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Speaker 1: Dave. This is from Desmond on Steve BARBFM. Desmond says,

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Speaker 1: I've been with my girlfriend for almost five years and

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Speaker 1: we're at the point where she wants to get married,

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Speaker 1: but we keep hitting a wall over a prenup. I

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Speaker 1: grew up poor and have worked very hard to build

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Speaker 1: my savings and retirement, and while she comes from a

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Speaker 1: wealthy family and will never have to worry about money,

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Speaker 1: when I bring up protecting what I've built, she says,

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Speaker 1: it makes her feel like I'm planning for divorce instead

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Speaker 1: of forever. I love her and don't want to treat

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Speaker 1: marriage like a business deal, but I also don't want

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Speaker 1: to ignore the financial reality. Is asking for a prenup wrong?

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Speaker 2: Well, this is my experience with it that I've seen.

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Speaker 2: I don't have a prenup, but this is what I've seen.

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Speaker 2: Every married couple that I have ever seen that had

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Speaker 2: a prenup has had to use it. I don't know

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Speaker 2: a couple that had the pre nupt that ain't used

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Speaker 2: it well.

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Speaker 1: He said. She said that she feels like she's planning

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Speaker 1: for divorce instead of forever with the prenup.

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Speaker 2: I mean, I can't say that for people, but I've

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Speaker 2: just never seen a couple that didn't have a that

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Speaker 2: had a prenup, that didn't use it. It's preparation for failure,

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Speaker 2: and it's always hanging out there. This is the number

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Speaker 2: that I can get out on, and as soon as

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Speaker 2: you get tired of working on it, you got to

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Speaker 2: look over it, that get out number. And there's nothing

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Speaker 2: wrong with that. If that's how you want to live,

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Speaker 2: go ahead and get you one. But if her family

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Speaker 2: is super well off like you say, and she'll never

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Speaker 2: have to work again, but I come from nothing and

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Speaker 2: I work very hard to get it. Part of marriage

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Speaker 2: is sharing your life with the person, and part of

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Speaker 2: sharing your life is to share what you've become with them,

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Speaker 2: and hopefully you marry a person that makes you better. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: so you know, man, if you don't want to do

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Speaker 2: the prenup, then don't get married. Quit telling how much

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Speaker 2: you love her and what she mean to you. If

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Speaker 2: if you want a prenup and she don't want to

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Speaker 2: do it, then don't get married. Now she choose to

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Speaker 2: go her own way. You ain't got nobody to blame

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Speaker 2: but yourself, right, because you want the prenup and she don't,

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Speaker 2: So look bro going and tell her. You're not gonna

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Speaker 2: marry without it, and then see what you get, and

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Speaker 2: we're gonna find out how much you really love her.

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Speaker 2: Gonna find out.

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Speaker 1: Okay, all right, moving on, we do have time for

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Speaker 1: another one. This is from Kyle on Steve BARBFM. Kyle says,

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Speaker 1: this morning, I was threatened with the revocation of my

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Speaker 1: gym membership because I answered a phone call from my

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Speaker 1: wife in the locker room. Did you all know about

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Speaker 1: this rule? I've never heard of it. It's crazy, so

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Speaker 1: you can't talk to use your cell phone in the

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Speaker 1: locker room in the gym.

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Speaker 2: He gets the revocation of his gym membership.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, they're going to take it. Take it, take his gym.

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Speaker 2: Revoke it.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, revoke it.

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Speaker 2: Okay, well you have it. I don't care. I got

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Speaker 2: to answer my phone with my wife called. She called.

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Speaker 2: I'll be on the radio. I have to y'all, y'all

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Speaker 2: hear me answer the phone all the time. I got

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Speaker 2: to answer for my wife.

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Speaker 1: And it's the family first rule.

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Speaker 2: You to give it this gym membership. My girl called me.

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Speaker 2: I got to answer this phone and something could be wrong.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but do you got I mean, is there such

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Speaker 1: a rule? Heard that I.

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Speaker 2: Well, I let me, let me just stop, because I

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Speaker 2: ain't got no gym membership, but I do have suchal

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Speaker 2: country club membership. And you cannot use your cell phone

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Speaker 2: inside the country club sometimes you can't, Like you're in

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Speaker 2: the dining hall that there's no cell phones. And if

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Speaker 2: you're in the locker room, there's no cell phones.

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Speaker 1: That's what he's saying the locker. So then there it is.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's serious, dog. You have the little bullsy little

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Speaker 2: club going down there, and get down at the real club,

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Speaker 2: go to the ymc ain't you use your phone anyway

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Speaker 2: you want to in there?

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Speaker 1: Really?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? You all down there. You are all down there

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Speaker 2: at the Oily Thie and all that. That go to

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Speaker 2: twenty four hour plenty. You know about that little bullshy

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Speaker 2: membership at bullgy.

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Speaker 1: I didn't know they could job. Yeah, all right, we'll

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Speaker 1: have more of the Steve Harvey Morning Show coming up

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Speaker 1: at twenty minutes after. Right after this, you're listening to

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