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Speaker 1: This is the most dramatic podcast ever and iHeartRadio podcast.

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Speaker 2: Everybody.

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Speaker 3: Welcome to the most dramatic podcast ever. Lauren Zema coming

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Speaker 3: to you a solo because my husband is on the

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Speaker 3: go today, Chris Harrison playing in his member guest golf

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Speaker 3: tournament and I support it and I love it, and

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Speaker 3: it's for him kind of a little mini guys trip.

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Speaker 3: His best friend has come in to town for them

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Speaker 3: to play in this golf tournament together and they are

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Speaker 3: busy with it for three days.

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Speaker 2: And here's the thing.

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Speaker 3: I fully support it because I fully support friendships for

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Speaker 3: both of us guys' trips, girls trips, golf trips. I mean,

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Speaker 3: for me, it's never a golf trip, but it is

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Speaker 3: a girl's trip. And I think that these friendship outings

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Speaker 3: are so vital for the health of our romantic relationships

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Speaker 3: and for the health of us as individuals. And that

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Speaker 3: brings us to the playbook today. What we are getting

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Speaker 3: into is this Reddit post that has gone viral, and

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Speaker 3: the headline on People Magazine's website is woman refuses to

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Speaker 3: go on girls trip says she quote doesn't want to

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Speaker 3: talk about marriage and babies for three days.

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Speaker 2: That's a very strong headline. It's very quickworthy.

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Speaker 3: I wanted before I get into it, give a little

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Speaker 3: more to the post. So here's what this woman says.

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Speaker 3: She identifies herself as a twenty seven year old woman,

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Speaker 3: and she says that she and her close group of

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Speaker 3: seven friends have known each other for over a decade

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Speaker 3: and they go on a couple trips a year. Great,

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Speaker 3: all sounding good, but now she's going to skip a trip.

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Speaker 3: She says, quote, I am content with my life. I'm single,

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Speaker 3: I'm dating, I don't know if I want children. But

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Speaker 3: she says that five of the women in her friend

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Speaker 3: group are either married or in very long term relationships,

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Speaker 3: and two either have kids or are pregnant. She says

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Speaker 3: she is declining this trip, telling her friends it is

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Speaker 3: going to be a massive financial expense for her, and

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Speaker 3: that for three days she's just gonna talk about people's

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Speaker 3: upcoming engagements, weddings, and babies, and that she feels like

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Speaker 3: her friends do not show an interest unless she's talking

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Speaker 3: about her dating life.

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Speaker 2: Okay, this is interesting to me, and I'll be honest.

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Speaker 3: At first, you see that headline and I'm like, okay, babe,

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Speaker 3: that's not fair. You can't say that you don't want

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Speaker 3: to talk to your friends because they just want to

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Speaker 3: talk about marriage and babies, like that's what's important to

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Speaker 3: them and that's what matters. And for our friends. If

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Speaker 3: you want long term friendships, I think you got to

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Speaker 3: like support both the similarities and the differences in your lives.

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Speaker 3: Your lives are not going to always be in the

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Speaker 3: same status, in the same place at the same time.

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Speaker 3: But then when she's like, Okay, all they want to

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Speaker 3: do is talk about me if I'm dating, Well, okay,

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Speaker 3: we're getting into a different realm now, aren't we. Because

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Speaker 3: I don't think women should be defined by their relationships.

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Speaker 3: And this is a tough call because I, as a woman,

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Speaker 3: I love to talk about relationships.

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Speaker 2: This podcast is all about talking.

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Speaker 3: About relationships, and that is certainly something my friends and

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Speaker 3: I bond over. But we can't be sidelining the women

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Speaker 3: who don't want.

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Speaker 2: To talk about it.

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Speaker 3: And here's where I would say that, like they're missing

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Speaker 3: so than the dating relationships, like this girl's trip. While

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Speaker 3: it's fun to talk about our husband's, our boyfriends, our girlfriends,

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Speaker 3: whatever it is that you know that like relationship drama,

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Speaker 3: and that helps us relate what about our work relationships,

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Speaker 3: what about our familial relationships, what about all the dynamic

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Speaker 3: relationships that are making up the social fabric of our lives?

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Speaker 3: Like if our friends only want to talk about our

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Speaker 3: dating life, I agree, I support that. I don't think

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Speaker 3: we can be narrowing it down to that, yea. And

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Speaker 3: I will admit that there have been moments where, like,

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Speaker 3: you know, my friends are just talking about motherhood, and

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Speaker 3: I certainly can relate, like having Chris's kids in my life,

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Speaker 3: but like I never raised young kids. Sometimes I'm like, oh,

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Speaker 3: I don't know how much I have to offer here,

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Speaker 3: little bit quieter in those moments. I don't know, we

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Speaker 3: don't always all have to say something about everything. Now

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Speaker 3: the big question becomes should she have fully bowed out

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Speaker 2: I think she should have stuck with it. I do.

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Speaker 3: And here's why. These friends she's saying are her friends

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Speaker 3: of over a decade. These friendships have clearly like stood

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Speaker 2: Not always easy.

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Speaker 3: Like I look at I do an annual trip with

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Speaker 2: I have said no to some trips where like.

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Speaker 3: The activities were no for me, like like, uh, you know,

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Speaker 3: if I look at an itinerary and I'm like, I

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Speaker 3: don't like to do any of that, well, then I

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Speaker 3: kind of know I'm going to be a I don't

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Speaker 3: want to be like a bummer and a downer and

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Speaker 3: crapping on the experience the whole time. So maybe I'm out,

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Speaker 3: you know, like maybe if it's going to be a

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Speaker 3: golf trip, I'm out on that. I don't want to

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Speaker 3: do that. But I don't want to be out on people.

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Speaker 3: I don't want to be out on people who have

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Speaker 3: been my friends of ten years because sometimes when you

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Speaker 3: do that, like we've had people I do the Samuel

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Speaker 3: and those people have later come back and regretted it.

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Speaker 3: And I'm not saying we like tried to ice them out.

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Speaker 3: I just think like trips and friendships take a lot

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Speaker 3: saying no, well, relationships are a two way street, and

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Speaker 3: people kind of start to be like, well, I don't know,

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Speaker 3: you know, you were out. Like if I was going

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Speaker 3: to say no to a golf trip, if that's what

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Speaker 2: You know, I'm going to plan a trip.

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Speaker 3: To NAPA and be like, hey, I miss the golf trip,

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Speaker 3: but I have this coming up if anybody would like

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Speaker 3: try to be the next one to plan the happy hour.

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Speaker 3: A little more from this woman's post, She said that

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Speaker 3: not being pregnant. This woman says, quote truthfully, it's boring. Well,

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Speaker 3: I do that to each other a lot, like, not

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Speaker 3: in a mean way, but just if somebody's talking about

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Speaker 3: on our girls' trips, it's a lot of talking, just

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Speaker 3: like I'm doing now. We joke that talking is the activity,

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Speaker 3: but we like talking. But sometimes I'll be like, hey,

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Speaker 3: let's change the venue, like let's get up out of

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Speaker 3: we were kind of all riding, like some of us

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Speaker 2: I'm a fan of that. On trips.

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Speaker 3: She's saying that her friends spoke about her breastfeeding plans

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Speaker 3: for over an hour. I'd be curious, did you dig

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Speaker 3: Like where's your head out on that? It feels like

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Speaker 3: And maybe dig a little deeper past because while you

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Speaker 3: get to the why why is this job important to

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Speaker 3: Or why are you hurt that something isn't happening? Or

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Speaker 3: why have you stopped dating? Why are you taking a

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Speaker 3: It feels like the group has two distinct life stages

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Speaker 3: Maybe it's not the weekend for me at the moment. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: or maybe you don't work together anymore, or whatever, maybe

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Speaker 3: you to lose like that friendship. Now I don't know

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Speaker 3: this woman, so maybe maybe there is a pause moment.

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Speaker 3: I do believe that in any relationship, you have to

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Speaker 2: But sometimes it's okay to pause.

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Speaker 3: Sometimes it's okay to like circle back later and then

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Speaker 3: think you can. You can naturally go your separate ways

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Speaker 2: And I've had some friendships.

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Speaker 3: Where, you know, like maybe we were friends in college,

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Speaker 3: down the hall from each other. But you know, I

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Speaker 3: commonality of their lives. If all of her friends are

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Speaker 2: She isn't married and isn't.

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Speaker 3: A serious relationship and doesn't have any kids, it can

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Speaker 3: I am not an advocate of keeping relationships in your

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Speaker 3: life that like aren't. Like, I do think relationships should

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Speaker 3: be a value, They should be two way streets, and

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Speaker 3: they should be of value. And if she feels like

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Speaker 3: these people really aren't listening to her, aren't supporting her,

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Speaker 3: and she doesn't have anything in common anymore. Okay, take

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Speaker 3: that pause or even say goodbye, But I just want

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Speaker 3: to know that she asked herself those questions before she

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Speaker 3: said no to a weekend and thought about, Okay, if

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Speaker 3: I say no to this, does that hurt my friends?

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Speaker 3: If I say no, do I stop getting you know?

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Speaker 3: Do people pull away from me because she's pulling away

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Speaker 3: from them? And I'm a big advocate like, no matter

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Speaker 3: how much social media connects us all in that, we

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Speaker 3: need in person interaction. We need that girl's trip to reconnect.

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Speaker 3: And you'd be surprised by how much more you get

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Speaker 3: out of an in person interaction than you do out of.

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Speaker 2: A phone call or a text.

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Speaker 3: So all that being said, I love a girl's trip,

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Speaker 3: I love a guy's trip, and I do think we

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Speaker 3: have to support our friends whatever life stage they're in.

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Speaker 2: It might be different from us.

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Speaker 3: But sometimes I think if you get to the deeper

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Speaker 3: Like why does someone want to get married? What might

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Speaker 3: be the exact same reason is why somebody else is

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Speaker 3: looking for a new job. Maybe you're looking for stability

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Speaker 3: to leave a job might be the exact same reason

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Speaker 2: I am still an.

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Speaker 3: Advocate for Like, if this person really feels like this

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Speaker 3: was going to be a super unhealthy experience, these relationships

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Speaker 3: have gotten unhealthy and she was going to feel like

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Speaker 3: crap going okay, well then don't go. Just just know

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Speaker 3: you know what not going might mean for the relationships overall.

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Speaker 3: At the end of the day, make sure you have

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Speaker 3: friends in your life. Friendships are so important. I think

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Speaker 3: we do a lot of focusing on like do you

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Speaker 3: have a romantic relationship? Do you have friendships? We need

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Speaker 3: it all and the friendships help support the romantic relationships,

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Speaker 3: and the romantic relationships should help support the friendships. And

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Speaker 3: thank you guys for your relationship with us, for always

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Speaker 3: listening and chatting. There might be some reaction to this,

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Speaker 3: we will have a lot more to talk about.

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