 0:02:19.830 --> 0:02:22.370 And Tyler Perry had just opened up the Tyler Perry Studios. 0:02:22.550 --> 0:02:25.510 So a lot of productions had moved from LA to Atlanta. 0:02:25.570 --> 0:02:28.340 And it just seemed like, yo, we moved out here. 0:02:28.740 --> 0:02:32.680 There's no in-person auditions. We don't have no village. I 0:02:32.720 --> 0:02:34.300 think it might be the best thing for us to 0:02:34.320 --> 0:02:37.710 go back east. And that's exactly what we did. And 0:02:37.730 --> 0:02:39.930 when we get back, we're going to break it down. 0:02:39.970 --> 0:02:44.429 But before we get back, we have a song that 0:02:44.450 --> 0:02:45.989 we want to sing for y'all. And this is a 0:02:46.010 --> 0:02:49.130 collective song. Matt, since this was your idea. 0:02:49.150 --> 0:02:50.109 It's giving a choir. 0:02:51.230 --> 0:02:52.510 You want to clear it out? 0:02:52.530 --> 0:02:53.190 Who's the director? 0:02:53.210 --> 0:02:55.910 I got hoes. 0:02:55.950 --> 0:02:56.410 Hey. 0:02:56.830 --> 0:02:58.490 I got hoes. 0:02:59.110 --> 0:03:00.570 In different area. 0:03:01.470 --> 0:03:02.330 Area. 0:03:02.470 --> 0:03:02.990 Area. 0:03:03.270 --> 0:03:05.490 Coast. 0:03:05.590 --> 0:03:06.370 I got no hoes. 0:03:06.610 --> 0:03:08.530 I got hoes. 0:03:08.650 --> 0:03:11.989 In different area. Area. 0:03:12.190 --> 0:03:12.660 Area. 0:03:12.900 --> 0:03:13.240 Coast. 0:03:13.410 --> 0:03:17.600 I got hoes. That's not why we moved back to Atlanta. 0:03:17.620 --> 0:03:19.079 I ain't have no hoes. 0:03:19.560 --> 0:03:20.780 We had goals. 0:03:22.460 --> 0:03:26.160 Goals. 0:03:26.960 --> 0:03:28.420 Let's take a quick break, and when we get back, 0:03:28.460 --> 0:03:30.680 we're going to discuss moving, the right time to move, 0:03:31.000 --> 0:03:32.100 and what to be prepared for. 0:03:32.360 --> 0:03:33.220 Relocation. 0:03:33.240 --> 0:03:39.300 All right, we're back. But before we dive into relocation 0:03:39.440 --> 0:03:42.180 and everybody give their story and their perspective, we want 0:03:42.200 --> 0:03:43.880 to know what's the op or no ops that we 0:03:43.920 --> 0:03:44.780 have for today, Tribs? 0:03:46.010 --> 0:03:49.670 Every time you say op or no op, I be like, damn, 0:03:49.910 --> 0:03:51.050 I forgot why I'm here. 0:03:52.410 --> 0:03:54.590 Like, what the hell is going on? Okay. 0:03:55.070 --> 0:03:58.410 Something I read on the Washington Post today is California 0:03:58.490 --> 0:04:02.270 is set to ban addictive social media features to protect teens. 0:04:02.610 --> 0:04:03.170 Hell yeah. 0:04:04.010 --> 0:04:04.670 Isn't that crazy? 0:04:04.730 --> 0:04:07.510 I don't know what those addictive features are because this 0:04:07.650 --> 0:04:09.120 article is behind a paywall. 0:04:10.720 --> 0:04:13.600 That's a fact. 0:04:13.620 --> 0:04:15.980 I'm saving my $ 4. 99 a month so I can buy 0:04:16.000 --> 0:04:16.340 a house. 0:04:16.360 --> 0:04:18.200 Come on, Tripp. 0:04:18.260 --> 0:04:22.020 Look at you already implementing strategy. 0:04:22.060 --> 0:04:25.280 Cutting out reading one article at a time. 0:04:25.300 --> 0:04:26.640 Tripp, you got the article on your phone right now? 0:04:27.080 --> 0:04:30.080 I have the Instagram caption. 0:04:30.100 --> 0:04:31.980 Go to the article on the link and then go 0:04:32.000 --> 0:04:35.279 to the menu button in your browser and then press 0:04:35.460 --> 0:04:37.460 show reader and see if the article shows. 0:04:37.480 --> 0:04:37.540 Oh. 0:04:38.380 --> 0:04:41.530 Matt be knowing this is a homeowner. I'm going to 0:04:42.029 --> 0:04:42.870 save this money. 0:04:42.950 --> 0:04:47.010 That's the type of shit. And then disable the JavaScript. 0:04:47.029 --> 0:04:48.909 Showing the reader might just do it for you. 0:04:48.970 --> 0:04:51.070 This the type of shit you know when you own 0:04:51.130 --> 0:04:51.750 a house? 0:04:51.970 --> 0:04:53.669 Yeah, you know how to get past articles. 0:04:53.710 --> 0:04:56.540 You just need to read one article like that enough 0:04:56.620 --> 0:04:58.260 to Google how to get past it. 0:04:58.200 --> 0:04:58.640 And you good. 0:04:59.290 --> 0:05:00.270 Save your $ 4. 99. 0:05:00.070 --> 0:05:02.620 I usually could just Google, like, what was in the 0:05:02.660 --> 0:05:03.660 article they were summarizing. 0:05:03.680 --> 0:05:05.080 So how badly do we want it? I mean, well, 0:05:05.100 --> 0:05:07.340 I'm trying to think of what addictive features. I think 0:05:07.440 --> 0:05:10.419 social media in general has an addictive nature. Are there 0:05:10.440 --> 0:05:11.160 certain features, though? 0:05:11.600 --> 0:05:14.820 Oh, for sure. Likes, number one. But the forever feed. 0:05:15.180 --> 0:05:15.420 Yes. 0:05:15.480 --> 0:05:17.580 Yes. The forever feed. The forever feed. 0:05:17.600 --> 0:05:18.120 It was a wrap. 0:05:18.380 --> 0:05:19.840 Your mental went down. Wait, wait. 0:05:19.860 --> 0:05:20.560 What's the forever feed? 0:05:20.600 --> 0:05:23.880 The doom scrolling. The doom scrolling. Your feed, when Instagram 0:05:23.940 --> 0:05:25.930 first came around, it stopped at a certain point. 0:05:26.130 --> 0:05:26.270 Right. 0:05:26.580 --> 0:05:28.589 Then they introduce the update where it just keeps going. 0:05:28.690 --> 0:05:31.070 Do you remember when it stopped? I remember when it stopped. 0:05:31.330 --> 0:05:34.610 You used to follow people and your feed would only 0:05:34.650 --> 0:05:38.330 post you when somebody that you followed posted something new. 0:05:38.430 --> 0:05:40.950 So once you've seen everything that someone posted new, it 0:05:40.990 --> 0:05:43.650 would stop. But now you don't even see the people 0:05:43.690 --> 0:05:48.000 you follow. They just give you suggestions endlessly. So every 0:05:48.020 --> 0:05:50.200 time you swipe up, it's something new and that's addictive. 0:05:50.400 --> 0:05:52.660 I feel like it started with Facebook. Facebook was the first. 0:05:52.720 --> 0:05:54.560 No, Instagram started with the endless feed. 0:05:54.920 --> 0:05:55.760 Facebook first. 0:05:56.600 --> 0:05:58.700 They were suggesting other people's stuff? 0:05:58.720 --> 0:06:00.020 You could pull up on Facebook. 0:06:00.250 --> 0:06:01.810 Can we Google this and find out? 0:06:02.350 --> 0:06:04.510 Let's find out what they are. But I wanted to know, 0:06:04.550 --> 0:06:07.630 what's your op on what is addictive on this? 0:06:07.710 --> 0:06:09.409 Oh, that's great. I think it's a good idea. 0:06:09.930 --> 0:06:14.250 It needs to not be only children. 0:06:15.089 --> 0:06:21.670 I would like it too. Please. Because it's addictive on purpose. 0:06:22.170 --> 0:06:24.930 The whole goal is for it to keep us on 0:06:24.950 --> 0:06:27.969 the app long enough so that people could, uh, sell 0:06:28.050 --> 0:06:29.590 us ads so they can make money. 0:06:30.470 --> 0:06:32.360 I don't want that feature. I might just change. 0:06:32.190 --> 0:06:33.780 My account to be 13 years old so I could 0:06:33.800 --> 0:06:34.200 get that. 0:06:34.880 --> 0:06:36.780 So, so I could use that too, because it's, it's, 0:06:37.320 --> 0:06:37.880 it's predatory. 0:06:38.980 --> 0:06:41.400 There is actually an answer to that question who invented 0:06:41.440 --> 0:06:44.170 the endless feed known as the infinite scroll. It was 0:06:44.210 --> 0:06:47.990 created in 2006 by interface designer and, uh, entrepreneur. 0:06:49.070 --> 0:06:50.570 Um, Azza Raskin. 0:06:50.850 --> 0:06:53.230 He built the design pattern to remove the friction of 0:06:53.290 --> 0:06:55.730 clicking next page, intending it as a smoother way to 0:06:55.810 --> 0:07:00.350 browse web content. But it was an unintended result for 0:07:00.390 --> 0:07:05.460 social media platforms to adopt that design. And he then 0:07:05.520 --> 0:07:09.400 went on to co-found the Center for Humane Technology Foundation. 0:07:10.170 --> 0:07:13.670 Because he has expressed regret for inventing the feature that 0:07:13.710 --> 0:07:14.970 drives compulsive scrolling. 0:07:15.950 --> 0:07:18.720 That always happens. Oppenheimer felt regret after he made the 0:07:18.740 --> 0:07:21.560 atomic bomb. Everybody got regret after the fact. But my 0:07:21.660 --> 0:07:25.000 op for her, her op or no op was, we 0:07:25.020 --> 0:07:25.960 too late to the party anyway. 0:07:26.560 --> 0:07:28.600 I was going to say, how do you do that? 0:07:28.660 --> 0:07:31.550 How do you go about implementing it? What would be 0:07:31.560 --> 0:07:32.770 the implementation? 0:07:32.910 --> 0:07:34.430 A parent would do it. A parent would say, yo, 0:07:34.450 --> 0:07:37.750 give me your phone. You're only 13. Put restrictions for them, 13. 0:07:37.750 --> 0:07:40.070 And then The child now is like, dang, I can't. 0:07:40.150 --> 0:07:40.710 You know what I'm saying? 0:07:40.730 --> 0:07:43.290 So what would the restriction be? Like, you can only see, 0:07:43.530 --> 0:07:46.590 for example, on your feed, people you follow? Going back 0:07:46.630 --> 0:07:47.470 to them, maybe? 0:07:47.490 --> 0:07:48.750 I think there should be a timeline. 0:07:48.770 --> 0:07:49.510 I mean, yeah. 0:07:49.530 --> 0:07:51.130 If you use your time for the day, you don't 0:07:51.170 --> 0:07:52.490 scroll for a certain amount of hours, it cuts off. 0:07:52.510 --> 0:07:53.210 It just locks the app. 0:07:53.230 --> 0:07:55.310 And it renews at the next 24 hours. 0:07:55.370 --> 0:07:55.790 Yeah. 0:07:55.970 --> 0:07:56.610 I agree with that. 0:07:56.650 --> 0:07:58.170 This is my problem with TikTok. 0:07:58.290 --> 0:08:01.010 I can't even open the TikTok app because I will 0:08:01.120 --> 0:08:03.760 sit on TikTok for hours at a time. So I 0:08:03.780 --> 0:08:07.240 just don't open it because it's immediately addicting. 0:08:07.810 --> 0:08:10.030 And TikTok is built in to show you the for 0:08:10.070 --> 0:08:10.610 you page. 0:08:10.930 --> 0:08:11.270 Yeah. 0:08:11.330 --> 0:08:12.190 Not even your friends first. 0:08:12.330 --> 0:08:12.810 Exactly. 0:08:12.880 --> 0:08:15.180 So you're seeing like all the stuff that you want 0:08:15.200 --> 0:08:19.280 to see. And I don't scroll that much on Instagram, 0:08:19.320 --> 0:08:21.760 but that damn TikTok, it will. 0:08:21.640 --> 0:08:22.080 Suck you in. 0:08:22.100 --> 0:08:24.260 I'll be forgetting what the hell is going on. I've 0:08:24.680 --> 0:08:26.620 been on TikTok one time and looked up, it's five 0:08:26.660 --> 0:08:29.059 o'clock in the morning. Feels like it was two minutes. 0:08:29.420 --> 0:08:30.020 What? 0:08:30.080 --> 0:08:30.380 Yeah. 0:08:31.340 --> 0:08:33.640 You know, I think people need to understand, like once 0:08:33.679 --> 0:08:37.550 we said, once something becomes an industry, it's lost its purpose, right? 0:08:37.820 --> 0:08:40.720 Whoever created social media created it for people to stay connected. 0:08:41.370 --> 0:08:43.630 It was never created for people to sell you ads. 0:08:44.010 --> 0:08:45.090 It was to stay connected. 0:08:45.150 --> 0:08:48.490 So now, and I think Elon Musk talked about this, 0:08:50.650 --> 0:08:54.250 they created bots, right, on purpose because. 0:08:54.070 --> 0:08:55.530 Bots create engagement. 0:08:56.030 --> 0:08:58.610 If a bot comes onto your page on X, right, 0:08:58.750 --> 0:09:02.080 and starts to make comments, people typically engage with the bot. 0:09:02.580 --> 0:09:05.750 The more engagement makes the post go higher. The more 0:09:05.800 --> 0:09:07.900 people watching it, the more ads you can run through it. 0:09:08.250 --> 0:09:10.030 If you think about it, social media has lost its 0:09:10.130 --> 0:09:13.689 whole entire purpose. It was only supposed to be about sharing. 0:09:13.830 --> 0:09:15.949 And what Josh said is the truth. It's gone from 0:09:16.010 --> 0:09:18.510 sharing to now getting people on there so they can 0:09:18.550 --> 0:09:21.990 sell you ads. If you're a parent, you never want 0:09:22.010 --> 0:09:25.290 to put your child in an environment where someone can 0:09:25.330 --> 0:09:26.430 constantly sell them stuff. 0:09:27.010 --> 0:09:28.970 So I think there do need to be restrictions because 0:09:29.010 --> 0:09:31.620 social media is no longer doing what it was intended. 0:09:32.270 --> 0:09:34.810 I mean, did y'all watch Nickelodeon growing up? 0:09:35.280 --> 0:09:35.520 Yeah. 0:09:35.540 --> 0:09:39.260 Bro, Nickelodeon used to be selling you everything. I used 0:09:39.300 --> 0:09:42.560 to be like, I want that. Cereals, toys. 0:09:42.620 --> 0:09:43.359 Cereal and toys. 0:09:43.600 --> 0:09:46.700 Nerf guns. And candies. 0:09:46.880 --> 0:09:47.080 Yes. 0:09:47.100 --> 0:09:47.620 Yeah. 0:09:48.580 --> 0:09:50.330 They was making our cartoons back in the day just 0:09:50.350 --> 0:09:54.850 to sell us the toys. Yep. I saw Transformers was 0:09:55.030 --> 0:09:57.990 actually the toy first. Then it came out with the cartoon. 0:09:58.410 --> 0:10:00.380 And the cartoon was only there so they could sell 0:10:00.559 --> 0:10:01.080 the toy. 0:10:01.540 --> 0:10:05.340 The saddest thing, PBS is probably one of the most 0:10:05.540 --> 0:10:08.860 useful broadcast networks we have, if not the most useful. 0:10:09.480 --> 0:10:12.590 And the only way that PBS survives is because of. 0:10:12.880 --> 0:10:14.170 They're able to sell Sesame Street toys. 0:10:17.990 --> 0:10:24.230 Sesame Street is the only program on PBS that has licensing. 0:10:24.410 --> 0:10:28.959 So they licensed the program to Netflix. They licensed it 0:10:28.980 --> 0:10:31.699 to Hulu. That's the only way PBS can survive. 0:10:32.660 --> 0:10:34.000 Yeah. It's fucked up. 0:10:34.020 --> 0:10:36.480 That's why Reading Rainbow couldn't survive because they didn't have 0:10:36.540 --> 0:10:38.120 anything they could sell. 0:10:38.640 --> 0:10:40.400 And the whole point. 0:10:40.200 --> 0:10:44.320 Of public access TV is that they don't run off ads. 0:10:44.920 --> 0:10:47.170 They don't use ad dollars. They don't really sell you anything. 0:10:47.190 --> 0:10:48.010 They use donors. 0:10:48.190 --> 0:10:53.010 It's basically like cooperatively owned broadcasting. 0:10:53.150 --> 0:10:54.510 But they cut the funding to it as well. 0:10:54.950 --> 0:10:59.309 Yeah, but the government doesn't really fund that much. 0:11:00.170 --> 0:11:01.010 But every penny counts. 0:11:01.330 --> 0:11:01.970 Yeah, yeah. 0:11:02.910 --> 0:11:04.849 I think if people start to realize, though, that everything 0:11:04.890 --> 0:11:08.610 is about ads. Think about how streaming started. Streaming started 0:11:08.630 --> 0:11:09.350 because people were. 0:11:09.270 --> 0:11:11.260 Tired of commercials. I don't want you to sell me 0:11:11.280 --> 0:11:12.360 anything in the middle of our show. 0:11:12.820 --> 0:11:14.679 Now you're watching your streaming thing and they put an 0:11:14.780 --> 0:11:16.400 ad in there and you have to pay a premium 0:11:16.420 --> 0:11:16.950 to get no ads. 0:11:17.000 --> 0:11:17.860 Oh my God. 0:11:18.220 --> 0:11:21.740 And I pay for no ads on like every streaming 0:11:21.840 --> 0:11:27.280 service that I have. And I know it's crazy. It's 0:11:27.300 --> 0:11:28.179 so insane. 0:11:28.620 --> 0:11:31.370 And every time I have to talk about this, I'm. 0:11:31.390 --> 0:11:33.270 Going to call my brother and cut his ass out 0:11:33.370 --> 0:11:37.060 after this because My brother has all my passwords. The 0:11:37.240 --> 0:11:39.439 only thing I said, just pay me $ 20 a month. 0:11:40.360 --> 0:11:42.460 Give me $ 20 a month to go toward the Hulu. 0:11:42.480 --> 0:11:45.380 Towards it. Just towards the Hulu. 0:11:45.580 --> 0:11:47.480 If that payment don't go through, he be in my 0:11:47.500 --> 0:11:50.240 phone like, what happened to your $ 20? 0:11:50.179 --> 0:11:53.679 You should try him just because. Change the password or something. 0:11:53.720 --> 0:11:55.120 Call your brother and tell him. 0:11:55.340 --> 0:11:57.900 I did that with my dad. He would call me. 0:11:57.920 --> 0:11:58.210 Call him. 0:11:59.300 --> 0:12:01.400 We shared a voodoo account. 0:12:01.460 --> 0:12:02.099 Voodoo account. 0:12:02.120 --> 0:12:04.540 We shared a voodoo account. And my kids would go 0:12:04.590 --> 0:12:07.130 on voodoo and they see a movie. And the movie 0:12:07.150 --> 0:12:08.490 cost four dollars. And he hit me. 0:12:09.230 --> 0:12:12.780 Hey bro, the boys bought the Michael Jackson movie. 0:12:13.500 --> 0:12:15.000 I'm like, so why are you telling me it cost 0:12:15.020 --> 0:12:15.459 four dollars? 0:12:15.790 --> 0:12:18.579 Okay, we open up every app in our house, right, 0:12:18.620 --> 0:12:20.979 that we have, and next to my name or Kate's name, 0:12:21.020 --> 0:12:23.680 we see Scoop. So I'm like, wait a minute, you 0:12:23.740 --> 0:12:27.860 had one app that my kids was buying videos on, and. 0:12:27.820 --> 0:12:30.059 You calling me every time, I said no. 0:12:30.559 --> 0:12:33.730 And we changed the password, and I got my own voodoo. 0:12:34.110 --> 0:12:36.830 Somehow he infiltrated his way back into all my apps. 0:12:37.370 --> 0:12:39.630 So now my pop's face pops up on everything. 0:12:39.770 --> 0:12:41.490 There was one person that came to our house one time, 0:12:41.550 --> 0:12:43.770 I won't mention names, but he was just like, damn, 0:12:43.790 --> 0:12:45.540 y'all got ads on y'all Hulu or something? 0:12:45.559 --> 0:12:45.960 It was me. 0:12:46.340 --> 0:12:48.400 No, it wasn't you. 0:12:48.480 --> 0:12:50.600 I know I said it. I know I was like, 0:12:50.620 --> 0:12:51.900 am I getting something? 0:12:51.940 --> 0:12:54.590 Yeah, I'm like, we got ads. And then DeVal literally 0:12:54.610 --> 0:12:56.950 looked at him and was just like, my nigga. I'm 0:12:56.990 --> 0:12:58.830 over here having to give you money. 0:12:59.190 --> 0:13:00.550 I'm having to give. 0:13:00.270 --> 0:13:02.960 Your mom money. And you're talking about ass. 0:13:02.970 --> 0:13:05.349 I was kind of like, yo, bro. And he was pissed, too. 0:13:05.510 --> 0:13:07.500 He's like, this is why I take care of your ass. 0:13:07.540 --> 0:13:09.010 Because you don't have ass. 0:13:09.040 --> 0:13:11.900 It's always the broke ones, man. It's always the broke ones. 0:13:11.920 --> 0:13:13.520 You know what he said to me? I knew I 0:13:13.540 --> 0:13:17.670 should have logged into my own thing. And now you're 0:13:17.690 --> 0:13:20.510 shaming me because I don't got no ads removed. 0:13:20.610 --> 0:13:21.670 I was like, you know what? 0:13:22.080 --> 0:13:23.910 Watch what you want to watch. I'm not going to 0:13:23.960 --> 0:13:26.300 remove my ads. To this day, I still got ads. 0:13:26.400 --> 0:13:28.480 I got ads, bro. 0:13:28.640 --> 0:13:34.220 I switched to having ads on Hulu, but it wouldn't play. 0:13:34.320 --> 0:13:36.200 Everything was freeze on my TV. 0:13:36.280 --> 0:13:40.699 I couldn't watch it. It's a scam. It does that 0:13:40.740 --> 0:13:45.280 with Netflix, too. Like insurance. Especially if you downgrade. 0:13:45.300 --> 0:13:48.209 The biggest scam is YouTube. You could pay for YouTube 0:13:48.250 --> 0:13:50.670 Premium to get away from ads, but then you got 0:13:50.690 --> 0:13:52.610 the built-in ads in the videos already. 0:13:52.650 --> 0:13:54.070 Yeah, yeah, yeah. 0:13:54.309 --> 0:13:54.850 You right. 0:13:54.890 --> 0:13:57.329 And it's like $ 80. 0:13:56.210 --> 0:13:58.700 Already to get rid of ads. And now you can't, 0:13:58.780 --> 0:14:01.040 if you don't pay for YouTube Premium, you can't even 0:14:01.059 --> 0:14:01.820 skip the ads no more. 0:14:01.840 --> 0:14:04.660 You see how they do us, bro? You see how 0:14:04.679 --> 0:14:05.240 they do us? 0:14:05.520 --> 0:14:06.300 Yeah. 0:14:06.400 --> 0:14:08.750 I mean, you have to watch the ads, though. You 0:14:08.790 --> 0:14:09.429 know what I'm saying? 0:14:09.450 --> 0:14:11.630 That'd be my bathroom break. 0:14:11.770 --> 0:14:15.240 Yo, me and KB watching the show. We watching Hulu. 0:14:15.280 --> 0:14:17.360 Let that commercial pop up. We got 90 seconds. Go 0:14:17.860 --> 0:14:19.340 to the bathroom. Go get some chicken. 0:14:19.420 --> 0:14:23.360 I wouldn't mind the ads, but it's the freezing and stuff. 0:14:23.400 --> 0:14:26.020 I can't take that. I couldn't get through the season 0:14:26.100 --> 0:14:28.600 of Reasonable Doubt. It was pissing me off. 0:14:28.800 --> 0:14:29.660 It was freezing for real? 0:14:29.720 --> 0:14:32.220 Yeah, it was. And then it went and played. 0:14:32.260 --> 0:14:34.860 The lady from Apple that got killed. Not killed, my bad. 0:14:34.880 --> 0:14:35.320 Sorry, lady. 0:14:35.340 --> 0:14:37.020 You didn't get killed. She got fired. 0:14:37.600 --> 0:14:40.640 And she started outing Apple saying that the minute a 0:14:40.680 --> 0:14:43.190 new upgrade comes in, they send a bug to everybody's 0:14:43.250 --> 0:14:45.630 phone to make you feel like you need the upgrade. 0:14:45.650 --> 0:14:48.530 And everybody was like, man, we knew that already. 0:14:48.570 --> 0:14:53.210 At least you confirmed it. They doing that to Hulu. Hulu, 0:14:53.230 --> 0:14:53.740 we see you. 0:14:53.880 --> 0:14:59.320 Yeah, they are. They definitely freaking are. And it's not cute. No. 0:14:59.440 --> 0:15:00.320 Here's another thing. 0:15:00.800 --> 0:15:03.400 My friend's been trying to get me to relocate to 0:15:03.460 --> 0:15:04.960 New York City for a long time. 0:15:05.660 --> 0:15:05.800 And. 0:15:06.440 --> 0:15:07.960 I heard recently that. 0:15:07.860 --> 0:15:12.000 Lil' Kim is doing a one night only concert to celebrate, 0:15:12.020 --> 0:15:14.660 I think it's 25 years, 30 years of hardcore. 0:15:16.520 --> 0:15:17.710 With the orchestra? 0:15:17.920 --> 0:15:18.470 That's your girl. 0:15:18.520 --> 0:15:18.950 I know. 0:15:19.890 --> 0:15:20.970 The reason why she fresh. 0:15:20.990 --> 0:15:21.970 That's why I brought it up. 0:15:21.990 --> 0:15:24.530 Go ahead. Sing your song. You used to be what? 0:15:24.970 --> 0:15:25.710 He did it. 0:15:26.110 --> 0:15:29.300 That was the list of it. 0:15:29.330 --> 0:15:31.030 Every time that song come on. 0:15:31.170 --> 0:15:32.950 K be like. 0:15:33.010 --> 0:15:36.130 Yeah, that's my shit. 0:15:36.150 --> 0:15:36.670 Yes, ma'am. 0:15:37.430 --> 0:15:39.180 She went a little too hard on that one. 0:15:39.480 --> 0:15:39.750 Yeah. 0:15:41.700 --> 0:15:43.760 Op or no op, we have been talking about a 0:15:43.820 --> 0:15:47.100 team outing. And I keep bringing up, you know, I 0:15:47.100 --> 0:15:49.040 keep making suggestions on where we should go. 0:15:49.060 --> 0:15:50.700 It doesn't have to be an island. It could be 0:15:50.740 --> 0:15:53.000 right there in Brooklyn to see Kimmy. 0:15:53.020 --> 0:15:56.220 I would go see Kimmy. I would go see Kimmy. 0:15:56.380 --> 0:15:59.000 Nah. I'm not going to use it for that. 0:15:59.780 --> 0:16:02.180 Oh, it was just me and Kadeem? Wow, that'll be fun. 0:16:02.320 --> 0:16:04.740 A gay with K. 0:16:04.760 --> 0:16:07.740 She's trying to take your girl, bro. She's trying to 0:16:07.760 --> 0:16:08.680 take your girl, man. 0:16:08.980 --> 0:16:11.870 Tribble been trying to take my girl. Where you been driving? 0:16:11.970 --> 0:16:13.130 This started back in LA. 0:16:13.250 --> 0:16:16.530 And we can do an episode of, what's it called? 0:16:16.690 --> 0:16:17.410 A gay with K on the road? 0:16:17.430 --> 0:16:18.870 Dykes, Drive-Ins, and Dimes. 0:16:18.970 --> 0:16:21.370 And I'll be the dime. Thank you. 0:16:21.910 --> 0:16:23.120 We can do an episode. 0:16:23.220 --> 0:16:25.700 I remember the first time I met Tribble, we came 0:16:25.720 --> 0:16:28.600 to the office. And she was like, hey, my name's Tribble, 0:16:28.620 --> 0:16:31.140 you know. They be like, I think you cool, boy. 0:16:31.260 --> 0:16:36.970 Kato? You said Kato? And I was like, at the time, 0:16:37.000 --> 0:16:39.050 I didn't even know he was gay, neither. And I 0:16:39.070 --> 0:16:41.330 was like, yeah, K, my favorite, too. Then I found 0:16:41.370 --> 0:16:43.110 out Triple was gay, and I was like, wait a minute. 0:16:43.670 --> 0:16:44.230 Hold up. 0:16:44.270 --> 0:16:44.810 Wait a minute. 0:16:48.430 --> 0:16:48.960 Oh my God. 0:16:48.970 --> 0:16:50.710 So tell me, did you relocate just to be closer 0:16:50.730 --> 0:16:51.310 to me trouble? 0:16:51.570 --> 0:16:53.090 Absolutely. Absolutely. 0:16:53.150 --> 0:16:53.410 I did. 0:16:53.430 --> 0:16:54.490 You were the number one thought. 0:16:54.730 --> 0:16:55.470 Watch you trouble. 0:16:55.610 --> 0:16:58.550 You know what? This relocation was actually a little bit harder. 0:16:58.610 --> 0:17:01.550 So I've lived in, well, I'm from Cincinnati, moved to 0:17:01.600 --> 0:17:04.600 Columbus for college. Then I moved to Chicago. Then I 0:17:04.640 --> 0:17:07.240 moved to LA. Then I moved to Rhode Island. 0:17:07.480 --> 0:17:10.280 Big mistake. Then I moved to Atlanta. 0:17:11.380 --> 0:17:15.080 Now the move from Rhode Island to Atlanta is, was 0:17:15.119 --> 0:17:18.080 the only one that was like, I'm running from something. 0:17:19.080 --> 0:17:24.780 You know what I'm saying? Yeah, she did. We don't 0:17:24.820 --> 0:17:25.140 have to. 0:17:25.280 --> 0:17:26.880 You don't have to do that. 0:17:27.900 --> 0:17:30.350 I told you so's are not necessary at this point. 0:17:31.390 --> 0:17:31.730 But. 0:17:33.030 --> 0:17:37.609 My ancestors have punished me enough. We told you so. 0:17:38.710 --> 0:17:40.629 I remember when I told y'all who I was dating, 0:17:40.650 --> 0:17:45.470 y'all were like, Nigga, what? What? Everybody was confused. Anyway. 0:17:45.490 --> 0:17:46.840 It didn't seem like your type at all. 0:17:47.040 --> 0:17:47.730 No, it wasn't. 0:17:47.780 --> 0:17:48.470 Nothing about it. 0:17:48.600 --> 0:17:50.680 It wasn't. Nothing about it. I don't know. I think 0:17:50.720 --> 0:17:51.919 I was in psychosis. 0:17:52.720 --> 0:17:53.240 You could have been. 0:17:53.260 --> 0:17:53.620 Quite possibly. 0:17:53.640 --> 0:17:55.340 Or you just searching for something different. 0:17:55.380 --> 0:17:57.859 I was scared. I had that breast cancer scare. And 0:17:57.880 --> 0:18:00.540 I was like, not dating. I hadn't dated anybody for 0:18:00.640 --> 0:18:02.980 years at that point. And I was like, let me 0:18:03.040 --> 0:18:04.500 try because I do want to get married. 0:18:04.580 --> 0:18:06.500 I'm getting older. I almost died. 0:18:06.520 --> 0:18:09.060 I want some stability. 0:18:09.080 --> 0:18:11.540 And this was like the first person I had. ran 0:18:11.580 --> 0:18:14.560 across after that anyway kind of just dove into it 0:18:14.820 --> 0:18:16.040 yeah that's not the point of the story. 0:18:15.920 --> 0:18:17.439 No regrets no regrets bro. 0:18:17.320 --> 0:18:19.860 No regrets Rhode Island was beautiful I had a great 0:18:19.900 --> 0:18:24.020 time um but this moving to Atlanta was the only 0:18:24.060 --> 0:18:27.740 place I feel like I didn't make a conscious choice 0:18:27.850 --> 0:18:30.010 at that time like I always knew I was gonna 0:18:30.250 --> 0:18:33.810 end up here but um it was like not as 0:18:33.930 --> 0:18:36.590 planned out as every other move even though every other 0:18:36.630 --> 0:18:39.830 move was also just kind of quick and but I 0:18:39.869 --> 0:18:41.990 had like something I was going there for. 0:18:41.890 --> 0:18:43.580 So what's up what's the plan and I'm glad you 0:18:43.630 --> 0:18:45.960 you chose you chose to tell that story because it's 0:18:45.980 --> 0:18:47.920 a good transition but what do you think is a 0:18:47.960 --> 0:18:49.959 good plan because you move so often like what do 0:18:49.980 --> 0:18:51.859 you think is a good plan to I'm moving to 0:18:51.880 --> 0:18:53.879 another city I don't know anybody is it. 0:18:53.920 --> 0:18:57.020 Yeah is it typically because you outgrew a place like 0:18:57.080 --> 0:18:59.760 what would be the reasoning behind like the moves you've made. 0:18:59.640 --> 0:19:01.770 So far yeah that's a big part of it so 0:19:01.790 --> 0:19:04.230 uh when I graduated college I knew I wanted to 0:19:04.270 --> 0:19:07.130 move to a bigger city And I wanted to live 0:19:07.170 --> 0:19:08.850 in New York, but I was too scared. So I 0:19:08.890 --> 0:19:11.389 was like, Chicago would be a happy medium. So I 0:19:11.430 --> 0:19:15.690 found a job there first. I hadn't even really visited Chicago, 0:19:15.760 --> 0:19:19.400 but you know. And then for LA, I had started 0:19:19.440 --> 0:19:22.200 doing comedy in Chicago. I had made my first film 0:19:22.600 --> 0:19:25.080 and I was on the radio and I started thinking 0:19:25.119 --> 0:19:26.820 about the future. 0:19:26.600 --> 0:19:27.520 Of what I was doing. 0:19:27.560 --> 0:19:32.090 And I was like, I don't, could be too big 0:19:32.150 --> 0:19:35.330 for Chicago. Like Chicago, a lot of people stay local, 0:19:35.390 --> 0:19:38.100 which is great. People are so successful. The art community 0:19:38.119 --> 0:19:42.820 is amazing. But I'm like, most comics, once they do Chicago, 0:19:42.859 --> 0:19:44.530 they either go to New York or LA. So I 0:19:44.550 --> 0:19:46.670 can move to LA. But I also had to move 0:19:46.690 --> 0:19:47.830 to LA because I got. 0:19:47.710 --> 0:19:48.810 A promotion at Stitcher. 0:19:48.850 --> 0:19:50.460 So you also had to- job. 0:19:50.540 --> 0:19:54.080 Yeah. I had a job first. Always have a job first. 0:19:54.180 --> 0:19:56.159 Always have a job first. Say that again. 0:19:56.240 --> 0:19:58.179 Always have a job first. Even when I moved to 0:19:58.220 --> 0:20:01.409 Rhode Island, I was working remotely. I still picked up 0:20:01.710 --> 0:20:06.270 a second job, you know, like just to have resources 0:20:06.450 --> 0:20:09.520 in that area and And I ended up being able 0:20:09.560 --> 0:20:14.330 to connect resources from Chicago in Rhode Island in order 0:20:14.369 --> 0:20:15.090 to get that job. 0:20:15.150 --> 0:20:16.010 So it makes sense. 0:20:16.130 --> 0:20:16.430 Yeah. 0:20:16.830 --> 0:20:18.370 And that's the thing people often don't do. 0:20:18.650 --> 0:20:21.570 You know, oftentimes people ask me like, yo, I see 0:20:21.590 --> 0:20:24.669 that you and Kadeem, y'all moved to Atlanta and I 0:20:24.690 --> 0:20:25.410 have to slow them down. 0:20:25.430 --> 0:20:27.580 And I say, first, before you say we just moved 0:20:27.600 --> 0:20:29.860 to Atlanta. No, we didn't. First, we moved to LA 0:20:29.900 --> 0:20:30.879 and then moved to Atlanta. 0:20:30.900 --> 0:20:34.840 But in both instances, we had opportunities prepared for us 0:20:34.880 --> 0:20:35.680 when we got there. 0:20:35.740 --> 0:20:35.920 Yeah. 0:20:36.230 --> 0:20:40.210 The hardest thing, I mean, I think the biggest misconception is, yo, 0:20:40.270 --> 0:20:40.970 Atlanta's the Mecca. 0:20:40.990 --> 0:20:42.859 I'm moving to Atlanta and I'm going to build my life. 0:20:43.040 --> 0:20:45.280 If you don't know anybody here or have a plan, 0:20:45.880 --> 0:20:48.720 I wouldn't suggest anybody just move to a city without 0:20:48.760 --> 0:20:49.060 a plan. 0:20:49.080 --> 0:20:52.790 That's difficult. And we hear stories like Taraji always tells 0:20:52.850 --> 0:20:54.409 a story about her and her son moved to L.A. 0:20:54.430 --> 0:20:56.369 She didn't have that much money in her pocket. 0:20:56.930 --> 0:21:01.290 Taraji is an outlier. And that's an anomaly. Everybody's story 0:21:01.350 --> 0:21:03.390 is not going to be like that. But I think 0:21:03.450 --> 0:21:05.320 people hear those stories and think, I'm going to do 0:21:05.359 --> 0:21:07.629 that next, which doesn't mean that it's not going to happen. 0:21:07.710 --> 0:21:10.219 But when you talk about me and Kadeem, we had 0:21:10.260 --> 0:21:12.939 a plan and we had jobs prepared and ready for us. 0:21:13.000 --> 0:21:13.760 That's why we moved. 0:21:14.240 --> 0:21:15.800 When you moved to Chicago, you said you didn't really 0:21:15.840 --> 0:21:19.200 know much about Chicago. How important is it for y'all 0:21:19.619 --> 0:21:22.820 to move to a new place and not know much 0:21:22.880 --> 0:21:24.820 about it? Do you think you need to actually be there, 0:21:24.859 --> 0:21:27.970 not as a tourist- Or not, just blindly go there 0:21:28.090 --> 0:21:30.150 and live a little bit as a resident to see, 0:21:30.170 --> 0:21:31.970 maybe rent for a bit and see. 0:21:32.350 --> 0:21:32.910 Not for me. 0:21:33.150 --> 0:21:33.520 Not for you? 0:21:33.690 --> 0:21:33.890 No. 0:21:34.100 --> 0:21:36.359 You can just blindly move. Yeah. And just figure it out. 0:21:36.440 --> 0:21:37.820 Yeah. 0:21:37.920 --> 0:21:40.540 I don't feel like we have that latitude because of 0:21:40.619 --> 0:21:41.960 the family aspect and kids. 0:21:42.020 --> 0:21:42.240 True. 0:21:42.540 --> 0:21:44.439 We have to see what's the lifestyle going to be 0:21:44.460 --> 0:21:45.160 for the kids first. 0:21:45.180 --> 0:21:47.790 That's why for me it was easy to make the 0:21:47.810 --> 0:21:49.750 jump from New York to L.A. 0:21:49.770 --> 0:21:51.850 And why we didn't stay in the middle of L.A. 0:21:51.910 --> 0:21:54.690 is because... Calabasas is more family oriented. 0:21:55.100 --> 0:21:57.280 The reason why we moved to Atlanta is because there 0:21:57.320 --> 0:21:59.560 was more space for the family and cost of living 0:21:59.580 --> 0:22:01.700 was cheaper. So for me, I got to live a 0:22:01.720 --> 0:22:04.060 place first. You know, how many times have we visited L.A.? 0:22:04.100 --> 0:22:06.040 I used to go to L.A. all the time, see 0:22:06.060 --> 0:22:06.960 Bilal before I said. 0:22:06.980 --> 0:22:07.580 Let's move there. 0:22:07.740 --> 0:22:10.000 And then we used to visit your Uncle Grantley in Atlanta. 0:22:10.200 --> 0:22:11.379 And then we was like, you know what, this is 0:22:11.400 --> 0:22:13.119 a good space. So for me, I got to at 0:22:13.160 --> 0:22:15.290 least see what the vibe is like before I go. 0:22:15.150 --> 0:22:15.590 To the city. 0:22:15.830 --> 0:22:17.490 Was that how you felt, Matt, when you were coming 0:22:17.530 --> 0:22:19.889 here to visit, going back and forth and then eventually moved? 0:22:20.010 --> 0:22:22.270 Or did you feel like you can make a life anywhere. 0:22:21.970 --> 0:22:22.430 At this point? 0:22:22.600 --> 0:22:24.439 I felt like I could make a life anywhere because 0:22:24.800 --> 0:22:27.680 I've always been a traveler. So it's just a matter 0:22:27.760 --> 0:22:29.600 of let me get here, feel it out. If I 0:22:29.619 --> 0:22:31.660 don't like it, I'm out. I don't have kids yet, 0:22:31.720 --> 0:22:33.020 so that's a major thing. 0:22:34.080 --> 0:22:36.119 And all of your movement, I know you said there 0:22:36.140 --> 0:22:38.280 was one incident where you was running from something. In Brooklyn, 0:22:38.340 --> 0:22:40.540 I was running from something, and I was running from complacency. 0:22:41.460 --> 0:22:43.590 I've talked about this on the podcast before. 0:22:44.030 --> 0:22:46.570 We were in Brooklyn doing well, enjoying what we were doing. 0:22:46.670 --> 0:22:49.210 I just wasn't happy not fulfilling my purpose. I always 0:22:49.250 --> 0:22:52.130 wanted to do TV, film on the highest level possible. 0:22:52.690 --> 0:22:54.510 And I felt like if I was going to continuously 0:22:54.550 --> 0:22:57.470 try to balance doing the gym and that, I would never. 0:22:57.290 --> 0:22:58.590 Be able to do what I want to do. 0:22:58.710 --> 0:22:58.990 Right. 0:22:59.150 --> 0:23:00.690 So for me, it was like I have to change 0:23:00.750 --> 0:23:04.770 my environment, not just to change my mindset, but also 0:23:04.850 --> 0:23:07.109 be around people who are doing the things that I 0:23:07.150 --> 0:23:07.530 want to do. 0:23:08.150 --> 0:23:09.030 That's what it was for me. 0:23:09.750 --> 0:23:10.050 L.A. 0:23:10.230 --> 0:23:13.270 Is where the producers are, the directors are, the other 0:23:13.410 --> 0:23:16.369 actors are. People think sometimes you're moving just for a job. 0:23:16.490 --> 0:23:16.710 No. 0:23:17.359 --> 0:23:19.220 My biggest thing to move to LA is if there's 0:23:19.260 --> 0:23:21.820 an event or something where I can be around people who. 0:23:21.800 --> 0:23:22.699 Are doing what I want to do. 0:23:22.740 --> 0:23:24.719 I want to be able to network and say, yo, 0:23:24.760 --> 0:23:26.919 how could I get better at this? How could I 0:23:26.980 --> 0:23:28.940 learn or meet this person to do this thing? So 0:23:28.960 --> 0:23:31.460 for me, it was just all about creating a space 0:23:31.840 --> 0:23:33.960 for myself and my career to grow so I don't 0:23:33.980 --> 0:23:34.580 be stagnant. 0:23:35.440 --> 0:23:37.460 Yeah, for me, I want to be a director. I 0:23:37.530 --> 0:23:40.830 want to do TV film, as you said. But New York, 0:23:40.990 --> 0:23:42.350 I know I wasn't going to get that there because 0:23:42.410 --> 0:23:44.560 I had a comfort zone. And I wasn't even doing 0:23:44.600 --> 0:23:45.740 video work in New York. 0:23:46.000 --> 0:23:46.300 That's right. 0:23:46.320 --> 0:23:47.760 So coming here was like, all right, we're going to 0:23:47.780 --> 0:23:48.280 dive all in. 0:23:48.619 --> 0:23:50.500 Yeah, you didn't start doing video really until you got here. 0:23:50.520 --> 0:23:51.060 Until I got here. 0:23:51.100 --> 0:23:51.459 Mm-hmm. 0:23:52.940 --> 0:23:54.980 That's crazy. That's cool, though. 0:23:55.330 --> 0:23:59.690 I feel like, yeah, one of the things we talked 0:23:59.730 --> 0:24:02.310 about in the last episode is how difficult it is 0:24:02.350 --> 0:24:04.530 to plan for the future. So I'm glad you actually 0:24:04.550 --> 0:24:07.330 brought that up because I feel like that's been my thing, too. 0:24:07.450 --> 0:24:10.910 Moving here and already having this established. Like, I wasn't 0:24:10.990 --> 0:24:13.510 starting a new job when I moved here. Mm-hmm. I 0:24:13.530 --> 0:24:15.949 already had this job. We've been doing this for a while. 0:24:16.550 --> 0:24:19.760 So it was like, there was nothing new to plan. 0:24:19.800 --> 0:24:21.359 It was kind of just like, I'm just going to 0:24:21.400 --> 0:24:24.060 be sleeping in a new place. And so lately I've 0:24:24.080 --> 0:24:28.020 been thinking about, well, what is the plan? Because being 0:24:28.040 --> 0:24:30.300 in Atlanta, I can't just be at home, you know, 0:24:30.359 --> 0:24:31.899 and I can't just be doing this. 0:24:32.480 --> 0:24:34.419 So what is the plan? Like, what do I want 0:24:34.460 --> 0:24:35.379 to make out of this place? 0:24:36.440 --> 0:24:38.119 It's funny that you say that too. And you also, 0:24:38.200 --> 0:24:39.120 you had brought up Chicago. 0:24:39.160 --> 0:24:41.450 When I think about some of the best places, comics 0:24:41.520 --> 0:24:43.460 i know anything about bernie mack they did start in 0:24:43.480 --> 0:24:46.580 chicago to go to new york la yeah so when 0:24:46.619 --> 0:24:48.840 you you just talked about wanting do you want to 0:24:48.859 --> 0:24:49.800 do comedy still. 0:24:49.940 --> 0:24:52.030 I do i just uh did stand up for the 0:24:52.070 --> 0:24:53.869 first time in two years when i was in new 0:24:53.910 --> 0:24:56.389 york yeah how did it feel it was good it 0:24:56.410 --> 0:24:59.090 felt great it felt really good yeah i've been wanting 0:24:59.170 --> 0:25:02.480 to do like you know comedy about my dead dad um. 0:25:04.440 --> 0:25:05.020 And so I did. 0:25:05.040 --> 0:25:07.980 I wrote a set that was all about my dad dying. 0:25:08.000 --> 0:25:10.140 Which is probably funny because. 0:25:09.900 --> 0:25:11.379 Of the shit you was doing on Instagram. 0:25:11.560 --> 0:25:15.500 And I'm not trying to contemplate, your dad had died 0:25:15.560 --> 0:25:17.000 and then the next day you had some of the 0:25:17.060 --> 0:25:17.960 most funniest shit. 0:25:18.580 --> 0:25:20.160 And then they was hitting me up like, your nigga 0:25:20.180 --> 0:25:23.300 Trip was hilarious. Yeah. And Kev on stage has his 0:25:23.359 --> 0:25:24.359 Grief Sucks tour. 0:25:24.560 --> 0:25:24.840 Yeah. 0:25:24.960 --> 0:25:26.580 So it's like, it's. 0:25:26.060 --> 0:25:28.740 Not doing the comedy around the grief, but it's like, 0:25:28.780 --> 0:25:29.780 this is my real life. 0:25:30.060 --> 0:25:30.320 Yeah. 0:25:30.470 --> 0:25:31.940 This is what I'm going through. I think you should. 0:25:32.080 --> 0:25:36.040 And the response was really nice because there's just like 0:25:36.080 --> 0:25:39.020 a really thin line between joy and sorrow, I think. 0:25:39.060 --> 0:25:39.300 Yeah. 0:25:39.640 --> 0:25:42.800 And so you can try to do like sad jokes 0:25:42.859 --> 0:25:44.070 and it just will be sad. 0:25:44.200 --> 0:25:44.900 You know what I'm saying? 0:25:44.930 --> 0:25:48.090 But like having the element of surprise and making people laugh, 0:25:48.130 --> 0:25:52.230 they were like, wow, like I totally felt the emotion 0:25:52.550 --> 0:25:55.190 of the grief and like I laughed really hard. 0:25:55.230 --> 0:25:55.430 So yeah. 0:25:55.890 --> 0:25:56.669 It was really good. 0:25:56.730 --> 0:25:59.890 So I'm like, okay, I want to get back on stage. 0:25:59.930 --> 0:26:01.560 I was telling somebody the other day, I was like, yeah, 0:26:01.580 --> 0:26:02.740 I want to try to get up more. And they 0:26:02.760 --> 0:26:05.420 were like, there's a big difference between trying and doing. 0:26:05.440 --> 0:26:07.200 So I'm like, damn. 0:26:07.460 --> 0:26:08.320 Everybody needs to get. 0:26:08.280 --> 0:26:09.720 Off my back. Say that one more time. 0:26:10.080 --> 0:26:12.760 There's a big difference between trying and doing. 0:26:12.940 --> 0:26:14.480 The reason why I think that's important to say is 0:26:14.500 --> 0:26:16.180 because we're talking about relocating, right? 0:26:16.600 --> 0:26:21.439 Relocating is the epitome of what? Doing. And that's the 0:26:21.500 --> 0:26:26.270 first step. Once you relocate, that's why I say, you know, relocating. 0:26:25.710 --> 0:26:27.960 Isn't all about changing your mind and change your perspective, 0:26:27.980 --> 0:26:29.420 but you have to change your environment. 0:26:29.980 --> 0:26:33.020 It puts a fire underneath you. I'm uncomfortable. I'm in 0:26:33.060 --> 0:26:36.199 a space that I'm not used to. That's really what 0:26:36.240 --> 0:26:39.800 happened to us when we moved to L.A. When we 0:26:39.840 --> 0:26:40.340 moved to L.A. 0:26:40.359 --> 0:26:42.880 Was the first time ever for. 0:26:43.970 --> 0:26:47.990 Nine years where the gym wasn't my safe haven. 0:26:48.609 --> 0:26:50.290 I always knew I could make money in the gym. 0:26:50.390 --> 0:26:52.270 I could always go out and get more clients because 0:26:52.290 --> 0:26:54.490 there were so many people waiting. I had people in 0:26:54.510 --> 0:26:57.270 the queue saying, yo, when you get some time, take 0:26:57.310 --> 0:26:59.169 me on as a client. So it felt comfortable to 0:26:59.230 --> 0:27:01.750 always be like, you know what? If all else fails, 0:27:01.850 --> 0:27:03.670 I can, I could ask six more clients and make 0:27:03.730 --> 0:27:05.639 more money so I can pay my bills and make 0:27:05.680 --> 0:27:06.520 sure my wife was good. 0:27:06.560 --> 0:27:09.200 But in having people in the queue and having to. 0:27:09.140 --> 0:27:12.400 Spend anywhere between eight to 14 hours in the gym, 0:27:12.800 --> 0:27:14.980 it didn't leave me any time to do my art. 0:27:15.280 --> 0:27:15.550 Right. 0:27:15.880 --> 0:27:17.610 And I did a two year, I started a two 0:27:17.630 --> 0:27:19.270 year conservatory at Esper Studio. 0:27:19.670 --> 0:27:20.590 Then Jackson was gone. 0:27:21.270 --> 0:27:24.100 And it was like, I had four months left and 0:27:24.140 --> 0:27:25.920 I couldn't finish because I'm like, I have to go 0:27:25.960 --> 0:27:26.440 make money. 0:27:26.540 --> 0:27:27.400 I can't sit here in. 0:27:27.340 --> 0:27:29.859 This studio and just keep doing these things. When we 0:27:29.900 --> 0:27:31.420 moved to LA, I didn't have the gym no more. 0:27:32.320 --> 0:27:35.100 So my creativity went from, oh, I got people in 0:27:35.119 --> 0:27:37.679 the queue to I got to develop more things to 0:27:37.720 --> 0:27:38.090 be able. 0:27:37.980 --> 0:27:39.420 To create content to be able. 0:27:39.609 --> 0:27:43.510 And everything started to blow up from there, mainly because 0:27:43.670 --> 0:27:46.270 I had backed myself in a little bit of a corner. 0:27:46.290 --> 0:27:49.510 So I like moving and changing environment because now it's like, yo, 0:27:49.550 --> 0:27:50.330 you sink or swim. 0:27:50.590 --> 0:27:50.790 Yeah. 0:27:50.950 --> 0:27:51.730 Yeah. Inspiration. 0:27:52.030 --> 0:27:52.250 Yeah. 0:27:52.780 --> 0:27:54.310 Have you ever moved anywhere and regretted it? 0:27:54.910 --> 0:27:55.810 Yeah. 0:27:55.830 --> 0:27:56.490 I shouldn't have did this. 0:27:56.590 --> 0:28:00.170 Hell yeah, sorry. Yeah. 0:28:00.290 --> 0:28:01.270 Which movie did you regret? 0:28:02.170 --> 0:28:02.350 L.A. 0:28:02.830 --> 0:28:03.429 Oh, just the L.A. 0:28:03.450 --> 0:28:04.210 Movie in general. 0:28:04.369 --> 0:28:07.320 And it was about the environment. Like, we moved to L.A., 0:28:07.359 --> 0:28:09.600 we had no village, and then COVID happened. 0:28:09.619 --> 0:28:10.480 Yeah, I know. And I was like. 0:28:10.740 --> 0:28:13.119 All those things aside, though, I think L.A. didn't get 0:28:13.160 --> 0:28:14.939 a fair shot with us. And we know we were 0:28:14.980 --> 0:28:16.720 moving there for a purpose. I think we had to 0:28:16.740 --> 0:28:18.440 get it out of our system. You know, like being 0:28:18.460 --> 0:28:20.370 in this industry, especially, it's like you always hear, go 0:28:20.380 --> 0:28:21.909 to L.A., go to L.A., that's where you're going to 0:28:21.950 --> 0:28:24.000 make it. So I think we had to do that 0:28:24.340 --> 0:28:26.560 and get that out of our system before we realistically 0:28:26.600 --> 0:28:28.810 came back and was like, okay. 0:28:29.030 --> 0:28:30.369 And I met y'all in LA. 0:28:30.609 --> 0:28:30.830 Yeah. 0:28:30.890 --> 0:28:32.929 And I know that I've brought a lot of joy 0:28:32.990 --> 0:28:33.590 to your lives. 0:28:33.730 --> 0:28:34.950 No, you have, Tribble. 0:28:35.310 --> 0:28:35.690 You have. 0:28:35.770 --> 0:28:36.430 It should be fun. 0:28:36.609 --> 0:28:37.710 Our adopted daughter. 0:28:37.930 --> 0:28:39.270 This is why we all together now. 0:28:39.590 --> 0:28:39.890 Yeah. 0:28:40.190 --> 0:28:41.580 Everything about LA wasn't bad. 0:28:41.650 --> 0:28:41.890 Yeah. 0:28:42.150 --> 0:28:44.440 But moving to LA away from my family and then 0:28:44.460 --> 0:28:46.580 being in quarantine, I was. 0:28:46.500 --> 0:28:50.260 Regretful because I was like, dang, man, like, I got 0:28:50.280 --> 0:28:52.200 my wife here, my mother-in-law, and my boys. 0:28:53.420 --> 0:28:56.540 And now we're forced to try to find people. And 0:28:56.600 --> 0:28:58.940 we can't go nowhere. I was like, if we was 0:28:58.980 --> 0:29:00.580 at least in New York, I could at least hit 0:29:00.620 --> 0:29:02.720 my brother, my sister. You know, we could do things. 0:29:03.160 --> 0:29:05.420 And I just felt bad. Like you said, not because 0:29:05.460 --> 0:29:07.820 of L.A., but it's like, damn, we just moved here. 0:29:07.840 --> 0:29:10.580 And all of this stuff is happening. The circumstances around everything, yeah. 0:29:10.680 --> 0:29:13.540 Or the hassle to move, child. Every time we moved cross-country, 0:29:13.580 --> 0:29:16.270 DeVal just happened to be filming that exact time that 0:29:16.310 --> 0:29:17.770 we had to move. And I had to move with 0:29:17.790 --> 0:29:20.990 the kids and my mom both times by myself. 0:29:21.010 --> 0:29:21.350 Oh, man. 0:29:21.570 --> 0:29:23.130 And that was just still. 0:29:23.640 --> 0:29:25.480 I love you for that. I love you for that. 0:29:25.500 --> 0:29:25.739 Thank you. 0:29:25.770 --> 0:29:27.770 I love you too. I have to set the house 0:29:27.850 --> 0:29:29.630 up so when you got off set, you came home 0:29:29.690 --> 0:29:32.110 to like a home. There's a lot going on. 0:29:32.170 --> 0:29:34.760 Imagine being on set, right? This is my, I say 0:29:34.780 --> 0:29:37.540 my rookie season, my first season with Sisters. 0:29:37.960 --> 0:29:40.690 And I get a phone call and I'm like, what's up, babe? 0:29:40.710 --> 0:29:41.700 You all right? 0:29:42.140 --> 0:29:43.020 Nah, nah. 0:29:43.240 --> 0:29:45.380 Call the mover because they hear saying, I said, babe, 0:29:45.400 --> 0:29:47.040 you all right? He said, nah, I'm about to kill. 0:29:46.960 --> 0:29:48.880 Him because they told me we was going to be 0:29:48.920 --> 0:29:50.959 moving this day and now they said the stuff is 0:29:50.980 --> 0:29:51.540 already there. 0:29:52.520 --> 0:29:54.200 I had to book a flight like the next day. 0:29:54.220 --> 0:29:57.900 It was like $ 1, 200 because they were supposed to have 0:29:57.940 --> 0:30:00.870 it at a certain date in L.A. And we planned 0:30:00.910 --> 0:30:03.290 our flights to be there to receive everything. We were 0:30:03.310 --> 0:30:06.760 going to be landing the day before. They decide, we're 0:30:06.780 --> 0:30:08.540 going to do y'all a favor and everything is going 0:30:08.560 --> 0:30:09.940 to get there five days earlier. 0:30:09.960 --> 0:30:10.440 That's crazy. 0:30:10.580 --> 0:30:12.340 I said, well, that sounds like a you problem because 0:30:12.360 --> 0:30:14.810 I didn't ask for five days earlier. And sis on 0:30:14.850 --> 0:30:17.450 the phone said to me, we thought we were doing 0:30:17.470 --> 0:30:20.690 you a service by getting it expedited and getting things 0:30:20.750 --> 0:30:23.690 there quickly. I said, well, what you can do is 0:30:23.810 --> 0:30:27.890 expedite the funds that I have to take tomorrow because 0:30:27.910 --> 0:30:30.570 they were then offering as the alternative to move everything 0:30:30.610 --> 0:30:34.959 into storage. And then we get someone, we get someone 0:30:34.980 --> 0:30:37.980 to move it out of storage into the house in California. 0:30:38.340 --> 0:30:40.840 So I had to leave the kids and mom, fly 0:30:40.900 --> 0:30:44.160 to LA. I rented a car at the airport, drove 0:30:44.220 --> 0:30:47.100 to the house, slept in the car because there's no, 0:30:47.120 --> 0:30:49.040 I had no furniture in the house. There's nothing there. 0:30:49.460 --> 0:30:52.480 I slept in the car in the driveway and, and 0:30:52.500 --> 0:30:54.780 then open the door the next morning for them to 0:30:54.800 --> 0:30:57.480 put everything in. Wow. And then when the balance was due, 0:30:57.740 --> 0:30:59.240 they gave me the balance, and I said, well, I'm 0:30:59.260 --> 0:31:03.910 deducting the $ 1, 200 that my flight cost from the balance. 0:31:03.970 --> 0:31:06.670 And they're like, ma'am, you can't this in collections. I said, well, 0:31:06.730 --> 0:31:08.870 send that shit to collections, bitch, because I'm not paying 0:31:08.910 --> 0:31:09.220 for it. 0:31:09.450 --> 0:31:09.930 Yeah. 0:31:09.950 --> 0:31:11.450 And eventually they got rid of that $ 1, 200. 0:31:11.250 --> 0:31:13.100 Of course they did. 0:31:13.130 --> 0:31:16.080 That's when she called me. I was like, all right, 0:31:16.680 --> 0:31:19.520 so now I'm going to have to be dad, father, 0:31:19.660 --> 0:31:20.400 the deval mode. 0:31:21.640 --> 0:31:23.190 You can send it to collection. You'll be hearing from 0:31:23.210 --> 0:31:23.709 my attorney. 0:31:23.970 --> 0:31:24.250 Yeah. 0:31:24.270 --> 0:31:26.590 And as soon as I said attorney, that's when the guy's. 0:31:26.590 --> 0:31:27.570 Like, no, no, no, no, no. 0:31:27.590 --> 0:31:28.290 Hey, hey, hey. 0:31:28.850 --> 0:31:30.270 We don't have to get attorneys involved. 0:31:30.310 --> 0:31:33.250 You said collections. Once you said collections, I have to 0:31:33.290 --> 0:31:35.920 protect myself. We can call it a scrap. We can 0:31:35.940 --> 0:31:37.680 call it scrap. We can call it even. And I 0:31:37.700 --> 0:31:39.500 was just like, I figured that's what it would be. 0:31:39.560 --> 0:31:39.920 Thank you. 0:31:39.960 --> 0:31:42.820 And please leave my wife alone. Every time we move, 0:31:42.840 --> 0:31:45.660 she got problems with the movers. They call me for, like, 0:31:45.680 --> 0:31:46.720 they're refuge. 0:31:47.430 --> 0:31:47.950 Hey, Mr. 0:31:48.010 --> 0:31:50.790 Ellis, we spoke to your wife. And I said, well, 0:31:51.010 --> 0:31:51.970 whatever she said. 0:31:52.090 --> 0:31:54.730 Because you say something and I'm expecting you to be 0:31:54.930 --> 0:31:56.530 a man or a woman of your word. 0:31:56.590 --> 0:32:02.210 And it's impossible to find a good quality cross-country moving company. 0:32:02.450 --> 0:32:06.110 They're always the worst. The worst. The scummiest. They can't 0:32:06.170 --> 0:32:07.050 do shit. 0:32:07.070 --> 0:32:09.410 Who was the one people from Michigan? 0:32:10.740 --> 0:32:11.480 Oh, they were great. 0:32:11.560 --> 0:32:12.100 Yo, Tribble. 0:32:12.120 --> 0:32:12.700 Oh, they were great. 0:32:12.720 --> 0:32:14.000 Can I tell you the greatest movers? 0:32:14.550 --> 0:32:15.230 Oh, my God, they were great. 0:32:15.250 --> 0:32:16.709 The greatest movers that we've ever had in our life. 0:32:16.770 --> 0:32:18.810 I've never experienced anything like that. I can't say they're 0:32:18.850 --> 0:32:20.210 all terrible. They were great. 0:32:20.520 --> 0:32:23.840 Yo, they came to our house, bubble wrap packaged everything. 0:32:24.360 --> 0:32:26.600 Even our clothes in the closet, they put them in 0:32:26.620 --> 0:32:29.410 these tall boxes that had a hanger thing on it. 0:32:29.520 --> 0:32:31.060 The wardrobe box. 0:32:31.340 --> 0:32:34.040 And when they got to New York, everything was placed 0:32:34.140 --> 0:32:36.540 in a spot, not in the hallway. 0:32:37.120 --> 0:32:38.280 They was coming in, it was like, hey. 0:32:38.300 --> 0:32:39.920 We got these boxes from Kitchen. They asked you ahead 0:32:39.960 --> 0:32:44.120 of time which bedroom, which kitchen. Literally, we can stand 0:32:44.180 --> 0:32:46.580 up here and walk out this house, and they will 0:32:46.620 --> 0:32:48.220 just pack this whole house up for you. 0:32:48.340 --> 0:32:50.340 What was the name of that moving company? I don't know. 0:32:50.380 --> 0:32:51.110 We have to dig them up. 0:32:51.120 --> 0:32:51.760 We have to dig them up. 0:32:51.770 --> 0:32:53.210 They have to still be around. I think when Deval 0:32:53.230 --> 0:32:54.850 was playing in the league, we were able to find them. 0:32:54.870 --> 0:32:57.230 That's what it was. They did probably deal with players 0:32:58.190 --> 0:32:58.790 and stuff. 0:32:58.810 --> 0:32:58.989 Oh, see. 0:32:59.010 --> 0:33:00.450 I got them through the NFL office. 0:33:01.430 --> 0:33:01.630 Oh. 0:33:01.710 --> 0:33:04.060 Because the Detroit Lions have their own security team and 0:33:04.100 --> 0:33:06.640 everything like that. If you're going to be moving, if 0:33:06.680 --> 0:33:09.120 you get cut or if you need anything- Call us. 0:33:09.220 --> 0:33:10.270 We'll make sure it's taken care of. 0:33:10.300 --> 0:33:12.040 Yeah, and it was a privacy thing, too. 0:33:12.060 --> 0:33:13.680 Let's go try out, bro. 0:33:13.720 --> 0:33:15.860 Bro, the way they're paying people right now. 0:33:16.660 --> 0:33:18.540 Yo, I'll go out there and catch a pun or two. 0:33:20.100 --> 0:33:21.160 It's very different times. 0:33:21.560 --> 0:33:23.900 Trevor, I think New York is a great location for you. 0:33:24.520 --> 0:33:25.300 I think so, too. 0:33:25.420 --> 0:33:28.940 I feel like everything moves fast in New York, but 0:33:28.980 --> 0:33:30.660 the rats are back. 0:33:31.030 --> 0:33:31.700 The rats are back. 0:33:31.720 --> 0:33:34.790 They never left, honey. That's their New York. That's their 0:33:34.810 --> 0:33:35.190 New York. 0:33:37.420 --> 0:33:38.850 Josh, how's the cost of living in New York? 0:33:38.910 --> 0:33:39.469 Is it expensive? 0:33:39.750 --> 0:33:40.250 What? 0:33:40.430 --> 0:33:41.830 Yeah, that was my only affirmation. 0:33:41.850 --> 0:33:42.750 Oh, my gosh, man. 0:33:42.910 --> 0:33:44.230 Bacon, egg, and cheese would be like $ 11, bro. 0:33:44.250 --> 0:33:44.410 What? 0:33:44.430 --> 0:33:47.690 You're buying that? No, not me. I'm just telling you 0:33:47.710 --> 0:33:48.130 what the cost is. 0:33:48.130 --> 0:33:50.090 I'm about to throw this pillow at you. Do you 0:33:50.110 --> 0:33:51.610 know what a bacon, egg, and cheese was when we 0:33:51.630 --> 0:33:52.130 was growing up? 0:33:52.590 --> 0:33:55.130 It was $ 2. 50. 0:33:54.010 --> 0:33:55.130 $ 2. 0:33:54.010 --> 0:33:54.570 50? 0:33:54.570 --> 0:33:56.630 I think in Manhattan, I paid $ 3. 25 when I was 0:33:56.670 --> 0:33:57.170 going to high school. 0:33:57.190 --> 0:33:57.620 That's in Manhattan. 0:33:57.630 --> 0:33:58.870 In Brooklyn, it could have been like $ 3. 0:33:58.800 --> 0:33:58.850 50. 0:33:58.820 --> 0:33:58.900 $ 2. 0:33:58.820 --> 0:33:58.870 50. 0:33:58.850 --> 0:33:59.000 $ 2. 50. 0:33:58.880 --> 0:33:59.400 Bacon, egg, and cheese. 0:33:59.460 --> 0:34:00.320 If you got no cheese, it was $ 2. 0:34:00.160 --> 0:34:00.240 25. 0:34:00.240 --> 0:34:00.680 I remember that. 0:34:00.700 --> 0:34:01.430 Yeah, I think it's $ 11, bro. 0:34:08.710 --> 0:34:08.930 What? 0:34:08.950 --> 0:34:10.250 What are you saying? Okay. 0:34:10.510 --> 0:34:11.759 How do you justify that, bro? 0:34:11.780 --> 0:34:14.339 When your daughter goes to school, you just give her 0:34:14.360 --> 0:34:17.000 a dub? Like, for lunch? 0:34:17.020 --> 0:34:19.959 Well, she brings her lunch to school. She's elementary school, 0:34:19.980 --> 0:34:21.120 so we just pack her lunch. 0:34:21.140 --> 0:34:22.160 You pack her lunch, yeah. 0:34:22.489 --> 0:34:24.230 But junior high school's coming up. I don't know what's 0:34:24.270 --> 0:34:24.730 going to happen. 0:34:24.969 --> 0:34:26.969 Because in middle school, that's when I started getting money 0:34:27.010 --> 0:34:29.469 from my parents. And it was like, they would give 0:34:29.510 --> 0:34:30.750 me $ 5 in the morning. 0:34:30.890 --> 0:34:33.310 Like, yo, this is, you get your bacon, egg, and cheese, 0:34:33.330 --> 0:34:35.020 you get an Arizona iced tea, and you get a 0:34:35.040 --> 0:34:37.600 coffee cake. And then I still had a dollar or whatever. 0:34:37.660 --> 0:34:39.200 And I know this because I would have a dollar 0:34:39.239 --> 0:34:39.700 left over. 0:34:39.900 --> 0:34:40.600 And at the. 0:34:40.600 --> 0:34:44.710 End of two weeks, I could buy a shirt from Ragamuffin. 0:34:44.830 --> 0:34:46.410 I can get a $ 10 shirt from Ragamuffin. 0:34:46.430 --> 0:34:48.430 So I used to save my dollar so I could 0:34:48.450 --> 0:34:49.910 be fly. I wanted to be a fly guy. 0:34:49.950 --> 0:34:52.230 My parents was not buying me no Mecca shirts or 0:34:52.270 --> 0:34:55.390 Ralph Lauren shirts. So yeah, they would give me $ 5. 0:34:54.810 --> 0:34:57.220 If I gave Jackson $ 5 to go to school right now. 0:34:57.239 --> 0:34:59.060 He's at middle school for you, right? When you went 0:34:59.080 --> 0:35:00.640 to high school, they gave you lunch money? 0:35:01.120 --> 0:35:01.990 No, it was still the same $ 5. 0:35:01.920 --> 0:35:05.140 When you went to college. 0:35:05.280 --> 0:35:06.859 It was the same $ 5 a college. 0:35:07.070 --> 0:35:10.850 It was. It was $ 100 for the month. $ 5 a day. 0:35:10.850 --> 0:35:11.810 $ 25 for the week? 0:35:12.430 --> 0:35:13.509 Yeah, about $ 20 a week. 0:35:13.969 --> 0:35:14.750 This is crazy. 0:35:15.010 --> 0:35:18.009 My mom was giving me the same thing. My mom 0:35:18.090 --> 0:35:19.890 asked me, you didn't need to get a job. 0:35:21.310 --> 0:35:23.029 Your mom was giving you the same thing? You're 10 0:35:23.030 --> 0:35:23.549 years younger than me. 0:35:23.570 --> 0:35:23.799 Thank you. 0:35:26.540 --> 0:35:27.120 That's crazy. 0:35:27.320 --> 0:35:29.440 It's not out of, like, she wasn't doing, she was 0:35:29.460 --> 0:35:31.359 doing the best she could. She was giving me money. 0:35:31.739 --> 0:35:33.560 But that money's not stretching anywhere. 0:35:33.640 --> 0:35:36.029 Yeah, nah. I can't imagine. 0:35:36.050 --> 0:35:40.170 So you're going to have to give your daughter, like, 0:35:40.170 --> 0:35:40.690 $ 25 a day. 0:35:40.950 --> 0:35:44.009 Unless you want her to be outside playing dice, trying 0:35:44.030 --> 0:35:44.870 to flip that. 0:35:45.360 --> 0:35:46.839 To make money. 0:35:47.840 --> 0:35:50.960 We had a conversation this summer about, like, you know, 0:35:50.980 --> 0:35:52.560 when she go to school and giving her money. 0:35:52.580 --> 0:35:54.350 She's like, I'm going to get money to go to 0:35:54.370 --> 0:35:55.170 school to buy lunch. 0:35:55.390 --> 0:35:56.590 I was like, you don't want me to shut up 0:35:56.610 --> 0:35:59.430 right now because this girl is getting real excited about her. 0:35:59.350 --> 0:36:01.609 Getting money to school. Think about this. $ 20 a day 0:36:01.690 --> 0:36:04.330 is $ 100 a week. That's $ 400 a month. She ain't 0:36:04.350 --> 0:36:05.029 getting no $ 25 a day. 0:36:05.070 --> 0:36:05.770 I don't know what house. 0:36:05.850 --> 0:36:06.710 That's crazy. 0:36:06.770 --> 0:36:07.649 You think I got. 0:36:07.890 --> 0:36:09.779 My dad used to give me $ 20 a day to 0:36:10.110 --> 0:36:10.660 go to school. 0:36:10.660 --> 0:36:11.319 $ 20 a day? 0:36:11.340 --> 0:36:12.739 When I was in junior high, yeah. 0:36:13.100 --> 0:36:14.399 What? That's insane, bro. 0:36:14.420 --> 0:36:14.870 Be honest with you. 0:36:14.880 --> 0:36:15.920 You know how I used to get my. 0:36:15.840 --> 0:36:16.380 $ 5 sometimes? 0:36:16.880 --> 0:36:17.880 My parents had a. 0:36:22.000 --> 0:36:24.799 A quarter collection in a big thing. 0:36:25.400 --> 0:36:26.020 The water joint. 0:36:26.040 --> 0:36:27.360 My parents had a joint, like a deer park. 0:36:27.380 --> 0:36:28.000 You remember the big joint? 0:36:28.020 --> 0:36:28.939 Yeah, the water, yeah. 0:36:29.239 --> 0:36:30.820 And he'd just be like, yo, get $ 5 out of 0:36:30.840 --> 0:36:32.489 the thing. And I would go in there, and me 0:36:32.510 --> 0:36:34.529 and my brother would be like, ch-ch-ch-ch. 0:36:34.610 --> 0:36:36.370 Run down the street to school, because it's like, yo, 0:36:36.390 --> 0:36:37.810 I got $ 5 worth of quarters. 0:36:38.350 --> 0:36:39.790 But it is what it is. 0:36:39.810 --> 0:36:41.450 Man, I'd be going to that quarter thing. I'd get 0:36:41.489 --> 0:36:41.770 some money. 0:36:41.790 --> 0:36:44.689 Shout out to my brother. My brother used to clean 0:36:44.710 --> 0:36:46.590 people's Timbs in school. He used to clean your sneakers 0:36:46.630 --> 0:36:48.670 and Timbs. He was hustling. And they would pay him, 0:36:48.710 --> 0:36:49.569 and he would have extra money. 0:36:50.260 --> 0:36:51.960 Bro, high school, I started cutting hair, bro. 0:36:52.600 --> 0:36:55.719 Because, bro, what you going to do with $ 5 a 0:36:55.760 --> 0:36:57.120 day in high school, bro, and you want. 0:36:57.000 --> 0:36:57.500 To buy clothes? 0:36:57.580 --> 0:36:57.840 Nothing. 0:36:57.860 --> 0:37:03.760 You buying French fries and a water. If the water. 0:37:03.760 --> 0:37:05.719 $ 20 a day, I'm not doing anything. I didn't do 0:37:05.739 --> 0:37:10.459 chores at home. My dad just continues to ruin my life. 0:37:11.340 --> 0:37:13.399 I'm so horrible with money because of this. 0:37:13.930 --> 0:37:15.370 I was going to say leave your dad alone, but 0:37:15.390 --> 0:37:16.069 he left you alone. 0:37:16.570 --> 0:37:17.090 Exactly. 0:37:17.130 --> 0:37:17.669 Thank you. 0:37:17.830 --> 0:37:19.969 I got to go. I got to go. 0:37:20.010 --> 0:37:20.609 Thank you. 0:37:20.750 --> 0:37:21.910 I'm sorry. 0:37:21.969 --> 0:37:23.410 I knew Tribble was about to find me. 0:37:23.450 --> 0:37:23.950 Thank you. 0:37:24.010 --> 0:37:25.670 I'm sorry, but I knew Tribble was about to find me. 0:37:25.910 --> 0:37:27.819 Finally, somebody understands. 0:37:27.880 --> 0:37:28.880 I get you, Tribble. 0:37:28.900 --> 0:37:29.959 I do. What you mean, Tribble? 0:37:30.100 --> 0:37:32.540 I do. My dad left me the other day. 0:37:32.680 --> 0:37:33.120 He left me too. 0:37:33.239 --> 0:37:38.160 Damn, man. That was good. Sniggas. I'm like. 0:37:38.260 --> 0:37:39.460 Matt understands too, though. 0:37:39.580 --> 0:37:40.300 I definitely understand. 0:37:40.320 --> 0:37:42.500 Matt be making jokes and I be trying not to laugh. 0:37:42.760 --> 0:37:44.560 He'll make jokes about his dad being gone and I'll 0:37:44.600 --> 0:37:44.919 be like. 0:37:45.000 --> 0:37:45.950 Laugh, nigga, laugh. 0:37:46.260 --> 0:37:47.529 That's what he. 0:37:47.590 --> 0:37:51.830 Laugh. These dark jokes, somebody better laugh at them. 0:37:51.910 --> 0:37:53.950 Does it really help, though, when someone laughs with you 0:37:54.190 --> 0:37:55.010 about it seriously? 0:37:55.570 --> 0:37:56.259 Yeah. Yes. Yes. 0:37:56.910 --> 0:37:58.630 If I'm laughing about it, I don't want somebody to 0:37:58.650 --> 0:38:03.450 be like, oh, that's awkward. 0:38:06.030 --> 0:38:08.950 It's so awkward, but yeah, so it's helpful. 0:38:08.989 --> 0:38:11.569 That's crazy. Well, to round it out, quick question for y'all. 0:38:12.340 --> 0:38:16.839 Would you rather live close to family in a place 0:38:16.900 --> 0:38:19.739 that you don't like or live in. 0:38:21.950 --> 0:38:22.669 In a place you like. 0:38:22.730 --> 0:38:24.710 In a place you love with no family. 0:38:24.750 --> 0:38:25.210 Yeah, sorry. 0:38:25.670 --> 0:38:26.649 Third episode of the day. 0:38:26.690 --> 0:38:27.049 My bad. 0:38:27.450 --> 0:38:29.310 This is my dilemma right now. 0:38:29.850 --> 0:38:30.810 Good question. 0:38:30.830 --> 0:38:36.360 I think the latter because I want to be happy 0:38:36.400 --> 0:38:41.360 where I'm in my surroundings. So to be uncomfortable and unhappy, 0:38:41.460 --> 0:38:44.500 I'd rather it's short burst. So if I got to 0:38:44.540 --> 0:38:46.880 go visit my family or visit my loved ones, I'm 0:38:46.920 --> 0:38:50.260 only there. At least I'm in an uncomfortable place. At 0:38:50.400 --> 0:38:52.820 least I'm in an uncomfortable place with people that I like. 0:38:52.980 --> 0:38:53.710 And it's a. 0:38:53.700 --> 0:38:57.469 Short period of time versus me going home. And, you know, 0:38:57.489 --> 0:38:58.650 I'm going to enjoy that situation. 0:39:00.030 --> 0:39:01.850 You said you're in the situation now, Tripp? Yeah. 0:39:02.450 --> 0:39:05.549 Because let's say I don't stay in Atlanta. Do I 0:39:05.610 --> 0:39:09.509 move back to Cincinnati? I don't really like Cincinnati, but 0:39:09.590 --> 0:39:11.489 everybody I love is in Cincinnati. 0:39:11.510 --> 0:39:15.609 I hate Cincinnati, though. It's so boring. Oh, my God. 0:39:15.650 --> 0:39:16.290 Do you love Atlanta? 0:39:17.650 --> 0:39:19.920 No. Oh, so right now you're not really in that 0:39:19.940 --> 0:39:21.600 situation because you don't even love Atlanta like that. 0:39:21.760 --> 0:39:22.020 Right. 0:39:22.180 --> 0:39:25.140 Yeah, but I love like being in a city where 0:39:25.160 --> 0:39:26.350 there's a lot of stuff to do. 0:39:26.710 --> 0:39:28.029 Where was a place that you loved? 0:39:28.050 --> 0:39:28.190 Chicago. 0:39:28.290 --> 0:39:29.049 Chicago you loved. 0:39:30.360 --> 0:39:31.259 Close to Cincinnati. 0:39:31.280 --> 0:39:34.959 Yeah, it's closer than Atlanta. You know what I'm saying? 0:39:34.980 --> 0:39:36.719 You get the best of both worlds because I live 0:39:36.760 --> 0:39:38.840 in a place I love and I can drive and 0:39:38.860 --> 0:39:42.020 see y'all niggas and then when I'm over y'all niggas. 0:39:42.080 --> 0:39:44.100 It's close to living a little bit better in Chicago 0:39:44.120 --> 0:39:44.500 than New York. 0:39:45.020 --> 0:39:46.270 Yeah, a little bit. 0:39:46.280 --> 0:39:48.299 You can just leave Chicago during the winter because you know. 0:39:49.030 --> 0:39:52.550 I know. Yeah, that's the thing. The winters are rough. 0:39:52.930 --> 0:39:55.350 And the thing, too, is it's kind of hard to 0:39:55.390 --> 0:39:57.570 have a car in Chicago, depending on where you live, 0:39:57.630 --> 0:40:02.420 because they got all these parking stipulations. Yeah, you get 0:40:02.460 --> 0:40:04.120 a bunch of tickets. You got to get a sticker 0:40:04.140 --> 0:40:05.520 for this and a sticker for that. 0:40:05.540 --> 0:40:08.840 I used to really, really, really miss living in Brooklyn 0:40:08.860 --> 0:40:10.760 until I saw what they did to Flatbush Avenue. 0:40:11.880 --> 0:40:14.220 It's not the same. Bus lanes. 0:40:14.239 --> 0:40:14.860 I know. 0:40:14.880 --> 0:40:15.500 They did it before. 0:40:18.760 --> 0:40:20.040 Just don't drive over there, bro. 0:40:20.120 --> 0:40:20.540 I hate y'all. 0:40:20.600 --> 0:40:22.180 I couldn't even tell the last time I drove over there. 0:40:22.620 --> 0:40:23.669 Just don't drive over there. 0:40:24.489 --> 0:40:26.650 You know what's funny, man? I hear older, older people 0:40:26.710 --> 0:40:27.930 talk about the older. 0:40:27.710 --> 0:40:30.890 They get, the more confusing and more riddled with rules 0:40:30.950 --> 0:40:31.750 the world becomes. 0:40:32.810 --> 0:40:35.910 And as I'm getting older, I'm seeing that. Because I'm like, 0:40:35.950 --> 0:40:38.500 why do we need a bike lane? 0:40:38.540 --> 0:40:39.000 Like, why? 0:40:39.360 --> 0:40:42.300 No, you need a bike lane, bro. 0:40:42.440 --> 0:40:43.640 You definitely need a bike lane. 0:40:43.660 --> 0:40:44.759 I think the issue is we haven't had.... 0:40:48.510 --> 0:40:50.810 The cities weren't prepared for. 0:40:50.830 --> 0:40:51.690 For the monocyclists. 0:40:52.010 --> 0:40:54.110 Yeah, they weren't prepared for the cars that they had, 0:40:54.210 --> 0:40:57.000 and when that exploded, and then people wanting to ride 0:40:57.040 --> 0:40:59.739 bikes and they being accessible, it was poor planning to 0:40:59.780 --> 0:41:00.279 begin with. 0:41:00.360 --> 0:41:00.900 Yeah. 0:41:01.120 --> 0:41:03.200 Right? So the bicycles are necessary. It's the fact that 0:41:03.239 --> 0:41:06.620 the streets are too small, and then you are eliminating lanes. 0:41:06.200 --> 0:41:07.340 Because of it. That's why I said we don't need 0:41:07.360 --> 0:41:07.540 a bicycle. 0:41:07.580 --> 0:41:10.340 But the cars in general are a problem too. I 0:41:10.380 --> 0:41:11.819 hate to say it, like, I'm a car driver, but. 0:41:14.060 --> 0:41:15.840 I looked at a picture of my street that I 0:41:15.880 --> 0:41:18.660 live on in 1940s, and it's probably like three cars. 0:41:18.820 --> 0:41:19.080 Right. 0:41:19.400 --> 0:41:21.340 And right now, you can't even get a parking spot. 0:41:21.560 --> 0:41:21.779 Right. 0:41:21.800 --> 0:41:22.780 So cars are a problem. 0:41:22.969 --> 0:41:23.310 You know what? 0:41:23.330 --> 0:41:25.230 You right. I think the bus lanes are worse than the. 0:41:25.210 --> 0:41:28.210 Cars, though. The bus lanes, for sure. 0:41:28.290 --> 0:41:30.870 Even with the bus lanes, the bus still don't run properly. 0:41:31.150 --> 0:41:31.430 Yeah. 0:41:31.570 --> 0:41:34.450 The bus lanes do run faster with bus lanes. 0:41:34.610 --> 0:41:34.840 Correct. 0:41:35.760 --> 0:41:37.360 A lot of the issues with the bus, and I 0:41:37.440 --> 0:41:40.259 hate that I sound like I'm in, I hate bus lanes, 0:41:40.680 --> 0:41:42.000 but I hate it like I sound like an advocate 0:41:42.020 --> 0:41:45.290 for it. But the problem is people park poorly. They 0:41:45.350 --> 0:41:49.089 double park in the bus lanes. Bus lanes have to 0:41:49.150 --> 0:41:51.330 intrude on the actual passenger lanes. 0:41:51.469 --> 0:41:52.470 And it makes the traffic. 0:41:52.910 --> 0:41:56.140 You know who that is? It's my Jamaican massive, yo. 0:41:57.000 --> 0:41:59.160 Caribbean in general. I ain't going to lie, bro. 0:41:59.239 --> 0:42:00.280 It's not just Jamaicans. 0:42:00.300 --> 0:42:00.960 It's Caribbean. 0:42:02.200 --> 0:42:02.739 Yo, yo. 0:42:02.820 --> 0:42:03.800 It's Caribbean in general. 0:42:03.940 --> 0:42:05.890 Nah, y'all know I love my Jamaican people. I was 0:42:05.910 --> 0:42:07.529 on the dollar van in high school. 0:42:08.070 --> 0:42:09.800 And dude stopped in the middle of the street on 0:42:09.820 --> 0:42:12.310 the yellow line and jumped out to get his patty 0:42:12.350 --> 0:42:13.330 and stuff from Footprints. 0:42:14.390 --> 0:42:16.589 He was parked in the middle. You know where Clarendon is? 0:42:17.090 --> 0:42:19.210 He pulled up right there in Clarendon because they have 0:42:19.250 --> 0:42:22.509 a little divider thing where the turn thing is. 0:42:22.750 --> 0:42:25.810 He pulled right there. We had at least six people. 0:42:25.950 --> 0:42:26.950 Oh, my God. 0:42:26.969 --> 0:42:28.270 He jumped out, son, and went and. 0:42:28.230 --> 0:42:29.610 Got a Rastafari. 0:42:29.630 --> 0:42:30.509 Soon come, soon come. 0:42:30.910 --> 0:42:35.110 That's all facts. Yeah, but I'm saying, they treat Fatbush 0:42:35.150 --> 0:42:35.890 like it's the Caribbean. 0:42:36.520 --> 0:42:36.880 Literally. 0:42:36.900 --> 0:42:37.560 Literally, yeah. 0:42:37.660 --> 0:42:39.250 They really do. Across the board. 0:42:39.290 --> 0:42:41.029 But I ain't never had a dollar van driver that 0:42:41.070 --> 0:42:41.830 wasn't Jamaican, though. 0:42:42.610 --> 0:42:43.640 I mean, I would say that. 0:42:44.690 --> 0:42:45.750 You live a little. 0:42:45.489 --> 0:42:47.380 Longer than me now, so it probably changed. When I 0:42:47.390 --> 0:42:50.260 was growing up, it was straight Jamaicans. Straight Jamaicans. 0:42:50.280 --> 0:42:50.680 That's why I. 0:42:50.640 --> 0:42:52.820 Married a Jamaican. Back in the day, everybody was Jamaican. 0:42:53.080 --> 0:42:54.380 You know what? 0:42:54.440 --> 0:42:54.720 True. 0:42:54.739 --> 0:42:55.380 That's fair. 0:42:55.640 --> 0:42:55.940 Touche. 0:42:55.960 --> 0:42:57.260 We're talking about 98. Touche. 0:42:57.340 --> 0:42:59.240 You know what? 0:42:59.260 --> 0:43:02.989 From Guyana, buddy, and everybody, you Jamaican. You know what? 0:43:03.050 --> 0:43:04.910 You're absolutely right. 0:43:04.950 --> 0:43:05.730 You know what? 0:43:05.750 --> 0:43:06.529 You're absolutely right. 0:43:06.710 --> 0:43:07.629 Yeah, big up my people. 0:43:07.670 --> 0:43:08.549 I love it. All right, y'all. 0:43:08.570 --> 0:43:09.710 Let's take a quick break, and we're going to be 0:43:09.730 --> 0:43:25.930 back with our listener letter of the day. All right, 0:43:26.630 --> 0:43:32.469 and we are back. Oh, this one has a subject. Okay, 0:43:32.510 --> 0:43:36.750 the subject is help with three exclamation points. My wife 0:43:36.830 --> 0:43:41.550 dresses like a 90s gym teacher. A 90s gym teacher? 0:43:41.640 --> 0:43:42.700 A 90s gym teacher. 0:43:43.070 --> 0:43:49.779 Hello, Ellis Ever After Familia. long time listener first time 0:43:49.840 --> 0:43:52.180 listener letter before I get into my dilemma I want 0:43:52.200 --> 0:43:54.460 to say how much I appreciate y'all the honesty the 0:43:54.520 --> 0:43:57.590 humor and vulnerability you bring to every episode is amazing 0:43:57.930 --> 0:44:01.649 whether you're talking about marriage parenting relationships or just life 0:44:01.710 --> 0:44:03.770 in general it always feels like we're sitting around having 0:44:03.790 --> 0:44:05.790 a conversation with the family I make it a point 0:44:05.810 --> 0:44:08.629 to never miss an episode and more than once you've 0:44:08.670 --> 0:44:11.270 made me laugh out loud one minute and reflect on 0:44:11.310 --> 0:44:13.970 my own life the next I appreciate that that's the 0:44:14.010 --> 0:44:16.180 goal that's essentially what we've been trying to do this 0:44:16.219 --> 0:44:19.380 whole time Now, on to the reason I'm writing. I 0:44:19.410 --> 0:44:21.860 need your help if my wife fully transforms into a 0:44:21.900 --> 0:44:23.250 PE teacher from 97. Thank you. 0:44:23.260 --> 0:44:23.739 I love this. 0:44:26.320 --> 0:44:28.759 For context, we met in our 20s and have been 0:44:28.780 --> 0:44:31.900 together for nearly 20 years, which means we've successfully navigated 0:44:31.960 --> 0:44:35.640 our way into our 40s together, raising four amazing children. 0:44:35.719 --> 0:44:36.100 What's up? 0:44:36.160 --> 0:44:39.819 My wife is incredible. Smart, beautiful, fit, funny, and successful. 0:44:40.360 --> 0:44:42.650 When we started dating, she was dripped in the finest 0:44:42.690 --> 0:44:45.850 of baby fat, BB and DK and Y. 0:44:45.870 --> 0:44:46.690 Oh, yeah. 0:44:46.730 --> 0:44:48.910 This is 97 for sure, bro. 0:44:48.989 --> 0:44:51.510 For sure. The guest shirts, the whole nine. 0:44:51.530 --> 0:44:51.650 Mm-hmm. 0:44:52.250 --> 0:44:59.529 But somewhere along her journey, her wardrobe entered a long-term 0:44:59.570 --> 0:45:02.170 committed relationship with comfort and practicality. 0:45:02.190 --> 0:45:02.790 I get it. 0:45:03.870 --> 0:45:06.850 What started as the occasional comfy outfit has evolved into 0:45:06.890 --> 0:45:09.930 a full-blown lifestyle. And I'm not talking the fly athleisure 0:45:09.950 --> 0:45:12.739 stuff from brands like Actively Black. Shout out to Actively Black. 0:45:12.760 --> 0:45:13.680 Shout out Lenny and Bianca. 0:45:13.800 --> 0:45:14.540 Hey, this dude. 0:45:15.330 --> 0:45:15.569 Uh-huh. 0:45:15.790 --> 0:45:18.410 They're doing a good job. They doing a brand shout-out. 0:45:18.450 --> 0:45:19.310 You know what I'm saying? 0:45:19.390 --> 0:45:20.140 All the things. 0:45:20.180 --> 0:45:20.700 The plugs. 0:45:20.800 --> 0:45:21.259 I love it. 0:45:21.760 --> 0:45:26.200 I'm talking super loose, muumuu-like dresses and shoes that look 0:45:26.219 --> 0:45:31.239 like she's about to walk 100,000 steps. I swear her 0:45:31.280 --> 0:45:33.359 closet is one cardigan away from. 0:45:34.580 --> 0:45:36.070 Dang. He tearing her up. 0:45:36.080 --> 0:45:38.020 He tearing her ass up. 0:45:38.400 --> 0:45:41.460 I swear her closet is one cardigan away from qualifying 0:45:41.520 --> 0:45:43.180 for AARP membership. 0:45:43.200 --> 0:45:43.819 Boom, boom, boom. 0:45:45.040 --> 0:45:46.899 I miss the days when she'd wear fits that would 0:45:46.920 --> 0:45:49.219 make me be like, damn. 0:45:49.760 --> 0:45:50.860 Shout out to Fabulous. 0:45:50.969 --> 0:45:55.509 Instead, she's migrated towards a wardrobe choices of a golden girl, 0:45:55.570 --> 0:45:58.250 not a hot girl. And look, I get it. We're 0:45:58.270 --> 0:46:00.960 in our 40s and I need a little more Beyonce 0:46:01.239 --> 0:46:02.480 and a little less bingo nights. 0:46:03.400 --> 0:46:05.899 I gotta meet you. Who are you? This is great. 0:46:05.920 --> 0:46:08.720 This is great. I adore her and think she's gorgeous. 0:46:08.840 --> 0:46:10.700 I just want to know if there's a tactful way 0:46:10.780 --> 0:46:13.880 to encourage a wardrobe refresh without becoming the villain in 0:46:13.920 --> 0:46:17.310 her group chat. How do I tell the love of 0:46:17.350 --> 0:46:19.430 my life that I want her to look a little 0:46:19.489 --> 0:46:22.830 less Denny's early bird special and a little more date 0:46:22.870 --> 0:46:26.850 night without sounding like an asshole? Signed, her husband, her 0:46:26.890 --> 0:46:29.450 biggest fan, and her unofficial stylist. 0:46:29.930 --> 0:46:31.070 Go buy her some clothes. 0:46:31.110 --> 0:46:31.890 That was sweet. 0:46:31.910 --> 0:46:32.629 This is super sweet. 0:46:32.670 --> 0:46:33.609 That was a good one. 0:46:33.630 --> 0:46:35.589 Go buy her some clothes and be like, babe, I 0:46:35.790 --> 0:46:36.330 bought these for you. 0:46:36.570 --> 0:46:38.660 Yeah, or maybe like, hey, let's go on a little 0:46:38.680 --> 0:46:41.160 shopping spree. Like, you know when people have the index 0:46:41.200 --> 0:46:43.080 cards up now and they're just like, pick one. 0:46:43.100 --> 0:46:44.779 Yes! 0:46:44.860 --> 0:46:45.560 And then they be. 0:46:45.500 --> 0:46:48.440 Like, shopping spree. Shopping spree or shopping spree? 0:46:48.600 --> 0:46:49.430 Shopping spree. 0:46:49.570 --> 0:46:52.009 And when she picks it, it's like, let's take her 0:46:52.030 --> 0:46:53.770 on a shopping spree. And then maybe make it a 0:46:53.790 --> 0:46:55.950 thing where you're involved in their process. Like, babe, I 0:46:55.989 --> 0:46:58.330 would love to see you in this. We're like, let's 0:46:58.350 --> 0:47:00.410 do a closet revamp. How about we try this? 0:47:00.830 --> 0:47:02.049 I think that might get you tacked away. 0:47:02.070 --> 0:47:04.600 But you don't like my high-waist pants? Yo, them pants 0:47:04.719 --> 0:47:05.140 actually know. 0:47:05.160 --> 0:47:05.940 I know what you're talking about. 0:47:05.960 --> 0:47:06.680 Y'all know. 0:47:06.719 --> 0:47:07.880 I know exactly what you're talking about. 0:47:07.940 --> 0:47:09.279 And sweatpants that come all the way up here. 0:47:09.300 --> 0:47:09.660 Uh-huh. 0:47:10.000 --> 0:47:10.580 And she fit. 0:47:10.620 --> 0:47:10.980 And she fit. 0:47:11.000 --> 0:47:13.319 She probably got some arm bands. She got a little body. 0:47:13.340 --> 0:47:14.260 Does she got a fatty? 0:47:14.320 --> 0:47:14.960 Is she stacked? 0:47:15.340 --> 0:47:16.450 Is her baby fat? 0:47:17.010 --> 0:47:18.790 You know what I'm saying? Is her baby fat? He 0:47:18.810 --> 0:47:20.230 probably wants to see her in some nice stuff. 0:47:20.290 --> 0:47:21.930 I'm going to let y'all answer this because I don't 0:47:21.989 --> 0:47:24.469 even want to try to mansplain. What would make her 0:47:24.510 --> 0:47:27.540 feel comfortable if he said, You know, this. 0:47:27.880 --> 0:47:30.240 Well, I look at you as my best friend. You're 0:47:30.280 --> 0:47:32.299 like my biggest fan. You like to see me look 0:47:32.340 --> 0:47:33.950 a certain kind of way. And you know how I 0:47:33.989 --> 0:47:36.009 like to look as well. So I would trust your 0:47:36.050 --> 0:47:38.310 opinion and trust your judgment. Like recently, like I said, 0:47:38.710 --> 0:47:40.390 I was going out somewhere and you were like, babe, 0:47:40.690 --> 0:47:43.130 I think you would look better with this. Now he's like, 0:47:43.150 --> 0:47:44.630 he was like, nah, that looked too good. Save that 0:47:44.650 --> 0:47:46.230 for when we go out together on a date night 0:47:46.250 --> 0:47:47.790 for us. I want to see you in that. And 0:47:47.850 --> 0:47:49.850 I just be like, OK, cool. You know, I think 0:47:49.870 --> 0:47:52.250 this is a fun approach that you can take to it. 0:47:52.270 --> 0:47:55.100 So she doesn't feel like. You know, she's being attacked. 0:47:55.219 --> 0:47:57.450 Maybe he thinks that she's going to feel attacked and 0:47:57.489 --> 0:47:59.230 maybe she don't even, she won't be attacked. 0:47:59.270 --> 0:48:02.510 Maybe she'll just be like, okay. He probably hasn't even 0:48:03.130 --> 0:48:03.610 mentioned it. 0:48:03.930 --> 0:48:04.169 Right. 0:48:04.310 --> 0:48:07.950 Yeah, he might be too scared to say something. That's 0:48:07.969 --> 0:48:10.430 a good point. I wonder what, I have to do 0:48:10.450 --> 0:48:14.050 it again. I wonder what he'd be wearing too. 0:48:14.070 --> 0:48:16.380 That's true. 0:48:16.440 --> 0:48:17.480 Dressing like Professor Clover. 0:48:17.560 --> 0:48:18.959 Does he need. 0:48:18.700 --> 0:48:19.530 A closet revamp too? 0:48:19.540 --> 0:48:20.250 She can't help it. 0:48:20.300 --> 0:48:23.819 In all fairness though, in all fairness though, if you're 0:48:23.840 --> 0:48:25.460 going to go to approach somebody and say, I don't 0:48:25.520 --> 0:48:26.300 like your fits. 0:48:26.640 --> 0:48:28.600 Your fit better be special. 0:48:28.640 --> 0:48:29.819 That's fair, though. 0:48:29.840 --> 0:48:30.480 That is fair. 0:48:30.500 --> 0:48:32.120 Because what if she's like, well, nigga, I just like 0:48:32.160 --> 0:48:33.219 this because look at you. 0:48:33.280 --> 0:48:34.200 I'm matching you. 0:48:34.650 --> 0:48:37.730 And I feel like a man's wardrobe can be a 0:48:37.750 --> 0:48:41.850 little bit more relaxed type of clothes. And when people 0:48:41.910 --> 0:48:44.590 aren't married, they've been together for 20 years, they probably 0:48:44.650 --> 0:48:45.730 look alike in some ways. 0:48:45.750 --> 0:48:46.390 You know what I'm saying? 0:48:46.410 --> 0:48:50.299 They are mirroring each other. So I'm like, if she wearing... athleisure, 0:48:50.500 --> 0:48:52.060 what is he wearing? Is he dressed up? 0:48:52.120 --> 0:48:53.120 He got suspenders on. 0:48:53.180 --> 0:48:57.270 He got suspenders on. Everything oversized, although oversized is back 0:48:57.370 --> 0:48:58.210 in now, so. 0:48:59.350 --> 0:49:02.460 My man brought up some of these, not logos, some 0:49:02.500 --> 0:49:02.759 of these. 0:49:04.080 --> 0:49:06.299 Baby Phat B's brand. 0:49:06.390 --> 0:49:09.170 He probably still wearing all those same brands, too. Yeah, 0:49:09.250 --> 0:49:10.370 he got his. 0:49:10.410 --> 0:49:11.940 He wear Eniche for sure. 0:49:11.940 --> 0:49:13.370 You know what I'm saying? 0:49:13.370 --> 0:49:14.650 He's definitely got on a Niche. 0:49:14.670 --> 0:49:15.450 Oh, I had the. 0:49:15.290 --> 0:49:18.270 Cutest Niche matching the Pepe, Sergio Valente. 0:49:18.290 --> 0:49:19.390 The Succo jeans. 0:49:19.410 --> 0:49:21.020 We got an eight-ball jacket waiting. 0:49:21.460 --> 0:49:22.900 We going out tonight, baby. 0:49:23.540 --> 0:49:26.399 Nah, I think you hit it on the head, though. 0:49:27.020 --> 0:49:29.759 If he says, yo, let's do this together. Let's buy 0:49:29.780 --> 0:49:33.100 some clothes together. But I have to agree with Tribble. 0:49:33.120 --> 0:49:34.440 As much as I would be, I'd be looking for 0:49:34.500 --> 0:49:35.419 reasons to argue with Tribble. 0:49:36.550 --> 0:49:39.129 You got to make sure your shit is on point. 0:49:39.210 --> 0:49:41.610 We talk about this with working out. Part of the 0:49:41.670 --> 0:49:44.549 reason why I work out my hardest is because I 0:49:44.830 --> 0:49:47.790 want my woman to be fit too. I can't go 0:49:47.830 --> 0:49:49.910 to her and be like, yo, your body better be 0:49:49.930 --> 0:49:52.069 on point while I'm out of shape. So I make 0:49:52.130 --> 0:49:54.290 sure that I'm on point so that we can do 0:49:54.350 --> 0:49:54.839 it together. 0:49:54.890 --> 0:49:56.089 You know what I'm saying? I think he should try 0:49:56.110 --> 0:49:59.080 the same thing. Ask your wife. That's what he should do. Hey, baby, 0:49:59.100 --> 0:50:00.140 is there anything you think. 0:50:00.060 --> 0:50:02.760 I could do about my wardrobe so that it becomes 0:50:02.820 --> 0:50:04.910 a thing where she says you can change this take 0:50:04.969 --> 0:50:08.400 the criticism, whatever she says, and then after she's done, say, cool. 0:50:08.980 --> 0:50:10.160 Unleash it on me. 0:50:10.320 --> 0:50:11.440 And then let him know. 0:50:11.880 --> 0:50:14.660 And then she be like, wait, you did that on purpose. 0:50:14.700 --> 0:50:16.080 It was a little bait and switch. 0:50:16.120 --> 0:50:17.969 They've been together 20 years. She's going to know it's 0:50:18.030 --> 0:50:19.150 a bait and switch. 0:50:19.230 --> 0:50:21.609 Yeah, exactly. But I think it's something you can make fun. 0:50:21.630 --> 0:50:23.210 I don't think it has to be doom and gloom. 0:50:23.230 --> 0:50:26.029 He seemed funny, though. Yeah, and that's why I feel 0:50:26.050 --> 0:50:28.350 like it. Yeah, and if she has any kind of 0:50:28.370 --> 0:50:31.089 personality and humor like you, then I think she might 0:50:31.130 --> 0:50:31.730 be open to it. 0:50:31.800 --> 0:50:33.240 Do it in bold letters. 0:50:34.180 --> 0:50:36.060 Subject with the color. 0:50:36.080 --> 0:50:38.120 Well, I put that from, that was the subject of 0:50:38.160 --> 0:50:38.600 the email. 0:50:38.640 --> 0:50:42.070 Cause I needed that to be in the freaking, I 0:50:42.110 --> 0:50:44.930 needed it to be red. But, um, I also, if 0:50:44.969 --> 0:50:49.260 he just gives her more reasons to get dressed, Maybe 0:50:49.300 --> 0:50:52.790 that'll help instead of him saying, like, you need new clothes. 0:50:52.830 --> 0:50:54.610 Let's just get dressed up and do something. 0:50:55.530 --> 0:50:55.850 That's true. 0:50:55.870 --> 0:50:58.190 That's true. Plan a little date night or whatever. 0:50:58.370 --> 0:50:59.870 And then he got to get dressed too, so you 0:50:59.890 --> 0:51:00.730 got to match his sweat. 0:51:00.750 --> 0:51:03.250 Yeah. So he did say a little less Denny's early 0:51:03.290 --> 0:51:05.180 bird special and a little more date night. What does 0:51:05.200 --> 0:51:05.759 date night look like? 0:51:05.780 --> 0:51:08.000 What does Denny's early bird special look like? 0:51:08.100 --> 0:51:12.040 It looks like the old people going in at midday. 0:51:12.640 --> 0:51:13.600 Windbreakers. 0:51:13.700 --> 0:51:14.380 When he said it. 0:51:15.870 --> 0:51:21.110 I immediately knew because my grandmother, windbreaker, the bottom always 0:51:21.160 --> 0:51:21.890 matched the top. 0:51:21.930 --> 0:51:23.140 She always got on the set. 0:51:23.200 --> 0:51:24.480 They always all the way up here. Rob Markman, Now 0:51:24.500 --> 0:51:25.660 you say windbreaker, I got a vivid picture. 0:51:25.680 --> 0:51:26.759 Rob Markman, You know what I'm saying? 0:51:26.780 --> 0:51:27.060 Papa John. 0:51:27.120 --> 0:51:27.759 Pants would be over his belly. 0:51:27.780 --> 0:51:30.680 Rob Markman, You know, it's like you get of age 0:51:30.780 --> 0:51:32.480 and I mean, I'm guilty of it too, bro. They 0:51:32.540 --> 0:51:34.299 used to clown me all the time. Like, Deval, you 0:51:34.360 --> 0:51:37.380 can't wear dad's shirts and sweatpants everywhere. 0:51:37.420 --> 0:51:39.300 And I would. Like, that's what I knew. I mean- 0:51:41.180 --> 0:51:43.480 I told y'all we're going to start dressing up more 0:51:43.520 --> 0:51:45.120 on the podcast. 0:51:45.140 --> 0:51:47.540 They did it for one time. 0:51:47.580 --> 0:51:50.080 They did it for three episodes. 0:51:50.100 --> 0:51:52.260 It was going to be the first three. 0:51:52.320 --> 0:51:53.160 It was nice. 0:51:53.940 --> 0:51:55.020 Sharpie Crush 2. 0:51:55.020 --> 0:51:57.590 I feel your wife's plight. Y'all got four kids. She's like, 0:51:57.610 --> 0:51:58.950 I don't got time to dress up for you, nigga. 0:51:59.550 --> 0:52:01.129 So if they got four kids, you know they still 0:52:01.150 --> 0:52:01.670 be fucking too. 0:52:02.230 --> 0:52:02.450 True. 0:52:02.510 --> 0:52:04.610 So, you know, she, you know, she probably tired. She's like, man, 0:52:04.650 --> 0:52:05.570 I'll be giving you everything. 0:52:05.850 --> 0:52:08.110 And, you know, sometimes I feel like people can be 0:52:08.150 --> 0:52:11.530 your same age, but some people just settle differently into aging. 0:52:12.200 --> 0:52:12.379 Yeah. 0:52:12.469 --> 0:52:14.950 Once you have four kids, you're like, I'm in my 40s. 0:52:15.000 --> 0:52:17.680 I'm married. I ain't got to, you know, I ain't 0:52:17.700 --> 0:52:18.719 trying to prove. 0:52:18.739 --> 0:52:18.819 Yeah. 0:52:19.200 --> 0:52:19.460 Yeah. 0:52:19.900 --> 0:52:22.380 I haven't bought, I haven't bought a jewelry or a piece. 0:52:22.560 --> 0:52:23.860 She be on me like the valve. 0:52:23.900 --> 0:52:24.299 The valve. 0:52:25.060 --> 0:52:27.240 You wear those sneakers all the time. And I'm like, man, 0:52:27.300 --> 0:52:28.980 I just got these sneakers. Then I see a picture 0:52:29.000 --> 0:52:32.730 from 2023. And she be on me about that. 0:52:32.770 --> 0:52:34.270 The toe part is starting to come through on the 0:52:34.290 --> 0:52:34.730 gym shoes. 0:52:34.770 --> 0:52:37.640 I'm like, bro. 0:52:37.680 --> 0:52:40.100 Yeah, and I'm like, babe. 0:52:40.120 --> 0:52:41.180 Your toe is saying, errrr. 0:52:42.840 --> 0:52:47.520 As much as he paid for them, they should last forever. 0:52:47.960 --> 0:52:48.680 Hey, say it again. 0:52:48.760 --> 0:52:50.680 As much as he paid for them, they should last forever. 0:52:50.700 --> 0:52:51.660 That's how I be feeling. 0:52:52.300 --> 0:52:52.799 I feel you. 0:52:52.820 --> 0:52:54.430 This shirt, I forgot who got me this shirt. That's 0:52:54.450 --> 0:52:55.950 another thing. I like to wear shirts people give me. 0:52:56.030 --> 0:52:57.510 I wore a County of Kings. 0:52:57.370 --> 0:52:57.810 Shirt last episode. 0:52:57.830 --> 0:52:59.350 Someone made that on tour. I think someone gave that 0:52:59.390 --> 0:53:01.569 to us on tour. Shout out to our folks. 0:53:01.770 --> 0:53:04.270 Matt gave me my County King. This was free. This 0:53:04.290 --> 0:53:06.390 was free. See, because I'll be having to save money. 0:53:06.410 --> 0:53:07.670 But you didn't wear the shirt I got you yet. 0:53:07.690 --> 0:53:08.989 You told me that I should have brought you back 0:53:09.050 --> 0:53:11.130 a t-shirt from Jay-Z concert and you didn't even wear 0:53:11.150 --> 0:53:11.810 the t-shirt yet. 0:53:12.010 --> 0:53:14.529 Because that to me is not a wearable t-shirt. I'm 0:53:14.550 --> 0:53:15.530 going to put that somewhere. 0:53:15.570 --> 0:53:17.910 Yeah, it was his 30th anniversary of Reasonable Doubt. 0:53:17.950 --> 0:53:19.750 You are an old man. That's something an old man 0:53:19.790 --> 0:53:20.069 would do. 0:53:20.090 --> 0:53:21.710 I ain't got no kids. 0:53:21.890 --> 0:53:25.270 I'm going to save that. I'm going to save that. 0:53:25.290 --> 0:53:28.990 And it's going to be in that closet forever. My 0:53:29.010 --> 0:53:31.750 dad would do shit like that. He'll save some. He'll 0:53:31.770 --> 0:53:34.160 put it in a frame in a minute or hang 0:53:34.200 --> 0:53:34.470 it up. 0:53:34.660 --> 0:53:36.140 Frame it, hang it up on the wall. 0:53:36.200 --> 0:53:36.759 I'm not lying. 0:53:36.860 --> 0:53:39.100 She's not lying because I legit said I'm going to 0:53:39.140 --> 0:53:41.180 do something with the shirt and it's going to be 0:53:41.200 --> 0:53:42.320 in that closet forever. 0:53:42.340 --> 0:53:42.860 Literally. 0:53:43.020 --> 0:53:45.279 Because I also got Nick Richards jersey that I got 0:53:45.320 --> 0:53:46.000 last year. 0:53:46.140 --> 0:53:46.879 Where is that though? 0:53:47.140 --> 0:53:47.980 In my closet. 0:53:48.020 --> 0:53:50.500 You sure it's still there? Did I also be having 0:53:50.520 --> 0:53:51.660 people come by and he just be like, yeah, go 0:53:51.680 --> 0:53:52.339 take what you want. 0:53:52.440 --> 0:53:54.880 They're going to take that damn Jay-Z shirt. 0:53:55.500 --> 0:53:55.680 I do. 0:53:55.719 --> 0:53:58.950 I do that. You ain't my size. 0:53:59.270 --> 0:54:03.300 Sure you got a bag or two. 0:54:03.320 --> 0:54:04.940 You know what I thought about when you said, what's up? 0:54:04.960 --> 0:54:07.520 I immediately went to that conversation we had earlier off 0:54:07.980 --> 0:54:12.710 camera about buying stuff for other dudes. 0:54:12.790 --> 0:54:16.110 It's like a closet, man. But if you leave it 0:54:16.150 --> 0:54:18.110 on the sidewalk, I might take it. 0:54:18.150 --> 0:54:22.760 There you go. There you go. So update us, brother. 0:54:22.800 --> 0:54:24.840 Let us know how it goes after we do the suggestion. 0:54:24.860 --> 0:54:26.960 Let us know how everything rolled out and if she 0:54:26.980 --> 0:54:29.240 was receptive to it and all the things. 0:54:29.340 --> 0:54:29.640 All right? 0:54:29.980 --> 0:54:31.480 If you want to be featured as a listener later 0:54:31.540 --> 0:54:36.640 on a future episode, email us at theellisadvice at gmail.com. 0:54:37.160 --> 0:54:42.730 T-H-E-E-L-L-I-S-A-D-V-I-C-E at gmail.com. I'm sorry, my mind is just thinking 0:54:42.770 --> 0:54:44.910 about all the old shit I do now. If they 0:54:44.930 --> 0:54:47.609 knew the old shit I do, they would say so 0:54:47.650 --> 0:54:48.930 much stuff and I'm not saying it. 0:54:48.930 --> 0:54:50.450 They be clowning me recently. 0:54:50.580 --> 0:54:54.980 He was dead serious too. You don't wear that. You 0:54:55.020 --> 0:54:56.300 put that in the frame or something. 0:54:57.420 --> 0:54:58.540 Why is that old? 0:54:58.560 --> 0:54:59.239 Why is that old? 0:54:59.280 --> 0:55:02.460 Why is that old? 0:55:02.520 --> 0:55:03.360 As he gets. 0:55:03.300 --> 0:55:04.880 Older, he's getting more sentimental. 0:55:04.900 --> 0:55:05.759 You know what I'm saying? 0:55:05.780 --> 0:55:08.120 That's why he wants memorabilia in all the things. 0:55:08.140 --> 0:55:11.410 I didn't say it with that rascal. But it's super 0:55:11.430 --> 0:55:13.489 like that. That just sounds so old. 0:55:13.670 --> 0:55:15.670 Did you bring the ticket? Did you bring the ticket, Stubbs? 0:55:15.730 --> 0:55:16.530 I want a lemonade. 0:55:17.410 --> 0:55:17.690 I did. 0:55:18.670 --> 0:55:20.890 Now I feel real old because I swear I was like, 0:55:20.910 --> 0:55:23.009 you didn't bring the ticket? It was Jay-Z 30 in 0:55:23.070 --> 0:55:24.660 the first. Why would you not bring the ticket? 0:55:24.700 --> 0:55:25.700 Because it was electronic. 0:55:25.840 --> 0:55:27.700 You want to screenshot the drink on the phone? 0:55:27.719 --> 0:55:29.200 Screenshot it and print it. 0:55:29.219 --> 0:55:30.969 We're going to put it in laminating. 0:55:31.090 --> 0:55:32.750 I hate y'all, bro. I hate y'all. 0:55:32.770 --> 0:55:33.609 I got my moment of truth. 0:55:34.050 --> 0:55:35.110 You have to do it. 0:55:35.230 --> 0:55:37.379 Y'all talking about me being old and the kids talking 0:55:37.400 --> 0:55:38.120 about my hair, bro. 0:55:39.100 --> 0:55:39.940 I got my moment of truth. 0:55:39.980 --> 0:55:40.839 I need new friends, bro. 0:55:40.860 --> 0:55:41.580 You're cute. 0:55:41.680 --> 0:55:42.759 I need new friends, man. 0:55:42.780 --> 0:55:44.460 You over there aging back. But look at that skin. 0:55:44.520 --> 0:55:45.020 Skin popping. 0:55:45.040 --> 0:55:45.719 You see me, right? 0:55:45.739 --> 0:55:46.040 I see you. 0:55:46.100 --> 0:55:47.799 I see you. Come on, don't flirt with me now. 0:55:47.840 --> 0:55:48.140 Come on now. 0:55:48.160 --> 0:55:49.430 All right, moment of truth time. 0:55:49.770 --> 0:55:52.089 Make sure when you buy a pair of shoes, the 0:55:52.110 --> 0:55:53.489 big toe box is strong. 0:55:53.550 --> 0:55:54.090 Here you go, man. 0:55:54.110 --> 0:55:54.509 Come on, man. 0:55:54.550 --> 0:55:57.560 I swear to God, man. 0:55:57.570 --> 0:56:00.759 The big toe part got to be strong. Hey, strong. 0:56:01.100 --> 0:56:03.080 You know what shoe is. There's a black one in there. 0:56:03.500 --> 0:56:04.920 I'm throwing them out as soon as we leave here. 0:56:04.940 --> 0:56:06.960 Go ahead, Josh, man. Y'all people clowning me. 0:56:08.150 --> 0:56:09.450 Put some jewelry in it when you leave it on 0:56:09.469 --> 0:56:11.630 the sidewalk. Put some jewelry in your shoes. 0:56:11.670 --> 0:56:13.050 Now they all going to go raid my closet. 0:56:13.110 --> 0:56:15.370 I don't really have a moment of truth. 0:56:15.650 --> 0:56:21.570 I probably moved like twice. Relocated twice. And the first place, 0:56:21.610 --> 0:56:23.859 I didn't really like it and care for it. 0:56:24.520 --> 0:56:24.919 Yeah, man. 0:56:25.080 --> 0:56:26.520 If you got to leave, just leave, man. That's it. 0:56:26.520 --> 0:56:28.660 I feel you. But make sure you got a job first. 0:56:29.180 --> 0:56:29.500 Yeah. 0:56:29.560 --> 0:56:30.440 Make sure you got a job. 0:56:30.480 --> 0:56:30.859 Yes, yeah. 0:56:32.550 --> 0:56:34.350 I think mine is just make sure you're not jumping 0:56:34.390 --> 0:56:36.650 out of the frying pan into the fire. Just do 0:56:36.670 --> 0:56:39.130 your due diligence whenever you're moving from one place to another. 0:56:39.510 --> 0:56:41.609 If you're running from something towards something, just make sure 0:56:41.630 --> 0:56:44.570 it makes sense for you. Yeah. And nothing is finite. 0:56:44.610 --> 0:56:45.310 You can always go back. 0:56:45.330 --> 0:56:46.220 Yeah, that's a fact. 0:56:46.340 --> 0:56:49.219 When we moved from LA to here and whatnot, I 0:56:49.500 --> 0:56:51.600 missed Brooklyn. I still miss, I think, the Brooklyn that 0:56:51.700 --> 0:56:54.100 I remember. So if I need to go back to 0:56:54.120 --> 0:56:56.540 Brooklyn to visit family or to catch a vibe, I 0:56:56.580 --> 0:56:58.560 do it as I can. Yeah. 0:56:59.360 --> 0:57:02.900 I meant to say for Opera Noire, they're paying people 0:57:02.900 --> 0:57:05.219 $ 10, 000 to move to Tulsa, Oklahoma. 0:57:05.340 --> 0:57:08.260 If you work remotely, they'll give you $ 10, 000. I mean, 0:57:08.700 --> 0:57:11.280 it might be cool. What's all going on over there? 0:57:11.400 --> 0:57:13.440 I'm cool. I don't know. 0:57:13.440 --> 0:57:15.120 $ 10, 000, not enough for that. 0:57:15.260 --> 0:57:19.669 Yeah, dealing with what they did to our ancestors in Tulsa, Oklahoma, bro, 0:57:19.690 --> 0:57:20.070 like the. 0:57:20.010 --> 0:57:21.070 Spirit of the people. 0:57:21.090 --> 0:57:22.310 There's an energy of it. 0:57:22.330 --> 0:57:23.490 The energy of it is how they are. 0:57:23.570 --> 0:57:24.390 Never mind. 0:57:24.430 --> 0:57:26.350 Never mind. Never mind. 0:57:26.990 --> 0:57:31.270 My moment of truth is just be brave and make 0:57:31.310 --> 0:57:34.630 the move. Don't let anybody keep you in a place 0:57:34.670 --> 0:57:35.330 you don't want to be. 0:57:36.010 --> 0:57:38.690 Get up and go. The world is massive. You should 0:57:38.730 --> 0:57:39.160 see it all. 0:57:39.490 --> 0:57:40.780 We should see it all. I agree. 0:57:40.800 --> 0:57:41.419 I agree with that. 0:57:41.740 --> 0:57:44.640 My moment of truth is be careful what you're running 0:57:44.660 --> 0:57:45.140 away from. 0:57:46.140 --> 0:57:50.080 Plan for what you're running towards. That's it. That's crazy. 0:57:50.640 --> 0:57:51.160 All right now. 0:57:51.460 --> 0:57:52.020 Love you. 0:57:52.040 --> 0:57:52.660 That's old nigga. 0:57:52.700 --> 0:57:53.400 You got to plan. 0:57:55.280 --> 0:57:56.860 Sounded wise and old. 0:57:57.000 --> 0:57:58.220 That made me feel so old. 0:57:58.640 --> 0:58:01.500 All right, y'all. Be sure to follow us on Patreon 0:58:01.540 --> 0:58:03.940 if you haven't been already. You get exclusive Ellis family 0:58:03.980 --> 0:58:06.700 content as well as the after show. You can find 0:58:06.740 --> 0:58:09.480 us on social media as well at Ellis Ever Podcast, 0:58:09.620 --> 0:58:11.890 Ellis Ever After Podcast. 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