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Speaker 1: My fiance said his main priority will always be his family.

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Speaker 1: I don't know if I can go through at the

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Speaker 1: wedding marry mom, then I guess she's married to the

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Speaker 1: game already. That's what it sounds like, all right. I

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Speaker 1: twenty six female loved my fiance twenty nine male whose

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Speaker 1: name is Jack.

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Speaker 2: Oh.

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Speaker 1: I already don't like the past tense of love. You're right,

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Speaker 1: but unfortunately I realized that he is so much into

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Speaker 1: his family, he's not ready to build his own Oh

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Speaker 1: god uh okay. By the way, this comes from users

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Speaker 1: Saint Minerva doub seven on the r slash okay story

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Speaker 1: time subreddit. So I'm gonna withhold my judgment because I

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Speaker 1: have quite a bit of it already. Withhold it for

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Speaker 1: just a little bit. We've been together since twenty twenty.

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Speaker 1: He's living next door to his parents. He's in a rental.

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Speaker 1: His house is two steps away from his parents' house.

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Speaker 2: Currently.

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Speaker 1: I don't have any issue with that, doubt it, But

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Speaker 1: I don't want that house to be our first home.

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Speaker 1: Not only because of his parents. That house has been

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Speaker 1: his bachelor house for like three years. Even to this day.

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Speaker 1: Every night his friends come over three or four guys

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Speaker 1: smoking in the house. Jack is not very good at cleaning,

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Speaker 1: and I already gave up on trying to clean it.

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Speaker 1: I told him that I don't want to live in

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Speaker 1: that house. We spoke a bit and decided not to

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Speaker 1: move my stuff into this house. After the wedding. I

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Speaker 1: was going to come and stay with him regularly, but

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Speaker 1: not completely move into this house. His rent contract was

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Speaker 1: going to end in October, which is five months after

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Speaker 1: the wedding, and the landlord said they don't want to

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Speaker 1: rent it anymore. We are supposed to eventually move elsewhere anyway.

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Speaker 1: But still, I stated that I don't want to live there,

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Speaker 1: because that's it. If the landlord changes his mind, I

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Speaker 1: don't want to drop a bomb later on. So op

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Speaker 1: he's putting her foot down. Said no, not living in

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Speaker 1: this house. Don't care if we can, don't care if

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Speaker 1: we can't.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, we're not doing it.

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Speaker 2: It's gross. It's gross.

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Speaker 1: I wanted him to know that very clearly. He said

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Speaker 1: he understood my decision, and together we came up with

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Speaker 1: this plan. After speaking with me, he went to his

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Speaker 1: mom told her that I don't want to live next

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Speaker 1: door to her, and I will be looking for a

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Speaker 1: new house. Of course, hearing this very boldly like that,

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Speaker 1: she angrily said, I was going to go to our

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Speaker 1: hometown after your wedding. Anyway, She won't be living next

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Speaker 1: door to her mother in law after the wedding. Uh,

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Speaker 1: I don't blame her. Hmmm, I'm confused. Yeah, me too, Actually,

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Speaker 1: I'm actually confused by that. So okay, run it. So

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Speaker 1: the mother, after hearing that OP doesn't want to move

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Speaker 1: into that house, angrily said, I was going to go

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Speaker 1: to our hometown after your wedding. Anyway, she won't be

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Speaker 1: living next door to her mother in law after the wedding. Okay,

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Speaker 1: Mom's moving, Yeah, Mom's moving back to the hometown. Mom's

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Speaker 1: moving back to the hometown. And is like, well, if

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Speaker 1: she doesn't want to be next to me, then, uh,

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Speaker 1: she doesn't have to worry about it, because I'm not

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Speaker 1: gonna be here right Okay. Yes, she's been like, if

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Speaker 1: she hates me so much, she doesn't have to worry

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Speaker 1: about it. I'm gonna leave. Yeah, Okay, I don't blame her.

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Speaker 1: What bothers me? I think from now on, Jack and

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Speaker 1: I are a family of our own. We don't have

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Speaker 1: to share everything happening in our household to our parents.

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Speaker 1: He doesn't understand this. I told him that he wasn't

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Speaker 1: supposed to tell her like that. He said he needed

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Speaker 1: her that we decided to do this together and it's

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Speaker 1: that this is my decision and he won't be telling

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Speaker 1: his mom that he agrees to this decision and that

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Speaker 1: it was taken together. And his reason to this is,

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Speaker 1: I don't have any issue living in this house with you.

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Speaker 1: You're the one who doesn't want it. Everything I've heard

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Speaker 1: because it's true. He didn't really. I mean, sure he

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Speaker 1: but I'm not going to tell my mom it was

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Speaker 1: our idea, is your idea? It's okay. But also she

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Speaker 1: does have a point where now they don't have to

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Speaker 2: Yeah, there's the difference between telling and asking yes yeah,

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Speaker 2: which yes. It seems like like Jack has it in

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Speaker 2: the asking camp. Yeah, which is which is not good.

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Speaker 2: You don't want that.

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Speaker 1: You don't want the mother may I to be your

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Speaker 1: husband like when you're fully grown adults.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, but at the same time, you should be able

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Speaker 4: to have a bond and a connection and a somewhat

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Speaker 4: some may call it an obligation or to duty to

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Speaker 4: your family, even after you get married and you start

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Speaker 4: your own nucleus of a family. Yeah, like that doesn't

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Speaker 4: just like delete your old family, Like I don't know.

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Speaker 2: That's yeah, op op, I think is like missing the

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Speaker 2: mark on where it's like, hey, we have to stop

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Speaker 2: like asking for approval. Yeah, and just like doing what

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Speaker 2: the two of us as a couple think is the

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Speaker 2: best decision for us. But that doesn't mean I feel

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Speaker 2: like she's probably there's probably even more history we don't

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Speaker 2: know about. She's probably so over these people that she's

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Speaker 2: already like trying to cut them off.

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Speaker 1: Cop, I gotta say something. Calciphear is bringing up a

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Speaker 1: good point that I kind of low key forgot that

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Speaker 1: the house is a disgusting bachelor house.

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Speaker 2: Yes, so weird, that was weird.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Yeah, so okay, I kind of can't Okay, I

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Speaker 1: live in the disgusting bachelor house. Don't want to start

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Speaker 1: a family in the disgusting bachelor house. Yeah that I remember,

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Speaker 1: I will always remember as the disgusting bachelor house.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and that's fair. I I that is I don't

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Speaker 2: I'm just like, I just don't think they should.

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Speaker 1: There's a disconnect with the family right now.

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Speaker 3: There's so much disconnect.

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Speaker 2: There's disconnect with like and like, even if they move

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Speaker 2: to like a you know, a brand new clean house

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Speaker 2: or apartment, is his pre existing habits and behavior is

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Speaker 2: just gonna make it disgusting and then him not want

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Speaker 2: to clean it, you know what I mean.

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Speaker 3: Like, I'm just seeing a lot of stuff.

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Speaker 2: That's Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Maybe they keep the house and then get another one

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Speaker 1: and that's the disgusting bachelor house, and then he has

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Speaker 1: in the fun house. You get to decide which one is.

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Speaker 1: Which you decide? Uh, okay, So he says, I don't

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Speaker 1: the one who doesn't want it. I felt like my

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Speaker 1: new family won't be on its feet with this attitude.

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Speaker 1: I taught my fiance or I'm sorry. I thought my

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Speaker 1: fiance and I were gonna be a team and not

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Speaker 1: let anyone bash any of us down. To me, a

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Speaker 1: married couple is supposed to cover each other's acts so

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Speaker 1: nobody else can see them as at fault. Don't know

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Speaker 1: if I agree with that. I discussed with his family

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Speaker 1: before once he didn't stand by my side. I chewed

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Speaker 1: that down, But I think this behavior will repeat, and

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Speaker 1: I don't need that. I will say that when it

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Speaker 1: comes to like standing up for your spouse to like

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Speaker 1: your family like that''s, I would always do that, like

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Speaker 1: unless they were very clearly in the wrong. Anytime I've

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Speaker 1: had an X in my family try to be like,

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Speaker 1: oh what about that, I'd be like, shut up, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: you don't even know.

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Speaker 2: Yea, so shut up. You have to protect them, yeah,

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Speaker 2: for sure. That doesn't That doesn't mean that you necessarily

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Speaker 2: will always agree. You can have you can see things

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Speaker 2: two different ways, but you generally have to protect like

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Speaker 2: don't know, you have to protect.

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Speaker 1: Them, Yes, And in general, I think maybe that's because

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Speaker 1: I agree with that. I just think I don't agree

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it's like it's like, no matter what, you guys

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Speaker 2: Be the other.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's like okay, yeah. Yesterday I told him that

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Speaker 1: I'm tired of trying to make him a husband, that

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Speaker 1: I would like to have. I accept his personality as

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Speaker 1: he revealed recently, and I don't want to marry that person. Okay,

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Speaker 1: she said, fine, divorce, there we go. Am I really

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Speaker 1: the a hole here? If my understanding of family is

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Speaker 1: not correct, I really want to know this. And there

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Speaker 1: is a note here. Note there are comments about him

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Speaker 1: being filthy and how did I accept it? Honestly, he

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Speaker 1: to fix it. I openly told him that his house

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Speaker 1: your standards, you can clean it yourself. That's bad.

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Speaker 3: Kean, I'm just starting mischief over here.

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna ignore that I had. Yeah, I had no

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Speaker 3: Dude, I didn't do anything.

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Speaker 2: You did. You highlighted on, You ruined me, you instigated.

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Speaker 1: I guess I'm excited it's not now. I hope you're

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Speaker 1: all happy. I was kind of hoping that he would

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Speaker 1: but that didn't happen. I accepted it. This was his

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Speaker 1: some point I told him that I'm not going to

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Speaker 1: wasn't helping me to maintain it any better. I even

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Speaker 1: offered to call the cleaning lady once a week to

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Speaker 1: clean his house, but he didn't accept it either. WHOA

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Speaker 1: Basically in time, he made me get used to that.

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Speaker 1: I did my best to accommodate myself without doing unnecessary

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Speaker 1: cleaning when I come over. Note number two. I see

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Speaker 1: the comments related to me trying to change him, and

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Speaker 1: it's not cool. You are right. I may have tendencies

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Speaker 1: of trying to show him a different way the way

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Speaker 1: I prefer things, but as you can see in Note one,

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Speaker 1: even if it's disgusting to me, I was always ready

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Speaker 1: to accept him the way he is. Besides the cleaning

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Speaker 1: and constantly having friends over, I didn't try to change

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Speaker 1: anything about him. But what I want to make sure

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Speaker 1: you never change is that you join us live on

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Speaker 1: YouTube every weekday at three PMPST. Just tap our profile.

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Speaker 2: Never change.

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Speaker 1: So let's discuss.

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Speaker 3: Let's talk.

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Speaker 1: Do you think that the divorce is over the line

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Speaker 1: for him? For what we know is prevorce slash devo?

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Speaker 1: Maybe going a step too far.

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Speaker 2: I would actually love to see a poll from the

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Speaker 5: Yeah, do you really need me to pull that because

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Speaker 1: It is what it is is not usually the best

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Speaker 1: back to catch ages. Yes, he's twenty nine and she's

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Speaker 6: So the more I've let this story sort of flement

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Speaker 1: Yes, and I fully support op leaving this guy. However, However,

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Speaker 2: Kind of going too far, like like an overreaction quote unquo,

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Speaker 1: But you know, you know what I'm saying that overcarrection, overcorrection,

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Speaker 1: They're spoken dirty drinking.

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Speaker 2: So another thing like there the lifestyle, like being clean,

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's like you doesn't seem like yeah, they're definitely

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Speaker 3: Yes, so let's finish it off.

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Speaker 2: Let's do it.

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Speaker 1: So me saying uh, me telling him that I'm tired

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Speaker 1: We experienced the situation with his family with his sister

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Speaker 2: Oh, there it is okay.

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Speaker 1: I told him that I don't accept my husband not

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Speaker 2: Hello.

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Speaker 1: I didn't want to cut it right away. I asked

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Speaker 1: sharing everything about our relationship. Small update which I'm going

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Speaker 1: to just dive into right Yes, Sir, I spoke to

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Speaker 1: his friend to ask if he's doing okay. He told

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Speaker 1: but he was constantly texting. This friend is very close

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Speaker 1: And that was the end of that story.

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Speaker 2: WHOA.

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Speaker 1: So it seems like We've got kind of a non

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Speaker 1: he's like, yeah, I guess we'll do couples counseling. Different

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Speaker 1: it'll make you shut.

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Speaker 3: Up and like like what are we doing?

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Speaker 1: I think Op was trying to pull the angel move

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Speaker 1: just don't want to be with this guy, and I

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I think. And also there was that line where

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Speaker 2: it was like, I try to where was it he

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Speaker 2: something like that, and it's like, oh yeah, me said, yeah,

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Speaker 2: I am tired of trying to make him a husband that.

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Speaker 3: I would like to have.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you can't do that. That's crazy. You can't do

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Speaker 1: that because he has to do that exactly.

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Speaker 2: And it's like, well, if he's not the husband you

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Speaker 2: like to have, then you shouldn't make him your husband.

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Speaker 1: Here we go, and that's it. That's that's the long

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Speaker 1: and the short of it, right.

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Speaker 2: Yes, that's that's all.

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Speaker 1: Not the husband you want don't make him your husband,

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Speaker 1: and they all lived happily ever after. Come on, come on,

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Speaker 1: there are the votes.

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Speaker 2: They are the votes ninety seven percent prevorse. I mean,

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Speaker 2: who are the two people?

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Speaker 7: Say?

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Speaker 1: No, there's always know I know Ingles had one Ezekiel.

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Speaker 1: Huh was it Ezekiel? Could have been Ezekiel Ingles.

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Speaker 5: Guys, Wingles had like a like they should just get

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Speaker 2: But but that's that's the end of that story. Da

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Speaker 2: cod I want to hit some donut. Oh did we

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Speaker 2: get any updates on the trivia? Trivia?

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Speaker 6: Yes?

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Speaker 1: I have it? Do I just ask you guys?

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: So I believe is it Jeopardy style?

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Speaker 1: I get I guess I don't.

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Speaker 3: Can you.

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Speaker 2: Put it on the screen?

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Speaker 1: Is it for the chat or is it for you too?

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Speaker 1: So I believe there's us in chat?

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Speaker 2: Right? Are you able to share it without revealing the

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Speaker 2: It will reveal the answer, it will reveal the answers. Okay,

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Speaker 2: I believe it's Is it just question and answer? It's

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Speaker 2: not Jeopardy style? Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Riley was very cryptic and how to do it?

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Speaker 3: I was like, Okay, is it so you haven't pulled up?

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Speaker 2: Is it?

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Speaker 3: Is it a question and answer.

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Speaker 5: Uh, yeah, I had it there it is.

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Speaker 1: It's categories. We have categories, categories.

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Speaker 5: Oh yeah, yeah, so we have TV shows, movie musicals.

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Speaker 1: But it's gonna be two percut. So just there's two

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Speaker 3: And it's not in the Jeopardy style. It's like the

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Speaker 3: one hundred two hundred.

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Speaker 1: No. I crushed both of those categories.

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Speaker 5: I tried to do it, but I guess I just

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Speaker 5: didn't do it in the way it wanted to be all.

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Speaker 1: Crushed that one.

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Speaker 2: I crushed that.

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Speaker 1: I'm very competitive about trivia.

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Speaker 2: Well, here we go. Why don't you just hit.

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Speaker 1: Us with some crush it? I crush it. Where's the

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Speaker 1: next answers?

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Speaker 2: Crush that one or some questions? I should say?

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Speaker 1: Okay, so well, let me give you the categories for ye.

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Speaker 5: Classic TV shows, crush it, movie musicals, crush it, Iconic

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Speaker 5: movie quotes, crush it, Animated films, crush it, sci fi

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Speaker 5: TV shows crush it.

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Speaker 1: And that's it.

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Speaker 2: I've literally for five. I am a negative ten for five.

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Speaker 2: Let's go here, since first full time day, pick pick

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Speaker 2: your first category.

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Speaker 1: Let's do classic TV.

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Speaker 2: Oh and we should buzz buzz. We'll go.

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Speaker 1: The first person to shriek, gets to answer.

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Speaker 3: We can do a snap. We can do a snap.

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Speaker 1: Snap all right? Uh so classic TV shows? Do you

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Speaker 1: want to do one or two?

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Speaker 2: Let's do one?

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Speaker 1: Or do we do a thigh slap? Let's with thigh slash?

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Speaker 2: Good?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, hey, all right, Chad, you just we'll figure this out.

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Speaker 5: This is my first time doing trivia. Guys, sorry, we

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Speaker 5: should be better at this. This hit nineties TV show

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Speaker 5: about six people living in New York City is No Friends.

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Speaker 3: Oh you can't.

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Speaker 2: He has to I have to finish the dam and

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Speaker 2: also he has to pick who was the first laugh?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I'll give you that one. Friends, I'll give you

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Speaker 1: Yeah it was friends. But but actually Jeopardy rules is

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Speaker 1: you don't have to finish the question. You can answer

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Speaker 1: it mid question.

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Speaker 3: Well, this one we got to call Who's Who's the buzz?

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Speaker 1: That is Jeopardy rules. We're we're gonna we go with

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Speaker 1: Who's that was a split second ahead of John. Everybody,

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Speaker 1: it's your it's your it's your point. But let's see

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Speaker 1: next round, let's do rock paper scissors to figure out

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Speaker 1: who you know?

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Speaker 3: That's your point?

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Speaker 1: Okay, fine, next next round, we wait for Keon to

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Speaker 1: call who who?

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Speaker 2: Yes?

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Speaker 1: Also, I'm not gonna lie to these questions. Oh wait,

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Speaker 1: we need the whole question for the audience.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Oh I was being selfish exactly. I know it's your day,

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Speaker 1: but it's not your day. Uh yeah, okay, we'll wait

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Speaker 2: We got that's a good point. Sorry, it's good points,

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Speaker 2: all right, e next one first first points to Dakona.

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Speaker 3: Though I got excited. I promise I'll wait this time.

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Speaker 5: Do you want to still do the same category? You

447
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Speaker 5: want to switch it up?

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Speaker 1: Let's do the next Thay, let's do the next question.

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Speaker 5: New next question? Yeah, problem, same category al right. This

450
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Speaker 5: black and white sitcom from the nineteen sixties followed the

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Speaker 5: misadventures of a wealthy but bumbling family named the clamp Bets.

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Speaker 1: The Beverly Hillbillies. The Beverly Hillbillies is correct.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, that's work ship. How I forgot to lose it

454
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Speaker 5: so bad? Some of these questions are actually really easy.

455
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Speaker 5: You don't need to know much.

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Speaker 2: Maybe you do.

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Speaker 1: I don't know.

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Speaker 2: Uh, John, you picked the category this time? Yeah, let's

459
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Speaker 2: do Uh what are the categories again?

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Speaker 1: TV show?

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Speaker 5: We have movie musicals, iconic movie quotes, animated films, and

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Speaker 5: sci fi TV shows. Sorry, there's no music in here.

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Speaker 2: Let's do Yeah, the one thing I might excel at.

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Speaker 2: Let's do the iconic movie quotes. Actually, no, let's stay.

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Speaker 2: Let's say let's stay in TV shows.

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Speaker 1: We're out of TV show. Yeah, sci fi t movies.

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Speaker 2: Let's see movie quotes.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, that's not even a movie quote.

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Speaker 5: All right, anyway, alright, I'll just go to this the

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Speaker 5: second question. All Right, you guys ready. This famous line

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Speaker 5: you can't handle the truth, is shadowed by Jack Nicholson

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Speaker 5: in a nineteen ninety two courtroom drama.

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Speaker 1: That is a movie. What are you talking about? No, no, no,

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Speaker 1: I switched it to the second And by the way,

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Speaker 1: it's a few good men.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, no chance, no shot.

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Speaker 5: That was Tom Cruise with Tom Cruise. The first question

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Speaker 5: really doesn't have a quote. It's just like this movie.

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Speaker 5: He did this, and like, okay, what is it?

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Speaker 1: I say it? You're just gonna hit me? Can we

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Speaker 1: give John like a five second handicake you? I let

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Speaker 1: him have it that time. I knew the answer I'm

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Speaker 1: gonna give you.

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Speaker 5: I'm gonna let John hear this one and then count

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Speaker 5: to five and then you can.

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Speaker 1: Okay, okay, here we go.

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Speaker 5: In this nineteen ninety nine sci fi film, the character

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Speaker 5: Neo This is given a choice between a red pill

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Speaker 5: and a blue pilt. John, you have five seconds. Yes,

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Speaker 5: John's on the board. I had to give John someone.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, good job John. Yeah, all right, Dakota. We have

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Speaker 1: two more categories, three more categories. Let's make this quicker.

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Speaker 5: Movie musicals, animated films, movie musicals. Oh man, all right.

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Speaker 1: My weakest category probably.

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Speaker 5: This twenty sixteen musical starring Emma Stone and Ryan Gosling.

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Speaker 5: My husband tells the story of an aspiring actress and

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Speaker 5: a jazz musician in La Oh, Who was it? I

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Speaker 5: think that one was, Dakota.

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Speaker 1: I Thinkland. I love La La Land.

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Speaker 3: I knew that one too.

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Speaker 1: One of my favorite films, like top ten films of all. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: it's up there for me too. I can't watch it

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Speaker 1: because it traumatized. It's very It's my favorite horror movie. Guys, yeah,

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Speaker 1: it traumatizes me.

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Speaker 5: To the next question, put your hands up. Adapted from

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Speaker 5: a stage musical, this two thousand and eight film follows

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Speaker 5: a young woman named Sophie. She tries to father tries

508
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Speaker 5: to find her father on a Greek island. Oh mammy,

509
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Speaker 5: Mama Mia.

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Speaker 1: That is the answer.

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Speaker 2: Never seen it.

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Speaker 1: Well either, that's the crazy part about my movie knowledge.

513
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Speaker 1: I know stuff about stuff I've never seen.

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Speaker 5: All right, we got animated films and sci fi TV shows,

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Speaker 5: all right, animated films, animated films, all right. This nineteen

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Speaker 5: ninety four Disney movie features a lion named Simbo.

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Speaker 1: What the hell? No, that one was so easy, I

518
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Speaker 1: believe in you light wrong.

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Speaker 5: It was the timonein Puma movie. It was a King

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Speaker 5: one and a half. Yeah, all right, that's so funny.

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Speaker 5: All right, guys, ready for this one. I'm prepared you

522
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Speaker 5: guys are These are really easy?

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Speaker 2: Guys?

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Speaker 5: What'll make them really difficult next time? Especially so Dakota

525
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Speaker 5: doesn't know them? Uh. In Pixars two thousand and eight

526
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Speaker 5: film about a waste collecting robot, this little robot is

527
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Speaker 5: test with cleaning up an abandoned earth.

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Speaker 1: Three seconds. Yes, John, you're so good. Also, we should

529
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Speaker 1: do slap, but the question goes through and so we

530
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Speaker 1: finished the question and then Keon picks whoever did the

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Speaker 1: slap first?

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Speaker 3: Right, that's like actual, yes, I know you.

533
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Speaker 1: Want to just slap immediately every time?

534
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Speaker 2: Then true?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, it's all right, we've got. It's all right,

536
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Speaker 1: we got one more category.

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Speaker 5: One category. It's just quick because we need to start

538
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Speaker 5: reading more stories or sci fi TV shows, si fi

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Speaker 5: TV shows. I should have changed these questions.

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Speaker 1: They're really easy.

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Speaker 5: In this long running British TV series, the main character

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Speaker 5: travels through time in a blue police Yeah. Yeah, okay,

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Speaker 5: I didn't get don't need to fish, I didn't even

544
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Speaker 5: need to finish.

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Speaker 1: But here's the real trivia question. Which doctor is the

546
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Speaker 1: best doctor? No, we don't. We want to be civil.

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Speaker 1: Don't say Smith. No it's David Tennant. Oh my god.

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Speaker 2: Now there.

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Speaker 3: I didn't believe in that answer.

550
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Speaker 1: I've watched If you're like Matt Smith, that's.

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Speaker 5: Right, right, last question before we back back to the reading.

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Speaker 5: This cult TV series, set on a spaceship named Serenity,

553
00:26:10,080 --> 00:26:13,480
Speaker 5: was directed by Josh Wheedon and was famously canceled after

554
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Speaker 5: only one season.

555
00:26:16,000 --> 00:26:19,919
Speaker 1: Firefly, Firefly, Firefly. No, you're wrong, it is.

556
00:26:20,680 --> 00:26:21,200
Speaker 2: I know I'm not.

557
00:26:21,400 --> 00:26:25,240
Speaker 1: It can't even trick me. It's Firefly, and that is it.

558
00:26:25,280 --> 00:26:27,920
Speaker 1: The tally Dakota won, and they made a movie. It's

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Speaker 1: called Serenity.

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Speaker 2: Great.

561
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Speaker 1: I think I just like Doctor House. I love Doctor House.

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Speaker 2: Doctor house.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, okay, it was a spin wheel.

564
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Speaker 1: Good job, that was fun.

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Speaker 5: We will make them a lot more difficult, and we'll

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Speaker 5: make sure it's uh more Jeopardy style.

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Speaker 2: I think Riley probably intentionally made them insanely easy for me.

568
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Speaker 1: Yeah, we'll do music next time too.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, there we go.

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Speaker 5: But I mean when it comes to trivia, I'm not

571
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Speaker 5: gonna lie. Dakota and I.

572
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Speaker 1: Are good at Tribune in on the trivia. It's kind

573
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Speaker 1: of crazy.

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Speaker 3: I'm the worst done a lot of trivia.

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Speaker 1: We had a trivia place like right next to our

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Speaker 1: old job that it was geek trivia and we were

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Speaker 1: so it was really cross actually throughout something in my

578
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Speaker 1: neck when I just I just.

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Speaker 2: Sorry. Guys.

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Speaker 1: We stid to read some donations.

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Speaker 2: Oh let's do it.

582
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Speaker 3: I got you.

583
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Speaker 1: I actually stretch this out.

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Speaker 2: Go ahead, MJ. Grow, we can go full screen on

585
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Speaker 2: your boy. Thanks for the five bucks. M J Grow

586
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Speaker 2: on the tiplink, she's unhappy that he's not accepting what

587
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Speaker 2: she's trying to force exactly she's trying to force to

588
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Speaker 2: change him, not to move Kylie, thanks for the five bucks.

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Speaker 2: I love you guys, we love you back. Thanks for that. Hannah,

590
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Speaker 2: thanks for the twenty five bucks. I also donated fifty bucks.

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Speaker 2: May have been distracted when it was mentioned. Hope you

592
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Speaker 2: got it.

593
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Speaker 5: I did, and we wanted to say something.

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Speaker 2: You made sure to mention it. Don't mind adding it

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Speaker 2: because you all are awesome. You're awesome too. And that's

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Speaker 2: it for the blink. Let's check out the super check.

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Speaker 1: Can you read it? John?

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Speaker 2: You get yes, sir, Thanks much, just meaning bidalo for

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Speaker 2: the twenty seven Sweetest Croners eleventh Matt Smith is the best.

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Speaker 3: Tenth is second best, says Josephine.

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Speaker 2: Also says Josephine, gotta go to bed is pastorm. Thanks

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Speaker 2: for tonight before I go, John, give me an oh God, Dakota,

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Speaker 2: give me a smile, and Keon give me a wink

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00:28:24,560 --> 00:28:29,760
Speaker 2: and a smile. Please up to you to Keon. Uh oh,

605
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Speaker 2: that was a good one. That was a good one.

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Speaker 1: Again, I am ruining the gay agenda, ruining it. I

607
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Speaker 1: also formally allow you to think Matt Smith is better

608
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Speaker 1: than David Tennant because you put him in second. It's okay,

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00:28:40,040 --> 00:28:41,880
Speaker 1: so okay, so formal, that's okay.

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Speaker 2: And Kylie Wentworth, thanks for gifting the membership. And Grandma's

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Speaker 2: got a Pintymal, thanks for gifting the five memberships.

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00:28:49,360 --> 00:28:53,120
Speaker 1: And Varnamois, thanks for gifting the five memberships.

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Speaker 2: And then that's it.

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Speaker 1: That is it.

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Speaker 2: That's all we got.

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Speaker 1: John, you have this story upo bye.

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Speaker 2: Where does the story of reading?

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Speaker 5: It's my neglectibles next to my parents.

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Speaker 1: Uh, to cut it.

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Speaker 5: Clark, the one who called you Steve or not Steve Snott. Yeah,

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Speaker 5: she did say she's sorry.

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Speaker 1: No, it's okay, it's funny. I was mostly just making

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Speaker 1: the joke. It was funny, ted up the joke, so

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Speaker 1: I was playing into it.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's unacceptable.

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Speaker 1: Riley is now trying to get more time. Riley says,

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Speaker 1: more time, Rea, more time speaking. That's what he said,

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Speaker 1: and he just walked in. Uh you say more time?

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Speaker 1: Re Actually Harriet Spaghetti asked, I'm older than John. Yeah

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Speaker 1: I am. And now you all know how old I

631
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Speaker 1: am when I just threw my neck out sitting down

632
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Speaker 1: in a chair, going like this is the old tree

633
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Speaker 1: by firefly? You know what you know what it is.

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Speaker 1: You know what it is. Talk to me, talk to me.

635
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Speaker 1: It's this, it's this pillow, my pillo. The lumbar support

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Speaker 1: is poor.

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00:30:02,160 --> 00:30:08,120
Speaker 2: He needs support for Senor said support support for that

638
00:30:08,200 --> 00:30:12,200
Speaker 2: feels better. I am technically, I think, with Riley out

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Speaker 2: of here, the youngest person in this room.

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Speaker 1: Oh wow, guys, guys, Actually, yeah, I think you're right.

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Speaker 3: I think so John is the youngest.

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Speaker 5: Wow you on you on boarded two old men, John grapula,

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Speaker 5: two old men, one with one with a thick butt

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Speaker 5: in a nice smile.

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Speaker 3: Have you guys seen uh? Never stopped, never stopping.

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Speaker 1: No, but I want to.

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Speaker 2: So good he hired He hired a perception disorder who's

648
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Speaker 2: just like a really short guy to make him look taller.

649
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Speaker 2: I hired like two older guys to make me look younger.

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Speaker 1: But the thing is, we're all good looking. Oh goodness, gracious,

651
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Speaker 1: and I gotta ask what's cooking?

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Speaker 2: Oh good looking, good lookings? All right, all right, let's

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Speaker 2: get ready. This is my.

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Speaker 5: Neglectful yep too, the art is going up for you.

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Speaker 5: Oh yeah, and wait yeah.

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Speaker 3: I'm yeah, what is it? I'm July twenty first.

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Speaker 2: I might be wrong.

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Speaker 1: No, No, I'm I'm Harriet Spaghetti. I'm twenty nine.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm twenty eight.

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Speaker 1: I just turned twenty nine.

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Speaker 5: No, are we reaching real revealing our Okay, but I

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Speaker 5: guess we're really great ages. I'm twenty eight. I'm older

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Speaker 5: than John by a couple by one month. Right, you're July,

664
00:31:30,360 --> 00:31:30,800
Speaker 5: I'm July.

665
00:31:30,920 --> 00:31:33,200
Speaker 1: I'm June. Yeah, so there you go again.

666
00:31:34,640 --> 00:31:37,640
Speaker 2: A few weeks, A few weeks, we're almost twins.

667
00:31:38,040 --> 00:31:38,640
Speaker 1: You know what we are?

668
00:31:38,680 --> 00:31:38,920
Speaker 2: Twins?

669
00:31:38,960 --> 00:31:39,640
Speaker 1: I see it in our eyes.

670
00:31:39,680 --> 00:31:40,160
Speaker 2: Just look at us.

671
00:31:40,200 --> 00:31:44,200
Speaker 1: We got a You guys are both hot. I accept

672
00:31:44,240 --> 00:31:47,959
Speaker 1: you being twins. Thinks the couplet are the golden girls.

673
00:31:47,960 --> 00:31:50,400
Speaker 1: This is the golden girl. Oh yeah, alright, let's know this.

674
00:31:51,320 --> 00:31:55,000
Speaker 1: So my neglectful parents don't want to acknowledge the past.

675
00:31:55,160 --> 00:31:56,440
Speaker 2: So I'm going to contact with him.

676
00:31:57,120 --> 00:32:00,240
Speaker 1: Cut him, cut him off, cut it price way do I?

677
00:32:00,240 --> 00:32:03,040
Speaker 2: I mail twenty six recently with no contact with my

678
00:32:03,160 --> 00:32:05,800
Speaker 2: whole close family, as I realized I have no bond,

679
00:32:06,000 --> 00:32:09,720
Speaker 2: emotions or connection with them as a result of absentee

680
00:32:09,720 --> 00:32:12,760
Speaker 2: parenting throughout my entire life. By the way, this comes

681
00:32:12,760 --> 00:32:15,720
Speaker 2: from yamouth on the ur slash Okay story time separate.

682
00:32:15,880 --> 00:32:19,400
Speaker 2: So my parents divorced when I was one, so I've

683
00:32:19,520 --> 00:32:22,640
Speaker 2: only ever known separate families. I've lived with my mom

684
00:32:22,800 --> 00:32:25,160
Speaker 2: ninety percent of the time and saw my dad every

685
00:32:25,200 --> 00:32:28,920
Speaker 2: other weekend. My mom was a successful property lawyer who

686
00:32:28,960 --> 00:32:31,720
Speaker 2: when I was ten ish moved into a mansion five

687
00:32:31,800 --> 00:32:36,200
Speaker 2: bedrooms all in suite, three living rooms think with Steria

688
00:32:36,320 --> 00:32:40,120
Speaker 2: Lane in the UK with my stepdad and had to

689
00:32:40,160 --> 00:32:43,320
Speaker 2: pay the mortgage of this as a results this kept.

690
00:32:44,080 --> 00:32:46,880
Speaker 2: This meant that she basically worked her entire life to

691
00:32:46,960 --> 00:32:51,600
Speaker 2: pay upkeep. My routine consisted of waking up, going to school.

692
00:32:51,760 --> 00:32:53,600
Speaker 2: Mom would be gone by the time I wake up,

693
00:32:53,800 --> 00:32:56,520
Speaker 2: coming back from school, making my self food, playing my

694
00:32:56,600 --> 00:32:59,600
Speaker 2: PC in my own living room, and going to bed.

695
00:33:00,640 --> 00:33:04,200
Speaker 2: I'm withholding the boohoo.

696
00:33:03,720 --> 00:33:06,920
Speaker 3: Acts for the rich kid, but I'm holding it in.

697
00:33:06,960 --> 00:33:09,520
Speaker 3: I'm holding it in. I'm holding it holding.

698
00:33:09,240 --> 00:33:10,240
Speaker 1: It in nice and tight.

699
00:33:10,800 --> 00:33:14,120
Speaker 2: Just kidding. I think I would speak to people living

700
00:33:14,120 --> 00:33:17,360
Speaker 2: in my own house maybe once a week. I think

701
00:33:17,360 --> 00:33:19,600
Speaker 2: I would speak to people living in my house maybe

702
00:33:19,680 --> 00:33:21,920
Speaker 2: once a week, and even then it would be a

703
00:33:21,960 --> 00:33:25,920
Speaker 2: passing hello. We would never eat together, as we would

704
00:33:25,920 --> 00:33:28,320
Speaker 2: eat in our own living rooms and never did anything

705
00:33:28,320 --> 00:33:31,880
Speaker 2: together on weekends either. My dad, on the other hand,

706
00:33:32,000 --> 00:33:35,160
Speaker 2: was a successful insurance salesman with his own business, making

707
00:33:35,240 --> 00:33:38,280
Speaker 2: six figures, but never seem to spend any of that

708
00:33:38,440 --> 00:33:41,480
Speaker 2: on me and my siblings and I, as I only

709
00:33:41,560 --> 00:33:46,320
Speaker 2: remember eating Tesco value food and receiving the worst dodgy

710
00:33:46,600 --> 00:33:50,040
Speaker 2: no thought gifts as a kid, Think wrong size roller

711
00:33:50,040 --> 00:33:54,120
Speaker 2: skates from a car boot sale of a freebie. Highlights

712
00:33:54,160 --> 00:33:56,520
Speaker 2: of BBC comedy Pause.

713
00:33:58,040 --> 00:34:00,480
Speaker 1: Your family was like It was like Danny DeVito's character

714
00:34:00,520 --> 00:34:06,240
Speaker 1: from Matilda. She's just like a dirty used car Salesman's

715
00:34:06,360 --> 00:34:07,800
Speaker 1: cheap on everything in his life.

716
00:34:07,720 --> 00:34:11,640
Speaker 2: Yea, including his family or a single off brand Lego

717
00:34:11,719 --> 00:34:14,520
Speaker 2: set that I played with for years because that was

718
00:34:14,560 --> 00:34:17,759
Speaker 2: the only thing I got. So OPI's literally sitting in

719
00:34:17,800 --> 00:34:21,480
Speaker 2: their like house mansion room with a living room with

720
00:34:21,600 --> 00:34:23,320
Speaker 2: like off brand Legos.

721
00:34:24,840 --> 00:34:27,960
Speaker 1: I will not tolerate the disparagement of Mega blocks in

722
00:34:28,000 --> 00:34:30,560
Speaker 1: this household. I was gonna say the same thing. If

723
00:34:30,640 --> 00:34:33,239
Speaker 1: we're gonna, if we're not gonna put mega blocks and

724
00:34:33,480 --> 00:34:36,279
Speaker 1: up where they deserve to be. I don't want to

725
00:34:36,320 --> 00:34:36,600
Speaker 1: hear it.

726
00:34:37,280 --> 00:34:39,400
Speaker 3: You know, it's not like mini blocks, it's not like

727
00:34:39,480 --> 00:34:40,120
Speaker 3: week blocks.

728
00:34:40,120 --> 00:34:44,480
Speaker 1: It's Lincoln logs, and Lincoln logs have their own place,

729
00:34:44,920 --> 00:34:45,759
Speaker 1: not quite as high up.

730
00:34:45,840 --> 00:34:48,880
Speaker 2: I was a tinker toy guy. I'm sorry, I was

731
00:34:49,200 --> 00:34:51,480
Speaker 2: building windmills with the tinker toys.

732
00:34:51,520 --> 00:34:54,759
Speaker 1: But you hear that he was building windmills while you

733
00:34:54,800 --> 00:34:56,400
Speaker 1: were farting around with Lincoln logs.

734
00:34:57,200 --> 00:35:01,600
Speaker 2: Sorry guys anyways, so h he would only spend time

735
00:35:01,680 --> 00:35:04,560
Speaker 2: doing what he and my sibling wanted outdoors, the nature

736
00:35:04,640 --> 00:35:08,600
Speaker 2: exploration type things, and effectively dragged me along as a requirement,

737
00:35:09,200 --> 00:35:11,879
Speaker 2: not as someone else to join in. I never had

738
00:35:11,880 --> 00:35:14,120
Speaker 2: fun because he never took the time to know me

739
00:35:14,239 --> 00:35:17,480
Speaker 2: and understand what I might have wanted. Toys, indoor bonding

740
00:35:17,520 --> 00:35:20,360
Speaker 2: time type stuff. But I put on a face so

741
00:35:20,440 --> 00:35:23,880
Speaker 2: that he thought I was okay. My sibling, now thirty

742
00:35:23,960 --> 00:35:26,919
Speaker 2: thirty one, has suffered in many ways with mental health,

743
00:35:26,960 --> 00:35:30,799
Speaker 2: bullying in school, and the need to academically excel. This

744
00:35:31,000 --> 00:35:34,160
Speaker 2: all culminated in them taking ninety five percent of the

745
00:35:34,239 --> 00:35:37,560
Speaker 2: limited attention of both parents. So I've always just felt

746
00:35:37,560 --> 00:35:40,400
Speaker 2: like spare parts of them. It's not their faults, but

747
00:35:40,480 --> 00:35:44,600
Speaker 2: it just contributed to me being the discarded child. It

748
00:35:44,680 --> 00:35:48,320
Speaker 2: also helped their bond with both their parents. It also

749
00:35:48,480 --> 00:35:52,040
Speaker 2: helped their bond with both parents, so now they call

750
00:35:52,120 --> 00:35:56,560
Speaker 2: them both multiple times a week. Siblings live abroad, which

751
00:35:56,600 --> 00:36:00,480
Speaker 2: has often brought up which has often been brought up

752
00:36:00,520 --> 00:36:04,680
Speaker 2: as and spat in my face by my parents. I

753
00:36:04,719 --> 00:36:07,359
Speaker 2: will assume that you are the same as me where

754
00:36:07,400 --> 00:36:10,000
Speaker 2: you have one or two critical moments in your childhood

755
00:36:10,040 --> 00:36:13,400
Speaker 2: that that truly defined your relationship with your parents. For me,

756
00:36:13,680 --> 00:36:16,799
Speaker 2: mine all center around my dad. He was diagnosed with

757
00:36:16,840 --> 00:36:19,920
Speaker 2: Parkinson's around ten years ago, but he never told me.

758
00:36:20,360 --> 00:36:23,480
Speaker 2: He did, however, tell my siblings and his ex and

759
00:36:23,560 --> 00:36:26,120
Speaker 2: also his ex wife my mom. Dude, when you refer

760
00:36:26,480 --> 00:36:29,719
Speaker 2: to your mom as my dad's ex wife, that's things

761
00:36:29,760 --> 00:36:30,319
Speaker 2: are not good.

762
00:36:30,480 --> 00:36:33,759
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's kind of a red flash, red fly on

763
00:36:33,840 --> 00:36:40,239
Speaker 1: the relationship there. Ooh ah, yeah, yeah, the woman who

764
00:36:40,840 --> 00:36:46,560
Speaker 1: chose for me to be a mother. Yes, my designated birther.

765
00:36:46,560 --> 00:36:51,239
Speaker 2: Designated So funny but so Nearly after a year after

766
00:36:51,320 --> 00:36:54,080
Speaker 2: they found out about the Parkinson's, they were discussing it

767
00:36:54,200 --> 00:36:57,400
Speaker 2: idly in conversation and became the ones to reveal that

768
00:36:57,480 --> 00:37:00,879
Speaker 2: my dad has a life destroying illness. I have never

769
00:37:00,920 --> 00:37:03,759
Speaker 2: been so stunned in my life. I remember the color

770
00:37:03,880 --> 00:37:06,759
Speaker 2: draining from my face and being unable to speak as

771
00:37:06,760 --> 00:37:09,000
Speaker 2: I saw the faces on my mom and sister as

772
00:37:09,040 --> 00:37:11,600
Speaker 2: they realized they were the ones that have uncovered this.

773
00:37:12,440 --> 00:37:16,440
Speaker 2: He did similar things by forgetting me at by forgetting

774
00:37:16,480 --> 00:37:27,920
Speaker 2: me by forgetting me me skers, what is this shout out?

775
00:37:27,920 --> 00:37:29,719
Speaker 1: To all the people who know who Jason Funderberger is.

776
00:37:30,280 --> 00:37:32,160
Speaker 1: Sah ah, here we go.

777
00:37:32,520 --> 00:37:36,080
Speaker 2: He did similar things by forgetting me at other crucial moments.

778
00:37:36,480 --> 00:37:39,759
Speaker 2: I only ever had one grandparent, his mom, as the

779
00:37:39,800 --> 00:37:42,799
Speaker 2: rest passed away before I could remember. She passed away

780
00:37:42,800 --> 00:37:43,560
Speaker 2: a few years ago.

781
00:37:44,120 --> 00:37:46,960
Speaker 3: He forgot to tell me that she died.

782
00:37:48,360 --> 00:37:48,880
Speaker 2: Oops.

783
00:37:49,400 --> 00:37:54,560
Speaker 1: Oops, who are you? You're like, who are you? Who

784
00:37:54,640 --> 00:37:54,960
Speaker 1: are you?

785
00:37:55,080 --> 00:37:55,680
Speaker 2: My god?

786
00:37:56,160 --> 00:38:00,040
Speaker 1: Twist this This kid is not actually ope like the

787
00:38:00,200 --> 00:38:04,640
Speaker 1: dad's child. That's the conspiracy theory. Dad knows that.

788
00:38:04,640 --> 00:38:07,920
Speaker 2: This is not his real kid, and that's why they

789
00:38:07,960 --> 00:38:12,080
Speaker 2: split up. Yeah, that's a great conspiracy theory. That is

790
00:38:12,120 --> 00:38:14,520
Speaker 2: a great conspiracy theory. I'm gonna I'm gonna hop on

791
00:38:14,520 --> 00:38:14,920
Speaker 2: board with that.

792
00:38:15,320 --> 00:38:19,439
Speaker 1: Yeah. Another secret that OP doesn't know. That's not your dad?

793
00:38:19,840 --> 00:38:23,600
Speaker 2: Yeah yeah right. I just I thought i'd tell you eventually.

794
00:38:23,680 --> 00:38:25,360
Speaker 1: Yeah, I just never got around to it because I

795
00:38:25,400 --> 00:38:29,000
Speaker 1: don't really like you that much. You're you're reminder of

796
00:38:29,040 --> 00:38:32,000
Speaker 1: my terrible ex wife, right, Oh my gosh, dude, who

797
00:38:32,000 --> 00:38:32,640
Speaker 1: you should hate to?

798
00:38:33,160 --> 00:38:35,959
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh. So he called me the day before

799
00:38:36,000 --> 00:38:38,160
Speaker 2: the funeral and said, what time will you get to

800
00:38:38,200 --> 00:38:39,319
Speaker 2: the funeral, to which I.

801
00:38:43,680 --> 00:38:50,480
Speaker 7: Whose funeral? Oh my god, whose funeral? Dude, this is

802
00:38:50,640 --> 00:38:54,319
Speaker 7: so bad Parkinson's. I know it affects your like your

803
00:38:54,360 --> 00:38:59,640
Speaker 7: your mobility. Does it affect your mental your dumb.

804
00:38:59,520 --> 00:39:01,880
Speaker 3: Piece, I'm not sure. Actually I feel like it doesn't.

805
00:39:01,960 --> 00:39:04,319
Speaker 2: Could we could we get maybe a confirmation on that

806
00:39:04,680 --> 00:39:06,120
Speaker 2: keon from the interwebs.

807
00:39:07,840 --> 00:39:10,320
Speaker 1: Speaking of confirmation, I want to confirm to Hannah because

808
00:39:10,360 --> 00:39:12,279
Speaker 1: I see I keep seeing these comments. We did get

809
00:39:12,280 --> 00:39:13,160
Speaker 1: your donations, Hannah?

810
00:39:13,200 --> 00:39:15,799
Speaker 5: Yes we got yeah, ili, I replied to Hannah the

811
00:39:15,800 --> 00:39:17,879
Speaker 5: fifty bucks, the twenty five bucks, right, I got.

812
00:39:17,760 --> 00:39:19,960
Speaker 1: It all, thank you, we got all that and over

813
00:39:20,000 --> 00:39:23,040
Speaker 1: the garden wall. Nice, good job. Yes, absolutely so sorry.

814
00:39:23,080 --> 00:39:24,400
Speaker 1: I got to track what are we looking at?

815
00:39:25,160 --> 00:39:28,800
Speaker 2: Does Parkinson's affect you mentally? Or is it just physical

816
00:39:28,800 --> 00:39:33,000
Speaker 2: and mobility and that kind of stuff we want to know.

817
00:39:34,440 --> 00:39:38,680
Speaker 2: But yeah, this is dude, finding about about the funeral

818
00:39:38,719 --> 00:39:40,480
Speaker 2: that way is crazy.

819
00:39:40,760 --> 00:39:44,000
Speaker 1: It's crazy that it's a very sitcom way.

820
00:39:43,840 --> 00:39:46,319
Speaker 2: Dude, so much sitcom today on these stories. My god,

821
00:39:46,760 --> 00:39:49,320
Speaker 2: it was two minutes before I walked into my office.

822
00:39:49,760 --> 00:39:52,920
Speaker 2: He didn't forget to tell my sibling, there you go.

823
00:39:53,239 --> 00:39:56,480
Speaker 2: He also got married to my step mom at some point.

824
00:39:56,840 --> 00:39:57,719
Speaker 2: It never told me.

825
00:39:59,320 --> 00:40:02,640
Speaker 1: You are not not a part of this guy's family. Dude.

826
00:40:02,680 --> 00:40:06,320
Speaker 2: Like it's like, uh, hey, dad, who's this like woman

827
00:40:06,360 --> 00:40:08,239
Speaker 2: that like keeps coming in. He's like, yeah, you mean

828
00:40:08,280 --> 00:40:11,439
Speaker 2: your stepmom And it's like, I have a step mom.

829
00:40:11,480 --> 00:40:13,000
Speaker 3: It's like, yeah, she's been.

830
00:40:12,840 --> 00:40:17,520
Speaker 8: Married for He's like, yeah, I married her, idiot freaking stupid.

831
00:40:17,880 --> 00:40:23,080
Speaker 8: And he's like oh what dude, So just one day

832
00:40:23,120 --> 00:40:26,080
Speaker 8: he was remarried and that's it, that's it.

833
00:40:26,719 --> 00:40:31,919
Speaker 2: He didn't forget to tell my sibling. Never forget forget.

834
00:40:32,440 --> 00:40:36,240
Speaker 5: Yes, John, sorry interrupt, but yes, Parkinson's doesn't affect cognition

835
00:40:36,280 --> 00:40:36,560
Speaker 5: as well.

836
00:40:36,640 --> 00:40:40,640
Speaker 2: Okay, but like we have pretty solid evidence that he's

837
00:40:40,960 --> 00:40:45,320
Speaker 2: Opie or the dad just neglects to inform op of anything.

838
00:40:45,440 --> 00:40:49,320
Speaker 1: Opi is such an afterthought that like it never even

839
00:40:50,080 --> 00:40:53,000
Speaker 1: yeah never, he actually has dementia as well.

840
00:40:53,160 --> 00:40:59,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean Parkinson's does, or he could, he could,

841
00:40:59,080 --> 00:40:59,359
Speaker 2: he could.

842
00:40:59,480 --> 00:41:04,320
Speaker 5: It's five people with Parkins's disease may develop dementia.

843
00:41:05,239 --> 00:41:07,080
Speaker 2: So so.

844
00:41:08,800 --> 00:41:12,040
Speaker 1: So far, all that's been scrubbed is your existence, is

845
00:41:12,080 --> 00:41:14,000
Speaker 1: what it sounds like, because he remember me to tell

846
00:41:14,040 --> 00:41:14,840
Speaker 1: everyone except you.

847
00:41:15,440 --> 00:41:18,359
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's the thing is, Yeah, that's that's it. If

848
00:41:18,360 --> 00:41:20,920
Speaker 2: he forgot to tell the siblings, and everyone else. Then

849
00:41:20,960 --> 00:41:24,160
Speaker 2: that makes sense the fact that he constantly is always

850
00:41:24,200 --> 00:41:27,160
Speaker 2: telling the siblings and not op. It's this is intentional

851
00:41:27,160 --> 00:41:32,239
Speaker 2: exclusion or at a bare minimum, just neglect and like

852
00:41:32,560 --> 00:41:35,360
Speaker 2: you're you're an afterthought, which is like pick your poison,

853
00:41:35,360 --> 00:41:38,400
Speaker 2: which is worse. A fair baby, a fair. It's a

854
00:41:38,400 --> 00:41:41,600
Speaker 2: great conspiracy theory. It's a great conspiracy theory. So a

855
00:41:41,600 --> 00:41:44,759
Speaker 2: few years ago, my mom told me that she had

856
00:41:44,760 --> 00:41:47,719
Speaker 2: a cancer scare and wasn't in the clear yet. My

857
00:41:47,880 --> 00:41:51,680
Speaker 2: honest thoughts of this were, I didn't care about it.

858
00:41:51,960 --> 00:41:56,040
Speaker 2: Uh h WHOA. No one wants a stranger to get cancer,

859
00:41:56,440 --> 00:42:00,600
Speaker 2: and that's exactly h h. No, no one wants a

860
00:42:00,600 --> 00:42:03,080
Speaker 2: stranger to get cancer, and that's exactly how I felt.

861
00:42:03,400 --> 00:42:05,720
Speaker 2: I didn't I didn't want this stranger to get cancer,

862
00:42:06,080 --> 00:42:08,200
Speaker 2: but I don't think I would care if they did.

863
00:42:08,520 --> 00:42:10,800
Speaker 1: Question Mark, Yeah, Okay, I think I see what they're saying.

864
00:42:11,120 --> 00:42:13,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, It's like I treated it the same way, which

865
00:42:13,040 --> 00:42:15,640
Speaker 2: is like, I think that's the better way to put it.

866
00:42:15,640 --> 00:42:17,399
Speaker 2: It's like it was like it's a big like hearing

867
00:42:17,440 --> 00:42:19,840
Speaker 2: a stranger here's like, oh my god, I feel I

868
00:42:19,920 --> 00:42:22,040
Speaker 2: feel terrible, But at the same time, there's not that

869
00:42:22,160 --> 00:42:25,120
Speaker 2: like deep connection that way it would hit of someone

870
00:42:25,160 --> 00:42:26,239
Speaker 2: I like truly love and.

871
00:42:26,160 --> 00:42:28,640
Speaker 1: Like, yeah, it's like if you're riding down the street

872
00:42:28,640 --> 00:42:30,200
Speaker 1: in the car and someone goes that guy is gonna

873
00:42:30,200 --> 00:42:32,799
Speaker 1: get cancer, and it's like that sucks for that guy.

874
00:42:32,880 --> 00:42:34,239
Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't know that guy. Who's that guy?

875
00:42:34,280 --> 00:42:36,520
Speaker 2: But yeah, it doesn't it doesn't hit like if it's

876
00:42:36,560 --> 00:42:39,600
Speaker 2: like coming in your life's family. I've been acting like

877
00:42:39,640 --> 00:42:41,640
Speaker 2: I love and appreciate them since as far as I

878
00:42:41,640 --> 00:42:44,759
Speaker 2: can remember, as a performance for them. However, after I

879
00:42:44,800 --> 00:42:47,200
Speaker 2: came back from UNI, I struggled more and more to

880
00:42:47,200 --> 00:42:49,920
Speaker 2: perform to keep them happy. One of the things that

881
00:42:49,960 --> 00:42:53,360
Speaker 2: tip the scale was the inability to watch any and

882
00:42:53,440 --> 00:42:58,160
Speaker 2: I mean any movie containing a bog standard family without

883
00:42:58,200 --> 00:43:00,680
Speaker 2: crying and breaking down. Oh because as I just wish

884
00:43:00,840 --> 00:43:04,560
Speaker 2: I had something similar. Dang in my mind, I literally

885
00:43:04,640 --> 00:43:07,560
Speaker 2: begged for anything. I begged for a family that actually

886
00:43:07,600 --> 00:43:12,200
Speaker 2: cared and understood a thing about me, just a single thing. Conversely,

887
00:43:12,320 --> 00:43:14,359
Speaker 2: since I came back from UNI, they have been both

888
00:43:15,239 --> 00:43:17,520
Speaker 2: very communicative and tried to be part of my life

889
00:43:17,880 --> 00:43:22,560
Speaker 2: by asking about current circumstances, work, boyfriend, friendship, friendships, et cetera.

890
00:43:22,800 --> 00:43:25,160
Speaker 2: A lot It's clear that they want to have a

891
00:43:25,160 --> 00:43:28,800
Speaker 2: good relationship with their son now, but they both represent

892
00:43:28,880 --> 00:43:33,520
Speaker 2: symbols of neglect and abandonment in my mind. Quick question,

893
00:43:33,600 --> 00:43:40,359
Speaker 2: do we know if there's a update this story. I

894
00:43:40,400 --> 00:43:44,200
Speaker 2: recently tried to reconcile with them by explaining to them

895
00:43:44,200 --> 00:43:48,400
Speaker 2: my feelings about my childhood and quite importantly said I

896
00:43:48,480 --> 00:43:51,920
Speaker 2: felt they owed me for giving me no love, no attention,

897
00:43:52,160 --> 00:43:55,480
Speaker 2: and no care and no parenting as a child. I

898
00:43:55,480 --> 00:43:58,200
Speaker 2: had discussed with this. I discussed this with a therapist,

899
00:43:58,239 --> 00:44:01,719
Speaker 2: and we concluded, and we concluded this was a reasonable

900
00:44:01,760 --> 00:44:05,160
Speaker 2: way to wipe the slate clean, to get my parents

901
00:44:05,239 --> 00:44:10,200
Speaker 2: to acknowledge and reimburse their failures. Reimburse their failures. That's

902
00:44:10,360 --> 00:44:14,799
Speaker 2: reimburse That's an interesting way of saying it. I don't know,

903
00:44:15,200 --> 00:44:16,279
Speaker 2: I can't think of another word.

904
00:44:16,280 --> 00:44:19,960
Speaker 1: They a protext bracket way of describing that.

905
00:44:20,560 --> 00:44:23,200
Speaker 2: All right, I love that. Uh so that we could

906
00:44:23,200 --> 00:44:25,600
Speaker 2: content that, So that way we could potentially find a

907
00:44:25,640 --> 00:44:28,640
Speaker 2: way to start again. I am really determined to buy

908
00:44:28,640 --> 00:44:31,000
Speaker 2: a house, but I can't do so without their help.

909
00:44:31,320 --> 00:44:34,600
Speaker 2: So I asked for any contribution towards a deposit from

910
00:44:34,640 --> 00:44:38,560
Speaker 2: both of them. Both of them reacted poorly said, uh,

911
00:44:38,600 --> 00:44:41,000
Speaker 2: they didn't want any they didn't want to do anything

912
00:44:41,080 --> 00:44:43,480
Speaker 2: wrong and are outraged that I would ask them for

913
00:44:43,560 --> 00:44:47,200
Speaker 2: something like that. By the way, I would be outraged

914
00:44:47,320 --> 00:44:51,400
Speaker 2: simply out of my noggin if you don't simply tap

915
00:44:51,520 --> 00:44:54,520
Speaker 2: our profile to join our lives every weekday at three

916
00:44:54,520 --> 00:44:56,839
Speaker 2: pm PST. That's that's all you gotta do.

917
00:44:56,960 --> 00:44:58,800
Speaker 1: You're gonna he's gonna lose his mind.

918
00:44:59,120 --> 00:45:03,560
Speaker 2: I'm gonna lose my freaking marbles. So just do it.

919
00:45:04,080 --> 00:45:04,600
Speaker 2: Just do it.

920
00:45:05,520 --> 00:45:06,880
Speaker 3: Do it for John, do it for me.

921
00:45:07,560 --> 00:45:10,719
Speaker 2: But before we finish off this story, let's let's let's

922
00:45:10,719 --> 00:45:12,799
Speaker 2: discuss dear Dear big d.

923
00:45:14,280 --> 00:45:16,399
Speaker 1: I don't think you can be like help me buy

924
00:45:16,400 --> 00:45:20,160
Speaker 1: a house, people who ignore my existence. I think I

925
00:45:20,200 --> 00:45:26,400
Speaker 1: think you're regardless of how fair or unfair the situation is, like,

926
00:45:27,239 --> 00:45:29,319
Speaker 1: it's clear that you need to strike out on your

927
00:45:29,320 --> 00:45:32,040
Speaker 1: own and get away from these people who think of

928
00:45:32,120 --> 00:45:36,279
Speaker 1: you as literally like a like oh, like, oh you're here.

929
00:45:36,600 --> 00:45:40,279
Speaker 1: I forgot about your entire existence, Hey my son, Oh

930
00:45:40,760 --> 00:45:46,919
Speaker 1: oh yeah, what are you doing here? Like? I think

931
00:45:46,960 --> 00:45:51,160
Speaker 1: it's uh, it's best to just go low contact and

932
00:45:51,360 --> 00:45:52,480
Speaker 1: move on with your life.

933
00:45:52,320 --> 00:45:54,960
Speaker 2: One hundred percent. And I think too like a big

934
00:45:55,280 --> 00:45:58,439
Speaker 2: risk that's would be run. Here is like you don't

935
00:45:58,920 --> 00:46:01,160
Speaker 2: need First of all, you don't need.

936
00:46:00,920 --> 00:46:02,600
Speaker 3: To buy a house.

937
00:46:02,920 --> 00:46:05,600
Speaker 2: I'm assuming you're like already if you have the money

938
00:46:05,640 --> 00:46:08,800
Speaker 2: to buy a house, let's be real, you can afford

939
00:46:08,840 --> 00:46:11,320
Speaker 2: and I'm sure are affording to rent a place. Okay,

940
00:46:11,360 --> 00:46:13,440
Speaker 2: so you don't. This isn't a this is not like

941
00:46:13,480 --> 00:46:17,360
Speaker 2: a hospital bill. This is so And I think that

942
00:46:18,280 --> 00:46:21,680
Speaker 2: by them helping you with this, that gives them this

943
00:46:21,840 --> 00:46:25,000
Speaker 2: like kind of in a sick twisted way, emotional leverage

944
00:46:25,000 --> 00:46:27,160
Speaker 2: over you where it's like we should buy your house,

945
00:46:27,280 --> 00:46:29,920
Speaker 2: you know what I mean. And that's not truly healing

946
00:46:30,040 --> 00:46:33,279
Speaker 2: what needs to be healed, Like, don't don't give them

947
00:46:33,680 --> 00:46:37,200
Speaker 2: that like leverage over you. Just like take the l

948
00:46:37,360 --> 00:46:40,480
Speaker 2: and just wait to buy a house, you know, just

949
00:46:40,520 --> 00:46:45,360
Speaker 2: save up longer. And I think exactly what you said,

950
00:46:45,880 --> 00:46:50,239
Speaker 2: go lo contact. I think I think they are trying now,

951
00:46:50,360 --> 00:46:52,640
Speaker 2: but I think you lay it all out for them.

952
00:46:52,680 --> 00:46:55,320
Speaker 2: Which there was a point where OPI I think pretty

953
00:46:55,400 --> 00:46:58,239
Speaker 2: much did was like, hey, I basically don't feel like

954
00:46:58,440 --> 00:47:04,960
Speaker 2: I've been like given a like what a healthy loving,

955
00:47:05,400 --> 00:47:10,600
Speaker 2: uh parent child relationship growing up? You have thoughts that's

956
00:47:10,600 --> 00:47:12,120
Speaker 2: a that's a that's a that's a thinking face.

957
00:47:12,560 --> 00:47:14,759
Speaker 1: Well, I mean, you know, it was more just like

958
00:47:14,800 --> 00:47:18,600
Speaker 1: the thought of what if instead of being like, oh,

959
00:47:18,680 --> 00:47:22,760
Speaker 1: we just forgot about OP, Like what if they're doing

960
00:47:22,800 --> 00:47:24,799
Speaker 1: this because they all think that it's just like OPI

961
00:47:24,920 --> 00:47:27,920
Speaker 1: can't take it, which doesn't make it any better. But

962
00:47:27,960 --> 00:47:31,839
Speaker 1: it's like it's like OP wouldn't handle the diagnosis, well,

963
00:47:31,960 --> 00:47:35,239
Speaker 1: so we shouldn't tell OP. But then there's yeah, and

964
00:47:35,280 --> 00:47:37,839
Speaker 1: then it's like opold step the step mom.

965
00:47:37,960 --> 00:47:41,000
Speaker 3: That's the only one that's like, like, would OPI?

966
00:47:41,160 --> 00:47:44,680
Speaker 1: I guess OPI could not be really upset I'm getting remarried.

967
00:47:45,120 --> 00:47:46,279
Speaker 1: I don't know how you'd handle it.

968
00:47:46,719 --> 00:47:46,960
Speaker 2: I don't.

969
00:47:47,000 --> 00:47:48,800
Speaker 1: I'm not and I'm not saying that that's what happened,

970
00:47:48,800 --> 00:47:50,880
Speaker 1: but I'm just saying, like, what if. That's one of

971
00:47:50,920 --> 00:47:53,200
Speaker 1: the only things I can make sense.

972
00:47:53,640 --> 00:47:58,279
Speaker 4: It doesn't make these people like cartoon villains, like just

973
00:47:58,320 --> 00:48:01,759
Speaker 4: like toiling the mustache like another thing we won't tell OP.

974
00:48:02,000 --> 00:48:05,920
Speaker 1: It's like it's like, why wouldn't you tell them that? Yeah,

975
00:48:06,160 --> 00:48:07,239
Speaker 1: that's the only thing I can think of.

976
00:48:07,400 --> 00:48:10,480
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's it's it's it makes no sense.

977
00:48:10,560 --> 00:48:15,239
Speaker 2: I think that OP should lay everything out and you know,

978
00:48:15,600 --> 00:48:19,839
Speaker 2: leave the door open. And I will say, even though

979
00:48:19,840 --> 00:48:24,440
Speaker 2: they financially cared for him, it was almost like the

980
00:48:24,440 --> 00:48:26,640
Speaker 2: the financial care was like a byproduct. It's like, hey,

981
00:48:26,680 --> 00:48:29,360
Speaker 2: we have money, so it's like it's like easy to

982
00:48:29,640 --> 00:48:31,279
Speaker 2: just just take a room with a living room. We

983
00:48:31,320 --> 00:48:32,040
Speaker 2: got five of them.

984
00:48:32,120 --> 00:48:34,719
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's it's it's nothing to us.

985
00:48:34,600 --> 00:48:36,839
Speaker 3: It's upper tax bracket story for sure.

986
00:48:36,960 --> 00:48:41,440
Speaker 2: Yeah, like the actual real labor, the emotional labor of

987
00:48:41,480 --> 00:48:44,160
Speaker 2: like investing in the child and all of this stuff,

988
00:48:44,280 --> 00:48:47,239
Speaker 2: that's something they didn't do and they need to recognize that,

989
00:48:47,600 --> 00:48:50,279
Speaker 2: apologize and work towards building the trust back if they

990
00:48:50,360 --> 00:48:53,160
Speaker 2: if they, if they want to have a healthy I

991
00:48:53,200 --> 00:48:55,520
Speaker 2: don't think op would be the a whole for being

992
00:48:55,560 --> 00:48:57,759
Speaker 2: like you know what if you guys won't acknowledge what

993
00:48:57,880 --> 00:49:02,840
Speaker 2: you did and like really worked towards this. Like I

994
00:49:02,840 --> 00:49:05,120
Speaker 2: I'm gonna go, I think, like you said, low contact, Yeah,

995
00:49:05,239 --> 00:49:06,520
Speaker 2: low contact, That's what I think.

996
00:49:06,640 --> 00:49:09,040
Speaker 5: But there is no update unfortunately. But I found like

997
00:49:09,120 --> 00:49:12,360
Speaker 5: a kind of relevant comment from OPI, but nothing that

998
00:49:12,480 --> 00:49:16,960
Speaker 5: was like too like crazy, okay, yeah, yeah, it's okay. Unfortunately,

999
00:49:17,000 --> 00:49:20,360
Speaker 5: no update. Sorry guys, that's okay, but we'll close it

1000
00:49:20,360 --> 00:49:20,719
Speaker 5: out here.

1001
00:49:20,800 --> 00:49:22,920
Speaker 2: So after I realize they don't care about how they

1002
00:49:23,000 --> 00:49:25,120
Speaker 2: treated me and they want to try to have a

1003
00:49:25,160 --> 00:49:28,359
Speaker 2: relationship with me without acknowledging the past. I couldn't accept

1004
00:49:28,400 --> 00:49:30,560
Speaker 2: this as a conclusion, so I told them how I

1005
00:49:30,600 --> 00:49:33,160
Speaker 2: felt and have now caught off both of them and

1006
00:49:33,239 --> 00:49:36,640
Speaker 2: never expect to speak to them again. Wow, never again,

1007
00:49:37,000 --> 00:49:39,440
Speaker 2: never again. I don't know if I believe that, but

1008
00:49:40,360 --> 00:49:43,120
Speaker 2: I agree with you. I think it's low contact, like

1009
00:49:43,520 --> 00:49:45,680
Speaker 2: you don't have to like respond to them and be

1010
00:49:45,719 --> 00:49:48,120
Speaker 2: buddy buddy and like all of this stuff. But if

1011
00:49:48,360 --> 00:49:51,000
Speaker 2: you know, a crazy circumstance happens, you know, I think

1012
00:49:51,320 --> 00:49:55,120
Speaker 2: generally you you ninety ninety five percent don't need to

1013
00:49:55,160 --> 00:49:59,680
Speaker 2: be bothered with it, but you can, you know, for

1014
00:49:59,760 --> 00:50:02,600
Speaker 2: the crazy scenarios. Yeah, still be open to that. But

1015
00:50:02,719 --> 00:50:05,680
Speaker 2: I digress. Several people have guilted me for doing this,

1016
00:50:05,800 --> 00:50:07,960
Speaker 2: saying my parents don't deserve to be abandoned by their

1017
00:50:07,960 --> 00:50:10,520
Speaker 2: own childs, But it doesn't really phase me currently.

1018
00:50:11,000 --> 00:50:12,520
Speaker 3: Am I the a hole for cutting them off?

1019
00:50:12,560 --> 00:50:14,680
Speaker 2: Do they deserve another chance to start a bomb with

1020
00:50:14,719 --> 00:50:17,680
Speaker 2: their son after twenty six years of ignoring him?

1021
00:50:17,920 --> 00:50:23,200
Speaker 1: Well, twenty six years of ignoring him might be laying

1022
00:50:23,200 --> 00:50:26,000
Speaker 1: it on a little bit thick there, brother, But uh,

1023
00:50:28,440 --> 00:50:30,759
Speaker 1: I think low contact now grow up a little bit

1024
00:50:30,760 --> 00:50:32,759
Speaker 1: more and then probably end up reaching out in a

1025
00:50:32,760 --> 00:50:35,400
Speaker 1: couple of years. Yeah, who knows. If they forget you

1026
00:50:35,440 --> 00:50:37,880
Speaker 1: exist again, you don't need to ever reach back out

1027
00:50:37,920 --> 00:50:41,359
Speaker 1: to them. That's true, that's true. You know, I don't know.

1028
00:50:42,080 --> 00:50:42,600
Speaker 2: I think.

1029
00:50:44,280 --> 00:50:48,560
Speaker 1: Who knows? Who knows? I heard I saw some rumblings

1030
00:50:48,600 --> 00:50:51,480
Speaker 1: of everyone sucks here, and I'm tempted to hop on

1031
00:50:51,600 --> 00:50:56,880
Speaker 1: that train. Yeah, I think, you know, I think everyone sucks.

1032
00:50:56,920 --> 00:50:58,360
Speaker 1: I think everyone kind of sucks in the story.

1033
00:50:58,520 --> 00:50:59,120
Speaker 3: There's like that.

1034
00:50:59,760 --> 00:51:00,880
Speaker 1: I feel like it's.

1035
00:51:02,200 --> 00:51:09,399
Speaker 2: Generally a good move to be acknowledging of like, hey,

1036
00:51:09,440 --> 00:51:14,080
Speaker 2: you know, I they they they did raise me. You know,

1037
00:51:14,239 --> 00:51:16,480
Speaker 2: I did have a roof over my head and mega

1038
00:51:16,560 --> 00:51:19,080
Speaker 2: blocks even if it wasn't the you.

1039
00:51:18,960 --> 00:51:24,200
Speaker 3: Know, Star Wars leg with Yeah.

1040
00:51:23,040 --> 00:51:25,600
Speaker 1: I mean, and op also did just ask like for

1041
00:51:25,600 --> 00:51:28,640
Speaker 1: for money to buy a house from both of them. Yeah, yeah,

1042
00:51:28,680 --> 00:51:30,080
Speaker 1: there's like Dan cut them off.

1043
00:51:30,640 --> 00:51:35,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, well yeah, I think Opie's like a little off

1044
00:51:35,680 --> 00:51:40,040
Speaker 2: the mark with how they're approaching it. But also like

1045
00:51:40,120 --> 00:51:42,840
Speaker 2: the the to the big like the main kind of

1046
00:51:42,880 --> 00:51:45,799
Speaker 2: like the big picture point here, which is like do

1047
00:51:45,880 --> 00:51:48,680
Speaker 2: you give your parents like the time of day, and

1048
00:51:48,719 --> 00:51:51,520
Speaker 2: then the validation of kind of like feeling like the

1049
00:51:51,560 --> 00:51:55,319
Speaker 2: good parents when they kind of like basically ignored you

1050
00:51:55,360 --> 00:51:58,600
Speaker 2: for your entire childhood. I don't think you and I

1051
00:51:58,600 --> 00:52:00,439
Speaker 2: think it is good to tell them like, hey, look,

1052
00:52:00,960 --> 00:52:03,240
Speaker 2: I felt like I was ignored for my whole childhood.

1053
00:52:03,239 --> 00:52:05,880
Speaker 2: I can't watch a movie with like a healthy family

1054
00:52:05,960 --> 00:52:09,400
Speaker 2: dynamic without crying, like this should be acknowledged and work on.

1055
00:52:09,480 --> 00:52:12,920
Speaker 2: And if you can't acknowledge it, then that's that's not good.

1056
00:52:13,800 --> 00:52:14,439
Speaker 2: That's not good.

1057
00:52:17,200 --> 00:52:20,640
Speaker 1: That's true. I feel a little bit more. It's it's

1058
00:52:20,680 --> 00:52:22,800
Speaker 1: you know, I think he's a bit off the mark.

1059
00:52:22,880 --> 00:52:26,920
Speaker 2: But like I, I to the to the big picture,

1060
00:52:27,040 --> 00:52:29,879
Speaker 2: to the main if we're getting to like the the

1061
00:52:29,920 --> 00:52:32,560
Speaker 2: meat of the point that's being made here, I do

1062
00:52:32,680 --> 00:52:37,040
Speaker 2: agree with the with the general philosophy of of what

1063
00:52:37,200 --> 00:52:39,520
Speaker 2: op is saying here, Like I do. It's it's basically

1064
00:52:39,600 --> 00:52:42,120
Speaker 2: like there are consequences for your actions. Listen, if you're

1065
00:52:42,120 --> 00:52:45,359
Speaker 2: gonna ignore ignore a kid, and not just ignore a kid,

1066
00:52:45,400 --> 00:52:48,719
Speaker 2: but like pay attention to the other kids, like just

1067
00:52:48,719 --> 00:52:51,000
Speaker 2: such a just a knife twisting thing to do to

1068
00:52:51,040 --> 00:52:54,000
Speaker 2: a child. I think that there desert like Hey, you

1069
00:52:54,040 --> 00:52:56,759
Speaker 2: gotta listen. You you you pay, You did the did

1070
00:52:56,760 --> 00:52:58,719
Speaker 2: the crime, got to do the time, Like you don't

1071
00:52:58,760 --> 00:53:02,120
Speaker 2: get to feel like an amazing parent for you know,

1072
00:53:02,719 --> 00:53:05,280
Speaker 2: ignoring a kid for their whole childhood.

1073
00:53:05,360 --> 00:53:08,960
Speaker 1: True facts, that's what I think. Factuals, that's what I think.

1074
00:53:09,600 --> 00:53:12,880
Speaker 1: But that's the end of this story. Do we have

1075
00:53:12,920 --> 00:53:16,600
Speaker 1: any donos? Oh yes we do. Oh yes we do.

1076
00:53:16,600 --> 00:53:19,240
Speaker 1: Dough Oh nos, Cody, you want to hit those all.

1077
00:53:19,400 --> 00:53:20,360
Speaker 2: Let me story for you.

1078
00:53:20,520 --> 00:53:26,640
Speaker 1: Let's get it. Get them going on. Nicole Linn, thank

1079
00:53:26,680 --> 00:53:30,120
Speaker 1: you for the ten dollars. Dakota, I feel less bad

1080
00:53:30,120 --> 00:53:32,359
Speaker 1: about giving that second look on the spin, you're only

1081
00:53:32,400 --> 00:53:36,160
Speaker 1: five years younger. I thought you were like twenty five. Also,

1082
00:53:36,200 --> 00:53:39,160
Speaker 1: come on, guys, let's get more time. We're so close.

1083
00:53:39,760 --> 00:53:46,480
Speaker 1: Oh you are frighteningly close. Right. Donation from my Men

1084
00:53:46,520 --> 00:53:48,759
Speaker 1: went my mind went a wall two thousand and six.

1085
00:53:48,760 --> 00:53:52,280
Speaker 1: Thanks for the five dollars, Dakota. Being empathic brown coat

1086
00:53:52,360 --> 00:53:57,600
Speaker 1: makes my little heart happy. Hail to the elders. Uh.

1087
00:53:58,120 --> 00:54:00,880
Speaker 1: Donation from MJ Grow, Thank you for the five dollars.

1088
00:54:01,360 --> 00:54:05,479
Speaker 1: She's unhappy that he's not accepting what she's trying to force.

1089
00:54:05,640 --> 00:54:08,600
Speaker 2: I think that was the sloppy. Yeah, boyfriend's story.

1090
00:54:08,800 --> 00:54:12,799
Speaker 1: I think we read the kind. Wait, I want to

1091
00:54:12,840 --> 00:54:14,480
Speaker 1: know more about the brown coats?

1092
00:54:14,680 --> 00:54:15,719
Speaker 3: Yeah, what is a brown coat?

1093
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Speaker 1: Being an m pat empathic empathic brown coat? Empathic brown

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00:54:21,960 --> 00:54:24,080
Speaker 1: in a second, but just keep reading. Then to the elder,

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Speaker 1: what did I say? I feel like I know what

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00:54:26,760 --> 00:54:27,160
Speaker 1: that means.

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Speaker 7: Uh.

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Speaker 1: Rebecca Albright, thanks for the five books and for your

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Speaker 1: first super donut on the live stream. Thank you, Rebecca Albright.

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Speaker 3: A lot of a lot of first time donators and

1101
00:54:38,520 --> 00:54:43,120
Speaker 3: like people, first time people on the stream from like, Facebook, podcast,

1102
00:54:43,280 --> 00:54:44,120
Speaker 3: whatever else.

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00:54:44,080 --> 00:54:45,680
Speaker 2: Got Welcome to the family.

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00:54:45,760 --> 00:54:48,799
Speaker 1: Yeah, welcome in. That's all I can freaking says a fan.

1105
00:54:48,960 --> 00:54:52,040
Speaker 2: It's a vibe you picked. You picked the the best

1106
00:54:52,080 --> 00:54:54,960
Speaker 2: day to join the stream. That's I'm not not not

1107
00:54:55,000 --> 00:54:58,320
Speaker 2: throwing shade or hate on any of the other days,

1108
00:54:58,320 --> 00:54:59,040
Speaker 2: but yeah.

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00:54:58,960 --> 00:55:01,600
Speaker 1: Oky, there's might be the best day ever to join

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00:55:01,719 --> 00:55:04,560
Speaker 1: the stream. Low Key. We're not gonna say it, but

1111
00:55:04,640 --> 00:55:06,000
Speaker 1: we're saying it. Low key.

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00:55:06,239 --> 00:55:07,600
Speaker 2: Golden Goblins are kind of low.

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00:55:07,520 --> 00:55:12,440
Speaker 1: Key golden goblins. Brown coats, firefly, firefly.

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00:55:12,200 --> 00:55:16,319
Speaker 2: Oh dude, what this guy? This guy calls himself a fan,

1115
00:55:16,440 --> 00:55:17,480
Speaker 2: dey call.

1116
00:55:18,440 --> 00:55:26,160
Speaker 1: Fan my due. I threw my back out celebrating Firefly.

1117
00:55:26,560 --> 00:55:29,000
Speaker 1: It's been a minute since I've watched it front to back.

1118
00:55:29,680 --> 00:55:32,800
Speaker 3: But hey, that's what a fake fan would say.

1119
00:55:32,960 --> 00:55:35,520
Speaker 1: I could, I could actually talk for an hour about

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Speaker 1: how it's not to release it Firefly was by Fox.

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00:55:39,040 --> 00:55:39,439
Speaker 2: I won't.

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00:55:39,920 --> 00:55:43,839
Speaker 1: I won't because it's so bad. And we have we'll

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00:55:43,880 --> 00:55:48,759
Speaker 1: do that members only and we have another story to

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00:55:48,880 --> 00:55:55,239
Speaker 1: who's reading, Yeah you did that one. This wee my

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00:55:55,280 --> 00:56:02,839
Speaker 1: little sister and foil Hat. Oh we will, though, we will.

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00:56:02,920 --> 00:56:06,560
Speaker 1: Kristin Fole has ten four hat with twenty gifted babies

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00:56:06,719 --> 00:56:10,320
Speaker 1: per twenty new babies for the chat never it is

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Speaker 1: they have our thirty more minutes thanks to Amy for

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00:56:18,640 --> 00:56:19,560
Speaker 1: the ten dollars.

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00:56:22,040 --> 00:56:23,080
Speaker 2: Oh is this is that?

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00:56:23,320 --> 00:56:27,000
Speaker 1: H Are people now doing the hat? Is that the

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00:56:27,040 --> 00:56:27,400
Speaker 1: hat for?

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00:56:28,160 --> 00:56:30,799
Speaker 2: Oh? Yeah, that's that's just Cassanda, Okay, I like that.

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00:56:30,880 --> 00:56:33,440
Speaker 2: It's like the sun, the sun, the sun hat.

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00:56:34,040 --> 00:56:35,919
Speaker 1: So sure we'll call it a sunhat, sun hat.

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00:56:36,040 --> 00:56:37,640
Speaker 3: I'm saying that sundressed sunhat.

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00:56:37,719 --> 00:56:38,640
Speaker 1: Sun hat goes to so.

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00:56:39,880 --> 00:56:40,640
Speaker 2: I don't know hats.

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00:56:40,800 --> 00:56:43,880
Speaker 1: Okay, I will and Chris Chris hit us with another

1140
00:56:44,000 --> 00:56:46,879
Speaker 1: gifted membership. Chris, Kristin foil Hat.

1141
00:56:46,920 --> 00:56:49,680
Speaker 5: Guys, you know what hats in the chat. You know,

1142
00:56:50,080 --> 00:56:52,799
Speaker 5: hats in the chat. It's it's hats in the chat.

1143
00:56:52,800 --> 00:56:54,960
Speaker 5: And Dakota to give us a spin real quick. I

1144
00:56:54,960 --> 00:56:55,960
Speaker 5: know your back's hurting.

1145
00:56:55,760 --> 00:57:00,239
Speaker 2: But do it. Oh god, wait a second, wait a second.

1146
00:57:00,800 --> 00:57:06,760
Speaker 2: How many spins we got? Oh goodness, gracious, wait a second?

1147
00:57:07,760 --> 00:57:13,560
Speaker 2: Oh good gravy. Hey hey, hey guys, hey, this is

1148
00:57:13,640 --> 00:57:15,600
Speaker 2: this is a family This is a family stream.

1149
00:57:15,840 --> 00:57:17,960
Speaker 1: Okay, that's what it is. I'm sorry, that's what it is.

1150
00:57:18,160 --> 00:57:20,440
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yeah is that what we told me that?

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00:57:20,560 --> 00:57:24,439
Speaker 3: Yes, that's exactly what it is. Read the fine print.

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00:57:24,440 --> 00:57:27,800
Speaker 2: Okay. Story time a family friendly show where cheeks will

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00:57:27,840 --> 00:57:28,480
Speaker 2: be shown.

1154
00:57:28,520 --> 00:57:31,360
Speaker 1: Where cheeks will checks, cheeks will be cheeks will be raised.

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00:57:32,160 --> 00:57:36,400
Speaker 2: Christmas Ham, We're a family, a family show. Step Family,

1156
00:57:36,440 --> 00:57:42,680
Speaker 2: That is a family affair. Don't show us any watching machines.

1157
00:57:43,720 --> 00:57:46,120
Speaker 2: Stop Step.

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00:57:49,960 --> 00:57:51,240
Speaker 1: I guess I'm just gonna have to get you out

1159
00:57:51,280 --> 00:57:55,439
Speaker 1: of it. Oh, Kristen Foyle hat five dollars donation, thank you,

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Speaker 1: thirty and.

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Speaker 2: More more minutes, more minutes thought, but we're gonna see.

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Speaker 1: Uh, Dakuda, you got the story up. I got the

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00:58:05,200 --> 00:58:05,680
Speaker 1: story up?

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00:58:05,720 --> 00:58:07,880
Speaker 2: After do it years? Yes?

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00:58:08,320 --> 00:58:11,560
Speaker 1: No, no, no. Also, they change the title it's my

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00:58:11,600 --> 00:58:15,400
Speaker 1: little sister. Uh, there is a little sister in there,

1167
00:58:15,440 --> 00:58:20,040
Speaker 1: but I got after Yes, okay, I think that works.

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Speaker 2: That works.

1169
00:58:20,280 --> 00:58:21,880
Speaker 5: I think they just didn't update it. But it's fine,

1170
00:58:21,880 --> 00:58:23,240
Speaker 5: it's okay, Okay.

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00:58:25,120 --> 00:58:28,960
Speaker 1: After years of neglect, my little sister started calling me daddy.

1172
00:58:29,640 --> 00:58:36,400
Speaker 1: Now our biological father is furious. I think this, this

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00:58:36,480 --> 00:58:38,360
Speaker 1: is a that's really funny that this is the one

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00:58:38,760 --> 00:58:42,000
Speaker 1: that's the title after we just started making jokes about

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Speaker 1: the step bro.

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Speaker 2: Step daddy, Daddy.

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00:58:46,520 --> 00:58:50,080
Speaker 1: No, it's just like, I don't know, we're gonna get

1178
00:58:50,080 --> 00:58:52,520
Speaker 1: to the bottom of this one way or the other.

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Speaker 1: Ye I twenty four male and the older brother to

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Speaker 1: my little sibling, five female. Okay, I was always the one.

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Speaker 5: What no, We're just gonna keep it.

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00:59:06,080 --> 00:59:08,840
Speaker 1: I was always the one who had to take care

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00:59:08,880 --> 00:59:11,600
Speaker 1: of my sister for the sake of privacy. I'lcohol her bell.

1184
00:59:12,120 --> 00:59:14,920
Speaker 1: For some background, my parents had me as teenagers. They

1185
00:59:14,920 --> 00:59:17,720
Speaker 1: were fifteen and sixteen at the time, and even as

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00:59:17,760 --> 00:59:20,600
Speaker 1: a kid, I could always feel that they regretted having me.

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Speaker 1: By the way, this comes from high yet hi ye

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00:59:25,560 --> 00:59:30,720
Speaker 1: ye lover, Hey yeah, hi yell lover on the r slash. Okay,

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00:59:30,720 --> 00:59:34,120
Speaker 1: story time, So but it's so. After I was born,

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00:59:34,200 --> 00:59:37,280
Speaker 1: both my mother and father were practically disowned by their family.

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00:59:37,680 --> 00:59:39,520
Speaker 1: My mother had to drop out of high school just

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00:59:39,560 --> 00:59:42,040
Speaker 1: to take care of me, while my father worked two

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00:59:42,120 --> 00:59:45,200
Speaker 1: jobs just to provide, and even then they couldn't afford

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00:59:45,240 --> 00:59:48,400
Speaker 1: a home. They lived with my mother's older sister until

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Speaker 1: I was nine, and my father got his GD and

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00:59:50,960 --> 00:59:53,720
Speaker 1: managed to get a better job and move us out.

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Speaker 1: It's a lot. Despite the fact our living situation was better,

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00:59:59,400 --> 01:00:01,520
Speaker 1: it was clear to me that they believed their lives

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Speaker 1: were ruined because of me. Whenever I misbehaved like any

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01:00:05,760 --> 01:00:08,680
Speaker 1: normal child, they'd use the fact that they gave up

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Speaker 1: their lives for me and I still had the audacity

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Speaker 1: to behave like this, And even when I never misbehaved,

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01:00:15,480 --> 01:00:18,080
Speaker 1: they never treated me with much love. I barely got

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Speaker 1: to get new clothing. They'd get my clothes from Goodwill

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Speaker 1: and practically refused to get me anything nice unless they

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Speaker 1: had to birthdays, parties, meeting friends, and their wedding.

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Speaker 2: A lot of Harry Potter should well, there's.

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01:00:30,360 --> 01:00:35,280
Speaker 1: Nothing wrong with clothes from goodwill, But moving on, my

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01:00:35,320 --> 01:00:38,400
Speaker 1: birthdays were always celebrated with the bare minimum. They'd get

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01:00:38,400 --> 01:00:41,160
Speaker 1: me a cupcake and a single gift, nothing that I wanted.

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01:00:41,360 --> 01:00:45,320
Speaker 1: Despite everything, I was still a child who just wanted

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Speaker 1: their love. But as I grew older, I began to

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Speaker 1: accept I wouldn't get it and made peace with that.

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01:00:50,760 --> 01:00:53,320
Speaker 1: I guess somewhere along the line when my parents realized

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Speaker 1: I gave up on them. As throughout my teen years,

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01:00:59,200 --> 01:01:02,320
Speaker 1: they amy and my mother began to treat me better.

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01:01:02,920 --> 01:01:04,880
Speaker 1: But at that point I wasn't the child who begged

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01:01:04,880 --> 01:01:07,280
Speaker 1: for their love anymore. I never received the love of

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Speaker 1: my parents, and I wasn't asking for it anymore. Although

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01:01:10,720 --> 01:01:13,240
Speaker 1: I can't say I kept hating them, in fact, my

1221
01:01:13,280 --> 01:01:18,280
Speaker 1: feeling began to feel more neutral towards them.

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Speaker 3: Ah, I don't like this. I'm gonna say this.

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01:01:23,160 --> 01:01:25,000
Speaker 1: I don't like anything about this story right now.

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01:01:25,880 --> 01:01:27,240
Speaker 2: I don't like it me.

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01:01:28,640 --> 01:01:31,280
Speaker 1: Although I can't say that I kept hating them, in fact,

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01:01:31,360 --> 01:01:34,280
Speaker 1: my feeling began to feel more neutral towards them. In

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01:01:34,360 --> 01:01:37,360
Speaker 1: my eyes, we were practically strangers. I never got to

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01:01:37,360 --> 01:01:39,680
Speaker 1: know them truly, as they raised me with the bare

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01:01:39,720 --> 01:01:43,080
Speaker 1: minimum and never had any real conversations with me and

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01:01:43,200 --> 01:01:47,880
Speaker 1: never spent any quality time with me. Okay, I'm gonna

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01:01:47,960 --> 01:01:51,760
Speaker 1: keep going this. They also knew nothing about me, so

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01:01:51,880 --> 01:01:55,040
Speaker 1: them suddenly trying to play parents with me was awkward

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01:01:55,080 --> 01:01:57,880
Speaker 1: to say the least. When I was eighteen, my mom

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01:01:57,960 --> 01:02:00,520
Speaker 1: got pregnant, and I guess that was when they gave

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01:02:00,600 --> 01:02:03,280
Speaker 1: up on trying to fix things with me as they

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01:02:03,400 --> 01:02:06,120
Speaker 1: could as they could have a new child to start

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01:02:06,160 --> 01:02:09,520
Speaker 1: over with. They didn't treat me poorly again, but instead

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01:02:09,560 --> 01:02:12,160
Speaker 1: it felt like we were strangers living in the same home.

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Speaker 2: Practice child, practice child.

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Speaker 5: I wasn't even real practice though practice. Practice does not

1241
01:02:20,640 --> 01:02:21,320
Speaker 5: make perfect with her?

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01:02:21,280 --> 01:02:26,040
Speaker 1: Okay exactly, Yeah, clearly, practice does not make perfect. But

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01:02:29,200 --> 01:02:34,680
Speaker 1: your parents were teenagers when they had you, dude. Okay,

1244
01:02:34,720 --> 01:02:35,600
Speaker 1: I'm just gonna keep going.

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01:02:36,200 --> 01:02:36,320
Speaker 2: Uh.

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01:02:37,120 --> 01:02:40,560
Speaker 1: When I turned nineteen, my mother gave birth to a girl,

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01:02:41,040 --> 01:02:44,080
Speaker 1: but due to some complications, she didn't end up surviving,

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01:02:44,600 --> 01:02:48,120
Speaker 1: and this crushed my father. Not only did he begin

1249
01:02:48,200 --> 01:02:50,880
Speaker 1: to resent me for not being as sad as he

1250
01:02:51,040 --> 01:02:54,120
Speaker 1: was over her death. She was barely a mother to me,

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01:02:54,360 --> 01:03:02,000
Speaker 1: so there wasn't much to be said over oh God,

1252
01:03:02,160 --> 01:03:07,320
Speaker 1: but he also blamed He also blamed his daughter for

1253
01:03:09,720 --> 01:03:16,800
Speaker 1: killing his wife. Jeez, this is the worst story I've

1254
01:03:16,800 --> 01:03:25,000
Speaker 1: ever read. I don't like this story at all. Okay,

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01:03:25,040 --> 01:03:28,440
Speaker 1: I'm Jiki going. He was never home after the incident,

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01:03:28,520 --> 01:03:31,280
Speaker 1: and I was left taking care of my sister. I

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01:03:31,400 --> 01:03:33,600
Speaker 1: ended up having to take a break from college after

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01:03:33,600 --> 01:03:36,320
Speaker 1: the time. I came home from my classes to my

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01:03:36,400 --> 01:03:39,440
Speaker 1: sisters screaming with hunger in an unchanged diaper while my

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01:03:39,440 --> 01:03:46,160
Speaker 1: father was out drinking. Oh my god, I'm sorry, Op.

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01:03:46,840 --> 01:03:50,040
Speaker 1: This is a terrible situation to be in. I'm sorry

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01:03:50,120 --> 01:03:52,960
Speaker 1: to the daughter. This is a terrible household to grow

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01:03:53,040 --> 01:03:57,040
Speaker 1: up in. I'm sorry to the husband that lost his

1264
01:03:57,120 --> 01:04:00,760
Speaker 1: wife to a pregnancy and is now sort of binge

1265
01:04:00,800 --> 01:04:05,720
Speaker 1: drinking himself. Yes, I feel sorry for everyone in this story.

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01:04:06,160 --> 01:04:07,560
Speaker 1: And I'm gonna keep going.

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01:04:07,600 --> 01:04:09,880
Speaker 3: We're gonna keep going. A quick, A quick idea.

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01:04:10,080 --> 01:04:13,560
Speaker 2: I wonder if there's anything where it's like if it

1269
01:04:13,600 --> 01:04:16,960
Speaker 2: really gets to the point where he's completely neglecting this

1270
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Speaker 2: this this baby, and maybe even there's like, you know,

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01:04:22,160 --> 01:04:24,760
Speaker 2: him having that attitude towards her. It's just such an

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01:04:24,840 --> 01:04:29,520
Speaker 2: unhealthy environment, can can OPI almost get like child support

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01:04:29,800 --> 01:04:32,760
Speaker 2: from the dad. I don't know.

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01:04:32,960 --> 01:04:35,800
Speaker 1: I think I think the moment better CPS gets involved

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01:04:35,800 --> 01:04:36,920
Speaker 1: in this, it just gets worse.

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01:04:37,680 --> 01:04:40,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's what I think it is. And then like

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01:04:40,120 --> 01:04:42,240
Speaker 2: like if he reports anything like trying to get child

1278
01:04:42,280 --> 01:04:44,560
Speaker 2: support or something like that, does CPS come into just.

1279
01:04:44,520 --> 01:04:48,520
Speaker 1: Like, yeah, I'm sure and then that's ruined. So good

1280
01:04:48,520 --> 01:04:50,640
Speaker 1: point is a very sticky situation.

1281
01:04:50,880 --> 01:04:53,280
Speaker 2: Yeah, let us know what you think now is the

1282
01:04:53,320 --> 01:04:56,120
Speaker 2: move in the comments? But yeah, yeah.

1283
01:04:56,920 --> 01:05:00,000
Speaker 1: I took care of Belle full time and called out

1284
01:05:00,120 --> 01:05:02,720
Speaker 1: my father multiple times, but he always got angry and

1285
01:05:02,800 --> 01:05:05,640
Speaker 1: ended the conversation with him saying I could always leave

1286
01:05:05,680 --> 01:05:09,640
Speaker 1: Belle at the fire station. I eventually gave up on

1287
01:05:09,720 --> 01:05:10,760
Speaker 1: forcing him to be a father.

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01:05:11,200 --> 01:05:11,760
Speaker 2: Yeah.

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01:05:11,800 --> 01:05:14,960
Speaker 1: Despite everything, I truly loved Belle. She was the sweetest

1290
01:05:14,960 --> 01:05:18,160
Speaker 1: and cutest kid. She was almost always smiley and surprisingly

1291
01:05:18,200 --> 01:05:20,720
Speaker 1: slept through the night. Once she was old enough, I

1292
01:05:20,840 --> 01:05:24,160
Speaker 1: enrolled her in daycare and continued my education while working

1293
01:05:24,240 --> 01:05:26,600
Speaker 1: night shifts. I always made sure to leave a good

1294
01:05:26,640 --> 01:05:29,640
Speaker 1: portion of afternoons empty so I could spend time with her.

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01:05:30,040 --> 01:05:31,600
Speaker 3: Dude, she always knew who.

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01:05:31,560 --> 01:05:34,120
Speaker 1: Her actual father was, and as she grew older, she

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01:05:34,200 --> 01:05:36,720
Speaker 1: began to try and spend time with him, I guess

1298
01:05:36,800 --> 01:05:40,520
Speaker 1: as she began to follow him around the house. Of course,

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01:05:40,560 --> 01:05:43,040
Speaker 1: that quickly ended after he blew up on her and

1300
01:05:43,120 --> 01:05:47,040
Speaker 1: she began to fear him. I realized she saw me

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01:05:47,080 --> 01:05:49,760
Speaker 1: as a parental figure, despite the fact she knew I

1302
01:05:49,840 --> 01:05:52,280
Speaker 1: was her brother. When she was old enough for preschool,

1303
01:05:52,280 --> 01:05:54,520
Speaker 1: I found out she was telling people I was her father.

1304
01:05:55,440 --> 01:05:57,280
Speaker 1: I never mentioned it to her and just let it

1305
01:05:57,320 --> 01:06:00,360
Speaker 1: be until she gave her Father's Day card he made

1306
01:06:00,360 --> 01:06:08,480
Speaker 1: at preschool to me, Oh.

1307
01:06:06,080 --> 01:06:06,240
Speaker 2: So.

1308
01:06:09,360 --> 01:06:13,720
Speaker 1: It take this kid and leave run away. Take this child.

1309
01:06:14,040 --> 01:06:17,080
Speaker 1: You're the child, you're the parent, now your father. She

1310
01:06:17,120 --> 01:06:19,120
Speaker 1: gave you the Father's Day card. Dude, you're her dad.

1311
01:06:19,200 --> 01:06:21,200
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, but how it is.

1312
01:06:21,120 --> 01:06:24,080
Speaker 2: That's the case. I mean, and we don't know the

1313
01:06:24,160 --> 01:06:28,160
Speaker 2: exact dynamics, but I I guess it's.

1314
01:06:28,000 --> 01:06:34,320
Speaker 3: Like which there's the thing of him like living there.

1315
01:06:34,360 --> 01:06:36,200
Speaker 2: It's like okay, at least it sounds like they're able

1316
01:06:36,280 --> 01:06:38,200
Speaker 2: to just like live at his place. I wonder if,

1317
01:06:38,200 --> 01:06:43,400
Speaker 2: like op finances wise is like able to get a

1318
01:06:43,440 --> 01:06:46,360
Speaker 2: good setup. I don't know. Yeah, ideal, the best case

1319
01:06:46,360 --> 01:06:48,360
Speaker 2: scenarios he leaves. The best case scenarios he leaves.

1320
01:06:48,440 --> 01:06:50,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, best case scenario is that he leaves.

1321
01:06:51,280 --> 01:06:54,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, you are the father now.

1322
01:06:56,560 --> 01:07:01,440
Speaker 1: My father ended up? Wait uh uh. I then told

1323
01:07:01,480 --> 01:07:04,080
Speaker 1: her if she wanted, she could call me dad, and

1324
01:07:04,160 --> 01:07:07,200
Speaker 1: since then she's been calling me daddy. My father ended

1325
01:07:07,280 --> 01:07:09,840
Speaker 1: up getting a girlfriend and began to change himself, and

1326
01:07:09,920 --> 01:07:12,240
Speaker 1: he stopped drinking. He got a better job, and even

1327
01:07:12,280 --> 01:07:14,560
Speaker 1: began to take over a majority of the bills other

1328
01:07:14,640 --> 01:07:17,080
Speaker 1: than the portion that I agreed to pay while I

1329
01:07:17,120 --> 01:07:20,200
Speaker 1: live here. He never really tried being a father to Bell,

1330
01:07:20,320 --> 01:07:22,480
Speaker 1: but he did begin to eat breakfast with us, but

1331
01:07:22,640 --> 01:07:25,120
Speaker 1: that breakfast was spent in silence other than me and

1332
01:07:25,160 --> 01:07:27,840
Speaker 1: Bell talking. Fast forward to a few months ago. On

1333
01:07:27,880 --> 01:07:30,360
Speaker 1: Bell's birthday, I had planned a party for her and

1334
01:07:30,440 --> 01:07:33,720
Speaker 1: invited her preschool class. My father ended up attending, as

1335
01:07:33,720 --> 01:07:35,480
Speaker 1: I guess his girlfriend thought it would be a good

1336
01:07:35,480 --> 01:07:37,760
Speaker 1: time to meet his daughter, as she was the one

1337
01:07:37,920 --> 01:07:39,240
Speaker 1: who looked excited to be here.

1338
01:07:39,280 --> 01:07:39,800
Speaker 2: Here we go.

1339
01:07:40,720 --> 01:07:44,400
Speaker 1: Anyways, while she was opening gifts, I surprised her with

1340
01:07:44,400 --> 01:07:48,120
Speaker 1: one of those kids electric cars. She screamed and hugged me,

1341
01:07:48,200 --> 01:07:51,760
Speaker 1: yelling how she loved me and called me daddy. After

1342
01:07:51,760 --> 01:07:54,800
Speaker 1: the party and after Bell was fast asleep, my father

1343
01:07:54,880 --> 01:07:58,600
Speaker 1: asked me what the heck happened. I was confused till

1344
01:07:58,600 --> 01:08:03,280
Speaker 1: he yelled, asking why his daughter was calling me daddy.

1345
01:08:04,280 --> 01:08:11,680
Speaker 1: You anyways, I asked him if he seriously didn't know why,

1346
01:08:12,320 --> 01:08:14,400
Speaker 1: and told him that I was the one who raised

1347
01:08:14,400 --> 01:08:17,439
Speaker 1: her and bought her everything. I celebrated her first. I

1348
01:08:17,560 --> 01:08:20,599
Speaker 1: was the one who didn't abandon her. He was quiet

1349
01:08:20,600 --> 01:08:25,000
Speaker 1: and went to bed in deep shame. I would hope

1350
01:08:25,040 --> 01:08:30,360
Speaker 1: for having the absolute audacity to ask you, why is

1351
01:08:30,400 --> 01:08:38,920
Speaker 1: she calling you daddy? Because I raised her? You scum

1352
01:08:39,280 --> 01:08:43,160
Speaker 1: scum some person. You are pond scum in human form.

1353
01:08:43,200 --> 01:08:44,720
Speaker 1: And he's trying to get his act together. So I'm

1354
01:08:44,760 --> 01:08:46,720
Speaker 1: trying not to go off the handle on this guy.

1355
01:08:49,280 --> 01:08:56,720
Speaker 2: But it's like he's getting his act together, but it's

1356
01:08:57,680 --> 01:09:02,200
Speaker 2: it's all self serving. It feels like he's like, Okay,

1357
01:09:02,320 --> 01:09:04,479
Speaker 2: I feel like crap. When I'm just like drinking and

1358
01:09:04,520 --> 01:09:06,080
Speaker 2: like all this stuff. He's like, all right, let me

1359
01:09:06,080 --> 01:09:07,840
Speaker 2: get a better job, let me get this girlfriend, and

1360
01:09:07,880 --> 01:09:13,280
Speaker 2: all like he's he's taking negative one thousand percent responsibility.

1361
01:09:13,360 --> 01:09:15,479
Speaker 2: And now that he's looking bad in front of his

1362
01:09:15,520 --> 01:09:19,120
Speaker 2: like new girlfriend who he wants to impress, only now

1363
01:09:19,439 --> 01:09:21,840
Speaker 2: is he asking and still like he's so far from

1364
01:09:21,840 --> 01:09:24,879
Speaker 2: getting It's he's a thousand light years away from getting.

1365
01:09:24,760 --> 01:09:26,439
Speaker 1: Literally, the same guy who was like, you can just

1366
01:09:26,520 --> 01:09:29,320
Speaker 1: drop her at the fire station is now asking what

1367
01:09:29,560 --> 01:09:33,040
Speaker 1: that's my daughter? That part shut up, dude, that black

1368
01:09:33,040 --> 01:09:34,720
Speaker 1: hole black hole for this guy right now.

1369
01:09:34,800 --> 01:09:40,160
Speaker 2: Quick question for the chat and for Dakota to stew on.

1370
01:09:41,000 --> 01:09:45,080
Speaker 2: Do you preemptively tell the girlfriend? Do you tell the

1371
01:09:45,120 --> 01:09:49,160
Speaker 2: girlfriend like, hey, here's like you think this guy is

1372
01:09:49,200 --> 01:09:51,720
Speaker 2: our father, Here's here's what's really happening here.

1373
01:09:53,040 --> 01:09:56,200
Speaker 1: Nah, No, just like let it be not even to

1374
01:09:56,200 --> 01:09:59,360
Speaker 1: waste my breath on that guy, Like what I'm gonna

1375
01:09:59,400 --> 01:10:01,719
Speaker 1: try to help her or not? I don't know. Yeah,

1376
01:10:02,240 --> 01:10:04,640
Speaker 1: I guess the girlfriend is like kind of innocent in it,

1377
01:10:04,680 --> 01:10:09,880
Speaker 1: but it's like you'll find out whatever. Yeah, yeah, I

1378
01:10:09,880 --> 01:10:11,320
Speaker 1: don't want to And then imagine the fight that that

1379
01:10:11,360 --> 01:10:13,519
Speaker 1: starts when he finds out that you talked to the

1380
01:10:13,520 --> 01:10:16,600
Speaker 1: girlfriend behind your bag. Is like yeah, just yeah, I

1381
01:10:16,640 --> 01:10:22,519
Speaker 1: don't know. This guy sucks. So he was quiet and

1382
01:10:22,560 --> 01:10:24,840
Speaker 1: went to bed, and since then he's tried to play

1383
01:10:24,840 --> 01:10:27,160
Speaker 1: father and talk to her, but he was a stranger

1384
01:10:27,240 --> 01:10:29,960
Speaker 1: to her. She was a sweet girl, so she entertained

1385
01:10:29,960 --> 01:10:33,280
Speaker 1: my father's conversation, but he could tell how awkward she felt,

1386
01:10:33,320 --> 01:10:36,160
Speaker 1: and it was clear that it hurt him. And by

1387
01:10:36,160 --> 01:10:38,160
Speaker 1: the way, you can join us live on YouTube every

1388
01:10:38,160 --> 01:10:40,120
Speaker 1: weekday at three p m ps T. Just tap our

1389
01:10:40,120 --> 01:10:42,439
Speaker 1: profile it'll never hurt us.

1390
01:10:45,960 --> 01:10:46,479
Speaker 3: I'm just not.

1391
01:10:46,560 --> 01:10:49,360
Speaker 1: Let's just keep going. I want to get through as

1392
01:10:49,400 --> 01:10:50,880
Speaker 1: fast as possible. I don't want to stop and talk

1393
01:10:50,960 --> 01:10:56,720
Speaker 1: talk about this. I'm gonna go because this and then end.

1394
01:10:56,880 --> 01:10:58,840
Speaker 2: Yeah. Can we can we do a group hug after

1395
01:10:58,880 --> 01:11:00,800
Speaker 2: we FISU at the end?

1396
01:11:00,920 --> 01:11:04,479
Speaker 1: My God, So, despite how selfish it is, I don't

1397
01:11:04,479 --> 01:11:09,120
Speaker 1: want their relationship to get better. See now, this is

1398
01:11:09,120 --> 01:11:11,839
Speaker 1: why I think OHP sucks too. That's why this sucks.

1399
01:11:11,920 --> 01:11:15,560
Speaker 1: Everyone in this story has gone through just a heartbreaking

1400
01:11:15,600 --> 01:11:18,759
Speaker 1: amount of bull crap that they don't deserve to go through.

1401
01:11:18,960 --> 01:11:20,600
Speaker 3: But also everyone.

1402
01:11:20,400 --> 01:11:24,080
Speaker 1: Sucks except for Bell. Belle Rocks.

1403
01:11:24,240 --> 01:11:25,120
Speaker 2: Bell Rocks.

1404
01:11:25,439 --> 01:11:28,559
Speaker 1: And I think you know, Op, you got a bad

1405
01:11:28,680 --> 01:11:32,200
Speaker 1: hand when you got these teenage parents who didn't know

1406
01:11:32,280 --> 01:11:35,200
Speaker 1: what the hell they were doing with you. But I

1407
01:11:35,240 --> 01:11:39,760
Speaker 1: think that you have let that crystallize into this like

1408
01:11:39,960 --> 01:11:43,080
Speaker 1: seed of hatred for your parents. Yes, that you didn't

1409
01:11:43,120 --> 01:11:46,280
Speaker 1: need to have because they were children trying to raise you.

1410
01:11:46,840 --> 01:11:49,479
Speaker 1: Of course you were gonna have clothes from Goodwill and

1411
01:11:49,520 --> 01:11:52,080
Speaker 1: not get anything for your birthday because your parents were

1412
01:11:52,080 --> 01:11:53,439
Speaker 1: probably flat broke.

1413
01:11:53,800 --> 01:11:59,200
Speaker 4: Yeah, your mom died giving birth and you didn't care.

1414
01:11:59,880 --> 01:12:02,040
Speaker 1: I don't even believe that, dude, I think you have

1415
01:12:02,120 --> 01:12:04,120
Speaker 1: your own stuff that you need to process. On that end,

1416
01:12:04,200 --> 01:12:10,360
Speaker 1: op that's therapy for you to Yeah, felt really good

1417
01:12:10,400 --> 01:12:11,960
Speaker 1: saying that loud. I was just holding that in the

1418
01:12:12,080 --> 01:12:12,599
Speaker 1: entire story.

1419
01:12:12,760 --> 01:12:14,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, please do Opie's.

1420
01:12:15,000 --> 01:12:19,000
Speaker 2: Opie's traumas have calcified into him not being able to

1421
01:12:20,160 --> 01:12:24,800
Speaker 2: uh like see his parents like see like Okay, it

1422
01:12:24,880 --> 01:12:27,880
Speaker 2: was probably hard. I think the big thing, the big kicker,

1423
01:12:27,960 --> 01:12:30,439
Speaker 2: it's not the goodwill closed, It's not the no no

1424
01:12:31,120 --> 01:12:32,880
Speaker 2: fancy new gifts at the birthdays.

1425
01:12:33,400 --> 01:12:36,559
Speaker 3: It was the how the.

1426
01:12:36,600 --> 01:12:39,800
Speaker 2: Parents treated him emotionally, you know what I mean. It's

1427
01:12:39,840 --> 01:12:42,000
Speaker 2: it's free to love your child, you know what I mean?

1428
01:12:42,040 --> 01:12:44,200
Speaker 2: And and and and they can they can feel that.

1429
01:12:44,400 --> 01:12:48,840
Speaker 2: And it seems from what I remember the story, they

1430
01:12:50,120 --> 01:12:55,680
Speaker 2: did a badge too horrendous job of that throughout his

1431
01:12:55,960 --> 01:12:58,479
Speaker 2: so flip side of that again real quick is that

1432
01:12:59,600 --> 01:13:01,280
Speaker 2: he said by the time that he turned like what

1433
01:13:01,360 --> 01:13:04,080
Speaker 2: like twelve thirteen or somewhere around there, that the parents

1434
01:13:04,080 --> 01:13:07,200
Speaker 2: had switched up and had now tried to they were trying, okay,

1435
01:13:07,320 --> 01:13:09,240
Speaker 2: And that means that the parents were in their late

1436
01:13:09,320 --> 01:13:10,840
Speaker 2: twenties when they started to do that.

1437
01:13:11,000 --> 01:13:15,000
Speaker 1: Yes, like these people had this child at like fifteen

1438
01:13:15,040 --> 01:13:18,800
Speaker 1: and sixteen. They were not emotionally equipped to raise a

1439
01:13:18,880 --> 01:13:22,479
Speaker 1: child at all or mentally equipped. They were hardly mentally

1440
01:13:22,520 --> 01:13:26,080
Speaker 1: equipped to have a high school diploma, yes, and which

1441
01:13:26,240 --> 01:13:28,720
Speaker 1: I mean, And again I'm not even trying to I'm

1442
01:13:28,720 --> 01:13:30,320
Speaker 1: not talking down on people who don't have a high

1443
01:13:30,320 --> 01:13:32,960
Speaker 1: school diploma or how to get a ged like, but

1444
01:13:33,120 --> 01:13:38,040
Speaker 1: like they were overwhelmed by existence and retirely you were kids,

1445
01:13:38,080 --> 01:13:41,880
Speaker 1: and they were children. And I feel like, through no

1446
01:13:42,000 --> 01:13:47,720
Speaker 1: faults of his own, Op has developed this distaste and

1447
01:13:47,760 --> 01:13:49,960
Speaker 1: it's like a byproduct of the environment he was in,

1448
01:13:49,960 --> 01:13:52,280
Speaker 1: in the circumstances that he was in. And that's why

1449
01:13:52,320 --> 01:13:54,600
Speaker 1: this is also so frustrating, because it's so hard to

1450
01:13:54,600 --> 01:14:00,000
Speaker 1: put blame on anybody because all this just sucks so ruthlessly. Yeah, violently,

1451
01:14:00,080 --> 01:14:04,559
Speaker 1: he sucks. But then I read stuff like that and

1452
01:14:04,600 --> 01:14:07,400
Speaker 1: I'm like, oh, he's feeding into this negativity, like he

1453
01:14:07,520 --> 01:14:09,320
Speaker 1: is continuing to dig this hole.

1454
01:14:09,640 --> 01:14:12,040
Speaker 2: Would I would think that, like and Op he's at

1455
01:14:12,520 --> 01:14:14,360
Speaker 2: I guess OP he's writing us now at twenty four,

1456
01:14:14,400 --> 01:14:17,640
Speaker 2: But it's like, I it feels like it'll take a

1457
01:14:17,680 --> 01:14:19,719
Speaker 2: long time to for him to go to the bet Anyways,

1458
01:14:19,840 --> 01:14:21,519
Speaker 2: I digress, I digress.

1459
01:14:21,760 --> 01:14:27,600
Speaker 1: Anyways, let's finish off this finish despite how selfish it is,

1460
01:14:27,680 --> 01:14:30,240
Speaker 1: I don't want their relationship to get better. After all,

1461
01:14:31,600 --> 01:14:33,639
Speaker 1: just as she saw me as her dad, I saw

1462
01:14:33,680 --> 01:14:35,960
Speaker 1: her as my daughter. Oh okay, now I feel bad.

1463
01:14:36,840 --> 01:14:39,080
Speaker 1: I graduated college and I'm looking for a better job

1464
01:14:39,120 --> 01:14:41,320
Speaker 1: so I can move Bell and I into our own home.

1465
01:14:41,520 --> 01:14:44,120
Speaker 1: I may be a bad person for enjoying my father's

1466
01:14:44,160 --> 01:14:47,599
Speaker 1: misery and regret realizing he ruined his chances and having

1467
01:14:47,600 --> 01:14:50,000
Speaker 1: a relationship with his daughter, but I'll never be as

1468
01:14:50,040 --> 01:14:54,920
Speaker 1: bad as him at it. Thank you guys for all

1469
01:14:54,920 --> 01:14:57,640
Speaker 1: the support and advice. As people suggested, I might be

1470
01:14:57,680 --> 01:14:59,760
Speaker 1: deleting this post soon to avoid any chance of my

1471
01:14:59,760 --> 01:15:02,400
Speaker 1: father they're finding out before I'm ready for the custody battle,

1472
01:15:02,600 --> 01:15:04,680
Speaker 1: I'll use the advice you guys gave me. I know

1473
01:15:04,760 --> 01:15:07,200
Speaker 1: it was risky posting it here as people might find out,

1474
01:15:07,200 --> 01:15:09,160
Speaker 1: but I never had anyone to talk to about all

1475
01:15:09,200 --> 01:15:11,280
Speaker 1: of this before, so it was nice to be able

1476
01:15:11,280 --> 01:15:13,160
Speaker 1: to let everything out for the first time. And that's

1477
01:15:13,200 --> 01:15:15,479
Speaker 1: the end of that story. And I do think that

1478
01:15:15,560 --> 01:15:18,120
Speaker 1: it's good and you should get custody of the child

1479
01:15:18,840 --> 01:15:23,600
Speaker 1: of Bella. Yes, and I think that you, you, for

1480
01:15:23,680 --> 01:15:26,240
Speaker 1: all intents and purposes, are her father, and then I

1481
01:15:26,479 --> 01:15:27,880
Speaker 1: have no doubt that you love her and want to

1482
01:15:27,920 --> 01:15:34,400
Speaker 1: take care of her. But uh, I think we're really

1483
01:15:34,439 --> 01:15:38,320
Speaker 1: skirting over the fact that you know this that his

1484
01:15:38,479 --> 01:15:43,519
Speaker 1: dad's his wife died and he had to process through

1485
01:15:43,520 --> 01:15:46,639
Speaker 1: that grief and then also try to what raise two children,

1486
01:15:46,720 --> 01:15:49,439
Speaker 1: one of them that one of which actively hated him

1487
01:15:50,080 --> 01:15:54,519
Speaker 1: and also didn't give didn't give a crap that his

1488
01:15:54,640 --> 01:15:57,479
Speaker 1: mom died or that his wife died, Like it was

1489
01:15:57,560 --> 01:16:00,720
Speaker 1: just like, all right, this stranger died next, Yeah, Like

1490
01:16:01,560 --> 01:16:04,360
Speaker 1: I wouldn't know how to deal with that situation. Everything

1491
01:16:04,360 --> 01:16:09,120
Speaker 1: about that situation sucks. And I hope that OPI and

1492
01:16:09,160 --> 01:16:12,479
Speaker 1: his sister are and that he's taking care of her

1493
01:16:12,479 --> 01:16:15,759
Speaker 1: and raising her. And I hope that the dad gets

1494
01:16:15,760 --> 01:16:19,080
Speaker 1: it together and can be allowed to have some kind

1495
01:16:19,120 --> 01:16:22,479
Speaker 1: of relationship, even if it's not a paternal one, some

1496
01:16:22,520 --> 01:16:27,679
Speaker 1: sort of relationship with this daughter and with his son.

1497
01:16:28,040 --> 01:16:31,320
Speaker 1: And I hope the son can go to therapy and

1498
01:16:31,360 --> 01:16:34,519
Speaker 1: let go of his childhood trauma in his past and

1499
01:16:34,600 --> 01:16:38,920
Speaker 1: just accept the what he's got, because it's all we've

1500
01:16:38,960 --> 01:16:41,760
Speaker 1: got as well, we've got my God.

1501
01:16:41,560 --> 01:16:46,559
Speaker 2: It'swhere we're running over here.

1502
01:16:46,680 --> 01:16:48,880
Speaker 1: Okay, okay, this is.

1503
01:16:56,600 --> 01:17:05,640
Speaker 7: Oh yeah, they also it's all great guys.

1504
01:17:03,160 --> 01:17:10,400
Speaker 2: Oh oh all right, guys.

1505
01:17:11,760 --> 01:17:12,240
Speaker 1: We did it.

1506
01:17:12,320 --> 01:17:15,640
Speaker 2: We hugged it out. Family therapy has needed. Sammy W

1507
01:17:15,880 --> 01:17:21,080
Speaker 2: says that this family, this family right here, it's over.

1508
01:17:21,920 --> 01:17:22,400
Speaker 2: It's over.

1509
01:17:23,600 --> 01:17:25,559
Speaker 3: Wow, Linda's bowling.

1510
01:17:26,800 --> 01:17:34,920
Speaker 1: Oh that was a lot, dude. That like, I've been

1511
01:17:35,000 --> 01:17:38,840
Speaker 1: more like cartoonishly like upset in other stories and that's

1512
01:17:38,880 --> 01:17:41,120
Speaker 1: you know, kind of a bit and kind of the joke,

1513
01:17:41,240 --> 01:17:43,800
Speaker 1: but like, wow, that really just.

1514
01:17:45,680 --> 01:17:52,240
Speaker 2: Hurt. Yeah, the painful frustration of every everything, everything everything, Wow.

1515
01:17:52,160 --> 01:17:55,599
Speaker 1: Okay, except you know what, hold on, No, it doesn't

1516
01:17:55,600 --> 01:17:58,879
Speaker 1: suck because Opie and his sister are living a beautiful

1517
01:17:58,880 --> 01:18:01,400
Speaker 1: life together and and he's got a great job and

1518
01:18:01,400 --> 01:18:04,040
Speaker 1: he makes a ton of money and they're slowly but

1519
01:18:04,120 --> 01:18:11,040
Speaker 1: truly mending the wounds of their somewhat fractured family. Okay,

1520
01:18:11,120 --> 01:18:11,559
Speaker 1: I'm okay.

1521
01:18:11,600 --> 01:18:12,559
Speaker 2: Now, steps are being made.

1522
01:18:12,680 --> 01:18:13,960
Speaker 1: That's exactly what happened.

1523
01:18:14,000 --> 01:18:15,640
Speaker 2: Steps are being made.

1524
01:18:15,880 --> 01:18:17,160
Speaker 1: I saw it in my mind's eye.

1525
01:18:18,320 --> 01:18:18,840
Speaker 2: He's back.

1526
01:18:20,920 --> 01:18:23,120
Speaker 1: We're okay, We're okay.

1527
01:18:23,400 --> 01:18:26,240
Speaker 2: Oh man, and so is Pion. Thanks for the ten

1528
01:18:26,320 --> 01:18:29,320
Speaker 2: buck dono and the timplink. So happy to catch you

1529
01:18:29,320 --> 01:18:31,880
Speaker 2: guys live so hard with the time zones. Hello from

1530
01:18:32,080 --> 01:18:35,640
Speaker 2: Reunion Island again. It's seven am here, just woke up

1531
01:18:35,680 --> 01:18:37,320
Speaker 2: for work. Yeah, we're gonna we're gonna look it up.

1532
01:18:38,360 --> 01:18:41,639
Speaker 2: I'm gonna watch the entire live later on YouTube. Have fun, guys.

1533
01:18:41,760 --> 01:18:44,680
Speaker 2: I remember, I think, Pion, if you've I remember a

1534
01:18:44,760 --> 01:18:47,720
Speaker 2: comment like like a million years ago about something like

1535
01:18:47,800 --> 01:18:50,160
Speaker 2: Reunion Island. It's like a small remote.

1536
01:18:49,800 --> 01:18:54,800
Speaker 5: Thing, maybe small, it's a small little right Christmas Island

1537
01:18:54,840 --> 01:18:56,400
Speaker 5: fits in France.

1538
01:18:57,120 --> 01:18:59,840
Speaker 2: I think I remember you, Pion, And yeah that was

1539
01:19:00,360 --> 01:19:03,880
Speaker 2: I'm glad I remember that. And then, uh, do we

1540
01:19:03,920 --> 01:19:05,599
Speaker 2: have a dono below that one?

1541
01:19:06,320 --> 01:19:07,800
Speaker 1: Let's see, no, we read that one.

1542
01:19:07,840 --> 01:19:10,880
Speaker 2: We read that one. Let's look at that YouTube. Ten

1543
01:19:11,000 --> 01:19:19,320
Speaker 2: bucks from flip Switch ten hour stream Vibes Dance Rebecca

1544
01:19:19,360 --> 01:19:21,320
Speaker 2: al Brady, thanks for the ten bucks. Been watching and

1545
01:19:21,320 --> 01:19:23,599
Speaker 2: supporting the show for a couple of months. Now, Love

1546
01:19:23,640 --> 01:19:26,400
Speaker 2: you guys, and I'm so pumped to catch the first

1547
01:19:26,439 --> 01:19:27,200
Speaker 2: live Rebecca.

1548
01:19:27,520 --> 01:19:29,000
Speaker 3: Rebecca, We're pumps, you're here.

1549
01:19:29,160 --> 01:19:29,599
Speaker 2: Take it back.

1550
01:19:30,280 --> 01:19:33,639
Speaker 5: Reunion Island is at the French speaking but it's right

1551
01:19:33,640 --> 01:19:35,120
Speaker 5: off Madagascar.

1552
01:19:34,680 --> 01:19:37,480
Speaker 1: Right oh, coast of Madagascar.

1553
01:19:37,680 --> 01:19:40,360
Speaker 2: I remember, I remember, I remember now I remember I need.

1554
01:19:40,439 --> 01:19:42,920
Speaker 1: I needed to put some respect on the.

1555
01:19:42,840 --> 01:19:44,920
Speaker 2: Island, some respect on you, Reunion Islands.

1556
01:19:44,960 --> 01:19:47,519
Speaker 1: It looks like we got old everything.

1557
01:19:47,560 --> 01:19:48,680
Speaker 2: There we go, there we go.

1558
01:19:48,720 --> 01:19:56,639
Speaker 1: I'm everything. Is it the twenty gifters? That was Kristin Foyle? Okay? Yes, yes, yes,

1559
01:19:56,680 --> 01:19:58,160
Speaker 1: there we go? Yes, yes.

1560
01:19:58,160 --> 01:20:01,040
Speaker 2: All right, boys and girls, you are up.

1561
01:20:01,880 --> 01:20:04,960
Speaker 1: My husband won't stop criticizing. Oh you got that one.

1562
01:20:05,000 --> 01:20:08,559
Speaker 2: I'm pulling it up. S three, right, yes, pulling it

1563
01:20:08,640 --> 01:20:12,240
Speaker 2: up as we speak, big boys and big girls.

1564
01:20:13,200 --> 01:20:14,320
Speaker 1: I'm gonna put my you know what I'm gonna do.

1565
01:20:14,360 --> 01:20:17,080
Speaker 1: I'm gonna put my jacket back on, put my jacket

1566
01:20:17,160 --> 01:20:19,439
Speaker 1: bag on. I don't put the hat back on.

1567
01:20:20,320 --> 01:20:25,599
Speaker 5: Oh oh you're right at first, right, yeah right, we're

1568
01:20:25,600 --> 01:20:26,480
Speaker 5: not savages.

1569
01:20:26,640 --> 01:20:28,439
Speaker 1: Yeah right, the hat for now?

1570
01:20:28,720 --> 01:20:30,840
Speaker 2: Oh just yeah yeah, because we haven't had a hat

1571
01:20:30,880 --> 01:20:33,759
Speaker 2: and no jack. We have to get like every every look,

1572
01:20:34,040 --> 01:20:35,080
Speaker 2: every every.

1573
01:20:35,200 --> 01:20:39,960
Speaker 5: Every stage, every evolution, every every skin variant.

1574
01:20:40,160 --> 01:20:42,559
Speaker 2: Dude, every variant. I need every Dakota variant.

1575
01:20:43,200 --> 01:20:44,559
Speaker 1: You look like you're about to ask me if I

1576
01:20:44,640 --> 01:20:47,439
Speaker 1: like jazz. This one is the rarest one, you know,

1577
01:20:47,560 --> 01:20:51,920
Speaker 1: I look like I look like Barry like jazz. Alright,

1578
01:20:51,920 --> 01:20:55,040
Speaker 1: what's the deal with all these people making movies about bees.

1579
01:20:56,040 --> 01:21:00,720
Speaker 1: All right, I want to make a bee movie. Okay, John,

1580
01:21:00,720 --> 01:21:01,719
Speaker 1: you get to read this study.

1581
01:21:04,200 --> 01:21:07,840
Speaker 2: My husband. Yes, let's go. My husband won't stop criticizing

1582
01:21:08,000 --> 01:21:11,439
Speaker 2: my hired nanny, so I told him I'd rather divorce him.

1583
01:21:12,800 --> 01:21:15,960
Speaker 1: She's gonna marry the nanny. Is this twist? This is

1584
01:21:16,080 --> 01:21:19,800
Speaker 1: just misusdoubtfire, It's conspiracy theory.

1585
01:21:19,840 --> 01:21:22,120
Speaker 3: It's been predicted. Here we go, let's see it.

1586
01:21:22,240 --> 01:21:26,960
Speaker 2: My husband John forty mail and I twenty six female hello,

1587
01:21:27,000 --> 01:21:31,000
Speaker 2: age gap have been together for five years, married for three,

1588
01:21:31,160 --> 01:21:34,679
Speaker 2: and have three kids, ages three months, two and four.

1589
01:21:35,240 --> 01:21:37,599
Speaker 2: We met when I was still in college, working part

1590
01:21:37,600 --> 01:21:41,479
Speaker 2: time as a nanny for his friend's family. By the way,

1591
01:21:41,520 --> 01:21:43,800
Speaker 2: this comes from evening bout twenty six to seventy four

1592
01:21:43,800 --> 01:21:46,639
Speaker 2: on the r slash Okay storytime subrend. We crossed paths

1593
01:21:46,680 --> 01:21:49,120
Speaker 2: a few times at my nanny's family functions say that

1594
01:21:49,160 --> 01:21:51,920
Speaker 2: five times fast, and my nanny family gave him my

1595
01:21:52,000 --> 01:21:54,960
Speaker 2: number and encouraged me to go out with him. Initially,

1596
01:21:55,040 --> 01:21:57,439
Speaker 2: I only did it because I didn't want to offend them,

1597
01:21:57,520 --> 01:22:00,840
Speaker 2: but we ended up hitting it off really well. Some

1598
01:22:00,920 --> 01:22:05,280
Speaker 2: weird vibes, but we go forward. I accidentally got pregnant

1599
01:22:05,280 --> 01:22:08,719
Speaker 2: with my oldest about a year into seeing him, three

1600
01:22:08,880 --> 01:22:11,960
Speaker 2: kinds of birth control, and still got pregnant. What are

1601
01:22:11,960 --> 01:22:12,599
Speaker 2: the chances?

1602
01:22:12,960 --> 01:22:13,000
Speaker 7: Ha?

1603
01:22:17,080 --> 01:22:22,000
Speaker 1: Is this a.

1604
01:22:21,240 --> 01:22:24,519
Speaker 2: We'll continue? At first, I was devastated because I was

1605
01:22:24,720 --> 01:22:27,160
Speaker 2: just about to graduate and had already been offered an

1606
01:22:27,200 --> 01:22:30,680
Speaker 2: amazing internship in my field. The internship would require me

1607
01:22:30,760 --> 01:22:33,400
Speaker 2: to move across the country, so I was already planning

1608
01:22:33,400 --> 01:22:35,960
Speaker 2: to leave my current job and break up with John

1609
01:22:36,160 --> 01:22:39,599
Speaker 2: so I could pursue my dream job. So my initial

1610
01:22:39,640 --> 01:22:44,519
Speaker 2: plan was to terminate the pregnancy. However, long story short,

1611
01:22:44,600 --> 01:22:47,280
Speaker 2: I ended up staying with John and having my oldest,

1612
01:22:47,479 --> 01:22:50,680
Speaker 2: but under the agreement that I would start working asap

1613
01:22:50,960 --> 01:22:53,640
Speaker 2: and John would pay for childcare so I didn't have

1614
01:22:53,720 --> 01:22:56,280
Speaker 2: to be a stay at home mom and permanently walk

1615
01:22:56,320 --> 01:22:59,000
Speaker 2: away from my career goals that I had worked very

1616
01:22:59,040 --> 01:23:03,880
Speaker 2: hard towards basically my whole life. As my son was born,

1617
01:23:04,080 --> 01:23:06,639
Speaker 2: I felt I fell instantly in love, and the very

1618
01:23:06,680 --> 01:23:09,479
Speaker 2: few resentments I had about the way things about the

1619
01:23:09,479 --> 01:23:13,200
Speaker 2: way things turned out, completely disappeared. While I did stay

1620
01:23:13,200 --> 01:23:14,840
Speaker 2: at home with him for the first year because I

1621
01:23:14,840 --> 01:23:17,280
Speaker 2: couldn't stand to leave him for more than a few hours,

1622
01:23:17,600 --> 01:23:20,120
Speaker 2: I was open with John about my plans to find

1623
01:23:20,160 --> 01:23:22,400
Speaker 2: a job in my field as soon as I could,

1624
01:23:22,479 --> 01:23:24,880
Speaker 2: and he was always on board and never expressed any

1625
01:23:24,920 --> 01:23:27,439
Speaker 2: issue with it. John and I got married when my

1626
01:23:27,439 --> 01:23:29,960
Speaker 2: oldest was one, and John started pushing me to have

1627
01:23:30,040 --> 01:23:32,920
Speaker 2: more kids, but I refused and I felt ready to

1628
01:23:32,960 --> 01:23:43,640
Speaker 2: start working. Okay, okay, I've upgraded my to a ah, okay, okay.

1629
01:23:44,000 --> 01:23:47,200
Speaker 2: I ended up getting I ended up getting a really

1630
01:23:47,200 --> 01:23:49,719
Speaker 2: good job, a really great job offer at the company

1631
01:23:49,760 --> 01:23:52,559
Speaker 2: I'm still working with today. I started looking for nanny's

1632
01:23:52,560 --> 01:23:55,080
Speaker 2: and was put in contact with our current nanny, Sarah

1633
01:23:55,160 --> 01:23:57,479
Speaker 2: twenty one female. Conspiracy theory, he ends up with her,

1634
01:23:58,920 --> 01:23:59,719
Speaker 2: he loves nanny's.

1635
01:24:01,560 --> 01:24:06,360
Speaker 1: I'm sticking with missus doubtfire. No, My con serious, My

1636
01:24:07,040 --> 01:24:11,240
Speaker 1: conspiracy is he messed with that birth control somehow. Yes,

1637
01:24:11,439 --> 01:24:14,559
Speaker 1: I yeah, I think that's I think he wants this.

1638
01:24:14,760 --> 01:24:16,680
Speaker 1: I think he's trying to have like a sort of

1639
01:24:16,880 --> 01:24:23,280
Speaker 1: breeder type scenario, which is literally disgusting, horrifically disgusting.

1640
01:24:25,720 --> 01:24:31,320
Speaker 2: Yikes. But Sarah twenty one female has honestly been a godsend.

1641
01:24:31,680 --> 01:24:35,559
Speaker 2: She is the sole reason I made it, being as

1642
01:24:35,600 --> 01:24:38,240
Speaker 2: the sole reason I made it through being apart from

1643
01:24:38,280 --> 01:24:41,160
Speaker 2: my baby, and she does an amazing job. I honestly

1644
01:24:41,200 --> 01:24:44,400
Speaker 2: cannot imagine my life without her. Shortly after I started

1645
01:24:44,439 --> 01:24:47,960
Speaker 2: my job, I accidentally got pregnant again, another birth control baby,

1646
01:24:54,520 --> 01:24:57,360
Speaker 2: and my husband tried to talk me into staying home

1647
01:24:57,400 --> 01:24:59,599
Speaker 2: with the kids after my second was born.

1648
01:25:00,120 --> 01:25:03,240
Speaker 3: I was too happy with my job. They offered to.

1649
01:25:03,280 --> 01:25:06,519
Speaker 2: Let me work from home part time, which worked out perfectly.

1650
01:25:06,960 --> 01:25:09,640
Speaker 2: My husband wanted to cut back Sarah's hours, as I

1651
01:25:09,640 --> 01:25:12,000
Speaker 2: would be home a lot more, but I refused because

1652
01:25:12,479 --> 01:25:14,519
Speaker 2: while I'd be able to breastfeed and take care of

1653
01:25:14,600 --> 01:25:17,200
Speaker 2: my newborn, I still wanted her there to help with

1654
01:25:17,240 --> 01:25:21,879
Speaker 2: ourt rambunctious toddler while I was working. Yeah, the watching

1655
01:25:21,880 --> 01:25:23,920
Speaker 2: the kid while working from home, it does not make

1656
01:25:23,960 --> 01:25:25,000
Speaker 2: any sense whatsoever.

1657
01:25:25,280 --> 01:25:27,439
Speaker 1: You can't do both of those things literally zero.

1658
01:25:28,439 --> 01:25:31,400
Speaker 2: Our arrangement worked out really well, and I recently did

1659
01:25:31,400 --> 01:25:34,600
Speaker 2: the same with our third baby, while Sarah watches the

1660
01:25:34,680 --> 01:25:37,639
Speaker 2: older two during the days when I'm working. No birth

1661
01:25:37,640 --> 01:25:38,920
Speaker 2: control mentioned here. We don't know.

1662
01:25:40,120 --> 01:25:41,280
Speaker 3: Sarah and I got.

1663
01:25:41,120 --> 01:25:46,080
Speaker 1: All the great I don't think it would have worked

1664
01:25:46,080 --> 01:25:46,720
Speaker 1: even if you had it.

1665
01:25:46,960 --> 01:25:50,839
Speaker 2: Ooh true, it's hard to have something that is secretly

1666
01:25:50,880 --> 01:25:51,400
Speaker 2: taken from you.

1667
01:25:51,760 --> 01:25:54,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, exactly or or mixed up or whatever, because all

1668
01:25:54,640 --> 01:25:56,000
Speaker 1: those pills need to be in the right place, and

1669
01:25:56,000 --> 01:25:57,200
Speaker 1: if they're not, they're not gonna work.

1670
01:25:57,560 --> 01:26:01,200
Speaker 2: Auchi. We have a lot in common her Opie and Zaradu,

1671
01:26:01,320 --> 01:26:03,160
Speaker 2: and I see her as a friend as much as

1672
01:26:03,160 --> 01:26:07,080
Speaker 2: an employee employee. Anyways, my kids love her very much

1673
01:26:07,120 --> 01:26:09,640
Speaker 2: and ask her about and ask about her whenever she

1674
01:26:09,720 --> 01:26:13,200
Speaker 2: isn't there. Since I was also a nanny, I am

1675
01:26:13,240 --> 01:26:15,360
Speaker 2: able to work with her effectively, and I have so

1676
01:26:15,479 --> 01:26:17,680
Speaker 2: much respect and admiration for the job she does with

1677
01:26:17,760 --> 01:26:20,439
Speaker 2: my kids. And she's even more patient in hands on

1678
01:26:20,560 --> 01:26:23,559
Speaker 2: than I ever was with my nanny's family kids.

1679
01:26:23,920 --> 01:26:25,000
Speaker 3: Even though we pay.

1680
01:26:24,840 --> 01:26:27,080
Speaker 2: Her a lot, I honestly think she's worth even more

1681
01:26:27,120 --> 01:26:29,519
Speaker 2: than that, and I tip her as much as I can.

1682
01:26:30,040 --> 01:26:32,559
Speaker 2: For some reason, my husband does not feel the same way.

1683
01:26:32,720 --> 01:26:34,800
Speaker 2: He is very critical of her, not to her face.

1684
01:26:35,160 --> 01:26:37,599
Speaker 2: He has very little interaction with her, as most days

1685
01:26:37,600 --> 01:26:40,960
Speaker 2: she leaves before he gets home to me. He is

1686
01:26:41,040 --> 01:26:43,920
Speaker 2: always nippicking how she does things like if a few

1687
01:26:43,960 --> 01:26:46,800
Speaker 2: toys get left out in the playroom, if she used

1688
01:26:46,800 --> 01:26:49,400
Speaker 2: too much gas in the car, if she got fast

1689
01:26:49,479 --> 01:26:51,799
Speaker 2: food for the kids instead of cooking a meal. Et cetera.

1690
01:26:52,360 --> 01:26:54,519
Speaker 2: He tells me she is not worse what we're paying

1691
01:26:54,560 --> 01:26:57,400
Speaker 2: her and that she's doing an easy job I was

1692
01:26:57,479 --> 01:26:58,679
Speaker 2: doing for free.

1693
01:26:58,840 --> 01:26:59,000
Speaker 5: Yo.

1694
01:26:59,120 --> 01:27:03,960
Speaker 1: This guy sucks. Level seven weenie, This yeah sucks.

1695
01:27:04,320 --> 01:27:08,519
Speaker 2: I think he was able to sink the hooks in

1696
01:27:08,720 --> 01:27:11,160
Speaker 2: while she was still really young. And now there's now

1697
01:27:11,400 --> 01:27:14,920
Speaker 2: Carrie over like she's she's excusing her.

1698
01:27:14,960 --> 01:27:18,360
Speaker 1: She has the rose colored glasses you know of, like, oh,

1699
01:27:18,400 --> 01:27:22,679
Speaker 1: he's the he's the provider, he's the the care take

1700
01:27:22,800 --> 01:27:25,760
Speaker 1: the adults in the relationship. Yeah, right, because it's just

1701
01:27:25,840 --> 01:27:27,599
Speaker 1: like there's an age gap. But she was really young,

1702
01:27:28,320 --> 01:27:34,880
Speaker 1: like her father up and it's like middle school father, but.

1703
01:27:36,320 --> 01:27:36,599
Speaker 2: Father.

1704
01:27:36,720 --> 01:27:38,679
Speaker 3: Nonetheless, we've seen it before.

1705
01:27:39,880 --> 01:27:43,639
Speaker 2: Now this irritates me like nothing else because while yes,

1706
01:27:44,040 --> 01:27:47,679
Speaker 2: I don't like uh, I don't. I don't find looking

1707
01:27:47,680 --> 01:27:51,759
Speaker 2: after my kids particularly difficult. I wouldn't call it remotely easy.

1708
01:27:52,439 --> 01:27:55,280
Speaker 2: And it's much different when it comes to dedicating most

1709
01:27:55,320 --> 01:28:00,760
Speaker 2: of your free time not yawning and looking after someone

1710
01:28:00,760 --> 01:28:03,679
Speaker 2: else's kids takes effort, lady and gentlemen, and Sarah goes

1711
01:28:03,720 --> 01:28:06,439
Speaker 2: above and beyond to make sure my kids are safe, happy,

1712
01:28:06,520 --> 01:28:10,320
Speaker 2: and entertained every day, and even does some preschooling with them.

1713
01:28:10,760 --> 01:28:13,160
Speaker 2: Last week, my husband confronted me with some of the

1714
01:28:13,160 --> 01:28:18,280
Speaker 2: footage from our security cameras of Sarah neglecting the kids

1715
01:28:18,520 --> 01:28:25,000
Speaker 2: bump bump bum. What kind of neglect do are we

1716
01:28:25,120 --> 01:28:26,519
Speaker 2: looking at here, ladies and gentlemen.

1717
01:28:26,640 --> 01:28:28,880
Speaker 1: I'm gonna go out on a lemon and say none.

1718
01:28:28,920 --> 01:28:30,400
Speaker 1: And it was just her doing her job.

1719
01:28:30,600 --> 01:28:35,760
Speaker 2: Well, the whole thing was completely ridiculous. There was one

1720
01:28:35,840 --> 01:28:38,000
Speaker 2: video where she left my two year old in her

1721
01:28:38,080 --> 01:28:41,200
Speaker 2: high chair for five minutes while taking my four year

1722
01:28:41,200 --> 01:28:43,080
Speaker 2: old to the bathroom three feet away.

1723
01:28:44,040 --> 01:28:44,760
Speaker 3: Unacceptable.

1724
01:28:45,600 --> 01:28:46,960
Speaker 1: Hey, that chair is pretty high up.

1725
01:28:47,080 --> 01:28:50,559
Speaker 2: Hey, listen, you should have you should have split yourself

1726
01:28:50,600 --> 01:28:54,759
Speaker 2: apart like a clone in a video game had one person,

1727
01:28:54,880 --> 01:28:56,840
Speaker 2: or or you know, at a bare minimum. If we're

1728
01:28:56,880 --> 01:29:00,799
Speaker 2: just gonna talk like the bare necessities, uh, grow long

1729
01:29:00,920 --> 01:29:04,559
Speaker 2: multi arms like Michael Jordan's space jams. Yeah yeah, and

1730
01:29:04,640 --> 01:29:07,240
Speaker 2: be you know, helping this kid over here with the

1731
01:29:07,280 --> 01:29:09,599
Speaker 2: bathroom and then this kid over here with the high chair.

1732
01:29:09,640 --> 01:29:11,280
Speaker 1: I see nothing wrong with that whatsoever.

1733
01:29:11,400 --> 01:29:13,400
Speaker 3: That that's what you need to do. You just just

1734
01:29:13,479 --> 01:29:14,080
Speaker 3: make it happen.

1735
01:29:14,120 --> 01:29:15,680
Speaker 1: If you really were a good nanny, this is what

1736
01:29:15,720 --> 01:29:16,160
Speaker 1: you would do.

1737
01:29:16,320 --> 01:29:19,200
Speaker 2: That's what you would do become a cartoon character with

1738
01:29:19,280 --> 01:29:21,639
Speaker 2: elongated rubber arms. It's not that.

1739
01:29:21,560 --> 01:29:25,479
Speaker 1: Hard animated, Michael Jordan.

1740
01:29:26,520 --> 01:29:29,760
Speaker 2: Do do? There's one where she left She let them

1741
01:29:29,760 --> 01:29:32,640
Speaker 2: stay up past bedtime to finish a movie while she

1742
01:29:32,720 --> 01:29:37,400
Speaker 2: worked on school work. All relatively innocuous things like that

1743
01:29:37,400 --> 01:29:40,960
Speaker 2: that I couldn't care less about the worst of it

1744
01:29:41,040 --> 01:29:43,160
Speaker 2: was a video of her texting on her phone for

1745
01:29:43,200 --> 01:29:46,639
Speaker 2: like thirty minutes while my kids were playing, uh, which

1746
01:29:46,760 --> 01:29:48,559
Speaker 2: we have asked her to not be on the phone

1747
01:29:48,680 --> 01:29:51,959
Speaker 2: while playing with the kids. But even though she technically

1748
01:29:51,960 --> 01:29:54,840
Speaker 2: did something wrong, she's a human being, not going to

1749
01:29:54,840 --> 01:29:57,080
Speaker 2: be perfect one hundred percent of the time.

1750
01:29:57,439 --> 01:29:57,960
Speaker 1: Yeah.

1751
01:29:58,439 --> 01:30:01,760
Speaker 2: Once, Once he was done show me, I asked them,

1752
01:30:01,880 --> 01:30:05,479
Speaker 2: is this the neg Is this the neglect in the

1753
01:30:05,560 --> 01:30:08,479
Speaker 2: room with us right now? Oh?

1754
01:30:09,080 --> 01:30:10,960
Speaker 1: Is the neglect in the room with us now?

1755
01:30:11,080 --> 01:30:12,280
Speaker 2: Yeah? Like are they is it?

1756
01:30:12,360 --> 01:30:12,439
Speaker 1: Like?

1757
01:30:12,720 --> 01:30:16,400
Speaker 3: Hey, are we watching tapes instead of of neglect but

1758
01:30:16,520 --> 01:30:20,280
Speaker 3: instead of our children, instead of watching and therefore neglecting children?

1759
01:30:22,680 --> 01:30:23,240
Speaker 2: The irony?

1760
01:30:23,360 --> 01:30:26,400
Speaker 1: He got it, the irony, and that made him really.

1761
01:30:26,200 --> 01:30:30,120
Speaker 2: Mad, big dandy mad. He accused me of not caring

1762
01:30:30,120 --> 01:30:33,120
Speaker 2: about our children's well being, because if I did, I

1763
01:30:33,120 --> 01:30:36,120
Speaker 2: would agree with him that we need to fire her

1764
01:30:36,720 --> 01:30:39,120
Speaker 2: for what looking at her phone once while she takes

1765
01:30:39,120 --> 01:30:40,960
Speaker 2: care of both of your kids at the same time.

1766
01:30:42,000 --> 01:30:45,839
Speaker 2: Where's the rubber arms? Yeah, you haven't genetically modified herself

1767
01:30:45,880 --> 01:30:47,080
Speaker 2: to figure out rubber arms.

1768
01:30:47,080 --> 01:30:51,720
Speaker 1: Looks If our nanny's not willing to acexually reproduce, I

1769
01:30:51,760 --> 01:30:52,360
Speaker 1: don't want her.

1770
01:30:52,880 --> 01:30:55,120
Speaker 3: Why are we talking about going the extra bile?

1771
01:30:56,200 --> 01:31:01,080
Speaker 2: So I told him, we're firing her over my dead body.

1772
01:31:01,360 --> 01:31:02,839
Speaker 1: Go the twist.

1773
01:31:02,920 --> 01:31:06,960
Speaker 2: Satis got him And if it wasn't for her, our

1774
01:31:07,040 --> 01:31:10,599
Speaker 2: children would would actually be neglected because we both work

1775
01:31:10,680 --> 01:31:15,400
Speaker 2: fall time, do ye telemopi. He told me that Sarah

1776
01:31:15,479 --> 01:31:18,880
Speaker 2: was trying to take over my role as mother in

1777
01:31:19,000 --> 01:31:22,080
Speaker 2: my children's eyes, and she was coming between me and

1778
01:31:22,120 --> 01:31:25,240
Speaker 2: our family. And if I cared about our family, then

1779
01:31:25,280 --> 01:31:27,519
Speaker 2: I would want to fire her too, if.

1780
01:31:27,360 --> 01:31:28,400
Speaker 3: You had a shred of care.

1781
01:31:29,800 --> 01:31:32,120
Speaker 1: He just wants He just wants to control this woman.

1782
01:31:32,400 --> 01:31:35,240
Speaker 2: He he has this idea in his mind of like

1783
01:31:35,840 --> 01:31:39,320
Speaker 2: I will I will get this woman to have children

1784
01:31:39,320 --> 01:31:42,320
Speaker 2: and marry me, and then I will get this woman and.

1785
01:31:42,520 --> 01:31:47,160
Speaker 9: Slowly, slowly, but slowly and surely overtime make her be

1786
01:31:47,360 --> 01:31:49,640
Speaker 9: the stay at home mom to care because I have

1787
01:31:49,680 --> 01:31:53,080
Speaker 9: this idea in my mind that he need the mother

1788
01:31:53,320 --> 01:31:55,919
Speaker 9: to stay at home at the children at all times

1789
01:31:55,960 --> 01:31:59,040
Speaker 9: and bake apple pies in an apron.

1790
01:31:58,880 --> 01:32:01,760
Speaker 1: I ask the way Gott handed it to the way God,

1791
01:32:02,080 --> 01:32:04,479
Speaker 1: I can't help it. That's how God intended that to be.

1792
01:32:04,800 --> 01:32:08,559
Speaker 2: And that is why he went for a woman who

1793
01:32:08,680 --> 01:32:10,920
Speaker 2: he could have fathered if he had her in Milton

1794
01:32:12,880 --> 01:32:16,080
Speaker 2: or or early freshman year or early freshman year.

1795
01:32:17,360 --> 01:32:18,280
Speaker 3: If he's a smart God.

1796
01:32:18,320 --> 01:32:20,519
Speaker 1: I'm getting PTSD from the last story that.

1797
01:32:21,120 --> 01:32:22,360
Speaker 2: No, no, no no, we moved away.

1798
01:32:26,320 --> 01:32:30,519
Speaker 1: We are here in the present moment and we're gonna

1799
01:32:30,560 --> 01:32:31,000
Speaker 1: keep going.

1800
01:32:31,920 --> 01:32:35,240
Speaker 2: So the husband said that I would want to fire

1801
01:32:35,280 --> 01:32:40,800
Speaker 2: her too. I laugh in his face, you're a joke, okay,

1802
01:32:41,000 --> 01:32:44,040
Speaker 2: And I told him I would rather divorce him and

1803
01:32:44,160 --> 01:32:45,240
Speaker 2: pay for her.

1804
01:32:45,200 --> 01:32:47,920
Speaker 3: Myself than fire her and quit my job.

1805
01:32:49,520 --> 01:32:49,680
Speaker 6: Op.

1806
01:32:49,720 --> 01:32:51,480
Speaker 3: He's standing on bitterness.

1807
01:32:51,640 --> 01:32:56,240
Speaker 1: He's like, I'm marry than nanny married. I'll get married

1808
01:32:56,360 --> 01:32:56,800
Speaker 1: to her.

1809
01:32:57,360 --> 01:33:01,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, what are we talking about? He stormed out and

1810
01:33:01,240 --> 01:33:05,040
Speaker 2: hasn't spoken to me since. Am I the a hole?

1811
01:33:05,200 --> 01:33:10,439
Speaker 2: We haven't edit coming up? But uh, let's talk, mister

1812
01:33:10,520 --> 01:33:18,480
Speaker 2: big d. I mean, look, yeah, what I will say

1813
01:33:18,680 --> 01:33:24,280
Speaker 2: is that she needs to be careful because.

1814
01:33:25,600 --> 01:33:27,320
Speaker 1: Well, actually wait, no, she's not. No, because she's working

1815
01:33:27,360 --> 01:33:29,439
Speaker 1: full time. Again. Never mind, I was about to say

1816
01:33:29,439 --> 01:33:30,840
Speaker 1: that she was in between jobs, but she's not. She's

1817
01:33:30,880 --> 01:33:33,960
Speaker 1: working full time. So yeah, honestly, the best situation is

1818
01:33:34,000 --> 01:33:36,760
Speaker 1: that you clearly leave this creepy man who is like

1819
01:33:36,840 --> 01:33:38,640
Speaker 1: trying to lock you down as some sort of like

1820
01:33:39,080 --> 01:33:42,560
Speaker 1: a baby factory yep, that just stays at home and

1821
01:33:42,880 --> 01:33:46,960
Speaker 1: raises the children with no agency or autonomy in their

1822
01:33:46,960 --> 01:33:49,880
Speaker 1: own life, and and you take.

1823
01:33:49,720 --> 01:33:57,240
Speaker 2: The nanny with you. Yes, it's it's unclear how financial.

1824
01:33:58,120 --> 01:34:00,240
Speaker 2: It seems like, Oh, he's doing pretty good, but I

1825
01:34:00,280 --> 01:34:05,960
Speaker 2: think I would. Yeah, it's we are inferring a lot here,

1826
01:34:06,800 --> 01:34:10,120
Speaker 2: but I feel my guesses are correct, So I'm just

1827
01:34:10,160 --> 01:34:13,240
Speaker 2: going off of what I believe to be correct, and

1828
01:34:13,280 --> 01:34:16,719
Speaker 2: that there there was this agenda the whole time. I think,

1829
01:34:17,240 --> 01:34:20,000
Speaker 2: I think, ope, he should do the digging to verify

1830
01:34:20,400 --> 01:34:24,920
Speaker 2: what we suspect because the cracks are starting to show.

1831
01:34:25,200 --> 01:34:29,320
Speaker 2: I think it will be easy enough, and I think

1832
01:34:29,360 --> 01:34:33,479
Speaker 2: he's I think he's starting to crack because he wanted this,

1833
01:34:33,600 --> 01:34:36,599
Speaker 2: you know, this like perfect vision of him controlling and

1834
01:34:36,640 --> 01:34:40,439
Speaker 2: making her this like magical trad wife, stay at home mom.

1835
01:34:41,640 --> 01:34:44,400
Speaker 2: And it's been so long now it's been years that

1836
01:34:44,479 --> 01:34:47,559
Speaker 2: he's starting to like like lose his ability to like

1837
01:34:47,600 --> 01:34:49,840
Speaker 2: hold it in. Yeah, so I think let him, let

1838
01:34:49,920 --> 01:34:55,720
Speaker 2: him crash out and and confirm what we are, Yeah, hypothesize.

1839
01:34:55,840 --> 01:34:57,639
Speaker 1: I bet you that we find out that he's had

1840
01:34:57,680 --> 01:35:02,800
Speaker 1: some sort of like you know, uh, like an infatuation

1841
01:35:03,040 --> 01:35:05,559
Speaker 1: with like the need to have this.

1842
01:35:05,760 --> 01:35:06,280
Speaker 2: Uh.

1843
01:35:06,520 --> 01:35:08,400
Speaker 1: First of all, he definitely messed with the birth control.

1844
01:35:08,760 --> 01:35:10,760
Speaker 1: You don't go on three forms of birth control and

1845
01:35:10,760 --> 01:35:13,720
Speaker 1: get pregnant every time. That guy was messing with the

1846
01:35:13,760 --> 01:35:17,840
Speaker 1: birth control. Yeah, so automatically that's super messed up.

1847
01:35:17,920 --> 01:35:18,120
Speaker 2: Yep.

1848
01:35:18,720 --> 01:35:23,680
Speaker 1: And uh, yeah, this guy probably looks at her more

1849
01:35:23,720 --> 01:35:26,520
Speaker 1: as a piece of property than actually like a wife

1850
01:35:26,640 --> 01:35:30,000
Speaker 1: that he loves and respects and cares for. Just she's

1851
01:35:30,080 --> 01:35:33,160
Speaker 1: like like like an accession that makes babies for him. Yeah,

1852
01:35:33,240 --> 01:35:35,639
Speaker 1: like like an employee, like like like that kind of.

1853
01:35:35,600 --> 01:35:36,760
Speaker 3: That's that's that's what it's.

1854
01:35:36,840 --> 01:35:39,320
Speaker 2: It's it's seeming like to me, and he's been able

1855
01:35:39,320 --> 01:35:40,920
Speaker 2: to hide it. And again, I think there's maybe some

1856
01:35:41,000 --> 01:35:42,960
Speaker 2: carryover a lot of guessing, a lot of.

1857
01:35:42,920 --> 01:35:44,120
Speaker 1: Inferring, a lot of guesswork.

1858
01:35:44,200 --> 01:35:46,679
Speaker 3: Yeah, but I'm inferring that.

1859
01:35:46,640 --> 01:35:48,920
Speaker 2: It's uh, you know, she met him when she was

1860
01:35:48,960 --> 01:35:50,840
Speaker 2: really young, and that's kind of carried over it. But

1861
01:35:50,920 --> 01:35:54,400
Speaker 2: now she's I think she's getting wise to his to

1862
01:35:54,439 --> 01:35:57,559
Speaker 2: his games, to his acts. Shall we see what happens

1863
01:35:57,560 --> 01:35:58,000
Speaker 2: in the edit?

1864
01:35:58,040 --> 01:35:58,360
Speaker 1: Please?

1865
01:35:58,600 --> 01:36:01,720
Speaker 2: Please, let's do it. Thank you so much everyone who

1866
01:36:01,720 --> 01:36:03,920
Speaker 2: has offered advice and support. I'm trying to read over

1867
01:36:03,920 --> 01:36:05,960
Speaker 2: everyone's comments and process everything.

1868
01:36:06,280 --> 01:36:07,439
Speaker 3: Honestly, I thought this.

1869
01:36:07,520 --> 01:36:10,240
Speaker 2: Was just an annoying, ongoing argument between myself and my

1870
01:36:10,320 --> 01:36:13,320
Speaker 2: husband about our nanny. But you all have opened my

1871
01:36:13,400 --> 01:36:16,719
Speaker 2: eyes to a much deeper issue.

1872
01:36:16,880 --> 01:36:20,080
Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, I wonder what it is. Depending on which

1873
01:36:20,120 --> 01:36:22,200
Speaker 1: form of birth control, it could either be a deep

1874
01:36:22,240 --> 01:36:25,599
Speaker 1: implant in the arm or a deep implant in the uterus. Dude,

1875
01:36:25,640 --> 01:36:27,000
Speaker 1: but that the issue is there.

1876
01:36:27,360 --> 01:36:34,280
Speaker 2: The issue is there. Firstly, I want to say, yeah, thats.

1877
01:36:33,680 --> 01:36:35,680
Speaker 1: A de layed response to my own that I was like,

1878
01:36:35,760 --> 01:36:37,639
Speaker 1: oh god, I don't like that now that I'm thinking

1879
01:36:37,640 --> 01:36:38,040
Speaker 1: about it.

1880
01:36:38,160 --> 01:36:40,080
Speaker 2: The thing that I love about Dakota is he can

1881
01:36:40,160 --> 01:36:42,600
Speaker 2: like say something and then be grossed out by the

1882
01:36:42,680 --> 01:36:45,640
Speaker 2: thing you just said. Firstly, I want to say I'm

1883
01:36:45,680 --> 01:36:47,840
Speaker 2: a bit worried it came across like I resent getting

1884
01:36:47,840 --> 01:36:50,439
Speaker 2: pregnant or having kids, because I really don't. I love

1885
01:36:50,520 --> 01:36:52,320
Speaker 2: my kids more than anything, and I would not trade

1886
01:36:52,320 --> 01:36:54,800
Speaker 2: them for the life I wanted before, or choose my

1887
01:36:54,880 --> 01:36:58,559
Speaker 2: job over them if it ultimately came to that. I

1888
01:36:58,640 --> 01:37:01,960
Speaker 2: do stress about the acts and pregnancies a lot because

1889
01:37:02,040 --> 01:37:04,639
Speaker 2: it makes me feel out of control of my own

1890
01:37:04,680 --> 01:37:07,519
Speaker 2: life and body. But I hope that doesn't come across

1891
01:37:07,560 --> 01:37:09,920
Speaker 2: as me having regrets over them.

1892
01:37:10,080 --> 01:37:12,400
Speaker 3: Yeah, the most. That is absolutely the most fair thing

1893
01:37:12,439 --> 01:37:12,800
Speaker 3: in the world.

1894
01:37:12,800 --> 01:37:15,439
Speaker 2: Of course. It's like if I mysteriously keep having these

1895
01:37:15,439 --> 01:37:17,640
Speaker 2: babies with like all these forms of birth control, of

1896
01:37:17,680 --> 01:37:20,240
Speaker 2: course you would feel out of control of your body,

1897
01:37:20,240 --> 01:37:21,880
Speaker 2: and that, of course that doesn't mean that you don't

1898
01:37:21,920 --> 01:37:25,280
Speaker 2: love your children any less. The last thing I want

1899
01:37:25,320 --> 01:37:26,880
Speaker 2: is for people to think my kids are a burden

1900
01:37:26,920 --> 01:37:29,040
Speaker 2: who have ruined my life, because they're a gift and

1901
01:37:29,120 --> 01:37:31,400
Speaker 2: have brought me more love to my brought more love

1902
01:37:31,439 --> 01:37:33,640
Speaker 2: to my life than I knew I was capable of.

1903
01:37:34,439 --> 01:37:37,519
Speaker 2: I really don't feel trapped by them or anything like that.

1904
01:37:38,040 --> 01:37:40,679
Speaker 2: By the way, if you never want to feel trapped,

1905
01:37:40,680 --> 01:37:43,800
Speaker 2: then just tap our profile and join our lives every

1906
01:37:43,840 --> 01:37:47,240
Speaker 2: weekday at three pm PSD, where I promise you will

1907
01:37:47,240 --> 01:37:50,439
Speaker 2: feel freer than you ever have in your life.

1908
01:37:50,560 --> 01:37:54,160
Speaker 1: That's right. That's a guarantee, literally, the feeling of freedom,

1909
01:37:54,320 --> 01:37:55,639
Speaker 1: a legal guesst what we are?

1910
01:37:55,960 --> 01:37:57,599
Speaker 2: Yes, whoa whoa, whoa whoa?

1911
01:37:57,640 --> 01:38:05,240
Speaker 1: Okay, hold on, hold on, yep, we're here at simple ricks. No,

1912
01:38:07,720 --> 01:38:16,960
Speaker 1: you're great now, we'll keep going, be honest. We offer

1913
01:38:17,000 --> 01:38:19,639
Speaker 1: you the best feeling you've ever had in your entire life.

1914
01:38:20,120 --> 01:38:24,840
Speaker 1: Contractually obligated guarantee.

1915
01:38:26,040 --> 01:38:28,840
Speaker 2: All right now. On that note, however, a lot of

1916
01:38:28,880 --> 01:38:32,360
Speaker 2: people have pointed out the possibility of my husband dampering

1917
01:38:32,479 --> 01:38:37,599
Speaker 2: with my birth control. This has me really shaken up.

1918
01:38:38,080 --> 01:38:40,720
Speaker 2: I'm not gonna lie. The scariest thing about this is

1919
01:38:40,720 --> 01:38:44,439
Speaker 2: that he's a medical professional and he started writing my

1920
01:38:44,520 --> 01:38:49,400
Speaker 2: scripts for birth control after marry.

1921
01:38:49,040 --> 01:38:52,320
Speaker 1: With your birth control? What he was the one who

1922
01:38:52,479 --> 01:38:58,519
Speaker 1: prescribed it to you, dude, that's that's gonna be a felony, right, Oh,

1923
01:38:58,640 --> 01:39:00,640
Speaker 1: I hope you everything? Yes?

1924
01:39:00,720 --> 01:39:04,240
Speaker 2: Yes, yes, is yes? He you get like crazy child

1925
01:39:04,240 --> 01:39:07,639
Speaker 2: support he tanks. I guess the only thing is if

1926
01:39:07,640 --> 01:39:10,759
Speaker 2: you tank him completely, then you lose child support payments.

1927
01:39:10,760 --> 01:39:13,880
Speaker 2: And because it's my guess would be that op would

1928
01:39:13,880 --> 01:39:17,479
Speaker 2: be like right, his reign have all the financial stuff

1929
01:39:17,479 --> 01:39:19,559
Speaker 2: she needs to make sure her three children have very

1930
01:39:19,600 --> 01:39:23,320
Speaker 2: successful lives if he has to pay fat dumps of

1931
01:39:23,680 --> 01:39:26,759
Speaker 2: child support yep. Or you better yet sue the hospital.

1932
01:39:28,320 --> 01:39:32,559
Speaker 2: The hospital works at until it's both dismantled. You both yes, yes,

1933
01:39:32,640 --> 01:39:36,320
Speaker 2: yes yes, And Sue I like this. Sue is parents

1934
01:39:36,360 --> 01:39:39,360
Speaker 2: for giving birth to him. Why not, dude, come on

1935
01:39:39,479 --> 01:39:40,280
Speaker 2: grainy ah.

1936
01:39:40,560 --> 01:39:41,200
Speaker 1: Yeah.

1937
01:39:41,240 --> 01:39:46,680
Speaker 2: Anyways, my god, he often recommends and prescribes me supplements

1938
01:39:46,680 --> 01:39:49,160
Speaker 2: for things for my health. He also convinced me that

1939
01:39:49,200 --> 01:39:53,400
Speaker 2: IUDs were dangerous and and effective kwinkadinki. I think not,

1940
01:39:54,080 --> 01:39:56,639
Speaker 2: and that it's not uncommon to get pregnant on birth

1941
01:39:56,680 --> 01:40:00,280
Speaker 2: control if you're extremely fertile. I don't even want think

1942
01:40:00,280 --> 01:40:03,280
Speaker 2: about the implications of him having messed with something to

1943
01:40:03,360 --> 01:40:06,040
Speaker 2: get me pregnant. I trust him a lot with medical

1944
01:40:06,040 --> 01:40:09,120
Speaker 2: decisions and opinions, and while I know he's not as

1945
01:40:09,240 --> 01:40:13,320
Speaker 2: vigilant about birth control as I am, as I didn't

1946
01:40:13,360 --> 01:40:17,960
Speaker 2: even consider the chance he was actively sabotaging it. Not

1947
01:40:18,080 --> 01:40:20,040
Speaker 2: really sure where to go from here or how to

1948
01:40:20,120 --> 01:40:24,400
Speaker 2: investigate this further. Many of you were concerned about having

1949
01:40:24,439 --> 01:40:27,320
Speaker 2: an emergency fund slash safety plan, and I do keep

1950
01:40:27,320 --> 01:40:30,920
Speaker 2: my fantasies separate from his, thank God, and luckily I

1951
01:40:31,040 --> 01:40:33,640
Speaker 2: make good money, so that answers that question. Yay, and

1952
01:40:33,760 --> 01:40:38,120
Speaker 2: I could leave if I really wanted to. There we go. Okay,

1953
01:40:38,160 --> 01:40:41,120
Speaker 2: so we're doing pretty good. There, got that question answered.

1954
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Speaker 2: Thank you again to everyone who commented. I will try

1955
01:40:43,479 --> 01:40:46,880
Speaker 2: to make an update for those who asked. I'll look

1956
01:40:46,920 --> 01:40:47,760
Speaker 2: if there's an update, and.

1957
01:40:47,680 --> 01:40:49,360
Speaker 3: We're gonna look if there's an update, but so far

1958
01:40:49,680 --> 01:40:50,120
Speaker 3: she didn't.

1959
01:40:52,720 --> 01:40:55,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, I I gain like I've got a beat on

1960
01:40:56,000 --> 01:40:57,080
Speaker 1: exactly who this guy is.

1961
01:40:57,320 --> 01:40:58,600
Speaker 2: Yes, yes he is.

1962
01:40:59,080 --> 01:41:05,160
Speaker 1: He is the alpha male sort of like like primal

1963
01:41:05,280 --> 01:41:10,559
Speaker 1: human like Andrew Tate like is his Jesus, you know,

1964
01:41:11,040 --> 01:41:15,080
Speaker 1: and he's like probably just delusional, like like.

1965
01:41:15,080 --> 01:41:18,479
Speaker 10: In his head it's like, oh yeah, I'm like alpha male.

1966
01:41:18,600 --> 01:41:21,280
Speaker 10: So like it's my prerogative to like make sure that

1967
01:41:21,320 --> 01:41:24,000
Speaker 10: my children have healthy genes. And I saw you, and

1968
01:41:24,000 --> 01:41:25,960
Speaker 10: I knew I wanted your genes to be involved with

1969
01:41:26,000 --> 01:41:28,759
Speaker 10: my children. So it's within my right to not allow

1970
01:41:28,800 --> 01:41:31,240
Speaker 10: you to have bird's control because eventually you were gonna

1971
01:41:31,280 --> 01:41:33,160
Speaker 10: just realize that you wanted to be a mother anyway.

1972
01:41:33,439 --> 01:41:36,280
Speaker 10: So it's my ability to like just make that decision

1973
01:41:36,320 --> 01:41:39,880
Speaker 10: for you when you're nineteen going for the.

1974
01:41:41,520 --> 01:41:44,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, your friend's babysitter and then passing off.

1975
01:41:45,280 --> 01:41:50,280
Speaker 3: Yeah, so she's so psycho she was.

1976
01:41:52,240 --> 01:41:56,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, so twenty six, twenty nineteen twenty. I thought it

1977
01:41:56,160 --> 01:41:56,880
Speaker 1: was thirty five.

1978
01:41:57,760 --> 01:42:00,240
Speaker 5: He was thirty five year old man, when if you're

1979
01:42:00,240 --> 01:42:02,240
Speaker 5: a twenty one year old college student, that's what it

1980
01:42:02,360 --> 01:42:03,120
Speaker 5: kind of seems like.

1981
01:42:03,200 --> 01:42:05,680
Speaker 3: Yeah, thirty Yeah, that's that's it. Might might might be

1982
01:42:05,760 --> 01:42:06,479
Speaker 3: even was.

1983
01:42:06,479 --> 01:42:08,400
Speaker 1: A way, it was way bigger than like six years.

1984
01:42:08,560 --> 01:42:09,000
Speaker 2: I got you.

1985
01:42:09,120 --> 01:42:11,559
Speaker 3: Okay, So, so forty male.

1986
01:42:12,800 --> 01:42:15,559
Speaker 2: Here we go, forty male and twenty six female together

1987
01:42:15,600 --> 01:42:18,679
Speaker 2: for five years. So twenty one and thirty five, Yeah,

1988
01:42:18,880 --> 01:42:19,800
Speaker 2: twenty one and thirty five.

1989
01:42:20,000 --> 01:42:22,360
Speaker 5: I'm looking at the poster right now, fourteen year gap.

1990
01:42:22,479 --> 01:42:27,200
Speaker 5: There is no update. It's just the comments and everyone

1991
01:42:27,280 --> 01:42:29,880
Speaker 5: is like, opee, what do you not see the red

1992
01:42:29,920 --> 01:42:30,519
Speaker 5: flags here?

1993
01:42:30,840 --> 01:42:32,160
Speaker 2: Yeah?

1994
01:42:32,240 --> 01:42:36,320
Speaker 5: Yeah, crazy, Yeah, there is unfortunately no update.

1995
01:42:36,360 --> 01:42:36,640
Speaker 1: I don't know.

1996
01:42:36,640 --> 01:42:37,200
Speaker 3: It's all we got.

1997
01:42:37,280 --> 01:42:39,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, but I think I think we hit the

1998
01:42:39,920 --> 01:42:42,000
Speaker 2: nail on the head. That is exactly the type of guy.

1999
01:42:42,920 --> 01:42:45,559
Speaker 2: And thank god, at least what we got to see

2000
01:42:45,600 --> 01:42:47,880
Speaker 2: is that she would be financially okay, and then again

2001
01:42:47,960 --> 01:42:51,439
Speaker 2: like I would look into it, to the hospitals, sue

2002
01:42:51,479 --> 01:42:55,160
Speaker 2: him for child support, all that stuff, and not only

2003
01:42:55,160 --> 01:42:57,000
Speaker 2: be like it seems like oh, he's like, yeah, I

2004
01:42:57,640 --> 01:43:01,960
Speaker 2: would be fine, like ultimately fine, but by get that bag,

2005
01:43:02,120 --> 01:43:05,040
Speaker 2: get a beautiful house, home in life for you because

2006
01:43:05,080 --> 01:43:05,599
Speaker 2: you deserve it.

2007
01:43:05,640 --> 01:43:09,679
Speaker 1: For your children because they deserve it, And wipe hands

2008
01:43:09,680 --> 01:43:11,240
Speaker 1: of this guy. Yeah, wipe your hands and get him

2009
01:43:11,240 --> 01:43:13,679
Speaker 1: out of this. Dude shouldn't be allowed to practice medicine

2010
01:43:13,680 --> 01:43:16,400
Speaker 1: anymore if this is if he's willing to do that

2011
01:43:16,880 --> 01:43:20,479
Speaker 1: to his wife, Like, what is he going to do

2012
01:43:21,439 --> 01:43:24,720
Speaker 1: somebody he doesn't like? Like what if he's just out

2013
01:43:24,760 --> 01:43:28,400
Speaker 1: here like allowing people to be violently ill because he's like,

2014
01:43:28,479 --> 01:43:29,880
Speaker 1: I don't like the way that person looked at me.

2015
01:43:29,880 --> 01:43:31,120
Speaker 3: Who is this guy's psycho?

2016
01:43:31,479 --> 01:43:34,439
Speaker 1: Yeah, this guy'd be like, oh, that beta male has

2017
01:43:34,479 --> 01:43:36,200
Speaker 1: no right to look at me like that because I'm

2018
01:43:36,240 --> 01:43:39,000
Speaker 1: an alpha. I'm gonna show him whose boss by giving

2019
01:43:39,080 --> 01:43:40,120
Speaker 1: him the wrong medicine.

2020
01:43:40,200 --> 01:43:41,840
Speaker 3: Yeah, who knows what he.

2021
01:43:41,439 --> 01:43:46,240
Speaker 2: Has done, has done already is doing currently, figure it out,

2022
01:43:46,640 --> 01:43:48,880
Speaker 2: get out of there and get the bag for you

2023
01:43:49,080 --> 01:43:49,839
Speaker 2: and your babies.

2024
01:43:50,960 --> 01:43:51,639
Speaker 1: He's kind of crazy.

2025
01:43:51,680 --> 01:43:55,000
Speaker 5: I looked at the original post and it's just again

2026
01:43:55,080 --> 01:43:57,800
Speaker 5: no update, but the comments are just like, Ope, your

2027
01:43:57,840 --> 01:44:00,240
Speaker 5: life was kind of like a lie pretty much much

2028
01:44:00,320 --> 01:44:02,880
Speaker 5: like do you not realize what's going on? And then

2029
01:44:02,920 --> 01:44:06,160
Speaker 5: she like one comment cheat that Op made was like

2030
01:44:06,560 --> 01:44:12,840
Speaker 5: o MG dot dot dot like.

2031
01:44:13,920 --> 01:44:17,400
Speaker 3: Yeah, girl, yeah, which I mean, it's tough.

2032
01:44:18,000 --> 01:44:21,160
Speaker 1: Better you realize it now, then I guess yeah. Down

2033
01:44:21,240 --> 01:44:22,240
Speaker 1: the line there we go.

2034
01:44:22,360 --> 01:44:24,160
Speaker 5: Just a lot of the comments it is just like OP,

2035
01:44:24,560 --> 01:44:26,599
Speaker 5: do you again, do you not see what's going on?

2036
01:44:26,920 --> 01:44:30,640
Speaker 5: And it's just Op just like realizing and coming to

2037
01:44:30,720 --> 01:44:33,840
Speaker 5: terms like oh oh, oh my god, that's it.

2038
01:44:34,120 --> 01:44:38,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, which, yeah, But gentlemen, I've come to the realization.

2039
01:44:38,840 --> 01:44:41,160
Speaker 2: We're at a time, so we're gonna read these let's

2040
01:44:41,160 --> 01:44:44,920
Speaker 2: read these final donos. Savanna Riggs say, sort of five bucks.

2041
01:44:45,000 --> 01:44:46,880
Speaker 2: I know there's some crap parents and they do feel

2042
01:44:46,880 --> 01:44:49,760
Speaker 2: bad for some of these people, But yo, I was

2043
01:44:49,800 --> 01:44:52,479
Speaker 2: born in a cult in the seventies. My grandfather was

2044
01:44:52,560 --> 01:44:54,920
Speaker 2: the bishop. Savannah Riggs. That's crazy.

2045
01:44:54,960 --> 01:44:58,120
Speaker 1: Wait what is that? Submit your story to our story

2046
01:44:58,240 --> 01:45:03,160
Speaker 1: the bishop cult? Yeah, wait, please submit that. That's my

2047
01:45:03,680 --> 01:45:06,360
Speaker 1: grandfather was the bishop. It's like, I thought you could

2048
01:45:06,439 --> 01:45:07,439
Speaker 1: just be in the Catholic Church.

2049
01:45:07,520 --> 01:45:08,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, I thought.

2050
01:45:08,040 --> 01:45:11,519
Speaker 2: I thought like generalized, like, oh, he was the bishop

2051
01:45:11,600 --> 01:45:13,519
Speaker 2: in that specific cult. I don't know if there's like

2052
01:45:13,600 --> 01:45:16,280
Speaker 2: a the Bishop for the Bishop. But yeah, Savanna ing

2053
01:45:16,360 --> 01:45:21,439
Speaker 2: sended your story forgot your grandfather, Jim Jones. Victoria P

2054
01:45:21,640 --> 01:45:24,679
Speaker 2: thanks for five bucks. Caught alive for the first time

2055
01:45:24,760 --> 01:45:25,360
Speaker 2: in a while.

2056
01:45:25,520 --> 01:45:29,320
Speaker 1: Yay, good job Victoria got in right under the wire

2057
01:45:29,520 --> 01:45:31,760
Speaker 1: because it's just about done.

2058
01:45:31,920 --> 01:45:37,559
Speaker 2: Oh missus Rainbow, thanks for gifting a membership. Uh Layla bin.

2059
01:45:37,360 --> 01:45:44,080
Speaker 1: Timoniiali Leali Binoma Benimona.

2060
01:45:44,160 --> 01:45:47,679
Speaker 2: Yeah, there we go. Thanks for gifting five memberships. Who

2061
01:45:47,680 --> 01:45:51,719
Speaker 2: else we got? And then Baylam for the five gifted

2062
01:45:51,720 --> 01:45:55,479
Speaker 2: memberships double double, back to back. Uh, then we got

2063
01:45:56,080 --> 01:46:01,439
Speaker 2: Jenna Lee Rawson Rawson, I'm back. You guys are still alive.

2064
01:46:01,600 --> 01:46:05,679
Speaker 2: Love from Texas generally rows and by much love.

2065
01:46:05,520 --> 01:46:09,240
Speaker 1: To Texas soon be and that I got a lot

2066
01:46:09,240 --> 01:46:11,840
Speaker 1: of family in Texas. I'm from Texas. That is all

2067
01:46:11,880 --> 01:46:13,320
Speaker 1: the Donos got. That's all we got.

2068
01:46:13,400 --> 01:46:17,760
Speaker 2: So guys up, if you love us, make sure to subscribe.

2069
01:46:18,200 --> 01:46:21,840
Speaker 1: We love you and see it tomorrow.