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Speaker 1: We got it for you here. It is the Strawberry Letter.

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Speaker 1: Thank you enough. Subject. I'm sick of seeing my husband's

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Speaker 1: ex wife. Dear Stephen Shirley. I have been married for

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Speaker 1: five years, and it's a second marriage for us both.

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Speaker 1: My issue is my forty six year old stepdaughter that

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Speaker 1: has been inviting her mother everywhere for you years. My

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Speaker 1: husband divorced his first wife in nineteen eighty seven, and

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Speaker 1: his daughter is still including this woman and all of

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Speaker 1: our family functions. The ex wife is the daughter's best

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Speaker 1: friend and they do everything together. I don't have a

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Speaker 1: problem with them being best friends, but I draw the

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Speaker 1: line at her coming to family functions that I throw.

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Speaker 1: My husband's ex wife is still close with his parents

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Speaker 1: and they exchange presents at every birthday and for Christmas.

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Speaker 1: I'd said something to my in laws, so they slacked

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Speaker 1: off from spending so much time with her. It's my

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Speaker 1: stepchild and my husband that don't understand that the ex

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Speaker 1: wife should get a life and go be around, go

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Speaker 1: be with her own husband. Yes, she's remarried and her

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Speaker 1: new marriage is in jeopardy because of her daughter being

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Speaker 1: all in the mix. My stepdaughter hates the new husband

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Speaker 1: because he's asked her to stop popping up with her kids.

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Speaker 1: My husband took his daughter's side and encourages her to

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Speaker 1: be rude to this man. I have asked my husband

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Speaker 1: how he'd feel if I had a grown daughter and

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Speaker 1: that's always around us and she brings my ex husband

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Speaker 1: too events at our home. He said he wouldn't like

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Speaker 1: it one bit, but I should understand that a mother

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Speaker 1: daughter bond can't be broken. So I finally told my

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Speaker 1: stepdaughter to stop bringing her mom to my house and

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Speaker 1: she told me it's her dad's home too. I'm fighting

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Speaker 1: a never ending battle and I need your advice. How

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Speaker 1: can I stop this woman from popping up. Okay, let

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Speaker 1: me just say that everyone in this family this letter

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Speaker 1: is crazy except you and your in laws. Apparently, at

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Speaker 1: least your in laws have a good sense to back

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Speaker 1: off after you spoke to them. But this forty six

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Speaker 1: year old daddy's girl, her mama, and your husband are ridiculous.

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Speaker 1: The daughter because she's disrespectful to you, of course, to

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Speaker 1: knows what she's doing. Her mama because she's got a

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Speaker 1: come to your events. What is this about. Her husband

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Speaker 1: is sick of it and their marriage is in trouble.

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Speaker 1: Your husband is an idiot because he lets all of

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Speaker 1: this go down and sees nothing wrong with his ex

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Speaker 1: crashing all your functions, and he won't check his daughter.

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Speaker 1: I mean the line about the mother daughter bond that

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Speaker 1: can't be broken. That's crazy. It's not about the mother

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Speaker 1: daughter bond. It's about your marriage and how you're feeling,

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Speaker 1: and the fact that he won't check his own daughter.

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Speaker 1: This daughter is really sad because she obviously obviously has

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Speaker 1: no life. She has no friends, and so she drags

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Speaker 1: mommy everywhere she goes. Then Mommy, she can't be wrapped

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Speaker 1: too tightly, I'm thinking, because she goes, whether she's invited

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Speaker 1: or not, they don't want you there. You don't want

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Speaker 1: probably be cleared up like that, and uh, you know,

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Speaker 1: they'd stop all these Shenanikans. But he says, you know,

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Speaker 1: it's the stupid stuff like the mother daughter bond, like

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Speaker 1: I mentioned. So to you, I say, instead of talking

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Speaker 1: and this big baby daughter of his, talk to him,

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Speaker 1: sent him down, Talk to him, tell him how you feel,

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Speaker 1: How you know this is out of hand. How you

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Speaker 1: know you want to change the locks, you don't want

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Speaker 1: her invite it anymore. How this is making a mess

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Speaker 1: of your marriage and it needs to change immediately. And

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Speaker 1: see where you go from there, Steve, this is stupid letter,

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Speaker 1: It really is. First of all, Sureley hit it completely

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Speaker 1: on the head completely, She nailed it in every area.

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Speaker 1: So what do I bring to this letter? What do

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Speaker 1: I have to add? You know, I think this calls

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Speaker 1: for a sermon. All right, I think that when we

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Speaker 1: come back deaf Jam and Reverend Motown, we'll cover this letter.

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Speaker 1: It only a way that they can coming up. Our

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Speaker 1: response to what they say is I'm sick or seeing

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Speaker 1: my husband bush x y good, damn Lord. After this sermon,

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Speaker 1: thank you, Pastor. We'll have part two of Steve's response

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Speaker 1: coming up in twenty three minutes after a subject I'm

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Speaker 1: sick of seeing my husband's ex wife. We'll get back

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Speaker 1: into it right after this you're listening to. All right,

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Speaker 1: come on, Steve, should I say, Pastor and Deacon, let's

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Speaker 1: recap today's strawberry letter the subject I'm sick of seeing

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Speaker 1: my husband's ex wife. We are going to approach this

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Speaker 1: from upon to lithical and by garius way. I'm telling,

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Speaker 1: first of all, the subject is I'm sick or seeing

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Speaker 1: my husband's ex wife. We're changing the subject to I

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Speaker 1: bet not see your ass again. I bet deal, Steven Shirley.

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Speaker 1: I've been married for five years and it's second marriage

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Speaker 1: for both of us. My issue, well, is my old

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Speaker 1: ass step daughter fart this six years old? Why is

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Speaker 1: we calling her a step daughter at forty six? You're

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Speaker 1: too old for us to be referred to as step

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Speaker 1: You're just grown as woman in the way, in the

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Speaker 1: way she's been inviting her mother everywhere for years. My

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Speaker 1: husband divorced his first wife in nineteen eighty seven. That's

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Speaker 1: two years after the eighty five maximums came out with

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Speaker 1: I loved Deally, I didn't know, nobody didn't want to

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Speaker 1: eighty five maxim. Well, this helper was two years after that.

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Speaker 1: If that ain't got has been wrote on it, You

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Speaker 1: tell me what do his daughter still including this woman

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Speaker 1: in all our family functions? The ex wife is the

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Speaker 1: daughter's best friend, and they do everything together. Well, let

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Speaker 1: me say this, if you forty six stepdaughter inviting your

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Speaker 1: mama everywhere, all over the new husband house, all over

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Speaker 1: the new wife's house, all over the people's house. I

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Speaker 1: got one thing to say about that. The daughter, the

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Speaker 1: old a woman ain't got no man. I bet you

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Speaker 1: she ain't got no man. It's right there in the letter.

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Speaker 1: In the letter she say I don't have a problem

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Speaker 1: with them being best friend, but I draw the line

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Speaker 1: at her coming to family functions that I throw who.

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Speaker 1: I'm asking you a question, deacon, who it is health

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Speaker 1: for think she is? Then she coming to a barbecue.

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Speaker 1: Why I bought all the reels were path and then

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Speaker 1: we maybe we need to fix her plate that she

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Speaker 1: will never forget. You understand what I'm saying. Oh okay, yeah,

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Speaker 1: if you remember from the movie The Help, that's fix

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Speaker 1: her a nice pie and put something in it. You

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Speaker 1: know he did so. Now that ain't even an old

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Speaker 1: movie yet. My hold of that wife is close with

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Speaker 1: the parents. The exchange presents every day. Oh here we go,

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Speaker 1: oh ho ho hold, oh we sand it claude. Now,

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Speaker 1: oh now, we got gifts for this stuff. She coming

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Speaker 1: over Christma bringing bags and got names and drawing names

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Speaker 1: and everything. Ain't that fucking hum? Well? I tell you

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Speaker 1: what this Christmas is gonna be different. Bring something else

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Speaker 1: get there. You're gonna cary that box back out of here,

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Speaker 1: You hear what I'm saying. The subject of the letter

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Speaker 1: is I bet not see your ass no more again.

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Speaker 1: That's right, that's right, that's the text. That's the tea.

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Speaker 1: My stepchild and her husband don't understand that his ex

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Speaker 1: wife should get a life. Well, she has a life

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Speaker 1: because she has remarried, but the marriage is in jepper

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Speaker 1: because the forty six yo keep going over her house too,

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Speaker 1: and bringing him ragging the Aird baby kids with him. Amen,

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Speaker 1: pastor Amen, this is jemper dies and not only the

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Speaker 1: mama's happiness, but now your happiness. And you know why

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Speaker 1: seven kids, ain't no man, ain't nobody on the horizon.

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Speaker 1: I bet not, I bet not see your ass again.

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Speaker 1: My husband took his daughter's side, and it encourages her

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Speaker 1: to be rude to this man because he don't like huh, well,

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Speaker 1: the only thing I have for you he talking about it.

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Speaker 1: You don't understand that a mother's daughter bond shouldn't be broken.

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Speaker 1: That's a true statement. You might not be able to

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Speaker 1: break that mother daughter bad, but I can break something

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Speaker 1: more damn. That's how you break it, and that's how

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Speaker 1: you break it. That's all the reason we did a

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Speaker 1: sermon because Shirley covered is so well post you're comments

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Speaker 1: on Today's Strawberry Letter and Steve Harvey after we got

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