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Speaker 2: I agree with that, you know what I'm saying. I

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Speaker 1: Like you know, like if he sat right in front

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Speaker 1: because that's pretty much almost what you're saying, then you

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Speaker 1: don't really love them, or you got this ball up

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Speaker 3: This is the taking over the game.

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Speaker 1: All right, everybody, Welcome to Truth after Dark.

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Speaker 2: Do you think that men or women are more toxic?

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Speaker 4: Hello, beautiful people, Welcome to another episode of the Truth

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Speaker 4: after Dark.

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Speaker 2: I'm your host, Zara a Day.

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Speaker 3: Good boy, Paul Piers. What's happening?

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Speaker 2: What's happening?

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Speaker 3: How are you feeling.

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Speaker 2: I'm cool, I'm all right.

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Speaker 3: What's what's up?

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Speaker 5: What's what's up?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: Talk to me? What what's on tap today?

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Speaker 4: What's on tap is just something that I want to

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Speaker 4: touch on first and foremost. That's been happening in our

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Speaker 4: community so often is like people need to like mental

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Speaker 4: health has been a real issue these days. You know,

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Speaker 4: I just lost somebody to suicide. But this is the

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Speaker 4: third person I've lost to suicide. That's my friend, not

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Speaker 4: including like family, My best friend shot himself in the

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Speaker 4: my friend just shot himself in the head the other day,

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Speaker 4: and so then I just seem like a few more

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Speaker 4: rate in which people are killing themselves, especially black men,

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Speaker 4: is at the all time high.

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Speaker 1: You think that a lot of that has to do

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Speaker 1: I think now as the community we got, we're dealing

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Speaker 1: Like if you look at a high school kid and

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Speaker 1: somebody's bashing them online, they don't know who it is,

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Speaker 1: and it's like it's so many different ways to attack people,

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Speaker 1: and it messages with your mentor especially at a young age,

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Speaker 1: and if you're constantly dealing with that for years, the

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Speaker 1: build up of it, it's just like, man, So I

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Speaker 1: think that a lot of that stuff has to go

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean, I will say that we have an

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Speaker 4: We're in a state where we're more connected than ever,

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Speaker 4: So we're connected more than ever, but we're disconnected more

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Speaker 3: Has been before.

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Speaker 1: Look at your peers, you look at kids your age,

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Speaker 4: Social media, like and I had to do a career

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Speaker 1: You know.

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Speaker 3: It's affected.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, he's going through all going through you know, and

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Speaker 3: That's all the world that he lived in.

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Speaker 1: And it's like, damn, I couldn't imagine living that lifestyle

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Speaker 4: So there's moments where you know, like you got to

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Speaker 4: And there's so many women now that look to me

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's a tough one because like when you like

439
00:21:04,680 --> 00:21:06,960
Speaker 1: thinking like that, or something happens to where you can

440
00:21:07,000 --> 00:21:09,560
Speaker 1: lose that person, most likely it's something you did.

441
00:21:10,000 --> 00:21:13,720
Speaker 2: Yeah, because you weren't afraid to lose up. So then

442
00:21:13,800 --> 00:21:15,000
Speaker 2: you did it, and now.

443
00:21:15,000 --> 00:21:17,040
Speaker 1: Now you're about to lose them, and now you're like, oh,

444
00:21:17,560 --> 00:21:20,639
Speaker 1: I fucked up. Yeah you know, but you wasn't thinking

445
00:21:20,640 --> 00:21:24,320
Speaker 1: that when you was fucking up, So I don't know.

446
00:21:24,640 --> 00:21:26,439
Speaker 1: It's like it's a lot of cases to where when

447
00:21:26,440 --> 00:21:28,200
Speaker 1: you're about to lose them, you do every you think

448
00:21:28,240 --> 00:21:31,720
Speaker 1: you can, and then you got to go through it

449
00:21:31,760 --> 00:21:33,360
Speaker 1: if you're not willing to go through it when you're

450
00:21:33,359 --> 00:21:35,600
Speaker 1: about to lose that person, like you're gonna have to

451
00:21:35,600 --> 00:21:39,080
Speaker 1: get dragged to get them back if that's what it takes,

452
00:21:39,080 --> 00:21:41,640
Speaker 1: if you really love them, you really you'll get dragged

453
00:21:41,640 --> 00:21:42,280
Speaker 1: to get them back.

454
00:21:42,680 --> 00:21:45,160
Speaker 4: Even though there's a there's some points where a woman

455
00:21:45,200 --> 00:21:48,040
Speaker 4: will tell you like I'm really done, Like there's nothing

456
00:21:48,080 --> 00:21:48,560
Speaker 4: you can do.

457
00:21:48,680 --> 00:21:49,960
Speaker 3: You can see it, you know.

458
00:21:50,320 --> 00:21:52,639
Speaker 1: Yeah, you could be a relationship a whole year or

459
00:21:52,640 --> 00:21:56,320
Speaker 1: two before it ends and it's been done. You know,

460
00:21:56,359 --> 00:21:58,600
Speaker 1: it's been done. Like you've been that person five years,

461
00:21:58,600 --> 00:22:00,480
Speaker 1: but it was done three year. Yeah.

462
00:22:00,600 --> 00:22:02,320
Speaker 2: Yeah, I've been there. Yeah I've been.

463
00:22:02,840 --> 00:22:04,880
Speaker 1: But y'all just together because that's what y'all.

464
00:22:04,720 --> 00:22:07,879
Speaker 4: Been used to, and you afraid to go through that

465
00:22:08,000 --> 00:22:09,920
Speaker 4: pain of really separating.

466
00:22:10,200 --> 00:22:12,440
Speaker 2: Yeah, so you're just like going through.

467
00:22:12,200 --> 00:22:14,560
Speaker 4: It because you're like, I'm gonna hurt to be with you,

468
00:22:14,600 --> 00:22:16,679
Speaker 4: and it's gonna hurt, and believe you, so I'm just

469
00:22:16,720 --> 00:22:17,600
Speaker 4: gonna stay.

470
00:22:17,520 --> 00:22:18,840
Speaker 3: Because you're afraid of what's next?

471
00:22:18,920 --> 00:22:21,879
Speaker 4: What's next is scary because this I know what this is.

472
00:22:22,400 --> 00:22:24,639
Speaker 4: It's predictable. I know what's gonna happen. We're gonna go

473
00:22:24,680 --> 00:22:27,040
Speaker 4: through this, we're gonna fight, we're gonna be whatever. We'll

474
00:22:27,080 --> 00:22:30,720
Speaker 4: have a few one two cool days. But like leaving

475
00:22:30,960 --> 00:22:33,720
Speaker 4: means I don't know, it's uncertain. I don't know what's

476
00:22:33,720 --> 00:22:35,919
Speaker 4: gonna happen next. Am I gonna end up alone? Am

477
00:22:35,960 --> 00:22:37,720
Speaker 4: I gonna meet anyone that I actually like?

478
00:22:37,840 --> 00:22:40,280
Speaker 2: Ever? Again? Am I gonna like? What is that gonna

479
00:22:40,320 --> 00:22:40,639
Speaker 2: look like?

480
00:22:40,680 --> 00:22:42,640
Speaker 4: In a lot of the time, when you're going through that,

481
00:22:42,880 --> 00:22:45,880
Speaker 4: and when you lose someone, you highlight so many good

482
00:22:45,920 --> 00:22:48,480
Speaker 4: things about them, even if you knew the relationship was trash,

483
00:22:48,760 --> 00:22:51,399
Speaker 4: and you're like, damn, like, am I ever gonna have

484
00:22:51,480 --> 00:22:54,000
Speaker 4: anybody else? You know, there's there's that feeling, you know,

485
00:22:54,119 --> 00:22:56,879
Speaker 4: where you know, will I ever like someone this much again?

486
00:22:57,040 --> 00:22:59,520
Speaker 4: Or whatever the case is, even though you knew that

487
00:22:59,600 --> 00:23:05,040
Speaker 4: relationship ship has been over, like because there's so much contention,

488
00:23:05,440 --> 00:23:08,719
Speaker 4: Like there's one thing to like go through stuff with

489
00:23:08,760 --> 00:23:10,840
Speaker 4: your partner, but there's another thing when you know, like

490
00:23:11,280 --> 00:23:15,520
Speaker 4: this just nothing is working, Like we always got something.

491
00:23:15,560 --> 00:23:18,760
Speaker 4: It's always a fight it's always this, It's always in.

492
00:23:18,720 --> 00:23:21,760
Speaker 1: Our relationship, it was over, you know, you know, you

493
00:23:22,040 --> 00:23:24,359
Speaker 1: go through your ups and downs, but when it's officially

494
00:23:24,440 --> 00:23:27,680
Speaker 1: over for me as a man, when it started getting.

495
00:23:27,480 --> 00:23:29,880
Speaker 3: Disrespectful, yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, Like all the.

496
00:23:29,840 --> 00:23:32,760
Speaker 1: Other stuff I can deal with, like being mad and

497
00:23:33,320 --> 00:23:37,040
Speaker 1: holding back sex and you know, not you know, just

498
00:23:37,800 --> 00:23:40,440
Speaker 1: not going on days and not doing stuff. But when

499
00:23:40,480 --> 00:23:44,000
Speaker 1: it started getting disrespectful, that's when you know it was

500
00:23:44,080 --> 00:23:46,600
Speaker 1: over all the other stuff I can deal with.

501
00:23:46,720 --> 00:23:50,840
Speaker 4: Yeah, when a woman gets disrespectful, she's she's she's cool.

502
00:23:51,320 --> 00:23:52,200
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's over.

503
00:23:52,160 --> 00:23:55,200
Speaker 4: She because she and you have to realize too, even

504
00:23:55,240 --> 00:23:57,679
Speaker 4: as a person, if someone's being this disrespectful to you,

505
00:23:58,160 --> 00:24:00,879
Speaker 4: there is no relationship anyways, because they don't respect you.

506
00:24:00,920 --> 00:24:02,720
Speaker 4: They and you know, there gets to a point where,

507
00:24:02,920 --> 00:24:06,240
Speaker 4: even if you're not a bad person, the person views

508
00:24:06,280 --> 00:24:08,960
Speaker 4: you as like so like they look at you like

509
00:24:09,040 --> 00:24:11,840
Speaker 4: such a fucked up, horrible human being, and you're like, man,

510
00:24:11,920 --> 00:24:13,439
Speaker 4: I don't even want to be with someone that I

511
00:24:13,440 --> 00:24:16,480
Speaker 4: have to fight against the fact that I'm really actually

512
00:24:16,480 --> 00:24:17,879
Speaker 4: not this fucked up person.

513
00:24:18,280 --> 00:24:20,560
Speaker 2: I made some mistakes and I made.

514
00:24:20,320 --> 00:24:22,840
Speaker 4: Some poor decisions, but I don't even want to be

515
00:24:22,880 --> 00:24:25,760
Speaker 4: with someone who views me so low down, like you

516
00:24:25,880 --> 00:24:28,560
Speaker 4: think of me so horribly. What's the point now, I'm

517
00:24:28,600 --> 00:24:31,639
Speaker 4: just gonna be exhausted trying to prove that I'm worthy,

518
00:24:31,720 --> 00:24:34,040
Speaker 4: that I'm not that messed up to you, And it's

519
00:24:34,080 --> 00:24:36,000
Speaker 4: like that's exhausting for both of us.

520
00:24:36,040 --> 00:24:36,960
Speaker 2: At that point, you.

521
00:24:37,000 --> 00:24:39,560
Speaker 4: Might as well go find someone else that you actually

522
00:24:39,600 --> 00:24:42,639
Speaker 4: look at in a better light. Yeah, because once you

523
00:24:42,640 --> 00:24:45,200
Speaker 4: start to look at me like I'm just horrible.

524
00:24:46,200 --> 00:24:46,800
Speaker 2: What are we doing?

525
00:24:47,240 --> 00:24:50,399
Speaker 4: Like once I look at you like, oh, you're just

526
00:24:50,440 --> 00:24:53,280
Speaker 4: this year that you're that, because the chances are is like,

527
00:24:53,960 --> 00:24:56,840
Speaker 4: people make mistakes and relationships, but once you get past

528
00:24:56,880 --> 00:24:59,240
Speaker 4: that threshold of like what you can take, then it

529
00:24:59,240 --> 00:25:01,400
Speaker 4: starts to get this respectful and you don't even view

530
00:25:01,440 --> 00:25:04,080
Speaker 4: that person in the light in which you like, what's

531
00:25:04,119 --> 00:25:06,800
Speaker 4: the point. The only reason we're staying now is the

532
00:25:06,840 --> 00:25:08,639
Speaker 4: fear of what's on the other side of letting go.

533
00:25:09,240 --> 00:25:13,280
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, that is true. You know, for too long, you.

534
00:25:13,200 --> 00:25:17,120
Speaker 4: Hold on for too long because you afraid of what's

535
00:25:17,200 --> 00:25:19,359
Speaker 4: next and what's letting go. But then you do so

536
00:25:19,480 --> 00:25:22,159
Speaker 4: much damage in that time that you stay.

537
00:25:22,240 --> 00:25:23,320
Speaker 2: You damage yourself.

538
00:25:23,400 --> 00:25:27,400
Speaker 3: It disrespect tons.

539
00:25:26,359 --> 00:25:28,680
Speaker 2: Resentment, Yeah, it turns into resentment.

540
00:25:28,920 --> 00:25:33,160
Speaker 4: For sure, it returns into resentment, and God forbid, it's

541
00:25:33,200 --> 00:25:35,239
Speaker 4: even worse when you have to daff kids with that

542
00:25:35,280 --> 00:25:38,520
Speaker 4: person like and deal with them forever. Like me personally,

543
00:25:38,600 --> 00:25:41,280
Speaker 4: I don't have that. So it's like you can resent someone,

544
00:25:41,359 --> 00:25:42,840
Speaker 4: but then you don't have to deal with them.

545
00:25:42,680 --> 00:25:43,800
Speaker 2: So now you over it.

546
00:25:43,840 --> 00:25:45,360
Speaker 4: Like in a few years, you could see that person

547
00:25:45,440 --> 00:25:47,199
Speaker 4: be like, what's up, Like we cool? I don't have

548
00:25:47,240 --> 00:25:49,520
Speaker 4: no beef, Like I don't care because I don't have to.

549
00:25:49,440 --> 00:25:50,040
Speaker 2: Deal with you.

550
00:25:50,359 --> 00:25:53,080
Speaker 4: But see, you do more damage to yourself when you stay,

551
00:25:53,400 --> 00:25:56,560
Speaker 4: because you hurt yourself more and you hurt the other person.

552
00:25:56,680 --> 00:26:00,000
Speaker 4: And then you get in another relationship and that starts

553
00:26:00,119 --> 00:26:03,240
Speaker 4: to pour over and it's like, damn, I don't stay

554
00:26:03,320 --> 00:26:06,359
Speaker 4: too long that I damage my mind because I'm thinking,

555
00:26:06,359 --> 00:26:09,320
Speaker 4: now this is how people act. Now I'm getting disrespected,

556
00:26:09,359 --> 00:26:11,280
Speaker 4: Now I'm on the defense. Now I feel a certain

557
00:26:11,280 --> 00:26:13,920
Speaker 4: type of way in my new relationship, and I think

558
00:26:13,960 --> 00:26:16,720
Speaker 4: that we got to learn how to let go quicker.

559
00:26:17,400 --> 00:26:21,600
Speaker 1: Well, it's hard, hard, very hard. It's hard to break

560
00:26:21,640 --> 00:26:25,720
Speaker 1: the building down, you know, it's very something built over

561
00:26:25,760 --> 00:26:27,439
Speaker 1: the years, and it's hard to let it go.

562
00:26:27,520 --> 00:26:30,200
Speaker 4: It's hard to walk away it's really hard. And again,

563
00:26:30,480 --> 00:26:35,000
Speaker 4: I think starting over is hard and it's scary, like

564
00:26:35,080 --> 00:26:37,359
Speaker 4: to have to be like I'm going to start over

565
00:26:37,680 --> 00:26:41,000
Speaker 4: and be in like be alone and figure.

566
00:26:40,720 --> 00:26:41,440
Speaker 2: My shit out.

567
00:26:41,920 --> 00:26:42,960
Speaker 3: Especially for women.

568
00:26:43,240 --> 00:26:45,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's really difficult.

569
00:26:44,680 --> 00:26:47,000
Speaker 3: For women than it is for men. I believe.

570
00:26:47,240 --> 00:26:51,760
Speaker 4: I believe that, Yeah, because I've seen man get out

571
00:26:51,800 --> 00:26:53,960
Speaker 4: of long relationships and be with the next woman right

572
00:26:53,960 --> 00:26:54,440
Speaker 4: then and there.

573
00:26:54,800 --> 00:26:58,359
Speaker 1: Well, maybe not in a relationship, but like we'll use women.

574
00:26:58,320 --> 00:27:01,359
Speaker 2: To kind of cover up our Yeah, for sure, you

575
00:27:01,359 --> 00:27:01,880
Speaker 2: know where a.

576
00:27:01,840 --> 00:27:03,760
Speaker 1: Woman will go through it a little bit more than

577
00:27:03,760 --> 00:27:07,000
Speaker 1: a man. Yeah, like won't date, won't go out. Yeah,

578
00:27:07,040 --> 00:27:08,600
Speaker 1: you know, then you got other women who will date,

579
00:27:08,640 --> 00:27:10,280
Speaker 1: can go out. But like for the most part, there's

580
00:27:10,320 --> 00:27:13,480
Speaker 1: more men that say, all right, I'm the next day,

581
00:27:14,080 --> 00:27:15,240
Speaker 1: I'm outside.

582
00:27:14,840 --> 00:27:16,399
Speaker 2: Yeah, and you know how hard that is.

583
00:27:16,440 --> 00:27:19,359
Speaker 4: That's so it's telling like social media, like as a woman,

584
00:27:19,760 --> 00:27:22,159
Speaker 4: when you break up with someone and you're like in

585
00:27:22,240 --> 00:27:25,359
Speaker 4: the bed depressed and you go look and you see

586
00:27:25,400 --> 00:27:27,800
Speaker 4: this man outside, Like I remember when me and my

587
00:27:27,840 --> 00:27:30,280
Speaker 4: ex broke up. I'm sad I broke up with him,

588
00:27:30,280 --> 00:27:32,800
Speaker 4: but you're still sad, Like I had to let go,

589
00:27:33,000 --> 00:27:36,240
Speaker 4: Like this was blowing me and you're outside and you

590
00:27:36,400 --> 00:27:38,720
Speaker 4: people are so messy. They're calling you, oh I saw

591
00:27:38,800 --> 00:27:41,679
Speaker 4: da da da da outside with like oh girl, and

592
00:27:41,720 --> 00:27:44,040
Speaker 4: they was and then it's like what, like you just

593
00:27:44,119 --> 00:27:47,080
Speaker 4: feel so bad. You're like, damn, I was nothing to you,

594
00:27:47,640 --> 00:27:50,080
Speaker 4: Like you just got another woman. But what I notice

595
00:27:50,119 --> 00:27:52,679
Speaker 4: is with me, it'd be like a few months and

596
00:27:52,720 --> 00:27:55,479
Speaker 4: then like in a few months by the time you

597
00:27:55,520 --> 00:27:58,679
Speaker 4: do your healing and like I go through my sad depression.

598
00:27:58,960 --> 00:28:00,720
Speaker 4: Then I get up and I'm going back into the

599
00:28:00,760 --> 00:28:02,800
Speaker 4: gym and I'm feeling myself again and I feel good.

600
00:28:02,840 --> 00:28:04,840
Speaker 4: I'm doing the inner work. And by the time I'm

601
00:28:04,880 --> 00:28:07,680
Speaker 4: back hitting it and I'm dating a new man. Then

602
00:28:07,720 --> 00:28:09,560
Speaker 4: you calling me. Then you're like.

603
00:28:09,800 --> 00:28:12,439
Speaker 2: Hebe like, I love you so much, I'll never forget.

604
00:28:12,520 --> 00:28:13,040
Speaker 2: I remember.

605
00:28:13,160 --> 00:28:15,320
Speaker 4: I was like wanting my ex to like, you know,

606
00:28:15,359 --> 00:28:17,560
Speaker 4: you want someone to fight for you, even if you're done,

607
00:28:17,600 --> 00:28:19,960
Speaker 4: you always want to feel like you're fighting for me.

608
00:28:20,480 --> 00:28:25,280
Speaker 3: It's hard to fight for somebody after the disrespect though, Yeah,

609
00:28:25,600 --> 00:28:26,680
Speaker 3: what I'm saying.

610
00:28:26,720 --> 00:28:29,840
Speaker 1: Like, you know, my relationships, I wanted to fight, Yeah,

611
00:28:29,880 --> 00:28:34,359
Speaker 1: but like the constant dish every day being disrespectful, like

612
00:28:34,440 --> 00:28:38,040
Speaker 1: I was disrespectful once, like and it's not kind, but

613
00:28:38,080 --> 00:28:40,120
Speaker 1: the constant disrespect it is hard.

614
00:28:39,880 --> 00:28:40,640
Speaker 3: To fight back.

615
00:28:40,720 --> 00:28:43,080
Speaker 4: No, I get that, and I understand that, but I

616
00:28:43,080 --> 00:28:45,000
Speaker 4: think you get as a woman, You're like, damn, you

617
00:28:45,000 --> 00:28:48,000
Speaker 4: want someone to fight, and then you they missed the

618
00:28:48,000 --> 00:28:50,200
Speaker 4: they missed the opportunity in order to do it.

619
00:28:50,720 --> 00:28:53,320
Speaker 2: And so I remember I was I broke up. Dah

620
00:28:53,360 --> 00:28:53,640
Speaker 2: da da.

621
00:28:53,640 --> 00:28:56,360
Speaker 4: Dah everyone, Oh he's hitting it this that I'm sad,

622
00:28:56,440 --> 00:28:59,520
Speaker 4: I'm crying. And then I remember I got a whole

623
00:28:59,520 --> 00:29:02,200
Speaker 4: new man. And the night my new man was like,

624
00:29:02,240 --> 00:29:05,040
Speaker 4: I love you, my old man. I don't know what

625
00:29:05,120 --> 00:29:09,680
Speaker 4: it was that man started blowing my line down. I

626
00:29:09,720 --> 00:29:11,320
Speaker 4: love you, don't want to be with you. I'm so sorry,

627
00:29:11,320 --> 00:29:13,280
Speaker 4: and I'm like, oh, it's too late. Now I got

628
00:29:13,280 --> 00:29:17,600
Speaker 4: a whole new man. I'm good. Like once you move

629
00:29:17,680 --> 00:29:20,880
Speaker 4: on me, I'm never doubling back on anybody I've ever

630
00:29:20,920 --> 00:29:23,640
Speaker 4: been with. I never have done that, and I'm never

631
00:29:23,720 --> 00:29:26,320
Speaker 4: doing that, like once I get over you, because the

632
00:29:26,400 --> 00:29:29,840
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633
00:29:29,920 --> 00:29:34,080
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634
00:29:34,160 --> 00:29:36,600
Speaker 4: I really walk away and I decide to like go

635
00:29:36,640 --> 00:29:38,760
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636
00:29:38,800 --> 00:29:41,120
Speaker 4: of that. I'm not putting myself through that again. We

637
00:29:41,160 --> 00:29:44,080
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638
00:29:44,080 --> 00:29:46,880
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639
00:29:47,760 --> 00:29:51,600
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640
00:29:51,680 --> 00:29:54,120
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641
00:29:54,200 --> 00:29:56,360
Speaker 4: with no man I've been with because I just don't.

642
00:29:56,440 --> 00:29:56,800
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Speaker 4: So yeah, anyways, this whole drama with money Bag, yo,

675
00:31:32,760 --> 00:31:33,360
Speaker 4: have you seen that?

676
00:31:35,480 --> 00:31:37,320
Speaker 3: I think it was something with his baby mama.

677
00:31:37,480 --> 00:31:37,720
Speaker 2: Yeah.

678
00:31:37,760 --> 00:31:41,640
Speaker 4: So basically he went to see his baby mom, I guess,

679
00:31:41,760 --> 00:31:43,920
Speaker 4: and the baby mama has a new man, and the

680
00:31:43,960 --> 00:31:46,560
Speaker 4: new man Boughty of this house and all this, and

681
00:31:46,640 --> 00:31:50,760
Speaker 4: he's kicking it chilling at the new house with his

682
00:31:50,800 --> 00:31:54,440
Speaker 4: baby mom. They do, but he wasn't there, he's like

683
00:31:54,480 --> 00:31:57,160
Speaker 4: out of town. So he sees on the camera, you

684
00:31:57,320 --> 00:31:59,640
Speaker 4: kicking it? What's you coming over here kicking it with

685
00:31:59,760 --> 00:32:03,920
Speaker 4: your baby mama? Chilling for that's blowing me. So the

686
00:32:03,960 --> 00:32:06,480
Speaker 4: man is hot. So the man goes to Instagram like what,

687
00:32:06,760 --> 00:32:08,440
Speaker 4: like you in my house and he's like tripping off

688
00:32:08,480 --> 00:32:10,840
Speaker 4: the baby mom, like you left this man at my

689
00:32:10,880 --> 00:32:12,040
Speaker 4: house and y'all are it's.

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Speaker 2: Not even about the kid picking it up, dropping the kid,

691
00:32:14,320 --> 00:32:19,080
Speaker 2: like you chilling on my couch, keep kidding and.

692
00:32:19,120 --> 00:32:22,160
Speaker 4: Kicking it in my house with like that's out of pocket.

693
00:32:22,480 --> 00:32:23,960
Speaker 3: That is out of pocket for her.

694
00:32:24,720 --> 00:32:25,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, she's wrong.

695
00:32:26,640 --> 00:32:29,600
Speaker 3: Yeah, if this dude got you in a new house.

696
00:32:29,560 --> 00:32:33,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, why are you kicking it with your baby mama? Anyways?

697
00:32:33,040 --> 00:32:34,680
Speaker 2: Why are you kicking it with your baby daddy?

698
00:32:34,680 --> 00:32:37,760
Speaker 3: Why he just came over to get the kid.

699
00:32:37,880 --> 00:32:39,520
Speaker 2: He should have just came over to get the kill.

700
00:32:40,040 --> 00:32:43,520
Speaker 3: Was that was what he came over to do. Yeah, yeah, okay.

701
00:32:43,200 --> 00:32:47,960
Speaker 1: That's what he came over to do, to get the kids.

702
00:32:48,000 --> 00:32:50,840
Speaker 1: So it should just be a quick transaction to man, But.

703
00:32:50,800 --> 00:32:53,880
Speaker 2: He's chilling it for hours hours. Yeah, he was at

704
00:32:53,880 --> 00:32:56,280
Speaker 2: the house kicking it with the girl. You kicking it?

705
00:32:56,840 --> 00:32:58,560
Speaker 2: There's no reason you should kick it. Get the kid

706
00:32:58,600 --> 00:32:59,040
Speaker 2: in the hit it.

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00:32:59,040 --> 00:33:01,680
Speaker 1: They got cameras in Yeah, oh he saw that, he

708
00:33:01,760 --> 00:33:03,880
Speaker 1: saw Okay, well she knew that.

709
00:33:04,520 --> 00:33:06,520
Speaker 2: Maybe she didn't. We don't know if she knew. People

710
00:33:06,600 --> 00:33:08,440
Speaker 2: don't always know if they have cameras in the house.

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00:33:08,640 --> 00:33:10,440
Speaker 3: Yeah, she knew. If you live there, you know, if

712
00:33:10,440 --> 00:33:11,320
Speaker 3: there's cameras.

713
00:33:11,000 --> 00:33:13,880
Speaker 2: In house, you know, you know, you don't know always people.

714
00:33:13,800 --> 00:33:16,200
Speaker 1: There's cameras, not in the house, there's cameras outside seeing

715
00:33:16,200 --> 00:33:16,880
Speaker 1: you coming in.

716
00:33:16,840 --> 00:33:18,000
Speaker 2: Right in and seeing you leaving.

717
00:33:18,200 --> 00:33:22,560
Speaker 4: Yeah, why are you kicking it? No, that's the struggle.

718
00:33:22,600 --> 00:33:28,400
Speaker 4: So then she came out and basically said, oh, I'm

719
00:33:28,440 --> 00:33:31,600
Speaker 4: not messing with you because you're gay.

720
00:33:32,080 --> 00:33:34,320
Speaker 2: And I found out that you're gay while he was

721
00:33:34,360 --> 00:33:37,880
Speaker 2: out of town. Who knows. These people are crazy?

722
00:33:37,960 --> 00:33:38,760
Speaker 3: Oh my god.

723
00:33:38,840 --> 00:33:42,040
Speaker 4: Yeah, so she basically caught him gay. They said he's

724
00:33:42,040 --> 00:33:43,120
Speaker 4: on DL or whatever.

725
00:33:43,720 --> 00:33:46,480
Speaker 3: Ooh. And they were together at the time.

726
00:33:46,560 --> 00:33:47,280
Speaker 2: Yeah, they're together.

727
00:33:47,360 --> 00:33:50,719
Speaker 3: She So you just broke up. We just broke up.

728
00:33:50,840 --> 00:33:52,320
Speaker 4: Well, you broke up when you was kicking it with

729
00:33:52,360 --> 00:33:54,320
Speaker 4: the baby mama and baby daddy in my house. So

730
00:33:54,360 --> 00:33:55,960
Speaker 4: we was already broken up at that point.

731
00:33:56,120 --> 00:33:57,880
Speaker 2: He was done with her. He was already like, oh,

732
00:33:57,920 --> 00:33:58,600
Speaker 2: what do that mean?

733
00:33:58,800 --> 00:33:59,959
Speaker 3: He got to get her up out of there.

734
00:34:00,200 --> 00:34:02,240
Speaker 2: Yeah, And he also bought her Range Rover.

735
00:34:02,640 --> 00:34:03,200
Speaker 3: I need that.

736
00:34:03,280 --> 00:34:05,320
Speaker 4: And so he was like, if y'all see my car

737
00:34:05,560 --> 00:34:07,920
Speaker 4: in the streets, call like report it because.

738
00:34:07,720 --> 00:34:09,719
Speaker 3: I need my car, the house. I need the car.

739
00:34:09,800 --> 00:34:12,040
Speaker 4: He posted a picture of hurt in the car with

740
00:34:12,080 --> 00:34:14,240
Speaker 4: the roses. He bought the car with the roses.

741
00:34:15,120 --> 00:34:16,919
Speaker 2: I need everything back, ye'ah.

742
00:34:16,920 --> 00:34:19,720
Speaker 1: I need that back. It's probably in his name anyway.

743
00:34:19,760 --> 00:34:21,239
Speaker 2: So he get home car and.

744
00:34:21,160 --> 00:34:23,440
Speaker 4: Then he puts the receipt up where he's playing for

745
00:34:23,480 --> 00:34:26,239
Speaker 4: the private school of money bag Yo's kid to go

746
00:34:26,320 --> 00:34:27,920
Speaker 4: public twenty five hundred.

747
00:34:28,440 --> 00:34:29,480
Speaker 3: I'm public.

748
00:34:29,719 --> 00:34:32,080
Speaker 4: He's like, I'm paying some people's rent for the private

749
00:34:32,120 --> 00:34:34,200
Speaker 4: school and this is your child, money bag yo, who

750
00:34:34,239 --> 00:34:37,839
Speaker 4: got money and you're not paying it, not paying for this, Like,

751
00:34:38,000 --> 00:34:41,040
Speaker 4: I don't know how a woman could fumble, Like women,

752
00:34:42,600 --> 00:34:43,560
Speaker 4: you're trifling for that.

753
00:34:43,600 --> 00:34:44,960
Speaker 2: I'm gonna keep it real, yeamn.

754
00:34:45,239 --> 00:34:48,560
Speaker 4: But based off of how she looks and her Instagram

755
00:34:48,600 --> 00:34:49,160
Speaker 4: and everything.

756
00:34:49,480 --> 00:34:53,080
Speaker 3: Again, don't base everything off looks though, No.

757
00:34:52,920 --> 00:34:55,360
Speaker 4: No, no, it's I can yeah, it's based off of

758
00:34:55,400 --> 00:34:58,000
Speaker 4: your actions and how you're moving. You half naked, you

759
00:34:58,120 --> 00:34:59,480
Speaker 4: got twenty surgeries.

760
00:34:59,680 --> 00:35:00,800
Speaker 2: You trying to catch.

761
00:35:00,640 --> 00:35:02,920
Speaker 4: Him the next best man with money? Yeah, you you

762
00:35:03,280 --> 00:35:05,080
Speaker 4: base it off of that. I'm a base it off

763
00:35:05,120 --> 00:35:07,800
Speaker 4: of that, Like I could tell a type of woman

764
00:35:07,960 --> 00:35:10,799
Speaker 4: you can like at the end of the day, she

765
00:35:10,880 --> 00:35:13,720
Speaker 4: looks You should have known that. This is my problem

766
00:35:13,760 --> 00:35:15,920
Speaker 4: with man. You get these type of women who got

767
00:35:15,960 --> 00:35:19,560
Speaker 4: a rapper baby daddy and on Instagram. How you think

768
00:35:19,560 --> 00:35:21,960
Speaker 4: you got her? And now you're mad because she did

769
00:35:22,000 --> 00:35:23,279
Speaker 4: exactly what she meant to do.

770
00:35:23,760 --> 00:35:24,520
Speaker 2: You mad?

771
00:35:25,160 --> 00:35:27,520
Speaker 4: You knew, you knew, you knew. This is what happens

772
00:35:27,560 --> 00:35:31,000
Speaker 4: with man again. Y'all get with these women and think

773
00:35:31,040 --> 00:35:31,880
Speaker 4: that you're different.

774
00:35:32,280 --> 00:35:33,239
Speaker 2: You ain't special.

775
00:35:33,920 --> 00:35:37,800
Speaker 4: She's showing you exactly what type of woman she is, right,

776
00:35:38,200 --> 00:35:42,360
Speaker 4: you could see that, like there's different calibers of women,

777
00:35:42,400 --> 00:35:44,960
Speaker 4: and we have to stop pretending that there's not. Like,

778
00:35:45,120 --> 00:35:48,040
Speaker 4: let's stop pretending that. Like women get mad at me

779
00:35:48,120 --> 00:35:52,520
Speaker 4: like I have some holy fans. Girl was blowing me

780
00:35:52,680 --> 00:35:55,480
Speaker 4: like one time, like going off because she messed with

781
00:35:55,640 --> 00:35:58,239
Speaker 4: one of my exes one time and because I said

782
00:35:58,239 --> 00:36:01,200
Speaker 4: something about like women being prostituted. She was going in

783
00:36:01,440 --> 00:36:03,759
Speaker 4: like trying to run shit, And I'm like, girl.

784
00:36:04,080 --> 00:36:06,640
Speaker 2: It is what it is you're a home I.

785
00:36:06,560 --> 00:36:09,080
Speaker 4: Don't know what else you want me to tell you.

786
00:36:09,080 --> 00:36:11,200
Speaker 4: You mad at me because I'm calling it how I

787
00:36:11,239 --> 00:36:14,239
Speaker 4: see it, like I'm a different caliber of woman than you.

788
00:36:14,600 --> 00:36:17,280
Speaker 4: If you decide that I'm better than you, that's your opinion.

789
00:36:17,320 --> 00:36:19,360
Speaker 2: I didn't say that I'm different though.

790
00:36:19,560 --> 00:36:21,440
Speaker 4: I'm a different type of woman, and I'm not in

791
00:36:21,480 --> 00:36:23,479
Speaker 4: the same lane as you were, not in the same league.

792
00:36:23,520 --> 00:36:25,840
Speaker 4: We're not in the same category. If you decipher that

793
00:36:26,040 --> 00:36:27,200
Speaker 4: as me saying I'm better.

794
00:36:27,040 --> 00:36:28,719
Speaker 2: Than you, that's what you said, not me.

795
00:36:29,400 --> 00:36:29,759
Speaker 5: I'm not.

796
00:36:30,200 --> 00:36:32,319
Speaker 4: I'm just letting you know I am a different type

797
00:36:32,320 --> 00:36:35,640
Speaker 4: of caliber than you. I don't choose to let anybody

798
00:36:35,680 --> 00:36:38,160
Speaker 4: with nine ninety nine to be able to see inside.

799
00:36:37,800 --> 00:36:38,560
Speaker 2: Of my booty hole.

800
00:36:39,520 --> 00:36:42,760
Speaker 4: Okay, I don't let anybody with three dollars a month

801
00:36:43,040 --> 00:36:44,959
Speaker 4: get to see me shake my ass.

802
00:36:45,000 --> 00:36:49,160
Speaker 2: Matter of fact, you do that shit for free on Instagram. Okay,

803
00:36:49,280 --> 00:36:50,520
Speaker 2: I'm not that type of woman.

804
00:36:50,600 --> 00:36:53,440
Speaker 4: Stop being mad at me because that's what you decide

805
00:36:53,440 --> 00:36:53,640
Speaker 4: to do.

806
00:36:53,719 --> 00:36:55,160
Speaker 2: That's the life you decide to leave.

807
00:36:55,320 --> 00:36:55,560
Speaker 3: Leave.

808
00:36:55,960 --> 00:36:57,600
Speaker 2: I feel good about who I am as a women.

809
00:36:57,600 --> 00:36:59,759
Speaker 4: I go to sleep at night knowing that you can't

810
00:36:59,760 --> 00:37:03,000
Speaker 4: see my body for a few dollars. I feel good

811
00:37:03,040 --> 00:37:05,839
Speaker 4: about that, but you should feel good about what you're

812
00:37:05,880 --> 00:37:08,400
Speaker 4: doing too. If you don't feel good about it, you

813
00:37:08,440 --> 00:37:10,200
Speaker 4: should reevaluate your lifestyle.

814
00:37:10,280 --> 00:37:12,040
Speaker 2: Baby, that's on you.

815
00:37:12,040 --> 00:37:14,200
Speaker 1: You know what I learned about women and break up

816
00:37:15,520 --> 00:37:17,959
Speaker 1: based on you know, listening to you, how you feel

817
00:37:17,960 --> 00:37:19,399
Speaker 1: about the next woman to go with your ex.

818
00:37:19,480 --> 00:37:21,239
Speaker 3: I swear every woman.

819
00:37:23,239 --> 00:37:24,960
Speaker 1: When they break up with that man, and when that

820
00:37:25,000 --> 00:37:28,040
Speaker 1: man gives the next girl, she either she ain't, she

821
00:37:28,239 --> 00:37:31,120
Speaker 1: ugly or she no matter what she look No, no, no,

822
00:37:33,280 --> 00:37:34,959
Speaker 1: the baddest girl to play it, she ugly.

823
00:37:35,080 --> 00:37:37,319
Speaker 2: That's not truth. That's not true though.

824
00:37:37,360 --> 00:37:41,280
Speaker 3: The woman what I'm talking about, I'm just saying in general.

825
00:37:41,440 --> 00:37:44,160
Speaker 2: No, no, let me tell you the truth.

826
00:37:44,200 --> 00:37:46,680
Speaker 4: The type of person I am is like I will

827
00:37:46,719 --> 00:37:50,040
Speaker 4: give credit when credit is due. If a man that

828
00:37:50,120 --> 00:37:54,360
Speaker 4: I've been with, what no, because chances are though, but

829
00:37:54,680 --> 00:37:56,920
Speaker 4: I give credit where credit is due. Like I've been

830
00:37:56,960 --> 00:37:59,080
Speaker 4: with man and they have beautiful exes, and I'm like,

831
00:37:59,160 --> 00:38:01,759
Speaker 4: I will literally say, like, oh, she's fly, she cool,

832
00:38:01,800 --> 00:38:04,040
Speaker 4: she was she was bombed. And then I've seen some

833
00:38:04,120 --> 00:38:05,800
Speaker 4: of my exes and their baby.

834
00:38:06,400 --> 00:38:08,920
Speaker 1: That's not even about the look like y'all, y'all are

835
00:38:08,960 --> 00:38:12,120
Speaker 1: going look like, what if she ain't up to your

836
00:38:12,560 --> 00:38:15,319
Speaker 1: level of looks? But she doing things you wasn't doing,

837
00:38:15,719 --> 00:38:17,600
Speaker 1: so that's probably why he Yeah.

838
00:38:17,280 --> 00:38:18,759
Speaker 2: That's cool. I'm not mad at that.

839
00:38:18,760 --> 00:38:21,520
Speaker 3: It's not just about y'all the bashed because of the look.

840
00:38:22,000 --> 00:38:24,040
Speaker 2: I'm not gonna bash because I don't.

841
00:38:23,640 --> 00:38:24,799
Speaker 3: Will, though you will.

842
00:38:24,960 --> 00:38:27,600
Speaker 1: You saw your ex out with somebody that was like, oh,

843
00:38:27,680 --> 00:38:30,040
Speaker 1: she ain't me, But you don't know she ain't you

844
00:38:30,080 --> 00:38:32,600
Speaker 1: because you're going off her look. You don't know what

845
00:38:32,760 --> 00:38:36,399
Speaker 1: she's doing for that man, She probably shrub downs every night,

846
00:38:38,400 --> 00:38:40,319
Speaker 1: doing all these things you wasn't doing. But you're gonna

847
00:38:40,360 --> 00:38:42,160
Speaker 1: just from the outside looking in, you're gonna say she

848
00:38:42,239 --> 00:38:42,560
Speaker 1: wasn't me.

849
00:38:43,800 --> 00:38:50,200
Speaker 4: This girl look us, but she she I wasn't perfect

850
00:38:50,239 --> 00:38:53,319
Speaker 4: in my relationships at all, in no way, shape or form.

851
00:38:53,360 --> 00:38:55,040
Speaker 4: But I know that I gave a lot and I

852
00:38:55,080 --> 00:38:57,960
Speaker 4: gave my all. So whether she's doing all this, I

853
00:38:58,000 --> 00:39:00,000
Speaker 4: know what I was doing. So you can look crazy,

854
00:39:00,200 --> 00:39:02,600
Speaker 4: and I know that I was doing X, Y and Z.

855
00:39:03,160 --> 00:39:05,120
Speaker 4: But the crazier it looks, let me tell you why

856
00:39:05,120 --> 00:39:08,200
Speaker 4: it looks crazier. This is why men look crazy.

857
00:39:08,280 --> 00:39:10,120
Speaker 3: Don't look look crazy to you.

858
00:39:10,200 --> 00:39:12,520
Speaker 4: Yes, because you're hitting me up still begging to be

859
00:39:12,600 --> 00:39:16,680
Speaker 4: with me. So she looks crazy. And I just told

860
00:39:16,719 --> 00:39:18,719
Speaker 4: you what's emails?

861
00:39:18,920 --> 00:39:25,440
Speaker 2: H Yeah they do. No, I just told you that

862
00:39:25,600 --> 00:39:26,320
Speaker 2: my exes.

863
00:39:26,360 --> 00:39:28,880
Speaker 4: Every three to six months, one of one of my

864
00:39:28,960 --> 00:39:31,359
Speaker 4: exes is gonna hit me on WhatsApp and email. I

865
00:39:31,440 --> 00:39:35,239
Speaker 4: just said that, like they do that. Like they do that,

866
00:39:35,320 --> 00:39:38,440
Speaker 4: they'd be like, oh, I wish what we had iron

867
00:39:38,560 --> 00:39:40,440
Speaker 4: is in the war and making me feel like are

868
00:39:40,480 --> 00:39:41,040
Speaker 4: you safe?

869
00:39:41,320 --> 00:39:43,400
Speaker 2: Like you know, dumb shit. I'm just making that up

870
00:39:43,400 --> 00:39:44,480
Speaker 2: because I see the meme like that.

871
00:39:44,520 --> 00:39:47,040
Speaker 4: But you know, men come with dumb ship all the

872
00:39:47,080 --> 00:39:50,320
Speaker 4: time where they're like I just miss us and everything

873
00:39:50,360 --> 00:39:53,120
Speaker 4: that we've been through. Like men are gonna come with

874
00:39:53,160 --> 00:39:56,839
Speaker 4: that bullshit six months and every six months quarterly, they're

875
00:39:56,840 --> 00:39:58,719
Speaker 4: gonna come with that. Like that's all I'm saying. So

876
00:39:58,800 --> 00:40:00,719
Speaker 4: if you do have a new girlfriend, it makes y'all

877
00:40:00,800 --> 00:40:03,120
Speaker 4: look crazy. That's why I don't want to be with

878
00:40:03,160 --> 00:40:05,919
Speaker 4: a man who's hitting an ex or anybody up trying

879
00:40:05,960 --> 00:40:08,880
Speaker 4: to say anything at all, because then I look stupid

880
00:40:09,000 --> 00:40:12,040
Speaker 4: because they look stupid to me. I'm like, y'all, he's

881
00:40:12,040 --> 00:40:15,120
Speaker 4: still trying to hit me up. They look stupid to me.

882
00:40:15,480 --> 00:40:17,480
Speaker 4: You look stupid and I look stupid.

883
00:40:17,520 --> 00:40:19,360
Speaker 2: If my man is doing that to their ex, it

884
00:40:19,440 --> 00:40:22,520
Speaker 2: looks stupid to everyone, Like I don't want that, I

885
00:40:22,600 --> 00:40:23,920
Speaker 2: want I don't like that.

886
00:40:24,000 --> 00:40:26,080
Speaker 4: So that's why women think men look stupid, because they

887
00:40:26,160 --> 00:40:28,520
Speaker 4: be hitting us up, still asking for this and that.

888
00:40:29,080 --> 00:40:31,239
Speaker 2: All right, so listen, go ahead.

889
00:40:31,160 --> 00:40:33,040
Speaker 1: I'm gonna break this down. What you said. This is

890
00:40:33,040 --> 00:40:36,960
Speaker 1: what you said. You said, Joe, men be hitting you up,

891
00:40:37,080 --> 00:40:39,320
Speaker 1: looking stupid because they got girlfriends.

892
00:40:39,360 --> 00:40:41,080
Speaker 4: No, I don't know if they have a girlfriend, he says.

893
00:40:41,120 --> 00:40:42,479
Speaker 4: Maybe they do it or they don't.

894
00:40:42,520 --> 00:40:44,759
Speaker 2: I don't know for sure, but look stupid. But I'm

895
00:40:44,760 --> 00:40:45,640
Speaker 2: saying you just said.

896
00:40:45,640 --> 00:40:48,680
Speaker 4: If I seen them out with another woman and I'm like, oh,

897
00:40:48,680 --> 00:40:50,479
Speaker 4: she doesn't look like this, the only way I would

898
00:40:50,480 --> 00:40:52,680
Speaker 4: say she looks stupid is because in my mind, I'm like,

899
00:40:52,719 --> 00:40:54,800
Speaker 4: your man is still hitting me up all the time,

900
00:40:55,000 --> 00:40:57,200
Speaker 4: you look stupid, Like that's.

901
00:40:57,000 --> 00:40:57,720
Speaker 2: What looks stupid.

902
00:40:58,880 --> 00:40:59,959
Speaker 3: Exile with another girl.

903
00:41:01,280 --> 00:41:04,520
Speaker 2: Never my ex see me out. But I never see

904
00:41:04,560 --> 00:41:05,200
Speaker 2: my ex out.

905
00:41:05,480 --> 00:41:10,160
Speaker 4: Yeah, I've never seen that before. I would like, I

906
00:41:10,200 --> 00:41:12,719
Speaker 4: would not care, Like I don't have no feelings for

907
00:41:12,760 --> 00:41:13,440
Speaker 4: none of my exes.

908
00:41:13,480 --> 00:41:16,200
Speaker 2: I would not care at all. It would never make

909
00:41:16,239 --> 00:41:16,719
Speaker 2: me feel a.

910
00:41:16,640 --> 00:41:19,719
Speaker 4: Way at all, Like, okay, cool, I love that for you,

911
00:41:19,760 --> 00:41:22,480
Speaker 4: and if she was drop dead gorgeous, I love that

912
00:41:22,520 --> 00:41:22,879
Speaker 4: for real.

913
00:41:23,040 --> 00:41:24,640
Speaker 3: Ex out another girl, would you speak?

914
00:41:25,960 --> 00:41:28,359
Speaker 2: No, I'm not speaking. I don't have nothing to say,

915
00:41:28,480 --> 00:41:29,680
Speaker 2: Like I'm not speaking.

916
00:41:29,320 --> 00:41:32,160
Speaker 4: If you worn't with another girl, I'm not speaking regardless,

917
00:41:32,680 --> 00:41:34,799
Speaker 4: So you could be with another girl. Not I'm not

918
00:41:34,840 --> 00:41:36,440
Speaker 4: going to speak to my ex if I see them

919
00:41:36,440 --> 00:41:40,800
Speaker 4: out regardless, like for just a bunch of different reasons,

920
00:41:40,840 --> 00:41:43,080
Speaker 4: like I don't have I don't have no beef with none.

921
00:41:42,880 --> 00:41:44,520
Speaker 2: Of my exes. I don't have no beef. I just

922
00:41:44,520 --> 00:41:47,000
Speaker 2: don't funk with y'all. We're not together anymore. I don't

923
00:41:47,000 --> 00:41:50,359
Speaker 2: have if we don't have kids. There's no reason is this?

924
00:41:51,640 --> 00:41:55,360
Speaker 1: If you women are men, you see your girl or

925
00:41:55,400 --> 00:42:00,840
Speaker 1: your guy out and they what they do, will you speak?

926
00:42:01,000 --> 00:42:04,600
Speaker 1: And I'm talking about the guy is with his girl

927
00:42:04,640 --> 00:42:07,640
Speaker 1: and they with they knew girl, or say like you

928
00:42:07,680 --> 00:42:09,480
Speaker 1: see your ex with another dude.

929
00:42:10,920 --> 00:42:14,200
Speaker 3: When you speak to her, because like me, I'm not.

930
00:42:15,120 --> 00:42:17,840
Speaker 1: I mean, I'm not, I don't really care. I'm not

931
00:42:17,880 --> 00:42:21,560
Speaker 1: even really tripping, you know what I'm saying. But like

932
00:42:22,920 --> 00:42:26,520
Speaker 1: for the woman, what I noticed is like, well, I've

933
00:42:26,560 --> 00:42:31,600
Speaker 1: seen my ex out with. I was with somebody and

934
00:42:31,640 --> 00:42:33,880
Speaker 1: they was with somebody, and I was ignoring it.

935
00:42:34,000 --> 00:42:35,920
Speaker 3: I was just like, you know, I didn't even look.

936
00:42:36,040 --> 00:42:38,319
Speaker 1: But then they every time you turn you see them

937
00:42:38,360 --> 00:42:40,760
Speaker 1: looking at you, You're like damn, like what the hell?

938
00:42:40,920 --> 00:42:43,720
Speaker 3: Yeah, like why are you let me turn my back?

939
00:42:44,440 --> 00:42:48,799
Speaker 4: Like damn, I feel like that's awkward for like no, no, no, no,

940
00:42:49,200 --> 00:42:51,200
Speaker 4: I'm saying I feel like I don't want to be

941
00:42:51,239 --> 00:42:54,000
Speaker 4: in the situation where I'm the girl and the EXE

942
00:42:54,000 --> 00:42:56,680
Speaker 4: is staring over Like I would want someone to tell me, like, Yo,

943
00:42:56,760 --> 00:42:58,839
Speaker 4: that's my ex. They're over there with this, because I'm

944
00:42:58,880 --> 00:43:01,480
Speaker 4: not going to be sitting here looks like JESU, Like

945
00:43:01,520 --> 00:43:02,520
Speaker 4: I don't like that little shit.

946
00:43:02,800 --> 00:43:06,440
Speaker 2: Tell me what's up. Like that's if it's your real ex, like.

947
00:43:06,400 --> 00:43:09,319
Speaker 4: If someone used dated whatever, but like if that's my ex.

948
00:43:09,360 --> 00:43:11,200
Speaker 2: Like if I'm out with my man and.

949
00:43:11,239 --> 00:43:13,319
Speaker 4: I see my for real ex that I was with

950
00:43:13,440 --> 00:43:15,839
Speaker 4: for years, I'm gonna be like, that's my ex right there.

951
00:43:16,800 --> 00:43:19,279
Speaker 4: I'm gonna say that if it's someone I dated real

952
00:43:19,400 --> 00:43:22,000
Speaker 4: quick or whatever, No, but if it's my ex, I'm

953
00:43:22,040 --> 00:43:24,520
Speaker 4: gonna be like, that's my ex right there. Probably, But

954
00:43:24,760 --> 00:43:26,640
Speaker 4: it just depends because if it's just in passing for

955
00:43:26,680 --> 00:43:28,759
Speaker 4: two seconds, then I might not say nothing at all,

956
00:43:28,800 --> 00:43:30,640
Speaker 4: Like if we're walking and walk out but none.

957
00:43:31,040 --> 00:43:31,640
Speaker 2: But if it's like.

958
00:43:31,600 --> 00:43:33,480
Speaker 4: We're all sitting right there and there on the other

959
00:43:33,520 --> 00:43:36,000
Speaker 4: side and he's staring over here, like that's crazy, this

960
00:43:36,080 --> 00:43:36,640
Speaker 4: is my ex.

961
00:43:36,800 --> 00:43:39,960
Speaker 2: They're tripping. But I have seen my ex has seen.

962
00:43:39,760 --> 00:43:42,960
Speaker 4: Me out with somebody, yeah, like my and they he

963
00:43:43,080 --> 00:43:45,680
Speaker 4: talked and smoke, you know what I mean, and said

964
00:43:45,719 --> 00:43:47,200
Speaker 4: a lot of shit, and I was just like, what,

965
00:43:47,520 --> 00:43:51,400
Speaker 4: like I was just on a date. But he didn't realize,

966
00:43:51,560 --> 00:43:54,200
Speaker 4: you know, so it was just like you know what

967
00:43:54,280 --> 00:43:56,080
Speaker 4: I'm saying, Like he didn't know that I was with

968
00:43:56,200 --> 00:43:58,680
Speaker 4: that person. So he was just saying, like God sent

969
00:43:58,800 --> 00:44:01,680
Speaker 4: me you here today, like all this stuff, and it

970
00:44:01,760 --> 00:44:05,320
Speaker 4: just felt so wild. But I think that at the

971
00:44:05,440 --> 00:44:07,399
Speaker 4: end of the day, like I'm not I don't care

972
00:44:07,440 --> 00:44:09,280
Speaker 4: if my ex has a new girlfriend and she's Beyonce,

973
00:44:09,520 --> 00:44:11,600
Speaker 4: the baddest bitch in America, good for you.

974
00:44:12,200 --> 00:44:16,320
Speaker 2: I'm really happy for it. I would never think I

975
00:44:16,360 --> 00:44:21,480
Speaker 2: fumbled any of my Hell no, no, no, I don't

976
00:44:21,520 --> 00:44:24,239
Speaker 2: think that. I would literally just literally be like.

977
00:44:24,200 --> 00:44:28,760
Speaker 4: Cool, No, I'm not tripping off of that I'm telling you,

978
00:44:28,840 --> 00:44:32,439
Speaker 4: like I think that no matter how the woman looks,

979
00:44:32,440 --> 00:44:35,080
Speaker 4: no matter what if it's someone that was in alignment

980
00:44:35,120 --> 00:44:37,080
Speaker 4: with you and we couldn't work it out, I'm happy

981
00:44:37,120 --> 00:44:39,400
Speaker 4: for you, like everyone deserves love, Like I don't have

982
00:44:39,480 --> 00:44:43,000
Speaker 4: no bitterness or resentment in my heart because the opposite

983
00:44:43,040 --> 00:44:47,040
Speaker 4: of love is not hate, it's indifference. So for me,

984
00:44:47,200 --> 00:44:49,399
Speaker 4: when you hate someone, you still have feelings for them,

985
00:44:49,640 --> 00:44:52,600
Speaker 4: You still you still care. I don't have no hate

986
00:44:52,600 --> 00:44:53,680
Speaker 4: for you. I'm in difference.

987
00:44:53,760 --> 00:44:54,960
Speaker 2: I don't care. I'm indifferent.

988
00:44:55,040 --> 00:44:57,719
Speaker 4: Whatever you got a girlfriend, good for you. I'm like,

989
00:44:58,320 --> 00:45:01,200
Speaker 4: I'm actually happy for you, like shit, like good for you.

990
00:45:01,280 --> 00:45:05,719
Speaker 2: I don't care. It's not happy. Yeah I'm not.

991
00:45:05,920 --> 00:45:07,839
Speaker 4: But that's like I'm not out and I'm just like ooh,

992
00:45:07,880 --> 00:45:09,640
Speaker 4: this has made me so upset. He got a batter

993
00:45:09,680 --> 00:45:13,239
Speaker 4: based like good for you. My like cool, I'm do

994
00:45:13,360 --> 00:45:14,200
Speaker 4: your big one?

995
00:45:14,360 --> 00:45:14,880
Speaker 2: You cool?

996
00:45:15,080 --> 00:45:17,120
Speaker 4: Like I don't have no feelings for none of my

997
00:45:17,239 --> 00:45:21,920
Speaker 4: exes at all, Like there's no feelings there whatsoever, like just.

998
00:45:22,160 --> 00:45:26,160
Speaker 2: Period, like it was over when it was over, you

999
00:45:26,160 --> 00:45:26,680
Speaker 2: know what I mean.

1000
00:45:28,280 --> 00:45:32,640
Speaker 4: So there's a viral meme that says relationship red flags, right,

1001
00:45:33,040 --> 00:45:35,320
Speaker 4: So here are some of them, tell me some of yours,

1002
00:45:35,320 --> 00:45:38,040
Speaker 4: but on the first one is actually still cool with

1003
00:45:38,080 --> 00:45:41,160
Speaker 4: your ex. I don't fuck with that. That's a red

1004
00:45:41,200 --> 00:45:48,000
Speaker 4: flag for me too. Yeah, love bombing. Someone said all

1005
00:45:48,040 --> 00:45:51,520
Speaker 4: her friends being single is a red flag someone else has.

1006
00:45:51,600 --> 00:45:54,720
Speaker 3: That's not a flo that's just unfortunate for her friends.

1007
00:45:54,800 --> 00:45:58,800
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's how I feel too. Phone screen being turned down.

1008
00:45:59,280 --> 00:46:00,520
Speaker 2: They said, that's a reflag.

1009
00:46:01,920 --> 00:46:05,480
Speaker 4: Someone who's frush out of a relationship, that's a reflag.

1010
00:46:05,880 --> 00:46:07,920
Speaker 3: To do what to be in a relationship.

1011
00:46:08,160 --> 00:46:12,839
Speaker 4: Yeah, okay, these are all relationship reflags. And someone who's

1012
00:46:12,880 --> 00:46:16,040
Speaker 4: like super entitled. Those are just some of them that

1013
00:46:16,160 --> 00:46:16,880
Speaker 4: the people named.

1014
00:46:17,040 --> 00:46:17,880
Speaker 2: Do you have any.

1015
00:46:19,000 --> 00:46:21,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, I hate a female who I mean or a

1016
00:46:21,680 --> 00:46:24,360
Speaker 1: woman whatever y'all want to call it whatever, But I

1017
00:46:24,360 --> 00:46:27,600
Speaker 1: don't know what y'all is these day.

1018
00:46:29,000 --> 00:46:29,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, I hate it.

1019
00:46:29,719 --> 00:46:32,160
Speaker 3: Entitlement, Oh my god, you know what? You know it

1020
00:46:32,239 --> 00:46:33,120
Speaker 3: because o killer.

1021
00:46:33,800 --> 00:46:35,759
Speaker 1: You start talking to some of these girls and they

1022
00:46:35,840 --> 00:46:39,840
Speaker 1: might have been with whoever motherfuck at the top. You know,

1023
00:46:39,880 --> 00:46:43,600
Speaker 1: they got lucky to be dating whoever, a list this

1024
00:46:43,640 --> 00:46:45,680
Speaker 1: and that, and then when they when that ain't there

1025
00:46:45,760 --> 00:46:48,080
Speaker 1: no more, they just looking at everybody else like you

1026
00:46:48,120 --> 00:46:52,239
Speaker 1: ain't you gotta do this thirty thousand dollars. Oh man,

1027
00:46:52,280 --> 00:46:54,120
Speaker 1: what about old girl that says something about the thirty

1028
00:46:54,160 --> 00:46:55,840
Speaker 1: thousand dollars a month or fifty third.

1029
00:46:56,560 --> 00:47:01,440
Speaker 2: She said she needs.

1030
00:46:59,320 --> 00:47:01,000
Speaker 3: Wait wait wait does she exactly say it?

1031
00:47:01,320 --> 00:47:03,080
Speaker 4: We're going to talk about this on the segment, so

1032
00:47:03,320 --> 00:47:05,759
Speaker 4: we'll talk about this in a minute, right, But yeah,

1033
00:47:05,840 --> 00:47:08,440
Speaker 4: the entitlement is crazy to me.

1034
00:47:09,000 --> 00:47:13,200
Speaker 1: Entitement though. That fifty thousand a month, ain't that entitlement? Yeah,

1035
00:47:13,600 --> 00:47:15,359
Speaker 1: that's that's crazy.

1036
00:47:15,800 --> 00:47:16,000
Speaker 3: Damn.

1037
00:47:16,000 --> 00:47:19,799
Speaker 1: How can somebody have that mindset like you literally just

1038
00:47:19,920 --> 00:47:24,400
Speaker 1: like that's just a high price like that's like sounding

1039
00:47:24,520 --> 00:47:26,799
Speaker 1: that sounds to me like you just a high price home.

1040
00:47:27,880 --> 00:47:30,680
Speaker 1: That's what that sound like. So I need fifty thousand

1041
00:47:30,760 --> 00:47:32,360
Speaker 1: a month for you to date me, do all the

1042
00:47:32,480 --> 00:47:33,120
Speaker 1: whatever you want.

1043
00:47:33,320 --> 00:47:35,520
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1044
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1045
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1046
00:47:41,520 --> 00:47:44,360
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1047
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Speaker 4: when you play your first five dollars. So yeah, with

1048
00:47:47,480 --> 00:47:50,600
Speaker 4: the Aisha Diz, she's saying that she needs fifty k

1049
00:47:51,120 --> 00:47:54,520
Speaker 4: forty to fifty k a month in order to feel

1050
00:47:54,560 --> 00:47:58,239
Speaker 4: good about her relationship and maintain her lifestyle. Right, So yeah,

1051
00:47:58,280 --> 00:48:02,400
Speaker 4: that's definitely entitlement of my right. But it depends because

1052
00:48:02,400 --> 00:48:05,520
Speaker 4: what she said was this, if a man doesn't want

1053
00:48:05,560 --> 00:48:08,400
Speaker 4: you to work, right, Because a lot of men, especially

1054
00:48:08,400 --> 00:48:10,480
Speaker 4: depending on what their stature is, they're like, I don't

1055
00:48:10,480 --> 00:48:12,400
Speaker 4: want my girl to work because then she's not available

1056
00:48:12,440 --> 00:48:13,799
Speaker 4: to me in the ways that I need her to

1057
00:48:13,800 --> 00:48:14,520
Speaker 4: be available to me.

1058
00:48:14,719 --> 00:48:14,879
Speaker 3: Right.

1059
00:48:16,360 --> 00:48:18,920
Speaker 4: So for her, she's like, well, if that's the case,

1060
00:48:19,120 --> 00:48:21,640
Speaker 4: I make only fans, I make forty fifty k. You

1061
00:48:21,640 --> 00:48:24,200
Speaker 4: don't want me to do only fans anymore. Then I

1062
00:48:24,280 --> 00:48:28,120
Speaker 4: need more than just my bills. Like, you can pay

1063
00:48:28,120 --> 00:48:30,520
Speaker 4: my bills, but then I have no money left over.

1064
00:48:30,800 --> 00:48:32,520
Speaker 4: This is what she said in response, I have no

1065
00:48:32,600 --> 00:48:35,719
Speaker 4: money left over. I'm strapped, so I pay just my

1066
00:48:35,800 --> 00:48:38,520
Speaker 4: bills and now I can't do nothing. So you have

1067
00:48:38,600 --> 00:48:40,399
Speaker 4: to give me more than my bills so I can

1068
00:48:40,480 --> 00:48:43,479
Speaker 4: save money. I can have shit cracking, so I don't

1069
00:48:43,480 --> 00:48:45,480
Speaker 4: feel like so stressed out about money.

1070
00:48:45,520 --> 00:48:48,839
Speaker 2: Right. However, her lifestyle is forty fifty K.

1071
00:48:49,280 --> 00:48:52,839
Speaker 4: Some brides, that's like seven thousand dollars, you know, with her,

1072
00:48:53,120 --> 00:48:56,440
Speaker 4: hers is like fifty k. Because she's saying that's how

1073
00:48:56,520 --> 00:48:59,440
Speaker 4: much she makes being on OnlyFans, and she has a Morgan.

1074
00:48:59,520 --> 00:49:01,440
Speaker 4: She has this, So a man who's dating her is like,

1075
00:49:01,480 --> 00:49:02,839
Speaker 4: I don't want you to do that. I don't want

1076
00:49:02,880 --> 00:49:03,920
Speaker 4: you to work. I want you to be able to

1077
00:49:03,960 --> 00:49:06,239
Speaker 4: travel with me, be available to me, do all these things.

1078
00:49:06,239 --> 00:49:08,600
Speaker 4: So is she supposed to say, Okay, I'm not going

1079
00:49:08,680 --> 00:49:10,840
Speaker 4: to work and I have to lessen my lifestyle.

1080
00:49:12,000 --> 00:49:16,320
Speaker 1: Wait, how about keep doing OnlyFans and we can still travel,

1081
00:49:16,360 --> 00:49:18,080
Speaker 1: but you could do the only fans in the hotel?

1082
00:49:18,200 --> 00:49:22,319
Speaker 4: Well, she saying whatever, wake up. She's saying whatever she does.

1083
00:49:22,320 --> 00:49:24,680
Speaker 4: She works in a club too. She's not just only fans.

1084
00:49:24,680 --> 00:49:27,759
Speaker 4: She's a club bottle girl, so she has to make fifty.

1085
00:49:27,960 --> 00:49:29,520
Speaker 2: That's what she was saying. She came on live. She

1086
00:49:29,560 --> 00:49:31,799
Speaker 2: was like, for me, people don't understand that.

1087
00:49:31,960 --> 00:49:34,839
Speaker 1: Run dry quick. That's probably the peak of it. Ain't

1088
00:49:34,880 --> 00:49:37,279
Speaker 1: nobody making forty fifty thousand a month.

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Speaker 2: She's saying.

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Speaker 4: She works in the club, so she's a club bottle

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Speaker 4: club girl a month. She's saying that it's eat she

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Speaker 4: see like in the strip club and stuff. She's like,

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Speaker 4: I see that money in a night. So for some

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Speaker 4: people that sounds outrageous, but for me, I come across

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Speaker 4: that money in a night.

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Speaker 3: No, I ain't going. I am not going. You are

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Speaker 3: not maintaining that.

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Speaker 4: Contray So that soundsdiculous. That sounds out of pockets.

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Speaker 3: And nah, I don't care how bad you are. You

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Speaker 3: could be.

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Speaker 1: You ain't doing that every month like with no only

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Speaker 1: fans and wasatressing job. That's if you are doing that,

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Speaker 1: that's the peak of it, and that's.

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Speaker 3: Gonna run dry. You know that.

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Speaker 1: That's gonna man, the subscription is gonna run dry after

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Speaker 1: about that. If you're doing that, how many consecutive years

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Speaker 1: have you been doing that? Because I'm gonna just wait

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Speaker 1: you out when it go down to like five, like there,

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Speaker 1: what would you go say? Like damn, Like come on,

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Speaker 1: that's extreme. That's like the highest level of hide. If

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Speaker 1: you are there, that's cool. But that's not gonna last

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Speaker 1: long because it's gonna be a new girl. That's gonna

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Speaker 1: be the hot topic and the hot girl, and it's

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Speaker 1: always gonna be somebody that's gonna take your place.

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Speaker 3: So like that that fifty thousand, But is.

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Speaker 2: It entitler for her?

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Speaker 4: If a man is like I'm gonna take care of you,

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Speaker 4: I'm gonna help you.

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Speaker 2: With your bills.

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Speaker 1: No, if you look at fifty to fifty thousand a month,

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Speaker 1: let's keep doing that.

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Speaker 2: You can keep what I'm saying.

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Speaker 4: She's saying that the men that's you, we're talking about

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Speaker 4: a man, hey, because there's.

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Speaker 2: A lot of men like yeah there, Like, don't do that.

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna take care of you.

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Speaker 3: Me fifty thousand life on somebody else.

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Speaker 2: That you could pay five thousand months.

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Speaker 1: I'm like, that don't even make no sense. It's like

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Speaker 1: I'm buying your love now, right, like, well I gotta pay, Like,

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Speaker 1: come on, that don't even make sense. I mean, because

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Speaker 1: that's like a red fly to you, because it's like

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Speaker 1: that ain't gonna be real. It's gonna be talking about

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Speaker 1: the relationships you talk about, you're gonna it's gonna last

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Speaker 1: so long and you're gonna be off that like all right,

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Speaker 1: but see, she shouldn't even be saying that because it's

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Speaker 1: gonna be a dude that's gonna come along, that's.

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Speaker 3: Gonna do that. He's gonna do it for three months

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Speaker 3: and be good.

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Speaker 1: Now what you're gonna do, you're gonna have to go

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Speaker 1: back to that, so like, come on, that's not realistic.

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Speaker 3: Come on. That's not.

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Speaker 1: Four or five months, let's say the year. Then when yo,

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Speaker 1: when your fan see you not doing that no more?

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Speaker 1: Can you jump back in it and get that same

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Speaker 1: type of momentum momentum. Yeah, once you slow the momentum down,

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Speaker 1: then it's over.

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Speaker 3: You know.

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Speaker 2: So yeah, I mean I get it.

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Speaker 1: I feel like, yeah, she ain't no relationship girl, that

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Speaker 1: she's just entertainment. I'm paying for it, not a relationship.

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Speaker 1: I'm paying for entertainment.

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Speaker 3: Period.

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Speaker 1: I'm rich enough to pay for entertainment, and this is

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Speaker 1: expensive entertaining.

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Speaker 3: I'll do this. I'll blow this for a couple of months,

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Speaker 3: then I'm off. You know what I'm saying. We'll do

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Speaker 3: That's what it is.

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